July 15, 2024 • 10 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about why his weekend was a disaster. Plus, how to know if someone isn't into you
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(00:00):
Why, hello friend, Happy Monday. Welcome to the thoughts Shower. Intern
John is my name. It wasa weekend, and I know I say
that every Monday. This one thougha little bit different. So the comedy
shows launched this weekend in Arlington.This past weekend, my plan was to
(00:21):
be a little bit social, butmainly focused in the comedy, getting down
some of the minutia, some ofthe more I don't know art pieces in
uh, what's the administrative task ifyou will. So my plan was to
Friday get some dinner with friends,Saturday get late dinner with friends. But
(00:41):
in between that be doing work thewhole time. Starrdy on Friday morning,
sorry not to feel great power throughand then Saturday I was out all day.
I think it was food poisoning.If I'm being honest, this would
be a little bit TMI because everythirty minutes or so had to go answer
(01:03):
the call, so to speak.I have an idea of what it was
that gave me the food poisoning,if I had a pinpoint one thing.
However, I don't want to saythat in case I'm wrong, But it
was just it was bad, dude, like really bad summach cramps, again,
like couldn't keep anything down. Ihad a business call on Saturday midday
(01:26):
that I literally took while laying onthe floor in my bathroom, and so
I spent most of the day justkind of going from my bed to the
bathroom back and forth, just kindof like laying down, and I I
would try to get something to eat. And then by the end of like
Saturday, felt okay ish, butstill just like not great, dude,
(01:48):
not great, And I think nowI'm just hello dehydrate itself on Sunday because
I was really upset because like Iwanted to make sure I was going to
the gym before the show. It'sjust like, you know, being in
the best physical shape I could bein because that matters. We're doing stand
up, like it does, youknow. And I also wanted to look
good too. So Sunday woke uparound eight, went to the gym,
(02:10):
walked in the gym, walked upthe stairs to get to the floor of
the gym, and like was sofar out of breadth of winded. I
was like, this is not agood idea, grabbed my stuff, went
home, and it's one of thosethings where I had to like sneak by
the front desk lady because she hadjust checked me in and I didn't want
to explain like, oh, mytummy hurts, so I just kind of
(02:30):
like put my head down and forcedmy way through, you know what I
mean. And then so was ableto get and I always say the word
wrong, dude, Ostia is thatit ossia bulls. I'm gonna stop right
now, but you know its berryballs. Was able to keep some of
those down. Uh that was okay, but yeah, dude. And then
(02:52):
it's like there's something about when you'resick and by yourself, Like my place
became a disaster because I would likeopen something and then literally be like too
tired or sick to put it away. And that's also just being lazy.
So I spent most of yesterday tolike making my place live a ball again.
(03:12):
Yeah, so here we are.I'm alive. I'm thriving, Sophia
a little bit, like, Eh, I'm gonna be honest, Like the
one food that I think I ate, I don't think I'm gonna eat that
for a long time. This islike my brother's birthday. I was in
eighth grade. He had been insixth grade, and I never liked sushi.
But for his birthday, I waslike, you want to know what,
(03:34):
I'll try sushi. I had theworst food poisoning that ever had my
entire life. Because of that,I can't eat sheet cake anymore, because
we had sheet cake for his birthdaybecause Tommy the idiot didn't when ice cream
cake, and like, I can'teat sheet cake now because of that.
So you know it's a vibe.But anyway, I'm excited. It's a
big week this week man. Theshow's kick off intern John's from Scratch.
(03:58):
If you're coming to the shows,I can that wait to see you.
Been going through the material a littlebit, went through a little bit yesterday.
It's it's good man. Oh,it's so good, so good.
After the show is this weekend,so Arlington. There's the Friday show,
which is I believe starts at seven, which means doors are at six,
and then there's the Saturday show.Let me check us to make sure.
(04:20):
Saturday show there's a show at sixand the show at eight thirty. So
Friday seven pm, Saturday six pmat eight thirty pm. What I will
say is doors opened by an hourbefore each show. And just so you
know, full disclosure, it isopen seatings, so the sooner you get
there, the sooner it's going tobe. I'll say this for Saturday,
(04:43):
since the first show's at six pm, second shows eight thirty pm. I
would be surprised if the doors areopen hour early because we'll probably run late.
I'm just being completely honest with you. And then we do the meet
and greets. Pay attention on socialmedia for that because we might switch it
up. Usually they're after the show, but for Saturday, we might do
the first one before the show,just for time wise, but makes you
(05:04):
follow along. At intern John Radio, they are twenty one plus shows.
Unless accompanied by your own parent.That's a big thing. Now. The
the after party, we're going toClarendon Ballroom, which is like kind of
across the street. That general areacanna be a lot of fun. Internjohncomedy
dot Com. Why I get tothis real quick for your Monday? Are
you attracted to emotionally unavailable people?I know I have been in the past.
(05:29):
I know I have friends who arenow and to me, I just
actually had a talk with a friendabout this recently and they're like, why
do you think that? Because Ithink you will pick somebody who's not available
because you don't want to fully committo that person. They fully commit,
you don't want to make yourself fullyvulnerable to that person, you know what
(05:50):
I mean. So this way itdoesn't work out, you can kind of
be like, eh, whatever,it's on them, so you know,
going into it like it's probably notgonna be good, you know what I
mean. It's almost like you giveyourself an excuse. I've seen friends do
that. I think I have aswell. Number one sign as you enjoy
the chase, they say to throwthe chase and be intoxicating. When someone's
(06:11):
emotionally unavailable, they often seem mysteriousand intriguing. You might find yourself drawn
to the challenge of trying to winthem over. Yeah, the thing is
because they're literally giving you nothing.So it's almost like, Okay, you
don't like me, I'm gonna showyou how much you like me, you
know what I mean. And thenif you do win them over, it's
a bit of well, now,what you know, because I feel like
(06:35):
I've been with folks who are emotionallyunavailable and once we got together, it
still wasn't really fulfilling because they didn'thave that, They didn't have it in
them to be there, you knowwhat I mean, Like they didn't really
have that part of them locked up, so to speak. You're afraid of
intimacy, they say, emotional unavailabilitycan be a convenient way of intimacy.
(06:58):
If you're scared getting too close tosomebody, you might consciously sneak out partners
who are unable or willing to openup emotionally. So I said about my
friend, if they ain't wanted tofully jump in, they just wanted to
go in slowly. If you're drawnto the fixer upper, I've been told
I am like this. I'm tryingto avoid that in the future because bruh,
(07:19):
I need some fixing myself, youknow what I mean? They say
some people are drawn the idea offixing someone. If you believe you can
help someone overcome their emotional baggage orchange their ways, you might be attracted
to emotionally unavailable partners. That makessense, okay, if you crave drama
and intensity, they say, relationshipswith emotionally unavailable people can be full of
(07:42):
ups and downs. The constant backand forth, mixed signals an emotional turmoil
can be addicted for some Yeah,I said this, in the past,
but I think that for me,it's like, I like a relationship to
be a a place of peace,you know what I mean, A place
where you can let your go downa little bit. Literally, it kind
of lower the sword, lower theuh, you know, the shield if
(08:03):
you will, and just kind ofrelax. That's what I kind of like.
I don't like the idea of likeyou're fighting battles at work and with
family and friends all day and thenhaving to come back and fight when with
your partner. I don't like thatat all. Dude, that's not the
vibe we want. You want tobe able to relax with your person,
enjoy yourself a little bit. You'reafraid of being alone ooo ooh, they
(08:26):
say the fear of being alone candrive people settle for less than they deserve.
If you're terrified being single, you'remore willing to tolerate emotional and availability
in a partner. I think thisis true, especially the older you get.
That theory of like, you know, I've had friends in their mid
twenties like, oh, I can'tcan't be single now I'm twenty five.
I'm like, girl, you haveyour whole life ahead of you. You
(08:48):
know what I mean, if you'renot happy with somebody at twenty five,
you're surely not gonna be happy withthem at thirty five or forty five or
fifty five or whatever it is.Hell no, you mistake and intensity for
intimacy. We kind of talked aboutthis last week a little bit, with
the chemistry versus compability. Sometimes theinitial sparks, and excitement of new relationship
can be mistaken for intimacy. Ifyou're used emotionally unavailable partners, you might
(09:13):
confuse the intense feelings of the chaseor the drama with a deep emotional connection.
They say it's important to distinguish betweenservice level attraction and true intimacy,
which involves vulnerability, trust, andopen communication. I go back to that
again. I tend to I likerelationships. Being in relationships. Being single
can be great too, don't getme wrong, But having that person that
(09:35):
you can open up to and justfeel safe around, I think for dudes
especially, because dudes it just feelslike we're you know, we're fighting battles
twenty four to seven in our livesand we always have to have our guard
up just because of that. Soagain, it's nice when you come quote
unquote home to be able to putyour sword down, put your guard down,
and just kind of like be withyour person. And we talked about
(09:56):
this before two. That's what Italked about, Like, if your partner
gets sleepy around you, that's agood sign because it means they're really comfortable
with you, like it means theycan kind of left their guard down,
which, oh, isn't that adorable. Listen, have a great Monday.
If you're coming to the show thisweekend, I can now wait to see
you. There might be some lastman of tickets Internsjohncomedy dot com, but
I will see you Wednesday
Why, hello friend, Happy Monday. Welcome to the thoughts Shower. Intern
John is my name. It wasa weekend, and I know I say
that every Monday. This one thougha little bit different. So the comedy
shows launched this weekend in Arlington.This past weekend, my plan was to
(00:21):
be a little bit social, butmainly focused in the comedy, getting down
some of the minutia, some ofthe more I don't know art pieces in
uh, what's the administrative task ifyou will. So my plan was to
Friday get some dinner with friends,Saturday get late dinner with friends. But
(00:41):
in between that be doing work thewhole time. Starrdy on Friday morning,
sorry not to feel great power throughand then Saturday I was out all day.
I think it was food poisoning.If I'm being honest, this would
be a little bit TMI because everythirty minutes or so had to go answer
(01:03):
the call, so to speak.I have an idea of what it was
that gave me the food poisoning,if I had a pinpoint one thing.
However, I don't want to saythat in case I'm wrong, But it
was just it was bad, dude, like really bad summach cramps, again,
like couldn't keep anything down. Ihad a business call on Saturday midday
(01:26):
that I literally took while laying onthe floor in my bathroom, and so
I spent most of the day justkind of going from my bed to the
bathroom back and forth, just kindof like laying down, and I I
would try to get something to eat. And then by the end of like
Saturday, felt okay ish, butstill just like not great, dude,
(01:48):
not great, And I think nowI'm just hello dehydrate itself on Sunday because
I was really upset because like Iwanted to make sure I was going to
the gym before the show. It'sjust like, you know, being in
the best physical shape I could bein because that matters. We're doing stand
up, like it does, youknow. And I also wanted to look
good too. So Sunday woke uparound eight, went to the gym,
(02:10):
walked in the gym, walked upthe stairs to get to the floor of
the gym, and like was sofar out of breadth of winded. I
was like, this is not agood idea, grabbed my stuff, went
home, and it's one of thosethings where I had to like sneak by
the front desk lady because she hadjust checked me in and I didn't want
to explain like, oh, mytummy hurts, so I just kind of
(02:30):
like put my head down and forcedmy way through, you know what I
mean. And then so was ableto get and I always say the word
wrong, dude, Ostia is thatit ossia bulls. I'm gonna stop right
now, but you know its berryballs. Was able to keep some of
those down. Uh that was okay, but yeah, dude. And then
(02:52):
it's like there's something about when you'resick and by yourself, Like my place
became a disaster because I would likeopen something and then literally be like too
tired or sick to put it away. And that's also just being lazy.
So I spent most of yesterday tolike making my place live a ball again.
(03:12):
Yeah, so here we are.I'm alive. I'm thriving, Sophia
a little bit, like, Eh, I'm gonna be honest, Like the
one food that I think I ate, I don't think I'm gonna eat that
for a long time. This islike my brother's birthday. I was in
eighth grade. He had been insixth grade, and I never liked sushi.
But for his birthday, I waslike, you want to know what,
(03:34):
I'll try sushi. I had theworst food poisoning that ever had my
entire life. Because of that,I can't eat sheet cake anymore, because
we had sheet cake for his birthdaybecause Tommy the idiot didn't when ice cream
cake, and like, I can'teat sheet cake now because of that.
So you know it's a vibe.But anyway, I'm excited. It's a
big week this week man. Theshow's kick off intern John's from Scratch.
(03:58):
If you're coming to the shows,I can that wait to see you.
Been going through the material a littlebit, went through a little bit yesterday.
It's it's good man. Oh,it's so good, so good.
After the show is this weekend,so Arlington. There's the Friday show,
which is I believe starts at seven, which means doors are at six,
and then there's the Saturday show.Let me check us to make sure.
(04:20):
Saturday show there's a show at sixand the show at eight thirty. So
Friday seven pm, Saturday six pmat eight thirty pm. What I will
say is doors opened by an hourbefore each show. And just so you
know, full disclosure, it isopen seatings, so the sooner you get
there, the sooner it's going tobe. I'll say this for Saturday,
(04:43):
since the first show's at six pm, second shows eight thirty pm. I
would be surprised if the doors areopen hour early because we'll probably run late.
I'm just being completely honest with you. And then we do the meet
and greets. Pay attention on socialmedia for that because we might switch it
up. Usually they're after the show, but for Saturday, we might do
the first one before the show,just for time wise, but makes you
(05:04):
follow along. At intern John Radio, they are twenty one plus shows.
Unless accompanied by your own parent.That's a big thing. Now. The
the after party, we're going toClarendon Ballroom, which is like kind of
across the street. That general areacanna be a lot of fun. Internjohncomedy
dot Com. Why I get tothis real quick for your Monday? Are
you attracted to emotionally unavailable people?I know I have been in the past.
(05:29):
I know I have friends who arenow and to me, I just
actually had a talk with a friendabout this recently and they're like, why
do you think that? Because Ithink you will pick somebody who's not available
because you don't want to fully committo that person. They fully commit,
you don't want to make yourself fullyvulnerable to that person, you know what
(05:50):
I mean. So this way itdoesn't work out, you can kind of
be like, eh, whatever,it's on them, so you know,
going into it like it's probably notgonna be good, you know what I
mean. It's almost like you giveyourself an excuse. I've seen friends do
that. I think I have aswell. Number one sign as you enjoy
the chase, they say to throwthe chase and be intoxicating. When someone's
(06:11):
emotionally unavailable, they often seem mysteriousand intriguing. You might find yourself drawn
to the challenge of trying to winthem over. Yeah, the thing is
because they're literally giving you nothing.So it's almost like, Okay, you
don't like me, I'm gonna showyou how much you like me, you
know what I mean. And thenif you do win them over, it's
a bit of well, now,what you know, because I feel like
(06:35):
I've been with folks who are emotionallyunavailable and once we got together, it
still wasn't really fulfilling because they didn'thave that, They didn't have it in
them to be there, you knowwhat I mean, Like they didn't really
have that part of them locked up, so to speak. You're afraid of
intimacy, they say, emotional unavailabilitycan be a convenient way of intimacy.
(06:58):
If you're scared getting too close tosomebody, you might consciously sneak out partners
who are unable or willing to openup emotionally. So I said about my
friend, if they ain't wanted tofully jump in, they just wanted to
go in slowly. If you're drawnto the fixer upper, I've been told
I am like this. I'm tryingto avoid that in the future because bruh,
(07:19):
I need some fixing myself, youknow what I mean? They say
some people are drawn the idea offixing someone. If you believe you can
help someone overcome their emotional baggage orchange their ways, you might be attracted
to emotionally unavailable partners. That makessense, okay, if you crave drama
and intensity, they say, relationshipswith emotionally unavailable people can be full of
(07:42):
ups and downs. The constant backand forth, mixed signals an emotional turmoil
can be addicted for some Yeah,I said this, in the past,
but I think that for me,it's like, I like a relationship to
be a a place of peace,you know what I mean, A place
where you can let your go downa little bit. Literally, it kind
of lower the sword, lower theuh, you know, the shield if
(08:03):
you will, and just kind ofrelax. That's what I kind of like.
I don't like the idea of likeyou're fighting battles at work and with
family and friends all day and thenhaving to come back and fight when with
your partner. I don't like thatat all. Dude, that's not the
vibe we want. You want tobe able to relax with your person,
enjoy yourself a little bit. You'reafraid of being alone ooo ooh, they
(08:26):
say the fear of being alone candrive people settle for less than they deserve.
If you're terrified being single, you'remore willing to tolerate emotional and availability
in a partner. I think thisis true, especially the older you get.
That theory of like, you know, I've had friends in their mid
twenties like, oh, I can'tcan't be single now I'm twenty five.
I'm like, girl, you haveyour whole life ahead of you. You
(08:48):
know what I mean, if you'renot happy with somebody at twenty five,
you're surely not gonna be happy withthem at thirty five or forty five or
fifty five or whatever it is.Hell no, you mistake and intensity for
intimacy. We kind of talked aboutthis last week a little bit, with
the chemistry versus compability. Sometimes theinitial sparks, and excitement of new relationship
can be mistaken for intimacy. Ifyou're used emotionally unavailable partners, you might
(09:13):
confuse the intense feelings of the chaseor the drama with a deep emotional connection.
They say it's important to distinguish betweenservice level attraction and true intimacy,
which involves vulnerability, trust, andopen communication. I go back to that
again. I tend to I likerelationships. Being in relationships. Being single
can be great too, don't getme wrong, But having that person that
(09:35):
you can open up to and justfeel safe around, I think for dudes
especially, because dudes it just feelslike we're you know, we're fighting battles
twenty four to seven in our livesand we always have to have our guard
up just because of that. Soagain, it's nice when you come quote
unquote home to be able to putyour sword down, put your guard down,
and just kind of like be withyour person. And we talked about
(09:56):
this before two. That's what Italked about, Like, if your partner
gets sleepy around you, that's agood sign because it means they're really comfortable
with you, like it means theycan kind of left their guard down,
which, oh, isn't that adorable. Listen, have a great Monday.
If you're coming to the show thisweekend, I can now wait to see
you. There might be some lastman of tickets Internsjohncomedy dot com, but
I will see you Wednesday
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