October 21, 2025 • 56 mins
The Feeling of the Day is forgetful, thanks to Kat leaving her wedding ring at home, which leads to a chat about what happens when she forgets it in public and somehow snowballs into a conversation about whether you’d say something if you saw a stranger having an affair.
Speaking of rings, Amy shares that Kat’s been sending her engagement ring newsletters, even though there’s no engagement news to report. Amy also tells the story of finding an app called Think Dirty on her boyfriend’s phone (spoiler: it’s not what it sounds like), and they also unpack the top symptoms of “Millennial Syndrome.” Plus, Kat shares a hilarious childhood story involving a teacher, a soybean, and mild trauma.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
All right, break it down.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
If you ever have feelings that you just won't Amy
and Cat got your cob and locking No, brother, ladies
and felts, do you just follow an the spirit where
it's all the front over real stuff, tell the chill
stuff and the.
Speaker 3 (00:19):
M but Swayne, sometimes the best thing you can do
it just.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Stop you feel things. This is feeling things with.
Speaker 3 (00:28):
Amy and Kat.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Happy Tuesday. Welcome to feeling things. I'm Amy and.
Speaker 4 (00:31):
I'm Cat, and I'm starting with the feeling of the day,
which is I'm feeling so forgetful, Like is that an
action feeling?
Speaker 3 (00:41):
Uh? Probably?
Speaker 4 (00:42):
Yeah, So underneath that, I'm probably feeling some shame.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
And I don't wouldn't say I'm sad.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
You're disappointed in yourself.
Speaker 3 (00:52):
When I go that far.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Yeah, well sometimes when I'm forgetful, that's a good one. Annoyed,
it's frustrating, yeah, because you're like, what the that's wrong
with me?
Speaker 4 (01:00):
Yeah, And it's like very simple things were all well,
I'll be talking to you and even telling you a story.
Speaker 3 (01:06):
In the middle of the story, I'm like, where was
it going with this?
Speaker 1 (01:09):
Like what was the point?
Speaker 4 (01:10):
Which is problematic in my line of work because if
I am sharing a story with somebody, I need to
know where it's going and why I'm sharing it, you know.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
Yeah, Like you're talking about like a client.
Speaker 4 (01:21):
Well, if I was working today, I think that if
I was seeing clients today, that could happen. So I'd
have to do a more quiet version of.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Your client's like unloading all this stuff on you. And
then you're like, wait, what'd you say?
Speaker 3 (01:33):
Can you go back?
Speaker 1 (01:33):
You back it up to?
Speaker 3 (01:35):
Is it your mom?
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Wait?
Speaker 3 (01:36):
So why are you here?
Speaker 1 (01:37):
Ye? Well you're my therapist. Yeah, I could see how
that could be problematic.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
Yeah, but I'm even forgetting.
Speaker 4 (01:44):
Like when I was getting ready to come over, I
went upstairs to get ready, and I was like, put
your earrings in, and I.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
You don't have earrings in.
Speaker 4 (01:52):
I know, put your earrings in and put on your
rings because I had gone to the doctor earlier this morning,
and I realized on the way to the doctor, I
wasn't wearing my wedding rings, which is fine, but I
made a mental note put them on when before you
go to record.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
I also was supposed to pay my nails. So I'm
just struggling with a lot of things.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
Yeah, well, you remember to email me rings do you
want to tell what you're up to do?
Speaker 3 (02:22):
Okay? Email?
Speaker 1 (02:23):
It was a screenshot of an email, right, was that
a Are you on a newsletter for a jeweler?
Speaker 3 (02:30):
Yes? Are you not? No?
Speaker 1 (02:32):
Well not, ya's what you're doing?
Speaker 4 (02:35):
Okay, So I would love to I'm on this email
list because it's the jewelry place that my ring is from.
My engagement ring is from Walton's in downtown Franklin. Highly
recommend great stuff, a lot of like pretty antique stuff.
They can also make custom jewelry.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
Well, the whatever you sent me most recently was vintage
and it was stunning.
Speaker 4 (02:55):
So okay, they I remember the The like subject of
the email was kind of funny.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
That's one of the reasons why I sent it to you.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
But it was it did say like in the screenshot,
like it cut off so I could read it was
like between now and February is the time of year
when more engagements happen. Oh out of any.
Speaker 3 (03:13):
Time of the year. Okay, probably because the holiday. I
didn't read that far.
Speaker 4 (03:17):
But the picture on the newsletter was this big, beautiful
ring that I had seen on their Instagram, and I
just wanted to make sure.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
That I knew about it.
Speaker 4 (03:27):
I knew about this ring because that's a one of
a kind ring that they have there, because it's what
would you call it vintage or antique?
Speaker 1 (03:34):
The email said vintage It was vintage.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
Sounds a little mark. Well, I guess antique is older.
Speaker 1 (03:40):
Yeah, I think I like the word.
Speaker 4 (03:41):
Vintage sounds better. Yeah, antique sounds like this old rusted thing.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
Well, antiques are cute too, but yeah, I feel like
it's not from like a you know, antique mall.
Speaker 3 (03:52):
It's right right, it's from okay, a jeweler.
Speaker 4 (03:55):
Anyway, I just wanted to make sure that you saw
that because I don't know how much I thought you're
putting into stuff like that. And maybe I'm projecting, but
you're about to come up on a year of dating.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
Okay, so how what? How long?
Speaker 3 (04:08):
I am a year?
Speaker 4 (04:10):
Yeah, we're a year in but when I sent this,
you were just about to come up.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
But what what? At what point did you and Patrick
get engaged?
Speaker 4 (04:19):
So we got engaged about a month after our year
and we started talking about it probably, well, we started
talking about it probably six months in, but we started
like talking about it, giving hints about what I would
like probably nine ten months okay, so.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
This is an appropriate time for you to be sending
me things on my timeline that you like. And if
I like, but then what do I like?
Speaker 3 (04:45):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (04:46):
I and that's fun. I love this part of our friendship,
Like I think it's fun. Like it was like, oh okay,
I hadn't really thought about this, but what do I
do with that? Because shouldn't you be sending that to Alex? Well?
Speaker 3 (04:59):
I have to get pulse what you like.
Speaker 4 (05:01):
I just did this with a friend who got engaged
this past weekend actually, and I went ring shopping with her.
She is very like, she'll make an itinerary when we
go on a trip, like she's very organized like that,
she does events for a living. So we went and
looked at stuff and then she made a mood board
and sent the.
Speaker 3 (05:19):
Mood board to her.
Speaker 4 (05:20):
That is not your boyfriend. This is what you're gonna do.
This is what we're gonna do if you're open to this.
Speaker 3 (05:26):
Is this okay? Is this too much? Okay?
Speaker 1 (05:27):
I need to just say out front right here, I'm
not getting engaged like okay this year, but I'm.
Speaker 3 (05:34):
Saying they're still it's fun to think about it.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
Sure, yes, it's fun to think about and I'm entertaining.
Speaker 3 (05:40):
Okay, your fun, this is about me.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
This is yes, I'm entertaining. I was like, okay, we're
talking about rings. I was like, do you want to
confess what you've been cooking up? And then like on Saturday,
You're like, hey, if you're by my house, we can
pop into Walton's. And I'm like, so what if Alex
is like, hey, what are you up to and I'm like, oh,
just looking at rings with cats?
Speaker 4 (06:00):
It would be for me, okay, like maybe I'm looking
for a vintage piece of jewelry or something coming up,
Okay for my collection, Yes.
Speaker 3 (06:09):
Of course.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
Yeah, so yes, this is fun and I will play along.
And and a proposal is not happening this year. And
I do think it's reasonable to be discussing it though,
because after you hit that year mark at our age
and we've got kids. I don't know that I'm looking
unless I was a person that had zero desire to
(06:32):
get married again and I just wanted to date and
this is how we keep it then, Okay, but I
don't think we would still be dating if we didn't
think that that was on the horizon at some point. Yeah,
and you were talking about paying your nails, and I look,
you know how I never have my nails on the schedule. No,
I don't need to be not till next year.
Speaker 4 (06:48):
Maybe speaking from somebody who had bright blue, electric blue
nails when she got engaged, you really should be taking
a weight.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
Why why did you have electric blue nails?
Speaker 4 (06:58):
You want to know something crazy is I for probably
two months, was doing very neutral colors, neutral colors that
like were still me. So I would do like a
white with chrome or something, something that was still fun.
And then for some reason I was like, well, what's
not gonna happen in the next couple next two weeks,
So I'm just gonna do something fun, And I picked
(07:22):
this blue that was fun and some might call ugly.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
Yeah, I mean, looking back, he might be like, what
was I thinking?
Speaker 4 (07:31):
And that was I would not have approved of this
color yet show it to you later.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
It was at our live podcast taping in downtown Franklin,
which is right across the street from Walton's. Yeah, the
jewelry place anyways, and yeah, Patrick proposed we had two
shows that day, one in the afternoon, one at night,
and he proposed to you after the night one and I.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
Had no idea, because why would he do it.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
At that Some of the listeners that were at the
top Golf thing, they were they there, Yeah, they were
at the Life and they brought up your engagement.
Speaker 4 (08:03):
I thought I was running upstairs because I had gotten
you a birthday cake and I thought we were going
to go surprise you with it.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
So I was trying to run upstairs before you got upstairs.
Speaker 4 (08:11):
And then I got upstairs and nobody else was there,
and neither was the birthday cake.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
You did.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
I don't remember that. Oh cry ocat walked in on
my engagement. That's cute. And then what I love about that,
I'm going to see here. Yeah okay, but if you're like, oh,
there's an engagement happening, I don't see that on the
run of show. It wasn't on there. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (08:37):
Yeah, it was really cute. But anyway, back to you,
I'll do your nails. You don't even have to spend
money on that. Okay, we don't have to do it yet.
Speaker 3 (08:45):
Let's start injury.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
We're not yes January, it's twenty twenty six. If it happens,
it will be in twenty twenty six, so we're not
in a rush. Like but thank you for thinking of me,
and that ring was beautiful, But I don't know what
you know.
Speaker 3 (08:58):
I have altole questions, so I'm not ready to be
done with.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
This, Okay, okay, questions that don't come Up's questions that
don't come up.
Speaker 4 (09:04):
That have to do with what we're talking about. Do
you want to have a say in what you get?
Speaker 3 (09:10):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (09:11):
Okay, okay, ish? So to a point like because.
Speaker 3 (09:15):
You don't want to pick it out though, no, okay.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
No, I don't think I want to pick it out,
but I would like to say.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
Okay, ish. So then this is what we do.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
I mean that ring you says on the right track.
Speaker 3 (09:27):
Okay, you would be okay if you got that ring? Yeah, okay, okay.
So what we're gonna do is I'm going to keep
sending you things that I see that I like, and maybe.
Speaker 4 (09:40):
They see they like, and maybe I'll need to go
look for some vintage joy from myself and I'll need
a second opinion.
Speaker 3 (09:49):
So you'll come and we'll just be like, oh, what's
over there?
Speaker 4 (09:53):
So fun, and then we'll just talk about it and
get a feel for things. So when the time comes,
somebody will have some feedback or this is what they
do at Walton's. This is what they did for me,
not specifically for me. I think they do this for everybody.
Speaker 3 (10:08):
But they'll create a profile for you, so they'll just
write down notes of things that you said, things you liked,
things you didn't like. They're listening to you while you're
trying stuff on, taking notes and then so if that's
where he goes to get your ring, they'll be able
to help him. Oh okay, so we don't have to
work with this now, but well, I know that's fine
to think about it.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
He went to that jeweler for his wife, so if
people are new here, he was married before his wife
passed away from cancer. So I still refer to as
his wife because I don't know it's not his ex wife.
So that's where he got her ring. Walton's familiar with
place he's familiar. Okay, so you're saying he's familiar.
Speaker 4 (10:48):
Which is a good place to be familiar with. So
that's what we're gonna do. But right now, we're just
having fun. If we're just in this fun stage, there's
no pressure.
Speaker 1 (10:55):
Speaking of fun, I know that the screenshot you sent
me was a Walton's newsletter, and we have a newsletter
that we're really cranking and putting it out, So make
sure you've signed up. And in every show notes now
we're linking the newsletter, so it's really easy to sign up.
You don't have to have Instagram or any of the stuff,
because sometimes they we're like, just go to our Instagram
(11:16):
and click on this link, or we'll put it in
the stories and you click on it. But some people
are not on social media all the time, which respect.
Speaker 3 (11:23):
Shout out for you. Yeah, good for you.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
Just check the show notes and you'll have the link
there because you're going to want to be in the
know for our newsletter coming up for sure, for sure
in early November ish hint, hint.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
And hopefully before early November.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
Yeah, well there's any newsletters going out, but there's an.
Speaker 3 (11:42):
Announce Oh oh yeah, you're really going to want to
be around.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
For that and the announcement. Did you already forget? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (11:47):
I did already forget.
Speaker 4 (11:48):
And also I'm touching my ring finger again. I just
remembered that I forgot my ring. I forgot that I
forgot and I remembered. And I have a question for you.
When you see people couple random people out do you
make up like stories about As I'm saying this, I'm
feeling a little silly, but like, do you make stories
about other people's lives when you see people out and about?
Speaker 1 (12:09):
Not always, but I know where you're going with it,
because like you do that when you're like pretend on
vacation and you're just like, oh, that's have fun, Like
I wonder what they're doing over there, And so I've
entertained that a little bit. But like what like if
you see somebody without their ring or something.
Speaker 4 (12:22):
Well, so Patrick and I have this thing. He always
wears his ring. He doesn't ever forget, which good for him.
He is forgetful, but that he's not.
Speaker 1 (12:32):
He's just to clarify he's got a horrible memory. But
does he ever even take it off?
Speaker 4 (12:37):
He does, he won't sleep in it, and I don't
sleep in mind or shower in it.
Speaker 3 (12:42):
Anyway.
Speaker 4 (12:43):
What happens is when I forget my ring and he
is wearing his ring, I'm always like, oh, no, people
are gonna see us and think that you're married and
I'm a home wrecker and we're having an affair.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
Oh that's you jump to what if it's that you
just forgot your ring?
Speaker 3 (13:03):
Well, yeah, that could be it. But isn't it crazy
that like some people could see us and be like
a married man with an unmarried woman.
Speaker 4 (13:09):
Yeah, I'm going to take a picture and post it
on TikTok to find the wife to tell her.
Speaker 3 (13:15):
People people do that.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
People are like if you're did you say that noise
comes from my throat? What was that.
Speaker 3 (13:22):
That happened to me? Sometimes too, I feel like it's
like a little air bubble that's.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
Okay, Yeah there. I saw one the other day where
she was like, Hey, if your husband was on the
first Delta flight out of Atlanta eight fifty five and
sitting in row five, seat B, I was next to
him and he's texting his mistress to let him know stop.
Speaker 3 (13:44):
Yeah, I've seen the ones that are like if your
fiance was having a Bachelratt trip in Nashville. I saw
him last night at Tequila Cowboys and we made out
on the dance floor. Oh sorry, girl, I didn't know.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
But when did you find out? Like I, yeah, dog, Sorry,
I don't know. Dude, got nice text dog to each
other all the time, like wa dawg.
Speaker 3 (14:16):
Dogs started it well because.
Speaker 1 (14:18):
The sister on Righteous Gymstones like she'd be talking to
her brothers and she's like dog, just like so. I
just thought thought it was so funny.
Speaker 4 (14:28):
If somebody read our text message, every other word is
like sick.
Speaker 3 (14:32):
Yeah, dog.
Speaker 1 (14:34):
Yo.
Speaker 3 (14:35):
I think we're like thirteen trying to be cool. I
said to you this morning.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
I was like, science is weird, man, and you were like, yeah, dog,
I know our text would.
Speaker 3 (14:46):
Be like okay.
Speaker 4 (14:48):
So my whole point of that story is if somebody
posts a TikTok of me and Patrick, don't be alarmed.
Speaker 3 (14:56):
We are married, yeah, happily married. There's no I'm just forgetful.
Speaker 1 (15:01):
Yeah, I just forgot your ring, that's all.
Speaker 4 (15:03):
Would you post one of those videos if you saw
somebody actively cheating.
Speaker 3 (15:07):
On their way?
Speaker 1 (15:08):
Not my circus, not my monkeys, not my circus, very healthy? No,
not my chili, I don't want to stir it? Not
my pot?
Speaker 3 (15:16):
Did you just make that up? These are saying so
I doesn't say it's creative. I'm sure you've heard them
that my chili not gonna stir?
Speaker 2 (15:23):
No?
Speaker 1 (15:25):
Is it not my circus, not my monkeys, or not
my monkey's not my circus? Okay, monkeys first, not my
so not my monkeys, not my circus. No, I don't.
I'm not trying to be dramatic. I don't know everybody's
full circumstance, Like I don't know the whole story, and
I don't want to know.
Speaker 4 (15:44):
Do you think people do that really to be helpful
or to go viral? Because that goes viral if they're doing.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
It publicly online like that, I guess because people will
slide into a DM like if they know the person directly.
But I guess if you're going public, it means you
don't know exactly who you're sending it to and you're
trying to find the person like you're some like relationship vigilante.
Speaker 4 (16:09):
Yeah, because they'll be like, TikTok, do your thing, Yeah,
find this woman like I would want to do. That's
humiliating to find out your husband is, or your boyfriend
or whoever's cheated on you through TikTok.
Speaker 3 (16:20):
That's humiliating.
Speaker 4 (16:21):
If my if Patrick was to ever cheat on me
somewhere and be talking to his mistress, you know what,
I'll eventually find out. Let it run its course, because
I don't want to be humiliated publicly on top of
probably already feeling shame that my husband is cheated on me. Yeah,
you know, like you're not that person's I'm getting a
little worked up about this. But for the people that
(16:44):
are doing that to be helpful, it might not be
the most helpful thing.
Speaker 1 (16:48):
You know what I got worked up about. Speaking of relationships,
the other day, I was on my boyfriend's phone and
I it wasn't like a tender app or anything like that,
texting a mistress. No, but I was going through his
apps because I was looking for I think just Instagram
because I was gonna.
Speaker 3 (17:03):
Were you looking for pictures of engagement rings? No?
Speaker 1 (17:06):
No, But I started swiping through and there's this app
and on the icon it says think dirty. And I
was like, well, what is this? See well, I was like, well,
this is not discreet. If this is a dirty app,
there's no way it's dirty, because like, why would it
be obvious? And I also know my boyfriend, so I
was like ninety nine point nine percent sure it was nothing,
(17:28):
But what was it?
Speaker 3 (17:29):
Well, okay, hold on before you tell me what it is.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
Initial thought, it's a black icon with white letters to
say think dirty.
Speaker 4 (17:37):
I think just telling me that without using like common
sense of it wouldn't be that obvious. I would think
that that app would be about like how to get
a dirty mind, and like how.
Speaker 3 (17:46):
To like it, Like how did you come up with dirty?
How to come up with like sex sex things, you know,
like dirty? How to be like come up with witty
with or like how to come up with like dirty
talk or something, or like dirty jokes or stuff. I
guess I don't know.
Speaker 4 (18:01):
That's what I would that's the most from think dirty,
That's where my brain would go.
Speaker 3 (18:06):
But now I'm like, is it about like washing cars
or something?
Speaker 1 (18:10):
A washing cars app? What do you get from that app?
Tell me more intriguing tipps and tricks?
Speaker 3 (18:16):
Hey, remember what I did? I tell you the other day.
Speaker 1 (18:19):
That I washed my car. We maybe talked about on
the podcast, but I was so proud of myself. I
forget what we talk about versus what we just talked
about in real life. But I washed my own car
today and Kav was like, you know, there's a car
wash down the street that will do the whole thing
inside and out for twenty five dollars. And I was like, yeah,
but there's something that just feels good about me doing
it myself.
Speaker 3 (18:38):
And you said that it like jump started you to
do other stuff.
Speaker 1 (18:41):
Yeah, it just like felt good like I did this
and I felt accomplished, and I scrubbed the wheels and
clean the tires like it did everything.
Speaker 3 (18:51):
So if you had to think dirty app, maybe it
would have tips of like use this soap on this
type of rubber, think.
Speaker 1 (18:57):
Dirty, think dirty. No, it's not about products like clean
products versus dirty, like toxic versus non toxic.
Speaker 3 (19:06):
Why wouldn't they call it thing clean? I think they
were trying to be clever? Oh think? So is that
like one of those apps that like scans? I guess.
Speaker 1 (19:14):
So I didn't even click. I just went straight to
him instead of building up this whole story in my
mind about what it could be. I was just like,
what is this think dirty app? And he said it's
for products like oka, whether or not they're toxic or
non toxic. And I'm like, okay, cool, that's what I thought.
Speaker 4 (19:30):
I really like that you just built that up as
and like I did the mature thing and didn't want
to make up a story.
Speaker 3 (19:35):
So I just went to him and I was like,
so what is Yeah?
Speaker 1 (19:39):
I had to make sure like for that that point
one percent, like I was ninety nine point nine percent
sure it was nothing, but that one little smidge of
me had to be like catcha, Yeah, you want to
explain this think dirty app? Yeah, and tell me about it.
Speaker 3 (19:56):
How often are you thinking dirty logging in?
Speaker 1 (20:00):
Yeah? And if it was an app that taught him
how to like think and talk dirty's I.
Speaker 3 (20:07):
Don't even know. No, he's not. You're not longing in
very often. I don't think we are.
Speaker 1 (20:13):
I don't think we are. Which what is my boy like?
So if we're millennials and he's not, like, what, what
is he?
Speaker 3 (20:23):
Stop? You're dating somebody in a different generation.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
I know. That's why sometimes our humor is like not
we don't get so yeah, dogs, I mean he'll he'll
play around like that. If I do that, he'll be like, okay, dog, Yeah,
he's fifty three. He just turned fifty three. So he's
the what's the one before millennial? He's gen X, the
forgotten generation. That's why we don't know it. I'm pretty
(20:48):
sure they call gen X forgotten What?
Speaker 3 (20:51):
What's the time period?
Speaker 4 (20:52):
Shannon of gen X? Because I'm is that what? And
then Boomers is the one before that?
Speaker 1 (20:57):
So nineteen sixty five to nineteen eighty is gen X?
Speaker 3 (21:01):
Why are they forgotten.
Speaker 1 (21:02):
I think they just call it that because nobody they're
like the g like what is it? Because boomers are
very popular and then millennials are popular, so they're like
the in between. So it's the it's like.
Speaker 3 (21:14):
Latch key kids. What is a latchkey kid?
Speaker 4 (21:16):
Isn't that like the kid who just like has a
key and goes home and like lets themselves in.
Speaker 3 (21:20):
No parents? Oh that's sad.
Speaker 4 (21:23):
Well I think they had parents, but like their parents
were at work when they.
Speaker 1 (21:28):
I've never heard this, How did you know?
Speaker 4 (21:30):
Yeah, yeah, like they have to like yeah, oh so
dual income households, both parents are working, so when you
get home from school, you're letting yourself in. Versus boomers,
most of the moms probably didn't work. And then millennials,
I think it's we're having kids later, so maybe we
just don't know yet.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
But well, have you heard of the millennial syndrome? Have
you heard of the millennial syndrome? Okay, well we're millennials,
like I'm an elder millennial, but you're like a millennial millennial,
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and yeah, there is a syndrome. And I can go
through a checklist with you.
Speaker 4 (22:14):
Okay, I want to go through checklist. But I have
to ask this question because it's in my brain. Would
you rather be a different generation?
Speaker 3 (22:20):
No?
Speaker 1 (22:20):
I love the millennial. I definitely don't want to be
gen X forgot Cotten. I don't think I want to
be a boomer because I was.
Speaker 3 (22:27):
Like boomer because people are like, oh boomers, Yeah, but
people do that to millennials now they're like maennials.
Speaker 1 (22:35):
I don't think I want to be after millennial. What's
that gen z?
Speaker 3 (22:38):
Gen Z?
Speaker 1 (22:39):
Because it's so techy. I feel like millennials we have
like we're experiencing everything. We had the sweet spot of
like we know life before all the tech, and then
we also get to experience the tech.
Speaker 3 (22:51):
Also made life harder in many ways. But I regret
what you what?
Speaker 1 (22:55):
What?
Speaker 3 (22:55):
What? What? What would you choose? What's before Boomer? Would
you do? Do you remember that show? What What? What
would you do?
Speaker 1 (23:03):
That's me?
Speaker 3 (23:04):
Do you remember that show? No?
Speaker 4 (23:06):
It's from Nickelodeon, and they put the little questions on
their head and they had to like or it's like
a challenge and you had to like pick the challenge
and then you got slimmed.
Speaker 3 (23:15):
Oh what would you do?
Speaker 4 (23:17):
Yes Nickelodeon. Yeah, yeah, you're an elder. You probably were
too old for that show. Yeah, because you're basically a
forgotten generation.
Speaker 3 (23:26):
I am. I'm sorry. That was mean.
Speaker 1 (23:28):
I know, but I was close.
Speaker 3 (23:29):
Okay, right on, I'm ready.
Speaker 1 (23:30):
Okay, So I'm going to run through seven symptoms of
millennial syndrome. Okay, you see which ones you've.
Speaker 3 (23:38):
Okay, and which syndrome is something you don't want.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
I don't think you want it, okay, I mean, but
a lot of us have it, so you're not alone.
Chronic anxiety and overthinking, like always feeling like you're falling
behind or doing life wrong.
Speaker 4 (23:53):
I have chronic anxiety, but I don't think i'm I
don't think I'm doing life wrong.
Speaker 1 (23:56):
I'm chronically anxious, but I'm doing life right.
Speaker 3 (24:01):
My anxiety about other things. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (24:03):
Nervous system burnout, like you've got sleep issues. You're wired
but tired. You have difficulty calming down because your shress
responsor was never built for like this pace.
Speaker 3 (24:13):
I don't feel like I have that. Are you gonna answer?
Speaker 1 (24:16):
I don't think I have that, Okay, I have other
nervous system issues. But imposter syndrome doubting your accomplishments even
when you're doing well, Yes, Chuck. Financial fatigue feeling crushed
by debt, housing costs, or the belief that no matter
how hard you work, it's never enough.
Speaker 3 (24:33):
I think, so, I think, what are you going on?
I'm saying, do you do?
Speaker 4 (24:39):
I'm like, because I'm always like I'm poor, and you're like,
you're a money magnet.
Speaker 3 (24:43):
Yeah, I think, yeah, I always money flocks to you.
Yeah flocks.
Speaker 4 (24:47):
Oh yeah, I just was thinking more so like I
have the fatigue of oh my gosh when I when
I was younger, if I would have known how much
money I'd been making at this age, I would have
been like, you're going to be living in a mansion
and you're gonna be driving seven different cars. I don't
have maybe not that far, but i'd be thinking like, oh,
you haven't made or like, you know, you could quit
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your job because you could live on just your husband's income.
Speaker 3 (25:11):
But now that I'm here, I'm like, yeah, no, we
got to keep going.
Speaker 4 (25:15):
Yeah, life is it's way more expensive. So that's what
my money fatigue is, Like when is the inflation going
to stop? Yeah kind of thing. So, yes, it's like
never enough.
Speaker 3 (25:26):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (25:27):
Authority skepticism a deep distrust of institutions, rules and systems
that you were told to obey. Yes, yeah, for sure,
I might.
Speaker 3 (25:37):
Have no question on that one. Wait a second.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
Sometimes I wonder if I just like think things just
because yeah, I was told this is what you're supposed
to think. I believe, and then when I step back
and do some critical thinking, I'm like, I don't know.
Sounds a little cuckoo work, identity confusion, struggling to find
meaning and work. After chasing the good job for years,
I feel like I got pretty lucky with my job.
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I would maybe have that if I hadn't gone to
Culver's that one day.
Speaker 3 (26:06):
Such a good story, okay, changed my life. Cheese curds.
I don't like the name of that, cheese curds. I
just wish they were called cheese balls. Yeah, I bet
I think dirty like the balls.
Speaker 4 (26:21):
Don't you You you're a child if you are.
Speaker 3 (26:27):
What's gen Why is that? Like the after gen z?
What's such a gen z? I don't know. I forget.
Speaker 1 (26:34):
Yeah, Like, what's Stevenson? My son is?
Speaker 3 (26:36):
See jen?
Speaker 1 (26:40):
No what I'm I'm nineteen eighty one?
Speaker 3 (26:45):
Oh wow, And that was a diss. You're so gentle, exactly.
Speaker 1 (26:50):
I am I'm so gen Why I think they're like
a They're not a letter like my son is alpha. Yeah,
it's like a one word, so that's good.
Speaker 4 (27:00):
Yow.
Speaker 1 (27:01):
Yeah, they're like subconsciously being trained to be alpha's because
every time they're ask what are you? I'm alpha?
Speaker 3 (27:06):
Who makes the names? Good question? Who?
Speaker 4 (27:11):
Uh?
Speaker 1 (27:12):
The National Institute of Generations.
Speaker 3 (27:16):
N I G and IG?
Speaker 4 (27:19):
And like who decides how long when they're gonna? Are
they always the same amount of time?
Speaker 1 (27:24):
I think I don't know, it's a good question, like
there was the chunk of time always the same?
Speaker 3 (27:29):
Yeah, I don't know. Okay, well, don't come up that
we don't have answers to.
Speaker 1 (27:34):
The final symptom of millennial syndrome is body stress, unexplained fatigue,
gut issues, hormonal imbalances check check check check check, or
autoimmune flare ups from chronic overdrive.
Speaker 3 (27:51):
Okay, yeah, I mean I don't have all of those,
but I.
Speaker 1 (27:54):
Mean, yeah, I feel like I have body stress symptoms.
Hormonal imbalances are just yeah, well I have no words.
Speaker 4 (28:05):
And also, like you're as a female, your body is
constantly going through changes, so your hormones are always.
Speaker 1 (28:10):
Going to be Yeah, and we're in perimenopause for like,
I don't know, a good fifteen twenty years.
Speaker 4 (28:17):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yep yeah, and then you're in menopause.
So is that really when they got up at perimenopause
and you're just in the next stage and then apparently
they want to start to shrivel up.
Speaker 3 (28:29):
That's what they say.
Speaker 1 (28:30):
Sad, no, like and your body never mind, that's for
that's thinking dirty, think and dirty. But it's not really.
It's about our bodies and some women. I don't know
if we were talking about on the Boby Bone Show
or maybe here we were talking about like your body
parts and on women the down there it shrinks, shrivels
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up into your body, like say you have like your
I don't know the professional terms, so I don't want
to say but le folds, they pies.
Speaker 4 (29:01):
The the yes, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (29:06):
Okay, they start to shrivel up.
Speaker 3 (29:09):
I did not know.
Speaker 1 (29:10):
Yeah why Maybe some of our older listeners can tell us, but.
Speaker 4 (29:15):
I've they've I've had them a voicemail of you have
shriveled up down there.
Speaker 3 (29:21):
We'd love to hear about it.
Speaker 1 (29:22):
I've heard from listeners before that are older that they've
experienced it and they're like things nobody ever tells you,
things that don't come up, things that don't come up,
and it's like, why is nobody talking about this?
Speaker 3 (29:31):
Like we need to know? Yeah, like so interesting.
Speaker 1 (29:36):
Also, there's no official body that makes generation names. Rather
names arise from a combination of academic theories, media influence,
and pop culture, so it's made up. They're not always
the same length baby Boom was. It's like a demographic shift.
And then there's rapid changes brought on by Internet. I mean,
we're getting to a point where things are changing so rapidly.
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We're gonna new generations like every couple of years now
because it's like, well, oh, because the way technolo, the
pace that we're at, it's just happening faster and faster
and faster. Before you know it, we're not even going
to hang out in person and just be like, hey,
does your holler room want to hang out with my
holo room? And then we're just laying in our bed.
Speaker 4 (30:15):
I'm not saying, Okay, we have to we have to
promise each other we aren't going to hang out with
each other's plograms.
Speaker 3 (30:19):
I promise, I promise you.
Speaker 1 (30:21):
But I mean bed is nice. But I.
Speaker 3 (30:25):
Love beds, I really like.
Speaker 4 (30:27):
I saw this thing on probably Facebook, because you know,
I've been hanging out there lately.
Speaker 3 (30:33):
Maybe I'm a boomer.
Speaker 4 (30:34):
It was Bill Gates. I almost said al Gore, Bill Gates.
It was saying, in ten years, AI is going to
take over so much we won't even have we won't
even have a need for like some large percentage of
doctors and teachers, Like teachers can't be replaced by AI.
Speaker 3 (30:53):
Well, I mean they can, but we don't want them to.
But think about like that either.
Speaker 4 (30:59):
But I'm thinking of out like the emotional and like
how teachers impact not just kids, but even in college.
I think of like one or two teachers that had
a huge The relationship I had with them had a
huge impact on my life and especially growing up. There's
some teachers I can think of that had a negative impact.
One that I won't name. But she made me eat
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a soybean.
Speaker 3 (31:23):
Wait. I told my mom about it. She also told
my mom I was stupid.
Speaker 1 (31:27):
Wait she made you eat a soybean.
Speaker 3 (31:30):
She's very healthy.
Speaker 1 (31:31):
Why did she eat a soybean?
Speaker 3 (31:34):
Okay, what if.
Speaker 4 (31:34):
You don't honestly some of my like I would have
found out right then and there. So Okay, this is
crazy now that I'm thinking back on it.
Speaker 3 (31:44):
So also, I had a lot.
Speaker 4 (31:47):
Of my body image stuff started in elementary school, so
this was probably the precursor for it. I don't want
to blame her, but I'm just like thinking out loud.
But she was very healthy and she talked about health
all the time. I don't know what she was going
through personally. But we had to do this four h
project do.
Speaker 1 (32:06):
You have for Yeah?
Speaker 3 (32:07):
Did you have that?
Speaker 1 (32:08):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (32:08):
You probably did have that. I'm from Texas.
Speaker 4 (32:10):
Yeah, so you had to prepare a healthy snack and
like do a presentation about it and in front of
the class. And I chose to make these oyster crackers
that were covered.
Speaker 1 (32:23):
In butter, but like not a real it's just the
oyster crackers, not oysters. Yes, okay, because the little oyster
crackers are like what you would sprinkle on top of you.
Speaker 2 (32:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (32:34):
Yeah, So I don't know. I think my mom just
was in a kick of making these or something.
Speaker 3 (32:38):
You know how those are with butter and like season e.
Speaker 1 (32:40):
Oh yeah, and you had so good.
Speaker 4 (32:42):
Yeah, you had to have to make this in front
of the class, so you couldn't there's a lot of
things you couldn't do. So I made these crackers that, yeah,
we're covered in butter. But I'm in third or fourth grade, Like,
come on, it's fine, it's okay. I didn't have to
win the first place in the competition, but like, just
eat my cracker.
Speaker 3 (33:00):
Let's move on. So she she should about how my
snack wasn't healthy.
Speaker 1 (33:07):
What was that part of the requirement, Like did they
say we need to make you to make a snack
and then cats like I have the perfect but.
Speaker 3 (33:18):
I found this on paladines website. Yeah, I don't remember
all the details of this. I can't remember her. Yeah,
there's zero nutritional value, but it's fine. There's nutritional value
in butter.
Speaker 4 (33:30):
There is, okay, there's vitamins, right, so anyway, and carbs, carbs,
we need carbs to live and bring carbs and like joy.
That joy is healthy. So it's not that I made brownies.
Speaker 1 (33:44):
Okay, you should well, I know, but I mean, I guess,
I don't know if she was wanting you to bring
like a vegetable or.
Speaker 3 (33:53):
It was four aged, I probably should have brought some kind.
Speaker 4 (33:55):
Of like a homegrowns Regardless, she gave me a bad
grade because it wasn't healthy enough, and then she talked about.
Speaker 1 (34:06):
I just know that the roles. I'm just laughing because
it's kind of funny. I should take if the rules
were to bring like something like is like, you know
what side are you on? I mean, Butter is from cows. Okay,
you're there. I love Butter. I'm just saying I don't
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know the the requirements of the assignment, but keep going.
Speaker 4 (34:32):
Okay, Anyway, I should have talked about this with my
mom because my mom specifically remembers this teacher because she
said a couple of mean things to me, and my
mom is very protective and so she does not like
this lady. Yeah, so anyway, I got a bad grade.
She said it wasn't healthy. Then I don't know if
this was I think this was related where she's talking
about she's so health she is healthy, and she eats
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soybeans like popcorn instead of popcorn.
Speaker 3 (34:55):
When she's watching the movie, she'll just pop soybeans in
her mouth.
Speaker 4 (34:58):
And of course we're in for grade, we're all like
soybeans ew gross. And so she was like, I'm gonna
bring soybeans for you guys. So she brought us all
soybeans to class the next day. Think about like your
favorite teacher. She probably gave you, like a recei's or
something like that. She gave us soybeans and she passed
them all out and we had to eat one.
Speaker 1 (35:20):
Oh okay, see, well that's I thought. She like fleaing
in the corner, you specifically, and she's like, you're like,
she made me eat a soye. It's like passed out, like.
Speaker 3 (35:32):
Before you told the story.
Speaker 1 (35:33):
I was picturing you like sitting there like in the corner,
like with your head down.
Speaker 3 (35:36):
She's like, eat this soybean.
Speaker 1 (35:38):
Put this in your mouth right now. But I can't.
I gotta say, I don't even really know what a soybean.
Speaker 3 (35:43):
At a mammy?
Speaker 1 (35:43):
Oh at a mammy.
Speaker 4 (35:44):
Yeah, well I do like that. I do love it,
but I was in fourth grade. I didn't like and
even like green beans back then.
Speaker 1 (35:51):
It does sound better if you say she made me
eat a soybean instead of like she forced us to
eat at a mummy. I mean, sounds more traumatic.
Speaker 3 (36:02):
So also, she got me stupid.
Speaker 4 (36:04):
Yeah, so I was put in like the gifted program
or whatever, you have the gift and talented.
Speaker 3 (36:10):
I don't think I was supposed to.
Speaker 4 (36:11):
I really don't think I was supposed to be there,
but regardless, they put me there, and I was smart
in certain areas, like there are certain I wasn't smart
in everything.
Speaker 3 (36:19):
I also don't know that I wanted to be in.
Speaker 4 (36:21):
That but regardless, my mom I needed again, I should
ask my mom for clarification. But something happened where she
like told my mom, whether it's an apparent tea shirt
conference or on the phone, like, yeah, Catherine should never
have been put in that program, like she can't keep up.
She's My mom has a story that like she called
me dumb. I don't know if she said those words
or if that's what my mom took, but I think
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she's had it out for me. After the oyster crackers,
she probably was like she's dumb. She didn't know that
that wasn't healthy.
Speaker 1 (36:48):
Or she didn't want to be now she can't read.
She probably was like, oh, I love those and now
she brought them in my classroom and now I can't
have them.
Speaker 3 (36:54):
And no, I'm annoyed. That's a good we're in a
bad mood.
Speaker 1 (36:59):
Because you, like said you don't know what was going
on with her. Should I be like, oh, I try
to spend my days avoiding oyster butter crackers.
Speaker 3 (37:09):
Yeah, I'm sorry.
Speaker 4 (37:11):
I would like to apologize to her. If that's what happened,
then I'm sorry. But also I was like nine years old.
You were in your forties.
Speaker 3 (37:17):
So my point in all of this is, if AI
is our teachers, we never have this conversation.
Speaker 1 (37:25):
I'm starting to think AI for you might not be
that bad. I'm like they I can't force us to eat.
Speaker 4 (37:31):
So then I had a lot of really good I mean,
I think most people can think of like one teacher
that impacted them in some way, Like I have a
teacher in college. If she was not my advisor, I
never would have become never would have become a therapist.
Speaker 1 (37:42):
I don't think yeah, no, I mean I think relationships
are important. I don't think the AI is going to
fully take over. I think there's AI tools that could
help with like tutoring and helping you learn. But I
don't know that they should replace teachers in classrooms and
that that one and guidance, but who knows thirty years
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from that might be like can you believe they used
to have human teachers and they're gonna think that it's crazy?
I mean we're gonna think it's sad, but they're gonna
be like and then when something else takes over for AI,
they're and be like, can you believe they're thinking about
getting rid of AI teachers. It's so sad because like
they're gonna feel bonded. Like door Dash put out that
cute little little delivery robot.
Speaker 3 (38:23):
Yeah it's crazy.
Speaker 1 (38:24):
It's cute though, it's got little eyeballs. Have you ever
seen one of these little robot things in person? Like
my ex husband at has worked, they have a robot dog,
like one of those dogs that goes in like can
help keep you safe. They can sniff out bombs or whatever.
Speaker 3 (38:37):
That's pretty cool.
Speaker 1 (38:38):
He had it at the house. They brought it over
and I didn't want them to put that dog in danger.
It's a robot, but it was so cute. I know
it's not real. It's a metal and a machine.
Speaker 3 (38:51):
Do you feel emotionally?
Speaker 1 (38:52):
But I'm like, what are you gonna do with it?
Like y'all are just gonna feed it and hang out
with it? Right, But no, it's going to help save
human lives, But at what cost? You know? To me
that robots and like one time in Vegas I was
getting on an elevator and the hotel had these little
robot butler thingies, and one got on the elevator with
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me and it was so cute.
Speaker 3 (39:17):
Well, yeah, but you don't.
Speaker 1 (39:18):
You know, it's not gonna talk back, but it like
it's little cameras. It looks like little eyeballs.
Speaker 3 (39:23):
And okay, now are you watching Forgetful Murders in the Building.
Speaker 1 (39:29):
No, no, I do like that show, but I haven't
watched it.
Speaker 4 (39:32):
Okay, well, there's a robot element that I think you
are reminding me of somebody who might be falling in
love with the robot.
Speaker 1 (39:38):
No, I'm not going to fall in love with the robot.
I think that they're cute.
Speaker 3 (39:41):
Started.
Speaker 1 (39:42):
No, I don't think I could have feelings for robot,
But you know, that might be a thing one day.
Speaker 3 (39:47):
I think it already is. Well, yeah, people are having
relationships with chatchebt.
Speaker 1 (39:51):
But is it going to become more normal normal?
Speaker 3 (39:54):
Let's interchange the word normal with common.
Speaker 4 (39:57):
Okay, might be more common, That doesn't make it at normal,
thank you, And it means it normal.
Speaker 3 (40:02):
Also doesn't make it healthy.
Speaker 1 (40:04):
Oh that's the therapist coming through you.
Speaker 3 (40:07):
They're smart.
Speaker 1 (40:08):
I can't believe Soybean Sally told you for one second
you were stupid.
Speaker 3 (40:12):
It's a great name for her. I don't know to
ask my mom what she said.
Speaker 1 (40:15):
You don't have to.
Speaker 3 (40:15):
I can't tell you, Yeah, because who knows where she is.
Speaker 4 (40:18):
And maybe she thinks about that and she's like, I
should have treated Catherine de Fought it better.
Speaker 3 (40:22):
You know. I don't know she could have processed that
in her because there's things that I've even done as
a therapist ten years ago that I look back on
now and I'm like, oh, I wish I could have
done that differently. As you learn more, you.
Speaker 1 (40:35):
Know, Yeah, sometimes teachers may not even realize how their
words are impacting a student, like I have that one
teacher from my high school, I was in her chemistry class,
but unlike you, I wasn't in the gifted chemistry. I
was in chemistry in the community. We also called it
chymcom and it was chemistry for like chemistry for.
Speaker 3 (40:52):
People who didn't love chemistry, right, maybe an excel in chemistry.
Speaker 1 (40:57):
Lower to grasp the concept chemistry. So she was my
chemicom teacher, but she was also the advisor to a
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committee that I was on, and on that committee, I
had to give a speech and I got to say
in front of the whole school and alumni, and it
was my first time ever public speaking that way. And
I went up there and I got to say, like,
I nailed it. Maybe that's when I realized, like I'm
comfortable on stage with a microphone or whatever. And then
we had our debrief meeting like afterwards, like the whole committee.
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We were back in this room and again she's our
visor and she's praising everybody, but mine was like a
backhanded compliment of like, oh, well, who knew cheerleader over here,
you know, Like it just made me feel like, oh
my gosh, she thinks I'm not capable and I'm stupid,
and so that has stuck with me of my I'm
not capable and stupid narrative, you know.
Speaker 3 (42:02):
And she thought she'sa compliment and that was like really
not kind.
Speaker 1 (42:06):
But I don't think she she realized how much it
impacted me, because I've thought about it every day since.
She's kidding every day, not every day, but a lot.
Speaker 3 (42:17):
Yeah, in my.
Speaker 4 (42:20):
I think a lot of times it's those little comments
that are the ones that hurt the most, Like she
wasn't being outright mean, but you're like, oh, so that's
what you really do think of me?
Speaker 1 (42:27):
Like yeah, like you thought, oh gosh, like that, y'all
were you were thinking, okay, you were also saying you
were proud of me, but also you had zero expectations
that obviously do think I was going to do right
like that, it was just gonna be like nah, mid
as gen Z. Gen Z says, Mid, I to tell
my son, y'all him and his friends, y'all got to
stop using mid. Like why my daughter would be like
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on FaceTime with a friend and nobody's asking nobody's asking
her about her friend or what she looks like or whatever.
And if Stevenson had friends over, like they would just
by and be like look at the FaceTime and they'd
be like Mid, They're like right, they're just like out
in public writing girls and it's like nobody asked you. Also,
you're mid, I mean, you.
Speaker 4 (43:11):
Know, like like eleven year old boy or right, you're
so mid.
Speaker 1 (43:18):
No, I mean, I guess I was just making a
point of like what if someone walked by you and
it's like Mid, Like what, this isn't a video game?
This is real life, Like we're not like walking around
like it made me think of an episode of Black Mirror.
Speaker 3 (43:31):
I've only watched one episode, and those I never watch again.
Speaker 1 (43:34):
Crazy, and I also feel very accurate, like they could happen,
like very futuristic stuff that isn't that far out. And
I feel like there was an episode I can't remember
which season, but where like people walked around and it
was like, you know, like things that would be happening
inside of a dating app, but they would just be
happening in public. You walk by and like if your
(43:56):
brain thinks like, oh, that person's the seven, I want
to give them hearts or whatever, and you walk by
and it's like, you know how someone's rating you in
that moment or I'm definitely paraphrasing this episode exactly how
it was at all whatsoever, because it's been a couple
of years since I've seen it, But you know, like
it just felt like you're inside this real life virtual
(44:16):
it's like virtual, but it's your real life.
Speaker 3 (44:18):
That's my greatest nightmare. I do not want to know
what people.
Speaker 1 (44:22):
Like, how many likes you're getting in that moment, Like
it's like ding ding ding ding me, Like if you
were to be processing, like, say you post something and
then you're physically processing the likes that you're getting.
Speaker 3 (44:32):
I don't want that.
Speaker 4 (44:33):
Yeah, oh that's the life that your son and his
friends are living. Okay, Yeah they can stop saying mad. Yeah,
well if it's not mad, what do they say?
Speaker 1 (44:41):
I don't know the I guess I paid attention to.
I did, because that's where I drew the line of like, stop,
you're not going to walk by. And a girl that's
on FaceTime that asked your opinion zero, Like, yeah, she
didn't nothing came out of her mouth. She's just innocently
talking on FaceTime with her friend and she's getting raided. No,
(45:02):
but my boyfriend's sons, like they were talking about girls
in their grade and like all the different schools, and
they were ranking.
Speaker 3 (45:10):
Like the grades of schools.
Speaker 1 (45:12):
They're like, ooh, the tenth graders at this school really good.
The tenth graders at that school, like the whole class,
like overall they rank like which I know.
Speaker 4 (45:21):
Also subjective also like why, I mean, that's the brain
of a I'm sure.
Speaker 1 (45:26):
And I said, well, how do y'all even you're not
even at the schools, like how are you looking? We're like,
oh social sud a snapchat Instagram, and I'm like, y'all
are sucking girls on theres, like looking them up, and
he was like, well, yeah, i'd say if we like
hear about a girl, we made the looker up. But
girls do way more socking online.
Speaker 3 (45:43):
Than the guys do. Sure they do.
Speaker 1 (45:44):
I'm ok yeah, yeah, that's what the guilty ones say.
Speaker 3 (45:47):
That's what you want us to think. Yeah, okay, well
that's sad.
Speaker 1 (45:51):
So anyway, millennial syndrome we have episode Okay, oh h
Shannon said mid for mediocre Riz. If you've got charisma,
then that's RIZ and then bust in excellent. That's like
that waiter that your friend had where he's like, this
chicken is normally busting, but this is what we call
(46:12):
the missionary missionary style chicken.
Speaker 3 (46:16):
Yeah, the missionary style of chicken. So he was saying it,
which is just mid boring.
Speaker 4 (46:22):
You can call a dish on a menu mid, You
can't say that to an innocent human.
Speaker 3 (46:27):
Being, exactly.
Speaker 4 (46:30):
Okay, So what I've learned is that you'll eventually be
dating a robot.
Speaker 3 (46:34):
And no I'm not.
Speaker 1 (46:37):
I didn't feel very fortunate to have fallen in love
with the actual human which with a with a gen.
Speaker 4 (46:49):
Y or wait, no, he's a you're a gen y. No,
I'm a millennial, which is gen y. Okay, he's gen
what is he?
Speaker 3 (46:57):
Oh? Sorry, god, he's forgotten. Why you can't remember? He's
a lot key, latch key.
Speaker 1 (47:04):
Okay, he's a latch key, I I have Yeah, I
do think he was a latch key because his parents
got divorced, like while he has his mom has since
passed away, and he sees his dad a lot. But
like growing up, he was like his mom worked. His
parents were divorced, so he'd be back and forth, but
his mom worked, his dad worked. And then also, yeah,
(47:26):
he kind of was finning for himself, which is weird.
My mom was a I don't really know what my
grandma did. I know when I was older or I
was born. By the time I was around, she was
managing a bowling alley, but I don't know what she
did when my mom was a live. But my mom
definitely had to fin for herself, like I don't, I
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know her dad died, and I don't know when my
grandma got remarried. But it's weird to think that. I
wish my mom was still alive so I could ask
her these questions, but I know that she definitely didn't
have emotion all available parents at all whatsoever. But also
just food, Like it's not like there was like meals
or parents. Like she would have to just be like
(48:08):
digging through cabinets trying to figure out, like, oh what
am I going to piece together for lunch or dinner?
And I'm like, it's weird because my grandma, you know,
she took me shopping for Madame Alexander dolls.
Speaker 3 (48:18):
It's like what you had aferience.
Speaker 1 (48:20):
Yes, I had a very different experience, and like there
was always candy and Klondyke bars.
Speaker 3 (48:26):
Clondyke bars, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (48:27):
My grandma always had those in her freezer. Like we
there was always food. When I would go stay with
my grandmother, I would stay with her for weeks. I
mean she barely ate because she smoked a lot. And
then also she didn't have teeth, so she would take
her denters a lot, but she would do. She would
love doing corn bread and milk.
Speaker 3 (48:44):
Wait, can you not eat with dentures? You can?
Speaker 1 (48:47):
Well, I don't know if her kind you could, because
she would take them out, especially for her corn bread
and milk.
Speaker 3 (48:53):
Her corn bread and milk are you doing it like
a spoon.
Speaker 1 (48:56):
Because like she would put it in a cup and
put the corn bread in a glass of milk and
eat it with spoin.
Speaker 4 (49:01):
Like cereal and milk, but corn and a cup an animal?
Speaker 3 (49:05):
Is this a thing? It was for my grandma because
she couldn't chew.
Speaker 1 (49:10):
I think it just was good to her. And again
she really didn't eat much because she I don't know
if it's the cigarettes or what. Okay, you know, like
when you're smoking all the time.
Speaker 3 (49:23):
Wait, she didn't. Just looked it up and it was
called the poor Man's dessert corn bread and milk.
Speaker 1 (49:28):
Yeah, I mean I know that she didn't have a
lot of money. But see, then my grandma got remarried
and my grandpa Louie, that was my step grandpa. I
never knew my real one. Again he passed away, but
he was postman and then he retired and I think
he had good retirement, so maybe they had a little
bit more at that point. Like I don't know what
it was like for my mom's childhood, but I'm telling you,
(49:50):
my grandma had a candy closet. I mean, everything smelled
like cigarettes.
Speaker 3 (49:54):
So that's fine.
Speaker 1 (49:55):
So it's like you open the snickers and it's like, oh,
but you got used to it.
Speaker 3 (50:02):
It's fine.
Speaker 1 (50:04):
So yeah, there you go more, you know, blast from
the past. She was a not a boomer, my grandma,
I bet whatever. Before I don't really know, it's before that,
a World War Two, this silent generation, and there's probably
like the Great Depression. Oh oh that was my dad.
Speaker 3 (50:29):
When was your dad born.
Speaker 1 (50:30):
Nineteen forty one?
Speaker 3 (50:32):
Oh, silence is a great Depression?
Speaker 1 (50:34):
Oh gosh, I wonder like, yeah, when we got real
cool with the names?
Speaker 4 (50:39):
Yeah, like did these names exist back then or they
just started them like twenty years ago.
Speaker 3 (50:43):
Yeah, we went back and renamed them like retro.
Speaker 4 (50:45):
Yeah, yeah, I'm sure that, like in the seventeen hundreds,
they don't have names for the generations.
Speaker 3 (50:51):
Right, there's the Guilted Age.
Speaker 1 (50:53):
You love that, that was the late eighteen hundreds.
Speaker 3 (50:59):
You're waiting for a time that you can bring up
the Gilded Age.
Speaker 1 (51:02):
The age as just popped into my No, if you've
given me an opportunity, I'll say it.
Speaker 3 (51:07):
I'm not like waiting.
Speaker 1 (51:08):
I'm like, please bring up the late eighteen hundreds. I
cannot wait for that. But like when so the Titanic
sank in nineteen twelve. What generation was that? The maybe
GI bill like for serving the military.
Speaker 3 (51:26):
If there was the GI, I'm thinking they just didn't
care about this stuff as much back then. Oh, it's
the greatest generation. Good for them.
Speaker 1 (51:35):
Also, we are not a history podcast, but.
Speaker 4 (51:38):
We could be, because you know about the Gilded Age.
Speaker 1 (51:42):
Yeah, yeah, from the show on HBO Max. Yeah, there's
generation Oh wow, Beta Beta, Generation Beta is the next one. Kat,
if you have a baby in twenty twenty.
Speaker 3 (51:56):
Six, it'll be beta.
Speaker 1 (51:57):
It's going to be a beta.
Speaker 3 (51:58):
That's kind of a downer.
Speaker 1 (52:01):
Yeah, the greatest generation was nineteen oh one and nineteen
twenty seven, So the anybody.
Speaker 3 (52:07):
I petition to change the name.
Speaker 1 (52:09):
Of that generation beta, I know, but like to the
better generation that's what you can call it.
Speaker 3 (52:19):
Be like better, Yeah, the better and then the next
one'll be mid And you're like no, I just feel like,
I mean, no shade to any betas. I appreciate those
kinds of people, but I just think that that's like
sending a message, you know, well, like the owls.
Speaker 1 (52:40):
Get to be Alpha. Yeah, like they're told all the time,
like I'm alfha Well.
Speaker 4 (52:43):
And I think going back to what you said earlier
about like the things that you don't know that you
believe because you were told to believe them, or because
you really believe those things. It's if you're told you're this,
then you live into that name. And I don't want
these people to just if they want to be that way,
that's fine, and that's who they are, is great.
Speaker 3 (53:00):
We need all kinds of people. But if you're just
told that you are going to be this way.
Speaker 1 (53:05):
Do you feel like, Now this has nothing to do
with your generation, but do you feel like you're in
alpha personality.
Speaker 4 (53:12):
In certain areas? But also like, no, why are you
look at me like that?
Speaker 1 (53:16):
Well? I get because I don't know. I'm just thinking
of like how you would define yourself when it comes
to alpha.
Speaker 3 (53:23):
No, I wouldn't.
Speaker 4 (53:24):
I wouldn't describe myself that way because I also can
be like really shy and insecure.
Speaker 1 (53:29):
Yeah, so I'm not alpha.
Speaker 4 (53:31):
I don't really want to be in charge of things
or either. I want to follow people for.
Speaker 1 (53:36):
Delegate to me all day long. You want to delegate
to me, and I'll get it done.
Speaker 4 (53:41):
I'll do it really well. I like this is what
I like. I like having somebody to go ask the
questions to. And I like having I like that. I
I don't like having to be the person that's like
the final step, you know, where things fall on me.
Because one, I don't want the responsibility of that, whether.
Speaker 3 (53:58):
It goes good or bad. But I like the security
of going to somebody else, And I.
Speaker 1 (54:04):
Think I want to clarify, Like at work, if I'm
told that I need to do something like I like
that delegation and I'm going to do it. If I'm
also in charge and I'm being told to do it,
then that's where I struggle because it's like, well, I
get to I'm in charge. I know there's something I
have to do, but like I get to decide, so
(54:24):
then I'm going to lean more towards like resisting it
for some reason.
Speaker 4 (54:27):
Well, yeah, because you know, I don't like being told
what to do, but yeah, I think it. Yeah, it's indifferent.
I don't like being put in a corner and being
forced to do something, especially if it doesn't align with
something believe in. But I do like having to fall
back on I like security.
Speaker 1 (54:42):
But yeah, same, Yeah, I guess it was just it's weird,
like I have two sides of me where I want
to be delegated and told what to do, because that's
very helpful work. Like I like I can shine in that,
Like I don't want to be in charge charge. But
then like I mean, Shannon's in here, and so we
work on a lot of stuff to get there, and
she may have like things that she knows I need
to do, and then I'll be like I'll resist some
(55:04):
of it. I'll be like, nah, it depends on the day.
But like that's where I struggle with like delegating, like don't, no, don't.
I don't want to do that right now. So I'm
gonna now I'm an alpha.
Speaker 3 (55:19):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (55:19):
But typically so I think that we're what would be
in the middle of A and B A and a half,
we're alba's No.
Speaker 1 (55:29):
There is no it goes from A to B.
Speaker 3 (55:30):
I know I'm mixing them together. Oh A B we're abs.
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (55:41):
I don't know that there's anything. Okay, well here, I.
Speaker 3 (55:43):
Think we should in there.
Speaker 1 (55:44):
Yeah, I think we're good.
Speaker 3 (55:48):
Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (55:49):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (55:50):
We hope that you have the day you need. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (55:53):
Bye bye
All right, break it down.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
If you ever have feelings that you just won't Amy
and Cat got your cob and locking No, brother, ladies
and felts, do you just follow an the spirit where
it's all the front over real stuff, tell the chill
stuff and the.
Speaker 3 (00:19):
M but Swayne, sometimes the best thing you can do
it just.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Stop you feel things. This is feeling things with.
Speaker 3 (00:28):
Amy and Kat.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Happy Tuesday. Welcome to feeling things. I'm Amy and.
Speaker 4 (00:31):
I'm Cat, and I'm starting with the feeling of the day,
which is I'm feeling so forgetful, Like is that an
action feeling?
Speaker 3 (00:41):
Uh? Probably?
Speaker 4 (00:42):
Yeah, So underneath that, I'm probably feeling some shame.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
And I don't wouldn't say I'm sad.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
You're disappointed in yourself.
Speaker 3 (00:52):
When I go that far.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Yeah, well sometimes when I'm forgetful, that's a good one. Annoyed,
it's frustrating, yeah, because you're like, what the that's wrong
with me?
Speaker 4 (01:00):
Yeah, And it's like very simple things were all well,
I'll be talking to you and even telling you a story.
Speaker 3 (01:06):
In the middle of the story, I'm like, where was
it going with this?
Speaker 1 (01:09):
Like what was the point?
Speaker 4 (01:10):
Which is problematic in my line of work because if
I am sharing a story with somebody, I need to
know where it's going and why I'm sharing it, you know.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
Yeah, Like you're talking about like a client.
Speaker 4 (01:21):
Well, if I was working today, I think that if
I was seeing clients today, that could happen. So I'd
have to do a more quiet version of.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Your client's like unloading all this stuff on you. And
then you're like, wait, what'd you say?
Speaker 3 (01:33):
Can you go back?
Speaker 1 (01:33):
You back it up to?
Speaker 3 (01:35):
Is it your mom?
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Wait?
Speaker 3 (01:36):
So why are you here?
Speaker 1 (01:37):
Ye? Well you're my therapist. Yeah, I could see how
that could be problematic.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
Yeah, but I'm even forgetting.
Speaker 4 (01:44):
Like when I was getting ready to come over, I
went upstairs to get ready, and I was like, put
your earrings in, and I.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
You don't have earrings in.
Speaker 4 (01:52):
I know, put your earrings in and put on your
rings because I had gone to the doctor earlier this morning,
and I realized on the way to the doctor, I
wasn't wearing my wedding rings, which is fine, but I
made a mental note put them on when before you
go to record.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
I also was supposed to pay my nails. So I'm
just struggling with a lot of things.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
Yeah, well, you remember to email me rings do you
want to tell what you're up to do?
Speaker 3 (02:22):
Okay? Email?
Speaker 1 (02:23):
It was a screenshot of an email, right, was that
a Are you on a newsletter for a jeweler?
Speaker 3 (02:30):
Yes? Are you not? No?
Speaker 1 (02:32):
Well not, ya's what you're doing?
Speaker 4 (02:35):
Okay, So I would love to I'm on this email
list because it's the jewelry place that my ring is from.
My engagement ring is from Walton's in downtown Franklin. Highly
recommend great stuff, a lot of like pretty antique stuff.
They can also make custom jewelry.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
Well, the whatever you sent me most recently was vintage
and it was stunning.
Speaker 4 (02:55):
So okay, they I remember the The like subject of
the email was kind of funny.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
That's one of the reasons why I sent it to you.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
But it was it did say like in the screenshot,
like it cut off so I could read it was
like between now and February is the time of year
when more engagements happen. Oh out of any.
Speaker 3 (03:13):
Time of the year. Okay, probably because the holiday. I
didn't read that far.
Speaker 4 (03:17):
But the picture on the newsletter was this big, beautiful
ring that I had seen on their Instagram, and I
just wanted to make sure.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
That I knew about it.
Speaker 4 (03:27):
I knew about this ring because that's a one of
a kind ring that they have there, because it's what
would you call it vintage or antique?
Speaker 1 (03:34):
The email said vintage It was vintage.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
Sounds a little mark. Well, I guess antique is older.
Speaker 1 (03:40):
Yeah, I think I like the word.
Speaker 4 (03:41):
Vintage sounds better. Yeah, antique sounds like this old rusted thing.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
Well, antiques are cute too, but yeah, I feel like
it's not from like a you know, antique mall.
Speaker 3 (03:52):
It's right right, it's from okay, a jeweler.
Speaker 4 (03:55):
Anyway, I just wanted to make sure that you saw
that because I don't know how much I thought you're
putting into stuff like that. And maybe I'm projecting, but
you're about to come up on a year of dating.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
Okay, so how what? How long?
Speaker 3 (04:08):
I am a year?
Speaker 4 (04:10):
Yeah, we're a year in but when I sent this,
you were just about to come up.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
But what what? At what point did you and Patrick
get engaged?
Speaker 4 (04:19):
So we got engaged about a month after our year
and we started talking about it probably, well, we started
talking about it probably six months in, but we started
like talking about it, giving hints about what I would
like probably nine ten months okay, so.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
This is an appropriate time for you to be sending
me things on my timeline that you like. And if
I like, but then what do I like?
Speaker 3 (04:45):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (04:46):
I and that's fun. I love this part of our friendship,
Like I think it's fun. Like it was like, oh okay,
I hadn't really thought about this, but what do I
do with that? Because shouldn't you be sending that to Alex? Well?
Speaker 3 (04:59):
I have to get pulse what you like.
Speaker 4 (05:01):
I just did this with a friend who got engaged
this past weekend actually, and I went ring shopping with her.
She is very like, she'll make an itinerary when we
go on a trip, like she's very organized like that,
she does events for a living. So we went and
looked at stuff and then she made a mood board
and sent the.
Speaker 3 (05:19):
Mood board to her.
Speaker 4 (05:20):
That is not your boyfriend. This is what you're gonna do.
This is what we're gonna do if you're open to this.
Speaker 3 (05:26):
Is this okay? Is this too much? Okay?
Speaker 1 (05:27):
I need to just say out front right here, I'm
not getting engaged like okay this year, but I'm.
Speaker 3 (05:34):
Saying they're still it's fun to think about it.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
Sure, yes, it's fun to think about and I'm entertaining.
Speaker 3 (05:40):
Okay, your fun, this is about me.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
This is yes, I'm entertaining. I was like, okay, we're
talking about rings. I was like, do you want to
confess what you've been cooking up? And then like on Saturday,
You're like, hey, if you're by my house, we can
pop into Walton's. And I'm like, so what if Alex
is like, hey, what are you up to and I'm like, oh,
just looking at rings with cats?
Speaker 4 (06:00):
It would be for me, okay, like maybe I'm looking
for a vintage piece of jewelry or something coming up,
Okay for my collection, Yes.
Speaker 3 (06:09):
Of course.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
Yeah, so yes, this is fun and I will play along.
And and a proposal is not happening this year. And
I do think it's reasonable to be discussing it though,
because after you hit that year mark at our age
and we've got kids. I don't know that I'm looking
unless I was a person that had zero desire to
(06:32):
get married again and I just wanted to date and
this is how we keep it then, Okay, but I
don't think we would still be dating if we didn't
think that that was on the horizon at some point. Yeah,
and you were talking about paying your nails, and I look,
you know how I never have my nails on the schedule. No,
I don't need to be not till next year.
Speaker 4 (06:48):
Maybe speaking from somebody who had bright blue, electric blue
nails when she got engaged, you really should be taking
a weight.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
Why why did you have electric blue nails?
Speaker 4 (06:58):
You want to know something crazy is I for probably
two months, was doing very neutral colors, neutral colors that
like were still me. So I would do like a
white with chrome or something, something that was still fun.
And then for some reason I was like, well, what's
not gonna happen in the next couple next two weeks,
So I'm just gonna do something fun, And I picked
(07:22):
this blue that was fun and some might call ugly.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
Yeah, I mean, looking back, he might be like, what
was I thinking?
Speaker 4 (07:31):
And that was I would not have approved of this
color yet show it to you later.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
It was at our live podcast taping in downtown Franklin,
which is right across the street from Walton's. Yeah, the
jewelry place anyways, and yeah, Patrick proposed we had two
shows that day, one in the afternoon, one at night,
and he proposed to you after the night one and I.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
Had no idea, because why would he do it.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
At that Some of the listeners that were at the
top Golf thing, they were they there, Yeah, they were
at the Life and they brought up your engagement.
Speaker 4 (08:03):
I thought I was running upstairs because I had gotten
you a birthday cake and I thought we were going
to go surprise you with it.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
So I was trying to run upstairs before you got upstairs.
Speaker 4 (08:11):
And then I got upstairs and nobody else was there,
and neither was the birthday cake.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
You did.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
I don't remember that. Oh cry ocat walked in on
my engagement. That's cute. And then what I love about that,
I'm going to see here. Yeah okay, but if you're like, oh,
there's an engagement happening, I don't see that on the
run of show. It wasn't on there. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (08:37):
Yeah, it was really cute. But anyway, back to you,
I'll do your nails. You don't even have to spend
money on that. Okay, we don't have to do it yet.
Speaker 3 (08:45):
Let's start injury.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
We're not yes January, it's twenty twenty six. If it happens,
it will be in twenty twenty six, so we're not
in a rush. Like but thank you for thinking of me,
and that ring was beautiful, But I don't know what
you know.
Speaker 3 (08:58):
I have altole questions, so I'm not ready to be
done with.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
This, Okay, okay, questions that don't come Up's questions that
don't come up.
Speaker 4 (09:04):
That have to do with what we're talking about. Do
you want to have a say in what you get?
Speaker 3 (09:10):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (09:11):
Okay, okay, ish? So to a point like because.
Speaker 3 (09:15):
You don't want to pick it out though, no, okay.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
No, I don't think I want to pick it out,
but I would like to say.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
Okay, ish. So then this is what we do.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
I mean that ring you says on the right track.
Speaker 3 (09:27):
Okay, you would be okay if you got that ring? Yeah, okay, okay.
So what we're gonna do is I'm going to keep
sending you things that I see that I like, and maybe.
Speaker 4 (09:40):
They see they like, and maybe I'll need to go
look for some vintage joy from myself and I'll need
a second opinion.
Speaker 3 (09:49):
So you'll come and we'll just be like, oh, what's
over there?
Speaker 4 (09:53):
So fun, and then we'll just talk about it and
get a feel for things. So when the time comes,
somebody will have some feedback or this is what they
do at Walton's. This is what they did for me,
not specifically for me. I think they do this for everybody.
Speaker 3 (10:08):
But they'll create a profile for you, so they'll just
write down notes of things that you said, things you liked,
things you didn't like. They're listening to you while you're
trying stuff on, taking notes and then so if that's
where he goes to get your ring, they'll be able
to help him. Oh okay, so we don't have to
work with this now, but well, I know that's fine
to think about it.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
He went to that jeweler for his wife, so if
people are new here, he was married before his wife
passed away from cancer. So I still refer to as
his wife because I don't know it's not his ex wife.
So that's where he got her ring. Walton's familiar with
place he's familiar. Okay, so you're saying he's familiar.
Speaker 4 (10:48):
Which is a good place to be familiar with. So
that's what we're gonna do. But right now, we're just
having fun. If we're just in this fun stage, there's
no pressure.
Speaker 1 (10:55):
Speaking of fun, I know that the screenshot you sent
me was a Walton's newsletter, and we have a newsletter
that we're really cranking and putting it out, So make
sure you've signed up. And in every show notes now
we're linking the newsletter, so it's really easy to sign up.
You don't have to have Instagram or any of the stuff,
because sometimes they we're like, just go to our Instagram
(11:16):
and click on this link, or we'll put it in
the stories and you click on it. But some people
are not on social media all the time, which respect.
Speaker 3 (11:23):
Shout out for you. Yeah, good for you.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
Just check the show notes and you'll have the link
there because you're going to want to be in the
know for our newsletter coming up for sure, for sure
in early November ish hint, hint.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
And hopefully before early November.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
Yeah, well there's any newsletters going out, but there's an.
Speaker 3 (11:42):
Announce Oh oh yeah, you're really going to want to
be around.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
For that and the announcement. Did you already forget? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (11:47):
I did already forget.
Speaker 4 (11:48):
And also I'm touching my ring finger again. I just
remembered that I forgot my ring. I forgot that I
forgot and I remembered. And I have a question for you.
When you see people couple random people out do you
make up like stories about As I'm saying this, I'm
feeling a little silly, but like, do you make stories
about other people's lives when you see people out and about?
Speaker 1 (12:09):
Not always, but I know where you're going with it,
because like you do that when you're like pretend on
vacation and you're just like, oh, that's have fun, Like
I wonder what they're doing over there, And so I've
entertained that a little bit. But like what like if
you see somebody without their ring or something.
Speaker 4 (12:22):
Well, so Patrick and I have this thing. He always
wears his ring. He doesn't ever forget, which good for him.
He is forgetful, but that he's not.
Speaker 1 (12:32):
He's just to clarify he's got a horrible memory. But
does he ever even take it off?
Speaker 4 (12:37):
He does, he won't sleep in it, and I don't
sleep in mind or shower in it.
Speaker 3 (12:42):
Anyway.
Speaker 4 (12:43):
What happens is when I forget my ring and he
is wearing his ring, I'm always like, oh, no, people
are gonna see us and think that you're married and
I'm a home wrecker and we're having an affair.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
Oh that's you jump to what if it's that you
just forgot your ring?
Speaker 3 (13:03):
Well, yeah, that could be it. But isn't it crazy
that like some people could see us and be like
a married man with an unmarried woman.
Speaker 4 (13:09):
Yeah, I'm going to take a picture and post it
on TikTok to find the wife to tell her.
Speaker 3 (13:15):
People people do that.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
People are like if you're did you say that noise
comes from my throat? What was that.
Speaker 3 (13:22):
That happened to me? Sometimes too, I feel like it's
like a little air bubble that's.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
Okay, Yeah there. I saw one the other day where
she was like, Hey, if your husband was on the
first Delta flight out of Atlanta eight fifty five and
sitting in row five, seat B, I was next to
him and he's texting his mistress to let him know stop.
Speaker 3 (13:44):
Yeah, I've seen the ones that are like if your
fiance was having a Bachelratt trip in Nashville. I saw
him last night at Tequila Cowboys and we made out
on the dance floor. Oh sorry, girl, I didn't know.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
But when did you find out? Like I, yeah, dog, Sorry,
I don't know. Dude, got nice text dog to each
other all the time, like wa dawg.
Speaker 3 (14:16):
Dogs started it well because.
Speaker 1 (14:18):
The sister on Righteous Gymstones like she'd be talking to
her brothers and she's like dog, just like so. I
just thought thought it was so funny.
Speaker 4 (14:28):
If somebody read our text message, every other word is
like sick.
Speaker 3 (14:32):
Yeah, dog.
Speaker 1 (14:34):
Yo.
Speaker 3 (14:35):
I think we're like thirteen trying to be cool. I
said to you this morning.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
I was like, science is weird, man, and you were like, yeah, dog,
I know our text would.
Speaker 3 (14:46):
Be like okay.
Speaker 4 (14:48):
So my whole point of that story is if somebody
posts a TikTok of me and Patrick, don't be alarmed.
Speaker 3 (14:56):
We are married, yeah, happily married. There's no I'm just forgetful.
Speaker 1 (15:01):
Yeah, I just forgot your ring, that's all.
Speaker 4 (15:03):
Would you post one of those videos if you saw
somebody actively cheating.
Speaker 3 (15:07):
On their way?
Speaker 1 (15:08):
Not my circus, not my monkeys, not my circus, very healthy? No,
not my chili, I don't want to stir it? Not
my pot?
Speaker 3 (15:16):
Did you just make that up? These are saying so
I doesn't say it's creative. I'm sure you've heard them
that my chili not gonna stir?
Speaker 2 (15:23):
No?
Speaker 1 (15:25):
Is it not my circus, not my monkeys, or not
my monkey's not my circus? Okay, monkeys first, not my
so not my monkeys, not my circus. No, I don't.
I'm not trying to be dramatic. I don't know everybody's
full circumstance, Like I don't know the whole story, and
I don't want to know.
Speaker 4 (15:44):
Do you think people do that really to be helpful
or to go viral? Because that goes viral if they're doing.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
It publicly online like that, I guess because people will
slide into a DM like if they know the person directly.
But I guess if you're going public, it means you
don't know exactly who you're sending it to and you're
trying to find the person like you're some like relationship vigilante.
Speaker 4 (16:09):
Yeah, because they'll be like, TikTok, do your thing, Yeah,
find this woman like I would want to do. That's
humiliating to find out your husband is, or your boyfriend
or whoever's cheated on you through TikTok.
Speaker 3 (16:20):
That's humiliating.
Speaker 4 (16:21):
If my if Patrick was to ever cheat on me
somewhere and be talking to his mistress, you know what,
I'll eventually find out. Let it run its course, because
I don't want to be humiliated publicly on top of
probably already feeling shame that my husband is cheated on me. Yeah,
you know, like you're not that person's I'm getting a
little worked up about this. But for the people that
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are doing that to be helpful, it might not be
the most helpful thing.
Speaker 1 (16:48):
You know what I got worked up about. Speaking of relationships,
the other day, I was on my boyfriend's phone and
I it wasn't like a tender app or anything like that,
texting a mistress. No, but I was going through his
apps because I was looking for I think just Instagram
because I was gonna.
Speaker 3 (17:03):
Were you looking for pictures of engagement rings? No?
Speaker 1 (17:06):
No, But I started swiping through and there's this app
and on the icon it says think dirty. And I
was like, well, what is this? See well, I was like, well,
this is not discreet. If this is a dirty app,
there's no way it's dirty, because like, why would it
be obvious? And I also know my boyfriend, so I
was like ninety nine point nine percent sure it was nothing,
(17:28):
But what was it?
Speaker 3 (17:29):
Well, okay, hold on before you tell me what it is.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
Initial thought, it's a black icon with white letters to
say think dirty.
Speaker 4 (17:37):
I think just telling me that without using like common
sense of it wouldn't be that obvious. I would think
that that app would be about like how to get
a dirty mind, and like how.
Speaker 3 (17:46):
To like it, Like how did you come up with dirty?
How to come up with like sex sex things, you know,
like dirty? How to be like come up with witty
with or like how to come up with like dirty
talk or something, or like dirty jokes or stuff. I
guess I don't know.
Speaker 4 (18:01):
That's what I would that's the most from think dirty,
That's where my brain would go.
Speaker 3 (18:06):
But now I'm like, is it about like washing cars
or something?
Speaker 1 (18:10):
A washing cars app? What do you get from that app?
Tell me more intriguing tipps and tricks?
Speaker 3 (18:16):
Hey, remember what I did? I tell you the other day.
Speaker 1 (18:19):
That I washed my car. We maybe talked about on
the podcast, but I was so proud of myself. I
forget what we talk about versus what we just talked
about in real life. But I washed my own car
today and Kav was like, you know, there's a car
wash down the street that will do the whole thing
inside and out for twenty five dollars. And I was like, yeah,
but there's something that just feels good about me doing
it myself.
Speaker 3 (18:38):
And you said that it like jump started you to
do other stuff.
Speaker 1 (18:41):
Yeah, it just like felt good like I did this
and I felt accomplished, and I scrubbed the wheels and
clean the tires like it did everything.
Speaker 3 (18:51):
So if you had to think dirty app, maybe it
would have tips of like use this soap on this
type of rubber, think.
Speaker 1 (18:57):
Dirty, think dirty. No, it's not about products like clean
products versus dirty, like toxic versus non toxic.
Speaker 3 (19:06):
Why wouldn't they call it thing clean? I think they
were trying to be clever? Oh think? So is that
like one of those apps that like scans? I guess.
Speaker 1 (19:14):
So I didn't even click. I just went straight to
him instead of building up this whole story in my
mind about what it could be. I was just like,
what is this think dirty app? And he said it's
for products like oka, whether or not they're toxic or
non toxic. And I'm like, okay, cool, that's what I thought.
Speaker 4 (19:30):
I really like that you just built that up as
and like I did the mature thing and didn't want
to make up a story.
Speaker 3 (19:35):
So I just went to him and I was like,
so what is Yeah?
Speaker 1 (19:39):
I had to make sure like for that that point
one percent, like I was ninety nine point nine percent
sure it was nothing, but that one little smidge of
me had to be like catcha, Yeah, you want to
explain this think dirty app? Yeah, and tell me about it.
Speaker 3 (19:56):
How often are you thinking dirty logging in?
Speaker 1 (20:00):
Yeah? And if it was an app that taught him
how to like think and talk dirty's I.
Speaker 3 (20:07):
Don't even know. No, he's not. You're not longing in
very often. I don't think we are.
Speaker 1 (20:13):
I don't think we are. Which what is my boy like?
So if we're millennials and he's not, like, what, what
is he?
Speaker 3 (20:23):
Stop? You're dating somebody in a different generation.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
I know. That's why sometimes our humor is like not
we don't get so yeah, dogs, I mean he'll he'll
play around like that. If I do that, he'll be like, okay, dog, Yeah,
he's fifty three. He just turned fifty three. So he's
the what's the one before millennial? He's gen X, the
forgotten generation. That's why we don't know it. I'm pretty
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sure they call gen X forgotten What?
Speaker 3 (20:51):
What's the time period?
Speaker 4 (20:52):
Shannon of gen X? Because I'm is that what? And
then Boomers is the one before that?
Speaker 1 (20:57):
So nineteen sixty five to nineteen eighty is gen X?
Speaker 3 (21:01):
Why are they forgotten.
Speaker 1 (21:02):
I think they just call it that because nobody they're
like the g like what is it? Because boomers are
very popular and then millennials are popular, so they're like
the in between. So it's the it's like.
Speaker 3 (21:14):
Latch key kids. What is a latchkey kid?
Speaker 4 (21:16):
Isn't that like the kid who just like has a
key and goes home and like lets themselves in.
Speaker 3 (21:20):
No parents? Oh that's sad.
Speaker 4 (21:23):
Well I think they had parents, but like their parents
were at work when they.
Speaker 1 (21:28):
I've never heard this, How did you know?
Speaker 4 (21:30):
Yeah, yeah, like they have to like yeah, oh so
dual income households, both parents are working, so when you
get home from school, you're letting yourself in. Versus boomers,
most of the moms probably didn't work. And then millennials,
I think it's we're having kids later, so maybe we
just don't know yet.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
But well, have you heard of the millennial syndrome? Have
you heard of the millennial syndrome? Okay, well we're millennials,
like I'm an elder millennial, but you're like a millennial millennial,
(22:10):
and yeah, there is a syndrome. And I can go
through a checklist with you.
Speaker 4 (22:14):
Okay, I want to go through checklist. But I have
to ask this question because it's in my brain. Would
you rather be a different generation?
Speaker 3 (22:20):
No?
Speaker 1 (22:20):
I love the millennial. I definitely don't want to be
gen X forgot Cotten. I don't think I want to
be a boomer because I was.
Speaker 3 (22:27):
Like boomer because people are like, oh boomers, Yeah, but
people do that to millennials now they're like maennials.
Speaker 1 (22:35):
I don't think I want to be after millennial. What's
that gen z?
Speaker 3 (22:38):
Gen Z?
Speaker 1 (22:39):
Because it's so techy. I feel like millennials we have
like we're experiencing everything. We had the sweet spot of
like we know life before all the tech, and then
we also get to experience the tech.
Speaker 3 (22:51):
Also made life harder in many ways. But I regret
what you what?
Speaker 1 (22:55):
What?
Speaker 3 (22:55):
What? What? What would you choose? What's before Boomer? Would
you do? Do you remember that show? What What? What
would you do?
Speaker 1 (23:03):
That's me?
Speaker 3 (23:04):
Do you remember that show? No?
Speaker 4 (23:06):
It's from Nickelodeon, and they put the little questions on
their head and they had to like or it's like
a challenge and you had to like pick the challenge
and then you got slimmed.
Speaker 3 (23:15):
Oh what would you do?
Speaker 4 (23:17):
Yes Nickelodeon. Yeah, yeah, you're an elder. You probably were
too old for that show. Yeah, because you're basically a
forgotten generation.
Speaker 3 (23:26):
I am. I'm sorry. That was mean.
Speaker 1 (23:28):
I know, but I was close.
Speaker 3 (23:29):
Okay, right on, I'm ready.
Speaker 1 (23:30):
Okay, So I'm going to run through seven symptoms of
millennial syndrome. Okay, you see which ones you've.
Speaker 3 (23:38):
Okay, and which syndrome is something you don't want.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
I don't think you want it, okay, I mean, but
a lot of us have it, so you're not alone.
Chronic anxiety and overthinking, like always feeling like you're falling
behind or doing life wrong.
Speaker 4 (23:53):
I have chronic anxiety, but I don't think i'm I
don't think I'm doing life wrong.
Speaker 1 (23:56):
I'm chronically anxious, but I'm doing life right.
Speaker 3 (24:01):
My anxiety about other things. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (24:03):
Nervous system burnout, like you've got sleep issues. You're wired
but tired. You have difficulty calming down because your shress
responsor was never built for like this pace.
Speaker 3 (24:13):
I don't feel like I have that. Are you gonna answer?
Speaker 1 (24:16):
I don't think I have that, Okay, I have other
nervous system issues. But imposter syndrome doubting your accomplishments even
when you're doing well, Yes, Chuck. Financial fatigue feeling crushed
by debt, housing costs, or the belief that no matter
how hard you work, it's never enough.
Speaker 3 (24:33):
I think, so, I think, what are you going on?
I'm saying, do you do?
Speaker 4 (24:39):
I'm like, because I'm always like I'm poor, and you're like,
you're a money magnet.
Speaker 3 (24:43):
Yeah, I think, yeah, I always money flocks to you.
Yeah flocks.
Speaker 4 (24:47):
Oh yeah, I just was thinking more so like I
have the fatigue of oh my gosh when I when
I was younger, if I would have known how much
money I'd been making at this age, I would have
been like, you're going to be living in a mansion
and you're gonna be driving seven different cars. I don't
have maybe not that far, but i'd be thinking like, oh,
you haven't made or like, you know, you could quit
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your job because you could live on just your husband's income.
Speaker 3 (25:11):
But now that I'm here, I'm like, yeah, no, we
got to keep going.
Speaker 4 (25:15):
Yeah, life is it's way more expensive. So that's what
my money fatigue is, Like when is the inflation going
to stop? Yeah kind of thing. So, yes, it's like
never enough.
Speaker 3 (25:26):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (25:27):
Authority skepticism a deep distrust of institutions, rules and systems
that you were told to obey. Yes, yeah, for sure,
I might.
Speaker 3 (25:37):
Have no question on that one. Wait a second.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
Sometimes I wonder if I just like think things just
because yeah, I was told this is what you're supposed
to think. I believe, and then when I step back
and do some critical thinking, I'm like, I don't know.
Sounds a little cuckoo work, identity confusion, struggling to find
meaning and work. After chasing the good job for years,
I feel like I got pretty lucky with my job.
(26:02):
I would maybe have that if I hadn't gone to
Culver's that one day.
Speaker 3 (26:06):
Such a good story, okay, changed my life. Cheese curds.
I don't like the name of that, cheese curds. I
just wish they were called cheese balls. Yeah, I bet
I think dirty like the balls.
Speaker 4 (26:21):
Don't you You you're a child if you are.
Speaker 3 (26:27):
What's gen Why is that? Like the after gen z?
What's such a gen z? I don't know. I forget.
Speaker 1 (26:34):
Yeah, Like, what's Stevenson? My son is?
Speaker 3 (26:36):
See jen?
Speaker 1 (26:40):
No what I'm I'm nineteen eighty one?
Speaker 3 (26:45):
Oh wow, And that was a diss. You're so gentle, exactly.
Speaker 1 (26:50):
I am I'm so gen Why I think they're like
a They're not a letter like my son is alpha. Yeah,
it's like a one word, so that's good.
Speaker 4 (27:00):
Yow.
Speaker 1 (27:01):
Yeah, they're like subconsciously being trained to be alpha's because
every time they're ask what are you? I'm alpha?
Speaker 3 (27:06):
Who makes the names? Good question? Who?
Speaker 4 (27:11):
Uh?
Speaker 1 (27:12):
The National Institute of Generations.
Speaker 3 (27:16):
N I G and IG?
Speaker 4 (27:19):
And like who decides how long when they're gonna? Are
they always the same amount of time?
Speaker 1 (27:24):
I think I don't know, it's a good question, like
there was the chunk of time always the same?
Speaker 3 (27:29):
Yeah, I don't know. Okay, well, don't come up that
we don't have answers to.
Speaker 1 (27:34):
The final symptom of millennial syndrome is body stress, unexplained fatigue,
gut issues, hormonal imbalances check check check check check, or
autoimmune flare ups from chronic overdrive.
Speaker 3 (27:51):
Okay, yeah, I mean I don't have all of those,
but I.
Speaker 1 (27:54):
Mean, yeah, I feel like I have body stress symptoms.
Hormonal imbalances are just yeah, well I have no words.
Speaker 4 (28:05):
And also, like you're as a female, your body is
constantly going through changes, so your hormones are always.
Speaker 1 (28:10):
Going to be Yeah, and we're in perimenopause for like,
I don't know, a good fifteen twenty years.
Speaker 4 (28:17):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yep yeah, and then you're in menopause.
So is that really when they got up at perimenopause
and you're just in the next stage and then apparently
they want to start to shrivel up.
Speaker 3 (28:29):
That's what they say.
Speaker 1 (28:30):
Sad, no, like and your body never mind, that's for
that's thinking dirty, think and dirty. But it's not really.
It's about our bodies and some women. I don't know
if we were talking about on the Boby Bone Show
or maybe here we were talking about like your body
parts and on women the down there it shrinks, shrivels
(28:51):
up into your body, like say you have like your
I don't know the professional terms, so I don't want
to say but le folds, they pies.
Speaker 4 (29:01):
The the yes, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (29:06):
Okay, they start to shrivel up.
Speaker 3 (29:09):
I did not know.
Speaker 1 (29:10):
Yeah why Maybe some of our older listeners can tell us, but.
Speaker 4 (29:15):
I've they've I've had them a voicemail of you have
shriveled up down there.
Speaker 3 (29:21):
We'd love to hear about it.
Speaker 1 (29:22):
I've heard from listeners before that are older that they've
experienced it and they're like things nobody ever tells you,
things that don't come up, things that don't come up,
and it's like, why is nobody talking about this?
Speaker 3 (29:31):
Like we need to know? Yeah, like so interesting.
Speaker 1 (29:36):
Also, there's no official body that makes generation names. Rather
names arise from a combination of academic theories, media influence,
and pop culture, so it's made up. They're not always
the same length baby Boom was. It's like a demographic shift.
And then there's rapid changes brought on by Internet. I mean,
we're getting to a point where things are changing so rapidly.
(29:58):
We're gonna new generations like every couple of years now
because it's like, well, oh, because the way technolo, the
pace that we're at, it's just happening faster and faster
and faster. Before you know it, we're not even going
to hang out in person and just be like, hey,
does your holler room want to hang out with my
holo room? And then we're just laying in our bed.
Speaker 4 (30:15):
I'm not saying, Okay, we have to we have to
promise each other we aren't going to hang out with
each other's plograms.
Speaker 3 (30:19):
I promise, I promise you.
Speaker 1 (30:21):
But I mean bed is nice. But I.
Speaker 3 (30:25):
Love beds, I really like.
Speaker 4 (30:27):
I saw this thing on probably Facebook, because you know,
I've been hanging out there lately.
Speaker 3 (30:33):
Maybe I'm a boomer.
Speaker 4 (30:34):
It was Bill Gates. I almost said al Gore, Bill Gates.
It was saying, in ten years, AI is going to
take over so much we won't even have we won't
even have a need for like some large percentage of
doctors and teachers, Like teachers can't be replaced by AI.
Speaker 3 (30:53):
Well, I mean they can, but we don't want them to.
But think about like that either.
Speaker 4 (30:59):
But I'm thinking of out like the emotional and like
how teachers impact not just kids, but even in college.
I think of like one or two teachers that had
a huge The relationship I had with them had a
huge impact on my life and especially growing up. There's
some teachers I can think of that had a negative impact.
One that I won't name. But she made me eat
(31:22):
a soybean.
Speaker 3 (31:23):
Wait. I told my mom about it. She also told
my mom I was stupid.
Speaker 1 (31:27):
Wait she made you eat a soybean.
Speaker 3 (31:30):
She's very healthy.
Speaker 1 (31:31):
Why did she eat a soybean?
Speaker 3 (31:34):
Okay, what if.
Speaker 4 (31:34):
You don't honestly some of my like I would have
found out right then and there. So Okay, this is
crazy now that I'm thinking back on it.
Speaker 3 (31:44):
So also, I had a lot.
Speaker 4 (31:47):
Of my body image stuff started in elementary school, so
this was probably the precursor for it. I don't want
to blame her, but I'm just like thinking out loud.
But she was very healthy and she talked about health
all the time. I don't know what she was going
through personally. But we had to do this four h
project do.
Speaker 1 (32:06):
You have for Yeah?
Speaker 3 (32:07):
Did you have that?
Speaker 1 (32:08):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (32:08):
You probably did have that. I'm from Texas.
Speaker 4 (32:10):
Yeah, so you had to prepare a healthy snack and
like do a presentation about it and in front of
the class. And I chose to make these oyster crackers
that were covered.
Speaker 1 (32:23):
In butter, but like not a real it's just the
oyster crackers, not oysters. Yes, okay, because the little oyster
crackers are like what you would sprinkle on top of you.
Speaker 2 (32:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (32:34):
Yeah, So I don't know. I think my mom just
was in a kick of making these or something.
Speaker 3 (32:38):
You know how those are with butter and like season e.
Speaker 1 (32:40):
Oh yeah, and you had so good.
Speaker 4 (32:42):
Yeah, you had to have to make this in front
of the class, so you couldn't there's a lot of
things you couldn't do. So I made these crackers that, yeah,
we're covered in butter. But I'm in third or fourth grade, Like,
come on, it's fine, it's okay. I didn't have to
win the first place in the competition, but like, just
eat my cracker.
Speaker 3 (33:00):
Let's move on. So she she should about how my
snack wasn't healthy.
Speaker 1 (33:07):
What was that part of the requirement, Like did they
say we need to make you to make a snack
and then cats like I have the perfect but.
Speaker 3 (33:18):
I found this on paladines website. Yeah, I don't remember
all the details of this. I can't remember her. Yeah,
there's zero nutritional value, but it's fine. There's nutritional value
in butter.
Speaker 4 (33:30):
There is, okay, there's vitamins, right, so anyway, and carbs, carbs,
we need carbs to live and bring carbs and like joy.
That joy is healthy. So it's not that I made brownies.
Speaker 1 (33:44):
Okay, you should well, I know, but I mean, I guess,
I don't know if she was wanting you to bring
like a vegetable or.
Speaker 3 (33:53):
It was four aged, I probably should have brought some kind.
Speaker 4 (33:55):
Of like a homegrowns Regardless, she gave me a bad
grade because it wasn't healthy enough, and then she talked about.
Speaker 1 (34:06):
I just know that the roles. I'm just laughing because
it's kind of funny. I should take if the rules
were to bring like something like is like, you know
what side are you on? I mean, Butter is from cows. Okay,
you're there. I love Butter. I'm just saying I don't
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know the the requirements of the assignment, but keep going.
Speaker 4 (34:32):
Okay, Anyway, I should have talked about this with my
mom because my mom specifically remembers this teacher because she
said a couple of mean things to me, and my
mom is very protective and so she does not like
this lady. Yeah, so anyway, I got a bad grade.
She said it wasn't healthy. Then I don't know if
this was I think this was related where she's talking
about she's so health she is healthy, and she eats
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soybeans like popcorn instead of popcorn.
Speaker 3 (34:55):
When she's watching the movie, she'll just pop soybeans in
her mouth.
Speaker 4 (34:58):
And of course we're in for grade, we're all like
soybeans ew gross. And so she was like, I'm gonna
bring soybeans for you guys. So she brought us all
soybeans to class the next day. Think about like your
favorite teacher. She probably gave you, like a recei's or
something like that. She gave us soybeans and she passed
them all out and we had to eat one.
Speaker 1 (35:20):
Oh okay, see, well that's I thought. She like fleaing
in the corner, you specifically, and she's like, you're like,
she made me eat a soye. It's like passed out, like.
Speaker 3 (35:32):
Before you told the story.
Speaker 1 (35:33):
I was picturing you like sitting there like in the corner,
like with your head down.
Speaker 3 (35:36):
She's like, eat this soybean.
Speaker 1 (35:38):
Put this in your mouth right now. But I can't.
I gotta say, I don't even really know what a soybean.
Speaker 3 (35:43):
At a mammy?
Speaker 1 (35:43):
Oh at a mammy.
Speaker 4 (35:44):
Yeah, well I do like that. I do love it,
but I was in fourth grade. I didn't like and
even like green beans back then.
Speaker 1 (35:51):
It does sound better if you say she made me
eat a soybean instead of like she forced us to
eat at a mummy. I mean, sounds more traumatic.
Speaker 3 (36:02):
So also, she got me stupid.
Speaker 4 (36:04):
Yeah, so I was put in like the gifted program
or whatever, you have the gift and talented.
Speaker 3 (36:10):
I don't think I was supposed to.
Speaker 4 (36:11):
I really don't think I was supposed to be there,
but regardless, they put me there, and I was smart
in certain areas, like there are certain I wasn't smart
in everything.
Speaker 3 (36:19):
I also don't know that I wanted to be in.
Speaker 4 (36:21):
That but regardless, my mom I needed again, I should
ask my mom for clarification. But something happened where she
like told my mom, whether it's an apparent tea shirt
conference or on the phone, like, yeah, Catherine should never
have been put in that program, like she can't keep up.
She's My mom has a story that like she called
me dumb. I don't know if she said those words
or if that's what my mom took, but I think
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she's had it out for me. After the oyster crackers,
she probably was like she's dumb. She didn't know that
that wasn't healthy.
Speaker 1 (36:48):
Or she didn't want to be now she can't read.
She probably was like, oh, I love those and now
she brought them in my classroom and now I can't
have them.
Speaker 3 (36:54):
And no, I'm annoyed. That's a good we're in a
bad mood.
Speaker 1 (36:59):
Because you, like said you don't know what was going
on with her. Should I be like, oh, I try
to spend my days avoiding oyster butter crackers.
Speaker 3 (37:09):
Yeah, I'm sorry.
Speaker 4 (37:11):
I would like to apologize to her. If that's what happened,
then I'm sorry. But also I was like nine years old.
You were in your forties.
Speaker 3 (37:17):
So my point in all of this is, if AI
is our teachers, we never have this conversation.
Speaker 1 (37:25):
I'm starting to think AI for you might not be
that bad. I'm like they I can't force us to eat.
Speaker 4 (37:31):
So then I had a lot of really good I mean,
I think most people can think of like one teacher
that impacted them in some way, Like I have a
teacher in college. If she was not my advisor, I
never would have become never would have become a therapist.
Speaker 1 (37:42):
I don't think yeah, no, I mean I think relationships
are important. I don't think the AI is going to
fully take over. I think there's AI tools that could
help with like tutoring and helping you learn. But I
don't know that they should replace teachers in classrooms and
that that one and guidance, but who knows thirty years
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from that might be like can you believe they used
to have human teachers and they're gonna think that it's crazy?
I mean we're gonna think it's sad, but they're gonna
be like and then when something else takes over for AI,
they're and be like, can you believe they're thinking about
getting rid of AI teachers. It's so sad because like
they're gonna feel bonded. Like door Dash put out that
cute little little delivery robot.
Speaker 3 (38:23):
Yeah it's crazy.
Speaker 1 (38:24):
It's cute though, it's got little eyeballs. Have you ever
seen one of these little robot things in person? Like
my ex husband at has worked, they have a robot dog,
like one of those dogs that goes in like can
help keep you safe. They can sniff out bombs or whatever.
Speaker 3 (38:37):
That's pretty cool.
Speaker 1 (38:38):
He had it at the house. They brought it over
and I didn't want them to put that dog in danger.
It's a robot, but it was so cute. I know
it's not real. It's a metal and a machine.
Speaker 3 (38:51):
Do you feel emotionally?
Speaker 1 (38:52):
But I'm like, what are you gonna do with it?
Like y'all are just gonna feed it and hang out
with it? Right, But no, it's going to help save
human lives, But at what cost? You know? To me
that robots and like one time in Vegas I was
getting on an elevator and the hotel had these little
robot butler thingies, and one got on the elevator with
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me and it was so cute.
Speaker 3 (39:17):
Well, yeah, but you don't.
Speaker 1 (39:18):
You know, it's not gonna talk back, but it like
it's little cameras. It looks like little eyeballs.
Speaker 3 (39:23):
And okay, now are you watching Forgetful Murders in the Building.
Speaker 1 (39:29):
No, no, I do like that show, but I haven't
watched it.
Speaker 4 (39:32):
Okay, well, there's a robot element that I think you
are reminding me of somebody who might be falling in
love with the robot.
Speaker 1 (39:38):
No, I'm not going to fall in love with the robot.
I think that they're cute.
Speaker 3 (39:41):
Started.
Speaker 1 (39:42):
No, I don't think I could have feelings for robot,
But you know, that might be a thing one day.
Speaker 3 (39:47):
I think it already is. Well, yeah, people are having
relationships with chatchebt.
Speaker 1 (39:51):
But is it going to become more normal normal?
Speaker 3 (39:54):
Let's interchange the word normal with common.
Speaker 4 (39:57):
Okay, might be more common, That doesn't make it at normal,
thank you, And it means it normal.
Speaker 3 (40:02):
Also doesn't make it healthy.
Speaker 1 (40:04):
Oh that's the therapist coming through you.
Speaker 3 (40:07):
They're smart.
Speaker 1 (40:08):
I can't believe Soybean Sally told you for one second
you were stupid.
Speaker 3 (40:12):
It's a great name for her. I don't know to
ask my mom what she said.
Speaker 1 (40:15):
You don't have to.
Speaker 3 (40:15):
I can't tell you, Yeah, because who knows where she is.
Speaker 4 (40:18):
And maybe she thinks about that and she's like, I
should have treated Catherine de Fought it better.
Speaker 3 (40:22):
You know. I don't know she could have processed that
in her because there's things that I've even done as
a therapist ten years ago that I look back on
now and I'm like, oh, I wish I could have
done that differently. As you learn more, you.
Speaker 1 (40:35):
Know, Yeah, sometimes teachers may not even realize how their
words are impacting a student, like I have that one
teacher from my high school, I was in her chemistry class,
but unlike you, I wasn't in the gifted chemistry. I
was in chemistry in the community. We also called it
chymcom and it was chemistry for like chemistry for.
Speaker 3 (40:52):
People who didn't love chemistry, right, maybe an excel in chemistry.
Speaker 1 (40:57):
Lower to grasp the concept chemistry. So she was my
chemicom teacher, but she was also the advisor to a
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committee that I was on, and on that committee, I
had to give a speech and I got to say
in front of the whole school and alumni, and it
was my first time ever public speaking that way. And
I went up there and I got to say, like,
I nailed it. Maybe that's when I realized, like I'm
comfortable on stage with a microphone or whatever. And then
we had our debrief meeting like afterwards, like the whole committee.
(41:41):
We were back in this room and again she's our
visor and she's praising everybody, but mine was like a
backhanded compliment of like, oh, well, who knew cheerleader over here,
you know, Like it just made me feel like, oh
my gosh, she thinks I'm not capable and I'm stupid,
and so that has stuck with me of my I'm
not capable and stupid narrative, you know.
Speaker 3 (42:02):
And she thought she'sa compliment and that was like really
not kind.
Speaker 1 (42:06):
But I don't think she she realized how much it
impacted me, because I've thought about it every day since.
She's kidding every day, not every day, but a lot.
Speaker 3 (42:17):
Yeah, in my.
Speaker 4 (42:20):
I think a lot of times it's those little comments
that are the ones that hurt the most, Like she
wasn't being outright mean, but you're like, oh, so that's
what you really do think of me?
Speaker 1 (42:27):
Like yeah, like you thought, oh gosh, like that, y'all
were you were thinking, okay, you were also saying you
were proud of me, but also you had zero expectations
that obviously do think I was going to do right
like that, it was just gonna be like nah, mid
as gen Z. Gen Z says, Mid, I to tell
my son, y'all him and his friends, y'all got to
stop using mid. Like why my daughter would be like
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on FaceTime with a friend and nobody's asking nobody's asking
her about her friend or what she looks like or whatever.
And if Stevenson had friends over, like they would just
by and be like look at the FaceTime and they'd
be like Mid, They're like right, they're just like out
in public writing girls and it's like nobody asked you. Also,
you're mid, I mean, you.
Speaker 4 (43:11):
Know, like like eleven year old boy or right, you're
so mid.
Speaker 1 (43:18):
No, I mean, I guess I was just making a
point of like what if someone walked by you and
it's like Mid, Like what, this isn't a video game?
This is real life, Like we're not like walking around
like it made me think of an episode of Black Mirror.
Speaker 3 (43:31):
I've only watched one episode, and those I never watch again.
Speaker 1 (43:34):
Crazy, and I also feel very accurate, like they could happen,
like very futuristic stuff that isn't that far out. And
I feel like there was an episode I can't remember
which season, but where like people walked around and it
was like, you know, like things that would be happening
inside of a dating app, but they would just be
happening in public. You walk by and like if your
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brain thinks like, oh, that person's the seven, I want
to give them hearts or whatever, and you walk by
and it's like, you know how someone's rating you in
that moment or I'm definitely paraphrasing this episode exactly how
it was at all whatsoever, because it's been a couple
of years since I've seen it, But you know, like
it just felt like you're inside this real life virtual
(44:16):
it's like virtual, but it's your real life.
Speaker 3 (44:18):
That's my greatest nightmare. I do not want to know
what people.
Speaker 1 (44:22):
Like, how many likes you're getting in that moment, Like
it's like ding ding ding ding me, Like if you
were to be processing, like, say you post something and
then you're physically processing the likes that you're getting.
Speaker 3 (44:32):
I don't want that.
Speaker 4 (44:33):
Yeah, oh that's the life that your son and his
friends are living. Okay, Yeah they can stop saying mad. Yeah,
well if it's not mad, what do they say?
Speaker 1 (44:41):
I don't know the I guess I paid attention to.
I did, because that's where I drew the line of like, stop,
you're not going to walk by. And a girl that's
on FaceTime that asked your opinion zero, Like, yeah, she
didn't nothing came out of her mouth. She's just innocently
talking on FaceTime with her friend and she's getting raided. No,
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but my boyfriend's sons, like they were talking about girls
in their grade and like all the different schools, and
they were ranking.
Speaker 3 (45:10):
Like the grades of schools.
Speaker 1 (45:12):
They're like, ooh, the tenth graders at this school really good.
The tenth graders at that school, like the whole class,
like overall they rank like which I know.
Speaker 4 (45:21):
Also subjective also like why, I mean, that's the brain
of a I'm sure.
Speaker 1 (45:26):
And I said, well, how do y'all even you're not
even at the schools, like how are you looking? We're like,
oh social sud a snapchat Instagram, and I'm like, y'all
are sucking girls on theres, like looking them up, and
he was like, well, yeah, i'd say if we like
hear about a girl, we made the looker up. But
girls do way more socking online.
Speaker 3 (45:43):
Than the guys do. Sure they do.
Speaker 1 (45:44):
I'm ok yeah, yeah, that's what the guilty ones say.
Speaker 3 (45:47):
That's what you want us to think. Yeah, okay, well
that's sad.
Speaker 1 (45:51):
So anyway, millennial syndrome we have episode Okay, oh h
Shannon said mid for mediocre Riz. If you've got charisma,
then that's RIZ and then bust in excellent. That's like
that waiter that your friend had where he's like, this
chicken is normally busting, but this is what we call
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the missionary missionary style chicken.
Speaker 3 (46:16):
Yeah, the missionary style of chicken. So he was saying it,
which is just mid boring.
Speaker 4 (46:22):
You can call a dish on a menu mid, You
can't say that to an innocent human.
Speaker 3 (46:27):
Being, exactly.
Speaker 4 (46:30):
Okay, So what I've learned is that you'll eventually be
dating a robot.
Speaker 3 (46:34):
And no I'm not.
Speaker 1 (46:37):
I didn't feel very fortunate to have fallen in love
with the actual human which with a with a gen.
Speaker 4 (46:49):
Y or wait, no, he's a you're a gen y. No,
I'm a millennial, which is gen y. Okay, he's gen
what is he?
Speaker 3 (46:57):
Oh? Sorry, god, he's forgotten. Why you can't remember? He's
a lot key, latch key.
Speaker 1 (47:04):
Okay, he's a latch key, I I have Yeah, I
do think he was a latch key because his parents
got divorced, like while he has his mom has since
passed away, and he sees his dad a lot. But
like growing up, he was like his mom worked. His
parents were divorced, so he'd be back and forth, but
his mom worked, his dad worked. And then also, yeah,
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he kind of was finning for himself, which is weird.
My mom was a I don't really know what my
grandma did. I know when I was older or I
was born. By the time I was around, she was
managing a bowling alley, but I don't know what she
did when my mom was a live. But my mom
definitely had to fin for herself, like I don't, I
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know her dad died, and I don't know when my
grandma got remarried. But it's weird to think that. I
wish my mom was still alive so I could ask
her these questions, but I know that she definitely didn't
have emotion all available parents at all whatsoever. But also
just food, Like it's not like there was like meals
or parents. Like she would have to just be like
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digging through cabinets trying to figure out, like, oh what
am I going to piece together for lunch or dinner?
And I'm like, it's weird because my grandma, you know,
she took me shopping for Madame Alexander dolls.
Speaker 3 (48:18):
It's like what you had aferience.
Speaker 1 (48:20):
Yes, I had a very different experience, and like there
was always candy and Klondyke bars.
Speaker 3 (48:26):
Clondyke bars, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (48:27):
My grandma always had those in her freezer. Like we
there was always food. When I would go stay with
my grandmother, I would stay with her for weeks. I
mean she barely ate because she smoked a lot. And
then also she didn't have teeth, so she would take
her denters a lot, but she would do. She would
love doing corn bread and milk.
Speaker 3 (48:44):
Wait, can you not eat with dentures? You can?
Speaker 1 (48:47):
Well, I don't know if her kind you could, because
she would take them out, especially for her corn bread
and milk.
Speaker 3 (48:53):
Her corn bread and milk are you doing it like
a spoon.
Speaker 1 (48:56):
Because like she would put it in a cup and
put the corn bread in a glass of milk and
eat it with spoin.
Speaker 4 (49:01):
Like cereal and milk, but corn and a cup an animal?
Speaker 3 (49:05):
Is this a thing? It was for my grandma because
she couldn't chew.
Speaker 1 (49:10):
I think it just was good to her. And again
she really didn't eat much because she I don't know
if it's the cigarettes or what. Okay, you know, like
when you're smoking all the time.
Speaker 3 (49:23):
Wait, she didn't. Just looked it up and it was
called the poor Man's dessert corn bread and milk.
Speaker 1 (49:28):
Yeah, I mean I know that she didn't have a
lot of money. But see, then my grandma got remarried
and my grandpa Louie, that was my step grandpa. I
never knew my real one. Again he passed away, but
he was postman and then he retired and I think
he had good retirement, so maybe they had a little
bit more at that point. Like I don't know what
it was like for my mom's childhood, but I'm telling you,
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my grandma had a candy closet. I mean, everything smelled
like cigarettes.
Speaker 3 (49:54):
So that's fine.
Speaker 1 (49:55):
So it's like you open the snickers and it's like, oh,
but you got used to it.
Speaker 3 (50:02):
It's fine.
Speaker 1 (50:04):
So yeah, there you go more, you know, blast from
the past. She was a not a boomer, my grandma,
I bet whatever. Before I don't really know, it's before that,
a World War Two, this silent generation, and there's probably
like the Great Depression. Oh oh that was my dad.
Speaker 3 (50:29):
When was your dad born.
Speaker 1 (50:30):
Nineteen forty one?
Speaker 3 (50:32):
Oh, silence is a great Depression?
Speaker 1 (50:34):
Oh gosh, I wonder like, yeah, when we got real
cool with the names?
Speaker 4 (50:39):
Yeah, like did these names exist back then or they
just started them like twenty years ago.
Speaker 3 (50:43):
Yeah, we went back and renamed them like retro.
Speaker 4 (50:45):
Yeah, yeah, I'm sure that, like in the seventeen hundreds,
they don't have names for the generations.
Speaker 3 (50:51):
Right, there's the Guilted Age.
Speaker 1 (50:53):
You love that, that was the late eighteen hundreds.
Speaker 3 (50:59):
You're waiting for a time that you can bring up
the Gilded Age.
Speaker 1 (51:02):
The age as just popped into my No, if you've
given me an opportunity, I'll say it.
Speaker 3 (51:07):
I'm not like waiting.
Speaker 1 (51:08):
I'm like, please bring up the late eighteen hundreds. I
cannot wait for that. But like when so the Titanic
sank in nineteen twelve. What generation was that? The maybe
GI bill like for serving the military.
Speaker 3 (51:26):
If there was the GI, I'm thinking they just didn't
care about this stuff as much back then. Oh, it's
the greatest generation. Good for them.
Speaker 1 (51:35):
Also, we are not a history podcast, but.
Speaker 4 (51:38):
We could be, because you know about the Gilded Age.
Speaker 1 (51:42):
Yeah, yeah, from the show on HBO Max. Yeah, there's
generation Oh wow, Beta Beta, Generation Beta is the next one. Kat,
if you have a baby in twenty twenty.
Speaker 3 (51:56):
Six, it'll be beta.
Speaker 1 (51:57):
It's going to be a beta.
Speaker 3 (51:58):
That's kind of a downer.
Speaker 1 (52:01):
Yeah, the greatest generation was nineteen oh one and nineteen
twenty seven, So the anybody.
Speaker 3 (52:07):
I petition to change the name.
Speaker 1 (52:09):
Of that generation beta, I know, but like to the
better generation that's what you can call it.
Speaker 3 (52:19):
Be like better, Yeah, the better and then the next
one'll be mid And you're like no, I just feel like,
I mean, no shade to any betas. I appreciate those
kinds of people, but I just think that that's like
sending a message, you know, well, like the owls.
Speaker 1 (52:40):
Get to be Alpha. Yeah, like they're told all the time,
like I'm alfha Well.
Speaker 4 (52:43):
And I think going back to what you said earlier
about like the things that you don't know that you
believe because you were told to believe them, or because
you really believe those things. It's if you're told you're this,
then you live into that name. And I don't want
these people to just if they want to be that way,
that's fine, and that's who they are, is great.
Speaker 3 (53:00):
We need all kinds of people. But if you're just
told that you are going to be this way.
Speaker 1 (53:05):
Do you feel like, Now this has nothing to do
with your generation, but do you feel like you're in
alpha personality.
Speaker 4 (53:12):
In certain areas? But also like, no, why are you
look at me like that?
Speaker 1 (53:16):
Well? I get because I don't know. I'm just thinking
of like how you would define yourself when it comes
to alpha.
Speaker 3 (53:23):
No, I wouldn't.
Speaker 4 (53:24):
I wouldn't describe myself that way because I also can
be like really shy and insecure.
Speaker 1 (53:29):
Yeah, so I'm not alpha.
Speaker 4 (53:31):
I don't really want to be in charge of things
or either. I want to follow people for.
Speaker 1 (53:36):
Delegate to me all day long. You want to delegate
to me, and I'll get it done.
Speaker 4 (53:41):
I'll do it really well. I like this is what
I like. I like having somebody to go ask the
questions to. And I like having I like that. I
I don't like having to be the person that's like
the final step, you know, where things fall on me.
Because one, I don't want the responsibility of that, whether.
Speaker 3 (53:58):
It goes good or bad. But I like the security
of going to somebody else, And I.
Speaker 1 (54:04):
Think I want to clarify, Like at work, if I'm
told that I need to do something like I like
that delegation and I'm going to do it. If I'm
also in charge and I'm being told to do it,
then that's where I struggle because it's like, well, I
get to I'm in charge. I know there's something I
have to do, but like I get to decide, so
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then I'm going to lean more towards like resisting it
for some reason.
Speaker 4 (54:27):
Well, yeah, because you know, I don't like being told
what to do, but yeah, I think it. Yeah, it's indifferent.
I don't like being put in a corner and being
forced to do something, especially if it doesn't align with
something believe in. But I do like having to fall
back on I like security.
Speaker 1 (54:42):
But yeah, same, Yeah, I guess it was just it's weird,
like I have two sides of me where I want
to be delegated and told what to do, because that's
very helpful work. Like I like I can shine in that,
Like I don't want to be in charge charge. But
then like I mean, Shannon's in here, and so we
work on a lot of stuff to get there, and
she may have like things that she knows I need
to do, and then I'll be like I'll resist some
(55:04):
of it. I'll be like, nah, it depends on the day.
But like that's where I struggle with like delegating, like don't, no, don't.
I don't want to do that right now. So I'm
gonna now I'm an alpha.
Speaker 3 (55:19):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (55:19):
But typically so I think that we're what would be
in the middle of A and B A and a half,
we're alba's No.
Speaker 1 (55:29):
There is no it goes from A to B.
Speaker 3 (55:30):
I know I'm mixing them together. Oh A B we're abs.
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (55:41):
I don't know that there's anything. Okay, well here, I.
Speaker 3 (55:43):
Think we should in there.
Speaker 1 (55:44):
Yeah, I think we're good.
Speaker 3 (55:48):
Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (55:49):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (55:50):
We hope that you have the day you need. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (55:53):
Bye bye
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