SPEAK ON IT with calls - Can Men and Women Be Friends?

SPEAK ON IT with calls - Can Men and Women Be Friends?

Episode Transcript

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Welcome to another episode of the BigBoy Boy Speak on It on It a
podcast, Big Boys Neighborhood. Annieis up in here? What of Annie?
What? Big? Oh? Nothing? We got some w L O
L. We love our listeners whowe love it? On? Oscar Love
you Oskar? What we got BigOscar. We were talking about Kim newon
Men and Women Still be Friends andwe had to ask. Oscar told us

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why they can't be friends. Menand women can't be friends due to the
effect of the wal Risk effect.Oh yeah, yeah, the Walris effect.
Yeah, talk to me about theeffect, big What is that?
Keep it clean? I don't knowwhat it is. You may not be
you may not be attracted to theperson At first you know they're like,
you know, they're just not yourtype. But then after a little while,
little things start becoming something that youstart looking at, like, oh,

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man, okay, she does havea nice smile. Oh wait,
look at it. Okay when shesaid when she does this, her eyes
look like this. And then allof a sudden, from a wall risk
it becomes something that you're attracted to, and then it's a bad situation.
Big okay, Mermaid. Ah,it's because what happens is when sailors were
out to sea and they would seethe walrus all the time. They'd be
like, oh, it's just aWalris. But then when they're out to

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sea and they don't see women enough, and then all of a sudden,
the Walris becomes a murmur mermaid.I heard that, and after have you
been in that position where you wentfrom a from walris to mermaid? Okay,
well I mean that. Yeah,that means we need to fish,
you know what, I know whatI mean. Yeah, I ain't saying
nothing. I heard that. Onlytakes four beers for me to get the

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walrust effect up. Amen, Maybeit didn't happen for me a lot because
I was always just a Walris.No smile, I am laughing. There,
It is all right, now we'llspeak on it too. Man.
Can man and women be friends?Can men and women be friends? I

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don't know. I always told myfriends that I don't think it's possible to
be like best friends. You couldbe like cordial or right, but to
be best friends, I feel likeyou have to like best friends. Thing
is a lot the way you're justhanging out, laying on each watching the
movie that Jose and I were cool. We never lay down and watch a
movie with each other. You knowwhat I You gotta keep it real.
A lot of it has to dowith looks, bro right, like if
your girl best friend is good looking, they could possibly be an issue with

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your girl, right Okay, andyou probably speak for a lot of people,
you know what I'm saying. Butthank god, she ain't got to
worry about that with you, youknow, taking it as the best you
know body we want to see,we want to hear from you. Can
men and women be friends? Allright? And let's bring Leo into the
neighborhood. See what he's going downwith. Leo up in here, Leo?

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Hello, Hello, Hello there,Leo. Can men and women be
friends? Yes? They can?Big talk to me. I'm married and
my best friend at that girl hNorrisons High School. Big and it's been
Holmo's what almost twenty plus years.She's married. Also, I know her

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man, she knows my wife,and we never had a problem. Uh
she you know, like I saidin high school, she got my business
say one and I did the samething to her. Do you know?
So never was the physical attraction.Yeah, she's gorgeous. My wife is
beautiful, but she's gorgeous also,But it was never that boundary like I

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want to get hurt. No,no, no, it will just strictly
friendship, you know, gotcha?And Annie, you said that you would
have a problem with it being bestfriends. Yeah, like that would be
a problem for me because I wouldalways think that either one or the other
had had some type of feelings.Right, And y'all never like hooked up
or had a feeling or anything.And y'all been through other relationships where she
was your rocket or you was hersto other relationships, right yeah, yeah,

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I mean she's been you know,with the guy with the husband for
since what eighteen two those eighteen andyou know she's fighting with the guy.
Hey, Leo, you can wecan talk. Sure, Hey babe,
I'll go into son house and I'mnot gonna talk. I trust you,

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Okay that I never high you know, because he's I mean, like to
all the people would do if yougot a best friend is a female.
Don't hide it for nobody, youknow, just you got my girls.
Just straight up, look, thisis my best friend. I know it
for so long. I know,I know no intentions of your or anything
like that. And that's it.And Leo, you you knew her before

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you knew your wife? Yes,sure, okay, so she came she
came into that relationship like your wifecame into that friendship already of you and
your friend. Yeah, she alreadyknew that. And what I did when
I met when I met my wife, straight up, I'll call my best
friend that that. Look, Imet a girl. You know, I

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want you to meet her and let'stalk about it. Right, What about
your wife at the time? Didshe was your wife or even her husband?
You said she been with her husbandsince twenty eighteen, right, so
that's fairly new. Did he understandthe relationship of you and and his soon
to be wife being just friends?Yes, sir, he's the one that
does work. Okay, okay,so he knew you as well. Alrighty,

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Can men and women be friends?That's his specific story right there.
You know what I'm saying. BringRenee into the neighborhoods? He was going
down with Renee. Renee, Hello, Hello, where the ladies at man?
Yeah? All right, Renee canmean and women be friends. I

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had a personal experience big and atfirst I met, uh, somebody that
I knew it was a girl,and I wasn't attracted to her at all
physically. Uh, but the moreand more we started talking, it's just
we had there was a lot ofthings that we had in common, and
slowly but surely it's turned into somethinguh romantic, Like she she was I'm

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a Raider fan, she's Broncos fans. So we started from there and all
of a sudden, like it justbecame something where I'm a hustler, she's
a hustle too, and right,and yet we had we started having feelings
for each other and we started seeingeach other, and my wife found out,
you know, and it was justit was bad, like like,
yeah, it's just it's not justa physical thing. Sometimes it is like

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a connection that you can have withsomebody even if you're not if it's not
like physical. So, Renee,I love this phone call. I love
it bro So So that's why Iwas going to ask you, Renee,
So you were in a relationship.Was your girl that started as a friend
Was she in a relationship as well? Yes? How did you introduce the
friendship to your wife? Like didyour wife know her? Yes? She

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would come over the house with herman and we would like you know,
do a little cookouts and stuff,and uh yeah, it was it was
it was not good. So,man, I'm still struggling with it because
I can't clean. She found out. I came clean with it, and
you know, I've been married forthis year, it'll be tweeny three years,
so she's still ten years younger thanme. And we just had a

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lot in comment and it was justit was just it was just bad,
like it really was. We neverdid anything physical. I mean, there
was there was one time that ityou know, we were drinking a little
bit and it was going to getthere, but I just something about it.
I just I just couldn't. Icouldn't do it. And I had
We both actually were the ones thatthat cut kind of cut it. But
we did have a huge connection.We had so much in common. Like

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it was just, yeah, howdid you meet her? Renee? She
her man. I kind of grewup with him. Again, they're ten
years younger, right, so hegot with, you know, with her,
and you know we you know,I wasn't really good friends with him,

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but it just you know, Ibrought him around a couple of times
and she was at the house andand it just hey, Renee was just
starting to get scary when you knewthat you were getting having feelings for her.
Yes, and Renee, and keepit real, man, you never
kissed her. Keep it real.I met, we we it got clo.
You never kissed her. No,never, never. I never put

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my hands on I'm telling you there'sone time when when we weren't drinking,
like she was kind of kissing onmy neck and you're hugging and stuff,
and I just yeah, man,hey, I'm not here to jails.
You're here for the conversation. ALRIGHTYcan mean and women be friends. Let's
bring Andrea into the neighborhood. Andrea, Hello, Hello, Hello? Is

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it Andrea? Andrea? I don'tcare either one? All right, then,
Cynthia, Andrea can mean and womenbe friends. I absolutely believe we
can. Okay, so you saywe can? Yes, all right?
Explained, Well, my husband hashad a best friend that's that's a woman

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since he was very young, andso have I and neither one of us
have been in like an intimate relationshipwith that person. And I mean,
and then we all hang out,we all like we're all just I guess
in a sense, it's like mature. We like, yeah, we get
along. We have so many thingsin common. We can talk bad and
then like, I mean we're fine. It's just there's a respect, there's

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a boundary. And then yeah,and I'm saying this, it works for
y'all. You know what I'm saying. Some people, some people can do
it, some people can't. Youknow what I'm saying, Like, like
I have well she stays in thebear, but I have a friend named
Felicia. Never thought about anything.I don't have a best friend. You
know, Natalie is a friend ofmine. I don't have like a best
friend. But yeah, and alot of the people were before my wife

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as well, you know what I'msaying. But and she has friends.
It's not like they lay up orthey talk on the phone and so on
and so forth. So I'm notuncomfortable at all, Yes, exactly.
Yes, And then even like Ican like we all have each other's numbers,
like sometimes if I if he's gettingif my husband's getting on my nerves,
like call her and I'm like,dude, like get your friends like

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you right right, And she waslike yeah, I'll get him all right.
And how and how long have youand your husband? How long?
Have y'all been together? How longhave y'all been married. We've been together
for ten years and we've been marriedfor five Okay, and these friends and
those relationships existed before, correct,All right, it sounds good. Have
you ever been jealous a little bit? Like if he's on the phone and

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you come in and he's not talkingto you, or if there's an experience
like a football game and he wantsto go with her. Absolutely not,
I can care less. I don'tcare about football. But also like I
feel like man in general can onlyfocus on one thing at a time,
So it's like whenever he's just mybad sir? What were you saying?
I was looking at my phone.I wasn't focused. I'm just playing.

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But yeah, so so it works. So you know for you personally that
that whole group y'all could be friendsexactly right. I had one of my
homeboys that told me I can't bereally yeah, but he know that he
can't be, you know what I'msaying. Yeah, And then like,
Luke, could you do you havegirlfriends? I do, Yeah, that's
really close ones. And I thinkMyra's okay with it, right right?
You say you think you want togo home and ask her to a listeners.

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I'll take a little break. We'retrying to get on the phone.
Yeahstick around, y'all. Radios AndreaAndrea, thank you can mean and women
be friends. Y'all hit us up. Big Boys neighbor Eadies. You're find
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on your radios. Humans around ofapplause. There was one reporter of meteorologist
Big She was in Texas with abunch of fans, and listen to her
excitement. It just got really dark. We are close thirty two crowd.

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Yeah, if you did play thatjust for a minute, I would take
it. You would think that that'sa point of that getting cheered on,
like what in a Roman coliseum infront of a crowd or something. Thank
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