The Terri Cole Show
The Terri Cole Show is where psychology meets real life. Hosted by licensed psychotherapist and bestselling author (Boundary Boss, Too Much and Father Wound coming 11/17/26) Terri Cole, this podcast is for anyone who is ready to understand themselves more deeply, create healthier relationships, and stop repeating patterns that no longer serve them. With nearly three decades of clinical experience, Terri breaks down complex psychological concepts into practical tools you can actually use. From boundaries, high-functioning codependency, and people-pleasing to attachment, family-of-origin wounds, self-worth, anxiety, and relationship dynamics, each episode is designed to help you connect the dots between what you learned in the past and how you're living today. You'll hear solo episodes, listener Q&As, and conversations with leading experts in psychology, relationships, wellness, and personal growth. Because when you understand why you think, feel, and behave the way you do, you have the power to make a different choice. Tune in to The Terri Cole Show and start creating more freedom, healthier relationships, and a life that thrills and fulfills you.
Episodes
Let's say you have a rough interaction with someone, a disappointing outcome, or you get bad news–what do you do to help yourself feel better?
Do you have a couple of drinks? Maybe smoke a little weed? Or eat a tub of ice cream? No judgment here, but I want to invite you to think about it because many of us confuse self-numbing with self-soothing.
In this episode, you'll learn my f...
Do you find that you attach unusually quickly to people, whether in friendships or romantic relationships? Do you stay in relationships that you know are bad for you because the thought of being alone scares you more than staying in a bad relationship? Or do you repeatedly find yourself in relationships with unavailable people? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you might have abandonment issues. In this ep...
Are you a nice person?
Do you think it's possible to be too nice? Or that wanting to be nice is an excuse some high-functioning codependents hide behind to avoid conflict?
In my personal and professional experience, it is possible to be too nice, and it's not great for your relationships.
In this episode, we'll explore what it means to be nice, what being too nice looks like...
Do you ever feel responsible for the feelings of others? Do you overgive and overfunction? Do you suffer from chronic indecision? If any of those things resonate, today's episode is for you. I am going to share with you five signs that your emotional boundaries need help.
Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/853
When you're upset with someone about something, do you:
Say nothing, but silently keep score?
Talk to other people about it?
Ice the person out?
Send them a passive-aggressive or sarcastic text?
If any of those rang a bell, you are not alone which is why in this week's episode, I'm breaking down the top 10 indicators that you might be suppressing an...
Have you ever been in an argument with someone and before the end of the argument, even though they have done something quite egregious, you find yourself apologizing?
Have you ever been in a heated exchange with someone and they straight up deny the thing you know they did? This could sound like, "What are you talking about?"; "I never said/did that."; or, "I'm worried about you."
If you are ...
Are you confused about what it means to be codependent? Do you ever wonder what codependency looks like in practice?
If you're nodding your head yes, that's understandable. In my experience, there is often confusion around the topic of codependency, with a ton of misconceptions and a plethora of myths clouding up what it looks like in real life.
In today's episode, I'm delivering rock-so...
"Is she entitled? Or have you just been serving yourself up on a platter?"
My therapist asked me that years ago, while I was mid-rant about a friend who kept asking me for favors. It stopped me cold, and it changed how I understood my own patterns.
Last week, we talked about what emotional insecurity looks like, the patterns that tell you safety is missing in a relationship. This week is about what comes next: what actually creates emotional safety.
Emotionally safe relationships do not just happen by accident.
They are built through small, consistent behaviors over time. Trust, respect, honesty, and repair are skills, not lucky ou...
Have you ever achieved your biggest goals only to end up feeling completely exhausted, lonely, and burnt out?
In this episode, I'm sitting down with my soul-sister and nervous system regulation expert, Koya Webb, to unpack the hidden trap of high-functioning codependency and people-pleasing. Koya opens up about her raw "dark night of the soul" moment—crying in a bathtub after hosting a massivel...
Last week, we talked about what emotional insecurity looks like, the patterns that tell you safety is missing in a relationship. This week is about what comes next: what actually creates emotional safety.
Emotionally safe relationships do not just happen by accident.
They are built through small, consistent behaviors over time. Trust, respect, honesty, and repair are skills, not lucky outcomes...
If you've been carrying anger, disappointment, guilt, or emotional baggage, this episode offers a powerful new perspective on healing, peace, and personal growth.
In this conversation with Danielle LaPorte, we explore why emotional healing starts with compassion instead of control. We talk about resentment, rejection, gratitude, forgiveness, emotional resilience, and the surprising connection between creat...
I am obsessed with emotional intelligence. It is something I have always done naturally without knowing what it was called.
Emotional intelligence, or EQ, measures your capacity to understand, perceive, and manage emotions, your own and other people's.
While IQ measures cognitive and logical ability, EQ measures your capacity for interpersonal success. Higher emotional intelligence is li...
Stop falling into the anxious-avoidant attachment trap. In this episode, learn how to build a healthy relationship and experience corrective love. Today, I'm sitting down for a deeply personal, raw, and honest conversation with my longtime friend John Kim (aka The Angry Therapist) to discuss his brand new book, Love Hard on Purpose: Toss the Blueprints, Build Something Honest.
We are stripping away the fai...
A lot of what gets called "setting a boundary" out on the internet and in real life isn't a boundary at all.
Boundaries are not punishment.
They are not a lever for controlling other people.
They are not what you do when someone makes you mad.
I wrote a whole book about this called Boundary Boss, and the definition is simple. Your boundaries ar...
Ever felt ignored, dismissed, or completely rushed by your doctor? In this episode, OB-GYN physician assistant and medical advocate Nikki Sapiro Vincier exposes the systemic flaws inside reproductive healthcare—and shares exactly how you can take control of your medical care today.
I sat down with Nikki to unpack the disturbing reality of medical gaslighting, why it takes an average of 7 to 10 years ...
Do you know what you need? Not what your kids need, or what your partner needs, or what your team at work needs. What you need.
In my therapy practice, when I ask high-functioning women what they need for the coming week, many of them either freeze or hand me a list of responsibilities. Things they have to get done. These things are not the same thing.
Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.c...
Have you ever found yourself paralyzed by a major life decision, desperately wishing you just had the right answer?
In this episode of the show, I sit down with author and journalist Simone Stolzoff to dive into a topic we all struggle with: our deep aversion to the unknown. Simone shares the inspiration behind his latest book, How to Not Know: The Value of Uncertainty in a World That Demands Answers, and ...
For the past six months, people have been asking me to do an episode on managing anxiety. We are living in genuinely anxious times, and the real things to be anxious about are not in short supply. So here it is.
For me, anxiety feels like unease. Like I am forgetting something. Like something is wrong, even when I cannot point to what it is.
I have noticed a clear uptick in clients describing ...
This conversation with the incredible Dr. Paul Conti changed how I look at mental health. We've all been taught that we're driven by aggression or pleasure—but Paul reveals there is a third "Generative Drive" that is the actual key to our wellness.
In this episode, we dive deep into his new book, What's Going Right. We talk about why we are so "lost" in negativity, how to move past the stigma of ment...
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