Make Him Run - 1168

On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks extending the show for three years, plus the things that make guys run away

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a happy Wednesday friend. Welcome to shower. Intern John
is my name. We got big news on this Wednesday,
number one. I'll be on Fox five again tonight. Was
on Fox yesterday at two Today, busy day doing the
show obviously, gonna kill it doing this podcast, killing it
currently and then I gotta go to the gym. Got hockey.

(00:21):
It's our last like preseason skate until the season starts,
which is next week, which is crazy. But then tonight
I'm going from hockey back to the gym the shower.
They'll be on Fox five seven pm in the District
of Columbia, So if you are a near a TV
or near your phone, it's foxfive DC dot com. You
can watch live right there. But it's always fun to

(00:43):
be on television on the Telly, as the kids say.
Also big news. I dropped on Instagram, officially resigned my contract.
There is at least three more years of Intern John,
your morning show on your speakers, which is very exciting,
you know, especially because it's an odd time in the

(01:03):
media world where unfortunately a lot of media industries are
cutting jobs. So to be able to lock in the
show for three more years is amazing. And again I've
always believed the best part about this is it's because
of you. It's because you listening to the show, listening
to podcast, following on Instagram, coming to events. It's solely

(01:24):
because of you. And this is gonna sound corny as hell,
but you know, the rock I always called himself the
people champion. I do kind of feel that way because
it's like, if you guys didn't believe me, or you
know and hip hop a sipy and f of me,
you know, I wouldn't be here. So the chance, check
out the Instagram. I posted some i'd say highlights, but

(01:47):
highlights of the past your thirteen years, which is crazy.
By the time this contracts up, I'll have been in
DC for sixteen years. That's insane. You know. I got
off the plane of Dulles hoping to make it last
a year. So the fact that we're here is I
don't even know. Crazy crazy crazy, So thank you so much.

(02:07):
Let's get to this for your Wednesday. The things that
instantly turn dudes off. As a dude, I think and
qualify to speak on this. Finally something for me. I
started with being too needy. This is a tough one, right.
I do feel like I understand that you get to unpack.
Everybody has trauma, everybody has a past. I think for

(02:27):
me maybe more of a turn off. It's like if
my actions aren't enough to make you feel secure, that's enough,
Like that would be a problem, I supose, especially if
it's like they mentioned, if you're texting constantly a check in,
like my days areft like during the show, got the
show today, gotta go to the gym, got hockey work

(02:47):
on the next day? Show like once hockey's like full on,
full on, it's even worse. So yeah, I think it's
like everybody wants to feel wanted, but I don't want
to feel like you're dependent on me. I talked about
that at Nausea before mind Games. They say, Uh, teasing
can be fun, but mind games not so much. If
you're intentionally affording with others just to get a rise
out of him, it's gonna cause unnecessary drama and said

(03:09):
the wrong signal. I've had that happen before, and I
be honest, I just left, like I'm not gonna deal
with that, especially because like, if you are, you're playing
the game right. So if it's me and uh zach
Efron and you're Flora with him to make me jealous.
If he doesn't know that and he sees me swooping,
he's gonna assume that I'm a threat. I don't want

(03:31):
to be in a fistfight with somebody at a bar,
you know what I mean? I do think as far
as fighting goes, Like I had a girlfriend once, It's like,
would you get in a fight for me? I'm like,
anybody who is excited for a fight has never been
in a fight before. You can tell who's been in
a fight and who hasn't. Because the people have not
been in a fight, they get excited to fight those
of us who have. It's like, yeah, you don't want

(03:52):
to fight somebody physically because it could get hurt, you know,
talking bad about others and so we all have our opinions,
but your conversation I fell a gossip of negativity. It
can come off as a major downer. I'll say this
is that you gotta be careful about how much negative
stuff you tell somebody versus positive, right, because if you

(04:13):
like I had an ex who constantly trashed her friends,
constantly trash her friends, and so for me, I hate
her friends, do you know what I mean? Hate? Them
because I was like, they're horrendous people. But she was like,
oh no, I only event to you, Like yeah, but yeah,
to tell me the good stuff too, because if you
only tell somebody the bad stuff, if they love you,

(04:36):
they're gonna take your side, you know what I mean?
Being self absorbed? Yeah, I mean I don't know. They
say having self confidence is important, but it feels like
every chat circles back to you, he might might start
to feel ignored. I think that for dudes. I was
talking to a friend months ago and I said this.
I was like, here's the thing about dudes. If you
want to be treated like a princess, you gotta treat

(04:59):
him like your night and shine armor. Like dudes want
to show off. Dudes want to seem like they're providing something.
So it's like, if it is all about you and
not talking about him, yeah, I think it just kind
of turn off because it's and more so for dude,
just like, are you even noticing the work I'm putting
in to be better for you? If that makes sense.

(05:20):
Overreacting to the little things, that's tough. They say. You
find yourself overreacting to little noyances, it can start to
create an easy tension. Again, this all depends, right, because
if there's been things building up, that's one thing. But
I guess it'd be like a minor inconvenience. Everybody goes
through like if your flight's ten minutes to lay, it's like, yeah,
it sucks, but like what are we gonna do? Yeah?

(05:41):
I mean like or if the restaurant's out of your
favorite drink or they have pepsi and said coke, it's like, yeah,
it sucks, but like is it worth having it ruin
your day? Probably not, because everybody goes through that being
rude to service workers. Yes, I think that is Yeah, obviously,
I think self explanatory. Constantly complaining they say a little

(06:03):
venting here and there is totally fine, but if every
conversation turns into complete a complaint session, it can be draining.
Balance is key. Again, I think it goes to most
dudes aimed to please. Most dudes aim to serve and
serve you. So if you're always complaining, it feels like
he's not making progress, like nothing he does is good enough.
I do think that once dudes have that feeling nothing's

(06:26):
good enough, then it's like, well why even try it?
And it's true, why even trive it's not getting the results.
Bringing up your ex too often, Yeah, they say it's
normal mention the ex every once in a while. If
they keep coming up in conversations, sends a message that
you're not over it. I think for most dudes, we
don't want to hear about your acts in a good
way either. It's like we want to think like we

(06:46):
need an enemy. It's like I want to know he
was the worst person of all time. Like obviously don't
want you to have gone through bad stuff, but like
I rather be like he sucked, he was the worst.
I don't want to feel like I'm in competition with
the pass I'm fighting a ghost, you know what I mean.
I don't want that excess of jealousy, especially for me.
Don't like this. They say a hint of jealousy can

(07:09):
be natural, but if you're constantly questioning who he's with
or need updates, it can be exhausting for him. Trust
is crucial, and building a solid foundation of trust is
something you need to work on if you don't want
to chase someone away. For my line of work, like realistically,
the show, I think the audience is like ninety something
percent female. So like when we go out a lot
of times, it's like females who ask a photos, Like

(07:30):
absolutely would never say no to a photo, but like
I've been blessed that, Like my ex got that and
was fine with that. I think if somebody was very jealous,
it wouldn't work for me, especially because I'm easy to find,
not at the radio station, I'm at the gym or
the ice arena or at the bar, you know what
I mean. I've also told like access before, like if

(07:52):
I ever cheat, you'll know, like somebody will You'll see it.
Somebody will see it, somebody will let you know about it,
Like it's gonna be obvious, you'll know. Trying to change him,
they say, we all have our quirks. While he's it's
fine to have preferences, trying to change his habits of
personality can lead to a resentment. I'll say this. I

(08:14):
think that your person should want to be the best
version of themselves for them, but also for you, you
know what I mean. Like I would try to like
work on myself to be better for my relationship. I
think that's good. I think if somebody tells me you
need to change this, that's where it becomes like, oh,
I'm not good enough and that's not the vibe we want,
you know, Lacking ambition This is a big one for

(08:37):
me in general. Yeah, having goals and aspirations attractive. If
you seem aimless or uninterested in your future, it might
turn him off. I even think too. It doesn't have
to be like career ambition. But if it's like you
want to have a family, that's an ambition. You want
to run a ten k, that's the ambition, Like, do
you have things that you're looking forward to? Because again,

(09:00):
mention this, I can't be all of that, you know
what I mean, I can't do that taking yourself too seriously,
This one, to me might be one of the most
important ones on here. They say life can be tough.
If you can't laugh at yourself every once in a
while might come across the wrong way. A good sense
of humor and the ability to share a laugh is

(09:21):
an under a part of any relationship of a part
and one under nonetheless. Yeah, I think especially again because
to me, like the best relationships I've had is where
I can know, like anything that we do, we're gonna
have fun. Go in the grocery store again, I'd rather
pull my eyes out. But it's gonna be fun because
you don't take yourself seriously. Going the DMV, whatever it

(09:43):
is like, it's gonna be fun stuff because I know
you don't take yourself too seriously. And we're gonna have
a good time because the other day it's like you
just want some way to have fun with, you know,
somebody to laugh with and make life a little bit easier.
I hope you have a fantastic Wednesday. Make sure you
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