July 12, 2024 • 18 mins
The Show's going on vacation next week and discuss the fights couples get into
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Us, is it guys. We'reabout to head off for our summer vacation.
We actually have big plans. Findall four of us do all kinds
of crazy stuff, so you knowwhat happens sometimes though, when you go
on vacation with your significant other.Arguments. We are about to go over
the biggest vacation arguments you have withyour significant other. We ain't done yet.
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It's time for the one podcast overa year, completely uncensored and unacting
filtered except for that part. Theshow's after show starts now. Yeah,
big week off. We are spanningthe globe all over the place. Thor
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is going to Canada by the countrypassport passport. My wife got her passport
was the only thing she hadn't changed, so she had to change her ID
would in the master passport. Herlast name changed your last name. We
got the passports going on. I'veonly been, I've only been. I've
been to Mexico and I guess Turksand Caicos is another country, so I've
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been doing. I don't know whyI don't count the Caribbeans, I mean,
why not. Uh is going toVancouver. We've been talking about Emily.
She's going to the face of thesun right, going basically to the
sun. Yes, seems insane.Yeah, it's gonna be fun. That's
your big Yeah, do that.And then I'm staying in a yurt in
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Lake Elson or what the fuck?We're doing a couple days of palm desert
and then a couple of days onthis little like lake camping situation. Isn't
a yurt? The sound your vaginamakes after sex, Okay, I mean
that's that's a tweef. I'm notstaying in a quief cabin. I wouldn't
put it past you. If you'vegot a good deal in the cabin,
you'd staying there. Doesn't make thatnoise like every time you open the door
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or you walk around floorboard. Yeah, I think. Wow, she's like
read saying in one Cleef Robert andIron the other quief we got, we
got fifty. It was a greatqueen. My mom's paying for the sound.
It was. It was by twoquefs, get one queen. Wow,
deal man Emily got hooked on.And I'm not staying in a coven
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Hawaii. Wow. Opposite where I'mgoing, very opposite, more tropical vibe.
Yes, I am going to drinkso many fucking fruity drinks. It's
not even fun. It's gonna getcrazy, you know. Right now,
that's my only plan is to drinkhis plan way any travels. I love
it because he doesn't care, likehe don't give a fuck. He's he
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just wants to lounge and chill,which I love because I always feel the
need to like do stuff stupid.You know. Vacation is to relax,
man. And so if I canget a fruity drink, if I got
a pool, I'm good man.Who do I gotta go? Do?
See the island here? Half ofit? Now, that's true. I
do want to go check it out, though. I want to see if
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they've built it back up. Yeah, you know, like Leohina and maybe
I don't know. Pictures i'd liketo see to do I send them to
you? Yeah, like with acamp, you don't have to you don't
have to group, you don't haveto groove with. You don't want to
see. I want to see it. I got I got out of country
data I gotta deal with. Yeah, I'm not trying to. I'm not
trying to definitely say now and thenwe have our girls, Scott, where's
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going? She is? Traveling toOregon or trail. We'll see end up
that way. One of them getsdysentery. It's over Oregon. Yeah,
in one year, you've traveled toAtlanta and now Oregon. Wow, he's
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just checking out all the states.When you say to your family, Hey,
what do you guys want to goon vacation? Obviously Atlanta and Oregon.
Yeah, uh, it actually is. Atlanta was top of the list
daughter's idea and Oregon top of thelist husband's idea. They know there's other
places in the country. Yeah,like there's really fun, beautiful, like
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tropical six flags. Yeah, avery different vacation from us, because kind
of like how Emily described how Eddievacations, That's how I liked vacation.
You send me to a resort,I don't even want to leave the resort,
and I'm just going to be therechillen for seven straight days, Like
that's the dream. But because myhusband wants to see Oregon so bad,
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we're legit road tripping pretty much fromalmost the top of Oregon all the way
down the coast, staying in adifferent place every single night. Why because
my husband really wants to do well, definitely not for me, because I'm
the one booking everything, planning everything, organizing everything, and driving. Yeah,
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are you going somewhere new every day? You don't have like like when
our chair. My wife likes tobe active, so we'll do active things,
but then we also have like aday or two we're just do nothing.
No. I literally have a scheduleat home. I wish I brought
it in and each day has abouteight things on it between type hiking,
we need to see a waterfall,We have to see this neighborhood for my
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husband to look at real estate.So I mean it's like jam pack.
No. I wish there was aday where we're just chilling, like sitting
in our room on the balcony lookingat the ocean. But no, So
my husband really wants to move there. And I said, well, I'm
not well for retirement, you know, eventually already retired. Well he's been
retired for twenty years. Let meclarify for my retirement. He wants to
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move there for your retirement. Hewants to yes, yes, yes,
yes, when when we retire,he wants to move there, and so
like to the point where he literallyhas been sending me real estate listings from
coastal Oregon for probably about four orfive years. It's never been. He's
never been. I've never been.I don't know if we know anybody who's
ever been. So I said,we actually need to go there, and
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he's of course all about it.So we are going to go there see
what we actually think about it.Wait, yeah, because it's one of
two things. We know this thatit's either going to be Sky comes back
and goes No, we loved it. It was actually really nice and we
loved it. It was very prettyand above or it's going to be like
is he fucking out of his mind? It's no humans anywhere, there's no
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grocery stores, there's no grub Hub. Yeah, I mean we would die.
Yeah. Yeah, yeah. Thoseare my two biggest concerns. Number
one, like the resources in thesetowns, because you much know, we
no massage plays down the street.No, like, what do we do
for him? Well, first guyfor him? If you have something like
that there, I feel like,yeah, yeah, so I don't know.
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I'm I'm most worried about that andthe weather. I mean, because
even though this is the best weatherof the entire year, I'm still worried
that it's going to be too coldand took what's like crazy windy there.
The wind they say, isn't Mybrother in law, Haley, my wife's
younger brother, youngest brother, livesin Oregon now and asked him about the
beaches, and he says, they'rereally nice. But even like yeah,
but just even like hotter weather,you still like a hoodie. Sometimes I'll
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see yeah, you know East coastbeaches like in North Carolina or whatever,
and people are walking on the beachbut they're bundled up. Yeah, which
isn't urt. Yeah, you knowhere in San Diego, even in December,
I'm walking around in shorts. Yeah. Yeah, like we'll go.
I used to go to the beachin like in like February, New York
and like when it wasn't snow onthe ground, it's like how the dogs
run, but it'd be freezing.Well, yeah, it'd be freezing.
I mean it's it's summer. Everybody'sin a heat wave. But since we're
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gonna be in coastal Oregon at thetime, I'm packing pants and sweatshirts,
I'm not bringing in sixty degree weather. Yeah, and that's what it is
now in the like if you winin January. Well, that's the thing.
During your retirement, you be dead. So so my husband has two
plans. One is we split timebetween here and Oregon. My god,
yeah, and like, well youwould rent out. You're gonna summer in
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so we'd rent out this house herewhen we're not here, and then we
would rent out that house plan likehalf the year. I think he really
wants me to love Oregon, buthe knows the weather is really working against
him. So that's his even thoughhe's never been yes, but he's but
he is an expert on it becausehe's never okay. So that sounds like
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a setup for some issues. Ohyeah, you know what happens. We're
all going to be traveling with oursignificant others, and when you travel a
lot of the times it's a stressfulsituation. We've heard before that when you
go through, say airport security.Okay, it's the podcast. I forgot.
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I was holding back. I washolding back. I was holding back.
What's the problem. He doesn't getairport security. He's never prepared.
I have to coach him ahead oftime, yet he still will walk through.
We're going into Hawaii and then allof a sudden, we're walking through
and oh a good water bottle?Who no, and I told you for
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time, not water bottle. Andthen all of a sudden he gets rid
of the water boat. They sendhim back out, send him back through
the metal detectors. He's got akey in his pocket, his keys,
and he goes back again. He'sgot a pocket knife. Okay, Carr's
a eye all the time. He'sgot a knife. You can't. It's
so irritated, And look at him, like, what's wrong with are you?
Those people at security and I alwayswonder what the hell is going on.
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I guess this is their first timetraveling. They not understand the and
I guess they're I guess it's robber. Wow, that's got to be the
only thing you guys will fight about. No, don't. We'll just don't
put us in a car together fortoo long. You're about to go on
desert, Well, yeah, palmdesert. Though it's only like an hour
and forty five away, So,like I just said, two hours,
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so fifteen minutes saves the day.A couple hours away, I don't really
know a couple hours, yeah,two hours whatever it is. But that's
like not too bad. But likeyou send us up to Big Bear or
like Lake Arrowhead or something where we'relooking at three and a half, like
we'll it will be back. Whatcould you possibly fight about? Well,
normally Robert will start off driving becauseI like to have him start. But
then I know it'll take it,take it. We'll get no fucking fight.
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We'll pull off at a McDonald's.What is he doing? What is
he doing wrong? He's sight seeing. He doesn't know how to follow directions,
even though I have it queued upin my navigators drive from the start.
Well I should. I just alwaystry to give it a home.
And why do you use your phone? Why don't you use his phone?
Well, it's all like the carnavigation, even on the screen. He
doesn't know how to follow it,Like he tells you to get off on
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the two ten or whatever, likehe doesn't. He doesn't it doesn't know
it. He'll miss it, andthen you scream at it, and then
I scream at him like I haveto pay attention the whole time, don't
it? Well I do. That'swhat ends up happening. We should start
off that way, but oh mygod, and then we got the read
of my son read problems and thenthey start arguing and then now all three
of us are fighting. So that'sa lot. That's no, no,
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no, no. So what arethe top things that people fight about when
they go on vacation. Well,it's really interesting because Emily pointed this out
right out of the gate. Theysay a top thing couples fight about is
relaxing versus adventure. Some people theywant to go on the hikes, they
want to see the sights, andthe other person's like, no, this
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time is for us to relax.Actually, we've gotten into that fight many
times because Robert's always got to begoing, always got to be going,
and I just I do like tolike go to Hawaii, Right, we
go to Hawaiian I'll go do alittle trip, right, But like I
also want to sit by the poollike Eddie for like maybe one of the
days. Right. But then he'sbugging me, circling me, like let's
go do something. I'm ancy,I'm ancy, and then we get an
argument like leave me alone, chillyou know what I mean. Yeah,
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that's luckily one thing that me andmy wife are on the same page about.
We vacation same oh yeah, Likewell if we feel like you said,
like one day go all right,let's go check out the fucking dole
plant. Okay, let's go orwhatever. We'll go do that. But
I'm not doing any crazy adventures.That's just not my thing. I don't
give a fuck about ziplining. Sorry. I know it's probably cool. Yeah,
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I know it's an awesome hike togo check out that waterfall. I
ain't doing it. I don't wantto. I don't. I mean,
I want to chill. If you'reinto that, that's great, I totally
get it. But it's just notmy thing, and it's not really my
wife's thing. So we'll never fightabout that kind of stuff. Luckily,
now, thor you are like ingrainedin you to not really want to do
things, but luckily your wife makesyou do them. Yeah, and you
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like it. Yeah. So wewe've come to a compromise where like we
do. We I'm excited. We'regonna go on a bunch of trails.
We're gonna go white water rafting,and we're going to another We're going to
like an island too, to theVancouver Island. I'm taking a ferry over
there, and so we're doing funstuff like that. But we're also she
knows me so she planned like twodays where we don't do anything. So
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like that's smart and we're just chilling. Yeah, because I like to just
chill. And then also to mywife was very big when we come back.
She wanted to do the vacation untilliterally the last second. And I'm
like, that's not how daddy rolls, No daddy, So like we come
back obviously the following Monday, aweek from Monday. I'm like, we're
coming back Friday. Give us theweekend, the chill. You need it.
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I need it. You need avacation from the vacation. I don't
like to come back on the Sunday. It's fucking insane. Sky. What's
up? Your husband's the expert onor you're just gonna let him take over.
He hasn't planned one single thing,but he's an expert. I don't.
I don't. Why haven't you eat? Like he's told me what what
like neighborhoods he wants to see Asfar as real estate, Oh yeah,
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he's been looking at listings, LikeI said, for like five years.
Here's what I don't get. What'sup? I understand that you are control
and you like to do everything,but like so when it comes to like
me and my wife's trip. Isaid to her, I'll do the airline
take it's but because you want togo to Vancouver, I'll do the airline
tickets. I'll make sure that's alldone, but you need to be in
charge of like the activities. Sohe doesn't even do the airline tickets,
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No, nothing, no, whatdo you ever say to him, Hey,
you got to do this part andI'll do the rest. Yesterday I
asked him to start the laundry.We'll ticket ready to pack, make him
pack, and then I I camehome and he was sitting in a chair
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like this, hands hands and headand hands like, looking like he just
got the worst news of his lifehappened. Our daughter needed to drive him
somewhere, but the dryer had justfinished, and I said, daughter needed
to drive him. He needed himto drive her. What's going on?
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But the dryer had just finished,and so he's like, I'm doing the
laundry right out. I need todo the laundry. Like what, you
don't just leave it? And Isaid, I said, it's not that
big of a deal. He goes, well, you you told me I
had to do the laundry and I'mlike, oh, and so that is
why he does not book anything,Nor is it because it sounds if we
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freak out on this level about doinglaundry and have that much anxiety about getting
the laundry ready. I don't know, dude, I don't know. I
don't know. So so it's justeasier on everybody if I and yeah,
I mean he's working the system.He knew, he knew, he knew
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Big Mom was on our way home. I'm gonna sit here and act like
I don't know what and then whodrives lovely well, But honestly, I
think it was like a setup backin the day because we've been together for
like three decades now from the start. Well, no, back in the
day it was a setup. Butnow I feel it's his reality because he
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has done so long exactly like it'sreal for him now, Like that's that
just if it wasn't for you.When he just ship himself all day and
not know what to do, I'mworried he knows how to wipe himself and
go to the grocery store and allthat. But honestly, like if I
ever pass away finances figuring shit out, so yeah, and yeah, when
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we go on vacation, it normallyleads to a fight. Yeah, because
just I mean, we're together alot, but vacation is literally every single
second, like I don't go towork, I don't get these hours,
and and it shows itself definitely bythe end of the trip. Yeah.
So we're definitely on each other's nerves, no doubt about it. And uh,
according to the relationship expert, somethingI experienced as well is couples fight
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a lot about the frequency of sexon making something because you're going with crazy
expectations, nuts stuff. Yeah,and that's an issue tool. Wow,
that's a certain vacation model. Wow, so that's definitely I we've had that.
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Did you earmark some time? Yeah, No, it's not happening this,
you mean not once? No,because I know, I know.
But we're bringing our daughter and we'restaying at so many different hotels that I'm
not going to book fucking suite atevery hotel so she can have a separate
room. Just so we can havesex. I mean, we've been together
for thirty years, we can wecan have sex when we get home.
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We've had sex a billion times.It's fine. My vagina will still be
here when we get will I don'tknow. Maybe it'll freeze in Oregon.
I don't know. So, yeah, sex is a big issue. Drinking
and partying causes a lot of fightsvacation. Because you're on vacation, you
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can just go to excess one hundredpercent of the time. Wait, and
other people think, no, youstill got to kind of keep it cool,
cool, let's go never you neverkeep it. I don't think you
guys getting crazy fights. That's happenedbefore with him not even there. She
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starts fighting, Yeah, idiot,no one's there. The final thing,
according to relationship experts, that peoplefight about the most when they go on
vacation is spending too much versus beingtoo frugal on vacation. Again, some
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people think, we're on vacation,let's live it up, let's treat ourselves.
And then other people are like,I'm gonna venmo you to pay me
back for a fucking coffee. Ohno, I mean I mean we're married
now. Yeah, it happened.We'll see what happens. Hopefully we survived the week
Us, is it guys. We'reabout to head off for our summer vacation.
We actually have big plans. Findall four of us do all kinds
of crazy stuff, so you knowwhat happens sometimes though, when you go
on vacation with your significant other.Arguments. We are about to go over
the biggest vacation arguments you have withyour significant other. We ain't done yet.
(00:26):
It's time for the one podcast overa year, completely uncensored and unacting
filtered except for that part. Theshow's after show starts now. Yeah,
big week off. We are spanningthe globe all over the place. Thor
(00:48):
is going to Canada by the countrypassport passport. My wife got her passport
was the only thing she hadn't changed, so she had to change her ID
would in the master passport. Herlast name changed your last name. We
got the passports going on. I'veonly been, I've only been. I've
been to Mexico and I guess Turksand Caicos is another country, so I've
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been doing. I don't know whyI don't count the Caribbeans, I mean,
why not. Uh is going toVancouver. We've been talking about Emily.
She's going to the face of thesun right, going basically to the
sun. Yes, seems insane.Yeah, it's gonna be fun. That's
your big Yeah, do that.And then I'm staying in a yurt in
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Lake Elson or what the fuck?We're doing a couple days of palm desert
and then a couple of days onthis little like lake camping situation. Isn't
a yurt? The sound your vaginamakes after sex, Okay, I mean
that's that's a tweef. I'm notstaying in a quief cabin. I wouldn't
put it past you. If you'vegot a good deal in the cabin,
you'd staying there. Doesn't make thatnoise like every time you open the door
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or you walk around floorboard. Yeah, I think. Wow, she's like
read saying in one Cleef Robert andIron the other quief we got, we
got fifty. It was a greatqueen. My mom's paying for the sound.
It was. It was by twoquefs, get one queen. Wow,
deal man Emily got hooked on.And I'm not staying in a coven
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Hawaii. Wow. Opposite where I'mgoing, very opposite, more tropical vibe.
Yes, I am going to drinkso many fucking fruity drinks. It's
not even fun. It's gonna getcrazy, you know. Right now,
that's my only plan is to drinkhis plan way any travels. I love
it because he doesn't care, likehe don't give a fuck. He's he
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just wants to lounge and chill,which I love because I always feel the
need to like do stuff stupid.You know. Vacation is to relax,
man. And so if I canget a fruity drink, if I got
a pool, I'm good man.Who do I gotta go? Do?
See the island here? Half ofit? Now, that's true. I
do want to go check it out, though. I want to see if
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they've built it back up. Yeah, you know, like Leohina and maybe
I don't know. Pictures i'd liketo see to do I send them to
you? Yeah, like with acamp, you don't have to you don't
have to group, you don't haveto groove with. You don't want to
see. I want to see it. I got I got out of country
data I gotta deal with. Yeah, I'm not trying to. I'm not
trying to definitely say now and thenwe have our girls, Scott, where's
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going? She is? Traveling toOregon or trail. We'll see end up
that way. One of them getsdysentery. It's over Oregon. Yeah,
in one year, you've traveled toAtlanta and now Oregon. Wow, he's
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just checking out all the states.When you say to your family, Hey,
what do you guys want to goon vacation? Obviously Atlanta and Oregon.
Yeah, uh, it actually is. Atlanta was top of the list
daughter's idea and Oregon top of thelist husband's idea. They know there's other
places in the country. Yeah,like there's really fun, beautiful, like
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tropical six flags. Yeah, avery different vacation from us, because kind
of like how Emily described how Eddievacations, That's how I liked vacation.
You send me to a resort,I don't even want to leave the resort,
and I'm just going to be therechillen for seven straight days, Like
that's the dream. But because myhusband wants to see Oregon so bad,
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we're legit road tripping pretty much fromalmost the top of Oregon all the way
down the coast, staying in adifferent place every single night. Why because
my husband really wants to do well, definitely not for me, because I'm
the one booking everything, planning everything, organizing everything, and driving. Yeah,
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are you going somewhere new every day? You don't have like like when
our chair. My wife likes tobe active, so we'll do active things,
but then we also have like aday or two we're just do nothing.
No. I literally have a scheduleat home. I wish I brought
it in and each day has abouteight things on it between type hiking,
we need to see a waterfall,We have to see this neighborhood for my
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husband to look at real estate.So I mean it's like jam pack.
No. I wish there was aday where we're just chilling, like sitting
in our room on the balcony lookingat the ocean. But no, So
my husband really wants to move there. And I said, well, I'm
not well for retirement, you know, eventually already retired. Well he's been
retired for twenty years. Let meclarify for my retirement. He wants to
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move there for your retirement. Hewants to yes, yes, yes,
yes, when when we retire,he wants to move there, and so
like to the point where he literallyhas been sending me real estate listings from
coastal Oregon for probably about four orfive years. It's never been. He's
never been. I've never been.I don't know if we know anybody who's
ever been. So I said,we actually need to go there, and
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he's of course all about it.So we are going to go there see
what we actually think about it.Wait, yeah, because it's one of
two things. We know this thatit's either going to be Sky comes back
and goes No, we loved it. It was actually really nice and we
loved it. It was very prettyand above or it's going to be like
is he fucking out of his mind? It's no humans anywhere, there's no
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grocery stores, there's no grub Hub. Yeah, I mean we would die.
Yeah. Yeah, yeah. Thoseare my two biggest concerns. Number
one, like the resources in thesetowns, because you much know, we
no massage plays down the street.No, like, what do we do
for him? Well, first guyfor him? If you have something like
that there, I feel like,yeah, yeah, so I don't know.
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I'm I'm most worried about that andthe weather. I mean, because
even though this is the best weatherof the entire year, I'm still worried
that it's going to be too coldand took what's like crazy windy there.
The wind they say, isn't Mybrother in law, Haley, my wife's
younger brother, youngest brother, livesin Oregon now and asked him about the
beaches, and he says, they'rereally nice. But even like yeah,
but just even like hotter weather,you still like a hoodie. Sometimes I'll
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see yeah, you know East coastbeaches like in North Carolina or whatever,
and people are walking on the beachbut they're bundled up. Yeah, which
isn't urt. Yeah, you knowhere in San Diego, even in December,
I'm walking around in shorts. Yeah. Yeah, like we'll go.
I used to go to the beachin like in like February, New York
and like when it wasn't snow onthe ground, it's like how the dogs
run, but it'd be freezing.Well, yeah, it'd be freezing.
I mean it's it's summer. Everybody'sin a heat wave. But since we're
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gonna be in coastal Oregon at thetime, I'm packing pants and sweatshirts,
I'm not bringing in sixty degree weather. Yeah, and that's what it is
now in the like if you winin January. Well, that's the thing.
During your retirement, you be dead. So so my husband has two
plans. One is we split timebetween here and Oregon. My god,
yeah, and like, well youwould rent out. You're gonna summer in
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so we'd rent out this house herewhen we're not here, and then we
would rent out that house plan likehalf the year. I think he really
wants me to love Oregon, buthe knows the weather is really working against
him. So that's his even thoughhe's never been yes, but he's but
he is an expert on it becausehe's never okay. So that sounds like
(08:35):
a setup for some issues. Ohyeah, you know what happens. We're
all going to be traveling with oursignificant others, and when you travel a
lot of the times it's a stressfulsituation. We've heard before that when you
go through, say airport security.Okay, it's the podcast. I forgot.
(09:03):
I was holding back. I washolding back. I was holding back.
What's the problem. He doesn't getairport security. He's never prepared.
I have to coach him ahead oftime, yet he still will walk through.
We're going into Hawaii and then allof a sudden, we're walking through
and oh a good water bottle?Who no, and I told you for
(09:24):
time, not water bottle. Andthen all of a sudden he gets rid
of the water boat. They sendhim back out, send him back through
the metal detectors. He's got akey in his pocket, his keys,
and he goes back again. He'sgot a pocket knife. Okay, Carr's
a eye all the time. He'sgot a knife. You can't. It's
so irritated, And look at him, like, what's wrong with are you?
Those people at security and I alwayswonder what the hell is going on.
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I guess this is their first timetraveling. They not understand the and
I guess they're I guess it's robber. Wow, that's got to be the
only thing you guys will fight about. No, don't. We'll just don't
put us in a car together fortoo long. You're about to go on
desert, Well, yeah, palmdesert. Though it's only like an hour
and forty five away, So,like I just said, two hours,
(10:07):
so fifteen minutes saves the day.A couple hours away, I don't really
know a couple hours, yeah,two hours whatever it is. But that's
like not too bad. But likeyou send us up to Big Bear or
like Lake Arrowhead or something where we'relooking at three and a half, like
we'll it will be back. Whatcould you possibly fight about? Well,
normally Robert will start off driving becauseI like to have him start. But
then I know it'll take it,take it. We'll get no fucking fight.
(10:28):
We'll pull off at a McDonald's.What is he doing? What is
he doing wrong? He's sight seeing. He doesn't know how to follow directions,
even though I have it queued upin my navigators drive from the start.
Well I should. I just alwaystry to give it a home.
And why do you use your phone? Why don't you use his phone?
Well, it's all like the carnavigation, even on the screen. He
doesn't know how to follow it,Like he tells you to get off on
(10:50):
the two ten or whatever, likehe doesn't. He doesn't it doesn't know
it. He'll miss it, andthen you scream at it, and then
I scream at him like I haveto pay attention the whole time, don't
it? Well I do. That'swhat ends up happening. We should start
off that way, but oh mygod, and then we got the read
of my son read problems and thenthey start arguing and then now all three
of us are fighting. So that'sa lot. That's no, no,
(11:11):
no, no. So what arethe top things that people fight about when
they go on vacation. Well,it's really interesting because Emily pointed this out
right out of the gate. Theysay a top thing couples fight about is
relaxing versus adventure. Some people theywant to go on the hikes, they
want to see the sights, andthe other person's like, no, this
(11:31):
time is for us to relax.Actually, we've gotten into that fight many
times because Robert's always got to begoing, always got to be going,
and I just I do like tolike go to Hawaii, Right, we
go to Hawaiian I'll go do alittle trip, right, But like I
also want to sit by the poollike Eddie for like maybe one of the
days. Right. But then he'sbugging me, circling me, like let's
go do something. I'm ancy,I'm ancy, and then we get an
argument like leave me alone, chillyou know what I mean. Yeah,
(11:56):
that's luckily one thing that me andmy wife are on the same page about.
We vacation same oh yeah, Likewell if we feel like you said,
like one day go all right,let's go check out the fucking dole
plant. Okay, let's go orwhatever. We'll go do that. But
I'm not doing any crazy adventures.That's just not my thing. I don't
give a fuck about ziplining. Sorry. I know it's probably cool. Yeah,
(12:18):
I know it's an awesome hike togo check out that waterfall. I
ain't doing it. I don't wantto. I don't. I mean,
I want to chill. If you'reinto that, that's great, I totally
get it. But it's just notmy thing, and it's not really my
wife's thing. So we'll never fightabout that kind of stuff. Luckily,
now, thor you are like ingrainedin you to not really want to do
things, but luckily your wife makesyou do them. Yeah, and you
(12:39):
like it. Yeah. So wewe've come to a compromise where like we
do. We I'm excited. We'regonna go on a bunch of trails.
We're gonna go white water rafting,and we're going to another We're going to
like an island too, to theVancouver Island. I'm taking a ferry over
there, and so we're doing funstuff like that. But we're also she
knows me so she planned like twodays where we don't do anything. So
(13:01):
like that's smart and we're just chilling. Yeah, because I like to just
chill. And then also to mywife was very big when we come back.
She wanted to do the vacation untilliterally the last second. And I'm
like, that's not how daddy rolls, No daddy, So like we come
back obviously the following Monday, aweek from Monday. I'm like, we're
coming back Friday. Give us theweekend, the chill. You need it.
(13:22):
I need it. You need avacation from the vacation. I don't
like to come back on the Sunday. It's fucking insane. Sky. What's
up? Your husband's the expert onor you're just gonna let him take over.
He hasn't planned one single thing,but he's an expert. I don't.
I don't. Why haven't you eat? Like he's told me what what
like neighborhoods he wants to see Asfar as real estate, Oh yeah,
(13:46):
he's been looking at listings, LikeI said, for like five years.
Here's what I don't get. What'sup? I understand that you are control
and you like to do everything,but like so when it comes to like
me and my wife's trip. Isaid to her, I'll do the airline
take it's but because you want togo to Vancouver, I'll do the airline
tickets. I'll make sure that's alldone, but you need to be in
charge of like the activities. Sohe doesn't even do the airline tickets,
(14:09):
No, nothing, no, whatdo you ever say to him, Hey,
you got to do this part andI'll do the rest. Yesterday I
asked him to start the laundry.We'll ticket ready to pack, make him
pack, and then I I camehome and he was sitting in a chair
(14:31):
like this, hands hands and headand hands like, looking like he just
got the worst news of his lifehappened. Our daughter needed to drive him
somewhere, but the dryer had justfinished, and I said, daughter needed
to drive him. He needed himto drive her. What's going on?
(14:52):
But the dryer had just finished,and so he's like, I'm doing the
laundry right out. I need todo the laundry. Like what, you
don't just leave it? And Isaid, I said, it's not that
big of a deal. He goes, well, you you told me I
had to do the laundry and I'mlike, oh, and so that is
why he does not book anything,Nor is it because it sounds if we
(15:16):
freak out on this level about doinglaundry and have that much anxiety about getting
the laundry ready. I don't know, dude, I don't know. I
don't know. So so it's justeasier on everybody if I and yeah,
I mean he's working the system.He knew, he knew, he knew
(15:37):
Big Mom was on our way home. I'm gonna sit here and act like
I don't know what and then whodrives lovely well, But honestly, I
think it was like a setup backin the day because we've been together for
like three decades now from the start. Well, no, back in the
day it was a setup. Butnow I feel it's his reality because he
(15:58):
has done so long exactly like it'sreal for him now, Like that's that
just if it wasn't for you.When he just ship himself all day and
not know what to do, I'mworried he knows how to wipe himself and
go to the grocery store and allthat. But honestly, like if I
ever pass away finances figuring shit out, so yeah, and yeah, when
(16:18):
we go on vacation, it normallyleads to a fight. Yeah, because
just I mean, we're together alot, but vacation is literally every single
second, like I don't go towork, I don't get these hours,
and and it shows itself definitely bythe end of the trip. Yeah.
So we're definitely on each other's nerves, no doubt about it. And uh,
according to the relationship expert, somethingI experienced as well is couples fight
(16:44):
a lot about the frequency of sexon making something because you're going with crazy
expectations, nuts stuff. Yeah,and that's an issue tool. Wow,
that's a certain vacation model. Wow, so that's definitely I we've had that.
(17:10):
Did you earmark some time? Yeah, No, it's not happening this,
you mean not once? No,because I know, I know.
But we're bringing our daughter and we'restaying at so many different hotels that I'm
not going to book fucking suite atevery hotel so she can have a separate
room. Just so we can havesex. I mean, we've been together
for thirty years, we can wecan have sex when we get home.
(17:33):
We've had sex a billion times.It's fine. My vagina will still be
here when we get will I don'tknow. Maybe it'll freeze in Oregon.
I don't know. So, yeah, sex is a big issue. Drinking
and partying causes a lot of fightsvacation. Because you're on vacation, you
(17:56):
can just go to excess one hundredpercent of the time. Wait, and
other people think, no, youstill got to kind of keep it cool,
cool, let's go never you neverkeep it. I don't think you
guys getting crazy fights. That's happenedbefore with him not even there. She
(18:17):
starts fighting, Yeah, idiot,no one's there. The final thing,
according to relationship experts, that peoplefight about the most when they go on
vacation is spending too much versus beingtoo frugal on vacation. Again, some
(18:37):
people think, we're on vacation,let's live it up, let's treat ourselves.
And then other people are like,I'm gonna venmo you to pay me
back for a fucking coffee. Ohno, I mean I mean we're married
now. Yeah, it happened.We'll see what happens. Hopefully we survived the week
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