She's Not The Mains

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:03):
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in ninety four or five.

Speaker 3 (00:10):
I think that.

Speaker 4 (00:13):
The saying love is blind sometimes is like that's a
real thing.

Speaker 1 (00:17):
Absolutely.

Speaker 4 (00:18):
People in life, in my life and your life, listening
our life, they will ignore the biggest red flags because
they're like, hey, I love this person. I had a
friend once tell me that she was in love with
a lion tamer that's dope, had never met, had never

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met him, had never seen him, had only spoken via
the phone, sending text messages back and forth.

Speaker 3 (00:59):
Twenty four seventh.

Speaker 4 (01:01):
I remember being out with her once and she never
looked up at me once because she was texting with
the lion tamer.

Speaker 3 (01:08):
Who she never never He gave her an address.

Speaker 4 (01:14):
Once for where he lived, the zoo. She went to
Franklin Park. Now she went to the address. It was
a cliff. It was like she took one more steps,
she would have been dead, Like it was a legit
like cliff, but nothingness.

Speaker 3 (01:32):
It was the abyss like there was no home there.

Speaker 2 (01:34):
But that's when she figured out that she was getting
catfish right or no, no capt on going and not.

Speaker 4 (01:39):
That's to my point, I haven't I have a different
that friend has since by the way that ended. But
just to add one more layer to that story, I'm
getting away from my original story alone were laid to that.
He also was shot once died okay his quote. Best
friend reached out to her to tell her that he

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was dead.

Speaker 3 (02:01):
The best friend.

Speaker 4 (02:02):
Tried to like be with her, and then poof the
lion Tamer came back the dead.

Speaker 2 (02:07):
He came back.

Speaker 3 (02:08):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, she was. She was not well at
that time. She's doing well now.

Speaker 4 (02:14):
But I feel like I've had so many stories like
this in my life where my friends are just I
have a different friend that is in a current relationship.
It's been seven months. Tell me if I'm crazy for this.
Seven months has not met a single friend.

Speaker 2 (02:32):
That's weird that that gives me the feeling like she's seven.

Speaker 1 (02:35):
Months maybe he doesn't have friends.

Speaker 2 (02:39):
I'm being hidden. She's the secret, That's what it has
to be. The guy doesn't want her to be.

Speaker 4 (02:44):
That's a long time to have met nobody in his life, nobody.

Speaker 3 (02:50):
That has any affiliation to who he is as a person.

Speaker 2 (02:52):
When they when they hang out, what's like the situation,
like where do they go?

Speaker 3 (02:56):
Like they really only go to her obviously. He it
seems like that he has like a secret life or something.

Speaker 2 (03:05):
I don't know that she's never been to his place. No, okay, but.

Speaker 4 (03:11):
It's because he lives like a good hour and a
half two hours away.

Speaker 1 (03:15):
So there's cars, get in the car, that's what he says. Yeah,
he probably boys around the corner.

Speaker 2 (03:21):
Absolutely, and he has a wife and kids.

Speaker 3 (03:25):
Just because you know, we'll make it clean.

Speaker 4 (03:27):
A third example, I have a separate friend who was
seeing somebody.

Speaker 3 (03:32):
They went to his house. He had a picture on
his fridge really wait wait for it of him and
a girlfriend kissing.

Speaker 4 (03:50):
Really no, no, that's a nice picture.

Speaker 2 (03:58):
It's really crazy though, like when people fall in love,
they'll believe any lie that they're told without taking a
step back and being think, you know what, this is
a little weird that they're telling me this.

Speaker 4 (04:08):
I am certain that I've in my time. I know
that I've turned turned a blind absolutely, because we all have,
because we're like, you want it to work so bad,
but like not to the levels in which I'm seeing
in my friends lately.

Speaker 2 (04:26):
You don't feel compelled to kind of say something to
your friends.

Speaker 4 (04:29):
I do I I well, to the I you know.

Speaker 3 (04:33):
I'll be honest with you, guys.

Speaker 4 (04:35):
I haven't said anything to the one who hasn't met
the friends or anybody, or has never gone to his house.
I have not said anything because she's combative and I
don't want to deal with it.

Speaker 3 (04:47):
I'm gonna be honest with you. I got too many
things going on.

Speaker 2 (04:49):
She's one of the ones that like won't believe in,
at least.

Speaker 4 (04:53):
The one with the with the picture on the fridge.
Like I can believe that one. Yeah, yeah, so I
feel good about that.

Speaker 2 (05:00):
But that one's will listen denial.

Speaker 3 (05:01):
Yeah yeah, that one's that one still doesn't believe that photo.

Speaker 4 (05:07):
But yeah no, the other one's combative, and I don't
want to deal However, to me, there's no greater red
flag on the Polanet.

Speaker 5 (05:15):
That they don't even go out to a restaurant to
eat nothing, not even to make come food.

Speaker 3 (05:19):
Yes, yeah, no, they do. They go out, they go
to places.

Speaker 4 (05:24):
They they may have even gone on like a little
mini trip together, if I'm thinking about it correctly, Yes
they have.

Speaker 3 (05:29):
They've gone on trips, but it's side.

Speaker 1 (05:32):
But the only place they've ever chilled at is her crib.

Speaker 3 (05:35):
Yes, slept over or if they were on that little
I'll visit you.

Speaker 1 (05:40):
I one and a half two hours away, I'll come,
I'll come see you.

Speaker 2 (05:42):
I'm sure she probably has right, but he'll probably be like,
oh no, I'm a I'm down here for this is
easier for me to come to.

Speaker 1 (05:48):
Your place hitting him with those and he's given excuses.

Speaker 4 (05:50):
But it's like, I want to believe that she's better
than this, like that she has the knowledge of this.

Speaker 2 (05:56):
But knowing her dating history and the path, does this
make sense for heard that she now falls Yeah.

Speaker 3 (06:01):
Okay, it does, and I just.

Speaker 2 (06:08):
She's your friend. You gotta say something.

Speaker 3 (06:10):
No, I'm good.

Speaker 2 (06:10):
You have to know at the end of the day,
you know that you did the right thing.

Speaker 5 (06:15):
Have you ever tried to approach about something else and
it went left?

Speaker 4 (06:19):
It was so bad that she didn't speak to me
for months. Really, you just want the drama. So I
keep telling me stories, but I don't. I'm not trying
to do it like I got this is that one
the last time years ago, when she had a boyfriend
and I knew that boyfriend was bad news. I sat

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her down and I was just like this, this is
what I'm going to tell you.

Speaker 3 (06:42):
What it is I was right. I don't make that clear.

Speaker 4 (06:46):
But she didn't speak to me. She wouldn't take my call,
like wouldn't would walk right past me. We did not
speak for a very long time over that. And I
didn't even have like a newborn. Now I have a newborn.
It's Halloween, like I got it.

Speaker 1 (06:58):
There's just no I don't all the energy.

Speaker 3 (07:01):
I've been trying to like the skeleton for the past
three days.

Speaker 1 (07:05):
But she's not lo loki. She kind of probably knows
what's going on.

Speaker 3 (07:08):
I think she does too low key.

Speaker 1 (07:10):
But some people she keeps.

Speaker 4 (07:11):
Saying that she's never been happier, and like when somebody
does that beat.

Speaker 3 (07:16):
Down your throat, like you know you're not that happy.
Why are you telling me it's yeah? Why before are
we trying to convince her.

Speaker 1 (07:24):
You're not happy?

Speaker 3 (07:25):
I used to think that we were close. I don't
really know anymore. Yeah, I'm not trying to be cryptic either.
I'm just I'm not gonna put this. I'm not I'm
not doing but yeah.

Speaker 2 (07:36):
I say the opposite, but it does. To your point
is because I want to see the fireworks.

Speaker 5 (07:39):
I know, because you know what's gonna happen. Something she
keeps knowing that it will be everybody I get with
you keep you know.

Speaker 4 (07:45):
Yeah, and everybody like that I get with you don't
like immediately.

Speaker 3 (07:49):
You're always closed minded.

Speaker 4 (07:51):
And she has told me though that she has never
felt It's not funny.

Speaker 2 (07:57):
Because I want to la to you already laugh.

Speaker 3 (08:03):
She's that she's never felt more loved and more taken
care of.

Speaker 2 (08:06):
He really talking about.

Speaker 3 (08:09):
What are you saying? You don't he doesn't take you
to his house.

Speaker 4 (08:13):
He didn't and always has these the excuses that this
man comes up. Honestly, I want to know this man
because she'll say like, oh, let's go have dinner with
your dad, and he'll be like, oh, so my dad.
He was headed to work in Worcester, but then got
a call from his brother who lives in Monte Carlo.

Speaker 3 (08:33):
So he had to run to Monte Carlo.

Speaker 4 (08:36):
He he's he was supposed to come back, but he
might not because sometimes when he goes on vacations he
stays for years. Yeah, It's like, wait, but what And
she believed it so.

Speaker 1 (08:45):
Sad that people live their lives like that to be
with people.

Speaker 4 (08:49):
Bro, does anybody have a situation in which the red
flag is so red and they just can't be bothered
to know six one seven nine four five six one
seven nine three one.

Speaker 3 (09:04):
Hi, everybody, good morning, It's Ashley in the jam In
Morning show. Listen. We're talking.

Speaker 4 (09:08):
We're talking red flags and just absolute delusion and the
fact that love really is blind.

Speaker 3 (09:16):
We're past the TeV show. It's real.

Speaker 4 (09:18):
People will close their eyes to things that they know
is off putting because they won't love so bad. And
I think that's the cool thing about this is not cool,
but we've all been there. Yeah, there's not somebody that
can say, oh no, I don't want to hear it.
I know that you've let something slide because you're into
the person enough.

Speaker 3 (09:38):
Okay.

Speaker 4 (09:39):
Every day I come home and I got to look
at shoes that aren't on the shoe rack.

Speaker 3 (09:43):
I'm the shoe the shoereck. I will be dead talking
about the shoe rack.

Speaker 4 (09:50):
There's something else now that he does that I'm adding
to the shoe rack, which is he uses the hand
tous and doesn't fold them up the way that I like.

Speaker 3 (09:56):
But that's listen, I'm blind to it because I love
him so much.

Speaker 2 (09:59):
Yeah, but there's because you secret spend, so it should
be Okay, facts talk about to.

Speaker 4 (10:04):
Take What you're not gonna do is start with me
already today. You know you're not because we've done this
and you don't like where it ends. Oh you don't, okay, Okay, No,
I I am in a sitch where it's just like
my friend. It's sad. My friend she's dating the sky.
They they stay only at her place. She's never met

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a singular friend. And I'll be honest with you, I
haven't said a word to her.

Speaker 3 (10:29):
I don't care to. And it's that I hate that,
but it's just.

Speaker 4 (10:34):
She's combative and she's not gonna listen because she says
she's never been more in love and she's never been
more taken care of.

Speaker 2 (10:40):
Yeah, but situation like that though, they always find out
that the person has like a girlfriend or the secret
something in time.

Speaker 3 (10:45):
How are you taken care of in how.

Speaker 4 (10:49):
You don't go to his hose like I'm trying to
Michelle is in Salem, Hi, Michelle, good name. So we're
talking about just absolutely positively ignored, ignoring red flags. We've
all been there, absolutely did it for ten years.

Speaker 6 (11:06):
Ten years.

Speaker 3 (11:09):
What are some.

Speaker 4 (11:10):
Major highlights that stuck out to you that you're like, wait,
was I really serious?

Speaker 6 (11:15):
The fact is that I would find things out and
he would deny it until I had the physical proof,
and then he'd sit there and he'd cry and he's sorry.
He didn't mean to He didn't mean to have these
kids with other women. You didn't mean to be beat
to other women. And like I said earlier, he would
only find two nights a week at my house, and

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it's because he told me that he had an overnight job.
In reality, he never had an overnight job. He would
spend two nights with me, He spent too nights with
his other fiance, a night with the other girl.

Speaker 3 (11:43):
His other fiance. Were you engaged too?

Speaker 6 (11:47):
I was engaged, and then when we broke up, I
found out he was engaged to me and four other
women at the time.

Speaker 1 (11:51):
WHOA, my god, so sick.

Speaker 4 (11:55):
That my sho to have other girlfriends is one thing.
But I'll whole like, we're engeed. That is that's just
he's terrible.

Speaker 6 (12:06):
Yeah, And it's like all my friends wuld always tell me, like,
what are you doing? Your delusional and I'd always say,
you know, it's easier to turn a blind eye and
pretend that the person you love wouldn't hurt you than
it is to face reality.

Speaker 4 (12:18):
You know what that And that could genuinely be what
my friend is doing, right, because I think she just
knows and it's and it sucks that it's happened to
her before.

Speaker 3 (12:29):
So I think she's just like, oh.

Speaker 6 (12:30):
For sure, yeah, and I knew, you know, but it's
like I didn't want to face the reality of it.
And I stayed for a very long time, and I
finally laughed and like, I found a man that has
made me actually happier than anybody ever had, and like
genuinely takes care of my heart and I trust him fully.
So I wonder at the end of the day, there's
always right at the end of the time.

Speaker 3 (12:51):
Yeah, there's somebody for everybody. And I think, like, but
here's my thing.

Speaker 4 (12:56):
Do we know now, I just, out of curiosity, wonder
what that man is doing, Like he is probably engaged
to seven other women at this point.

Speaker 3 (13:03):
He probably just kept on going.

Speaker 6 (13:05):
Unfortunately, he's the father of my son, so you know,
we do contact. He still picked me up often and
you know, asked.

Speaker 3 (13:12):
The hook up.

Speaker 6 (13:13):
Yeah, so supposedly one of the other girls that he
was engaged to, he's married to now. But he denies
it because he denies everything. He's had multiple kids since
our son that he's also denied until I had physical
proof and being like, this is a picture of you
holding your child until you can't deny it anymore.

Speaker 3 (13:30):
So he's like a legit whole con artist. That's crazy.

Speaker 4 (13:33):
Well, Michelle, you make a good point, and I you know,
I think it is it is easier to live in
denial than to have to admit that you've wasted all
this time and you fell in love with somebody that's.

Speaker 3 (13:42):
Like a bad egg. Maybe that's what's happening to my friend.

Speaker 6 (13:46):
I'm sure you know what. One day she's going to
realize and to look back and laugh and be like,
why was the psychott?

Speaker 4 (13:51):
I hope I helped Richie, I hope, thank you for
the call, that is, But also like I'm working the overnights,
very believable, Yeah right, Like that's.

Speaker 2 (14:02):
Not At the same time, though, nights a week, don't.

Speaker 3 (14:06):
People, People don't worry.

Speaker 5 (14:07):
You don't want to come sleep in the way you
sleeping in the morning. Two nights a week for yeah, anything.

Speaker 2 (14:12):
Also, if you're work in the overnight, there's some sort
of proof either it's like a check or there's a
there's a uniform, or some come.

Speaker 1 (14:18):
Home at six, seven, eight o'clock in the morning.

Speaker 3 (14:20):
Yeah, two nights for.

Speaker 2 (14:22):
Ten years and she stayed. She missed everything. I hope
as a kid, Yeah, I hope. He'y're a new guy now.
She's not ignoring things like I hope she learned.

Speaker 3 (14:31):
No, I think yeah, I think she has.

Speaker 4 (14:33):
I just you know, I also, as I know you
guys can tell I'm treading on the nights here. I'm
trying so hard not to say who you know what
I mean, I don't because I need they need to
figure it out for themselves. But let me tell you,
they're not head over heels in love with you and
they're not taking care of you. If they're not allowing
you to meet anybody, your secret and you can't stay

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at his house.

Speaker 2 (14:58):
It seems pretty clear to me that she's the mains.
He's a piece.

Speaker 3 (15:02):
That's a good point.

Speaker 4 (15:05):
I'll just text her that and I'll put it he said.
I will put an s at the end. So hey,
Santi says, you are not the mains.

Speaker 3 (15:12):
Good morning,