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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I was just reading about like hospice and stuff, and
I didn't It didn't dawn on me, and I didn't
remember until after reading about it. But you know what
part I never remember is that when you're in when
you're in hospice, you can eat whatever you want, Okay,
But now I vividly remember my dad wanted a hamburger
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and a coke.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
I love that, and they were like, go get it
for him.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
Yeah, whatever he wants.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Yeah, and I remember we got him a We got
him a My dad was a burger king guy. Sorry
McDonald's if you're listening, the uh, I don't want to
think I'm cheating on him.
Speaker 4 (00:36):
The he was.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
They have their receipts, they were. He was a burger
king guy. So we went and got him a whopper
and a coke. I think he took like two bites
of the of the burger and that was it. But
I remember thinking at the time, like this is weird,
Like you're not because you think like somebody's really sick
and you know, huh yeah, but if.
Speaker 5 (00:57):
They don't have an appetite even just that, which I'm
sure for him was like super pleasurable.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
The you know what, I don't remember, and I didn't
even remember.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
That was when I saw the headline that was like
eat and drink whatever you want, Like if they wanted
to say again, no, no, they may they may do
something where it's like I was, so I was reading
about there was somebody who was talking about one of
their loved ones and their their loved one who was
in hospice loved crem brew lay, loved crem brew lay
like that was their thing. And they were like, we
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couldn't give them like the torched part on top, but
we gave them the like.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
The yeah, I mean that's a that's a bit, that's
a bit much.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
So they gave them the like, the the the like
the soft creamy part, the pudding. Almost couldn't uh that's
underneath that. They loved it. Now did they eat the
whole thing? No, but they ate it.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
But you're concerned about your dad choking.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
No, he's surrounded well two things. Number one, he was
surrounded by doctors. Number one.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
No, that's that staff doesn't have to give you a
thumbs up to Okay.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
A meal, yeah, whatever you want. Wow, that's the thumbs up.
Now they may go hey, listen, like like I was
reading about somebody who was they got spaghetti and meatballs
was a great choice.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
That's much better than a burger and a coke.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
But they were like, just make sure, like don't give
them like a big old pulpet, like, you know, let's
cut it up a little bit. So I mean, you
got to be I mean, also, you know what they're
capable of doing.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
I know, but that.
Speaker 3 (02:30):
Would be a strange twist if you were told and
had a meal approved and instead of just seeing their
time out in hospice, they choked to death.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
Whoops.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
The you know another one that was really good that
I was reading about, and they said, for a lot
of people, it does turn into like comfort number one
comfort food or number two foods that always brought them happiness,
which in some cases could be the same thing.
Speaker 3 (03:00):
Does they connect it to something like there's a nostalgic
childhood memory or something.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
The spaghetti and meatballs one was for them.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
They loved it, but they loved it because when they
grew up there was always like the.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
We I don't know if it was like Friday night
or Saturday night.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
But from the time that they were a kid, they
always with their parents, they always had spaghetti and meatballs
for dinner, and that they passed that on as they
became older with their family they would have like Friday
nights spaghetti and meatballs or whatever.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
So it was kind of ceremonial.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
Now at hospice, I don't know if it was a
Friday night, but it was like that.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
That reminds me of family.
Speaker 3 (03:34):
That's great.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
I love that. I love that.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
And they said the other thing, that's good. So say,
for example, that was like Diane's in hospice, right, and
we bring our spaghetti and meatballs. That for some people
it's also a it's also a nice way. So that
now in the future, whenever I go to like car
Mines or something, I get spaghetti and meatballs, it reminds
me of Diane. I never thought of that either, because
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if I'm being real honest, it's not like every time
I go to Burger King, I think of my dad.
Speaker 3 (04:06):
Yes, you always got McDonald's.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
I would.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
I hope they heard that part the but yeah, like
I never connected that, but they said for a lot
of people it does.
Speaker 6 (04:14):
Now.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
He had you said one or two bites of the hamburger?
Did he have the.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
Drink every last drop?
Speaker 1 (04:20):
My dad loved coke Fountain loved coke.
Speaker 3 (04:25):
This is every last drop. It's not morbid, but I
it's not morbid because I can't stand the coverage of uh,
the last meal on death row. I I just really
hate when the news makes a big deal out of that. This,
to me is so much better. I mean, it is
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kind of your last meal, but it's stop. It's for
a lot different reasons. You're facing death. Yeah, right, this
there's a there's something very possible.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
Well, they do people know that?
Speaker 1 (05:00):
Like if if if if people have somebody in hospice,
is that a well known thing?
Speaker 3 (05:05):
Like well the staff tell you whatever they want when
they want and if there's something that you know or
do they do they not want you to guess what
would bring that person comfort and and enjoy?
Speaker 2 (05:17):
Well the nurse doesn't know, No, no, do they do
they want?
Speaker 3 (05:21):
Like are you I understand that your your communication may
be limited as the as the patient, right, but would
they rather come from from their.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Mouths they're able as opposed to me going, oh, my
dad really likes so let me do that, like he
requested that, you said, I mean, yeah, I mean, listen,
my dad couldn't talk really well at the end so
it came out. He was emphatic about what he wanted,
and it kind of came out like murder and a coke,
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So like I knew the coke part, the hamburgers an afterthought,
I probably have some nea.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
So I don't know. I don't know the answer to that.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
I don't know if it's something that I'm guessing of,
like you know, hey, this this may this may be
good or if it if it is by request. But
I don't remember, like again trying to think back. It
was so long ago, I don't remember. I don't remember
the staff saying anything. I don't even remember like even
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thinking like am I allowed to do this or not
do that?
Speaker 2 (06:24):
Like that, I don't remember.
Speaker 3 (06:26):
With no first experience, I would have just assumed, and
I guess I did before this morning, that it's basically
like hospital ish food. Oh yeah, that's what you've been
having anyway you would, I.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
Would just think it's all fluids and stuff and then
ensure insure where it's just like pure liquid nutrition. And
when I when I saw the thing it says in
hospice you can eat and drink whatever you want. That
it wasn't until I even saw that that had jogged
my memory of my dad getting a hamburger and a
coke in hospice.
Speaker 3 (06:55):
I love that story.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
Oh it's great, it's great.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
There was even one, and I don't I don't know,
check with your local hospice.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
I don't know that all of them are the same,
but there was one there.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
There was a story about one one person whose family
member was in hospice and they were talking about how
they were on morphine right, which which is common, and
the morphine was giving the patient, the loved one like
a bad taste in their mouth, like it just I
don't know, maybe that happens to a lot of people
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or nothing.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
I have no idea.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
But gave him like a really bad taste in their
mouth and hated it, hated it. But his dad loved
his dad loved whiskey, so they were able to do alcohol.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
What's it gonna do?
Speaker 5 (07:42):
I was gonna say, there better be a margerite on
my tray, rock salt.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
But they were able to.
Speaker 3 (07:51):
Rock salt.
Speaker 2 (07:52):
That brain is frozen. But they were putting.
Speaker 1 (07:55):
Now they he wasn't, he wasn't doing shots, but they
were able to the staff. It drops of Again, I
don't know that you might want to check with They
were putting drops of whiskey in his morphine so that
he would get a whiskey taste in his mouth.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
Wow, they would How awesome is that?
Speaker 5 (08:12):
I was thinking they would they would help him, like
take a little sip from a straw.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
No, they were putting it into to change the taste.
And again, I don't know if it weren't. I have
no idea, but it made it made them happy. Like
I don't know if it's psychosomatic. Right where the guy
and I don't know how with it he was anyway,
but where it was like, yeah, this is awesome.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
I had no idea. I had no clue.
Speaker 3 (08:35):
Bobby writes, So when my mom was in hospice, to
see her eat anything was good. So whatever she wanted,
if she was able to consume it, it was a
pleasure to see.
Speaker 7 (08:45):
Right.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
And they do say that, well, I mean, think about it,
think about it as you go through life, and listen,
I'll vouch for it. Food is pleasure. Food is pleasure,
like you seek out what you like, you have, you
have like this sea and meatball family.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
Like that's family. Food is life.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
I mean, obviously it keeps you alive, but you know
what I mean, Like, it's pleasure. You go try something new,
it's fun. You go out on a date, and then
you have a great meal.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
It's fun. So why stop looking for that pleasure?
Speaker 3 (09:18):
From Randall? Starbus jelly beans or my dad's last meal
in hospice.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
Oh that's awesome.
Speaker 3 (09:24):
I absolutely love them. And that's what he wanted and that's.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
What he got. That's awesome. I love that. I don't
who was that from Randall? Yes, tell me you did
him as solid.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
It gave him a red or an orange and you
didn't feed him Like did you tell me you didn't
go gettar starburs? You were like, I like the reds
and the oranges, so I hope he likes pink and yellow.
Speaker 3 (09:45):
This is from Tricia. This sounds like you, Eliott. My
mom asked for coffee. I would want that, and she
wanted it to be made by my uncle because he
would know exactly how she liked it.
Speaker 2 (09:57):
Love it, love it.
Speaker 1 (09:59):
It really is like someone's last meal, but in a
good way, in a joyous way.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
Oh, I'll tell you right now. I bet I won't
be able to get enough of these stories as they're
coming in.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
There was somebody else who really liked candy, like they
just they loved candy.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
That was their thing. But they couldn't chew. Oh yeah, no,
you know what they did. This is genius.
Speaker 3 (10:21):
They grind it up for them.
Speaker 1 (10:22):
No, no, no, tub of cotton candy melts.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
In your mouth.
Speaker 3 (10:30):
That's good.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
How genius is that.
Speaker 1 (10:34):
But they said you got to be careful depending on
what their condition is, like a lot of people mashed potatoes.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
Mashed potatoes is comfort food, man.
Speaker 3 (10:42):
But you're telling me, yes, you may have to be
careful for the actual consumption itself. But you said it
doesn't matter. It can be anything in hospice. I'll give
you the sentence again. In hospice, you eat and drink
what you want. Yeah, they're putting whiskey in a morphine drip.
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You said, check with your local hospice.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
Yes for that one.
Speaker 3 (11:06):
Yeah, you said that was a dropper.
Speaker 1 (11:08):
The Yeah, no, they put droppers into the into the
morphine that was on the tongue. No, they put it
into the drill. Oh I misunderstood that. Yeah, no, right
in through here. Yeah, oh, I love it, love it.
Line eight, Hi elliot in the morning. I also have
started putting together my list, like Diane, you want a
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margarita that's on your that that's what you want.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
I mean, I'll do it for you.
Speaker 5 (11:33):
What else am I having with my nachos? And I
need write it down?
Speaker 2 (11:38):
Chips?
Speaker 1 (11:39):
No?
Speaker 3 (11:39):
Well, yeah, write it down.
Speaker 5 (11:40):
I need Uncle Julio's salsa, specifically that smoky chipotle stuff.
That's the salsa. I want to be the last taste
in my lips when I die. Nachos and a margarita
rock salt.
Speaker 3 (11:54):
But do you want frozen?
Speaker 1 (11:55):
I may not be I may not be able to
do the salt, not so much because it's bad for
your soa. But no, just like that's a lot to
get down. That's a lot to get down. Can I
ask you this though?
Speaker 2 (12:05):
Do you just want.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
Chips and the Uncle Julio's salsa or do you want
like nachos with like cheese I don't like.
Speaker 3 (12:14):
Yeah, I want the salsa for sure, but I need
cheese too.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
Write okay, but do you want sour cream avocado? Can
I get you back? Or yeah, guawk, I'd be okay.
As long as I'm with the ring steaks.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
As long as I have the cheese and that specific salsa,
I'm good.
Speaker 1 (12:32):
Now. I just I'm the only request that I'm gonna
have to make for you is that you don't go
into hospice by the Uncle Julio's in Arlington where I
stomped the chips. Other than that, I got you covered.
I would do that for you. I would do that
for you. I already know what I want. What I
have a long list. Actually, like I hope I'm carter
and I'm in hospice for a while because I have
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a lot of food. No, but I really like the
spaghetti and meatball story of it being like a family thing.
Speaker 2 (13:01):
Yeah, I want Thanksgiving, Oh.
Speaker 3 (13:04):
Like full Thanksgiving, all of that.
Speaker 2 (13:07):
I'm going out. What do he die of?
Speaker 1 (13:08):
Oh? He just ate too much? The No, I want
Thanksgiving dinner. I want Menino to cook Thanksgiving dinner.
Speaker 3 (13:15):
So that's I mean, quite the spread.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Usually I'm sorry, Steve's got Steve's got more time than
I do.
Speaker 5 (13:22):
You know, But I'm saying like, usually when you're in hospice,
it's like your your your dad only had like two bites.
That's what I'm saying, Like you need to narrow it
down to a specific thing that a couple If you
only get a couple of bites, that's how you're going out.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
I have a couple of bites of turkey. I'll have
a couple of bites of salmon. I have a couple
of bites of savice. I'll have a couple of bites.
Speaker 3 (13:43):
You got to tell everybody what's on your normal menu? Absolutely,
because is there anything but normal? You know, I'm crushing
a devil d egg or two.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
Yeah, I mean, I want Menino to cook Thanksgiving dinner
for my hospice meal.
Speaker 3 (13:55):
But what would because Diane's right, you're not touching everything
of that Thanksgiving menu. If you only get one or
two bites of one thing, what would it be? Because
I'm gonna tell Steve, Hey, that's all you need to make.
I don't go crazy.
Speaker 2 (14:12):
You know, I don't know that. That's a great question.
I don't know the answer to that. It may be
the no.
Speaker 1 (14:16):
You know, well, I really like the The sausage bread
is always very good. That's that's dope stuff they get.
No not stuffing, although the stuffing is great. No sausage bread.
It's one of the appetizers.
Speaker 3 (14:28):
Do they speak to the breakdown of home cooked versus
prepared or a restaurant?
Speaker 1 (14:34):
Uh? That I didn't see that. I that I didn't
see if they did, I didn't, I didn't see that.
I'm sorry you're eavesdropping online.
Speaker 3 (14:40):
Eight.
Speaker 2 (14:40):
Who's this?
Speaker 1 (14:42):
Hi?
Speaker 2 (14:43):
This is Kelsey, Yes, Kelsey. What can I do for you?
Speaker 8 (14:47):
I was just calling to tell a funny story. My
mom was actually on hospice twice and the first time
she was on, she was adamant that she was getting
We were going to take her to Mabels and Palatan
and crazy shakes, So we tried to like disguise, like
five guys burger and a shake, and she knew it
was not right and she was very adamant. So we
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had a couple people help us out, and Mabel's actually
came to our house. We lived south of Richmond and
Prince George, and they had a whole setup for us,
and all the employees came. The Sheriff of Palatan drove
them down pen. She loved it. She had the best time.
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She ate the whole, the whole thing. And she actually
graduated hospice not long after that, but she passed away
in twenty twenty two.
Speaker 2 (15:38):
Well, I'm sorry about that.
Speaker 1 (15:39):
Can I can I ask you something I didn't know
people graduate from I never heard.
Speaker 8 (15:42):
That it's very rare, apparently because the people that came
to pick up her equipment were kind of shocked. They
were like, oh, we don't usually see.
Speaker 1 (15:51):
This happening, right, did that when she, like you said,
she she went back in twice?
Speaker 2 (15:56):
Did she go back to the same joint?
Speaker 8 (15:58):
Yeah, well so it was in him hoste.
Speaker 2 (16:01):
I got cha, I got her, Yeah, by the way down.
Speaker 8 (16:05):
It was great experience. But yeah, she was.
Speaker 1 (16:08):
Love that they brought the food. Diane, do you want
me to have Uncle Julio's come in? If you die
on your birthday, they'll sing four now.
Speaker 2 (16:19):
All right, very good.
Speaker 8 (16:20):
Chanel six Actually Channel six did a news story on it.
You can actually look it up.
Speaker 2 (16:24):
That's awesome. I like that, thank you, ma'am.
Speaker 3 (16:27):
Yes, Tyler from Rachel on Facebook. We were told to
put some whiskey on a sponge. Nanny sucked down every
last drop. But wouldn't you think like you're not allowed
to do that. Yes, and check with your local hospice.
But I love that you can honestly shove a sponge
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of Jack Daniels in my mouth.
Speaker 1 (16:52):
Like that's great, that's awesome. All right, So Diane's getting nachos.
I'm doing Thanksgiving? What are you getting?
Speaker 3 (17:02):
Give me time?
Speaker 2 (17:03):
Oh there's something like wwe related.
Speaker 3 (17:07):
Yes, the branded ice cream.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
Oh a slim gym Oh yeah, where am I going?
Speaker 2 (17:16):
Lying six? Hi Elliot in the morning.
Speaker 9 (17:20):
Hi Elliot, it's Catherine.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
Hey Catherine, what can I do for you?
Speaker 4 (17:24):
So I called because my mother still has the bottle
that my grandfather requested while he was in hospice, in
the hospital of whiskey that they put a prescription label
on to ensure that it had his name and the
directions of how much whiskey he was allowed to have
as he was going through the end of life. And
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my mother keeps it in a cabinet at her house
and with all of the ashes and memorabilia and things
like that.
Speaker 2 (17:51):
But it's awesome.
Speaker 9 (17:54):
Yeah, we had never heard of, like you said, never heard.
Speaker 4 (17:58):
Of them allowing that at hospice.
Speaker 9 (18:00):
But just have the prescription label with his.
Speaker 1 (18:03):
Name on it.
Speaker 4 (18:04):
It's definitely a keepsake in our family.
Speaker 1 (18:06):
He was he was he I mean not allowed to.
I mean you can do whatever. It's hospice, eat and
drink whatever you want the like. Was he able to
have like whiskey every single day?
Speaker 3 (18:17):
Yes?
Speaker 9 (18:17):
Yes, And they were mini bottles like you'd have just
a mini bottle like you get at a hotel with
his name prescription label as I guess they limited it
a little bit.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
It wasn't a fifth, But that's great. That's good. I
love that.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
I love that good for good for him and good
for the family. And I do like and that that
is kind of the thank you, ma'am. That is kind
of the like getting to keep the bottle. I understand that,
But that is akin to like now every time I
have spaghetti and meatballs, I think of Nanny or whatever
it is.
Speaker 2 (18:49):
I like that. That's cool.
Speaker 3 (18:52):
Is that sort of want to make me explore for
the cases where I was younger and not really granted
access or really kind of kept in the dark as
to what was happening for family members that were sick
like this but perhaps had a last meal to learn
what they had. I'm now interested knowing that they could
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have had anything what they picked.
Speaker 1 (19:16):
But is that I like, does that does that go
like his? How far back does it go where it's
like eat or drink whatever you want. But I mean, listen,
my dad died forever ago. We got him a burger,
so it's probably been going on forever. But at some
point a doctor was like, seriously, you're gonna worry about
whether he has blueberry pie.
Speaker 2 (19:32):
That's what somebody else had.
Speaker 1 (19:33):
And remember which, by the way, every every story I
read about that, I was like, oh my god, that
sounds awesome. There was some dude who crushed Shepherd's pie.
I was like, now we're talking that's heavy eating.
Speaker 3 (19:43):
Drink whatever you want is the rule. Now, back in
the day, weren't people smoking in there with you?
Speaker 2 (19:50):
That down cigarettes?
Speaker 3 (19:52):
If anything, it was probably I don't know how it
could be, but looser back then, years ago.
Speaker 2 (19:58):
You could smoke, but we prefer you not in a
blueberry pie.
Speaker 3 (20:01):
Don't do it near the Oxiden.
Speaker 1 (20:05):
Line. One.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
Hi, elliot in the morning.
Speaker 7 (20:08):
Hey, good morning, How are you good.
Speaker 2 (20:10):
Who's this?
Speaker 7 (20:12):
My name's Rachel.
Speaker 2 (20:13):
Yes, Rachel. What can I do for you?
Speaker 9 (20:16):
So?
Speaker 7 (20:16):
I did hospice. I was a CNA at that time
doing hospice, and long story short, you can do whatever
the heck you want, and especially if you have like
the wright nurse or like CNA that's working with you,
you can do whatever. It's limitless. But I had this
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specific patient and when I met her, I said, so,
what do you want me to do for you since
you're able bodied. And she said, I want you to
take me out and light my cigarette for me every
day and then take care of my kitty litter box.
So I got paid to do that for like two
hours every single day.
Speaker 2 (20:58):
Dude, tag me in, I'll go out and smoke with
the guy. I know.
Speaker 7 (21:01):
It was cold as hell too, and I was like,
I guess I'll take you out here, I'll light your cigarette. Okay,
all right, you're good.
Speaker 6 (21:09):
It was awesome.
Speaker 2 (21:10):
And she would go outside and smoke.
Speaker 7 (21:13):
All the time. Every single meal she refused to eat
her meal, she would smoke her cigarette.
Speaker 2 (21:20):
I said, I got you.
Speaker 7 (21:21):
And none of the other people in the facility wanted
to take her out because they didn't want to be
around cigarette smoke.
Speaker 2 (21:26):
I said, I'm dying. Hey, can I ask you this.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
It sounds like you were doing home home hospice, which
is fine, but is it like, do do hospice whether
it's an in facility or or at home? Do hospice
nurses like make it clear, like whatever you want, Like
we're like it's free ball game, let's go.
Speaker 9 (21:49):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (21:50):
Basically that's what I told my patients, said, whatever you
want me to do.
Speaker 9 (21:53):
You want me to do jumping.
Speaker 8 (21:54):
Jacks right here go, I'll do it.
Speaker 7 (21:57):
Whatever you want. It's your dying wish.
Speaker 1 (21:59):
Wow, you're good Egg, You're good Egg. I appreciate it.
Thank you, ma'am.
Speaker 3 (22:03):
Yes, Kyler from Elsie. My mom was Coca Cola two,
but she wanted him cold and in glass bottles from
the last six pack I got her. She had four
of them and I still have the last two. That's awesome.
Speaker 2 (22:20):
That's awesome.
Speaker 3 (22:21):
Now I like that the second part of the story.
Somehow this meal you can't keep a whopper and a wrapper.
And I'm assuming that coke was in like a throwaway cup.
Speaker 1 (22:33):
Uh yeah, like I don't remember it, being like my
dad was not so specific where it's like ice cold
glass bottle.
Speaker 2 (22:39):
Yeah no.
Speaker 3 (22:39):
But if there's a keepsake, I'm liking that too. This
is the last three and a Ultra lights pack. But
now I'm thinking too much. If I were to pick something, well,
there's got to be something that they can say from
the meal. So now I have imposed rules on myself.
Speaker 1 (22:59):
When you kept telling me eat and drink whatever you want,
like ever you want a line five, I'm with you, though,
these stories are awesome, Like I really like these, Hi
Elliott in the.
Speaker 10 (23:11):
Morning, Morning Mike from seven, Hey you don't guys, Hey.
Speaker 2 (23:15):
I'm doing great. What's going on, dude?
Speaker 10 (23:17):
My father in law passed away about five years ago,
and I when he was hot in hospice, I snuck
in this bottle of Jack. And I wasn't sure, you know,
if it was a loud or not, but I didn't care,
and I just, uh, he couldn't speak, he couldn't really
do much of anything.
Speaker 6 (23:32):
He's just lay laying there, and sure.
Speaker 10 (23:34):
Enough, I put this sponge of of Jack Daniels on
his lips and tongue, and holy cow, he lit up
like a firefly. He's like like he recognized the flavor.
His eyes lit up. Only the family just like what
what the heck happened here? He's like waving like bring
me more.
Speaker 5 (23:51):
Gives me more than he.
Speaker 2 (23:52):
Couldn't prove it all.
Speaker 10 (23:53):
Now he's like, gives me more. And I'm just wiping
Jack Daniels all over his lips and dunk and he's
lightened it up.
Speaker 2 (23:59):
Heyst Oh, that's great.
Speaker 3 (24:02):
That's great.
Speaker 1 (24:02):
When you when you when you snuck that bottle in,
like did the did you ever did you ever say
anything to the nurses where they were like, yeah, it's fine,
just bring it in.
Speaker 2 (24:10):
Nobody cares. Nobody here cares.
Speaker 10 (24:12):
Nah, nah, I just went for it.
Speaker 6 (24:13):
I didn't care.
Speaker 10 (24:14):
I was going for it any either way.
Speaker 6 (24:16):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (24:17):
I love it. Good for you, and thank you, my friend,
thank you.
Speaker 3 (24:21):
I think that's also a string that's connected a lot
of these that the taste needs to be unmistakable. So
whether it was the coffee that was prepared by the
uncle because he knew how to make it, like, you
can't just say, oh, they want coffee or they want meatballs.
I think you need to make sure the person preparing
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it knows exactly what they want, or if it's obviously
restaurant fast food, it's gonna taste the same anyway.
Speaker 2 (24:46):
Not true, Not true.
Speaker 1 (24:47):
The coffee at my seven eleven is much better than
some of the other coffees.
Speaker 3 (24:51):
At seven elevens.
Speaker 2 (24:52):
Yes, oh yeah, my guy knows what he's.
Speaker 3 (24:54):
Doing, Okay, other than Elliott, Right, you would like to
make sure if if you can get that spark, that
would be a pretty special final moment.
Speaker 1 (25:03):
Could you imagine me like like tap dancing in there
because I got some coffee and at Jack Daniels.
Speaker 3 (25:09):
Graduating and.
Speaker 1 (25:16):
Love.
Speaker 3 (25:17):
We saw that coffee in the afternoon his whole life.
Speaker 1 (25:21):
Hi Elliot in the morning, Yeah, Hi.
Speaker 2 (25:24):
Real quick. What can I do for you, sir?
Speaker 6 (25:27):
Hey Simon put fairbacks. When my wife was in hospice
a couple of years ago, we made sure that her
dog could come and hang out in the room with
us the entire time we did inpatient hospice, and her
friend came in and decorated the entire place in an
underwater scheme and completely changed the room so it didn't
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look like a hospital room.
Speaker 1 (25:50):
Oh you know what, We didn't do that for my dad, Like,
nobody decorated the room. Yeah, that we didn't do. I
was out fetching fast food all the time. The but
they let you, they let you bring the dog in.
Speaker 6 (26:05):
Yeah.
Speaker 8 (26:05):
No.
Speaker 6 (26:06):
She was thirty three at the time and uh, about
half the age of everybody else in the place, and
uh she uh, we just brought him in and nobody
said a thing. The funniest thing they were doing a
Perian's thesis to drain her belly to make it more
comfortable for her. Sure, and that the doctor came in
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and his name, he introduced himself as doctor Hatchett, and
he told us that, hey, I'm going to do this.
I asked, do we need to get out of the
room because I have the dog with me. He said, no,
as long as the dog stays, you know, as long
as you said on the other side of the room
with the dog, that's fine. As soon as he whipped
out that needle towards my wife, goodbye, he went. We
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took uh, we took a step outside.
Speaker 1 (26:55):
Absolutely absolutely, Hey, dude, I appreciate the phone call.
Speaker 2 (26:58):
Thank you, my friend, thank you. Hey, you do the same.
I like the idea of decorating the room, but.
Speaker 3 (27:04):
I was never a surprise, as Eliot that you didn't
take the lead to design some sort of.
Speaker 2 (27:10):
Interior esthetic would have never crossed my mind.
Speaker 5 (27:11):
I've been thinking about like six backups in case Thanksgiving
doesn't work out.
I was just reading about like hospice and stuff, and
I didn't It didn't dawn on me, and I didn't
remember until after reading about it. But you know what
part I never remember is that when you're in when
you're in hospice, you can eat whatever you want, Okay,
But now I vividly remember my dad wanted a hamburger
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and a coke.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
I love that, and they were like, go get it
for him.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
Yeah, whatever he wants.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Yeah, and I remember we got him a We got
him a My dad was a burger king guy. Sorry
McDonald's if you're listening, the uh, I don't want to
think I'm cheating on him.
Speaker 4 (00:36):
The he was.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
They have their receipts, they were. He was a burger
king guy. So we went and got him a whopper
and a coke. I think he took like two bites
of the of the burger and that was it. But
I remember thinking at the time, like this is weird,
Like you're not because you think like somebody's really sick
and you know, huh yeah, but if.
Speaker 5 (00:57):
They don't have an appetite even just that, which I'm
sure for him was like super pleasurable.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
The you know what, I don't remember, and I didn't
even remember.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
That was when I saw the headline that was like
eat and drink whatever you want, Like if they wanted
to say again, no, no, they may they may do
something where it's like I was, so I was reading
about there was somebody who was talking about one of
their loved ones and their their loved one who was
in hospice loved crem brew lay, loved crem brew lay
like that was their thing. And they were like, we
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couldn't give them like the torched part on top, but
we gave them the like.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
The yeah, I mean that's a that's a bit, that's
a bit much.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
So they gave them the like, the the the like
the soft creamy part, the pudding. Almost couldn't uh that's
underneath that. They loved it. Now did they eat the
whole thing? No, but they ate it.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
But you're concerned about your dad choking.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
No, he's surrounded well two things. Number one, he was
surrounded by doctors. Number one.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
No, that's that staff doesn't have to give you a
thumbs up to Okay.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
A meal, yeah, whatever you want. Wow, that's the thumbs up.
Now they may go hey, listen, like like I was
reading about somebody who was they got spaghetti and meatballs
was a great choice.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
That's much better than a burger and a coke.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
But they were like, just make sure, like don't give
them like a big old pulpet, like, you know, let's
cut it up a little bit. So I mean, you
got to be I mean, also, you know what they're
capable of doing.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
I know, but that.
Speaker 3 (02:30):
Would be a strange twist if you were told and
had a meal approved and instead of just seeing their
time out in hospice, they choked to death.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
Whoops.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
The you know another one that was really good that
I was reading about, and they said, for a lot
of people, it does turn into like comfort number one
comfort food or number two foods that always brought them happiness,
which in some cases could be the same thing.
Speaker 3 (03:00):
Does they connect it to something like there's a nostalgic
childhood memory or something.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
The spaghetti and meatballs one was for them.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
They loved it, but they loved it because when they
grew up there was always like the.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
We I don't know if it was like Friday night
or Saturday night.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
But from the time that they were a kid, they
always with their parents, they always had spaghetti and meatballs
for dinner, and that they passed that on as they
became older with their family they would have like Friday
nights spaghetti and meatballs or whatever.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
So it was kind of ceremonial.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
Now at hospice, I don't know if it was a
Friday night, but it was like that.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
That reminds me of family.
Speaker 3 (03:34):
That's great.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
I love that. I love that.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
And they said the other thing, that's good. So say,
for example, that was like Diane's in hospice, right, and
we bring our spaghetti and meatballs. That for some people
it's also a it's also a nice way. So that
now in the future, whenever I go to like car
Mines or something, I get spaghetti and meatballs, it reminds
me of Diane. I never thought of that either, because
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if I'm being real honest, it's not like every time
I go to Burger King, I think of my dad.
Speaker 3 (04:06):
Yes, you always got McDonald's.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
I would.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
I hope they heard that part the but yeah, like
I never connected that, but they said for a lot
of people it does.
Speaker 6 (04:14):
Now.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
He had you said one or two bites of the hamburger?
Did he have the.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
Drink every last drop?
Speaker 1 (04:20):
My dad loved coke Fountain loved coke.
Speaker 3 (04:25):
This is every last drop. It's not morbid, but I
it's not morbid because I can't stand the coverage of uh,
the last meal on death row. I I just really
hate when the news makes a big deal out of that. This,
to me is so much better. I mean, it is
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kind of your last meal, but it's stop. It's for
a lot different reasons. You're facing death. Yeah, right, this
there's a there's something very possible.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
Well, they do people know that?
Speaker 1 (05:00):
Like if if if if people have somebody in hospice,
is that a well known thing?
Speaker 3 (05:05):
Like well the staff tell you whatever they want when
they want and if there's something that you know or
do they do they not want you to guess what
would bring that person comfort and and enjoy?
Speaker 2 (05:17):
Well the nurse doesn't know, No, no, do they do
they want?
Speaker 3 (05:21):
Like are you I understand that your your communication may
be limited as the as the patient, right, but would
they rather come from from their.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Mouths they're able as opposed to me going, oh, my
dad really likes so let me do that, like he
requested that, you said, I mean, yeah, I mean, listen,
my dad couldn't talk really well at the end so
it came out. He was emphatic about what he wanted,
and it kind of came out like murder and a coke,
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So like I knew the coke part, the hamburgers an afterthought,
I probably have some nea.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
So I don't know. I don't know the answer to that.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
I don't know if it's something that I'm guessing of,
like you know, hey, this this may this may be
good or if it if it is by request. But
I don't remember, like again trying to think back. It
was so long ago, I don't remember. I don't remember
the staff saying anything. I don't even remember like even
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thinking like am I allowed to do this or not
do that?
Speaker 2 (06:24):
Like that, I don't remember.
Speaker 3 (06:26):
With no first experience, I would have just assumed, and
I guess I did before this morning, that it's basically
like hospital ish food. Oh yeah, that's what you've been
having anyway you would, I.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
Would just think it's all fluids and stuff and then
ensure insure where it's just like pure liquid nutrition. And
when I when I saw the thing it says in
hospice you can eat and drink whatever you want. That
it wasn't until I even saw that that had jogged
my memory of my dad getting a hamburger and a
coke in hospice.
Speaker 3 (06:55):
I love that story.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
Oh it's great, it's great.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
There was even one, and I don't I don't know,
check with your local hospice.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
I don't know that all of them are the same,
but there was one there.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
There was a story about one one person whose family
member was in hospice and they were talking about how
they were on morphine right, which which is common, and
the morphine was giving the patient, the loved one like
a bad taste in their mouth, like it just I
don't know, maybe that happens to a lot of people
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or nothing.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
I have no idea.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
But gave him like a really bad taste in their
mouth and hated it, hated it. But his dad loved
his dad loved whiskey, so they were able to do alcohol.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
What's it gonna do?
Speaker 5 (07:42):
I was gonna say, there better be a margerite on
my tray, rock salt.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
But they were able to.
Speaker 3 (07:51):
Rock salt.
Speaker 2 (07:52):
That brain is frozen. But they were putting.
Speaker 1 (07:55):
Now they he wasn't, he wasn't doing shots, but they
were able to the staff. It drops of Again, I
don't know that you might want to check with They
were putting drops of whiskey in his morphine so that
he would get a whiskey taste in his mouth.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
Wow, they would How awesome is that?
Speaker 5 (08:12):
I was thinking they would they would help him, like
take a little sip from a straw.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
No, they were putting it into to change the taste.
And again, I don't know if it weren't. I have
no idea, but it made it made them happy. Like
I don't know if it's psychosomatic. Right where the guy
and I don't know how with it he was anyway,
but where it was like, yeah, this is awesome.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
I had no idea. I had no clue.
Speaker 3 (08:35):
Bobby writes, So when my mom was in hospice, to
see her eat anything was good. So whatever she wanted,
if she was able to consume it, it was a
pleasure to see.
Speaker 7 (08:45):
Right.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
And they do say that, well, I mean, think about it,
think about it as you go through life, and listen,
I'll vouch for it. Food is pleasure. Food is pleasure,
like you seek out what you like, you have, you
have like this sea and meatball family.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
Like that's family. Food is life.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
I mean, obviously it keeps you alive, but you know
what I mean, Like, it's pleasure. You go try something new,
it's fun. You go out on a date, and then
you have a great meal.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
It's fun. So why stop looking for that pleasure?
Speaker 3 (09:18):
From Randall? Starbus jelly beans or my dad's last meal
in hospice.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
Oh that's awesome.
Speaker 3 (09:24):
I absolutely love them. And that's what he wanted and that's.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
What he got. That's awesome. I love that. I don't
who was that from Randall? Yes, tell me you did
him as solid.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
It gave him a red or an orange and you
didn't feed him Like did you tell me you didn't
go gettar starburs? You were like, I like the reds
and the oranges, so I hope he likes pink and yellow.
Speaker 3 (09:45):
This is from Tricia. This sounds like you, Eliott. My
mom asked for coffee. I would want that, and she
wanted it to be made by my uncle because he
would know exactly how she liked it.
Speaker 2 (09:57):
Love it, love it.
Speaker 1 (09:59):
It really is like someone's last meal, but in a
good way, in a joyous way.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
Oh, I'll tell you right now. I bet I won't
be able to get enough of these stories as they're
coming in.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
There was somebody else who really liked candy, like they
just they loved candy.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
That was their thing. But they couldn't chew. Oh yeah, no,
you know what they did. This is genius.
Speaker 3 (10:21):
They grind it up for them.
Speaker 1 (10:22):
No, no, no, tub of cotton candy melts.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
In your mouth.
Speaker 3 (10:30):
That's good.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
How genius is that.
Speaker 1 (10:34):
But they said you got to be careful depending on
what their condition is, like a lot of people mashed potatoes.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
Mashed potatoes is comfort food, man.
Speaker 3 (10:42):
But you're telling me, yes, you may have to be
careful for the actual consumption itself. But you said it
doesn't matter. It can be anything in hospice. I'll give
you the sentence again. In hospice, you eat and drink
what you want. Yeah, they're putting whiskey in a morphine drip.
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You said, check with your local hospice.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
Yes for that one.
Speaker 3 (11:06):
Yeah, you said that was a dropper.
Speaker 1 (11:08):
The Yeah, no, they put droppers into the into the
morphine that was on the tongue. No, they put it
into the drill. Oh I misunderstood that. Yeah, no, right
in through here. Yeah, oh, I love it, love it.
Line eight, Hi elliot in the morning. I also have
started putting together my list, like Diane, you want a
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margarita that's on your that that's what you want.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
I mean, I'll do it for you.
Speaker 5 (11:33):
What else am I having with my nachos? And I
need write it down?
Speaker 2 (11:38):
Chips?
Speaker 1 (11:39):
No?
Speaker 3 (11:39):
Well, yeah, write it down.
Speaker 5 (11:40):
I need Uncle Julio's salsa, specifically that smoky chipotle stuff.
That's the salsa. I want to be the last taste
in my lips when I die. Nachos and a margarita
rock salt.
Speaker 3 (11:54):
But do you want frozen?
Speaker 1 (11:55):
I may not be I may not be able to
do the salt, not so much because it's bad for
your soa. But no, just like that's a lot to
get down. That's a lot to get down. Can I
ask you this though?
Speaker 2 (12:05):
Do you just want.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
Chips and the Uncle Julio's salsa or do you want
like nachos with like cheese I don't like.
Speaker 3 (12:14):
Yeah, I want the salsa for sure, but I need
cheese too.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
Write okay, but do you want sour cream avocado? Can
I get you back? Or yeah, guawk, I'd be okay.
As long as I'm with the ring steaks.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
As long as I have the cheese and that specific salsa,
I'm good.
Speaker 1 (12:32):
Now. I just I'm the only request that I'm gonna
have to make for you is that you don't go
into hospice by the Uncle Julio's in Arlington where I
stomped the chips. Other than that, I got you covered.
I would do that for you. I would do that
for you. I already know what I want. What I
have a long list. Actually, like I hope I'm carter
and I'm in hospice for a while because I have
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a lot of food. No, but I really like the
spaghetti and meatball story of it being like a family thing.
Speaker 2 (13:01):
Yeah, I want Thanksgiving, Oh.
Speaker 3 (13:04):
Like full Thanksgiving, all of that.
Speaker 2 (13:07):
I'm going out. What do he die of?
Speaker 1 (13:08):
Oh? He just ate too much? The No, I want
Thanksgiving dinner. I want Menino to cook Thanksgiving dinner.
Speaker 3 (13:15):
So that's I mean, quite the spread.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Usually I'm sorry, Steve's got Steve's got more time than
I do.
Speaker 5 (13:22):
You know, But I'm saying like, usually when you're in hospice,
it's like your your your dad only had like two bites.
That's what I'm saying, Like you need to narrow it
down to a specific thing that a couple If you
only get a couple of bites, that's how you're going out.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
I have a couple of bites of turkey. I'll have
a couple of bites of salmon. I have a couple
of bites of savice. I'll have a couple of bites.
Speaker 3 (13:43):
You got to tell everybody what's on your normal menu? Absolutely,
because is there anything but normal? You know, I'm crushing
a devil d egg or two.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
Yeah, I mean, I want Menino to cook Thanksgiving dinner
for my hospice meal.
Speaker 3 (13:55):
But what would because Diane's right, you're not touching everything
of that Thanksgiving menu. If you only get one or
two bites of one thing, what would it be? Because
I'm gonna tell Steve, Hey, that's all you need to make.
I don't go crazy.
Speaker 2 (14:12):
You know, I don't know that. That's a great question.
I don't know the answer to that. It may be
the no.
Speaker 1 (14:16):
You know, well, I really like the The sausage bread
is always very good. That's that's dope stuff they get.
No not stuffing, although the stuffing is great. No sausage bread.
It's one of the appetizers.
Speaker 3 (14:28):
Do they speak to the breakdown of home cooked versus
prepared or a restaurant?
Speaker 1 (14:34):
Uh? That I didn't see that. I that I didn't
see if they did, I didn't, I didn't see that.
I'm sorry you're eavesdropping online.
Speaker 3 (14:40):
Eight.
Speaker 2 (14:40):
Who's this?
Speaker 1 (14:42):
Hi?
Speaker 2 (14:43):
This is Kelsey, Yes, Kelsey. What can I do for you?
Speaker 8 (14:47):
I was just calling to tell a funny story. My
mom was actually on hospice twice and the first time
she was on, she was adamant that she was getting
We were going to take her to Mabels and Palatan
and crazy shakes, So we tried to like disguise, like
five guys burger and a shake, and she knew it
was not right and she was very adamant. So we
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had a couple people help us out, and Mabel's actually
came to our house. We lived south of Richmond and
Prince George, and they had a whole setup for us,
and all the employees came. The Sheriff of Palatan drove
them down pen. She loved it. She had the best time.
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She ate the whole, the whole thing. And she actually
graduated hospice not long after that, but she passed away
in twenty twenty two.
Speaker 2 (15:38):
Well, I'm sorry about that.
Speaker 1 (15:39):
Can I can I ask you something I didn't know
people graduate from I never heard.
Speaker 8 (15:42):
That it's very rare, apparently because the people that came
to pick up her equipment were kind of shocked. They
were like, oh, we don't usually see.
Speaker 1 (15:51):
This happening, right, did that when she, like you said,
she she went back in twice?
Speaker 2 (15:56):
Did she go back to the same joint?
Speaker 8 (15:58):
Yeah, well so it was in him hoste.
Speaker 2 (16:01):
I got cha, I got her, Yeah, by the way down.
Speaker 8 (16:05):
It was great experience. But yeah, she was.
Speaker 1 (16:08):
Love that they brought the food. Diane, do you want
me to have Uncle Julio's come in? If you die
on your birthday, they'll sing four now.
Speaker 2 (16:19):
All right, very good.
Speaker 8 (16:20):
Chanel six Actually Channel six did a news story on it.
You can actually look it up.
Speaker 2 (16:24):
That's awesome. I like that, thank you, ma'am.
Speaker 3 (16:27):
Yes, Tyler from Rachel on Facebook. We were told to
put some whiskey on a sponge. Nanny sucked down every
last drop. But wouldn't you think like you're not allowed
to do that. Yes, and check with your local hospice.
But I love that you can honestly shove a sponge
(16:50):
of Jack Daniels in my mouth.
Speaker 1 (16:52):
Like that's great, that's awesome. All right, So Diane's getting nachos.
I'm doing Thanksgiving? What are you getting?
Speaker 3 (17:02):
Give me time?
Speaker 2 (17:03):
Oh there's something like wwe related.
Speaker 3 (17:07):
Yes, the branded ice cream.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
Oh a slim gym Oh yeah, where am I going?
Speaker 2 (17:16):
Lying six? Hi Elliot in the morning.
Speaker 9 (17:20):
Hi Elliot, it's Catherine.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
Hey Catherine, what can I do for you?
Speaker 4 (17:24):
So I called because my mother still has the bottle
that my grandfather requested while he was in hospice, in
the hospital of whiskey that they put a prescription label
on to ensure that it had his name and the
directions of how much whiskey he was allowed to have
as he was going through the end of life. And
(17:44):
my mother keeps it in a cabinet at her house
and with all of the ashes and memorabilia and things
like that.
Speaker 2 (17:51):
But it's awesome.
Speaker 9 (17:54):
Yeah, we had never heard of, like you said, never heard.
Speaker 4 (17:58):
Of them allowing that at hospice.
Speaker 9 (18:00):
But just have the prescription label with his.
Speaker 1 (18:03):
Name on it.
Speaker 4 (18:04):
It's definitely a keepsake in our family.
Speaker 1 (18:06):
He was he was he I mean not allowed to.
I mean you can do whatever. It's hospice, eat and
drink whatever you want the like. Was he able to
have like whiskey every single day?
Speaker 3 (18:17):
Yes?
Speaker 9 (18:17):
Yes, And they were mini bottles like you'd have just
a mini bottle like you get at a hotel with
his name prescription label as I guess they limited it
a little bit.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
It wasn't a fifth, But that's great. That's good. I
love that.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
I love that good for good for him and good
for the family. And I do like and that that
is kind of the thank you, ma'am. That is kind
of the like getting to keep the bottle. I understand that,
But that is akin to like now every time I
have spaghetti and meatballs, I think of Nanny or whatever
it is.
Speaker 2 (18:49):
I like that. That's cool.
Speaker 3 (18:52):
Is that sort of want to make me explore for
the cases where I was younger and not really granted
access or really kind of kept in the dark as
to what was happening for family members that were sick
like this but perhaps had a last meal to learn
what they had. I'm now interested knowing that they could
(19:15):
have had anything what they picked.
Speaker 1 (19:16):
But is that I like, does that does that go
like his? How far back does it go where it's
like eat or drink whatever you want. But I mean, listen,
my dad died forever ago. We got him a burger,
so it's probably been going on forever. But at some
point a doctor was like, seriously, you're gonna worry about
whether he has blueberry pie.
Speaker 2 (19:32):
That's what somebody else had.
Speaker 1 (19:33):
And remember which, by the way, every every story I
read about that, I was like, oh my god, that
sounds awesome. There was some dude who crushed Shepherd's pie.
I was like, now we're talking that's heavy eating.
Speaker 3 (19:43):
Drink whatever you want is the rule. Now, back in
the day, weren't people smoking in there with you?
Speaker 2 (19:50):
That down cigarettes?
Speaker 3 (19:52):
If anything, it was probably I don't know how it
could be, but looser back then, years ago.
Speaker 2 (19:58):
You could smoke, but we prefer you not in a
blueberry pie.
Speaker 3 (20:01):
Don't do it near the Oxiden.
Speaker 1 (20:05):
Line. One.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
Hi, elliot in the morning.
Speaker 7 (20:08):
Hey, good morning, How are you good.
Speaker 2 (20:10):
Who's this?
Speaker 7 (20:12):
My name's Rachel.
Speaker 2 (20:13):
Yes, Rachel. What can I do for you?
Speaker 9 (20:16):
So?
Speaker 7 (20:16):
I did hospice. I was a CNA at that time
doing hospice, and long story short, you can do whatever
the heck you want, and especially if you have like
the wright nurse or like CNA that's working with you,
you can do whatever. It's limitless. But I had this
(20:36):
specific patient and when I met her, I said, so,
what do you want me to do for you since
you're able bodied. And she said, I want you to
take me out and light my cigarette for me every
day and then take care of my kitty litter box.
So I got paid to do that for like two
hours every single day.
Speaker 2 (20:58):
Dude, tag me in, I'll go out and smoke with
the guy. I know.
Speaker 7 (21:01):
It was cold as hell too, and I was like,
I guess I'll take you out here, I'll light your cigarette. Okay,
all right, you're good.
Speaker 6 (21:09):
It was awesome.
Speaker 2 (21:10):
And she would go outside and smoke.
Speaker 7 (21:13):
All the time. Every single meal she refused to eat
her meal, she would smoke her cigarette.
Speaker 2 (21:20):
I said, I got you.
Speaker 7 (21:21):
And none of the other people in the facility wanted
to take her out because they didn't want to be
around cigarette smoke.
Speaker 2 (21:26):
I said, I'm dying. Hey, can I ask you this.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
It sounds like you were doing home home hospice, which
is fine, but is it like, do do hospice whether
it's an in facility or or at home? Do hospice
nurses like make it clear, like whatever you want, Like
we're like it's free ball game, let's go.
Speaker 9 (21:49):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (21:50):
Basically that's what I told my patients, said, whatever you
want me to do.
Speaker 9 (21:53):
You want me to do jumping.
Speaker 8 (21:54):
Jacks right here go, I'll do it.
Speaker 7 (21:57):
Whatever you want. It's your dying wish.
Speaker 1 (21:59):
Wow, you're good Egg, You're good Egg. I appreciate it.
Thank you, ma'am.
Speaker 3 (22:03):
Yes, Kyler from Elsie. My mom was Coca Cola two,
but she wanted him cold and in glass bottles from
the last six pack I got her. She had four
of them and I still have the last two. That's awesome.
Speaker 2 (22:20):
That's awesome.
Speaker 3 (22:21):
Now I like that the second part of the story.
Somehow this meal you can't keep a whopper and a wrapper.
And I'm assuming that coke was in like a throwaway cup.
Speaker 1 (22:33):
Uh yeah, like I don't remember it, being like my
dad was not so specific where it's like ice cold
glass bottle.
Speaker 2 (22:39):
Yeah no.
Speaker 3 (22:39):
But if there's a keepsake, I'm liking that too. This
is the last three and a Ultra lights pack. But
now I'm thinking too much. If I were to pick something, well,
there's got to be something that they can say from
the meal. So now I have imposed rules on myself.
Speaker 1 (22:59):
When you kept telling me eat and drink whatever you want,
like ever you want a line five, I'm with you, though,
these stories are awesome, Like I really like these, Hi
Elliott in the.
Speaker 10 (23:11):
Morning, Morning Mike from seven, Hey you don't guys, Hey.
Speaker 2 (23:15):
I'm doing great. What's going on, dude?
Speaker 10 (23:17):
My father in law passed away about five years ago,
and I when he was hot in hospice, I snuck
in this bottle of Jack. And I wasn't sure, you know,
if it was a loud or not, but I didn't care,
and I just, uh, he couldn't speak, he couldn't really
do much of anything.
Speaker 6 (23:32):
He's just lay laying there, and sure.
Speaker 10 (23:34):
Enough, I put this sponge of of Jack Daniels on
his lips and tongue, and holy cow, he lit up
like a firefly. He's like like he recognized the flavor.
His eyes lit up. Only the family just like what
what the heck happened here? He's like waving like bring
me more.
Speaker 5 (23:51):
Gives me more than he.
Speaker 2 (23:52):
Couldn't prove it all.
Speaker 10 (23:53):
Now he's like, gives me more. And I'm just wiping
Jack Daniels all over his lips and dunk and he's
lightened it up.
Speaker 2 (23:59):
Heyst Oh, that's great.
Speaker 3 (24:02):
That's great.
Speaker 1 (24:02):
When you when you when you snuck that bottle in,
like did the did you ever did you ever say
anything to the nurses where they were like, yeah, it's fine,
just bring it in.
Speaker 2 (24:10):
Nobody cares. Nobody here cares.
Speaker 10 (24:12):
Nah, nah, I just went for it.
Speaker 6 (24:13):
I didn't care.
Speaker 10 (24:14):
I was going for it any either way.
Speaker 6 (24:16):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (24:17):
I love it. Good for you, and thank you, my friend,
thank you.
Speaker 3 (24:21):
I think that's also a string that's connected a lot
of these that the taste needs to be unmistakable. So
whether it was the coffee that was prepared by the
uncle because he knew how to make it, like, you
can't just say, oh, they want coffee or they want meatballs.
I think you need to make sure the person preparing
(24:42):
it knows exactly what they want, or if it's obviously
restaurant fast food, it's gonna taste the same anyway.
Speaker 2 (24:46):
Not true, Not true.
Speaker 1 (24:47):
The coffee at my seven eleven is much better than
some of the other coffees.
Speaker 3 (24:51):
At seven elevens.
Speaker 2 (24:52):
Yes, oh yeah, my guy knows what he's.
Speaker 3 (24:54):
Doing, Okay, other than Elliott, Right, you would like to
make sure if if you can get that spark, that
would be a pretty special final moment.
Speaker 1 (25:03):
Could you imagine me like like tap dancing in there
because I got some coffee and at Jack Daniels.
Speaker 3 (25:09):
Graduating and.
Speaker 1 (25:16):
Love.
Speaker 3 (25:17):
We saw that coffee in the afternoon his whole life.
Speaker 1 (25:21):
Hi Elliot in the morning, Yeah, Hi.
Speaker 2 (25:24):
Real quick. What can I do for you, sir?
Speaker 6 (25:27):
Hey Simon put fairbacks. When my wife was in hospice
a couple of years ago, we made sure that her
dog could come and hang out in the room with
us the entire time we did inpatient hospice, and her
friend came in and decorated the entire place in an
underwater scheme and completely changed the room so it didn't
(25:48):
look like a hospital room.
Speaker 1 (25:50):
Oh you know what, We didn't do that for my dad, Like,
nobody decorated the room. Yeah, that we didn't do. I
was out fetching fast food all the time. The but
they let you, they let you bring the dog in.
Speaker 6 (26:05):
Yeah.
Speaker 8 (26:05):
No.
Speaker 6 (26:06):
She was thirty three at the time and uh, about
half the age of everybody else in the place, and
uh she uh, we just brought him in and nobody
said a thing. The funniest thing they were doing a
Perian's thesis to drain her belly to make it more
comfortable for her. Sure, and that the doctor came in
(26:28):
and his name, he introduced himself as doctor Hatchett, and
he told us that, hey, I'm going to do this.
I asked, do we need to get out of the
room because I have the dog with me. He said, no,
as long as the dog stays, you know, as long
as you said on the other side of the room
with the dog, that's fine. As soon as he whipped
out that needle towards my wife, goodbye, he went. We
(26:51):
took uh, we took a step outside.
Speaker 1 (26:55):
Absolutely absolutely, Hey, dude, I appreciate the phone call.
Speaker 2 (26:58):
Thank you, my friend, thank you. Hey, you do the same.
I like the idea of decorating the room, but.
Speaker 3 (27:04):
I was never a surprise, as Eliot that you didn't
take the lead to design some sort of.
Speaker 2 (27:10):
Interior esthetic would have never crossed my mind.
Speaker 5 (27:11):
I've been thinking about like six backups in case Thanksgiving
doesn't work out.
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