June 26, 2024 • 9 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about how to know if you're trying too hard in a relationship, plus, and update on Chuy.
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(00:00):
And Happy Wednesday, friend. Welcometo the Thought Shower. Internshiohn is my
name. I'm gonna be honest,taking a risk. I'm recording this a
little bit early because tonight, whichis is Tuesday night, and this comes
out. Gonna see tea Pain Piersix in Baltimore. Now here is the
deal. We're taking a bus fromthe radio station in Rockville to Pier six.
(00:23):
Bus is leaving at five to hopefullyget there by seven. That's exciting.
And then the bus ride back Ithink we leave at like eleven thirty
to hopefully get back here to thestation by like midnight fifteen ish midnight thirty
and then do the morning show Wednesday. So I was like, I can't
miss the podcast. God do thisjust in case. It's been a wild
(00:45):
couple twenty four hours. Man,you know Chewy he's been I don't know
what he's going through. Man,He's he's fifteen and a half. The
over the weekend, he wouldn't eatfood, wouldn't eat anything. Is stopped
eating his food, would just likesniff it and go. And he's done
that in the past and other timesit's been because he wont attention. According
(01:07):
to the vet true story. Andeven he wouldn't eat his like pill packets,
so it was kind of like touchand go for a little bit.
He was acting a little spacey sometimesit's kind of staring off into nowhere.
And then had a breakthrough last night, thank god, where I cut him
pieces of a chicken breast and heate that. So making progress. You
(01:29):
know, it's one of those thingswhere again he's fifteen. You know,
it's just like a which is crazyto think about, you know, fifteen
years with one animal. You know, we lived in Minnesota, we lived
in Iowa, we lived here.It's just a wild thing. And I
think too because he's my dog,you know, like he was my first
(01:51):
solo pet where it was just me. There's nobody else and like anybody I've
dated since, you know, theywere brought into his life. But it
wasn't like our dog, if thatmakes sense. So it's he's a really
special say person to me, reallyspecial do to me, just because like
we've been through so much. Cheuiwas in college of me, which is
(02:14):
insane. He's been in all theradio studios, so he's doing well,
seemingly. We tried to go fora walk yesterday just to get the dogs
out of the house because it's beenso hot. But it's like, ah,
they're just getting cooped up. Andhe walked about ten feet and then
he slammed the brakes. And whenChewy slams the brakes, there's no going
(02:34):
anywhere like what you might. Can'tdrag him, you know, can't do
anything like that. So we'll see. I send a video of the vet.
Hopefully get back to me with that, but you know, we'll see.
Also exciting the dogs allegedly hotel roomsstay. Very exciting, very excited
for that with the the boys.So I'm excited for this weekend rather tonight
to see tea pain Man. That'sgonna be a heck of a show talk
(02:57):
about guy who has hits. Althoughagain the Wednesday morning show is gonna be
something. By the way, letme hit this up again to the Arlington
shows of the comedy run completely soldout. The only show with tickets left
is rams Head. That's August seventeenth, Ramshead Live Baltimore. Gonna be a
(03:19):
great show, myself sauced ya MegKyle Cromer of course raising money for the
Fisher House Foundation. Once the Ramsheadshow sells out, we are done.
Like there's no more venues being added. Internsjooncomedy dot Com would love to see
their Internsjooncomedy dot Com. I havegot to get to this too for your
(03:39):
Wednesday man, oh Man, Howto know if you're trying too hard to
make a relationship work. I wouldsay, this is not just romantic.
This could be platonic, this couldbe friendship, this could be family whatever.
But I do think at some pointeveryone's been in the spot where it's
(03:59):
like, Okay, a relationship issupposed to be as close to fifty to
fifty as possible, ideally right,ideally as close to fifty to fifty as
possible. If it's not, youtend to run into issues, okay,
if you avoid confrontation just to keepthe peace, that's a sign. I
do think this happens, especially towardsthe ends of relationships, where it's like
(04:21):
I don't even have the energy tofight right now, Like I don't even
want to bring it up, youknow what I mean. It's like I
could something's bothering me. But ifI do that, we talk about it,
I s on the energy you talkabout it. If you find that
you're making all the effort they say, it's hard to remember the last time
that texted you first made date plansor suggesting that bonding activity. Even when
(04:44):
you make plans to spend time together, they don't seem to be very excited
about it. They say, whatarguments arise? You seem to be the
only one trying to understand where theother one's coming from. I mean,
yeah, this again to me strikeslike this is the end of the road,
Like this is the end of thesituation if if you're find yourself having
to reach out. I think thishappens with friends a lot too, where
it's like, why am I theone task with always keeping the friendship going?
(05:09):
Why do I always have to textor send a meme or something like
that. It can be draining becausethen you start to feel like, too,
you know, is this even worthit? You know, mis wasting
my time, which ties into youput their life ahead of yours one hundred
percent, they say, compromise aboutwhere to go to dinner or what movie
to watch all the time is abit problematic, but it's much worse when
(05:31):
you start to treat their life andhappiness as more important than yours. They
say, rather than both prioritize yourneeds, everything your power to make them
happy to your detriment. You giveup dreams, bessign care opportunities, so
on and so forth. I wantto say I've had this problem in the
past, but I do think itcan be a bit intimidating because like the
I'm in a unique spot with theshow is doing really well, the podcast
(05:55):
does really well, comedy does reallywell. So it's like I got a
lot going on all the time towhere like I've had to like really consciously
make an effort to make sure thatwhy do have a girlfriend supporting her and
her stuff too, And it's noteven like I wouldn't. It's just like
it's easy to get caught up inlike the rush of everything else where.
It's like, no, it's ateam. I want to celebrate your wins
as well. Huh. You're afraidto check in with them or ask things
(06:19):
of them. That to me isa huge one, dude, even especially
with like friends and family too.It's like if you can't ask them for
favors even just like help on something. If you're afraid to ask for help,
that to sign something's off, youknow what I mean. If you
cannot ask them to not even helpyou move, but like pick up a
dog something like that. That tome is yeah, sign something's off.
(06:45):
If things feel forced, they say, right, relationships take work, but
they aren't supposed to feel that way, especially twenty four to seven. Yeah,
if it feels like I don't know, man, I think you get
to that point where I was ina relationship once, like or the end.
It was not like we were romanticat all. It was like we
were friends, and then I realizedwe were friends that didn't even really like
(07:09):
each other. So it was reallylike, what are we What are we
doing here? You know what Imean? Like we're just we're not romantic,
we're just friends, but I don'teven like you, which ties into
you feel drained and irritated all thetime. I mean, this is a
huge one. We had somebody callingthe show once who she knew it was
(07:29):
over with her partner because she couldn'tstand the way he breathed. And I'm
like, at that point, youknow, if the way a man breathes
is enough to make you want tostop, like, there's probably other things
going on there, you know,you probably his course, if you find
that you have to rationalize their behaviorall the time. Yes, if you're
(07:51):
always making excuses for your partner's actionsor bad behavior to make them easier live
with, that is not a goodsign. Yeah, they say, she
now field need to justify or rationalizethe things they do to yourself or to
your loved ones one hundred percent.Golly, how draining could that be?
And that's one of those things toowhere I've always believed that if you're going
(08:13):
to vent to your friends of familyabout your partner, for every negative thing
you say, you gotta say fouror five good things. I think the
problem is sometimes when we vent topeople and don't mention the good stuff.
Like if it was if Sauce wasventing to me by a guy she was
seeing and just telling me these horriblethings, I'm gonna think the guy's a
giant pos I'm gonna think these theworst. I'm not gonna like him.
(08:37):
Now. It could be that she'sonly telling me three things and he's doing
everything else right, the man walkson water. But because I don't see
that every day, because I'm notwith them every day, Uh, I'm
gonna make it seem that that's gonnamake it seem to me like oh,
this is a horrendous situation. Andthen as our friend, I'm not gonna
like him. You gotta balance itout, man, My goodness. But
I think overall the you know,are relationships work, absolutely, but being
(09:03):
the one that drains you where itfeels like it's just stuck in your life
away, that's not supposed to bewhat. This is supposed to feel comfortable,
supposed to feel like fun, likea little bit of like an energy
boost, not a dread. Whyyou know, life's too short for cheap
liquor bad relationships. As I alwayssay, I appreciate you. Hope you
have a great Friday. Please grabtickets to the Baltimore Show. Bring a
(09:24):
friend, bring two friends. Ticketstart like twenty bucks, internshioncomedy dot com.
We'll see a Friday
And Happy Wednesday, friend. Welcometo the Thought Shower. Internshiohn is my
name. I'm gonna be honest,taking a risk. I'm recording this a
little bit early because tonight, whichis is Tuesday night, and this comes
out. Gonna see tea Pain Piersix in Baltimore. Now here is the
deal. We're taking a bus fromthe radio station in Rockville to Pier six.
(00:23):
Bus is leaving at five to hopefullyget there by seven. That's exciting.
And then the bus ride back Ithink we leave at like eleven thirty
to hopefully get back here to thestation by like midnight fifteen ish midnight thirty
and then do the morning show Wednesday. So I was like, I can't
miss the podcast. God do thisjust in case. It's been a wild
(00:45):
couple twenty four hours. Man,you know Chewy he's been I don't know
what he's going through. Man,He's he's fifteen and a half. The
over the weekend, he wouldn't eatfood, wouldn't eat anything. Is stopped
eating his food, would just likesniff it and go. And he's done
that in the past and other timesit's been because he wont attention. According
(01:07):
to the vet true story. Andeven he wouldn't eat his like pill packets,
so it was kind of like touchand go for a little bit.
He was acting a little spacey sometimesit's kind of staring off into nowhere.
And then had a breakthrough last night, thank god, where I cut him
pieces of a chicken breast and heate that. So making progress. You
(01:29):
know, it's one of those thingswhere again he's fifteen. You know,
it's just like a which is crazyto think about, you know, fifteen
years with one animal. You know, we lived in Minnesota, we lived
in Iowa, we lived here.It's just a wild thing. And I
think too because he's my dog,you know, like he was my first
(01:51):
solo pet where it was just me. There's nobody else and like anybody I've
dated since, you know, theywere brought into his life. But it
wasn't like our dog, if thatmakes sense. So it's he's a really
special say person to me, reallyspecial do to me, just because like
we've been through so much. Cheuiwas in college of me, which is
(02:14):
insane. He's been in all theradio studios, so he's doing well,
seemingly. We tried to go fora walk yesterday just to get the dogs
out of the house because it's beenso hot. But it's like, ah,
they're just getting cooped up. Andhe walked about ten feet and then
he slammed the brakes. And whenChewy slams the brakes, there's no going
(02:34):
anywhere like what you might. Can'tdrag him, you know, can't do
anything like that. So we'll see. I send a video of the vet.
Hopefully get back to me with that, but you know, we'll see.
Also exciting the dogs allegedly hotel roomsstay. Very exciting, very excited
for that with the the boys.So I'm excited for this weekend rather tonight
to see tea pain Man. That'sgonna be a heck of a show talk
(02:57):
about guy who has hits. Althoughagain the Wednesday morning show is gonna be
something. By the way, letme hit this up again to the Arlington
shows of the comedy run completely soldout. The only show with tickets left
is rams Head. That's August seventeenth, Ramshead Live Baltimore. Gonna be a
(03:19):
great show, myself sauced ya MegKyle Cromer of course raising money for the
Fisher House Foundation. Once the Ramsheadshow sells out, we are done.
Like there's no more venues being added. Internsjooncomedy dot Com would love to see
their Internsjooncomedy dot Com. I havegot to get to this too for your
(03:39):
Wednesday man, oh Man, Howto know if you're trying too hard to
make a relationship work. I wouldsay, this is not just romantic.
This could be platonic, this couldbe friendship, this could be family whatever.
But I do think at some pointeveryone's been in the spot where it's
(03:59):
like, Okay, a relationship issupposed to be as close to fifty to
fifty as possible, ideally right,ideally as close to fifty to fifty as
possible. If it's not, youtend to run into issues, okay,
if you avoid confrontation just to keepthe peace, that's a sign. I
do think this happens, especially towardsthe ends of relationships, where it's like
(04:21):
I don't even have the energy tofight right now, Like I don't even
want to bring it up, youknow what I mean. It's like I
could something's bothering me. But ifI do that, we talk about it,
I s on the energy you talkabout it. If you find that
you're making all the effort they say, it's hard to remember the last time
that texted you first made date plansor suggesting that bonding activity. Even when
(04:44):
you make plans to spend time together, they don't seem to be very excited
about it. They say, whatarguments arise? You seem to be the
only one trying to understand where theother one's coming from. I mean,
yeah, this again to me strikeslike this is the end of the road,
Like this is the end of thesituation if if you're find yourself having
to reach out. I think thishappens with friends a lot too, where
it's like, why am I theone task with always keeping the friendship going?
(05:09):
Why do I always have to textor send a meme or something like
that. It can be draining becausethen you start to feel like, too,
you know, is this even worthit? You know, mis wasting
my time, which ties into youput their life ahead of yours one hundred
percent, they say, compromise aboutwhere to go to dinner or what movie
to watch all the time is abit problematic, but it's much worse when
(05:31):
you start to treat their life andhappiness as more important than yours. They
say, rather than both prioritize yourneeds, everything your power to make them
happy to your detriment. You giveup dreams, bessign care opportunities, so
on and so forth. I wantto say I've had this problem in the
past, but I do think itcan be a bit intimidating because like the
I'm in a unique spot with theshow is doing really well, the podcast
(05:55):
does really well, comedy does reallywell. So it's like I got a
lot going on all the time towhere like I've had to like really consciously
make an effort to make sure thatwhy do have a girlfriend supporting her and
her stuff too, And it's noteven like I wouldn't. It's just like
it's easy to get caught up inlike the rush of everything else where.
It's like, no, it's ateam. I want to celebrate your wins
as well. Huh. You're afraidto check in with them or ask things
(06:19):
of them. That to me isa huge one, dude, even especially
with like friends and family too.It's like if you can't ask them for
favors even just like help on something. If you're afraid to ask for help,
that to sign something's off, youknow what I mean. If you
cannot ask them to not even helpyou move, but like pick up a
dog something like that. That tome is yeah, sign something's off.
(06:45):
If things feel forced, they say, right, relationships take work, but
they aren't supposed to feel that way, especially twenty four to seven. Yeah,
if it feels like I don't know, man, I think you get
to that point where I was ina relationship once, like or the end.
It was not like we were romanticat all. It was like we
were friends, and then I realizedwe were friends that didn't even really like
(07:09):
each other. So it was reallylike, what are we What are we
doing here? You know what Imean? Like we're just we're not romantic,
we're just friends, but I don'teven like you, which ties into
you feel drained and irritated all thetime. I mean, this is a
huge one. We had somebody callingthe show once who she knew it was
(07:29):
over with her partner because she couldn'tstand the way he breathed. And I'm
like, at that point, youknow, if the way a man breathes
is enough to make you want tostop, like, there's probably other things
going on there, you know,you probably his course, if you find
that you have to rationalize their behaviorall the time. Yes, if you're
(07:51):
always making excuses for your partner's actionsor bad behavior to make them easier live
with, that is not a goodsign. Yeah, they say, she
now field need to justify or rationalizethe things they do to yourself or to
your loved ones one hundred percent.Golly, how draining could that be?
And that's one of those things toowhere I've always believed that if you're going
(08:13):
to vent to your friends of familyabout your partner, for every negative thing
you say, you gotta say fouror five good things. I think the
problem is sometimes when we vent topeople and don't mention the good stuff.
Like if it was if Sauce wasventing to me by a guy she was
seeing and just telling me these horriblethings, I'm gonna think the guy's a
giant pos I'm gonna think these theworst. I'm not gonna like him.
(08:37):
Now. It could be that she'sonly telling me three things and he's doing
everything else right, the man walkson water. But because I don't see
that every day, because I'm notwith them every day, Uh, I'm
gonna make it seem that that's gonnamake it seem to me like oh,
this is a horrendous situation. Andthen as our friend, I'm not gonna
like him. You gotta balance itout, man, My goodness. But
I think overall the you know,are relationships work, absolutely, but being
(09:03):
the one that drains you where itfeels like it's just stuck in your life
away, that's not supposed to bewhat. This is supposed to feel comfortable,
supposed to feel like fun, likea little bit of like an energy
boost, not a dread. Whyyou know, life's too short for cheap
liquor bad relationships. As I alwayssay, I appreciate you. Hope you
have a great Friday. Please grabtickets to the Baltimore Show. Bring a
(09:24):
friend, bring two friends. Ticketstart like twenty bucks, internshioncomedy dot com.
We'll see a Friday
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