Mommy Issues - 1167

On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about his weekend, and guys with mommy issues

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a happy Monday friend. Welcome to you the Thought
Shower intern John is my name. It was indeed a weekend,
let's get into this. So Friday and Saturday, skittles and
nice stay at the hotel, the Hilton National Landing in Arlington,
which was lovely. Makes things a lot easier for me.
My house is like forty five minutes away from the bar.

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So on times when I know we're gonna be there
all weekend, like to sometimes get the hotel makes things
a little bit easier, easier to stay out there, easier,
take care of skittles, so on and so forth. I was
exhausted all week, like all week, didn't really sleep, you know.
Sunday got back from Des Moines, we did the Ghost
Honey on Tuesday, did some long days during the week

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in general, and then so Friday we did Hallween party,
which was crazy. The line was down the block. That
was to say it was intense. Would be understavement lock
great costumes. Trying to think of like any unique that
I saw. We had costume contest. Jack Sparrow won, like
I was pretty good. You know, you saw a lot

(01:06):
of hunterricks, the demon Hunters saw a bunch of those
but yeah, nothing really like over the top where I
was like, oh wow, that's pretty like unique in like creative,
I mean nothing. They weren't creative, but not like homemade
new you know this. Power Rangers certainly spice Girls a
lot of those. It was good. Then Saturday, I basically
slept all day, like I was so exhausted. I got

(01:29):
back to the hotel, slept until like nine, which that
alone never happens, and then just kept taking like three
hour naps the entire day. And usually I can't do that,
like I can't sleep in past like six and then
I have a hard time taking nap. So I was
able to kind of pass out and do absolutely nothing,
which is great. Saturday got dinner at my friend Chuck,

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then went back to the bar. It was great, great, great, great.
Then Sunday went back to the house and basically slept.
So it's one of those weekends where needed, like certainly
need to catch up on everything like sleep wise, but
because of that, everything else is a mess because I
did nothing all weekend. So very exciting. Hopeful this weekend

(02:13):
a little more productive. We'll find out, but it was good.
Good Halloween. November's here two months in Christmas, I've been
a good boy all year and then so yeah. I also,
my nephew is getting baptized in a couple of weeks,
so I get to do that. Let me hit this
for your Monday. The clear signs a man has mommy issues. Now,

(02:34):
as somebody grew up with a mom with hate in
her heart, with absolute hate in her heart, I feel
confident to tackle this absolutely. If he needs constant validation
and praise, they say you might notice him frequently asking
for your opinion on nearly everything, from the outfit he's

(02:56):
wearing to the dinner spot he's considering. This need for
constant validation can often be traced back to a childhood
or he might never receive constant positive reinforcement from his mother. Agreed, Yeah,
especially me. I'm kidding. Uh, that makes sense, I suppose.
But I think you're probably can be with any parent
really like, Yeah, if you were constantly told that like

(03:20):
every decision you made growing up was wrong, or even
on the flip side, nobody told you ever made a
right decision, I think that would message somebody. Yes, if
you grew up where everything you did was questioned eventually,
but yeah, am I really the idiot. Am I really dumb?
Like that? For sure? He has trouble trusting you, they
say a man mommy issues may struggle with trust, leading

(03:42):
a frequent questioning or a need for reassurance about your
loyalty or intentions. Might originate from a childhoo, where promises
are broken. Our emotional support was inconsistent. Again, I think
that's fair if you grew up with having that, Like
you need to have that strong lady in your life
growing up. If you can't trust that, yes, that makes reprecent.
He puts his mother before you they stay away. Man

(04:03):
constantly paroritizes his mother's needs ahead of yours could be
a sign of unresolved dependency or over attachment. He might
shrump everything to attend to her requests or cancel plans
if you spend time with her. I'll say this that
that to me depends on like what you are, right, Like,
if you are just dating, then yeah, mom's opinion probably

(04:26):
still range true. Right if you are married or have
kids probably should be a little bit different, you know
what I mean? Like I have to struggle with like
starting to date somebody or talking somebody, like with work
stuff where it's like, well works should be the priority.
It's like, well is though, I mean it is now.
That's gonna change one day, but for now, like, yeah,

(04:48):
works to priority. I do think that's one of those
things where if you just start dating somebody, yeah, like
families gonna be parity. He struggles with independence. They say.
If he frequently lies in others for decision making or
requires assistance with the basics, he may be grappling with
the issues related to independence. They originated from a childhood
where his mother was overly involved in his life decisions,
leaving him ill equipped to handle adult responsibilities on his own.

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What a disservice to do, somebody, What an absolute disservice?
You know what I mean? I thank god I don't.
I can't think of any friends like that. But if
I had friends like that, it couldn't make day to
day decisions. I would go crazy, dude, Like if they
know where they want to eat or hospital, the bill,
anything like that. But yo, you need to grow a

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pair of my friend. He avoids conflict at all costs,
they say. A man have mommy issues may shine away
from confrontation, preferring to sweep issues under the rug rather
than address them head on. I've never quite understood that.
I think maybe a time certainly where it's like, you know,
just to't want another fight, But overall it's like you're

(05:52):
just making problems for yourself down the line. I always
say it with laundry, and that's more of a joke.
But it's like laundry, Yeah, I make it problem for
future John. That's John down the lines problem. It's not
John now iss problem. That's John down the lines problem.
But yeah, if he hasn't comp, if he wants to voy,
comp but probably because he was total he was wrong.
Is it's our life? I understand that he has unclear

(06:13):
boundaries with his mother. If he struggles to set or
maintain boundaries with his mom, this could be a signed
deeper issues with independence and self assertion. You might notice
he allows her to influence his decisions or intruding relationship
without question. The lack of boundaries could be to a
dynamic where his mother is overly involved or controlling during
his upbringing. Yeah, that to me makes sense. I think

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that unlucky. My parents kind of stay out that My
parents don't even ask if I'm dated, which I that
means like they think that I am. They just don't
want to like get involved, or if they don't think
I am. Period. I don't know where that falls under,
you know what I mean. That's kind of funny now
that I say it out loud. Yeah, but I do

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think I would go crazy if, like I was dating
somebody in my mom was constantly given her opinion like
all the time. I would go crazy. I would go crazy,
especially if I was like in front of somebody I've
heard of like parents do that. It's like, yeah, why
would you You're making things harder for your kid. You know,
if he compares you to his mother, No, what you

(07:17):
do is you compare her to her mom. That's what
you say. You say, Hey, you're acting like your mom's say,
a man mommy issues might have a habit of complaining
comparing you to his mother, Whether consciously or unconsciously. This
tendency can step from a child that where he learned
to measure people against his mother's standards and attributes. I mean,
I do think that to at some point that is

(07:41):
probably like everybody does that, Like that slight comparison of
like okay, yeah, but if it's consistently over time. Number One,
it's kind of weird. Number two, I feel like, yeah,
you would not want to keep doing that, you know,
it's definitely especially if it's like, oh my mom would
never do this, that'd be odd. It'd be a weird
thing to say. He often turns into a child, they say,

(08:02):
a man mommy issues. I often see comfort and ways
our mind of a child during his mother turning to
his mother. This can involve looking for you for not
to involve looking to you for nurturing in times stress
and difficulty, seeking your insurance and to sooth his anxieties.
I'm gonna be honest. Okay, they say, Well, nurturing is
part of a loving relationship and over reliance and creating
a balanced where you feel more like a caregiver than

(08:23):
a partner. Okay, that's the clear distinction, because I do
feel like overall that's a good thing if your partner
is sharing to you for reassurance and like nurturing during stress. However,
I do feel like, yeah, you can't be somebody's sole
stress believe. I've told this to Xes. I can't be
your sole source of happiness. Number one, I don't want

(08:44):
to be, you know what I mean, because that's a
lot to put on somebody. Number two, there's no way
I can be If I'm like your soul source of happiness,
that's too much pressure, you know. So if I'm your
sole release of stress, that's also not good. You know.
I do think your partner should help reduce stress. But
if that's like their constant goal is that, that's too

(09:06):
much for anybody to be able to do anything. Last one,
I'll hit he avoids making long term plans. Yeah, they
see a man with mommy issues. Mate shy away for
making long term plans, preferring to keep options open rather
than than committing. This reluctance can stem from a fear
of repeating past family dynamics or feeling trapped in overwhelming commitment.
I think it's probably more of the latter, like that

(09:27):
type of commitment. I mean, I have a hard time
making plans so far in advance because like schedule in general.
But I do think, yeah, if it's like overall stuff
again this time, you're especially is telling right because we
have now Halloween's over, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year's. Those are
big like socially events, you know what I mean. Look,
I hope you have a fantastic Monday. I appreciate you listening,

(09:50):
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