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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, welcome in everybody, Winnie. Justin after show podcast.
(00:03):
We did not have one yesterday. Winnie, do you want
to apologize to the people.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
It's your fault. I asked you if you wanted to
do it.
Speaker 1 (00:10):
You did. We had a lot to do. We had
to do local Legends in Millice, Massachusetts. I'm sorry, though,
this is really fun. What what millis?
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (00:19):
Yeah, the local legends thing. I think it's gonna be great.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Yeah. Oh, I thought you mean sarcastic.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
Oh no, no, no, no, I hated going to Milic.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
All you did was it was very Millis.
Speaker 3 (00:29):
But after we talked to them and went there, weren't
you got be went oh fantastic.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
I was only stressed out because my wife was like
get home. Because Jemma was home. She was trying to work,
so it was a whole thing. So it was, you know,
on Mondays, typically she has jim nastics at eleven eleven
to twelve, so I get home around twelve. It's fine.
But she didn't have gymnastics. I didn't know, so she
was like, I need I don't know. There was something
(00:53):
going on, but she said, I need you home for
eleven thirty. I have a meeting and I'm like, I'm
in Millis.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
Yeah, what time did you get home?
Speaker 1 (00:59):
One? It took me an hour and a half to
get home.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
We have to be fair. You had drop producer Riley off, yes,
which was nice to you.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
We car pulled together. So there you go. So local
legends that will happen at nine to ten on Friday.
That's good. And you know you can nominate other people.
People are, you know, submitting who they think should be
a local legend.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
We're getting new people every day.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
Yep. So kiss went to wait dot com slash legend
and make sure you're very detailed because what happens is
we go through them and you know it's very vague.
You know, we need to not care well, we need
details on why they should be a local legend. You
never know we might show up.
Speaker 3 (01:35):
And make sure you put down your InFocus. We don't
want to call the local legends a surprise.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
I had someone put down the local Legends and follow
That doesn't help me.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
Yeah. We were supposed to have a guest today, my
buddy Matty Powers and Recovery, but he postponed again again.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
Okay, mad I don't want to talk.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
To now he's looking forward to coming in, So when's
he coming? I think next Tuesday.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
Say no, I don't trust you say that. You've been
saying this for three weeks. Next Tuesday. Next Tuesday.
Speaker 3 (02:03):
I put time aside because it's gonna be a longer podcast,
you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
I had told my trainer Sam I was gonna be
there later. Now I'm not. Now. Watch him be busy
when I have to. When I want to go.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
You can yell at Maddie when he comes out. I will, Yeah,
we know you will.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
I can't wait.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
That's what you do best. You gotta love Winnie this morning,
spreading joy and positivity wherever she goes.
Speaker 3 (02:26):
Billy and Lisa in the Morning Present a behind the
scenes look into Boston's favorite morning show.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
That's a little too much information, guys.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
The After Show podcast, who hears Justin and Whinny?
Speaker 1 (02:39):
Oh my god? How about that earthquake? Whinnie?
Speaker 2 (02:42):
I felt nothing neither. I didn't really mean anything to me.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
But if you felt it cool, good for you, or
if it annoyed you, I'm sorry for it.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
I was driving with producer Riley to Millis. I believe
we were in Millis, or close to where we were
going and my wife texted me there's an earthquake. I'm like, what, wait.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
I meant to ask you, So, what'd your wife well?
Cause you didn't get home in time, she.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
Had to postpone her meeting. Oh, it's actually really sad.
I really I feel for her. You know, moms are
a superheroes, much much stronger than dad's. Yeah, and Jem
is in a phase she's two and a half where
she's attached to her, like, doesn't want anybody else. Anytime
she leaves mom, no one can put her to bed.
(03:22):
It's she's just attached to Jen, which obviously can be overwhelming.
It can be stressful. So at one point yesterday I
came home and Jen's like, I gotta give her a nap.
So she brings her in the bed to lay down
with her. I said, do you want me too? She goes, no,
I will because maybe I'll sleep with her because she
was just done with the day. So she gets in
(03:43):
there and I hear her in there crying, making noise.
She's not going to sleep. So I'm texting Jen, I go,
I'll just put her in the car and knock her
out and then we'll move her into the bed. That's
what we do it when she won't go to sleep.
And Jen's like, no, it's fine, you know, she'll eventually go.
Twenty minutes goes by, still crying, right, So finally I'm like,
I'm just gonna do it. So I go in and
I get Gemma, I put her in the car, and
I drive her around till she falls asleep.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
So then when I get back, Jen goes, yeah, I don't.
I just had a complete nervous breakdown in the bed.
I just I didn't know what to do. And I
just started crying, like hysterically crying. And Jemma looked at
her and goes, Mama, do you need a hug? And
she gave her a hug. So she's sweet. She's just
in that phase where she's a ted you know what, Maybe.
Speaker 3 (04:25):
To be positive, at least, your guys are lucky that
you guys have both careers where you're home so much
and your kid can be attached and doesn't have to
like not a lot of moms have that issue and
they can't be home.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
Yeah, well they're in daycare like eight hours a day, That's.
Speaker 2 (04:39):
What I'm saying. So, like it's like pro and con right, Yeah, because.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
Some people would love to have that issue where they
can have their kid at their feet, you know, crying
for them.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
I will say, though it's been nice. She works from
home and she can be there, but it gets hard
for her because she's home all the time. And then
Gemma does go to daycare, but on days like Monday
and Friday, she's home until I get home, which isn't
too late, but you know, she's upper ass, so it
can be hard.
Speaker 3 (05:06):
Have you guys thought about jen that's important going to
work outside.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
The home again?
Speaker 1 (05:11):
Oh, she is definitely going back to work, but not
until Jemmy goes to school.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
And have you thought about putting gema in more days?
Speaker 1 (05:17):
We couldnay and a half.
Speaker 3 (05:20):
Now.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
The thing is, though, is it's it's been stressful lately,
but it wasn't always stressful. And Mondays are very slow
for her. So by the time I get home, she
goes to gymnastics, not that big of a deal. And
then Fridays I get home and I just take her,
so it's not that bad and daycares expensive.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
She goes Tuesday Wednesday, Thursday's.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Tuesday Wednesday Thursday and it's twelve hundred dollars a month,
twelve hundred Yeah, crazy, I.
Speaker 3 (05:42):
Don't know, Yeah so crazy, yeah, so yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
I think most more importantly, what we're trying to do
is figure out a night out, a night away.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
Valentine's Day's coming up.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
I know what should I do?
Speaker 2 (05:57):
Dinner? And maybe Tuscan Village Hotel? Can you get? I mean,
you're right there, it's just your you know, do they
have a spa I don't know.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
I want to give her a spa day.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
I don't know what they have up there.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
Yeah, it's new.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
Though, they might have something.
Speaker 1 (06:12):
I know Billy was just there. I should I should
ask my general manager? Is my neighbor? I should ask?
Oh yeah, yeah. But maybe maybe I should take her
into Boston. I don't know. She needs a night away
from the kids. But Valance, that's a good idea, because
I pitched this weekend and I'll get it.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
Is on a Friday, Okay, so that whole weekend you
could do. I mean, like you say, if it doesn't
work on Friday, you could do Saturday. Whatever nanny has available.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
Yeah you know, not yeah, I.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
Mean because what if nanny has a hot date?
Speaker 3 (06:39):
Mmm?
Speaker 1 (06:40):
No, not so much. She needs somebody, though, she really does.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
She does.
Speaker 3 (06:44):
She's sitting there like, calm, I know, her dad, my
handsome daddy. I'm like, it just doesn't really sit right.
When a sixty five year old lady says, my handsome dady,
daddy's a little girl, it just makes me a little
it's her dad's birthday.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
He's like about eighty five or whatever.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
Yeah, eighty six.
Speaker 2 (07:04):
Here's my handsome daddy. And I'm like, okay, that's interesting.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
He is a handsome guy.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
He is.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
He is a handsome hand Yeah. So I don't know
what we're gonna do. I think I think we need
some time away from the kid's seat. This is the
thing about marriage and kids, Whinny. It's not easy. And
I've said it before and I'll say it again. I
believe you understand, Whinnie. When you have kids and you're married, why,
and it's gonna sound fucked up, and hear me out,
why you don't have kids? No fathers walk away from
(07:33):
their kids and their families. No, I know it sounds cold, right, Yeah,
But Okay, before I had kids growing up, I knew
I had friends that they had no father, the father
or mother for that matter, And I used to think
to myself. What a fucking loser? Who would do that
to a child? That's your seed, that's your blood. Who
would do that? And then you have kids and you think,
(07:55):
I understand it's because you you lose, You lose your
life almost you know, your freedom. I should say, you know,
I can't do what I want I want to do,
and that's a lot. And then it gets stressful and
the kids, it's all about the kids. It becomes less
about you and her and try to manage that and
you know, pay your bills and all this stuff. And
sometimes it get so hard that people can't handle it
(08:16):
and they walk away.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
I believe you, they walk away from their family. I
believe you.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
And that's why I'm getting id back on Thursday. Well
there you go, because ain't nobody trying.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
To risk that shit?
Speaker 1 (08:26):
Yeah. I was talking to producer Riley on our on
our car Talk to the Millise yesterday and she was,
I don't know, babies weird me out. They're just so
small and slimy, and they make a big mess and
they puke all over you. I just every time we
around a baby and I have to hold the baby,
I just get weirded out. I go so do you
want to have kids? Yeah, and she was like, well, yeah,
(08:48):
maybe I go it's different when you have your own kid.
Speaker 3 (08:50):
Yeah, No, it's it's it is like, but you know
it will kick in. I mean not even when I'm
around kids. Find by the way instick kicks in.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
It's just nature. Yeah, you're just built that way.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
But I don't. I don't know. The longer I go
without having kids, the more I'm like, I think I'm
doing something right.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
You know, if there's nothing wrong with not having kids.
Speaker 3 (09:06):
I'm really I'm really we always say go back and forth.
Everyone's like, oh, when you find that in person, maybe
I've been finding the wrong people.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
But I just don't. I really don't care. Like I'm
at the point now where it's like it probably it
might not happen, and I wouldn't give a shit, but
it might happen, but it could.
Speaker 3 (09:19):
But I but I also feel like I really, I
think I've said this before, I truly want to find
the love of my life and I don't want that
to be continued on having kids in a certain timeframe,
you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
Yeah, I think it just depends. It's circumstantial, right, So
if you meet somebody and they're in a place in
their life where they want kids, then that's a discussion
that needs to be had. Or you could meet somebody
that feels they never want to have kids.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
I hope, I hope I meet them.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
One thing's for sure. If you don't have kids, you're
gonna have a lot of more money.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
I know. And I want to be a dink so bad.
That was my only goal in my last relationship. But
I want to be a dink so bad.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
Do whatever you want, go anywhere that you want. I
can't do anything that I want ever.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
I know. Ever, when I know, all you do is
tell me, you'll bitch about it.
Speaker 1 (10:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (10:03):
Like my best friend, my best friends, she is like,
I love being a mother. I want to like you,
you'll want to be a mom so bad, Like trust me,
Like you say you don't want to kids, but trust me,
it's amazing.
Speaker 2 (10:12):
And then she'll be like shut up.
Speaker 1 (10:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
Like we're on the phone, She's.
Speaker 3 (10:15):
Like stop and I'm like, oh, you're really selling it
for me, Like you know what i mean.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
I'm like all she I mean.
Speaker 1 (10:22):
It's like the best way to describe having kids, especially
small kids, is when they're with you're with you're with them,
they drive you absolutely nuts, and then when you're away
from them, you miss them.
Speaker 3 (10:32):
Well, even my nieces are pretty well behaved little girls.
And even with them sometimes I'm like.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
All right, girls, oh you give them back.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
Well I know, I know, and again they're they're like
they're really you know, well behaved children.
Speaker 2 (10:45):
I can't imagine having like the other.
Speaker 3 (10:47):
Yes, So you know, I baby sit a few days
a week and we're the library yestually and the boy
baby's before. He's a sweet little boy and he annoys
me sometimes and he's a sweet kid, really good self play,
Like we'll go to the library. He loves the park
when it's nice out.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
Whatever.
Speaker 3 (11:00):
So we went to the library and there was a
little girl there that clearly had some behavioral issues.
Speaker 2 (11:04):
I don't know if it's like developmental issues.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
Was he staring at her?
Speaker 3 (11:07):
No, she was just like yelling and like you know,
he was he was he's good, he like will just
do his thing and he doesn't you know whatever. But
the little girl, the mom had to keep like telling
and she had it. And to be fair, I was
trying to teach her how to do things. You know,
we don't hit we don't yell whatever. And I'm just like, damn,
you don't want kind of kids you're gonna get.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
Like you could get an angel.
Speaker 3 (11:26):
You could get a beautiful child who just is like quiet,
I mean, you know, not a menace. And then you
could get an Able or like you like, you have
two opposite children.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
Nothing wrong, Able, But I'm saying you have.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
Like Able who you are like ripping your hair out about,
and then you have Gema.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
He's like she's such a sweet angel.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
Yep, you know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (11:41):
It's usually that way, right, Yeah, But I said, what
if you don't have one?
Speaker 2 (11:44):
Which way? Which way do you get?
Speaker 1 (11:46):
I mean we were not we were thinking about not
having another kid because he was a handful when he
was younger, right, you know? So yeah, I don't know.
By the way, can I add something in? This is
kind of a personal thing. I just want to put
this out there. Is our medical system healthcare system just
fucked up? No no, no, no, not insurance, just the
(12:07):
medical like it is, right, Okay, Because I've been trying
to I think that I think my I think my
son would benefit from therapy, right, I think it's I'm
a big fan of that therapy. And I think that
when I was a kid in his age, although I
was much worse than him, I never had any of that,
and I think that it would be something that would
be benefit, just how to control impulses, you know, impulsive behavior,
(12:30):
handle his thoughts, because sometimes he acts out a little
bit and then he's like, I just don't know how
to like, you know, manage it. So I got on
the horn and I called her and a year waight,
multiple places. I can't get him. I can't get him.
My friend, my friend has is going through a divorce
and he tried to get his son in therapy. Can't wait,
(12:51):
wait list a year? Two years? There just is there
a lack of child therapists. I don't understand.
Speaker 3 (12:58):
I was looking recent and some of them are like
not accepting new patients, like a year.
Speaker 2 (13:04):
Well my problem is today I don't have a year,
you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (13:07):
Correct?
Speaker 2 (13:08):
Yeah, I know, like the world, it's out of pocket.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
No, no one wants that.
Speaker 2 (13:14):
But we're just saying I was paying out of pocket
for my therapist.
Speaker 1 (13:17):
I mean, I guess if I have to, but it
shouldn't be that way.
Speaker 3 (13:19):
Well I know it shouldn't, but I'm saying, like some
of the some therapists are actually out of pocket.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
They don't even take it.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
Oh yeah, any a psychologists, therapists, I could I called
all them.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (13:30):
Actually, originally when I was on the mass health it
was good. I had like a therapy a counselor that
worked under a psychologist. So she was just like a
counselor like you know, so she wasn't as expensive and
she had she was just drying off so she had more, you.
Speaker 2 (13:45):
Know, availability.
Speaker 3 (13:47):
So maybe look for someone like that that's working under
a therapist that's just they had to help them organize this.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
Yeah, I'm gonna keep trying. Well, we're talking to his
doctor too, But I just wanted to talk to somebody
that's not us because where his parents and he listens,
but he doesn't. I think from an out person he
would benefit more from that. Therapy is a big deal,
So I just wanted to I was so stressed out
about that. I could not believe it because when I
thought I had the thought, I'm like, you know what,
I have n't talk to somebody. I'm so happy, And
(14:12):
then I started.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
Calling and then it like to plead, You're like what
the fuck.
Speaker 1 (14:16):
Yeah, I'm like, do you not get help. What about
these kids that are even more fucked up than he is?
What are they doing? Just saying anyway, I'm gonna jump
on this meeting when he's I gotta go. But nice
chatting with you today, Nice catching up. Hopefully next week
we'll have Maddie.
Speaker 2 (14:29):
I don't believe him. I about to call him and
be like, are you serious, Matthew and be.
Speaker 1 (14:34):
Nice to him. He's the Celtics guy. Want, Yeah, we
know why I want. I have a question, we know,
we know. Anyway, we'll talk to Marcodbye,
All right, welcome in everybody, Winnie. Justin after show podcast.
(00:03):
We did not have one yesterday. Winnie, do you want
to apologize to the people.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
It's your fault. I asked you if you wanted to
do it.
Speaker 1 (00:10):
You did. We had a lot to do. We had
to do local Legends in Millice, Massachusetts. I'm sorry, though,
this is really fun. What what millis?
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (00:19):
Yeah, the local legends thing. I think it's gonna be great.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Yeah. Oh, I thought you mean sarcastic.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
Oh no, no, no, no, I hated going to Milic.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
All you did was it was very Millis.
Speaker 3 (00:29):
But after we talked to them and went there, weren't
you got be went oh fantastic.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
I was only stressed out because my wife was like
get home. Because Jemma was home. She was trying to work,
so it was a whole thing. So it was, you know,
on Mondays, typically she has jim nastics at eleven eleven
to twelve, so I get home around twelve. It's fine.
But she didn't have gymnastics. I didn't know, so she
was like, I need I don't know. There was something
(00:53):
going on, but she said, I need you home for
eleven thirty. I have a meeting and I'm like, I'm
in Millis.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
Yeah, what time did you get home?
Speaker 1 (00:59):
One? It took me an hour and a half to
get home.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
We have to be fair. You had drop producer Riley off, yes,
which was nice to you.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
We car pulled together. So there you go. So local
legends that will happen at nine to ten on Friday.
That's good. And you know you can nominate other people.
People are, you know, submitting who they think should be
a local legend.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
We're getting new people every day.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
Yep. So kiss went to wait dot com slash legend
and make sure you're very detailed because what happens is
we go through them and you know it's very vague.
You know, we need to not care well, we need
details on why they should be a local legend. You
never know we might show up.
Speaker 3 (01:35):
And make sure you put down your InFocus. We don't
want to call the local legends a surprise.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
I had someone put down the local Legends and follow
That doesn't help me.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
Yeah. We were supposed to have a guest today, my
buddy Matty Powers and Recovery, but he postponed again again.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
Okay, mad I don't want to talk.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
To now he's looking forward to coming in, So when's
he coming? I think next Tuesday.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
Say no, I don't trust you say that. You've been
saying this for three weeks. Next Tuesday. Next Tuesday.
Speaker 3 (02:03):
I put time aside because it's gonna be a longer podcast,
you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
I had told my trainer Sam I was gonna be
there later. Now I'm not. Now. Watch him be busy
when I have to. When I want to go.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
You can yell at Maddie when he comes out. I will, Yeah,
we know you will.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
I can't wait.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
That's what you do best. You gotta love Winnie this morning,
spreading joy and positivity wherever she goes.
Speaker 3 (02:26):
Billy and Lisa in the Morning Present a behind the
scenes look into Boston's favorite morning show.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
That's a little too much information, guys.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
The After Show podcast, who hears Justin and Whinny?
Speaker 1 (02:39):
Oh my god? How about that earthquake? Whinnie?
Speaker 2 (02:42):
I felt nothing neither. I didn't really mean anything to me.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
But if you felt it cool, good for you, or
if it annoyed you, I'm sorry for it.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
I was driving with producer Riley to Millis. I believe
we were in Millis, or close to where we were
going and my wife texted me there's an earthquake. I'm like, what, wait.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
I meant to ask you, So, what'd your wife well?
Cause you didn't get home in time, she.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
Had to postpone her meeting. Oh, it's actually really sad.
I really I feel for her. You know, moms are
a superheroes, much much stronger than dad's. Yeah, and Jem
is in a phase she's two and a half where
she's attached to her, like, doesn't want anybody else. Anytime
she leaves mom, no one can put her to bed.
(03:22):
It's she's just attached to Jen, which obviously can be overwhelming.
It can be stressful. So at one point yesterday I
came home and Jen's like, I gotta give her a nap.
So she brings her in the bed to lay down
with her. I said, do you want me too? She goes, no,
I will because maybe I'll sleep with her because she
was just done with the day. So she gets in
(03:43):
there and I hear her in there crying, making noise.
She's not going to sleep. So I'm texting Jen, I go,
I'll just put her in the car and knock her
out and then we'll move her into the bed. That's
what we do it when she won't go to sleep.
And Jen's like, no, it's fine, you know, she'll eventually go.
Twenty minutes goes by, still crying, right, So finally I'm like,
I'm just gonna do it. So I go in and
I get Gemma, I put her in the car, and
I drive her around till she falls asleep.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
So then when I get back, Jen goes, yeah, I don't.
I just had a complete nervous breakdown in the bed.
I just I didn't know what to do. And I
just started crying, like hysterically crying. And Jemma looked at
her and goes, Mama, do you need a hug? And
she gave her a hug. So she's sweet. She's just
in that phase where she's a ted you know what, Maybe.
Speaker 3 (04:25):
To be positive, at least, your guys are lucky that
you guys have both careers where you're home so much
and your kid can be attached and doesn't have to
like not a lot of moms have that issue and
they can't be home.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
Yeah, well they're in daycare like eight hours a day, That's.
Speaker 2 (04:39):
What I'm saying. So, like it's like pro and con right, Yeah, because.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
Some people would love to have that issue where they
can have their kid at their feet, you know, crying
for them.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
I will say, though it's been nice. She works from
home and she can be there, but it gets hard
for her because she's home all the time. And then
Gemma does go to daycare, but on days like Monday
and Friday, she's home until I get home, which isn't
too late, but you know, she's upper ass, so it
can be hard.
Speaker 3 (05:06):
Have you guys thought about jen that's important going to
work outside.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
The home again?
Speaker 1 (05:11):
Oh, she is definitely going back to work, but not
until Jemmy goes to school.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
And have you thought about putting gema in more days?
Speaker 1 (05:17):
We couldnay and a half.
Speaker 3 (05:20):
Now.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
The thing is, though, is it's it's been stressful lately,
but it wasn't always stressful. And Mondays are very slow
for her. So by the time I get home, she
goes to gymnastics, not that big of a deal. And
then Fridays I get home and I just take her,
so it's not that bad and daycares expensive.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
She goes Tuesday Wednesday, Thursday's.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Tuesday Wednesday Thursday and it's twelve hundred dollars a month,
twelve hundred Yeah, crazy, I.
Speaker 3 (05:42):
Don't know, Yeah so crazy, yeah, so yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
I think most more importantly, what we're trying to do
is figure out a night out, a night away.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
Valentine's Day's coming up.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
I know what should I do?
Speaker 2 (05:57):
Dinner? And maybe Tuscan Village Hotel? Can you get? I mean,
you're right there, it's just your you know, do they
have a spa I don't know.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
I want to give her a spa day.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
I don't know what they have up there.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
Yeah, it's new.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
Though, they might have something.
Speaker 1 (06:12):
I know Billy was just there. I should I should
ask my general manager? Is my neighbor? I should ask?
Oh yeah, yeah. But maybe maybe I should take her
into Boston. I don't know. She needs a night away
from the kids. But Valance, that's a good idea, because
I pitched this weekend and I'll get it.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
Is on a Friday, Okay, so that whole weekend you
could do. I mean, like you say, if it doesn't
work on Friday, you could do Saturday. Whatever nanny has available.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
Yeah you know, not yeah, I.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
Mean because what if nanny has a hot date?
Speaker 3 (06:39):
Mmm?
Speaker 1 (06:40):
No, not so much. She needs somebody, though, she really does.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
She does.
Speaker 3 (06:44):
She's sitting there like, calm, I know, her dad, my
handsome daddy. I'm like, it just doesn't really sit right.
When a sixty five year old lady says, my handsome dady,
daddy's a little girl, it just makes me a little
it's her dad's birthday.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
He's like about eighty five or whatever.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
Yeah, eighty six.
Speaker 2 (07:04):
Here's my handsome daddy. And I'm like, okay, that's interesting.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
He is a handsome guy.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
He is.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
He is a handsome hand Yeah. So I don't know
what we're gonna do. I think I think we need
some time away from the kid's seat. This is the
thing about marriage and kids, Whinny. It's not easy. And
I've said it before and I'll say it again. I
believe you understand, Whinnie. When you have kids and you're married, why,
and it's gonna sound fucked up, and hear me out,
why you don't have kids? No fathers walk away from
(07:33):
their kids and their families. No, I know it sounds cold, right, Yeah,
But Okay, before I had kids growing up, I knew
I had friends that they had no father, the father
or mother for that matter, And I used to think
to myself. What a fucking loser? Who would do that
to a child? That's your seed, that's your blood. Who
would do that? And then you have kids and you think,
(07:55):
I understand it's because you you lose, You lose your
life almost you know, your freedom. I should say, you know,
I can't do what I want I want to do,
and that's a lot. And then it gets stressful and
the kids, it's all about the kids. It becomes less
about you and her and try to manage that and
you know, pay your bills and all this stuff. And
sometimes it get so hard that people can't handle it
(08:16):
and they walk away.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
I believe you, they walk away from their family. I
believe you.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
And that's why I'm getting id back on Thursday. Well
there you go, because ain't nobody trying.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
To risk that shit?
Speaker 1 (08:26):
Yeah. I was talking to producer Riley on our on
our car Talk to the Millise yesterday and she was,
I don't know, babies weird me out. They're just so
small and slimy, and they make a big mess and
they puke all over you. I just every time we
around a baby and I have to hold the baby,
I just get weirded out. I go so do you
want to have kids? Yeah, and she was like, well, yeah,
(08:48):
maybe I go it's different when you have your own kid.
Speaker 3 (08:50):
Yeah, No, it's it's it is like, but you know
it will kick in. I mean not even when I'm
around kids. Find by the way instick kicks in.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
It's just nature. Yeah, you're just built that way.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
But I don't. I don't know. The longer I go
without having kids, the more I'm like, I think I'm
doing something right.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
You know, if there's nothing wrong with not having kids.
Speaker 3 (09:06):
I'm really I'm really we always say go back and forth.
Everyone's like, oh, when you find that in person, maybe
I've been finding the wrong people.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
But I just don't. I really don't care. Like I'm
at the point now where it's like it probably it
might not happen, and I wouldn't give a shit, but
it might happen, but it could.
Speaker 3 (09:19):
But I but I also feel like I really, I
think I've said this before, I truly want to find
the love of my life and I don't want that
to be continued on having kids in a certain timeframe,
you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
Yeah, I think it just depends. It's circumstantial, right, So
if you meet somebody and they're in a place in
their life where they want kids, then that's a discussion
that needs to be had. Or you could meet somebody
that feels they never want to have kids.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
I hope, I hope I meet them.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
One thing's for sure. If you don't have kids, you're
gonna have a lot of more money.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
I know. And I want to be a dink so bad.
That was my only goal in my last relationship. But
I want to be a dink so bad.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
Do whatever you want, go anywhere that you want. I
can't do anything that I want ever.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
I know. Ever, when I know, all you do is
tell me, you'll bitch about it.
Speaker 1 (10:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (10:03):
Like my best friend, my best friends, she is like,
I love being a mother. I want to like you,
you'll want to be a mom so bad, Like trust me,
Like you say you don't want to kids, but trust me,
it's amazing.
Speaker 2 (10:12):
And then she'll be like shut up.
Speaker 1 (10:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
Like we're on the phone, She's.
Speaker 3 (10:15):
Like stop and I'm like, oh, you're really selling it
for me, Like you know what i mean.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
I'm like all she I mean.
Speaker 1 (10:22):
It's like the best way to describe having kids, especially
small kids, is when they're with you're with you're with them,
they drive you absolutely nuts, and then when you're away
from them, you miss them.
Speaker 3 (10:32):
Well, even my nieces are pretty well behaved little girls.
And even with them sometimes I'm like.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
All right, girls, oh you give them back.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
Well I know, I know, and again they're they're like
they're really you know, well behaved children.
Speaker 2 (10:45):
I can't imagine having like the other.
Speaker 3 (10:47):
Yes, So you know, I baby sit a few days
a week and we're the library yestually and the boy
baby's before. He's a sweet little boy and he annoys
me sometimes and he's a sweet kid, really good self play,
Like we'll go to the library. He loves the park
when it's nice out.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
Whatever.
Speaker 3 (11:00):
So we went to the library and there was a
little girl there that clearly had some behavioral issues.
Speaker 2 (11:04):
I don't know if it's like developmental issues.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
Was he staring at her?
Speaker 3 (11:07):
No, she was just like yelling and like you know,
he was he was he's good, he like will just
do his thing and he doesn't you know whatever. But
the little girl, the mom had to keep like telling
and she had it. And to be fair, I was
trying to teach her how to do things. You know,
we don't hit we don't yell whatever. And I'm just like, damn,
you don't want kind of kids you're gonna get.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
Like you could get an angel.
Speaker 3 (11:26):
You could get a beautiful child who just is like quiet,
I mean, you know, not a menace. And then you
could get an Able or like you like, you have
two opposite children.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
Nothing wrong, Able, But I'm saying you have.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
Like Able who you are like ripping your hair out about,
and then you have Gema.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
He's like she's such a sweet angel.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
Yep, you know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (11:41):
It's usually that way, right, Yeah, But I said, what
if you don't have one?
Speaker 2 (11:44):
Which way? Which way do you get?
Speaker 1 (11:46):
I mean we were not we were thinking about not
having another kid because he was a handful when he
was younger, right, you know? So yeah, I don't know.
By the way, can I add something in? This is
kind of a personal thing. I just want to put
this out there. Is our medical system healthcare system just
fucked up? No no, no, no, not insurance, just the
(12:07):
medical like it is, right, Okay, Because I've been trying
to I think that I think my I think my
son would benefit from therapy, right, I think it's I'm
a big fan of that therapy. And I think that
when I was a kid in his age, although I
was much worse than him, I never had any of that,
and I think that it would be something that would
be benefit, just how to control impulses, you know, impulsive behavior,
(12:30):
handle his thoughts, because sometimes he acts out a little
bit and then he's like, I just don't know how
to like, you know, manage it. So I got on
the horn and I called her and a year waight,
multiple places. I can't get him. I can't get him.
My friend, my friend has is going through a divorce
and he tried to get his son in therapy. Can't wait,
(12:51):
wait list a year? Two years? There just is there
a lack of child therapists. I don't understand.
Speaker 3 (12:58):
I was looking recent and some of them are like
not accepting new patients, like a year.
Speaker 2 (13:04):
Well my problem is today I don't have a year,
you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (13:07):
Correct?
Speaker 2 (13:08):
Yeah, I know, like the world, it's out of pocket.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
No, no one wants that.
Speaker 2 (13:14):
But we're just saying I was paying out of pocket
for my therapist.
Speaker 1 (13:17):
I mean, I guess if I have to, but it
shouldn't be that way.
Speaker 3 (13:19):
Well I know it shouldn't, but I'm saying, like some
of the some therapists are actually out of pocket.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
They don't even take it.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
Oh yeah, any a psychologists, therapists, I could I called
all them.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (13:30):
Actually, originally when I was on the mass health it
was good. I had like a therapy a counselor that
worked under a psychologist. So she was just like a
counselor like you know, so she wasn't as expensive and
she had she was just drying off so she had more, you.
Speaker 2 (13:45):
Know, availability.
Speaker 3 (13:47):
So maybe look for someone like that that's working under
a therapist that's just they had to help them organize this.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
Yeah, I'm gonna keep trying. Well, we're talking to his
doctor too, But I just wanted to talk to somebody
that's not us because where his parents and he listens,
but he doesn't. I think from an out person he
would benefit more from that. Therapy is a big deal,
So I just wanted to I was so stressed out
about that. I could not believe it because when I
thought I had the thought, I'm like, you know what,
I have n't talk to somebody. I'm so happy, And
(14:12):
then I started.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
Calling and then it like to plead, You're like what
the fuck.
Speaker 1 (14:16):
Yeah, I'm like, do you not get help. What about
these kids that are even more fucked up than he is?
What are they doing? Just saying anyway, I'm gonna jump
on this meeting when he's I gotta go. But nice
chatting with you today, Nice catching up. Hopefully next week
we'll have Maddie.
Speaker 2 (14:29):
I don't believe him. I about to call him and
be like, are you serious, Matthew and be.
Speaker 1 (14:34):
Nice to him. He's the Celtics guy. Want, Yeah, we
know why I want. I have a question, we know,
we know. Anyway, we'll talk to Marcodbye,
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