December 4, 2025 • 21 mins
Becca is about to head to Japan! We find out what kind of vacation person Becca is when she's with Hayley. Is she a planner, or a go with the flow?
As mentioned, we love to lay, but a Scrubber writes in with a boyfriend who might be a bit too lazy.
Plus, Tanya found a December "challenge" to strengthen relationships... will Roby make it through??
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Scrubbing In with Beca Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio
and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast. Hello everybody,
we are.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Scrubbing it in what Well, I'm just kind of on
a time crunch and you just were sitting there thinking
about what you were going to say?
Speaker 3 (00:20):
Is that I'm not sitting here thinking where.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
We are doing the podcast in a different room, and
so we don't get to hear the playback of our jingles.
Don't trying to time it out.
Speaker 3 (00:28):
You don't have to time it out. I have to
get a character.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
I hear it and then give my hello. I have
to greet everybody after I hear my jingle.
Speaker 4 (00:37):
Whow that's beautiful.
Speaker 3 (00:40):
So sorry, no, no, no, how's it going?
Speaker 4 (00:42):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Wow?
Speaker 4 (00:46):
It's Thursday?
Speaker 1 (00:47):
It is Thursday. You know what day it is?
Speaker 4 (00:49):
Thursday?
Speaker 1 (00:50):
I know what day of the December is it? It's
December fourth? Yeah, that's right. And I want to show
you this December marriage challenge I found online.
Speaker 4 (01:01):
What is that?
Speaker 2 (01:02):
Good?
Speaker 5 (01:02):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (01:03):
Oh my gosh. It's very full.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
It's very full. It's every day basically thirty days of
connecting intentionally with your partner.
Speaker 4 (01:10):
HM. Where'd you find that on.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
Instagram and I was scrolling and I like screenshot it.
I sent it to Robbie said, we're doing this in December.
Who and but it's cute. It's like one of them said.
The first one was say one thing you admire about
your spouse and why you know, like they're cute little things.
It's not like anything.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
Little prompts.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
Little prompts like do a ten minute no phones check
in tonight, you know, like so cute. Our our thing
for Fridays, play game together love. Yeah, we love playing games.
Speaker 4 (01:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Yeah, So every day of the month of December, we
have a little challenge to strengthen our marriage. Wow, it's
beautiful when you're in.
Speaker 3 (01:43):
Haley would love that. That to me.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Okay, i'llso be like Merry Christmas. Yeah, we're doing a
December challenge.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
There's a couple a doctor up change a couple of
them because they're not so much of us. But yeah, yeah,
I'll make them little.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
Maybe you're oh, yeah, it didn't need to know that,
But you could just challenge yourself to do something that's
not you, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
M hm.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Maybe that's what the challenge actually is. Since you love
playing games and that's not a challenge. Maybe the ones
that don't feel like you could be part of.
Speaker 4 (02:14):
The challenge aspect, we'll see.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
That's like me, Haley every day recap. What's something that
I did that made you feel loved?
Speaker 1 (02:23):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (02:23):
Yeah, yeah, so she may have written that challenge actually, Like.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Why I not thought about this? Like this is something
really good for January. Maybe I'll make one for January. Yeah,
with like like this fresh start five start start the
new year, and maybe not like partner Vibe, but like
self vibe. You know, I've hope people would love that. Yeah,
maybe I'll do that.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
Yeahs for free and then sell the PDPs for free
and then sell it to the masses. Yeah yeah, yeah.
Robbie is filling in for me next week.
Speaker 4 (02:57):
Is he feeling excited? Uh?
Speaker 1 (03:01):
Yeah, I think he gets like excited and nervous.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
Oh really, yeah, I don't even I don't picture Robbie
getting nervous.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
It's not nervous because, like it's funny, just because I
spend so much time with him, I can tell he's
like a little bit different when he's like on the air,
like he's himself, but I can tell like he's like
a little bit it's not natural, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
I think that's most people. Like I think we've been
doing this for so long and it's just me and
you and we just forget the thing is here. But
I think for most people it's a little out of
the ordinary. Like you literally do this every single day
on the radio and then every single week on the podcast. Yeah,
and then you think of someone like Robbie who's sitting
(03:43):
in an office his computer, phone calls all day and
then sitting down and talking about his line.
Speaker 3 (03:49):
Kind of weird. It's so weird.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
But yeah, I'm excited. I'm excited to have him. Okay, great, Yeah,
if not you who oh he yeah, it's not you heat.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
Yeah, We're We're going to Japan, and I'm so excited.
But I'm also very like my vibe when I travel,
I'm very much the go.
Speaker 4 (04:11):
With the flow person and not the plan I booked.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
And like, the reality is that a lot of the
things in Japan you do need to book, and so
it's not as good with the flow as I would
like as I can be. And so we've had to
have some conversations about her being like I need some
help because I know that I'm the leader and like
plan things. But I just need some help because we're
(04:37):
gonna be gone. We're going to a lot of places,
so I just you know, make some reservations and stuff.
Speaker 3 (04:43):
So can you help me basically?
Speaker 2 (04:47):
And I'm just chat GPT like a maniac.
Speaker 3 (04:51):
I'm sending PDFs.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
Asking it to create PDFs for me so it looks official.
Speaker 4 (04:58):
I'm like making a tinerary. It is quite amazing.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
Chatgyb T yeah yeah, and like add some doodles on
the PDIA.
Speaker 3 (05:09):
Yeah, I really asked me.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
You know what's sad is like I remember when I
had micro like a big old computer, and you know,
if someone was on the Wi Fi on the phone
and I couldn't get on the Internet and I had
to just keep myself entertained on the computer, I'd be creating,
like drawing on my Do you remember the thing where
you would draw on I think it was called.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
Paint Yeah yeah, yeah yeah, paint paint.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
And then you could if there was like one line,
one little space missing, you tried to fill it in
and fill in the whole thing.
Speaker 3 (05:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (05:37):
Anyways, I don't have that anymore.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
That creativity chatte is yapped up.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
Did you chat chubt for my wedding speech.
Speaker 3 (05:47):
No zero zero.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
I didn't start using chat jupt till, like I would say,
around September of this year.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
Well, I was like anti and everyone was like, don't
do it. It's bad for the environment. And I was like,
you'll hold me back.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
Yeah, sabotage the whole world, new world out.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
There's a whole new world of brilliance.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
You know. You have to go in and you just
need to go in and erase the long dashes and yeah,
tweak some things to make.
Speaker 4 (06:13):
It look official and original.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
So how many days are you guys gone?
Speaker 3 (06:17):
How dare you ask? If I use that for your speech?
My speech was it was very heartfelt.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
So that's why I was like wondering if you used it?
It did a really good job.
Speaker 4 (06:27):
No, I didn't. I didn't, did Paulina?
Speaker 1 (06:30):
I don't know about an asker. I'm gonna ask her
what was your question? How many days are you guys
gonna be gone?
Speaker 2 (06:37):
So I leave, I have a work trip before and
then I'm meeting her.
Speaker 4 (06:41):
And Marla there.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
Oh what yeah, it's crazy. So I leave tomorrow. I
mean sorry, I leave, I'm already gone.
Speaker 3 (06:51):
I do be gone. I have left.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
I have been gone since Tuesday, okay, and then it
comes back when Monday the fifteenth.
Speaker 5 (07:04):
Wow, like two weeks? Yes, crazy?
Speaker 3 (07:07):
What I know?
Speaker 1 (07:09):
Nice?
Speaker 5 (07:09):
What You're gonna be gone for a fortnight? Two weeks?
Speaker 4 (07:12):
That's what a fortnight?
Speaker 1 (07:14):
Fourteen days?
Speaker 3 (07:17):
That's what Tailor's talking about about?
Speaker 4 (07:19):
Fourteen days?
Speaker 1 (07:21):
What have you just founding that? Yeah?
Speaker 4 (07:23):
I don't know. Fortnite was a video game I did too, actually.
Speaker 5 (07:27):
For a long time, spelled differently it is.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Yes, Oh my gosh, learning so much today.
Speaker 3 (07:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (07:35):
So I'm gonna be gone for a while.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
And out of the two weeks, beat you all the
two weeks that you're gone. Do you have plans every
single day on my vacation?
Speaker 2 (07:46):
Uh?
Speaker 3 (07:46):
Huh yeah?
Speaker 1 (07:47):
Nice.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
Yeah, we'll be doing things.
Speaker 2 (07:50):
But you know, Hayley's very much like, we can go here,
we can go here. And I'm like, are we including
jet lag on this itinerary?
Speaker 4 (07:58):
Yeah, because I remember.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
Last time we went, which was like twenty nineteen, right
before the pandemic. We went to Japan and I was
fine for I would say four days, and then I
felt like the fifth day or something like way later
than I anticipated, the jet hit and we were at
a like very traditional Japanese hotel where you put you
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can wear your like kimonos that they give you to
go to dinner at the in the dining area. And
I was so angry about having to get up and
go eat dinner because I just wanted to sleep. But
it was it was so traditional that if you didn't eat,
there wasn't like room service or anything. So if you
didn't eat the dinner that was served, you didn't eat right.
Speaker 4 (08:43):
And Haley was like, you have to, like you're.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
And so she got all dressed up in her kimono
and I just went down in my like sweatshirt, all grumpy. Oh,
and it was like the sixth day, I think. So
I'm anticipating that, you know.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
I do think it's interesting because I feel like the
way you vacation is says a lot. And I really
feel like I met my match with like how I
like to vacation because Robin and I really like to
do it the same. Yeah, and that's very refreshing.
Speaker 3 (09:12):
Yeah, Haley and I.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
The thing is once we get to where we're going,
because she she's very much like I want to see things,
I want to do things, And I'm really grateful for
that because if if she wasn't like that, I would lay, yeah,
and I'd miss the vacation because I'd be laying.
Speaker 1 (09:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (09:29):
It was like.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
I love laying, but why lay in Japan when I
could lay at home? You know, right, So I'm grateful
for our differences in that. But also I think I
because I love to lay, it makes her feel like
she can relax too, So if we need a day
of lay, we could just do it.
Speaker 3 (09:50):
Like I told her, I go, Here's the thing.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
I think we should have ideas of things we want
to do and plans, but if we wake up and
we're exhausted or jet lagged, that we don't feel like
we have to go do.
Speaker 4 (10:00):
Them right, we can lay, rest and relax.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
And lay down.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
It's just so funny because like I honestly, I don't
think I've laid as much as I laid this weekend
this whole year. Like the fact that you lay that
much is like so.
Speaker 3 (10:19):
Like it's very bad for my back.
Speaker 1 (10:21):
Yes, it is very bad for your back, but like
that's why people usually go on vacation so that they
can lay, because they can't lay when they're at home.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
Right, I have a I'm very privileged with my life schedule,
I can lay a lot.
Speaker 4 (10:34):
And I love to go.
Speaker 2 (10:36):
Like that's why I love Easton and Allison and how
y'all travel. I just love how y'all live because I
feel so inspired by the just go go go of
it all, and like, I don't care if we're tired,
We're gonna go see these things because we're here for
twenty four hours and we're gonna see everything we can
fit in because I don't have that.
Speaker 5 (10:55):
When we when we were on our honeymoon, we were
there at for a fortnite.
Speaker 6 (10:58):
We were in Hawaii, and we we did two weeks
and why and we would there was like multiple days
where we would walk to the breakfast area, eat breakfast,
and then walk to a beach chair and sit there
and then sit there for like ten hours.
Speaker 3 (11:12):
That's so it was the best.
Speaker 6 (11:14):
And it's very unlike us to just sit in one
spot on vacation, but we did that a lot on
our honeymoon.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
Was I love that.
Speaker 5 (11:20):
It's the best.
Speaker 4 (11:21):
Did you all lay over the holiday break?
Speaker 5 (11:23):
We sure did, Oh you did.
Speaker 6 (11:25):
We went and we were at my mom's house for
a whole week, but we did a lot of laying
there she was very excited to show me the CMA Awards.
My mom she wanted she wanted my take on Luke
Combe's performance.
Speaker 4 (11:38):
So, wow, what did you think?
Speaker 6 (11:39):
I thought it was great, played with Big X the plug,
it was awesome, and yeah, we played around. Watched the
Thanksgiving Day parade on YouTube later in the day.
Speaker 5 (11:49):
And it was it was the best. We had a
great time.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
Well, I think people obviously people know that you're busy,
but I don't think people realize how like insane your
schedule is. So I'm, for one, I'm grateful that you
get time to do nothing and watch a Thanksgiving pretty late.
Speaker 5 (12:04):
Thank you, thank you.
Speaker 7 (12:05):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (12:06):
I came off. I had really like hectic months. Oh
my god. I took a day a couple weeks ago,
a Sunday and just laid.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (12:14):
I bought I bought a set.
Speaker 6 (12:15):
I bought a Boy's Life set and I bore the
set in my house and it felt great, And I
was like, now I get it.
Speaker 5 (12:22):
I get the lay.
Speaker 1 (12:23):
I really get it, like I really genuinely do. And
like December is gonna be so hectic. I'd be like, really, what,
oh it is the first two months because you're like
doing all the Christmas stuff and like everybody has their
holiday parties and like your schedule gets like booked. Yeah,
but there's gonna be a week period where I have
a couple of days to lay. Yeah, and you better believe.
Speaker 3 (12:45):
Yeah lay I will.
Speaker 1 (12:46):
I'd recommend I want to put clothes on. That's how
much I just want to lay.
Speaker 2 (12:50):
Wow, sheesh, I haven't even reached that level of Yeah.
But I do recommend getting up and doing some stretches
a point careen there, Yeah, to engage your core because
when you're.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
I know, I should do my back strengthening exercises.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
Yes, put your orthotics one and dear back strengthen the exercise.
Speaker 3 (13:11):
So don't worry, guys, we're not eight yet.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
Somebody asked me to link my herthotics the other day
and I was like, that's where I am in life.
Speaker 3 (13:22):
Shot my shot my orthon Like, honestly, I wish I
had a link.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
I don't even know.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
Wait, this is this is not funny. But we do
have a scrubber who wrote in how do I tell
my boyfriend to stop being lazy?
Speaker 7 (13:37):
You come back and repeat, Okay, we'll be right back,
all right, So at a lease at least I love
(14:01):
this name.
Speaker 2 (14:01):
It's spelled ad E l i Z, which is so pretty.
Hi Beck at Tanya Mark in easton day one scrubber
and still love the pod just as much. This is
my first time writing in I finally had something bothering
me enough. I stay with my boyfriend most of the week.
He's a pilot, and I bartend at events when he's away.
I actually like using the time to clean, partly for
(14:22):
my own sanity and partly to do something nice for him.
But as he's gotten more comfortable, he's gotten so messy
and it's driving me insane. He leaves dirty clothes on
the floor or toss over his gaming chair. He leaves
dishes in the sink overnight after I just did all
the dishes and ran the dishwasher. And sometimes he even
forgets to flush the toilet.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
Oh my god, that is so gross.
Speaker 2 (14:43):
If I do his laundry and fold everything, he'll let
it sit for days before putting it away. I have
no idea how to bring this up without sounding like
I'm nagging or being a total B word.
Speaker 3 (14:55):
Peep.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
How do I tell him he needs to stop being
lazy and clean up after himself. Help?
Speaker 4 (15:01):
This will drive me insane.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
This will drive me like insane.
Speaker 2 (15:05):
I'm messy and I have my piles, but like in
terms of just daily chores and laundry and stuff like
that is just the signs of a adult.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
Yeah. And I also feel like you should just tell
him who cares if you sound like you're nagging. I
do this all the time.
Speaker 2 (15:21):
Well, I think there's a way of just making it
about feeling like disrespect towards you, because he is disrespecting you, like, yeah,
you're cleaning, and then he's not even having enough respect
for you to clean up after himself or even help you.
So it doesn't even have to be naggy, it's just like, hey,
(15:42):
I sometimes I think the problem is that you almost
probably feel like you're being like a mother to him
cleaning up after him, and you're gonna end up presenting
him and be like so icked out, yeah if you're
not already, And so I think you just need to
make it more about you feeling disrespected and that you
put in the effort and you do these nice things
him and then he turns around and just like either
(16:03):
disregards it or lets it sit and doesn't doesn't contribute.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
It sounds like, yeah, it's just also doesn't seem like
he has respect for you, because, like I would say,
I'm way like Robbie's not messy at all. But like I,
if there's like a dish in the sink, I will
wash it and put it in the you know, like
the clean side of the sink, whereas like he would
let him pile up before he does them. But because
I am the way that I am, he doesn't let
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the sink get full because he knows it's important. It's
important to me, you know. So it's just kind of
like I feel like it's not even about him being lazy.
I just feel like it doesn't even respect you.
Speaker 2 (16:37):
I think you should come out of maybe as like, hey,
we're we're a partnership or a team. And I feel
like I'm carrying a lot of the work of like
the housework, and I love doing it because I have
the time, and I like doing it for you and
keeping our space clean.
Speaker 4 (16:50):
But if you could just you.
Speaker 3 (16:51):
Know, doilet.
Speaker 1 (16:54):
I mean that two seconds.
Speaker 2 (16:56):
I am so grossed out for her, but like flush
the toilet or make sure that if I do the
dishes and you eat something that you clean off the
dishes or put it in the dishwasher.
Speaker 4 (17:07):
You're not asking a lot.
Speaker 3 (17:08):
You're literally asking your clothes and fold them.
Speaker 1 (17:11):
Please just put them in their basket or yeah, closet.
Speaker 2 (17:14):
I would just approach it not as like you need
to do this, but more is like, hey, it would
it would make me feel really loved and it would
make me feel really respected if you contributed to the
things that I do around the house.
Speaker 4 (17:24):
Yeah, but I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (17:26):
That's really rough, tough, yeaf and tough, and he needs
to get it together.
Speaker 1 (17:34):
He does.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
Flushing the toilet is a privilege. Not everyone has a
flushing toilet.
Speaker 5 (17:40):
It's true, It's true.
Speaker 4 (17:42):
Okay, this one's fun. You want to read this one?
Speaker 1 (17:45):
Aaron shout out to the Facebook group. Hey gang, First,
I just want to say that my four year old
still continues to ask why don't beck On Tanya sings
to grub a dub dub anymore? Oh, Tanya, your jingle
is missed in my household? Thank you erin. Secondly, and
the why I'm writing is I read a Facebook post
in our Facebook group that I think deserves a shout out.
A woman named Daniella checked out of a hotel and
(18:07):
left her crimper there. The hotel wanted to charge her
fifty bucks to ship it back, so she reached out
into the Facebook group to offer the crumper to anyone
local if they wanted to go pick it up. Honestly,
a pretty nice gesture. I would have just said forget
it and not even thought to offer it to someone else,
but let the hotel dispose of it or whatever they
do with forgotten things items. Sorry. But then right away
(18:28):
someone else in the Facebook group named Jen said that
she was local and would pick it up for her
and then pay for the shipping herself to get Danielle
or her crumper back. I know this exchange is so
minor in the grand scheme of life, but these small
acts of kindness make our world such a better place.
And I feel like these ladies deserve a shout out
from you guys. They have inspired me to go out
of my way to do something similar. I hope this
inspires our listeners to do the same. Love you all
(18:50):
and happy holidays. That is so sweet, and you know
what I do feel like sometimes we get in our
own way because, especially during the holidays, you want to
do nice things, and you get so overwhelmed because you're
like everybody needs so much. People need money, people need groceries,
people need so much that you kind of get overwhelmed
and you don't even.
Speaker 3 (19:09):
Know where to start.
Speaker 1 (19:09):
And it's just like all these little tiny things, like
every little thing makes such a huge impact.
Speaker 3 (19:16):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
Sometimes when I'm feeling like when I'm doomed scroll too
far and things feel dark, sometimes I just go on
the Facebook group because it's always it's either like lighthearted
and funny, or like outrageous sex questions or just like
really like these moments of nice gestures and.
Speaker 4 (19:29):
I'm like, oh, it's such a little.
Speaker 2 (19:31):
Like small pocket of like nice joy and kindness. Yeah,
so thank you for sharing that, Jen.
Speaker 1 (19:39):
For securing the crimper and sending it back.
Speaker 3 (19:42):
We love you.
Speaker 4 (19:44):
Yeah, we love you guys. Thanks for being the best,
so warm, so kind, the best.
Speaker 3 (19:51):
That's all for now. I I have to head off.
Speaker 1 (19:54):
Becka has to go. But if you guys have any
questions for Robbie, He's coming in next week, you can
DM them on Instagram or you can email us at
scrubbing in at iHeartMedia dot com.
Speaker 4 (20:05):
Wonderful. We love y'all so much.
Speaker 1 (20:07):
I'll miss enjoy your trip.
Speaker 2 (20:09):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (20:09):
I'll be watching you on find my can't wait. Yeah,
that's going be fun.
Speaker 3 (20:13):
Yeah, and you'll be like, where is she today?
Speaker 1 (20:16):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (20:17):
Is she moving? Or is she let No, I'll be
on the.
Speaker 1 (20:19):
Move yeah yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:21):
Haley's like, we can sleep on the trains. I don't
sleep on trains more planes or automobiles. I only sleep
laying down.
Speaker 5 (20:26):
What parts of your pan are you going to We're.
Speaker 2 (20:28):
Going to Kyoto, We're going to we're going to do
a day trip in Hiroshima. We're going to do a uh,
we're going to Mount Fuji, and then we're going to
Tokyo and we're going to do a I think that's it.
Speaker 1 (20:42):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (20:45):
Yeah, yeah, So we're really excited. I can't wait and
can't wait to come home and report back on my travels.
Speaker 1 (20:53):
Can't wait to have you back.
Speaker 4 (20:55):
We love you so much.
Speaker 1 (20:56):
I love you.
Speaker 4 (20:56):
Bye.
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and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast. Hello everybody,
we are.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Scrubbing it in what Well, I'm just kind of on
a time crunch and you just were sitting there thinking
about what you were going to say?
Speaker 3 (00:20):
Is that I'm not sitting here thinking where.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
We are doing the podcast in a different room, and
so we don't get to hear the playback of our jingles.
Don't trying to time it out.
Speaker 3 (00:28):
You don't have to time it out. I have to
get a character.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
I hear it and then give my hello. I have
to greet everybody after I hear my jingle.
Speaker 4 (00:37):
Whow that's beautiful.
Speaker 3 (00:40):
So sorry, no, no, no, how's it going?
Speaker 4 (00:42):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Wow?
Speaker 4 (00:46):
It's Thursday?
Speaker 1 (00:47):
It is Thursday. You know what day it is?
Speaker 4 (00:49):
Thursday?
Speaker 1 (00:50):
I know what day of the December is it? It's
December fourth? Yeah, that's right. And I want to show
you this December marriage challenge I found online.
Speaker 4 (01:01):
What is that?
Speaker 2 (01:02):
Good?
Speaker 5 (01:02):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (01:03):
Oh my gosh. It's very full.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
It's very full. It's every day basically thirty days of
connecting intentionally with your partner.
Speaker 4 (01:10):
HM. Where'd you find that on.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
Instagram and I was scrolling and I like screenshot it.
I sent it to Robbie said, we're doing this in December.
Who and but it's cute. It's like one of them said.
The first one was say one thing you admire about
your spouse and why you know, like they're cute little things.
It's not like anything.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
Little prompts.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
Little prompts like do a ten minute no phones check
in tonight, you know, like so cute. Our our thing
for Fridays, play game together love. Yeah, we love playing games.
Speaker 4 (01:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Yeah, So every day of the month of December, we
have a little challenge to strengthen our marriage. Wow, it's
beautiful when you're in.
Speaker 3 (01:43):
Haley would love that. That to me.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Okay, i'llso be like Merry Christmas. Yeah, we're doing a
December challenge.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
There's a couple a doctor up change a couple of
them because they're not so much of us. But yeah, yeah,
I'll make them little.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
Maybe you're oh, yeah, it didn't need to know that,
But you could just challenge yourself to do something that's
not you, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
M hm.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Maybe that's what the challenge actually is. Since you love
playing games and that's not a challenge. Maybe the ones
that don't feel like you could be part of.
Speaker 4 (02:14):
The challenge aspect, we'll see.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
That's like me, Haley every day recap. What's something that
I did that made you feel loved?
Speaker 1 (02:23):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (02:23):
Yeah, yeah, so she may have written that challenge actually, Like.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Why I not thought about this? Like this is something
really good for January. Maybe I'll make one for January. Yeah,
with like like this fresh start five start start the
new year, and maybe not like partner Vibe, but like
self vibe. You know, I've hope people would love that. Yeah,
maybe I'll do that.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
Yeahs for free and then sell the PDPs for free
and then sell it to the masses. Yeah yeah, yeah.
Robbie is filling in for me next week.
Speaker 4 (02:57):
Is he feeling excited? Uh?
Speaker 1 (03:01):
Yeah, I think he gets like excited and nervous.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
Oh really, yeah, I don't even I don't picture Robbie
getting nervous.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
It's not nervous because, like it's funny, just because I
spend so much time with him, I can tell he's
like a little bit different when he's like on the air,
like he's himself, but I can tell like he's like
a little bit it's not natural, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
I think that's most people. Like I think we've been
doing this for so long and it's just me and
you and we just forget the thing is here. But
I think for most people it's a little out of
the ordinary. Like you literally do this every single day
on the radio and then every single week on the podcast. Yeah,
and then you think of someone like Robbie who's sitting
(03:43):
in an office his computer, phone calls all day and
then sitting down and talking about his line.
Speaker 3 (03:49):
Kind of weird. It's so weird.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
But yeah, I'm excited. I'm excited to have him. Okay, great, Yeah,
if not you who oh he yeah, it's not you heat.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
Yeah, We're We're going to Japan, and I'm so excited.
But I'm also very like my vibe when I travel,
I'm very much the go.
Speaker 4 (04:11):
With the flow person and not the plan I booked.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
And like, the reality is that a lot of the
things in Japan you do need to book, and so
it's not as good with the flow as I would
like as I can be. And so we've had to
have some conversations about her being like I need some
help because I know that I'm the leader and like
plan things. But I just need some help because we're
(04:37):
gonna be gone. We're going to a lot of places,
so I just you know, make some reservations and stuff.
Speaker 3 (04:43):
So can you help me basically?
Speaker 2 (04:47):
And I'm just chat GPT like a maniac.
Speaker 3 (04:51):
I'm sending PDFs.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
Asking it to create PDFs for me so it looks official.
Speaker 4 (04:58):
I'm like making a tinerary. It is quite amazing.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
Chatgyb T yeah yeah, and like add some doodles on
the PDIA.
Speaker 3 (05:09):
Yeah, I really asked me.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
You know what's sad is like I remember when I
had micro like a big old computer, and you know,
if someone was on the Wi Fi on the phone
and I couldn't get on the Internet and I had
to just keep myself entertained on the computer, I'd be creating,
like drawing on my Do you remember the thing where
you would draw on I think it was called.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
Paint Yeah yeah, yeah yeah, paint paint.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
And then you could if there was like one line,
one little space missing, you tried to fill it in
and fill in the whole thing.
Speaker 3 (05:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (05:37):
Anyways, I don't have that anymore.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
That creativity chatte is yapped up.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
Did you chat chubt for my wedding speech.
Speaker 3 (05:47):
No zero zero.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
I didn't start using chat jupt till, like I would say,
around September of this year.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
Well, I was like anti and everyone was like, don't
do it. It's bad for the environment. And I was like,
you'll hold me back.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
Yeah, sabotage the whole world, new world out.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
There's a whole new world of brilliance.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
You know. You have to go in and you just
need to go in and erase the long dashes and yeah,
tweak some things to make.
Speaker 4 (06:13):
It look official and original.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
So how many days are you guys gone?
Speaker 3 (06:17):
How dare you ask? If I use that for your speech?
My speech was it was very heartfelt.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
So that's why I was like wondering if you used it?
It did a really good job.
Speaker 4 (06:27):
No, I didn't. I didn't, did Paulina?
Speaker 1 (06:30):
I don't know about an asker. I'm gonna ask her
what was your question? How many days are you guys
gonna be gone?
Speaker 2 (06:37):
So I leave, I have a work trip before and
then I'm meeting her.
Speaker 4 (06:41):
And Marla there.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
Oh what yeah, it's crazy. So I leave tomorrow. I
mean sorry, I leave, I'm already gone.
Speaker 3 (06:51):
I do be gone. I have left.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
I have been gone since Tuesday, okay, and then it
comes back when Monday the fifteenth.
Speaker 5 (07:04):
Wow, like two weeks? Yes, crazy?
Speaker 3 (07:07):
What I know?
Speaker 1 (07:09):
Nice?
Speaker 5 (07:09):
What You're gonna be gone for a fortnight? Two weeks?
Speaker 4 (07:12):
That's what a fortnight?
Speaker 1 (07:14):
Fourteen days?
Speaker 3 (07:17):
That's what Tailor's talking about about?
Speaker 4 (07:19):
Fourteen days?
Speaker 1 (07:21):
What have you just founding that? Yeah?
Speaker 4 (07:23):
I don't know. Fortnite was a video game I did too, actually.
Speaker 5 (07:27):
For a long time, spelled differently it is.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Yes, Oh my gosh, learning so much today.
Speaker 3 (07:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (07:35):
So I'm gonna be gone for a while.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
And out of the two weeks, beat you all the
two weeks that you're gone. Do you have plans every
single day on my vacation?
Speaker 2 (07:46):
Uh?
Speaker 3 (07:46):
Huh yeah?
Speaker 1 (07:47):
Nice.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
Yeah, we'll be doing things.
Speaker 2 (07:50):
But you know, Hayley's very much like, we can go here,
we can go here. And I'm like, are we including
jet lag on this itinerary?
Speaker 4 (07:58):
Yeah, because I remember.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
Last time we went, which was like twenty nineteen, right
before the pandemic. We went to Japan and I was
fine for I would say four days, and then I
felt like the fifth day or something like way later
than I anticipated, the jet hit and we were at
a like very traditional Japanese hotel where you put you
(08:23):
can wear your like kimonos that they give you to
go to dinner at the in the dining area. And
I was so angry about having to get up and
go eat dinner because I just wanted to sleep. But
it was it was so traditional that if you didn't eat,
there wasn't like room service or anything. So if you
didn't eat the dinner that was served, you didn't eat right.
Speaker 4 (08:43):
And Haley was like, you have to, like you're.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
And so she got all dressed up in her kimono
and I just went down in my like sweatshirt, all grumpy. Oh,
and it was like the sixth day, I think. So
I'm anticipating that, you know.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
I do think it's interesting because I feel like the
way you vacation is says a lot. And I really
feel like I met my match with like how I
like to vacation because Robin and I really like to
do it the same. Yeah, and that's very refreshing.
Speaker 3 (09:12):
Yeah, Haley and I.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
The thing is once we get to where we're going,
because she she's very much like I want to see things,
I want to do things, And I'm really grateful for
that because if if she wasn't like that, I would lay, yeah,
and I'd miss the vacation because I'd be laying.
Speaker 1 (09:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (09:29):
It was like.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
I love laying, but why lay in Japan when I
could lay at home? You know, right, So I'm grateful
for our differences in that. But also I think I
because I love to lay, it makes her feel like
she can relax too, So if we need a day
of lay, we could just do it.
Speaker 3 (09:50):
Like I told her, I go, Here's the thing.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
I think we should have ideas of things we want
to do and plans, but if we wake up and
we're exhausted or jet lagged, that we don't feel like
we have to go do.
Speaker 4 (10:00):
Them right, we can lay, rest and relax.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
And lay down.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
It's just so funny because like I honestly, I don't
think I've laid as much as I laid this weekend
this whole year. Like the fact that you lay that
much is like so.
Speaker 3 (10:19):
Like it's very bad for my back.
Speaker 1 (10:21):
Yes, it is very bad for your back, but like
that's why people usually go on vacation so that they
can lay, because they can't lay when they're at home.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
Right, I have a I'm very privileged with my life schedule,
I can lay a lot.
Speaker 4 (10:34):
And I love to go.
Speaker 2 (10:36):
Like that's why I love Easton and Allison and how
y'all travel. I just love how y'all live because I
feel so inspired by the just go go go of
it all, and like, I don't care if we're tired,
We're gonna go see these things because we're here for
twenty four hours and we're gonna see everything we can
fit in because I don't have that.
Speaker 5 (10:55):
When we when we were on our honeymoon, we were
there at for a fortnite.
Speaker 6 (10:58):
We were in Hawaii, and we we did two weeks
and why and we would there was like multiple days
where we would walk to the breakfast area, eat breakfast,
and then walk to a beach chair and sit there
and then sit there for like ten hours.
Speaker 3 (11:12):
That's so it was the best.
Speaker 6 (11:14):
And it's very unlike us to just sit in one
spot on vacation, but we did that a lot on
our honeymoon.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
Was I love that.
Speaker 5 (11:20):
It's the best.
Speaker 4 (11:21):
Did you all lay over the holiday break?
Speaker 5 (11:23):
We sure did, Oh you did.
Speaker 6 (11:25):
We went and we were at my mom's house for
a whole week, but we did a lot of laying
there she was very excited to show me the CMA Awards.
My mom she wanted she wanted my take on Luke
Combe's performance.
Speaker 4 (11:38):
So, wow, what did you think?
Speaker 6 (11:39):
I thought it was great, played with Big X the plug,
it was awesome, and yeah, we played around. Watched the
Thanksgiving Day parade on YouTube later in the day.
Speaker 5 (11:49):
And it was it was the best. We had a
great time.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
Well, I think people obviously people know that you're busy,
but I don't think people realize how like insane your
schedule is. So I'm, for one, I'm grateful that you
get time to do nothing and watch a Thanksgiving pretty late.
Speaker 5 (12:04):
Thank you, thank you.
Speaker 7 (12:05):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (12:06):
I came off. I had really like hectic months. Oh
my god. I took a day a couple weeks ago,
a Sunday and just laid.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (12:14):
I bought I bought a set.
Speaker 6 (12:15):
I bought a Boy's Life set and I bore the
set in my house and it felt great, And I
was like, now I get it.
Speaker 5 (12:22):
I get the lay.
Speaker 1 (12:23):
I really get it, like I really genuinely do. And
like December is gonna be so hectic. I'd be like, really, what,
oh it is the first two months because you're like
doing all the Christmas stuff and like everybody has their
holiday parties and like your schedule gets like booked. Yeah,
but there's gonna be a week period where I have
a couple of days to lay. Yeah, and you better believe.
Speaker 3 (12:45):
Yeah lay I will.
Speaker 1 (12:46):
I'd recommend I want to put clothes on. That's how
much I just want to lay.
Speaker 2 (12:50):
Wow, sheesh, I haven't even reached that level of Yeah.
But I do recommend getting up and doing some stretches
a point careen there, Yeah, to engage your core because
when you're.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
I know, I should do my back strengthening exercises.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
Yes, put your orthotics one and dear back strengthen the exercise.
Speaker 3 (13:11):
So don't worry, guys, we're not eight yet.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
Somebody asked me to link my herthotics the other day
and I was like, that's where I am in life.
Speaker 3 (13:22):
Shot my shot my orthon Like, honestly, I wish I
had a link.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
I don't even know.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
Wait, this is this is not funny. But we do
have a scrubber who wrote in how do I tell
my boyfriend to stop being lazy?
Speaker 7 (13:37):
You come back and repeat, Okay, we'll be right back,
all right, So at a lease at least I love
(14:01):
this name.
Speaker 2 (14:01):
It's spelled ad E l i Z, which is so pretty.
Hi Beck at Tanya Mark in easton day one scrubber
and still love the pod just as much. This is
my first time writing in I finally had something bothering
me enough. I stay with my boyfriend most of the week.
He's a pilot, and I bartend at events when he's away.
I actually like using the time to clean, partly for
(14:22):
my own sanity and partly to do something nice for him.
But as he's gotten more comfortable, he's gotten so messy
and it's driving me insane. He leaves dirty clothes on
the floor or toss over his gaming chair. He leaves
dishes in the sink overnight after I just did all
the dishes and ran the dishwasher. And sometimes he even
forgets to flush the toilet.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
Oh my god, that is so gross.
Speaker 2 (14:43):
If I do his laundry and fold everything, he'll let
it sit for days before putting it away. I have
no idea how to bring this up without sounding like
I'm nagging or being a total B word.
Speaker 3 (14:55):
Peep.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
How do I tell him he needs to stop being
lazy and clean up after himself. Help?
Speaker 4 (15:01):
This will drive me insane.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
This will drive me like insane.
Speaker 2 (15:05):
I'm messy and I have my piles, but like in
terms of just daily chores and laundry and stuff like
that is just the signs of a adult.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
Yeah. And I also feel like you should just tell
him who cares if you sound like you're nagging. I
do this all the time.
Speaker 2 (15:21):
Well, I think there's a way of just making it
about feeling like disrespect towards you, because he is disrespecting you, like, yeah,
you're cleaning, and then he's not even having enough respect
for you to clean up after himself or even help you.
So it doesn't even have to be naggy, it's just like, hey,
(15:42):
I sometimes I think the problem is that you almost
probably feel like you're being like a mother to him
cleaning up after him, and you're gonna end up presenting
him and be like so icked out, yeah if you're
not already, And so I think you just need to
make it more about you feeling disrespected and that you
put in the effort and you do these nice things
him and then he turns around and just like either
(16:03):
disregards it or lets it sit and doesn't doesn't contribute.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
It sounds like, yeah, it's just also doesn't seem like
he has respect for you, because, like I would say,
I'm way like Robbie's not messy at all. But like I,
if there's like a dish in the sink, I will
wash it and put it in the you know, like
the clean side of the sink, whereas like he would
let him pile up before he does them. But because
I am the way that I am, he doesn't let
(16:28):
the sink get full because he knows it's important. It's
important to me, you know. So it's just kind of
like I feel like it's not even about him being lazy.
I just feel like it doesn't even respect you.
Speaker 2 (16:37):
I think you should come out of maybe as like, hey,
we're we're a partnership or a team. And I feel
like I'm carrying a lot of the work of like
the housework, and I love doing it because I have
the time, and I like doing it for you and
keeping our space clean.
Speaker 4 (16:50):
But if you could just you.
Speaker 3 (16:51):
Know, doilet.
Speaker 1 (16:54):
I mean that two seconds.
Speaker 2 (16:56):
I am so grossed out for her, but like flush
the toilet or make sure that if I do the
dishes and you eat something that you clean off the
dishes or put it in the dishwasher.
Speaker 4 (17:07):
You're not asking a lot.
Speaker 3 (17:08):
You're literally asking your clothes and fold them.
Speaker 1 (17:11):
Please just put them in their basket or yeah, closet.
Speaker 2 (17:14):
I would just approach it not as like you need
to do this, but more is like, hey, it would
it would make me feel really loved and it would
make me feel really respected if you contributed to the
things that I do around the house.
Speaker 4 (17:24):
Yeah, but I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (17:26):
That's really rough, tough, yeaf and tough, and he needs
to get it together.
Speaker 1 (17:34):
He does.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
Flushing the toilet is a privilege. Not everyone has a
flushing toilet.
Speaker 5 (17:40):
It's true, It's true.
Speaker 4 (17:42):
Okay, this one's fun. You want to read this one?
Speaker 1 (17:45):
Aaron shout out to the Facebook group. Hey gang, First,
I just want to say that my four year old
still continues to ask why don't beck On Tanya sings
to grub a dub dub anymore? Oh, Tanya, your jingle
is missed in my household? Thank you erin. Secondly, and
the why I'm writing is I read a Facebook post
in our Facebook group that I think deserves a shout out.
A woman named Daniella checked out of a hotel and
(18:07):
left her crimper there. The hotel wanted to charge her
fifty bucks to ship it back, so she reached out
into the Facebook group to offer the crumper to anyone
local if they wanted to go pick it up. Honestly,
a pretty nice gesture. I would have just said forget
it and not even thought to offer it to someone else,
but let the hotel dispose of it or whatever they
do with forgotten things items. Sorry. But then right away
(18:28):
someone else in the Facebook group named Jen said that
she was local and would pick it up for her
and then pay for the shipping herself to get Danielle
or her crumper back. I know this exchange is so
minor in the grand scheme of life, but these small
acts of kindness make our world such a better place.
And I feel like these ladies deserve a shout out
from you guys. They have inspired me to go out
of my way to do something similar. I hope this
inspires our listeners to do the same. Love you all
(18:50):
and happy holidays. That is so sweet, and you know
what I do feel like sometimes we get in our
own way because, especially during the holidays, you want to
do nice things, and you get so overwhelmed because you're
like everybody needs so much. People need money, people need groceries,
people need so much that you kind of get overwhelmed
and you don't even.
Speaker 3 (19:09):
Know where to start.
Speaker 1 (19:09):
And it's just like all these little tiny things, like
every little thing makes such a huge impact.
Speaker 3 (19:16):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
Sometimes when I'm feeling like when I'm doomed scroll too
far and things feel dark, sometimes I just go on
the Facebook group because it's always it's either like lighthearted
and funny, or like outrageous sex questions or just like
really like these moments of nice gestures and.
Speaker 4 (19:29):
I'm like, oh, it's such a little.
Speaker 2 (19:31):
Like small pocket of like nice joy and kindness. Yeah,
so thank you for sharing that, Jen.
Speaker 1 (19:39):
For securing the crimper and sending it back.
Speaker 3 (19:42):
We love you.
Speaker 4 (19:44):
Yeah, we love you guys. Thanks for being the best,
so warm, so kind, the best.
Speaker 3 (19:51):
That's all for now. I I have to head off.
Speaker 1 (19:54):
Becka has to go. But if you guys have any
questions for Robbie, He's coming in next week, you can
DM them on Instagram or you can email us at
scrubbing in at iHeartMedia dot com.
Speaker 4 (20:05):
Wonderful. We love y'all so much.
Speaker 1 (20:07):
I'll miss enjoy your trip.
Speaker 2 (20:09):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (20:09):
I'll be watching you on find my can't wait. Yeah,
that's going be fun.
Speaker 3 (20:13):
Yeah, and you'll be like, where is she today?
Speaker 1 (20:16):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (20:17):
Is she moving? Or is she let No, I'll be
on the.
Speaker 1 (20:19):
Move yeah yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:21):
Haley's like, we can sleep on the trains. I don't
sleep on trains more planes or automobiles. I only sleep
laying down.
Speaker 5 (20:26):
What parts of your pan are you going to We're.
Speaker 2 (20:28):
Going to Kyoto, We're going to we're going to do
a day trip in Hiroshima. We're going to do a uh,
we're going to Mount Fuji, and then we're going to
Tokyo and we're going to do a I think that's it.
Speaker 1 (20:42):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (20:45):
Yeah, yeah, So we're really excited. I can't wait and
can't wait to come home and report back on my travels.
Speaker 1 (20:53):
Can't wait to have you back.
Speaker 4 (20:55):
We love you so much.
Speaker 1 (20:56):
I love you.
Speaker 4 (20:56):
Bye.
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In 1997, actress Kristin Davis’ life was forever changed when she took on the role of Charlotte York in Sex and the City. As we watched Carrie, Samantha, Miranda and Charlotte navigate relationships in NYC, the show helped push once unacceptable conversation topics out of the shadows and altered the narrative around women and sex. We all saw ourselves in them as they searched for fulfillment in life, sex and friendships. Now, Kristin Davis wants to connect with you, the fans, and share untold stories and all the behind the scenes. Together, with Kristin and special guests, what will begin with Sex and the City will evolve into talks about themes that are still so relevant today. "Are you a Charlotte?" is much more than just rewatching this beloved show, it brings the past and the present together as we talk with heart, humor and of course some optimism.
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