Our Life Check-In Exercise (and the Random Laughs It Sparked)

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Speaker 1 (00:03):
All right, break it down.

Speaker 2 (00:05):
If you ever have feelings that you just won't Amy
and Cat got your cob and locking no brother, ladies
and fels, you just follow an the spirit where it's
all the front over real stuff to the chill stuff
and the m but Swayne.

Speaker 3 (00:21):
Sometimes the best thing you can do it just.

Speaker 2 (00:23):
Stop you feel things. This is Feeling Things with Amy
and Kat.

Speaker 1 (00:29):
Happy Tuesday. Welcome to feeling things.

Speaker 3 (00:31):
I'm Amy and I'm Kat.

Speaker 1 (00:32):
And our feeling of the day, well, I think we
both have them. This is like last time you want
to just say I'm on the count of three because
I have two, pick your main one and go on
the count of three. One, okay, two, three?

Speaker 3 (00:47):
Worry okay? Cool? I thought you were gonna go with
the other feelings. Well that one is curious, okay, And
I said worried so same reason.

Speaker 1 (00:57):
Yeah. Happy because Chase is in town and he's running
our video today.

Speaker 3 (01:02):
Hey, Jas, I wish I could flip the.

Speaker 1 (01:04):
Can I know you can't. So this is fun. If
you've listened to this podcast feed for years and years,
it was four Things with Amy Brown and Chase before
Kat was the co host on the bonus episode for
that podcast called The Fifth Thing. Before you were the
co host, Chase would do The Fifth Thing with me
every week for several of them, a lot, a lot

(01:25):
like Yeah, I don't know that it was consistent every week,
but it was a lot. So he has been a
part of the podcast family. And he happens to be
in town, so he's running our camera and I'm curious
because I want to know where Amy Bradley is. And
I think that maybe is why you're worried.

Speaker 3 (01:42):
It's why I'm worried. Okay, you're worried about her, well, sure,
but more worried. It seems a little suck us.

Speaker 1 (01:51):
Yeah, we're feeling sus.

Speaker 3 (01:54):
And you know what I'm not ever doing now?

Speaker 1 (01:56):
Oh no, you can go on a cruise. I will
be on on next February, the Bobby Bone Show cruise.

Speaker 3 (02:02):
Okay, that cruise sounds like it's gonna be very safe
and great. But can I share some I don't spoil anything.
You know, I ruined Sex in the City for everybody, Well,
you didn't, really.

Speaker 1 (02:13):
And also that Amy Bradley's story has been around since
nineteen ninety eight and the doctor generies now gaining attention
because this particular documentary there are other things out there
you can watch. And the rabbit hole I ended up
down was the inconsistencies in interviews over the last with

(02:33):
who a couple of decades with the family and how
stuff has changed. And in the Netflix documentary we learned
that she is gay.

Speaker 3 (02:41):
Yeah, and apparently her parents don't want people to know that.

Speaker 1 (02:44):
Well, it's information now, but you would think you would
want the world to know that from the get go,
in case any information could be helpful. But apparently, allegedly
in previous interviews, interviews or documentaries or things, it wasn't
disclosed that she was gay. In fact, even at one
point they said she had a boyfriend right before the
cruise or something like that, she had a girlfriend. She

(03:05):
had a girlfriend.

Speaker 3 (03:05):
Yeah, well soon My parents were not into it in
the beginning at least, okay, and now they seem okay
with it.

Speaker 1 (03:12):
But what's your deal?

Speaker 3 (03:13):
Okay, if you haven't watched the documentary, I don't think
I'm ruined anything, but like, don't you think the crew
of the cruise was a little rude, mainly the director
of fun or whatever. The guy, the guy, the cruise director,
he was rude.

Speaker 1 (03:32):
I think that he probably wasn't his mindset, his thought
that she jumped, she's overboard. Okay, so there's a lot
of people online that have pieced together They're like, look,
this family is in denial. I don't know what they're
digging for. I don't think she was human trafficked.

Speaker 3 (03:48):
You don't think those pictures were.

Speaker 1 (03:49):
I don't. I'm not telling you what I think. I'm
telling you what other people have pieced together that have
followed this case far longer than I. I'm I'm a
Netflix newbie, like I have only been concerned about Amy
Bradley for about two weeks now, well because I mean
I didn't know about her. I didn't know she was missing,
and now I need to know where is she? Is
she being human trafficked in the Caribbean, I don't know,

(04:15):
or did she go overboard? Or does something else happened
to her?

Speaker 3 (04:18):
Or does that them again? Okay, I have a couple
other thoughts. One I have to disclose this. I may
have fallen asleep at the end of the last episode,
so if she was found, I didn't know, but it
sounds like she won't. So I didn't miss anything that
I need to go back and watch, right.

Speaker 1 (04:32):
Sadly she's not found. It's almost like this is the
family's last night. I don't know if it's their last,
it's their next. Please they've done others.

Speaker 3 (04:41):
I would hope that my family would never give up
on searching for me, and I would think as a parent,
that would probably be how if there was not clear
evidence that I died. I think that would I would
not be able to sleep at night if I wasn't
continuing to try to find why are you looking at
like well?

Speaker 1 (04:56):
And if there were eyewitnesses that claim to see you
years later in a bathroom or walking down the beach
or crazy.

Speaker 3 (05:06):
This is what I'm worried about, though, Yellow's daughter. Don't
you think she's gonna get herself into some trouble?

Speaker 1 (05:12):
Well, some people that haven't seen it, they're like, who's yellow?
Yellow was a bass player on the cruise in the
band that would play and apparently she was hanging out
with them. Oh, this is the other thing. So she's gay?
Right when you first watched the documentary, before they get
into the piece that she's gay, aren't you thinking she's not?
I mean some people are like, Look, I could tell

(05:32):
by the first I was reading threads of people. They're like, look,
I'm a lesbian, and I could tell right away when
are they going to talk about how she's a lesbian?
But they were just like she is the life of
the party. She would walk into the room and everybody
give her attention. Everybody wanted her attention, Like guys would
talk to her, and everybody's come up to her. But
at no point and then it was like this twist
that she's gay. But I think that earlier in other

(05:55):
documentaries or interviews that were done, the narrative was just
how lively she was, and you would think, Okay, well
we need to be looking at men, because clearly she
was hanging out with men, and maybe she had a
little rendezvous with the man. I mean, that's what I
was thinking. I was like, well, who did she sneak
off with? If she was so magnetic, she still could
have done that, I know, but it seems like now

(06:15):
we know she wouldn't be interested in a man.

Speaker 3 (06:19):
Maybe she was and she was just like, oh tonight,
I'm gonna do this. Maybe she's fluid, yes, yeah, versus
the other stories that she was looking for drugs, which
I also could be true. But back to Yellow, he
was the bass player that people think had something to
do with her being trafficked away, and in the documentary,

(06:40):
his daughter calls him live and asks him what happened
to Amy? If this guy is that powerful and he
does those kinds of things, don't you think the daughter's
now putting herself in harms way? That was my first
thought of, like, if he's this powerful guy, like, don't
do that.

Speaker 1 (06:57):
That part was weird to me. I don't know. I
gave it nothing, nothing gave us nothing like I thought
when she called and left a voicemail for that family.
I'm like, we're about to get some real information. And
the parents had to be thinking that, like we're about
to really get something here. And then it's like, oh,
you just heard from your mom this story and whatever.
People that haven't watched it, they're probably not as worried

(07:17):
or concerned or curious as we are about this, But
just watch it and if anybody knows anything about Amy,
call us. We need to call that a lie. Obviously.
That's what I meant to find their number and try
not to one one before us. I just I am

(07:38):
heartbroken for her family. I just don't know what is what?

Speaker 3 (07:42):
You know what I was happy to see though, because
in these types of documentaries they always interview everybody separately.
The parents stayed together, and I think a lot of
times when there's any kind of tragedy within a family,
a lot of times the parents, because of their grieving
process to end up splitting up. But they're still together.

Speaker 1 (07:57):
Yeah. I love that too.

Speaker 3 (08:00):
Not, but it just was nice to see.

Speaker 1 (08:02):
Yeah, yeah, that is nice. I'm like thinking, what do
you think about my divorce?

Speaker 3 (08:07):
Well, I think that is very different. Your children didn't
go missing, Okay, I know are you protecting?

Speaker 1 (08:14):
You're like, oh, I'm so glad they stayed together, And
I was like, I bet you are. Look at them,
they're so great. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (08:21):
I think about it every night with you. I can't
believe you did that.

Speaker 1 (08:24):
I'm just kidding.

Speaker 3 (08:25):
Okay.

Speaker 1 (08:26):
So I thought I have a little activity for us.
It's like a check in, and I think listeners could
do this too if they want to write it down,
or we can put it in the show notes and
they can go copy and paste it and do a
check in with themselves or their roommates or their husband, wife,
whatever kids. So I'll share the check in so I
can go first, and then you can share yours. But

(08:46):
they're just questions you can ask yourself and then you
fill in the blank.

Speaker 3 (08:50):
Do you do the same question or it's just a
one time thing. It's not like a week you could
do you do a monthly check in. You could do this,
rinse and repeat twelve times a year. Okay, okay, ready
this month. I'm proud of accomplishing.

Speaker 1 (09:04):
And for me curtains in my house because I've lived
here over Yere and I finally got curtains up in
all of the rooms.

Speaker 3 (09:12):
And have you ever hung a curtain rod yourself?

Speaker 1 (09:16):
Yes?

Speaker 3 (09:16):
Yeah? Oh did you do these?

Speaker 1 (09:17):
No? Okay, but I have very hard Yeah, I think
like in college or something. Okay, yeah, why do you
hang them?

Speaker 3 (09:25):
I just hung one once and I felt very accomplished.

Speaker 1 (09:29):
This might also be you doing that thing where we
wanted to like ask things we don't know about each other.
So is that like a thing you didn't know about me?
If I'd ever hung a curtain.

Speaker 3 (09:37):
Right driving down the road and I was like, I
wonder if Amy's ever hung a curtain rod. That's something
I think would be fun if we have space, which
I guess we do this anyway with space. In the podcast,
if we're like, oh, questions that never come up. I've
been wondering have you ever done this? Or what would
you do in this situation? Questions that like, it would
be weird if I just brought this up in conversation. Okay,

(09:59):
you know, yeah, like, is there something about me you've
always wanted to know?

Speaker 1 (10:03):
Let me think about it. I feel like if I
wanted to know, I would ask you. I mean, I'm
sure there.

Speaker 3 (10:09):
Is that, but if it's not a natural place for it,
you know. So, Okay, that's a new thing. We're gonna
do that. If you randomly have a question or a
thought and there's like nowhere for it to really fit,
you can just say, kind of like how we say
sib when we're being mean to each other, we can
just say questions that never come up? Have you ever
hung a curtain? Rod? Okay?

Speaker 1 (10:29):
Okay, and let me just ask it? Okay, So that'll
encourage just more curiosity. Yeah, with your friends and family.

Speaker 3 (10:36):
Yeah, if you think you can start that with your family,
not just on the podcast.

Speaker 1 (10:39):
If you wonder it, ask it.

Speaker 3 (10:41):
Oh yeah, that's your T shirt.

Speaker 1 (10:43):
Okay, So I did my this month. I'm proud of accomplishing,
which was curtains in my house. One thing I'm grateful
for is people. What s grateful for people in my
life lately that have been able to either pour into
my kids or pour in to me. And just how
important community is. So I think more so than just

(11:04):
people is like your people, your community. My affirmation for
the next month is I'm a fun person. Why did
you say that? Because I listened to my affirmations as
subliminals and so yeah, I was just doing it.

Speaker 3 (11:19):
How would a fun person say it?

Speaker 1 (11:21):
No, my subliminal would be I don't know, because I
am a fun mat I'm not fun yet that's my
manifestation for the next month. So so, so this.

Speaker 3 (11:30):
Is not an affirmation, So this is more so like
this is a subliminal. Well, it can be either, because
affirmation isn't that Like you are beautiful?

Speaker 1 (11:37):
Yeah, I am fun, I am fun. What I write down,
I'm a fun person. I am a fun person. Gosh
darn it, Like are you repeat it over and over
you look.

Speaker 3 (11:45):
In the mirror.

Speaker 1 (11:46):
I am a fun person, Okay, but I take in
my subliminals. I am a money magnet. Fun finds me
in fun ways. Circulating fun is fun. I'm fun I
think you're fun. We are fun. I want to be
more funky. I'm a fun I'm a fun mom, I'm
a fun parent, I'm a fun coworker. I'm fun. I'm

(12:07):
fun gosh, and people want to be around me because
i'd so fun. But we're not there yet. But I'm
work shopping it but fun okay, Like that's my affirmation.
You are fun though you're a seven.

Speaker 3 (12:19):
Okay, you're just as fun as I am.

Speaker 1 (12:21):
No, no, you're.

Speaker 3 (12:25):
No pie for no, but no, you were fun in
that meeting when you yelled at.

Speaker 1 (12:29):
That was fun. Yeah, I can be fun. I want to,
I guess, be more consistently fun.

Speaker 3 (12:35):
Well, I want to be more low key, so like
low key there, like I want to be more like less.

Speaker 1 (12:44):
You want to be more like me, which is low key, lame.

Speaker 3 (12:48):
It's not what I met what I met. It met
like I want to just like be home more. But
being home could be fun. Yeah, it's so fun now
that I'm thinking about it. I am home all the time.
I think you have a skewed idea of my life.

Speaker 1 (13:01):
No, I don't you play games? You you have you
know you blindfold your husband and taking around town. You're
always coming up with fun ideas that I take from
you and then I implement them in my life. Yeah,
you're fun bank cookie logs.

Speaker 3 (13:17):
That's fun, but that's at home.

Speaker 1 (13:19):
One habit I cultivated this month was pretending to stretch
while I was actually just laying on the floor. I
really am trying to work on stretching more and I
think we'll get there. But I definitely lay it on
the floor to stretch more than I ever have before,
and then ended up mostly just laying there. But still
in yoga, laying on your back flat is a move.
It's called savasana, which is a move. So if I

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am laying in it is a yoga post. It's a pose,
it's a post. So I am laying in savasana, okay,
so it's not like I'm just doing nothing. And then
the final check in is one thing I want to
accomplish next month is by next month, I want to
finish Family of Liars, which is the book I ordered

(14:06):
that's the prequel to We Were Liars, which I watched
on Amazon. I didn't read the book, but after I
watched it and learned it was a book, I wished
I would have read it, So then I ordered us
the prequel, which is Family of Liars.

Speaker 3 (14:21):
I wonder what's gonna so I guess maybe we're getting
the mom's perspective.

Speaker 1 (14:26):
I don't know yet. I just got them mis Okay,
well you didn't read the that of the book, not yet.
I got stuck on the little drawing and they had
a little graphic like a map. They had a map
of Beechwood Island.

Speaker 3 (14:40):
Okay, because I'm imagining, like, you can't be that much
that happens before.

Speaker 1 (14:44):
I mean, I started a little bit just but not
enough to where I know really what's happening. But I'm
pretty sure what I'm reading right now is from one
of the sisters.

Speaker 3 (14:55):
Okay, that's three.

Speaker 1 (14:56):
That's when you mean that mom, Yes, yes, which went
and got her? Because in the show, and this isn't
giving anything away, but do you remember which one got
like her chin or jaw redone like plastic surgery? Remember
when one of the sisters was like, well, yeah, let's
be nice, Dad got you a new chin or whatever?
That Okay, because I need a google. I want to
see which one. Since I've already watched the show and

(15:17):
i'm reading the prequel, I'm visually I have the real
visualization from the show and not my own imagination. So
I know what the three sisters look like, and I
need to know which sister I'm reading about.

Speaker 3 (15:30):
So can I share something again that's not going to
be a spoiler. But remember last week I said that
I wanted to guess what was going to happen.

Speaker 1 (15:40):
And we were liars.

Speaker 3 (15:41):
Yes, yeah, Okay, wasn't I close?

Speaker 1 (15:43):
You were very close. You were very close. I was
not that close, but you were.

Speaker 3 (15:47):
You're right, So I just I just want that on
the record for everybody to know I was close.

Speaker 1 (15:51):
Yeah. Probably.

Speaker 3 (15:51):
I can't tell you what it is.

Speaker 1 (15:53):
Yeah, No, if you have not watched that, watch it.
If you would rather read it, read it first.

Speaker 3 (15:58):
I'm sad. If I would have known that was a book,
I would have read first. That probably was such a
good book.

Speaker 1 (16:02):
But now we have yeah, family of Life.

Speaker 3 (16:05):
Pretty cool.

Speaker 1 (16:06):
They're welcome, So your turn to do oh check in? Okay, okay,
you went the first Yeah, and you asked them, And
I'll tell you this month, I'm proud of accomplishing.

Speaker 3 (16:15):
So this is going to sound weird. I'm proud of
accomplishing hiring somebody else to come clean my house because
this is something that I've wanted to do for over
a year. I kept asking one of my friends for
her cleaners, and she finally said, I'm not giving you
the number anymore because we're never going to play. Because
I asked her like ten times, can I have your
cleaner's number? And then she would give it to me,

(16:37):
and then I would ask her the next month, which
I don't know why I didn't just go look for it.
I guess I was lazy. But then she was like,
you're you're not going to call them? And I said, yes,
I am, but then you texted yours for me, so
I didn't have to do the work, but I rescheduled her.
Yeah and okay.

Speaker 1 (16:53):
So and she's so awesome and she's so grateful and
she's really excited about clean your house and she's so sweet,
and she sent me a text. Gosh, I've been working
with her for years years now, like four maybe at
least or going on five, and I feel like that's
a good consistent relationship and I adore her. And she
was really sweet and she was like, I'm so excited

(17:16):
to be cleaning your friend's house. Like next time I come,
I want to give you like a little discount, and
I thought, Okay, you don't have to do that, but
I just thought that it's also a good business practice
for her because she knows like word of mouth is
the best. Is that how the fast you can do
no no business part in the mailbox?

Speaker 3 (17:34):
Yes, okay, Well I will say that has been so
helpful because that's one of those things that I'm like,
I can do it myself. There's something about having somebody else. Well,
you're my house looks.

Speaker 1 (17:44):
New now, working full time, your husband works full time
on mensayah, And like I think for y'all it makes sense.
I think anytime you can outsource stuff, that is going
to take stuff off of your plate.

Speaker 3 (17:58):
And you can and I give trying back. Yeah, because
for her, cleaning my shower probably takes her, what fifteen minutes,
It would take me four hours, you know, because she
probably has better skills. And I'm like using Patrick's like,
do you clean everything with Windex? And I'm like kind
of yes.

Speaker 1 (18:13):
It's like everything my big fat Greek weddings cleaning my house.

Speaker 3 (18:18):
We're furniture with windex. He's like, what are you doing.
I'm like, it's just it's wet and it's getting the
dirt off, like.

Speaker 1 (18:24):
Oh, well, I'm glad she's gonna be able to help you,
because yes, you need to not do it with windex.
But I'm proud of you too, thank you, especially with
all you have going on with your house. It's good
to have it like clean, Yeah, spiffy, so you can
sell that bad boy. Yeah, because you're a money magnet.

Speaker 3 (18:40):
Money finds its way to circulate around me.

Speaker 1 (18:43):
People want to buy your house. Your house is very desirable.
Oh my gosh, you need to run subliminals while people
are looking at your house.

Speaker 3 (18:50):
You'd have music. You should do it because you're really
good at them.

Speaker 1 (18:53):
Well no, I mean you'd have to make them. But
I wonder if there's a house selling subliminal and when
people come into her your house, like they think that
listening to horror falls, but really subliminately in the music.
There's like, you want to buy this house. This house
is perfect for you.

Speaker 3 (19:08):
Your stuff would look great in this house.

Speaker 1 (19:10):
Can't you imagine yourself so many fun family memories around
this table? Yeah?

Speaker 3 (19:18):
Wow, yeah, Okay, that's a great idea.

Speaker 1 (19:21):
Have you heard of playing I don't know, it's a
great idea, but yeah, being kind, I.

Speaker 3 (19:25):
Mean it's great, like it can't hurt. It can hurt
if they do notice what's happening.

Speaker 1 (19:30):
Is this a new business we have? We could market
it to realtors, buy our subliminals.

Speaker 3 (19:35):
You'll sell so many houses, so many We could sell
it for like five days.

Speaker 1 (19:40):
Science backed.

Speaker 3 (19:41):
We didn't need to say that, therapist backed. We want
to say science.

Speaker 1 (19:45):
I was joking.

Speaker 3 (19:47):
Okay, inside joke. No, I think we should do it.
If it works, then we'll do it, because then we'll
have a testimony.

Speaker 1 (19:54):
Perfect. Yeah, your house.

Speaker 3 (19:57):
Yeah, I played them in my house and it's sold
in seven days. Okay.

Speaker 1 (20:01):
One thing I'm grateful for is dot dot dot?

Speaker 3 (20:04):
Did I for tell you the one time I got
in a fight. Did I for tell you the one
time I got in a fight with my ex boyfriend
because he asked me this question? He abandoned me at
church and drove off. Wait what yeah, Oh, sometimes this

(20:28):
question triggers me a little bit.

Speaker 1 (20:29):
Oh, I did not mean to do that, So no,
I can work through it a little backstory though. I
don't know how much you say about this ex boyfriend's
personality because obviously he's not diagnosed of anything. But he
was not He was not kind to you. Yeah, toxic traits.

Speaker 3 (20:44):
Toxic traits. So we were on our way to church
and he asked me, what are you grateful for? I
think he was trying to do something cute or something.
What are you grateful for today? I think? I said,
that's such a weird question, and I was about to say,
because there's so many things I'm grateful for. He lost
it and was like, how dare you say that was
a weird question? So disrespectful, and then he started saying

(21:08):
loud of like mean things and like curse words, and
I'm like, oh my gosh, I couldn't pick one thing.
So he was like, I can't even be around you.
Drop me off at church, left, ain't drove off. I
don't know how I got home.

Speaker 1 (21:21):
How much longer did you date him after that incident?

Speaker 3 (21:24):
If I don't know, couldn't have been more than a
couple months.

Speaker 1 (21:27):
You don't know how you got back home. I mean,
let's just say you got to ride from a friend
like that. Heart's not important. What was the I mean,
obviously you getting home, it's important. I don't want to
a Netflix special of where is kat a Fauna? Because yeah,
that would be terrible, But once you got home or
your next interaction with him. Sheldon lived together, but like
what was that? Like, Like, hey, why did you leave

(21:48):
me at church?

Speaker 3 (21:49):
And oh no, I think I got myself and left.
I must have like called him after church. Maybe I ubered.
This was so long ago, but I do know that
I got my stuff and left. My car was at
his apartment, so somehow I got back to my the apartment,
got my stuff, a hat, a key too apartment, got
myself and left and then he sent me an apology

(22:11):
and it was probably like I'll buy you the world.

Speaker 1 (22:13):
Yeah, and you're like, okay, does it include a house keeper?

Speaker 3 (22:20):
You probably did have a housekeeper anyway, I'm one. Am
I grateful for it that I'm not dating him and
I'm married to my current husband.

Speaker 1 (22:26):
Praise the Lord. That's a crazy story and that I
see now how that question could be triggering.

Speaker 3 (22:32):
I'm sorry you could triggering. It's just I think every
time somebody asked me that, I'm like, oh remember that
one time.

Speaker 1 (22:38):
I know. But I don't want you to have to
think of him if you don't need to. So you
can omit this from your monthly check ins, my affirmation
and how that you say that. I do recall you
telling me that story years ago, and I couldn't but
I wouldn't have been able to regurgitate that. But that
is such a good story. Not good, but you know
what I mean, cool story.

Speaker 3 (22:58):
No, it's crazy. Yeah, it's great, That's what I mean. Yeah,
but I have a lot of stories about him that
are crazy.

Speaker 1 (23:04):
No, but it's like I would think I would never
forget that story because it's so you know, cuckoo.

Speaker 3 (23:09):
What I think that relationship was very much. It developed
the plot of my own story, you know how, Like
the kids will say, I do it for the plot.
I'm like, I dated him for the plot, for sure.

Speaker 1 (23:18):
Do you know how many more yeah, it's cool. How
many more interesting things could I gather? Or cool not cool,
crazy stories can I get from this relationship?

Speaker 3 (23:30):
I mean, it's an embarrassing It was not a good relationship.

Speaker 1 (23:34):
No, but it maybe it kept life interesting.

Speaker 3 (23:37):
Yeah, And I will say I'm a big believer in this,
not throwing the baby out with the bathwater. I have
a lot of good memories from that relationship too. Obviously
there was something good about it, else I wouldn't have
been in it for as long as I was but
he took me to Disney World.

Speaker 1 (23:55):
That's fun.

Speaker 3 (23:56):
Yeah, it was fun. That was fun. Yeah.

Speaker 1 (24:00):
Was he a love bomber?

Speaker 3 (24:01):
Oh my gosh his first gift? Well, first of all,
our first date was the day before my birthday.

Speaker 1 (24:07):
I love how I asked, was he a love bomber?

Speaker 3 (24:09):
When like, obviously obviously he was. He brought a birthday
card to our first date. So my birthdays in December,
so Christmas is right after that. The first gift he
gave me was like a very large sum of money
to able so I can pick out a purse because
I mentioned that I wanted a bag from there. Very large.
I don't want to say what it is because that
feels weird, but like it was like enough to buy

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a person then something else like and to me back then,
and that was a lot of money. I mean, it
is a lot of money. Yeah, somebody been dating for
two weeks. It was weird. I was like, I wasn't
going to get you anything. And then he took me
on a trip to Asheville at the end of December.
We were dating for like three weeks, so yeah, he was.
He was a gift bomber, and I did like that.

Speaker 1 (24:51):
We were like I didn't hate it, But that's how
they get in this person. They hook you and not
even that you're in this material at person where it's like,
oh yeah, I'm a little data. Affirmation worked in there
for sure. Yeah, yeah, so you're grateful he's gone. Speaking
of affirmation, that's the next check in my affirmation for

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the next month.

Speaker 3 (25:14):
Is does mine have to be subliminal? Subliminal?

Speaker 1 (25:17):
No?

Speaker 3 (25:17):
Okay, I would like to tell myself one thing at
a time, like, do one task at a time, like
you can do time, you can do well here, how
about this one task at a time is enough?

Speaker 1 (25:30):
So what's up with that? No? I want to know
more behind it. I'm curious, No, this caut.

Speaker 3 (25:41):
I'm feeling judged, So what's up with that?

Speaker 1 (25:44):
Sorry, s Iv, I was not that.

Speaker 3 (25:49):
If I get that, I'm messing with you.

Speaker 1 (25:51):
If that came across sib, I didn't, okay, because a
little bit, I quite literally was doing that thing where
you said, if you get a question about let me
ask you.

Speaker 3 (26:00):
Oh, you have to say questions that don't come up,
questions and don't come up. What's up with that?

Speaker 1 (26:06):
Why are you wanting to do one thing at a
time or one thing at a time is enough? Like
I want more details.

Speaker 3 (26:12):
Because I think this is twofold. It's in the large
scale and the small scale, because you know, I have
a lot of huge life things happening. Yeah, so I'm
getting lost sometimes in like, let's just say, with a move,
I'm like making Pinterest boards for my dining room, which
is gonna be like the last room that I redo
in this house, versus like focus on you need to

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have bedroom furniture that fits this house, or you need
to hire a mover to even get there kind of thing.
So like one thing at a time, right, like is enough?
I want to do it all? And I think large
scale is like the move and then these other big
things in my life. I'm like feel like I have
to get everything sorted out at the same time. Right,
Does that make sense? Yes, So getting one thing accomplished,

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like calling a mover. I did message the movers and
they really like to call immediately, and I wasn't prepared
for that type of like eye eagerness. I thought they
were going to text me back or something. So I
messaged like four of them and then I got immediately
like seven phone calls. So it was like one thing
at a time is enough I messaged them. I don't
have to talk to them yet. So if I just

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got a mover scheduled, that would be okay. Then I
can sit down. I don't have to like check everything
off the list. Okay. So yeah, that was that a
good answer?

Speaker 1 (27:29):
Yes, whatever answer you gave would be the good one, SIB.

Speaker 3 (27:34):
I'm sorry.

Speaker 1 (27:36):
To be clarified what that means in case someone's new
today not today, SIB is just a quick way that
Kat and I call each other out in case one
of us is acting or maybe we know we're acting bitchy. Yeah,
so it's just real quick SIB like sorry, I bit.
So she can say it to me, I can say
it to her, and then it also brings some levity

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to a situation that may feel it e.

Speaker 3 (28:02):
Yeah. I think it's gonna make it easy if you're
being SIV for me to be like SIB versus.

Speaker 1 (28:07):
Like oh you know, yeah, like hey, is everything okay? Yeah,
it's more like hey SIB. It's like SIB check in,
Like these are like check ins that you can do
every month, but you could do SIB check in daily, hourly. Yeah,
sometimes with anybody in your life.

Speaker 3 (28:26):
SIB.

Speaker 1 (28:27):
Yeah, by minute, by the minute. I fluctuate sometimes just
depending on what's going on.

Speaker 3 (28:32):
It can be that fast you say I'm in it
by the minute.

Speaker 1 (28:35):
Oh, I mean like do a check in by the minute? Oh,
like you could be not SIB and then sixty seconds
later SIB sort of like just then I didn't feel SIB,
and then within sixty seconds, I guess I gave sib vibes.
Which I think there's a major difference in giving SIB
vibes and actually being SIB, because sometimes it could just

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be misinterpreted.

Speaker 3 (28:56):
And sometimes like I make a weird face. I don't
mean to make it, you know, and then.

Speaker 1 (29:00):
I feel judged, yes, and you're like, no, that's just
the w F your face.

Speaker 3 (29:07):
It's just not having botox anymore. Yeah, weird fase. Okay, Sorry,
you can say WF and I'm like, no, that actually
was sip. Okay.

Speaker 1 (29:20):
One habit I cultivated this month was.

Speaker 3 (29:24):
I don't know if I should say what I was
going to say.

Speaker 1 (29:27):
Why do you don't think it could hurt you?

Speaker 3 (29:29):
Okay?

Speaker 1 (29:30):
I didn't know what it was until you just asked me.
So I looked down and read it because you typed it.
But I had tried to stay away from it. I'm
gonna save that one for later. I'm gonna save that
one until after what I hope is going to happen
and happens. Okay, so that'll be a good contract. I
will say it is very entertaining.

Speaker 3 (29:46):
Yeah, yeah, I'm going to keep you guys in your toes.

Speaker 1 (29:48):
This habit you cultivated, I wouldn't even call it a
habbit you cultivated. It's a hobby.

Speaker 3 (29:52):
It's now a hobby. It's become a hobby. Yeah, it's
become very time consuming. It's a time consuming heaby. Yeah,
but you're not the only one that's ever done it. Yeah,
but I don't think people tell Oh and also I
think you're doing it in a very normal way. I
think other people have gone next level and they do
like other things.

Speaker 1 (30:13):
Okay, if you guys want to guess what it is,
but also will clarify it's nothing illegal or dirty. Yeah,
because that sounded weird when I was, like, other people
do things. Okay, So do you have another habit, another.

Speaker 3 (30:24):
Habit I've cultivated this month? I don't think I've cultivated it.
What was yours? Lay at?

Speaker 1 (30:30):
I've been trying to stretch more mine was stretching more,
but then that ended up like I stretched for a
second and then I lay.

Speaker 3 (30:36):
Okay, here's a habit, and this is all thanks to
like everything revolves around stelling my house. I am cleaning
my dishes and putting them immediately away right now instead
of like leaving them out to dry, I'm like drying
them and put them putting them away. And here's the
habit I've cultivated. I've done it twice, Shannon.

Speaker 1 (30:55):
Can you look up what how many times do you
do something where it takes it?

Speaker 3 (30:59):
And I'm cultivating this habit.

Speaker 1 (31:02):
Okay, there you go.

Speaker 3 (31:03):
I'm folding my laundry as soon as it's done, putting
it away and putting it away. Yeah. Yeah, I'll take
it a step farther. I'm putting it away.

Speaker 1 (31:12):
Okay, that's what I need to do because I love
doing laundry, and then I don't put it away, so
then I form neat piles all over the place. I'm
not messy about it, but sometimes my closet can get
pretty messy. But like if you go up to my
room and now I've got a pile like sitting on
a chair, Well, you.

Speaker 3 (31:30):
Don't like doing laundry. You like putting laundry in the
laundry machine?

Speaker 1 (31:33):
Then what are you saying? I know what I like
and I like doing laundry. I like doing laundry. Why
are you saying I don't like it?

Speaker 3 (31:41):
I love what is laundry? Laundry machine too? Because he
feels like I'm doing something, but then I'm like, really
just taking this mess and putting it in this Do
you like sorting?

Speaker 1 (31:49):
Do you like sorting the colors?

Speaker 3 (31:51):
I don't think it takes a lot of time. I
just don't get because I don't not like it. I
don't get a high off of it.

Speaker 1 (31:58):
I don't think you like laundry like I do. I
like laundry.

Speaker 3 (32:01):
You what do you like about laundry?

Speaker 1 (32:03):
Because I am I doing it.

Speaker 3 (32:04):
I like it.

Speaker 1 (32:05):
I just don't always put everything away right away. But
some people dread laundry, and there their laundry piles up
and then they have lots of it to do. I
try to stay ahead of it.

Speaker 3 (32:15):
Okay, I like laundry. Believe you. I'm sorry.

Speaker 1 (32:21):
Okay, Shannon said, there isn't a fixed number of times
you need to repeat in action for it to be
considered a habit, but research, Oh suggest it can take
anywhere from eighteen to two hundred and fifty four days
for something to become a habit.

Speaker 3 (32:36):
I'm on days like seven, so I'm almost halfway there.

Speaker 1 (32:41):
Like on my little bull balls that I put in
my dryer because I quit using dryer sheets.

Speaker 3 (32:45):
Do they work?

Speaker 1 (32:46):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (32:47):
Okay, well what do they do? I don't know? Sure
the stuff not staticky?

Speaker 1 (32:51):
No, I still have static. Oh maybe maybe I need
to update my balls because.

Speaker 3 (32:56):
That's under sounds like it.

Speaker 1 (32:57):
But I think they wear down, so I might need
you to get fresh wool balls fresh balls. But what
I've been doing and it's so lovely is and maybe
Shannon even gave you this tip is I put so see,
I enjoyed my laundry experience. I saw it drops of
vanilla essential oil. That's all I could think of, was

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vanilla ectually. Okay, vanilla essential oil. And it's a little
dropper and I drop it onto the balls and then
I put them in there. And then your laundry smells
like whatever essential oil you want, which I opted for vanilla,
And I think that's a lovely scent because my laundry
is very boring now that my skin is sensitive so
to avoid the rash that I was getting, I have

(33:44):
unscented plain the detergent and no dryer sheets. So I
love that the little vanilla essential oil on the balls
helps my laundry. It's like more fun. Like every load
I go in there and I give it a new
little drop.

Speaker 3 (33:59):
Arm this book listening to this book called The Tenant.
I'm reading this book listening to this book called The
Tenant by Freedom McFadden. And I'm bringing this up because

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he is allergic to every like what's it called logiturgent,
and somebody's sabotaging him by pouring out his detergent and
pouring in lemon scented detergent and it's giving him a
very large rash. Just this is fiction, yes, okay, yes,
but that's how they're like, if you ever want to
sabotage Amy, switch out her, No, because.

Speaker 1 (34:43):
I would open it up and I would smell the limon. Okay.

Speaker 3 (34:46):
That's why I was like, Okay, this is not like
he would smell that his clothes smell good. But you know,
Patrick likes to say suspend disbelief.

Speaker 1 (34:53):
That reminds me of something my daughter wanted to do.
My son claims to be lactose intolerant and we mean claims, well,
we've never had it tested, but he self diagnosed him,
so I roll with it. You want the Lactaid or
the A two milk like which is lactose free or
easier to digest on your stomach, so we buy that,

(35:15):
and then Sashia has her normal milk and they both
go through enough of the milk to where they can
each other own or whatever. So it's fine. But Sashiro's like,
I have one of my containers and he has an
empty one. Can I pour my milk into his lactaid
milk and watch him drink it for a week and
see if he has a reaction, because if he doesn't

(35:38):
react and it's mental like because he sees it in
the specific container, then we'll know, like if he's not like, oh, mom,
my stomach hurts or a mom, I have to go
to the bathroom or I'm itchy, you know. And I
was like, Sashira, I can't do that. I love your
little plan here, but that seems cruel, and she's like smart,
she goes, I'm telling you, I'm not wrong. It's not

(36:00):
real and I don't know and I should probably take
the time to get it officially.

Speaker 3 (36:04):
Yeah, a better way is to actually test it. But
I mean she's been creative. Yes, it's sounds very sisterly.

Speaker 1 (36:11):
Yes, So I just that made me think about the
switching out without him, and I couldn't allow it.

Speaker 3 (36:16):
But she does do that one day without your permission.

Speaker 1 (36:19):
She may have, like I don't know, she already did it.
Who knows if she has. He's fine, Yeah, he's okay.
Dryer balls bull Dryer balls offer several benefits, including reducing
drying time, softening clothes, minimizing static cling, and helping reduce sprinkles.

Speaker 3 (36:39):
So I need to get those because I stopped using
dryer sheets. Yeah, but now my clothes are just really staticky.

Speaker 1 (36:45):
Sometimes mine still are. But again, maybe I don't have
enough balls in there. But to refresh your balls, I
need to google laundry load and number of balls because
then if I only have one or two, and maybe
it needed for because they come in like a six pack.
So I have and they're sneaky little suckers because they
get caught in sleeves and they in sheet so then

(37:05):
they end up upstairs because if the kids put them
in their laundry basket and then they never so they
or Kara my dog starts playing with them. So it's
just gonna have extra on hand. Oh okay, Shannon says,
here for larger loads, you do need five or six balls.
How I do you have? I normally only do like
two or three miles. I mean I have more, but
maybe that's why I've got the static. This is riveting.

Speaker 3 (37:26):
Yeah, we are post this episode two. Your friends.

Speaker 1 (37:31):
Share this with at least one person in your life,
because it's gonna change everything. Clothing, it's gonna change everything.
Or maybe they have a rash because I lived with
my rash for a long time thinking it was something else.

Speaker 3 (37:45):
That's how life is.

Speaker 1 (37:46):
I now bathe an unscented soap, which Chase is staying
in my house, and you're probably gonna be like in
the guests side guest bathroom, Well, it's all I had.
I just have these bars of soap, and I was
out of body washing air and I wanted to like
put a fresh towel in there for Chase and make
sure that shampoo conditioner like whatever. And then I was like, oh,
and here's a boring box of soap unscented playing to

(38:07):
be really disappointed. You get your own bar.

Speaker 3 (38:09):
He's like, I'm going to a hotel, this place, socks this,
what is this?

Speaker 1 (38:14):
And unscented laundry my sheet? These sheets don't laundry mat Yeah,
I know so, but but someone else out there, they
may have a rash and they may be like what
do I do? And this is gonna potentially help them.
You need to just decent your life.

Speaker 3 (38:32):
It reminds me of when I like got glasses for
the first time. I thought that's how everybody saw and
I remember putting glasses on and I could see it
an assembly and I was like, oh no, you can
see the people talking. They're doing a bunny race too,
and I was like, you can people can see the
bunnies up there.

Speaker 1 (38:47):
So wait, how is this?

Speaker 3 (38:52):
It makes sense to make out like you thought that
like life was just this way you had to live
with this rash and then you're like, no, people are
rap free, and then yeah, it's the same same. That's amazing.

Speaker 1 (39:07):
Yeah, that's definitely the same. Anyway, one thing, wait, are
we still on our put Okay? And here this is
back to the dryer balls. This is the Feeling Things podcast.
And also what I think you'll notice in this if
you do this activity with your friend or your partner
or your kids. Is it's like you learn things about

(39:27):
each other, but also conversations come up, feelings come up,
and this is just a way to add more of
that into your life. A little activity there which you
know that girl, Chelsea explains on I think I showed
her to you. You are the one that introduced me
to her, Yes, you are.

Speaker 3 (39:43):
I found her on b there in five.

Speaker 1 (39:45):
Okay, well she popped up with some hack. She's all
about hacks, like everything's a hack, and she's like, and
this is like a fun hack. She's like, it's something
my friends and I used to do back in college
when the nights were just mundane, like everything was starting
to feel the same and we wanted to spice things
up so they would be out. And they started playing
instead of Truth or Dare Dare or Dare Stop It,

(40:06):
Stop It?

Speaker 3 (40:06):
Did she really do this? Yeah, if my friends are listening,
they're gonna freak out.

Speaker 1 (40:12):
Why did y'all play there or Dare?

Speaker 3 (40:13):
Because my favorite game is truth or Truth? Oh but man,
my friends won't play it with me. I'm like, okay, guys,
it's got time for truth or truth and They're like,
we don't want to do the truth, and I'm like, okay,
well then pick a truth. They don't want to do
a truth, so I just play with myself, so.

Speaker 1 (40:32):
So yeah, that's another way to do it. So there's
truth or dare, and I guess there is an option
of truth or truth.

Speaker 3 (40:37):
But nobody usually wants to do the dares.

Speaker 1 (40:40):
Well. She explained it like with when you're out with
your friends, dare or dare is fun because there are
rules around it, like you can't do something so ridiculous
or something that is hurtful to anybody. It's supposed to
be lighthearted and fun. Like a dare might be I
dare you to walk up to that person and just
give them a compliment, to be genuine, like oh, I

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really love your and that might be uncomfortable for someone
to be like I love your shoes, or the next
guy or girl that walks by you have to say, hey,
love your outfit, or hey, so good to see you.
But yeah, it's innocent but still spices things up and
then sort of has a snowball effect like you never
know where it's gonna lead, sort of like this activity,

(41:24):
this check in, we don't know where it's gonna lead.

Speaker 3 (41:27):
I'll see if my friends will pay dare or dare.
If you were to be playing truth or dare, what
are you picking?

Speaker 1 (41:32):
What depends?

Speaker 3 (41:33):
I mean, sorry, if you're if you're playing truth ordare?
Did I say dare?

Speaker 1 (41:36):
You don't say truth or dare? And I said it
depends because I would with it. Maybe probably who I'm with,
how comfortable I feel telling a truth to them, depending
on what the question is going to be. And then
I guess if the dare is safe, like it's just
supposed to be a fun dare, I probably choose the
dare because that might lead to more laughter and fun.
And you know me, I'm a fun person.

Speaker 3 (42:00):
I'm on, we should have a dare dare Knight.

Speaker 1 (42:03):
Oh so this makes me think of something that could
have been a dare.

Speaker 3 (42:09):
Oh so you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (42:11):
Okay, the guy that came up to me, Okay, so
I was out with my kids. We went to church and.

Speaker 3 (42:15):
Then we went to date.

Speaker 1 (42:16):
It could have been a dare or dare. Okay, because
the way this happened, it was so bizarre.

Speaker 3 (42:22):
Because I'm with my kids.

Speaker 1 (42:23):
I could see him being around the corner with his buddy,
I dare you to go up to her wall. She's
with her kids, Like, how awkward that would that be?
And he comes up and in front of the kids,
gives me his card and says he doesn't know my situation.
Obviously I don't have a wedding ring on. But he's like,
I hope you call, and I just like took the
cards off those I didn't know. I mean, he said
something else, but I think I'm too embarrassed to say it.

Speaker 3 (42:44):
And he said it in front of you. No stop
staring at you? Yes?

Speaker 2 (42:48):
Yes?

Speaker 1 (42:49):
Why is that a lie?

Speaker 3 (42:51):
Is that a lie?

Speaker 1 (42:51):
Did your toxic boyfriend say that to you? No? Oh,
but I'm with my son and daughter, which maybe he
doesn't he didn't know they were my kids, but in
front of my kids, hand me a card and say
I couldn't stop looking at you inside.

Speaker 3 (43:04):
There, like wait, looking at you or staring at you?

Speaker 1 (43:06):
They feel looking Maybe we need to pull one of
the kids in and ask I couldn't stop looking at him,
you said staring because staring would sound creepy. He was like,
I couldn't stop looking at you in there, like in
the restaurant, And then so do you.

Speaker 3 (43:17):
Think he knew who you were, No, because he didn't
know my name? What were you wearing?

Speaker 1 (43:21):
My church clothes? Very like like I'm going to describe
it and you're be like, wow, what is your religion?
It is a very long skirt with a white shirt
and a cardigan over it, and my hair back in

(43:45):
a bun like so and sandals. So yeah, my toes
were showing. Yeah, but he didn't say like, he didn't say.
He didn't say I couldn't stop looking at your feet.

Speaker 3 (43:58):
Well, that would be weird, I can.

Speaker 1 (44:00):
Anyway, he gave me a card.

Speaker 3 (44:01):
What did you feel like?

Speaker 1 (44:03):
Shocked that someone would do that in front of my kids?

Speaker 3 (44:06):
I don't think that's so he was shooting a shot.
I don't know.

Speaker 1 (44:11):
I don't think you shoot your shot in front of
the kids.

Speaker 3 (44:14):
Okay, I do not know your situation.

Speaker 1 (44:16):
What if Stevensan's like, oh what if I was married?
And she was like, ah, she's with my dad.

Speaker 3 (44:21):
Okay, that's okay, that's weird too. But when my friends
just told me about a story where her brother saw
somebody at like a deli of sorts and she he
was with his kids, and she was with her kids
and her family, and he wrote his number down and
gave it to her and she called, Okay, well, he
that's bold. I think it's it could be weird, but

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luckily well.

Speaker 1 (44:43):
Speaking of my kids' dads, I can't share this story exactly.
This is not mine to tell. But my ex husband
is dating somewhere around and they got together in a
very interesting way. My ex husband is dating somewhere around

(45:04):
and they got together in a very interesting way.

Speaker 3 (45:06):
Oh, like very I have to get this story, but
it's so crazy. I guess I kind of did that too.

Speaker 1 (45:13):
You did, so hey, it's more of a coming come back.

Speaker 3 (45:18):
Okay, wait with us. So you felt shocked? Were you flattered? Yeah?

Speaker 1 (45:22):
I mean I think anybody would be flattered by that.
Unless now I'm thinking it was a dare or dare.

Speaker 3 (45:27):
What time of day was it was after church?

Speaker 1 (45:29):
Yes, so probably one o'clock. You know he's there, dare,
dare with a friendly way, brave, But that could be
a dare or dare to do do you see, like,
if you're out with your friends and your single whatever,
it's harmless, or if nobody's gonna get hurt, you'd be like,
you have to go up to this guy and give
him your business card and be like, but then they
have your information, so that's dangerous.

Speaker 3 (45:47):
Fake one. Oh yeah, find somebody else's business card.

Speaker 1 (45:49):
Yeah, but then that's then they call that person.

Speaker 3 (45:56):
It's like, you give me your number, and they're like
when I didn't, Oh yeah, that's good. Yeah. Wait, that'sn't mean.
That's mean, don't do that.

Speaker 1 (46:04):
I don't have the card. Because then later I went
and met up with my boyfriend and his family and
my kids. We went celebrate and I was getting something
out of my bag and I'd put the business card
in my bag and I pulled it out. I mean,
it was only a few hours later. I wasn't keeping it.

Speaker 3 (46:19):
Wait, you didn't say like, oh I'm seeing somebody. I did.
I froze.

Speaker 1 (46:23):
I froze. I really didn't say anything. I just said oh.
I kept looking at Stevens and Sashira and I looked
at him and it happened so fast, and I was
like okay, and I just put it in my bag
and then we walked away. And then and when I
walked away, I felt bad. I was like, oh my gosh, Like,
why didn't I say I have a boyfriend.

Speaker 3 (46:42):
Yelled back at him, I have a boyfriend.

Speaker 1 (46:44):
I thought about that. I thought about that because we
were walking away, and I was like, I feel bad,
like I should.

Speaker 3 (46:50):
Have said that.

Speaker 1 (46:51):
And now when I tell Alex the story, he's like, well,
what'd you say? And I would be like, I said nothing,
And then he's going to be like, why wouldn't you
say I have a boyfriend? And I was like, I
don't know. I literally just froze.

Speaker 3 (47:04):
What'd your kids say?

Speaker 1 (47:05):
They were just like looking at me and they're like
that was weird, Like they didn't they did not understand.
They were like what So either his was dare or dare.
But the cute part of this is so my husband
shoot my boyfriend.

Speaker 3 (47:25):
We came to tally of how many times. That's only
the second time, I know, But we haven't been doing
this very long.

Speaker 1 (47:30):
Apparently if I do it, anywhere between eighteen and two
hundred and fifty days to have it. But I that's
only the second time that's ever happened. And we've been
talking about my ex husband and my boyfriend.

Speaker 3 (47:41):
It happens, and it's a mistake. And my admirer at lunch,
So your boyfriend.

Speaker 1 (47:49):
My boyfriend has kids and connecting with them, especially his
daughter has been very important to me. Their mom passed away.
She was the whole and very well, that was very close.
They were all close to their mom, don't get me wrong,
but she was older and closest and that was her mom.
So also her being now much older and almost seventeen, like,

(48:12):
it's not like she's ever going to have a step mom.

Speaker 3 (48:15):
Well she could, but I mean wouldn't be this.

Speaker 1 (48:18):
It's not the same type of relationship. I think as
like the twelve year old who I never had, Like
she's like to her her mom.

Speaker 3 (48:24):
She has a mom.

Speaker 1 (48:25):
Yeah, and we've had talks. I'm not trying to be
that role, but I mean I want to be a
bonus mom. Sure, however you want to look at it all.
That's just part of the details in case we have
any new listeners that know that that relationship is very
important to me. But I've been careful with it and
well I've even heard from other listeners that have been

(48:47):
in my situation where it's like coming in as the
next mom is a It's an interesting thing that you
don't get until you are actually trying to do it,
and we're not even engage so you're married. So I'm
just clarifying that I'm around the kids enough. And I
pulled out the business card at dinner and she was like, wait,

(49:09):
what's this and I was like, oh, this guy gave
it to me.

Speaker 3 (49:11):
It was so weird.

Speaker 1 (49:12):
So I told Alex the story because I wanted him
to know, like, I'm not going to do anything.

Speaker 3 (49:16):
With it, but here it is.

Speaker 1 (49:17):
And she grabbed it and she ripped it up and
she was like, you're not going to be needing that.

Speaker 3 (49:22):
And I just thought that that was so.

Speaker 1 (49:23):
Cute and it warmed yes of like, I like you
for my dad and for our family, So I'm going
to rip this up and so thank you for random guy.

Speaker 3 (49:35):
Well, if she was like you should call him, could.

Speaker 1 (49:37):
You imagine that would be a sign. That would be
a sign of like, oh, you'll probably hold on to that.
You could see a teenager that was really if they
were really struggling and like didn't like you, they might
be like, I wouldn't lose that, did you? Really?

Speaker 3 (49:48):
Yeah, keep it in a safe place.

Speaker 1 (49:50):
Give him a call. You're not for my dad, you know.
But instead she ripped it up and she said you
don't need this, and it made me very while the
houner made me feel weird. Especially because I made it
more weird walking away without saying I have a boyfriend.
It was all worth it because I had that moment
with her, which probably to her it was just like

(50:11):
a silly you know, but it meant a lot to me,
and maybe one day I'll get to share that with her.
I don't think she's a listener.

Speaker 3 (50:17):
You never know. I don't. I don't think we have
a lot of least teenagers say thank you to What
did you say thank you to the guy?

Speaker 1 (50:23):
Honestly, we'd have to ask the kids, Like I think.

Speaker 3 (50:25):
I was just like, okay, talk to you later.

Speaker 1 (50:29):
I think what he said I could stop looking at.
I was just like, oh.

Speaker 3 (50:32):
Really, I don't know. It was just weird.

Speaker 1 (50:35):
Okay, are we still on your check in?

Speaker 3 (50:37):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (50:37):
Okay, see you never know. Okay, come up and check ins.
One thing I want to accomplish next month.

Speaker 3 (50:45):
Is can I do too? Do I permission to do too?

Speaker 1 (50:48):
You don't need permission.

Speaker 3 (50:49):
This is your game? Yeah, okay?

Speaker 1 (50:52):
Truth or truth? Dare or dare you do you?

Speaker 3 (50:54):
I am surprised I'm saying this because I like, this
is your thing, and I've never really struggled with it.
But I've been struggling drinking water, So I want to
drink more water.

Speaker 1 (51:02):
It's my thing to struggle with water.

Speaker 3 (51:04):
It is your thing.

Speaker 1 (51:06):
Yeah, it's my identity. I struggle with water.

Speaker 3 (51:11):
Okay, so that's one. But then more seriously, well, I
guess that's serious. It's my health. You need water.

Speaker 1 (51:17):
I think you can live longer without food than you
can without water. I'm just letting you know it is serious. Okay,
water is serious, Like I think with water you need
with how many days can you like three to five
days without water? But you can go two weeks without food.

Speaker 3 (51:33):
Can you imagine not drinking anything for three I'm so
thirsty right now talking about water.

Speaker 1 (51:38):
Okay, thirty days without food you can go, but only
three to five days no water.

Speaker 3 (51:44):
Questions that don't come up.

Speaker 1 (51:45):
Yes, yes, it's just a thought.

Speaker 3 (51:49):
This is just a recommendation I want to throw out
there before I forget. It has nothing to do with anything.
Everybody should read The Winter Garden, speaking of food and water.
It's a great book. It's by Chris and Hannah, so
it's historical fiction. You'll learn a little bit and you'll
cry a little bit. It takes a little bit to
get into the book. My favorite book to this what
I've ever read?

Speaker 1 (52:08):
Era of history? Or you said it's historical?

Speaker 3 (52:12):
What are we going to learn about a certain war?
Which war it's in the book? Oh, you can't say.

Speaker 1 (52:23):
That's okay? I started Family of Liars and I was like,
I can't tell you whose perspective it's from.

Speaker 3 (52:29):
That's a little different. I'm just like I learned so much.

Speaker 1 (52:32):
The Sister that got the Chin job, well, like probably
World War two? No, no, World War one?

Speaker 3 (52:39):
No civil what is it? Christ and Hannah The Winter Garden.
I will say. Second really good book by Kris Hannah
is The Women, and that's about the Vietnam War. That
is also really good. Okay, it's not a war, but
it's like there's something going on historically.

Speaker 1 (53:02):
So the other yes, The Women, that is a very
good book, and it isn't about Vietnam War.

Speaker 3 (53:08):
But this it's about a famine.

Speaker 1 (53:11):
Is good?

Speaker 3 (53:11):
Where were we? Sorry? As I.

Speaker 1 (53:19):
Okay, you're gonna drink more water.

Speaker 3 (53:21):
And oh I want to answer people more timely.

Speaker 1 (53:27):
Oh okay, like I respond.

Speaker 3 (53:29):
Yes, because I will get an email or a text
and I'll like, I'll answer this later and then it'll
be a week later, and I'm like, oh my gosh,
I meant to answer that, but then it feels too
late to then answer them, because then it's like, oh,
what do I say now? And so then I don't
answer them, and then if I need to text them,
then the last text is them asking me a question, and.

Speaker 1 (53:46):
Then you know, yeah, you know, I hit it. I know,
I'm I want.

Speaker 3 (53:51):
To be better at getting the text and being like
you can answer this now, you got it, and then
doing it. Maybe that should be my affirmation. You can
answer people right away you want to.

Speaker 1 (54:00):
You are capable when you want to.

Speaker 3 (54:03):
That's my problem. Okay, anyway, that's okay, we finished, Yeah, yay,
we did the check in.

Speaker 1 (54:08):
So see, this is a simple activity, so good. I mean,
it'll be an hour long meal around the table, especially
you can only do with two people. If you do
it with more people, just carve out the time. But
also you could make it rapid fire. But some of
these people need to think about.

Speaker 3 (54:28):
I think if you are in a family and you
want to implement this in your family, one person gets
to go at night.

Speaker 1 (54:33):
Okay, that's good, and we'll never.

Speaker 3 (54:35):
Do it again.

Speaker 1 (54:35):
On you go on Tuesday, and then Timmy, you go on.

Speaker 3 (54:39):
Yeah, yeah, got it?

Speaker 1 (54:41):
Cool, Chase, do you want to do the check in?
I mean not right now, but like not right now,
but like do would you see yourself doing the check in?
It's like a fun activity.

Speaker 3 (54:53):
He can't say no, well, yes he could, yeah, yeah
he can. Used are another? Is there another question you
would add to the check in? Or swap or maybe
swap out like you can swap out some questions?

Speaker 1 (55:09):
Yeah. I think it's pretty good.

Speaker 3 (55:10):
I like it. I like it.

Speaker 1 (55:12):
It's fun.

Speaker 3 (55:13):
So there you go.

Speaker 1 (55:13):
Check in dare are dare truth or truth wind? Where
is Amy Bradley again? If you know anything called called
yes called the FBI? Do you know back in the day? Well,
I guess you saw this in the documentary Her family
was on Doctor Phil. Yes, that's interesting.

Speaker 3 (55:32):
Do you like Doctor Phil? I used to? That makes sense? Tracks?

Speaker 1 (55:37):
That tracks? Okay, all right, Well, we hope you're having
the day the day you need to have.

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