June 22, 2024 • 15 mins
OUTWEIGH: In 2008 Stephanie O'Dea made a New Year’s Resolution to use her crockpot slow cooker every day for a year and write about it online. This simple idea started with absolutely no-money down, and by the end of the year she had a book deal with a New York publisher, multiple television appearances, and a brand new career she could do at home, in her fuzzy slippers, while caring for her three children.
What began as a simple New Year's resolution to use her crockpot slow cooker every day for a year evolved into a transformative journey towards slow living and self-care. Stephanie shares her 5 steps to embracing a slower, more intentional lifestyle in a fast-paced world. Discover how you can prioritize self-care, cultivate mindfulness, and find joy in the present moment as we delve into the art of slowing down with Stephanie O'Dea.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I won't let my body out be outwait everything that
I'm made done, won't spend my life trying to change.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
I'm learning to love who I am again. I'm strong,
I feel free, I know every part of me. It's beautiful.
Speaker 3 (00:19):
And that will always out way if you feel it.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
But she'll some love to the mood.
Speaker 4 (00:27):
Why get there, sage day?
Speaker 1 (00:30):
Ana? Did you and die out way?
Speaker 4 (00:35):
Happy Saturday outweigh.
Speaker 3 (00:36):
We are back here and I have a very special guest,
Stephanie Oday.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
Hello, Stephanie, Hello, Hello.
Speaker 4 (00:43):
So glad to have you here.
Speaker 3 (00:44):
So just to kind of give you all a reference
of where Stephanie and I met. She was actually one
of the mentors for this incubator competition thing that I did,
which is another story for another day. But now she's
become a dear friend. We just hit it off and
she has such a beautiful test of how she got
to the point that she's at right now. But she's
a New York Times best selling author, among other things,
(01:06):
and the host of the Slow Living podcast, and she
specializes in helping people figure out how to reach their
goals in a really slow and steady and sustainable way
without all the hype or hustle that a lot of
culture has.
Speaker 4 (01:19):
Indoctrinated us into.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
So this week she's going to be sharing her five
step framework to what she calls slow living, and then
she's going to be back next week as well to
talk about her three part success formula. But before we
dive into her five step slow living framework, i'd love
for Stephanie if you could just kind of give us,
give us the thirty thousand foot overview of how you
(01:41):
came to be this amazing expert in all things slow living,
and just kind of share with us a little bit
about who you are and how you got to this point.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
You bet, thanks so much for having me Lan.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
So you are absolutely correct that we hit it off immediately,
and I think what was fun for me to connect
with you is our morals and our ethics were aligned.
And then also both of us have refused to do
things we didn't want to do. And I actually got
started writing online in two thousand and eight because I
(02:13):
quit my job and I needed to quickly find a
legitimate way to make money from home while taking care
of my babies. And they're fine, but at the time,
my youngest was in daycare and she was vomiting sporadically,
and we didn't know what it was, and so at
first I thought it was daycare germs, and then it
didn't go away, and so I quit. But we live
(02:35):
in San Francisco and it is super crazy expensive here,
so my husband's like, yeah, so no, you do have
to work, and so she's fine. We realized that at
the time it was Celiac disease, which is a gluten intolerance,
which we all get now, but at the time it
just wasn't as prevalent and we didn't know what it was.
But I had this fire in my belly, like I've
(02:57):
got to find a way to make money from home
without selling my soul. And I had done a bunch
of research and was starting to work for some online
freelance blogging sites, and I realized that there was real
money out there that women were making at home in
their pajamas, and I wanted in on that. So I
(03:19):
started realizing that recipe sites had really tight SEO, which
is search engine optimization.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
But I don't cook.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
So after a few glasses of wine at my husband's
work Christmas party, I had this voice of God like, okay, step,
you should write a recipe site.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
But since you don't cook, you.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
Should just use your crop pot because that's the only
way you know how to cook. So in two thousand
and eight, I made a New Year's resolution to use
my crockpot slow cooker every day for a year and
write about it, and that site took off.
Speaker 2 (03:50):
At the end of that year, I'd been.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
On television multiple times, I had a book deal, I
had a literary agent, and that for free site was
making real money at home and I got to stay
home with my babies, and I loved every bitty bit
of it. It was pretty gousharn amazing.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
It's so interesting because I love how you took something
from nothing and really, you know, made it your own
so that you could live in the way that you
wanted to live and take care of your babies. And
it's also interesting. I love how, yeah, you said you
don't do things the way that the society does it,
but also what happened next for you where you had
some discoveries within that and you kind of figured out
who you were and who you were and that's really
what brought you to the slow living.
Speaker 4 (04:29):
So keep going. I just I love this story. It's
so it's so cool to witness.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
So everything went super well, and I started realizing quickly
that I don't like being told what to do. So
one of the cool things I got to do was
I was filmed for an infomercial.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
And I loved it.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
They did my hair, my makeup. It was the first
time I got to wear fake eyelashes. I'm like, Okay,
this is awesome. They wanted me to look in the
camera and say, this is the best tasting beef stew
I've ever had, and I'm like, oh no, it doesn't
really mat how you cook beef stew. Beef stew tastes
like beef stew. It's the ingredients, not the cooking method.
(05:05):
And the producer guy's like, no, no, no, you can
totally say it. It's right there in this hel prompter,
and I'm like, eh, So I ended up kind of
shifting the line.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
To this is great tasting beef stew.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
Which is why I am probably not like on QVC
every day because I did not do that. But I
just realized that I wasn't going to kind of compromise
what felt good inside. And so then when he sixteen
happened and the instant pot hit the market and all
of a sudden, my literary agent and the book publishers,
(05:38):
they really wanted me to translate all of my crop
pots soa cooker recipes to the pressure cooker and instant pot,
and it just didn't align with me. I've got a
little bit of ADHD. I have decision fatigue. The idea
that I could put dinner on in the morning, push
a button, and never ever ever have to think about
(05:58):
it for the rest of the day.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
That's what was appealing to me about the crawdlot.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
And yes, the tech is super cool that you can
cook a frozen chicken in forty five minutes, but it's
not something that I wanted to do. And so I
sort of had this like voice of God, like, okay, staph,
just because you can do something fast, it doesn't mean
you should.
Speaker 2 (06:19):
And so I hit the pause button.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
And so I started to shift to slow living, got
certified for coaching, really started to dive into the brain
science behind hustle culture and realized, so, I don't think
this is actually good for people to be in this
go go go, pressure filled society. So that's when this
shift kind of happened, and that's how we met Leanne.
Speaker 4 (06:43):
Yes, I know I love it so much and it's
so cool.
Speaker 3 (06:45):
I love how you said just because you can do
it fast doesn't mean that you should. And especially you
know here on out way, everyone pretty much everyone that's
listening to this is coming from this place of like
the harder, faster, more zero to sixty mentality. And that's
what they realized. First of all, all you know, created
more of the disorder and their brain, but also wasn't
any way to live and the totally leaves off the table. Well, okay,
(07:07):
what happens now? How do I this isn't sustainable? What
is sustainable?
Speaker 2 (07:11):
Right? And so I love.
Speaker 3 (07:12):
That that, you know, a crockpot a and an instant
pot or what really gave you that distinction?
Speaker 4 (07:17):
Because again it's a thought process.
Speaker 3 (07:19):
It's in our brain to be in this hustle culture,
and so really it's a it's a transition in a way,
you know, So what does it look like to really
step into this slow living kind of way of thinking
if you've if you're kind of recovering from hustle culture.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
I mean it's very similar actually to an eating lifestyle
of when you're in a pressure filled you're kind of
white knuckling your way through it, whereas when you're slow
and steady, you're kind of flicking within. So I am
an acronym junkie. And the acronym that I used for
slow is to simply look only within. Because when you
(07:55):
ask yourself really good questions and then go quiet, you're
sub the voice of God, your intuition, the universe answers,
and when you listen to that, that's where the secret
sauce is. Because just because the lady down the street
does it this way, it might not work for you.
So ask yourself what works for me, and then for
(08:16):
the five steps. The first one is to declutter anything
that's not working. And it could absolutely be physical stuff,
but it can also be things on your calendar. It
might actually be people. But if you ask yourself, like
what is working for me and what's not, and then
do what your subconscious is telling you to do, like Okay, well,
maybe I actually need to purge some friends right now
(08:39):
and put them on pause and not forever, but just
for a while. Or maybe my house is actually making
me feel really frantic and so I'm uncomfortable at the
end of the night and we would be better to
give some stuff away. So that's Step one and then
two is to know where you're going and really just
decide on purpose how you're going to set that kind
(08:59):
of metaphor gps. So, what is it that I want
my life to look like? What do I want my
relationships to look like? My health, my finances? And then
make an action step to create that kind of stepping
into the vision of future you what does future you want?
And then three is it's tricky, but as often as
(09:21):
you can stay here, stay now, stay present, and don't
let your brain wander off into the weeds, and just
really focus. Okay, I'm here, what is the next best
step for me to take? And then four teeny tiny
action steps. I am a huge fan of ten minute timers.
(09:43):
Set the timer and do the thing that you know
you need to do. So if it's decluttering the pantry,
set that timer and just get started. You can make
an awful lot of headway in ten minute chunks. And
then step five is to just cueak and modify and
find tune and really come to terms that life is
(10:04):
a journey and if we're lucky, it's long, and just
course correct and redirect. It's not a falling on and
off the wagon. It's just it is what it is.
I like to tell my coaching clients that this is
the game of life and it's not shoots and ladders.
If you pause, you're not going to fall backwards. It's fine,
you're a okay.
Speaker 4 (10:23):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 3 (10:23):
And I love how all of these steps they go
together so beautifully. And part of it too, is like
when you're talking about this simply looking within right, It's
one of those things where I think what gets us
so bogged down is we're listening to voices that aren't ours,
or we're telling ourselves what we think we know and
what instead what we want to be doing is asking
ourselves the right questions and then listening for those answers
(10:46):
because a lot of times they are in our blind spot.
And I love that that is really what informs your
five step system, is to really just slow down, and
it's really an asking rather than it telling yourself what
you already think you know.
Speaker 4 (10:57):
So when we talk about this, you know step.
Speaker 3 (10:59):
One through five and I love it all, but you know,
really kind of diving into this a little bit deeper,
the declutter piece of the puzzle. Obviously, when we look
at that on a physiological circumstance. We can look at Okay,
my house is cluttered all of that, But when you're
talking about the kind of mental emotional clutter that might
be infiltrating our brains, could you just speak into that.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
I have a daily journaling worksheet that your listeners might enjoy.
So that's at stefanodata dot com forward slash Daily. But
I do start my day with journaling and with intention.
And sometimes people want to brain dump and purge all
of this stuff out of their brain, and that's okay,
there's a time and a place for that. But if
(11:40):
you're trying to move from where you are to where
you want to go, it's purging and it's decluttering with intention.
And so this is a guided journaling worksheet and the
first thing it asks you is how you want to
feel today. So if you're stepping into a feeling, I
want to feel confident today, I want to feel productive today. Okay, great,
(12:03):
what are the things that you need to do to
make that feeling happen for you? So if you are
feeling like you want to feel productive, maybe for you,
setting that timer for ten minutes and cleaning your desk
will give you that sort of intrinsic like gold star
that we're all like.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
Kind of chasing for.
Speaker 1 (12:23):
We were certainly programmed at a really young age to
jump through hoops for gold stars and a's and now
with social media, it's likes and all of these things.
But I think that really is a helpful way to
kind of reframe your brain in a focused way, because
when we're frantic, when we're floundery, we're like, I hate everything,
(12:45):
and then we chop our hair off and then.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
We're upset.
Speaker 3 (12:49):
Corner life crisis, right, yeah, yes, yeah, absolutely, yeah.
Speaker 4 (12:53):
I love that. And you know part of it too.
Speaker 3 (12:56):
You know, you mentioned that you're a little bit adhd
when you first came, you know, when you're sharing yourself,
and I think all of us can kind of train
our brains to be a little bit scattered. I love
how when you're talking about reverse engineering a feeling, you
know your third step is to stay here, stay now,
and stay present, and just kind of stacking on that,
like sometimes all we want to feel is grounded and
present and like, and I love how that's built into
(13:17):
your framework as well. And then in terms of the
tiny baby steps, I mean, when we're talking about teaching
our brain a long term way of thinking. If you're
feeling like a one, and most of us think of like, okay,
how can I get from a one to a ten?
And it's like, no, how can I get from a
one to a two, a two to a three?
Speaker 2 (13:31):
And it's a.
Speaker 3 (13:32):
Completely different part of our brain that thinks in minimums
on maximums. But that's how our brain can actually learn
and steady. And then, as you said in step step five,
fine tune as necessary, but you can't find tune something
that's like this overarching completely overhauls your entire life, because
then it's like what am I fine tuning? Everything that
you're sharing just aligns with how the nervous system works
(13:53):
and how it needs to learn and how it needs
to operate. So that being said, I know you shared
your daily ritual stephanioday dot com slash daily. Will go
ahead and link that in the show notes, and we're
going to have you back next week to talk about
your three part success formula. Because now that we're grounded,
and now that they're slowly and simply looking within right
and they have this five step framework to really step
into the slow living where the success can happen, she's
(14:14):
going to set you up for success with her three
step formula. But in the meantime, where can people find you?
Where can they google stock you and learn more about you?
Speaker 1 (14:22):
Well, if you are a podcast listener, and you must
be if you're listening to this, the Slow Living podcasts
on all of the platforms, and if you want.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
Crap plot recipes, that's at a year of slow.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
Cooking dot com. And then my name is Stephanie O'Day
and oday is Odea. I'm very googleable and I am
a real person. If you write to me, I will
write back.
Speaker 2 (14:43):
I promise.
Speaker 4 (14:44):
I love it awesome.
Speaker 3 (14:45):
Well, we will link all of that in the show
notes and we're going to be back here next week
to talk about the three part success formula that goes
alongside with Slow Living. So thank you so much for
being here. Happy Saturday out way, and we will see
you next week.
Speaker 4 (14:58):
Bye.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
The
I won't let my body out be outwait everything that
I'm made done, won't spend my life trying to change.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
I'm learning to love who I am again. I'm strong,
I feel free, I know every part of me. It's beautiful.
Speaker 3 (00:19):
And that will always out way if you feel it.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
But she'll some love to the mood.
Speaker 4 (00:27):
Why get there, sage day?
Speaker 1 (00:30):
Ana? Did you and die out way?
Speaker 4 (00:35):
Happy Saturday outweigh.
Speaker 3 (00:36):
We are back here and I have a very special guest,
Stephanie Oday.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
Hello, Stephanie, Hello, Hello.
Speaker 4 (00:43):
So glad to have you here.
Speaker 3 (00:44):
So just to kind of give you all a reference
of where Stephanie and I met. She was actually one
of the mentors for this incubator competition thing that I did,
which is another story for another day. But now she's
become a dear friend. We just hit it off and
she has such a beautiful test of how she got
to the point that she's at right now. But she's
a New York Times best selling author, among other things,
(01:06):
and the host of the Slow Living podcast, and she
specializes in helping people figure out how to reach their
goals in a really slow and steady and sustainable way
without all the hype or hustle that a lot of
culture has.
Speaker 4 (01:19):
Indoctrinated us into.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
So this week she's going to be sharing her five
step framework to what she calls slow living, and then
she's going to be back next week as well to
talk about her three part success formula. But before we
dive into her five step slow living framework, i'd love
for Stephanie if you could just kind of give us,
give us the thirty thousand foot overview of how you
(01:41):
came to be this amazing expert in all things slow living,
and just kind of share with us a little bit
about who you are and how you got to this point.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
You bet, thanks so much for having me Lan.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
So you are absolutely correct that we hit it off immediately,
and I think what was fun for me to connect
with you is our morals and our ethics were aligned.
And then also both of us have refused to do
things we didn't want to do. And I actually got
started writing online in two thousand and eight because I
(02:13):
quit my job and I needed to quickly find a
legitimate way to make money from home while taking care
of my babies. And they're fine, but at the time,
my youngest was in daycare and she was vomiting sporadically,
and we didn't know what it was, and so at
first I thought it was daycare germs, and then it
didn't go away, and so I quit. But we live
(02:35):
in San Francisco and it is super crazy expensive here,
so my husband's like, yeah, so no, you do have
to work, and so she's fine. We realized that at
the time it was Celiac disease, which is a gluten intolerance,
which we all get now, but at the time it
just wasn't as prevalent and we didn't know what it was.
But I had this fire in my belly, like I've
(02:57):
got to find a way to make money from home
without selling my soul. And I had done a bunch
of research and was starting to work for some online
freelance blogging sites, and I realized that there was real
money out there that women were making at home in
their pajamas, and I wanted in on that. So I
(03:19):
started realizing that recipe sites had really tight SEO, which
is search engine optimization.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
But I don't cook.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
So after a few glasses of wine at my husband's
work Christmas party, I had this voice of God like, okay, step,
you should write a recipe site.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
But since you don't cook, you.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
Should just use your crop pot because that's the only
way you know how to cook. So in two thousand
and eight, I made a New Year's resolution to use
my crockpot slow cooker every day for a year and
write about it, and that site took off.
Speaker 2 (03:50):
At the end of that year, I'd been.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
On television multiple times, I had a book deal, I
had a literary agent, and that for free site was
making real money at home and I got to stay
home with my babies, and I loved every bitty bit
of it. It was pretty gousharn amazing.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
It's so interesting because I love how you took something
from nothing and really, you know, made it your own
so that you could live in the way that you
wanted to live and take care of your babies. And
it's also interesting. I love how, yeah, you said you
don't do things the way that the society does it,
but also what happened next for you where you had
some discoveries within that and you kind of figured out
who you were and who you were and that's really
what brought you to the slow living.
Speaker 4 (04:29):
So keep going. I just I love this story. It's
so it's so cool to witness.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
So everything went super well, and I started realizing quickly
that I don't like being told what to do. So
one of the cool things I got to do was
I was filmed for an infomercial.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
And I loved it.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
They did my hair, my makeup. It was the first
time I got to wear fake eyelashes. I'm like, Okay,
this is awesome. They wanted me to look in the
camera and say, this is the best tasting beef stew
I've ever had, and I'm like, oh no, it doesn't
really mat how you cook beef stew. Beef stew tastes
like beef stew. It's the ingredients, not the cooking method.
(05:05):
And the producer guy's like, no, no, no, you can
totally say it. It's right there in this hel prompter,
and I'm like, eh, So I ended up kind of
shifting the line.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
To this is great tasting beef stew.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
Which is why I am probably not like on QVC
every day because I did not do that. But I
just realized that I wasn't going to kind of compromise
what felt good inside. And so then when he sixteen
happened and the instant pot hit the market and all
of a sudden, my literary agent and the book publishers,
(05:38):
they really wanted me to translate all of my crop
pots soa cooker recipes to the pressure cooker and instant pot,
and it just didn't align with me. I've got a
little bit of ADHD. I have decision fatigue. The idea
that I could put dinner on in the morning, push
a button, and never ever ever have to think about
(05:58):
it for the rest of the day.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
That's what was appealing to me about the crawdlot.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
And yes, the tech is super cool that you can
cook a frozen chicken in forty five minutes, but it's
not something that I wanted to do. And so I
sort of had this like voice of God, like, okay, staph,
just because you can do something fast, it doesn't mean
you should.
Speaker 2 (06:19):
And so I hit the pause button.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
And so I started to shift to slow living, got
certified for coaching, really started to dive into the brain
science behind hustle culture and realized, so, I don't think
this is actually good for people to be in this
go go go, pressure filled society. So that's when this
shift kind of happened, and that's how we met Leanne.
Speaker 4 (06:43):
Yes, I know I love it so much and it's
so cool.
Speaker 3 (06:45):
I love how you said just because you can do
it fast doesn't mean that you should. And especially you
know here on out way, everyone pretty much everyone that's
listening to this is coming from this place of like
the harder, faster, more zero to sixty mentality. And that's
what they realized. First of all, all you know, created
more of the disorder and their brain, but also wasn't
any way to live and the totally leaves off the table. Well, okay,
(07:07):
what happens now? How do I this isn't sustainable? What
is sustainable?
Speaker 2 (07:11):
Right? And so I love.
Speaker 3 (07:12):
That that, you know, a crockpot a and an instant
pot or what really gave you that distinction?
Speaker 4 (07:17):
Because again it's a thought process.
Speaker 3 (07:19):
It's in our brain to be in this hustle culture,
and so really it's a it's a transition in a way,
you know, So what does it look like to really
step into this slow living kind of way of thinking
if you've if you're kind of recovering from hustle culture.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
I mean it's very similar actually to an eating lifestyle
of when you're in a pressure filled you're kind of
white knuckling your way through it, whereas when you're slow
and steady, you're kind of flicking within. So I am
an acronym junkie. And the acronym that I used for
slow is to simply look only within. Because when you
(07:55):
ask yourself really good questions and then go quiet, you're
sub the voice of God, your intuition, the universe answers,
and when you listen to that, that's where the secret
sauce is. Because just because the lady down the street
does it this way, it might not work for you.
So ask yourself what works for me, and then for
(08:16):
the five steps. The first one is to declutter anything
that's not working. And it could absolutely be physical stuff,
but it can also be things on your calendar. It
might actually be people. But if you ask yourself, like
what is working for me and what's not, and then
do what your subconscious is telling you to do, like Okay, well,
maybe I actually need to purge some friends right now
(08:39):
and put them on pause and not forever, but just
for a while. Or maybe my house is actually making
me feel really frantic and so I'm uncomfortable at the
end of the night and we would be better to
give some stuff away. So that's Step one and then
two is to know where you're going and really just
decide on purpose how you're going to set that kind
(08:59):
of metaphor gps. So, what is it that I want
my life to look like? What do I want my
relationships to look like? My health, my finances? And then
make an action step to create that kind of stepping
into the vision of future you what does future you want?
And then three is it's tricky, but as often as
(09:21):
you can stay here, stay now, stay present, and don't
let your brain wander off into the weeds, and just
really focus. Okay, I'm here, what is the next best
step for me to take? And then four teeny tiny
action steps. I am a huge fan of ten minute timers.
(09:43):
Set the timer and do the thing that you know
you need to do. So if it's decluttering the pantry,
set that timer and just get started. You can make
an awful lot of headway in ten minute chunks. And
then step five is to just cueak and modify and
find tune and really come to terms that life is
(10:04):
a journey and if we're lucky, it's long, and just
course correct and redirect. It's not a falling on and
off the wagon. It's just it is what it is.
I like to tell my coaching clients that this is
the game of life and it's not shoots and ladders.
If you pause, you're not going to fall backwards. It's fine,
you're a okay.
Speaker 4 (10:23):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 3 (10:23):
And I love how all of these steps they go
together so beautifully. And part of it too, is like
when you're talking about this simply looking within right, It's
one of those things where I think what gets us
so bogged down is we're listening to voices that aren't ours,
or we're telling ourselves what we think we know and
what instead what we want to be doing is asking
ourselves the right questions and then listening for those answers
(10:46):
because a lot of times they are in our blind spot.
And I love that that is really what informs your
five step system, is to really just slow down, and
it's really an asking rather than it telling yourself what
you already think you know.
Speaker 4 (10:57):
So when we talk about this, you know step.
Speaker 3 (10:59):
One through five and I love it all, but you know,
really kind of diving into this a little bit deeper,
the declutter piece of the puzzle. Obviously, when we look
at that on a physiological circumstance. We can look at Okay,
my house is cluttered all of that, But when you're
talking about the kind of mental emotional clutter that might
be infiltrating our brains, could you just speak into that.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
I have a daily journaling worksheet that your listeners might enjoy.
So that's at stefanodata dot com forward slash Daily. But
I do start my day with journaling and with intention.
And sometimes people want to brain dump and purge all
of this stuff out of their brain, and that's okay,
there's a time and a place for that. But if
(11:40):
you're trying to move from where you are to where
you want to go, it's purging and it's decluttering with intention.
And so this is a guided journaling worksheet and the
first thing it asks you is how you want to
feel today. So if you're stepping into a feeling, I
want to feel confident today, I want to feel productive today. Okay, great,
(12:03):
what are the things that you need to do to
make that feeling happen for you? So if you are
feeling like you want to feel productive, maybe for you,
setting that timer for ten minutes and cleaning your desk
will give you that sort of intrinsic like gold star
that we're all like.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
Kind of chasing for.
Speaker 1 (12:23):
We were certainly programmed at a really young age to
jump through hoops for gold stars and a's and now
with social media, it's likes and all of these things.
But I think that really is a helpful way to
kind of reframe your brain in a focused way, because
when we're frantic, when we're floundery, we're like, I hate everything,
(12:45):
and then we chop our hair off and then.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
We're upset.
Speaker 3 (12:49):
Corner life crisis, right, yeah, yes, yeah, absolutely, yeah.
Speaker 4 (12:53):
I love that. And you know part of it too.
Speaker 3 (12:56):
You know, you mentioned that you're a little bit adhd
when you first came, you know, when you're sharing yourself,
and I think all of us can kind of train
our brains to be a little bit scattered. I love
how when you're talking about reverse engineering a feeling, you
know your third step is to stay here, stay now,
and stay present, and just kind of stacking on that,
like sometimes all we want to feel is grounded and
present and like, and I love how that's built into
(13:17):
your framework as well. And then in terms of the
tiny baby steps, I mean, when we're talking about teaching
our brain a long term way of thinking. If you're
feeling like a one, and most of us think of like, okay,
how can I get from a one to a ten?
And it's like, no, how can I get from a
one to a two, a two to a three?
Speaker 2 (13:31):
And it's a.
Speaker 3 (13:32):
Completely different part of our brain that thinks in minimums
on maximums. But that's how our brain can actually learn
and steady. And then, as you said in step step five,
fine tune as necessary, but you can't find tune something
that's like this overarching completely overhauls your entire life, because
then it's like what am I fine tuning? Everything that
you're sharing just aligns with how the nervous system works
(13:53):
and how it needs to learn and how it needs
to operate. So that being said, I know you shared
your daily ritual stephanioday dot com slash daily. Will go
ahead and link that in the show notes, and we're
going to have you back next week to talk about
your three part success formula. Because now that we're grounded,
and now that they're slowly and simply looking within right
and they have this five step framework to really step
into the slow living where the success can happen, she's
(14:14):
going to set you up for success with her three
step formula. But in the meantime, where can people find you?
Where can they google stock you and learn more about you?
Speaker 1 (14:22):
Well, if you are a podcast listener, and you must
be if you're listening to this, the Slow Living podcasts
on all of the platforms, and if you want.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
Crap plot recipes, that's at a year of slow.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
Cooking dot com. And then my name is Stephanie O'Day
and oday is Odea. I'm very googleable and I am
a real person. If you write to me, I will
write back.
Speaker 2 (14:43):
I promise.
Speaker 4 (14:44):
I love it awesome.
Speaker 3 (14:45):
Well, we will link all of that in the show
notes and we're going to be back here next week
to talk about the three part success formula that goes
alongside with Slow Living. So thank you so much for
being here. Happy Saturday out way, and we will see
you next week.
Speaker 4 (14:58):
Bye.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
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