July 17, 2025 • 38 mins
We still have SO many questions about Becca’s engagement and she’s ready to spill the answers!
Will they do a first look?? Who will walk down the aisle first? IS TAYLOR INVITED??
Plus we tread with trepidation into the MOH discussion.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Scrubbing In with Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio and
two times People's Choice Award winning podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
Hello everybody, we're scrubbing in.
Speaker 3 (00:19):
As we clop clop.
Speaker 4 (00:21):
I love it.
Speaker 5 (00:22):
Yeah, I too. That's a tone. Yeah, it's a vibe.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
So, as we said in Monday's episode, we are doing
a little continuation of Q and A for the proposal.
Speaker 4 (00:37):
Quite a deluge of questions.
Speaker 3 (00:40):
Yeah, wow.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
Well, the thing is is that we weren't anticipating doing
a Q and A last week, but you asked the
scrubbing in, so they had very limited time to submit
their questions. So we got to what we could and
then and then we were like, we'll do a part two.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
So many good ones here, so many good ones, so
many good ones.
Speaker 4 (01:00):
Mark and Easton find out pretty much when the Instagram. Yeah,
and then I found out when Sam called me. I
was driving in for the podcast and Sam the producer
called me and told me. Easton saw on Instagram. Yeah,
I was.
Speaker 6 (01:14):
I was recording are you a Charlotte and the other
and said, oh my god, you have to go to
Burbank immediately.
Speaker 4 (01:22):
I did.
Speaker 3 (01:23):
I Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
I It was interesting because when we told we told
like called people, and then that was kind of it.
We were just like stayed off social media and then
we're like, we'll announce it, you know, crying.
Speaker 5 (01:37):
Oh did you did you hear crack in her voice?
Speaker 3 (01:39):
I didn't.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
No, just moving one that really crat.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
You'll make me cry.
Speaker 4 (01:47):
Well, they didn't be officiating. I think that's an excellent choice.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
That's great. Do you feel like I feel like you'd
cry the whole time?
Speaker 6 (01:57):
I came it together. I've done it befo for I've
done it two or three times, so I'm a pro.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
I need some footage. We're gonna need an audition.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
No, actually I've I've That's been interesting because the actual
ceremony feels super far away.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
But we were thinking, like thinking, you're going to think
about it.
Speaker 5 (02:18):
Yeah, that's far You're still gonna like that idea.
Speaker 6 (02:22):
Well, I'm here, available and willing should you want it.
And I'm sure there's a lot of people that might.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
Be at the wedding regardless of you're if there's a
role or maybe flower girl or something.
Speaker 5 (02:34):
Yes, what other names have you been tossing around?
Speaker 2 (02:45):
We had a few names we tossed around. Robbie, Yeah, Cigar,
that would be great.
Speaker 4 (02:50):
Too.
Speaker 2 (02:50):
We tossed around Jordan Rogers. Yeah, we had a few
just like names that we th are out there of
like people who know us and would be able to
make get personable, but also like have the attention of
the room and didn't go too deep into like inside
jokes or anything. Like I really feel like Ryan did
such a great job. It felt very much geared towards job,
but not like inside jokes where everyone's like okay.
Speaker 3 (03:14):
But I don't get it right right, So yeah, I
love that idea. Ring bears.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
On behalf of my husband who is not here. I
would like to say I think he would do an
amazing job.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (03:30):
Yeah, well listen, there's a lot of time, so there's.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
Yeah, if there's someone who can give a good moving speech,
oh my gosh.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Even on the call to them, Robbie is like I
just want to say, oh yeah, and we all are
like sobbing, even him, He's like I'm gonna cry.
Speaker 3 (03:47):
But he was just like the most emotional speech.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
I was like, what, Well, he did know you guys
were getting engaged, so he had some time where I
was just like crying hysterically saying like and he's like,
I just want to say all I have y'all, you
skipped one that I wanted to get to after calling
(04:12):
Tanya and Robbie, who was next on your list to call.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
I don't remember specifically the order, but it was I
called Ali Jojo.
Speaker 5 (04:26):
Well, if you don't remember the order, then I mean
it's allid wash. All I know is that was first.
Speaker 3 (04:33):
I knew it wouldn't mean as much to anyone else,
but you, who is going.
Speaker 4 (04:38):
To be the most into wedding planning. Does one of
you not really care take a back seat and the
decision making? Are you equally interested and excited and invested
in the details, Tanya, that's the correct answer.
Speaker 2 (04:52):
I think there will be more into the details, like
the really minute details, I think. But I think we'll
both be prett into it in our own ways, Like
I'll be curious to see where she did mention wanting
to do a choreographed dance and I had.
Speaker 3 (05:06):
To shut that down, come on together, and then I go.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
But if you want to do if it feels important
for you to do one by yourself, then I have
I also bort you.
Speaker 4 (05:16):
How's she doing by herself?
Speaker 3 (05:18):
Got some backup dancers? But no, I think we'll both
be pretty involved way.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
She's more organized than like a planner about things. So
if anything, I think she'll have to kind of keep
me on track with like the timing and like make delines.
Speaker 3 (05:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (05:35):
Oh I hated those.
Speaker 3 (05:36):
I know, I know.
Speaker 5 (05:37):
I just hated reading the contracts.
Speaker 3 (05:39):
That was like, didn't Robbie read the contract? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Yeah, I still had to like look over them and
be like, did you read the contract.
Speaker 5 (05:50):
And what do you think about it?
Speaker 4 (05:54):
Will you coordinate wedding attire? Of course, it's traditional to
not see the bridal look before the wedding day, but
what if your choice is clash or what if they're identical,
You're gonna have to see each other's looks.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
Uh No, We'll probably just have someone who who knows
both of them and can say, like you, you can't
do that too similar. But we have such different style
that I don't see us gravitating towards the same thing.
Speaker 4 (06:15):
Tony and Robbie saw each other before their first look. Yes,
where you have a first look, or where you see
each other at the altar for the first time.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
I've always been so torn about this because I love
the idea of having the intimate moment together of just
being us seeing each other and.
Speaker 3 (06:31):
Like getting to take it in without having an audience watching.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
But then there's something about like seeing each other going
down the aisle for the first time and seeing it.
Speaker 3 (06:42):
So I don't know, because it was so I got
to watch Altz First Look, which I loved.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
Popcorn watching Our First Look, you asked us, No, no,
I liked it. But I also think that the other
pro that nobody really talks about is like, I wasn't
nervous at all leading out to my wedding until like
the half hour before the ceremony, when like you know,
everybody is at cocktail hour and everybody is like there
waiting for you. That's when I got really nervous. And
(07:09):
having Robbie like with me there was like very calming.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
Yeah, I know, so that will be I I could
see us going either way for that.
Speaker 5 (07:20):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
Right.
Speaker 4 (07:21):
If Taylor Swift invited to the wedding, She's always invited
this show right now invitation?
Speaker 3 (07:29):
Yeah, who will walk.
Speaker 4 (07:30):
Down the aisle first? Or will you walk down together?
Speaker 7 (07:33):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (07:33):
Good question.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
This is interesting because I've I've also seen weddings where
the people the bride and groom are bride and brider
groom and groom walk from each end of the aisle
towards each other, and so they're in the middle of everyone.
Speaker 3 (07:50):
Which I think would be really cool.
Speaker 2 (07:52):
We might have to come up with something not necessarily
like traditional to see, but we probably both walked down
the aisle like you know how normally the Yeah, Robbie
walked on first. Yeah.
Speaker 6 (08:02):
Yeah, we did it together and it was very Yeah,
I'll never forget that moment. It was very special.
Speaker 3 (08:13):
I love that.
Speaker 4 (08:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
Yeah, that's something to think about.
Speaker 4 (08:16):
When my sister married her wife, my sister was in
a more traditional Uh your.
Speaker 3 (08:21):
Sister married to a woman.
Speaker 5 (08:24):
Yeah, I never.
Speaker 4 (08:24):
Talked about this.
Speaker 5 (08:26):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (08:29):
Yeah. When Amy married Emily Amy, my sister was in
more of a vest and tie, where Emily was in
more of a traditional wedding dress. Do you see that
kind of a dynamic or no.
Speaker 3 (08:38):
I don't think Hayley wants because I asked.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
I was like, would you want to be more in
like a like kind of suit look, and she's like, no,
I think I want to be in a dress.
Speaker 3 (08:45):
So I mean, we'll see.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
She will probably get someone to design something or something
very unique for her, like a hybrid.
Speaker 5 (08:52):
Maybe.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
Yeah, I did not know that I'll show you some pictures.
Speaker 5 (08:57):
Wow, you know his wife's name is the same name.
Speaker 4 (09:01):
Yes. Do they get each other's like Venmo transactions random
sixty bucks on Venmo when you off the text mes Thursdays?
This for you? Yeah, I think so anyway, because you
would think there's want amy moments on Venmo. Right. Oh,
well there's the maid of honor conversation. Okay, we had
(09:24):
the big Becker versus Paulina quiz here and that was fun.
Like it will be a similar competition to be your
maid of honor.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
I don't think anyone will feel competitive over it.
Speaker 3 (09:34):
Minus Tony, I feel no competition. I don't feel but
I was still.
Speaker 5 (09:41):
You could do whatever you wanted.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
It's giving lies, it's giving trying to convince herself.
Speaker 4 (09:48):
She's above the phrase.
Speaker 5 (09:50):
First of all, I've already braced myself for this.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
I can show you the d MS of people like
in my family who have said, oh, are you going
to be the matron of honor? And I literally respond
and I said, as many sisters. So I'm gonna assume
that I'm not even in the bridal party.
Speaker 5 (10:05):
So I've set the bar.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
You're in the bridal party.
Speaker 1 (10:07):
Well, you have so many. First of all, you have
so many sisters. Hailey has a sister, and then you
have so many best friends. Is very lengthy, and I
don't see you as someone that's gonna have ten bridesmaids,
So the bar for me is very low.
Speaker 3 (10:23):
No, no, no, you'll definitely be in the wedding, in
the bridal party.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
But I also I was telling Haley that even like
I wasn't I wasn't JoJo's maid of honor, but I
did a lot of the things that a maid of
honor would do, even though like I didn't need the
title to like step up and do the do things
for her, if that makes sense.
Speaker 3 (10:45):
And I feel like you'll be that way whether you
have the title or not.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
But you're definitely You're You've really so far been a
very helpful If the energy is a little more relaxed
and I'm not stress about like making decisions, yeah, you'd
be an incredible made of honor.
Speaker 5 (11:06):
How stressed have I made you the last week?
Speaker 3 (11:08):
I mean, you're just always already asking about like wedding
dress shopping and stuff.
Speaker 5 (11:12):
Freezy, It's just breezy.
Speaker 3 (11:16):
Yeah, it's just you just like have the zoomies right now.
Speaker 5 (11:19):
Yeah, exactly. I think I will calm down. You're so right,
I have zoomies.
Speaker 3 (11:23):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
Yeah, by the time that rolls around, you'll be like
two kids in exhausted.
Speaker 3 (11:29):
Yeah, you're like, I don't I can't take this on.
Speaker 5 (11:34):
But really, so you get thoughts.
Speaker 3 (11:38):
Yeah, I mean I feel like I've had to think
about that.
Speaker 2 (11:40):
I feel like we've had this question about my hypothetical
made of honor for a very long time. So you're
definitely in the running.
Speaker 4 (11:49):
Well, we have to get to some questions about about
engagement photos, about cake, We have to talk about the
wedding first down, so much to talk about when we
come back.
Speaker 3 (12:19):
All right, we are.
Speaker 6 (12:23):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (12:24):
Now this is actually funny because the scrubber asks, did
you know before the previous episodes released The Dear Bonya
on July seventh? So we have to let you in
on a secret on that one julye that episode was
pre recorded before you left, before any of this.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
Yeah, the fourth of July, I was on my honeymoon.
Beccoes on her trip, so we pre recorded those episodes
before we left.
Speaker 4 (12:47):
July seventh, one for sure, because she goes, I could
tell you all were keeping secrets from us. I don't
think we.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
Were definitely we're not certainly were not that this is
our baseline. I suppose keeping secret.
Speaker 5 (12:58):
Or like giddy for vacation.
Speaker 7 (13:00):
Yeah, it's like, like, will you be incorporating a Taylor
Swift song into your wedding for the isle song or
maybe a first dance?
Speaker 4 (13:11):
Any thoughts on the songs?
Speaker 2 (13:14):
You know, Helen, I have very different music tastes, so
I don't know we'll have to there will be some
compromising not compromising, but more so like searching. She was
even thinking she was posting a video and was like,
we need some songs that we just have, like a
playlist of songs that that remind us of our relationship
or that we're both sure.
Speaker 4 (13:35):
You know, compromise is fair. I think I got a
Springsteen song into our wedding, and I was pretty excited
about that.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
I mean, if I can, I'm hoping Taylor Slips will
have some even new music about falling in love with
Travis Kelcey that I.
Speaker 3 (13:46):
Can be there. Yeah, an instrumental version.
Speaker 5 (13:51):
I love an instrumental.
Speaker 4 (13:52):
Version o the string quartet.
Speaker 5 (13:55):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (13:56):
Are you doing engagement photos? Whether it be an engagement party?
While I ever stopped crying when I see something about
your engagement. She said, that's very sweet.
Speaker 3 (14:04):
That's so sweet.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
So it was really thoughtful because Haley had the photographer
there for the proposal photos, and then the next day
we took like kind of engagement photos fresh and then
we're we'll probably do an engagement photo session here in
LA when we're not like sweaty and been the humidity
and maybe have it like styled and you know, makeup
(14:27):
and stuff.
Speaker 3 (14:28):
But it's that was really fun.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
Haley and I have never taken like professional photos together
outside of a red carpet, so we.
Speaker 3 (14:37):
Didn't know how to pose, Like we were having to
look up pines.
Speaker 2 (14:42):
How to pose, and especially like when you're trying to
show the ring, you have to put your hand in
really specific ways. And so and our photographer he does
like beautiful photos, but he had never done an engagement shoot.
Speaker 3 (14:54):
So we're just like the three Stewes trying to figure
that out. And what was the other question.
Speaker 5 (15:01):
About oh engagement party?
Speaker 2 (15:05):
Oh, I kind of felt like the dinner was like
an engagement party, but maybe we'll do something.
Speaker 5 (15:10):
What I thought the same.
Speaker 1 (15:12):
That's why, like when I was talking to Haley about
like doing the flowers and stuff like that. Like I
wanted to even do like the most because I was like, oh,
this is like your engagement party, but I think you'll
have like a proper one, like after you propose, and like, oh.
Speaker 3 (15:27):
I mean, I don't know what. What's an engagement party?
Like what's different from what we did?
Speaker 5 (15:32):
I mean nothing, it's just like more people.
Speaker 3 (15:35):
Oh oh so a bigger to do.
Speaker 2 (15:37):
Yeah yeah, that would make sense that after I proposed
to her.
Speaker 5 (15:40):
Yeah yeah, we never had one.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
Y'all's like our proposal was kind of like our engagement party.
Speaker 2 (15:49):
Okay, but not really not an engagement party. What those
things are?
Speaker 5 (15:52):
I thought that's what yours was? I thought so, But
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (15:56):
I'm learning a lot. I'm learning a lot.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
You could do whatever you want, Like, if you think
about it, you could have an you could have an
engagement party for you. You could have an engagement party for
when you get proposed to Haley. You can have I mean,
you could have what bridal showers or I mean that
it's endless what you can do. Truly, Yes, you just
get I think you just get tired and overwhelmed. Like
that's specifically, No, I think in general, just like as
(16:21):
a bride, like you get like, yeah, there's so many
things that you're like, there's only so many things I
want to plan, you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (16:26):
Exactly, I'm not much of a planner of those types
of things. So we'll see how I think if once
I propose, I'll have the excitement and stamina to like
do something.
Speaker 3 (16:39):
Yeah, but I thought this weekend was my engagement.
Speaker 1 (16:42):
Or maybe you can tack on and do something after
you propose to Haley kind of like what she did
for you this dinner, but maybe make that a little
bit bigger and then that could be your engagement party.
Speaker 3 (16:50):
Okay, Okay, do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (16:52):
So it's like kind of one job, yes, because you're
already put so much effort into the proposal, right, lop
it all in.
Speaker 5 (17:00):
Right, you know?
Speaker 3 (17:02):
Okay, good to know reaching out I can help you.
Speaker 4 (17:08):
And one more and this is a big one. What
flavored cake would you want at your wedding?
Speaker 3 (17:13):
Interesting?
Speaker 2 (17:16):
Well, Hailey loves coffee cake, like she loves like coffee flavored.
Speaker 4 (17:20):
Coffee flavored, not like coffee cake, right, I consider coffee flavored.
Speaker 2 (17:25):
So like how she loves the ice cream cake like
a coffee ice cream cake.
Speaker 3 (17:31):
It was really hard.
Speaker 2 (17:31):
I was trying to get a coffee cake for her birthday,
but we were in the park, so I was like,
ice cream will melt. So I found a mocha flavored
cake and it was delicious.
Speaker 3 (17:40):
But I don't know.
Speaker 2 (17:41):
Maybe we'll have something hybrid cake like she loves cake,
but not I would see us doing more, maybe like
a cute little ice cream treat.
Speaker 3 (17:52):
She loves ice cream. I don't know. We'll probably do
something oted.
Speaker 5 (17:59):
And they also want to charge you three thousand dollars
for it. I'm like, yeah, I will just.
Speaker 3 (18:02):
Be like, oh, it's a birthday cake too much.
Speaker 5 (18:08):
Some of these vendors know too much.
Speaker 2 (18:11):
So yeah, that will probably have our own little thing.
Same with the food. You know, she has her allergy,
so yeah, oh don't we all know?
Speaker 5 (18:21):
We all, don't we all?
Speaker 4 (18:22):
Yeah, here's a question from an overwhelmed scrubber. This looks
like it's for Tanya specifically. I Becatanya Marconiste and my
fiance and now are getting married in September, and we're
writing personal life notes to each of our guests, just
like Tanya did. My question is how did you go
about wording them? We want we want them to be
a message from the both of us, since it's our
wedding day and we are signing them all from the
both of us, but we're struggling with how to phrase them,
(18:43):
what to include for people that really only have memories
for one of us, et cetera. Did you follow a template?
Did you avoid using the word I? Since it's from
both of you? Help please any advice on how to
go about writing all of our notes. We appreciate it.
Signed a scrubber who is very overwhelmed with wedding planning. Lol.
Speaker 1 (18:59):
This is so funny because Robbie had the exact same question.
Speaker 5 (19:02):
We were doing our card.
Speaker 1 (19:03):
He was like, he like sat down to write the
first one and he wrote like I I'm like, babe.
Speaker 5 (19:09):
It's from the both of us.
Speaker 1 (19:10):
Like, it's not, yes, this is your cousin that you know,
your whole wife and I've known them for five years,
but it's we. So it's like, I think you start
out the car, you start out the card by like obviously,
so we kind of divvied them up. I wrote to
the people that like I was closer to. He wrote
to the people that he was closer to, but they
were both from the both of us. So I would
(19:32):
start off start off with like the memory of, like,
if I'm writing to Mark, do you remember what I
wrote to you?
Speaker 2 (19:38):
Uh?
Speaker 4 (19:38):
Not off the top of my head, but I remember
the we part of it, right.
Speaker 1 (19:41):
So I would talk about I, like, Mark, how important
you've been to me, but also how important and like
like how effortlessly it was when you met Robbie and like,
so it was like a little tiny little snippet of
of the me part, but then quickly bringing in your
significant other when they met you and just being that
(20:02):
support system for the relationship sign it from the two
of you.
Speaker 5 (20:08):
Call of to day.
Speaker 3 (20:10):
Did y'all have anyone there where? Y'all both didn't know
anyone someone?
Speaker 5 (20:15):
Yeah, No, so I don't.
Speaker 3 (20:17):
I would say that's a key part too.
Speaker 5 (20:20):
Yes, knowing everyone at your wedding is.
Speaker 3 (20:23):
A husband, yes, both of you. Correct.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
We had two people that hadn't met like uh like
one of the like uh that didn't meet Robbie because
they were more my my friend and they lived far away.
So I still kind of incorporate him somehow. I don't
even I don't remember how I did it, but.
Speaker 3 (20:43):
Just like we're so excited that you're here.
Speaker 1 (20:44):
So yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, but yeah you have to write.
We and like, very briefly, that's that's how we that's
how we approached it because we did because at first
I was like, we can both write to everybody, you know,
and then he quickly was like, no, no, no, it's okay.
Speaker 5 (21:00):
I can still too.
Speaker 3 (21:02):
My name.
Speaker 6 (21:03):
At the end, I was fully expecting to get like
one two Allison and I, you know, like that individual.
Speaker 5 (21:11):
He floated that by two.
Speaker 1 (21:12):
He was like, I think we should write in couples
and I was like, nice.
Speaker 2 (21:17):
Yeah, nice, try and then you already got out of
this one yea one party.
Speaker 1 (21:20):
Yeah, it's every individual person. But actually, and after the
fact he was like, you were so right. It was
very special having e for each person. Yeah, it was
just get your right in writing.
Speaker 4 (21:31):
He would admit that. Let's see, this is from Natalia.
She's struggling with the secrecy of w l W, High
Scrubbing and fam twenty seven. I have a wl W
story similar to Becca's. Raised at a conservative Christian household,
on navigating love and secrecy. I still have a faith
of my own. I've been in a relationship for almost
two years. While I'm out to my friends and publicly.
(21:54):
My family except for my sister, doesn't know my mom
was where. I've struggled with my identity in the past,
but not about my current relationship. My partner and I
are planning to move from LA to New York City
this fall. Keeping our relationship a secret has been emotionally exhausting,
but I feel deeply responsible for protecting my parents from
the truth, like coming out would hurt them. I haven't
told extended family either, because I don't want to burden
(22:15):
them with Keeping the secret from my parents beca How
did you cope with the secrecy, Tanya, I'd love your
perspective too, being in on the privacy of the relationship
as well. To tell you navigated that as a support system.
Part of me feels I should wait until we're engaged
to come out when it feels more worth it, but
the weight of hiding is causing me intense anxiety. I'm
working on becoming more financially independent and finding a therapist
(22:37):
who specializes in religious trauma and LGBTQ issues. For now,
I plan to tell my parents that I'm moving with
my friend and leave it to that unless they ask
more directly. Thank you, all for sharing your journeys. They've
given me hope that things will eventually be okay. Deep down,
I still have faith that the worst won't be as
bad as I fear. Thank you, Natalia. Ugh.
Speaker 2 (22:57):
This feeling is horrible, And I didn't really have to
deal with my family not knowing for too long because
someone told told my parents before I had the chance to.
But in hindsight, I hate how it went down, Like
I wish the person had enough respect for me to
let it.
Speaker 3 (23:17):
Be mine to tell.
Speaker 2 (23:18):
However, there's a part of me that's grateful that they
told because it just got it like done and out
of the way and let the like processing begin when
it did. And I think that the thing is I
had a turning point years in where I was like, oh,
I'm so worried about other people hurting because of because
(23:44):
of this, And it feels so crazy because you're you're
like apologizing for experiencing like love and happiness and like
falling in love, and it's so it's so crazy to
me that we have to that people have to hide
something that should be so joyful as in the effort
to not hurt someone else. And I think what you're
(24:06):
doing is you're you're hurting yourself by not telling them,
And I think it's it's just really affecting you because
they don't know anything right now. And I think as
soon as you give them the chance to have a
reaction that might be better than you think, or maybe
it will be bad. It starts the process of reparation.
(24:27):
So if if you tell them and it doesn't go well,
repairing is that the right word?
Speaker 5 (24:34):
Great word?
Speaker 3 (24:36):
It starts the healing process. Tells that thank you, because
if you tell them and they're able to.
Speaker 2 (24:43):
React in the way that is honest for them, which
might be hurtful or it might not be as bad
as you think, it gives It starts the process of
you being free and them knowing who you truly are,
because they don't know a huge part of who you are.
And I think that's such a loss for parents, and
sometimes they realize it, sometimes they don't. And I think
(25:06):
for me, I had my sisters who knew, and all
my friends knew and people that I loved, and I
think when my family found out, it was not easy
the whole time, but I had such a strong support
system that I felt very loved and I felt like
it was so worth it to be with Haley. And
I also felt like if I just kept this mine
(25:29):
and made it a secret, then they would never fully
know who I am, and this feels unfair for them
to even have that opportunity, And so if they find
out and they don't like it, that's on them. That
was kind of my mentality, But I feel like reading this,
I feel for you so much, Natalia, and I just
want you to know that life is so beautiful and
(25:50):
short and you only get one of them, and it's
just not worth making yourself small or hiding such an
exciting part of your life life to protect someone else.
Speaker 5 (26:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:02):
I can't speak to the w WLW side of it,
but I have had friends who have hid their relationships
because of xyz, you know, religion, or they'd been with
this person before that broke their heart and they didn't
want to tell their family or friends again that they
were back together with them. And I just feel like
(26:22):
keeping things a secret and dating someone in private is
just like it's so hard on your relationship and it's
really hard on you.
Speaker 5 (26:30):
So that would be my advice.
Speaker 2 (26:32):
And it's not a bad it's the thing is is
like you're not doing anything bad or wrong, Like you're
you fell in love with someone and you're getting to
experience love, and it's like you're harboring something that is
going to end up.
Speaker 3 (26:51):
It eats at you.
Speaker 2 (26:52):
Yeah, So I just hope that you let yourself like
go of the guilt of hurting them, because you're not
doing anything to hurt them. How they respond is on them.
And if they want to be in your life, then
they're gonna show up for you in the way that
you need to be showed up for.
Speaker 4 (27:09):
They're gonna need time to process it. That might be
a day, a week, a month, a year, years, who knows.
But they've had a certain plan their whole life and
their heads for you. And when you tell them that
that's not your plan, that's gonna take some adjustment. Whether
it and it doesn't have to come in anything but
a place of love, there's gonna be some adjustment to
be had there. I think the sooner you start them
on that journey, the better, Yes, because who knows how
(27:30):
long it's gonna last. Better to get them going on
it now. And I also think wait until you're engaged
is almost a double whammy on your parents because there's
gonna be a part of them that's like, oh, she'll
get over it, it's just a phase or whatever. However,
they need to cope with it. Whether that's true or not,
it's probably not, but they need to do that. That's
their coping mechanism. So taking that mechanism away from them
(27:51):
immediately I think will be very difficult for them. Yeah,
make the journey that much longer.
Speaker 2 (27:55):
And also give them the opportunity to potentially be a
part of when you get engaged, Like maybe they'll have
a moment where they've processed it, and so when that
time comes, they're excited to be a part of that,
whereas if you just surprise them with that, they might
just be too much all at once. And there's this
girl who she came from a super religious background and
she's like a TikToker influencer and she did like her.
(28:18):
She cut her parents out because they just they basically said,
we will not support you. She is not allowed in
our home. And so she had to set that boundary
and had like a whole wedding all this stuff, and
her parents weren't there. And then just like last year,
they came around and we're like, we want to be
in your life, you know, And there was a lot
of hurt and conversations that were hard and according to her,
(28:39):
but there is hope, even if it takes a really
long time. But you have to give them the chance.
Speaker 4 (28:46):
And they could surprise you.
Speaker 3 (28:48):
And they could surprise you. I hope they do.
Speaker 4 (28:51):
I hope so too. Maybe they'll love her the same
way you do. Yeah, we should take a break, and
then we have one more. One of the scrubbers kind
of kept track as stuff we've kind of left hanging
out there that shocked.
Speaker 2 (29:05):
All right, we'll get to those when we get back.
(29:25):
All right, we are back with one final email.
Speaker 4 (29:29):
This is from Alexa. I bet it's hard to be
Alexa these days, don't you think? That's a name that
was really cool for a long long time and then
suddenly it was not so cool to be named Alexa. Anyway,
she says, love the pot. A few things we need
to know about or circle back on. First of all,
we need to taste tests of Becca's breakfast burritos. I
am still thinking about.
Speaker 7 (29:47):
Oh yeah, yeah, that would have been fine.
Speaker 4 (29:54):
I mean, the pie was delicious, but breakfast burritoso had
been fine too, you know.
Speaker 3 (29:58):
I was doing those like every day for a couple
I got burnt out on that spot. But I haven't
made a breakfast bread on a minute.
Speaker 1 (30:03):
You burn out way too fast. Yes, I got my
fried eggs going in a couple of months.
Speaker 2 (30:08):
That new delicacy that no one's ever experienced.
Speaker 4 (30:13):
Let's see, can you do? Can you have someone on
the podcast to do a color theory test on each
of you or do one of the TikTok filters. Color
theory test determines which season of color looks best on
each of you, and we need to know as scrubbers.
Speaker 3 (30:27):
I mean, I would be totally down to do it.
Speaker 2 (30:29):
It's just like, also, I'm just gonna wear sure, but
I do see sometimes I see photos of me in
certain colors.
Speaker 3 (30:36):
I'm like, that is not my color.
Speaker 4 (30:38):
I would be interested to find out what my color is.
But I don't know that that's an interesting podcast, right.
Speaker 3 (30:45):
It's more of a visual experience.
Speaker 2 (30:48):
So maybe we have someone come come in and maybe
one day when we launch a video.
Speaker 1 (30:54):
Podcast podcast material.
Speaker 5 (30:58):
If I'm being honest, I'm just gonna throw that out there.
Speaker 2 (31:01):
Little maybe we'll get them individually and at'll excuse me, a.
Speaker 4 (31:05):
Request for the significant others on the pod including Alison
and Amy, and to play a couple of newly wet
game or just a trivia game. And we did that
once upon a time. Yeah, I gotta tell you my
wife has no interest in being uh, having the spotlight
on her. She's just not a person that's ever craved
the spotlight. Does want to be on the radio, doesn't
min be on podcasts, doesn't want to be on video.
(31:25):
She's she's good. If you could pick I think it's
just a random question she has here. If you could
pick just one item or meal for each breakfast, lunch,
and dinner for an entire week, what.
Speaker 5 (31:38):
Would it be easy?
Speaker 4 (31:39):
I already do this basically.
Speaker 5 (31:42):
Oh, she's saying one item per.
Speaker 4 (31:44):
Meal, one item only. For example, eggs for breakfast, club
sandwich on wheat for lunch. Oh okay, that's a little different.
Speaker 3 (31:53):
And does anyone have this off the top of your head? Yes,
okay for.
Speaker 1 (32:00):
And this is just like barring all whatever, just eating
what you want. Breakfast would be three fried eggs with
Celtic sea salt and black pepper on top.
Speaker 3 (32:15):
That it's not just an easy, no, it ain't.
Speaker 1 (32:22):
For lunch, it would be a cheeseburger wrapped in lettuce
with the side of sweet potato French fries. And for
dinner it would be gluten free, so wet.
Speaker 4 (32:38):
So we are keeping in mind dietary restrictions because you're
going gluten free, but we're not keeping in mind like
health restrictions. Is that we're saying here.
Speaker 5 (32:45):
Yeah, like I would need a burger every day, but like.
Speaker 4 (32:48):
Right right right, like yeah, I hear you.
Speaker 5 (32:52):
There we go, that's mine.
Speaker 4 (32:54):
Uh sure, I would have a I love a poached
egg records out of a couple of le Mark Post
eggs over toast makes me very happy. I think it's
a childhood thing because my mom used to make those
a lot. For lunch, I would have my wife's panini,
which is the greatest sandwich I've ever had my whole life.
It's really great.
Speaker 3 (33:15):
Maybe you should bring those in and.
Speaker 4 (33:18):
And for dinner, I love it deep dish pizza man
with the sauce on top. It's almost like a it's
not it's not like not even a pizza. It's so thick.
There's so much going on in there, the pie blayered.
I love it deep di I cannot find good deep
dish pizza out here. It's like a pie it's like
a pizza pie with thick. I would get a Chicago
style deep dish pizza for dinner, so yummy, deep dish
(33:39):
doesn't do it for me. I'm sorry, you're wrong. I
am really good girl.
Speaker 3 (33:43):
Yeah, but I respect a deep dish love.
Speaker 6 (33:47):
I guess for breakfast, I too would do fried eggs
with the salt and pepper.
Speaker 1 (33:52):
Thank you, Crazy Crazy's wild Celtic Sea salt.
Speaker 4 (33:56):
No.
Speaker 6 (33:57):
I googled Celtic Sea salt and the first thing that
came up is Celtics Salt class action lawsuit.
Speaker 4 (34:01):
Okay, so maybe not.
Speaker 6 (34:03):
We'll talk about this later.
Speaker 4 (34:04):
I don't want to freak you out, but maybe check
your lead levels.
Speaker 3 (34:14):
Anyway, that's amazing salt member.
Speaker 6 (34:17):
And then for lunch, I think I'll do a roast
beef sandwich with cheddar cheese, and for dinner a pepperoni
pizza from Round Table Pizza.
Speaker 4 (34:27):
I could.
Speaker 6 (34:28):
I did eat that every night for a very long time.
Speaker 4 (34:30):
I'm sure. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (34:32):
I think I'm gonna go pancakes for breakfast.
Speaker 3 (34:36):
You know, I was thinking about buttermilk pancakes.
Speaker 2 (34:39):
And then lunch, I love a good sandwich with like
olive oil and vinegarette and like soft.
Speaker 5 (34:47):
Baguette roll like sub Boy Sandy, sub.
Speaker 3 (34:50):
Boy Sandy, but like that like soft yead just like
a sub.
Speaker 2 (34:56):
Nice little sub sandwich with chips, jalapino kettle chips.
Speaker 3 (35:01):
And then my dinner, I actually would go Thin Cross pizza. Wow,
I love you like New York style pizza.
Speaker 4 (35:08):
Okay? Is there a specific restaurant or no.
Speaker 3 (35:11):
Well I'm the one that I've had.
Speaker 2 (35:12):
They have a Joe's here, which is like yours, but
they have they have it here, so it hits different
when you're in New York at Joe's.
Speaker 3 (35:21):
But it's really good here too.
Speaker 4 (35:23):
I'm going to New York in a couple of weeks
a pizza. Maybe we should. My kids have never been there,
so we wanted to make sure we get We showed
them New York. We're going to Broadway shows. My daughter,
the youngest, is going to be doing a dance intensive
all week there, and my oldest thought I was gonna
be doing a musical theater intensive all week there. So
they're going to be performing and oh my god, we
(35:44):
leave the twenty sixth oh July. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (35:47):
A couple of weeks, Eson sent me a text message
with the.
Speaker 2 (35:50):
Information what shows are you all going to see.
Speaker 4 (35:55):
We're going to see and Juliette. We're going to see
Death Becomes Her. I want to see Hell's Kitchen. Those
are the three we've decided are the buzziest and most exciting.
Speaker 5 (36:04):
For not what's the Nicole Scherzinger one.
Speaker 4 (36:08):
She wanted to for that, didn't she?
Speaker 3 (36:09):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (36:09):
I feel like that one's super buzzy.
Speaker 3 (36:13):
And maybe Happen.
Speaker 4 (36:16):
It's a little I don't love the classics as much.
What's the question? What did you say?
Speaker 3 (36:23):
I said? My friend does is a maybe happy ending?
Which is the Darren Chris one that won.
Speaker 4 (36:28):
Right right right, maybe happy ending?
Speaker 2 (36:31):
We can't the one that Charlie Demilio is in.
Speaker 4 (36:35):
Yes, nice, Yes, I love her.
Speaker 5 (36:38):
When are you going to New York?
Speaker 3 (36:40):
I'm not just talk about Mark?
Speaker 4 (36:44):
Yeah, we're really excited about it.
Speaker 3 (36:45):
That's fun. I love New York's so fun too.
Speaker 2 (36:49):
Well.
Speaker 4 (36:50):
One more things. She did request to return to the
live shows.
Speaker 2 (36:54):
Consistent one yes, if not now never, never, no, no, no,
we can't say that one day.
Speaker 5 (37:06):
If not now when if.
Speaker 3 (37:11):
Alex Cooper.
Speaker 2 (37:16):
That's all for now, though, thank y'all for always so
many questions. If you have you're ever like, hey, I
really need some advice on this thing I'm going through,
And I want to ask people who give like mediocre
advice and are like funny but also take it seriously.
Speaker 3 (37:32):
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We love y'all so much.
Speaker 5 (37:41):
I don't know about you, guys, but we're not scrubber. Sorry,
it's overwhelmed scrubber some great advice.
Speaker 1 (37:50):
She's not getting married till September, and she's I didn't
do my cards until.
Speaker 3 (37:54):
Like two weeks before it. Sometimes the advice is really good.
Speaker 2 (37:58):
Sometimes I think I hope they go to a therapist
because we did not help them at all.
Speaker 3 (38:03):
So all I'm saying is, if you want our advice,
hit us up. We love it. We love you, love you,
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Speaker 5 (38:12):
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Speaker 2 (00:11):
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Speaker 3 (00:19):
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Speaker 4 (00:21):
I love it.
Speaker 5 (00:22):
Yeah, I too. That's a tone. Yeah, it's a vibe.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
So, as we said in Monday's episode, we are doing
a little continuation of Q and A for the proposal.
Speaker 4 (00:37):
Quite a deluge of questions.
Speaker 3 (00:40):
Yeah, wow.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
Well, the thing is is that we weren't anticipating doing
a Q and A last week, but you asked the
scrubbing in, so they had very limited time to submit
their questions. So we got to what we could and
then and then we were like, we'll do a part two.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
So many good ones here, so many good ones, so
many good ones.
Speaker 4 (01:00):
Mark and Easton find out pretty much when the Instagram. Yeah,
and then I found out when Sam called me. I
was driving in for the podcast and Sam the producer
called me and told me. Easton saw on Instagram. Yeah,
I was.
Speaker 6 (01:14):
I was recording are you a Charlotte and the other
and said, oh my god, you have to go to
Burbank immediately.
Speaker 4 (01:22):
I did.
Speaker 3 (01:23):
I Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
I It was interesting because when we told we told
like called people, and then that was kind of it.
We were just like stayed off social media and then
we're like, we'll announce it, you know, crying.
Speaker 5 (01:37):
Oh did you did you hear crack in her voice?
Speaker 3 (01:39):
I didn't.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
No, just moving one that really crat.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
You'll make me cry.
Speaker 4 (01:47):
Well, they didn't be officiating. I think that's an excellent choice.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
That's great. Do you feel like I feel like you'd
cry the whole time?
Speaker 6 (01:57):
I came it together. I've done it befo for I've
done it two or three times, so I'm a pro.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
I need some footage. We're gonna need an audition.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
No, actually I've I've That's been interesting because the actual
ceremony feels super far away.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
But we were thinking, like thinking, you're going to think
about it.
Speaker 5 (02:18):
Yeah, that's far You're still gonna like that idea.
Speaker 6 (02:22):
Well, I'm here, available and willing should you want it.
And I'm sure there's a lot of people that might.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
Be at the wedding regardless of you're if there's a
role or maybe flower girl or something.
Speaker 5 (02:34):
Yes, what other names have you been tossing around?
Speaker 2 (02:45):
We had a few names we tossed around. Robbie, Yeah, Cigar,
that would be great.
Speaker 4 (02:50):
Too.
Speaker 2 (02:50):
We tossed around Jordan Rogers. Yeah, we had a few
just like names that we th are out there of
like people who know us and would be able to
make get personable, but also like have the attention of
the room and didn't go too deep into like inside
jokes or anything. Like I really feel like Ryan did
such a great job. It felt very much geared towards job,
but not like inside jokes where everyone's like okay.
Speaker 3 (03:14):
But I don't get it right right, So yeah, I
love that idea. Ring bears.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
On behalf of my husband who is not here. I
would like to say I think he would do an
amazing job.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (03:30):
Yeah, well listen, there's a lot of time, so there's.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
Yeah, if there's someone who can give a good moving speech,
oh my gosh.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Even on the call to them, Robbie is like I
just want to say, oh yeah, and we all are
like sobbing, even him, He's like I'm gonna cry.
Speaker 3 (03:47):
But he was just like the most emotional speech.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
I was like, what, Well, he did know you guys
were getting engaged, so he had some time where I
was just like crying hysterically saying like and he's like,
I just want to say all I have y'all, you
skipped one that I wanted to get to after calling
(04:12):
Tanya and Robbie, who was next on your list to call.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
I don't remember specifically the order, but it was I
called Ali Jojo.
Speaker 5 (04:26):
Well, if you don't remember the order, then I mean
it's allid wash. All I know is that was first.
Speaker 3 (04:33):
I knew it wouldn't mean as much to anyone else,
but you, who is going.
Speaker 4 (04:38):
To be the most into wedding planning. Does one of
you not really care take a back seat and the
decision making? Are you equally interested and excited and invested
in the details, Tanya, that's the correct answer.
Speaker 2 (04:52):
I think there will be more into the details, like
the really minute details, I think. But I think we'll
both be prett into it in our own ways, Like
I'll be curious to see where she did mention wanting
to do a choreographed dance and I had.
Speaker 3 (05:06):
To shut that down, come on together, and then I go.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
But if you want to do if it feels important
for you to do one by yourself, then I have
I also bort you.
Speaker 4 (05:16):
How's she doing by herself?
Speaker 3 (05:18):
Got some backup dancers? But no, I think we'll both
be pretty involved way.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
She's more organized than like a planner about things. So
if anything, I think she'll have to kind of keep
me on track with like the timing and like make delines.
Speaker 3 (05:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (05:35):
Oh I hated those.
Speaker 3 (05:36):
I know, I know.
Speaker 5 (05:37):
I just hated reading the contracts.
Speaker 3 (05:39):
That was like, didn't Robbie read the contract? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Yeah, I still had to like look over them and
be like, did you read the contract.
Speaker 5 (05:50):
And what do you think about it?
Speaker 4 (05:54):
Will you coordinate wedding attire? Of course, it's traditional to
not see the bridal look before the wedding day, but
what if your choice is clash or what if they're identical,
You're gonna have to see each other's looks.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
Uh No, We'll probably just have someone who who knows
both of them and can say, like you, you can't
do that too similar. But we have such different style
that I don't see us gravitating towards the same thing.
Speaker 4 (06:15):
Tony and Robbie saw each other before their first look. Yes,
where you have a first look, or where you see
each other at the altar for the first time.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
I've always been so torn about this because I love
the idea of having the intimate moment together of just
being us seeing each other and.
Speaker 3 (06:31):
Like getting to take it in without having an audience watching.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
But then there's something about like seeing each other going
down the aisle for the first time and seeing it.
Speaker 3 (06:42):
So I don't know, because it was so I got
to watch Altz First Look, which I loved.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
Popcorn watching Our First Look, you asked us, No, no,
I liked it. But I also think that the other
pro that nobody really talks about is like, I wasn't
nervous at all leading out to my wedding until like
the half hour before the ceremony, when like you know,
everybody is at cocktail hour and everybody is like there
waiting for you. That's when I got really nervous. And
(07:09):
having Robbie like with me there was like very calming.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
Yeah, I know, so that will be I I could
see us going either way for that.
Speaker 5 (07:20):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
Right.
Speaker 4 (07:21):
If Taylor Swift invited to the wedding, She's always invited
this show right now invitation?
Speaker 3 (07:29):
Yeah, who will walk.
Speaker 4 (07:30):
Down the aisle first? Or will you walk down together?
Speaker 7 (07:33):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (07:33):
Good question.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
This is interesting because I've I've also seen weddings where
the people the bride and groom are bride and brider
groom and groom walk from each end of the aisle
towards each other, and so they're in the middle of everyone.
Speaker 3 (07:50):
Which I think would be really cool.
Speaker 2 (07:52):
We might have to come up with something not necessarily
like traditional to see, but we probably both walked down
the aisle like you know how normally the Yeah, Robbie
walked on first. Yeah.
Speaker 6 (08:02):
Yeah, we did it together and it was very Yeah,
I'll never forget that moment. It was very special.
Speaker 3 (08:13):
I love that.
Speaker 4 (08:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
Yeah, that's something to think about.
Speaker 4 (08:16):
When my sister married her wife, my sister was in
a more traditional Uh your.
Speaker 3 (08:21):
Sister married to a woman.
Speaker 5 (08:24):
Yeah, I never.
Speaker 4 (08:24):
Talked about this.
Speaker 5 (08:26):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (08:29):
Yeah. When Amy married Emily Amy, my sister was in
more of a vest and tie, where Emily was in
more of a traditional wedding dress. Do you see that
kind of a dynamic or no.
Speaker 3 (08:38):
I don't think Hayley wants because I asked.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
I was like, would you want to be more in
like a like kind of suit look, and she's like, no,
I think I want to be in a dress.
Speaker 3 (08:45):
So I mean, we'll see.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
She will probably get someone to design something or something
very unique for her, like a hybrid.
Speaker 5 (08:52):
Maybe.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
Yeah, I did not know that I'll show you some pictures.
Speaker 5 (08:57):
Wow, you know his wife's name is the same name.
Speaker 4 (09:01):
Yes. Do they get each other's like Venmo transactions random
sixty bucks on Venmo when you off the text mes Thursdays?
This for you? Yeah, I think so anyway, because you
would think there's want amy moments on Venmo. Right. Oh,
well there's the maid of honor conversation. Okay, we had
(09:24):
the big Becker versus Paulina quiz here and that was fun.
Like it will be a similar competition to be your
maid of honor.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
I don't think anyone will feel competitive over it.
Speaker 3 (09:34):
Minus Tony, I feel no competition. I don't feel but
I was still.
Speaker 5 (09:41):
You could do whatever you wanted.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
It's giving lies, it's giving trying to convince herself.
Speaker 4 (09:48):
She's above the phrase.
Speaker 5 (09:50):
First of all, I've already braced myself for this.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
I can show you the d MS of people like
in my family who have said, oh, are you going
to be the matron of honor? And I literally respond
and I said, as many sisters. So I'm gonna assume
that I'm not even in the bridal party.
Speaker 5 (10:05):
So I've set the bar.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
You're in the bridal party.
Speaker 1 (10:07):
Well, you have so many. First of all, you have
so many sisters. Hailey has a sister, and then you
have so many best friends. Is very lengthy, and I
don't see you as someone that's gonna have ten bridesmaids,
So the bar for me is very low.
Speaker 3 (10:23):
No, no, no, you'll definitely be in the wedding, in
the bridal party.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
But I also I was telling Haley that even like
I wasn't I wasn't JoJo's maid of honor, but I
did a lot of the things that a maid of
honor would do, even though like I didn't need the
title to like step up and do the do things
for her, if that makes sense.
Speaker 3 (10:45):
And I feel like you'll be that way whether you
have the title or not.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
But you're definitely You're You've really so far been a
very helpful If the energy is a little more relaxed
and I'm not stress about like making decisions, yeah, you'd
be an incredible made of honor.
Speaker 5 (11:06):
How stressed have I made you the last week?
Speaker 3 (11:08):
I mean, you're just always already asking about like wedding
dress shopping and stuff.
Speaker 5 (11:12):
Freezy, It's just breezy.
Speaker 3 (11:16):
Yeah, it's just you just like have the zoomies right now.
Speaker 5 (11:19):
Yeah, exactly. I think I will calm down. You're so right,
I have zoomies.
Speaker 3 (11:23):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
Yeah, by the time that rolls around, you'll be like
two kids in exhausted.
Speaker 3 (11:29):
Yeah, you're like, I don't I can't take this on.
Speaker 5 (11:34):
But really, so you get thoughts.
Speaker 3 (11:38):
Yeah, I mean I feel like I've had to think
about that.
Speaker 2 (11:40):
I feel like we've had this question about my hypothetical
made of honor for a very long time. So you're
definitely in the running.
Speaker 4 (11:49):
Well, we have to get to some questions about about
engagement photos, about cake, We have to talk about the
wedding first down, so much to talk about when we
come back.
Speaker 3 (12:19):
All right, we are.
Speaker 6 (12:23):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (12:24):
Now this is actually funny because the scrubber asks, did
you know before the previous episodes released The Dear Bonya
on July seventh? So we have to let you in
on a secret on that one julye that episode was
pre recorded before you left, before any of this.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
Yeah, the fourth of July, I was on my honeymoon.
Beccoes on her trip, so we pre recorded those episodes
before we left.
Speaker 4 (12:47):
July seventh, one for sure, because she goes, I could
tell you all were keeping secrets from us. I don't
think we.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
Were definitely we're not certainly were not that this is
our baseline. I suppose keeping secret.
Speaker 5 (12:58):
Or like giddy for vacation.
Speaker 7 (13:00):
Yeah, it's like, like, will you be incorporating a Taylor
Swift song into your wedding for the isle song or
maybe a first dance?
Speaker 4 (13:11):
Any thoughts on the songs?
Speaker 2 (13:14):
You know, Helen, I have very different music tastes, so
I don't know we'll have to there will be some
compromising not compromising, but more so like searching. She was
even thinking she was posting a video and was like,
we need some songs that we just have, like a
playlist of songs that that remind us of our relationship
or that we're both sure.
Speaker 4 (13:35):
You know, compromise is fair. I think I got a
Springsteen song into our wedding, and I was pretty excited
about that.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
I mean, if I can, I'm hoping Taylor Slips will
have some even new music about falling in love with
Travis Kelcey that I.
Speaker 3 (13:46):
Can be there. Yeah, an instrumental version.
Speaker 5 (13:51):
I love an instrumental.
Speaker 4 (13:52):
Version o the string quartet.
Speaker 5 (13:55):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (13:56):
Are you doing engagement photos? Whether it be an engagement party?
While I ever stopped crying when I see something about
your engagement. She said, that's very sweet.
Speaker 3 (14:04):
That's so sweet.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
So it was really thoughtful because Haley had the photographer
there for the proposal photos, and then the next day
we took like kind of engagement photos fresh and then
we're we'll probably do an engagement photo session here in
LA when we're not like sweaty and been the humidity
and maybe have it like styled and you know, makeup
(14:27):
and stuff.
Speaker 3 (14:28):
But it's that was really fun.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
Haley and I have never taken like professional photos together
outside of a red carpet, so we.
Speaker 3 (14:37):
Didn't know how to pose, Like we were having to
look up pines.
Speaker 2 (14:42):
How to pose, and especially like when you're trying to
show the ring, you have to put your hand in
really specific ways. And so and our photographer he does
like beautiful photos, but he had never done an engagement shoot.
Speaker 3 (14:54):
So we're just like the three Stewes trying to figure
that out. And what was the other question.
Speaker 5 (15:01):
About oh engagement party?
Speaker 2 (15:05):
Oh, I kind of felt like the dinner was like
an engagement party, but maybe we'll do something.
Speaker 5 (15:10):
What I thought the same.
Speaker 1 (15:12):
That's why, like when I was talking to Haley about
like doing the flowers and stuff like that. Like I
wanted to even do like the most because I was like, oh,
this is like your engagement party, but I think you'll
have like a proper one, like after you propose, and like, oh.
Speaker 3 (15:27):
I mean, I don't know what. What's an engagement party?
Like what's different from what we did?
Speaker 5 (15:32):
I mean nothing, it's just like more people.
Speaker 3 (15:35):
Oh oh so a bigger to do.
Speaker 2 (15:37):
Yeah yeah, that would make sense that after I proposed
to her.
Speaker 5 (15:40):
Yeah yeah, we never had one.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
Y'all's like our proposal was kind of like our engagement party.
Speaker 2 (15:49):
Okay, but not really not an engagement party. What those
things are?
Speaker 5 (15:52):
I thought that's what yours was? I thought so, But
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (15:56):
I'm learning a lot. I'm learning a lot.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
You could do whatever you want, Like, if you think
about it, you could have an you could have an
engagement party for you. You could have an engagement party for
when you get proposed to Haley. You can have I mean,
you could have what bridal showers or I mean that
it's endless what you can do. Truly, Yes, you just
get I think you just get tired and overwhelmed. Like
that's specifically, No, I think in general, just like as
(16:21):
a bride, like you get like, yeah, there's so many
things that you're like, there's only so many things I
want to plan, you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (16:26):
Exactly, I'm not much of a planner of those types
of things. So we'll see how I think if once
I propose, I'll have the excitement and stamina to like
do something.
Speaker 3 (16:39):
Yeah, but I thought this weekend was my engagement.
Speaker 1 (16:42):
Or maybe you can tack on and do something after
you propose to Haley kind of like what she did
for you this dinner, but maybe make that a little
bit bigger and then that could be your engagement party.
Speaker 3 (16:50):
Okay, Okay, do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (16:52):
So it's like kind of one job, yes, because you're
already put so much effort into the proposal, right, lop
it all in.
Speaker 5 (17:00):
Right, you know?
Speaker 3 (17:02):
Okay, good to know reaching out I can help you.
Speaker 4 (17:08):
And one more and this is a big one. What
flavored cake would you want at your wedding?
Speaker 3 (17:13):
Interesting?
Speaker 2 (17:16):
Well, Hailey loves coffee cake, like she loves like coffee flavored.
Speaker 4 (17:20):
Coffee flavored, not like coffee cake, right, I consider coffee flavored.
Speaker 2 (17:25):
So like how she loves the ice cream cake like
a coffee ice cream cake.
Speaker 3 (17:31):
It was really hard.
Speaker 2 (17:31):
I was trying to get a coffee cake for her birthday,
but we were in the park, so I was like,
ice cream will melt. So I found a mocha flavored
cake and it was delicious.
Speaker 3 (17:40):
But I don't know.
Speaker 2 (17:41):
Maybe we'll have something hybrid cake like she loves cake,
but not I would see us doing more, maybe like
a cute little ice cream treat.
Speaker 3 (17:52):
She loves ice cream. I don't know. We'll probably do
something oted.
Speaker 5 (17:59):
And they also want to charge you three thousand dollars
for it. I'm like, yeah, I will just.
Speaker 3 (18:02):
Be like, oh, it's a birthday cake too much.
Speaker 5 (18:08):
Some of these vendors know too much.
Speaker 2 (18:11):
So yeah, that will probably have our own little thing.
Same with the food. You know, she has her allergy,
so yeah, oh don't we all know?
Speaker 5 (18:21):
We all, don't we all?
Speaker 4 (18:22):
Yeah, here's a question from an overwhelmed scrubber. This looks
like it's for Tanya specifically. I Becatanya Marconiste and my
fiance and now are getting married in September, and we're
writing personal life notes to each of our guests, just
like Tanya did. My question is how did you go
about wording them? We want we want them to be
a message from the both of us, since it's our
wedding day and we are signing them all from the
both of us, but we're struggling with how to phrase them,
(18:43):
what to include for people that really only have memories
for one of us, et cetera. Did you follow a template?
Did you avoid using the word I? Since it's from
both of you? Help please any advice on how to
go about writing all of our notes. We appreciate it.
Signed a scrubber who is very overwhelmed with wedding planning. Lol.
Speaker 1 (18:59):
This is so funny because Robbie had the exact same question.
Speaker 5 (19:02):
We were doing our card.
Speaker 1 (19:03):
He was like, he like sat down to write the
first one and he wrote like I I'm like, babe.
Speaker 5 (19:09):
It's from the both of us.
Speaker 1 (19:10):
Like, it's not, yes, this is your cousin that you know,
your whole wife and I've known them for five years,
but it's we. So it's like, I think you start
out the car, you start out the card by like obviously,
so we kind of divvied them up. I wrote to
the people that like I was closer to. He wrote
to the people that he was closer to, but they
were both from the both of us. So I would
(19:32):
start off start off with like the memory of, like,
if I'm writing to Mark, do you remember what I
wrote to you?
Speaker 2 (19:38):
Uh?
Speaker 4 (19:38):
Not off the top of my head, but I remember
the we part of it, right.
Speaker 1 (19:41):
So I would talk about I, like, Mark, how important
you've been to me, but also how important and like
like how effortlessly it was when you met Robbie and like,
so it was like a little tiny little snippet of
of the me part, but then quickly bringing in your
significant other when they met you and just being that
(20:02):
support system for the relationship sign it from the two
of you.
Speaker 5 (20:08):
Call of to day.
Speaker 3 (20:10):
Did y'all have anyone there where? Y'all both didn't know
anyone someone?
Speaker 5 (20:15):
Yeah, No, so I don't.
Speaker 3 (20:17):
I would say that's a key part too.
Speaker 5 (20:20):
Yes, knowing everyone at your wedding is.
Speaker 3 (20:23):
A husband, yes, both of you. Correct.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
We had two people that hadn't met like uh like
one of the like uh that didn't meet Robbie because
they were more my my friend and they lived far away.
So I still kind of incorporate him somehow. I don't
even I don't remember how I did it, but.
Speaker 3 (20:43):
Just like we're so excited that you're here.
Speaker 1 (20:44):
So yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, but yeah you have to write.
We and like, very briefly, that's that's how we that's
how we approached it because we did because at first
I was like, we can both write to everybody, you know,
and then he quickly was like, no, no, no, it's okay.
Speaker 5 (21:00):
I can still too.
Speaker 3 (21:02):
My name.
Speaker 6 (21:03):
At the end, I was fully expecting to get like
one two Allison and I, you know, like that individual.
Speaker 5 (21:11):
He floated that by two.
Speaker 1 (21:12):
He was like, I think we should write in couples
and I was like, nice.
Speaker 2 (21:17):
Yeah, nice, try and then you already got out of
this one yea one party.
Speaker 1 (21:20):
Yeah, it's every individual person. But actually, and after the
fact he was like, you were so right. It was
very special having e for each person. Yeah, it was
just get your right in writing.
Speaker 4 (21:31):
He would admit that. Let's see, this is from Natalia.
She's struggling with the secrecy of w l W, High
Scrubbing and fam twenty seven. I have a wl W
story similar to Becca's. Raised at a conservative Christian household,
on navigating love and secrecy. I still have a faith
of my own. I've been in a relationship for almost
two years. While I'm out to my friends and publicly.
(21:54):
My family except for my sister, doesn't know my mom
was where. I've struggled with my identity in the past,
but not about my current relationship. My partner and I
are planning to move from LA to New York City
this fall. Keeping our relationship a secret has been emotionally exhausting,
but I feel deeply responsible for protecting my parents from
the truth, like coming out would hurt them. I haven't
told extended family either, because I don't want to burden
(22:15):
them with Keeping the secret from my parents beca How
did you cope with the secrecy, Tanya, I'd love your
perspective too, being in on the privacy of the relationship
as well. To tell you navigated that as a support system.
Part of me feels I should wait until we're engaged
to come out when it feels more worth it, but
the weight of hiding is causing me intense anxiety. I'm
working on becoming more financially independent and finding a therapist
(22:37):
who specializes in religious trauma and LGBTQ issues. For now,
I plan to tell my parents that I'm moving with
my friend and leave it to that unless they ask
more directly. Thank you, all for sharing your journeys. They've
given me hope that things will eventually be okay. Deep down,
I still have faith that the worst won't be as
bad as I fear. Thank you, Natalia. Ugh.
Speaker 2 (22:57):
This feeling is horrible, And I didn't really have to
deal with my family not knowing for too long because
someone told told my parents before I had the chance to.
But in hindsight, I hate how it went down, Like
I wish the person had enough respect for me to
let it.
Speaker 3 (23:17):
Be mine to tell.
Speaker 2 (23:18):
However, there's a part of me that's grateful that they
told because it just got it like done and out
of the way and let the like processing begin when
it did. And I think that the thing is I
had a turning point years in where I was like, oh,
I'm so worried about other people hurting because of because
(23:44):
of this, And it feels so crazy because you're you're
like apologizing for experiencing like love and happiness and like
falling in love, and it's so it's so crazy to
me that we have to that people have to hide
something that should be so joyful as in the effort
to not hurt someone else. And I think what you're
(24:06):
doing is you're you're hurting yourself by not telling them,
And I think it's it's just really affecting you because
they don't know anything right now. And I think as
soon as you give them the chance to have a
reaction that might be better than you think, or maybe
it will be bad. It starts the process of reparation.
(24:27):
So if if you tell them and it doesn't go well,
repairing is that the right word?
Speaker 5 (24:34):
Great word?
Speaker 3 (24:36):
It starts the healing process. Tells that thank you, because
if you tell them and they're able to.
Speaker 2 (24:43):
React in the way that is honest for them, which
might be hurtful or it might not be as bad
as you think, it gives It starts the process of
you being free and them knowing who you truly are,
because they don't know a huge part of who you are.
And I think that's such a loss for parents, and
sometimes they realize it, sometimes they don't. And I think
(25:06):
for me, I had my sisters who knew, and all
my friends knew and people that I loved, and I
think when my family found out, it was not easy
the whole time, but I had such a strong support
system that I felt very loved and I felt like
it was so worth it to be with Haley. And
I also felt like if I just kept this mine
(25:29):
and made it a secret, then they would never fully
know who I am, and this feels unfair for them
to even have that opportunity, And so if they find
out and they don't like it, that's on them. That
was kind of my mentality, But I feel like reading this,
I feel for you so much, Natalia, and I just
want you to know that life is so beautiful and
(25:50):
short and you only get one of them, and it's
just not worth making yourself small or hiding such an
exciting part of your life life to protect someone else.
Speaker 5 (26:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:02):
I can't speak to the w WLW side of it,
but I have had friends who have hid their relationships
because of xyz, you know, religion, or they'd been with
this person before that broke their heart and they didn't
want to tell their family or friends again that they
were back together with them. And I just feel like
(26:22):
keeping things a secret and dating someone in private is
just like it's so hard on your relationship and it's
really hard on you.
Speaker 5 (26:30):
So that would be my advice.
Speaker 2 (26:32):
And it's not a bad it's the thing is is
like you're not doing anything bad or wrong, Like you're
you fell in love with someone and you're getting to
experience love, and it's like you're harboring something that is
going to end up.
Speaker 3 (26:51):
It eats at you.
Speaker 2 (26:52):
Yeah, So I just hope that you let yourself like
go of the guilt of hurting them, because you're not
doing anything to hurt them. How they respond is on them.
And if they want to be in your life, then
they're gonna show up for you in the way that
you need to be showed up for.
Speaker 4 (27:09):
They're gonna need time to process it. That might be
a day, a week, a month, a year, years, who knows.
But they've had a certain plan their whole life and
their heads for you. And when you tell them that
that's not your plan, that's gonna take some adjustment. Whether
it and it doesn't have to come in anything but
a place of love, there's gonna be some adjustment to
be had there. I think the sooner you start them
on that journey, the better, Yes, because who knows how
(27:30):
long it's gonna last. Better to get them going on
it now. And I also think wait until you're engaged
is almost a double whammy on your parents because there's
gonna be a part of them that's like, oh, she'll
get over it, it's just a phase or whatever. However,
they need to cope with it. Whether that's true or not,
it's probably not, but they need to do that. That's
their coping mechanism. So taking that mechanism away from them
(27:51):
immediately I think will be very difficult for them. Yeah,
make the journey that much longer.
Speaker 2 (27:55):
And also give them the opportunity to potentially be a
part of when you get engaged, Like maybe they'll have
a moment where they've processed it, and so when that
time comes, they're excited to be a part of that,
whereas if you just surprise them with that, they might
just be too much all at once. And there's this
girl who she came from a super religious background and
she's like a TikToker influencer and she did like her.
(28:18):
She cut her parents out because they just they basically said,
we will not support you. She is not allowed in
our home. And so she had to set that boundary
and had like a whole wedding all this stuff, and
her parents weren't there. And then just like last year,
they came around and we're like, we want to be
in your life, you know, And there was a lot
of hurt and conversations that were hard and according to her,
(28:39):
but there is hope, even if it takes a really
long time. But you have to give them the chance.
Speaker 4 (28:46):
And they could surprise you.
Speaker 3 (28:48):
And they could surprise you. I hope they do.
Speaker 4 (28:51):
I hope so too. Maybe they'll love her the same
way you do. Yeah, we should take a break, and
then we have one more. One of the scrubbers kind
of kept track as stuff we've kind of left hanging
out there that shocked.
Speaker 2 (29:05):
All right, we'll get to those when we get back.
(29:25):
All right, we are back with one final email.
Speaker 4 (29:29):
This is from Alexa. I bet it's hard to be
Alexa these days, don't you think? That's a name that
was really cool for a long long time and then
suddenly it was not so cool to be named Alexa. Anyway,
she says, love the pot. A few things we need
to know about or circle back on. First of all,
we need to taste tests of Becca's breakfast burritos. I
am still thinking about.
Speaker 7 (29:47):
Oh yeah, yeah, that would have been fine.
Speaker 4 (29:54):
I mean, the pie was delicious, but breakfast burritoso had
been fine too, you know.
Speaker 3 (29:58):
I was doing those like every day for a couple
I got burnt out on that spot. But I haven't
made a breakfast bread on a minute.
Speaker 1 (30:03):
You burn out way too fast. Yes, I got my
fried eggs going in a couple of months.
Speaker 2 (30:08):
That new delicacy that no one's ever experienced.
Speaker 4 (30:13):
Let's see, can you do? Can you have someone on
the podcast to do a color theory test on each
of you or do one of the TikTok filters. Color
theory test determines which season of color looks best on
each of you, and we need to know as scrubbers.
Speaker 3 (30:27):
I mean, I would be totally down to do it.
Speaker 2 (30:29):
It's just like, also, I'm just gonna wear sure, but
I do see sometimes I see photos of me in
certain colors.
Speaker 3 (30:36):
I'm like, that is not my color.
Speaker 4 (30:38):
I would be interested to find out what my color is.
But I don't know that that's an interesting podcast, right.
Speaker 3 (30:45):
It's more of a visual experience.
Speaker 2 (30:48):
So maybe we have someone come come in and maybe
one day when we launch a video.
Speaker 1 (30:54):
Podcast podcast material.
Speaker 5 (30:58):
If I'm being honest, I'm just gonna throw that out there.
Speaker 2 (31:01):
Little maybe we'll get them individually and at'll excuse me, a.
Speaker 4 (31:05):
Request for the significant others on the pod including Alison
and Amy, and to play a couple of newly wet
game or just a trivia game. And we did that
once upon a time. Yeah, I gotta tell you my
wife has no interest in being uh, having the spotlight
on her. She's just not a person that's ever craved
the spotlight. Does want to be on the radio, doesn't
min be on podcasts, doesn't want to be on video.
(31:25):
She's she's good. If you could pick I think it's
just a random question she has here. If you could
pick just one item or meal for each breakfast, lunch,
and dinner for an entire week, what.
Speaker 5 (31:38):
Would it be easy?
Speaker 4 (31:39):
I already do this basically.
Speaker 5 (31:42):
Oh, she's saying one item per.
Speaker 4 (31:44):
Meal, one item only. For example, eggs for breakfast, club
sandwich on wheat for lunch. Oh okay, that's a little different.
Speaker 3 (31:53):
And does anyone have this off the top of your head? Yes,
okay for.
Speaker 1 (32:00):
And this is just like barring all whatever, just eating
what you want. Breakfast would be three fried eggs with
Celtic sea salt and black pepper on top.
Speaker 3 (32:15):
That it's not just an easy, no, it ain't.
Speaker 1 (32:22):
For lunch, it would be a cheeseburger wrapped in lettuce
with the side of sweet potato French fries. And for
dinner it would be gluten free, so wet.
Speaker 4 (32:38):
So we are keeping in mind dietary restrictions because you're
going gluten free, but we're not keeping in mind like
health restrictions. Is that we're saying here.
Speaker 5 (32:45):
Yeah, like I would need a burger every day, but like.
Speaker 4 (32:48):
Right right right, like yeah, I hear you.
Speaker 5 (32:52):
There we go, that's mine.
Speaker 4 (32:54):
Uh sure, I would have a I love a poached
egg records out of a couple of le Mark Post
eggs over toast makes me very happy. I think it's
a childhood thing because my mom used to make those
a lot. For lunch, I would have my wife's panini,
which is the greatest sandwich I've ever had my whole life.
It's really great.
Speaker 3 (33:15):
Maybe you should bring those in and.
Speaker 4 (33:18):
And for dinner, I love it deep dish pizza man
with the sauce on top. It's almost like a it's
not it's not like not even a pizza. It's so thick.
There's so much going on in there, the pie blayered.
I love it deep di I cannot find good deep
dish pizza out here. It's like a pie it's like
a pizza pie with thick. I would get a Chicago
style deep dish pizza for dinner, so yummy, deep dish
(33:39):
doesn't do it for me. I'm sorry, you're wrong. I
am really good girl.
Speaker 3 (33:43):
Yeah, but I respect a deep dish love.
Speaker 6 (33:47):
I guess for breakfast, I too would do fried eggs
with the salt and pepper.
Speaker 1 (33:52):
Thank you, Crazy Crazy's wild Celtic Sea salt.
Speaker 4 (33:56):
No.
Speaker 6 (33:57):
I googled Celtic Sea salt and the first thing that
came up is Celtics Salt class action lawsuit.
Speaker 4 (34:01):
Okay, so maybe not.
Speaker 6 (34:03):
We'll talk about this later.
Speaker 4 (34:04):
I don't want to freak you out, but maybe check
your lead levels.
Speaker 3 (34:14):
Anyway, that's amazing salt member.
Speaker 6 (34:17):
And then for lunch, I think I'll do a roast
beef sandwich with cheddar cheese, and for dinner a pepperoni
pizza from Round Table Pizza.
Speaker 4 (34:27):
I could.
Speaker 6 (34:28):
I did eat that every night for a very long time.
Speaker 4 (34:30):
I'm sure. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (34:32):
I think I'm gonna go pancakes for breakfast.
Speaker 3 (34:36):
You know, I was thinking about buttermilk pancakes.
Speaker 2 (34:39):
And then lunch, I love a good sandwich with like
olive oil and vinegarette and like soft.
Speaker 5 (34:47):
Baguette roll like sub Boy Sandy, sub.
Speaker 3 (34:50):
Boy Sandy, but like that like soft yead just like
a sub.
Speaker 2 (34:56):
Nice little sub sandwich with chips, jalapino kettle chips.
Speaker 3 (35:01):
And then my dinner, I actually would go Thin Cross pizza. Wow,
I love you like New York style pizza.
Speaker 4 (35:08):
Okay? Is there a specific restaurant or no.
Speaker 3 (35:11):
Well I'm the one that I've had.
Speaker 2 (35:12):
They have a Joe's here, which is like yours, but
they have they have it here, so it hits different
when you're in New York at Joe's.
Speaker 3 (35:21):
But it's really good here too.
Speaker 4 (35:23):
I'm going to New York in a couple of weeks
a pizza. Maybe we should. My kids have never been there,
so we wanted to make sure we get We showed
them New York. We're going to Broadway shows. My daughter,
the youngest, is going to be doing a dance intensive
all week there, and my oldest thought I was gonna
be doing a musical theater intensive all week there. So
they're going to be performing and oh my god, we
(35:44):
leave the twenty sixth oh July. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (35:47):
A couple of weeks, Eson sent me a text message
with the.
Speaker 2 (35:50):
Information what shows are you all going to see.
Speaker 4 (35:55):
We're going to see and Juliette. We're going to see
Death Becomes Her. I want to see Hell's Kitchen. Those
are the three we've decided are the buzziest and most exciting.
Speaker 5 (36:04):
For not what's the Nicole Scherzinger one.
Speaker 4 (36:08):
She wanted to for that, didn't she?
Speaker 3 (36:09):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (36:09):
I feel like that one's super buzzy.
Speaker 3 (36:13):
And maybe Happen.
Speaker 4 (36:16):
It's a little I don't love the classics as much.
What's the question? What did you say?
Speaker 3 (36:23):
I said? My friend does is a maybe happy ending?
Which is the Darren Chris one that won.
Speaker 4 (36:28):
Right right right, maybe happy ending?
Speaker 2 (36:31):
We can't the one that Charlie Demilio is in.
Speaker 4 (36:35):
Yes, nice, Yes, I love her.
Speaker 5 (36:38):
When are you going to New York?
Speaker 3 (36:40):
I'm not just talk about Mark?
Speaker 4 (36:44):
Yeah, we're really excited about it.
Speaker 3 (36:45):
That's fun. I love New York's so fun too.
Speaker 2 (36:49):
Well.
Speaker 4 (36:50):
One more things. She did request to return to the
live shows.
Speaker 2 (36:54):
Consistent one yes, if not now never, never, no, no, no,
we can't say that one day.
Speaker 5 (37:06):
If not now when if.
Speaker 3 (37:11):
Alex Cooper.
Speaker 2 (37:16):
That's all for now, though, thank y'all for always so
many questions. If you have you're ever like, hey, I
really need some advice on this thing I'm going through,
And I want to ask people who give like mediocre
advice and are like funny but also take it seriously.
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Please DM the Instagram. We give great advice grubbing in at,
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We love y'all so much.
Speaker 5 (37:41):
I don't know about you, guys, but we're not scrubber. Sorry,
it's overwhelmed scrubber some great advice.
Speaker 1 (37:50):
She's not getting married till September, and she's I didn't
do my cards until.
Speaker 3 (37:54):
Like two weeks before it. Sometimes the advice is really good.
Speaker 2 (37:58):
Sometimes I think I hope they go to a therapist
because we did not help them at all.
Speaker 3 (38:03):
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