February 2, 2021 • 18 mins
This is Amy’s ‘5th Thing’ (a bonus episode). ‘4 Things With Amy Brown’ comes out every Thursday, but on Tuesdays Amy shares emails from you guys and answers questions y’all have sent in. On today’s episode Amy addresses: being self-aware when we use things to avoid something / getting to the root of the avoidance, tips for speaking publicly, laser hair removal, and the backstory about the time I painted a Taylor Swift portrait and then gave it to her! Thanks for your emails!
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Speaker 1 (00:08):
Happy Tuesday. Welcome to the Fifth Thing, And this is
the bonus episode to the Four Things podcast where I
go over emails that you have sent in which I
want to say it's a big deal that you email,
because I know that for me, it would be weird
for me to just reach out an email someone that
I listened to on the radio, or if I listened
to their podcasts, Like I think of the big step
that that is that's not lost on me at all.
(00:30):
And I use the word weird, I should probably go back.
That's my feeling. I don't think it's weird that you
email me, but you might think it's weird, because that's
how I feel if I were to reach out to
somebody that I listened to. But it's not weird. We
love receiving emails because otherwise what we're just talking into
a microphone and nobody's listening. When we hear from you,
whether it's over email or on Instagram, we know that
(00:52):
you're there. Which on Instagram, I'm at Radio Amy. And
my quote that I'm gonna share with you in a minute,
I got because someone that follows me on Instagram agged
me in a really cool quote that I want to
share with you all because we always start Tuesday episodes
off with the quote. But I will let you know
what we're gonna go over in today's episode. Some of
the emails that y'all sent in have to do with
being self aware when we use things to avoid something
(01:15):
and like getting to the root of the avoidance. Like
I had a listener email in about how they are
using Netflix to binge Gray's Anatomy to avoid something else. Well,
let's get to the root of why we're doing that.
I've got tips for speaking publicly. I'm also going to
talk about my laser hair removal experience, and I'll share
the backstory about the time that I painted a tailor
swift portrait and then I gave it to her, which
(01:39):
was a little awkward but also awesome. Again, thank you
so much for your emails. You can send me a
note for things with Amy Brown at gmail dot com.
And now let's get to that quote that Nikki tagged
me in on Instagram. The quote is from Sharon Draper.
Perfect happiness is a beautiful senset, the giggle of a
(01:59):
grand child, the first snowfall. It's the little things that
make happy moments, not the grand events. Joy comes in SIPs,
not gulps. And it's really the last sentence of that
whole quote that I just love so much. Joy comes
in SIPs, not gulps. All right, let's get to the
first email, which is from Megan. Hey, Amy, my church
(02:21):
sermon today ended with two questions, One how did your
heart change? And two? What are you aware of now
that you weren't aware of before? And thinking about these
two questions, I realized that I've lost my connection with
the church and I so easily turn on Netflix and
binge watch Grey's Anatomy instead of reading or listening to
(02:41):
the Bible or praying any helped out suggestions. I'm all ears.
You talk about how you are a work in progress,
and I was hoping you could share a little bit
about what you are already doing to get to where
you are. Thank you for your help and guidance, Megan.
All right, Megan, thank you so much for this email.
And you're right, I am definitely a work in progress.
But I think I can help you out with this
(03:03):
because I too have been trying to get to the
root of some of my behaviors, and so that's why
I know my advice to you will be to get
to the root of why you're avoiding your time with God.
And now for somebody else listening, maybe you're not avoiding
that in particular. You might be avoiding a relationship with
your significant other, with a connection with a friend, a relative,
(03:28):
or maybe it's a hobby or some project that you
need to do or would like to get done. I'm
not talking about just procrastination. I'm talking about literally putting
in effort to numb out with something else so that
you do not do something that is going to be
good for you. And I do think that this happens
a lot with people and things that they love, like
(03:50):
people or hobbies or projects, work, things like whatever. It is, like,
what are you using to avoid something that you know
will be good for you to get done? And so
that's what we need to do, make and we got
to get to the root of the avoidance. And I
think that some people may not use Netflix to them out.
They might use drinking or drugs or even shopping, and
(04:10):
all of these things are socially acceptable. I mean, I guess,
well maybe minus the drugs part. But I think the
important thing to recognize here, Megan, is that you're aware
of this they ask you the question at church, you
thought about it, you reflected, and then you realized, oh,
I am doing this behavior to avoid my relationship with God.
So I just encourage you, don't beat yourself up over it,
(04:34):
and take note of the moment that you begin. The
avoidant activity megan for you, it's Netflix for somebody else listening,
and might be the shopping or the drinking. Make note,
I'm starting to do my avoidant activity. Why am I
doing this? What happened right before? Did something trigger it?
How does this activity make me feel? And then you
can begin to ask yourself some questions, like what am
(04:55):
I afraid of? Because I really do feel like fear
is involved at all times. Well, I mean, I guess
I can't say that at all times, and I'm not
an expert, but for me, fear pops up a lot,
and I usually am avoiding something because I'm afraid. So
what am I afraid of? A specific outcome? Am I
afraid of letting someone down? Do I feel like I'm
not enough? You know? What? Do I truly believe about myself?
(05:18):
Then I can start taking some notes. How do I
view myself? Do I feel valued? Do I feel loved?
I mean, at the end of the day, we all
just want to feel valued and loved. So Megan, I'm
kind of rambling here. I hope this makes sense. So
getting to the root cause of your avoidance will ultimately
bring you freedom and the focus that you are looking for.
And I know that it is easier for me to
(05:40):
say that than for you to put all this into
action and do it. But Megan, it sounds like you
are up before the challenge, so good luck with all
of that. Email number two is from Christine. Hey, Amy,
I'm a new listener to your podcast and I'm hooked.
I'm in my mid thirties and used to be more
confident in public speaking, especially in work meetings, virtue or
in person, but the past few years has definitely been
(06:03):
a little different. I suffer from anxiety, so at times
it's not always easy for me to articulate clearly. Any
advice on how you practice articulating in the radio industry,
hope to brush up my skills and regain my confidence
while working remotely. Thank you in advance, your new friend, Christine. Okay,
So Christine, what y'all don't know, because I have an
awesome editor Houston, is that when I was trying to
(06:27):
say the sentence. Any advice on how you practice or
practice articulating in the radio industry, Um, I think I
had to say that like five times because I can't speak.
I don't even know how I get paid to talk,
So I'm probably the wrong person asked when it comes
to articulating. But I do have tips for public speaking
because I do do that a lot. Now, I will
(06:49):
say I get my radio job is public speaking, but
for me, it's very different to be giving a talk
or presentation or hosting something in front of a group
of people. Is very different than sitting on the Bobby
Bones Show around the table with some friends talking about things,
or talking to you. Here on the podcast, I feel
like I'm just being myself, talking, sometimes rambling, sometimes too much,
(07:09):
which people make that clear when they rate and review
my podcast that I need to work on my rambling
and I am working on that. Which side note, if
you have not rated and reviewed the podcast, I would
love it if you took time to go do that.
That would be super special. If you have something super
negative to say, you could probably just email it to
me in a nice way constructive criticism. I'm all here
(07:30):
for that. I want to learn and grow. But anyway
back to me answering this question, I do have tips
for public speaking. So first thing is, if you're nervous, Christine,
I would say, that's totally normal, and that's actually good
because it means that you care about what you're gonna do.
And then you got to practice and prepare. I didn't
practice and prepare enough before I would do some stage
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things and I learned like, oh, I really gotta take notes,
go over this. Believe in myself. I mean that's the
biggest thing actually in general, is just believing that you're
going to do great and you're gonna go out there
and you're gonna kill it. Then you have to know
your audience. Make sure you know who you're speaking to,
what's the vibe, so that you can cater to them,
(08:11):
Like maybe do you want to tell a morning like
one of my morning cornyes from the Bobby Bones Show,
like a dad joke, or do you want to do
some other kind of ice breaker or would that be
totally inappropriate because your bosses wouldn't like that. I don't know,
but I do recommend you make an outline. I personally
don't like a script because I like to have the
bullet points of what I want to touch on, and
(08:32):
then I can just organically see where I go. Especially
if I have other people involved, they might change the
conversation and then I'm not stuck to the script and
I get lost everywhere. So definitely make an outline, and
then yeah, get your power pose. Stand in front of
a mirror before you go out there. If you need
a certain outfit that makes you feel great. Favorite lipstick
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or do your hair one way, or your makeup. For
some people that might not be their thing, especially if
it's on zoom. I don't know. You might not even
and be getting ready, but maybe you do get ready
just because it will make you feel confident. I would
go back to that. I think it's Dion Sanders quote.
If like you look good, you feel good, you feel good,
you play good. If you play good, to pay good.
So make sure you look good, you feel good. And
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I like doing a power pose in the mirror and
putting my hands on my hips and looking in the
mirror and believing in myself me like you're awesome, You're
gonna do this, And then I'll go out there and
I'll open strong, and then I'll do everything in the
middle and then I'll close strong. But that's my biggest
thing is you've got to believe in yourself and that
you can do it. Don't let the nerves rule you. Again.
I think it's good that the nerves are there, but
(09:35):
use those nerves for good. Turn it into positive energy
by being like, yes, of course I'm nervous. This is
important to me, and that's why I'm going to go
out there. I'm gonna do the best job and they're
gonna love it. So that is my advice for public speaking.
Just be yourself too. Emailt number three is from Jin. Hey, Amy,
(10:03):
I know you've had laser hair removal from Ideal Image,
and I'm thinking about doing it as well, but I
want to know if it's legit, is it worth it
any side effects? I tend to have sensitive skin as well,
so I'm wondering what your experience was like and if
you would do anything different if you went back and
did it again. PS. Thank you for your Outweigh podcast.
I have a fifteen year old daughter who is battling
and eating disorder and I'm trying to help her through that. Well. Jin,
(10:26):
thank you so much for this note, and I'm so
sorry that you're going through that with your daughter. I
hurt for her. I hurt for you because I know
that you hurt for her. I was probably about fifteen
years old when my eating disorder started, so I know
that that is a tricky age. But if you could
be there for her as best as you can, that
would be my advice for you. And don't give up,
and don't stop trying to get all the resources and tools.
(10:49):
I mean outweighs just one thing that could maybe be
there for you, but there's probably, I know, not even probably.
I know there's a lot of other resources out there
for you and for her, So I hope you all
are able to tap into those and she's able to
find freedom from her eating disorder, whatever it is soon.
Now to your ideal image laser hair removal question. Yes,
(11:10):
I'm a big fan, and I'm not just saying that
because I've been endorsing with them since two thousand and six.
This is not a commercial here by any means, not
getting paid to say this. But I first started out
with them, yeah, in two thousand and six, and got
my under arms done, and then a few years later
I got my bikini area done, and then several years later,
and I'm not even quite sure what in the world
took me so long. I finally got my legs done,
(11:33):
hands down best decision. Like, I love it, But I
love also too that they can really help boost the
confidence for women. I mean, whether you're going to Ideal
Image or some other laser hair removal place. There are
some women or even men that have some embarrassing areas
where they can't put on a swimsuit because of razor
burn or this or that, or they have hair on
their face that they are embarrassed that they have to
(11:55):
shave or pluck. I mean, I have hairs that I
have to pluck off my face, which if you're listening
right now and you're a young listener and you're like,
oh what, just wait, the hairs will come. They will
pop up, and you're gonna be like, okay. Amy warned
me about this, but some of my friends even, like
I have a friend that was just telling me the
other day that she got it done on her face
because she had a lot of facial hair and it
(12:17):
was something she was always self conscious about. So laser
hair removal for her was definitely a game changer. I
don't know about other places, but I know with Ideal
Image they offer a complimentary consultation. So that's my recommendation
before you do anything, is to have them look at
your skin type, look at your problem areas, and then
they can figure out what is going to be best
for you. Let me personally, I'm a happy customer. I
(12:40):
have smooth skin. I mean you have to go back
for a certain amount of treatments, and everybody's different. I
had some friends that had to go back for a
different number of treatments that I didn't. My skin reacted
faster that I don't know, so it's hard to say
what's going to be the case. But you do have
to go back multiple times. But they give you a
whole package and then you go and you fulfill those
treatments in the package that you were given. That should
(13:02):
work for you. So that is my advice. Yes, it's
legit to me, it's worth it. I did not have
any side effects, but I want you to go in
and have them assess your skin and then you can
figure it out and go from there. All right. Fourth
email is from Sierra hey Amy. On the Bobby Bones Show,
you mentioned taking art classes to make a painting for
(13:23):
Taylor Swift. I love Taylor Swift. I have gone through
great links to meet her. I would love to hear
the story of you making a painting for her, and
if anything came of it, take care of your friend Sierra. Uh. Yeah.
Siah definitely painted a portrait of Taylor Swift and then
I gave the portrait to her backstage at the frank
Erwin Center in Austin, Texas. When I went to a
(13:44):
concert with my bff from high school, Andrea, we got
tickets from the Bobby Bone show and I was so pumped.
I knew I was going to be meeting her. I
felt like all my dreams were coming true, and I
knew I needed to give her something special. And I
had been wanting to take art classes anyways. Oh, I
decided to sign up for private lessons and when I
walk in, the art lady was like, Okay, so what
(14:06):
do you want to paint? And I was like Taylor Swift.
And I think she was a little thrown off by
that because I was twenty nine years old or something,
but it was amazing and I will never forget the
moment I gave her the painting. She looked at me
and she said, you were so talented, and I really
felt like she meant it. It definitely kind of looked
(14:27):
like her. Not totally because I'm not the best artist
in the world, but it was awesome and I wish
I had video of that moment, but I don't because
when you go to a meet and greet, they make
you put your phones away and then you get your
picture with them, but they take it with their camera
and then they print it out just for efficiency. That way,
people aren't just taking pictures with their phone and holding
things up. So that is my memory of me painting
(14:49):
a portrait of Taylor Swift and giving it to her.
It's definitely super cool, and I'm sure it ended up
in some donation or trash pile later that night, although
for like a full year or more, I was convinced
that she loved it so much she had it hanging
up in her bus because again, I was so talented.
But I mean, now that I know more about the
business and how many things that she probably receives from people,
(15:12):
I mean, I'm sure one of her record reps just
like took it, and yeah, I got rid of it somehow,
but I will say I have picked up the paint
brush lately. If you haven't listened to the podcast, you
may not know that I have a new hobby and
that is painting. My friend Gracie comes over. We got
easels and canvases and paint brushes and we're not really
painting anything specific. It's more like art therapy and we
(15:34):
just feel the brush and wherever our hand takes the brush,
we just let it go. And it's been kind of
fun and therapeutic. So I would recommend that if you
are looking for a hobby to add into your life,
maybe join me and Gracie and start painting. And if
you paint anything, tag me on Instagram. I would love
to see it at Radio Amy. All right, that's a
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wrap on today's episode. But before we go, I just
want to show out out to my girl Annie f Downs.
Congratulations on her new book that's out today February second.
It's called That Sounds Fun and I just love Any
f Downs. She's amazing. She's been on my podcast, I've
been on hers, so I want to make sure that
you'll know about her book if you want to check
it out. Then. Also, we have our four Things Gratitude
(16:19):
challenge that's coming up. For the month of March, so
you have all of February to start practicing your four
things and then it March will go hard and try
to do it every day for like thirty days straight.
If you want to get our four Things Gratitude Journal
to participate, you can just go to radio Amy dot
com and feel good about that purchase knowing that it
supports education through Project Meta Share in Haiti. But also
(16:41):
you do not need our journal to participate. You can
use any journal that you already have, no purchase necessary,
just letting you know that ours exists. Some people may
not even know we have our own four Things Gratitude Journal,
but we do under shop a splaw and you can
find links to that at radio amy dot com. And
then Mary put up a cool survey in the shot
Forward Highlights I posted on the shop spa Instagram, but
(17:03):
I think it's down now, but we're doing a four
Things tote survey. So if this is something you want
to participate in, you can have a shot to win
your own customized four Things tote. So if you go
over to at the shot Forward on Instagram and the
highlights page, you can see the influencers survey and if
y'all have somebody that you follow on Instagram that's an
influencer or celebrity or someone with the big type following
(17:27):
that maybe we don't know of, that you think would
love a four Things tote and you know the perfect
four things for them, then you can enter in all
your info and that info in the survey hits and
and that will enter you into winning your very own
customized four Things tote. And you know, we pretty much
rely on Instagram and well, I guess my podcast to
get the word out about ESPOA and our four Things
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items and the organizations that we work with in Haiti.
So we've said time and time again, if you follow
us on shop ESPOI, you know that you are our ambassadors.
And you here on the four Things podcast asked you
are an ambassador as well. So that is what we
rely on to spread the word. Even if you listen
to this podcast, If you post about your four Things
tote or your four Things gratitude journal on Instagram, that's
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how we spread the word. Your friends see it and
then we can repost you and it's super fun. Well,
if an influencer or certain celebrity post something, that's super
cool because then their followers learn about it, and it's
this whole domino effect. So we thought it would be
fun to see who you like to follow and what
four things you could come up with for some of
your favorite influencers. So go to at the shot forward
(18:33):
in the highlights, check out that survey, and then yeah,
you could have a shot at winning your own customized
tote as well. All right, those are the items I
wanted to discuss before I said my official goodbye. But
I hope you'll have a great rest of your day
and I'll see you again on Thursday. Fight
Happy Tuesday. Welcome to the Fifth Thing, And this is
the bonus episode to the Four Things podcast where I
go over emails that you have sent in which I
want to say it's a big deal that you email,
because I know that for me, it would be weird
for me to just reach out an email someone that
I listened to on the radio, or if I listened
to their podcasts, Like I think of the big step
that that is that's not lost on me at all.
(00:30):
And I use the word weird, I should probably go back.
That's my feeling. I don't think it's weird that you
email me, but you might think it's weird, because that's
how I feel if I were to reach out to
somebody that I listened to. But it's not weird. We
love receiving emails because otherwise what we're just talking into
a microphone and nobody's listening. When we hear from you,
whether it's over email or on Instagram, we know that
(00:52):
you're there. Which on Instagram, I'm at Radio Amy. And
my quote that I'm gonna share with you in a minute,
I got because someone that follows me on Instagram agged
me in a really cool quote that I want to
share with you all because we always start Tuesday episodes
off with the quote. But I will let you know
what we're gonna go over in today's episode. Some of
the emails that y'all sent in have to do with
being self aware when we use things to avoid something
(01:15):
and like getting to the root of the avoidance. Like
I had a listener email in about how they are
using Netflix to binge Gray's Anatomy to avoid something else. Well,
let's get to the root of why we're doing that.
I've got tips for speaking publicly. I'm also going to
talk about my laser hair removal experience, and I'll share
the backstory about the time that I painted a tailor
swift portrait and then I gave it to her, which
(01:39):
was a little awkward but also awesome. Again, thank you
so much for your emails. You can send me a
note for things with Amy Brown at gmail dot com.
And now let's get to that quote that Nikki tagged
me in on Instagram. The quote is from Sharon Draper.
Perfect happiness is a beautiful senset, the giggle of a
(01:59):
grand child, the first snowfall. It's the little things that
make happy moments, not the grand events. Joy comes in SIPs,
not gulps. And it's really the last sentence of that
whole quote that I just love so much. Joy comes
in SIPs, not gulps. All right, let's get to the
first email, which is from Megan. Hey, Amy, my church
(02:21):
sermon today ended with two questions, One how did your
heart change? And two? What are you aware of now
that you weren't aware of before? And thinking about these
two questions, I realized that I've lost my connection with
the church and I so easily turn on Netflix and
binge watch Grey's Anatomy instead of reading or listening to
(02:41):
the Bible or praying any helped out suggestions. I'm all ears.
You talk about how you are a work in progress,
and I was hoping you could share a little bit
about what you are already doing to get to where
you are. Thank you for your help and guidance, Megan.
All right, Megan, thank you so much for this email.
And you're right, I am definitely a work in progress.
But I think I can help you out with this
(03:03):
because I too have been trying to get to the
root of some of my behaviors, and so that's why
I know my advice to you will be to get
to the root of why you're avoiding your time with God.
And now for somebody else listening, maybe you're not avoiding
that in particular. You might be avoiding a relationship with
your significant other, with a connection with a friend, a relative,
(03:28):
or maybe it's a hobby or some project that you
need to do or would like to get done. I'm
not talking about just procrastination. I'm talking about literally putting
in effort to numb out with something else so that
you do not do something that is going to be
good for you. And I do think that this happens
a lot with people and things that they love, like
(03:50):
people or hobbies or projects, work, things like whatever. It is, like,
what are you using to avoid something that you know
will be good for you to get done? And so
that's what we need to do, make and we got
to get to the root of the avoidance. And I
think that some people may not use Netflix to them out.
They might use drinking or drugs or even shopping, and
(04:10):
all of these things are socially acceptable. I mean, I guess,
well maybe minus the drugs part. But I think the
important thing to recognize here, Megan, is that you're aware
of this they ask you the question at church, you
thought about it, you reflected, and then you realized, oh,
I am doing this behavior to avoid my relationship with God.
So I just encourage you, don't beat yourself up over it,
(04:34):
and take note of the moment that you begin. The
avoidant activity megan for you, it's Netflix for somebody else listening,
and might be the shopping or the drinking. Make note,
I'm starting to do my avoidant activity. Why am I
doing this? What happened right before? Did something trigger it?
How does this activity make me feel? And then you
can begin to ask yourself some questions, like what am
(04:55):
I afraid of? Because I really do feel like fear
is involved at all times. Well, I mean, I guess
I can't say that at all times, and I'm not
an expert, but for me, fear pops up a lot,
and I usually am avoiding something because I'm afraid. So
what am I afraid of? A specific outcome? Am I
afraid of letting someone down? Do I feel like I'm
not enough? You know? What? Do I truly believe about myself?
(05:18):
Then I can start taking some notes. How do I
view myself? Do I feel valued? Do I feel loved?
I mean, at the end of the day, we all
just want to feel valued and loved. So Megan, I'm
kind of rambling here. I hope this makes sense. So
getting to the root cause of your avoidance will ultimately
bring you freedom and the focus that you are looking for.
And I know that it is easier for me to
(05:40):
say that than for you to put all this into
action and do it. But Megan, it sounds like you
are up before the challenge, so good luck with all
of that. Email number two is from Christine. Hey, Amy,
I'm a new listener to your podcast and I'm hooked.
I'm in my mid thirties and used to be more
confident in public speaking, especially in work meetings, virtue or
in person, but the past few years has definitely been
(06:03):
a little different. I suffer from anxiety, so at times
it's not always easy for me to articulate clearly. Any
advice on how you practice articulating in the radio industry,
hope to brush up my skills and regain my confidence
while working remotely. Thank you in advance, your new friend, Christine. Okay,
So Christine, what y'all don't know, because I have an
awesome editor Houston, is that when I was trying to
(06:27):
say the sentence. Any advice on how you practice or
practice articulating in the radio industry, Um, I think I
had to say that like five times because I can't speak.
I don't even know how I get paid to talk,
So I'm probably the wrong person asked when it comes
to articulating. But I do have tips for public speaking
because I do do that a lot. Now, I will
(06:49):
say I get my radio job is public speaking, but
for me, it's very different to be giving a talk
or presentation or hosting something in front of a group
of people. Is very different than sitting on the Bobby
Bones Show around the table with some friends talking about things,
or talking to you. Here on the podcast, I feel
like I'm just being myself, talking, sometimes rambling, sometimes too much,
(07:09):
which people make that clear when they rate and review
my podcast that I need to work on my rambling
and I am working on that. Which side note, if
you have not rated and reviewed the podcast, I would
love it if you took time to go do that.
That would be super special. If you have something super
negative to say, you could probably just email it to
me in a nice way constructive criticism. I'm all here
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for that. I want to learn and grow. But anyway
back to me answering this question, I do have tips
for public speaking. So first thing is, if you're nervous, Christine,
I would say, that's totally normal, and that's actually good
because it means that you care about what you're gonna do.
And then you got to practice and prepare. I didn't
practice and prepare enough before I would do some stage
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things and I learned like, oh, I really gotta take notes,
go over this. Believe in myself. I mean that's the
biggest thing actually in general, is just believing that you're
going to do great and you're gonna go out there
and you're gonna kill it. Then you have to know
your audience. Make sure you know who you're speaking to,
what's the vibe, so that you can cater to them,
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Like maybe do you want to tell a morning like
one of my morning cornyes from the Bobby Bones Show,
like a dad joke, or do you want to do
some other kind of ice breaker or would that be
totally inappropriate because your bosses wouldn't like that. I don't know,
but I do recommend you make an outline. I personally
don't like a script because I like to have the
bullet points of what I want to touch on, and
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then I can just organically see where I go. Especially
if I have other people involved, they might change the
conversation and then I'm not stuck to the script and
I get lost everywhere. So definitely make an outline, and
then yeah, get your power pose. Stand in front of
a mirror before you go out there. If you need
a certain outfit that makes you feel great. Favorite lipstick
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or do your hair one way, or your makeup. For
some people that might not be their thing, especially if
it's on zoom. I don't know. You might not even
and be getting ready, but maybe you do get ready
just because it will make you feel confident. I would
go back to that. I think it's Dion Sanders quote.
If like you look good, you feel good, you feel good,
you play good. If you play good, to pay good.
So make sure you look good, you feel good. And
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I like doing a power pose in the mirror and
putting my hands on my hips and looking in the
mirror and believing in myself me like you're awesome, You're
gonna do this, And then I'll go out there and
I'll open strong, and then I'll do everything in the
middle and then I'll close strong. But that's my biggest
thing is you've got to believe in yourself and that
you can do it. Don't let the nerves rule you. Again.
I think it's good that the nerves are there, but
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use those nerves for good. Turn it into positive energy
by being like, yes, of course I'm nervous. This is
important to me, and that's why I'm going to go
out there. I'm gonna do the best job and they're
gonna love it. So that is my advice for public speaking.
Just be yourself too. Emailt number three is from Jin. Hey, Amy,
(10:03):
I know you've had laser hair removal from Ideal Image,
and I'm thinking about doing it as well, but I
want to know if it's legit, is it worth it
any side effects? I tend to have sensitive skin as well,
so I'm wondering what your experience was like and if
you would do anything different if you went back and
did it again. PS. Thank you for your Outweigh podcast.
I have a fifteen year old daughter who is battling
and eating disorder and I'm trying to help her through that. Well. Jin,
(10:26):
thank you so much for this note, and I'm so
sorry that you're going through that with your daughter. I
hurt for her. I hurt for you because I know
that you hurt for her. I was probably about fifteen
years old when my eating disorder started, so I know
that that is a tricky age. But if you could
be there for her as best as you can, that
would be my advice for you. And don't give up,
and don't stop trying to get all the resources and tools.
(10:49):
I mean outweighs just one thing that could maybe be
there for you, but there's probably, I know, not even probably.
I know there's a lot of other resources out there
for you and for her, So I hope you all
are able to tap into those and she's able to
find freedom from her eating disorder, whatever it is soon.
Now to your ideal image laser hair removal question. Yes,
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I'm a big fan, and I'm not just saying that
because I've been endorsing with them since two thousand and six.
This is not a commercial here by any means, not
getting paid to say this. But I first started out
with them, yeah, in two thousand and six, and got
my under arms done, and then a few years later
I got my bikini area done, and then several years later,
and I'm not even quite sure what in the world
took me so long. I finally got my legs done,
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hands down best decision. Like, I love it, But I
love also too that they can really help boost the
confidence for women. I mean, whether you're going to Ideal
Image or some other laser hair removal place. There are
some women or even men that have some embarrassing areas
where they can't put on a swimsuit because of razor
burn or this or that, or they have hair on
their face that they are embarrassed that they have to
(11:55):
shave or pluck. I mean, I have hairs that I
have to pluck off my face, which if you're listening
right now and you're a young listener and you're like,
oh what, just wait, the hairs will come. They will
pop up, and you're gonna be like, okay. Amy warned
me about this, but some of my friends even, like
I have a friend that was just telling me the
other day that she got it done on her face
because she had a lot of facial hair and it
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was something she was always self conscious about. So laser
hair removal for her was definitely a game changer. I
don't know about other places, but I know with Ideal
Image they offer a complimentary consultation. So that's my recommendation
before you do anything, is to have them look at
your skin type, look at your problem areas, and then
they can figure out what is going to be best
for you. Let me personally, I'm a happy customer. I
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have smooth skin. I mean you have to go back
for a certain amount of treatments, and everybody's different. I
had some friends that had to go back for a
different number of treatments that I didn't. My skin reacted
faster that I don't know, so it's hard to say
what's going to be the case. But you do have
to go back multiple times. But they give you a
whole package and then you go and you fulfill those
treatments in the package that you were given. That should
(13:02):
work for you. So that is my advice. Yes, it's
legit to me, it's worth it. I did not have
any side effects, but I want you to go in
and have them assess your skin and then you can
figure it out and go from there. All right. Fourth
email is from Sierra hey Amy. On the Bobby Bones Show,
you mentioned taking art classes to make a painting for
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Taylor Swift. I love Taylor Swift. I have gone through
great links to meet her. I would love to hear
the story of you making a painting for her, and
if anything came of it, take care of your friend Sierra. Uh. Yeah.
Siah definitely painted a portrait of Taylor Swift and then
I gave the portrait to her backstage at the frank
Erwin Center in Austin, Texas. When I went to a
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concert with my bff from high school, Andrea, we got
tickets from the Bobby Bone show and I was so pumped.
I knew I was going to be meeting her. I
felt like all my dreams were coming true, and I
knew I needed to give her something special. And I
had been wanting to take art classes anyways. Oh, I
decided to sign up for private lessons and when I
walk in, the art lady was like, Okay, so what
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do you want to paint? And I was like Taylor Swift.
And I think she was a little thrown off by
that because I was twenty nine years old or something,
but it was amazing and I will never forget the
moment I gave her the painting. She looked at me
and she said, you were so talented, and I really
felt like she meant it. It definitely kind of looked
(14:27):
like her. Not totally because I'm not the best artist
in the world, but it was awesome and I wish
I had video of that moment, but I don't because
when you go to a meet and greet, they make
you put your phones away and then you get your
picture with them, but they take it with their camera
and then they print it out just for efficiency. That way,
people aren't just taking pictures with their phone and holding
things up. So that is my memory of me painting
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a portrait of Taylor Swift and giving it to her.
It's definitely super cool, and I'm sure it ended up
in some donation or trash pile later that night, although
for like a full year or more, I was convinced
that she loved it so much she had it hanging
up in her bus because again, I was so talented.
But I mean, now that I know more about the
business and how many things that she probably receives from people,
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I mean, I'm sure one of her record reps just
like took it, and yeah, I got rid of it somehow,
but I will say I have picked up the paint
brush lately. If you haven't listened to the podcast, you
may not know that I have a new hobby and
that is painting. My friend Gracie comes over. We got
easels and canvases and paint brushes and we're not really
painting anything specific. It's more like art therapy and we
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just feel the brush and wherever our hand takes the brush,
we just let it go. And it's been kind of
fun and therapeutic. So I would recommend that if you
are looking for a hobby to add into your life,
maybe join me and Gracie and start painting. And if
you paint anything, tag me on Instagram. I would love
to see it at Radio Amy. All right, that's a
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wrap on today's episode. But before we go, I just
want to show out out to my girl Annie f Downs.
Congratulations on her new book that's out today February second.
It's called That Sounds Fun and I just love Any
f Downs. She's amazing. She's been on my podcast, I've
been on hers, so I want to make sure that
you'll know about her book if you want to check
it out. Then. Also, we have our four Things Gratitude
(16:19):
challenge that's coming up. For the month of March, so
you have all of February to start practicing your four
things and then it March will go hard and try
to do it every day for like thirty days straight.
If you want to get our four Things Gratitude Journal
to participate, you can just go to radio Amy dot
com and feel good about that purchase knowing that it
supports education through Project Meta Share in Haiti. But also
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you do not need our journal to participate. You can
use any journal that you already have, no purchase necessary,
just letting you know that ours exists. Some people may
not even know we have our own four Things Gratitude Journal,
but we do under shop a splaw and you can
find links to that at radio amy dot com. And
then Mary put up a cool survey in the shot
Forward Highlights I posted on the shop spa Instagram, but
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I think it's down now, but we're doing a four
Things tote survey. So if this is something you want
to participate in, you can have a shot to win
your own customized four Things tote. So if you go
over to at the shot Forward on Instagram and the
highlights page, you can see the influencers survey and if
y'all have somebody that you follow on Instagram that's an
influencer or celebrity or someone with the big type following
(17:27):
that maybe we don't know of, that you think would
love a four Things tote and you know the perfect
four things for them, then you can enter in all
your info and that info in the survey hits and
and that will enter you into winning your very own
customized four Things tote. And you know, we pretty much
rely on Instagram and well, I guess my podcast to
get the word out about ESPOA and our four Things
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items and the organizations that we work with in Haiti.
So we've said time and time again, if you follow
us on shop ESPOI, you know that you are our ambassadors.
And you here on the four Things podcast asked you
are an ambassador as well. So that is what we
rely on to spread the word. Even if you listen
to this podcast, If you post about your four Things
tote or your four Things gratitude journal on Instagram, that's
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how we spread the word. Your friends see it and
then we can repost you and it's super fun. Well,
if an influencer or certain celebrity post something, that's super
cool because then their followers learn about it, and it's
this whole domino effect. So we thought it would be
fun to see who you like to follow and what
four things you could come up with for some of
your favorite influencers. So go to at the shot forward
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in the highlights, check out that survey, and then yeah,
you could have a shot at winning your own customized
tote as well. All right, those are the items I
wanted to discuss before I said my official goodbye. But
I hope you'll have a great rest of your day
and I'll see you again on Thursday. Fight
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