December 22, 2025 • 30 mins
It’s almost the end of the year, which means Tanya is working on her “word” for 2026! What will it be??
We get into the unbelievable report that Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce have never fought. Does that ever happen??
Plus, will Becca have a destination wedding?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Scrubbing In with Beca Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio
and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in?
Speaker 3 (00:15):
Is that scrubbing in life with my scrubbing in wife?
Speaker 2 (00:21):
What's going on?
Speaker 1 (00:22):
Love is in the air. That's really the theme of
twenty twenty five. Actually it is the theme of twenty
twenty five because I got married this year and you
got proposed to and you proposed Yeah.
Speaker 3 (00:34):
Yeah, So twenty twenty five was the year of.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Love, l ov love, love and commitment.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
Yes, locking it down? Yeah, the old ball and chain, right, yeah.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
Yeah, the old volunteer. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
I feel like there was still stuff we didn't get
to about your proposal. But do you feel like we
covered everything?
Speaker 2 (00:57):
I feel like we did. Is there anything that I missed?
I felt like we covered everything.
Speaker 4 (01:07):
And I'm trying to think if I have any lingering questions, I.
Speaker 5 (01:10):
Will say picking on an outfit was interesting because first
of all, I sent us like, I sent a voted
to Tanya of like I think this is the outfit
I was gonna wear.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
And it wasn't the exact outfit. It was similar, but like.
Speaker 5 (01:23):
Whatever, and she goes cute, no, excellent, nothing, so like
not Tanya energy.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
It was like she does not like the outfit.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
I need to preface this because the picture that you
sent me wasn't even like a good photo.
Speaker 3 (01:36):
It was like a photo of like a TikTok.
Speaker 5 (01:39):
Yeah, because it's all I had. It was like a
screenshot from a TikTok. Okay, so you see the outfit.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Oh, it's blurry and it's like far away. It was
not a good photo. Yes, show the people the photo.
Speaker 3 (01:49):
I'm gonna ask.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
I'm gonna ask what chatchypt easton? Actually, oh thank you.
Speaker 3 (01:56):
I thought you're gonna ask.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
Uh And I would like to give you my second
uh rebuttal.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Okay, can you see that that's a very cute outfit.
Speaker 5 (02:12):
Cute?
Speaker 1 (02:12):
I said, cute, but you understand that, like yeah, okay,
it's also jingle ball day. Okay, So I see it,
and I do feel I felt bad when you were
like not the response I needed. I was like, oh
my gosh, I'm a horrible friend. She's literally proposing to somebody.
She sent me a picture of her outfit, but like
(02:34):
she's proposing today and she sends me this picture and
I just said cute like I. In hindsight, I felt
very bad and I felt like a horrible friend. But
I did, like I got the on jingle ball days,
it's just like so frantic, do you know what I mean?
And so I was like very just frantic, Like I
was like getting my hair makeup done, trying to get
out the door, running late, like all the things. And
(02:55):
I didn't give you the attention that you deserved.
Speaker 5 (02:58):
And an exclamation point would have gone far. It wasn't
like you saying cute, even if you're like, oh my gosh,
that's so cute.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
I'm sorry I'm running late for jingle ball. That would
have worked.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
Yeah, I should have given a little more content, but
it's okay. You know, I'm learning a lot about myself
and there's room to grow.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
It's okay, and there's room to be better. I ended
up change I like I had the same back.
Speaker 5 (03:23):
It was basically the same outfit. I just had the
jacket on the match's skirt. That's what I changed. Yes,
And I posted the fit before I posted anything about
the proposal, and I got a lot of validation. So
I was like, it doesn't matter. I'm saying my my
like sadness was gone. I was like, Okay, it was cute.
But my other thought was like I didn't know what
(03:45):
she was gonna wear. And I kept telling to him
because Haley's very she loves cozy, she loves casual, and
I was like, she might go to the tea ceremony
in sweats, like I don't know.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
And I was like, you like cute sweats, elevated sweats.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
No, no, maybe, I don't know, maybe a row.
Speaker 5 (04:00):
Don't know how shoot, So I was like, can you
have like tell her the tea ceremony, you know, it's
a ritual, so basically.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
Let her know it's something she should be dress. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (04:13):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:13):
So when I was.
Speaker 5 (04:14):
Picking my outfit, I was like, I have to kind
of match her vibe because I can't go to like
I can't be in like auge dress, Like yeah, that
would be unfair to like catch her off guard and
be like totally.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
Off you know.
Speaker 5 (04:29):
So that was that was fun, like choosing my outfit
that was like the cutest outfit I had for the trip.
Everything else was pretty chilling casual.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
So I was like this is.
Speaker 5 (04:39):
Because oh and then the day that they got to
the hotel the day before I proposed they had gotten
there in the morning.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
I just stayed to my room the whole day. I
did not leave my room.
Speaker 5 (04:48):
Because I was and I had her location so I
could see she wasn't at the hotel. But I was like,
what if it's.
Speaker 1 (04:53):
Wrong, or like, what if you're like enjoying a nice
cup of macha or something and they come back.
Speaker 5 (05:00):
That's what I'm saying, Yeah, because I was like, maybe
I could go down to the spa and you just
like chill use the amenities.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
But I was like, what if they come down to
the spa? How horrible would that be? No, So I
was just locked in my room all day.
Speaker 3 (05:11):
Did you watch anything good?
Speaker 5 (05:13):
No? Because I didn't have my VP, I couldn't get
my VPN thing to work.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
So I was just raw dogging twenty four hours and
tell a lot of TikTok.
Speaker 5 (05:21):
I called a lot of people that day, So I
did that, but yeah, a lot of that. I gone
to seven eleven because the Japan and the seven Eleven's
in Japan have like the best snacks.
Speaker 4 (05:32):
I've heard stories.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
You would, and so I stocked up the night before.
So I had a lot of snackies that I was
eating and stuff. But yeah, it was a full day
of solitude with my thoughts. Wow, but I do well,
I do fine with that.
Speaker 3 (05:49):
So now you're officially you're engaged. Hayley's engaged. The year
is ending and a new year is upon us, the
year of mom.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
M m, yes, it is the year of mom. I
was thinking more along lines of for you, the year
of planning.
Speaker 5 (06:12):
Oh, wedding planning. Yeah, I mean, I'm assuming this will
be the year. If the plan is to have the
wedding in twenty twenty seven, which is kind of what
we thought.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
This would be the year that we planned.
Speaker 5 (06:23):
Although you planned your quite fast and it's starting the
next year.
Speaker 1 (06:27):
When I think about it, I'm like, even though it
took us a year and a half from proposal to marriage,
we really planned. We locked in our venue in October,
so we had basically November, December, January, February. We had
four months to plan our wedding.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Yeah, but it was amazing.
Speaker 5 (06:42):
So it makes me feel less daunted by the idea
of planning for a long time.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
Yeah, you really can take your time, like you can
like to like find you know what I mean, like
find your plan, like step by step you do the planner,
and then you you can give yourself so much time
to meet with various different planners. Then you can scout locations,
like you can spend a couple of months like scouting
different venues, you know, like we did it all.
Speaker 2 (07:06):
Yeah, I know.
Speaker 5 (07:08):
I've had a lot of planners reach out, you know,
so I'm like I just need to go through and
like meet with them and see who's going to be
the best fit. But I also thinking about the location
because even that's like the biggest factor, I know, being
in Japan, because he was like, do we get married here?
And I'm like, this is so far like if we
(07:29):
did something super intimate, like I could see as doing it,
but it is such a far trek for people, and
we would need to get there like at least a
week before to feel totally rested.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
But you could do though, I know.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
That was like we know we wanted to do Europe.
Europe was like our first Like.
Speaker 5 (07:49):
Well, you can just get places and venues for so
much cheaper than you can out here in the States.
It's so expensive here, yeah, and you can get like
a castle in your for nothing.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
That was like our big thing, like we were like
literally gonna do it. We've had a wedding planner in
Italy and we were like scouting venues. We like put
like money into it, like we were gonna like do
it there, and then it came down to like being
jet lagged. So we were like we'd have to get
out there, you know however long ahead of time, and
it's harder for us because I have my full time job,
(08:22):
we have the kids fifty percent of the time, like,
and then a lot of people in our lives, like
in our immediate families all have kids in school, and
it was just like it's too it was just too much,
so we scrapped it.
Speaker 3 (08:34):
But we were like fully in Italy for like three
months like scouting yeah.
Speaker 5 (08:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
We had like a spreadsheet with like venues and costs
and like wha yeah.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
Yeah, we have to kind of narrow that down.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
So it is so special too, It's like it really
does give people like a full experience somewhere that they've
never been, Like it makes it more and then you'd
have to give like a lot of lead time.
Speaker 3 (08:57):
That was the other thing.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
We were like, we need to give people at least
six months notice, like at least maybe even a.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
Year for it for Europe. Yeah, yeah, I know, and
what you did was great.
Speaker 5 (09:07):
Because everyone got to have a weekend and experience, but
it wasn't like so far.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
Yeah, it wasn't so far.
Speaker 3 (09:13):
So that's how we landed on Mexico.
Speaker 1 (09:14):
I know.
Speaker 5 (09:15):
So we just have to kind of narrow that down
and then figure out where to go from there. But
I think our location is going to be like the
biggest thing, and then from there I'm not looking forward
to like the little details because in my mind, I'm
like I don't pay attention to that stuff at weddings
and it's like you have to pick the cutlery and
all these things that like I don't like doing that stuff.
Speaker 3 (09:37):
So we did it all literally in like a day.
Speaker 2 (09:40):
I know, you just have to like sit down and
do it.
Speaker 3 (09:43):
We flew out to our venue.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
Our wedding planner had the whole Like we showed up
and there was like a table, dude, three different tables
and each of them had different place settings and we
kind of walked through like different chairs and everything, and
then we just kind of like made every combo of
like rehearsal dinner, wedding, and like that was it.
Speaker 3 (10:02):
It was like two hours.
Speaker 5 (10:03):
Yeah, we're just gonna have to Those are gonna be
the parts where we're just like we both are gonna
be dragging our feet.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
Yeah, I'm saying like, you don't have to make it
like a whole annoying thing.
Speaker 3 (10:12):
Like we didn't want it to be a whole annoying thing.
Speaker 1 (10:14):
So we were like, have it all set up, we'll
come in, we'll pick our favorites, and we'll be out.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (10:20):
And the other thing is trying to figure out because
I would love a situation where we both walk towards
each other where we meet for the like altar or whatever.
And so finding a venue like I found. I saw
this venue that had it was basically like all this
seats were set up and there's kind of a stage.
It's in the trees, and there's two staircases that come
(10:44):
down on either side. So it was like we could
both walk down and meet. That would be like the
ideal because you're still in front of everybody, you know,
you're you're having a hard time picturing it. Yeah, So
like you're you're sitting and then you're looking at a
stage and then on either no it's outside, but there's
like these two staircases that go up.
Speaker 3 (11:06):
Where are you gonna find that?
Speaker 2 (11:07):
No, I found it.
Speaker 5 (11:08):
It's in I think it's in northern California. Yeah, it's beautiful.
But like that kind of thinking about those things too,
you know, is something that that we.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
I feel like you could create that yourself anywhere though. No,
like you could kind of have everybody sitting in like
semi circle, in like a semicircle on two sides, so
that everybody's kind of like.
Speaker 2 (11:29):
Kind of like Dean and Kaylen we were facing the aisle.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
Yeah, like Dean and Kaylen, but we're in the middle middle.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (11:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (11:36):
So yeah, and we can make that anywhere if we
have enough space, right, and if it's not already set
up as like a stage or whatever. But that's kind
of the concept of thinking about venues and location and
then it'll be like dressed stuff, which that will be fun.
Speaker 3 (11:53):
I think that needs to be done ahead of time.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
Yeah, but you did yours so fast.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
I got mine in September and that was like the cutoff,
Like they were like, if you do it any like later.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
You did it before you even found the venue.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
Yes, oh, in September, I see, I got my dress.
Speaker 2 (12:12):
Okay, that's like.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
The only thing because well and I didn't really have
many I didn't have any alterations. I only did the bottom,
you know, like I made it shorter. I think if
you have to like a lot of alterations, I think
you have to have like a lot of time.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
Yeah, yours fit like a glove.
Speaker 3 (12:26):
So yeah, she was made for me.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
She was she was made for you.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
It was so funny. I was talking to where was I? Oh,
I was at my plate studio and I was talking to.
Speaker 3 (12:38):
This girl about I was like, yeah, I hadn't been
back to this plotty studo since June. And I was like,
you know, I.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
Put so much work in before my wedding and then
like I went on my honeymoon and had this like
summer of my life and I just kind of like
have just fallen off the wagon. And she was like, ah,
you know, it's fine. She's like at least you'll get
on your wedding. I was like, I look great, And
she was your wedding dress like super tight and like
tight like all over, and I was like, actually no, I'm.
Speaker 3 (13:04):
Like why did I care so much?
Speaker 1 (13:05):
Like my wedding dress poofed out at the bottom, like
you only sell my arms.
Speaker 3 (13:11):
You know, yeah, I know, I know. It's like a
mental thing.
Speaker 2 (13:14):
Yeah, it is what you needed to do, Yeah, for yourself.
Speaker 3 (13:17):
So maybe we start with wedding dress shopping.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
Yeah, we should probably start there.
Speaker 3 (13:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (13:24):
Yeah, those are like the two need to lock those
in first, and you could.
Speaker 3 (13:28):
Look for dresses forever. It's not like you have to
you know, forever.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
But what I'm saying is like, you don't have to
just go out one day and find your dress.
Speaker 5 (13:36):
No, that's not how I in an ideal world.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
Yes, but I know some people who have done like
a hundred, They've gone to like a hundred.
Speaker 2 (13:45):
I'm not doing this, so I know.
Speaker 3 (13:46):
I literally was like after.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
My third store, I was like, if I don't find
it now, like it's going to be one of these
from one saying is like.
Speaker 5 (13:54):
After the third store, at that point it's my own.
It's something about me that I.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
Need to figure out right about me that I don't.
Speaker 5 (14:01):
Like, Yeah, because that's a lot and I only have
so much like stamina for shopping and trying things on.
Speaker 3 (14:08):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
So I want to talk.
Speaker 5 (14:11):
About your word for next year, Yes, And I want
to talk about the fact that Travis and Taylor have
not fought in two and a half hours.
Speaker 2 (14:20):
I mean two and a half years as a couple.
Speaker 3 (14:22):
I hope they don't fight every two and a half hours.
Speaker 2 (14:25):
But we're going to talk about that when we come back.
Speaker 3 (14:49):
We're back, jinks.
Speaker 5 (14:53):
I was watching you to see when you were gonna
notice that we were back. So you you know, your
word of the year is become a legendary thing, very creative,
very uh manifestational, and this year, did you want to
announce it?
Speaker 3 (15:11):
Well?
Speaker 1 (15:11):
So, And this was really plaguing me for a long
time because I felt like my word last year was.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
So good, Like I was like, wow, I like nailed it.
Speaker 2 (15:21):
Last year.
Speaker 3 (15:21):
It was wife.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
Wife was the word, but it stood for woman in
full efflorescence.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
Yeah, I mean effluorescence itself is gorgeous?
Speaker 3 (15:30):
Yeah, how do you top that?
Speaker 1 (15:33):
And like I did feel in a sense a little
bit like Taylor Swift, you know, like when you come
out with like a masterpiece, Like how do you top that?
I felt that same pressure that she feels.
Speaker 2 (15:42):
It was the exact same pressure.
Speaker 3 (15:44):
Yeah, and like I couldn't. I was like racking my brain.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
I was like thinking of words and I was gonna
use like multiply because I want to like obviously I
want to like pro you know, pro create.
Speaker 3 (15:54):
I want to like multiply like.
Speaker 1 (15:56):
My time, my money, like all those you know, like
and I was like multiply, like I can't be go
from wife to multiply, you know. And yeah, I was
giving ed scheering and then and we love who we love,
but like I don't need to copy him, you know. Yeah,
and uh so, so it's kind of like going around
with like a bunch of words. And then I was like,
(16:18):
I gotta do mom. I gotta make mom M O
M and figure out some way to like make that work.
So it's officially Mom, and it's manifest optimize and multiply.
Speaker 3 (16:28):
So I got a multiply in there.
Speaker 1 (16:31):
But I posted it on Instagram the other day, like
asking people for like suggestions, and somebody wrote me one
that I actually think I like better.
Speaker 2 (16:38):
Oh I know, breaking news. She might switch a word.
Speaker 3 (16:41):
I might switch it, but uh wait, what was it?
It was? It was the same.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
It was using mom, and uh they just like nailed it.
It was like, hold on, let me find it.
Speaker 4 (16:52):
Is manifest to optimize and multiply. It's kind of like
giving LinkedIn or something.
Speaker 2 (16:57):
It's giving. It's giving stock market.
Speaker 3 (17:03):
It is, I mean, in a different.
Speaker 5 (17:06):
Context, optimize and multiply give like uh.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
Yeah, optimize multi.
Speaker 3 (17:19):
Ew why that for me?
Speaker 2 (17:23):
It's just very It's it's like you don't have efflorescent
in there, so it feels a little like.
Speaker 1 (17:30):
Okay, somebody wrote mother modern optimistic Tanya helping everyone radiate.
Speaker 3 (17:37):
I know, I love that, but it didn't really give me.
Speaker 5 (17:39):
What what's happening with your hair on this siho?
Speaker 3 (17:46):
Sorry, it's the end of the.
Speaker 1 (17:51):
Okay, so magnificent optimistic mentor mom, metamorphosis opens magic?
Speaker 5 (18:01):
Wait what about metamorphosis? Optimize and multiply?
Speaker 3 (18:05):
What does metamorphosis mean?
Speaker 2 (18:06):
Like a change like your growth?
Speaker 3 (18:09):
So instead of manifest you think metamorphosis.
Speaker 5 (18:14):
Or you could do multiply optimize metamorphosis.
Speaker 3 (18:18):
I like that. I'm gonna go with that.
Speaker 5 (18:21):
It gives you a little bit of whimsy, you know. Yeah,
and this is giving corporate although we like all those words.
Speaker 3 (18:30):
Yeah, I like it. Multiply optimize metamorphosis.
Speaker 5 (18:35):
Yeah yeah, mom, Mom, I have not thought of a
word because I have about one brain cell. As you
tap into that soon and I'll announce it on Instagram.
Speaker 3 (18:49):
You can even imagine.
Speaker 1 (18:51):
Because I really feel like for some reason this year,
I at this point of the year like I'm so
burnt out, Like I feel just fried on every level.
Speaker 2 (19:02):
Yeah. Well you I feel like this year was weirdly
so busy for you personally and professionally.
Speaker 3 (19:09):
Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 5 (19:11):
I don't feel like I had a crazy like I
had a great, chill year.
Speaker 2 (19:14):
Like I felt very I got to lay a lot.
Speaker 3 (19:17):
Yeah, like I didn't lay until the last month.
Speaker 2 (19:21):
Of that conversation. Well, I loved your post and we
love to lay. Easton Crystal's edit what of the video.
Speaker 5 (19:28):
Yeah, but I was gonna say when we were in
Japan and Haley got sick, she was like, I'm so sorry,
I'm sick and we can't like go out and shop,
and I was like, I haven't gotten.
Speaker 2 (19:38):
To lay this whole trip, Like this is my dream dream.
I am laying and living large. Yeah. But yeah, you
had a very busy year, very productive.
Speaker 3 (19:50):
Yeah, it did, and it felt for us.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
It felt like I feel like from the start of
the year until my wedding, it was so all consuming
about like wedding and then I don't know why, but
because we waited for our honeymoon and then we had
like a lot of trips and I had like a
huge work trip plan, so I was like, this is
going to be the summer of fun, Like I'm just
gonna like live it up, and like then you're basically
into September and then like life just like the work
(20:13):
and life just pile on.
Speaker 2 (20:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (20:15):
Yeah, the September through December speed is like we studied
what happened.
Speaker 3 (20:22):
Yeah, And I.
Speaker 5 (20:23):
Thought it was more so when you have kids and
it's the rush of like holloways.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
Back to school.
Speaker 1 (20:28):
But it's something because I feel like there's all these
like events that it planned in September and then with
the holidays, with Halloween, I mean your birthdays in there,
so like that it's a whole other thing, and then
things it's like the big holidays all stack up so much.
Speaker 4 (20:42):
Yeah, it truly does feel like Halloween was last weekend.
Speaker 3 (20:45):
Yeah, I know, it is crazy.
Speaker 5 (20:49):
Another story that came out was that Travis and Taylor.
Travis said that in the two and a half years
that they've been together, they haven't they have never once
had an argument.
Speaker 2 (21:00):
Is that crazy?
Speaker 3 (21:01):
I thought about this.
Speaker 1 (21:02):
I think they've had an argument, like they don't agree
on everything, but they've never had like a big fight.
Speaker 2 (21:08):
I don't see you and Alison having big fights. Do
you all have big fights?
Speaker 4 (21:12):
We we bicker from time to time, like you know,
but we we don't have big fights that often. We've
had them, Yeah, see they've had them.
Speaker 3 (21:21):
That's normal.
Speaker 2 (21:22):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 4 (21:24):
I'm wondering what his definition of like I'm with you,
like I think.
Speaker 1 (21:31):
I think he thinks like fighting is like yelling and
like slamming doors, like we've never done that.
Speaker 3 (21:35):
I've throw my phone once though.
Speaker 6 (21:39):
Rob, Yeah, just shattered it for no reason and I
didn't even mid Like when I say I like throw it,
I literally like when I opped it and like walked
out the door and then came right back.
Speaker 5 (21:51):
I'm just curious if Taylor sitting there, like what is
he talking about?
Speaker 2 (21:56):
This is not accurate. He totally missed. He didn't not
know that we were arguing when we were arguing.
Speaker 1 (22:02):
Maybe that's what he thinks, Like he thinks it's like
a big blow up fight, which has to be the
case because there's no way after two and a half
years it didn't have somewhat of a squabble.
Speaker 2 (22:10):
But I feel like it's fight.
Speaker 5 (22:12):
There's a fight, and then there's an argument and he
specifically said argument.
Speaker 2 (22:16):
So you think he just lumps them in together. Must
Kylie Kelsey was like, you notice Jason did not chime
in on that, because.
Speaker 5 (22:25):
We certainly do not have the same story. Yeah. I
think it's so funny because I wouldn't say I would
say at the beginning our relationship, Haley and I would
argue a lot basically because our communication styles were just
so different. But I feel like this year specifically, we've
really been like on the same page.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
And like, I also think.
Speaker 5 (22:46):
Learning each other and knowing like what the triggers are
that make a simple a little argument turn into a
fight are so important because most things can be de escalated, yeah,
when you know the person and how to like handle
the situation. Yeah, But if you don't know and you're
just like triggering it and they just you're going in circles,
(23:07):
that's how it escalates.
Speaker 3 (23:08):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (23:09):
And I think also too, like you're right, I think
you figure out figure it out in the beginning stages,
because I remember Robbie like needs time, like he just
wants to like have a little space and like think
about his thoughts. Whereas when I when he said that,
like my brain went to, like we're breaking up and
then I would just like freak out. I wouldn't let
him go to sleep until we like hash it out,
and like that's not super productive either, you know. So
(23:30):
it's like we've both learned how to kind of like
meet in the middle with that.
Speaker 2 (23:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (23:34):
So it's like I won't say we argue better.
Speaker 2 (23:37):
Yeah, but it's true, like, yeah, I also need space.
Speaker 3 (23:40):
So it's like I hate that.
Speaker 2 (23:42):
I know Ha hates it too, but I'm.
Speaker 5 (23:45):
Like, I will be able to to peacefully come come
back better than if we try to do this right now.
Speaker 3 (23:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:53):
But a lot of people were like this is not believable.
Speaker 5 (23:56):
But I have friends I feel like who don't who
would say like they haven't had a big ballll fight,
But I don't know if anyone's not had arguments in.
Speaker 2 (24:03):
Two and a half years.
Speaker 1 (24:04):
Yeah, so you know what I liked though, What I
like that George Clooney is like not taking on rolls exactly.
Speaker 3 (24:11):
Yeah, that like are kissing people anymore?
Speaker 2 (24:14):
Yeah, he's all done.
Speaker 5 (24:15):
I like that.
Speaker 3 (24:16):
I don't know why.
Speaker 5 (24:17):
I was like, oh, but also I'm like, okay, so
now you're at an age where like it's not necessarily
like you're in demand to be like, you know what
I'm saying, like George, but I'm saying like I wonder,
I wonder if his wife is like, where was this
energy ten years ago?
Speaker 3 (24:36):
Right right like right after we got married?
Speaker 5 (24:39):
Man? But yeah, I think it's I think it's sweet
because it's like, does he need to be doing that anymore?
Speaker 1 (24:47):
You know, dang, Becca, you really know how to take
the wind out of my sails.
Speaker 5 (24:50):
I was like, so ecited George Clooney in his prime
time being married, would go, I don't need to be
doing this anymore.
Speaker 2 (25:00):
But I pose a point, don't die?
Speaker 3 (25:03):
What has he done lately?
Speaker 4 (25:04):
Has he done a Wally has a new movie called
Jake Kelly. It's on Netflix. It's about an actor, a
famous actor. I'm Sandler's in it too. It sounds very good.
Speaker 5 (25:14):
I personally am a fan of George Clooney, so I'm
excited to see his new movie. But I always Haley,
you know, is in this industry where we've had these
conversations about what that looks like in my comfort with it,
and really my comfort is I'm not comfortable with any either.
Speaker 3 (25:33):
There'd be absolutely no way.
Speaker 5 (25:35):
But we have conversations where you know, it's like knowing
how to be respectful about it and making sure that
I feel safe and what she has to do with
when it comes to work stuff.
Speaker 2 (25:45):
But yeah, it's not like easy.
Speaker 5 (25:47):
I think it's I think unless you're both in the
industry and you're both going to work and making out
with people for your job, I think that's the only
way you're able.
Speaker 2 (25:58):
To just be okay with it.
Speaker 3 (25:59):
Yeah, Because if.
Speaker 5 (26:00):
You're not in the industry and you're like, I don't
understand there, don't don't go to work.
Speaker 1 (26:05):
I know myself, there's absolutely no way I could handle it.
Speaker 5 (26:09):
No. And the funny thing is if that was Robbie's job,
he would be able to go and do it and
like not think anything of it.
Speaker 1 (26:14):
Literally he would be like so unattached, like I would
have nothing to worry about.
Speaker 3 (26:19):
But I would hate it. I would absolutely hate it.
Speaker 2 (26:23):
It's not for the it's not for the week.
Speaker 3 (26:25):
No, no, no, But I'm strong, but I would crumble.
I would should be shivering.
Speaker 5 (26:48):
Someone asked a fun question about what song that reminds
you of each other, and I thought that would be
a fun one to answer.
Speaker 2 (26:55):
Do you have a song that reminds you of me? Yeah?
Oh what are me?
Speaker 3 (26:59):
Yes, how'd you know?
Speaker 2 (27:02):
Just had a feeling army by Ellie Goulding.
Speaker 1 (27:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (27:06):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (27:08):
Do you have a song that reminds you about me?
Speaker 5 (27:09):
I mean I think I have a bunch of songs
that I would think of, but I feel like I.
Speaker 2 (27:13):
Think auld be Joweled when I think of you.
Speaker 3 (27:15):
Ah yes, yeah, yeah and.
Speaker 5 (27:17):
Weirdly Easton, which it's the only reason this song is
not like my least favorite song of all time because
I have the association with you.
Speaker 2 (27:26):
I think of me by Taylors Me.
Speaker 3 (27:29):
Yeah, because he hates so much.
Speaker 5 (27:31):
Because we like did this We all danced to it
one time and the Easton went like one hundred and
fifty percent with his dancing and singing.
Speaker 2 (27:41):
And I think of it now wow. Or a Hillary
Duff song that makes you feel good.
Speaker 3 (27:47):
Yeah, He's like, I'm slightly fender, but I say I'm.
Speaker 2 (27:50):
Saying like it's it's it.
Speaker 5 (27:52):
It brings me to a higher level because I associated
with you.
Speaker 3 (27:56):
Yeah that makes me happy.
Speaker 4 (27:57):
Yeah, Yeah, there's some. I mean, I don't want to
lump on Bejeweled, but like such the tiniest song, It's fine.
Speaker 1 (28:05):
I sing it every day I enter the studio. Yes,
so it's kind of like my theme song.
Speaker 2 (28:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (28:12):
I have a very fun memory from when I first
started working with mister Seacrest and we were at the
East Studio and you're probably there telling you but Wildest
Dreams my Taylor Swift is playing and Mark was like
singing along so loudly to the bridge like the.
Speaker 2 (28:26):
Hen it damn.
Speaker 4 (28:29):
Every time I hear Wildest Dreams, I think of him
and I think of that. I think you were there
that David like he was like so into it. And
that's a very fun memory. So even though Mark's not
here today, I'm gonna say Wildest Streams makes me think.
Speaker 3 (28:41):
Of him weirdly. Jeanie in a Bottle makes me think
of Mark.
Speaker 2 (28:49):
These are not the songs I would expect.
Speaker 1 (28:52):
It's because whatever we're waiting for, Like if we're waiting
for Ryan, like, well, we'll ask like our board op
John to like play certain songs. And for some reason,
I feel like he always plays Genie a Bottle, which
is requested by Mark.
Speaker 3 (29:05):
I'm assuming because I don't know what else is requesting it.
Speaker 4 (29:11):
Yeah, it's a great song.
Speaker 3 (29:12):
It's a great song. It's a great song.
Speaker 5 (29:15):
I feel like I think of weirdly because he always
brings it up.
Speaker 2 (29:19):
Is all too well, all too well tenute version.
Speaker 1 (29:22):
Yeah yeah yeah, or the Ryne runs out. He was
so passionate about.
Speaker 2 (29:26):
Not being awesome. I was with him. It was my
brunner up. I'm and s so with Lord Rob.
Speaker 3 (29:40):
R O, B B E. D.
Speaker 2 (29:43):
Yes. Thank you for spelling that out.
Speaker 5 (29:46):
I don't. That's the end of the episode, But don't worry.
We'll be back with more, because that's what we do
and who we are.
Speaker 3 (29:53):
When are we coming back, Becca, We'll be.
Speaker 5 (29:55):
Back Wednesday on Christmas Eve. And if you're listening to
us on Christmas Eve or Chris Miss Day, We're so
happy that you are here and that we are your
chosen company for the jos And Family, chosen family, because
nothing is more of an honor than being with you
on the days like this, of your of your.
Speaker 2 (30:16):
We love you.
Speaker 5 (30:17):
So much, whether you are with friends, family, at home
by yourself this week, know that you are so loved
by the scrubbing In family and we're so grateful for
you and thank you for an amazing twenty twenty five years.
Speaker 1 (30:32):
Not over, baby girl, we got two more pods, baby girl,
jee Let's go.
Speaker 2 (30:38):
We love y'all so much. We'll be back Wednesday. You
bye bye.
Scrubbing In with Beca Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio
and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in?
Speaker 3 (00:15):
Is that scrubbing in life with my scrubbing in wife?
Speaker 2 (00:21):
What's going on?
Speaker 1 (00:22):
Love is in the air. That's really the theme of
twenty twenty five. Actually it is the theme of twenty
twenty five because I got married this year and you
got proposed to and you proposed Yeah.
Speaker 3 (00:34):
Yeah, So twenty twenty five was the year of.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Love, l ov love, love and commitment.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
Yes, locking it down? Yeah, the old ball and chain, right, yeah.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
Yeah, the old volunteer. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
I feel like there was still stuff we didn't get
to about your proposal. But do you feel like we
covered everything?
Speaker 2 (00:57):
I feel like we did. Is there anything that I missed?
I felt like we covered everything.
Speaker 4 (01:07):
And I'm trying to think if I have any lingering questions, I.
Speaker 5 (01:10):
Will say picking on an outfit was interesting because first
of all, I sent us like, I sent a voted
to Tanya of like I think this is the outfit
I was gonna wear.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
And it wasn't the exact outfit. It was similar, but like.
Speaker 5 (01:23):
Whatever, and she goes cute, no, excellent, nothing, so like
not Tanya energy.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
It was like she does not like the outfit.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
I need to preface this because the picture that you
sent me wasn't even like a good photo.
Speaker 3 (01:36):
It was like a photo of like a TikTok.
Speaker 5 (01:39):
Yeah, because it's all I had. It was like a
screenshot from a TikTok. Okay, so you see the outfit.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Oh, it's blurry and it's like far away. It was
not a good photo. Yes, show the people the photo.
Speaker 3 (01:49):
I'm gonna ask.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
I'm gonna ask what chatchypt easton? Actually, oh thank you.
Speaker 3 (01:56):
I thought you're gonna ask.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
Uh And I would like to give you my second
uh rebuttal.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Okay, can you see that that's a very cute outfit.
Speaker 5 (02:12):
Cute?
Speaker 1 (02:12):
I said, cute, but you understand that, like yeah, okay,
it's also jingle ball day. Okay, So I see it,
and I do feel I felt bad when you were
like not the response I needed. I was like, oh
my gosh, I'm a horrible friend. She's literally proposing to somebody.
She sent me a picture of her outfit, but like
(02:34):
she's proposing today and she sends me this picture and
I just said cute like I. In hindsight, I felt
very bad and I felt like a horrible friend. But
I did, like I got the on jingle ball days,
it's just like so frantic, do you know what I mean?
And so I was like very just frantic, Like I
was like getting my hair makeup done, trying to get
out the door, running late, like all the things. And
(02:55):
I didn't give you the attention that you deserved.
Speaker 5 (02:58):
And an exclamation point would have gone far. It wasn't
like you saying cute, even if you're like, oh my gosh,
that's so cute.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
I'm sorry I'm running late for jingle ball. That would
have worked.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
Yeah, I should have given a little more content, but
it's okay. You know, I'm learning a lot about myself
and there's room to grow.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
It's okay, and there's room to be better. I ended
up change I like I had the same back.
Speaker 5 (03:23):
It was basically the same outfit. I just had the
jacket on the match's skirt. That's what I changed. Yes,
And I posted the fit before I posted anything about
the proposal, and I got a lot of validation. So
I was like, it doesn't matter. I'm saying my my
like sadness was gone. I was like, Okay, it was cute.
But my other thought was like I didn't know what
(03:45):
she was gonna wear. And I kept telling to him
because Haley's very she loves cozy, she loves casual, and
I was like, she might go to the tea ceremony
in sweats, like I don't know.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
And I was like, you like cute sweats, elevated sweats.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
No, no, maybe, I don't know, maybe a row.
Speaker 5 (04:00):
Don't know how shoot, So I was like, can you
have like tell her the tea ceremony, you know, it's
a ritual, so basically.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
Let her know it's something she should be dress. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (04:13):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:13):
So when I was.
Speaker 5 (04:14):
Picking my outfit, I was like, I have to kind
of match her vibe because I can't go to like
I can't be in like auge dress, Like yeah, that
would be unfair to like catch her off guard and
be like totally.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
Off you know.
Speaker 5 (04:29):
So that was that was fun, like choosing my outfit
that was like the cutest outfit I had for the trip.
Everything else was pretty chilling casual.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
So I was like this is.
Speaker 5 (04:39):
Because oh and then the day that they got to
the hotel the day before I proposed they had gotten
there in the morning.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
I just stayed to my room the whole day. I
did not leave my room.
Speaker 5 (04:48):
Because I was and I had her location so I
could see she wasn't at the hotel. But I was like,
what if it's.
Speaker 1 (04:53):
Wrong, or like, what if you're like enjoying a nice
cup of macha or something and they come back.
Speaker 5 (05:00):
That's what I'm saying, Yeah, because I was like, maybe
I could go down to the spa and you just
like chill use the amenities.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
But I was like, what if they come down to
the spa? How horrible would that be? No, So I
was just locked in my room all day.
Speaker 3 (05:11):
Did you watch anything good?
Speaker 5 (05:13):
No? Because I didn't have my VP, I couldn't get
my VPN thing to work.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
So I was just raw dogging twenty four hours and
tell a lot of TikTok.
Speaker 5 (05:21):
I called a lot of people that day, So I
did that, but yeah, a lot of that. I gone
to seven eleven because the Japan and the seven Eleven's
in Japan have like the best snacks.
Speaker 4 (05:32):
I've heard stories.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
You would, and so I stocked up the night before.
So I had a lot of snackies that I was
eating and stuff. But yeah, it was a full day
of solitude with my thoughts. Wow, but I do well,
I do fine with that.
Speaker 3 (05:49):
So now you're officially you're engaged. Hayley's engaged. The year
is ending and a new year is upon us, the
year of mom.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
M m, yes, it is the year of mom. I
was thinking more along lines of for you, the year
of planning.
Speaker 5 (06:12):
Oh, wedding planning. Yeah, I mean, I'm assuming this will
be the year. If the plan is to have the
wedding in twenty twenty seven, which is kind of what
we thought.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
This would be the year that we planned.
Speaker 5 (06:23):
Although you planned your quite fast and it's starting the
next year.
Speaker 1 (06:27):
When I think about it, I'm like, even though it
took us a year and a half from proposal to marriage,
we really planned. We locked in our venue in October,
so we had basically November, December, January, February. We had
four months to plan our wedding.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Yeah, but it was amazing.
Speaker 5 (06:42):
So it makes me feel less daunted by the idea
of planning for a long time.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
Yeah, you really can take your time, like you can
like to like find you know what I mean, like
find your plan, like step by step you do the planner,
and then you you can give yourself so much time
to meet with various different planners. Then you can scout locations,
like you can spend a couple of months like scouting
different venues, you know, like we did it all.
Speaker 2 (07:06):
Yeah, I know.
Speaker 5 (07:08):
I've had a lot of planners reach out, you know,
so I'm like I just need to go through and
like meet with them and see who's going to be
the best fit. But I also thinking about the location
because even that's like the biggest factor, I know, being
in Japan, because he was like, do we get married here?
And I'm like, this is so far like if we
(07:29):
did something super intimate, like I could see as doing it,
but it is such a far trek for people, and
we would need to get there like at least a
week before to feel totally rested.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
But you could do though, I know.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
That was like we know we wanted to do Europe.
Europe was like our first Like.
Speaker 5 (07:49):
Well, you can just get places and venues for so
much cheaper than you can out here in the States.
It's so expensive here, yeah, and you can get like
a castle in your for nothing.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
That was like our big thing, like we were like
literally gonna do it. We've had a wedding planner in
Italy and we were like scouting venues. We like put
like money into it, like we were gonna like do
it there, and then it came down to like being
jet lagged. So we were like we'd have to get
out there, you know however long ahead of time, and
it's harder for us because I have my full time job,
(08:22):
we have the kids fifty percent of the time, like,
and then a lot of people in our lives, like
in our immediate families all have kids in school, and
it was just like it's too it was just too much,
so we scrapped it.
Speaker 3 (08:34):
But we were like fully in Italy for like three
months like scouting yeah.
Speaker 5 (08:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
We had like a spreadsheet with like venues and costs
and like wha yeah.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
Yeah, we have to kind of narrow that down.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
So it is so special too, It's like it really
does give people like a full experience somewhere that they've
never been, Like it makes it more and then you'd
have to give like a lot of lead time.
Speaker 3 (08:57):
That was the other thing.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
We were like, we need to give people at least
six months notice, like at least maybe even a.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
Year for it for Europe. Yeah, yeah, I know, and
what you did was great.
Speaker 5 (09:07):
Because everyone got to have a weekend and experience, but
it wasn't like so far.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
Yeah, it wasn't so far.
Speaker 3 (09:13):
So that's how we landed on Mexico.
Speaker 1 (09:14):
I know.
Speaker 5 (09:15):
So we just have to kind of narrow that down
and then figure out where to go from there. But
I think our location is going to be like the
biggest thing, and then from there I'm not looking forward
to like the little details because in my mind, I'm
like I don't pay attention to that stuff at weddings
and it's like you have to pick the cutlery and
all these things that like I don't like doing that stuff.
Speaker 3 (09:37):
So we did it all literally in like a day.
Speaker 2 (09:40):
I know, you just have to like sit down and
do it.
Speaker 3 (09:43):
We flew out to our venue.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
Our wedding planner had the whole Like we showed up
and there was like a table, dude, three different tables
and each of them had different place settings and we
kind of walked through like different chairs and everything, and
then we just kind of like made every combo of
like rehearsal dinner, wedding, and like that was it.
Speaker 3 (10:02):
It was like two hours.
Speaker 5 (10:03):
Yeah, we're just gonna have to Those are gonna be
the parts where we're just like we both are gonna
be dragging our feet.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
Yeah, I'm saying like, you don't have to make it
like a whole annoying thing.
Speaker 3 (10:12):
Like we didn't want it to be a whole annoying thing.
Speaker 1 (10:14):
So we were like, have it all set up, we'll
come in, we'll pick our favorites, and we'll be out.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (10:20):
And the other thing is trying to figure out because
I would love a situation where we both walk towards
each other where we meet for the like altar or whatever.
And so finding a venue like I found. I saw
this venue that had it was basically like all this
seats were set up and there's kind of a stage.
It's in the trees, and there's two staircases that come
(10:44):
down on either side. So it was like we could
both walk down and meet. That would be like the
ideal because you're still in front of everybody, you know,
you're you're having a hard time picturing it. Yeah, So
like you're you're sitting and then you're looking at a
stage and then on either no it's outside, but there's
like these two staircases that go up.
Speaker 3 (11:06):
Where are you gonna find that?
Speaker 2 (11:07):
No, I found it.
Speaker 5 (11:08):
It's in I think it's in northern California. Yeah, it's beautiful.
But like that kind of thinking about those things too,
you know, is something that that we.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
I feel like you could create that yourself anywhere though. No,
like you could kind of have everybody sitting in like
semi circle, in like a semicircle on two sides, so
that everybody's kind of like.
Speaker 2 (11:29):
Kind of like Dean and Kaylen we were facing the aisle.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
Yeah, like Dean and Kaylen, but we're in the middle middle.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (11:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (11:36):
So yeah, and we can make that anywhere if we
have enough space, right, and if it's not already set
up as like a stage or whatever. But that's kind
of the concept of thinking about venues and location and
then it'll be like dressed stuff, which that will be fun.
Speaker 3 (11:53):
I think that needs to be done ahead of time.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
Yeah, but you did yours so fast.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
I got mine in September and that was like the cutoff,
Like they were like, if you do it any like later.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
You did it before you even found the venue.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
Yes, oh, in September, I see, I got my dress.
Speaker 2 (12:12):
Okay, that's like.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
The only thing because well and I didn't really have
many I didn't have any alterations. I only did the bottom,
you know, like I made it shorter. I think if
you have to like a lot of alterations, I think
you have to have like a lot of time.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
Yeah, yours fit like a glove.
Speaker 3 (12:26):
So yeah, she was made for me.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
She was she was made for you.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
It was so funny. I was talking to where was I? Oh,
I was at my plate studio and I was talking to.
Speaker 3 (12:38):
This girl about I was like, yeah, I hadn't been
back to this plotty studo since June. And I was like,
you know, I.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
Put so much work in before my wedding and then
like I went on my honeymoon and had this like
summer of my life and I just kind of like
have just fallen off the wagon. And she was like, ah,
you know, it's fine. She's like at least you'll get
on your wedding. I was like, I look great, And
she was your wedding dress like super tight and like
tight like all over, and I was like, actually no, I'm.
Speaker 3 (13:04):
Like why did I care so much?
Speaker 1 (13:05):
Like my wedding dress poofed out at the bottom, like
you only sell my arms.
Speaker 3 (13:11):
You know, yeah, I know, I know. It's like a
mental thing.
Speaker 2 (13:14):
Yeah, it is what you needed to do, Yeah, for yourself.
Speaker 3 (13:17):
So maybe we start with wedding dress shopping.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
Yeah, we should probably start there.
Speaker 3 (13:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (13:24):
Yeah, those are like the two need to lock those
in first, and you could.
Speaker 3 (13:28):
Look for dresses forever. It's not like you have to
you know, forever.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
But what I'm saying is like, you don't have to
just go out one day and find your dress.
Speaker 5 (13:36):
No, that's not how I in an ideal world.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
Yes, but I know some people who have done like
a hundred, They've gone to like a hundred.
Speaker 2 (13:45):
I'm not doing this, so I know.
Speaker 3 (13:46):
I literally was like after.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
My third store, I was like, if I don't find
it now, like it's going to be one of these
from one saying is like.
Speaker 5 (13:54):
After the third store, at that point it's my own.
It's something about me that I.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
Need to figure out right about me that I don't.
Speaker 5 (14:01):
Like, Yeah, because that's a lot and I only have
so much like stamina for shopping and trying things on.
Speaker 3 (14:08):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
So I want to talk.
Speaker 5 (14:11):
About your word for next year, Yes, And I want
to talk about the fact that Travis and Taylor have
not fought in two and a half hours.
Speaker 2 (14:20):
I mean two and a half years as a couple.
Speaker 3 (14:22):
I hope they don't fight every two and a half hours.
Speaker 2 (14:25):
But we're going to talk about that when we come back.
Speaker 3 (14:49):
We're back, jinks.
Speaker 5 (14:53):
I was watching you to see when you were gonna
notice that we were back. So you you know, your
word of the year is become a legendary thing, very creative,
very uh manifestational, and this year, did you want to
announce it?
Speaker 3 (15:11):
Well?
Speaker 1 (15:11):
So, And this was really plaguing me for a long
time because I felt like my word last year was.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
So good, Like I was like, wow, I like nailed it.
Speaker 2 (15:21):
Last year.
Speaker 3 (15:21):
It was wife.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
Wife was the word, but it stood for woman in
full efflorescence.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
Yeah, I mean effluorescence itself is gorgeous?
Speaker 3 (15:30):
Yeah, how do you top that?
Speaker 1 (15:33):
And like I did feel in a sense a little
bit like Taylor Swift, you know, like when you come
out with like a masterpiece, Like how do you top that?
I felt that same pressure that she feels.
Speaker 2 (15:42):
It was the exact same pressure.
Speaker 3 (15:44):
Yeah, and like I couldn't. I was like racking my brain.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
I was like thinking of words and I was gonna
use like multiply because I want to like obviously I
want to like pro you know, pro create.
Speaker 3 (15:54):
I want to like multiply like.
Speaker 1 (15:56):
My time, my money, like all those you know, like
and I was like multiply, like I can't be go
from wife to multiply, you know. And yeah, I was
giving ed scheering and then and we love who we love,
but like I don't need to copy him, you know. Yeah,
and uh so, so it's kind of like going around
with like a bunch of words. And then I was like,
(16:18):
I gotta do mom. I gotta make mom M O
M and figure out some way to like make that work.
So it's officially Mom, and it's manifest optimize and multiply.
Speaker 3 (16:28):
So I got a multiply in there.
Speaker 1 (16:31):
But I posted it on Instagram the other day, like
asking people for like suggestions, and somebody wrote me one
that I actually think I like better.
Speaker 2 (16:38):
Oh I know, breaking news. She might switch a word.
Speaker 3 (16:41):
I might switch it, but uh wait, what was it?
It was? It was the same.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
It was using mom, and uh they just like nailed it.
It was like, hold on, let me find it.
Speaker 4 (16:52):
Is manifest to optimize and multiply. It's kind of like
giving LinkedIn or something.
Speaker 2 (16:57):
It's giving. It's giving stock market.
Speaker 3 (17:03):
It is, I mean, in a different.
Speaker 5 (17:06):
Context, optimize and multiply give like uh.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
Yeah, optimize multi.
Speaker 3 (17:19):
Ew why that for me?
Speaker 2 (17:23):
It's just very It's it's like you don't have efflorescent
in there, so it feels a little like.
Speaker 1 (17:30):
Okay, somebody wrote mother modern optimistic Tanya helping everyone radiate.
Speaker 3 (17:37):
I know, I love that, but it didn't really give me.
Speaker 5 (17:39):
What what's happening with your hair on this siho?
Speaker 3 (17:46):
Sorry, it's the end of the.
Speaker 1 (17:51):
Okay, so magnificent optimistic mentor mom, metamorphosis opens magic?
Speaker 5 (18:01):
Wait what about metamorphosis? Optimize and multiply?
Speaker 3 (18:05):
What does metamorphosis mean?
Speaker 2 (18:06):
Like a change like your growth?
Speaker 3 (18:09):
So instead of manifest you think metamorphosis.
Speaker 5 (18:14):
Or you could do multiply optimize metamorphosis.
Speaker 3 (18:18):
I like that. I'm gonna go with that.
Speaker 5 (18:21):
It gives you a little bit of whimsy, you know. Yeah,
and this is giving corporate although we like all those words.
Speaker 3 (18:30):
Yeah, I like it. Multiply optimize metamorphosis.
Speaker 5 (18:35):
Yeah yeah, mom, Mom, I have not thought of a
word because I have about one brain cell. As you
tap into that soon and I'll announce it on Instagram.
Speaker 3 (18:49):
You can even imagine.
Speaker 1 (18:51):
Because I really feel like for some reason this year,
I at this point of the year like I'm so
burnt out, Like I feel just fried on every level.
Speaker 2 (19:02):
Yeah. Well you I feel like this year was weirdly
so busy for you personally and professionally.
Speaker 3 (19:09):
Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 5 (19:11):
I don't feel like I had a crazy like I
had a great, chill year.
Speaker 2 (19:14):
Like I felt very I got to lay a lot.
Speaker 3 (19:17):
Yeah, like I didn't lay until the last month.
Speaker 2 (19:21):
Of that conversation. Well, I loved your post and we
love to lay. Easton Crystal's edit what of the video.
Speaker 5 (19:28):
Yeah, but I was gonna say when we were in
Japan and Haley got sick, she was like, I'm so sorry,
I'm sick and we can't like go out and shop,
and I was like, I haven't gotten.
Speaker 2 (19:38):
To lay this whole trip, Like this is my dream dream.
I am laying and living large. Yeah. But yeah, you
had a very busy year, very productive.
Speaker 3 (19:50):
Yeah, it did, and it felt for us.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
It felt like I feel like from the start of
the year until my wedding, it was so all consuming
about like wedding and then I don't know why, but
because we waited for our honeymoon and then we had
like a lot of trips and I had like a
huge work trip plan, so I was like, this is
going to be the summer of fun, Like I'm just
gonna like live it up, and like then you're basically
into September and then like life just like the work
(20:13):
and life just pile on.
Speaker 2 (20:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (20:15):
Yeah, the September through December speed is like we studied
what happened.
Speaker 3 (20:22):
Yeah, And I.
Speaker 5 (20:23):
Thought it was more so when you have kids and
it's the rush of like holloways.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
Back to school.
Speaker 1 (20:28):
But it's something because I feel like there's all these
like events that it planned in September and then with
the holidays, with Halloween, I mean your birthdays in there,
so like that it's a whole other thing, and then
things it's like the big holidays all stack up so much.
Speaker 4 (20:42):
Yeah, it truly does feel like Halloween was last weekend.
Speaker 3 (20:45):
Yeah, I know, it is crazy.
Speaker 5 (20:49):
Another story that came out was that Travis and Taylor.
Travis said that in the two and a half years
that they've been together, they haven't they have never once
had an argument.
Speaker 2 (21:00):
Is that crazy?
Speaker 3 (21:01):
I thought about this.
Speaker 1 (21:02):
I think they've had an argument, like they don't agree
on everything, but they've never had like a big fight.
Speaker 2 (21:08):
I don't see you and Alison having big fights. Do
you all have big fights?
Speaker 4 (21:12):
We we bicker from time to time, like you know,
but we we don't have big fights that often. We've
had them, Yeah, see they've had them.
Speaker 3 (21:21):
That's normal.
Speaker 2 (21:22):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 4 (21:24):
I'm wondering what his definition of like I'm with you,
like I think.
Speaker 1 (21:31):
I think he thinks like fighting is like yelling and
like slamming doors, like we've never done that.
Speaker 3 (21:35):
I've throw my phone once though.
Speaker 6 (21:39):
Rob, Yeah, just shattered it for no reason and I
didn't even mid Like when I say I like throw it,
I literally like when I opped it and like walked
out the door and then came right back.
Speaker 5 (21:51):
I'm just curious if Taylor sitting there, like what is
he talking about?
Speaker 2 (21:56):
This is not accurate. He totally missed. He didn't not
know that we were arguing when we were arguing.
Speaker 1 (22:02):
Maybe that's what he thinks, Like he thinks it's like
a big blow up fight, which has to be the
case because there's no way after two and a half
years it didn't have somewhat of a squabble.
Speaker 2 (22:10):
But I feel like it's fight.
Speaker 5 (22:12):
There's a fight, and then there's an argument and he
specifically said argument.
Speaker 2 (22:16):
So you think he just lumps them in together. Must
Kylie Kelsey was like, you notice Jason did not chime
in on that, because.
Speaker 5 (22:25):
We certainly do not have the same story. Yeah. I
think it's so funny because I wouldn't say I would
say at the beginning our relationship, Haley and I would
argue a lot basically because our communication styles were just
so different. But I feel like this year specifically, we've
really been like on the same page.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
And like, I also think.
Speaker 5 (22:46):
Learning each other and knowing like what the triggers are
that make a simple a little argument turn into a
fight are so important because most things can be de escalated, yeah,
when you know the person and how to like handle
the situation. Yeah, But if you don't know and you're
just like triggering it and they just you're going in circles,
(23:07):
that's how it escalates.
Speaker 3 (23:08):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (23:09):
And I think also too, like you're right, I think
you figure out figure it out in the beginning stages,
because I remember Robbie like needs time, like he just
wants to like have a little space and like think
about his thoughts. Whereas when I when he said that,
like my brain went to, like we're breaking up and
then I would just like freak out. I wouldn't let
him go to sleep until we like hash it out,
and like that's not super productive either, you know. So
(23:30):
it's like we've both learned how to kind of like
meet in the middle with that.
Speaker 2 (23:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (23:34):
So it's like I won't say we argue better.
Speaker 2 (23:37):
Yeah, but it's true, like, yeah, I also need space.
Speaker 3 (23:40):
So it's like I hate that.
Speaker 2 (23:42):
I know Ha hates it too, but I'm.
Speaker 5 (23:45):
Like, I will be able to to peacefully come come
back better than if we try to do this right now.
Speaker 3 (23:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:53):
But a lot of people were like this is not believable.
Speaker 5 (23:56):
But I have friends I feel like who don't who
would say like they haven't had a big ballll fight,
But I don't know if anyone's not had arguments in.
Speaker 2 (24:03):
Two and a half years.
Speaker 1 (24:04):
Yeah, so you know what I liked though, What I
like that George Clooney is like not taking on rolls exactly.
Speaker 3 (24:11):
Yeah, that like are kissing people anymore?
Speaker 2 (24:14):
Yeah, he's all done.
Speaker 5 (24:15):
I like that.
Speaker 3 (24:16):
I don't know why.
Speaker 5 (24:17):
I was like, oh, but also I'm like, okay, so
now you're at an age where like it's not necessarily
like you're in demand to be like, you know what
I'm saying, like George, but I'm saying like I wonder,
I wonder if his wife is like, where was this
energy ten years ago?
Speaker 3 (24:36):
Right right like right after we got married?
Speaker 5 (24:39):
Man? But yeah, I think it's I think it's sweet
because it's like, does he need to be doing that anymore?
Speaker 1 (24:47):
You know, dang, Becca, you really know how to take
the wind out of my sails.
Speaker 5 (24:50):
I was like, so ecited George Clooney in his prime
time being married, would go, I don't need to be
doing this anymore.
Speaker 2 (25:00):
But I pose a point, don't die?
Speaker 3 (25:03):
What has he done lately?
Speaker 4 (25:04):
Has he done a Wally has a new movie called
Jake Kelly. It's on Netflix. It's about an actor, a
famous actor. I'm Sandler's in it too. It sounds very good.
Speaker 5 (25:14):
I personally am a fan of George Clooney, so I'm
excited to see his new movie. But I always Haley,
you know, is in this industry where we've had these
conversations about what that looks like in my comfort with it,
and really my comfort is I'm not comfortable with any either.
Speaker 3 (25:33):
There'd be absolutely no way.
Speaker 5 (25:35):
But we have conversations where you know, it's like knowing
how to be respectful about it and making sure that
I feel safe and what she has to do with
when it comes to work stuff.
Speaker 2 (25:45):
But yeah, it's not like easy.
Speaker 5 (25:47):
I think it's I think unless you're both in the
industry and you're both going to work and making out
with people for your job, I think that's the only
way you're able.
Speaker 2 (25:58):
To just be okay with it.
Speaker 3 (25:59):
Yeah, Because if.
Speaker 5 (26:00):
You're not in the industry and you're like, I don't
understand there, don't don't go to work.
Speaker 1 (26:05):
I know myself, there's absolutely no way I could handle it.
Speaker 5 (26:09):
No. And the funny thing is if that was Robbie's job,
he would be able to go and do it and
like not think anything of it.
Speaker 1 (26:14):
Literally he would be like so unattached, like I would
have nothing to worry about.
Speaker 3 (26:19):
But I would hate it. I would absolutely hate it.
Speaker 2 (26:23):
It's not for the it's not for the week.
Speaker 3 (26:25):
No, no, no, But I'm strong, but I would crumble.
I would should be shivering.
Speaker 5 (26:48):
Someone asked a fun question about what song that reminds
you of each other, and I thought that would be
a fun one to answer.
Speaker 2 (26:55):
Do you have a song that reminds you of me? Yeah?
Oh what are me?
Speaker 3 (26:59):
Yes, how'd you know?
Speaker 2 (27:02):
Just had a feeling army by Ellie Goulding.
Speaker 1 (27:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (27:06):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (27:08):
Do you have a song that reminds you about me?
Speaker 5 (27:09):
I mean I think I have a bunch of songs
that I would think of, but I feel like I.
Speaker 2 (27:13):
Think auld be Joweled when I think of you.
Speaker 3 (27:15):
Ah yes, yeah, yeah and.
Speaker 5 (27:17):
Weirdly Easton, which it's the only reason this song is
not like my least favorite song of all time because
I have the association with you.
Speaker 2 (27:26):
I think of me by Taylors Me.
Speaker 3 (27:29):
Yeah, because he hates so much.
Speaker 5 (27:31):
Because we like did this We all danced to it
one time and the Easton went like one hundred and
fifty percent with his dancing and singing.
Speaker 2 (27:41):
And I think of it now wow. Or a Hillary
Duff song that makes you feel good.
Speaker 3 (27:47):
Yeah, He's like, I'm slightly fender, but I say I'm.
Speaker 2 (27:50):
Saying like it's it's it.
Speaker 5 (27:52):
It brings me to a higher level because I associated
with you.
Speaker 3 (27:56):
Yeah that makes me happy.
Speaker 4 (27:57):
Yeah, Yeah, there's some. I mean, I don't want to
lump on Bejeweled, but like such the tiniest song, It's fine.
Speaker 1 (28:05):
I sing it every day I enter the studio. Yes,
so it's kind of like my theme song.
Speaker 2 (28:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (28:12):
I have a very fun memory from when I first
started working with mister Seacrest and we were at the
East Studio and you're probably there telling you but Wildest
Dreams my Taylor Swift is playing and Mark was like
singing along so loudly to the bridge like the.
Speaker 2 (28:26):
Hen it damn.
Speaker 4 (28:29):
Every time I hear Wildest Dreams, I think of him
and I think of that. I think you were there
that David like he was like so into it. And
that's a very fun memory. So even though Mark's not
here today, I'm gonna say Wildest Streams makes me think.
Speaker 3 (28:41):
Of him weirdly. Jeanie in a Bottle makes me think
of Mark.
Speaker 2 (28:49):
These are not the songs I would expect.
Speaker 1 (28:52):
It's because whatever we're waiting for, Like if we're waiting
for Ryan, like, well, we'll ask like our board op
John to like play certain songs. And for some reason,
I feel like he always plays Genie a Bottle, which
is requested by Mark.
Speaker 3 (29:05):
I'm assuming because I don't know what else is requesting it.
Speaker 4 (29:11):
Yeah, it's a great song.
Speaker 3 (29:12):
It's a great song. It's a great song.
Speaker 5 (29:15):
I feel like I think of weirdly because he always
brings it up.
Speaker 2 (29:19):
Is all too well, all too well tenute version.
Speaker 1 (29:22):
Yeah yeah yeah, or the Ryne runs out. He was
so passionate about.
Speaker 2 (29:26):
Not being awesome. I was with him. It was my
brunner up. I'm and s so with Lord Rob.
Speaker 3 (29:40):
R O, B B E. D.
Speaker 2 (29:43):
Yes. Thank you for spelling that out.
Speaker 5 (29:46):
I don't. That's the end of the episode, But don't worry.
We'll be back with more, because that's what we do
and who we are.
Speaker 3 (29:53):
When are we coming back, Becca, We'll be.
Speaker 5 (29:55):
Back Wednesday on Christmas Eve. And if you're listening to
us on Christmas Eve or Chris Miss Day, We're so
happy that you are here and that we are your
chosen company for the jos And Family, chosen family, because
nothing is more of an honor than being with you
on the days like this, of your of your.
Speaker 2 (30:16):
We love you.
Speaker 5 (30:17):
So much, whether you are with friends, family, at home
by yourself this week, know that you are so loved
by the scrubbing In family and we're so grateful for
you and thank you for an amazing twenty twenty five years.
Speaker 1 (30:32):
Not over, baby girl, we got two more pods, baby girl,
jee Let's go.
Speaker 2 (30:38):
We love y'all so much. We'll be back Wednesday. You
bye bye.
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