July 11, 2025 • 10 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about why it's good to have a silent ego!
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Speaker 2 (00:00):
And a happy Friday. Friend.
Speaker 1 (00:02):
Welcome to the Thought Shower. Intern John is my name.
It's been a week. Been a week. The college football
game dropped this week that i'n be honest, that's been
a big part of my week. The nostalgia of that
has been a lot of fun. But what else happened
this week? On Wednesday? Went golfing my good friends Andrew
(00:22):
O Day and DJ Rise. My buddy Corey and I
hadn't been golfing in a couple of weeks just because
now a town really and also it's been so damn hot,
so we got on the schedule to go on Wednesday.
We knew it was gonna be hot, but it was like,
all right, well go you know what fun and for me,
like golf is more of a you know, swing the ball,
(00:44):
have a nice cigar, have some drinks with your buddies,
and to see what happens.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
It was so hot. It was bad.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
It was like that dry heat that it felt like
you're walking through dog's breath, like that kind of heat.
It was not great, and I was like, well, you
want to know what, though, like again, I'm here having fun.
These guys are more like keeping score and doing their thing.
But it was like, you know, golf's eighteen holes after
the ninth hole on most courses probably all I haven't
(01:13):
golf that much. It kind of ends near like the clubhouse.
You can go get drinks, get food. So I was
like dying. I got everybody hot dogs, got myself a sandwich,
and then I was like, in my head, I'm like,
if we ended right here, I'd be okay, Like again,
like I'm just having fun whatever, But I don't want
to be that person who leaves and then makes zocer
(01:34):
for everybody else. But I noticed the group start to
fade away where it was like nobody was getting frustrated
or bad hits anymore because it's kind of like, eh, whatever.
And then we're like should we just go? I'm like, yeah,
let us go, and we did. But it was a
lot of fun, a lot of fun hanging with the guys.
That's the kind of like the benefit of my schedule
and honestly all their schedules is that we can do
(01:54):
stuff during the day and hang out. Because you know,
Andrew is a musician, DJ Rice musician, Corey does like
contracting stuff, so we're able to kind of do stuff
and spread out, which makes it a little bit easier.
So that was that hopefully relaxing weekend. I feel like
I haven't had a weekend home in three weekends, maybe
(02:15):
four weekends. It's funny anytime I have like work done
at my house, I have to tell a person like, hey,
I'm never here, Like I'm never here, so the last
like why don't you do your X, Y and Z,
I'm like, dude, I'm I'm never at my house. Like legitimately,
I would bet you, especially since the bar opened over
(02:36):
the last I don't even know year, I've maybe been
at my house and we're going fifty two weekends. I've
maybe been at my house ten weekends. Maybe not complaining,
just reality a situation. So kind of hoping to do
that this weekend and then you know, we'll see it's crazy,
like my birthday's coming up, a lot of stuff coming.
(02:58):
But anyway, there we get. I want to hit this
for your Friday. I thought this was interesting. Do you
have a quiet ego? They say a quiet ego doesn't
craze spotlight, it doesn't dominate conversation or chase praise, but
it does shape the way you move through the world.
I will be honest, I think that that is me.
(03:19):
Do I think I have an ego? Not outwardly. I
don't think that I flash in people's faces. But I
am a very confident person. And the analogy I always
give is like if Capital One Arena, which holds twenty
thousand people, said to me, Hey, we want you to
(03:39):
do a comedy show here in a month, I know
I would sell it out the caveat being I'm not
saying that we'd open doors and instantly it's sold out.
I'm saying that I know the people around me, that
my team, and like the listeners, and it wouldn't be
because I'm so talented. It'd be because I know I'll
outwork and make it happen. That's kind of like my vibe.
(04:04):
Let's go through these starting with you don't brag even
when it's earned. You tend to minimize your wins and
downplay your accomplishments. That is I mentioned this a couple
of weeks ago. I was talking to one of my
bosses months ago and I was like, yeah, you know,
I want to make sure that when I retire one day,
like I'm known as the best. And she was like,
didn't your comedy album go number one in the world,
(04:26):
and I.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
Was like, oh yeah, kind of forgot about that.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
It is one of those things where, once you think
about it's like, oh no, that's that's pretty cool.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
It's a pretty pretty cool thing.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
If you feel very uncomfortable with praise, they say compliments
make you squirm, not because disagree, because they feel too loud.
You don't need validation to feel okay about yourself. Over time,
this resistance can look like emotional detachment. I am that
way and that I crave compliments, but once I get them,
I don't quite know what to do. I'm just like,
(04:58):
oh yeah, thank thank thank you for that. You struggle
to advocate for yourself, they say. You don't like asking
for special treatment even when it's fair. You rather not
be a bother, But often leads to resentment or being overlooked.
They say, self advoc accouracy isn't arrogance. It's how your
quiet ego learns to trust its worth. They say, speaking
(05:18):
up isn't selfish, is necessary. I do think I can
be like that sometimes as well. Yeah, you hate being underestimated, dude,
I love being underestimated. Oh my god, it's so good,
they say, don't chase gold stars or compare yourself to others.
But when someone assumes you're just nice or not ambitious,
it stings. You want to be seen, but not loudly,
(05:40):
and never underestimated. I think that Sauce gave me this
sign years ago that said, uh, underestimate me, that'll be fun.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
I love that because it's like, again, I'm a very
hard worker, certainly guy from my parents. But it's like
once you if you underestimate me, if you and I
are in a competition, you underestimate me. By the time
you realize how hard I'm working on something, you're so
far behind. You'll never catch up. It's not gonna happen.
(06:14):
And I feed off of that. I don't know what
it is. I feed off of that. It's almost like,
you know and Rocky the boxing movies, how like he
needs to get hit in the face couple of times
before he fights. It's kind of like that, but like, yeah,
I almost like need somebody to be my enemy.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
I don't know, I've.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
I've said this before that if you don't like me,
the best thing you can do is leave me alone.
And like it may be the same way where it's like,
if you don't like me, ignore me and be fine.
The worst I'm already very motivated. The worst thing you
can do is give me extra motivation because like I
(06:54):
need that, like all right that Michael Jordan meim of
like I took that personally. There it is like that's
kind of like the yeah, I took that personally.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
There we go. I've good a couple more of these.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
You're self aware but still self censoring, so you think
before you speak sometimes too much. You don't want to
sound full of yourself, so dilute your insights, but that
silence costs you influence and even friends. I again, you know,
not to make this all about me, although it is
my podcast, I do think that I downplay accomplishments sometimes
because I do think if you don't know me, it
(07:29):
could sound very braggy.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
And again, I'm very blessed.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
You know, I've been very blessed that the the things
in my life that I do, I've found great success.
You know, coaching hockey at Georgetown PREPP for nine years,
We've won three conference tournament championships, four season championships. And
that's not because I'm a great mind. Our head coach
Brian is certainly the mind behind it. This podcast has
(07:56):
won several awards, which is very exciting. The show doing well,
The comedy tour is doing well. I mean, it's kind
of funny how I even talk about with the comedy show,
we sow at the Warner Theater twice in a year,
so that baseball stadium, you know what I mean. So yeah,
it's one of those things where I think if I,
(08:19):
like I said before, I don't think those things happened
because I'm talented. I don't think that's the reason why.
In fact, I know it's not the reason why. I
guarantee you it's not. It's not like I'm the most
talented person there you go. But what I've told my
kids before is that the kids I coach is that
I would rather work with the untalented person than the
(08:41):
talented one.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
And it's past hockey season. You know.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
We started off the year one in eleven one win,
eleven losses, and those losses most of them are by
one goal. And I said to the boys, like fellas,
it doesn't seem like it now. And I know there's
other teams here who are winning all their games and
scoring more goals in the period that we scored in
a season. But I would rather take the team that's
had a fight and had to struggle and grind out
(09:08):
every game than the team that's gotten easily, because eventually
there's gonna be a follow up. I said, eventually in
the playoffs, that team that's scored a bunch of goals,
they're not gonna score goals. They're gonna be down goals
and they're not gonna know what to do. Meanwhile, for us,
we're down a goal. We've been there a bazillion times.
I'd rather have that team, you know what I mean. So, yeah,
(09:31):
all that to say, if you have that sound ego,
it's a good thing. You know, trust yourself, trust your
work ethic. I think that's huge. And also you gotta
be a number one fan, you know. And I've tried
to do a better job of appreciating what I've done,
if that makes sense. It's a weird thing to talk about,
but like, yeah, when I look, I get crap on
(09:55):
the show for having photos on my wall, the comedy
stuff and like other accomplishments. To me, it's like, yeah, dude,
you have to realize that stuff because day and day
life sucks. Sometimes day day life can be very hard.
But when you see like oh it does pay off,
it can work out, it's okay. I hope you have
a fantastic weekend. I appreciate you listening to make sure
(10:17):
you follow along at Internjohn Radio Stopt Shower
And a happy Friday. Friend.
Speaker 1 (00:02):
Welcome to the Thought Shower. Intern John is my name.
It's been a week. Been a week. The college football
game dropped this week that i'n be honest, that's been
a big part of my week. The nostalgia of that
has been a lot of fun. But what else happened
this week? On Wednesday? Went golfing my good friends Andrew
(00:22):
O Day and DJ Rise. My buddy Corey and I
hadn't been golfing in a couple of weeks just because
now a town really and also it's been so damn hot,
so we got on the schedule to go on Wednesday.
We knew it was gonna be hot, but it was like,
all right, well go you know what fun and for me,
like golf is more of a you know, swing the ball,
(00:44):
have a nice cigar, have some drinks with your buddies,
and to see what happens.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
It was so hot. It was bad.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
It was like that dry heat that it felt like
you're walking through dog's breath, like that kind of heat.
It was not great, and I was like, well, you
want to know what, though, like again, I'm here having fun.
These guys are more like keeping score and doing their thing.
But it was like, you know, golf's eighteen holes after
the ninth hole on most courses probably all I haven't
(01:13):
golf that much. It kind of ends near like the clubhouse.
You can go get drinks, get food. So I was
like dying. I got everybody hot dogs, got myself a sandwich,
and then I was like, in my head, I'm like,
if we ended right here, I'd be okay, Like again,
like I'm just having fun whatever, But I don't want
to be that person who leaves and then makes zocer
(01:34):
for everybody else. But I noticed the group start to
fade away where it was like nobody was getting frustrated
or bad hits anymore because it's kind of like, eh, whatever.
And then we're like should we just go? I'm like, yeah,
let us go, and we did. But it was a
lot of fun, a lot of fun hanging with the guys.
That's the kind of like the benefit of my schedule
and honestly all their schedules is that we can do
(01:54):
stuff during the day and hang out. Because you know,
Andrew is a musician, DJ Rice musician, Corey does like
contracting stuff, so we're able to kind of do stuff
and spread out, which makes it a little bit easier.
So that was that hopefully relaxing weekend. I feel like
I haven't had a weekend home in three weekends, maybe
(02:15):
four weekends. It's funny anytime I have like work done
at my house, I have to tell a person like, hey,
I'm never here, Like I'm never here, so the last
like why don't you do your X, Y and Z,
I'm like, dude, I'm I'm never at my house. Like legitimately,
I would bet you, especially since the bar opened over
(02:36):
the last I don't even know year, I've maybe been
at my house and we're going fifty two weekends. I've
maybe been at my house ten weekends. Maybe not complaining,
just reality a situation. So kind of hoping to do
that this weekend and then you know, we'll see it's crazy,
like my birthday's coming up, a lot of stuff coming.
(02:58):
But anyway, there we get. I want to hit this
for your Friday. I thought this was interesting. Do you
have a quiet ego? They say a quiet ego doesn't
craze spotlight, it doesn't dominate conversation or chase praise, but
it does shape the way you move through the world.
I will be honest, I think that that is me.
(03:19):
Do I think I have an ego? Not outwardly. I
don't think that I flash in people's faces. But I
am a very confident person. And the analogy I always
give is like if Capital One Arena, which holds twenty
thousand people, said to me, Hey, we want you to
(03:39):
do a comedy show here in a month, I know
I would sell it out the caveat being I'm not
saying that we'd open doors and instantly it's sold out.
I'm saying that I know the people around me, that
my team, and like the listeners, and it wouldn't be
because I'm so talented. It'd be because I know I'll
outwork and make it happen. That's kind of like my vibe.
(04:04):
Let's go through these starting with you don't brag even
when it's earned. You tend to minimize your wins and
downplay your accomplishments. That is I mentioned this a couple
of weeks ago. I was talking to one of my
bosses months ago and I was like, yeah, you know,
I want to make sure that when I retire one day,
like I'm known as the best. And she was like,
didn't your comedy album go number one in the world,
(04:26):
and I.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
Was like, oh yeah, kind of forgot about that.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
It is one of those things where, once you think
about it's like, oh no, that's that's pretty cool.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
It's a pretty pretty cool thing.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
If you feel very uncomfortable with praise, they say compliments
make you squirm, not because disagree, because they feel too loud.
You don't need validation to feel okay about yourself. Over time,
this resistance can look like emotional detachment. I am that
way and that I crave compliments, but once I get them,
I don't quite know what to do. I'm just like,
(04:58):
oh yeah, thank thank thank you for that. You struggle
to advocate for yourself, they say. You don't like asking
for special treatment even when it's fair. You rather not
be a bother, But often leads to resentment or being overlooked.
They say, self advoc accouracy isn't arrogance. It's how your
quiet ego learns to trust its worth. They say, speaking
(05:18):
up isn't selfish, is necessary. I do think I can
be like that sometimes as well. Yeah, you hate being underestimated, dude,
I love being underestimated. Oh my god, it's so good,
they say, don't chase gold stars or compare yourself to others.
But when someone assumes you're just nice or not ambitious,
it stings. You want to be seen, but not loudly,
(05:40):
and never underestimated. I think that Sauce gave me this
sign years ago that said, uh, underestimate me, that'll be fun.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
I love that because it's like, again, I'm a very
hard worker, certainly guy from my parents. But it's like
once you if you underestimate me, if you and I
are in a competition, you underestimate me. By the time
you realize how hard I'm working on something, you're so
far behind. You'll never catch up. It's not gonna happen.
(06:14):
And I feed off of that. I don't know what
it is. I feed off of that. It's almost like,
you know and Rocky the boxing movies, how like he
needs to get hit in the face couple of times
before he fights. It's kind of like that, but like, yeah,
I almost like need somebody to be my enemy.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
I don't know, I've.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
I've said this before that if you don't like me,
the best thing you can do is leave me alone.
And like it may be the same way where it's like,
if you don't like me, ignore me and be fine.
The worst I'm already very motivated. The worst thing you
can do is give me extra motivation because like I
(06:54):
need that, like all right that Michael Jordan meim of
like I took that personally. There it is like that's
kind of like the yeah, I took that personally.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
There we go. I've good a couple more of these.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
You're self aware but still self censoring, so you think
before you speak sometimes too much. You don't want to
sound full of yourself, so dilute your insights, but that
silence costs you influence and even friends. I again, you know,
not to make this all about me, although it is
my podcast, I do think that I downplay accomplishments sometimes
because I do think if you don't know me, it
(07:29):
could sound very braggy.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
And again, I'm very blessed.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
You know, I've been very blessed that the the things
in my life that I do, I've found great success.
You know, coaching hockey at Georgetown PREPP for nine years,
We've won three conference tournament championships, four season championships. And
that's not because I'm a great mind. Our head coach
Brian is certainly the mind behind it. This podcast has
(07:56):
won several awards, which is very exciting. The show doing well,
The comedy tour is doing well. I mean, it's kind
of funny how I even talk about with the comedy show,
we sow at the Warner Theater twice in a year,
so that baseball stadium, you know what I mean. So yeah,
it's one of those things where I think if I,
(08:19):
like I said before, I don't think those things happened
because I'm talented. I don't think that's the reason why.
In fact, I know it's not the reason why. I
guarantee you it's not. It's not like I'm the most
talented person there you go. But what I've told my
kids before is that the kids I coach is that
I would rather work with the untalented person than the
(08:41):
talented one.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
And it's past hockey season. You know.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
We started off the year one in eleven one win,
eleven losses, and those losses most of them are by
one goal. And I said to the boys, like fellas,
it doesn't seem like it now. And I know there's
other teams here who are winning all their games and
scoring more goals in the period that we scored in
a season. But I would rather take the team that's
had a fight and had to struggle and grind out
(09:08):
every game than the team that's gotten easily, because eventually
there's gonna be a follow up. I said, eventually in
the playoffs, that team that's scored a bunch of goals,
they're not gonna score goals. They're gonna be down goals
and they're not gonna know what to do. Meanwhile, for us,
we're down a goal. We've been there a bazillion times.
I'd rather have that team, you know what I mean. So, yeah,
(09:31):
all that to say, if you have that sound ego,
it's a good thing. You know, trust yourself, trust your
work ethic. I think that's huge. And also you gotta
be a number one fan, you know. And I've tried
to do a better job of appreciating what I've done,
if that makes sense. It's a weird thing to talk about,
but like, yeah, when I look, I get crap on
(09:55):
the show for having photos on my wall, the comedy
stuff and like other accomplishments. To me, it's like, yeah, dude,
you have to realize that stuff because day and day
life sucks. Sometimes day day life can be very hard.
But when you see like oh it does pay off,
it can work out, it's okay. I hope you have
a fantastic weekend. I appreciate you listening to make sure
(10:17):
you follow along at Internjohn Radio Stopt Shower
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