July 21, 2025 • 48 mins
It’s a new year of new attitude from Tanya! She takes us through the magical and impressive birthday dinner Roby planned, with one detail that was shockingly more stressful than her wedding!
We revisit a moment from April of this year on the podcast that takes on a whole new meaning with Becca’s latest life news.
Plus, we dive deep into our wakeup routines and if they match our partners, and Tanya reveals that Charli XCX might be a Tanya-Tot!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Scrubbing in with Beca Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio
and two times People's Choice Award winning podcast Hello everybody,
were grubbing in? Yes, we are a cir cube.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
How you doing? You're looking dressed up today?
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Thank you so much. New year of life knew me.
You know.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
Oh you're thirty.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
Catch me dressing up? Catch me lifting ways? You know?
Speaker 3 (00:33):
Just yeah, oh my gosh. The new focus, the new
focus of the.
Speaker 4 (00:38):
Nine has begun.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
Always does this and it makes me so mad.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
Yeah, I go. What you're saying.
Speaker 5 (00:45):
You're one in the weeks after you were born. When
you were born, you started your first year. Now you
are starting your thirty ninth year.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
But I am the eight.
Speaker 3 (00:53):
At a certain age, you just say you go younger,
we go to the If it's one or the other,
we go.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
So thirty eight, How was your birthday?
Speaker 1 (01:03):
I'm not mid thirties anymore.
Speaker 3 (01:04):
I'm late thirties, I guess I am, or I guess
when does mid thirties end?
Speaker 1 (01:10):
Mid thirties and thirty six I think is like the end.
Speaker 3 (01:14):
Yeah, so I'll be I'll be entering my late thirties
in October.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
So how does it feel? Feels? Great, she says through
her teeth.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
No, I yeah, I wanna not wear sweats all the
time in my new year of life. I want to.
I think my Instagram algorithm knows either. It definitely knows
that it was my birthday, and it definitely knows my
age because now I keep sending my feet is all
like bone density and like older women and like how
(01:48):
important that is to your health, And I.
Speaker 4 (01:49):
Was like, a new demographic.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
Maybe I guess I'm like, babe, I gotta get back
to my weightlifting because mama's thirty eight.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
Now that's what started it.
Speaker 5 (01:57):
Okay, so now I'm at this sentiment so I can
work you. So you get that stuff. The next thing
youns start getting is the AARP stuff that comes earlier
than you expect it. And now at my age, I'm
getting cremation services.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
Oh my god.
Speaker 5 (02:12):
In the mail fairly regularly, I get cremation services.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
I got a the other day. I got a video
of like a class where seniors learn how to fall
and like catch themselves.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
And I was like, that's actually a very handy video.
But I don't think I'm there yet.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
So yeah, thank you for that.
Speaker 4 (02:32):
To prepare.
Speaker 3 (02:33):
Yeah, I did watch it long enough that I might
start getting served more of that content.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
But you know, age is simply a mindset.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
I totally agree, and I feel younger than ever.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
That's how I feel.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
Thirty eight twenty eight feel the same. Yeah, simply a
a little more tired. But other than that, everything's great.
Slightly more exhausted, slightly more exhausted, but just glowing.
Speaker 3 (03:02):
So no more sweats. But you will be traveling with
your handy dandy blanket. Yes, that's right, it's a blanket
that she did.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
You bring that from home.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
I brought it from home. There is actually Sunny's crazy, yeah,
I yeah, yeah, So you recover her crate with this
blanket for her to go to sleep at night. And
I took it right off her crate this morning because
I was so early. She did not flinch and I
was still dark out, so she didn't need it. Yeah,
And I took it because I knew I was wearing
(03:31):
this like dress, because I picked my clothes out the
night before. I put him in my bathroom, so I'm
not like rummaging around the room while Robbie sleeping, So
I know I was wearing a dress, and I was like, oh,
I'm definitely gonna need a blanket or something to cover
my legs at work. So here we are.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Wow, yeah, you just make it work.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
New Year knew me, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
Yeah, so you posted the video of you, like, uh,
a guy like pushing you on. What was that? Like
a Robbie?
Speaker 3 (03:57):
I know? Okay, so at first I didn't know it
was Robby At first, I who knows Robbie.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
Because you tagged someone else. Oh oh right, and I
was like, this.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
Is kind of an intimate position for someone who was
at Robbie. And then the next video was her pushing
Robbie and I was like, oh, that's who the man.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
Was in the video.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
But yeah, so your new thing is weight training.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
My new thing is weight training. My new thing is
uh not being in my sweats twenty four to seven, okay,
And yeah, this is like I realized, this is like
my first birthday where I haven't had like a breakdown
of like what I haven't accomplished in life. For some reason,
I always tend to do that around my birthday. I
feel like it's like a what well.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
I'm just laughing because it was always kind of like
getting engaged and then getting married and I think you
have those things, so it's like.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
What what's are you?
Speaker 1 (04:46):
Like, there's always an next there's always like a new
thing that you know what I mean, Like there's always
something that you're adding to your.
Speaker 3 (04:53):
Yeah, but the next thing, I think society wise and
like in terms of what you want, would be a baby,
which well happen as you're working on it.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
Yes, in the process of yeah, yeah, I don't know,
but I felt really really good, and like Robbie organized
this dinner for my birthday because I was like, there's
something that goes on after you get married, like you
don't want to ask your friends to do anything else
for like the rest of the year because you're like
they've just done so much bachelorette party, wedding, like it
(05:25):
was just like a lot. So I was like, it's
my birthday, I don't care. I don't want my friends
to do anything. And Robbie was like, all your friends
are in town and they're gonna want to like do
something with you, so let's just like let me handle it.
I'll handle all the details. You don't have to lift
a finger, and he literally did. He took care of
every single little detail.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
That was so impressive.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
It was so impressive. He like literally made the menu
all my favorite foods, all my favorite drinks at the bar,
like decorated it so like I wouldn't have changed a
literal single thing.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
Yeah, I was taking notes. It was really well done.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
Thought about it, playlist, thought it, like literally thought about everything.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
Yeah, it was a rager.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
It was a rager, but like not as I didn't
go as crazy as your wedding.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
But yes, it was nearing that and stopped.
Speaker 1 (06:12):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
Wow, Yeah I think you thank you maturing. That's what happens.
You have war flashedbacks and you suddenly stopped.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
Yeah, but yeah, it was really really nice he did,
like it just means a lot. He just like really,
I feel like he's just so intentional and even like
the morning I woke up on my birthday, he wrote
thirty eight reasons why he loves Me in the shape
of a heart on like my like mirror in the bathroom. Wow,
but he chatgypt how to make a heart out of
(06:41):
post its, so it's like perfectly spaced. It was like
a perfectly spaced heart.
Speaker 5 (06:45):
Yeah, it was very impressive that he sought AI's assistance
on this, not.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
The reasons he loves me but how to space them
out on my mirror. I was like, gorgeous.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
Yeah it was he's an artist, Yeah, he really is.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
Yeah. It was just really nice.
Speaker 3 (07:01):
Yeah. I feel like he matches your thoughtfulness and intentionality
that a word.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
Intentionality, intentionality. Yeah, And it's like cute because he gets
like so exciting and he's like, dude, what do you
think about the like the lamps and what do you
think about the da da da? And I'm like I
love it. Yeah, he gets like really excited about it.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
I messaged him after.
Speaker 3 (07:20):
I was just like, thank you for hosting such a
you know, beautiful night and taking care of Tanya or whatever,
and he was like nothing more I love than celebrating her.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
Oh so cute.
Speaker 2 (07:33):
Yeah it was really fun.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
Yeah, a summer swore. But let me tell you something,
making the seating chart for my dinner birthday dinner was
more difficult than the seating chart at our wedding.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
Yeah. She got so stressed out, like feeling anxious about it,
and I was like, Tanya, everyone, it's dinner.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Everyone's fine, everyone.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
Knows each other, but like some people didn't know people,
so it's like, okay, we need to put people that
know people next to each other, and then we're like
trying to like configure and then there's like two heads
of the table, so they were like, who do we
put at the other head of the table. It was
just like it was a lot.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
She thinks a lot about it.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
Yeah, what else did? What'd you do on your actual birthday?
I saw you?
Speaker 3 (08:11):
Yea.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
That was like first an hour I worked and then
I got a lymphatic massage. I went to lunch with
Paulina and Robbie, and then Sophia ended up surprising me,
and then I went to pilates and then Becca came
over gave me a really nice gift, and then I
went to dinner with Robbie.
Speaker 5 (08:31):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
Yeah it was action packed.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
Yeah, you were busy.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
I was a busy Guala at my summer soire.
Speaker 3 (08:40):
Oh okay, okay, this was something where I dropped the ball.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
What I had a moment where I dropped the ball?
What with Haley?
Speaker 1 (08:48):
Oh that's okay because we still celebrated.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
You, I know.
Speaker 3 (08:52):
But so basically, back like a month ago, Robbie had
called me to ask me dates for Tanya's birthday did
and was asking like my availability and he was like,
I'm trying to decide if we should do it on
her actual birthday or which is a Friday or Saturday.
And I was like, I'm free either or Haley could
hear me from the other room, and She's like, I'm
not available on Saturday because she was going she got
(09:13):
her dad concert tickets to see the Marias in Santa Barbara.
Speaker 4 (09:18):
Oh fun.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
So I was like, yeah, he doesn't know the date.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
So once he confirms if it's Saturday, I'll let him
know that you can't go. Well, like a couple days later,
he confirms it and I forgot to let him know,
So then I find out that he had that they
had talked about the proposal because she was trying to
figure out when to do our engagement dinner, and so
I assumed since they were talking that she let him know.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
So like two days.
Speaker 3 (09:44):
Before the party, I go, hey, you let Robbie know
that you weren't going to the party, right, And she goes, Babe,
I told you a month ago that I wasn't gonna
be there.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
And I was like hm mm hmmm.
Speaker 3 (09:54):
So I texted Robbie and I could tell he was
like so annoyed with me, and I was like no.
I could feel it. And then even the next day,
I was like, let me know if you need anything.
He's like, oh, we're all good. I was like, oh,
he's annoyed. So I told Tanya and she.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
Was like yeah, She's like, we got y'all a cake,
and I was.
Speaker 3 (10:13):
Like, why aren't y'all celebrating I say, your birthday, because
like I.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
Remember when when Robby and I got engaged, I feel
like people made a big deal of it, like at
like at Shabbats, like they would like shout us out
and get us like a special hola or like do
you know what I mean? Like people when we got engaged,
everybody made like a thing of it, and I thought
it was so nice. So I was like, okay. I
was like, babe, at my birthday dinner, I want to
have a cake for Becca and Haley just to celebrate
(10:39):
their engagement. And so we got them a cake. And
then Becca was like, Hayley's not coming and we're like well.
Speaker 3 (10:47):
I was like, I'm sorry, I had no idea that
we were gonna be celebrated at your party, but we
still did. And y'all got us and y'all I gotten
us a step and repeat heart bouquet. We were set
on celebrations, That's what Carston called it. When Alan Carson
(11:07):
came by after we got engaged and they were like,
who sent the step and repeat flowers, I was like,
take a guess. They're like Donya and Robbie.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
I just know.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
I just remember how much those things meant to me
when I got engaged, and so I was.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
Like, really, I appreciate it.
Speaker 3 (11:25):
I just was like, dang, I my sincerest apologies for
dropping the ball in this one.
Speaker 2 (11:30):
And then everyone's like, where's Haley And I'm like, she's
at a cloncert with her dad. It happened for Father's
Day way before.
Speaker 1 (11:42):
But it was really really sweet. Everybody was really I
also feel like my parents, Robbie's parents and like everybody
with that was at our dinner was very happy for
you guys and excited for you guys. So we wanted
to like acknowledge.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
No, it meant a lot. It was really sweet and
the cake was so cute, so delicious.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
We had four cakes and like all of them were
eaten basically like down to I'd say like ten percent
left of each cake. And I was shocked because I'm like, oh,
people I was like, people don't really like dessert, Like
nobody really eats cake and everybody ate literally don't.
Speaker 3 (12:16):
Care you're hanging out with, but who's not eating dessert
or cake?
Speaker 1 (12:20):
I feel like a lot of people don't really eat
like a ton. They'll have like a little time of
like a little slice.
Speaker 5 (12:26):
They say that because they know that left to their
own devices, they'll go crazy.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
Yeah, but everybody kept saying, I'll take a tiny slice
of each one. So I was just slicing each cake.
Speaker 3 (12:35):
Yeah. It was weird because it triggered something in me
of like people kept coming and wanting some of my cake,
and I felt like so proud of that, even though
I didn't pick the cake.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
I didn't pick the flavor or anything that I kept
vanilla with berries in it. Then we had a marble
chocolate cake. Then we had a fun fetti cake, and
then we had a gluten free one for meat.
Speaker 4 (12:54):
Nice.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (12:55):
I have found that the older I got, the harder
time I have turning down sweets. Yeah, they have a
pretty easy time of that.
Speaker 4 (13:01):
Now.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
You know what's so funny?
Speaker 2 (13:03):
So really let yourself go crazy at lunch.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
At my birthday lunch, Sophia and Paulina brought me a
cake and they were it was a gluten free carrot cake,
and Sophia was like, you know, you're one of my
best friends and I don't know your favorite kind of cake.
And I was like, do you want to know why
there's not a cake I don't love? Like, there's not
a flavor that I'm like, I actually hate this cake,
like red velvet delicious, carrot divine, chocolate, amazing, vanilla with
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berries is probably my least, but I will always have it. Yeah, right,
funfetti delicious. You know a lemon carrot person, you're having
the wrong carrot cake.
Speaker 3 (13:42):
I've tried the best of the best. There's just something
about it that I don't. I don't I'm not into.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
You're not having the right one. Let me get you
a really good one.
Speaker 2 (13:53):
I'm not gonna like it, but I'm willing to try.
Speaker 1 (13:55):
Yeah, Okay, coffee cake, oh, forget it.
Speaker 4 (13:58):
For get.
Speaker 3 (14:01):
That's good. Hailey's favorite, well, ice cream coffee cake.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
It's so anyways, just a little bit about me and
my cake journey in life.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
But you love sweets, so I do.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
That's my that is my and I've been eating a
lot of sweets after like on our honeymoon, I was like, oh,
it's my honeymoon. Yeah, I'm gonna get desert every night,
and then it's hard to rule yourself back in. Yeah,
so I haven't yet, but I will.
Speaker 2 (14:34):
Did you start any new shows over the weekend or
watch anything?
Speaker 1 (14:38):
I'm watching Love Island UK.
Speaker 2 (14:40):
Oh, and it's so good. How many episodes in?
Speaker 1 (14:45):
That's a great question. I don't know. I just let
them roll, but I'd say we're probably in the like teens.
Speaker 2 (14:49):
Oh wow, you're catching up quick.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
That's right, baby, all right, I.
Speaker 2 (14:54):
Might be into starting it. It's very I can't. I
can't set the pace and we have to do one
to to a night, and that's that's just.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
Let it roll. Do laundry, let it roll, do the dishes.
Speaker 3 (15:03):
You can hear their voices, though there's something about it
that like, by the time I've heard them for too long,
I don't care at all.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
Yeah, Okay, are you watching anything new?
Speaker 3 (15:13):
No, I'm trying to think I did. I watched some
like dark Things over the weekend. I love like a documentary,
so I watched like the Amy Bradley Missing Amy Bradley.
She was like went on a cruise with her family
and just disappeared. Do you remember the story?
Speaker 5 (15:28):
I shouldn't laugh at that, but it's funny that that's
the stuff you're finding.
Speaker 3 (15:31):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
And then I watched the Idaho for the.
Speaker 4 (15:36):
Interesting.
Speaker 3 (15:37):
Well. It was actually really devastating because it was kind
of like intered it. It was weird because I only
knew them in photos and then this documentary kind of
brought them to life and like you met like their family,
their people that were close to them, and it like,
really it was very somber.
Speaker 1 (15:53):
There's not money that you could pay me to watch that,
I don't think. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (15:57):
And then we went and saw Jurassic World because Haley
really wanted to watch it and you had raved about it,
and I already knew I was going to be scared
going into it. Anything with like a month like a jaw.
I can't watch shark movies. I can't watch dinosaur movies.
But she really wanted to go, so I said, get
some snacks, a recliner seat snacks.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
I'm good.
Speaker 3 (16:18):
I was so scared the whole movie. I was tense
for two hours. She loved it, and I think for
what it was, it was great. I just can't I
can't do those movies. I know.
Speaker 1 (16:29):
I'm so surprised that you're such a little chicken pot, so.
Speaker 3 (16:32):
Surprised that you can watch those and not say that
it's scary.
Speaker 1 (16:37):
It's not scary. It's like, it's exciting, it's jumpy, it's yeah,
it's just scary.
Speaker 3 (16:42):
Easton said, it's scary too, so.
Speaker 4 (16:45):
So so scary.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
It's not a scary movie.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
It's a thriller of sorts.
Speaker 1 (16:50):
Yeah, something thriller.
Speaker 3 (16:53):
I wanted to talk about this flashback to a dear
Bonnia episode from back in April, But we are going
to take a break and we'll be right back.
Speaker 1 (17:23):
What I wanted to ask you, because it's been a
couple of weeks now that you've been engaged. Yeah, are
you gonna like celebrate each month? Like what's your no?
Speaker 3 (17:37):
No, no, But I think you knew the answer to
that for you.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
I don't think you celebrated, but no one cares more
about that moment than you said.
Speaker 1 (17:50):
Every month after our wedding, I was going to every
fourteenth of the month that we would like celebrate one
more month married, and we've somehow missed every.
Speaker 2 (17:57):
Fourteenth of the month.
Speaker 3 (17:59):
I'm like, damn it, it's hard it's hard to keep
up with those things.
Speaker 1 (18:03):
That's tough.
Speaker 6 (18:03):
But Paris Hilton does that. She's a month aversaries since
they started dating.
Speaker 2 (18:10):
It's really cute.
Speaker 3 (18:11):
Every morning heally goes fiance. Yeah, so we do have that,
but we're yeah, we don't. We're not like cel.
Speaker 4 (18:20):
You wake up at the same time.
Speaker 3 (18:22):
I mean typically around the same time. But like if
she doesn't, if I have to get up and go
do something, it's like earlier that she has to be up,
she can just sleep past it. But if she's up
and there's like stuff happening, I can't just sleep. I
might lay in bed longer, but like, I'm not like snoozing.
Speaker 1 (18:41):
Yeah, I don't like that. I get really sad waking.
Speaker 4 (18:46):
Up to just an empty bed.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
No, no, it's not empty because he's laying there, but
he's asleep.
Speaker 5 (18:53):
Oh I thought you were saying he's already up and
doing things when you wake up and that makes you sad.
Speaker 1 (18:57):
No, he's like asleep, and I'm like, oh, I wish
I could like wake up and give him a kiss
and or my dog, like I was just somebody.
Speaker 2 (19:04):
Was awake, you know, you give him a kiss.
Speaker 1 (19:06):
Want we come up? Like at three five in the morning.
Speaker 4 (19:11):
Oh, I thought this was like weekends.
Speaker 1 (19:12):
I was visioning, like because on the weekends we usually
wake up at the exact same time. Yeah, I'm not
worried about the I'm like talking about like weekdays and
we come into work right now.
Speaker 4 (19:21):
You don't want to bother him, no, no, oh, and.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
He's so pissed if he was waking up with three
forty five on my weekend and he was leaning over
and giving me a kiss. Oh.
Speaker 3 (19:29):
No, Haley comes like if she gets up orly has flight,
she's had.
Speaker 2 (19:32):
Like an early flight or something. I get up and
like walk her out a door and then get back
and back.
Speaker 4 (19:37):
That's kind of sweet.
Speaker 5 (19:38):
I used to do that for Ameers when we were
first married. Yeah, we were first married, actually maybe just dating.
She was working as a personal trainer and she had
like a five am shift in the West Side. We
lived in North Hollywood, so he would get up. I
would make her coffee out because I had nothing to
do all day. Yeah, nothing going on, So yeah, I
thought that was important. But now I would never do that.
I am like, I know what to the floor, squeak
(20:01):
in what parts? Don't such a mouse?
Speaker 1 (20:04):
Yeah, I try to be a mouse like, But now
I'm gonna tell him that he should be making me coffee.
Speaker 2 (20:09):
I don't didn't say, I mak her coffee, get her
out the door.
Speaker 3 (20:13):
I walk her out the door, and then I give
her I hug her and kiss her and lock the
door and I go get back in bed.
Speaker 5 (20:20):
Dang, yeah, are you good at falling back asleep if
it's early like that?
Speaker 3 (20:24):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (20:24):
Yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
But if I if.
Speaker 3 (20:26):
It's like around like the six region, I.
Speaker 2 (20:29):
Won't go back to sleep.
Speaker 5 (20:30):
You know what I had recently scared the hell out
of me, But then chet GPT talked me down. It's
called a hypnic jerk hYP and I.
Speaker 4 (20:39):
See that sounds like it feels good. Jerk not so.
Speaker 5 (20:43):
What it was is as I would start to fall asleep,
it would feel like my heart skipped a beat, and
then I'd be wide awake again. Every time I was
almost asleep, heart skips would beat back awake again. I'm like, okay,
I'm dying. I have a cardio problem. Everything's bad. I'm
never going to sleep again, and I'm losing my mind.
So the next morning, I go on chatch what's haw
him to make? Hey, it's a hypnic jerk. Everything's fine.
(21:05):
It's not a cardiac thing. It's a psychological thing. It's
not something distressed about. You want to talk to your doctor,
go ahead, but it's fine. Knowing that made me feel
so much better. So that night I started going to
sleep and I started feeling it and I'm like, okay,
I know this is psychological.
Speaker 4 (21:19):
It's fine. I'm not going to forge out about it.
And I fell asleep.
Speaker 3 (21:22):
I was fine, Okay, is this the same thing as
like you know when you twitch and you jerk, when
it's like that.
Speaker 2 (21:27):
Yeah, Oh, I didn't know it was a heart thing.
Speaker 4 (21:29):
Mine was a hard thing. There's different kinds of hypnic jerks.
Speaker 2 (21:31):
I feel it in your heart though, I felt it.
Speaker 4 (21:33):
In my heart.
Speaker 2 (21:35):
Yes, it was very scary.
Speaker 5 (21:40):
It is kind of exciting, but it's just every time,
for like hours, like I was losing it.
Speaker 1 (21:45):
Yeah, it's like a twitch twitch yeah yeah, yeah, yeah.
I forgot this. I forgot to tell this story when
we were talking about my birthday dinner, but it was
so funny that I have to share it. Because my
mother in law stands up to give this like speech
and she was sitting next to Sisany and she was like,
I just have to mention what the Sisany said to me?
(22:07):
I asked her if she has a good relationship with
her mother in law and she said, that's why I
married him. And I was like, we got to throw
a girl under the bus on her birthday dinner.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
And you said same, same thing.
Speaker 5 (22:20):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (22:21):
I was on the fence about Robbie until I met
the two of you, and then I was locked in.
Speaker 3 (22:27):
We played fish Bowl after we like went inside and
played fish Bowl, which, if you don't know, it's like
everyone writes down.
Speaker 2 (22:34):
Ever, everyone writes memory.
Speaker 1 (22:36):
I have. Playing fish bowl is so much fun.
Speaker 4 (22:38):
It's a great game.
Speaker 2 (22:40):
If you don't know, you everyone writes down like five anything.
You can write down. Anything.
Speaker 1 (22:45):
You could write down back Atilly, you could write down.
Speaker 2 (22:47):
I wrote down, hello everybody. We are scrubbing in.
Speaker 3 (22:53):
And then you put them all into a bowl and
you do like three rounds.
Speaker 2 (22:57):
Anyways, it's super fun.
Speaker 3 (22:58):
But we did a theme that was Tanya and Robbie's
mom had never played before, so we were just right.
We were like, write things about Tanya. So we start
going through them and I noticed this, like cursive hands, do.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
You all the other clues? It's I'm the I'm the
what's the what's what's the thing the subject?
Speaker 3 (23:17):
Right?
Speaker 2 (23:17):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
All the other clues are like Robbie's hands, humping Robbie's leg,
like there's so many inappropriate.
Speaker 2 (23:30):
Sixty nine. I was like, oh my god.
Speaker 3 (23:33):
Anyways, yeah, so then there's like in cursive writing, it's
like loving, sweet, gorgeous, and I'm like, who wrote these adjectives?
And we realized Tanya's mother in law just thought it
was supposed to be like quality or adjectives describing Tanya.
Speaker 2 (23:50):
So it was really sweet. It was really cute.
Speaker 1 (23:53):
It was really cute.
Speaker 2 (23:54):
It was a good laugh.
Speaker 1 (23:55):
It was honestly, if you are having any sort of
party or gathering the rest of the summer, fish bowl
to cap it off at the end of the night
is peak peak.
Speaker 4 (24:04):
Peak three rounds, right, the second round is one.
Speaker 1 (24:07):
The second out is acting no words.
Speaker 4 (24:10):
That's the second round, and the third word.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
Third round is one word. Yeah, fun, it is fun.
Speaker 3 (24:16):
So there was something that Okay, so we had a
someone found I love the scrubbers because they keep us accountable,
Like we don't remember anything that we said or talked about,
but they do.
Speaker 2 (24:28):
And I really appreciate that about them.
Speaker 3 (24:30):
But they had a flashback to a Dear Bonnie episode
that we are going to replay.
Speaker 5 (24:35):
I guess Kobe Rico in the which, by the way,
great name, great name. Yes, scrubbers have great names. Kobe
Rico found this and thought we should react to it.
Speaker 4 (24:45):
All right.
Speaker 5 (24:45):
This is from April of this year, April third, an
episode called Dear Banya Froyo, and we are talking about
a potential Becca engagement, which was still, of course, very
hypothetical at the time. That's what we were discussing, and
Beca saying how she's not gonna let time know in advance.
Speaker 4 (25:01):
Here we go, What will you do?
Speaker 3 (25:04):
What's gonna be a reaction when I just FaceTime you
one day?
Speaker 1 (25:08):
It's gonna be tough because I'm gonna be excited for you,
obviously that I'm gonna be sad if you didn't tell
me that was coming.
Speaker 2 (25:13):
Oh, I already warned you about that months ago.
Speaker 1 (25:17):
Yeah, you were, so you're really just knock into You're
just gonna do it.
Speaker 2 (25:22):
That's a secret. I'll never tell or.
Speaker 1 (25:24):
Are you gonna tell some friends and just not me?
Speaker 2 (25:27):
No, if I told anyone, you would obviously be someone.
Speaker 1 (25:30):
That I would tell you and ask her parents.
Speaker 2 (25:32):
I probably will I think they'll be like, really, you
don't have.
Speaker 1 (25:37):
To ask, but I will so they'll know.
Speaker 2 (25:40):
They'll know that it's coming, but I'm not going to
tell them any details.
Speaker 4 (25:43):
Is there any chance she would beat you to the punch?
Speaker 2 (25:46):
I don't think so. Okay, I don't think so.
Speaker 3 (25:50):
If she did, that would be like the ultimate surprise,
because I don't I would. I wouldn't think so, so,
but yeah, if I were to, if I were to
tell people, you would definitely be someone I would tell.
Speaker 2 (26:03):
But my goal would be to tell nobody.
Speaker 5 (26:06):
Easter and I are going to pretend that we knew
in advanced just to mess with you. I'm going to
telegraph that.
Speaker 4 (26:11):
Joke right now.
Speaker 1 (26:13):
I never and a million years thought she would beat
you to the punch.
Speaker 4 (26:20):
We're back.
Speaker 2 (26:24):
Yeah, well I'm so old to my promise. I didn't know.
Speaker 3 (26:28):
It's so funny because everyone's like, you had no clue,
and I'm like, you don't understand. I had no clue.
Speaker 2 (26:34):
I hadn't. I never imagined it was going to happen,
that she would do it first. But your reaction, people
loved it.
Speaker 1 (26:45):
You post it on my birthday. People were like, it's
so fun to see the other side of the call,
I know, and.
Speaker 3 (26:49):
Everyone was like, I love that Tanya and Robbie both
knew that Ya wouldn't want to have the video of
this reaction.
Speaker 2 (26:57):
Yeah, that's so funny that.
Speaker 3 (27:00):
Tanya had no idea zero, But she really couldn't have
told you, and I think I could. I think I
could tell you without worrying that you wouldn't say no.
Speaker 1 (27:11):
Right because I don't see Haley as much as I
see you.
Speaker 3 (27:14):
But we'd have to like, don't do no double dates
or anything.
Speaker 1 (27:19):
And I would keep myself away. And I actually, like
fully respect people not telling me that stuff because I
think that my I think my vibe would change around
you if I knew, and I could lie like my
words would say nothing.
Speaker 2 (27:34):
Your eyes would give you away.
Speaker 3 (27:36):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (27:37):
And then same with Ali.
Speaker 3 (27:39):
She was just like y'all, y'all You and Tanya like
you talked to Ali Antonia too much to.
Speaker 2 (27:45):
Trust too much.
Speaker 1 (27:47):
Yeah, there's just only had her baby. What's his name?
Speaker 3 (27:52):
I don't think she hasn't announced it, so I'm not
going to announce it yet, doesn't hasn't written out the
offici per certificate yet. But he was born the day
after you.
Speaker 4 (28:04):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (28:05):
Wow, I said all I.
Speaker 3 (28:06):
Need is for him to stay in one day past.
Speaker 2 (28:10):
And he did.
Speaker 1 (28:12):
Yeah, what a guy.
Speaker 2 (28:13):
Yeah, so I got to go see him yesterday.
Speaker 1 (28:15):
You did in the hospital.
Speaker 2 (28:17):
Uh yeah, but I think today they go home. Oh
but I'm so excited.
Speaker 1 (28:21):
How long did you stay in the hospital after you
have a baby.
Speaker 3 (28:24):
This is interesting and I'm curious how long y'all stayed
because it feels rushed.
Speaker 4 (28:29):
Oh it felt rushed for us.
Speaker 2 (28:31):
But I wonder if.
Speaker 1 (28:32):
It's because she had him vaginally, right, Yeah, she had
a section.
Speaker 3 (28:36):
No, and she everything went well. So but still it
just feels like you're you're handed this child and then
they're like, okay, go hi.
Speaker 5 (28:47):
Yes, that was scary as hell. And I'm gonna have
told this story before. But we were driving home of
Tobaga Canyon Boulevard because Ali was born at Kaiser in
Woodland Hills, and we're driving up and I remember thinking
to myself, these people would not be driving this crazy
if they knew he had an in this car. And
then I was like, Oh, that's those stupid baby on bostickers.
(29:08):
That's why people do that. I get it now.
Speaker 4 (29:11):
I was so freaked out by every other car.
Speaker 2 (29:14):
I know, they're so tiny, and we didn't know what
we were doing.
Speaker 1 (29:17):
How can they just go as a child so you
give birth, Like, let's say you so she gave birth
on a Saturday, So she's there Saturday, Sunday, Monday, and
then goes home Tuesday. Yeah, but I don't know time.
Speaker 2 (29:25):
I think it was last for it goes home today
which is Monday.
Speaker 1 (29:28):
Oh, oh, so she's there. Yeah.
Speaker 5 (29:30):
They say twenty four to forty eight hours after a
vaginal birth, sea section is longer.
Speaker 3 (29:34):
It just felt like it was always longer. But maybe
I don't know why I have that idea. But then
Carson was saying his brother that they live in Amsterdam
and they went home.
Speaker 2 (29:44):
The same day.
Speaker 3 (29:45):
Wow. And basically they just send nurses to the home,
which I was like, well, that's kind of nice because
you're in your space.
Speaker 5 (29:50):
It's comfortable and transition, like you get help for the
first couple days you're at home, which we would have loved.
And honestly, if we did by at the hospital for
a month, we still had been freaked out on our
own with this child.
Speaker 4 (30:02):
We were not qualified.
Speaker 2 (30:03):
Goes, we don't know what we're doing. I was like,
he won't know, he won't know.
Speaker 4 (30:07):
That's the beauty of it.
Speaker 2 (30:09):
You're all figuring it out together. He's so cute.
Speaker 1 (30:16):
Though you held him. Yeah, did you like feel things?
Speaker 2 (30:20):
I love him?
Speaker 1 (30:21):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (30:22):
Oh like for myself? Yeah, no, I do have that.
I love I love babies, I love kids. But that's
I love him. Doesn't stir anything up?
Speaker 2 (30:38):
Does it for you?
Speaker 1 (30:39):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (30:40):
Oh really? Oh that's good. It's a good sign. Listen.
You gotta listen to that mother nature, just your gut instinct.
Speaker 3 (30:50):
Yeah. I want to talk about something that everyone's talking about,
the Coldplay couple.
Speaker 4 (30:55):
We don't want to be the only show to not talking.
Speaker 2 (30:56):
About it feels like a little late.
Speaker 3 (30:58):
You know, it's like what been a week or something,
but it feels like a conversation topic that we need
to cover as a pop culture podcast.
Speaker 2 (31:09):
Pa Winner two years in a row.
Speaker 1 (31:12):
Yeah, somebody told me that the man's daughter, the guy
that had the affairs daughter, is like trying to become
like an influencer.
Speaker 3 (31:21):
Now, I think you want to know something sick.
Speaker 2 (31:25):
Yes, he does not have a daughter. He has two sons.
And this girl just said that she was.
Speaker 3 (31:30):
The daughter got like like two hundred thousand fault.
Speaker 2 (31:34):
I don't even know what she's at now got like
went viral, has like crazy amount of followers.
Speaker 1 (31:39):
He has two sons. Are you sure?
Speaker 2 (31:43):
Yeah? Look it up.
Speaker 1 (31:44):
Oh the picture I saw I think was the woman
in the affair, the woman that had the affair.
Speaker 4 (31:48):
Why you look that up? What we should take a break?
Oh yeah, you have to get one more in.
Speaker 2 (31:53):
Oh yeah, we are back.
Speaker 4 (31:55):
Please enjoy.
Speaker 2 (32:13):
All right, we are back. So the affair scene around
the World via Chris Martin.
Speaker 4 (32:19):
I love it.
Speaker 5 (32:20):
I love when all of the world unites around something. Yeah,
whether it's a song or a TV show or a
movie or a meme or whatever, I just love it.
Speaker 4 (32:28):
So I love stuff like that.
Speaker 1 (32:29):
I saw this. I wish I would have saved the
Instagram because the audio was hilarious. But it's basically this
girl talking about like all the different ways that she's
like sharing the story. And she was like talking about
in her like uh, work group chat and the like
Fran at the office was like, who's cold playing? She
was like, you know, Vita Libida and like went through
this whole process and then basically her whole thing was
(32:50):
like it's like this story is the great unifier, you know,
like we have a nation we need yes.
Speaker 3 (32:55):
Yeah, and I've seen people be like I don't want to,
I'm just like heartbroken for the family.
Speaker 2 (33:00):
It's like, yeah, of course, but these.
Speaker 1 (33:02):
Two Dingalings comeback.
Speaker 3 (33:07):
N literally that's coming at them. Like obviously I feel
terrible for the families. But it's like, what a the
sweetest karma there ever was that you could wish for
someone to.
Speaker 1 (33:21):
Step down resigned from his job. I don't know what's
happening with the woman, but she.
Speaker 2 (33:26):
Was married or is married.
Speaker 3 (33:28):
I don't know their current situation to another CEO and
someone's like, how did this woman find two cee.
Speaker 1 (33:35):
And I can't even get a date on a Friday night.
Speaker 3 (33:39):
But yeah, the fact that the reaction was just someone
said if they hadn't reacted, if they would have just stayed,
how they were.
Speaker 1 (33:51):
Also what Dingalings go to a concert if you're having
an affair.
Speaker 5 (33:56):
But isn't there kind of like anonymity with that many
people around? On you're in a place with fifteen thousand people,
don't you just blend in.
Speaker 2 (34:02):
And you could just be like the company got.
Speaker 3 (34:05):
A box and so sure you're go, but like, don't
do that, Yeah, don't be swaying back and forth, so with.
Speaker 1 (34:12):
Your arms around each other. It's just so dumb. I
have like a theory that they've been having an affair
for a really long time. This is not a new affair,
because I feel like when you're newly having an affair,
you're like super secretive. It's like in someone's somewhere where,
like secret. When you start going to public places, that's
like you've been having this affair for like a year plus.
Speaker 2 (34:34):
A little too comfortable.
Speaker 6 (34:35):
Yeah, that was Amy levels of affection we saw there
for sure.
Speaker 2 (34:41):
It actually thought of them.
Speaker 3 (34:42):
Yeah yeah, And to get called out like that. And
then I just saw another video where Chris Martin's like, Hey,
just wanted to let y'all know, we're about to show
some couples in the audience, So we're going to have
a camera on you.
Speaker 2 (35:01):
So if you're.
Speaker 1 (35:02):
Also one of the odds that they pan to that couple,
Like I have tried to get on the kiss camp
every King's Game at like all these concerts that the
Jonas brothers do it too, Like I have tried very
hard to get on this kiss camp.
Speaker 4 (35:17):
That's what they're thinking, what are the odds?
Speaker 3 (35:19):
Yeah, but someone posted from like the floor view and
you could see the crowd and this was just a
random photo and you could see them like small.
Speaker 2 (35:30):
They stuck out for some reason.
Speaker 4 (35:32):
It's so well lit.
Speaker 3 (35:33):
Yeah, not like maybe someone said set it up.
Speaker 6 (35:39):
I like thinking that they were like really going at
it hard right before, and that's why the cameraman like
clocked like, oh look there's couple's making out.
Speaker 1 (35:45):
Let's get them.
Speaker 6 (35:46):
And then by the time he got to them, they
were just in the embrace. Wow, that's what I like
to think.
Speaker 5 (35:50):
You see where they're doing it baseball games, the coldplay
cam they call it. Now you know they have the
kiss cam to the lion king cam when you hold
your baby up like Simba.
Speaker 4 (36:00):
Now that the coplay, can they show a couple in
the couple of hides.
Speaker 1 (36:02):
It's so funny, it's so good, it really is.
Speaker 3 (36:05):
But also if they're really having an affair, now, it's
like are they playing the bit or is it real?
Speaker 4 (36:11):
That's true?
Speaker 2 (36:12):
Yeah, that's kind of scary. I was going to say.
Speaker 3 (36:16):
Something about how they Oh so there was okay, so
you mentioned the daughter. There's no daughter who has accumulated
a following on TikTok. And then I saw these statements
released and I think I saw a real one and
then I think, was there no real one?
Speaker 2 (36:34):
So everything's fake.
Speaker 5 (36:35):
If you've seen a statement from Andy Byron, I believe
it is fake. My kids came, Dad.
Speaker 4 (36:38):
You got to hear this.
Speaker 5 (36:39):
You release a statement, I know, and it sounded like
a legitimate statement. But according to this morning, he has
not released any kind of statement.
Speaker 2 (36:45):
What about that his wife?
Speaker 4 (36:46):
I don't did she say something?
Speaker 1 (36:49):
Don't look at me.
Speaker 4 (36:51):
Down? Didn't he?
Speaker 1 (36:52):
Yeah, he resigned on Saturday or crazy over the weekend. Bye,
hope you never get hired again.
Speaker 4 (37:00):
I mean a loser.
Speaker 6 (37:01):
I've never heard of astronomer before today. I think this
is adding value to the company.
Speaker 1 (37:05):
Yeah, but now he's gone, so that the company's skyrocketing
and he's bye bye.
Speaker 3 (37:10):
I can't imagine he's okay, but yeah, I mean, the
thing is is it was just a very embarrassing dumb.
Speaker 1 (37:20):
Here's what I don't understand. Why married If you know
not one person get married. Sure, but if you want
to have an affair, and you you find somebody so
attractive and so wonderful that you're like, I want to
be with this person, why not end your marriage?
Speaker 2 (37:37):
Well? Because because because I think people like I think
exactly so, especially.
Speaker 5 (37:45):
When you're a ceo. Your whole life has been getting
whatever you want. You know, the thing in the life
of a ceo. If people kissing your butt all day long,
you get a massive salary and it's in your contract.
And if you get fired, you can even a bigger
massive salary and say goodbye. Like everything is the whole
world is your oyster. I can have a wife and
a mistress on the side. I'm never gonna get caught.
Nothing bad happens to me. It's a mentality. It's it's
(38:07):
like narcissist adjacent or maybe a branch of narcissism.
Speaker 4 (38:11):
I don't know what that is, but it's real.
Speaker 1 (38:13):
Yeah, definitely narcissist.
Speaker 3 (38:15):
And that might not be his only he could have
been at many Coldplay concerts before.
Speaker 1 (38:20):
But that's my only thing is I'm like, when people
have affairs, I'm just like, why not end your marriage?
Speaker 5 (38:25):
Because Benny has to pay his ex wife half of
his earnings. His kids are distraught and torn apart. You know,
they want their They don't want to destroy their family,
they just want their side piece.
Speaker 1 (38:38):
Also, Okay, well, now you destroyed your family times a
hunt and made them so public, which is.
Speaker 4 (38:43):
Almost always what happens, I think, and.
Speaker 1 (38:44):
You're still probably going to get divorced. So it's just
like it all ends up happening.
Speaker 2 (38:51):
Yeah, the truth always comes to.
Speaker 1 (38:54):
Light, ain't that the truth? Back? You know what else
happened this weekend? Charlie XX got married.
Speaker 2 (39:02):
Yeah, I didn't know. Oh congrats Charlie XCX.
Speaker 1 (39:05):
Did you see the photos?
Speaker 3 (39:07):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (39:07):
Was it? It was like a courtroom.
Speaker 1 (39:09):
Did you notice anything?
Speaker 2 (39:11):
I don't think I looked that long. Oh why what
was there? Butterfly or something?
Speaker 1 (39:15):
No? But I that was my reception wedding dress.
Speaker 2 (39:20):
Oh really wowowal Viv West.
Speaker 3 (39:23):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (39:23):
I was like, damn, me and Charlie XX have more
in common than I thought.
Speaker 4 (39:27):
Does she follow you? Maybe she stole it? Maybe like that?
Speaker 1 (39:34):
Yeah, I do too, but I tailored mine so it's
like a little bit different like hers. Was just like
the raw dog version yep, showing a photo.
Speaker 6 (39:44):
Yeah, it's my desktop background.
Speaker 1 (39:46):
So everybody kept The only reason I clocked it was
because people kept sending it to me saying, is this
the dress you weren't in a reception?
Speaker 2 (39:53):
I was like, yes, after your wedding.
Speaker 3 (39:56):
Brittany Mahomes, who her husband is the quarterback for the
Chiefs wore the same dress that were for your wedding
to like a bachelorette party or something, and everyone kept
sitting in there like, do you think she's always like, no,
you guys, it's on Revolve popped up as an ad
and she said, sure, no.
Speaker 1 (40:12):
I like the conspiracy theory that they that they followed
you and Charlie X follows me and loves it, loved
it so much that she's like, I need that dress.
Speaker 3 (40:20):
Uh huh okay, yeah, well that could have happened because
you did interview her.
Speaker 1 (40:25):
Yes, many many men, many minutes ago while you were
just a baby is lead curly girl.
Speaker 3 (40:33):
I was curious about this sleep, sleep and couples conversation
because I always find it interesting about like how people
how couples sleep, and how that affects their relationship and
how if people do certain things.
Speaker 1 (40:48):
I think being sleep compatible is like a huge thing.
Speaker 3 (40:52):
But when you first started, like when you and Robbie
first started sleeping together, did you sleep well or did
was it like an adjustment from going from like only
sleeping by yourself to.
Speaker 1 (41:04):
Oh, oh, I see what you're saying. I thought you
meant like.
Speaker 2 (41:07):
Yeah, yeah, we're going to get into that. But I'm
saying it was an adjustment.
Speaker 3 (41:10):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, because whether no matter who it is,
no matter how compatible you are, you have to adjust
having another body in the bed.
Speaker 1 (41:17):
Correct, and you.
Speaker 4 (41:19):
Kept for him in your bed.
Speaker 1 (41:21):
Thank you, thank you for the reminder. Yes, it wasn't
a space issue. I also don't move around much. I
take up like a little slipper. It's more of the
when they're tossing and turning.
Speaker 4 (41:33):
Right.
Speaker 1 (41:34):
The emotion is what was disruptive. Now it doesn't bother me.
But yes, in the beginning it was like tough.
Speaker 2 (41:40):
Does he have a lot of emotion?
Speaker 1 (41:41):
A lot emotional? You do legs ou legs, flip flap,
flip flop, goes pee three times a day, three times
a night.
Speaker 2 (41:50):
But his shoulders are cozy with his shirt on. Correct.
Speaker 1 (41:59):
Anytime I any stories from inside my bed, people are
like knowing that he's whinning's clombing right now, it just
so much better.
Speaker 3 (42:08):
You know, I don't go there, and now I'm unfortunately
gonna go thearing that I will.
Speaker 1 (42:13):
Yeah, what about you, it's probably hard for you.
Speaker 2 (42:17):
Yeah, it was, but.
Speaker 3 (42:19):
More so because I felt like when I first because
Haley and I met, and then she went on tour,
so I like didn't even have to adjust right off
the bat. So then when she was like home, it
was just an adjustment to having someone in the bed.
But I also was like falling in love for the
first time, so I was like jittering and couldn't sleep anyway,
(42:40):
so it didn't matter.
Speaker 2 (42:42):
Oh my god, you.
Speaker 4 (42:43):
Guys, that's sweet.
Speaker 1 (42:44):
I'm sorry, yes, so sweet thing.
Speaker 2 (42:49):
There was like a lot of reasons why I wasn't
like sleeping.
Speaker 5 (42:51):
Well, but is it the only time you've ever been
in love? You think, yeah, wow, wow, that is fantastic.
Speaker 1 (42:57):
It's crazy, right.
Speaker 3 (42:58):
I think I had so many guards up my whole life,
like walls and stuff, and I think, especially growing up
in like purity culture, it was like letting anyone in
and physically or emotionally felt like a threat. So I
think I never even gave like my relationship with Robert
or anyone like a chance to go there because I
was just like so shut down.
Speaker 2 (43:17):
So I think Haley a lot of walls came down.
But also.
Speaker 3 (43:23):
I let myself like emotionally go there with her with someone,
and I think I felt, you know, safe to do that,
not that like what she.
Speaker 1 (43:32):
Talks with her hands a lot more. I don't know
if you guys notice this, but the ring hand is getting.
Speaker 2 (43:38):
A lot I think you noticed.
Speaker 3 (43:40):
I think I always talk with my hands, but you're
every time Tanya sees me, she's like, wow, I'm just
not used to you with the ring on. But anyways, Yeah,
I definitely feel like Tony's.
Speaker 2 (43:49):
The first one.
Speaker 1 (43:52):
I'm so honored.
Speaker 3 (43:53):
The first time I let my guard down was with Tanya.
But yeah, we have a very like now, if she
goes away to work for a long time, I have
to adjust sleeping alone, and then I get used to
sleeping alone, and then she comes back and have to
readjust so I just have to adapt, you know.
Speaker 1 (44:08):
Yeah, if there's anything that you are, it's adaptable.
Speaker 2 (44:11):
Well thank you. That's a really nice close.
Speaker 1 (44:13):
Roll with the punches.
Speaker 2 (44:14):
Thank you. Yeah, I try. That's what happens when you
grow up with a lot of kids in a family. Yes, well,
I think you either learn to roll.
Speaker 3 (44:23):
The punches or you grow up and you're because you
had to roll the punches, you are like I need
structure and control.
Speaker 2 (44:29):
But I didn't go that way.
Speaker 1 (44:30):
M hm.
Speaker 2 (44:31):
I just kept on.
Speaker 1 (44:33):
Kept on keeping on.
Speaker 3 (44:34):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, we have a headline here that
says Alison Bree cutting day Frank ghost toenails. But I
just don't know that that's something I'm trying to get
into Monday.
Speaker 5 (44:43):
Yeah, well, I guess it was just a publicity stunt.
Speaker 4 (44:46):
Is that the deal? The movie is about a codependent
couples so together. Yeah, so I don't think it was real.
Speaker 3 (44:53):
Oh something that says this feels like something tong you
would have no problem doing.
Speaker 4 (44:59):
As producer Sam his opinion, I.
Speaker 1 (45:00):
Would not if he needed help.
Speaker 2 (45:07):
Yeah, yeah, you have a hangnail.
Speaker 1 (45:11):
I don't mind. When Robbie broke his ribs and he
like really could barely do anything, I was like, am
I gonna have to take you to the bathroom? And
he was like that's just like a line that I
will not cross, and I was like, I'm happy to
do it. Wow, I did not.
Speaker 2 (45:27):
No, that's so nice. Yeah, I believe it.
Speaker 1 (45:31):
I would do it for you too.
Speaker 2 (45:32):
I believe it. I think. Yeah, you've offered I think
to do some things.
Speaker 3 (45:41):
But in your past when it was like trying to
help someone learn how to use a tampon or something
mental cup, Oh yeah, happy to Yeah, yeah, that's what
she was offering.
Speaker 2 (45:51):
To gotcha. Yeah, don't need a video, don't need tentorial.
Speaker 1 (45:56):
Yeah yeah, but.
Speaker 3 (45:57):
We all appreciate your willingness, and I just have to
say your service. I read all these comments on the
Facebook group of like, I just wish I had a
friend like Tanya.
Speaker 2 (46:06):
She's the best friend.
Speaker 3 (46:07):
And I just want you to feel encouraged to know
that you're such a wonderful friend and everyone loves you.
Speaker 1 (46:12):
Thank you. I thought, a little beaten down. I feel
a little beaten down sometimes from the Facebook.
Speaker 2 (46:17):
From the Facebook group.
Speaker 3 (46:18):
Yeah, interesting because I think I see what comes to
the top for me are like how much they love you.
Speaker 1 (46:25):
I've seen the love recently and it's very very nice. Okay,
but there was a period there where it was just
like slamzilla about you. Yes, what I'm annoying? I talk
too much? Blah blah blah, no.
Speaker 2 (46:41):
Positive, Oh yeah, God, just let let me be me,
let her be her.
Speaker 1 (46:49):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (46:50):
If not only me, that's right, that there will ever
be Yes.
Speaker 1 (46:54):
Isn't that the key to being happy? Happy? That's that
is my affirmation. I am the only me? What was it?
I am the only that will ever be Isn't that
the key to being happy? Somebody gave me my children's book.
Speaker 2 (47:17):
That's a good next venture for you.
Speaker 4 (47:19):
Yeah, good kids book.
Speaker 2 (47:21):
Yea Robbie can do the drawings. You could draw it?
Who could do it together? That's cute.
Speaker 3 (47:31):
You know.
Speaker 1 (47:31):
Actually a friend of mine was saying that they're she's
actually not you know, you say, a friend of mine.
I met this woman one.
Speaker 4 (47:39):
Yeah, we got deep.
Speaker 1 (47:40):
We got deep in this one meeting. But she met
her step son when he was a baby, so she
basically has been with him since he was literally born.
So she was like, I would read him these children's
books that you have for like kids, and it's all
like mommy loves you, Daddy loves you. And she's like,
and I'm the stepmom, you know what I mean. And
so she's like, there's not a lot at the time
this was I think he's probably thirteen now or something,
(48:01):
but there weren't a lot of books that shed light
on like modern families. So maybe something to dabble in
for me.
Speaker 2 (48:10):
Maybe there's some a market gap in the market for.
Speaker 1 (48:13):
That, maybe, but that was a long time ago. I'm
sure there was a ton now. But I was like,
oh my gosh, that's like so crazy.
Speaker 2 (48:19):
Nothing like yours, though, there's nothing else that like what
yours would be.
Speaker 1 (48:23):
Exactly because that's the only me that is not the
key to being happy.
Speaker 3 (48:30):
We have a Dear Bonnie episode this week, so this
is not the last you'll be hearing from us, but nobody.
Speaker 4 (48:37):
We do.
Speaker 2 (48:37):
Hope you have a wonderful week, and we love you.
Somebody love you.
Speaker 1 (48:41):
Bye.
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Speaker 2 (00:22):
How you doing? You're looking dressed up today?
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Thank you so much. New year of life knew me.
You know.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
Oh you're thirty.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
Catch me dressing up? Catch me lifting ways? You know?
Speaker 3 (00:33):
Just yeah, oh my gosh. The new focus, the new
focus of the.
Speaker 4 (00:38):
Nine has begun.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
Always does this and it makes me so mad.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
Yeah, I go. What you're saying.
Speaker 5 (00:45):
You're one in the weeks after you were born. When
you were born, you started your first year. Now you
are starting your thirty ninth year.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
But I am the eight.
Speaker 3 (00:53):
At a certain age, you just say you go younger,
we go to the If it's one or the other,
we go.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
So thirty eight, How was your birthday?
Speaker 1 (01:03):
I'm not mid thirties anymore.
Speaker 3 (01:04):
I'm late thirties, I guess I am, or I guess
when does mid thirties end?
Speaker 1 (01:10):
Mid thirties and thirty six I think is like the end.
Speaker 3 (01:14):
Yeah, so I'll be I'll be entering my late thirties
in October.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
So how does it feel? Feels? Great, she says through
her teeth.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
No, I yeah, I wanna not wear sweats all the
time in my new year of life. I want to.
I think my Instagram algorithm knows either. It definitely knows
that it was my birthday, and it definitely knows my
age because now I keep sending my feet is all
like bone density and like older women and like how
(01:48):
important that is to your health, And I.
Speaker 4 (01:49):
Was like, a new demographic.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
Maybe I guess I'm like, babe, I gotta get back
to my weightlifting because mama's thirty eight.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
Now that's what started it.
Speaker 5 (01:57):
Okay, so now I'm at this sentiment so I can
work you. So you get that stuff. The next thing
youns start getting is the AARP stuff that comes earlier
than you expect it. And now at my age, I'm
getting cremation services.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
Oh my god.
Speaker 5 (02:12):
In the mail fairly regularly, I get cremation services.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
I got a the other day. I got a video
of like a class where seniors learn how to fall
and like catch themselves.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
And I was like, that's actually a very handy video.
But I don't think I'm there yet.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
So yeah, thank you for that.
Speaker 4 (02:32):
To prepare.
Speaker 3 (02:33):
Yeah, I did watch it long enough that I might
start getting served more of that content.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
But you know, age is simply a mindset.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
I totally agree, and I feel younger than ever.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
That's how I feel.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
Thirty eight twenty eight feel the same. Yeah, simply a
a little more tired. But other than that, everything's great.
Slightly more exhausted, slightly more exhausted, but just glowing.
Speaker 3 (03:02):
So no more sweats. But you will be traveling with
your handy dandy blanket. Yes, that's right, it's a blanket
that she did.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
You bring that from home.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
I brought it from home. There is actually Sunny's crazy, yeah,
I yeah, yeah, So you recover her crate with this
blanket for her to go to sleep at night. And
I took it right off her crate this morning because
I was so early. She did not flinch and I
was still dark out, so she didn't need it. Yeah,
And I took it because I knew I was wearing
(03:31):
this like dress, because I picked my clothes out the
night before. I put him in my bathroom, so I'm
not like rummaging around the room while Robbie sleeping, So
I know I was wearing a dress, and I was like, oh,
I'm definitely gonna need a blanket or something to cover
my legs at work. So here we are.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Wow, yeah, you just make it work.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
New Year knew me, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
Yeah, so you posted the video of you, like, uh,
a guy like pushing you on. What was that? Like
a Robbie?
Speaker 3 (03:57):
I know? Okay, so at first I didn't know it
was Robby At first, I who knows Robbie.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
Because you tagged someone else. Oh oh right, and I
was like, this.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
Is kind of an intimate position for someone who was
at Robbie. And then the next video was her pushing
Robbie and I was like, oh, that's who the man.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
Was in the video.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
But yeah, so your new thing is weight training.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
My new thing is weight training. My new thing is
uh not being in my sweats twenty four to seven, okay,
And yeah, this is like I realized, this is like
my first birthday where I haven't had like a breakdown
of like what I haven't accomplished in life. For some reason,
I always tend to do that around my birthday. I
feel like it's like a what well.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
I'm just laughing because it was always kind of like
getting engaged and then getting married and I think you
have those things, so it's like.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
What what's are you?
Speaker 1 (04:46):
Like, there's always an next there's always like a new
thing that you know what I mean, Like there's always
something that you're adding to your.
Speaker 3 (04:53):
Yeah, but the next thing, I think society wise and
like in terms of what you want, would be a baby,
which well happen as you're working on it.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
Yes, in the process of yeah, yeah, I don't know,
but I felt really really good, and like Robbie organized
this dinner for my birthday because I was like, there's
something that goes on after you get married, like you
don't want to ask your friends to do anything else
for like the rest of the year because you're like
they've just done so much bachelorette party, wedding, like it
(05:25):
was just like a lot. So I was like, it's
my birthday, I don't care. I don't want my friends
to do anything. And Robbie was like, all your friends
are in town and they're gonna want to like do
something with you, so let's just like let me handle it.
I'll handle all the details. You don't have to lift
a finger, and he literally did. He took care of
every single little detail.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
That was so impressive.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
It was so impressive. He like literally made the menu
all my favorite foods, all my favorite drinks at the bar,
like decorated it so like I wouldn't have changed a
literal single thing.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
Yeah, I was taking notes. It was really well done.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
Thought about it, playlist, thought it, like literally thought about everything.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
Yeah, it was a rager.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
It was a rager, but like not as I didn't
go as crazy as your wedding.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
But yes, it was nearing that and stopped.
Speaker 1 (06:12):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
Wow, Yeah I think you thank you maturing. That's what happens.
You have war flashedbacks and you suddenly stopped.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
Yeah, but yeah, it was really really nice he did,
like it just means a lot. He just like really,
I feel like he's just so intentional and even like
the morning I woke up on my birthday, he wrote
thirty eight reasons why he loves Me in the shape
of a heart on like my like mirror in the bathroom. Wow,
but he chatgypt how to make a heart out of
(06:41):
post its, so it's like perfectly spaced. It was like
a perfectly spaced heart.
Speaker 5 (06:45):
Yeah, it was very impressive that he sought AI's assistance
on this, not.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
The reasons he loves me but how to space them
out on my mirror. I was like, gorgeous.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
Yeah it was he's an artist, Yeah, he really is.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
Yeah. It was just really nice.
Speaker 3 (07:01):
Yeah. I feel like he matches your thoughtfulness and intentionality
that a word.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
Intentionality, intentionality. Yeah, And it's like cute because he gets
like so exciting and he's like, dude, what do you
think about the like the lamps and what do you
think about the da da da? And I'm like I
love it. Yeah, he gets like really excited about it.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
I messaged him after.
Speaker 3 (07:20):
I was just like, thank you for hosting such a
you know, beautiful night and taking care of Tanya or whatever,
and he was like nothing more I love than celebrating her.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
Oh so cute.
Speaker 2 (07:33):
Yeah it was really fun.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
Yeah, a summer swore. But let me tell you something,
making the seating chart for my dinner birthday dinner was
more difficult than the seating chart at our wedding.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
Yeah. She got so stressed out, like feeling anxious about it,
and I was like, Tanya, everyone, it's dinner.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Everyone's fine, everyone.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
Knows each other, but like some people didn't know people,
so it's like, okay, we need to put people that
know people next to each other, and then we're like
trying to like configure and then there's like two heads
of the table, so they were like, who do we
put at the other head of the table. It was
just like it was a lot.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
She thinks a lot about it.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
Yeah, what else did? What'd you do on your actual birthday?
I saw you?
Speaker 3 (08:11):
Yea.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
That was like first an hour I worked and then
I got a lymphatic massage. I went to lunch with
Paulina and Robbie, and then Sophia ended up surprising me,
and then I went to pilates and then Becca came
over gave me a really nice gift, and then I
went to dinner with Robbie.
Speaker 5 (08:31):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
Yeah it was action packed.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
Yeah, you were busy.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
I was a busy Guala at my summer soire.
Speaker 3 (08:40):
Oh okay, okay, this was something where I dropped the ball.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
What I had a moment where I dropped the ball?
What with Haley?
Speaker 1 (08:48):
Oh that's okay because we still celebrated.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
You, I know.
Speaker 3 (08:52):
But so basically, back like a month ago, Robbie had
called me to ask me dates for Tanya's birthday did
and was asking like my availability and he was like,
I'm trying to decide if we should do it on
her actual birthday or which is a Friday or Saturday.
And I was like, I'm free either or Haley could
hear me from the other room, and She's like, I'm
not available on Saturday because she was going she got
(09:13):
her dad concert tickets to see the Marias in Santa Barbara.
Speaker 4 (09:18):
Oh fun.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
So I was like, yeah, he doesn't know the date.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
So once he confirms if it's Saturday, I'll let him
know that you can't go. Well, like a couple days later,
he confirms it and I forgot to let him know,
So then I find out that he had that they
had talked about the proposal because she was trying to
figure out when to do our engagement dinner, and so
I assumed since they were talking that she let him know.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
So like two days.
Speaker 3 (09:44):
Before the party, I go, hey, you let Robbie know
that you weren't going to the party, right, And she goes, Babe,
I told you a month ago that I wasn't gonna
be there.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
And I was like hm mm hmmm.
Speaker 3 (09:54):
So I texted Robbie and I could tell he was
like so annoyed with me, and I was like no.
I could feel it. And then even the next day,
I was like, let me know if you need anything.
He's like, oh, we're all good. I was like, oh,
he's annoyed. So I told Tanya and she.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
Was like yeah, She's like, we got y'all a cake,
and I was.
Speaker 3 (10:13):
Like, why aren't y'all celebrating I say, your birthday, because
like I.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
Remember when when Robby and I got engaged, I feel
like people made a big deal of it, like at
like at Shabbats, like they would like shout us out
and get us like a special hola or like do
you know what I mean? Like people when we got engaged,
everybody made like a thing of it, and I thought
it was so nice. So I was like, okay. I
was like, babe, at my birthday dinner, I want to
have a cake for Becca and Haley just to celebrate
(10:39):
their engagement. And so we got them a cake. And
then Becca was like, Hayley's not coming and we're like well.
Speaker 3 (10:47):
I was like, I'm sorry, I had no idea that
we were gonna be celebrated at your party, but we
still did. And y'all got us and y'all I gotten
us a step and repeat heart bouquet. We were set
on celebrations, That's what Carston called it. When Alan Carson
(11:07):
came by after we got engaged and they were like,
who sent the step and repeat flowers, I was like,
take a guess. They're like Donya and Robbie.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
I just know.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
I just remember how much those things meant to me
when I got engaged, and so I was.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
Like, really, I appreciate it.
Speaker 3 (11:25):
I just was like, dang, I my sincerest apologies for
dropping the ball in this one.
Speaker 2 (11:30):
And then everyone's like, where's Haley And I'm like, she's
at a cloncert with her dad. It happened for Father's
Day way before.
Speaker 1 (11:42):
But it was really really sweet. Everybody was really I
also feel like my parents, Robbie's parents and like everybody
with that was at our dinner was very happy for
you guys and excited for you guys. So we wanted
to like acknowledge.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
No, it meant a lot. It was really sweet and
the cake was so cute, so delicious.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
We had four cakes and like all of them were
eaten basically like down to I'd say like ten percent
left of each cake. And I was shocked because I'm like, oh,
people I was like, people don't really like dessert, Like
nobody really eats cake and everybody ate literally don't.
Speaker 3 (12:16):
Care you're hanging out with, but who's not eating dessert
or cake?
Speaker 1 (12:20):
I feel like a lot of people don't really eat
like a ton. They'll have like a little time of
like a little slice.
Speaker 5 (12:26):
They say that because they know that left to their
own devices, they'll go crazy.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
Yeah, but everybody kept saying, I'll take a tiny slice
of each one. So I was just slicing each cake.
Speaker 3 (12:35):
Yeah. It was weird because it triggered something in me
of like people kept coming and wanting some of my cake,
and I felt like so proud of that, even though
I didn't pick the cake.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
I didn't pick the flavor or anything that I kept
vanilla with berries in it. Then we had a marble
chocolate cake. Then we had a fun fetti cake, and
then we had a gluten free one for meat.
Speaker 4 (12:54):
Nice.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (12:55):
I have found that the older I got, the harder
time I have turning down sweets. Yeah, they have a
pretty easy time of that.
Speaker 4 (13:01):
Now.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
You know what's so funny?
Speaker 2 (13:03):
So really let yourself go crazy at lunch.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
At my birthday lunch, Sophia and Paulina brought me a
cake and they were it was a gluten free carrot cake,
and Sophia was like, you know, you're one of my
best friends and I don't know your favorite kind of cake.
And I was like, do you want to know why
there's not a cake I don't love? Like, there's not
a flavor that I'm like, I actually hate this cake,
like red velvet delicious, carrot divine, chocolate, amazing, vanilla with
(13:33):
berries is probably my least, but I will always have it. Yeah, right,
funfetti delicious. You know a lemon carrot person, you're having
the wrong carrot cake.
Speaker 3 (13:42):
I've tried the best of the best. There's just something
about it that I don't. I don't I'm not into.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
You're not having the right one. Let me get you
a really good one.
Speaker 2 (13:53):
I'm not gonna like it, but I'm willing to try.
Speaker 1 (13:55):
Yeah, Okay, coffee cake, oh, forget it.
Speaker 4 (13:58):
For get.
Speaker 3 (14:01):
That's good. Hailey's favorite, well, ice cream coffee cake.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
It's so anyways, just a little bit about me and
my cake journey in life.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
But you love sweets, so I do.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
That's my that is my and I've been eating a
lot of sweets after like on our honeymoon, I was like, oh,
it's my honeymoon. Yeah, I'm gonna get desert every night,
and then it's hard to rule yourself back in. Yeah,
so I haven't yet, but I will.
Speaker 2 (14:34):
Did you start any new shows over the weekend or
watch anything?
Speaker 1 (14:38):
I'm watching Love Island UK.
Speaker 2 (14:40):
Oh, and it's so good. How many episodes in?
Speaker 1 (14:45):
That's a great question. I don't know. I just let
them roll, but I'd say we're probably in the like teens.
Speaker 2 (14:49):
Oh wow, you're catching up quick.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
That's right, baby, all right, I.
Speaker 2 (14:54):
Might be into starting it. It's very I can't. I
can't set the pace and we have to do one
to to a night, and that's that's just.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
Let it roll. Do laundry, let it roll, do the dishes.
Speaker 3 (15:03):
You can hear their voices, though there's something about it
that like, by the time I've heard them for too long,
I don't care at all.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
Yeah, Okay, are you watching anything new?
Speaker 3 (15:13):
No, I'm trying to think I did. I watched some
like dark Things over the weekend. I love like a documentary,
so I watched like the Amy Bradley Missing Amy Bradley.
She was like went on a cruise with her family
and just disappeared. Do you remember the story?
Speaker 5 (15:28):
I shouldn't laugh at that, but it's funny that that's
the stuff you're finding.
Speaker 3 (15:31):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
And then I watched the Idaho for the.
Speaker 4 (15:36):
Interesting.
Speaker 3 (15:37):
Well. It was actually really devastating because it was kind
of like intered it. It was weird because I only
knew them in photos and then this documentary kind of
brought them to life and like you met like their family,
their people that were close to them, and it like,
really it was very somber.
Speaker 1 (15:53):
There's not money that you could pay me to watch that,
I don't think. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (15:57):
And then we went and saw Jurassic World because Haley
really wanted to watch it and you had raved about it,
and I already knew I was going to be scared
going into it. Anything with like a month like a jaw.
I can't watch shark movies. I can't watch dinosaur movies.
But she really wanted to go, so I said, get
some snacks, a recliner seat snacks.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
I'm good.
Speaker 3 (16:18):
I was so scared the whole movie. I was tense
for two hours. She loved it, and I think for
what it was, it was great. I just can't I
can't do those movies. I know.
Speaker 1 (16:29):
I'm so surprised that you're such a little chicken pot, so.
Speaker 3 (16:32):
Surprised that you can watch those and not say that
it's scary.
Speaker 1 (16:37):
It's not scary. It's like, it's exciting, it's jumpy, it's yeah,
it's just scary.
Speaker 3 (16:42):
Easton said, it's scary too, so.
Speaker 4 (16:45):
So so scary.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
It's not a scary movie.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
It's a thriller of sorts.
Speaker 1 (16:50):
Yeah, something thriller.
Speaker 3 (16:53):
I wanted to talk about this flashback to a dear
Bonnia episode from back in April, But we are going
to take a break and we'll be right back.
Speaker 1 (17:23):
What I wanted to ask you, because it's been a
couple of weeks now that you've been engaged. Yeah, are
you gonna like celebrate each month? Like what's your no?
Speaker 3 (17:37):
No, no, But I think you knew the answer to
that for you.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
I don't think you celebrated, but no one cares more
about that moment than you said.
Speaker 1 (17:50):
Every month after our wedding, I was going to every
fourteenth of the month that we would like celebrate one
more month married, and we've somehow missed every.
Speaker 2 (17:57):
Fourteenth of the month.
Speaker 3 (17:59):
I'm like, damn it, it's hard it's hard to keep
up with those things.
Speaker 1 (18:03):
That's tough.
Speaker 6 (18:03):
But Paris Hilton does that. She's a month aversaries since
they started dating.
Speaker 2 (18:10):
It's really cute.
Speaker 3 (18:11):
Every morning heally goes fiance. Yeah, so we do have that,
but we're yeah, we don't. We're not like cel.
Speaker 4 (18:20):
You wake up at the same time.
Speaker 3 (18:22):
I mean typically around the same time. But like if
she doesn't, if I have to get up and go
do something, it's like earlier that she has to be up,
she can just sleep past it. But if she's up
and there's like stuff happening, I can't just sleep. I
might lay in bed longer, but like, I'm not like snoozing.
Speaker 1 (18:41):
Yeah, I don't like that. I get really sad waking.
Speaker 4 (18:46):
Up to just an empty bed.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
No, no, it's not empty because he's laying there, but
he's asleep.
Speaker 5 (18:53):
Oh I thought you were saying he's already up and
doing things when you wake up and that makes you sad.
Speaker 1 (18:57):
No, he's like asleep, and I'm like, oh, I wish
I could like wake up and give him a kiss
and or my dog, like I was just somebody.
Speaker 2 (19:04):
Was awake, you know, you give him a kiss.
Speaker 1 (19:06):
Want we come up? Like at three five in the morning.
Speaker 4 (19:11):
Oh, I thought this was like weekends.
Speaker 1 (19:12):
I was visioning, like because on the weekends we usually
wake up at the exact same time. Yeah, I'm not
worried about the I'm like talking about like weekdays and
we come into work right now.
Speaker 4 (19:21):
You don't want to bother him, no, no, oh, and.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
He's so pissed if he was waking up with three
forty five on my weekend and he was leaning over
and giving me a kiss. Oh.
Speaker 3 (19:29):
No, Haley comes like if she gets up orly has flight,
she's had.
Speaker 2 (19:32):
Like an early flight or something. I get up and
like walk her out a door and then get back
and back.
Speaker 4 (19:37):
That's kind of sweet.
Speaker 5 (19:38):
I used to do that for Ameers when we were
first married. Yeah, we were first married, actually maybe just dating.
She was working as a personal trainer and she had
like a five am shift in the West Side. We
lived in North Hollywood, so he would get up. I
would make her coffee out because I had nothing to
do all day. Yeah, nothing going on, So yeah, I
thought that was important. But now I would never do that.
I am like, I know what to the floor, squeak
(20:01):
in what parts? Don't such a mouse?
Speaker 1 (20:04):
Yeah, I try to be a mouse like, But now
I'm gonna tell him that he should be making me coffee.
Speaker 2 (20:09):
I don't didn't say, I mak her coffee, get her
out the door.
Speaker 3 (20:13):
I walk her out the door, and then I give
her I hug her and kiss her and lock the
door and I go get back in bed.
Speaker 5 (20:20):
Dang, yeah, are you good at falling back asleep if
it's early like that?
Speaker 3 (20:24):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (20:24):
Yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
But if I if.
Speaker 3 (20:26):
It's like around like the six region, I.
Speaker 2 (20:29):
Won't go back to sleep.
Speaker 5 (20:30):
You know what I had recently scared the hell out
of me, But then chet GPT talked me down. It's
called a hypnic jerk hYP and I.
Speaker 4 (20:39):
See that sounds like it feels good. Jerk not so.
Speaker 5 (20:43):
What it was is as I would start to fall asleep,
it would feel like my heart skipped a beat, and
then I'd be wide awake again. Every time I was
almost asleep, heart skips would beat back awake again. I'm like, okay,
I'm dying. I have a cardio problem. Everything's bad. I'm
never going to sleep again, and I'm losing my mind.
So the next morning, I go on chatch what's haw
him to make? Hey, it's a hypnic jerk. Everything's fine.
(21:05):
It's not a cardiac thing. It's a psychological thing. It's
not something distressed about. You want to talk to your doctor,
go ahead, but it's fine. Knowing that made me feel
so much better. So that night I started going to
sleep and I started feeling it and I'm like, okay,
I know this is psychological.
Speaker 4 (21:19):
It's fine. I'm not going to forge out about it.
And I fell asleep.
Speaker 3 (21:22):
I was fine, Okay, is this the same thing as
like you know when you twitch and you jerk, when
it's like that.
Speaker 2 (21:27):
Yeah, Oh, I didn't know it was a heart thing.
Speaker 4 (21:29):
Mine was a hard thing. There's different kinds of hypnic jerks.
Speaker 2 (21:31):
I feel it in your heart though, I felt it.
Speaker 4 (21:33):
In my heart.
Speaker 2 (21:35):
Yes, it was very scary.
Speaker 5 (21:40):
It is kind of exciting, but it's just every time,
for like hours, like I was losing it.
Speaker 1 (21:45):
Yeah, it's like a twitch twitch yeah yeah, yeah, yeah.
I forgot this. I forgot to tell this story when
we were talking about my birthday dinner, but it was
so funny that I have to share it. Because my
mother in law stands up to give this like speech
and she was sitting next to Sisany and she was like,
I just have to mention what the Sisany said to me?
(22:07):
I asked her if she has a good relationship with
her mother in law and she said, that's why I
married him. And I was like, we got to throw
a girl under the bus on her birthday dinner.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
And you said same, same thing.
Speaker 5 (22:20):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (22:21):
I was on the fence about Robbie until I met
the two of you, and then I was locked in.
Speaker 3 (22:27):
We played fish Bowl after we like went inside and
played fish Bowl, which, if you don't know, it's like
everyone writes down.
Speaker 2 (22:34):
Ever, everyone writes memory.
Speaker 1 (22:36):
I have. Playing fish bowl is so much fun.
Speaker 4 (22:38):
It's a great game.
Speaker 2 (22:40):
If you don't know, you everyone writes down like five anything.
You can write down. Anything.
Speaker 1 (22:45):
You could write down back Atilly, you could write down.
Speaker 2 (22:47):
I wrote down, hello everybody. We are scrubbing in.
Speaker 3 (22:53):
And then you put them all into a bowl and
you do like three rounds.
Speaker 2 (22:57):
Anyways, it's super fun.
Speaker 3 (22:58):
But we did a theme that was Tanya and Robbie's
mom had never played before, so we were just right.
We were like, write things about Tanya. So we start
going through them and I noticed this, like cursive hands, do.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
You all the other clues? It's I'm the I'm the
what's the what's what's the thing the subject?
Speaker 3 (23:17):
Right?
Speaker 2 (23:17):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
All the other clues are like Robbie's hands, humping Robbie's leg,
like there's so many inappropriate.
Speaker 2 (23:30):
Sixty nine. I was like, oh my god.
Speaker 3 (23:33):
Anyways, yeah, so then there's like in cursive writing, it's
like loving, sweet, gorgeous, and I'm like, who wrote these adjectives?
And we realized Tanya's mother in law just thought it
was supposed to be like quality or adjectives describing Tanya.
Speaker 2 (23:50):
So it was really sweet. It was really cute.
Speaker 1 (23:53):
It was really cute.
Speaker 2 (23:54):
It was a good laugh.
Speaker 1 (23:55):
It was honestly, if you are having any sort of
party or gathering the rest of the summer, fish bowl
to cap it off at the end of the night
is peak peak.
Speaker 4 (24:04):
Peak three rounds, right, the second round is one.
Speaker 1 (24:07):
The second out is acting no words.
Speaker 4 (24:10):
That's the second round, and the third word.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
Third round is one word. Yeah, fun, it is fun.
Speaker 3 (24:16):
So there was something that Okay, so we had a
someone found I love the scrubbers because they keep us accountable,
Like we don't remember anything that we said or talked about,
but they do.
Speaker 2 (24:28):
And I really appreciate that about them.
Speaker 3 (24:30):
But they had a flashback to a Dear Bonnie episode
that we are going to replay.
Speaker 5 (24:35):
I guess Kobe Rico in the which, by the way,
great name, great name. Yes, scrubbers have great names. Kobe
Rico found this and thought we should react to it.
Speaker 4 (24:45):
All right.
Speaker 5 (24:45):
This is from April of this year, April third, an
episode called Dear Banya Froyo, and we are talking about
a potential Becca engagement, which was still, of course, very
hypothetical at the time. That's what we were discussing, and
Beca saying how she's not gonna let time know in advance.
Speaker 4 (25:01):
Here we go, What will you do?
Speaker 3 (25:04):
What's gonna be a reaction when I just FaceTime you
one day?
Speaker 1 (25:08):
It's gonna be tough because I'm gonna be excited for you,
obviously that I'm gonna be sad if you didn't tell
me that was coming.
Speaker 2 (25:13):
Oh, I already warned you about that months ago.
Speaker 1 (25:17):
Yeah, you were, so you're really just knock into You're
just gonna do it.
Speaker 2 (25:22):
That's a secret. I'll never tell or.
Speaker 1 (25:24):
Are you gonna tell some friends and just not me?
Speaker 2 (25:27):
No, if I told anyone, you would obviously be someone.
Speaker 1 (25:30):
That I would tell you and ask her parents.
Speaker 2 (25:32):
I probably will I think they'll be like, really, you
don't have.
Speaker 1 (25:37):
To ask, but I will so they'll know.
Speaker 2 (25:40):
They'll know that it's coming, but I'm not going to
tell them any details.
Speaker 4 (25:43):
Is there any chance she would beat you to the punch?
Speaker 2 (25:46):
I don't think so. Okay, I don't think so.
Speaker 3 (25:50):
If she did, that would be like the ultimate surprise,
because I don't I would. I wouldn't think so, so,
but yeah, if I were to, if I were to
tell people, you would definitely be someone I would tell.
Speaker 2 (26:03):
But my goal would be to tell nobody.
Speaker 5 (26:06):
Easter and I are going to pretend that we knew
in advanced just to mess with you. I'm going to
telegraph that.
Speaker 4 (26:11):
Joke right now.
Speaker 1 (26:13):
I never and a million years thought she would beat
you to the punch.
Speaker 4 (26:20):
We're back.
Speaker 2 (26:24):
Yeah, well I'm so old to my promise. I didn't know.
Speaker 3 (26:28):
It's so funny because everyone's like, you had no clue,
and I'm like, you don't understand. I had no clue.
Speaker 2 (26:34):
I hadn't. I never imagined it was going to happen,
that she would do it first. But your reaction, people
loved it.
Speaker 1 (26:45):
You post it on my birthday. People were like, it's
so fun to see the other side of the call,
I know, and.
Speaker 3 (26:49):
Everyone was like, I love that Tanya and Robbie both
knew that Ya wouldn't want to have the video of
this reaction.
Speaker 2 (26:57):
Yeah, that's so funny that.
Speaker 3 (27:00):
Tanya had no idea zero, But she really couldn't have
told you, and I think I could. I think I
could tell you without worrying that you wouldn't say no.
Speaker 1 (27:11):
Right because I don't see Haley as much as I
see you.
Speaker 3 (27:14):
But we'd have to like, don't do no double dates
or anything.
Speaker 1 (27:19):
And I would keep myself away. And I actually, like
fully respect people not telling me that stuff because I
think that my I think my vibe would change around
you if I knew, and I could lie like my
words would say nothing.
Speaker 2 (27:34):
Your eyes would give you away.
Speaker 3 (27:36):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (27:37):
And then same with Ali.
Speaker 3 (27:39):
She was just like y'all, y'all You and Tanya like
you talked to Ali Antonia too much to.
Speaker 2 (27:45):
Trust too much.
Speaker 1 (27:47):
Yeah, there's just only had her baby. What's his name?
Speaker 3 (27:52):
I don't think she hasn't announced it, so I'm not
going to announce it yet, doesn't hasn't written out the
offici per certificate yet. But he was born the day
after you.
Speaker 4 (28:04):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (28:05):
Wow, I said all I.
Speaker 3 (28:06):
Need is for him to stay in one day past.
Speaker 2 (28:10):
And he did.
Speaker 1 (28:12):
Yeah, what a guy.
Speaker 2 (28:13):
Yeah, so I got to go see him yesterday.
Speaker 1 (28:15):
You did in the hospital.
Speaker 2 (28:17):
Uh yeah, but I think today they go home. Oh
but I'm so excited.
Speaker 1 (28:21):
How long did you stay in the hospital after you
have a baby.
Speaker 3 (28:24):
This is interesting and I'm curious how long y'all stayed
because it feels rushed.
Speaker 4 (28:29):
Oh it felt rushed for us.
Speaker 2 (28:31):
But I wonder if.
Speaker 1 (28:32):
It's because she had him vaginally, right, Yeah, she had
a section.
Speaker 3 (28:36):
No, and she everything went well. So but still it
just feels like you're you're handed this child and then
they're like, okay, go hi.
Speaker 5 (28:47):
Yes, that was scary as hell. And I'm gonna have
told this story before. But we were driving home of
Tobaga Canyon Boulevard because Ali was born at Kaiser in
Woodland Hills, and we're driving up and I remember thinking
to myself, these people would not be driving this crazy
if they knew he had an in this car. And
then I was like, Oh, that's those stupid baby on bostickers.
(29:08):
That's why people do that. I get it now.
Speaker 4 (29:11):
I was so freaked out by every other car.
Speaker 2 (29:14):
I know, they're so tiny, and we didn't know what
we were doing.
Speaker 1 (29:17):
How can they just go as a child so you
give birth, Like, let's say you so she gave birth
on a Saturday, So she's there Saturday, Sunday, Monday, and
then goes home Tuesday. Yeah, but I don't know time.
Speaker 2 (29:25):
I think it was last for it goes home today
which is Monday.
Speaker 1 (29:28):
Oh, oh, so she's there. Yeah.
Speaker 5 (29:30):
They say twenty four to forty eight hours after a
vaginal birth, sea section is longer.
Speaker 3 (29:34):
It just felt like it was always longer. But maybe
I don't know why I have that idea. But then
Carson was saying his brother that they live in Amsterdam
and they went home.
Speaker 2 (29:44):
The same day.
Speaker 3 (29:45):
Wow. And basically they just send nurses to the home,
which I was like, well, that's kind of nice because
you're in your space.
Speaker 5 (29:50):
It's comfortable and transition, like you get help for the
first couple days you're at home, which we would have loved.
And honestly, if we did by at the hospital for
a month, we still had been freaked out on our
own with this child.
Speaker 4 (30:02):
We were not qualified.
Speaker 2 (30:03):
Goes, we don't know what we're doing. I was like,
he won't know, he won't know.
Speaker 4 (30:07):
That's the beauty of it.
Speaker 2 (30:09):
You're all figuring it out together. He's so cute.
Speaker 1 (30:16):
Though you held him. Yeah, did you like feel things?
Speaker 2 (30:20):
I love him?
Speaker 1 (30:21):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (30:22):
Oh like for myself? Yeah, no, I do have that.
I love I love babies, I love kids. But that's
I love him. Doesn't stir anything up?
Speaker 2 (30:38):
Does it for you?
Speaker 1 (30:39):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (30:40):
Oh really? Oh that's good. It's a good sign. Listen.
You gotta listen to that mother nature, just your gut instinct.
Speaker 3 (30:50):
Yeah. I want to talk about something that everyone's talking about,
the Coldplay couple.
Speaker 4 (30:55):
We don't want to be the only show to not talking.
Speaker 2 (30:56):
About it feels like a little late.
Speaker 3 (30:58):
You know, it's like what been a week or something,
but it feels like a conversation topic that we need
to cover as a pop culture podcast.
Speaker 2 (31:09):
Pa Winner two years in a row.
Speaker 1 (31:12):
Yeah, somebody told me that the man's daughter, the guy
that had the affairs daughter, is like trying to become
like an influencer.
Speaker 3 (31:21):
Now, I think you want to know something sick.
Speaker 2 (31:25):
Yes, he does not have a daughter. He has two sons.
And this girl just said that she was.
Speaker 3 (31:30):
The daughter got like like two hundred thousand fault.
Speaker 2 (31:34):
I don't even know what she's at now got like
went viral, has like crazy amount of followers.
Speaker 1 (31:39):
He has two sons. Are you sure?
Speaker 2 (31:43):
Yeah? Look it up.
Speaker 1 (31:44):
Oh the picture I saw I think was the woman
in the affair, the woman that had the affair.
Speaker 4 (31:48):
Why you look that up? What we should take a break?
Oh yeah, you have to get one more in.
Speaker 2 (31:53):
Oh yeah, we are back.
Speaker 4 (31:55):
Please enjoy.
Speaker 2 (32:13):
All right, we are back. So the affair scene around
the World via Chris Martin.
Speaker 4 (32:19):
I love it.
Speaker 5 (32:20):
I love when all of the world unites around something. Yeah,
whether it's a song or a TV show or a
movie or a meme or whatever, I just love it.
Speaker 4 (32:28):
So I love stuff like that.
Speaker 1 (32:29):
I saw this. I wish I would have saved the
Instagram because the audio was hilarious. But it's basically this
girl talking about like all the different ways that she's
like sharing the story. And she was like talking about
in her like uh, work group chat and the like
Fran at the office was like, who's cold playing? She
was like, you know, Vita Libida and like went through
this whole process and then basically her whole thing was
(32:50):
like it's like this story is the great unifier, you know,
like we have a nation we need yes.
Speaker 3 (32:55):
Yeah, and I've seen people be like I don't want to,
I'm just like heartbroken for the family.
Speaker 2 (33:00):
It's like, yeah, of course, but these.
Speaker 1 (33:02):
Two Dingalings comeback.
Speaker 3 (33:07):
N literally that's coming at them. Like obviously I feel
terrible for the families. But it's like, what a the
sweetest karma there ever was that you could wish for
someone to.
Speaker 1 (33:21):
Step down resigned from his job. I don't know what's
happening with the woman, but she.
Speaker 2 (33:26):
Was married or is married.
Speaker 3 (33:28):
I don't know their current situation to another CEO and
someone's like, how did this woman find two cee.
Speaker 1 (33:35):
And I can't even get a date on a Friday night.
Speaker 3 (33:39):
But yeah, the fact that the reaction was just someone
said if they hadn't reacted, if they would have just stayed,
how they were.
Speaker 1 (33:51):
Also what Dingalings go to a concert if you're having
an affair.
Speaker 5 (33:56):
But isn't there kind of like anonymity with that many
people around? On you're in a place with fifteen thousand people,
don't you just blend in.
Speaker 2 (34:02):
And you could just be like the company got.
Speaker 3 (34:05):
A box and so sure you're go, but like, don't
do that, Yeah, don't be swaying back and forth, so with.
Speaker 1 (34:12):
Your arms around each other. It's just so dumb. I
have like a theory that they've been having an affair
for a really long time. This is not a new affair,
because I feel like when you're newly having an affair,
you're like super secretive. It's like in someone's somewhere where,
like secret. When you start going to public places, that's
like you've been having this affair for like a year plus.
Speaker 2 (34:34):
A little too comfortable.
Speaker 6 (34:35):
Yeah, that was Amy levels of affection we saw there
for sure.
Speaker 2 (34:41):
It actually thought of them.
Speaker 3 (34:42):
Yeah yeah, And to get called out like that. And
then I just saw another video where Chris Martin's like, Hey,
just wanted to let y'all know, we're about to show
some couples in the audience, So we're going to have
a camera on you.
Speaker 2 (35:01):
So if you're.
Speaker 1 (35:02):
Also one of the odds that they pan to that couple,
Like I have tried to get on the kiss camp
every King's Game at like all these concerts that the
Jonas brothers do it too, Like I have tried very
hard to get on this kiss camp.
Speaker 4 (35:17):
That's what they're thinking, what are the odds?
Speaker 3 (35:19):
Yeah, but someone posted from like the floor view and
you could see the crowd and this was just a
random photo and you could see them like small.
Speaker 2 (35:30):
They stuck out for some reason.
Speaker 4 (35:32):
It's so well lit.
Speaker 3 (35:33):
Yeah, not like maybe someone said set it up.
Speaker 6 (35:39):
I like thinking that they were like really going at
it hard right before, and that's why the cameraman like
clocked like, oh look there's couple's making out.
Speaker 1 (35:45):
Let's get them.
Speaker 6 (35:46):
And then by the time he got to them, they
were just in the embrace. Wow, that's what I like
to think.
Speaker 5 (35:50):
You see where they're doing it baseball games, the coldplay
cam they call it. Now you know they have the
kiss cam to the lion king cam when you hold
your baby up like Simba.
Speaker 4 (36:00):
Now that the coplay, can they show a couple in
the couple of hides.
Speaker 1 (36:02):
It's so funny, it's so good, it really is.
Speaker 3 (36:05):
But also if they're really having an affair, now, it's
like are they playing the bit or is it real?
Speaker 4 (36:11):
That's true?
Speaker 2 (36:12):
Yeah, that's kind of scary. I was going to say.
Speaker 3 (36:16):
Something about how they Oh so there was okay, so
you mentioned the daughter. There's no daughter who has accumulated
a following on TikTok. And then I saw these statements
released and I think I saw a real one and
then I think, was there no real one?
Speaker 2 (36:34):
So everything's fake.
Speaker 5 (36:35):
If you've seen a statement from Andy Byron, I believe
it is fake. My kids came, Dad.
Speaker 4 (36:38):
You got to hear this.
Speaker 5 (36:39):
You release a statement, I know, and it sounded like
a legitimate statement. But according to this morning, he has
not released any kind of statement.
Speaker 2 (36:45):
What about that his wife?
Speaker 4 (36:46):
I don't did she say something?
Speaker 1 (36:49):
Don't look at me.
Speaker 4 (36:51):
Down? Didn't he?
Speaker 1 (36:52):
Yeah, he resigned on Saturday or crazy over the weekend. Bye,
hope you never get hired again.
Speaker 4 (37:00):
I mean a loser.
Speaker 6 (37:01):
I've never heard of astronomer before today. I think this
is adding value to the company.
Speaker 1 (37:05):
Yeah, but now he's gone, so that the company's skyrocketing
and he's bye bye.
Speaker 3 (37:10):
I can't imagine he's okay, but yeah, I mean, the
thing is is it was just a very embarrassing dumb.
Speaker 1 (37:20):
Here's what I don't understand. Why married If you know
not one person get married. Sure, but if you want
to have an affair, and you you find somebody so
attractive and so wonderful that you're like, I want to
be with this person, why not end your marriage?
Speaker 2 (37:37):
Well? Because because because I think people like I think
exactly so, especially.
Speaker 5 (37:45):
When you're a ceo. Your whole life has been getting
whatever you want. You know, the thing in the life
of a ceo. If people kissing your butt all day long,
you get a massive salary and it's in your contract.
And if you get fired, you can even a bigger
massive salary and say goodbye. Like everything is the whole
world is your oyster. I can have a wife and
a mistress on the side. I'm never gonna get caught.
Nothing bad happens to me. It's a mentality. It's it's
(38:07):
like narcissist adjacent or maybe a branch of narcissism.
Speaker 4 (38:11):
I don't know what that is, but it's real.
Speaker 1 (38:13):
Yeah, definitely narcissist.
Speaker 3 (38:15):
And that might not be his only he could have
been at many Coldplay concerts before.
Speaker 1 (38:20):
But that's my only thing is I'm like, when people
have affairs, I'm just like, why not end your marriage?
Speaker 5 (38:25):
Because Benny has to pay his ex wife half of
his earnings. His kids are distraught and torn apart. You know,
they want their They don't want to destroy their family,
they just want their side piece.
Speaker 1 (38:38):
Also, Okay, well, now you destroyed your family times a
hunt and made them so public, which is.
Speaker 4 (38:43):
Almost always what happens, I think, and.
Speaker 1 (38:44):
You're still probably going to get divorced. So it's just
like it all ends up happening.
Speaker 2 (38:51):
Yeah, the truth always comes to.
Speaker 1 (38:54):
Light, ain't that the truth? Back? You know what else
happened this weekend? Charlie XX got married.
Speaker 2 (39:02):
Yeah, I didn't know. Oh congrats Charlie XCX.
Speaker 1 (39:05):
Did you see the photos?
Speaker 3 (39:07):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (39:07):
Was it? It was like a courtroom.
Speaker 1 (39:09):
Did you notice anything?
Speaker 2 (39:11):
I don't think I looked that long. Oh why what
was there? Butterfly or something?
Speaker 1 (39:15):
No? But I that was my reception wedding dress.
Speaker 2 (39:20):
Oh really wowowal Viv West.
Speaker 3 (39:23):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (39:23):
I was like, damn, me and Charlie XX have more
in common than I thought.
Speaker 4 (39:27):
Does she follow you? Maybe she stole it? Maybe like that?
Speaker 1 (39:34):
Yeah, I do too, but I tailored mine so it's
like a little bit different like hers. Was just like
the raw dog version yep, showing a photo.
Speaker 6 (39:44):
Yeah, it's my desktop background.
Speaker 1 (39:46):
So everybody kept The only reason I clocked it was
because people kept sending it to me saying, is this
the dress you weren't in a reception?
Speaker 2 (39:53):
I was like, yes, after your wedding.
Speaker 3 (39:56):
Brittany Mahomes, who her husband is the quarterback for the
Chiefs wore the same dress that were for your wedding
to like a bachelorette party or something, and everyone kept
sitting in there like, do you think she's always like, no,
you guys, it's on Revolve popped up as an ad
and she said, sure, no.
Speaker 1 (40:12):
I like the conspiracy theory that they that they followed
you and Charlie X follows me and loves it, loved
it so much that she's like, I need that dress.
Speaker 3 (40:20):
Uh huh okay, yeah, well that could have happened because
you did interview her.
Speaker 1 (40:25):
Yes, many many men, many minutes ago while you were
just a baby is lead curly girl.
Speaker 3 (40:33):
I was curious about this sleep, sleep and couples conversation
because I always find it interesting about like how people
how couples sleep, and how that affects their relationship and
how if people do certain things.
Speaker 1 (40:48):
I think being sleep compatible is like a huge thing.
Speaker 3 (40:52):
But when you first started, like when you and Robbie
first started sleeping together, did you sleep well or did
was it like an adjustment from going from like only
sleeping by yourself to.
Speaker 1 (41:04):
Oh, oh, I see what you're saying. I thought you
meant like.
Speaker 2 (41:07):
Yeah, yeah, we're going to get into that. But I'm
saying it was an adjustment.
Speaker 3 (41:10):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, because whether no matter who it is,
no matter how compatible you are, you have to adjust
having another body in the bed.
Speaker 1 (41:17):
Correct, and you.
Speaker 4 (41:19):
Kept for him in your bed.
Speaker 1 (41:21):
Thank you, thank you for the reminder. Yes, it wasn't
a space issue. I also don't move around much. I
take up like a little slipper. It's more of the
when they're tossing and turning.
Speaker 4 (41:33):
Right.
Speaker 1 (41:34):
The emotion is what was disruptive. Now it doesn't bother me.
But yes, in the beginning it was like tough.
Speaker 2 (41:40):
Does he have a lot of emotion?
Speaker 1 (41:41):
A lot emotional? You do legs ou legs, flip flap,
flip flop, goes pee three times a day, three times
a night.
Speaker 2 (41:50):
But his shoulders are cozy with his shirt on. Correct.
Speaker 1 (41:59):
Anytime I any stories from inside my bed, people are
like knowing that he's whinning's clombing right now, it just
so much better.
Speaker 3 (42:08):
You know, I don't go there, and now I'm unfortunately
gonna go thearing that I will.
Speaker 1 (42:13):
Yeah, what about you, it's probably hard for you.
Speaker 2 (42:17):
Yeah, it was, but.
Speaker 3 (42:19):
More so because I felt like when I first because
Haley and I met, and then she went on tour,
so I like didn't even have to adjust right off
the bat. So then when she was like home, it
was just an adjustment to having someone in the bed.
But I also was like falling in love for the
first time, so I was like jittering and couldn't sleep anyway,
(42:40):
so it didn't matter.
Speaker 2 (42:42):
Oh my god, you.
Speaker 4 (42:43):
Guys, that's sweet.
Speaker 1 (42:44):
I'm sorry, yes, so sweet thing.
Speaker 2 (42:49):
There was like a lot of reasons why I wasn't
like sleeping.
Speaker 5 (42:51):
Well, but is it the only time you've ever been
in love? You think, yeah, wow, wow, that is fantastic.
Speaker 1 (42:57):
It's crazy, right.
Speaker 3 (42:58):
I think I had so many guards up my whole life,
like walls and stuff, and I think, especially growing up
in like purity culture, it was like letting anyone in
and physically or emotionally felt like a threat. So I
think I never even gave like my relationship with Robert
or anyone like a chance to go there because I
was just like so shut down.
Speaker 2 (43:17):
So I think Haley a lot of walls came down.
But also.
Speaker 3 (43:23):
I let myself like emotionally go there with her with someone,
and I think I felt, you know, safe to do that,
not that like what she.
Speaker 1 (43:32):
Talks with her hands a lot more. I don't know
if you guys notice this, but the ring hand is getting.
Speaker 2 (43:38):
A lot I think you noticed.
Speaker 3 (43:40):
I think I always talk with my hands, but you're
every time Tanya sees me, she's like, wow, I'm just
not used to you with the ring on. But anyways, Yeah,
I definitely feel like Tony's.
Speaker 2 (43:49):
The first one.
Speaker 1 (43:52):
I'm so honored.
Speaker 3 (43:53):
The first time I let my guard down was with Tanya.
But yeah, we have a very like now, if she
goes away to work for a long time, I have
to adjust sleeping alone, and then I get used to
sleeping alone, and then she comes back and have to
readjust so I just have to adapt, you know.
Speaker 1 (44:08):
Yeah, if there's anything that you are, it's adaptable.
Speaker 2 (44:11):
Well thank you. That's a really nice close.
Speaker 1 (44:13):
Roll with the punches.
Speaker 2 (44:14):
Thank you. Yeah, I try. That's what happens when you
grow up with a lot of kids in a family. Yes, well,
I think you either learn to roll.
Speaker 3 (44:23):
The punches or you grow up and you're because you
had to roll the punches, you are like I need
structure and control.
Speaker 2 (44:29):
But I didn't go that way.
Speaker 1 (44:30):
M hm.
Speaker 2 (44:31):
I just kept on.
Speaker 1 (44:33):
Kept on keeping on.
Speaker 3 (44:34):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, we have a headline here that
says Alison Bree cutting day Frank ghost toenails. But I
just don't know that that's something I'm trying to get
into Monday.
Speaker 5 (44:43):
Yeah, well, I guess it was just a publicity stunt.
Speaker 4 (44:46):
Is that the deal? The movie is about a codependent
couples so together. Yeah, so I don't think it was real.
Speaker 3 (44:53):
Oh something that says this feels like something tong you
would have no problem doing.
Speaker 4 (44:59):
As producer Sam his opinion, I.
Speaker 1 (45:00):
Would not if he needed help.
Speaker 2 (45:07):
Yeah, yeah, you have a hangnail.
Speaker 1 (45:11):
I don't mind. When Robbie broke his ribs and he
like really could barely do anything, I was like, am
I gonna have to take you to the bathroom? And
he was like that's just like a line that I
will not cross, and I was like, I'm happy to
do it. Wow, I did not.
Speaker 2 (45:27):
No, that's so nice. Yeah, I believe it.
Speaker 1 (45:31):
I would do it for you too.
Speaker 2 (45:32):
I believe it. I think. Yeah, you've offered I think
to do some things.
Speaker 3 (45:41):
But in your past when it was like trying to
help someone learn how to use a tampon or something
mental cup, Oh yeah, happy to Yeah, yeah, that's what
she was offering.
Speaker 2 (45:51):
To gotcha. Yeah, don't need a video, don't need tentorial.
Speaker 1 (45:56):
Yeah yeah, but.
Speaker 3 (45:57):
We all appreciate your willingness, and I just have to
say your service. I read all these comments on the
Facebook group of like, I just wish I had a
friend like Tanya.
Speaker 2 (46:06):
She's the best friend.
Speaker 3 (46:07):
And I just want you to feel encouraged to know
that you're such a wonderful friend and everyone loves you.
Speaker 1 (46:12):
Thank you. I thought, a little beaten down. I feel
a little beaten down sometimes from the Facebook.
Speaker 2 (46:17):
From the Facebook group.
Speaker 3 (46:18):
Yeah, interesting because I think I see what comes to
the top for me are like how much they love you.
Speaker 1 (46:25):
I've seen the love recently and it's very very nice. Okay,
but there was a period there where it was just
like slamzilla about you. Yes, what I'm annoying? I talk
too much? Blah blah blah, no.
Speaker 2 (46:41):
Positive, Oh yeah, God, just let let me be me,
let her be her.
Speaker 1 (46:49):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (46:50):
If not only me, that's right, that there will ever
be Yes.
Speaker 1 (46:54):
Isn't that the key to being happy? Happy? That's that
is my affirmation. I am the only me? What was it?
I am the only that will ever be Isn't that
the key to being happy? Somebody gave me my children's book.
Speaker 2 (47:17):
That's a good next venture for you.
Speaker 4 (47:19):
Yeah, good kids book.
Speaker 2 (47:21):
Yea Robbie can do the drawings. You could draw it?
Who could do it together? That's cute.
Speaker 3 (47:31):
You know.
Speaker 1 (47:31):
Actually a friend of mine was saying that they're she's
actually not you know, you say, a friend of mine.
I met this woman one.
Speaker 4 (47:39):
Yeah, we got deep.
Speaker 1 (47:40):
We got deep in this one meeting. But she met
her step son when he was a baby, so she
basically has been with him since he was literally born.
So she was like, I would read him these children's
books that you have for like kids, and it's all
like mommy loves you, Daddy loves you. And she's like,
and I'm the stepmom, you know what I mean. And
so she's like, there's not a lot at the time
this was I think he's probably thirteen now or something,
(48:01):
but there weren't a lot of books that shed light
on like modern families. So maybe something to dabble in
for me.
Speaker 2 (48:10):
Maybe there's some a market gap in the market for.
Speaker 1 (48:13):
That, maybe, but that was a long time ago. I'm
sure there was a ton now. But I was like,
oh my gosh, that's like so crazy.
Speaker 2 (48:19):
Nothing like yours, though, there's nothing else that like what
yours would be.
Speaker 1 (48:23):
Exactly because that's the only me that is not the
key to being happy.
Speaker 3 (48:30):
We have a Dear Bonnie episode this week, so this
is not the last you'll be hearing from us, but nobody.
Speaker 4 (48:37):
We do.
Speaker 2 (48:37):
Hope you have a wonderful week, and we love you.
Somebody love you.
Speaker 1 (48:41):
Bye.
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