February 3, 2025 • 9 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about which friends you need to cut from your life
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Intern John's debut comedy album "The Album" is available right NOW! InternJohnComedy.com proceeds benefitting the Fisher House Foundation
Every week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a happy Monday friend. Welcome to the Thought Shower.
Intern John is my name. I apologize no podcast on Friday.
There was an issue with recording software. So here we are.
It was a weekend, let's go through it. Friday hockey practice,
which was fun. Always fun to be on the ice
(00:23):
and to be with the kids. Because we're getting down
to the wire. This is the last week of regular
season play. Then we have conference playoffs next week, follow
by the league playoffs, and then that's a wrap on
season number nine.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
I think something like that.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
And then I got home watched Severance episode three, season two.
If you have not gotten into Severance, it is it
might be one of the greatest shows of all time.
And I mean that if you've not gotten the Severance
it is so stinking good. And the lift hangar they
left for the last episode is great because it's only
(01:04):
episode three, and there's ten episodes in the season, so
it's like we'll have all the answers, well maybe not
all the answers, but several of the answers hopefully answered
this Friday. I do believe I mentioned this before. I
do believe if you have you can get a free
subscription of Apple TV for like a week, So there's
that Saturday kind of a relaxed day. It was fun
(01:27):
because there was a professional wrestling event called the Royal Rumble,
and a bunch of us coworkers got together at the
radio station because we had this like performance studio downstairs
with big TV and couches, and we washed it, got
some pizza, wash it. It was a lot of fun.
I brought Skittles, which you know, he doesn't usually get
(01:51):
to go to that kind of stuff because Skittles, you know,
which Chewey Chewey could travel fairly easy. You know, he
was a fairly easy travel companion. You put him in
his little carrier, he could lay down in this front seat.
He's very like inconspicuous Skittles. The other hand, you know
the boys there is he is just like running up
(02:14):
to everybody. He's seeing shadows, He's gotta smell everything. And
it was funny because he was sitting next to me
in the front row like in a chair. He had
a fantastic time. So that was great. And then Sunday
camera lax day as well, like went to the restaurant,
had a little brunch, did some work and this week's
gonna be a big travel week. So for hockey, we
(02:36):
have two away games this week, once in Springfield at
three o'clock.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
That's gonna suck. Coming back home.
Speaker 1 (02:43):
Game starts at three, which means will be done by
a byke four thirty, which means I bet you won't
go home until six six thirty. Then on Friday, got
game and Haymarket about an hour away. That game starts
at eight, which is not great.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
Won't get home? Tell like tennish.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
But you know the joys of youth athletics, you know,
you just get to travel, see the countryside, so on
and so forth.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Let me get to this too for your Monday.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
The types of friends you need to cut off, especially
if you want to have a drama free life. I've
always been the belief life is too short for cheap
friends and bad liquor.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
I mean that.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Starting with the friend that secretly envies you. They act supportive,
but there's always a weird tension lurking beneath the surface,
and you just feel it in your gut. Yeah, I've
had that with friends before. We're just always like your
instinct goes off of like why do I feel on
edge with them around?
Speaker 2 (03:46):
You know why?
Speaker 1 (03:47):
Do I feel like I shouldn't let my guard down
when they're around. That's not feeling to have the friend
that only ever wants to drink. They say, if they're
idea of hanging out involves Baba's Mosa's shots on Tuesday
or convincing a blackout for the third weekend in a row,
you might need to reconcer the friendship.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
They say.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
Fun is great, but they disappear the second suggest doing
something that doesn't involve a bar tab.
Speaker 2 (04:13):
What does that say?
Speaker 1 (04:16):
I think that's probably fair, they say, I also have
negatiffects on everything.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
Yeah, I mean, you do need the party friend. But
I guess, like, yeah, if.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
It's like you can't just hang out, relax or pizza,
what are you doing the friend that makes you feel uncomfortable?
You don't know why, but every time you hang out
with them you feel uneasy. Maybe they constantly push your boundaries,
say things and make it cringe, or throw subtle insults
disguised as jokes. Yeah, I mean kinda goes back to
(04:43):
what I was saying, like, if you have that friend
where you constantly feel like your guard has to be up,
that's not good. Like you should feel like you're in
a safe space, like when your guard's up throughout the day.
You should have that one person where like you can
let the guard down, you can lacks a little bit.
The friend that hates your partner.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
Damn.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
They say, good friend doesn't have to love your snipping other.
But they're constantly making Snyder marks, rolling their eyes. We
talk about them, are joking about you breaking up. That's
not friendship. That's sabotage. Unless your partner is terrible. That
to me is difficult one. That's difficult one. I'll say,
if they never liked any of your partners, if they
(05:28):
never were fans of them, that's one thing. If all
of a sudden, this is just the one they don't like,
that to me is a little bit different. But that,
to me, that can be tough. The friend that counts
every penny did I cannot. They say, we all have budgets,
but someone keeps mental spreadsheet of who owes what down
to the scent. It gets exhausting. Yes, yes, I've always
(05:53):
been a fan. I'm a fan. But like if I
o to you like drinks and dinner my buddy andre day,
we'll just throw our cards, you know, like not unless
somebody clearly had something way more like if somebody had
like two glasses of expensive whiskey. But otherwise that should
equal out the pain for things that should equal out.
(06:16):
I could not imagine having to go out with somebody
back well, I only got this and this and your
solid head crew ton of mine didn't. I cannot do that. Yeah,
the friend that shamed you for being single, we all
need that negativity. They act like your life is incomplete
without a partner, throwing out unsolicited advice like you just
had to put yourself out there more. Meanwhile, you're actually
(06:39):
fine with your life. They can't see the wrap their
head around it. Yeah, I think for dudes is different.
Like I've never hey a guy friend be like, you
really need to sell down. That's not that I do.
I can get the how negative that could be to hear. Yeah,
I think that's like the especially if you're happy and
(07:01):
you're doing things your own way. I have a hard
time taking dating advice from people who've never been dating apps,
Like I have a lot of friends who am happy
for them, and we're happy for you right never on
dating app they you know, found their person. Everything was good,
everything is fine, But it's like, Hey, if you've never
(07:21):
had to be on dating app, I don't quite know
if you have not the right but if you're in
the right place to make judgments on dating because you
have no idea what it's like out there, dude, it is.
It's not great. The friend that makes demands on you.
They don't ask. They expect your time, energy, and emotional labor,
(07:44):
whether it's needy, endless support for the personal drama or
treating a human a favor factory. They act like their
life revolves around their needs rather your life revolves around
their needs. Yeah, it becomes almost like they treat you
like you're on the payroll, like you're their assistant, but
you're not. I can pay for it.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
I don't like that at all, which ties into this
next one. The friend that makes you feel like you're
the entourage. They walk into a room, right, they are
the star of the show, and you you're just there
to be their audience. Whether it's their social media obsession
they need to dominate conversations or their expectations. They drop
everything for them. They treat you more like a side
(08:21):
character as an actual friend. I could not be friends
with somebody like this. Uh, that'd be an absolute no
go for me. But yeah, I think it's like I
don't want I've also seen people that act like this
for other people, or they act like, I'm so grateful
to being your presence.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
I don't know if it's just like the Midwest of
me or what, but I don't care, you know, like
I would never yeah, never be Oh my god, I'm
so lucky to be here.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
No, no, you're lucky. I'm here.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
Dude, I'm cool. I'm a good friend, dammit. They are
things that bring the table.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
Anyway.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
I hope you have a great Monday. I appreciate you
hanging out. Hopefully life's going well as well. That was
a great sentence. You can get me on the Instagram
at Internjohn Radio Thoughts Shower
And a happy Monday friend. Welcome to the Thought Shower.
Intern John is my name. I apologize no podcast on Friday.
There was an issue with recording software. So here we are.
It was a weekend, let's go through it. Friday hockey practice,
which was fun. Always fun to be on the ice
(00:23):
and to be with the kids. Because we're getting down
to the wire. This is the last week of regular
season play. Then we have conference playoffs next week, follow
by the league playoffs, and then that's a wrap on
season number nine.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
I think something like that.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
And then I got home watched Severance episode three, season two.
If you have not gotten into Severance, it is it
might be one of the greatest shows of all time.
And I mean that if you've not gotten the Severance
it is so stinking good. And the lift hangar they
left for the last episode is great because it's only
(01:04):
episode three, and there's ten episodes in the season, so
it's like we'll have all the answers, well maybe not
all the answers, but several of the answers hopefully answered
this Friday. I do believe I mentioned this before. I
do believe if you have you can get a free
subscription of Apple TV for like a week, So there's
that Saturday kind of a relaxed day. It was fun
(01:27):
because there was a professional wrestling event called the Royal Rumble,
and a bunch of us coworkers got together at the
radio station because we had this like performance studio downstairs
with big TV and couches, and we washed it, got
some pizza, wash it. It was a lot of fun.
I brought Skittles, which you know, he doesn't usually get
(01:51):
to go to that kind of stuff because Skittles, you know,
which Chewey Chewey could travel fairly easy. You know, he
was a fairly easy travel companion. You put him in
his little carrier, he could lay down in this front seat.
He's very like inconspicuous Skittles. The other hand, you know
the boys there is he is just like running up
(02:14):
to everybody. He's seeing shadows, He's gotta smell everything. And
it was funny because he was sitting next to me
in the front row like in a chair. He had
a fantastic time. So that was great. And then Sunday
camera lax day as well, like went to the restaurant,
had a little brunch, did some work and this week's
gonna be a big travel week. So for hockey, we
(02:36):
have two away games this week, once in Springfield at
three o'clock.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
That's gonna suck. Coming back home.
Speaker 1 (02:43):
Game starts at three, which means will be done by
a byke four thirty, which means I bet you won't
go home until six six thirty. Then on Friday, got
game and Haymarket about an hour away. That game starts
at eight, which is not great.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
Won't get home? Tell like tennish.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
But you know the joys of youth athletics, you know,
you just get to travel, see the countryside, so on
and so forth.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Let me get to this too for your Monday.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
The types of friends you need to cut off, especially
if you want to have a drama free life. I've
always been the belief life is too short for cheap
friends and bad liquor.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
I mean that.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Starting with the friend that secretly envies you. They act supportive,
but there's always a weird tension lurking beneath the surface,
and you just feel it in your gut. Yeah, I've
had that with friends before. We're just always like your
instinct goes off of like why do I feel on
edge with them around?
Speaker 2 (03:46):
You know why?
Speaker 1 (03:47):
Do I feel like I shouldn't let my guard down
when they're around. That's not feeling to have the friend
that only ever wants to drink. They say, if they're
idea of hanging out involves Baba's Mosa's shots on Tuesday
or convincing a blackout for the third weekend in a row,
you might need to reconcer the friendship.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
They say.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
Fun is great, but they disappear the second suggest doing
something that doesn't involve a bar tab.
Speaker 2 (04:13):
What does that say?
Speaker 1 (04:16):
I think that's probably fair, they say, I also have
negatiffects on everything.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
Yeah, I mean, you do need the party friend. But
I guess, like, yeah, if.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
It's like you can't just hang out, relax or pizza,
what are you doing the friend that makes you feel uncomfortable?
You don't know why, but every time you hang out
with them you feel uneasy. Maybe they constantly push your boundaries,
say things and make it cringe, or throw subtle insults
disguised as jokes. Yeah, I mean kinda goes back to
(04:43):
what I was saying, like, if you have that friend
where you constantly feel like your guard has to be up,
that's not good. Like you should feel like you're in
a safe space, like when your guard's up throughout the day.
You should have that one person where like you can
let the guard down, you can lacks a little bit.
The friend that hates your partner.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
Damn.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
They say, good friend doesn't have to love your snipping other.
But they're constantly making Snyder marks, rolling their eyes. We
talk about them, are joking about you breaking up. That's
not friendship. That's sabotage. Unless your partner is terrible. That
to me is difficult one. That's difficult one. I'll say,
if they never liked any of your partners, if they
(05:28):
never were fans of them, that's one thing. If all
of a sudden, this is just the one they don't like,
that to me is a little bit different. But that,
to me, that can be tough. The friend that counts
every penny did I cannot. They say, we all have budgets,
but someone keeps mental spreadsheet of who owes what down
to the scent. It gets exhausting. Yes, yes, I've always
(05:53):
been a fan. I'm a fan. But like if I
o to you like drinks and dinner my buddy andre day,
we'll just throw our cards, you know, like not unless
somebody clearly had something way more like if somebody had
like two glasses of expensive whiskey. But otherwise that should
equal out the pain for things that should equal out.
(06:16):
I could not imagine having to go out with somebody
back well, I only got this and this and your
solid head crew ton of mine didn't. I cannot do that. Yeah,
the friend that shamed you for being single, we all
need that negativity. They act like your life is incomplete
without a partner, throwing out unsolicited advice like you just
had to put yourself out there more. Meanwhile, you're actually
(06:39):
fine with your life. They can't see the wrap their
head around it. Yeah, I think for dudes is different.
Like I've never hey a guy friend be like, you
really need to sell down. That's not that I do.
I can get the how negative that could be to hear. Yeah,
I think that's like the especially if you're happy and
(07:01):
you're doing things your own way. I have a hard
time taking dating advice from people who've never been dating apps,
Like I have a lot of friends who am happy
for them, and we're happy for you right never on
dating app they you know, found their person. Everything was good,
everything is fine, But it's like, Hey, if you've never
(07:21):
had to be on dating app, I don't quite know
if you have not the right but if you're in
the right place to make judgments on dating because you
have no idea what it's like out there, dude, it is.
It's not great. The friend that makes demands on you.
They don't ask. They expect your time, energy, and emotional labor,
(07:44):
whether it's needy, endless support for the personal drama or
treating a human a favor factory. They act like their
life revolves around their needs rather your life revolves around
their needs. Yeah, it becomes almost like they treat you
like you're on the payroll, like you're their assistant, but
you're not. I can pay for it.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
I don't like that at all, which ties into this
next one. The friend that makes you feel like you're
the entourage. They walk into a room, right, they are
the star of the show, and you you're just there
to be their audience. Whether it's their social media obsession
they need to dominate conversations or their expectations. They drop
everything for them. They treat you more like a side
(08:21):
character as an actual friend. I could not be friends
with somebody like this. Uh, that'd be an absolute no
go for me. But yeah, I think it's like I
don't want I've also seen people that act like this
for other people, or they act like, I'm so grateful
to being your presence.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
I don't know if it's just like the Midwest of
me or what, but I don't care, you know, like
I would never yeah, never be Oh my god, I'm
so lucky to be here.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
No, no, you're lucky. I'm here.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
Dude, I'm cool. I'm a good friend, dammit. They are
things that bring the table.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
Anyway.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
I hope you have a great Monday. I appreciate you
hanging out. Hopefully life's going well as well. That was
a great sentence. You can get me on the Instagram
at Internjohn Radio Thoughts Shower
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