November 18, 2023 • 28 mins
OUTWEIGH: Nowadays fat has a bad rap. We hate it. We fear it. We name it. We blame it. We shame it. Some people will do whatever they can to destroy it and eliminate its "wrath" from their lives. But who ever said that fat was ugly, or something to be ashamed of? And what if you could work WITH it (learn how to actually take care of it on a nervous system level so you can actually get rid of it if that's what you want to do) instead of working AGAINST it? Since it IS such a prevalent "enemy" in today's world, and since it's not going away anytime soon, we might as well learn about it, right?
Unfortunately no one is talking about that side of it. What you eat and how you move is PART of the equation, but it doesn’t cover the whole picture. Not even close! And I truly believe (and science will back me up!) that your health, body, and emotional struggles are simply EFFECTS of something going on ‘higher up’ in your brain and nervous system (SEE ALSO: That system of systems that dictates EVERYTHING!). And in this 4 part series, we are going to talk about a subject matter that baffles most women and causes more shame and sadness than any topic I’ve encountered: The Truth About YOUR FAT (and what you can actually do about it)
HOST: Leanne Ellington // @leanneellington // StresslessEating.com
To learn more about re-wiring your brain to heal from the all-or-nothing diet mentality for good....but WITHOUT restricting yourself, punishing your body, (and definitely WITHOUT ever having to use words like macros, low-carb, or calorie burn) check out Leanne's FREE Stressless Eating Webinar @ www.StresslessEating.com
Resources:
Learn From My Mistakes EPISODE
The Cost Of Skinny EPISODE
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I won't let my body. I'll be outwait everything that
I'm made done. Won't spend my life trying to change.
I'm learning love who I am again, strong, I feel free,
I know every part of me.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
It's beautiful.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
And that will always out way if you feel it.
But you all, she'll some love to the h I
get that sage day and did you and die out way.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
Happy Saturday, outweigh.
Speaker 3 (00:36):
It's leanne here for a solo episode, or actually it's
an entire series, and it's called The Truth About Your Fat.
Now you might be wondering what is she talking about?
And why are we talking about fat? But just hear
me out. So nowadays fat has a bad rap. We
hate it, we fear it, we name it, we blame it,
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we shame it. Some people will do whatever they can
to destroy and eliminate its wrath from their lives. But
whoever said that fat was ugly or something to be
ashamed of? And whoever said that fat was a bad thing?
And whoever said that fat was anything other.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
Than well fat?
Speaker 3 (01:19):
But since it is such a prevalent enemy in today's world,
and yes I'm putting enemy in air quotes, but since
it's not going away anytime soon, we might as well
learn about it and hear about it and learn about
its properties.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
Right.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
In fact, if all we do is hate on fat
and wish it away, we might miss out on its
useful and downright cool characteristics. There's physiological, neurological, and psychological
components of fat, but no one is talking about that
side of things. And after all, it is this metabolically
active substance that's part of our bodies, right, But most
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women don't know about that side of it, and when
you think about it, we fear what we don't know. So,
for example, I used to be super scared of going
into the ocean. So besides the whole story that I had,
you know, that my body was not meant to be
seen in a bathing suit, and that my you know,
it was a lot of my body image stuff really
that contributed to that story of not going into the ocean.
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But I also had a story that I was downright
afraid of the ocean.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
You know, things biting me or attacking.
Speaker 3 (02:26):
Me, or you know, sharks with laser beams and imaginary
alligators in my mind most likely, but irrational fears, nonetheless,
because none of the things I was afraid of actually
happened to me, but in my mind it felt like
they had. And like we've talked about before, your nervous
system can't tell the difference between a real or an
imagined experience. So one day a good friend of mine
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was like, hey, do you want to get over this fear?
And I was like, yes, please, I mean I really
wanted to. So he walked me out into the water,
and I inevitably shrieked like this little girl every time
seaweed grazed my feet, and you know, just further and
grain my fears.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
So here's what he did. He picked up some seaweed.
Speaker 3 (03:08):
And he had me look at it, and he had
me hold it and touch it and see it and
feel and experience that it wasn't going to hurt me,
but also to show my logical brain that this is
what was grazing my feet and it wasn't a shark.
And so as soon as I saw it and I
faced it head on and I touched it, I was
able to go in the ocean and now actually get
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in the water after thirty years of not. So I
share this with you just to impress upon you that
if you do have this kind of dysmorphic relationship with
your body fat.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
As in, you know, the subcutaneous.
Speaker 3 (03:42):
Fat on your body and not nutritional fat, which is
another topic on its own. I'm talking about the fat
on your body. That's why I urge you to actually
look at it and learn about it and discover what
it is and really what it's not, and that way
you can dispel the lies and actually learn what.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
It takes to shift it if you want.
Speaker 3 (04:01):
To do that, both in your mind and on your body,
because I promise you it's way more than an eat
less move more conversation, like way way more.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
But it's also such a confusing topic.
Speaker 3 (04:12):
I mean, if you ask one hundred different people what
the best way to you know, lose fat or lose
weight is, you're going to get a hundred different answers,
and most of them will definitely, you know, take you
down that road of eat less move more, which a
lot of times perpetuates the struggles with disordered eating and
body dysmorphy and all of that if you don't have
a healthy relationship with food. But they'll most likely take
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you down one of the avenues that you know, the
fitness industry created, but in my opinion, that's old school
thinking and if you're anything like me again, that's what
created a lot of my own disordered patterns in the
first place.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
Because what you eat and how you move is is.
Speaker 3 (04:46):
Yeah, it's part of the equation, but it doesn't cover
the whole picture. And so when it comes to your
body and your health and yes, you're fat, there is
a cause and then there are its effects. Okay, something's
going on upstream, and then there's a result taking place downstream.
And I truly believe, and science will back me up
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that your health, body and emotional struggles are simply effects
of something going on higher up in your brain.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
And nervous system. Right.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
And when I talk about nervous system, what I really
mean is that system of systems that dictates everything. Okay,
And so in this series specifically, we're going to talk
about a subject matter that really does baffle most women
and causes more shame and sadness than any topic I've
ever encountered, and it's your fat. We're going to talk
about your fat. Let's get to the bottom of this
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conundrum and just distill the facts, Okay, because all of
the conventional approaches are missing out on the most important
factor like what is fat?
Speaker 1 (05:46):
Right?
Speaker 3 (05:46):
What kind of fat is it? And you'll hear what
you'll know what I mean, you know when we go
through this series, and.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
Why is it there? How did it get there? And
is it serving a purpose? Right?
Speaker 3 (05:56):
Because sometimes on a brain and nervous system level, it's
actually serving a purpose, which we'll talk about, and most importantly,
like what is keeping it from going away? If it's
causing something negative like maybe it's causing too much stress
on your joints, or maybe it is restricting your muscles,
or maybe it's keeping you in an unhealthy state. Right,
And so that is a three dimensional conversation and a
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three dimensional you know question, because it's not just a
body thing, and it's not just a mind thing, and
it's not just a brain thing. It's really all three
And if we don't get all of your three dimensional
self playing on the same team, everything that you do
to influence your situation will probably just create temporary change.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
And so you might be able to.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
Motivate yourself or willpower your way there and you'll see
some temporary results, but you won't be able to create
those permanent changes that you desire until you address the
cause of the problem and really create true freedom and
health for yourself, which which is really what you want.
And of course I mean that you know, holistically, three dimensionally,
and of course that's going to be relevant when we're
talk talking about your subcutaneous fat and as you'll learn,
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fascia as well. And so you want to make sure
that you're addressing the actual wiring in your brain that's
keeping you stuck. Okay, And like I said before, and
what I've found throughout my own trials and successes on
my own body and the bodies of every single woman
I've ever worked with the problem, and the solution is
three dimensional, like we said, And until you address both
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the internal and external environments that are influencing your physical, mental,
and emotional you know wiring, unfortunately, your fat isn't going
to go anywhere in the long run, right, So what
can be done about it? Well, we're going to open
up this can of worms on today's podcast and really
throughout this whole series. Okay, So this is part one,
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and so on this episode, I'm going to enlighten you
on this magical tissue that we call fat and it's
really cool relative fascia and in future episodes. We're going
to be getting into some methods and philosophies that I
feel will change the game for you when it comes
to accepting your body and working with your body, and
taking this topic of fat on your body and flipping
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it on its head so it doesn't own you or
define you. So let's just go ahead and dive on in.
So let's just go ahead and dive on in. But
before we dive into the meat of it, I want
to just give you a bit of context of how
my big fat story went down for me and how
I discovered everything I'm going to share with you, and
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really why it's relevant to you, as in, you know
why you should care about your tissues, right and trust me,
I used to say the same thing. I didn't care
about any of this, right I was, you know, when
I was at the height of my disorder, I was
just chasing skinny or chasing lean or whatever. But after
my surgery, the craziest things started happening. I shared a
lot about what I'm about to talk about in the
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Learn from My Mistakes episode here on Outweigh, which we
will link in the show notes. But because I wasn't
taking care of my body, and like I said, I
was just chasing skinny as I now call it, but
you know, I was ignoring my true health. Yes, I
had a lot of you know, psychological struggles with food
in my body, but I ended up needing major spine
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surgery because I was super injured.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
But I kept trying to work through it.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
Right, Yeah, Like that's really how toxic my relationship with
my body, you know, really manifested because like I said,
I was really injured, but I was like, oh my gosh,
if I stopped moving, if I stopped working out, I'm
going to gain all this weight. Like it was a
give and take that I didn't know how to get
out of. But it's also what eventually woke me up
to address it. And so I really am grateful that
that happened. But just to give you some context, my
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surgery was a success, but I had a lot of
neurological struggles after my surgery. And so the first thing
I noticed is I just felt different, like I went
under anesthesia and it's like the lights went out and
when the lights came back on, I just kind of
felt different. And I wasn't really always able to describe it,
especially back then, but it was mental, like mentally I
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felt different. It was definitely physical. And the first physical
thing I noticed that was from my pinky finger to
my pinky toe on my left side, So that whole
line on my left side from pinky to pinky, I
just couldn't feel it as much as I could feel
my right side.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
And so some people.
Speaker 3 (10:14):
Are like hyper sensitive and have pain after a major
injury or surgery, but for me, it was almost like
I was undersensitized and I had desensitization on that side
of my body in terms of how well my muscles
were firing and just how that side of my body moved.
But on the flip side of that, it's almost like
I was given this gift because my body awareness was
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also hyper sensitive, Like I could feel everything on this
new level, and that part of it wasn't just physical,
like it was emotional energetically physically, I could just feel
other people's emotions more too, not just my own. So
it was it was quite the contradiction, you know, Like muscularly,
I couldn't perform as well on my left side as
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I could on my right side. But on a sensitive
level and a body awareness level, I had this whole
new gift, so to speak, but I didn't call it
a gift at the time.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
It was.
Speaker 3 (11:07):
It actually really scared me. You know, keep in mind,
I was twenty five. I was scared nobody could help me,
and because of what I was doing on a career level,
I also felt like a fraud because back then, and
you know, this feels like an alternate lifetime and alternate
universe now, but I was supposed to be this you know,
fitness expert on TV and in the media and all
of that, and here I was figuring out what was
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going on with my own body in the background. And
that's a whole other topic on its own, one that
I touched on in the Learn for My Mistakes episode.
But one of the main things I noticed, or one
of the first things I noticed, i should say, was
my fascia, which I'll tell you about in a moment.
And the only reason I discovered fascia is because I
was just playing around by massaging the left side.
Speaker 2 (11:52):
Of my body.
Speaker 3 (11:52):
Like I told you, I couldn't really feel the left
side as much as I could feel my right side,
so I was always trying to kind of wake it up,
touching it and using tools like foam rollers and getting
massages and dry brushing. I mean, you name it, I
was doing it. If there was a gadget, I owned it.
And I discovered that there was this area of my
glutes where my glutes just pretty much weren't turning on,
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like they were not firing. And then I noticed that
there was pockets of fat on my hips and my
sacrum area, and that it was relational to where my
glutes were not firing, Like it was almost fat pockets
covering up my glutes, but it wasn't this normal subcutaneous fat.
It felt very thick and sticky and fibrous, almost like
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it was casing or incasing my glutes, and in a
ways it kind of felt like scar tissue. But I
knew enough about the body to know that it was
some sort of fascia.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
So I noticed that and it caused me to literally,
I mean, this is fifteen years ago.
Speaker 3 (12:54):
I just started googling fascia and learning about it, and
from there on out, I have been obsessed with fascia,
or as my dorky self likes to say, I've been
fascionated by it. In side note, just to give you
an idea of how obsessed I am and have been
obsessed with it and how much of a difference just
knowing about fat and fascia has made on my life.
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I actually own fashionate dot com like I've had it
for years because I always knew I was going to
share my truths about it and ever since I discovered
the connection between fat and fascia.
Speaker 2 (13:25):
You know, at first, it actually really made me mad.
Speaker 3 (13:27):
And it made me mad because I was like, why
is the world not talking about this right? And obviously
now I realize that being mad doesn't serve me and
it doesn't serve you or anybody, but it was that
much of a game changer for me, I should say,
So I'm no longer mad about it, obviously, I just
want the world to know about it. And really that's
why we're here, and it is such a big topic.
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And unfortunately, most of the world in mainstream knowledge is
not connecting the nervous system and fascia to your health.
So if this podcast episode and see you even just
helps a small pocket of the world understand what a
big player fat and fascia are in your health journey,
well that would honestly just make me really happy.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
So that's what the goal is.
Speaker 3 (14:11):
And we're gonna do just that, and I'm going to
tell you all about this magical world of fat and
fascia and why it can be the game changer for
you that you didn't even know you were looking for.
And so we're going to talk about the specifics of
fat and fascia and why you should care in just
a moment. But first I wanted to share with you
something that I wish somebody had told me when I
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was younger.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
I wish I had gotten this memo.
Speaker 3 (14:35):
When I was spending all of that time and energy
harming my body just to you know, chase thin or
chase skinny, like I said I was doing. And here's
an analogy I use with my clients to drive my
point home. So you know how whenever you get a
first like you first get a new phone or a
new gadget, you take really good care of it and
you protect it like it's this sacred thing, right And
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I know for me, I like I would do my
best to make sure that the screen didn't get a
scratch on it, and that it was you know, safely
out of harm's way of the bathtub or toilet, and
that it was safely nestled in a protective case, you know,
you know, just in case I dropped it, But then
you know, inevitably that first drop would take place, you know,
the one where you suddenly feel like you're in slow
motion saying like no, as you see it falling to
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hit the floor, but you're not fast enough to be
able to do anything about it, and you know your
panic was probably unnecessary, and you know, you pick it
up and realize like, okay, it got its first scratcher bruise,
but it was gonna be fine.
Speaker 2 (15:31):
Right.
Speaker 3 (15:32):
But for me, with every new phone I get, you know,
the new novelty wears off little by little, right like
the shiny new object loses it's just out of the
box luster after so long, and other things become more
of a priority than taking care of your phone. And
so the days and the weeks and the months and
sometimes years, if it makes it that far, they pass
and life goes on. But then I don't know, if
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you remember back in the day, like they had those
they would send out emails being like you can get
a new phone, and so you'd get that in inevitable
email from your cell phone company. And for me, like
you know, letting me know, I'm I'm almost due for
an upgrade. And you know again back when they had
those upgrades and you would replace your phone every few years,
and it worked like a charm for me, right, for me,
it got me started like scanning the latest models and
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having daydreams about my future cell phone partner in crime and.
Speaker 2 (16:19):
You know, premeditating all the things we would do together.
And I'm just kidding, but you know, why wouldn't I
do that though?
Speaker 3 (16:24):
Because they were enticing me with this free upgrade.
Speaker 2 (16:31):
Why wouldn't I do that though? Because they were enticing
me with this free upgrade.
Speaker 3 (16:35):
By this point, though, every time I would look down
at my current phone, which was still probably in pretty
good shape, I would notice the scratches or I would
notice how banged up it was, or you know, bogged
down or slower it had become. And of course, you
know these are first world problems, right, but like roll
with me for the sake of this analogy. But like
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when it happens, you start noticing, like, okay, it's slowing down,
and at that point in time, you probably wish you had,
you know, a faster, better, newer one. And for me,
I would start dragging that thing around like it was
a burden, you know, like secretly waiting for my upgrade
to come through, or secretly hoping it would fall in
the toilet so I could get a new one instead
of the one I had, because you know, the honeymoon
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was over, right, and the thing I used to look
at with googly eyes and take care of it like
it was my firstborn child was officially a nuisance or
an annoyance and something I couldn't wait to get rid
of or replace, Okay, And the idea of being stuck
with it, like that's not what I wanted, right, And
I know this is a really hard knock life example
that we're talking about here, but roll with me because
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we're all.
Speaker 2 (17:41):
A bit guilty of this when you think about it.
Speaker 3 (17:43):
Right, Maybe it's not your phone per se, but there's
something in your life that you treat like gold. Maybe
it's a friendship, Maybe it's a relationship when it's new
and exciting, right, And of course at the at the
beginning of anything, it gives you that, you know, the
post purchase or post connection dopamine rash that feels oh
so good in the moment, But just like any gadget
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or gizmo like you use it until it doesn't operate
efficiently anymore, or there's.
Speaker 2 (18:08):
No more rev and it's engine. So think about that.
Speaker 3 (18:11):
And now let me ask you, how do you treat
your body? And I don't just mean your arms and
your legs and the hair on your head. I mean
all of it, all the little bits and bobs that
comprise this miraculous piece of machinery that we are all
pretty dang fortunate to be able to test drive throughout
our lifetime.
Speaker 2 (18:32):
So do you treat it like your old cell phone?
Speaker 1 (18:34):
Right?
Speaker 3 (18:35):
Do you treat it like you have another one waiting
for you on standby or at the phone.
Speaker 2 (18:39):
Factory or Apple store?
Speaker 3 (18:41):
Do you love it and protect it and care for
it as much as you would a brand new iPad
or gulp, a brand new car. And the truth is,
and I will be the first to admit this, I
did not value my body. For most of my life.
I heard about this idea of like, when you get older,
you're gonna need to take care of your body, right,
But for me, when I was younger, I was hearing
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the messages about getting skinny, like I said, like I
was chasing skinny, and so yeah, I understand that at
the ripe old age of forty, I'm not supposed to
again again with air quotes know what goes on inside
the mind of someone double my age that's simply trying
to take care of their body.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
But I promise you I.
Speaker 3 (19:18):
Do, and up until about, you know, twelve fifteen years
ago something like that, I couldn't have cared less about
self care or taking care of my body, right because
back in the day, just like any other twenty something
woman who at the time, my biggest body concern was
whether or not my muffin top was hanging over my
jeans and if I.
Speaker 2 (19:36):
Could smooth it out with shapewear. Right thinking about my.
Speaker 3 (19:40):
You know, body as this miraculous machine that was very
boring to me, or it just didn't resonate with me,
I should say, And it wasn't as sexy as looking
good in my skinny jeans or fitting into that cute little.
Speaker 2 (19:52):
Black dress because obviously.
Speaker 3 (19:55):
I didn't know what I didn't know, and I only
knew what I knew. But my injury and surgery and
then the subsequent after effects of my surgery completely changed
the way I saw my body, and honestly, the bodies
of the women that I worked with, and I started
a journey that would force me to literally relearn things
like how to crawl, then stand up and walk again,
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and then eventually run.
Speaker 2 (20:18):
But here's what I would say about it now.
Speaker 3 (20:21):
I used to completely neglect my body like it was
my old, beaten down cell phone right before I was
due for a new one, and I cared more about
how it looked or what size it wore than how
it felt, how it moved, or how long i'd actually
be able to keep it in service right because I
punished it and I restricted it, and I fought it
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every step of the way when it didn't perform to
my liking or look how I wanted it to look.
And I starved it and then overstuffed it, and then
pounded it to the pavement and over exerted it, and
then got mad at it when it needed a break
from all of my demands. But most important to note,
I treated it like it was just a thing that
I was stuck with or burdened by, or just putting
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up with for a little while until I could replace
it with a newer model. But the reality eventually sunk
into me that there was no newer model waiting for
me in some.
Speaker 2 (21:15):
Factory, like this was it. This was the body that
I had, This was the only one I got.
Speaker 3 (21:21):
And to be honest, because this podcast is all event
about transparency, you know, this pissed me off for a
long time, right.
Speaker 2 (21:30):
Like I was mad. I was so mad. I felt
so frustrated.
Speaker 3 (21:33):
But I wasn't mad at the universe or the cards
I got dealt. I realized I was mad at me.
I was mad at my body for so many years.
I was so mad at my body and myself for
being someone who you know, quote unquote let her body
become so quote unquote broken. And I keep using air
quotes because this was actually how I talked to and
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talked about my body, like my body was broken and
like I did something to deserve it all.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
And then the more.
Speaker 3 (22:01):
Mad I got at it, the less I deemed it
worthy to get my love, attention and care.
Speaker 2 (22:06):
So I just brought on more.
Speaker 3 (22:08):
Punishment and restriction and abuse, and the cycle just continued.
And in my cycle was like, Okay, treat it like crap,
hate it some more, show it whose boss, and you know,
punish it with diets and exercise restrict and then wash
rents repeat. And so what I'm about to say might
rub some people the wrong way that believe that self
love is the.
Speaker 2 (22:27):
Air quotes miracle that will change your life. And I
do believe self love is a massive part of the puzzle.
Don't get me wrong. I talk about it all the time.
Speaker 3 (22:36):
But how can you truly love something like your body
or someone like yourself that you don't even deem worthy
of taking care of? And so here's my invitation for
you as we get into this topic of fat and fascia.
Speaker 2 (22:51):
What if taking.
Speaker 3 (22:52):
Care of your body and your fat and fashia as
you'll learn, and taking care of your health and taking
care of yourself was the new self love?
Speaker 1 (23:01):
Like?
Speaker 2 (23:01):
What if that was the verb form of self love?
Speaker 1 (23:04):
Right?
Speaker 3 (23:04):
What if taking care of your body and your health
and yourself was the new self worth or self esteem
like it was the verb form of it?
Speaker 2 (23:11):
Right?
Speaker 3 (23:12):
And what if taking care of your body and your
health and yourself was the new health plan?
Speaker 2 (23:18):
Right? Like what if your love for yourself could and would?
Speaker 3 (23:22):
I guarantee you it would skyrocket if you simply treated
it more like a shiny new cell phone rather than
gum on the bottom of your shoe. And again, I'll
emphasize when I was younger, I didn't care about taking
care of my body. I wanted to be skinny or
lean or pretty or whatever words I was using at
the time, and there was a major cost. Okay, I
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call it the cost of skinny. And there's another entire
episode here on Outweigh dedicated to the cost of skinny,
because I believe that every woman who gets caught up
in the diet mentality or obsessively thinking about her weight
has her own cost of skinny too. Check that out
if you missed it. But here's what I say about
it now. Okay, you don't have to be fifty five,
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sixty five, seventy five plus or deemed a senior citizen
to start taking care of your body like it's the
only one you've got.
Speaker 2 (24:12):
And you can.
Speaker 3 (24:13):
Still care about your gene size or your waistline, and
you can still care how fast you run or how
strong you are, and you can still desire to change
the way your body.
Speaker 2 (24:23):
Looks, moves and feels.
Speaker 3 (24:25):
But I invite you, in fact, I'm like strongly urging
you to just do it from a place of self care,
not self control or self discipline. And I can say
with certainty that if you are indeed on a quest
for self love, the road will be a heck of
a lot bumpy, or if it's even possible, if you
don't first pass through self acceptance and self care. And
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trust me, you are way more valuable than some shiny
new cell phone. Like you deserve to have a body
and a health that you take care of. And if
you don't believe that that you deserve it and that
you're worthy to have both, like when I say both,
like to like your body and take care of it
without sacrificing your happiness for your health or your health
for your happiness, Well then I am so glad.
Speaker 2 (25:08):
That you are here listening to this podcast right now.
Speaker 3 (25:12):
And don't get me wrong, this body connection and body
acceptance conversation is a big conversation, one that we can't
possibly tackle in one episode alone. And that's why this
is called The Truth About Your Fat Part one, because
this is just the first layer. And if you know me,
I'm a dorec And yes, I'm sure the pun was intended,
but I also chose to name the series and start
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off this topic by talking about your fat.
Speaker 2 (25:38):
Yeah, I said it.
Speaker 3 (25:38):
We're going to be talking about your fat in a
way that I can promise you you have never heard
before and hopefully we'll never see your fat the same
way again. So that's it for part one. And I
purposely stopped here because we are going to get into
the content. But that is the intent, and the intent
is way more important than the content, to be honest,
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because again, if you do have a self critical or
dysmorphic relationship with your body or your fat as in
again the subcutaneous fat on your body, right, that's why
I actually urge you to look at it and learn
about it and discover what it is and what it's not,
and that way you can dispel the lies and actually
learn what it takes to shift it both in your
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mind and on your body. Because again I promise you
it's way more than an eat less move more conversation, like,
way way more okay, And that's really my invitation to you, Like,
instead of focusing on what you're eating or what you're weighing,
go on a big fat experiment, right because, as you'll learn,
it is such a powerful way to connect to your
body and truly heal your body image.
Speaker 2 (26:45):
And if all you do today.
Speaker 3 (26:47):
Is say hey, I'm done shaming and blaming something that
I don't even know much about, and I'm ready to
learn and ready to approach it differently, and I'm ready
to end the battle I'm.
Speaker 2 (26:57):
In with my body.
Speaker 3 (26:58):
Then that would not only make me very happy, but
you are going to love and yet so much out of.
Speaker 2 (27:03):
This entire series. So yeah, that's it for today, outweigh.
Speaker 3 (27:07):
I hope you got whatever you needed to hear today,
and I hope this just opened your eyes to something
that you might not have had them open to before.
And if you liked what you heard today and you
want to hear more about the process I teach my
clients about rewiring your own brain, then head on over
to stressless eeating dot com and sign up to watch
the Stressless Eating Masterclass, where I'll walk you through the
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exact five step game plan my clients use to heal
themselves from that all or nothing diet mentality for good,
but without restricting themselves and punishing their bodies, and definitely
without ever having to use words like macros, low carb
or calorie burn. And so I've laid it all out
there for you in five easy steps over at stressless
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eating dot com and if you liked today's episode, we
will be back next week for more Outweigh, where we're
going to get into part two of the True About
Your Fat. So I'm Leahne Ellington and I will talk
to you then
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I'm made done. Won't spend my life trying to change.
I'm learning love who I am again, strong, I feel free,
I know every part of me.
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It's beautiful.
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And that will always out way if you feel it.
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Happy Saturday, outweigh.
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It's leanne here for a solo episode, or actually it's
an entire series, and it's called The Truth About Your Fat.
Now you might be wondering what is she talking about?
And why are we talking about fat? But just hear
me out. So nowadays fat has a bad rap. We
hate it, we fear it, we name it, we blame it,
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we shame it. Some people will do whatever they can
to destroy and eliminate its wrath from their lives. But
whoever said that fat was ugly or something to be
ashamed of? And whoever said that fat was a bad thing?
And whoever said that fat was anything other.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
Than well fat?
Speaker 3 (01:19):
But since it is such a prevalent enemy in today's world,
and yes I'm putting enemy in air quotes, but since
it's not going away anytime soon, we might as well
learn about it and hear about it and learn about
its properties.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
Right.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
In fact, if all we do is hate on fat
and wish it away, we might miss out on its
useful and downright cool characteristics. There's physiological, neurological, and psychological
components of fat, but no one is talking about that
side of things. And after all, it is this metabolically
active substance that's part of our bodies, right, But most
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women don't know about that side of it, and when
you think about it, we fear what we don't know. So,
for example, I used to be super scared of going
into the ocean. So besides the whole story that I had,
you know, that my body was not meant to be
seen in a bathing suit, and that my you know,
it was a lot of my body image stuff really
that contributed to that story of not going into the ocean.
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But I also had a story that I was downright
afraid of the ocean.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
You know, things biting me or attacking.
Speaker 3 (02:26):
Me, or you know, sharks with laser beams and imaginary
alligators in my mind most likely, but irrational fears, nonetheless,
because none of the things I was afraid of actually
happened to me, but in my mind it felt like
they had. And like we've talked about before, your nervous
system can't tell the difference between a real or an
imagined experience. So one day a good friend of mine
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was like, hey, do you want to get over this fear?
And I was like, yes, please, I mean I really
wanted to. So he walked me out into the water,
and I inevitably shrieked like this little girl every time
seaweed grazed my feet, and you know, just further and
grain my fears.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
So here's what he did. He picked up some seaweed.
Speaker 3 (03:08):
And he had me look at it, and he had
me hold it and touch it and see it and
feel and experience that it wasn't going to hurt me,
but also to show my logical brain that this is
what was grazing my feet and it wasn't a shark.
And so as soon as I saw it and I
faced it head on and I touched it, I was
able to go in the ocean and now actually get
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in the water after thirty years of not. So I
share this with you just to impress upon you that
if you do have this kind of dysmorphic relationship with
your body fat.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
As in, you know, the subcutaneous.
Speaker 3 (03:42):
Fat on your body and not nutritional fat, which is
another topic on its own. I'm talking about the fat
on your body. That's why I urge you to actually
look at it and learn about it and discover what
it is and really what it's not, and that way
you can dispel the lies and actually learn what.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
It takes to shift it if you want.
Speaker 3 (04:01):
To do that, both in your mind and on your body,
because I promise you it's way more than an eat
less move more conversation, like way way more.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
But it's also such a confusing topic.
Speaker 3 (04:12):
I mean, if you ask one hundred different people what
the best way to you know, lose fat or lose
weight is, you're going to get a hundred different answers,
and most of them will definitely, you know, take you
down that road of eat less move more, which a
lot of times perpetuates the struggles with disordered eating and
body dysmorphy and all of that if you don't have
a healthy relationship with food. But they'll most likely take
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you down one of the avenues that you know, the
fitness industry created, but in my opinion, that's old school
thinking and if you're anything like me again, that's what
created a lot of my own disordered patterns in the
first place.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
Because what you eat and how you move is is.
Speaker 3 (04:46):
Yeah, it's part of the equation, but it doesn't cover
the whole picture. And so when it comes to your
body and your health and yes, you're fat, there is
a cause and then there are its effects. Okay, something's
going on upstream, and then there's a result taking place downstream.
And I truly believe, and science will back me up
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that your health, body and emotional struggles are simply effects
of something going on higher up in your brain.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
And nervous system. Right.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
And when I talk about nervous system, what I really
mean is that system of systems that dictates everything. Okay,
And so in this series specifically, we're going to talk
about a subject matter that really does baffle most women
and causes more shame and sadness than any topic I've
ever encountered, and it's your fat. We're going to talk
about your fat. Let's get to the bottom of this
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conundrum and just distill the facts, Okay, because all of
the conventional approaches are missing out on the most important
factor like what is fat?
Speaker 1 (05:46):
Right?
Speaker 3 (05:46):
What kind of fat is it? And you'll hear what
you'll know what I mean, you know when we go
through this series, and.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
Why is it there? How did it get there? And
is it serving a purpose? Right?
Speaker 3 (05:56):
Because sometimes on a brain and nervous system level, it's
actually serving a purpose, which we'll talk about, and most importantly,
like what is keeping it from going away? If it's
causing something negative like maybe it's causing too much stress
on your joints, or maybe it is restricting your muscles,
or maybe it's keeping you in an unhealthy state. Right,
And so that is a three dimensional conversation and a
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three dimensional you know question, because it's not just a
body thing, and it's not just a mind thing, and
it's not just a brain thing. It's really all three
And if we don't get all of your three dimensional
self playing on the same team, everything that you do
to influence your situation will probably just create temporary change.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
And so you might be able to.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
Motivate yourself or willpower your way there and you'll see
some temporary results, but you won't be able to create
those permanent changes that you desire until you address the
cause of the problem and really create true freedom and
health for yourself, which which is really what you want.
And of course I mean that you know, holistically, three dimensionally,
and of course that's going to be relevant when we're
talk talking about your subcutaneous fat and as you'll learn,
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fascia as well. And so you want to make sure
that you're addressing the actual wiring in your brain that's
keeping you stuck. Okay, And like I said before, and
what I've found throughout my own trials and successes on
my own body and the bodies of every single woman
I've ever worked with the problem, and the solution is
three dimensional, like we said, And until you address both
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the internal and external environments that are influencing your physical, mental,
and emotional you know wiring, unfortunately, your fat isn't going
to go anywhere in the long run, right, So what
can be done about it? Well, we're going to open
up this can of worms on today's podcast and really
throughout this whole series. Okay, So this is part one,
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and so on this episode, I'm going to enlighten you
on this magical tissue that we call fat and it's
really cool relative fascia and in future episodes. We're going
to be getting into some methods and philosophies that I
feel will change the game for you when it comes
to accepting your body and working with your body, and
taking this topic of fat on your body and flipping
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it on its head so it doesn't own you or
define you. So let's just go ahead and dive on in.
So let's just go ahead and dive on in. But
before we dive into the meat of it, I want
to just give you a bit of context of how
my big fat story went down for me and how
I discovered everything I'm going to share with you, and
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really why it's relevant to you, as in, you know
why you should care about your tissues, right and trust me,
I used to say the same thing. I didn't care
about any of this, right I was, you know, when
I was at the height of my disorder, I was
just chasing skinny or chasing lean or whatever. But after
my surgery, the craziest things started happening. I shared a
lot about what I'm about to talk about in the
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Learn from My Mistakes episode here on Outweigh, which we
will link in the show notes. But because I wasn't
taking care of my body, and like I said, I
was just chasing skinny as I now call it, but
you know, I was ignoring my true health. Yes, I
had a lot of you know, psychological struggles with food
in my body, but I ended up needing major spine
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surgery because I was super injured.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
But I kept trying to work through it.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
Right, Yeah, Like that's really how toxic my relationship with
my body, you know, really manifested because like I said,
I was really injured, but I was like, oh my gosh,
if I stopped moving, if I stopped working out, I'm
going to gain all this weight. Like it was a
give and take that I didn't know how to get
out of. But it's also what eventually woke me up
to address it. And so I really am grateful that
that happened. But just to give you some context, my
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surgery was a success, but I had a lot of
neurological struggles after my surgery. And so the first thing
I noticed is I just felt different, like I went
under anesthesia and it's like the lights went out and
when the lights came back on, I just kind of
felt different. And I wasn't really always able to describe it,
especially back then, but it was mental, like mentally I
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felt different. It was definitely physical. And the first physical
thing I noticed that was from my pinky finger to
my pinky toe on my left side, So that whole
line on my left side from pinky to pinky, I
just couldn't feel it as much as I could feel
my right side.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
And so some people.
Speaker 3 (10:14):
Are like hyper sensitive and have pain after a major
injury or surgery, but for me, it was almost like
I was undersensitized and I had desensitization on that side
of my body in terms of how well my muscles
were firing and just how that side of my body moved.
But on the flip side of that, it's almost like
I was given this gift because my body awareness was
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also hyper sensitive, Like I could feel everything on this
new level, and that part of it wasn't just physical,
like it was emotional energetically physically, I could just feel
other people's emotions more too, not just my own. So
it was it was quite the contradiction, you know, Like muscularly,
I couldn't perform as well on my left side as
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I could on my right side. But on a sensitive
level and a body awareness level, I had this whole
new gift, so to speak, but I didn't call it
a gift at the time.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
It was.
Speaker 3 (11:07):
It actually really scared me. You know, keep in mind,
I was twenty five. I was scared nobody could help me,
and because of what I was doing on a career level,
I also felt like a fraud because back then, and
you know, this feels like an alternate lifetime and alternate
universe now, but I was supposed to be this you know,
fitness expert on TV and in the media and all
of that, and here I was figuring out what was
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going on with my own body in the background. And
that's a whole other topic on its own, one that
I touched on in the Learn for My Mistakes episode.
But one of the main things I noticed, or one
of the first things I noticed, i should say, was
my fascia, which I'll tell you about in a moment.
And the only reason I discovered fascia is because I
was just playing around by massaging the left side.
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Of my body.
Speaker 3 (11:52):
Like I told you, I couldn't really feel the left
side as much as I could feel my right side,
so I was always trying to kind of wake it up,
touching it and using tools like foam rollers and getting
massages and dry brushing. I mean, you name it, I
was doing it. If there was a gadget, I owned it.
And I discovered that there was this area of my
glutes where my glutes just pretty much weren't turning on,
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like they were not firing. And then I noticed that
there was pockets of fat on my hips and my
sacrum area, and that it was relational to where my
glutes were not firing, Like it was almost fat pockets
covering up my glutes, but it wasn't this normal subcutaneous fat.
It felt very thick and sticky and fibrous, almost like
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it was casing or incasing my glutes, and in a
ways it kind of felt like scar tissue. But I
knew enough about the body to know that it was
some sort of fascia.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
So I noticed that and it caused me to literally,
I mean, this is fifteen years ago.
Speaker 3 (12:54):
I just started googling fascia and learning about it, and
from there on out, I have been obsessed with fascia,
or as my dorky self likes to say, I've been
fascionated by it. In side note, just to give you
an idea of how obsessed I am and have been
obsessed with it and how much of a difference just
knowing about fat and fascia has made on my life.
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I actually own fashionate dot com like I've had it
for years because I always knew I was going to
share my truths about it and ever since I discovered
the connection between fat and fascia.
Speaker 2 (13:25):
You know, at first, it actually really made me mad.
Speaker 3 (13:27):
And it made me mad because I was like, why
is the world not talking about this right? And obviously
now I realize that being mad doesn't serve me and
it doesn't serve you or anybody, but it was that
much of a game changer for me, I should say,
So I'm no longer mad about it, obviously, I just
want the world to know about it. And really that's
why we're here, and it is such a big topic.
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And unfortunately, most of the world in mainstream knowledge is
not connecting the nervous system and fascia to your health.
So if this podcast episode and see you even just
helps a small pocket of the world understand what a
big player fat and fascia are in your health journey,
well that would honestly just make me really happy.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
So that's what the goal is.
Speaker 3 (14:11):
And we're gonna do just that, and I'm going to
tell you all about this magical world of fat and
fascia and why it can be the game changer for
you that you didn't even know you were looking for.
And so we're going to talk about the specifics of
fat and fascia and why you should care in just
a moment. But first I wanted to share with you
something that I wish somebody had told me when I
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was younger.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
I wish I had gotten this memo.
Speaker 3 (14:35):
When I was spending all of that time and energy
harming my body just to you know, chase thin or
chase skinny, like I said I was doing. And here's
an analogy I use with my clients to drive my
point home. So you know how whenever you get a
first like you first get a new phone or a
new gadget, you take really good care of it and
you protect it like it's this sacred thing, right And
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I know for me, I like I would do my
best to make sure that the screen didn't get a
scratch on it, and that it was you know, safely
out of harm's way of the bathtub or toilet, and
that it was safely nestled in a protective case, you know,
you know, just in case I dropped it, But then
you know, inevitably that first drop would take place, you know,
the one where you suddenly feel like you're in slow
motion saying like no, as you see it falling to
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hit the floor, but you're not fast enough to be
able to do anything about it, and you know your
panic was probably unnecessary, and you know, you pick it
up and realize like, okay, it got its first scratcher bruise,
but it was gonna be fine.
Speaker 2 (15:31):
Right.
Speaker 3 (15:32):
But for me, with every new phone I get, you know,
the new novelty wears off little by little, right like
the shiny new object loses it's just out of the
box luster after so long, and other things become more
of a priority than taking care of your phone. And
so the days and the weeks and the months and
sometimes years, if it makes it that far, they pass
and life goes on. But then I don't know, if
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you remember back in the day, like they had those
they would send out emails being like you can get
a new phone, and so you'd get that in inevitable
email from your cell phone company. And for me, like
you know, letting me know, I'm I'm almost due for
an upgrade. And you know again back when they had
those upgrades and you would replace your phone every few years,
and it worked like a charm for me, right, for me,
it got me started like scanning the latest models and
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having daydreams about my future cell phone partner in crime and.
Speaker 2 (16:19):
You know, premeditating all the things we would do together.
And I'm just kidding, but you know, why wouldn't I
do that though?
Speaker 3 (16:24):
Because they were enticing me with this free upgrade.
Speaker 2 (16:31):
Why wouldn't I do that though? Because they were enticing
me with this free upgrade.
Speaker 3 (16:35):
By this point, though, every time I would look down
at my current phone, which was still probably in pretty
good shape, I would notice the scratches or I would
notice how banged up it was, or you know, bogged
down or slower it had become. And of course, you
know these are first world problems, right, but like roll
with me for the sake of this analogy. But like
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when it happens, you start noticing, like, okay, it's slowing down,
and at that point in time, you probably wish you had,
you know, a faster, better, newer one. And for me,
I would start dragging that thing around like it was
a burden, you know, like secretly waiting for my upgrade
to come through, or secretly hoping it would fall in
the toilet so I could get a new one instead
of the one I had, because you know, the honeymoon
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was over, right, and the thing I used to look
at with googly eyes and take care of it like
it was my firstborn child was officially a nuisance or
an annoyance and something I couldn't wait to get rid
of or replace, Okay, And the idea of being stuck
with it, like that's not what I wanted, right, And
I know this is a really hard knock life example
that we're talking about here, but roll with me because
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we're all.
Speaker 2 (17:41):
A bit guilty of this when you think about it.
Speaker 3 (17:43):
Right, Maybe it's not your phone per se, but there's
something in your life that you treat like gold. Maybe
it's a friendship, Maybe it's a relationship when it's new
and exciting, right, And of course at the at the
beginning of anything, it gives you that, you know, the
post purchase or post connection dopamine rash that feels oh
so good in the moment, But just like any gadget
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or gizmo like you use it until it doesn't operate
efficiently anymore, or there's.
Speaker 2 (18:08):
No more rev and it's engine. So think about that.
Speaker 3 (18:11):
And now let me ask you, how do you treat
your body? And I don't just mean your arms and
your legs and the hair on your head. I mean
all of it, all the little bits and bobs that
comprise this miraculous piece of machinery that we are all
pretty dang fortunate to be able to test drive throughout
our lifetime.
Speaker 2 (18:32):
So do you treat it like your old cell phone?
Speaker 1 (18:34):
Right?
Speaker 3 (18:35):
Do you treat it like you have another one waiting
for you on standby or at the phone.
Speaker 2 (18:39):
Factory or Apple store?
Speaker 3 (18:41):
Do you love it and protect it and care for
it as much as you would a brand new iPad
or gulp, a brand new car. And the truth is,
and I will be the first to admit this, I
did not value my body. For most of my life.
I heard about this idea of like, when you get older,
you're gonna need to take care of your body, right,
But for me, when I was younger, I was hearing
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the messages about getting skinny, like I said, like I
was chasing skinny, and so yeah, I understand that at
the ripe old age of forty, I'm not supposed to
again again with air quotes know what goes on inside
the mind of someone double my age that's simply trying
to take care of their body.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
But I promise you I.
Speaker 3 (19:18):
Do, and up until about, you know, twelve fifteen years
ago something like that, I couldn't have cared less about
self care or taking care of my body, right because
back in the day, just like any other twenty something
woman who at the time, my biggest body concern was
whether or not my muffin top was hanging over my
jeans and if I.
Speaker 2 (19:36):
Could smooth it out with shapewear. Right thinking about my.
Speaker 3 (19:40):
You know, body as this miraculous machine that was very
boring to me, or it just didn't resonate with me,
I should say, And it wasn't as sexy as looking
good in my skinny jeans or fitting into that cute little.
Speaker 2 (19:52):
Black dress because obviously.
Speaker 3 (19:55):
I didn't know what I didn't know, and I only
knew what I knew. But my injury and surgery and
then the subsequent after effects of my surgery completely changed
the way I saw my body, and honestly, the bodies
of the women that I worked with, and I started
a journey that would force me to literally relearn things
like how to crawl, then stand up and walk again,
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and then eventually run.
Speaker 2 (20:18):
But here's what I would say about it now.
Speaker 3 (20:21):
I used to completely neglect my body like it was
my old, beaten down cell phone right before I was
due for a new one, and I cared more about
how it looked or what size it wore than how
it felt, how it moved, or how long i'd actually
be able to keep it in service right because I
punished it and I restricted it, and I fought it
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every step of the way when it didn't perform to
my liking or look how I wanted it to look.
And I starved it and then overstuffed it, and then
pounded it to the pavement and over exerted it, and
then got mad at it when it needed a break
from all of my demands. But most important to note,
I treated it like it was just a thing that
I was stuck with or burdened by, or just putting
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up with for a little while until I could replace
it with a newer model. But the reality eventually sunk
into me that there was no newer model waiting for
me in some.
Speaker 2 (21:15):
Factory, like this was it. This was the body that
I had, This was the only one I got.
Speaker 3 (21:21):
And to be honest, because this podcast is all event
about transparency, you know, this pissed me off for a
long time, right.
Speaker 2 (21:30):
Like I was mad. I was so mad. I felt
so frustrated.
Speaker 3 (21:33):
But I wasn't mad at the universe or the cards
I got dealt. I realized I was mad at me.
I was mad at my body for so many years.
I was so mad at my body and myself for
being someone who you know, quote unquote let her body
become so quote unquote broken. And I keep using air
quotes because this was actually how I talked to and
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talked about my body, like my body was broken and
like I did something to deserve it all.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
And then the more.
Speaker 3 (22:01):
Mad I got at it, the less I deemed it
worthy to get my love, attention and care.
Speaker 2 (22:06):
So I just brought on more.
Speaker 3 (22:08):
Punishment and restriction and abuse, and the cycle just continued.
And in my cycle was like, Okay, treat it like crap,
hate it some more, show it whose boss, and you know,
punish it with diets and exercise restrict and then wash
rents repeat. And so what I'm about to say might
rub some people the wrong way that believe that self
love is the.
Speaker 2 (22:27):
Air quotes miracle that will change your life. And I
do believe self love is a massive part of the puzzle.
Don't get me wrong. I talk about it all the time.
Speaker 3 (22:36):
But how can you truly love something like your body
or someone like yourself that you don't even deem worthy
of taking care of? And so here's my invitation for
you as we get into this topic of fat and fascia.
Speaker 2 (22:51):
What if taking.
Speaker 3 (22:52):
Care of your body and your fat and fashia as
you'll learn, and taking care of your health and taking
care of yourself was the new self love?
Speaker 1 (23:01):
Like?
Speaker 2 (23:01):
What if that was the verb form of self love?
Speaker 1 (23:04):
Right?
Speaker 3 (23:04):
What if taking care of your body and your health
and yourself was the new self worth or self esteem
like it was the verb form of it?
Speaker 2 (23:11):
Right?
Speaker 3 (23:12):
And what if taking care of your body and your
health and yourself was the new health plan?
Speaker 2 (23:18):
Right? Like what if your love for yourself could and would?
Speaker 3 (23:22):
I guarantee you it would skyrocket if you simply treated
it more like a shiny new cell phone rather than
gum on the bottom of your shoe. And again, I'll
emphasize when I was younger, I didn't care about taking
care of my body. I wanted to be skinny or
lean or pretty or whatever words I was using at
the time, and there was a major cost. Okay, I
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call it the cost of skinny. And there's another entire
episode here on Outweigh dedicated to the cost of skinny,
because I believe that every woman who gets caught up
in the diet mentality or obsessively thinking about her weight
has her own cost of skinny too. Check that out
if you missed it. But here's what I say about
it now. Okay, you don't have to be fifty five,
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sixty five, seventy five plus or deemed a senior citizen
to start taking care of your body like it's the
only one you've got.
Speaker 2 (24:12):
And you can.
Speaker 3 (24:13):
Still care about your gene size or your waistline, and
you can still care how fast you run or how
strong you are, and you can still desire to change
the way your body.
Speaker 2 (24:23):
Looks, moves and feels.
Speaker 3 (24:25):
But I invite you, in fact, I'm like strongly urging
you to just do it from a place of self care,
not self control or self discipline. And I can say
with certainty that if you are indeed on a quest
for self love, the road will be a heck of
a lot bumpy, or if it's even possible, if you
don't first pass through self acceptance and self care. And
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trust me, you are way more valuable than some shiny
new cell phone. Like you deserve to have a body
and a health that you take care of. And if
you don't believe that that you deserve it and that
you're worthy to have both, like when I say both,
like to like your body and take care of it
without sacrificing your happiness for your health or your health
for your happiness, Well then I am so glad.
Speaker 2 (25:08):
That you are here listening to this podcast right now.
Speaker 3 (25:12):
And don't get me wrong, this body connection and body
acceptance conversation is a big conversation, one that we can't
possibly tackle in one episode alone. And that's why this
is called The Truth About Your Fat Part one, because
this is just the first layer. And if you know me,
I'm a dorec And yes, I'm sure the pun was intended,
but I also chose to name the series and start
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off this topic by talking about your fat.
Speaker 2 (25:38):
Yeah, I said it.
Speaker 3 (25:38):
We're going to be talking about your fat in a
way that I can promise you you have never heard
before and hopefully we'll never see your fat the same
way again. So that's it for part one. And I
purposely stopped here because we are going to get into
the content. But that is the intent, and the intent
is way more important than the content, to be honest,
(26:01):
because again, if you do have a self critical or
dysmorphic relationship with your body or your fat as in
again the subcutaneous fat on your body, right, that's why
I actually urge you to look at it and learn
about it and discover what it is and what it's not,
and that way you can dispel the lies and actually
learn what it takes to shift it both in your
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mind and on your body. Because again I promise you
it's way more than an eat less move more conversation, like,
way way more okay, And that's really my invitation to you, Like,
instead of focusing on what you're eating or what you're weighing,
go on a big fat experiment, right because, as you'll learn,
it is such a powerful way to connect to your
body and truly heal your body image.
Speaker 2 (26:45):
And if all you do today.
Speaker 3 (26:47):
Is say hey, I'm done shaming and blaming something that
I don't even know much about, and I'm ready to
learn and ready to approach it differently, and I'm ready
to end the battle I'm.
Speaker 2 (26:57):
In with my body.
Speaker 3 (26:58):
Then that would not only make me very happy, but
you are going to love and yet so much out of.
Speaker 2 (27:03):
This entire series. So yeah, that's it for today, outweigh.
Speaker 3 (27:07):
I hope you got whatever you needed to hear today,
and I hope this just opened your eyes to something
that you might not have had them open to before.
And if you liked what you heard today and you
want to hear more about the process I teach my
clients about rewiring your own brain, then head on over
to stressless eeating dot com and sign up to watch
the Stressless Eating Masterclass, where I'll walk you through the
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exact five step game plan my clients use to heal
themselves from that all or nothing diet mentality for good,
but without restricting themselves and punishing their bodies, and definitely
without ever having to use words like macros, low carb
or calorie burn. And so I've laid it all out
there for you in five easy steps over at stressless
(27:51):
eating dot com and if you liked today's episode, we
will be back next week for more Outweigh, where we're
going to get into part two of the True About
Your Fat. So I'm Leahne Ellington and I will talk
to you then
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