August 21, 2024 • 9 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about why he got a late start, plus the things you should never sacrifice for a partner!
Every week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com
Every week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a happy Wednesday. Friends. Welcome to the Thought Shower.
Internson is my name. I know I am late with
the day's podcast. Well, there's a simple reason why I've
been late with the whole day today. I don't want
to blame my father, but he's not here to defend himself.
So that's what I'm gonna do. My parents have been
(00:21):
in town for a week. They leave tomorrow. I like
my place cold, like to sleep cold at night. Cold,
mainly I think because Chewy, my shuahua, sleeps like a
little heater. Not ideal, not great. So there was a
day already this past week where my dad churned up
(00:41):
the ac like made it warmer my place because he
was a little bit too cold. Well, the problem is
heat rises. So while it may be a little frigid
on one level, on the bedroom level, it's getting a
little bit warm. And I told that to him, and
last night, before I was going to bet, he asked
(01:02):
to make it warmer. I said, but, like, I need
to sleep, And all I know is I look up
at midnight this morning I was sweating. I go, no,
I know, I know my father, whom I love, would
not knowingly go and change the temperature so that he
could feel better because I told him I get up early.
I know he wouldn't do that, but you know me ever,
(01:25):
the inquisitor had to go check to make sure. And
would you wouldn't you know, wouldn't you know? Somehow it's
made warmer. It was a warm as hell. Now. I
texted my mom. No, actually my parents were awake and
they're like, hey, okay. I'm like, yeah, it's somehow got
hotter in here. It's crazy. My dad claims he didn't
touch the thermo set. Must be a ghost. But then
(01:47):
so I go back to sleep, and this is like midnight.
I'm all right, at least I have, you know, two
and a half hours something like that to sleep. I
feel very rested by the time I come back into consciousness,
a little bit too rested. I mean, it's all my
It was like, you know, you could hear the birds
and the bees and the world and bray continue the day.
I go, ah, it must be time to get up.
Check my alarm. It's four thirty now. Usually by four
(02:11):
thirty all have bent to the station for an hour,
and like, by four thirty I already have my stories
for the day, and I'm like walking around getting my
steps in reading my stories. I nearly had a heart attack.
That's one of the worst feelings. That is when you oversleep.
You know, you feel good, like you feel rested, and
you go, mmm, I shouldn't trust this, And as it
(02:31):
turns out, I shouldn't have trusted it. Four thirty is
not great. So I got up and to my credit,
got to the station at five, which is still you
know before the show starts. Show starts at six. That's fine,
but I was like anxiety ringing, like, oh my god,
I'm so far behind. So I didn't have time to
the podcast right away. Here we are now. I had
(02:53):
a text Hoodie for I left because Hoodie gets here
like RAF five sauce around there. Two had to be like, hey,
I over left. I'm not dead, though, So I think
if I ever go missing, that'd be the first sign
is like that happening. Me not showing up for work
would be like a oh God, something's off. So the
good news is I felt more rested. That's the good news.
(03:16):
The bad news is the heart attack of anxiety that
came with being more rested. But we're here, We're doing it.
An exciting day today after I'm done to work today.
My parents and I we're gonna go see the restaurant
I'm a part of. It's not open yet, but it's
gonna be pretty close to getting there. So I'm excited
for them to be able to see that because I've
(03:39):
been talking to them about it for months, i mean
almost like seven months at this point. So for them
to get a chance to see it like kind of
be almost ready to go is very cool. And for
me too, because you know, it's like with any project,
it's like kind of a pipe dream, and they there's
a lot of stops and starts, and now it's like
full on launch moll getting ready to go. I'm excited
(04:00):
for that. They leave tomorrow. Excuse me, which the week's
flun by. The week's flown by. We got a lot done.
We did the Baltimore Awards last week, we did the
O's Game, did the comedy tour, we had Crabs, did
Breakfast with the Show. Today, were seeing the restaurant, which
is very exciting. Tomorrow, I think they're coming into the show,
which is gonna be interesting to say the least. So
(04:22):
I'm very excited for that. Let me get to this too,
for your Wednesday. The things you should never sacrifice for
somebody else, even if you love them. Man, it's tough,
especially if you've been single for a while, and like,
you want to be happy and you want to make
this person happy, and I think it's very tempting to
kind of go one hundred percent into something and then
(04:44):
kind of forget who you are, which I think I'm
lucky that I'm so busy that it would be nearly
impossible for me to do that. Like I've been having
conversations with folks and just like realistically, like, hey, like
you know, my schedule is about to be dumb. Obviously,
the show takes up a lot of time. But then
once the restaurant opens, that's gonna take up a lot
(05:05):
of time. Once hockey starts, that's gonna take up a
lot of time. So it'd be nearly impossible for me
to go full board with something else. Let me get
into this though real quick. Number one experts say is
your friends makes sense. They say it doesn't matter if
your partner doesn't like your friends, and vice versa. It
can make things difficult, but doesn't have to be a
deal breaker. Damn not for your relationship or your friendships.
(05:28):
I'll say this. Uh. The experts say, if your partner
makes you choose between them and your friends, that's a sign.
I've always thought this. The person who makes you make
a decision, they always lose, you know what I mean,
They always lose. I've always had this talk to with
friends when it comes to like their boyfriends, like bachelor party,
(05:49):
like things like that, Like they're afraid that his buddy's
gonna be a bad influence. I always say, if your
man was gonna cheat, he got in cheat regardless of
if his friends are around. Like, that's one hundred percent
on him, not on his friends. Don't give up your
dreams one hundred percent. This is interesting. They say, no
one is worth your dreams. If your partner expects you
(06:11):
throw away your passions and dream aside, they're not thinking
about what you need to be happy. I tell this
to my hockey kids all the time. Uh, it's a reality.
I tell them, like fellas, there is no I always
tell them, make make good decisions. There's always temptation, but
that there's no friend, girlfriend, drink, there's no tobacco whatever.
(06:33):
That it's worth your future. There just isn't. And this
is true. I don't think there's any one person worth
giving up your dreams for, especially early on. Oh no,
I mean I'll say this if they unless it's extreme circumstance,
health issue, kids, something like that. But in the dating process,
hell no, I know for me again, Like I if
(06:55):
I was dating somebody like, hey, you need to stop
coaching hockey, I'd be like, yeah, that's just not gonna happen.
Like I love doing it is a tiring Oh yeah,
it's tiring. But for me, like that's kind of you know,
it brings me back to the game like grew up
playing makes me feel like a kid again. It's kind
of therapeutic that way. So yeah, your time away from them,
(07:16):
don't sacrifice it. Yeah, they say you shouldn't be with
somebody who wants me with you all the time. Although
it can be fun in the early stages, it becomes
a problem as time goes on. Yeah, I think that's
beyond fair, especially because like what is there to say,
you know, like you need time to reset, you need
time to do your own thing. You know, that's like
(07:36):
the it's just necessary, especially for me, like after the show,
I need to be away from people just for like
an hour or so just to kind of recharge the batteries.
And I think too, it keeps the passion alive. It
keeps the funnelive too. If you're around somebody all the time,
it's like you don't get to look forward to seeing them,
you know, you don't get to kind of let the
(07:58):
anticipation build and that type of thing. I just also
think it's good to be in your own head your
self confidence, oh yeah, oh yeah. Being with someone who
chips away your self confidence is not a good person.
They're toxic and shouldn't be in your heart or life. Yeah.
They say you might not notice someone's making you sacrifice
your self confidence, but here's some signs. They belittle you
(08:20):
to make you doubt yourself or feel bad about who
you are. Yeah, I think that I've been blessed. I mean,
my ex girlfriend especially, was really good at like building
me up. You want your person to be your biggest cheerleader.
You want them to be excited for you. You don't
want them to make you feel dumb or make you
feel small or whatever. No, they're supposed to be like
(08:41):
you're building something together with them, so you can celebrate
the wins with them. They're supposed to be the one
that they see you struggle. They know how hard it
took to get to where you are. They're supposed to
be on your side. If they're not, Hell no, Look,
I'm sorry about the delay. I appreciate you listening. I'll
see you Friday. It is the Thought Show or
And a happy Wednesday. Friends. Welcome to the Thought Shower.
Internson is my name. I know I am late with
the day's podcast. Well, there's a simple reason why I've
been late with the whole day today. I don't want
to blame my father, but he's not here to defend himself.
So that's what I'm gonna do. My parents have been
(00:21):
in town for a week. They leave tomorrow. I like
my place cold, like to sleep cold at night. Cold,
mainly I think because Chewy, my shuahua, sleeps like a
little heater. Not ideal, not great. So there was a
day already this past week where my dad churned up
(00:41):
the ac like made it warmer my place because he
was a little bit too cold. Well, the problem is
heat rises. So while it may be a little frigid
on one level, on the bedroom level, it's getting a
little bit warm. And I told that to him, and
last night, before I was going to bet, he asked
(01:02):
to make it warmer. I said, but, like, I need
to sleep, And all I know is I look up
at midnight this morning I was sweating. I go, no,
I know, I know my father, whom I love, would
not knowingly go and change the temperature so that he
could feel better because I told him I get up early.
I know he wouldn't do that, but you know me ever,
(01:25):
the inquisitor had to go check to make sure. And
would you wouldn't you know, wouldn't you know? Somehow it's
made warmer. It was a warm as hell. Now. I
texted my mom. No, actually my parents were awake and
they're like, hey, okay. I'm like, yeah, it's somehow got
hotter in here. It's crazy. My dad claims he didn't
touch the thermo set. Must be a ghost. But then
(01:47):
so I go back to sleep, and this is like midnight.
I'm all right, at least I have, you know, two
and a half hours something like that to sleep. I
feel very rested by the time I come back into consciousness,
a little bit too rested. I mean, it's all my
It was like, you know, you could hear the birds
and the bees and the world and bray continue the day.
I go, ah, it must be time to get up.
Check my alarm. It's four thirty now. Usually by four
(02:11):
thirty all have bent to the station for an hour,
and like, by four thirty I already have my stories
for the day, and I'm like walking around getting my
steps in reading my stories. I nearly had a heart attack.
That's one of the worst feelings. That is when you oversleep.
You know, you feel good, like you feel rested, and
you go, mmm, I shouldn't trust this, And as it
(02:31):
turns out, I shouldn't have trusted it. Four thirty is
not great. So I got up and to my credit,
got to the station at five, which is still you
know before the show starts. Show starts at six. That's fine,
but I was like anxiety ringing, like, oh my god,
I'm so far behind. So I didn't have time to
the podcast right away. Here we are now. I had
(02:53):
a text Hoodie for I left because Hoodie gets here
like RAF five sauce around there. Two had to be like, hey,
I over left. I'm not dead, though, So I think
if I ever go missing, that'd be the first sign
is like that happening. Me not showing up for work
would be like a oh God, something's off. So the
good news is I felt more rested. That's the good news.
(03:16):
The bad news is the heart attack of anxiety that
came with being more rested. But we're here, We're doing it.
An exciting day today after I'm done to work today.
My parents and I we're gonna go see the restaurant
I'm a part of. It's not open yet, but it's
gonna be pretty close to getting there. So I'm excited
for them to be able to see that because I've
(03:39):
been talking to them about it for months, i mean
almost like seven months at this point. So for them
to get a chance to see it like kind of
be almost ready to go is very cool. And for
me too, because you know, it's like with any project,
it's like kind of a pipe dream, and they there's
a lot of stops and starts, and now it's like
full on launch moll getting ready to go. I'm excited
(04:00):
for that. They leave tomorrow. Excuse me, which the week's
flun by. The week's flown by. We got a lot done.
We did the Baltimore Awards last week, we did the
O's Game, did the comedy tour, we had Crabs, did
Breakfast with the Show. Today, were seeing the restaurant, which
is very exciting. Tomorrow, I think they're coming into the show,
which is gonna be interesting to say the least. So
(04:22):
I'm very excited for that. Let me get to this too,
for your Wednesday. The things you should never sacrifice for
somebody else, even if you love them. Man, it's tough,
especially if you've been single for a while, and like,
you want to be happy and you want to make
this person happy, and I think it's very tempting to
kind of go one hundred percent into something and then
(04:44):
kind of forget who you are, which I think I'm
lucky that I'm so busy that it would be nearly
impossible for me to do that. Like I've been having
conversations with folks and just like realistically, like, hey, like
you know, my schedule is about to be dumb. Obviously,
the show takes up a lot of time. But then
once the restaurant opens, that's gonna take up a lot
(05:05):
of time. Once hockey starts, that's gonna take up a
lot of time. So it'd be nearly impossible for me
to go full board with something else. Let me get
into this though real quick. Number one experts say is
your friends makes sense. They say it doesn't matter if
your partner doesn't like your friends, and vice versa. It
can make things difficult, but doesn't have to be a
deal breaker. Damn not for your relationship or your friendships.
(05:28):
I'll say this. Uh. The experts say, if your partner
makes you choose between them and your friends, that's a sign.
I've always thought this. The person who makes you make
a decision, they always lose, you know what I mean,
They always lose. I've always had this talk to with
friends when it comes to like their boyfriends, like bachelor party,
(05:49):
like things like that, Like they're afraid that his buddy's
gonna be a bad influence. I always say, if your
man was gonna cheat, he got in cheat regardless of
if his friends are around. Like, that's one hundred percent
on him, not on his friends. Don't give up your
dreams one hundred percent. This is interesting. They say, no
one is worth your dreams. If your partner expects you
(06:11):
throw away your passions and dream aside, they're not thinking
about what you need to be happy. I tell this
to my hockey kids all the time. Uh, it's a reality.
I tell them, like fellas, there is no I always
tell them, make make good decisions. There's always temptation, but
that there's no friend, girlfriend, drink, there's no tobacco whatever.
(06:33):
That it's worth your future. There just isn't. And this
is true. I don't think there's any one person worth
giving up your dreams for, especially early on. Oh no,
I mean I'll say this if they unless it's extreme circumstance,
health issue, kids, something like that. But in the dating process,
hell no, I know for me again, Like I if
(06:55):
I was dating somebody like, hey, you need to stop
coaching hockey, I'd be like, yeah, that's just not gonna happen.
Like I love doing it is a tiring Oh yeah,
it's tiring. But for me, like that's kind of you know,
it brings me back to the game like grew up
playing makes me feel like a kid again. It's kind
of therapeutic that way. So yeah, your time away from them,
(07:16):
don't sacrifice it. Yeah, they say you shouldn't be with
somebody who wants me with you all the time. Although
it can be fun in the early stages, it becomes
a problem as time goes on. Yeah, I think that's
beyond fair, especially because like what is there to say,
you know, like you need time to reset, you need
time to do your own thing. You know, that's like
(07:36):
the it's just necessary, especially for me, like after the show,
I need to be away from people just for like
an hour or so just to kind of recharge the batteries.
And I think too, it keeps the passion alive. It
keeps the funnelive too. If you're around somebody all the time,
it's like you don't get to look forward to seeing them,
you know, you don't get to kind of let the
(07:58):
anticipation build and that type of thing. I just also
think it's good to be in your own head your
self confidence, oh yeah, oh yeah. Being with someone who
chips away your self confidence is not a good person.
They're toxic and shouldn't be in your heart or life. Yeah.
They say you might not notice someone's making you sacrifice
your self confidence, but here's some signs. They belittle you
(08:20):
to make you doubt yourself or feel bad about who
you are. Yeah, I think that I've been blessed. I mean,
my ex girlfriend especially, was really good at like building
me up. You want your person to be your biggest cheerleader.
You want them to be excited for you. You don't
want them to make you feel dumb or make you
feel small or whatever. No, they're supposed to be like
(08:41):
you're building something together with them, so you can celebrate
the wins with them. They're supposed to be the one
that they see you struggle. They know how hard it
took to get to where you are. They're supposed to
be on your side. If they're not, Hell no, Look,
I'm sorry about the delay. I appreciate you listening. I'll
see you Friday. It is the Thought Show or
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