October 29, 2025 • 9 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about how to know if someone is using you
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Every week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com
Intern John's new comedy album, "Chuy Forever: The Album" is out! Proceeds benefit the Warrior Canine Connection. You can order the album HERE
Every week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a happy Wednesday friend. Welcome to the Thought Shower.
Intern John is my name? Almost last last lost track,
Oh my goodness, almost lost track of the day because
we're operating on like no sleep. So yesterday we went
ghost honting Linville Manor in Upper Marlboro. It's scary, but
(00:21):
we did eleven pm to like two am. So yesterday
after the show, I went home, did a workout, took
a nap for like four hours, and then we left
my house at ten, got back around two, took a
forty five minute nap.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
Now we're back to the radio station.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
Baby, So today's show, gim me wild today's podcast, give
me about that as well. Lynville Mayor. Though it's freaky,
it's uh, I mean, we were talking about the show.
There's a whole history of this place, but it was
built near a Revolutionary War.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Cemetery.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
There's been issues with like finding relics on like the
Civil War up as well. It was a freaky evening.
Tons of video on the Instagram at wymous Radio. Let's
get into this for your Wednesday. How to know somebody
is a user as in they just use you, just
use other people, so on and so forth. I do
(01:17):
think overall, I am fairly good at knowing this. I
think having been radio since I was seventeen, especially picked
up on from an early age because like in Minneapolis
we said jingle ball, and when jingle ball would come,
that's when I would hear from anybody I ever went.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
To school with.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
It could be like we were in different classes in preschool,
and hey have heard for me a while. I'm like, yeah,
because I am no longer in preschool. A surprise, I graduated.
So I think for me, like I've been a little
bit more in tune to this maybe the most Well,
let's get into this. They always seem to have an emergency.
I've been saying this for years because there was somebody
(01:59):
in my life years ago who it's like you look at
their life and it's almost like a sitcom in that
there's always some big emergency happening. It's like every season
there is a plot twist, there is you know, something
goes wrong and it's one of those things where you
(02:20):
look back you go, Huh, how can anybody possibly have
this much drama unless they are directly involved in causing it,
you know what I mean? And I always go back
to it's like life is so hard as it is,
who actively wants to have drama in their life?
Speaker 2 (02:39):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (02:40):
Like that's a that's a no no go. If they're
never there when you need them, Yes, when you're around
the one in need, When you're the one in need,
they suddenly disappear in thin air. Maybe they're too busy,
you can't seem to find the time, YadA, YadA. It's
a hallmark of someone who values what you can do
for them more than what they more than you as
a person one hundred percent. Because again, they don't want
(03:02):
to get involved. I think I've said this before with
like some of my female friends who are like talking
to guys and when things are lighthearted and they're just
having fun having the adult time, the guys are great.
When like they don't want to have the adult time,
maybe I don't feel well. It's like, ooh, I'm busy today,
and it sounds douchey, and yeah it is, but they are.
(03:24):
They're not that invested. It's all about what they need,
their wants. If they make everything about them, every conversation
ever start, a conversation realizes it's quickly detouring back to them.
You're trying to share your day, suddenly your knee deep
in their latest drama. Narcissistic tendencies are often manifest as
self centeredness.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Yes, I think that's fair.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
I dated somebody who their mom was like this and
it was one of the oddest things to witness.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
It was frustrating for me.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
I wasn't even dating the mom obviously, but it was
a bit like, yo, how can you live like this?
Speaker 2 (04:03):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (04:04):
Where it's like you can walk in my footless cough today.
Oh yeah, well my headache was really bad today, so well,
what this is clearly worse than the other. Obviously it's
a headache. They only reach out when they need something.
I'll say with that too, it's like you can tell
who that person is, right, you know what I mean?
(04:27):
You can you can tell like when what that person's doing,
because when they reach out, you go, okay, this is
just to vent to me, Uh, something's going on in
their life. It's not to check in. Yeah, And then
when you call them the flip side, can't get hold
of them. That's my usuallest usually usuallest usually biggest sign
(04:48):
you can't get hold of them. They know, especially because
everybody's always buy their phone, right, so they go. They
make you feel guilty for saying no, I have a friend.
News like this where sneeze break where anytime like they
invite you out somewhere or they want to do something,
(05:08):
it's like, hey, I can't. They will guilt shep be like,
you know, I love doing this with you, and it's
like yo, okay, but sometimes I can't do everything I want.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
You know, sometimes it's like I got other things going on.
You know.
Speaker 1 (05:24):
If they never remember the important stuff, this is huge.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
They say.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
Do you ever notice they forget crucial details about your life?
Expect you remember everything about theirs, birthdays, big events, even
your favorite ice cream flavor. But they say, when someone
consistently forgets what matters to you, it's a clear sign
their attention is elsewhere.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
I think that's true.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Yeah, more so that they're not paying attention period, Like
if it is stuff about your life that you don't like,
that they don't even like process that, Like I could
tell you, like which one of my friends don't like seafood,
you know what I mean? So I know, like, hey,
like we can't go, we can't get see food here
because this person doesn't like it.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
I know that.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
I'm a dude, you know. They avoid making long term plans.
They say, as your friend consistently sideset plans that extend
beyond the immediate future, may have a vague response like, well,
let's see, let's play it by ear. According to this report,
people avoid long term commitments may struggle to maintaining genuine,
genuine connections. I think that's more so because like they're
(06:25):
looking for the better option, right, Like that's it now.
I realize with me and my friends, like it's difficult
because I can't plan too far advanced because I don't
know my schedule or like what's gonna pop up.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
But in general, it's like.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
If like your person doesn't want to plan Christmas, and
here we are, it's basically November. If they don't want
to playing Christmas stuff with you, that's not a good sign.
That's really not a good sign. They're quick to take
credit dyavapa and then basking the glory of your collaborate efforts.
When projects go well, They often the first one step
(07:06):
in the spotlight, claiming the lion share credit. This behavior
is frustrated, especially when you put an equal or more
effort yeah, I don't like that in the workplace. That's
why in general I like to work alone and do
projects alone just because one Yeah, I think that if
something goes wrong, I want to take the blame fully.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Something goes right, I want to share the rewards.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
If you will, they show a little interest in your success.
I could not have a friend like this. When something
good happens in your life, do they brush it off
and change the subject. Genuine friends with suburty of victory
is big or small, as if they are their own.
If they're indifferent to your achievements, that may indicate them
or focus on themselves. I've always thought this where there
(07:53):
hasn't been a time in my life where I've had
a friend be successful where I didn't feel like I
got the win as well. Does that make sense? Like
if Sauce today won award, you know, Washington Post Best
Radio Hosts, I would be thrilled for her.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
I'd be ecstatic, Like yes, like it.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
Would feel like because I'm on her team, or like
I'm team Sauce so to speak, that my team won,
you know what I mean? Like that's what to me
feels like it's like a team you're rooting for you're
not on a team, but you're rooting for them, and
then they win. It's like hell yeah, Like my team won,
that's the best in the world, Like that's the best ever.
I don't quite get the not being able to be
(08:35):
happy for your friend. They get jealous of your other friendships.
The last one will hit.
Speaker 2 (08:41):
Again.
Speaker 1 (08:42):
So odd are they possessed of your time and resentful
when you hang out with others. This jealousy can be
a sign of insecurity, reflecting poorly on their ability to
maintain healthy relationships. I get, I have another friend like
this who like because I have a schedules. My schedules
is the way it is. Sometimes I hang out with
this other friend of ours because like we have similar
(09:03):
schedules and it works out easily, and like the guilt
trip afterwards, Like, yo, dude, first of all, we're all adults.
Second of all, I'm not nobody's stealing friendships, you know
what I mean. Like, to me, it's a very odd thing,
Like if you get jealous of somebody else's friendship, it's
so blatantly clear, you know what I mean. Like, it's
(09:24):
not like you can't lie at something else. It's like
you're it's just like preschool stuff. We're adults. Baby, let
it go. I hope you have fantastic Wednesday. Appreciate you.
Listen makes you follow along at intern GIHN Radio Stas
Shower
And a happy Wednesday friend. Welcome to the Thought Shower.
Intern John is my name? Almost last last lost track,
Oh my goodness, almost lost track of the day because
we're operating on like no sleep. So yesterday we went
ghost honting Linville Manor in Upper Marlboro. It's scary, but
(00:21):
we did eleven pm to like two am. So yesterday
after the show, I went home, did a workout, took
a nap for like four hours, and then we left
my house at ten, got back around two, took a
forty five minute nap.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
Now we're back to the radio station.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
Baby, So today's show, gim me wild today's podcast, give
me about that as well. Lynville Mayor. Though it's freaky,
it's uh, I mean, we were talking about the show.
There's a whole history of this place, but it was
built near a Revolutionary War.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Cemetery.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
There's been issues with like finding relics on like the
Civil War up as well. It was a freaky evening.
Tons of video on the Instagram at wymous Radio. Let's
get into this for your Wednesday. How to know somebody
is a user as in they just use you, just
use other people, so on and so forth. I do
(01:17):
think overall, I am fairly good at knowing this. I
think having been radio since I was seventeen, especially picked
up on from an early age because like in Minneapolis
we said jingle ball, and when jingle ball would come,
that's when I would hear from anybody I ever went.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
To school with.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
It could be like we were in different classes in preschool,
and hey have heard for me a while. I'm like, yeah,
because I am no longer in preschool. A surprise, I graduated.
So I think for me, like I've been a little
bit more in tune to this maybe the most Well,
let's get into this. They always seem to have an emergency.
I've been saying this for years because there was somebody
(01:59):
in my life years ago who it's like you look at
their life and it's almost like a sitcom in that
there's always some big emergency happening. It's like every season
there is a plot twist, there is you know, something
goes wrong and it's one of those things where you
(02:20):
look back you go, Huh, how can anybody possibly have
this much drama unless they are directly involved in causing it,
you know what I mean? And I always go back
to it's like life is so hard as it is,
who actively wants to have drama in their life?
Speaker 2 (02:39):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (02:40):
Like that's a that's a no no go. If they're
never there when you need them, Yes, when you're around
the one in need, When you're the one in need,
they suddenly disappear in thin air. Maybe they're too busy,
you can't seem to find the time, YadA, YadA. It's
a hallmark of someone who values what you can do
for them more than what they more than you as
a person one hundred percent. Because again, they don't want
(03:02):
to get involved. I think I've said this before with
like some of my female friends who are like talking
to guys and when things are lighthearted and they're just
having fun having the adult time, the guys are great.
When like they don't want to have the adult time,
maybe I don't feel well. It's like, ooh, I'm busy today,
and it sounds douchey, and yeah it is, but they are.
(03:24):
They're not that invested. It's all about what they need,
their wants. If they make everything about them, every conversation
ever start, a conversation realizes it's quickly detouring back to them.
You're trying to share your day, suddenly your knee deep
in their latest drama. Narcissistic tendencies are often manifest as
self centeredness.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Yes, I think that's fair.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
I dated somebody who their mom was like this and
it was one of the oddest things to witness.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
It was frustrating for me.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
I wasn't even dating the mom obviously, but it was
a bit like, yo, how can you live like this?
Speaker 2 (04:03):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (04:04):
Where it's like you can walk in my footless cough today.
Oh yeah, well my headache was really bad today, so well,
what this is clearly worse than the other. Obviously it's
a headache. They only reach out when they need something.
I'll say with that too, it's like you can tell
who that person is, right, you know what I mean?
(04:27):
You can you can tell like when what that person's doing,
because when they reach out, you go, okay, this is
just to vent to me, Uh, something's going on in
their life. It's not to check in. Yeah, And then
when you call them the flip side, can't get hold
of them. That's my usuallest usually usuallest usually biggest sign
(04:48):
you can't get hold of them. They know, especially because
everybody's always buy their phone, right, so they go. They
make you feel guilty for saying no, I have a friend.
News like this where sneeze break where anytime like they
invite you out somewhere or they want to do something,
(05:08):
it's like, hey, I can't. They will guilt shep be like,
you know, I love doing this with you, and it's
like yo, okay, but sometimes I can't do everything I want.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
You know, sometimes it's like I got other things going on.
You know.
Speaker 1 (05:24):
If they never remember the important stuff, this is huge.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
They say.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
Do you ever notice they forget crucial details about your life?
Expect you remember everything about theirs, birthdays, big events, even
your favorite ice cream flavor. But they say, when someone
consistently forgets what matters to you, it's a clear sign
their attention is elsewhere.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
I think that's true.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Yeah, more so that they're not paying attention period, Like
if it is stuff about your life that you don't like,
that they don't even like process that, Like I could
tell you, like which one of my friends don't like seafood,
you know what I mean? So I know, like, hey,
like we can't go, we can't get see food here
because this person doesn't like it.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
I know that.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
I'm a dude, you know. They avoid making long term plans.
They say, as your friend consistently sideset plans that extend
beyond the immediate future, may have a vague response like, well,
let's see, let's play it by ear. According to this report,
people avoid long term commitments may struggle to maintaining genuine,
genuine connections. I think that's more so because like they're
(06:25):
looking for the better option, right, Like that's it now.
I realize with me and my friends, like it's difficult
because I can't plan too far advanced because I don't
know my schedule or like what's gonna pop up.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
But in general, it's like.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
If like your person doesn't want to plan Christmas, and
here we are, it's basically November. If they don't want
to playing Christmas stuff with you, that's not a good sign.
That's really not a good sign. They're quick to take
credit dyavapa and then basking the glory of your collaborate efforts.
When projects go well, They often the first one step
(07:06):
in the spotlight, claiming the lion share credit. This behavior
is frustrated, especially when you put an equal or more
effort yeah, I don't like that in the workplace. That's
why in general I like to work alone and do
projects alone just because one Yeah, I think that if
something goes wrong, I want to take the blame fully.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Something goes right, I want to share the rewards.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
If you will, they show a little interest in your success.
I could not have a friend like this. When something
good happens in your life, do they brush it off
and change the subject. Genuine friends with suburty of victory
is big or small, as if they are their own.
If they're indifferent to your achievements, that may indicate them
or focus on themselves. I've always thought this where there
(07:53):
hasn't been a time in my life where I've had
a friend be successful where I didn't feel like I
got the win as well. Does that make sense? Like
if Sauce today won award, you know, Washington Post Best
Radio Hosts, I would be thrilled for her.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
I'd be ecstatic, Like yes, like it.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
Would feel like because I'm on her team, or like
I'm team Sauce so to speak, that my team won,
you know what I mean? Like that's what to me
feels like it's like a team you're rooting for you're
not on a team, but you're rooting for them, and
then they win. It's like hell yeah, Like my team won,
that's the best in the world, Like that's the best ever.
I don't quite get the not being able to be
(08:35):
happy for your friend. They get jealous of your other friendships.
The last one will hit.
Speaker 2 (08:41):
Again.
Speaker 1 (08:42):
So odd are they possessed of your time and resentful
when you hang out with others. This jealousy can be
a sign of insecurity, reflecting poorly on their ability to
maintain healthy relationships. I get, I have another friend like
this who like because I have a schedules. My schedules
is the way it is. Sometimes I hang out with
this other friend of ours because like we have similar
(09:03):
schedules and it works out easily, and like the guilt
trip afterwards, Like, yo, dude, first of all, we're all adults.
Second of all, I'm not nobody's stealing friendships, you know
what I mean. Like, to me, it's a very odd thing,
Like if you get jealous of somebody else's friendship, it's
so blatantly clear, you know what I mean. Like, it's
(09:24):
not like you can't lie at something else. It's like
you're it's just like preschool stuff. We're adults. Baby, let
it go. I hope you have fantastic Wednesday. Appreciate you.
Listen makes you follow along at intern GIHN Radio Stas
Shower
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