#867: Dr. Becky Kennedy — Parenting Strategies for Raising Resilient Kids, Plus Word-for-Word Scripts for Repairing Relationships, Setting Boundaries, and More (Repost)

Dr. Becky Kennedy is the founder and CEO of Good Inside, a parenting movement that overturns a lot of conventional, modern parenting practices to empower parents to become sturdy, confident leaders and raise sturdy, confident kids. She is the author of the bestselling book Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be, a chart-topping podcast, a TED talk with more than 5 million views on the power of repair.

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This episode was originally published in December 2024. Show notes and links: https://tim.blog/2024/12/27/dr-becky-kennedy-good-inside/

TIMESTAMPS:

[00:00:00] Start.

[00:01:55] The power of repair.

[00:04:50] "It's never your fault when I yell at you."

[00:08:55] What does it mean to be a "good" parent?

[00:10:32] Activating curiosity over judgment.

[00:13:33] Alternatives to saying "Good job" as a confidence builder.

[00:20:50] Making kids happy vs. building capability.

[00:24:18] A pilot metaphor for sturdy leadership.

[00:29:30] Role confusion.

[00:32:04] Defining boundaries.

[00:35:07] How parenting becomes a two-way mirror for growth.

[00:40:09] The MGI (Most Generous Interpretation) approach.

[00:42:52] Biggest challenges in parenting.

[00:46:52] Recommended reading for someone with kids in their life.

[00:52:11] Advisable prerequisites for singles who aim to build a family.

[00:56:18] Setting boundaries with grandparents and dealing with different parenting styles.

[01:01:42] Handling frustration when a child is pushing your buttons.

[01:09:58] Lessons learned from working with eating disorders.

[01:13:26] Managing troublemaker behavior.

[01:17:38] Bad influence intervention.

[01:22:52] Cultivating resilience in "deeply feeling" kids (DFKs).

[01:28:58] The trials and errors that birthed Good Inside.

[01:32:53] "Our words are not our wishes. Our words are our fears."

[01:40:07] Billboard messages and mantras.

[01:48:00] Fan-favorite scripts on saying no, boundaries, and repair.

[01:51:15] The tennis court metaphor for boundaries.

[01:55:45] Resources and parting thoughts.

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