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June 20, 2025 59 mins

TV writer Lauren Ashley Smith (A Black Lady Sketch Show, Smith Sisters Live) joins Nicole to talk about how she met her wife the old-fashioned way - through Time Out New York’s Singles issue.

Lauren reveals the strange public response to being a “bachelor” in a magazine, how her wife was one of the only white women working at BET, and the complications that came with planning an interracial lesbian wedding.

She also recalls a bizarre school Valentine’s Day test that matched students based on compatibility, and she and Nicole discuss who gets to keep the friends after a breakup. Plus, Nicole gets a magical hot massage and somehow walks away being fluent in Greek.

And Lauren shares one big piece of dating advice: why straight people should try dating more like lesbians -letting go of the gender roles getting in the way.


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