August 20, 2025 • 10 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about his logistal nightmare, and how to know if you're ignoring not being happy
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
And a happy Wednesday friend. Welcome to the thought Shower.
Intern John, It's my name, had a great last twenty
four hours. Went golfing yesterday my good friend Andrew Day
didn't play bad. You know, getting better golf is a
game where it's the more you think, the worse you do.
The less you think, the worst you do. You have
(00:21):
to find that happy middle of almost like you're catching
yourself off guard, like you're almost about to think, but
you're almost not about to think, if that makes sense.
So today you can me busy, very busy day, good
day though you got the show, obviously going to the gym,
obviously getting ripped. I'm doing Fox five and DC today
at two pm. So if you hear this an'swer around
(00:43):
two pm, turn on Fox five in DC or go
to foxfive DC dot com click watch live. They have
a portion of the show where you can call in.
And it'd be sick if you called it in the
show to say how amazingly I'm doing, because obviously your
boy's gonna kill you, know what I mean. I was
talking to a friend the other day who was like,
(01:04):
they just kind of do anything on TV, huh, And
I was like, well, nobody's told me anything either way.
Nobody's giving me like feedback, so they just keep asking
me back. So I'm taking that as like, let's keep going, baby,
you know what I mean. So that's two pm today,
Fox five DC, and then tonight my good friend Andrew
Day seeing him again because at Hyde Social we do
(01:25):
wine Wednesdays, which is like deals on wine. Obviously Wednesday
we have musicians, So Andrew's playing today Hide from six
to nine pm.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
I'll be there time wise, it is not great.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
It's not great today, So I'm gonna do the show,
gonna go home, get skittles out, go to the gym,
go to.
Speaker 2 (01:44):
TV, probably go from TV to.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
Hide to be traffic, and then be stuck out there
again because of traffic. So uh, that means tomorrow's morning
show gonna be a little bit off of chains because
your boys gonna be a little bit tie tie. I mean,
I've been trying. I did better this week too, of
like recovering. We'll see how it goes though, but I
would love to see you tonight. Let me get to
this for your Wednesday. The signs you're not happy in
(02:10):
your relationship but aren't willing to acknowledge it. As I
was going through this, I was like, oh my gosh.
I mean for me, even in like good relationships, I
felt this kind of stuff. And it's like, I think,
depending on the situation, Like sometimes maybe you look past
it because you know they are a good person. It's
just not a good fit starting with, you feel exhausted
(02:33):
after spending time together. Instead of feeling energized and missing them,
you feel tired. I've had situations with this is because
not because they're a bad person, but because of like
their anxiety was so much that it was draining, you
know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
I think that's the worst part.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
Is like when you want the best of somebody and
you care about them, but like you're kind of draining
your own cup. That phrase I think is thrown around
a lot, But you got to fill your own cup
before helping somebody else. I think that's very true. I
think that, Yeah, if you're leaving drain, if you're hanging
out with your person, or if you're hanging out like god,
I wish they would just leave.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
That's not a good sign. Dude, that's not great.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
You're always finding a reason to be a part, Yeah,
you're always finding reason to stay busy or time of
other people. If you're constantly making excuses not hanging out
with your person, whether it's work, hobbies, binge, watching your show,
could be a sign your relationship is in trouble. I
do think, you know, in a perfect situation, that person
that helps you relieve stress right where it's like if
(03:37):
you've had a long day, they can come over, relax,
there's no pressure, and you guys just kind of like,
you know, being around each other energizes you. But yeah,
if you're trying to keep that barrier up so they
don't come over, that's not a good sign, you know.
I think it's one of those signs that maybe lives
beneath the surface where it doesn't seem obvious right away,
(03:58):
and then it's like, oh, yeah, why don't I want
to hang out with them?
Speaker 2 (04:01):
Huh?
Speaker 1 (04:03):
If you imagine what it'd be like to be single again,
it's probably a pretty big one. As I get my
peas up my papa, probably a big one.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
Do you catch yourself thinking about what life would be
like if you were single again. Maybe it's the freedom,
the excitement of meeting new people, or just the idea
of being on your own. I do think that there's
this is important, right because I think everybody probably has
that thought of like what if. But I think it's
different to have that thought versus the state in that
thought for a moment and to really think about what
(04:35):
would it be like if I was single again, That's
completely different. If you don't really miss them when they're
not around, damn, damn. If being away from them doesn't
make you miss them even worse, you actually feel relieved
for them not around, it could be a big red flag.
I've had that in relationships, and again it's because they
were going through some things that was just so completely draining.
(04:58):
And again, want the best them obviously, but it is
like it's tough. It can be really tough, and that
can weigh on you to where it's like, yeah, having
that having that separation feels like a little bit of
like a relief, kind of a way off the shoulders.
If everything they do starts to irritate you, yes, I'll
never forget. We had a woman on the show once
(05:19):
who called in because she was annoyed by the way
her man breathed when he was sleeping. I was like, girl,
if you are upset with how this man chooses to
stay alive. That's probably a sign of not good things
to come. If how this man breathes while he's unconscious
gets under your skin, I don't know if it's gonna
(05:39):
work out. You know, If all your conversations are small talk, Yeah,
remember you said have deep conversations. If you notice the
most of the conversations you feel like small talk could
be a son you've lost that emotional connection. I would
assume too, it's probably it's because you're exhausted, like going
back to that. Yeah, but it's like, I'm not trying
to get in the deep stuff. I'm barely surviving as
(06:01):
it is. And again I can only speak with my
personal experience, but it's being so drained from the relationship
where it's like, yeah, I can't really get into deep
things right now, you know, like I don't have the
bandwidth right now. If you don't try to fix arguments anymore,
it's a big one. If disagreements don't bother you anymore,
(06:23):
or you stop caring enough to try to resolve them
all together, you should be worried. You might be brushing
issues are onder the rug because you've given up on
trying to fix things. I think that's fair. Uh yeah,
I think that I've said this before from the dude's perspective,
and a lot of dudes stuff fighting because they're like
it's not worth it, you know, like it's not gonna
(06:44):
fix anything. Also, I'm checked out anyway, So why would
I continue to fight for something if I know it's
not gonna be here down the line.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
I think that's the reality of it.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
I think that's one of those ones where is probably
even subtle where it's like, yeah, that's not even worth
getting into. You know, if your mind wanders other people,
well yeah, yeah, if your mind he's wandering thoughts about
other people, whether it's a crush, just the idea of
being with somebody else, it's a major sign you checked out. Yes,
I think that's probably an obvious one. I don't even
(07:15):
know if we have to like get into that. I've
never really had that. Yeah, I'm very loyal. I'm super loyal,
probably to a fault at some points. But if you
have that, you know, I've always said people too. I
remember we had a woman calling once who she wasn't
happy in her relationship, and she was I believe looking
up with a coworker or no hooking up with her ex,
(07:37):
and I was like, you know, you're you're giving your
ex the benefit of the relationship without him having any responsibility,
you know what I mean, Like he gets a shove
and just have a dessert and not pay for the bill.
That's not exactly a fair spot to put your man
in because your dude's gonna see your your side piece
is gonna see him. Key's the fun one. But it's like, yeah,
all he's doing is getting the fun stuff. You know,
(07:58):
he doesn't have to actually be invested. If physical affection
feels like a job, there it is they say should
feel natural in that force. I things like hugging, kissing,
even simple touch to mark a chore than something you
want to do. That's a sign you can be wanting
to break up. I think that that's probably a huge
sign as well. And I think we tend to get
stuck on like the hookup part of it. But it
(08:20):
is like, if you get repulsed at the thought of
touching your person, that's not good, you know what I mean.
If you get repulse the thought of like cuddling or
like your legs touching, that that's not a good sign.
That's one of those things where like that should be
stress relieving, you know what I mean. If that's adding
to your stress or making not feel as good, that's
(08:42):
not a good sign. Do a couple more. If you
stop sharing your true feelings kind of goes back to
the fight thing. It's because basically you you don't want to,
you know what I mean. It's like, why open myself
up more? Why get things deeper? I I've already checked out.
Why worry about something else?
Speaker 2 (09:02):
You know?
Speaker 1 (09:03):
I think that's fair. You're still together because it's easier
than breaking up. Yeah, they say stand together because it's
comfortable or because change feels scary is a way of
avoiding the reality that the relationship isn't bringing.
Speaker 2 (09:16):
You real joy or fulfillment. I've been there before, man.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
I think everybody has where it's like I'm not happy
right now. But is it better to be not happy
and with somebody than the unknown and alone? I think
the answer is better to be in the unknown. This
is it's better than wanting something more from a relationship.
I think that's one of those things, especially when you
realize like, oh, this person's given like all they can,
(09:39):
it's just not quite gonna work out. You know, I've
always said you deserve to be happy. A happy, healthy
relationship is always the goal of the show. I hope
you have a fantastic Wednesday. If you get a chance
to follow me at Internjohn Radio, you can get the
show podcasts. Just search intern John your morning show wherever
it gets your podcasts. Have a fantastic Wednesday.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
A shower
And a happy Wednesday friend. Welcome to the thought Shower.
Intern John, It's my name, had a great last twenty
four hours. Went golfing yesterday my good friend Andrew Day
didn't play bad. You know, getting better golf is a
game where it's the more you think, the worse you do.
The less you think, the worst you do. You have
(00:21):
to find that happy middle of almost like you're catching
yourself off guard, like you're almost about to think, but
you're almost not about to think, if that makes sense.
So today you can me busy, very busy day, good
day though you got the show, obviously going to the gym,
obviously getting ripped. I'm doing Fox five and DC today
at two pm. So if you hear this an'swer around
(00:43):
two pm, turn on Fox five in DC or go
to foxfive DC dot com click watch live. They have
a portion of the show where you can call in.
And it'd be sick if you called it in the
show to say how amazingly I'm doing, because obviously your
boy's gonna kill you, know what I mean. I was
talking to a friend the other day who was like,
(01:04):
they just kind of do anything on TV, huh, And
I was like, well, nobody's told me anything either way.
Nobody's giving me like feedback, so they just keep asking
me back. So I'm taking that as like, let's keep going, baby,
you know what I mean. So that's two pm today,
Fox five DC, and then tonight my good friend Andrew
Day seeing him again because at Hyde Social we do
(01:25):
wine Wednesdays, which is like deals on wine. Obviously Wednesday
we have musicians, So Andrew's playing today Hide from six
to nine pm.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
I'll be there time wise, it is not great.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
It's not great today, So I'm gonna do the show,
gonna go home, get skittles out, go to the gym,
go to.
Speaker 2 (01:44):
TV, probably go from TV to.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
Hide to be traffic, and then be stuck out there
again because of traffic. So uh, that means tomorrow's morning
show gonna be a little bit off of chains because
your boys gonna be a little bit tie tie. I mean,
I've been trying. I did better this week too, of
like recovering. We'll see how it goes though, but I
would love to see you tonight. Let me get to
this for your Wednesday. The signs you're not happy in
(02:10):
your relationship but aren't willing to acknowledge it. As I
was going through this, I was like, oh my gosh.
I mean for me, even in like good relationships, I
felt this kind of stuff. And it's like, I think,
depending on the situation, Like sometimes maybe you look past
it because you know they are a good person. It's
just not a good fit starting with, you feel exhausted
(02:33):
after spending time together. Instead of feeling energized and missing them,
you feel tired. I've had situations with this is because
not because they're a bad person, but because of like
their anxiety was so much that it was draining, you
know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
I think that's the worst part.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
Is like when you want the best of somebody and
you care about them, but like you're kind of draining
your own cup. That phrase I think is thrown around
a lot, But you got to fill your own cup
before helping somebody else. I think that's very true. I
think that, Yeah, if you're leaving drain, if you're hanging
out with your person, or if you're hanging out like god,
I wish they would just leave.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
That's not a good sign. Dude, that's not great.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
You're always finding a reason to be a part, Yeah,
you're always finding reason to stay busy or time of
other people. If you're constantly making excuses not hanging out
with your person, whether it's work, hobbies, binge, watching your show,
could be a sign your relationship is in trouble. I
do think, you know, in a perfect situation, that person
that helps you relieve stress right where it's like if
(03:37):
you've had a long day, they can come over, relax,
there's no pressure, and you guys just kind of like,
you know, being around each other energizes you. But yeah,
if you're trying to keep that barrier up so they
don't come over, that's not a good sign, you know.
I think it's one of those signs that maybe lives
beneath the surface where it doesn't seem obvious right away,
(03:58):
and then it's like, oh, yeah, why don't I want
to hang out with them?
Speaker 2 (04:01):
Huh?
Speaker 1 (04:03):
If you imagine what it'd be like to be single again,
it's probably a pretty big one. As I get my
peas up my papa, probably a big one.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
Do you catch yourself thinking about what life would be
like if you were single again. Maybe it's the freedom,
the excitement of meeting new people, or just the idea
of being on your own. I do think that there's
this is important, right because I think everybody probably has
that thought of like what if. But I think it's
different to have that thought versus the state in that
thought for a moment and to really think about what
(04:35):
would it be like if I was single again, That's
completely different. If you don't really miss them when they're
not around, damn, damn. If being away from them doesn't
make you miss them even worse, you actually feel relieved
for them not around, it could be a big red flag.
I've had that in relationships, and again it's because they
were going through some things that was just so completely draining.
(04:58):
And again, want the best them obviously, but it is
like it's tough. It can be really tough, and that
can weigh on you to where it's like, yeah, having
that having that separation feels like a little bit of
like a relief, kind of a way off the shoulders.
If everything they do starts to irritate you, yes, I'll
never forget. We had a woman on the show once
(05:19):
who called in because she was annoyed by the way
her man breathed when he was sleeping. I was like, girl,
if you are upset with how this man chooses to
stay alive. That's probably a sign of not good things
to come. If how this man breathes while he's unconscious
gets under your skin, I don't know if it's gonna
(05:39):
work out. You know, If all your conversations are small talk, Yeah,
remember you said have deep conversations. If you notice the
most of the conversations you feel like small talk could
be a son you've lost that emotional connection. I would
assume too, it's probably it's because you're exhausted, like going
back to that. Yeah, but it's like, I'm not trying
to get in the deep stuff. I'm barely surviving as
(06:01):
it is. And again I can only speak with my
personal experience, but it's being so drained from the relationship
where it's like, yeah, I can't really get into deep
things right now, you know, like I don't have the
bandwidth right now. If you don't try to fix arguments anymore,
it's a big one. If disagreements don't bother you anymore,
(06:23):
or you stop caring enough to try to resolve them
all together, you should be worried. You might be brushing
issues are onder the rug because you've given up on
trying to fix things. I think that's fair. Uh yeah,
I think that I've said this before from the dude's perspective,
and a lot of dudes stuff fighting because they're like
it's not worth it, you know, like it's not gonna
(06:44):
fix anything. Also, I'm checked out anyway, So why would
I continue to fight for something if I know it's
not gonna be here down the line.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
I think that's the reality of it.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
I think that's one of those ones where is probably
even subtle where it's like, yeah, that's not even worth
getting into. You know, if your mind wanders other people,
well yeah, yeah, if your mind he's wandering thoughts about
other people, whether it's a crush, just the idea of
being with somebody else, it's a major sign you checked out. Yes,
I think that's probably an obvious one. I don't even
(07:15):
know if we have to like get into that. I've
never really had that. Yeah, I'm very loyal. I'm super loyal,
probably to a fault at some points. But if you
have that, you know, I've always said people too. I
remember we had a woman calling once who she wasn't
happy in her relationship, and she was I believe looking
up with a coworker or no hooking up with her ex,
(07:37):
and I was like, you know, you're you're giving your
ex the benefit of the relationship without him having any responsibility,
you know what I mean, Like he gets a shove
and just have a dessert and not pay for the bill.
That's not exactly a fair spot to put your man
in because your dude's gonna see your your side piece
is gonna see him. Key's the fun one. But it's like, yeah,
all he's doing is getting the fun stuff. You know,
(07:58):
he doesn't have to actually be invested. If physical affection
feels like a job, there it is they say should
feel natural in that force. I things like hugging, kissing,
even simple touch to mark a chore than something you
want to do. That's a sign you can be wanting
to break up. I think that that's probably a huge
sign as well. And I think we tend to get
stuck on like the hookup part of it. But it
(08:20):
is like, if you get repulsed at the thought of
touching your person, that's not good, you know what I mean.
If you get repulse the thought of like cuddling or
like your legs touching, that that's not a good sign.
That's one of those things where like that should be
stress relieving, you know what I mean. If that's adding
to your stress or making not feel as good, that's
(08:42):
not a good sign. Do a couple more. If you
stop sharing your true feelings kind of goes back to
the fight thing. It's because basically you you don't want to,
you know what I mean. It's like, why open myself
up more? Why get things deeper? I I've already checked out.
Why worry about something else?
Speaker 2 (09:02):
You know?
Speaker 1 (09:03):
I think that's fair. You're still together because it's easier
than breaking up. Yeah, they say stand together because it's
comfortable or because change feels scary is a way of
avoiding the reality that the relationship isn't bringing.
Speaker 2 (09:16):
You real joy or fulfillment. I've been there before, man.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
I think everybody has where it's like I'm not happy
right now. But is it better to be not happy
and with somebody than the unknown and alone? I think
the answer is better to be in the unknown. This
is it's better than wanting something more from a relationship.
I think that's one of those things, especially when you
realize like, oh, this person's given like all they can,
(09:39):
it's just not quite gonna work out. You know, I've
always said you deserve to be happy. A happy, healthy
relationship is always the goal of the show. I hope
you have a fantastic Wednesday. If you get a chance
to follow me at Internjohn Radio, you can get the
show podcasts. Just search intern John your morning show wherever
it gets your podcasts. Have a fantastic Wednesday.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
A shower
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