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What if you have to make a life-changing decision—but you’re terrified that whatever you choose will make things worse?

For survivors of coercive control, decision-making can feel almost impossible. After years of being punished, criticized, or controlled for everyday choices, even deciding what you want can feel dangerous. Add children, finances, custody, safety, and an unpredictable coercive controller to the equation,...

What if men and women were never meant to choose between being a warrior and being a lover?

In this episode of Hey Tabi, Tabitha welcomes back trauma therapist and author Sam Jolman for a powerful conversation about masculinity, femininity, sexuality, intimacy, and the ways Christian culture can unintentionally reduce both men and women to narrow gender roles.

Sam and Tabitha explore why men need permission to embrace tenderness, vul...

PTSD symptoms don’t always look like flashbacks—these overlooked trauma responses can affect nearly every part of life.

What if some of the things you criticize yourself for are actually trauma responses that once helped you survive?

In this episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook explores PTSD symptoms nobody talks about—the ones that may not resemble the cultural picture of nightmares, fla...

Coercive control can be difficult to recognize because it often begins long before physical violence. It can look like intense attention, seemingly reasonable concerns about your relationships, increasing expectations around your time and communication, or subtle pressure that gradually makes your world smaller.

In this episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist and domestic abuse/ coercive control expert Tabitha Westbrook expla...

Have you experienced church hurt or spiritual abuse and wondered if healing is even possible?

In this deeply compassionate conversation, licensed trauma therapists Tabitha Westbrook and Colleen Ramser explore what happens after spiritual trauma—and how survivors can begin rebuilding trust in themselves, their faith, and God without rushing the healing process. Drawing from Colleen's new book, The Shattered Soul, they discuss w...

Can a Christian love Jesus deeply and still struggle with anxiety?

In this episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook sits down with licensed mental health counselor and author Melissa Fisher to unpack one of the biggest misconceptions in the Church: that anxiety is simply a lack of faith.

Together they explore how trauma affects the nervous system, why healing isn't about "trying harder," and ho...

Can abusive men really change? Discover how the Men of Peace program helps address coercive control, accountability, and lasting transformation.

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Can abusive men truly change?

In this powerful conversation, Tabitha Westbrook is joined by Dr. Chris Moles and Dr. Greg Wilson—leaders in the fields of domestic abuse intervention, coercive c...

Many people assume healing happens simply by talking about what happened. But what if insight alone isn't enough?

In this conversation, I sit down with Matt Wenger, Executive Clinical Director at Begin Again Institute, to explore why experiential therapies like psychodrama often help people access places that traditional talk therapy cannot. We discuss how trauma is stored in the body, why emotional healing requires lived ex...

When a survivor retreat feels more like church than church itself, it's time to ask why.

What happens when abuse survivors experience more safety, compassion, and authentic Christian community at a retreat than they do in their own churches?

In this episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook shares powerful reflections from women who have survived coercive control, domestic abuse, and spiritual abuse. Through th...

Have you ever found yourself wondering where God's goodness is in the middle of a painful season?

In this special episode of Hey Tabi, Tabitha Westbrook shares a devotional originally presented at a women's retreat centered around one powerful verse from Psalm 27: "Yet I am confident I will see the Lord's goodness while I am here in the land of the living."

Rather than looking at the verse in isolation, Tabitha walks ...

What happens when grief, church hurt, disappointment, and cultural pressures begin shaping our faith more than the Gospel?

In this episode of Hey Tabi, Tabitha Westbrook sits down with Bible teacher, author, speaker, and podcaster Elizabeth Woodson for a rich conversation about spiritual formation, healing, discipleship, singleness, biblical literacy, and learning to trust God again after painful experiences.

Elizabeth shares insight...

Have you ever felt like the “problem person” at church no matter how hard you tried?

In this episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook explores what happens when churches unconsciously — or intentionally — scapegoat members instead of addressing dysfunction within the system itself.

Tabitha also explains how church scapegoating mirrors coercive control dynamics often seen in abusive rela...

If worship music makes your chest tight, if opening your Bible brings more dread than comfort, if you still believe in God but can't bring yourself to darken the door of a church — this episode is for you.

Church hurt is real, and it runs deep. It's not a crisis of faith. It's a wound — and like any wound, it makes sense that your body and soul have learned to protect themselves.

In this episode, licensed trauma therapist...

Licensed trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook takes an honest look at why Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) often gets a bad rap in trauma work—and where it still holds real value.

In this episode, she breaks down what CBT actually is, where it came from, and why its focus on identifying and shifting automatic thoughts can be helpful—but also deeply limited when used in a rigid, one-size-fits-all way. Tabitha explores how...

If you’ve been hurt by the church, struggled to trust God again, or felt confused about what’s true… you are not alone.

In this powerful conversation, trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook sits down with Rachel Clinton Chen from The Allender Center to unpack:

🚩 What spiritual abuse actually is (and why it’s so hard to name)
🚩 How abuse distorts your view of God, yourself, and relationships

Most people think abuse means being hit. But what if some of the most damaging abuse leaves no visible bruises at all?

In this deep-dive episode, licensed trauma therapist and domestic abuse expert Tabitha Westbrook breaks down what coercive control REALLY is and why terms like "domestic violence" or "narcissistic abuse" don't even come close to describing it.

In this episode you'll learn:
• Why coercive control is...

What if everything the church taught you about divorce was based on misquoted research and a mistranslation? In this episode, Tabitha Westbrook sits down with the one and only Gretchen Baskerville — Christian author, speaker, and founder of LifeSavingDivorce.com — to dismantle the myths that keep abuse survivors trapped in destructive marriages.

With 25+ years of biblical and evidence-based insight, Gretchen unpa...

Positive affirmations get a bad rap, and honestly, some of them deserve it. But in this episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook walks you through affirmations that are actually rooted in truth and designed to help trauma survivors heal.

This is a practical episode. Grab a pen, download the free PDF (linked below), and let's do this together.

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What does suffering really mean, and what do kids and adults actually need to hear about it?

In this powerful episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook sits down with Beth Broom, licensed professional counselor, trauma care expert, and author of 10 Questions About Pain and Suffering: 30 Devotions for Kids, Teens, and Families (Crossway), for an honest, hope-filled conversation about suffering, parenting, heali...