February 25, 2021 • 51 mins
Caitlin Parker {@caitcparker} is on for ALL the things!!!! FIRST THING: Caitlin shared with us 4 things she’s learned from therapy: 1) what is true? 2) recognizing triggers. 3) accepting compliments. 4) stop saying sorry. SECOND THING: In honor of our upcoming Gratitude Challenge, Caitlin shared 4 things she’s thankful for right now. THIRD THING: Need a new TV show to watch? Caitlin shares 4 of her favorite shows! FOURTH THING: Caitlin has a cooking show on YouTube called ‘Unfancy Cooking’ so she went over 4 of her top recipes that people make the most!
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Okay, little food for you sol life. Oh it's pretty,
but it's pretty beautiful than that. A little moth tight
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kick with four Brown Happy Thursday. Welcome to the four
Things podcast. Now, if you listen to the Bobby Bones Show,
then you are likely familiar with Bobby's fiance Caitlin Parker.
And I don't know for some reason, if you listen
to my podcast and you don't know if the Bobby
Bones Show, that might be kind of weird. I feel
like that's how most people find me, but maybe not.
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Either way, you should try to listen to the Bobby
Bones Show. I feel like we have a lot of
fun over there. So you may not know of Caitlin
if you don't listen to the show, but she is
here with me for all four Things, and she's gonna
break everything down with me, and I'm gonna do something fun.
We're gonna actually do like four things inside each thing,
so we're gonna cover unless like sixteen things. Just to
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give y'all a little menu of what's to come. We're
going to talk about four things that Caitlin has learned
from therapy. We're also going to get into four things
that Caitlin is thankful for big on gratitude here while
in therapy to I feel like every episode I work
in some form of therapy and gratitude. Then for the
second thing, we're gonna get into TV shows. I want
to hear from Caitlin four that she has to recommend
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for us, because I feel like, no matter where you
are with your TV watching or maybe even book reading,
like once you finish something, you're always looking for something
else and someone else might have something to share with
you that you're like, oh, I haven't ever watched that yet.
And then for the fourth thing, I want to get
into four of Caitlin's favorite recipes and some that y'all
maybe you want to try out. And we also have
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a place where you can actually go learn how to
make the recipes because Caitlin has a cooking show on
YouTube called un Fancy Cooking. That is what you have
in door. And we're gonna go ahead and get right
into the therapy talk. So Caitlin share with us for
things that you have learned in therapy. Okay, Thing one.
The first thing is what is true about yourself? So
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sounds cheesy, but Amy and I made these bracelets. I
don't know a couple of months ago, probably I was
a mile ago, yeah, And they said not true. And
they were basically just to combat our spiraling thoughts about ourselves,
whether it be something we think on our own about
ourselves or something we have seen someone comment about ourselves
or heard someone say about ourselves. So we made these
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bracelets they say not true, and they were basically just
a quick reminder to look down at your wrist and
remind yourself to shut off that thought process, stop thinking
whatever negative thing you're thinking about yourself, it is not true. However,
it's talking about this with my therapist and she told
me that the step further would be to say what
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is true, because a lot of times it's just not
enough to shut down that spiraling thought because it's still
kind of living in the back of your head. You
then need to assign what is true in relation to
whatever topic you're thinking about. So, I mean, for me,
this has been helpful in this new life with Bobby
where I'm more public. I used to have a private
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Instagram and only my like mom would comment on it
and it's all very positive. And then I made this
transition into dating Bobby and then becoming a little bit
more public, just to listeners and people who follow him,
and I would get a lot of positive things, but
I would also get some negative things, and I would
dwell on those negative things, and they were just almost heartbreaking.
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People online can be brutal, brutal, and I had a
really hard time digesting all of that and knowing how
to deal with it. So my therapists would say, when
you read something bad about yourself, you need to not
only say that's not true, but say, Okay, this person
is calling me a when I get a lot is
gold digger, So this person is calling you a gold digger.
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That is not true. Don't stop there. What is true
about yourself? So when I would think about this particular
comment that seems to keep coming to surface, I would say, Okay,
I'm not a gold digger. What is true about myself?
I am a hard worker, I have graduated college, I
got a master's degree, I have a good job, I'm smart,
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And that would help me get myself out of that
hole of spiraling. It wouldn't just end with no, I'm
not a gold digger. So that's step one within step two.
And I have had similar advice in therapy as well,
and I think it's important for people to realize too.
Maybe it's not a comment on Instagram that's the lie.
Maybe it's coming from a friend or a family member,
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or a significant other, a boyfriend, a girl for whatever. Somewhere,
you might be hearing things about yourself that you know
are not true and you need to combat them, and
this is this is a way to do it. I
mean my whole life I had labels put on me,
just like we all do. But they were for friends
and family, so I just I took them to be true.
These people know me really well. They're saying this positive
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thing about me, or they're saying this, you know, kind
of negative thing about me, and that that just must
be what is true because they know me so well.
But it's not always the case. Regardless of if what
they're saying is true or not true. You need to
think about that for yourself. Yeah, I think that's wise advice.
So it's another thing that you have learned from therapy.
Another thing I've learned from therapy is how to take
a compliment. So that's hard for a lot of people.
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So what does that looks like for you? I Mean,
I'm terrible at taking compliments, like I could spend hours
shopping for the perfect outfit, wear it for you, like
style it great, and like want so badly for you
to notice. But if you told me you look so
cute tonight, I'd be like, no, this is so disgusting,
Like I found the bottom my closet. I cannot take
a compliment. I don't know what it is, but I
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think a lot of people are like that. So my
therapist showed me this TikTok that was the squirrel, and
she was saying, the next time a guy calls me beautiful,
I'm going to say yes, and just stopped. There is
the end of the TikTok's end of the TikTok. Yeah, yeah,
I am, which I have learned. That's like probably a
bit aggressive because I told Amy and a few other
friends about this TikTok and they're like, maybe you start
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with thank you, right, because well, because I think Caitlin,
maybe your therapist was being really forward with it so
that you would get the message. But then it was
that your birthday party, we were all complimenting you and
you just looked at us and you're like yeah, yeah,
And so we were confused, and then you told us
about the TikTok, and we thought okay, but surely your
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therapist meant like yeah. Internally, you're supposed to own it,
like yeah, yeah, I look good, but outwardly you make
sure to tell the person thank you, and you're like, no,
I'm just supposed to say yeah. No, it just ends
with yeah yeah. So I circled back with her and
she did, in fact say say thank you. That's important.
But I think you should take that yeah energy into
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your thank you. Yes, you know, because sometimes we say
thank you almost apologetically, like oh my god, thank like oh,
don't say anything nice about me, but instead say thank you, yeah,
thank you. I love that one. And I think it's
for the person that is giving the compliment too. It's
also like you're respecting the fact that they're taking the
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time to do that, and you're giving them the credit
that they're being genuine. When we kind of blow it off,
it's like you're also sending a message to them like
I don't really care about what you're telling me right now,
I just showing you how I feel on the inside,
and so that I'm having an awkward time with your compliment.
But like if if we're taking the time to compliment someone.
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Wouldn't it be awesome just to hear like thank you,
yes back, And so we need to make sure we
deliver that. I think that that's healthy advice. Give us
another therapy tool. Okay, third bit of therapy advice is
recognizing your triggers for whatever you're struggling with. For me,
in the past, it's been around disordered eating. So would
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say my third piece of advice would be to delete
my Fitness Pal off your phone if you have that
app on your phone and you have disordered habits in
any way, shape or form, which I had something printed
out here, not even for us talking about it, but
I thought maybe I would get into it somehow. Dietician
Diana had put on Instagram how to know when to
stop using my Fitness Pal and tell me if you
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resonate with any of these. And I'm actually glad you
brought this up because this week is need a week,
which is National Eating Disorder Awareness and I did a
whole thing on it on my Tuesday fifth thing. I
didn't know for sure if it would come up with
us today, but I am glad it is because we
need to bring as much awareness to this as possible
and people may not ever know that you struggled with
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something like that, and I want you to share more
of that in a second. But for my fitness Pal,
you track perfect days, but anytime you go over your
allotted calories or eat something extra, you just totally go overboard,
like last supper mentality because you already blew it and
you know you definitely can't track that day. Yep, chick.
She also put you feel out of control around food
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unless it's calculated. Oh yeah. She also put it spits
out calories for you because you want to lose weight
quickly and you're starving every day. You eat mostly things
with a label, protein bars, packaged foods instead of mixed
meals like soups or cast roles, because you feel that
our knowing the calorie amounts listed right, and it is
far too difficult to enter in like one tablespoon of
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olive oil and a dash of salt, Like I became obsessed.
It's exhausting. Yes. Another thing she listed was you judge
yourself by the success you see of trying to eat
under your goal, especially when they tell you you would
weigh blank amount in four weeks every day if you
ate clean light today thank God. I never found that
function of the app. Yeah, I don't think I used
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that one either, But those are things that she listed
as red flax, which I'm sure you had your own
red flags. I feel like a lot of these were
on there, and so why did therapy bring you that realization?
Like you don't neat that app? Well, I think the
biggest thing was kind of getting back to figuring out
where my worth came from. The most important thing to
me is my faith. And I mean I remember us
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having this conversation before. It might not have been directly
related to food, but my faith is very important to me.
If God says I'm loved and I am approved of, like,
why am I finding worth in anything else, let alone
like what my body looks like. So I think the
biggest thing for me was to just like go back
to the basics of where is my worth coming from?
Number one, my worth is coming from my relationship with
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God and who he says I am. Number Two, my
worth is coming from the friend I am, the fiance,
I am the person I am, versus anything about my
physical appearance. So that's been very, very important for my
transition out of any sort of disordered eating Yeah, it's
like valuing the other parts of yourself over how you look.
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And I feel like I can speak to this, you
can say if you agree, Caitlin, But like, we spend
so much time either calculating what we're going to eat,
planning what we're going to eat, working out, doing all
these crazy things to where our world is so small,
and then we're not any of those good things. We're
not a good friend, we're not a good fiance, wife, sister,
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or whatever else because we're so consumed with that one thing.
And eating disorders, by the way, I'll just clarify, are
always based on looks. I think that's a misconception. Now
for some people, it absolutely is. You dig a little deeper,
there might be some other things going on, But everybody's
journey is different. I just want to say that, especially
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since it's need a week that sometimes people are like, oh,
why are you just so obsessed with being skinny? Why
would you do that to your body? Why would you
starve yourself for throw up or over exercise? Well, it's
it's not just about the looks. Again, sometimes it can be,
but eating disorders are wrapped up in all different kinds
of packages and there's a lot of layers underneath that,
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and there can be a lot of depression and and
or any other thing that someone might be going through
that is manifesting itself as an eating disorder. So if
you're struggling, I just want to make sure that you know,
even whatever the root cause of it is, just that
you're not alone. No, you're not alone. In fact, I
can think of a lot of people who are likely
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in the middle of some sort of disordered eating pattern
and just don't even recognize it. I mean I didn't
recognize it for the longest time because you lived in
l A and that was normal. There a trigger around
every corner. I love l A, don't get me wrong.
I love the beach, love the weather. It's great city.
But the culture there is one that promotes unhealthy habits
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and eating and exercising. So it was almost like when
I moved to Nashville, I kind of snapped out of
that because I wasn't being triggered every day. You're able
to just breathe, you realize, okay, that is that's a trigger,
And not that you can't go back to l A
or be friends with people there, but you might have
to set boundaries might have to not go to dinner
with them because the dinner experience looks a lot different,
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a lot different. I know one time I was out
to dinner with you and Kelly Velvet's Edge, Kelly, and
somehow it came up that you would play compare yes.
But it was when someone would order the same food
as me, because that was like an exact measure of
how much I was eating, Like they had the same
thing on their plate, So did I If I ate
more than them? It was obvious, right because we had
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the same exact thing. And then you would be like, oh,
I can't take another bite because they didn't take another
Like we're going to bite off. You know, it's ironic
talking about this and then circling back to the first
thing you learn in therapy of what is true is
because I know that some people smith lies and the
rude comments that they put up, or you need to
eat a burger, or you're built like a twelve year
old boy, or like what we're why why does someone
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feel the need to tell you that I don't know,
I don't know, and it's just I mean, I think
I wrote back to someone, and I've learned writing back
is just not very helpful sometimes. But someone didn't send
me a DM very very hurtful and hateful about my body.
But I just wrote back like, honestly, you just have
no idea what people are going through. I hope that
you choose your words more kindly, right, especially when it's
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something about someone's physical appearance. I mean, that can just
be so triggering. Last week on the podcast, I did
a whole thing of eleven ways to compliment someone without
even talking about their looks, because I think that's where
we need to shift the compliments too. And I would
just like to tell you what is true is you
don't need to eat a burger because I've seen you
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eat them. You're good, thank you, and you don't look
like a twelve year old boy. I appreciate your a
radiant woman. And so now for your fourth and final
thing that you've learned from therapy, stop saying sorry for
things you should not be sorry for. I love that
I apologize often for crying, which we should never really
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apologize for our emotions. No, I apologize for just like
standing in my own space. If someone needs to get
by me, I'm like, oh sorry that I was already
standing here when you decided to blow by me. Yeah,
why would we apologize? I don't know. But this isn't
actually from therapy. Was from the one random girl that
I met a couple of years ago my sister in
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law's dad's seventieth birthday party. She was a photographer and
she was waiting to take a photo of me and
my brother and my sister in law I think, and
I had been in the bathroom and I noticed they
were waiting on me, so I ran out and I
was like, I'm so sorry I'm late, And she said,
don't ever say sorry for taking your own time. Instead
switch it and thank the person for being patient. So
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from then on, instead of saying sorry, I'm running late,
would I do? Often? I say thank you for being
patient with me. And I think you can flip that
and apply it to multiple situations, like thank you for
allowing me the space to cry in front of you. Yeah, no,
I like that, thank you for allowing me to do
what I needed to do for myself, Like we apologize
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sometimes for taking care of our own business, like just
because we're busy. Sometimes we apologize for that too, And
I don't think we that's necessary now, Yeah, if we've
heard somebody's feelings, or we're unreasonably late. Have you done
the whole Thank you for being patient with me to Bobby,
because he's such a stickler on time, I don't even
acknowledge it. He just knows. He knows I'm going to
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be running away. And it's a non issue in our
house anymore because this, Hey, this is who I am,
and this is who you are. We accept each other's flaws.
That's a good one, but really this isn't for like,
if you're like leaving a friend hanging and being late,
but like you were in the bathroom, you shouldn't have
to apologize to the photographer that you weren't there. I
like that she gave you that tip. Your sister in
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law's husband's brother's cousin's maleman right shout out. No. I
think it's also just such a female thing to almost
live apologetically, and I hate that. So I just think
that's that's one small tip to kind of change the
culture in that and to start just if you need
to sometimes acknowledge that maybe what you're doing is odd
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or isn't the most polite, like being late or crying
in the middle of a supermarket or whatever it is,
but you can acknowledge it without being growing. So a
plate against the floor and it's smashing everywhere, maybe you apologize,
thank you for allowing me to smash that plate in you.
I remember I used to think my sister didn't have
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certain emotions because she was just very poised and composed
and angelic. Like she has opened up a lot as
we have aged, but growing up, she did not show
a lot of that. And I think it started after
my dad left because she thought if she would just
be perfect, that he would come home. And later in
life she was able to tell me that. But I
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always saw her as perfect, and so I always felt
like everything I was doing was wrong. So I was like,
oh my gosh, I'm sorry because I wasn't doing it
like Christie. So I was speechless when her husband told
me at one point, I don't know if this if
they had like three kids at the time or four,
so you can acting a mom for kids and a wife,
and he was an entrepreneur, like there was stress. But
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her husband told me that one day they were having
breakfast and she took the bowl of cereal and she
threw it across the kitchen. And I could not believe it.
I just couldn't. But also I was very proud of her.
But also I still haven't witnessed her do something like that,
so it's still hard for me to believe. But now
that I've gotten to know her a little better and
she's opened up more and is a little bit not
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trying to be perfect all the time, I can believe
that she would do that. But I wonder if she
was like, oh man, that felt good. I just needed
to do that, or she was like, I'm sorry I
threw that. I don't really know why I told that
story here. It seemed like it was fitting, but may
fitting growing up as a little sister to someone that
was always so perfect to me made me apologize more,
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I think was my point. But then also I learned
that my sister is not perfect. That's an interesting story
because just you saying she needed to act perfect and
be perfect, I feel like that. I struggle with this.
I don't know if you do, but it goes back
to labels that people put on us, where that label
might not be you, but you feel like, oh, all
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these people think I'm this way, I have to be
this way from now on, and you almost put yourself
in this box that's just not really authentically you. I
struggle with that a lot, even with people that see
me through Bobby, Like, I think a lot of people
have come up with assumptions about me, good good assumptions.
At times, I feel like that is putting me in
this box of Okay, now I have to be cute
outfit girl, and I know you don't, like I'm really
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not cute outfit girl. Well, I don't want to put
this label on you, but I like your outfits a lot,
but I don't want to give you no pressure, no
app say that thank you. But you know, I mean
sometimes something just really isn't you and people think it
is and it can be a very positive thing, and
you kind of feel like you have to morph yourself
into that, like you need to form a like to
know what account and I will never it seems like
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too much work. Well, but does circle back around to
what is true? So well in the therapy discussion there
and coming up next we'll get into four things that
you're thankful for. Love it so, Caitlyin. I always have
guests share four things they are thankful for because I
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think it's a good way for people to get to
know whoever's on on a different level you can be
thankful for things that are big or small or whatever,
and then also encourages other people to practice gratitude that
day when they're listening, and maybe it's one thing or
two things. No pressure, but if you can do four,
try to write down four things you're thankful for. And
then coming up in March, we have our Gratitude Challenge,
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which is exciting. We participated. Okay, I'm pumped for mailing
your journal m but it's just it's no pressure to
do it every single day of the month, but just
as many days as possible in the month of March,
just to get yourself in a habit and set you
up for the year. Last year we did it in March,
and we had no idea what was in store for
March when we decided on March, and then you know
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what happened. The tornado came through Nashville, which was crazy.
Then coronavirus hit, the world was shutting down, and then
we were all supposed to still continue through trying to
write down four things every day we were thankful for,
which was hard at times. But then also I was
super thankful for it because it came at the right time.
So we're gonna be doing it again this March, so
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you have a little bit of time to get ready.
You can do it in any journal that you have,
or we have a four Things gratitude journal. Zero pressure
to get that one, but it is fun. And I'll
just read a quote real quick before you share your
four things, Caitlin that we put in our journal, and
it's from Robert Brawl and it said, enjoy the little
things for one day you may look back and realize
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they were big things. I love that we sprinkled quotes
throughout and that is definitely one of my favorite ones.
So tell us four things, Caitlin Parker that you are
thankful for. Okay, real quick, I just want to say
the first week in March, because we're speaking about March.
I've lived here for a year. Oh isn't that wild?
That is crazy? It does not feel like a year.
I remember I barely knew you. And March eighteenth was
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my birthday and everyone was in quarantine, not seeing anyone.
So then Bobby was like, well, we just come over,
we'll celebrate. And Mary had sent me these huge balloons
and so I think I just brought those over because
I had nowhere else to take them, and they were
so pretty. I wanted other people to see him. And
then you were there. It's like one of the first
times we ever hung out. And it was me and
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Bobby celebrating my thirty ninth birthday because my family was
out of town. It was so fun. Yeah, it was
you made me cupcakes. I did, and that's when I
was like, Okay, this girl's the keeper. These cupcakes are amazing.
Thank you. Okay, so what four things you got? All right,
My first thing I'm thankful for I'm going to have
to say my fiancee, of course, very thankful for him.
We're actually talking like this is going to get a
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little bit sappy, but we were talking last night and
he was saying, but I totally a percent feel the
same way that it just feels like we were each
other's missing puzzle piece. So he you know, we just
like had all these things in our lives and like
not all of them really made sense, like all our
weird quirks or whatever, and then we met each other
and it was like it's just fit. So just like
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I really wish I had someone to do TikTok video exactly.
So I'm very thankful for him. Of course, got to
be my number one most thankful thing. My number two
is going to be new friends in a strange city.
So I've made it sounds like a song. Maybe it is,
because really hard to make friends as an adult in general,
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Like a lot of adults are at different places in
their lives, got their own things going on. You're not
like in school, so you're just around a bunch of people.
So one hard to make friends as an adult to
pandemic times, hard to make friends not doing a lot o. Yeah,
you moved to a new city during a very odd time,
but that did allow you and Bobby to get closer faster.
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It did, It definitely did. But I would just say
I'm super thankful to have a support system in Nashville
because that was very scary for me to not have
one for a bit. My third thing I'm thankful for
is I think you say, Larnige lip mask from Sephora.
Been using it for a few years and it is
life saving. I get dry lips in the winter. I
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think we all do just dry skin in general. And
I put this lip mask on me every night and
the next morning, I feel like I am super hydrated.
Oh I just googled it to make sure it was
the same one, And yeah, this is one that Mary
is obsessed with, and I think we've talked about it
on our gift guide before. You have that's it. It's
l A in E I g E. Yeah, that's not
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only something that you're thankful for, but it's also a
shopping suggestion. Shopping suggestion, I would say, go get it,
especially for these cold, dry winter months when it happens
to match. This is the same color as our gratitude journal.
So basically you can go to four Things dot com
get a journal, then go to Sephoria dot com and
get the lnige, and then take a picture of you
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wearing the Lannese wild journaling perfect okay, and fourth Things FaceTime.
I don't live in the same city as my family
and also just my friends that are still in Oklahoma
and l A. I don't know how I would maintain
those relationships as well and as healthy as I do
if I didn't have FaceTime. You know, I love. FaceTime
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is a good one. I am facetiming with my dad
right now because I can't see him. Somehow he landed
himself back in the hospital. He's fine, but then straight
from the hospital they wanted to send him to this
rehab place where you can't go visit. And I was
at the hospital within the other day before he was
about to be transferred, and I'm like, Dad, since I
can't visit you, I'm going to FaceTime you. He has
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an iPhone and he looked at me. He goes, I
don't have FaceTime, And I said, Dad, you have an iPhone.
You FaceTime with me a lot before you have FaceTime.
He's like, really, I just don't think I don't think so.
So I had to show him exactly how to use
the FaceTime and we've been using it. That's something that
I am thankful for. Technology has just been amazing, especially
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during these crazy times, or if you even think for
like our military people being able to FaceTime depending on
where their person is deployed and what the rules are,
just being able to see their face. Like my father
in law talks about how when he was at Vietnam,
he would send a message recorded on a tape and
then mail it and they would have to put it
in a cassette player to hear his message. So yes,
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FaceTime is totally awesome. I couldn't imagine right now trying
to teach my dad how to put it into report
it that makes you think about speaking of my dad
and cassette tapes. When I was like a senior in
high school, I got busted first beating. Okay, got busted.
I thought, you're safe drugs and no drugs. But I
(26:37):
got pulled over for first speeding. How do you want
to call it? I got fooled over and I got
a ticket, and I did not want to tell him.
I just couldn't face him and say, Dad, I got
a ticket. So I recorded him a message on cassette tape. Yes,
And so I did it in our my friends and
(26:59):
I my sister. I don't know why, but her college
roommates they all talked in this Russian accent and they
were like, hello, sister. Like they all didn't so me
and my friends we looked up to them. So we
all talked like this. And so not only not only
did I make my dad a cassette tape with my confession,
but I couldn't even be myself. I was Russian. So
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I was like, hello, father, I got busted for what
do you call it having a lead foote and I
remained in my Russian character, like I never really said
I was speeding. I just said I had to let
you know, let foot So then I mailed it to
him and he got it. And I didn't live with
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my dad at the time. If you're wondering, why didn't
just like walk over and give it to him? But
in that crazy that's crazy. Was he upset? No, of
course he Well, so here's the thing, the way I
delivered it, there's no way he could be upset. If
you get a cassette tape from your child that has
a confession and they're speaking in this weird accent, you
can't help but laugh. So there's a tip kids, that's right, Steed.
(28:05):
More adults, if you have to confess anything to like somebody,
just bust of. Yeah. I guess these days you could
do a voice memo. You don't have to put it
on a cassette tape. But back then that was what
I had. This was like innovative or ahead of my time, sir.
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All right, coming up next, we will get into TV shows, Okay, Lynn.
At this point here in the third thing, we have
covered eight things basically in the other two things, and
(28:48):
now we're going to tackle four more. We're just bringing
all the things today, and I want to hear what
TV shows you have to recommend for everyone. Okay, well
first it is actually a recommendation from you to me.
Yellow Stone, Yeah, and this one I am obsessed with.
But I'm so glad that you got on the train
because I had been telling Bobby about it forever and
(29:08):
he didn't want anything to do with it. But of
course you come home and you're like, hey, we should
watch Yellowstone. He's like, okay, yes, okay, and whatever you
would like, right, It's an amazing show. It's like it
has everything you want. I don't know, do you like?
I guess I didn't laugh in it. No, there's not
really humor, but it does fill that cowboy boy but
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it's not a Western. The reason why I stayed away
from it, I just didn't know much about it, but
I would hear people talking about it, and I thought
it was this old school Western and I wanted nothing
to do with that. But I do love a good
like cartel show. Like I'm really into Mexican drug lord
stories obviously, as we all are, and this to me
(29:50):
was kind of similar but it's in America, you know,
yellow Stone Area, like this family, this dynasty, the gritty. Yeah,
this family, and then there's all this drama and it's
more over land not drugs, you know what I mean.
So I'm into it. Yeah, it has like the family aspect,
but the danger aspect. And then also just Kevin Costner.
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It's like on a horse, on a horse, it's like
an olive cowboy. I don't know, it just it does
something to you. Yeah, I know it's a good one.
Then guys like it too, it's not they totally love
Kevin Costner on a horse. Okay, what's another show? Ted
Lasso my favorite, just so good, so uplifting. I watched
(30:33):
that at the end of it was December, and it
was my favorite show of same. He's funny, but the
show I wouldn't really describe as funny. It's just like
really feel good. I cried. I cried, Yes, you like
learn things from him. He's funny, but he's deep and
full of wisdom in a funny way. It's a good one.
But what's another show? Like I would say Real Housewives
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of Salt Lake City. My therapist told to me last
year one of my MANI that I was working with
said they were basically assigning me a self care weekend,
and one of the female therapist is like, Amy, I
don't know about for you, but for me, and I
could never picture her doing this, but she's like, I
just love a good episode of Real Housewives of Salt
(31:18):
Lake City, so maybe you should do that for yourself
this weekend. And that weekend I started it, and it's
so good. It's I mean, mindlessly good premium content right,
Like honestly, I'm I am a Housewives connoisseur, and I
think it's my my favorite franchise. It's just so good.
And I love like the subculture within the bigger culture
(31:39):
of housewives, like they're more men, and that's just a
very it's just a very unique culture. Is they're more
they're more men two point I was what they say. Okay, yeah,
that's right. So it's just very interesting. I actually met
a man that was a cameraman for Real Housewives in
Salt Lake City. He said they were lovely. Oh really, See,
(32:02):
my favorite franchise is Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. Ye,
great one. And then I love New York as well.
I actually d M Sonya Morrigan the other day. Let
me see if she replied. I doubt it. I wanted
to send her and I'm fine, it's fine, everything is
fine shirt because I was like, she would be so
cute in it, and she didn't reply. She didn't seen it. Yeah,
(32:24):
like every some time. Yeah, it doesn't say seen. You know,
when you DM someone you can tell if they've seen it,
which then a trick too if they haven't seen it,
and then you want to take it back or you
want to re send it but not look like a stalker.
You can unsend messages and d M s oh, which
reminds me of another thing earlier. In the first thing,
we were talking about things you learned at therapy. I
wanted you to share that tip of how you learned.
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On Instagram, you can put keywords in that filter them
out so that you don't even see comments about yourself
or messages to you that include those keywords. So how
do we do that? So this was actually a tip
from a friend of ours. I had my my comments private,
only people I followed could comment, but then I decided
to open them up, and in order to save me
(33:07):
from some heartache by negative comments, I entered in keywords
that whenever someone would use the specific word I've entered in,
it would block the comment. So sometimes people say, as
we mentioned gold digger, I entered in gold digger as
one of my keywords, So if anyone comments gold digger
on my post, it does not show up. Okay. So
a way to block words is to go to your settings,
(33:30):
then go to your privacy, then go to your comments,
and then under your comments section, it will have a
section that says keywords. Can type whatever words you want
in there. Didn't you put burger in there? Oh? I
put cheeseburger. You should see it's actually humorous. Bobby and
I had to have a conversation. It was like a
little awkward because we're like, what other words could we
(33:50):
put in that people say about you that or mean, yeah, no,
I hate that you have to do that, but that
is helpful. Especially Kelsey Ballerini was on the Bobby Bones show.
They talking. She just disabled comments in general, so she
doesn't have any but for her mental health, that's what
she had to do because it was either that or
she just wasn't even to go on Instagram anymore. And
she loves going on Instagram and connecting with her people.
(34:12):
So she wanted to continue doing that, but in order
to do so, she had to cut off the comments.
Another trigger that I would find with the going back
to the therapy stuff again, but with the eating disorder triggers.
Something that I do is well, one, I unfollowed any
account that would not be healthy for me and my
mind on this journey through getting over disordered eating. But
(34:34):
another thing is I go to my search page often
and I just like, look on my search page, but
I was getting a lot of like bikini models and
diet culture accounts and things like that. So one thing
that you can do that has really helped me is
if you see a photo that you don't want to
see any longer, you can click on that photo. Then
you click the three dots up in the upper right
(34:56):
corner and you can hit not interested. And then once
you hit not interested, Instagram will recognize that and we'll
stop showing you things that are similar. That's a great tip.
I had no idea that existed, because when I opened
up my search for I get tons of that and
before and afters, and I don't get any of that
any longer. I mean, it's a bit of a journey
(35:16):
to get Instagram to kind of recognize your patterns and
your wants. But I would say do that because it
has been so helpful for me. We got one more
show for you to share with us, to hit the
fourth show, to hit the twelfth thing that we've gotten to. Okay,
so my fourth show would be an Idiot Abroad, which
I've never seen that. What is that? Oh my gosh.
So it's it's an older show, but you can find
(35:37):
I'm honestly, I don't know what I watch things on anymore.
It's just like I search it and then some streaming
service that we have pops up with the show. But
it's a show about well, it's Ricky Gervais and Steve
Merchant who created The Office, and they have this friend
that worked with him named Carl, and he's just such
an interesting person. He's like kind of cynical but very funny,
(35:58):
and they send him out abroad on these journeys that
like Carl would never want to do. Carl just wants
to sit at home on his couch and watch TV
and eat, which sounds lovely, but they sent him to
like go to the Great Wall of China and do
all these interesting things along the way and the whole
time he's like, this is so stupid. I hate this.
They make him stay and like the most obscure places.
(36:21):
But it is super funny and if you haven't seen it,
check it out. Okay, I will be adding that to
my list. I'm currently revisiting Parenthood because I started that
a long time ago, but I only got through the
first few seasons and then a couple of different people
had posted about it and I thought, maybe I need
to go back and watch it, and Verry's obsessed with it.
(36:42):
My sister and her husband were obsessed with it. Why
I quite watching it, I don't even remember. And I
know that I probably need to go back and watch
it from episode one, season one, but I'm just picking
back up where I think I left off, and then
I'll worry about if I missed anything later. But so good. Oh,
I averaged to cry an episode, for sure. I mean,
(37:04):
I don't know that I want to cry that much,
but it's just so dang relatable and they did a
great job with that show. But I don't want it
to ever end. That's how I felt about Friday Night
Lights too, and I've been thinking about that show a
lot lately because of Texas Forever. I mean, all that's
been going on in Texas is just so awful. And
I wore my Texas Forever shut this weekend, and anytime
(37:25):
I'm like walking by a mirror, I'm like, clear, it's
full hard lose Texas Forever. And you know, just if
you happen to be in Austin or in Texas listening,
or even I know, Oklahoma, Louisiana, there's a lot of
people that are hurting right now. I was born and
raised in Austin, though, so that's where I'm hearing a
(37:45):
lot of the stories from because I still have family
there and friends and it's just devastating and our hearts
are with you, thinking about you NonStop, praying for you.
The Shop Forward does have Texas Forever stuff that's available
that's going to hell organizations that are making a difference there.
So I just encourage you to find a way to help.
No matter what. I saw that the Andy Rotic Foundation
(38:08):
was helping out big time. There's so many different resources.
Austin Pets Alive needs help. I know that for sure.
There's mutual aid funds that are taking venmos from people
like even if you can just give a dollar if
you think of all the people that could give a dollar,
that would really add up. Or if you have no
money to give, just prayers are free. Posting stuff online
(38:31):
is free to spread the word. That's just probably actually
more valuable than anything is letting people know, because even
some people in Austin are posting things that they're like, well,
I just don't even think people are grasping how bad
it is here right now because I don't know that
it's getting that type of coverage. And speaking of what
went on in Texas, I want to give a shout
(38:52):
out quickly to Jannah who's at a t X by
girl on Instagram, because she was on the National Weather
Channel wearing a Pimp and Joy hoodie, which I think
is super cool. So many listeners tagged us and sent
us that picture. At least I got some emails and
notes because it's really cool. I think one person even said,
you know you've made it when you're on the Weather Channel,
(39:14):
so that was a really big deal. And I think
she even said in the clip to the Weather Channel
that she was just out trying to help out and
try to pimp some joy. So also to in regards
to Pimp and Joy this Friday at eight a m. Central,
that's Friday, February. We're gonna be dropping some new Pimp
and Joy sweatpants that we've never known before and some
(39:34):
tide A Chord pullovers which will be super cute, and
all of our Pimp and Joy stuff is going to
be going to COVID relief. So just heads up, we're
gonna be doing that on the Bobby Bone Show. That
I would throw that in here really quickly because I
know a lot of you love to support Pimp and Joy.
If you don't know what it is, it's just a
movement about choosing joy for yourself spreading joy to others.
It started when my mom was battling cancer back in
(39:56):
two thousand fourteen time frame, and it's her legacy. We
no longer have my mom with us, but we have
her message of joy, and Pimp and Joy has been
able to donate over two million dollars since two thousand
and fourteen, so it's a really amazing cause to get behind.
And yeah, we'll be dropping a new line on Friday,
eight am Central Standard time. That'll be on the Bobby
(40:17):
Bun Show. All right, we'll do the last thing next, Caitlin,
and we're going to talk about your favorite recipes. All right,
for the final and fourth thing, let's talk about four
of your favorite recipes that people can actually find online
(40:38):
if they go to YouTube and they check out Unfancy
Cooking with Caitlin Parker. Okay, So the first one, the
one I see the most people making, would have to
be the drop biscuits. They're in a cast iron skillet.
They're really easy. I think there are five ingredients, and
we we'll think that you've spent all day making them
because they just kind of have that smell and flavor.
(41:00):
But I would say definitely checked that one out. Are
they good for breakfast and dinner? Slap some gravy on
at breakfast and serve them with chicken at dinner? Awesome? Okay,
another one, okay, The other one people are really liking
is the one I did with Eddie, and it was
fajitas or Eddie says, faha. So Eddie went on the
Bobby Bones Show. Anytime something comes up where he's like tacos, fajitas, guacamole,
(41:26):
he talks normal all the way right up until that tortea. Like,
so anyway, we're gonna make it's like, okay, little breathy
and accents really thick. But I did catch him saying
it normal in the video and I called him out
just like um, But anyway, people are really liking that.
And in that episode, y'all also made organic margarita's or
(41:48):
something yes, which were delicious. I'd never made a margarita before.
I'd order them, but I'd never made one, and it
was just so fresh and felt just like so lightened
some Marie. I loved it, so definitely checked that one out.
My third one, I would say, I made candied pecans,
which if you guys, I mean, I don't know if
(42:10):
they have these like metropolitan malls, but at my small
town mall. And when I say my small town mall,
I met the mall that was thirty minutes away because
we didn't have them. All around Christmas, they would make
these candied pecans and like it would just smell up
the whole mall. It was so delicious. So I tried
to kind of experiment with that and mimic that recipe
(42:31):
and I think I finally nailed it. So check those
out there. Great snack or to like put on top
of your cereal or something like that, or even crush
up and put on top of a salad. Oh so good.
I hadn't thought of that. I might do that. You're welcome, Yeah,
thankome to fancy cooking with a thank you. And then
my fourth I would say, oh, engagement chicken. So I'm
(42:52):
it's a whole roasted chicken, which can sound intimidating, but
it's really not. It's really easy and I can find
like five different recipes, but the original recipe was called
engagement chicken. And I will say I did feed it
to Bobby when I was just simply a girlfriend, and
after he ate it, I did become a fiance. How
(43:12):
did it take? Not that long? I know? Really, I
feel like you filmed that video and then by the
time it released you were engaged. Because when when we
were filming it, I told him and he knew he
was going to propose. You knew he was going to
propose that, but I had no idea. Yeah, I went
with him to pick out your reading. I know, I
love that story. I was like, I'm not going to
do this chicken because it's so embarrassing, and I'm going
(43:35):
to release the video and everyone's going to be like,
look didn't work well, blah blah, and he said, just
released that, I promise it'll be fine. And so I
should have figured out when he said that that I
was going to be engaged soon, but I didn't. So anyway, yes,
I once it released, I was engaged. So it works, ladies,
but a lot I see a lot of people posting
that one online because it's and so even if you're
(43:56):
already married, just makes may Yeah, maybe he'll renew his else.
I don't know. But it's really good and really easy
and it can feed a whole family, so that's important. Awesome,
And so people just go to YouTube and type in
on fancy cooking. I think, so yeah, I think just
google un fancy cooking and and then make sure after
you watch you subscribe rate in review. So my son, Stevenson,
(44:19):
he was watching like it was so cute actually, because
he likes to watch certain YouTube videos. And I was
taking a video of him one day. He wanted to
show off that he made his bed and cleaned his
room and like send the video to I think maybe
my husband, his dad, because he wasn't here and he
wanted to show him, and so I was recording him
and at the end of the video, and he was like,
(44:40):
be sure to like subscribe in review. Thanks, So he
just mimicked what he heard on other videos. I would
do that at the end of yours. I mean, not
at the end of everyone, but they do. The guy
that films him is always like, Okay, you should probably
say something about linking and subscribing, but I always feel
so awkward, so I do too. But I mean, I
(45:03):
think we got to do it, so we'll just say
it here because I feel I don't do it well
here on the podcast. But then I heard Oprah do
it on like Super Soul Conversation, Like, Oprah, what do
you need reviews for? You know, people are listening. It's fine,
you're good, but it does, you know, add value when
people take the time to rate and review I And
I always like to say, if I ever do bring
(45:24):
it up, which is rare, that if you have something
really negative to say, you can email me. And I
want to take that constructive criticism. You can say it nicely,
but you don't have to put it on a public
forum for everybody to read. But I mean, if you
want to be honest, go ahead. I guess give the
one star and leave the rude comments. But if you
really want to contribute, then send me the email and
(45:47):
don't leave that negativity up there, because if that's the case,
then just don't listen. Yeah, and don't come back. But
if you want to come back and you like me,
send me an email. And if you do get that review,
you're going to say, what is true about you? Oh yeah,
that's right, You're an amazing podcaster. You're just awesome. This
is not the compliment. Oh sorry, yeah, thank you? Right,
(46:11):
So I have taken people haven't been terribly rude. Sometimes
they are, but sometimes people have left constructive criticism where
they have said that I ramble too long, and then
that kind of is true. Though if I circled back
to what is true, then I do ramble. But I
(46:32):
took that and thought, okay, how can I make this
better for people that don't actually know my personality and
know me to where if you listen to me, you
won't feel like you've lost part of my personality, which
is to ramble. But if you're new to me, you
also want to continue listening because you might be like,
what's up with this girl? So I'm I've worked really
hard on trying to find that balance, not when I'm
sitting here chatting, like doing four things with a friend,
(46:54):
but in my other interviews or in my fifth thing
where I answer and go over emails that have been
sent in. I really tried to button that up and
be as prepared as possible so that I'm not on
this tangent. And sometimes I will, like something will spark
me and I'll go kind of like I am right now.
People might consider this rambling, but I just want you
all to know, like I'm I'm working on it, and
(47:16):
I'm sure similar to you, like if you receive feedback
on your cooking show, you would take it to heart
and be like, okay, yeah, how can I make this
a more pleasurable experience for viewers that are coming to watch?
Like somebody told me they hate it when I say
hey guys, so I stopped saying that. Well, but I
don't know that you need to listen to that. Say
hey everybody. So I say hey you, I say, and
(47:39):
this might be annoying to people, but on Tuesdays, I
say happy Tuesday, and then I get into it, and
then on Thursdays I say Happy Thursday, which I don't
know if I said that today because I had you
sitting here, but normally I do now Happy Thursday. But
then also podcasts are weird because they might not be
listening on the day that it comes out. Happy Day
whatever it is. Okay, well, Caitlin, thank you so much
(47:59):
for coming on the podcast. Thank you for having me.
Thank you for doing like sixteen things plus some. Yeah
that was like maybe a Caitlin overdose, but no, we
covered a lot. Yeah, I felt like it was helpful.
I enjoyed it. And then I actually was about to
ask you a very important question. I would be honored
if you would grace me with your elite and premium
(48:21):
talent on unfancy and make your Alabama Mac and cheese yo.
It's called Alabama Mac and cheese yo. Sorry, I don't
know how it could be such an idiot. I have
no idea why. My sister and I named it. That
might been in my family for a long time, but
it never really had a name, just mac and cheese.
So we decided, since it originated from our Alabama side
(48:42):
of the family, that we would call it Alabama Mac
and cheese yo. Back in like two thousand and I
don't know, eleven or two thousand twelve when we had
a cooking blog for about five posts. I love that,
and then we quit. I would love if you would
join me the problem. Yeah, I mean I have I
had a cooking blog at one time. I know, so
I know that I'm speaking expert expert one plum tree
(49:04):
dot com. I have no idea if it's still is
up and running, Guys, check it out one plum tree
dot com. Caitlin, you can find her on YouTube or
on Instagram. She's at Caitlin Parker, which at kate Cy Parker.
Just kidding you give your correct instagram. My correct dunt's
instagram is at kate Cy Parker. Yes, I never knew
that spell that c A I T. C. Parker learn
(49:30):
something new every day. I guess I had already followed you, Scotcha. Okay,
and now I'm at your account and your last post
is actually me and you and Abby and Bella bridesmaids,
which your wedding is coming up, in coming up in
a handful of months. It's a lot. I'm excited about
our bridesmaid's dresses though they're stunning, are kidding me? A
(49:50):
couple of models, but their hearts are even better, which
is what we value here for things we look radiant
and they look radiant. All right, people have listen into
us long enough, We'll go ahead and wrap this thing.
Thank you so much again. The Gratitude Challenge is starting
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(50:13):
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He's got some good stuff. Okay, alright, y'all are amazing,
I mean you are amazing. Thank you for listening.
Okay, little food for you sol life. Oh it's pretty,
but it's pretty beautiful than that. A little moth tight
(00:29):
kick with four Brown Happy Thursday. Welcome to the four
Things podcast. Now, if you listen to the Bobby Bones Show,
then you are likely familiar with Bobby's fiance Caitlin Parker.
And I don't know for some reason, if you listen
to my podcast and you don't know if the Bobby
Bones Show, that might be kind of weird. I feel
like that's how most people find me, but maybe not.
(00:50):
Either way, you should try to listen to the Bobby
Bones Show. I feel like we have a lot of
fun over there. So you may not know of Caitlin
if you don't listen to the show, but she is
here with me for all four Things, and she's gonna
break everything down with me, and I'm gonna do something fun.
We're gonna actually do like four things inside each thing,
so we're gonna cover unless like sixteen things. Just to
(01:11):
give y'all a little menu of what's to come. We're
going to talk about four things that Caitlin has learned
from therapy. We're also going to get into four things
that Caitlin is thankful for big on gratitude here while
in therapy to I feel like every episode I work
in some form of therapy and gratitude. Then for the
second thing, we're gonna get into TV shows. I want
to hear from Caitlin four that she has to recommend
(01:31):
for us, because I feel like, no matter where you
are with your TV watching or maybe even book reading,
like once you finish something, you're always looking for something
else and someone else might have something to share with
you that you're like, oh, I haven't ever watched that yet.
And then for the fourth thing, I want to get
into four of Caitlin's favorite recipes and some that y'all
maybe you want to try out. And we also have
(01:51):
a place where you can actually go learn how to
make the recipes because Caitlin has a cooking show on
YouTube called un Fancy Cooking. That is what you have
in door. And we're gonna go ahead and get right
into the therapy talk. So Caitlin share with us for
things that you have learned in therapy. Okay, Thing one.
The first thing is what is true about yourself? So
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sounds cheesy, but Amy and I made these bracelets. I
don't know a couple of months ago, probably I was
a mile ago, yeah, And they said not true. And
they were basically just to combat our spiraling thoughts about ourselves,
whether it be something we think on our own about
ourselves or something we have seen someone comment about ourselves
or heard someone say about ourselves. So we made these
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bracelets they say not true, and they were basically just
a quick reminder to look down at your wrist and
remind yourself to shut off that thought process, stop thinking
whatever negative thing you're thinking about yourself, it is not true. However,
it's talking about this with my therapist and she told
me that the step further would be to say what
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is true, because a lot of times it's just not
enough to shut down that spiraling thought because it's still
kind of living in the back of your head. You
then need to assign what is true in relation to
whatever topic you're thinking about. So, I mean, for me,
this has been helpful in this new life with Bobby
where I'm more public. I used to have a private
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Instagram and only my like mom would comment on it
and it's all very positive. And then I made this
transition into dating Bobby and then becoming a little bit
more public, just to listeners and people who follow him,
and I would get a lot of positive things, but
I would also get some negative things, and I would
dwell on those negative things, and they were just almost heartbreaking.
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People online can be brutal, brutal, and I had a
really hard time digesting all of that and knowing how
to deal with it. So my therapists would say, when
you read something bad about yourself, you need to not
only say that's not true, but say, Okay, this person
is calling me a when I get a lot is
gold digger, So this person is calling you a gold digger.
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That is not true. Don't stop there. What is true
about yourself? So when I would think about this particular
comment that seems to keep coming to surface, I would say, Okay,
I'm not a gold digger. What is true about myself?
I am a hard worker, I have graduated college, I
got a master's degree, I have a good job, I'm smart,
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And that would help me get myself out of that
hole of spiraling. It wouldn't just end with no, I'm
not a gold digger. So that's step one within step two.
And I have had similar advice in therapy as well,
and I think it's important for people to realize too.
Maybe it's not a comment on Instagram that's the lie.
Maybe it's coming from a friend or a family member,
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or a significant other, a boyfriend, a girl for whatever. Somewhere,
you might be hearing things about yourself that you know
are not true and you need to combat them, and
this is this is a way to do it. I
mean my whole life I had labels put on me,
just like we all do. But they were for friends
and family, so I just I took them to be true.
These people know me really well. They're saying this positive
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thing about me, or they're saying this, you know, kind
of negative thing about me, and that that just must
be what is true because they know me so well.
But it's not always the case. Regardless of if what
they're saying is true or not true. You need to
think about that for yourself. Yeah, I think that's wise advice.
So it's another thing that you have learned from therapy.
Another thing I've learned from therapy is how to take
a compliment. So that's hard for a lot of people.
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So what does that looks like for you? I Mean,
I'm terrible at taking compliments, like I could spend hours
shopping for the perfect outfit, wear it for you, like
style it great, and like want so badly for you
to notice. But if you told me you look so
cute tonight, I'd be like, no, this is so disgusting,
Like I found the bottom my closet. I cannot take
a compliment. I don't know what it is, but I
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think a lot of people are like that. So my
therapist showed me this TikTok that was the squirrel, and
she was saying, the next time a guy calls me beautiful,
I'm going to say yes, and just stopped. There is
the end of the TikTok's end of the TikTok. Yeah, yeah,
I am, which I have learned. That's like probably a
bit aggressive because I told Amy and a few other
friends about this TikTok and they're like, maybe you start
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with thank you, right, because well, because I think Caitlin,
maybe your therapist was being really forward with it so
that you would get the message. But then it was
that your birthday party, we were all complimenting you and
you just looked at us and you're like yeah, yeah,
And so we were confused, and then you told us
about the TikTok, and we thought okay, but surely your
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therapist meant like yeah. Internally, you're supposed to own it,
like yeah, yeah, I look good, but outwardly you make
sure to tell the person thank you, and you're like, no,
I'm just supposed to say yeah. No, it just ends
with yeah yeah. So I circled back with her and
she did, in fact say say thank you. That's important.
But I think you should take that yeah energy into
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your thank you. Yes, you know, because sometimes we say
thank you almost apologetically, like oh my god, thank like oh,
don't say anything nice about me, but instead say thank you, yeah,
thank you. I love that one. And I think it's
for the person that is giving the compliment too. It's
also like you're respecting the fact that they're taking the
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time to do that, and you're giving them the credit
that they're being genuine. When we kind of blow it off,
it's like you're also sending a message to them like
I don't really care about what you're telling me right now,
I just showing you how I feel on the inside,
and so that I'm having an awkward time with your compliment.
But like if if we're taking the time to compliment someone.
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Wouldn't it be awesome just to hear like thank you,
yes back, And so we need to make sure we
deliver that. I think that that's healthy advice. Give us
another therapy tool. Okay, third bit of therapy advice is
recognizing your triggers for whatever you're struggling with. For me,
in the past, it's been around disordered eating. So would
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say my third piece of advice would be to delete
my Fitness Pal off your phone if you have that
app on your phone and you have disordered habits in
any way, shape or form, which I had something printed
out here, not even for us talking about it, but
I thought maybe I would get into it somehow. Dietician
Diana had put on Instagram how to know when to
stop using my Fitness Pal and tell me if you
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resonate with any of these. And I'm actually glad you
brought this up because this week is need a week,
which is National Eating Disorder Awareness and I did a
whole thing on it on my Tuesday fifth thing. I
didn't know for sure if it would come up with
us today, but I am glad it is because we
need to bring as much awareness to this as possible
and people may not ever know that you struggled with
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something like that, and I want you to share more
of that in a second. But for my fitness Pal,
you track perfect days, but anytime you go over your
allotted calories or eat something extra, you just totally go overboard,
like last supper mentality because you already blew it and
you know you definitely can't track that day. Yep, chick.
She also put you feel out of control around food
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unless it's calculated. Oh yeah. She also put it spits
out calories for you because you want to lose weight
quickly and you're starving every day. You eat mostly things
with a label, protein bars, packaged foods instead of mixed
meals like soups or cast roles, because you feel that
our knowing the calorie amounts listed right, and it is
far too difficult to enter in like one tablespoon of
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olive oil and a dash of salt, Like I became obsessed.
It's exhausting. Yes. Another thing she listed was you judge
yourself by the success you see of trying to eat
under your goal, especially when they tell you you would
weigh blank amount in four weeks every day if you
ate clean light today thank God. I never found that
function of the app. Yeah, I don't think I used
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that one either, But those are things that she listed
as red flax, which I'm sure you had your own
red flags. I feel like a lot of these were
on there, and so why did therapy bring you that realization?
Like you don't neat that app? Well, I think the
biggest thing was kind of getting back to figuring out
where my worth came from. The most important thing to
me is my faith. And I mean I remember us
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having this conversation before. It might not have been directly
related to food, but my faith is very important to me.
If God says I'm loved and I am approved of, like,
why am I finding worth in anything else, let alone
like what my body looks like. So I think the
biggest thing for me was to just like go back
to the basics of where is my worth coming from?
Number one, my worth is coming from my relationship with
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God and who he says I am. Number Two, my
worth is coming from the friend I am, the fiance,
I am the person I am, versus anything about my
physical appearance. So that's been very, very important for my
transition out of any sort of disordered eating Yeah, it's
like valuing the other parts of yourself over how you look.
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And I feel like I can speak to this, you
can say if you agree, Caitlin, But like, we spend
so much time either calculating what we're going to eat,
planning what we're going to eat, working out, doing all
these crazy things to where our world is so small,
and then we're not any of those good things. We're
not a good friend, we're not a good fiance, wife, sister,
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or whatever else because we're so consumed with that one thing.
And eating disorders, by the way, I'll just clarify, are
always based on looks. I think that's a misconception. Now
for some people, it absolutely is. You dig a little deeper,
there might be some other things going on, But everybody's
journey is different. I just want to say that, especially
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since it's need a week that sometimes people are like, oh,
why are you just so obsessed with being skinny? Why
would you do that to your body? Why would you
starve yourself for throw up or over exercise? Well, it's
it's not just about the looks. Again, sometimes it can be,
but eating disorders are wrapped up in all different kinds
of packages and there's a lot of layers underneath that,
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and there can be a lot of depression and and
or any other thing that someone might be going through
that is manifesting itself as an eating disorder. So if
you're struggling, I just want to make sure that you know,
even whatever the root cause of it is, just that
you're not alone. No, you're not alone. In fact, I
can think of a lot of people who are likely
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in the middle of some sort of disordered eating pattern
and just don't even recognize it. I mean I didn't
recognize it for the longest time because you lived in
l A and that was normal. There a trigger around
every corner. I love l A, don't get me wrong.
I love the beach, love the weather. It's great city.
But the culture there is one that promotes unhealthy habits
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and eating and exercising. So it was almost like when
I moved to Nashville, I kind of snapped out of
that because I wasn't being triggered every day. You're able
to just breathe, you realize, okay, that is that's a trigger,
And not that you can't go back to l A
or be friends with people there, but you might have
to set boundaries might have to not go to dinner
with them because the dinner experience looks a lot different,
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a lot different. I know one time I was out
to dinner with you and Kelly Velvet's Edge, Kelly, and
somehow it came up that you would play compare yes.
But it was when someone would order the same food
as me, because that was like an exact measure of
how much I was eating, Like they had the same
thing on their plate, So did I If I ate
more than them? It was obvious, right because we had
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the same exact thing. And then you would be like, oh,
I can't take another bite because they didn't take another
Like we're going to bite off. You know, it's ironic
talking about this and then circling back to the first
thing you learn in therapy of what is true is
because I know that some people smith lies and the
rude comments that they put up, or you need to
eat a burger, or you're built like a twelve year
old boy, or like what we're why why does someone
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feel the need to tell you that I don't know,
I don't know, and it's just I mean, I think
I wrote back to someone, and I've learned writing back
is just not very helpful sometimes. But someone didn't send
me a DM very very hurtful and hateful about my body.
But I just wrote back like, honestly, you just have
no idea what people are going through. I hope that
you choose your words more kindly, right, especially when it's
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something about someone's physical appearance. I mean, that can just
be so triggering. Last week on the podcast, I did
a whole thing of eleven ways to compliment someone without
even talking about their looks, because I think that's where
we need to shift the compliments too. And I would
just like to tell you what is true is you
don't need to eat a burger because I've seen you
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eat them. You're good, thank you, and you don't look
like a twelve year old boy. I appreciate your a
radiant woman. And so now for your fourth and final
thing that you've learned from therapy, stop saying sorry for
things you should not be sorry for. I love that
I apologize often for crying, which we should never really
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apologize for our emotions. No, I apologize for just like
standing in my own space. If someone needs to get
by me, I'm like, oh sorry that I was already
standing here when you decided to blow by me. Yeah,
why would we apologize? I don't know. But this isn't
actually from therapy. Was from the one random girl that
I met a couple of years ago my sister in
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law's dad's seventieth birthday party. She was a photographer and
she was waiting to take a photo of me and
my brother and my sister in law I think, and
I had been in the bathroom and I noticed they
were waiting on me, so I ran out and I
was like, I'm so sorry I'm late, And she said,
don't ever say sorry for taking your own time. Instead
switch it and thank the person for being patient. So
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from then on, instead of saying sorry, I'm running late,
would I do? Often? I say thank you for being
patient with me. And I think you can flip that
and apply it to multiple situations, like thank you for
allowing me the space to cry in front of you. Yeah, no,
I like that, thank you for allowing me to do
what I needed to do for myself, Like we apologize
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sometimes for taking care of our own business, like just
because we're busy. Sometimes we apologize for that too, And
I don't think we that's necessary now, Yeah, if we've
heard somebody's feelings, or we're unreasonably late. Have you done
the whole Thank you for being patient with me to Bobby,
because he's such a stickler on time, I don't even
acknowledge it. He just knows. He knows I'm going to
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be running away. And it's a non issue in our
house anymore because this, Hey, this is who I am,
and this is who you are. We accept each other's flaws.
That's a good one, but really this isn't for like,
if you're like leaving a friend hanging and being late,
but like you were in the bathroom, you shouldn't have
to apologize to the photographer that you weren't there. I
like that she gave you that tip. Your sister in
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law's husband's brother's cousin's maleman right shout out. No. I
think it's also just such a female thing to almost
live apologetically, and I hate that. So I just think
that's that's one small tip to kind of change the
culture in that and to start just if you need
to sometimes acknowledge that maybe what you're doing is odd
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or isn't the most polite, like being late or crying
in the middle of a supermarket or whatever it is,
but you can acknowledge it without being growing. So a
plate against the floor and it's smashing everywhere, maybe you apologize,
thank you for allowing me to smash that plate in you.
I remember I used to think my sister didn't have
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certain emotions because she was just very poised and composed
and angelic. Like she has opened up a lot as
we have aged, but growing up, she did not show
a lot of that. And I think it started after
my dad left because she thought if she would just
be perfect, that he would come home. And later in
life she was able to tell me that. But I
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always saw her as perfect, and so I always felt
like everything I was doing was wrong. So I was like,
oh my gosh, I'm sorry because I wasn't doing it
like Christie. So I was speechless when her husband told
me at one point, I don't know if this if
they had like three kids at the time or four,
so you can acting a mom for kids and a wife,
and he was an entrepreneur, like there was stress. But
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her husband told me that one day they were having
breakfast and she took the bowl of cereal and she
threw it across the kitchen. And I could not believe it.
I just couldn't. But also I was very proud of her.
But also I still haven't witnessed her do something like that,
so it's still hard for me to believe. But now
that I've gotten to know her a little better and
she's opened up more and is a little bit not
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trying to be perfect all the time, I can believe
that she would do that. But I wonder if she
was like, oh man, that felt good. I just needed
to do that, or she was like, I'm sorry I
threw that. I don't really know why I told that
story here. It seemed like it was fitting, but may
fitting growing up as a little sister to someone that
was always so perfect to me made me apologize more,
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I think was my point. But then also I learned
that my sister is not perfect. That's an interesting story
because just you saying she needed to act perfect and
be perfect, I feel like that. I struggle with this.
I don't know if you do, but it goes back
to labels that people put on us, where that label
might not be you, but you feel like, oh, all
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these people think I'm this way, I have to be
this way from now on, and you almost put yourself
in this box that's just not really authentically you. I
struggle with that a lot, even with people that see
me through Bobby, Like, I think a lot of people
have come up with assumptions about me, good good assumptions.
At times, I feel like that is putting me in
this box of Okay, now I have to be cute
outfit girl, and I know you don't, like I'm really
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not cute outfit girl. Well, I don't want to put
this label on you, but I like your outfits a lot,
but I don't want to give you no pressure, no
app say that thank you. But you know, I mean
sometimes something just really isn't you and people think it
is and it can be a very positive thing, and
you kind of feel like you have to morph yourself
into that, like you need to form a like to
know what account and I will never it seems like
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too much work. Well, but does circle back around to
what is true? So well in the therapy discussion there
and coming up next we'll get into four things that
you're thankful for. Love it so, Caitlyin. I always have
guests share four things they are thankful for because I
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think it's a good way for people to get to
know whoever's on on a different level you can be
thankful for things that are big or small or whatever,
and then also encourages other people to practice gratitude that
day when they're listening, and maybe it's one thing or
two things. No pressure, but if you can do four,
try to write down four things you're thankful for. And
then coming up in March, we have our Gratitude Challenge,
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which is exciting. We participated. Okay, I'm pumped for mailing
your journal m but it's just it's no pressure to
do it every single day of the month, but just
as many days as possible in the month of March,
just to get yourself in a habit and set you
up for the year. Last year we did it in March,
and we had no idea what was in store for
March when we decided on March, and then you know
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what happened. The tornado came through Nashville, which was crazy.
Then coronavirus hit, the world was shutting down, and then
we were all supposed to still continue through trying to
write down four things every day we were thankful for,
which was hard at times. But then also I was
super thankful for it because it came at the right time.
So we're gonna be doing it again this March, so
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you have a little bit of time to get ready.
You can do it in any journal that you have,
or we have a four Things gratitude journal. Zero pressure
to get that one, but it is fun. And I'll
just read a quote real quick before you share your
four things, Caitlin that we put in our journal, and
it's from Robert Brawl and it said, enjoy the little
things for one day you may look back and realize
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they were big things. I love that we sprinkled quotes
throughout and that is definitely one of my favorite ones.
So tell us four things, Caitlin Parker that you are
thankful for. Okay, real quick, I just want to say
the first week in March, because we're speaking about March.
I've lived here for a year. Oh isn't that wild?
That is crazy? It does not feel like a year.
I remember I barely knew you. And March eighteenth was
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my birthday and everyone was in quarantine, not seeing anyone.
So then Bobby was like, well, we just come over,
we'll celebrate. And Mary had sent me these huge balloons
and so I think I just brought those over because
I had nowhere else to take them, and they were
so pretty. I wanted other people to see him. And
then you were there. It's like one of the first
times we ever hung out. And it was me and
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Bobby celebrating my thirty ninth birthday because my family was
out of town. It was so fun. Yeah, it was
you made me cupcakes. I did, and that's when I
was like, Okay, this girl's the keeper. These cupcakes are amazing.
Thank you. Okay, so what four things you got? All right,
My first thing I'm thankful for I'm going to have
to say my fiancee, of course, very thankful for him.
We're actually talking like this is going to get a
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little bit sappy, but we were talking last night and
he was saying, but I totally a percent feel the
same way that it just feels like we were each
other's missing puzzle piece. So he you know, we just
like had all these things in our lives and like
not all of them really made sense, like all our
weird quirks or whatever, and then we met each other
and it was like it's just fit. So just like
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I really wish I had someone to do TikTok video exactly.
So I'm very thankful for him. Of course, got to
be my number one most thankful thing. My number two
is going to be new friends in a strange city.
So I've made it sounds like a song. Maybe it is,
because really hard to make friends as an adult in general,
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Like a lot of adults are at different places in
their lives, got their own things going on. You're not
like in school, so you're just around a bunch of people.
So one hard to make friends as an adult to
pandemic times, hard to make friends not doing a lot o. Yeah,
you moved to a new city during a very odd time,
but that did allow you and Bobby to get closer faster.
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It did, It definitely did. But I would just say
I'm super thankful to have a support system in Nashville
because that was very scary for me to not have
one for a bit. My third thing I'm thankful for
is I think you say, Larnige lip mask from Sephora.
Been using it for a few years and it is
life saving. I get dry lips in the winter. I
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think we all do just dry skin in general. And
I put this lip mask on me every night and
the next morning, I feel like I am super hydrated.
Oh I just googled it to make sure it was
the same one, And yeah, this is one that Mary
is obsessed with, and I think we've talked about it
on our gift guide before. You have that's it. It's
l A in E I g E. Yeah, that's not
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only something that you're thankful for, but it's also a
shopping suggestion. Shopping suggestion, I would say, go get it,
especially for these cold, dry winter months when it happens
to match. This is the same color as our gratitude journal.
So basically you can go to four Things dot com
get a journal, then go to Sephoria dot com and
get the lnige, and then take a picture of you
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wearing the Lannese wild journaling perfect okay, and fourth Things FaceTime.
I don't live in the same city as my family
and also just my friends that are still in Oklahoma
and l A. I don't know how I would maintain
those relationships as well and as healthy as I do
if I didn't have FaceTime. You know, I love. FaceTime
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is a good one. I am facetiming with my dad
right now because I can't see him. Somehow he landed
himself back in the hospital. He's fine, but then straight
from the hospital they wanted to send him to this
rehab place where you can't go visit. And I was
at the hospital within the other day before he was
about to be transferred, and I'm like, Dad, since I
can't visit you, I'm going to FaceTime you. He has
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an iPhone and he looked at me. He goes, I
don't have FaceTime, And I said, Dad, you have an iPhone.
You FaceTime with me a lot before you have FaceTime.
He's like, really, I just don't think I don't think so.
So I had to show him exactly how to use
the FaceTime and we've been using it. That's something that
I am thankful for. Technology has just been amazing, especially
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during these crazy times, or if you even think for
like our military people being able to FaceTime depending on
where their person is deployed and what the rules are,
just being able to see their face. Like my father
in law talks about how when he was at Vietnam,
he would send a message recorded on a tape and
then mail it and they would have to put it
in a cassette player to hear his message. So yes,
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FaceTime is totally awesome. I couldn't imagine right now trying
to teach my dad how to put it into report
it that makes you think about speaking of my dad
and cassette tapes. When I was like a senior in
high school, I got busted first beating. Okay, got busted.
I thought, you're safe drugs and no drugs. But I
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got pulled over for first speeding. How do you want
to call it? I got fooled over and I got
a ticket, and I did not want to tell him.
I just couldn't face him and say, Dad, I got
a ticket. So I recorded him a message on cassette tape. Yes,
And so I did it in our my friends and
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I my sister. I don't know why, but her college
roommates they all talked in this Russian accent and they
were like, hello, sister. Like they all didn't so me
and my friends we looked up to them. So we
all talked like this. And so not only not only
did I make my dad a cassette tape with my confession,
but I couldn't even be myself. I was Russian. So
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I was like, hello, father, I got busted for what
do you call it having a lead foote and I
remained in my Russian character, like I never really said
I was speeding. I just said I had to let
you know, let foot So then I mailed it to
him and he got it. And I didn't live with
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my dad at the time. If you're wondering, why didn't
just like walk over and give it to him? But
in that crazy that's crazy. Was he upset? No, of
course he Well, so here's the thing, the way I
delivered it, there's no way he could be upset. If
you get a cassette tape from your child that has
a confession and they're speaking in this weird accent, you
can't help but laugh. So there's a tip kids, that's right, Steed.
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More adults, if you have to confess anything to like somebody,
just bust of. Yeah. I guess these days you could
do a voice memo. You don't have to put it
on a cassette tape. But back then that was what
I had. This was like innovative or ahead of my time, sir.
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All right, coming up next, we will get into TV shows, Okay, Lynn.
At this point here in the third thing, we have
covered eight things basically in the other two things, and
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now we're going to tackle four more. We're just bringing
all the things today, and I want to hear what
TV shows you have to recommend for everyone. Okay, well
first it is actually a recommendation from you to me.
Yellow Stone, Yeah, and this one I am obsessed with.
But I'm so glad that you got on the train
because I had been telling Bobby about it forever and
(29:08):
he didn't want anything to do with it. But of
course you come home and you're like, hey, we should
watch Yellowstone. He's like, okay, yes, okay, and whatever you
would like, right, It's an amazing show. It's like it
has everything you want. I don't know, do you like?
I guess I didn't laugh in it. No, there's not
really humor, but it does fill that cowboy boy but
(29:29):
it's not a Western. The reason why I stayed away
from it, I just didn't know much about it, but
I would hear people talking about it, and I thought
it was this old school Western and I wanted nothing
to do with that. But I do love a good
like cartel show. Like I'm really into Mexican drug lord
stories obviously, as we all are, and this to me
(29:50):
was kind of similar but it's in America, you know,
yellow Stone Area, like this family, this dynasty, the gritty. Yeah,
this family, and then there's all this drama and it's
more over land not drugs, you know what I mean.
So I'm into it. Yeah, it has like the family aspect,
but the danger aspect. And then also just Kevin Costner.
(30:12):
It's like on a horse, on a horse, it's like
an olive cowboy. I don't know, it just it does
something to you. Yeah, I know it's a good one.
Then guys like it too, it's not they totally love
Kevin Costner on a horse. Okay, what's another show? Ted
Lasso my favorite, just so good, so uplifting. I watched
(30:33):
that at the end of it was December, and it
was my favorite show of same. He's funny, but the
show I wouldn't really describe as funny. It's just like
really feel good. I cried. I cried, Yes, you like
learn things from him. He's funny, but he's deep and
full of wisdom in a funny way. It's a good one.
But what's another show? Like I would say Real Housewives
(30:57):
of Salt Lake City. My therapist told to me last
year one of my MANI that I was working with
said they were basically assigning me a self care weekend,
and one of the female therapist is like, Amy, I
don't know about for you, but for me, and I
could never picture her doing this, but she's like, I
just love a good episode of Real Housewives of Salt
(31:18):
Lake City, so maybe you should do that for yourself
this weekend. And that weekend I started it, and it's
so good. It's I mean, mindlessly good premium content right,
Like honestly, I'm I am a Housewives connoisseur, and I
think it's my my favorite franchise. It's just so good.
And I love like the subculture within the bigger culture
(31:39):
of housewives, like they're more men, and that's just a
very it's just a very unique culture. Is they're more
they're more men two point I was what they say. Okay, yeah,
that's right. So it's just very interesting. I actually met
a man that was a cameraman for Real Housewives in
Salt Lake City. He said they were lovely. Oh really, See,
(32:02):
my favorite franchise is Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. Ye,
great one. And then I love New York as well.
I actually d M Sonya Morrigan the other day. Let
me see if she replied. I doubt it. I wanted
to send her and I'm fine, it's fine, everything is
fine shirt because I was like, she would be so
cute in it, and she didn't reply. She didn't seen it. Yeah,
(32:24):
like every some time. Yeah, it doesn't say seen. You know,
when you DM someone you can tell if they've seen it,
which then a trick too if they haven't seen it,
and then you want to take it back or you
want to re send it but not look like a stalker.
You can unsend messages and d M s oh, which
reminds me of another thing earlier. In the first thing,
we were talking about things you learned at therapy. I
wanted you to share that tip of how you learned.
(32:46):
On Instagram, you can put keywords in that filter them
out so that you don't even see comments about yourself
or messages to you that include those keywords. So how
do we do that? So this was actually a tip
from a friend of ours. I had my my comments private,
only people I followed could comment, but then I decided
to open them up, and in order to save me
(33:07):
from some heartache by negative comments, I entered in keywords
that whenever someone would use the specific word I've entered in,
it would block the comment. So sometimes people say, as
we mentioned gold digger, I entered in gold digger as
one of my keywords, So if anyone comments gold digger
on my post, it does not show up. Okay. So
a way to block words is to go to your settings,
(33:30):
then go to your privacy, then go to your comments,
and then under your comments section, it will have a
section that says keywords. Can type whatever words you want
in there. Didn't you put burger in there? Oh? I
put cheeseburger. You should see it's actually humorous. Bobby and
I had to have a conversation. It was like a
little awkward because we're like, what other words could we
(33:50):
put in that people say about you that or mean, yeah, no,
I hate that you have to do that, but that
is helpful. Especially Kelsey Ballerini was on the Bobby Bones show.
They talking. She just disabled comments in general, so she
doesn't have any but for her mental health, that's what
she had to do because it was either that or
she just wasn't even to go on Instagram anymore. And
she loves going on Instagram and connecting with her people.
(34:12):
So she wanted to continue doing that, but in order
to do so, she had to cut off the comments.
Another trigger that I would find with the going back
to the therapy stuff again, but with the eating disorder triggers.
Something that I do is well, one, I unfollowed any
account that would not be healthy for me and my
mind on this journey through getting over disordered eating. But
(34:34):
another thing is I go to my search page often
and I just like, look on my search page, but
I was getting a lot of like bikini models and
diet culture accounts and things like that. So one thing
that you can do that has really helped me is
if you see a photo that you don't want to
see any longer, you can click on that photo. Then
you click the three dots up in the upper right
(34:56):
corner and you can hit not interested. And then once
you hit not interested, Instagram will recognize that and we'll
stop showing you things that are similar. That's a great tip.
I had no idea that existed, because when I opened
up my search for I get tons of that and
before and afters, and I don't get any of that
any longer. I mean, it's a bit of a journey
(35:16):
to get Instagram to kind of recognize your patterns and
your wants. But I would say do that because it
has been so helpful for me. We got one more
show for you to share with us, to hit the
fourth show, to hit the twelfth thing that we've gotten to. Okay,
so my fourth show would be an Idiot Abroad, which
I've never seen that. What is that? Oh my gosh.
So it's it's an older show, but you can find
(35:37):
I'm honestly, I don't know what I watch things on anymore.
It's just like I search it and then some streaming
service that we have pops up with the show. But
it's a show about well, it's Ricky Gervais and Steve
Merchant who created The Office, and they have this friend
that worked with him named Carl, and he's just such
an interesting person. He's like kind of cynical but very funny,
(35:58):
and they send him out abroad on these journeys that
like Carl would never want to do. Carl just wants
to sit at home on his couch and watch TV
and eat, which sounds lovely, but they sent him to
like go to the Great Wall of China and do
all these interesting things along the way and the whole
time he's like, this is so stupid. I hate this.
They make him stay and like the most obscure places.
(36:21):
But it is super funny and if you haven't seen it,
check it out. Okay, I will be adding that to
my list. I'm currently revisiting Parenthood because I started that
a long time ago, but I only got through the
first few seasons and then a couple of different people
had posted about it and I thought, maybe I need
to go back and watch it, and Verry's obsessed with it.
(36:42):
My sister and her husband were obsessed with it. Why
I quite watching it, I don't even remember. And I
know that I probably need to go back and watch
it from episode one, season one, but I'm just picking
back up where I think I left off, and then
I'll worry about if I missed anything later. But so good. Oh,
I averaged to cry an episode, for sure. I mean,
(37:04):
I don't know that I want to cry that much,
but it's just so dang relatable and they did a
great job with that show. But I don't want it
to ever end. That's how I felt about Friday Night
Lights too, and I've been thinking about that show a
lot lately because of Texas Forever. I mean, all that's
been going on in Texas is just so awful. And
I wore my Texas Forever shut this weekend, and anytime
(37:25):
I'm like walking by a mirror, I'm like, clear, it's
full hard lose Texas Forever. And you know, just if
you happen to be in Austin or in Texas listening,
or even I know, Oklahoma, Louisiana, there's a lot of
people that are hurting right now. I was born and
raised in Austin, though, so that's where I'm hearing a
(37:45):
lot of the stories from because I still have family
there and friends and it's just devastating and our hearts
are with you, thinking about you NonStop, praying for you.
The Shop Forward does have Texas Forever stuff that's available
that's going to hell organizations that are making a difference there.
So I just encourage you to find a way to help.
No matter what. I saw that the Andy Rotic Foundation
(38:08):
was helping out big time. There's so many different resources.
Austin Pets Alive needs help. I know that for sure.
There's mutual aid funds that are taking venmos from people
like even if you can just give a dollar if
you think of all the people that could give a dollar,
that would really add up. Or if you have no
money to give, just prayers are free. Posting stuff online
(38:31):
is free to spread the word. That's just probably actually
more valuable than anything is letting people know, because even
some people in Austin are posting things that they're like, well,
I just don't even think people are grasping how bad
it is here right now because I don't know that
it's getting that type of coverage. And speaking of what
went on in Texas, I want to give a shout
(38:52):
out quickly to Jannah who's at a t X by
girl on Instagram, because she was on the National Weather
Channel wearing a Pimp and Joy hoodie, which I think
is super cool. So many listeners tagged us and sent
us that picture. At least I got some emails and
notes because it's really cool. I think one person even said,
you know you've made it when you're on the Weather Channel,
(39:14):
so that was a really big deal. And I think
she even said in the clip to the Weather Channel
that she was just out trying to help out and
try to pimp some joy. So also to in regards
to Pimp and Joy this Friday at eight a m. Central,
that's Friday, February. We're gonna be dropping some new Pimp
and Joy sweatpants that we've never known before and some
(39:34):
tide A Chord pullovers which will be super cute, and
all of our Pimp and Joy stuff is going to
be going to COVID relief. So just heads up, we're
gonna be doing that on the Bobby Bone Show. That
I would throw that in here really quickly because I
know a lot of you love to support Pimp and Joy.
If you don't know what it is, it's just a
movement about choosing joy for yourself spreading joy to others.
It started when my mom was battling cancer back in
(39:56):
two thousand fourteen time frame, and it's her legacy. We
no longer have my mom with us, but we have
her message of joy, and Pimp and Joy has been
able to donate over two million dollars since two thousand
and fourteen, so it's a really amazing cause to get behind.
And yeah, we'll be dropping a new line on Friday,
eight am Central Standard time. That'll be on the Bobby
(40:17):
Bun Show. All right, we'll do the last thing next, Caitlin,
and we're going to talk about your favorite recipes. All right,
for the final and fourth thing, let's talk about four
of your favorite recipes that people can actually find online
(40:38):
if they go to YouTube and they check out Unfancy
Cooking with Caitlin Parker. Okay, So the first one, the
one I see the most people making, would have to
be the drop biscuits. They're in a cast iron skillet.
They're really easy. I think there are five ingredients, and
we we'll think that you've spent all day making them
because they just kind of have that smell and flavor.
(41:00):
But I would say definitely checked that one out. Are
they good for breakfast and dinner? Slap some gravy on
at breakfast and serve them with chicken at dinner? Awesome? Okay,
another one, okay, The other one people are really liking
is the one I did with Eddie, and it was
fajitas or Eddie says, faha. So Eddie went on the
Bobby Bones Show. Anytime something comes up where he's like tacos, fajitas, guacamole,
(41:26):
he talks normal all the way right up until that tortea. Like,
so anyway, we're gonna make it's like, okay, little breathy
and accents really thick. But I did catch him saying
it normal in the video and I called him out
just like um, But anyway, people are really liking that.
And in that episode, y'all also made organic margarita's or
(41:48):
something yes, which were delicious. I'd never made a margarita before.
I'd order them, but I'd never made one, and it
was just so fresh and felt just like so lightened
some Marie. I loved it, so definitely checked that one out.
My third one, I would say, I made candied pecans,
which if you guys, I mean, I don't know if
(42:10):
they have these like metropolitan malls, but at my small
town mall. And when I say my small town mall,
I met the mall that was thirty minutes away because
we didn't have them. All around Christmas, they would make
these candied pecans and like it would just smell up
the whole mall. It was so delicious. So I tried
to kind of experiment with that and mimic that recipe
(42:31):
and I think I finally nailed it. So check those
out there. Great snack or to like put on top
of your cereal or something like that, or even crush
up and put on top of a salad. Oh so good.
I hadn't thought of that. I might do that. You're welcome, Yeah,
thankome to fancy cooking with a thank you. And then
my fourth I would say, oh, engagement chicken. So I'm
(42:52):
it's a whole roasted chicken, which can sound intimidating, but
it's really not. It's really easy and I can find
like five different recipes, but the original recipe was called
engagement chicken. And I will say I did feed it
to Bobby when I was just simply a girlfriend, and
after he ate it, I did become a fiance. How
(43:12):
did it take? Not that long? I know? Really, I
feel like you filmed that video and then by the
time it released you were engaged. Because when when we
were filming it, I told him and he knew he
was going to propose. You knew he was going to
propose that, but I had no idea. Yeah, I went
with him to pick out your reading. I know, I
love that story. I was like, I'm not going to
do this chicken because it's so embarrassing, and I'm going
(43:35):
to release the video and everyone's going to be like,
look didn't work well, blah blah, and he said, just
released that, I promise it'll be fine. And so I
should have figured out when he said that that I
was going to be engaged soon, but I didn't. So anyway, yes,
I once it released, I was engaged. So it works, ladies,
but a lot I see a lot of people posting
that one online because it's and so even if you're
(43:56):
already married, just makes may Yeah, maybe he'll renew his else.
I don't know. But it's really good and really easy
and it can feed a whole family, so that's important. Awesome,
And so people just go to YouTube and type in
on fancy cooking. I think, so yeah, I think just
google un fancy cooking and and then make sure after
you watch you subscribe rate in review. So my son, Stevenson,
(44:19):
he was watching like it was so cute actually, because
he likes to watch certain YouTube videos. And I was
taking a video of him one day. He wanted to
show off that he made his bed and cleaned his
room and like send the video to I think maybe
my husband, his dad, because he wasn't here and he
wanted to show him, and so I was recording him
and at the end of the video, and he was like,
(44:40):
be sure to like subscribe in review. Thanks, So he
just mimicked what he heard on other videos. I would
do that at the end of yours. I mean, not
at the end of everyone, but they do. The guy
that films him is always like, Okay, you should probably
say something about linking and subscribing, but I always feel
so awkward, so I do too. But I mean, I
(45:03):
think we got to do it, so we'll just say
it here because I feel I don't do it well
here on the podcast. But then I heard Oprah do
it on like Super Soul Conversation, Like, Oprah, what do
you need reviews for? You know, people are listening. It's fine,
you're good, but it does, you know, add value when
people take the time to rate and review I And
I always like to say, if I ever do bring
(45:24):
it up, which is rare, that if you have something
really negative to say, you can email me. And I
want to take that constructive criticism. You can say it nicely,
but you don't have to put it on a public
forum for everybody to read. But I mean, if you
want to be honest, go ahead. I guess give the
one star and leave the rude comments. But if you
really want to contribute, then send me the email and
(45:47):
don't leave that negativity up there, because if that's the case,
then just don't listen. Yeah, and don't come back. But
if you want to come back and you like me,
send me an email. And if you do get that review,
you're going to say, what is true about you? Oh yeah,
that's right, You're an amazing podcaster. You're just awesome. This
is not the compliment. Oh sorry, yeah, thank you? Right,
(46:11):
So I have taken people haven't been terribly rude. Sometimes
they are, but sometimes people have left constructive criticism where
they have said that I ramble too long, and then
that kind of is true. Though if I circled back
to what is true, then I do ramble. But I
(46:32):
took that and thought, okay, how can I make this
better for people that don't actually know my personality and
know me to where if you listen to me, you
won't feel like you've lost part of my personality, which
is to ramble. But if you're new to me, you
also want to continue listening because you might be like,
what's up with this girl? So I'm I've worked really
hard on trying to find that balance, not when I'm
sitting here chatting, like doing four things with a friend,
(46:54):
but in my other interviews or in my fifth thing
where I answer and go over emails that have been
sent in. I really tried to button that up and
be as prepared as possible so that I'm not on
this tangent. And sometimes I will, like something will spark
me and I'll go kind of like I am right now.
People might consider this rambling, but I just want you
all to know, like I'm I'm working on it, and
(47:16):
I'm sure similar to you, like if you receive feedback
on your cooking show, you would take it to heart
and be like, okay, yeah, how can I make this
a more pleasurable experience for viewers that are coming to watch?
Like somebody told me they hate it when I say
hey guys, so I stopped saying that. Well, but I
don't know that you need to listen to that. Say
hey everybody. So I say hey you, I say, and
(47:39):
this might be annoying to people, but on Tuesdays, I
say happy Tuesday, and then I get into it, and
then on Thursdays I say Happy Thursday, which I don't
know if I said that today because I had you
sitting here, but normally I do now Happy Thursday. But
then also podcasts are weird because they might not be
listening on the day that it comes out. Happy Day
whatever it is. Okay, well, Caitlin, thank you so much
(47:59):
for coming on the podcast. Thank you for having me.
Thank you for doing like sixteen things plus some. Yeah
that was like maybe a Caitlin overdose, but no, we
covered a lot. Yeah, I felt like it was helpful.
I enjoyed it. And then I actually was about to
ask you a very important question. I would be honored
if you would grace me with your elite and premium
(48:21):
talent on unfancy and make your Alabama Mac and cheese yo.
It's called Alabama Mac and cheese yo. Sorry, I don't
know how it could be such an idiot. I have
no idea why. My sister and I named it. That
might been in my family for a long time, but
it never really had a name, just mac and cheese.
So we decided, since it originated from our Alabama side
(48:42):
of the family, that we would call it Alabama Mac
and cheese yo. Back in like two thousand and I
don't know, eleven or two thousand twelve when we had
a cooking blog for about five posts. I love that,
and then we quit. I would love if you would
join me the problem. Yeah, I mean I have I
had a cooking blog at one time. I know, so
I know that I'm speaking expert expert one plum tree
(49:04):
dot com. I have no idea if it's still is
up and running, Guys, check it out one plum tree
dot com. Caitlin, you can find her on YouTube or
on Instagram. She's at Caitlin Parker, which at kate Cy Parker.
Just kidding you give your correct instagram. My correct dunt's
instagram is at kate Cy Parker. Yes, I never knew
that spell that c A I T. C. Parker learn
(49:30):
something new every day. I guess I had already followed you, Scotcha. Okay,
and now I'm at your account and your last post
is actually me and you and Abby and Bella bridesmaids,
which your wedding is coming up, in coming up in
a handful of months. It's a lot. I'm excited about
our bridesmaid's dresses though they're stunning, are kidding me? A
(49:50):
couple of models, but their hearts are even better, which
is what we value here for things we look radiant
and they look radiant. All right, people have listen into
us long enough, We'll go ahead and wrap this thing.
Thank you so much again. The Gratitude Challenge is starting
up in March. You can really join it anytime. The
rules are loose, Lucy Caucy. We're not strict on anything,
(50:13):
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our four Things Gratitude Journal Radio Amy dot com. Did
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He's got some good stuff. Okay, alright, y'all are amazing,
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