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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Welcome to the We Don't Podcast, starring husband and wife
Mojo from Mojo in the Morning and his better half Chelsea.
On this episode.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Coming up on this episode of the We Don't Podcast,
we want to discuss a bunch of things. I want
to follow up on the last episode, which was about
the health scare that you have going on right now,
and then I also want to talk about trapped in
a hurricane, both things that I don't know which one
would be more enjoyable, your healthcare or trapped in a hurricane.
Speaker 3 (00:43):
Let's be getting this podcast.
Speaker 4 (00:44):
Out well, all right, all right, all right, without further delay,
here are Mojo and Chelsea.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
All right, So we didn't do a podcast last week,
last two weeks?
Speaker 3 (01:05):
Last two weeks? Has it been? I think? So?
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Okay, we did not do a podcast one week because
of we wanted to kind of get some stuff in
order for you with what we were talking about on
the last podcast, which if you listened to it, you
heard us talk about you and your your healthcare.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
What's the latest on that? Where you at now?
Speaker 5 (01:29):
Well, the scary thing that they had thought that it
possibly was, I can now reveal that it was MS.
Speaker 6 (01:36):
They thought that I might have MS, and.
Speaker 5 (01:40):
I had a brain scan that was showing possibilities of that,
and so that's why we went on to further testing.
But my neck and spine MRIs came back clean. So
a neurologist has to sign off on it that it's
not MS. But you know, ninety nine nine point eight
(02:01):
percent is not MS, so they said that they can't
say it's not fully a neurologist has to say that
it's not. So I'm waiting to get in to see
a neurologist and that.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
Is a tough thing because it's hard to get doctor's
appointments with anybody right nowadays, no matter you know what
you're trying to do, even just going to get a
regular checkup.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
It's crazy, isn't that?
Speaker 6 (02:25):
How I mean?
Speaker 5 (02:25):
Honestly, I just you know, I was talking to the
person who schedules the appointments with the neurologist and I said,
if I could just drop off my MRIs for him,
and she said, but there's going to be things that
they're going to talk to about the brain scan.
Speaker 6 (02:41):
So I get it. I get it.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
So what about the holistic doctor that you wanted to
go say? And what does it call the functional medicine.
Speaker 6 (02:48):
Functional medicine.
Speaker 5 (02:50):
Yeah, so I have an appointment with her on January sixth,
and I'm on a cancelation list. So what and the
backup with all of this is I got shingles right
after I got COVID in twenty twenty. A couple months later,
I got a really bad case of shingles. And what
has been happening?
Speaker 3 (03:09):
You're not even you weren't even fifty years old.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
You were actually what forty six, which they sayd they
don't even want you to get a vaccine.
Speaker 5 (03:17):
Or obviously your immune system is there, and you know,
actually talking to people, there are a ton of people
who are younger that are getting shingles. And it's really funny,
not funny, but ever since COVID, a lot of people
have been getting shingles. So whatever the coincidence or link
is in that, I have no idea. But anyway, so
(03:39):
I got shingles. I only had the rash on my
right sigh, a little tiny rash, but I had when
I got the nerve pain.
Speaker 6 (03:48):
The nerve pain was on.
Speaker 5 (03:49):
Both sides of my body, which typically when you have shingles,
it's pretty says to one side of your body. But
I'm basically kind of like a unicorn with a lot
of things. So it went on both sides of my
body and it was random all the pain where it was.
Speaker 6 (04:02):
Well. Ever since then, I will continue to.
Speaker 5 (04:06):
Get the shingle pain. No rash, but I get the
shingle pain, and it's all. It will be in different
parts of my body and it typically lasts four weeks,
but it'll be random in a hip and you know,
in a wrist area and it kind of floats around,
goes in and out, but it lasts for four weeks
and is gone. So the last cycle is it has
(04:29):
been four weeks on off, four weeks, four weeks on off,
four weeks and this time, this last time that I
got the pain, it was very intense and it was
basically all over my whole body neck down or actually
collarbone down to my toes, into my fingertips, into my toes.
(04:52):
So that kind of set off the pattern that I
have it and the fact that no rash. But somehow
so that was could be a little trigger that they
thought would be MS. So that's what kickstarted that had
the brain MRI.
Speaker 6 (05:08):
I had some.
Speaker 5 (05:10):
White matter and stuff on my brain, so then it
was Okay, we cannot rule out MS, so let's go
to this.
Speaker 6 (05:19):
And then I was hoping.
Speaker 5 (05:20):
What I was hoping was that it would come back
I would have an auto immune issue. So I had
them also test my blood work for autoimmune, and of
course that came back clean. So what I was expected,
So the whole scare was I was expecting the brain
scanned to come back clean and them to say not MS,
but glad we checked it and checked that box off.
(05:40):
Of course that came back that this could be MS.
We have to further explore. And then I was expecting
the autoimmune to come back that, oh, this is what
it is. It's autoimmune. Your epstein bar is acting up again,
you have you know whatever, and that all came back clean.
So I was just very frustrated, which led me down
the road of Okay, could this be MS. If it
(06:01):
is MSS, we'll deal with it. But it's not, thank god.
And then you know, I have to figure out what
the core issue is and why I'm continuing to have
the nerve pain, which is this time really really bad,
really bad.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
So needless to say, it's been obviously a crazy time. Yes,
do you look at what's happened so far as a
blessing or like, were you thinking worst case scenario?
Speaker 3 (06:35):
Were you thinking I knew in.
Speaker 5 (06:37):
My heart of hearts that it was an MS. That's
a frustrating part Like I did think it was autoimmune.
So when the autoimmune came back that it wasn't, I
was disappointed.
Speaker 6 (06:50):
Funny Tessa had disappointed that I didn't have an automune.
Speaker 5 (06:53):
But I'm just trying to figure out why this is
going on in my body, because it's not normal to
continuously have this shingle pain again and again, and it's
just getting worse and worse and worse and staying longer.
Typically it's four weeks and it goes away. This time
it's been longer than just four weeks, unfortunately, and it
is more intense and a larger part of my body basically,
(07:16):
like I said earlier, collarbone down. And so it's frustrating,
and my nerves are just on edge because I'm in
pain constantly, and so I of course did not want
it to be MS. And again I knew it was
(07:36):
not deep down, but that was frustrating with them just
not saying it's not MS like that, and a little
part of me was scared of course, because they say
that I just I just need I need to figure
out this out. And I believe that I believe that
a functional doctor can give me the answers.
Speaker 6 (07:56):
I really do.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (07:58):
And by the way, we've got great response from.
Speaker 5 (08:00):
Yeah, you guys are so sweet for reaching out and
you know, wishing me well in the messages and it
stain your praying for me, and that it was a
very difficult Yeah, a couple of weeks, and I really
appreciate it. And I'm starting to keep you hanging on
with a you know, we just didn't know. And then
when we finally got answers, we haven't had a podcast,
(08:21):
but to those that have reached out, you know.
Speaker 3 (08:23):
That's it now.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
So you go from this, which we'll continue to keep
you guys updated as you know, as soon as you
have doctor's appointments that hopefully will be in the next
decade for guy's us. But then you go down to
visit Joe down in Florida only to have a hurricane
hit and you are there when it hits, and it
(08:47):
was one of those ones where they said, oh, the
hurricane shouldn't be so bad. There might be some storm surge,
but nobody expected it to be when it ended up being.
We explain, first off, explain what it's what is it
like sitting in you know, uh in an apartment basically
through so and what also.
Speaker 5 (09:08):
Was supposed to happen that time was my cousins and
I always do a girls trip every year, and so
I was flying in on Monday to get ready for
the trip, and then they were flying in on Thursday,
which is the day that the hurricane hit. So obviously,
and here's the thing with Florida and hurricanes, they say
that it's coming, they predict them that they're coming, and
then they'll switch and they move somewhere else and the
(09:31):
direction goes, you know, especially with the Tampa area. There's
something with Florida and Tampa where they just you know,
literally up until the.
Speaker 3 (09:41):
Night of Helene.
Speaker 5 (09:42):
Yeah, when it hit, the joke was, you know, we're
not going to evacuate every We'll be fine.
Speaker 6 (09:48):
It always it always turns.
Speaker 5 (09:51):
So I had gone down in the building that I
was in is a category it's rated category five, so
it's very structurally safe. It's the all concrete sits up high.
I was on the third floor. So and as far
(10:11):
as what a storm surge. So the lowest level of
the building that I was in, so the ground floor
is thirteen feet it was supposed to be they were predicting.
Then I want to say seven feet the highest maybe,
like I can't remember because it just dramatically changed.
Speaker 6 (10:33):
So seven feet.
Speaker 5 (10:34):
So I and where the building that I'm in or
the building that I was in is ocean one side
the building, and then a two lane road and the
inner coastal so the bay on the other side. So
there's literally a two road, a two way street that
(10:55):
is separating us.
Speaker 6 (10:58):
But I felt really safe.
Speaker 5 (10:59):
Like I talk to the neighbors because I thought, well,
should I evacuate and go somewhere else? And what they
were calling for evacuations, it's zone A that I'm in,
that I was in, and they were calling for a
Zone A to evacuate.
Speaker 6 (11:15):
But it was for the medical.
Speaker 5 (11:18):
Like people who were in nursing homes or in so
they were telling them that they should evacuate. And again
that there can be an evacuation, but you don't have
a mandatory evacuation. But you don't have to evacuate the
problem is if you have an emergency, they're not coming
to you like you you chose to stay, and I
(11:38):
felt really, really, really safe, and during the storm, I
felt really safe. I didn't again the building was so
strong that I didn't hear the winds like I knew
obviously there was a storm outside. When I would peek
my head out, I didn't get worried until I saw
that there was like a river on that too road
(12:00):
to Lane Street. Then I thought, oh shit, this is
pretty serious.
Speaker 6 (12:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (12:06):
And then in the morning when I walked around and
went down, after I talked to a couple of people
that were in the building, we decided to all go
look around together at the same time. And then you
saw just the devastation. Like just outside of the building
that we were in, there was some beachfront homes that
(12:32):
were on sea level and they were I ended up
helping this woman all day and all night try to
basically dig out her possessions.
Speaker 6 (12:40):
It was just devastating.
Speaker 5 (12:44):
The road was just sand and it was and inches
upon inches upon inches of sand and debris. There were
full sized palm trees on the beach.
Speaker 2 (12:58):
It was just And then it was days later, because
you were down there for a good period of time.
Days later, you're hearing stories of them going and searching
out and then that's when they were finding people.
Speaker 6 (13:13):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, it was pretty sad.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
I was getting calls up until that point because you
were down there and like, why is Chelsea down there?
Speaker 3 (13:20):
Why why did she?
Speaker 2 (13:21):
You know, Joe and her and you know, Joe's girlfriend
and Joe's show should be evacuated and stuff, And it's
a different thing. Florida is a really different I mean,
the people like that that I just can't believe. And
I'm so sad for the people that never experienced a
hurricane ever that were in Georgia and then yeah, North
(13:46):
Carolina and Tennessee that this to them was just a
hurricane of rain they thought, and did they not then
they did not understand the magnitude of how much water
was going to.
Speaker 5 (13:57):
The reason that I understood that it was so bad
where I was in the Tampa area is because it
was the dirty side of it of the storm. So
I guess that just meant and from what I understand,
and I could be so wrong on that, people can
correct me if I'm wrong, But the dirty side of
it was it was just with the storm surge, so
(14:19):
it was wasn't as bad as wasn't so much of
the wind as it was the storm surge that came up,
and it was a quick one.
Speaker 6 (14:27):
It was really.
Speaker 5 (14:28):
Really fast, and I was really lucky in the sense
that the power went out in the building at five
thirty it came back on the next day at seven
thirty pm, so it was out for fourteen hours, which
was good.
Speaker 6 (14:45):
Exactly nothing.
Speaker 5 (14:47):
And then the only thing that really stunk was I
wasn't really prepared as far as food went, so because
you know, I'm on the what they call the Barrier Islands.
I was on the Barrier Islands and the only thing
that connects you, obviously to the other side of the bridge.
Speaker 6 (15:01):
And they closed all of the.
Speaker 5 (15:03):
Bridges going from the Barrier Islands to the main Tampa
area because they wanted to make they wanted to secure
everything and make sure and it was just so much
devastation on the islands that they wanted to make sure
that they, you know, secure everything, take care and try
to clear out because literally, like I said, it was
just sand, sand and debris and.
Speaker 3 (15:24):
Lots of uh.
Speaker 5 (15:26):
The water had receded by the next morning, there wasn't
standing water. You the water marks that we when we
were walking around like you would see on the cottages
and the lower homes. It was four feet minimum. Yeah,
So it was it was.
Speaker 2 (15:44):
Just in what's in what we're seeing too with the
the you know, devastation of people that you know more
than likely have lost their lives from Helene, you know,
making it the I can most devastating hurricane of all
time to Katrina's I.
Speaker 5 (16:04):
Bet this will start pass Katrina once they get all
of the numbers and people missing. Oh hundreds, they said,
hundreds of people and bodies that are just being they
can't they don't have.
Speaker 6 (16:15):
Enough body backs in North Carolina. Just sad.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
And on this iHeartRadio app that we're on the We
Don't podcast, there's actually right there when you go on there,
if you're listening to us on there or if not,
go to the heart radio app. There's literally information on
how you can help out because I think a lot
of people just pretty much move on. They move on
to the next storm, and unfortunately the next dorm is
coming this week, which we talked to Joe. You got
(16:41):
home just a day ago, and now Joe is preparing
for another.
Speaker 6 (16:48):
And he's evacuated, and yeah, they're.
Speaker 2 (16:50):
Evacuating, and they're not, and they're not even risking it
at all. They're not even going to wait to see
what level of this thing is going to be at well.
Speaker 5 (16:56):
So Helene was the four when it finally made landfall,
they're expecting this Milton to be a three. But it's
the problem with this one is it's going to be
more or less a direct hit in the Tampa area,
which is even so when I left the area that
(17:16):
I was in, there were piles upon piles upon piles
of debris, you know, fencing and people were just cleaning
out their homes with furniture, you know, because everything is
just wet and full of sand and dirt and sewage
water because water it was contaminated, so on the streets,
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I mean piles, some piles were like eight feet high.
Speaker 6 (17:44):
They were so so of debris.
Speaker 5 (17:47):
So which right now, if this storm comes in, that's
just things that can be flying through the air with
the wind.
Speaker 6 (17:57):
So hopefully they're able to this up.
Speaker 5 (18:00):
But the problem is too, we were talking to Joe earlier,
the drainage there is full of sand from this last one,
so it's hard to get them out, and their flood
zones the way that they are where Joe's apartment is
he's flood zone B, which he's you know, so he
will I'm sure regardless he's leaving anyway, but he would have.
(18:20):
He'll probably be mandatory evacuated as well. But his building
has a generator. Like there are things that he Luckily
he did not evacuate. The last one he stayed as well.
His water was turned off for about twenty four hours,
which they really did to prepare for, Like I filled
up a bathtub full of water, like, They're just things
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that I thought in my head, Oh, I should be doing.
They forgot to do that, and unfortunately they lost water.
But he and he and I could not see each
other because again I'm on the island and he is
in mainland, so we couldn't. It took me, I think,
until Tuesday when the bridge was finally open to when
I could go see him.
Speaker 2 (19:01):
You get home and we see each other for like
an hour and a half or two hours. We sleep
that night, and then you had to go to mom's
weekend at the fraternity.
Speaker 3 (19:11):
Yep.
Speaker 2 (19:12):
So if you could rank them all your healthcare, the.
Speaker 5 (19:18):
Hurricanes and a couple active weeks and I turned fifty
in there too.
Speaker 3 (19:22):
Yeah, right, I forgot about that.
Speaker 2 (19:23):
Yeah, how well, first off, talk about the We'll talk
fifty at the end, but tell me about the moms.
Speaker 3 (19:32):
It was Mom's day with his fraternity.
Speaker 5 (19:35):
Yeah, it was really fun. I drove up on Saturday morning.
And if you guys remember when we dropped him off
at the fraternity, it was so disgusting and filthy and gross,
and as a matter of fact, a lot of us
moms were talking about how disgusting it was and we
couldn't believe we were leaving our boys there. But it
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was really clean the fraternity. The house was spotless, I
mean spotless, and so I've never seen it look like that.
Last year when we went for our parents did they clean?
Speaker 6 (20:10):
They did? They cleaned it up for the moms really, yeah,
and it was so cute. They decorated it. It was, Yes,
it was really really cute.
Speaker 3 (20:20):
It's so funny because I went to a dad's weekend.
Speaker 6 (20:23):
Let's and it was a shit show.
Speaker 3 (20:26):
Yeah it was, well, I bet the couch was out.
Speaker 5 (20:29):
Yeah. Well for our parents weekend, which is in a month,
I'm sure it's going to be gross again, but they Yeah,
it was really because when we went for parents weekend
last year, it was discussing it was pretty bad. Yeah,
it was really bad, but no, it was really good.
His room was really good. I mean the whole I
was shocked how clean it was. It was really Again,
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they decorated it really cute on the main floor and
they had, you know, a little area where you could
They did a homemade line where you and do take
a picture with.
Speaker 6 (21:01):
Your mom a step and repeat.
Speaker 3 (21:04):
We posted it's up on the We Don't Yeah Yeah podcast.
That was inscute.
Speaker 5 (21:08):
That was fun, And then we went to They rented
out a bar, so we went to a bar and
just so many kids and their moms.
Speaker 6 (21:16):
It was a lot of fun.
Speaker 5 (21:18):
A lot of kids that Luke went to high school
with from even other fraternities that came over to.
Speaker 6 (21:23):
Say hi, and so that was fun and it was
just fun. It was a lot of a lot of.
Speaker 2 (21:31):
So let me ask you this, because if I find
as time goes on and I get to experience things
with the boys, I will always reminisce.
Speaker 3 (21:39):
I'm a reminiscer.
Speaker 2 (21:40):
I like to look back at the past and I
will think of their days. And I think maybe because
Facebook memories gives me this, but you know, you think
about the Mom's days that you had where you would
go to his grade school and they would make you
you know how the kids would always make like home
made Mother's Day gifts and stuff to think. Then fast forward,
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and this is for anybody that has any kids at all.
Your kids will be of one level at one point
or not. How weird is it for you to think
back on that, even if you're thinking right now about it.
Speaker 5 (22:14):
I know, yeah, I guess when I'm there, I don't
really I wasn't really thinking about stuff like that, but
I was just trying to be in the moment and
enjoy it and experience and just with all of the
moms to get to see them, you know, like some moms.
Speaker 6 (22:28):
It says their first.
Speaker 5 (22:29):
Some like us, like me, it's my baby. And then
just you know, the older because Luca is a sophomore,
the upper classman who come up and you know, tell
you stories of your son that some you want to hear,
some don't.
Speaker 6 (22:43):
You want to hear.
Speaker 3 (22:44):
But and lucas considered for this.
Speaker 2 (22:48):
He's considered the youngest in the fraternity because he is
a sophomore, a full member of the fraternity, but he
was pledging last year when he was doing it. Did
you just notice that there was something special or something
different with like the moms who have a kid that's
like a senior.
Speaker 6 (23:05):
Oh yeah, I mean yes.
Speaker 5 (23:07):
They all were just saying, oh my gosh, I remember now,
I could have gone last year when he was pledging
some of the freshmen moms can come, but he didn't know,
Like he was back and forth, and then I happened
to be out of town when it happened, and he's like, well,
you can come. I said, well, it's too late because
I'm not in town.
Speaker 3 (23:25):
Yeah, I like told you that week or.
Speaker 5 (23:27):
Something, well a couple days before he wasn't. Yeah, so
this is yeah, but it's funny because some of the
senior moms exactly were like, we can't believe it's gone
by so fast, and this is the best day of
the year, and they all, you know, they set up.
It started at eleven o'clock in the morning, and there
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was a table of mimosas that the boys make you,
and so I said, just give me a range juice
because I knew it was going to be a long
day of drinking. And so they just they would momosas
with a Jimmy John sub At eleven so it was
very I guess last year it was mimosas the donuts,
but this year they stepped it up at the Jimmy
(24:09):
Johns and at the bar they offered you pizza, yeah,
with the alcohol, with the stickiest floor I've ever been
on in that bar.
Speaker 6 (24:20):
So gross.
Speaker 2 (24:21):
So I'm going to ask you this question because I
always love to hear your perspective on this, because I'm
always talking on the air about things, and I kind
of I'm usually the woman in the relationship, right I'm
the more emotional one. Thinking about all of the years
that you've had with Luke specifically, because that's what we're
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talking about, and the other boys didn't do the fraternity thing.
What mom son thing that you've done with Luke over
the years, to you was one of the most memorable
that you've ever had.
Speaker 5 (24:53):
Well, So there was this when where he gosh, I
want to say, maybe he was in second great and
it was a mom's night and it was a dance
at his school, and I can still picture in my
mind the picture of us, not have to dig it up,
but it was like we have I have big glasses.
Speaker 6 (25:15):
On my face and he's in my eyes.
Speaker 5 (25:19):
Just props that they had like pictures to take pictures,
and I remember that being a really fun night just
the two of us, like going to school.
Speaker 6 (25:31):
We went to dinner.
Speaker 5 (25:32):
Beforehand, like made it like a little very special night,
but also like realizing that he is in the step
of becoming more independent, like at a certain age or
just everything to them. And I like when they're really
really young, when you go to school events, they're glued
to your side.
Speaker 6 (25:51):
They don't run around, they don't have fun with their friends.
Speaker 5 (25:54):
But I remember him really going off and playing with
his friends a lot that night, and I thought, here
we go, Like it's one of the independent steps that
they take, you know, that's so much fun.
Speaker 2 (26:07):
Do you have any advice for any you know, moms
that could be listening right now and things that you
either did that made things extra special or some some
things that maybe you kind.
Speaker 5 (26:19):
Of wish you would have done, I mean looking back
at and there's always regrets or things I wish I
would have done differently, like who cares about dishes being
in the sink or not being in the sink when
you go to bed because I should have been I
think I think I rushed to put them to bed
more at a certain time where I should have been
spending more time with them, like who cares?
Speaker 6 (26:40):
Who cares?
Speaker 5 (26:41):
I would always think, Okay, I want my house to
be clean before I go to bed. Who cares that
they'll be there the next day or whatever, and rushing
to get everything done.
Speaker 6 (26:51):
I think I would have.
Speaker 5 (26:52):
I wish I would have stayed in the moment a
little bit more. But that it's hard because when you're
in it and you want things done a certain way.
Speaker 6 (27:00):
I totally get that.
Speaker 5 (27:02):
Looking back on it, I realize there's always going to
be a dirty dish, there's always going to be clothes
to pick up, and there will always be toys to
be put away. I wish I would have just let
that go a little bit more, and you know, realize
that my time, your time with them is so limited,
which is everyone knows. But when you're wrapped up in
(27:24):
the moment, I mean, I get it feels like it's
never going to end.
Speaker 6 (27:26):
It's just really hard.
Speaker 5 (27:27):
I don't think I think you can tell someone enjoyed
as much as you can, but the truth is, when
you're in it, you're in it. It's like really hard
to so easy to look back on it.
Speaker 2 (27:37):
We had a single mom call us up within the
last few months on the air and say that her
favorite time of the night is when her kids take
their baths and go to bed, because she finally has
moments to herself.
Speaker 6 (27:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (27:50):
And as you're saying that, I'm thinking that, and I
know that is a great moment because you finally get
time to yourself. But a lot of times we rush
to get to the bath and the bed, and we
put all the pressure on ourselves to try to make
everything perfect in between. Yeah, when in reality, sitting on
(28:11):
the couch together, probably couch time is probably one of
the best times that you can ever have.
Speaker 5 (28:15):
Or even snuggle time with them up in their bed.
Like I really miss that time, you know, I miss
being able to just walk in the room and lay
down with them and just try to talk about.
Speaker 6 (28:30):
The day or But I get it.
Speaker 5 (28:31):
I get it when you are in that moment, and
it is just so hard, and it does take sometimes
everything in you just to get moment to moment to moment,
So it's really hard. I can understand that you're probably like, Okay,
shut up telling me, trying to enjoy the moment, but
it is true. I mean, and I just think that
that's how life is. Right, Like, when you're in it,
(28:53):
it feels like this hurricane or this to do list,
and then when you're out of it, you just wish
you could have enjoyed it more.
Speaker 2 (29:00):
Yeah, the conversation about hurricanes earlier and then this kind
of always tie themselves into each other. But they always
say that after a hurricane, something spectacular happens, you know.
Speaker 5 (29:15):
Can I tell you the day after the hurricane was
the most beautiful, calm, serene day. It was almost eerily quiet. Yeah,
but Blue skuys it was beautiful.
Speaker 2 (29:30):
But it's wild because after tragedy, I feel like we've
learned in our lives that we all pull things together,
and we all we all get you know, get nicer, maybe,
I think for.
Speaker 6 (29:41):
A little bit.
Speaker 5 (29:42):
Yeah, to see people help each other, strangers help each
other was amazing.
Speaker 2 (29:47):
So sometimes after the craziness is you know, and you're
kind of realizing this of raising your kids that sometimes
looking back on it and just being able to enjoy
it is cool. You don't look too bad for fifty.
Oh thanks, how's it feel to be How does it
feel to be fifty? You're actually, I'll be honest with you. Yeah,
And I think they this happens. I think you prepare
(30:08):
yourself for a big day like that, like thirty, forty, fifty,
whatever it might be. You always try to exercise more,
watch what you're seeing, look, and then you fall.
Speaker 3 (30:17):
Off the fucking wagon, Chelsea, get ready for fifty one?
Speaker 6 (30:20):
Oh thanks. I here's the thing.
Speaker 5 (30:23):
I like everyone said, don't you just so not everyone,
but load to my friends, aren't you just so depressed?
Speaker 6 (30:29):
That number? That number? And honestly, up until the day I.
Speaker 5 (30:33):
Turned fifty's totally fine with it. And then I realize
that is a big number, Like, Okay, that is a
big number. I mean, the sad part of it is
you've lived a huge part of your life already, and
we could do another podcast on you know what the
(30:53):
heck that looks like and feels like as far as
what you have left and what you want to do
with that time in.
Speaker 3 (31:03):
It.
Speaker 6 (31:03):
So it does hit me.
Speaker 5 (31:05):
It has hit me a little bit more the reality
of it when I turned fifty, But I also have
had all these other distractions going on that it kind
of really hasn't sunk in.
Speaker 2 (31:14):
Yeah, that pretty fifty has been It's been a pretty
It's been hectic.
Speaker 5 (31:20):
Very very but you know, at the end of the day,
all is good. But yeah, it's it's it has been
a very hectic That is very true.
Speaker 3 (31:29):
You know, it's wild.
Speaker 2 (31:30):
It is fifty to me doesn't feel old because I'm
fifty four, right, but fifty But.
Speaker 6 (31:35):
When you say the number doesn't sound.
Speaker 2 (31:36):
Old, no, because it did when i was fifty, okay,
but now that I'm fifty four, I'm like, fuck fifty
to fifty it was easy. But like the other day,
we were on the air and we were talking about
a celebrity, one of the guys from Days of Our Lives,
the guy that played Bow on Days of Our Lives,
Oh or not bo whatever his name, John John John.
(31:57):
I'm being able to die to seventy three years old? Yeah,
And Megan goes, he was old. No, And Megan's thirty
three or something like that, or thirty two years old
whatever she is. And I'm like, but wait a second.
That means when you're fifty, you're only going to be
alive for twenty some more years. And that's when you
start realizing. You're like, oh my god.
Speaker 6 (32:17):
Yeah, yeah, it's very true.
Speaker 2 (32:20):
And time goes We all know how quick time went
by to get to you being fifty.
Speaker 5 (32:25):
Yeah, well, there were some times that it felt like forever, well,
meaning like I think when you become a parent, those
first six weeks of your baby's life. For me, the
first six weeks were the longest six weeks ever. But
then once they hit six weeks, it was like a marathon.
Speaker 6 (32:43):
You know.
Speaker 5 (32:43):
There are some days, of course, when they're sick, and
when you know that you feel like this will never end,
and you wish for them to be older, and.
Speaker 6 (32:54):
But it does.
Speaker 5 (32:55):
And I'm sure people just hate when people say it
goes by so fast, enjoy every moment.
Speaker 3 (33:00):
I can tell that when I say that too.
Speaker 6 (33:02):
I know a new parent, brand new parent.
Speaker 5 (33:04):
I know you, I know, but it's it's you know,
it is true. It is just so true. It does
go by fast.
Speaker 3 (33:12):
Well, this podcast went by fast.
Speaker 6 (33:14):
Oh okay, let me guess how many minutes? How many
thirty four?
Speaker 3 (33:19):
I just under that.
Speaker 5 (33:20):
Oh see, because I can tell when he's ready to
wrap up, and I know it's just over thirty minutes.
Speaker 6 (33:26):
I can see it in his eyes.
Speaker 2 (33:27):
Well, if I keep going a little bit longer, you'll
be fifty one.
Speaker 3 (33:30):
So I just want to end this thing right now.
Welcome to the We Don't Podcast, starring husband and wife
Mojo from Mojo in the Morning and his better half Chelsea.
On this episode.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Coming up on this episode of the We Don't Podcast,
we want to discuss a bunch of things. I want
to follow up on the last episode, which was about
the health scare that you have going on right now,
and then I also want to talk about trapped in
a hurricane, both things that I don't know which one
would be more enjoyable, your healthcare or trapped in a hurricane.
Speaker 3 (00:43):
Let's be getting this podcast.
Speaker 4 (00:44):
Out well, all right, all right, all right, without further delay,
here are Mojo and Chelsea.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
All right, So we didn't do a podcast last week,
last two weeks?
Speaker 3 (01:05):
Last two weeks? Has it been? I think? So?
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Okay, we did not do a podcast one week because
of we wanted to kind of get some stuff in
order for you with what we were talking about on
the last podcast, which if you listened to it, you
heard us talk about you and your your healthcare.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
What's the latest on that? Where you at now?
Speaker 5 (01:29):
Well, the scary thing that they had thought that it
possibly was, I can now reveal that it was MS.
Speaker 6 (01:36):
They thought that I might have MS, and.
Speaker 5 (01:40):
I had a brain scan that was showing possibilities of that,
and so that's why we went on to further testing.
But my neck and spine MRIs came back clean. So
a neurologist has to sign off on it that it's
not MS. But you know, ninety nine nine point eight
(02:01):
percent is not MS, so they said that they can't
say it's not fully a neurologist has to say that
it's not. So I'm waiting to get in to see
a neurologist and that.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
Is a tough thing because it's hard to get doctor's
appointments with anybody right nowadays, no matter you know what
you're trying to do, even just going to get a
regular checkup.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
It's crazy, isn't that?
Speaker 6 (02:25):
How I mean?
Speaker 5 (02:25):
Honestly, I just you know, I was talking to the
person who schedules the appointments with the neurologist and I said,
if I could just drop off my MRIs for him,
and she said, but there's going to be things that
they're going to talk to about the brain scan.
Speaker 6 (02:41):
So I get it. I get it.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
So what about the holistic doctor that you wanted to
go say? And what does it call the functional medicine.
Speaker 6 (02:48):
Functional medicine.
Speaker 5 (02:50):
Yeah, so I have an appointment with her on January sixth,
and I'm on a cancelation list. So what and the
backup with all of this is I got shingles right
after I got COVID in twenty twenty. A couple months later,
I got a really bad case of shingles. And what
has been happening?
Speaker 3 (03:09):
You're not even you weren't even fifty years old.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
You were actually what forty six, which they sayd they
don't even want you to get a vaccine.
Speaker 5 (03:17):
Or obviously your immune system is there, and you know,
actually talking to people, there are a ton of people
who are younger that are getting shingles. And it's really funny,
not funny, but ever since COVID, a lot of people
have been getting shingles. So whatever the coincidence or link
is in that, I have no idea. But anyway, so
(03:39):
I got shingles. I only had the rash on my
right sigh, a little tiny rash, but I had when
I got the nerve pain.
Speaker 6 (03:48):
The nerve pain was on.
Speaker 5 (03:49):
Both sides of my body, which typically when you have shingles,
it's pretty says to one side of your body. But
I'm basically kind of like a unicorn with a lot
of things. So it went on both sides of my
body and it was random all the pain where it was.
Speaker 6 (04:02):
Well. Ever since then, I will continue to.
Speaker 5 (04:06):
Get the shingle pain. No rash, but I get the
shingle pain, and it's all. It will be in different
parts of my body and it typically lasts four weeks,
but it'll be random in a hip and you know,
in a wrist area and it kind of floats around,
goes in and out, but it lasts for four weeks
and is gone. So the last cycle is it has
(04:29):
been four weeks on off, four weeks, four weeks on off,
four weeks and this time, this last time that I
got the pain, it was very intense and it was
basically all over my whole body neck down or actually
collarbone down to my toes, into my fingertips, into my toes.
(04:52):
So that kind of set off the pattern that I
have it and the fact that no rash. But somehow
so that was could be a little trigger that they
thought would be MS. So that's what kickstarted that had
the brain MRI.
Speaker 6 (05:08):
I had some.
Speaker 5 (05:10):
White matter and stuff on my brain, so then it
was Okay, we cannot rule out MS, so let's go
to this.
Speaker 6 (05:19):
And then I was hoping.
Speaker 5 (05:20):
What I was hoping was that it would come back
I would have an auto immune issue. So I had
them also test my blood work for autoimmune, and of
course that came back clean. So what I was expected,
So the whole scare was I was expecting the brain
scanned to come back clean and them to say not MS,
but glad we checked it and checked that box off.
(05:40):
Of course that came back that this could be MS.
We have to further explore. And then I was expecting
the autoimmune to come back that, oh, this is what
it is. It's autoimmune. Your epstein bar is acting up again,
you have you know whatever, and that all came back clean.
So I was just very frustrated, which led me down
the road of Okay, could this be MS. If it
(06:01):
is MSS, we'll deal with it. But it's not, thank god.
And then you know, I have to figure out what
the core issue is and why I'm continuing to have
the nerve pain, which is this time really really bad,
really bad.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
So needless to say, it's been obviously a crazy time. Yes,
do you look at what's happened so far as a
blessing or like, were you thinking worst case scenario?
Speaker 3 (06:35):
Were you thinking I knew in.
Speaker 5 (06:37):
My heart of hearts that it was an MS. That's
a frustrating part Like I did think it was autoimmune.
So when the autoimmune came back that it wasn't, I
was disappointed.
Speaker 6 (06:50):
Funny Tessa had disappointed that I didn't have an automune.
Speaker 5 (06:53):
But I'm just trying to figure out why this is
going on in my body, because it's not normal to
continuously have this shingle pain again and again, and it's
just getting worse and worse and worse and staying longer.
Typically it's four weeks and it goes away. This time
it's been longer than just four weeks, unfortunately, and it
is more intense and a larger part of my body basically,
(07:16):
like I said earlier, collarbone down. And so it's frustrating,
and my nerves are just on edge because I'm in
pain constantly, and so I of course did not want
it to be MS. And again I knew it was
(07:36):
not deep down, but that was frustrating with them just
not saying it's not MS like that, and a little
part of me was scared of course, because they say
that I just I just need I need to figure
out this out. And I believe that I believe that
a functional doctor can give me the answers.
Speaker 6 (07:56):
I really do.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (07:58):
And by the way, we've got great response from.
Speaker 5 (08:00):
Yeah, you guys are so sweet for reaching out and
you know, wishing me well in the messages and it
stain your praying for me, and that it was a
very difficult Yeah, a couple of weeks, and I really
appreciate it. And I'm starting to keep you hanging on
with a you know, we just didn't know. And then
when we finally got answers, we haven't had a podcast,
(08:21):
but to those that have reached out, you know.
Speaker 3 (08:23):
That's it now.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
So you go from this, which we'll continue to keep
you guys updated as you know, as soon as you
have doctor's appointments that hopefully will be in the next
decade for guy's us. But then you go down to
visit Joe down in Florida only to have a hurricane
hit and you are there when it hits, and it
(08:47):
was one of those ones where they said, oh, the
hurricane shouldn't be so bad. There might be some storm surge,
but nobody expected it to be when it ended up being.
We explain, first off, explain what it's what is it
like sitting in you know, uh in an apartment basically
through so and what also.
Speaker 5 (09:08):
Was supposed to happen that time was my cousins and
I always do a girls trip every year, and so
I was flying in on Monday to get ready for
the trip, and then they were flying in on Thursday,
which is the day that the hurricane hit. So obviously,
and here's the thing with Florida and hurricanes, they say
that it's coming, they predict them that they're coming, and
then they'll switch and they move somewhere else and the
(09:31):
direction goes, you know, especially with the Tampa area. There's
something with Florida and Tampa where they just you know,
literally up until the.
Speaker 3 (09:41):
Night of Helene.
Speaker 5 (09:42):
Yeah, when it hit, the joke was, you know, we're
not going to evacuate every We'll be fine.
Speaker 6 (09:48):
It always it always turns.
Speaker 5 (09:51):
So I had gone down in the building that I
was in is a category it's rated category five, so
it's very structurally safe. It's the all concrete sits up high.
I was on the third floor. So and as far
(10:11):
as what a storm surge. So the lowest level of
the building that I was in, so the ground floor
is thirteen feet it was supposed to be they were predicting.
Then I want to say seven feet the highest maybe,
like I can't remember because it just dramatically changed.
Speaker 6 (10:33):
So seven feet.
Speaker 5 (10:34):
So I and where the building that I'm in or
the building that I was in is ocean one side
the building, and then a two lane road and the
inner coastal so the bay on the other side. So
there's literally a two road, a two way street that
(10:55):
is separating us.
Speaker 6 (10:58):
But I felt really safe.
Speaker 5 (10:59):
Like I talk to the neighbors because I thought, well,
should I evacuate and go somewhere else? And what they
were calling for evacuations, it's zone A that I'm in,
that I was in, and they were calling for a
Zone A to evacuate.
Speaker 6 (11:15):
But it was for the medical.
Speaker 5 (11:18):
Like people who were in nursing homes or in so
they were telling them that they should evacuate. And again
that there can be an evacuation, but you don't have
a mandatory evacuation. But you don't have to evacuate the
problem is if you have an emergency, they're not coming
to you like you you chose to stay, and I
(11:38):
felt really, really, really safe, and during the storm, I
felt really safe. I didn't again the building was so
strong that I didn't hear the winds like I knew
obviously there was a storm outside. When I would peek
my head out, I didn't get worried until I saw
that there was like a river on that too road
(12:00):
to Lane Street. Then I thought, oh shit, this is
pretty serious.
Speaker 6 (12:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (12:06):
And then in the morning when I walked around and
went down, after I talked to a couple of people
that were in the building, we decided to all go
look around together at the same time. And then you
saw just the devastation. Like just outside of the building
that we were in, there was some beachfront homes that
(12:32):
were on sea level and they were I ended up
helping this woman all day and all night try to
basically dig out her possessions.
Speaker 6 (12:40):
It was just devastating.
Speaker 5 (12:44):
The road was just sand and it was and inches
upon inches upon inches of sand and debris. There were
full sized palm trees on the beach.
Speaker 2 (12:58):
It was just And then it was days later, because
you were down there for a good period of time.
Days later, you're hearing stories of them going and searching
out and then that's when they were finding people.
Speaker 6 (13:13):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, it was pretty sad.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
I was getting calls up until that point because you
were down there and like, why is Chelsea down there?
Speaker 3 (13:20):
Why why did she?
Speaker 2 (13:21):
You know, Joe and her and you know, Joe's girlfriend
and Joe's show should be evacuated and stuff, And it's
a different thing. Florida is a really different I mean,
the people like that that I just can't believe. And
I'm so sad for the people that never experienced a
hurricane ever that were in Georgia and then yeah, North
(13:46):
Carolina and Tennessee that this to them was just a
hurricane of rain they thought, and did they not then
they did not understand the magnitude of how much water
was going to.
Speaker 5 (13:57):
The reason that I understood that it was so bad
where I was in the Tampa area is because it
was the dirty side of it of the storm. So
I guess that just meant and from what I understand,
and I could be so wrong on that, people can
correct me if I'm wrong, But the dirty side of
it was it was just with the storm surge, so
(14:19):
it was wasn't as bad as wasn't so much of
the wind as it was the storm surge that came up,
and it was a quick one.
Speaker 6 (14:27):
It was really.
Speaker 5 (14:28):
Really fast, and I was really lucky in the sense
that the power went out in the building at five
thirty it came back on the next day at seven
thirty pm, so it was out for fourteen hours, which
was good.
Speaker 6 (14:45):
Exactly nothing.
Speaker 5 (14:47):
And then the only thing that really stunk was I
wasn't really prepared as far as food went, so because
you know, I'm on the what they call the Barrier Islands.
I was on the Barrier Islands and the only thing
that connects you, obviously to the other side of the bridge.
Speaker 6 (15:01):
And they closed all of the.
Speaker 5 (15:03):
Bridges going from the Barrier Islands to the main Tampa
area because they wanted to make they wanted to secure
everything and make sure and it was just so much
devastation on the islands that they wanted to make sure
that they, you know, secure everything, take care and try
to clear out because literally, like I said, it was
just sand, sand and debris and.
Speaker 3 (15:24):
Lots of uh.
Speaker 5 (15:26):
The water had receded by the next morning, there wasn't
standing water. You the water marks that we when we
were walking around like you would see on the cottages
and the lower homes. It was four feet minimum. Yeah,
So it was it was.
Speaker 2 (15:44):
Just in what's in what we're seeing too with the
the you know, devastation of people that you know more
than likely have lost their lives from Helene, you know,
making it the I can most devastating hurricane of all
time to Katrina's I.
Speaker 5 (16:04):
Bet this will start pass Katrina once they get all
of the numbers and people missing. Oh hundreds, they said,
hundreds of people and bodies that are just being they
can't they don't have.
Speaker 6 (16:15):
Enough body backs in North Carolina. Just sad.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
And on this iHeartRadio app that we're on the We
Don't podcast, there's actually right there when you go on there,
if you're listening to us on there or if not,
go to the heart radio app. There's literally information on
how you can help out because I think a lot
of people just pretty much move on. They move on
to the next storm, and unfortunately the next dorm is
coming this week, which we talked to Joe. You got
(16:41):
home just a day ago, and now Joe is preparing
for another.
Speaker 6 (16:48):
And he's evacuated, and yeah, they're.
Speaker 2 (16:50):
Evacuating, and they're not, and they're not even risking it
at all. They're not even going to wait to see
what level of this thing is going to be at well.
Speaker 5 (16:56):
So Helene was the four when it finally made landfall,
they're expecting this Milton to be a three. But it's
the problem with this one is it's going to be
more or less a direct hit in the Tampa area,
which is even so when I left the area that
(17:16):
I was in, there were piles upon piles upon piles
of debris, you know, fencing and people were just cleaning
out their homes with furniture, you know, because everything is
just wet and full of sand and dirt and sewage
water because water it was contaminated, so on the streets,
(17:39):
I mean piles, some piles were like eight feet high.
Speaker 6 (17:44):
They were so so of debris.
Speaker 5 (17:47):
So which right now, if this storm comes in, that's
just things that can be flying through the air with
the wind.
Speaker 6 (17:57):
So hopefully they're able to this up.
Speaker 5 (18:00):
But the problem is too, we were talking to Joe earlier,
the drainage there is full of sand from this last one,
so it's hard to get them out, and their flood
zones the way that they are where Joe's apartment is
he's flood zone B, which he's you know, so he
will I'm sure regardless he's leaving anyway, but he would have.
(18:20):
He'll probably be mandatory evacuated as well. But his building
has a generator. Like there are things that he Luckily
he did not evacuate. The last one he stayed as well.
His water was turned off for about twenty four hours,
which they really did to prepare for, Like I filled
up a bathtub full of water, like, They're just things
(18:42):
that I thought in my head, Oh, I should be doing.
They forgot to do that, and unfortunately they lost water.
But he and he and I could not see each
other because again I'm on the island and he is
in mainland, so we couldn't. It took me, I think,
until Tuesday when the bridge was finally open to when
I could go see him.
Speaker 2 (19:01):
You get home and we see each other for like
an hour and a half or two hours. We sleep
that night, and then you had to go to mom's
weekend at the fraternity.
Speaker 3 (19:11):
Yep.
Speaker 2 (19:12):
So if you could rank them all your healthcare, the.
Speaker 5 (19:18):
Hurricanes and a couple active weeks and I turned fifty
in there too.
Speaker 3 (19:22):
Yeah, right, I forgot about that.
Speaker 2 (19:23):
Yeah, how well, first off, talk about the We'll talk
fifty at the end, but tell me about the moms.
Speaker 3 (19:32):
It was Mom's day with his fraternity.
Speaker 5 (19:35):
Yeah, it was really fun. I drove up on Saturday morning.
And if you guys remember when we dropped him off
at the fraternity, it was so disgusting and filthy and gross,
and as a matter of fact, a lot of us
moms were talking about how disgusting it was and we
couldn't believe we were leaving our boys there. But it
(19:56):
was really clean the fraternity. The house was spotless, I
mean spotless, and so I've never seen it look like that.
Last year when we went for our parents did they clean?
Speaker 6 (20:10):
They did? They cleaned it up for the moms really, yeah,
and it was so cute. They decorated it. It was, Yes,
it was really really cute.
Speaker 3 (20:20):
It's so funny because I went to a dad's weekend.
Speaker 6 (20:23):
Let's and it was a shit show.
Speaker 3 (20:26):
Yeah it was, well, I bet the couch was out.
Speaker 5 (20:29):
Yeah. Well for our parents weekend, which is in a month,
I'm sure it's going to be gross again, but they Yeah,
it was really because when we went for parents weekend
last year, it was discussing it was pretty bad. Yeah,
it was really bad, but no, it was really good.
His room was really good. I mean the whole I
was shocked how clean it was. It was really Again,
(20:51):
they decorated it really cute on the main floor and
they had, you know, a little area where you could
They did a homemade line where you and do take
a picture with.
Speaker 6 (21:01):
Your mom a step and repeat.
Speaker 3 (21:04):
We posted it's up on the We Don't Yeah Yeah podcast.
That was inscute.
Speaker 5 (21:08):
That was fun, And then we went to They rented
out a bar, so we went to a bar and
just so many kids and their moms.
Speaker 6 (21:16):
It was a lot of fun.
Speaker 5 (21:18):
A lot of kids that Luke went to high school
with from even other fraternities that came over to.
Speaker 6 (21:23):
Say hi, and so that was fun and it was
just fun. It was a lot of a lot of.
Speaker 2 (21:31):
So let me ask you this, because if I find
as time goes on and I get to experience things
with the boys, I will always reminisce.
Speaker 3 (21:39):
I'm a reminiscer.
Speaker 2 (21:40):
I like to look back at the past and I
will think of their days. And I think maybe because
Facebook memories gives me this, but you know, you think
about the Mom's days that you had where you would
go to his grade school and they would make you
you know how the kids would always make like home
made Mother's Day gifts and stuff to think. Then fast forward,
(22:04):
and this is for anybody that has any kids at all.
Your kids will be of one level at one point
or not. How weird is it for you to think
back on that, even if you're thinking right now about it.
Speaker 5 (22:14):
I know, yeah, I guess when I'm there, I don't
really I wasn't really thinking about stuff like that, but
I was just trying to be in the moment and
enjoy it and experience and just with all of the
moms to get to see them, you know, like some moms.
Speaker 6 (22:28):
It says their first.
Speaker 5 (22:29):
Some like us, like me, it's my baby. And then
just you know, the older because Luca is a sophomore,
the upper classman who come up and you know, tell
you stories of your son that some you want to hear,
some don't.
Speaker 6 (22:43):
You want to hear.
Speaker 3 (22:44):
But and lucas considered for this.
Speaker 2 (22:48):
He's considered the youngest in the fraternity because he is
a sophomore, a full member of the fraternity, but he
was pledging last year when he was doing it. Did
you just notice that there was something special or something
different with like the moms who have a kid that's
like a senior.
Speaker 6 (23:05):
Oh yeah, I mean yes.
Speaker 5 (23:07):
They all were just saying, oh my gosh, I remember now,
I could have gone last year when he was pledging
some of the freshmen moms can come, but he didn't know,
Like he was back and forth, and then I happened
to be out of town when it happened, and he's like, well,
you can come. I said, well, it's too late because
I'm not in town.
Speaker 3 (23:25):
Yeah, I like told you that week or.
Speaker 5 (23:27):
Something, well a couple days before he wasn't. Yeah, so
this is yeah, but it's funny because some of the
senior moms exactly were like, we can't believe it's gone
by so fast, and this is the best day of
the year, and they all, you know, they set up.
It started at eleven o'clock in the morning, and there
(23:48):
was a table of mimosas that the boys make you,
and so I said, just give me a range juice
because I knew it was going to be a long
day of drinking. And so they just they would momosas
with a Jimmy John sub At eleven so it was
very I guess last year it was mimosas the donuts,
but this year they stepped it up at the Jimmy
(24:09):
Johns and at the bar they offered you pizza, yeah,
with the alcohol, with the stickiest floor I've ever been
on in that bar.
Speaker 6 (24:20):
So gross.
Speaker 2 (24:21):
So I'm going to ask you this question because I
always love to hear your perspective on this, because I'm
always talking on the air about things, and I kind
of I'm usually the woman in the relationship, right I'm
the more emotional one. Thinking about all of the years
that you've had with Luke specifically, because that's what we're
(24:41):
talking about, and the other boys didn't do the fraternity thing.
What mom son thing that you've done with Luke over
the years, to you was one of the most memorable
that you've ever had.
Speaker 5 (24:53):
Well, So there was this when where he gosh, I
want to say, maybe he was in second great and
it was a mom's night and it was a dance
at his school, and I can still picture in my
mind the picture of us, not have to dig it up,
but it was like we have I have big glasses.
Speaker 6 (25:15):
On my face and he's in my eyes.
Speaker 5 (25:19):
Just props that they had like pictures to take pictures,
and I remember that being a really fun night just
the two of us, like going to school.
Speaker 6 (25:31):
We went to dinner.
Speaker 5 (25:32):
Beforehand, like made it like a little very special night,
but also like realizing that he is in the step
of becoming more independent, like at a certain age or
just everything to them. And I like when they're really
really young, when you go to school events, they're glued
to your side.
Speaker 6 (25:51):
They don't run around, they don't have fun with their friends.
Speaker 5 (25:54):
But I remember him really going off and playing with
his friends a lot that night, and I thought, here
we go, Like it's one of the independent steps that
they take, you know, that's so much fun.
Speaker 2 (26:07):
Do you have any advice for any you know, moms
that could be listening right now and things that you
either did that made things extra special or some some
things that maybe you kind.
Speaker 5 (26:19):
Of wish you would have done, I mean looking back
at and there's always regrets or things I wish I
would have done differently, like who cares about dishes being
in the sink or not being in the sink when
you go to bed because I should have been I
think I think I rushed to put them to bed
more at a certain time where I should have been
spending more time with them, like who cares?
Speaker 6 (26:40):
Who cares?
Speaker 5 (26:41):
I would always think, Okay, I want my house to
be clean before I go to bed. Who cares that
they'll be there the next day or whatever, and rushing
to get everything done.
Speaker 6 (26:51):
I think I would have.
Speaker 5 (26:52):
I wish I would have stayed in the moment a
little bit more. But that it's hard because when you're
in it and you want things done a certain way.
Speaker 6 (27:00):
I totally get that.
Speaker 5 (27:02):
Looking back on it, I realize there's always going to
be a dirty dish, there's always going to be clothes
to pick up, and there will always be toys to
be put away. I wish I would have just let
that go a little bit more, and you know, realize
that my time, your time with them is so limited,
which is everyone knows. But when you're wrapped up in
(27:24):
the moment, I mean, I get it feels like it's
never going to end.
Speaker 6 (27:26):
It's just really hard.
Speaker 5 (27:27):
I don't think I think you can tell someone enjoyed
as much as you can, but the truth is, when
you're in it, you're in it. It's like really hard
to so easy to look back on it.
Speaker 2 (27:37):
We had a single mom call us up within the
last few months on the air and say that her
favorite time of the night is when her kids take
their baths and go to bed, because she finally has
moments to herself.
Speaker 6 (27:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (27:50):
And as you're saying that, I'm thinking that, and I
know that is a great moment because you finally get
time to yourself. But a lot of times we rush
to get to the bath and the bed, and we
put all the pressure on ourselves to try to make
everything perfect in between. Yeah, when in reality, sitting on
(28:11):
the couch together, probably couch time is probably one of
the best times that you can ever have.
Speaker 5 (28:15):
Or even snuggle time with them up in their bed.
Like I really miss that time, you know, I miss
being able to just walk in the room and lay
down with them and just try to talk about.
Speaker 6 (28:30):
The day or But I get it.
Speaker 5 (28:31):
I get it when you are in that moment, and
it is just so hard, and it does take sometimes
everything in you just to get moment to moment to moment,
So it's really hard. I can understand that you're probably like, Okay,
shut up telling me, trying to enjoy the moment, but
it is true. I mean, and I just think that
that's how life is. Right, Like, when you're in it,
(28:53):
it feels like this hurricane or this to do list,
and then when you're out of it, you just wish
you could have enjoyed it more.
Speaker 2 (29:00):
Yeah, the conversation about hurricanes earlier and then this kind
of always tie themselves into each other. But they always
say that after a hurricane, something spectacular happens, you know.
Speaker 5 (29:15):
Can I tell you the day after the hurricane was
the most beautiful, calm, serene day. It was almost eerily quiet. Yeah,
but Blue skuys it was beautiful.
Speaker 2 (29:30):
But it's wild because after tragedy, I feel like we've
learned in our lives that we all pull things together,
and we all we all get you know, get nicer, maybe,
I think for.
Speaker 6 (29:41):
A little bit.
Speaker 5 (29:42):
Yeah, to see people help each other, strangers help each
other was amazing.
Speaker 2 (29:47):
So sometimes after the craziness is you know, and you're
kind of realizing this of raising your kids that sometimes
looking back on it and just being able to enjoy
it is cool. You don't look too bad for fifty.
Oh thanks, how's it feel to be How does it
feel to be fifty? You're actually, I'll be honest with you. Yeah,
And I think they this happens. I think you prepare
(30:08):
yourself for a big day like that, like thirty, forty, fifty,
whatever it might be. You always try to exercise more,
watch what you're seeing, look, and then you fall.
Speaker 3 (30:17):
Off the fucking wagon, Chelsea, get ready for fifty one?
Speaker 6 (30:20):
Oh thanks. I here's the thing.
Speaker 5 (30:23):
I like everyone said, don't you just so not everyone,
but load to my friends, aren't you just so depressed?
Speaker 6 (30:29):
That number? That number? And honestly, up until the day I.
Speaker 5 (30:33):
Turned fifty's totally fine with it. And then I realize
that is a big number, Like, Okay, that is a
big number. I mean, the sad part of it is
you've lived a huge part of your life already, and
we could do another podcast on you know what the
(30:53):
heck that looks like and feels like as far as
what you have left and what you want to do
with that time in.
Speaker 3 (31:03):
It.
Speaker 6 (31:03):
So it does hit me.
Speaker 5 (31:05):
It has hit me a little bit more the reality
of it when I turned fifty, But I also have
had all these other distractions going on that it kind
of really hasn't sunk in.
Speaker 2 (31:14):
Yeah, that pretty fifty has been It's been a pretty
It's been hectic.
Speaker 5 (31:20):
Very very but you know, at the end of the day,
all is good. But yeah, it's it's it has been
a very hectic That is very true.
Speaker 3 (31:29):
You know, it's wild.
Speaker 2 (31:30):
It is fifty to me doesn't feel old because I'm
fifty four, right, but fifty But.
Speaker 6 (31:35):
When you say the number doesn't sound.
Speaker 2 (31:36):
Old, no, because it did when i was fifty, okay,
but now that I'm fifty four, I'm like, fuck fifty
to fifty it was easy. But like the other day,
we were on the air and we were talking about
a celebrity, one of the guys from Days of Our Lives,
the guy that played Bow on Days of Our Lives,
Oh or not bo whatever his name, John John John.
(31:57):
I'm being able to die to seventy three years old? Yeah,
And Megan goes, he was old. No, And Megan's thirty
three or something like that, or thirty two years old
whatever she is. And I'm like, but wait a second.
That means when you're fifty, you're only going to be
alive for twenty some more years. And that's when you
start realizing. You're like, oh my god.
Speaker 6 (32:17):
Yeah, yeah, it's very true.
Speaker 2 (32:20):
And time goes We all know how quick time went
by to get to you being fifty.
Speaker 5 (32:25):
Yeah, well, there were some times that it felt like forever, well,
meaning like I think when you become a parent, those
first six weeks of your baby's life. For me, the
first six weeks were the longest six weeks ever. But
then once they hit six weeks, it was like a marathon.
Speaker 6 (32:43):
You know.
Speaker 5 (32:43):
There are some days, of course, when they're sick, and
when you know that you feel like this will never end,
and you wish for them to be older, and.
Speaker 6 (32:54):
But it does.
Speaker 5 (32:55):
And I'm sure people just hate when people say it
goes by so fast, enjoy every moment.
Speaker 3 (33:00):
I can tell that when I say that too.
Speaker 6 (33:02):
I know a new parent, brand new parent.
Speaker 5 (33:04):
I know you, I know, but it's it's you know,
it is true. It is just so true. It does
go by fast.
Speaker 3 (33:12):
Well, this podcast went by fast.
Speaker 6 (33:14):
Oh okay, let me guess how many minutes? How many
thirty four?
Speaker 3 (33:19):
I just under that.
Speaker 5 (33:20):
Oh see, because I can tell when he's ready to
wrap up, and I know it's just over thirty minutes.
Speaker 6 (33:26):
I can see it in his eyes.
Speaker 2 (33:27):
Well, if I keep going a little bit longer, you'll
be fifty one.
Speaker 3 (33:30):
So I just want to end this thing right now.
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