January 12, 2021 • 11 mins
This is Amy’s ‘5th Thing’ (a bonus episode). ‘4 Things With Amy Brown’ comes out every Thursday, but on Tuesdays Amy shares emails from you guys and answers questions y’all have sent in. On today’s episode Amy addresses: using the word ‘should’ and how it might be bringing you down more than helping you. Amy didn’t even know it, but she included a quote from a listener's father in the gratitude journal, Amy talks about the delicious dessert from Milk Bar, and how a listener discovered Bob Goff. Amy also talks about her earlobe reconstruction surgery that she has yet to have, but maybe now is the time!
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Speaker 1 (00:04):
Happy Tuesday. Welcome to the Fifth Thing, the bonus episode
for the four Things podcast where I share emails you
have sent in. But before we get to the emails,
we always start off with a quote, and today's is
from yan La van Zant, and the quote is, when
you stand and share your story in an empowering way,
(00:24):
your story will heal you, and your story will heal
somebody else. And I puled this quote because it reminds
me that I wanted to thank everyone and appreciate so
much the different fertility emails that have been coming in
to be a part of an episode, highlighting and sharing
your stories in hopes that they will do just like
this quote, help you the storyteller, and then also help
(00:48):
others listening. I think it's going to be a powerful episode.
And the episode was an idea sent in by one
of you, so that's also special as well. So again,
when you stand and share your story and an I
powering away, your story will heal you, and your story
will heal somebody else. Ian La van Zant. Okay, let's
(01:09):
get into the emails. First email is from Becky. Hey, Amy,
I'm listening to the puzzle part of your four Things podcast.
And heard you say it. The puzzle took me longer
than it should have. I'm not criticizing you for that statement,
but my therapist brought my should statements to my attention
last year. On the eleventh, I will be sixteen months sober,
(01:30):
and one of these lessons that I'm learning right now
is not to should on myself. It's kind of a
funny statement, but it sticks with me because part of
my journey has been having such high expectations of myself
that I can never reach them. I know that you
are working on your disordered eating, and I was just
thinking of how if you looked at those should statements,
(01:51):
you might see that you judge yourself like I do.
So maybe you could do a thing called let's not
shoot on ourselves instead of the other s word just
and idea to help all of us shotters recognize that
we don't need to judge ourselves quite so harshly, because
chances are someone out there is looking at us thinking
we are amazing. Thanks for listening, your friend, Becky. So, Becky,
(02:14):
I appreciate this email and I wanted to share with
everyone because yes, a lot of us could use this encouragement,
which including myself because I use should all the time. Yeah.
I may eventually make it a thing one day on
a Four Things episode, but for now, just wanted to
share the email for those that needed to hear your
words right now. So if you are listening right now
(02:36):
and you're a SHOULD person, don't judge yourself quite so harshly, because,
like Becky said, chances are someone out there is looking
at you and thinking you're amazing, And I want you
to know that you're amazing. Do all right. Second email
is from Kim Bey in Austin, Texas. Heymy I was
just listening to your December fifteenth episode of the Four
(02:56):
Things podcast and heard you use my dad Alph Marston's quote,
make it a habit to tell people thank you, to
express your appreciation sincerely and without the expectation of anything
in return. Truly appreciate those around you, and you'll soon
find many others around you. Truly appreciate life, and you'll
find that you have more of it. What a fun
(03:18):
surprise to hear you give him a shout out and
that you included the quote in your gratitude journal. I
would love to send you one of his books. I'm
very proud of him and the work he does to
motivate and inspire others. Is there an address so I
could send you a copy. I'm a fellow Austin I
Aggie and longtime listener of the Bobby Bones Show and
your podcast. I appreciate all you guys do to spread
joy and positivity. Happy start to one. Okay, so sharing
(03:42):
this email from Kimby is an example of just how
small the world is. I mean, what are the odds
that the daughter of a man we quoted in our
Gratitude Journal listen to this podcast. I mean, honestly, I
didn't even know Ralph Marston was still alive. Feel bad
saying that, but Mary and I just really liked his quote,
so we put it in the journal. Didn't know much
of his backstory. But since kim Bey sent this email,
(04:05):
we've been corresponding a little and I'm happy to announce
that Ralph himself, who is the founder of the Daily Motivator.
By the way, some of you may know what that is,
He's going to be coming on the podcast one day
soon for all four things. So it should be a
very motivating, encouraging, positive episode. I sent kim Be, her
sister and her mom each a copy of our Gratitude
(04:27):
Journal since their dad and then husband or featured in it,
so I really hope that they enjoy it. And I
thought about sending Ralph one, but not sure how he
feels about the whole coral and pink situation and colors
and the fun stickers in the back. Kim Be, if
you're listening to this and you think your dad might
like one, regardless of the color, let me know and
I will stick that in the mail. And you know,
(04:49):
speaking of gratitude, I think maybe we should do another
gratitude challenge this year. We did one last year during
the month of March, and it couldn't have come at
a better time. Obviously we didn't know we were about
to be hit with pandemic, but it really was a
good time to practice gratitude. The challenge is thirty days
in a row, you write down four things you're thankful for,
either in our journal or in your own journal or
(05:11):
type them into your phone. But the point is to
actually write it down, not just think it. So if
you happen to want one of ours, I'm definitely biased
and think that it's really really cute, And you can
find it at Radio Amy dot com or follow at
shop spaw and Instagram. I run that account. But also
you really can write it in any journal that you have.
(05:33):
Maybe we'll do the month of February. That way, it's
only twenty eight days. That way you can maybe feel
more accomplished and don't put the pressure on yourself. I
know it's a challenge, but honestly, if you miss a day,
it's not that big of a deal. Just get right
back on the gratitude train. There's no judgment here. We
have a lot of grace. It's just more of a
we're holding each other accountable type thing. So maybe we'll
(05:55):
do that starting in February. Third email is from Emily. Hey, Amy,
I was so excited when I saw milk Bar cake
bites at Target. I remember you were talking about the
cake company called milk Bar awhile back and I saw
(06:18):
these cake bites in the refrigerated section and I gave
them a try. They're so good, perfect treat after a
long day of work. On another note, I had never
heard of Bob Goff until listening to your podcast, and
when I brought up his name to my husband, he
gave me this look like, yeah, you haven't heard of him.
That is one of my favorite podcasts you've done. On
yesterday's podcast, you asked who we would pick to be
(06:39):
our neighbors. It's so hard to pick just two. I'd
probably go with Bob Goff and Chip and Joanna Gaines.
One can inspire me to make and design amazing things
and the other can keep me motivated to actually get
it done. Have a fabulous day, your friend, Emily. Okay,
First of all, Emily, I'm so glad that you found
the milk Bar our truffle thing. He's at Target. They
(07:02):
really are amazing, and anyone else listening, if you are
a friend has a birthday coming up, order a cake
from milk Bar. It's the birthday cake flavor. That's the
only one you need to worry about. Trust me, it's amazing.
You're probably gonna pay more in shipping that you do
on the cake, but have a couple of friends pitching.
Y'all can all get it for somebody and it's totally
worth it. Secondly, Emily, I'm happy to hear that you
(07:24):
learned of Bob Goff from the podcast because he's so great.
I've enjoyed having him on. I feel lucky that We've
had him on twice and if anyone listening has missed
those episodes, you can go find them. He is the best.
And speaking of Bob Goff, one of my favorite quotes
actually from him, happens to be about neighbors. And you
wanted Bob to be your neighbor, Emily, So here's the quote.
(07:45):
Loving the neighbors we don't understand takes work and humility
and patients and guts. Now he's speaking about all neighbors,
not just literally your next door neighbors, only clarifying since
we've been talking about who we want our imaginary neighbor
first to be. But loving literal or figurative neighbors like
someone from Afar doesn't always come easy or natural. I
(08:08):
mean sometimes it takes a lot of effort and courage.
But that doesn't mean that we should give up trying.
It means that we should try even harder. And that's
why I love that Bob quote so much, because it
reminds us to still love them and to work hard
at it, to stay humble, be patient. It takes all
the guts. So thank you Bob for that quote, and Emily,
(08:29):
I love that you chose Bob and then chip in
Joanna as your neighbors. And this is definitely a fun
thing that you all have been adding into your emails
with me, so keep them coming. If you're sending me
an email about anything else, go ahead and just share
with me who you want to be your neighbors, because
it helps me get to know you, all right. Fourth
email is from Billy Jean. Hey. Amy, a long time
(08:51):
ago on the Bobby Bones Show, you mentioned that you
had a longer slit in your ear lobe where you
would never wear dangle earrings and just studs. I would
wondering who I would contact to get the same procedure
you had. What is it called? What kind of doctor
fixes it? Any information will be amazing. Hugs, Billy Jeane. Okay,
so it's called earlobe reconstruction, and I actually have yet
(09:14):
to do it. I've talked about it like a lot,
but I've never actually done it. I mean, maybe I
need to add that to my goals because it's for
sure something I've been putting off for a very very
very long time. I mean, my ear lobe was first
ripped in the lunch line in seventh grade when my
earring got caught on someone else somehow and ripped. I
can't even wear tiny studs because even with the back
(09:35):
on it, the whole earring will fall through the other side.
So I mean, one time I was driving along in
the whole earring with the back landed in my lap
and I was so perplexed as to how that even happened.
And that's when I realized how big the hole had
gotten in my ear So thank you Billy Jeane for
the email reminding me that I need to fix this.
I mean, I guess I don't need to, but I
(09:56):
want to because it would increase the number of earrings
that I could where and then plus it just looks
like a big rip, but clearly is not a priority
for me. I've actually had appointments scheduled at various times
but canceled for whatever reason. And as for who you call,
I really think that most facial plastic surgeons, or even
ear nose and throat doctors or dermatology type surgeons, they
(10:21):
perform this procedure. I actually had an appointment booked with
my friend Carrie's husband. Some of you may know Carrie.
She comes on the podcast. She's a Nashville beauty girl.
On Instagram, and her husband is doctor Drew and he's
a most surgeon, so they deal with cutting cancer off
your face and sewing it back together and making it
look like there's no scar at all. So he was
gonna actually do my ear, but then they moved to Florida.
(10:44):
So I guess I myself need to be looking for
someone in Nashville to fix mine. So I hope wherever
you live you can find one. It shouldn't be too hard.
I would just google Earlow Reconstruction Surgery and go in
for a consultation. Definitely, maybe read some reviews or ask
around with friends and family if anybody knows of anybody good.
But I can't imagine that too much would go wrong
(11:05):
with that, all right? That is a rap on today's episode.
Thank you to everyone that sent an emails. The email
is four Things with Amy Brown at gmail dot com.
I love hearing from you and I will talk to
you again the Stars day for four Things
Happy Tuesday. Welcome to the Fifth Thing, the bonus episode
for the four Things podcast where I share emails you
have sent in. But before we get to the emails,
we always start off with a quote, and today's is
from yan La van Zant, and the quote is, when
you stand and share your story in an empowering way,
(00:24):
your story will heal you, and your story will heal
somebody else. And I puled this quote because it reminds
me that I wanted to thank everyone and appreciate so
much the different fertility emails that have been coming in
to be a part of an episode, highlighting and sharing
your stories in hopes that they will do just like
this quote, help you the storyteller, and then also help
(00:48):
others listening. I think it's going to be a powerful episode.
And the episode was an idea sent in by one
of you, so that's also special as well. So again,
when you stand and share your story and an I
powering away, your story will heal you, and your story
will heal somebody else. Ian La van Zant. Okay, let's
(01:09):
get into the emails. First email is from Becky. Hey, Amy,
I'm listening to the puzzle part of your four Things podcast.
And heard you say it. The puzzle took me longer
than it should have. I'm not criticizing you for that statement,
but my therapist brought my should statements to my attention
last year. On the eleventh, I will be sixteen months sober,
(01:30):
and one of these lessons that I'm learning right now
is not to should on myself. It's kind of a
funny statement, but it sticks with me because part of
my journey has been having such high expectations of myself
that I can never reach them. I know that you
are working on your disordered eating, and I was just
thinking of how if you looked at those should statements,
(01:51):
you might see that you judge yourself like I do.
So maybe you could do a thing called let's not
shoot on ourselves instead of the other s word just
and idea to help all of us shotters recognize that
we don't need to judge ourselves quite so harshly, because
chances are someone out there is looking at us thinking
we are amazing. Thanks for listening, your friend, Becky. So, Becky,
(02:14):
I appreciate this email and I wanted to share with
everyone because yes, a lot of us could use this encouragement,
which including myself because I use should all the time. Yeah.
I may eventually make it a thing one day on
a Four Things episode, but for now, just wanted to
share the email for those that needed to hear your
words right now. So if you are listening right now
(02:36):
and you're a SHOULD person, don't judge yourself quite so harshly, because,
like Becky said, chances are someone out there is looking
at you and thinking you're amazing, And I want you
to know that you're amazing. Do all right. Second email
is from Kim Bey in Austin, Texas. Heymy I was
just listening to your December fifteenth episode of the Four
(02:56):
Things podcast and heard you use my dad Alph Marston's quote,
make it a habit to tell people thank you, to
express your appreciation sincerely and without the expectation of anything
in return. Truly appreciate those around you, and you'll soon
find many others around you. Truly appreciate life, and you'll
find that you have more of it. What a fun
(03:18):
surprise to hear you give him a shout out and
that you included the quote in your gratitude journal. I
would love to send you one of his books. I'm
very proud of him and the work he does to
motivate and inspire others. Is there an address so I
could send you a copy. I'm a fellow Austin I
Aggie and longtime listener of the Bobby Bones Show and
your podcast. I appreciate all you guys do to spread
joy and positivity. Happy start to one. Okay, so sharing
(03:42):
this email from Kimby is an example of just how
small the world is. I mean, what are the odds
that the daughter of a man we quoted in our
Gratitude Journal listen to this podcast. I mean, honestly, I
didn't even know Ralph Marston was still alive. Feel bad
saying that, but Mary and I just really liked his quote,
so we put it in the journal. Didn't know much
of his backstory. But since kim Bey sent this email,
(04:05):
we've been corresponding a little and I'm happy to announce
that Ralph himself, who is the founder of the Daily Motivator.
By the way, some of you may know what that is,
He's going to be coming on the podcast one day
soon for all four things. So it should be a
very motivating, encouraging, positive episode. I sent kim Be, her
sister and her mom each a copy of our Gratitude
(04:27):
Journal since their dad and then husband or featured in it,
so I really hope that they enjoy it. And I
thought about sending Ralph one, but not sure how he
feels about the whole coral and pink situation and colors
and the fun stickers in the back. Kim Be, if
you're listening to this and you think your dad might
like one, regardless of the color, let me know and
I will stick that in the mail. And you know,
(04:49):
speaking of gratitude, I think maybe we should do another
gratitude challenge this year. We did one last year during
the month of March, and it couldn't have come at
a better time. Obviously we didn't know we were about
to be hit with pandemic, but it really was a
good time to practice gratitude. The challenge is thirty days
in a row, you write down four things you're thankful for,
either in our journal or in your own journal or
(05:11):
type them into your phone. But the point is to
actually write it down, not just think it. So if
you happen to want one of ours, I'm definitely biased
and think that it's really really cute, And you can
find it at Radio Amy dot com or follow at
shop spaw and Instagram. I run that account. But also
you really can write it in any journal that you have.
(05:33):
Maybe we'll do the month of February. That way, it's
only twenty eight days. That way you can maybe feel
more accomplished and don't put the pressure on yourself. I
know it's a challenge, but honestly, if you miss a day,
it's not that big of a deal. Just get right
back on the gratitude train. There's no judgment here. We
have a lot of grace. It's just more of a
we're holding each other accountable type thing. So maybe we'll
(05:55):
do that starting in February. Third email is from Emily. Hey, Amy,
I was so excited when I saw milk Bar cake
bites at Target. I remember you were talking about the
cake company called milk Bar awhile back and I saw
(06:18):
these cake bites in the refrigerated section and I gave
them a try. They're so good, perfect treat after a
long day of work. On another note, I had never
heard of Bob Goff until listening to your podcast, and
when I brought up his name to my husband, he
gave me this look like, yeah, you haven't heard of him.
That is one of my favorite podcasts you've done. On
yesterday's podcast, you asked who we would pick to be
(06:39):
our neighbors. It's so hard to pick just two. I'd
probably go with Bob Goff and Chip and Joanna Gaines.
One can inspire me to make and design amazing things
and the other can keep me motivated to actually get
it done. Have a fabulous day, your friend, Emily. Okay,
First of all, Emily, I'm so glad that you found
the milk Bar our truffle thing. He's at Target. They
(07:02):
really are amazing, and anyone else listening, if you are
a friend has a birthday coming up, order a cake
from milk Bar. It's the birthday cake flavor. That's the
only one you need to worry about. Trust me, it's amazing.
You're probably gonna pay more in shipping that you do
on the cake, but have a couple of friends pitching.
Y'all can all get it for somebody and it's totally
worth it. Secondly, Emily, I'm happy to hear that you
(07:24):
learned of Bob Goff from the podcast because he's so great.
I've enjoyed having him on. I feel lucky that We've
had him on twice and if anyone listening has missed
those episodes, you can go find them. He is the best.
And speaking of Bob Goff, one of my favorite quotes
actually from him, happens to be about neighbors. And you
wanted Bob to be your neighbor, Emily, So here's the quote.
(07:45):
Loving the neighbors we don't understand takes work and humility
and patients and guts. Now he's speaking about all neighbors,
not just literally your next door neighbors, only clarifying since
we've been talking about who we want our imaginary neighbor
first to be. But loving literal or figurative neighbors like
someone from Afar doesn't always come easy or natural. I
(08:08):
mean sometimes it takes a lot of effort and courage.
But that doesn't mean that we should give up trying.
It means that we should try even harder. And that's
why I love that Bob quote so much, because it
reminds us to still love them and to work hard
at it, to stay humble, be patient. It takes all
the guts. So thank you Bob for that quote, and Emily,
(08:29):
I love that you chose Bob and then chip in
Joanna as your neighbors. And this is definitely a fun
thing that you all have been adding into your emails
with me, so keep them coming. If you're sending me
an email about anything else, go ahead and just share
with me who you want to be your neighbors, because
it helps me get to know you, all right. Fourth
email is from Billy Jean. Hey. Amy, a long time
(08:51):
ago on the Bobby Bones Show, you mentioned that you
had a longer slit in your ear lobe where you
would never wear dangle earrings and just studs. I would
wondering who I would contact to get the same procedure
you had. What is it called? What kind of doctor
fixes it? Any information will be amazing. Hugs, Billy Jeane. Okay,
so it's called earlobe reconstruction, and I actually have yet
(09:14):
to do it. I've talked about it like a lot,
but I've never actually done it. I mean, maybe I
need to add that to my goals because it's for
sure something I've been putting off for a very very
very long time. I mean, my ear lobe was first
ripped in the lunch line in seventh grade when my
earring got caught on someone else somehow and ripped. I
can't even wear tiny studs because even with the back
(09:35):
on it, the whole earring will fall through the other side.
So I mean, one time I was driving along in
the whole earring with the back landed in my lap
and I was so perplexed as to how that even happened.
And that's when I realized how big the hole had
gotten in my ear So thank you Billy Jeane for
the email reminding me that I need to fix this.
I mean, I guess I don't need to, but I
(09:56):
want to because it would increase the number of earrings
that I could where and then plus it just looks
like a big rip, but clearly is not a priority
for me. I've actually had appointments scheduled at various times
but canceled for whatever reason. And as for who you call,
I really think that most facial plastic surgeons, or even
ear nose and throat doctors or dermatology type surgeons, they
(10:21):
perform this procedure. I actually had an appointment booked with
my friend Carrie's husband. Some of you may know Carrie.
She comes on the podcast. She's a Nashville beauty girl.
On Instagram, and her husband is doctor Drew and he's
a most surgeon, so they deal with cutting cancer off
your face and sewing it back together and making it
look like there's no scar at all. So he was
gonna actually do my ear, but then they moved to Florida.
(10:44):
So I guess I myself need to be looking for
someone in Nashville to fix mine. So I hope wherever
you live you can find one. It shouldn't be too hard.
I would just google Earlow Reconstruction Surgery and go in
for a consultation. Definitely, maybe read some reviews or ask
around with friends and family if anybody knows of anybody good.
But I can't imagine that too much would go wrong
(11:05):
with that, all right? That is a rap on today's episode.
Thank you to everyone that sent an emails. The email
is four Things with Amy Brown at gmail dot com.
I love hearing from you and I will talk to
you again the Stars day for four Things
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