December 9, 2025 • 44 mins
Roby is filling in for Becca and he’s coming in hot! Winnie the Pooh with a law degree is ready to defend his bohemian sleeping attire and we learn so much about the psyche of Roby.
Tanya and Roby take us behind the scenes of their night at Jingle Ball and how Mr. Fantasy stole both of their hearts.
Plus, we tackle some Scrubber questions about parenting, love after divorce, and the controversial topic of… sunflower seeds.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Scrubbing In with Beka Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio
and two times People's Choice Award winning podcast, Hello everybody.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
We are scrubbing It didn't There used to be a jingle, didn't.
Speaker 3 (00:19):
We used to say something.
Speaker 4 (00:21):
You would have heard the jingle if no.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
No, didn't used to say like a thing, scrub a
dub dub in the tup or something.
Speaker 4 (00:27):
Thank you. Yes, I used to say scrub a dub
dub and the.
Speaker 5 (00:33):
Listeners didn't like it, and I got sick of defending myself,
so I succumbed to and conformed to You.
Speaker 3 (00:41):
Got voted out on that.
Speaker 6 (00:42):
Yeah, there was a heated debate in the Facebook group
and a lot of people didn't care for it.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
How about that scrubbing in life with my scrubbing in wife?
Speaker 6 (00:52):
Wow?
Speaker 3 (00:54):
Really nice? Wow?
Speaker 6 (00:56):
Yeah there was another one she did for a little bit.
Speaker 5 (00:59):
Oh yeah, it's tills and yat and the scrubbing and pad.
Speaker 3 (01:03):
Yeah that's good too. They didn't like that. I like that.
Really got work on posture.
Speaker 5 (01:10):
In case you don't know, Becca Tilly is not here
this week. She is in Japan, but here joining us
as a co host is my husband, Robbie Ellid. It
feels so nice and weird to say husband. I'm still
(01:31):
not used to it, and it's been like almost a year.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
I know it is weird to say wife, right, I
think I'm used to it now you are?
Speaker 7 (01:37):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, you love it.
Speaker 3 (01:39):
I do love it.
Speaker 4 (01:40):
Yeah, Okay.
Speaker 5 (01:42):
So I was thinking about just like having you as
a co host, and it's so weird because we spend
all of our time together, like we So I was like, normally,
you know, we have different things that we do over
the weekend, different things that we're watching, but like you
and I basically do the same thing.
Speaker 4 (01:59):
We watch the same thing.
Speaker 6 (02:01):
So Tiny's nervous about this. Yeah, she's nervous about this.
Did earlier she was like, we're gonna talk about it.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
She should be nervous every day.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Why, Because I have a bone to pick with all
of you. I'm gonna do it right now at the
top of the show, and conveniently Easton is not here,
and conveniently Becca is not here. But we I've been
waiting patiently for I don't know how long it's been
to confront each of you about the unsolicited attack on
my sleep wear routine. Multi front unsolicited attack from everybody.
(02:36):
I was most hurt by Easton. We'll talk to Easton,
but that shocking Mark. We'll talk to you in a second.
You cut me deep.
Speaker 3 (02:47):
That was there's certain things that are not meant for
the air. But it's fine.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
I'm happy it's out there. I feel like a weight
has been lifted off my shoulders. But let's make something
very very clear. Thing with pants and underwear on is insane.
Speaker 3 (03:04):
It's normal. That is insane.
Speaker 6 (03:10):
Of people sleep with some sort some form of bottomwear.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
Okay, we put some form of bottomwear, but double is
you're fully clothed, You're fully Nobody wears underwear and pajama pants.
Speaker 3 (03:23):
Pajama pants are the bottom the bottom or underwear.
Speaker 6 (03:27):
It's interesting because I was going to say, even if
I used to maybe sleep in just underwear when I
was a younger man, when I have kids, now I'm
wearing pants because you're up in the middle of the night,
you're going back and forth. It's it's like I don't
want them to deal with my that that.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Reminds me of a ridiculous story of when I was
a kid and I used to sleep naked, and there
was an earthquake at my house.
Speaker 3 (03:47):
I'll get to that in a second.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
But but and not to be this might get a
little too personal, but like don't don't you need to
be free down there? Like like I don't like free
Like okay, again, this is not about you specifically want
to talk about it, but like morning wood is a
scientific fact.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
No, it's a scientific fact. Yes it is. Okay, when
you have.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
Underwear and pants on, that's got to be very uncomfortable.
Speaker 6 (04:15):
It's not you hyothetically, it's all uncomfortable that happens from
time to time when you have pants on, it doesn't.
Speaker 3 (04:23):
It's not.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
Yeah, during the day when I'm not asleep, I don't.
I don't want I mean when I'm sleeping, I want
to be comfortable. See, Okay, No, this is not we
reap what we saw.
Speaker 6 (04:34):
I can't have I can't have part touching other parts.
I can't have skin on skin. I can't have any
of that stuff.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
I'm not sure there's a skin on skin issue.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
But that's also like I don't I don't mind the
skin on skin at all, Like like you don't like
if you're like if you're like what if your net
legs touch?
Speaker 4 (04:51):
Yeah, like he puts a pill on between his life.
Speaker 6 (04:54):
Yes, I can't have.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
My pants underwear and.
Speaker 6 (04:58):
My knees touch each other, and I'm in bad. I can't. Also, well,
that's never mind.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
Like if you're wearing pants, they don't touch.
Speaker 6 (05:07):
No, they do touch. There's it's it's too thin of
a layer because they were very thin, so thin sweatpants
and my knees are touching each other. It's it's too much.
I can't do it. My sister has the same affliction
we can't have. She wears the thing between her boobs.
Speaker 3 (05:22):
Have you looked into this? Is this like something that
like I don't know about the way you were raised.
I don't know, but it must be I wonder why.
Speaker 4 (05:29):
Yeah, well, wow, that was unexpected.
Speaker 5 (05:34):
I just would like to say that I did not
share that piece of information.
Speaker 4 (05:37):
Becca is the one who shared it.
Speaker 6 (05:39):
And I probably jumped on it like I know you did.
That's why I'm coming for you. But it's so funny.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
But Becca brought it up.
Speaker 4 (05:46):
Yes it was.
Speaker 3 (05:47):
It was innocent.
Speaker 4 (05:49):
I was innocent.
Speaker 3 (05:50):
Oh wow, this changes everything.
Speaker 4 (05:52):
Yeah, I was the innocent one.
Speaker 5 (05:54):
Becca brought it up because I think she had just
discovered it.
Speaker 2 (05:58):
Yeah, I know when she discovered it. Because you brought
it up at a dinner.
Speaker 7 (06:01):
Yes, yes, that multiple people. Yes that I will follow.
Speaker 5 (06:04):
The sword, but I did not bring it up on
the podcast. That was definitely Becca.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
This whole time, I thought it was you and you,
and then Easton jumped on, and I thought Becca was innocent.
Speaker 4 (06:15):
No, Becca was not innocent.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
You told me it was cold in here. It is
so hot. I'm like sweating.
Speaker 4 (06:20):
Yeah, it's anyway very cold in here.
Speaker 6 (06:21):
My favorite part is that your shoulders get cold, and
that's why you wear the shirt. That's my favorite.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
But so I used to sleep when I was younger,
totally naked.
Speaker 6 (06:30):
Natural.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
Yeah, oh natural. I think that's the way God intended it. Okay,
But then two things happened. One I was young, I
must have been like twelve and eleven, twelve something like that.
And there was an earthquake in the middle of the night, and.
Speaker 6 (06:49):
The ninety four north Ridge earthquake.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
It wasn't ninety Yeah, must been ninety four. Yeah, must
be ninety four, which was fifteen, which is even worse.
Wait was it ninety four? Yeah, it must have been ninety four,
and yeah, that makes it worse.
Speaker 3 (07:06):
And so I woke up.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
We had a we had a we had like a
we had like a plan and the event of an earthquake,
like what do we do right as a family, And
the plan is that we all like go get under doorways.
And so I woke up, made sure I got my
younger brother who was right down the hall, and then
went to my parents' room and we were all in
the doorway, like you know, huddled up in the doorway
with each other. And it wasn't until like, you know,
(07:33):
minutes after when the shock of like being in the
middle of an earthquake wore off, that we realized that
I was just buttoning the only one that was but
like huddled up with my whole family. Yeah, So that
so from that moment on we changed things. But no,
the shirt we wear sheets covers for a reason if
(07:54):
there were you don't want to be cold in the
middle of the ninety I'm very delicate, my favorite.
Speaker 3 (08:01):
But you came around on that, you said.
Speaker 5 (08:03):
Yes, yes, I wore a shirt to sleep one night,
and I was like, oh, it's kind of nice, like having.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
My shirts down for you. He goes, I know what
you mean, now, I know what you.
Speaker 5 (08:13):
Mean now, yeah, because like normally I'm grabbing the sheets
and like putting them as far over me as humanly possible,
you know what I mean. Like, I'm like, that's just
barely little heads. Yeah, but when you wear your T shirt,
you don't have to.
Speaker 3 (08:23):
Yeah. Sometimes you get it. You want an arm out.
Sometimes you just want to.
Speaker 7 (08:27):
Like yeah, so it's nice.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
I get it. Believe me, I get it. The visual,
the whole thing is a little bit. It's very effeminated.
It took me a while to come to terms with
the fact that it was, like, it's so funny.
Speaker 5 (08:43):
And I will say, it's like one of the most
what's the word, most common question I get asked about you.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
But since all this went down, I've tried to wear
like loose you know, loose boxers, and I can't do
it because of you know, freedom issies.
Speaker 4 (09:01):
Yeah. Free.
Speaker 3 (09:02):
I want to be free.
Speaker 6 (09:03):
My boys need a house. As Kramer once said.
Speaker 3 (09:06):
We want to live that. Yeah, I'm a big.
Speaker 5 (09:09):
Yeah wow unexpected.
Speaker 3 (09:12):
Well but EA said, I still I got it.
Speaker 4 (09:16):
We will. You can have your moment with Easton as well.
Speaker 3 (09:19):
But now that I know that Becca was the ring
leader here, she.
Speaker 4 (09:22):
Was She wasn't the ring leader. It was an innocent mistake.
Speaker 5 (09:25):
She just like said it and then they all jumped
on it, and then it was like too far gone
to put back in the box.
Speaker 3 (09:33):
I don't believe it.
Speaker 5 (09:34):
But you're saying it's nice. Now you're free. Yeah, nothing's
off limits anymore, is that right?
Speaker 4 (09:42):
Yeah, that's right.
Speaker 6 (09:43):
Well that's a good question. Actually, do you guys have
that conversation you sometimes you talking to Tanya and then
you have to say, by the way, this is not
for the podcast.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
I swear well yeah, no, uh, I swear on everything.
This was like the only thing I've ever told her
between us, because I get it is ridiculous. Since then,
nothing I don't say yeah yeah, yeah, yeah. Sometimes I
say like this is not for social media, or like this.
Speaker 4 (10:09):
Is just what have you ever said that?
Speaker 2 (10:11):
Very rare, no, very rarely, but but I do know, yeah,
I say, don't post that. Yeah yeah, yeah, not because
like I look ugly or anything like that. I'm like,
that's just for us, or I do from time to time.
I've done it. There was a time recently I did it.
I told you to take something down. Actually, yeah, but
that's different.
Speaker 5 (10:26):
Okay, Thanksgiving and you just didn't want the family to
like see.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
Yea, yeah, yeah that was different. But I've done a couple.
It's very rare. It's very it's very rare.
Speaker 4 (10:34):
I can't think of something I don't post or share.
Speaker 3 (10:37):
That's the thing.
Speaker 2 (10:38):
I don't care, like I'm I don't care. There's like
almost I don't get embarrassed.
Speaker 4 (10:42):
It is very fortunate.
Speaker 5 (10:43):
Like a lot of people when uh actually just at
jingle Ball, they were saying, like, it's so lucky that
you ended up with somebody like Robbie because you just
kind of in it, like you go with it, you
don't really care, You're not.
Speaker 3 (10:56):
Like I think that there's that.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
I don't like, not the fact that I don't get embarrassed,
or like I don't care, Like I don't care, like
I can be like the butt of a joke or
like whatever, Like I don't like it doesn't bother me.
I think it's funny and fun That's different though, because
like I was not so comfortable being so public, irrespective
of just like embarrassing or anything like that. I wasn't
so comfortable being public. And at the beginning of our relationship, I.
Speaker 4 (11:24):
Know, look you now I can like film you in bed, like.
Speaker 3 (11:28):
Yeah, but it's that good about it? Who Yeah, it's
good for you.
Speaker 5 (11:32):
Yeah, so this is like the part of the show
where we kind of like talk about our weekend and
catch up and so what did you do this weekend?
Speaker 7 (11:44):
Babe?
Speaker 2 (11:44):
Yeah, we sent every second together this weekend. What did
we do this weekend? So, first of all, we had
jingle Ball on Friday.
Speaker 4 (11:52):
And you're obsessed with mister Fantasy.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
I I love mister Fantasy. So I had no idea
you love miss Fantasy. Now you're a little you don't
know what to make of mister Fantasy.
Speaker 4 (12:02):
Yeah, like I'm on the fence about it.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
I love the whole thing. I had no idea who
he was when we got there, and I didn't know
who he was until after he started to like do
his whole thing with Ryan, and I was like, right there, just.
Speaker 5 (12:14):
A quick note, you are filming, you are recording yourself, right, yeah, okay, great, thanks?
Speaker 3 (12:20):
Great posture. We how's your posture?
Speaker 4 (12:23):
Bad?
Speaker 3 (12:23):
Yeah, we got to work on our posture.
Speaker 2 (12:26):
Okay, although this looks so weird, Okay, No, I love
the whole thing. First of all, I love the whole
like alter ego, concept and idea. But then this character
he created is so just incredible, from his fashion to
his like positive energy. He's so positive and funny that
(12:49):
he could like do things that nobody else would get
away with doing because he's just so like committed to
it and hilarious. So I thought it was great. I
love the whole thing. The energy it takes to do
that was mind blowing to you because he was NonStop
all night on and then we found out he was
(13:11):
at the King's game like the next night, and then
at this and that, and he's like, it's it's it's unbelievable.
Speaker 4 (13:17):
Yeah, you tried to call him out, Yes, so he people.
Speaker 6 (13:23):
If people don't know who mister Fantasy is, you should
give him a Google. But the word is that it's
the actor kJ Appa from Riverdale who's doing a new
character trying to launch a music career.
Speaker 3 (13:32):
Is he's not.
Speaker 6 (13:35):
Mister Fantasy who has the identical tattoos the kJ Appa.
But anyway, it's just kind of an interesting social media
phenomenon right now.
Speaker 3 (13:41):
Yes, and now we're chalking out on TikTok because he's unreal.
Speaker 5 (13:45):
I was like, hey, mister Fantasy, I just want can
you tell your friend that.
Speaker 4 (13:50):
He was good in the Jonas Brothers movie? And he
was like, what friend?
Speaker 7 (13:55):
What friend Joe.
Speaker 4 (13:56):
Jonas and I was like, no, kJ Appa, he did
not he.
Speaker 5 (14:01):
Did Yeah, he did not break it fully in it. Yeah,
So that was definitely a highlight of of jingle Ball
for sure because.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
Nie of us knew who he was, so like, it
was just so shocking because we're in uh, we're in
the like gifting sweet suite and there's probably like fifty
sixty people in there, but it's very like calm and
subdued and low key. It's not like everyone is just
like minding their business, you know, like doing their thing.
And then Ryan comes in. And when Ryan comes in,
it's like, you know, he does a he has a
(14:29):
he has a routine that he's got, you know that
he does and says hi to everybody. And in the
middle of like this out of nowhere, mister Fantasy just
blows the whole thing up, starts screaming from the background.
Speaker 3 (14:40):
Royan Seacrest, Royan Secret.
Speaker 2 (14:42):
And then like because it's just it's it was really cool. Yeah, yeah,
it was cool. Yeah, And it was a great introduction
to the guy.
Speaker 6 (14:48):
And how is it a jingle ball watching Tanya in
her element, like that is her wa and she's and
she's working and she is.
Speaker 3 (14:54):
That is that A I love it. I've always loved it.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
I think it's like, uh, I think it's really important
to admire your partner separate from like how much you
love her or him or care about him. I think
you have to admire them as like an individual. And
watching Tanya in her element, like I admire her talent.
Speaker 3 (15:14):
Her grace, her.
Speaker 2 (15:18):
Energy, you know, and just yeah, I just admire your
you and what you do and how you do it,
not having been like a trained broadcast or anything, and
just like having just on the sheer like strength of
your energy frankly creating this world and career for yourself
(15:42):
and then seeing it kind of wherever it is jingle
ball or wherever.
Speaker 3 (15:46):
I love that.
Speaker 6 (15:48):
And you've never got to see him in his element, right,
You've never been in court to watch him.
Speaker 3 (15:52):
I don't go to court, you don't.
Speaker 2 (15:54):
She sees elements a lot because what I do is
like conference calls or I sit in my opposite draft
documents or negotiate deals, and oftentimes she is like within
earshot of calls.
Speaker 3 (16:06):
Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, So I do see.
Speaker 5 (16:08):
Him as he's a big like pacer when he's on
pacing around the house, pacing around the room. Yeah, talks
with his hands a lot.
Speaker 3 (16:20):
Exciting. It's definitely not exact.
Speaker 5 (16:21):
Definitely actually like feel bad sometimes, Like when I hear
him on calls, like, I'm just like.
Speaker 4 (16:27):
It just sounds so painful.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
Yeah, it's really it's that, I mean, and that's why
the like so like at the end of every day
we come home and we're like, you know, how was
your day? Like this is the most important part of
our days to tell each other how each other our
days was. If I don't properly tell her how our
day was, like, that's bad. My days are so boring,
Like her days are so exciting. She's interviewing this person,
that person. You know, She's there's all kinds of exciting stuff.
(16:51):
For me, is I'm sitting in office negotiating a dealer,
drafting a long document all day.
Speaker 3 (16:57):
But maybe I get like a nice lunch.
Speaker 5 (17:02):
I always ask him at the end of the day
and he's like, yeah, my day was fine. I'm like
I need more than that, Like what did you have
for lunch?
Speaker 4 (17:07):
Who did you talk to? What deals did you close?
Speaker 2 (17:10):
Like I can't tell you most of what I do.
I mean, I can tell you things I on a
non non descript basis. But yeah, I mean, yeah, I'm
saying their eyes glaze over.
Speaker 3 (17:19):
Yeah, I just say comparatively, it's so boring.
Speaker 5 (17:22):
That's my favorite part of the day, is like when
we get home at the end of the night and
like share about our days.
Speaker 4 (17:27):
It's my favorite.
Speaker 3 (17:29):
Even though I don't give you much to I get
it out of you.
Speaker 4 (17:33):
I keep going until I get what I want.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
I do usually remember things days later. That crazy thing
that happened that day. Yeah, that is a weird thing.
Speaker 3 (17:42):
I don't know why I don't remember.
Speaker 6 (17:43):
Yeah, let's take a break, and then I have a
question for Robbie dealing with the things that she makes
you do and that you go along with but probably
don't actually want to go along with. And that's my
d's for you. And we'll do that when we get back.
Speaker 4 (18:12):
And we're back.
Speaker 7 (18:14):
Scrub a dub duba.
Speaker 6 (18:17):
That was my fault. That was my fault.
Speaker 3 (18:19):
Scrub a dub dub. All right, Robbie.
Speaker 6 (18:24):
Tanya sent us over and we talked about this with Ryan.
The December marriage challenge. Oh, yes, you didn't really want
to do this, right, Like this was when she presents
this to you. What goes through your head. She's like,
here's what we're going to do. It's a different thing
every day for all thirty one days of December. It's
a different marriage homework assignment. What goes through your head?
Speaker 3 (18:43):
I don't remember what it is? Yeah, I'm sware.
Speaker 2 (18:48):
This came up a few days ago someone hosted on
her Instagram or somewhere on social media in her universe.
Speaker 3 (18:54):
Maybe it was a iHeart Facebook group like.
Speaker 2 (18:57):
We need Robbie and Tanya to do the marriage challenge.
And I'd screenshot her and send it to her and said,
what is the marriage challenge?
Speaker 3 (19:05):
And she apparently sent this to me the day before.
I don't remember it. I don't know what it is.
What is it? Should we do it right now?
Speaker 5 (19:09):
So it was like a thing I saw on Instagram.
I said to you and I said we should do this,
and you said yeah, for sure.
Speaker 4 (19:14):
And then the problem is I never followed through.
Speaker 6 (19:17):
Well I have what is it? Every single day? Like December? First,
say one thing you admire about your spouse?
Speaker 3 (19:23):
Yeah, yeah, okay, I do remember that. Yeah yeah, okay.
Speaker 4 (19:27):
Last it didn't last, but you were into it.
Speaker 2 (19:30):
I mean, listen, would I choose to do those things myself? No,
but I'm very happy to do it if it is
meaningful to you, Like.
Speaker 6 (19:38):
Yeah, but it's not meaningful to him.
Speaker 2 (19:40):
Correct, No, but it's but it do you have that
it's me But okay, hold on hold, it's not like again,
I would never choose to do that. It's not something wet,
never a milliona years. But but that doesn't mean that
it's not meaning so like, there's so many things that
you I mean, there's small sacrifices, and there's big sacrifices
(20:02):
sacrifice for love. But it's but it's meaningful to make
to do something for your partner even if you don't
necessarily want to do it, or even more meaningful if you.
Speaker 3 (20:13):
Don't want to do it. I think, such as walking
uphill instead of walking. No.
Speaker 5 (20:18):
No, like family meetings, like I actually think like you
would never do those yourself, but I do think you
actually enjoy them.
Speaker 2 (20:24):
No, I would do family meetings. I think family meetings
are really really important and great. I love like when
we like plan and like coordinate things. I love that
part of it. But we got into like a couples therapy.
Speaker 3 (20:34):
Part of it. Far we're gonna do it. I like
the planning coordinating. No, we need it. You got to
talk to the microphones planning and the coordinating. We need it.
Speaker 4 (20:43):
Yeah, thank you.
Speaker 3 (20:45):
Yeah, no, he likes it. Oh I I called them
sometimes he does.
Speaker 7 (20:51):
Well, it's rare, I do.
Speaker 4 (20:53):
Okay. So there's a couple of things like we never
had you want after the wedding. But I don't know,
it just feels like the wedding was so far away
from now.
Speaker 6 (21:01):
Can you believe that has been.
Speaker 1 (21:04):
Long?
Speaker 4 (21:05):
Nine months? It's so crazy.
Speaker 5 (21:10):
I feel like there were some questions that I asked
on my Instagram for people, like ask people if they
wanted to ask you questions? Yeah, and do you mind
if I ask you a couple of those?
Speaker 4 (21:19):
Right now?
Speaker 3 (21:20):
You can ask me whatever you want, Okay.
Speaker 5 (21:22):
Was it hard having a Christmas tree? I'm Jewish marrying
a non Jew, and it feels wrong.
Speaker 3 (21:27):
No, Christmas trees are amazing.
Speaker 2 (21:28):
First of all, I'm very reformed Jew, so I'm not
like super ultra religious. I'm a high holiday Jew basically,
and you know, you, Christmas is like in a in
large part like almost like non nomin I don't know
what the word is, but like yeah, it's yeah, exactly,
it's you know, it's there's something just like that is
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generally applicable to the holidays.
Speaker 3 (21:53):
You grow up every.
Speaker 2 (21:54):
Year going skiing, you know, in the winter, and you
know that's full of like Christmas trees and that Christmas
energy and that Christmas vibe. All the movies you watch
like as a kid growing up or like around Christmas.
So like the feel good part of Christmas is great,
and I just think it's an awesome holiday. So was
it weird for a Christmas tree?
Speaker 3 (22:14):
No, I liked it.
Speaker 2 (22:15):
And the first time we did a Christmas tree was
was like actually just like again a really like special, meaningful,
like bonding moment for us.
Speaker 3 (22:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (22:22):
The first Christmas tree ever decorated was it was right
before COVID, so it's December between.
Speaker 3 (22:28):
Somber, Yeah, December.
Speaker 5 (22:30):
It was the first Christmas tree he'd ever decorated in
his life, which I thought was so like special, and
he did it.
Speaker 3 (22:35):
With me, and I went and I bought.
Speaker 2 (22:37):
I went to like Creighton Beryl I'll never forget, and
I bought all these ornaments to bring right but like
some of them were like whatever, some of them were
like meaningful, and then we bought like.
Speaker 5 (22:47):
Matching ones because he was like, they told me you
have to get two or three of the same ones.
Speaker 3 (22:51):
I was like, yeah, they got me, they got me.
Speaker 4 (22:55):
It was really cute though.
Speaker 3 (22:56):
That was great.
Speaker 2 (22:56):
No, I love it and and you know, we blend it.
We like do like a Christmas tree, but it's like,
you know, maybe not red and green, it's like white
and blue and then we have like you.
Speaker 3 (23:08):
Known, that's all. Yeah, it's great.
Speaker 6 (23:12):
In my neighborhood that decorates their whole house white, blue,
Manora's Star of David. Fantastic. Yeah, I want everyone to
decorate their house this month for whatever whatever theme you
want to do.
Speaker 7 (23:23):
Yeah, it's great.
Speaker 5 (23:25):
What's the best thing, Tanya that's me has done for
your boys?
Speaker 4 (23:28):
I'm a bonus mama too.
Speaker 2 (23:30):
Oh my god, you you know you've done. I'm gonna this.
I'm gonna try to get emotional, but that's going to
be impossible. But you've done so much for them. I mean,
you know, there's the kind of express things that you do.
So like the fact that you write a note every
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morning for Sebby that is like topical and has to
do with whatever's going up. That's topical and has to
do with whatever's going on in our lives. Is unbelievable
and you would do it for Oliver if you wanted it,
but Oliver is too cool for that now. But and
this is the the emotional part, more than like the
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things you do on a day to day basis, it's
the energy that you've created and the security and and
feeling of home and family that you've brought to our house,
(24:34):
including you know, spearheading the sunny getting sunny. So I
think I think you do a lot of very constantly thoughtful,
intentional things that are you know that you that is
just kind of like who you are. But what that
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has meant from an from again, from an energy perspective
in our our house and and our family, I think
is the most important.
Speaker 3 (25:06):
Is there like tissue?
Speaker 7 (25:08):
Yeah?
Speaker 6 (25:09):
Otherwise I was like, sure.
Speaker 4 (25:12):
Not gonna feel so nice.
Speaker 3 (25:14):
But it's not bad.
Speaker 5 (25:15):
Oh my gosh, that made me emotional. Okay, I'm just
a little more lighthearted. Where do you shop? Always looking
so put together?
Speaker 3 (25:26):
I don't shop. I don't know what I did.
Speaker 2 (25:27):
First of all, I'm in a style crisis right now.
Can we talk about that more than where I shop? Yeah,
I'm forty six years old and like, up until two
years ago or a year ago, I was wearing like
super super tight pants and had a certain thing, and
now like that's not cool anymore.
Speaker 3 (25:46):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (25:46):
Maybe that was not cool for a couple of years
when I was still doing it, but so now we
got to wear like baggy pants or like looser pants, and.
Speaker 3 (25:53):
I don't know, like how to make all that work.
So I don't know.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
I feel like I'm in a soul christ. I feel
like an eight year old when I wear baggy pants.
But uh no, I don't know my shop. I fall
for all the like instagram like stores and just like
whenever I have time, I like, but I hate like
actually shopping.
Speaker 3 (26:08):
But that's very nice that you think I have.
Speaker 6 (26:09):
Good Are you're transitioning to a different phase in your life?
Speaker 3 (26:12):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (26:12):
Yes, for sure?
Speaker 6 (26:13):
Yeah yeah have you noticed it? Do you feel like
he dresses too young?
Speaker 4 (26:17):
No, I don't think you're.
Speaker 5 (26:18):
Just too young, But like, I mean, his pants used
to be tighter than mine and now he wears like
baggy pants.
Speaker 3 (26:22):
It was crazy in hindsight, how tight my pants are.
Speaker 7 (26:25):
It's crazy.
Speaker 4 (26:27):
So I like the evolution good good, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (26:30):
But I gotta be able to pull it off in
an elevated fashion. So if anyone has any tips out there,
so how to do that?
Speaker 5 (26:35):
Yeah, well you refuse to put headphones on, and you
keep not speaking in a microphone.
Speaker 3 (26:41):
When they miss it's just like it's like talking.
Speaker 4 (26:43):
Like this, and it's like this and this and.
Speaker 7 (26:45):
This and this.
Speaker 3 (26:46):
I need a clip on, a clip on.
Speaker 6 (26:50):
He didn't want to wear headphones because they didn't want
to look silly on the camera. The deal. Yeah, the
hair looks nice, but you're in a radio studio that
people wear headphones here.
Speaker 2 (26:59):
I know, but I think we got to I think
that that we need to not look like we're in
a radio studio.
Speaker 3 (27:04):
That's what I think.
Speaker 5 (27:04):
Yeah, Robbie has some pointers for the Scrubbing In podcast,
which we can't also get into.
Speaker 4 (27:10):
How was Robbie's first time meeting Ryan?
Speaker 2 (27:14):
Do you remember your first This is the funniest thing
is I don't remember the which is so weird that
I don't remember the first time meeting Ryan. I feel
like I would remember that, but I've I've had the
opportunity to like spend an okay amount of time and
they're gonna hang out with him a few times. Uh,
and I you know, it's just he's he's the man.
(27:34):
I mean, Ryan's the best. We get along really well.
We're around the same age, we know a lot of
the same people.
Speaker 4 (27:43):
I feel like he likes you better than me.
Speaker 3 (27:45):
I think that.
Speaker 2 (27:46):
I think that you're you're an employee, You're an employee,
co worker.
Speaker 3 (27:52):
You're a co worker.
Speaker 2 (27:53):
But I'm saying, like, it's a it's a it's a
working relationship. You guys are friends too, no doubt about it.
But like that, I mean, that's it's different. Yeah, but yeah, no,
we get along. I think, you know, Ryan's a really
good dude. He's always been, I mean, another guy that
I like, admire so much and love like any chance
I get to like talk to him or learn from him,
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which I've had a few opportunities, thankfully.
Speaker 3 (28:17):
I love that. Yeah, No, we got a lot. Ryan's
the best.
Speaker 6 (28:19):
Do you remember the night we met?
Speaker 3 (28:22):
Yeah, I do remember the night we.
Speaker 2 (28:23):
Met outside outside of Ryan's house, That's right.
Speaker 3 (28:26):
I do remember that I was picking up Tanya.
Speaker 7 (28:29):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (28:31):
That's that's crazy. I remember that.
Speaker 6 (28:33):
I remember that very well, and I remember ever about
thirty seconds being like, oh this guy's this is a
good guy.
Speaker 3 (28:38):
I remember you were like very protective of Tanya.
Speaker 6 (28:40):
Very Yeah, it's a long time. It's a long time. Yeah,
and a lot of duds, yeah, well a lot and so,
but when I met you, it was I got non
dud energy almost instantly.
Speaker 4 (28:53):
Thank you, almost instantly.
Speaker 6 (28:56):
Oh sure, what do you mean?
Speaker 3 (28:58):
There was a period of time where he thought I
was a.
Speaker 7 (29:02):
What early days?
Speaker 6 (29:04):
No, I didn't. No.
Speaker 5 (29:06):
This is this one that kind of kept coming up
a lot too. What's the best advice for a woman
getting into a marriage with a man with kids? That's
a tough And then on the heels of that, when
did he show that he had kids while navigating dating?
Speaker 4 (29:22):
I'm a single mom.
Speaker 6 (29:23):
Why don't we take a break and you can think
about this. Yeah, we'll come back with the answer. That's
you know, people will want to hear that, So they're
gonna hear all these wonderful goods and services, and then
they kind of back and here Robbie's answer. Here we go,
(29:51):
and we're back.
Speaker 5 (29:52):
Okay, So we left you hanging on a big cliffhanger.
There were a couple questions about what's the best advice
for a woman getting in to a marriage with a
man with kids, and then kind of dovetailing into when
did he share that he had kids while navigating dating.
Speaker 4 (30:07):
I'm a single mom.
Speaker 2 (30:09):
So yeah, let's start with the second one. I deny.
I mean I it was on my hinch profile.
Speaker 5 (30:17):
Yeah, you you had photos with the kids on your
dating app.
Speaker 2 (30:21):
Yeah, I think, and I put, I think I'm a dad.
Whatever I was not for me, it was important for
people to know right away. I mean, it wasn't. There
was no like delay in telling someone I had kids.
So yeah, so that's the answer to the second one.
I think on the first one, like, what's the best advice?
(30:43):
Oh man, you know, that's something that I think that
is probably deserves like a much more thoughtful, long, long answer,
and probably books can be written about it. But I
think the I think the best advice for a mom,
for a woman coming into a relationship with a guy
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with kids, is to be to be patient, to be patient,
and to trust the guidance advice of the guy. You know,
(31:28):
everybody's kids are different, boys and girls are different depending
what age they are, you know, matters. Each individual child
is so different and hopefully you know the parent, I mean,
definitely the parent is best suited to know kind of
(31:49):
you know, what they're how their kid is dealing with
with everything, you know, how close you are to the
to the divorce, or maybe it's not a divorce, but
all that kind of factors in. And but I think
despite all of that, I think that it is a
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transition and something that the kids need space and time
to kind of naturally accept in a positive way for themselves.
And so yeah, so patience I think is probably the
(32:33):
best advice as maybe non helpful is that is?
Speaker 3 (32:40):
I mean, what do you think the best advice is?
Han't been on the other side.
Speaker 5 (32:42):
Of it, Yeah, I would say, like I feel like
I trusted you a lot in that process, Like I
trusted your your approach, your way of of like meeting them,
when to meet them, how to meet them. You know,
I wanted to bring them gifts when I first met them,
and you were like, no, I don't want it to
feel like you're like trying to buy them.
Speaker 4 (33:03):
So we thought of like thoughtful.
Speaker 5 (33:05):
Things that I could bring them that weren't necessarily gifts,
but like thoughtful trinkets, if you will, which I thought
was better and like a good approach. So I kind
of I would just kind of lean on you. I mean,
I think it's interesting because our situation was different because
it was.
Speaker 4 (33:24):
In the middle of a pandemic. I don't think.
Speaker 5 (33:25):
I mean, we made it like nine months until I
met the kids, and I feel like it wouldn't have
been nine months if there wasn't like a pandemic in
the middle.
Speaker 2 (33:31):
I think also the nine months was was like probably
you know that that was something.
Speaker 3 (33:38):
So you know, at the time of my separation, my
divorce kind of.
Speaker 2 (33:48):
There was a rule that we both that me and
Max talked about that we wanted to follow, which was basically,
we don't want to introduce our kids to like a
revolving door of like others, right of like of like
girls or guys or whatever. And so we you know,
(34:10):
the idea was like un less and until you're like
really ready to like really be committed to someone, like
practically engagement, we shouldn't introduce the kids to anybody.
Speaker 3 (34:23):
That was probably yeah.
Speaker 5 (34:24):
But to be fair, I was your girlfriend and I'd
been your girlfriend for like eight months at the time.
Speaker 3 (34:30):
No.
Speaker 2 (34:30):
No, I think my point is to say that that
was probably wrong because I don't think you could even
get to the point of like commitment or like engagement level,
like I know I want to This is like the
you know, the woman I'm going to be with without
having integrated your kids already and seeing how that whole
scenario works. So it was it was the reason it
took so long was yes, pandemic related, but also just
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that was kind of like a mistake and you know,
we didn't know what we were doing. I didn't know
what I was doing. We're kind of learning it as
we go, all intentions, and I think that, you know,
despite maybe that being wrong or maybe not the best approach,
I think that it's still like worked to our benefit.
Speaker 3 (35:10):
I think that.
Speaker 2 (35:13):
The slow introduction and then even from there like very
kind of like intentional integration and like.
Speaker 4 (35:21):
Yeah, all I'm saying is I think nine months was
too long.
Speaker 7 (35:24):
No, no, I hear you, because.
Speaker 5 (35:24):
I think there was damage on my end where I
felt like you had two lives and I was like
I'm done with that.
Speaker 2 (35:29):
Well, that was like the biggest tension in our relationship
and like the reason we broke up and like all
this so like it was like, yeah, listen, that was
very hard. It's very hard to navigate these things. I
mean I could talk I think that this is something
that you could really like talk about for I mean
you could you know, or write about for you know,
at length.
Speaker 5 (35:50):
Because I do understand when you say be patient, because
I wanted to meet them, like, you know, two months
in Okay, Yeah, sure, maybe that's too soon, but then
I feel like to wait nine months was also problematic.
Speaker 2 (36:01):
Yeah, but patient, being patient good. I wasn't even I
didn't even mean it about that. I do think that
that's part of being patient. I met, like, even once
you meet them, be patient with them, go right, like,
be patient with them, give them the time and space
to like it's it's hard.
Speaker 3 (36:19):
Again.
Speaker 2 (36:19):
I can only talk about a divorce situation, but there's
probably numerous situations like this, either widowed or just someone
who has kids, you know, outside of marriage and like
as a single parent, father, whatever. There's probably other scenarios.
I don't know, but in our scenario, there is a
natural defense that they're gonna have against somebody coming another
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woman coming into their lives in like a parental kind
of capacity, and so you have to be patient with
that and you have to, you know, let them work
through that.
Speaker 3 (36:52):
And I think that we've done it as.
Speaker 2 (36:54):
A very commendable job, as best a job we can.
You have been incredible throughout that process. Your relationship with
my boys is unreal, Like I think the powers it
be every day for that.
Speaker 3 (37:10):
What you please show you know what I mean, that's
that's the most important thing to me in this world.
So let me know what.
Speaker 5 (37:20):
The Okay, this is a nice, easy, breezy one. What's
the best part about being married to Tanya? And what
is the most surprising part.
Speaker 3 (37:30):
I'm being married to?
Speaker 2 (37:31):
So being married to Tanya, my life is like, uh,
every every day is like an episode of I Love Lucy.
Speaker 3 (37:38):
I think Tanya is.
Speaker 2 (37:40):
Really I mean, it's absolutely Tanya is the modern day
Lucy O ball.
Speaker 3 (37:46):
Okay it is.
Speaker 2 (37:51):
It's just exciting and funny and you know, meaningful. And
I know that I have a partner who has my
back always. But yeah, I know it's a every day
as an episode of I.
Speaker 6 (38:04):
Love I've always said that because this week Tanya goes
to prenatal yoga. Yeah, Tanya tries to make home and
milk at home, like every and it's hilarious.
Speaker 2 (38:17):
This week Tanya gets blacklisted from hot at yoga.
Speaker 6 (38:20):
Oh yeah, every week a new plot.
Speaker 3 (38:26):
Yeah, and that you know, And that's what life is about.
Speaker 2 (38:28):
It's about keeping it exciting and interesting and I hit
the jackpot there.
Speaker 5 (38:33):
The thing that's so crazy is like I'm literally obsessed
with you, Like I spend every minute with you and
I still can't get enough. Like I was so excited
that you were co hosting the podcast this week because like,
obviously I'm not with you when I'm at work, and
I was like, oh, yeah, that means he's like gonna
come with me to work. Like I love doing everything
with you, I love doing nothing with you. I love
(38:53):
watching TV with you like I've never I've never had
a partner that I'm just like so obsessed with, but
somebody that I admire so much, also somebody that I'm
so like sexually obsessed with, Like I just everything about you,
I'm just like obsessed with.
Speaker 2 (39:09):
Well okay, but fine the same. But what are your
like pet peeves or what are like the things that
annoy you? I already know one, but let's see if
you say it.
Speaker 5 (39:17):
It is the most obnoxious thing, and it's like the
biggest turn off. It is the biggest turnoff. I never
thought you could possibly turn me off until you started
eating sunflower seeds and it is so disgusting and he
can't put them down like, you can't have once you start,
you can't FaceTime over like trying to book a flight.
Speaker 3 (39:39):
No, I have fifty in my mouth, like spitting them.
Speaker 4 (39:41):
Into a cup, And I'm like, can you not just
do that? I'm on a phone call with you for
two minutes.
Speaker 3 (39:45):
Can you already in there so spit them out before
you call me? Don't?
Speaker 2 (39:50):
I don't know why that gives you the the other two.
I get the other two. I get the flip flopping
flip flops.
Speaker 5 (39:56):
Yeah, oh my gosh. And he walks in flip flops.
It's like, you know those people that are not self
aware that they're making that plan.
Speaker 4 (40:04):
It's so embarrassing.
Speaker 3 (40:05):
It all comes back to being free.
Speaker 4 (40:07):
Yeah, no, that don't be so free when you're wearing I.
Speaker 3 (40:10):
Don't want to live in a world where I can't
just flop away.
Speaker 6 (40:14):
No, you're out and that's walking down the street.
Speaker 5 (40:18):
Just thankfully in our relationship, you don't really wear flip flops.
Speaker 3 (40:23):
No, No, I don't shoes.
Speaker 4 (40:25):
Yeah, so this is it.
Speaker 6 (40:26):
That's great.
Speaker 5 (40:26):
Yeah, yeah, this is a rare, rare occurrence. But when
his flip flops are flippity flop.
Speaker 3 (40:31):
Will always be only on vacation.
Speaker 6 (40:32):
Yeah, it makes sense.
Speaker 4 (40:34):
Yeah. What's the third one?
Speaker 2 (40:35):
Uh? The first of all, they're called flip flops for
a reason that name like literally, that's what you're supposed
to do.
Speaker 5 (40:45):
You're conscientious and lift them up off the floor, not
flippity flop.
Speaker 3 (40:49):
Do you do you flop?
Speaker 6 (40:51):
I'm not really, I'm with you on open toad shoes.
Oh yeah, and I think I typically were slides instead
of flip flops, so they don't do a lot of
flippity flopping. But yeah, you've worn to wear flop flops,
they're gonna flip and flop.
Speaker 3 (41:02):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (41:03):
The amount of effort it takes to cold your toes
down to lift.
Speaker 6 (41:08):
The flop it's unnatural.
Speaker 3 (41:10):
The third thing the chewing gum, which also.
Speaker 5 (41:12):
Oh my gosh, it is like a giraffe chewing grass.
Speaker 3 (41:17):
You can't cage me. You gotta let me be free.
Speaker 5 (41:20):
Like I literally have to remind him if he's chewing
gum and we're like about to go hang out with friends,
I'm like, you have to spit your gum out like.
Speaker 3 (41:27):
Chewing gum because of you gave me a complex?
Speaker 5 (41:30):
Will stop eat dumping your gum around like that with
clients around.
Speaker 2 (41:35):
They I told her to like, watch like some videos
of baseball players eating baseball selflowers.
Speaker 3 (41:40):
It's like, I think it's cool.
Speaker 6 (41:42):
It's all gross. It's it's all gross.
Speaker 3 (41:45):
What's gross?
Speaker 6 (41:46):
Gross? And ball players do it and it's gross, and
I've never seen you do it, but I assume it's
similarly gross.
Speaker 3 (41:51):
You know, it's very It's like, no, it's cool.
Speaker 4 (41:54):
Any never having a family meeting. This was Sunday. We're
having a family meeting. He's spinning out these sunflower seats
and I'm like, we have one hour and we're gonna
sit here and get this on the.
Speaker 6 (42:05):
I involved spitting things out of your so you don't
have to spit them.
Speaker 3 (42:07):
You can take them one better.
Speaker 4 (42:12):
If I take them with my hand.
Speaker 6 (42:14):
You're distracting saliva covered things from your mouth. It's all bad.
Speaker 2 (42:19):
Look so eating cherries is gross? Yes, yes, what is wrong?
Speaker 3 (42:23):
I agree?
Speaker 2 (42:23):
No. The best is that we had a canasta lesson,
which we definitely have to talk about and I'm just
eating this up.
Speaker 3 (42:29):
Discussion was amazing. She's like, I have boys. I totally
get it.
Speaker 4 (42:33):
Teenage boys were disgusting.
Speaker 3 (42:35):
So this is disgusting teenage boys. I totally get.
Speaker 4 (42:39):
It that I had chills down my back.
Speaker 5 (42:42):
I was so second hand embarrassed because of you, with
his spinning out with our tutor, our Canasta tutor sitting
at the table, and he's no.
Speaker 3 (42:51):
I'm.
Speaker 4 (42:53):
On this, thank you.
Speaker 6 (42:55):
If I eat cherries, I'm alone. I'm not eating cherries
in front of other people.
Speaker 3 (42:58):
I don't want eating anything in front of other people.
Speaker 2 (43:00):
Is discussing eating anything in front of people, discussing, you're
necessarily oh my god.
Speaker 3 (43:04):
Eating You're just like shovel Everything is disgusting.
Speaker 6 (43:08):
If you really think about your mouth is not as
girls as taking things out of your mouth.
Speaker 7 (43:11):
That's what I agree.
Speaker 3 (43:12):
I agree, it's all disgusting.
Speaker 6 (43:15):
It goes in your mouth, you should never see it again.
Speaker 2 (43:17):
Yes, okay, cherries, sunflower seeds?
Speaker 6 (43:22):
What else?
Speaker 3 (43:24):
Seeds? We can have seedless but water seeds. What else
is there?
Speaker 5 (43:29):
No, but the problem with the sunflower seeds is that
it's ours like he'll just sit in bed watching TV and.
Speaker 3 (43:34):
Just spendflower seeds. No, no, no, no, no, yes, yes
no I did do that. I did do that.
Speaker 2 (43:44):
But that's because she wanted me to watch the football
game upstairs instead of watching it downstairs.
Speaker 3 (43:50):
So we have to compromise. You can't. You can't watch sacrifice.
We sacrifice for life. I had to eat some flower
seeds in bed.
Speaker 5 (44:02):
What do you want sacrifice? Believe does not know we're
gonna wrap this episode up, but I feel very vindicated.
Speaker 3 (44:13):
I can't wait for myself to arrive on Wednesday.
Speaker 4 (44:16):
Have more coming, and that's the problem. They keep coming
in there, these big, big big I wanted to throw
them away, but then I'm like, I can't.
Speaker 5 (44:26):
Anyways, Robbie will be back for Dear Bonya on Thursday,
and thank you all for joining us, Babe, thank you
for co hosting today.
Speaker 3 (44:36):
Yeah, but I still owe Easton, so we'll try to
get him.
Speaker 6 (44:39):
He's in the building.
Speaker 4 (44:39):
Yeah, we'll get it.
Speaker 7 (44:40):
We'll talk Thursday, all right, Love
Speaker 4 (44:42):
You all, Bye, b
Scrubbing In with Beka Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio
and two times People's Choice Award winning podcast, Hello everybody.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
We are scrubbing It didn't There used to be a jingle, didn't.
Speaker 3 (00:19):
We used to say something.
Speaker 4 (00:21):
You would have heard the jingle if no.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
No, didn't used to say like a thing, scrub a
dub dub in the tup or something.
Speaker 4 (00:27):
Thank you. Yes, I used to say scrub a dub
dub and the.
Speaker 5 (00:33):
Listeners didn't like it, and I got sick of defending myself,
so I succumbed to and conformed to You.
Speaker 3 (00:41):
Got voted out on that.
Speaker 6 (00:42):
Yeah, there was a heated debate in the Facebook group
and a lot of people didn't care for it.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
How about that scrubbing in life with my scrubbing in wife?
Speaker 6 (00:52):
Wow?
Speaker 3 (00:54):
Really nice? Wow?
Speaker 6 (00:56):
Yeah there was another one she did for a little bit.
Speaker 5 (00:59):
Oh yeah, it's tills and yat and the scrubbing and pad.
Speaker 3 (01:03):
Yeah that's good too. They didn't like that. I like that.
Really got work on posture.
Speaker 5 (01:10):
In case you don't know, Becca Tilly is not here
this week. She is in Japan, but here joining us
as a co host is my husband, Robbie Ellid. It
feels so nice and weird to say husband. I'm still
(01:31):
not used to it, and it's been like almost a year.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
I know it is weird to say wife, right, I
think I'm used to it now you are?
Speaker 7 (01:37):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, you love it.
Speaker 3 (01:39):
I do love it.
Speaker 4 (01:40):
Yeah, Okay.
Speaker 5 (01:42):
So I was thinking about just like having you as
a co host, and it's so weird because we spend
all of our time together, like we So I was like, normally,
you know, we have different things that we do over
the weekend, different things that we're watching, but like you
and I basically do the same thing.
Speaker 4 (01:59):
We watch the same thing.
Speaker 6 (02:01):
So Tiny's nervous about this. Yeah, she's nervous about this.
Did earlier she was like, we're gonna talk about it.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
She should be nervous every day.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Why, Because I have a bone to pick with all
of you. I'm gonna do it right now at the
top of the show, and conveniently Easton is not here,
and conveniently Becca is not here. But we I've been
waiting patiently for I don't know how long it's been
to confront each of you about the unsolicited attack on
my sleep wear routine. Multi front unsolicited attack from everybody.
(02:36):
I was most hurt by Easton. We'll talk to Easton,
but that shocking Mark. We'll talk to you in a second.
You cut me deep.
Speaker 3 (02:47):
That was there's certain things that are not meant for
the air. But it's fine.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
I'm happy it's out there. I feel like a weight
has been lifted off my shoulders. But let's make something
very very clear. Thing with pants and underwear on is insane.
Speaker 3 (03:04):
It's normal. That is insane.
Speaker 6 (03:10):
Of people sleep with some sort some form of bottomwear.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
Okay, we put some form of bottomwear, but double is
you're fully clothed, You're fully Nobody wears underwear and pajama pants.
Speaker 3 (03:23):
Pajama pants are the bottom the bottom or underwear.
Speaker 6 (03:27):
It's interesting because I was going to say, even if
I used to maybe sleep in just underwear when I
was a younger man, when I have kids, now I'm
wearing pants because you're up in the middle of the night,
you're going back and forth. It's it's like I don't
want them to deal with my that that.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Reminds me of a ridiculous story of when I was
a kid and I used to sleep naked, and there
was an earthquake at my house.
Speaker 3 (03:47):
I'll get to that in a second.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
But but and not to be this might get a
little too personal, but like don't don't you need to
be free down there? Like like I don't like free
Like okay, again, this is not about you specifically want
to talk about it, but like morning wood is a
scientific fact.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
No, it's a scientific fact. Yes it is. Okay, when
you have.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
Underwear and pants on, that's got to be very uncomfortable.
Speaker 6 (04:15):
It's not you hyothetically, it's all uncomfortable that happens from
time to time when you have pants on, it doesn't.
Speaker 3 (04:23):
It's not.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
Yeah, during the day when I'm not asleep, I don't.
I don't want I mean when I'm sleeping, I want
to be comfortable. See, Okay, No, this is not we
reap what we saw.
Speaker 6 (04:34):
I can't have I can't have part touching other parts.
I can't have skin on skin. I can't have any
of that stuff.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
I'm not sure there's a skin on skin issue.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
But that's also like I don't I don't mind the
skin on skin at all, Like like you don't like
if you're like if you're like what if your net
legs touch?
Speaker 4 (04:51):
Yeah, like he puts a pill on between his life.
Speaker 6 (04:54):
Yes, I can't have.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
My pants underwear and.
Speaker 6 (04:58):
My knees touch each other, and I'm in bad. I can't. Also, well,
that's never mind.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
Like if you're wearing pants, they don't touch.
Speaker 6 (05:07):
No, they do touch. There's it's it's too thin of
a layer because they were very thin, so thin sweatpants
and my knees are touching each other. It's it's too much.
I can't do it. My sister has the same affliction
we can't have. She wears the thing between her boobs.
Speaker 3 (05:22):
Have you looked into this? Is this like something that
like I don't know about the way you were raised.
I don't know, but it must be I wonder why.
Speaker 4 (05:29):
Yeah, well, wow, that was unexpected.
Speaker 5 (05:34):
I just would like to say that I did not
share that piece of information.
Speaker 4 (05:37):
Becca is the one who shared it.
Speaker 6 (05:39):
And I probably jumped on it like I know you did.
That's why I'm coming for you. But it's so funny.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
But Becca brought it up.
Speaker 4 (05:46):
Yes it was.
Speaker 3 (05:47):
It was innocent.
Speaker 4 (05:49):
I was innocent.
Speaker 3 (05:50):
Oh wow, this changes everything.
Speaker 4 (05:52):
Yeah, I was the innocent one.
Speaker 5 (05:54):
Becca brought it up because I think she had just
discovered it.
Speaker 2 (05:58):
Yeah, I know when she discovered it. Because you brought
it up at a dinner.
Speaker 7 (06:01):
Yes, yes, that multiple people. Yes that I will follow.
Speaker 5 (06:04):
The sword, but I did not bring it up on
the podcast. That was definitely Becca.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
This whole time, I thought it was you and you,
and then Easton jumped on, and I thought Becca was innocent.
Speaker 4 (06:15):
No, Becca was not innocent.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
You told me it was cold in here. It is
so hot. I'm like sweating.
Speaker 4 (06:20):
Yeah, it's anyway very cold in here.
Speaker 6 (06:21):
My favorite part is that your shoulders get cold, and
that's why you wear the shirt. That's my favorite.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
But so I used to sleep when I was younger,
totally naked.
Speaker 6 (06:30):
Natural.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
Yeah, oh natural. I think that's the way God intended it. Okay,
But then two things happened. One I was young, I
must have been like twelve and eleven, twelve something like that.
And there was an earthquake in the middle of the night, and.
Speaker 6 (06:49):
The ninety four north Ridge earthquake.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
It wasn't ninety Yeah, must been ninety four. Yeah, must
be ninety four, which was fifteen, which is even worse.
Wait was it ninety four? Yeah, it must have been ninety four,
and yeah, that makes it worse.
Speaker 3 (07:06):
And so I woke up.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
We had a we had a we had like a
we had like a plan and the event of an earthquake,
like what do we do right as a family, And
the plan is that we all like go get under doorways.
And so I woke up, made sure I got my
younger brother who was right down the hall, and then
went to my parents' room and we were all in
the doorway, like you know, huddled up in the doorway
with each other. And it wasn't until like, you know,
(07:33):
minutes after when the shock of like being in the
middle of an earthquake wore off, that we realized that
I was just buttoning the only one that was but
like huddled up with my whole family. Yeah, So that
so from that moment on we changed things. But no,
the shirt we wear sheets covers for a reason if
(07:54):
there were you don't want to be cold in the
middle of the ninety I'm very delicate, my favorite.
Speaker 3 (08:01):
But you came around on that, you said.
Speaker 5 (08:03):
Yes, yes, I wore a shirt to sleep one night,
and I was like, oh, it's kind of nice, like having.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
My shirts down for you. He goes, I know what
you mean, now, I know what you.
Speaker 5 (08:13):
Mean now, yeah, because like normally I'm grabbing the sheets
and like putting them as far over me as humanly possible,
you know what I mean. Like, I'm like, that's just
barely little heads. Yeah, but when you wear your T shirt,
you don't have to.
Speaker 3 (08:23):
Yeah. Sometimes you get it. You want an arm out.
Sometimes you just want to.
Speaker 7 (08:27):
Like yeah, so it's nice.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
I get it. Believe me, I get it. The visual,
the whole thing is a little bit. It's very effeminated.
It took me a while to come to terms with
the fact that it was, like, it's so funny.
Speaker 5 (08:43):
And I will say, it's like one of the most
what's the word, most common question I get asked about you.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
But since all this went down, I've tried to wear
like loose you know, loose boxers, and I can't do
it because of you know, freedom issies.
Speaker 4 (09:01):
Yeah. Free.
Speaker 3 (09:02):
I want to be free.
Speaker 6 (09:03):
My boys need a house. As Kramer once said.
Speaker 3 (09:06):
We want to live that. Yeah, I'm a big.
Speaker 5 (09:09):
Yeah wow unexpected.
Speaker 3 (09:12):
Well but EA said, I still I got it.
Speaker 4 (09:16):
We will. You can have your moment with Easton as well.
Speaker 3 (09:19):
But now that I know that Becca was the ring
leader here, she.
Speaker 4 (09:22):
Was She wasn't the ring leader. It was an innocent mistake.
Speaker 5 (09:25):
She just like said it and then they all jumped
on it, and then it was like too far gone
to put back in the box.
Speaker 3 (09:33):
I don't believe it.
Speaker 5 (09:34):
But you're saying it's nice. Now you're free. Yeah, nothing's
off limits anymore, is that right?
Speaker 4 (09:42):
Yeah, that's right.
Speaker 6 (09:43):
Well that's a good question. Actually, do you guys have
that conversation you sometimes you talking to Tanya and then
you have to say, by the way, this is not
for the podcast.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
I swear well yeah, no, uh, I swear on everything.
This was like the only thing I've ever told her
between us, because I get it is ridiculous. Since then,
nothing I don't say yeah yeah, yeah, yeah. Sometimes I
say like this is not for social media, or like this.
Speaker 4 (10:09):
Is just what have you ever said that?
Speaker 2 (10:11):
Very rare, no, very rarely, but but I do know, yeah,
I say, don't post that. Yeah yeah, yeah, not because
like I look ugly or anything like that. I'm like,
that's just for us, or I do from time to time.
I've done it. There was a time recently I did it.
I told you to take something down. Actually, yeah, but
that's different.
Speaker 5 (10:26):
Okay, Thanksgiving and you just didn't want the family to
like see.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
Yea, yeah, yeah that was different. But I've done a couple.
It's very rare. It's very it's very rare.
Speaker 4 (10:34):
I can't think of something I don't post or share.
Speaker 3 (10:37):
That's the thing.
Speaker 2 (10:38):
I don't care, like I'm I don't care. There's like
almost I don't get embarrassed.
Speaker 4 (10:42):
It is very fortunate.
Speaker 5 (10:43):
Like a lot of people when uh actually just at
jingle Ball, they were saying, like, it's so lucky that
you ended up with somebody like Robbie because you just
kind of in it, like you go with it, you
don't really care, You're not.
Speaker 3 (10:56):
Like I think that there's that.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
I don't like, not the fact that I don't get embarrassed,
or like I don't care, Like I don't care, like
I can be like the butt of a joke or
like whatever, Like I don't like it doesn't bother me.
I think it's funny and fun That's different though, because
like I was not so comfortable being so public, irrespective
of just like embarrassing or anything like that. I wasn't
so comfortable being public. And at the beginning of our relationship, I.
Speaker 4 (11:24):
Know, look you now I can like film you in bed, like.
Speaker 3 (11:28):
Yeah, but it's that good about it? Who Yeah, it's
good for you.
Speaker 5 (11:32):
Yeah, so this is like the part of the show
where we kind of like talk about our weekend and
catch up and so what did you do this weekend?
Speaker 7 (11:44):
Babe?
Speaker 2 (11:44):
Yeah, we sent every second together this weekend. What did
we do this weekend? So, first of all, we had
jingle Ball on Friday.
Speaker 4 (11:52):
And you're obsessed with mister Fantasy.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
I I love mister Fantasy. So I had no idea
you love miss Fantasy. Now you're a little you don't
know what to make of mister Fantasy.
Speaker 4 (12:02):
Yeah, like I'm on the fence about it.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
I love the whole thing. I had no idea who
he was when we got there, and I didn't know
who he was until after he started to like do
his whole thing with Ryan, and I was like, right there, just.
Speaker 5 (12:14):
A quick note, you are filming, you are recording yourself, right, yeah, okay, great, thanks?
Speaker 3 (12:20):
Great posture. We how's your posture?
Speaker 4 (12:23):
Bad?
Speaker 3 (12:23):
Yeah, we got to work on our posture.
Speaker 2 (12:26):
Okay, although this looks so weird, Okay, No, I love
the whole thing. First of all, I love the whole
like alter ego, concept and idea. But then this character
he created is so just incredible, from his fashion to
his like positive energy. He's so positive and funny that
(12:49):
he could like do things that nobody else would get
away with doing because he's just so like committed to
it and hilarious. So I thought it was great. I
love the whole thing. The energy it takes to do
that was mind blowing to you because he was NonStop
all night on and then we found out he was
(13:11):
at the King's game like the next night, and then
at this and that, and he's like, it's it's it's unbelievable.
Speaker 4 (13:17):
Yeah, you tried to call him out, Yes, so he people.
Speaker 6 (13:23):
If people don't know who mister Fantasy is, you should
give him a Google. But the word is that it's
the actor kJ Appa from Riverdale who's doing a new
character trying to launch a music career.
Speaker 3 (13:32):
Is he's not.
Speaker 6 (13:35):
Mister Fantasy who has the identical tattoos the kJ Appa.
But anyway, it's just kind of an interesting social media
phenomenon right now.
Speaker 3 (13:41):
Yes, and now we're chalking out on TikTok because he's unreal.
Speaker 5 (13:45):
I was like, hey, mister Fantasy, I just want can
you tell your friend that.
Speaker 4 (13:50):
He was good in the Jonas Brothers movie? And he
was like, what friend?
Speaker 7 (13:55):
What friend Joe.
Speaker 4 (13:56):
Jonas and I was like, no, kJ Appa, he did
not he.
Speaker 5 (14:01):
Did Yeah, he did not break it fully in it. Yeah,
So that was definitely a highlight of of jingle Ball
for sure because.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
Nie of us knew who he was, so like, it
was just so shocking because we're in uh, we're in
the like gifting sweet suite and there's probably like fifty
sixty people in there, but it's very like calm and
subdued and low key. It's not like everyone is just
like minding their business, you know, like doing their thing.
And then Ryan comes in. And when Ryan comes in,
it's like, you know, he does a he has a
(14:29):
he has a routine that he's got, you know that
he does and says hi to everybody. And in the
middle of like this out of nowhere, mister Fantasy just
blows the whole thing up, starts screaming from the background.
Speaker 3 (14:40):
Royan Seacrest, Royan Secret.
Speaker 2 (14:42):
And then like because it's just it's it was really cool. Yeah, yeah,
it was cool. Yeah, And it was a great introduction
to the guy.
Speaker 6 (14:48):
And how is it a jingle ball watching Tanya in
her element, like that is her wa and she's and
she's working and she is.
Speaker 3 (14:54):
That is that A I love it. I've always loved it.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
I think it's like, uh, I think it's really important
to admire your partner separate from like how much you
love her or him or care about him. I think
you have to admire them as like an individual. And
watching Tanya in her element, like I admire her talent.
Speaker 3 (15:14):
Her grace, her.
Speaker 2 (15:18):
Energy, you know, and just yeah, I just admire your
you and what you do and how you do it,
not having been like a trained broadcast or anything, and
just like having just on the sheer like strength of
your energy frankly creating this world and career for yourself
(15:42):
and then seeing it kind of wherever it is jingle
ball or wherever.
Speaker 3 (15:46):
I love that.
Speaker 6 (15:48):
And you've never got to see him in his element, right,
You've never been in court to watch him.
Speaker 3 (15:52):
I don't go to court, you don't.
Speaker 2 (15:54):
She sees elements a lot because what I do is
like conference calls or I sit in my opposite draft
documents or negotiate deals, and oftentimes she is like within
earshot of calls.
Speaker 3 (16:06):
Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, So I do see.
Speaker 5 (16:08):
Him as he's a big like pacer when he's on
pacing around the house, pacing around the room. Yeah, talks
with his hands a lot.
Speaker 3 (16:20):
Exciting. It's definitely not exact.
Speaker 5 (16:21):
Definitely actually like feel bad sometimes, Like when I hear
him on calls, like, I'm just like.
Speaker 4 (16:27):
It just sounds so painful.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
Yeah, it's really it's that, I mean, and that's why
the like so like at the end of every day
we come home and we're like, you know, how was
your day? Like this is the most important part of
our days to tell each other how each other our
days was. If I don't properly tell her how our
day was, like, that's bad. My days are so boring,
Like her days are so exciting. She's interviewing this person,
that person. You know, She's there's all kinds of exciting stuff.
(16:51):
For me, is I'm sitting in office negotiating a dealer,
drafting a long document all day.
Speaker 3 (16:57):
But maybe I get like a nice lunch.
Speaker 5 (17:02):
I always ask him at the end of the day
and he's like, yeah, my day was fine. I'm like
I need more than that, Like what did you have
for lunch?
Speaker 4 (17:07):
Who did you talk to? What deals did you close?
Speaker 2 (17:10):
Like I can't tell you most of what I do.
I mean, I can tell you things I on a
non non descript basis. But yeah, I mean, yeah, I'm
saying their eyes glaze over.
Speaker 3 (17:19):
Yeah, I just say comparatively, it's so boring.
Speaker 5 (17:22):
That's my favorite part of the day, is like when
we get home at the end of the night and
like share about our days.
Speaker 4 (17:27):
It's my favorite.
Speaker 3 (17:29):
Even though I don't give you much to I get
it out of you.
Speaker 4 (17:33):
I keep going until I get what I want.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
I do usually remember things days later. That crazy thing
that happened that day. Yeah, that is a weird thing.
Speaker 3 (17:42):
I don't know why I don't remember.
Speaker 6 (17:43):
Yeah, let's take a break, and then I have a
question for Robbie dealing with the things that she makes
you do and that you go along with but probably
don't actually want to go along with. And that's my
d's for you. And we'll do that when we get back.
Speaker 4 (18:12):
And we're back.
Speaker 7 (18:14):
Scrub a dub duba.
Speaker 6 (18:17):
That was my fault. That was my fault.
Speaker 3 (18:19):
Scrub a dub dub. All right, Robbie.
Speaker 6 (18:24):
Tanya sent us over and we talked about this with Ryan.
The December marriage challenge. Oh, yes, you didn't really want
to do this, right, Like this was when she presents
this to you. What goes through your head. She's like,
here's what we're going to do. It's a different thing
every day for all thirty one days of December. It's
a different marriage homework assignment. What goes through your head?
Speaker 3 (18:43):
I don't remember what it is? Yeah, I'm sware.
Speaker 2 (18:48):
This came up a few days ago someone hosted on
her Instagram or somewhere on social media in her universe.
Speaker 3 (18:54):
Maybe it was a iHeart Facebook group like.
Speaker 2 (18:57):
We need Robbie and Tanya to do the marriage challenge.
And I'd screenshot her and send it to her and said,
what is the marriage challenge?
Speaker 3 (19:05):
And she apparently sent this to me the day before.
I don't remember it. I don't know what it is.
What is it? Should we do it right now?
Speaker 5 (19:09):
So it was like a thing I saw on Instagram.
I said to you and I said we should do this,
and you said yeah, for sure.
Speaker 4 (19:14):
And then the problem is I never followed through.
Speaker 6 (19:17):
Well I have what is it? Every single day? Like December? First,
say one thing you admire about your spouse?
Speaker 3 (19:23):
Yeah, yeah, okay, I do remember that. Yeah yeah, okay.
Speaker 4 (19:27):
Last it didn't last, but you were into it.
Speaker 2 (19:30):
I mean, listen, would I choose to do those things myself? No,
but I'm very happy to do it if it is
meaningful to you, Like.
Speaker 6 (19:38):
Yeah, but it's not meaningful to him.
Speaker 2 (19:40):
Correct, No, but it's but it do you have that
it's me But okay, hold on hold, it's not like again,
I would never choose to do that. It's not something wet,
never a milliona years. But but that doesn't mean that
it's not meaning so like, there's so many things that
you I mean, there's small sacrifices, and there's big sacrifices
(20:02):
sacrifice for love. But it's but it's meaningful to make
to do something for your partner even if you don't
necessarily want to do it, or even more meaningful if you.
Speaker 3 (20:13):
Don't want to do it. I think, such as walking
uphill instead of walking. No.
Speaker 5 (20:18):
No, like family meetings, like I actually think like you
would never do those yourself, but I do think you
actually enjoy them.
Speaker 2 (20:24):
No, I would do family meetings. I think family meetings
are really really important and great. I love like when
we like plan and like coordinate things. I love that
part of it. But we got into like a couples therapy.
Speaker 3 (20:34):
Part of it. Far we're gonna do it. I like
the planning coordinating. No, we need it. You got to
talk to the microphones planning and the coordinating. We need it.
Speaker 4 (20:43):
Yeah, thank you.
Speaker 3 (20:45):
Yeah, no, he likes it. Oh I I called them
sometimes he does.
Speaker 7 (20:51):
Well, it's rare, I do.
Speaker 4 (20:53):
Okay. So there's a couple of things like we never
had you want after the wedding. But I don't know,
it just feels like the wedding was so far away
from now.
Speaker 6 (21:01):
Can you believe that has been.
Speaker 1 (21:04):
Long?
Speaker 4 (21:05):
Nine months? It's so crazy.
Speaker 5 (21:10):
I feel like there were some questions that I asked
on my Instagram for people, like ask people if they
wanted to ask you questions? Yeah, and do you mind
if I ask you a couple of those?
Speaker 4 (21:19):
Right now?
Speaker 3 (21:20):
You can ask me whatever you want, Okay.
Speaker 5 (21:22):
Was it hard having a Christmas tree? I'm Jewish marrying
a non Jew, and it feels wrong.
Speaker 3 (21:27):
No, Christmas trees are amazing.
Speaker 2 (21:28):
First of all, I'm very reformed Jew, so I'm not
like super ultra religious. I'm a high holiday Jew basically,
and you know, you, Christmas is like in a in
large part like almost like non nomin I don't know
what the word is, but like yeah, it's yeah, exactly,
it's you know, it's there's something just like that is
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generally applicable to the holidays.
Speaker 3 (21:53):
You grow up every.
Speaker 2 (21:54):
Year going skiing, you know, in the winter, and you
know that's full of like Christmas trees and that Christmas
energy and that Christmas vibe. All the movies you watch
like as a kid growing up or like around Christmas.
So like the feel good part of Christmas is great,
and I just think it's an awesome holiday. So was
it weird for a Christmas tree?
Speaker 3 (22:14):
No, I liked it.
Speaker 2 (22:15):
And the first time we did a Christmas tree was
was like actually just like again a really like special, meaningful,
like bonding moment for us.
Speaker 3 (22:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (22:22):
The first Christmas tree ever decorated was it was right
before COVID, so it's December between.
Speaker 3 (22:28):
Somber, Yeah, December.
Speaker 5 (22:30):
It was the first Christmas tree he'd ever decorated in
his life, which I thought was so like special, and
he did it.
Speaker 3 (22:35):
With me, and I went and I bought.
Speaker 2 (22:37):
I went to like Creighton Beryl I'll never forget, and
I bought all these ornaments to bring right but like
some of them were like whatever, some of them were
like meaningful, and then we bought like.
Speaker 5 (22:47):
Matching ones because he was like, they told me you
have to get two or three of the same ones.
Speaker 3 (22:51):
I was like, yeah, they got me, they got me.
Speaker 4 (22:55):
It was really cute though.
Speaker 3 (22:56):
That was great.
Speaker 2 (22:56):
No, I love it and and you know, we blend it.
We like do like a Christmas tree, but it's like,
you know, maybe not red and green, it's like white
and blue and then we have like you.
Speaker 3 (23:08):
Known, that's all. Yeah, it's great.
Speaker 6 (23:12):
In my neighborhood that decorates their whole house white, blue,
Manora's Star of David. Fantastic. Yeah, I want everyone to
decorate their house this month for whatever whatever theme you
want to do.
Speaker 7 (23:23):
Yeah, it's great.
Speaker 5 (23:25):
What's the best thing, Tanya that's me has done for
your boys?
Speaker 4 (23:28):
I'm a bonus mama too.
Speaker 2 (23:30):
Oh my god, you you know you've done. I'm gonna this.
I'm gonna try to get emotional, but that's going to
be impossible. But you've done so much for them. I mean,
you know, there's the kind of express things that you do.
So like the fact that you write a note every
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morning for Sebby that is like topical and has to
do with whatever's going up. That's topical and has to
do with whatever's going on in our lives. Is unbelievable
and you would do it for Oliver if you wanted it,
but Oliver is too cool for that now. But and
this is the the emotional part, more than like the
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things you do on a day to day basis, it's
the energy that you've created and the security and and
feeling of home and family that you've brought to our house,
(24:34):
including you know, spearheading the sunny getting sunny. So I
think I think you do a lot of very constantly thoughtful,
intentional things that are you know that you that is
just kind of like who you are. But what that
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has meant from an from again, from an energy perspective
in our our house and and our family, I think
is the most important.
Speaker 3 (25:06):
Is there like tissue?
Speaker 7 (25:08):
Yeah?
Speaker 6 (25:09):
Otherwise I was like, sure.
Speaker 4 (25:12):
Not gonna feel so nice.
Speaker 3 (25:14):
But it's not bad.
Speaker 5 (25:15):
Oh my gosh, that made me emotional. Okay, I'm just
a little more lighthearted. Where do you shop? Always looking
so put together?
Speaker 3 (25:26):
I don't shop. I don't know what I did.
Speaker 2 (25:27):
First of all, I'm in a style crisis right now.
Can we talk about that more than where I shop? Yeah,
I'm forty six years old and like, up until two
years ago or a year ago, I was wearing like
super super tight pants and had a certain thing, and
now like that's not cool anymore.
Speaker 3 (25:46):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (25:46):
Maybe that was not cool for a couple of years
when I was still doing it, but so now we
got to wear like baggy pants or like looser pants, and.
Speaker 3 (25:53):
I don't know, like how to make all that work.
So I don't know.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
I feel like I'm in a soul christ. I feel
like an eight year old when I wear baggy pants.
But uh no, I don't know my shop. I fall
for all the like instagram like stores and just like
whenever I have time, I like, but I hate like
actually shopping.
Speaker 3 (26:08):
But that's very nice that you think I have.
Speaker 6 (26:09):
Good Are you're transitioning to a different phase in your life?
Speaker 3 (26:12):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (26:12):
Yes, for sure?
Speaker 6 (26:13):
Yeah yeah have you noticed it? Do you feel like
he dresses too young?
Speaker 4 (26:17):
No, I don't think you're.
Speaker 5 (26:18):
Just too young, But like, I mean, his pants used
to be tighter than mine and now he wears like
baggy pants.
Speaker 3 (26:22):
It was crazy in hindsight, how tight my pants are.
Speaker 7 (26:25):
It's crazy.
Speaker 4 (26:27):
So I like the evolution good good, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (26:30):
But I gotta be able to pull it off in
an elevated fashion. So if anyone has any tips out there,
so how to do that?
Speaker 5 (26:35):
Yeah, well you refuse to put headphones on, and you
keep not speaking in a microphone.
Speaker 3 (26:41):
When they miss it's just like it's like talking.
Speaker 4 (26:43):
Like this, and it's like this and this and.
Speaker 7 (26:45):
This and this.
Speaker 3 (26:46):
I need a clip on, a clip on.
Speaker 6 (26:50):
He didn't want to wear headphones because they didn't want
to look silly on the camera. The deal. Yeah, the
hair looks nice, but you're in a radio studio that
people wear headphones here.
Speaker 2 (26:59):
I know, but I think we got to I think
that that we need to not look like we're in
a radio studio.
Speaker 3 (27:04):
That's what I think.
Speaker 5 (27:04):
Yeah, Robbie has some pointers for the Scrubbing In podcast,
which we can't also get into.
Speaker 4 (27:10):
How was Robbie's first time meeting Ryan?
Speaker 2 (27:14):
Do you remember your first This is the funniest thing
is I don't remember the which is so weird that
I don't remember the first time meeting Ryan. I feel
like I would remember that, but I've I've had the
opportunity to like spend an okay amount of time and
they're gonna hang out with him a few times. Uh,
and I you know, it's just he's he's the man.
(27:34):
I mean, Ryan's the best. We get along really well.
We're around the same age, we know a lot of
the same people.
Speaker 4 (27:43):
I feel like he likes you better than me.
Speaker 3 (27:45):
I think that.
Speaker 2 (27:46):
I think that you're you're an employee, You're an employee,
co worker.
Speaker 3 (27:52):
You're a co worker.
Speaker 2 (27:53):
But I'm saying, like, it's a it's a it's a
working relationship. You guys are friends too, no doubt about it.
But like that, I mean, that's it's different. Yeah, but yeah, no,
we get along. I think, you know, Ryan's a really
good dude. He's always been, I mean, another guy that
I like, admire so much and love like any chance
I get to like talk to him or learn from him,
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which I've had a few opportunities, thankfully.
Speaker 3 (28:17):
I love that. Yeah, No, we got a lot. Ryan's
the best.
Speaker 6 (28:19):
Do you remember the night we met?
Speaker 3 (28:22):
Yeah, I do remember the night we.
Speaker 2 (28:23):
Met outside outside of Ryan's house, That's right.
Speaker 3 (28:26):
I do remember that I was picking up Tanya.
Speaker 7 (28:29):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (28:31):
That's that's crazy. I remember that.
Speaker 6 (28:33):
I remember that very well, and I remember ever about
thirty seconds being like, oh this guy's this is a
good guy.
Speaker 3 (28:38):
I remember you were like very protective of Tanya.
Speaker 6 (28:40):
Very Yeah, it's a long time. It's a long time. Yeah,
and a lot of duds, yeah, well a lot and so,
but when I met you, it was I got non
dud energy almost instantly.
Speaker 4 (28:53):
Thank you, almost instantly.
Speaker 6 (28:56):
Oh sure, what do you mean?
Speaker 3 (28:58):
There was a period of time where he thought I
was a.
Speaker 7 (29:02):
What early days?
Speaker 6 (29:04):
No, I didn't. No.
Speaker 5 (29:06):
This is this one that kind of kept coming up
a lot too. What's the best advice for a woman
getting into a marriage with a man with kids? That's
a tough And then on the heels of that, when
did he show that he had kids while navigating dating?
Speaker 4 (29:22):
I'm a single mom.
Speaker 6 (29:23):
Why don't we take a break and you can think
about this. Yeah, we'll come back with the answer. That's
you know, people will want to hear that, So they're
gonna hear all these wonderful goods and services, and then
they kind of back and here Robbie's answer. Here we go,
(29:51):
and we're back.
Speaker 5 (29:52):
Okay, So we left you hanging on a big cliffhanger.
There were a couple questions about what's the best advice
for a woman getting in to a marriage with a
man with kids, and then kind of dovetailing into when
did he share that he had kids while navigating dating.
Speaker 4 (30:07):
I'm a single mom.
Speaker 2 (30:09):
So yeah, let's start with the second one. I deny.
I mean I it was on my hinch profile.
Speaker 5 (30:17):
Yeah, you you had photos with the kids on your
dating app.
Speaker 2 (30:21):
Yeah, I think, and I put, I think I'm a dad.
Whatever I was not for me, it was important for
people to know right away. I mean, it wasn't. There
was no like delay in telling someone I had kids.
So yeah, so that's the answer to the second one.
I think on the first one, like, what's the best advice?
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Oh man, you know, that's something that I think that
is probably deserves like a much more thoughtful, long, long answer,
and probably books can be written about it. But I
think the I think the best advice for a mom,
for a woman coming into a relationship with a guy
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with kids, is to be to be patient, to be patient,
and to trust the guidance advice of the guy. You know,
(31:28):
everybody's kids are different, boys and girls are different depending
what age they are, you know, matters. Each individual child
is so different and hopefully you know the parent, I mean,
definitely the parent is best suited to know kind of
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you know, what they're how their kid is dealing with
with everything, you know, how close you are to the
to the divorce, or maybe it's not a divorce, but
all that kind of factors in. And but I think
despite all of that, I think that it is a
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transition and something that the kids need space and time
to kind of naturally accept in a positive way for themselves.
And so yeah, so patience I think is probably the
(32:33):
best advice as maybe non helpful is that is?
Speaker 3 (32:40):
I mean, what do you think the best advice is?
Han't been on the other side.
Speaker 5 (32:42):
Of it, Yeah, I would say, like I feel like
I trusted you a lot in that process, Like I
trusted your your approach, your way of of like meeting them,
when to meet them, how to meet them. You know,
I wanted to bring them gifts when I first met them,
and you were like, no, I don't want it to
feel like you're like trying to buy them.
Speaker 4 (33:03):
So we thought of like thoughtful.
Speaker 5 (33:05):
Things that I could bring them that weren't necessarily gifts,
but like thoughtful trinkets, if you will, which I thought
was better and like a good approach. So I kind
of I would just kind of lean on you. I mean,
I think it's interesting because our situation was different because
it was.
Speaker 4 (33:24):
In the middle of a pandemic. I don't think.
Speaker 5 (33:25):
I mean, we made it like nine months until I
met the kids, and I feel like it wouldn't have
been nine months if there wasn't like a pandemic in
the middle.
Speaker 2 (33:31):
I think also the nine months was was like probably
you know that that was something.
Speaker 3 (33:38):
So you know, at the time of my separation, my
divorce kind of.
Speaker 2 (33:48):
There was a rule that we both that me and
Max talked about that we wanted to follow, which was basically,
we don't want to introduce our kids to like a
revolving door of like others, right of like of like
girls or guys or whatever. And so we you know,
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the idea was like un less and until you're like
really ready to like really be committed to someone, like
practically engagement, we shouldn't introduce the kids to anybody.
Speaker 3 (34:23):
That was probably yeah.
Speaker 5 (34:24):
But to be fair, I was your girlfriend and I'd
been your girlfriend for like eight months at the time.
Speaker 3 (34:30):
No.
Speaker 2 (34:30):
No, I think my point is to say that that
was probably wrong because I don't think you could even
get to the point of like commitment or like engagement level,
like I know I want to This is like the
you know, the woman I'm going to be with without
having integrated your kids already and seeing how that whole
scenario works. So it was it was the reason it
took so long was yes, pandemic related, but also just
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that was kind of like a mistake and you know,
we didn't know what we were doing. I didn't know
what I was doing. We're kind of learning it as
we go, all intentions, and I think that, you know,
despite maybe that being wrong or maybe not the best approach,
I think that it's still like worked to our benefit.
Speaker 3 (35:10):
I think that.
Speaker 2 (35:13):
The slow introduction and then even from there like very
kind of like intentional integration and like.
Speaker 4 (35:21):
Yeah, all I'm saying is I think nine months was
too long.
Speaker 7 (35:24):
No, no, I hear you, because.
Speaker 5 (35:24):
I think there was damage on my end where I
felt like you had two lives and I was like
I'm done with that.
Speaker 2 (35:29):
Well, that was like the biggest tension in our relationship
and like the reason we broke up and like all
this so like it was like, yeah, listen, that was
very hard. It's very hard to navigate these things. I
mean I could talk I think that this is something
that you could really like talk about for I mean
you could you know, or write about for you know,
at length.
Speaker 5 (35:50):
Because I do understand when you say be patient, because
I wanted to meet them, like, you know, two months
in Okay, Yeah, sure, maybe that's too soon, but then
I feel like to wait nine months was also problematic.
Speaker 2 (36:01):
Yeah, but patient, being patient good. I wasn't even I
didn't even mean it about that. I do think that
that's part of being patient. I met, like, even once
you meet them, be patient with them, go right, like,
be patient with them, give them the time and space
to like it's it's hard.
Speaker 3 (36:19):
Again.
Speaker 2 (36:19):
I can only talk about a divorce situation, but there's
probably numerous situations like this, either widowed or just someone
who has kids, you know, outside of marriage and like
as a single parent, father, whatever. There's probably other scenarios.
I don't know, but in our scenario, there is a
natural defense that they're gonna have against somebody coming another
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woman coming into their lives in like a parental kind
of capacity, and so you have to be patient with
that and you have to, you know, let them work
through that.
Speaker 3 (36:52):
And I think that we've done it as.
Speaker 2 (36:54):
A very commendable job, as best a job we can.
You have been incredible throughout that process. Your relationship with
my boys is unreal, Like I think the powers it
be every day for that.
Speaker 3 (37:10):
What you please show you know what I mean, that's
that's the most important thing to me in this world.
So let me know what.
Speaker 5 (37:20):
The Okay, this is a nice, easy, breezy one. What's
the best part about being married to Tanya? And what
is the most surprising part.
Speaker 3 (37:30):
I'm being married to?
Speaker 2 (37:31):
So being married to Tanya, my life is like, uh,
every every day is like an episode of I Love Lucy.
Speaker 3 (37:38):
I think Tanya is.
Speaker 2 (37:40):
Really I mean, it's absolutely Tanya is the modern day
Lucy O ball.
Speaker 3 (37:46):
Okay it is.
Speaker 2 (37:51):
It's just exciting and funny and you know, meaningful. And
I know that I have a partner who has my
back always. But yeah, I know it's a every day
as an episode of I.
Speaker 6 (38:04):
Love I've always said that because this week Tanya goes
to prenatal yoga. Yeah, Tanya tries to make home and
milk at home, like every and it's hilarious.
Speaker 2 (38:17):
This week Tanya gets blacklisted from hot at yoga.
Speaker 6 (38:20):
Oh yeah, every week a new plot.
Speaker 3 (38:26):
Yeah, and that you know, And that's what life is about.
Speaker 2 (38:28):
It's about keeping it exciting and interesting and I hit
the jackpot there.
Speaker 5 (38:33):
The thing that's so crazy is like I'm literally obsessed
with you, Like I spend every minute with you and
I still can't get enough. Like I was so excited
that you were co hosting the podcast this week because like,
obviously I'm not with you when I'm at work, and
I was like, oh, yeah, that means he's like gonna
come with me to work. Like I love doing everything
with you, I love doing nothing with you. I love
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watching TV with you like I've never I've never had
a partner that I'm just like so obsessed with, but
somebody that I admire so much, also somebody that I'm
so like sexually obsessed with, Like I just everything about you,
I'm just like obsessed with.
Speaker 2 (39:09):
Well okay, but fine the same. But what are your
like pet peeves or what are like the things that
annoy you? I already know one, but let's see if
you say it.
Speaker 5 (39:17):
It is the most obnoxious thing, and it's like the
biggest turn off. It is the biggest turnoff. I never
thought you could possibly turn me off until you started
eating sunflower seeds and it is so disgusting and he
can't put them down like, you can't have once you start,
you can't FaceTime over like trying to book a flight.
Speaker 3 (39:39):
No, I have fifty in my mouth, like spitting them.
Speaker 4 (39:41):
Into a cup, And I'm like, can you not just
do that? I'm on a phone call with you for
two minutes.
Speaker 3 (39:45):
Can you already in there so spit them out before
you call me? Don't?
Speaker 2 (39:50):
I don't know why that gives you the the other two.
I get the other two. I get the flip flopping
flip flops.
Speaker 5 (39:56):
Yeah, oh my gosh. And he walks in flip flops.
It's like, you know those people that are not self
aware that they're making that plan.
Speaker 4 (40:04):
It's so embarrassing.
Speaker 3 (40:05):
It all comes back to being free.
Speaker 4 (40:07):
Yeah, no, that don't be so free when you're wearing I.
Speaker 3 (40:10):
Don't want to live in a world where I can't
just flop away.
Speaker 6 (40:14):
No, you're out and that's walking down the street.
Speaker 5 (40:18):
Just thankfully in our relationship, you don't really wear flip flops.
Speaker 3 (40:23):
No, No, I don't shoes.
Speaker 4 (40:25):
Yeah, so this is it.
Speaker 6 (40:26):
That's great.
Speaker 5 (40:26):
Yeah, yeah, this is a rare, rare occurrence. But when
his flip flops are flippity flop.
Speaker 3 (40:31):
Will always be only on vacation.
Speaker 6 (40:32):
Yeah, it makes sense.
Speaker 4 (40:34):
Yeah. What's the third one?
Speaker 2 (40:35):
Uh? The first of all, they're called flip flops for
a reason that name like literally, that's what you're supposed
to do.
Speaker 5 (40:45):
You're conscientious and lift them up off the floor, not
flippity flop.
Speaker 3 (40:49):
Do you do you flop?
Speaker 6 (40:51):
I'm not really, I'm with you on open toad shoes.
Oh yeah, and I think I typically were slides instead
of flip flops, so they don't do a lot of
flippity flopping. But yeah, you've worn to wear flop flops,
they're gonna flip and flop.
Speaker 3 (41:02):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (41:03):
The amount of effort it takes to cold your toes
down to lift.
Speaker 6 (41:08):
The flop it's unnatural.
Speaker 3 (41:10):
The third thing the chewing gum, which also.
Speaker 5 (41:12):
Oh my gosh, it is like a giraffe chewing grass.
Speaker 3 (41:17):
You can't cage me. You gotta let me be free.
Speaker 5 (41:20):
Like I literally have to remind him if he's chewing
gum and we're like about to go hang out with friends,
I'm like, you have to spit your gum out like.
Speaker 3 (41:27):
Chewing gum because of you gave me a complex?
Speaker 5 (41:30):
Will stop eat dumping your gum around like that with
clients around.
Speaker 2 (41:35):
They I told her to like, watch like some videos
of baseball players eating baseball selflowers.
Speaker 3 (41:40):
It's like, I think it's cool.
Speaker 6 (41:42):
It's all gross. It's it's all gross.
Speaker 3 (41:45):
What's gross?
Speaker 6 (41:46):
Gross? And ball players do it and it's gross, and
I've never seen you do it, but I assume it's
similarly gross.
Speaker 3 (41:51):
You know, it's very It's like, no, it's cool.
Speaker 4 (41:54):
Any never having a family meeting. This was Sunday. We're
having a family meeting. He's spinning out these sunflower seats
and I'm like, we have one hour and we're gonna
sit here and get this on the.
Speaker 6 (42:05):
I involved spitting things out of your so you don't
have to spit them.
Speaker 3 (42:07):
You can take them one better.
Speaker 4 (42:12):
If I take them with my hand.
Speaker 6 (42:14):
You're distracting saliva covered things from your mouth. It's all bad.
Speaker 2 (42:19):
Look so eating cherries is gross? Yes, yes, what is wrong?
Speaker 3 (42:23):
I agree?
Speaker 2 (42:23):
No. The best is that we had a canasta lesson,
which we definitely have to talk about and I'm just
eating this up.
Speaker 3 (42:29):
Discussion was amazing. She's like, I have boys. I totally
get it.
Speaker 4 (42:33):
Teenage boys were disgusting.
Speaker 3 (42:35):
So this is disgusting teenage boys. I totally get.
Speaker 4 (42:39):
It that I had chills down my back.
Speaker 5 (42:42):
I was so second hand embarrassed because of you, with
his spinning out with our tutor, our Canasta tutor sitting
at the table, and he's no.
Speaker 3 (42:51):
I'm.
Speaker 4 (42:53):
On this, thank you.
Speaker 6 (42:55):
If I eat cherries, I'm alone. I'm not eating cherries
in front of other people.
Speaker 3 (42:58):
I don't want eating anything in front of other people.
Speaker 2 (43:00):
Is discussing eating anything in front of people, discussing, you're
necessarily oh my god.
Speaker 3 (43:04):
Eating You're just like shovel Everything is disgusting.
Speaker 6 (43:08):
If you really think about your mouth is not as
girls as taking things out of your mouth.
Speaker 7 (43:11):
That's what I agree.
Speaker 3 (43:12):
I agree, it's all disgusting.
Speaker 6 (43:15):
It goes in your mouth, you should never see it again.
Speaker 2 (43:17):
Yes, okay, cherries, sunflower seeds?
Speaker 6 (43:22):
What else?
Speaker 3 (43:24):
Seeds? We can have seedless but water seeds. What else
is there?
Speaker 5 (43:29):
No, but the problem with the sunflower seeds is that
it's ours like he'll just sit in bed watching TV and.
Speaker 3 (43:34):
Just spendflower seeds. No, no, no, no, no, yes, yes
no I did do that. I did do that.
Speaker 2 (43:44):
But that's because she wanted me to watch the football
game upstairs instead of watching it downstairs.
Speaker 3 (43:50):
So we have to compromise. You can't. You can't watch sacrifice.
We sacrifice for life. I had to eat some flower
seeds in bed.
Speaker 5 (44:02):
What do you want sacrifice? Believe does not know we're
gonna wrap this episode up, but I feel very vindicated.
Speaker 3 (44:13):
I can't wait for myself to arrive on Wednesday.
Speaker 4 (44:16):
Have more coming, and that's the problem. They keep coming
in there, these big, big big I wanted to throw
them away, but then I'm like, I can't.
Speaker 5 (44:26):
Anyways, Robbie will be back for Dear Bonya on Thursday,
and thank you all for joining us, Babe, thank you
for co hosting today.
Speaker 3 (44:36):
Yeah, but I still owe Easton, so we'll try to
get him.
Speaker 6 (44:39):
He's in the building.
Speaker 4 (44:39):
Yeah, we'll get it.
Speaker 7 (44:40):
We'll talk Thursday, all right, Love
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