January 8, 2022 • 13 mins
FREE YOURSELF OF THE BLAME AND “DISCIPLINE”. If your weight has changed this season, or your craving heavier foods than your normal smoothie or salad, this could be a really good sign your body has your back. Learn the science of why we crave what we do, why fluctuations are NATURAL, and how to take the best care of you this season.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I won't let my body out be out everything that
I'm made do. Won't spend my life trying to change.
I'm learning to love who I am. I get I'm strong,
I feel free, I know who every part of me.
It's beautiful and I will always out way if you
(00:24):
feel it with your hays in the air, She'll love
to the mow there. Let's say good day and time
did you and die out? Welcome back to Outweigh So
excited to be back for another episode. Hey Amy, Hey,
happy Saturday. So this topic today is something that I've
been thinking about as I've been listening to my own
(00:45):
body and we're recording this in the fall. It's becoming
pretty cold here in New York. I don't know what
temperatures are like over there in Tennessee, Amy, but it's
getting colder pretty much wherever you live, and what I'm
craving is starting to change. How about you? Yeah, I
am enjoying betternut squash soup. I have had tons of
sweet potatoes. I want things that are warm and kind
(01:06):
of rudy. I'm enjoying a lot more bread and things
that are very filling, like hardy. They feel more hardy.
I love smoothies, but I haven't really had a smoothie
in the last couple of weeks, and so that's just
a shift that I've personally seen in my own eating.
What's it like to be able to honor that after
(01:27):
you know your history of green juice is no matter what,
and salads and all that. I mean, honestly, the first
thing that comes to mind is just like a sigh
of relief. Like I feel like I could just take
a big inhale and exhale right now, and that would
explain how I feel, because it's nice to just be
able to go with the flow. And while what we're
(01:47):
talking about right now is seasonal, but it really could
be a metaphor too for how I handle meals with friends.
I just had a dinner the other night and kind
of what we had planned on ordering fell through last minute.
We had to pivot and do something else, and it
was not stressful. I like flowed into kind of like
how you flow into new seasons. I flew into the
(02:09):
new menu no problem, and that I think is what
represents like I just I had to honor what was
happening in that moment and just go with it and
kind of listen to what I was craving and what
sounded good to me even though it threw me. And
it's kind of like, now that I'm in recovery, I
can listen to my body similarly with the seasons when
it's colder outside, I can, you know, evaluate things, what
(02:32):
am I craving and not be thrown off by it
and just select whatever feels good to me in the moment.
And So the conversation that I was having with myself,
as I normally have conversations with myself, is this idea
that we as humans act like we are not part
of our environment, and we are very much a part
of our environment for survival and biological reasons. There's going
(02:54):
to be fluctuations as seasons change, as time goes on,
to our bodies and to our desires. So first thing
I just want to tackle here is the topic of
weight fluctuations during seasons. And I think weight fluctuations in general,
when we talk about them, we don't really think about
things outside of, oh, why am I gaining weight? Did
I eat too much? And we label that as a
(03:16):
bad thing, But we actually gain weight during the colder
months for really good reason, and it's for our bodies
to protect us. But because we think that we're so
static that we should weigh you know, a hundred something
pounds or two hundred something pounds or three hunt whatever
your static number is, that you think that it should
stay at that exact number all the time. Is failing
(03:39):
to realize how we're interacting with our environment in a
way that's really supportive to our bodies. It's only because
we have viewed ourselves as being static do we label
a weight change up as bad. And um, I think
that really can throw us for a loop and not
being able to honor what our bodies are wanting. So,
like you said, you're creaving the butternut squash soup, the
(04:01):
sweet potatoes, breads, me too, And I wanted to kind
of discuss why that happens and remove the blame for
our listeners if they have gone up a couple of
pounds over this holiday season, and take the blame off
of them and because they overdid it at Thanksgiving, you know,
whatever it is. I want them to realize that bodies
do fluctuate and therefore start to detach themselves from that
(04:24):
number so that they can continue to honor where their
body is guiding them. Does that make sense, Yes, very
much so. The fact is different foods are available per
different season, and how we personally store those foods, that energy,
how we use it, it all changes. And while science
doesn't have this all figured out, we know that there's
(04:44):
a phenomenon that's happening, which is most mammals are gaining
weight to some degree during the colder months. And the
idea is is that we're doing that in anticipation of
our environmental demands. So the seasons are changing, and our
bodies might even be a little bit premature to change
with it, so that we are protected for the change
(05:04):
that's coming, meaning we might gain a little bit of
weight naturally in a maybe positive way, if we didn't
have this idea that wegain is purely bad. To protect
us in many ways. To keep us warm is the
you know, if we boil it down to evolution to
keep us warm during those months. Yeah, I mean if
you're in a healthy perspective with it. Well, I say
(05:24):
healthy in air quotes, but like if you're mentally in
the right mindset where you can hear this and see
the wegain is a good thing, Like you could honor
and thank your body for doing what it's supposed to
be doing to help keep you safe. So again going back,
like we're part of our environment, but we act like
we're not right, Like we eat foods completely out of
season because we have bioengineered to either make them available
(05:45):
for us or we you know, can ship them in
from other places. But we are or we should be
in sync with our surroundings. We should be craving amy
the butternut squash because that's what can be grown right now,
and being part of that system is really cool, and
I think it's something that has been completely cut out
(06:06):
of the conversation and what it means to be healthy,
because you know, again growing up for me, it was
like what's the healthy option, cold salad, raw foods. But
in fact, the foods that your body can better digest,
that you can enjoy might be the things that are
a little bit more hardy. Uh. They might contain more
vitamins and minerals that are protective for you during the
(06:27):
cold seasons, to protect you against cold and flu and
maybe even COVID who knows, you know. So there's so
many different elements to why we may be craving those
arch ear or more complex foods in a good way.
I like that you mentioned about the you know, being
able to eat what's in season, and shipping and all
the different things that the future has given us and
(06:48):
technology and engineering certain foods during different times of the year.
Like back in the day, you don't have that. No,
you could eat what you could grow in that season,
and you got what you got. And you also needed
to eat certain things, yes, to protect yourself and keep
yourself warm, so simpler times, you know, exactly, And it's
more than even just like the shipping, you know, the
(07:09):
way we store food, from frozen foods to canned goods.
We kind of progressed technologically a lot more quicker than
we did biologically. Does that make sense? Our food advanced
more quickly than our than our bodies can register. Oh hey,
we don't need as much extra body fat because we
wear coats now, you know, things like that. But nonetheless,
(07:30):
it's so cool that our bodies have our back in
this way. And if we stay away from the idea
that our weight is one static number, we can allow
for some fluctuations and be okay with them. Now, I'm
not encourage anybody listening to way themselves and you know say, okay,
but I'm getting five pounds, ten pounds, fifteen pounds. I'm
not saying that at all, But I'm saying, if you're
(07:50):
noticing your body is changing during the winter months, maybe
just take the quote unquote blame that has been put
on you off of you so that you can start
to work in part of a bigger system. Because there's
also a lot of peace, gratitude, and mindfulness that stems
from eating foods that are available to that specific season.
You said peace, gratitude, mindfulness, I'm going to add satisfaction
(08:12):
into that, because yeah, you're you're going to be more satisfied.
And I say this as someone that spent many a
winter's downing super cold green juice like because that is
what I thought I needed to do, and I wasn't
listening to my body, and I wasn't able to enjoy
certain things that were around that probably would have offered
me so much comfort. Instead, I was chasing comfort in
(08:34):
something that was labeled by society standard to make me happier,
to make my life better, to make my life easier,
to be more convenient. When really, and again, green juice
is not bad. It's not the enemy. It was how
I was treating green juice. I had it on a pedestal,
as like, this is the one thing I have to
have every single day, even when it's freezing cold outside.
(08:56):
And maybe I'm really craving a big bowl of oatmeal,
Like I didn't give myself that because nope, that's not
what I eat for breakfast. I drink green juice for breakfast.
So I wasn't very good at listening to my body
and honoring it. And so once I threw some of
that out the window and I was able to adopt
this mindset, I then had the satisfaction I was chasing
(09:16):
all along. Yes, beautiful. When we recognize that our body's
weight or body size might fluctuate seasonally, we could also
use that as a tool to comfort ourselves when we
start to feel panicked that we are gaining weight. So,
rather than disrupting your relationship to food or exercise, which
you've worked so hard to establish and be in tune to,
(09:36):
can you put your hand over your heart on your belly,
take a deep breath and say, this is a normal fluctuation.
Sometimes my weight fluctuates up, sometimes it fluctuates down. And
I'm also part of an environment. The last thing I
just want to mention with all of this is you
also might be craving sugar more in these winter months.
And again I want to say, you're not broken. Amy
(09:57):
and I talked about this a lot, but sugar need
to digest. Simple carbohydrates are going to produce the hormone serotonin,
the neurotransmitter into your brain. Serotonin is that happy hormone.
And one of the reasons for this could also possibly
be that with season changes, a lot of people experience
sad or different levels of depression. Because we're outdoors less,
(10:18):
we're getting less vitamin D. So when is the last
time that you picked up something sweet that you really
wanted and said, how would this make me feel? Mentally?
And allowed a food, a high sugar food, whatever, it is,
a treat, a candy, whatever. So what would it feel
like to really stop for a second and ask yourself
what do I want? And perhaps it's that sugar, that cake,
(10:40):
that candy, and ask yourself, how would this elevate my mood?
And if the answer is this is going to make
me feel really happy, what would it feel like to
be free of those labels and allow yourself to consume
that food and know that you're benefiting your mind and
your mental state without the drama of bringing in ever
(11:00):
loaded relationship to that food you may have had prior, right,
because then when you bring in the drama, that's when
the food brings you down, and it does the opposite
of like you think it's gonna make you happy, but
then you have all the drama attached, and then five
minutes after you eat it, you have the guilt and
the your You know it brought you down. But yes,
I mean food can bring you joy, It can bring
(11:21):
you up. It can bring you happiness, regardless of what
we've been told for so long that we have to
earn this food or if you eat that you have
to be punished for it in some way and you
have to go run or feel bad about yourself. Like
I feel like I was given that messaging all the
time growing up, and even as an adult, I still
hear it, but now I'm aware to it and I
(11:42):
shut it out. It's like fork the noise, shout out, Lisa.
I have to fork the noise and shut it out.
Because that is a very common saying, like of like
oh I can't eat it, or oh I'm gonna eat this,
but I'm going to run later. Oh I just eat
a cookie. I can't even believe it. Or I said
that stuff in front of people. But then once you
(12:03):
get in a better place and I don't call people
out on it anymore. I'm not trying to be I'm
not that annoying person. I'm not going to be a
part of that conversation anymore. I'm not going to feed
into that any longer because I know that I can
get joy from a piece of cake and I can
get joy from a cookie. But now I have a
healthy enough relationship to decide when that's going to be
and when it's not. Yes, I love that. So if
(12:25):
your weight is changing, if your body is fluctuating, if
you're craving starts your heavier foods, just remember that you're
functioning as part of the environment, as a human being,
and you're doing exactly what you need to be doing. Awesome,
all right. We appreciate each and every one of you
so much, and we wish you all the encouragement in
the world on your journey, and we would love to
(12:46):
hear from you again. We continue to take personal stories
to make sure you send us an email if you
would maybe like your story featured on an Outweigh episode.
You can email us hello at Outweigh podcast dot com. Right,
Thanks Lisa, Thanks everyone, m HM
I won't let my body out be out everything that
I'm made do. Won't spend my life trying to change.
I'm learning to love who I am. I get I'm strong,
I feel free, I know who every part of me.
It's beautiful and I will always out way if you
(00:24):
feel it with your hays in the air, She'll love
to the mow there. Let's say good day and time
did you and die out? Welcome back to Outweigh So
excited to be back for another episode. Hey Amy, Hey,
happy Saturday. So this topic today is something that I've
been thinking about as I've been listening to my own
(00:45):
body and we're recording this in the fall. It's becoming
pretty cold here in New York. I don't know what
temperatures are like over there in Tennessee, Amy, but it's
getting colder pretty much wherever you live, and what I'm
craving is starting to change. How about you? Yeah, I
am enjoying betternut squash soup. I have had tons of
sweet potatoes. I want things that are warm and kind
(01:06):
of rudy. I'm enjoying a lot more bread and things
that are very filling, like hardy. They feel more hardy.
I love smoothies, but I haven't really had a smoothie
in the last couple of weeks, and so that's just
a shift that I've personally seen in my own eating.
What's it like to be able to honor that after
(01:27):
you know your history of green juice is no matter what,
and salads and all that. I mean, honestly, the first
thing that comes to mind is just like a sigh
of relief. Like I feel like I could just take
a big inhale and exhale right now, and that would
explain how I feel, because it's nice to just be
able to go with the flow. And while what we're
(01:47):
talking about right now is seasonal, but it really could
be a metaphor too for how I handle meals with friends.
I just had a dinner the other night and kind
of what we had planned on ordering fell through last minute.
We had to pivot and do something else, and it
was not stressful. I like flowed into kind of like
how you flow into new seasons. I flew into the
(02:09):
new menu no problem, and that I think is what
represents like I just I had to honor what was
happening in that moment and just go with it and
kind of listen to what I was craving and what
sounded good to me even though it threw me. And
it's kind of like, now that I'm in recovery, I
can listen to my body similarly with the seasons when
it's colder outside, I can, you know, evaluate things, what
(02:32):
am I craving and not be thrown off by it
and just select whatever feels good to me in the moment.
And So the conversation that I was having with myself,
as I normally have conversations with myself, is this idea
that we as humans act like we are not part
of our environment, and we are very much a part
of our environment for survival and biological reasons. There's going
(02:54):
to be fluctuations as seasons change, as time goes on,
to our bodies and to our desires. So first thing
I just want to tackle here is the topic of
weight fluctuations during seasons. And I think weight fluctuations in general,
when we talk about them, we don't really think about
things outside of, oh, why am I gaining weight? Did
I eat too much? And we label that as a
(03:16):
bad thing, But we actually gain weight during the colder
months for really good reason, and it's for our bodies
to protect us. But because we think that we're so
static that we should weigh you know, a hundred something
pounds or two hundred something pounds or three hunt whatever
your static number is, that you think that it should
stay at that exact number all the time. Is failing
(03:39):
to realize how we're interacting with our environment in a
way that's really supportive to our bodies. It's only because
we have viewed ourselves as being static do we label
a weight change up as bad. And um, I think
that really can throw us for a loop and not
being able to honor what our bodies are wanting. So,
like you said, you're creaving the butternut squash soup, the
(04:01):
sweet potatoes, breads, me too, And I wanted to kind
of discuss why that happens and remove the blame for
our listeners if they have gone up a couple of
pounds over this holiday season, and take the blame off
of them and because they overdid it at Thanksgiving, you know,
whatever it is. I want them to realize that bodies
do fluctuate and therefore start to detach themselves from that
(04:24):
number so that they can continue to honor where their
body is guiding them. Does that make sense, Yes, very
much so. The fact is different foods are available per
different season, and how we personally store those foods, that energy,
how we use it, it all changes. And while science
doesn't have this all figured out, we know that there's
(04:44):
a phenomenon that's happening, which is most mammals are gaining
weight to some degree during the colder months. And the
idea is is that we're doing that in anticipation of
our environmental demands. So the seasons are changing, and our
bodies might even be a little bit premature to change
with it, so that we are protected for the change
(05:04):
that's coming, meaning we might gain a little bit of
weight naturally in a maybe positive way, if we didn't
have this idea that wegain is purely bad. To protect
us in many ways. To keep us warm is the
you know, if we boil it down to evolution to
keep us warm during those months. Yeah, I mean if
you're in a healthy perspective with it. Well, I say
(05:24):
healthy in air quotes, but like if you're mentally in
the right mindset where you can hear this and see
the wegain is a good thing, Like you could honor
and thank your body for doing what it's supposed to
be doing to help keep you safe. So again going back,
like we're part of our environment, but we act like
we're not right, Like we eat foods completely out of
season because we have bioengineered to either make them available
(05:45):
for us or we you know, can ship them in
from other places. But we are or we should be
in sync with our surroundings. We should be craving amy
the butternut squash because that's what can be grown right now,
and being part of that system is really cool, and
I think it's something that has been completely cut out
(06:06):
of the conversation and what it means to be healthy,
because you know, again growing up for me, it was
like what's the healthy option, cold salad, raw foods. But
in fact, the foods that your body can better digest,
that you can enjoy might be the things that are
a little bit more hardy. Uh. They might contain more
vitamins and minerals that are protective for you during the
(06:27):
cold seasons, to protect you against cold and flu and
maybe even COVID who knows, you know. So there's so
many different elements to why we may be craving those
arch ear or more complex foods in a good way.
I like that you mentioned about the you know, being
able to eat what's in season, and shipping and all
the different things that the future has given us and
(06:48):
technology and engineering certain foods during different times of the year.
Like back in the day, you don't have that. No,
you could eat what you could grow in that season,
and you got what you got. And you also needed
to eat certain things, yes, to protect yourself and keep
yourself warm, so simpler times, you know, exactly, And it's
more than even just like the shipping, you know, the
(07:09):
way we store food, from frozen foods to canned goods.
We kind of progressed technologically a lot more quicker than
we did biologically. Does that make sense? Our food advanced
more quickly than our than our bodies can register. Oh hey,
we don't need as much extra body fat because we
wear coats now, you know, things like that. But nonetheless,
(07:30):
it's so cool that our bodies have our back in
this way. And if we stay away from the idea
that our weight is one static number, we can allow
for some fluctuations and be okay with them. Now, I'm
not encourage anybody listening to way themselves and you know say, okay,
but I'm getting five pounds, ten pounds, fifteen pounds. I'm
not saying that at all, But I'm saying, if you're
(07:50):
noticing your body is changing during the winter months, maybe
just take the quote unquote blame that has been put
on you off of you so that you can start
to work in part of a bigger system. Because there's
also a lot of peace, gratitude, and mindfulness that stems
from eating foods that are available to that specific season.
You said peace, gratitude, mindfulness, I'm going to add satisfaction
(08:12):
into that, because yeah, you're you're going to be more satisfied.
And I say this as someone that spent many a
winter's downing super cold green juice like because that is
what I thought I needed to do, and I wasn't
listening to my body, and I wasn't able to enjoy
certain things that were around that probably would have offered
me so much comfort. Instead, I was chasing comfort in
(08:34):
something that was labeled by society standard to make me happier,
to make my life better, to make my life easier,
to be more convenient. When really, and again, green juice
is not bad. It's not the enemy. It was how
I was treating green juice. I had it on a pedestal,
as like, this is the one thing I have to
have every single day, even when it's freezing cold outside.
(08:56):
And maybe I'm really craving a big bowl of oatmeal,
Like I didn't give myself that because nope, that's not
what I eat for breakfast. I drink green juice for breakfast.
So I wasn't very good at listening to my body
and honoring it. And so once I threw some of
that out the window and I was able to adopt
this mindset, I then had the satisfaction I was chasing
(09:16):
all along. Yes, beautiful. When we recognize that our body's
weight or body size might fluctuate seasonally, we could also
use that as a tool to comfort ourselves when we
start to feel panicked that we are gaining weight. So,
rather than disrupting your relationship to food or exercise, which
you've worked so hard to establish and be in tune to,
(09:36):
can you put your hand over your heart on your belly,
take a deep breath and say, this is a normal fluctuation.
Sometimes my weight fluctuates up, sometimes it fluctuates down. And
I'm also part of an environment. The last thing I
just want to mention with all of this is you
also might be craving sugar more in these winter months.
And again I want to say, you're not broken. Amy
(09:57):
and I talked about this a lot, but sugar need
to digest. Simple carbohydrates are going to produce the hormone serotonin,
the neurotransmitter into your brain. Serotonin is that happy hormone.
And one of the reasons for this could also possibly
be that with season changes, a lot of people experience
sad or different levels of depression. Because we're outdoors less,
(10:18):
we're getting less vitamin D. So when is the last
time that you picked up something sweet that you really
wanted and said, how would this make me feel? Mentally?
And allowed a food, a high sugar food, whatever, it is,
a treat, a candy, whatever. So what would it feel
like to really stop for a second and ask yourself
what do I want? And perhaps it's that sugar, that cake,
(10:40):
that candy, and ask yourself, how would this elevate my mood?
And if the answer is this is going to make
me feel really happy, what would it feel like to
be free of those labels and allow yourself to consume
that food and know that you're benefiting your mind and
your mental state without the drama of bringing in ever
(11:00):
loaded relationship to that food you may have had prior, right,
because then when you bring in the drama, that's when
the food brings you down, and it does the opposite
of like you think it's gonna make you happy, but
then you have all the drama attached, and then five
minutes after you eat it, you have the guilt and
the your You know it brought you down. But yes,
I mean food can bring you joy, It can bring
(11:21):
you up. It can bring you happiness, regardless of what
we've been told for so long that we have to
earn this food or if you eat that you have
to be punished for it in some way and you
have to go run or feel bad about yourself. Like
I feel like I was given that messaging all the
time growing up, and even as an adult, I still
hear it, but now I'm aware to it and I
(11:42):
shut it out. It's like fork the noise, shout out, Lisa.
I have to fork the noise and shut it out.
Because that is a very common saying, like of like
oh I can't eat it, or oh I'm gonna eat this,
but I'm going to run later. Oh I just eat
a cookie. I can't even believe it. Or I said
that stuff in front of people. But then once you
(12:03):
get in a better place and I don't call people
out on it anymore. I'm not trying to be I'm
not that annoying person. I'm not going to be a
part of that conversation anymore. I'm not going to feed
into that any longer because I know that I can
get joy from a piece of cake and I can
get joy from a cookie. But now I have a
healthy enough relationship to decide when that's going to be
and when it's not. Yes, I love that. So if
(12:25):
your weight is changing, if your body is fluctuating, if
you're craving starts your heavier foods, just remember that you're
functioning as part of the environment, as a human being,
and you're doing exactly what you need to be doing. Awesome,
all right. We appreciate each and every one of you
so much, and we wish you all the encouragement in
the world on your journey, and we would love to
(12:46):
hear from you again. We continue to take personal stories
to make sure you send us an email if you
would maybe like your story featured on an Outweigh episode.
You can email us hello at Outweigh podcast dot com. Right,
Thanks Lisa, Thanks everyone, m HM
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