October 21, 2024 • 10 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about is first official weekend owning a bar, plus how to know if you are the one chasing in a relationship
Intern John's debut comedy album "The Album" is available for preorder right NOW! InternJohnComedy.com proceeds benefitting the Fisher House Foundation
Every week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com
Intern John's debut comedy album "The Album" is available for preorder right NOW! InternJohnComedy.com proceeds benefitting the Fisher House Foundation
Every week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a Happy Monday friend. Welcome to the Thought Shower.
Intern John is my name. It was a weekend kind
of another trial weekend. So the restaurant bar that I'm
a part of hide Social and Claar and income check
us out. This is our first like grand opening weekend.
(00:20):
Obviously that makes sense it'd be the first grand opening weekend,
but you get it. And so I mentioned that this
past a couple of weeks, I've been doing like test
runs of am I gonna stay in a hotel all weekend?
Am I gonna try to go back and forth all weekend?
I've realized I don't enjoy hotel life. I don't think well,
(00:42):
I don't want to have a task to do. It's
like when we would do do the show from somewhere else,
or do like the comedy tour. It's very dangerous, I
think when you're staying in a hotel but you still
have something to do later on that day. Because it
was like we I would do the work at the
bar on Friday, got back to the hotel and then
(01:05):
basically kind of had the whole day to do stuff.
But it's kind of inconvenient because my real stuff's at
home to do like actual work, If that makes sense.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
It's an odd, odd spot. However, though restaurants doing well.
It's again it's just very fun to see people come
out and enjoy themselves, and it's like it's making you
want to do more, that's for sure. I'm like, ah,
but there's the whole time thing, you know. Hockey starting
up next couple of weeks. In my eighth year coaching
(01:37):
at George Shown Prep. It's getting very difficult to manage everything,
but so far we're having a fantastic time.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
I was also offended this morning.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
I woke up usually chewy, my fifteen and a half
year old shuahua sleeps with me.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
Last night, at some point he left.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Don't know where he went, don't know why, although I
will say at least this time when he left, he
and cry to get back up, because most times he'll
get off the bed, shut around, and then just cry
until I pick him back up. That's annoying. However, that's
not the case today. So exciting week. I think I'm
going to a Caps game layer this week, got the
(02:18):
bar obviously. Later this week I'm getting excited to hee
we're down the wire. The album comes out. It's crazy.
My album drops next Friday, not this Friday, but next Friday.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
And so next Friday around this time.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
I would think we'll know if we have a number
one comedy album, if we have the number one comedy
album in the world, which even just to say is crazy.
Let me see who's even on the who's the head
right now? Like just the idea. I met some of
my folks this weekend, and so they've bought the album,
which I cannot thank you enough. That is one of
the coolest things ever, like literally ever. Let me see
(02:58):
if I can get too. It's so hard to find
sometimes albums hold on Nope, not fat Jelly roll on
top for the normal stuff that makes sense. Good for
him genres kick comedy number one albums right now? Uh,
Nate Bargassey, Tom Cardi. I'm not familiar with Tom Cardi,
weird al, Nate Bargassy, Spike Jones, Yeah, a lot of
(03:20):
weird out, Jim Gaffigan, Matt Rife, Anthony jessel Nick. So it's, uh,
it's stiff competition. But I do think that we can
hopefully make your work. I don't know, we'll see. I
need your help. Internsohn Comedy dot com. The album is
about six bucks per hour per copy. Internjohn Comedy dot com.
(03:42):
Let me get to this for your Monday. How to
know you are the chaser in the relationship, whether that
be romantic, friendship, whatever. I'm sure at some point everybody
has been the chaser. It's not fun, it's anxiety ridden.
I do think also sometimes anxiety plays into it, and
(04:02):
that's why you become the chaser. Starting with you're always
the one texting first. If you're the one blowing up
their phone with good morning, text, ask them how the
day was going. And if you don't, it's radio silence.
If you notice the conversation dies off, unless you're the
one kicking it off, you might be the chaser.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
And that's tough. I think everybody probably even has.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
Like a friendship where you know, it's like if you
don't maintain it, it doesn't go well. You know it
will it will end And that sucks, dude, that really
sucks because then it's like how long are you willing
to let it go? How long are you willing to
let us not talk? Is she if you're the one
planning every single date, they say effort from dinner reservation,
(04:48):
the weekend plans. You're the one putting all the effort
making things happen. I always say too, like, sometimes I've
been on days with girls flex or data, girls who
I don't think necessarily understood how much goes into planning
a date, because I remember an old old girlfriend would
sometimes complain we do the same thing. I was like, Okay,
(05:09):
well how about you plan a date. I'll pay for it.
You plan it, start to finish, what time I got
you ready, where we're going, how we're getting there, where're parking?
You plan it, start to finish, and I'm in, and
you couldn't do it. So at least I like to
have like an idea of something the person wants to do.
Otherwise it's like I'm just kind of guessing in the
(05:29):
dark here, you know, planning in the dark. And see
what happens if you apologize first, even when it's not
your fault. Damn, you've mastered the RS saying sorry, even
when you know deep down it wasn't your fault to me,
it sides back into anxiety. I mean, I would say
probably like an anxiety attachment, where it's like you feel
(05:50):
like you have to overly apologize. It's almost like you
know they'll they'll run away if you don't, which is
not a great place to be in. You know. I
think they also the power and anamic on that is,
oh god, this is funny dog on TV. Sorry I
distracted the powder namic on that is something you don't want,
which ties into you overanalyze everything you say. This is
(06:10):
a tough one, especially when the person you're talking to
doesn't respond to a timely manner of things and you're wondering, like,
did I do I have to explain this text? Was
it overstated? But then it's like maybe they just didn't
see it right away. You know. I think if you
spend that much time to I've been there, like reading
(06:31):
over text, going back and like okay, maybe I should
have said this, or sending something and not getting their response.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
Period.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
It's tough. No doubt, you're dropping all the hints about
the future, say, whether you're casually managing future plans or
hinting at the next step in the relationship. It's always
you bringing it up. They say, if you're the one
steering those conversations, well they nod and smile without really committing.
You're the one pushing for more. That can be tough too.
(07:00):
I mean, especially for dating like this time of year,
because like the holidays coming up, what we're doing for Halloween,
what are we doing for Thanksgiving, what we're doing for Christmas?
Speaker 2 (07:09):
All that stuff.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
Yeah, it can be It can be tough because I
also think too, it goes back to the nervous attachment
where it's like you want to know that they see
a future with you, even if that future is just
next week, next month, whatever. If you feel insecure about
where you stand, been here before. Ah, If you're constantly
wondering where you stand the relationship or worrying if they're
(07:32):
really into you, that's a sign you're the chaser. When
the other person isn't putting the same effort in, you
left feeling a bit clueless. Yeah, I think sometimes like
they're a verse psychology in that is you're feeling cluless
to you. Okay, clearly I just have to put more
into it, you know. I mean if I just cared
a little more, if I just love them a little more,
(07:54):
I would get a better result. That's a dangerous game
to play. It's a dangerous spot to put yourself into.
I do think it just kind of wears you down.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
Again.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
I've been there where I'm like, all right, I'm not
getting what I want of this, but if I just
push a little bit harder, we'll be good. It leasy, exhausted,
more confused, wanting to ac commedatur You know what I
mean if you drop everything when they make plans, Yeah,
because I think again, it's like they can put in
(08:25):
like the minimal effort, but you're just so looking for
it that, like absolutely I'm in. They say, when they
finally suggest something, you drop everything to make it happen.
You'll rearrange your entire schedule just to fit into their plans,
which is so tough.
Speaker 2 (08:39):
I get. I fill in that trap too.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
I feel like because for me, you know, my weekdays
are pretty much off limits for the most part. I
really don't like hanging out on weekdays because for me,
for me to be able to do everything I'm doing,
sleep is obviously important.
Speaker 2 (08:54):
So that's like a tough, tough thing.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
So sometimes I do feel a little bit guilty when
somebody only as like, oh, I can see you a
Tuesday at eight or Tuesday at seven thirty. I'm damn,
that's gonna ruin my entire week legitimately, you know what
I mean. If we're meeting up at the time I
usually go to bed, that's gonna ruin everything. But it
is hard some times because it's like, Okay, I finally
(09:17):
got that, you know, the dog finally caught the tail.
Don't want to lose it, you know, So I always
say happy healthy, that's the relationship goals.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
We want again.
Speaker 1 (09:29):
If you get a chance, please pre order the album
internsgoncomedy dot com. If you went to one of the
shows with somebody, please ask them as well. The album
is six bucks. And the reason that the pre order
is so important is if we want to go number
one next week, we gotta come out the gate strong.
That's just kind of like the reality. I've been doing
some research talking to folks put albums. So if you
(09:51):
can six dollars internsgoncomedy dot com. All benefits the Fisherouse Foundation.
That's Internsjohncomedy dot Com. We'll see on Wednesday.
And a Happy Monday friend. Welcome to the Thought Shower.
Intern John is my name. It was a weekend kind
of another trial weekend. So the restaurant bar that I'm
a part of hide Social and Claar and income check
us out. This is our first like grand opening weekend.
(00:20):
Obviously that makes sense it'd be the first grand opening weekend,
but you get it. And so I mentioned that this
past a couple of weeks, I've been doing like test
runs of am I gonna stay in a hotel all weekend?
Am I gonna try to go back and forth all weekend?
I've realized I don't enjoy hotel life. I don't think well,
(00:42):
I don't want to have a task to do. It's
like when we would do do the show from somewhere else,
or do like the comedy tour. It's very dangerous, I
think when you're staying in a hotel but you still
have something to do later on that day. Because it
was like we I would do the work at the
bar on Friday, got back to the hotel and then
(01:05):
basically kind of had the whole day to do stuff.
But it's kind of inconvenient because my real stuff's at
home to do like actual work, If that makes sense.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
It's an odd, odd spot. However, though restaurants doing well.
It's again it's just very fun to see people come
out and enjoy themselves, and it's like it's making you
want to do more, that's for sure. I'm like, ah,
but there's the whole time thing, you know. Hockey starting
up next couple of weeks. In my eighth year coaching
(01:37):
at George Shown Prep. It's getting very difficult to manage everything,
but so far we're having a fantastic time.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
I was also offended this morning.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
I woke up usually chewy, my fifteen and a half
year old shuahua sleeps with me.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
Last night, at some point he left.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Don't know where he went, don't know why, although I
will say at least this time when he left, he
and cry to get back up, because most times he'll
get off the bed, shut around, and then just cry
until I pick him back up. That's annoying. However, that's
not the case today. So exciting week. I think I'm
going to a Caps game layer this week, got the
(02:18):
bar obviously. Later this week I'm getting excited to hee
we're down the wire. The album comes out. It's crazy.
My album drops next Friday, not this Friday, but next Friday.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
And so next Friday around this time.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
I would think we'll know if we have a number
one comedy album, if we have the number one comedy
album in the world, which even just to say is crazy.
Let me see who's even on the who's the head
right now? Like just the idea. I met some of
my folks this weekend, and so they've bought the album,
which I cannot thank you enough. That is one of
the coolest things ever, like literally ever. Let me see
(02:58):
if I can get too. It's so hard to find
sometimes albums hold on Nope, not fat Jelly roll on
top for the normal stuff that makes sense. Good for
him genres kick comedy number one albums right now? Uh,
Nate Bargassey, Tom Cardi. I'm not familiar with Tom Cardi,
weird al, Nate Bargassy, Spike Jones, Yeah, a lot of
(03:20):
weird out, Jim Gaffigan, Matt Rife, Anthony jessel Nick. So it's, uh,
it's stiff competition. But I do think that we can
hopefully make your work. I don't know, we'll see. I
need your help. Internsohn Comedy dot com. The album is
about six bucks per hour per copy. Internjohn Comedy dot com.
(03:42):
Let me get to this for your Monday. How to
know you are the chaser in the relationship, whether that
be romantic, friendship, whatever. I'm sure at some point everybody
has been the chaser. It's not fun, it's anxiety ridden.
I do think also sometimes anxiety plays into it, and
(04:02):
that's why you become the chaser. Starting with you're always
the one texting first. If you're the one blowing up
their phone with good morning, text, ask them how the
day was going. And if you don't, it's radio silence.
If you notice the conversation dies off, unless you're the
one kicking it off, you might be the chaser.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
And that's tough. I think everybody probably even has.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
Like a friendship where you know, it's like if you
don't maintain it, it doesn't go well. You know it
will it will end And that sucks, dude, that really
sucks because then it's like how long are you willing
to let it go? How long are you willing to
let us not talk? Is she if you're the one
planning every single date, they say effort from dinner reservation,
(04:48):
the weekend plans. You're the one putting all the effort
making things happen. I always say too, like, sometimes I've
been on days with girls flex or data, girls who
I don't think necessarily understood how much goes into planning
a date, because I remember an old old girlfriend would
sometimes complain we do the same thing. I was like, Okay,
(05:09):
well how about you plan a date. I'll pay for it.
You plan it, start to finish, what time I got
you ready, where we're going, how we're getting there, where're parking?
You plan it, start to finish, and I'm in, and
you couldn't do it. So at least I like to
have like an idea of something the person wants to do.
Otherwise it's like I'm just kind of guessing in the
(05:29):
dark here, you know, planning in the dark. And see
what happens if you apologize first, even when it's not
your fault. Damn, you've mastered the RS saying sorry, even
when you know deep down it wasn't your fault to me,
it sides back into anxiety. I mean, I would say
probably like an anxiety attachment, where it's like you feel
(05:50):
like you have to overly apologize. It's almost like you
know they'll they'll run away if you don't, which is
not a great place to be in. You know. I
think they also the power and anamic on that is,
oh god, this is funny dog on TV. Sorry I
distracted the powder namic on that is something you don't want,
which ties into you overanalyze everything you say. This is
(06:10):
a tough one, especially when the person you're talking to
doesn't respond to a timely manner of things and you're wondering, like,
did I do I have to explain this text? Was
it overstated? But then it's like maybe they just didn't
see it right away. You know. I think if you
spend that much time to I've been there, like reading
(06:31):
over text, going back and like okay, maybe I should
have said this, or sending something and not getting their response.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
Period.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
It's tough. No doubt, you're dropping all the hints about
the future, say, whether you're casually managing future plans or
hinting at the next step in the relationship. It's always
you bringing it up. They say, if you're the one
steering those conversations, well they nod and smile without really committing.
You're the one pushing for more. That can be tough too.
(07:00):
I mean, especially for dating like this time of year,
because like the holidays coming up, what we're doing for Halloween,
what are we doing for Thanksgiving, what we're doing for Christmas?
Speaker 2 (07:09):
All that stuff.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
Yeah, it can be It can be tough because I
also think too, it goes back to the nervous attachment
where it's like you want to know that they see
a future with you, even if that future is just
next week, next month, whatever. If you feel insecure about
where you stand, been here before. Ah, If you're constantly
wondering where you stand the relationship or worrying if they're
(07:32):
really into you, that's a sign you're the chaser. When
the other person isn't putting the same effort in, you
left feeling a bit clueless. Yeah, I think sometimes like
they're a verse psychology in that is you're feeling cluless
to you. Okay, clearly I just have to put more
into it, you know. I mean if I just cared
a little more, if I just love them a little more,
(07:54):
I would get a better result. That's a dangerous game
to play. It's a dangerous spot to put yourself into.
I do think it just kind of wears you down.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
Again.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
I've been there where I'm like, all right, I'm not
getting what I want of this, but if I just
push a little bit harder, we'll be good. It leasy, exhausted,
more confused, wanting to ac commedatur You know what I
mean if you drop everything when they make plans, Yeah,
because I think again, it's like they can put in
(08:25):
like the minimal effort, but you're just so looking for
it that, like absolutely I'm in. They say, when they
finally suggest something, you drop everything to make it happen.
You'll rearrange your entire schedule just to fit into their plans,
which is so tough.
Speaker 2 (08:39):
I get. I fill in that trap too.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
I feel like because for me, you know, my weekdays
are pretty much off limits for the most part. I
really don't like hanging out on weekdays because for me,
for me to be able to do everything I'm doing,
sleep is obviously important.
Speaker 2 (08:54):
So that's like a tough, tough thing.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
So sometimes I do feel a little bit guilty when
somebody only as like, oh, I can see you a
Tuesday at eight or Tuesday at seven thirty. I'm damn,
that's gonna ruin my entire week legitimately, you know what
I mean. If we're meeting up at the time I
usually go to bed, that's gonna ruin everything. But it
is hard some times because it's like, Okay, I finally
(09:17):
got that, you know, the dog finally caught the tail.
Don't want to lose it, you know, So I always
say happy healthy, that's the relationship goals.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
We want again.
Speaker 1 (09:29):
If you get a chance, please pre order the album
internsgoncomedy dot com. If you went to one of the
shows with somebody, please ask them as well. The album
is six bucks. And the reason that the pre order
is so important is if we want to go number
one next week, we gotta come out the gate strong.
That's just kind of like the reality. I've been doing
some research talking to folks put albums. So if you
(09:51):
can six dollars internsgoncomedy dot com. All benefits the Fisherouse Foundation.
That's Internsjohncomedy dot Com. We'll see on Wednesday.
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