It's Going In The Trash! (FULL SHOW)

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Dashy and Morning Show with DJ fourn It's such a morning.

Speaker 2 (00:05):
Sustin's number one for hip hop jamming ninety four or five.

Speaker 3 (00:10):
Hi, everybody, good morning. So we all know I'm nosy, nosy, nosy, nosy.
And a lot of times when you guys call on
the show and you tell me some crazy story, I'll say,
appreciate you. Please keep us in the loop, keep us
looped in, because in the in the six, seven, eight

(00:31):
minutes that you're on the show, we're not going to
always get a resolution to what you're going through or
what happened later. And there are sometimes when people do
call us back and fill us in, and there are
other times where they don't. And there are stories that
I still think about. Remember that couple that met at
the kite party that's right in the park.

Speaker 4 (00:49):
Yes, I think about that, and then they fell in.

Speaker 3 (00:52):
Love, and they fell in love, yeah, and then something
weird happened. I don't even remember all the details. I
just remember that they were out like flying kites in
the sky and they met and whatever. But my point is,
I'm very appreciative when people call us back to kind
of to fill us in what's going on. Jason called us,
And I'm going to play his original call with us.

(01:13):
How long have we been together?

Speaker 5 (01:15):
For almost a year.

Speaker 6 (01:16):
We're about to be here and in January.

Speaker 3 (01:21):
Okay, so you guys moved in with each other fairly quickly.
Then if you live together, when did you move in?

Speaker 7 (01:26):
I moved in almost like five months ago.

Speaker 5 (01:27):
Well, she moved with almost five months ago.

Speaker 3 (01:29):
Wow, that's that's super quick.

Speaker 6 (01:32):
Everything was perfect at first, everything was a perfect picture,
and everything now is Nothing I do makes her happy.

Speaker 3 (01:40):
When you're saying you do so much, what do you
feel like you're doing to make her happy?

Speaker 6 (01:45):
So right now? So she she's pregnant with somebody else's
kid right now?

Speaker 5 (01:49):
Okay, Well I'm.

Speaker 3 (01:50):
Thinking what imagine not starting the story off with that.
And by the way, once we hung up from them,
the three of us like the math was never mathing,
which added yeah, and it's like nine months for a baby,
Like things weren't adding up. Jason is back. Jason. We

(02:14):
kind of told you, like you got to get out
of this relationship. We didn't think that it was for
the best. We kind of weren't like positive that she
didn't cheat on you, because again, the math was not
mathing with your relationship update me. That was about a
week ago. Where are we at and where are you?
Are you leaving somewhere? Are you going in? That door
needs some w D four.

Speaker 1 (02:34):
No, I'm just.

Speaker 7 (02:36):
I'm going over now.

Speaker 8 (02:37):
Okay, good morning, good.

Speaker 5 (02:39):
Morning, good morning.

Speaker 3 (02:42):
Did you just go get her breakfast? Because I remember
that was a big thing to you.

Speaker 6 (02:45):
No, no, no, no, no, no, okay, no no, no, I
just I ended up leaving her. Yeah, she ended up.
You guys were completely right. She up going back to
her baby daddy.

Speaker 3 (02:58):
Yeah, I told you, God told us seven days ago.
She moved with the quickness.

Speaker 4 (03:06):
That's what she wanted though from the beginning she had
also she cheated.

Speaker 8 (03:10):
She cheated.

Speaker 4 (03:10):
You got to it together for two months and he
got her pregnant.

Speaker 3 (03:14):
We knew something was off when you were going every
morning to pick her out and buy her her favorite
breakfast and bringing it to her, and she was getting annoyed,
like just nothing seemed right in this. She's pregnant with
another man's kid. You're trying your best. I am so happy.
Did you kick her out of the house.

Speaker 6 (03:30):
Yeah, she's she's long gone, moved in back to him,
and yep. Now I'm just looking for mys yeah.

Speaker 3 (03:40):
Good, good, good. We'll be with yourself for a little bit. Man,
like save some cats, live your life. Did she get
everything out? Is it like done done? Did you? I
don't want any linger here?

Speaker 5 (03:49):
Everything.

Speaker 6 (03:51):
The same day she had her and I was just like, oh,
so this is what you're doing. So then you know,
I'm not gonna you know, he bought his people. So
I was just a guy. So I'm call my friend
just in case if anything happened, right, you know, so
another man ended up happening.

Speaker 5 (04:08):
You know, they left peace and good.

Speaker 3 (04:10):
Remind me you guys didn't have any kids together, correct.

Speaker 8 (04:13):
No, no, thank you Jesus.

Speaker 3 (04:16):
But she did. She had she had another one. Yeah,
you were you were playing house. Okay, wow, well listen,
you did the right thing. You did the right thing.
We knew, we knew she wasn't invested in this with you.
We knew she was running some sort of crazy game,
and she was.

Speaker 5 (04:35):
It was just kind of I think it was just
for the be there for the pregnancy and then baby
daddy come back there and see you later.

Speaker 4 (04:42):
Why wait though, until you had the kid? Like but
I knew it from the beginning, the fact, like the
math alone. But then also she was hung up on
the ax.

Speaker 3 (04:50):
I also feel like that has to be a weird
thing for a guy. Like now you're going to the
guy who you know she's been sleeping with house to
pack up all her stuff and bring her back home. Oh. Absolutely,
it's weird and I.

Speaker 8 (05:00):
I'm actually proud of that.

Speaker 9 (05:01):
It might be a boosting eagle for some And it's
like you couldn't keep it.

Speaker 8 (05:05):
Could be she had to come back to me, Yeah.

Speaker 3 (05:08):
But like want he dumped her, but would you want
her back though?

Speaker 8 (05:12):
But they got the ass relationship?

Speaker 3 (05:15):
Yeah something something Also, so what like Jason goes, well, yeah,
maybe she just was staying with me for the pregnancy.
So what did that? The dad didn't want her during
when she was pregnant, but then wanted her back after.
I'm confused the whole situations all, but you know what,
he listened to us, and that's important because a lot
of times people don't.

Speaker 4 (05:34):
I can't, Jason, the mouth below told you that she
was you didn't understand that she.

Speaker 3 (05:40):
Was like, no, she got pregnant during during That's what
I'm saying. Yeah, but he was like wait one to five,
like he just couldn't figure it out. But guys, this
is a p s A. If we tell you they're
bad news, run somebody just listened to us. We're just crying.

Speaker 1 (05:58):
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and Sat A.

Speaker 2 (06:03):
Good Mornington's number one for hip hop jam in ninety
four or five.

Speaker 7 (06:09):
I think that.

Speaker 3 (06:12):
The saying love is blind sometimes is like that's a
real thing. Absolutely people in life, in my life and
your life, listening our life, they will ignore the biggest
red flags because they're like, hey, I love this person.
I had a friend once tell me that she was

(06:36):
in love with a lion tamer that's dope, had never met,
had never met him, had never seen him, had only
spoken via the phone, sending text messages back and forth.

(06:58):
Twenty four seven. I remember being out with her once
and she never looked up at me once because she
was texting with the lion tamer who she never never
He gave her an address once for where he.

Speaker 8 (07:15):
Lived, the zoo.

Speaker 3 (07:16):
She went to Franklin Park. Now she went to the address,
it was a cliff. It was like she took one
more steps, she would have been dead. Like it was
a legit like cliff, but nothingness. It was the abyss
like there was no home there.

Speaker 4 (07:33):
But that's when she figured out that she was getting
catfish right or no, no capt on going, And.

Speaker 3 (07:38):
That pass to my point. I haven't I have a
different that friend has since by the way that ended.
But just to add one more layer to that story,
I'm getting away from my original story, but a one
we're laird to that. He also was shot once died
okay his quote. Best friend reached out to her to
tell her that he was dead. The best friend tried

(08:01):
to like be with her, and then poof the lion
tamer came back to the dead.

Speaker 10 (08:06):
He came back.

Speaker 3 (08:07):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, she was. She was not well at
that time. She's doing well now. But I feel like
I've had so many stories like this in my life
where my friends are just I have a different friend
that is in a current relationship. It's been seven months.
Tell me if I'm crazy for this. Seven months has

(08:29):
not met a single friend.

Speaker 4 (08:31):
That's weird that that gives me the feeling like she's
even months.

Speaker 8 (08:34):
Maybe he doesn't have friends.

Speaker 4 (08:38):
I'm being hidden. She's the secret, That's what it has
to be. The guy doesn't want her to be.

Speaker 3 (08:43):
That's a long time to have met nobody in his life,
nobody that has any affiliation to who he is as
a person.

Speaker 4 (08:51):
When they hang out, what's like the situation, like where
do they go?

Speaker 3 (08:55):
Like they really only go to her obviously he it
seems like that he has like a secret life or something.

Speaker 4 (09:04):
I don't know that she's never been to his place.

Speaker 3 (09:08):
No, okay, but it's because he lives like a good
hour and a half two hours away.

Speaker 4 (09:14):
So there's cars, get in the car, that's what he says. Yeah,
probably that boys around the corner. Absolutely, and he has
a wife and kids.

Speaker 3 (09:24):
Just because you know, we'll make it clean. A third example,
I have a separate friend who was seeing somebody. They
went to his house. He had a picture on his
fridge really wait wait for it.

Speaker 11 (09:45):
Of him and a girlfriend kissing. Really was No, that's
a nice picture.

Speaker 4 (09:57):
It's really crazy though, like when people fall all in love,
they'll believe any lie that they're told without taking a
step back and being think, you know what, this is
a little weird that they're telling me this.

Speaker 3 (10:07):
I am certain that I've in my time. I know
that I've turned turned a blind et.

Speaker 8 (10:14):
Absolutely.

Speaker 3 (10:15):
We all have because we're like, you want it to
work so bad, but like not to the levels in
which I'm seeing in my friends lately.

Speaker 4 (10:26):
You don't feel compelled to kind of say something to
your friends.

Speaker 3 (10:28):
I do. I I well to the I you know,
I'll be honest with you, guys. I haven't said anything
to the one who hasn't met the friends or anybody,
or has never gone to his house. I have not
said anything because she's combative and I don't want to
deal with it. I'm gonna be honest with you. I
got too many things going on.

Speaker 4 (10:48):
She's one of the ones that like won't believes at.

Speaker 3 (10:52):
Least the one with the with the picture on the fridge.
Like I can believe that one. Yeah, yeah, so I
feel good about that.

Speaker 8 (10:59):
But that one's so is denial.

Speaker 3 (11:00):
Yeah yeah, that one's that one still doesn't believe that photo.
But yeah no, the other one's combative, and I don't
want to deal However, to me, there's no greater red
flag on the Polanet that they.

Speaker 9 (11:14):
Don't even go out to a restaurant to eat nothing,
not even they come food.

Speaker 3 (11:18):
Yes, yeah, no, they do. They go out, they go
to places. They they may have even gone on like
a little mini trip together. If I'm thinking about it correctly,
yes they have, They've gone on.

Speaker 4 (11:29):
Trips, but it's one side.

Speaker 8 (11:31):
But the only place they've ever chilled out is her crib.

Speaker 3 (11:34):
Yes, slept over or if they were on that little I'll.

Speaker 8 (11:37):
Come visit you. I one and a half two hours away,
I'll come, I'll come see you.

Speaker 4 (11:42):
I'm sure she probably has right, but he'll probably be like,
oh no, I'm down here for this is easier for
me to come to.

Speaker 8 (11:47):
Your place hitting him with those and he's given excuses.

Speaker 3 (11:50):
But it's like that, I want to believe that she's
better than this, like that she has the knowledge of this.

Speaker 4 (11:55):
But knowing her dating history and the path, does this
make sense for her that she now fault?

Speaker 8 (12:00):
Yeah, okay, okay, it does.

Speaker 3 (12:05):
And I just she's your friend.

Speaker 8 (12:08):
You gotta say something.

Speaker 3 (12:09):
No, I'm good.

Speaker 4 (12:09):
You have to know at the end of the day
that you did the right thing.

Speaker 8 (12:14):
Have you ever tried to approach about something else and
it went left?

Speaker 3 (12:18):
It was so bad that she didn't speak to me
for months. I really, you just want the drama, so
I keep telling me stories, but I don't. I'm not
trying to do it like I got this is that
one the last time years ago when she had a boyfriend,
and I knew that that boyfriend was bad news. I

(12:38):
sat her down and I was just like this, this
is what I'm going to tell.

Speaker 8 (12:41):
You what it is.

Speaker 3 (12:42):
I was right, I don't make that clear. But she
didn't speak to me. She wouldn't take my call, like
wouldn't would walk right past me. We did not speak
for a very long time over that. And I didn't
even have like a newborn. Now I have a newborn.
It's Halloween, like I got it.

Speaker 8 (12:57):
There's just no I don't all the energy.

Speaker 3 (13:00):
I've been trying to like the skeleton for the past three.

Speaker 8 (13:02):
Days, but she's not you know what, Loki, Loki. She
kind of probably knows what's going on. I think she
does to Loki, but some.

Speaker 3 (13:09):
People she keeps saying that she's never been happier, and
like when somebody does that, beating that down your throat,
like you know you're not that happy? Why are you
telling me it's yeah?

Speaker 8 (13:20):
Why have you been here before?

Speaker 3 (13:21):
Are we trying to convince.

Speaker 8 (13:23):
Her you're not happy?

Speaker 3 (13:24):
I used to think that we were close. I don't
really know anymore. Yeah, I'm not trying to be cryptic either.
I'm just I'm not gonna put this, I'm not I'm
not doing but he live.

Speaker 4 (13:34):
Yeah, I say the opposite, but it does. To your
point is because I want to see the fireworks.

Speaker 8 (13:38):
I know, you know what's going to happen.

Speaker 9 (13:40):
Something she keeps knowing that will be everybody I get
with you keep you know.

Speaker 3 (13:44):
Yeah, and everybody like did I get with you? Don't
like immediately. You're always close minded. And she has told
me though that she has never felt it's not.

Speaker 4 (13:54):
Funny because I want to laugh too, you already laugh.

Speaker 3 (14:02):
She said she's never felt more loved and more taken
care of. He really talking about what are you saying?
You don't he doesn't take you to his house? He
didn't and always has these the excuses that this man
comes up. Honestly, I want to know this man because
she'll say like, oh, let's go have dinner with your dad,

(14:22):
and he'll be like, oh, so my dad. He was
headed to work in Worcester, but then got a call
from his brother who lives in Monte Carlo, so he
had to run to Monte Carlo. He he's he was supposed.

Speaker 11 (14:37):
To come back, but he might not because sometimes when
he goes on vacation, he stays for years.

Speaker 3 (14:40):
Yeah, it's like, wait, but what and she believed it?

Speaker 8 (14:44):
So sad that people live their lives like that to
be with people.

Speaker 3 (14:48):
Bro, does anybody have a situation in which the red
flag is so red and they just can't be bothered
to know? Six one seven nine seven nine three one. Hi, everybody,
Good morning. It's actually in the jam in morning show. Listen,
we're talking. We're talking red flags and just absolute delusion

(15:12):
and the fact that love really is blind. We're past
the teen show. It's real. People will close their eyes
to things that they know is off putting because they
won't love so bad. And I think that's the cool
thing about this is not cool, but we've all been there. Yeah,
there's not somebody that can say, oh no, I don't

(15:32):
want to hear it. I know that you've let something
slide because you're into the person enough. Okay. Every day
I come home and I got to look at shoes
that aren't on the shoe rack. I'm the shock the
shoe wreck. I will be dead talking about the shoe rack.
There's something else now that he does that I'm adding
to the shoe rack, which is he uses the handtous

(15:53):
and doesn't fold them up the way that I like.
But that's listen, I'm blind to it because I love
him so much.

Speaker 4 (15:58):
Yeah, but there's bouncing because see could spend so it
should be okay, facts talk about.

Speaker 3 (16:03):
To take Well, you're not gonna do is start with
me already today. You know you're not because we've done
this and you don't like where it ends, you don't, okay, Okay, No,
I I am in a sitch where it's just like
my friend. It's sad. My friend she's dating the sky.
They they stay only at her place. She's never met

(16:23):
a singular friend. And I'll be honest with you, I
haven't said a word to her. I don't care to,
and it's that I hate that, but it's just she's
combative and she's not gonna listen because she says she's
never been more in love and she's never been more
taken care of.

Speaker 4 (16:39):
Yeah, but situation like that though, they always find out
that the person has like a girlfriend, order the secret.

Speaker 3 (16:43):
Something in time? How are you taken care of? In
how you don't go to his hose like I'm trying to.
Michelle is in Salem. Hi, Michelle, good name. So we're
talking about just absolutely positively, ignoring, ignoring red flags. We've
all been there.

Speaker 11 (17:03):
Absolutely.

Speaker 12 (17:04):
A different is ten years.

Speaker 3 (17:08):
What are some major highlights that stuck out to you
that you're like, wait, was I really serious?

Speaker 12 (17:14):
The fact is that I would find things out and
he would deny it until I had the physical proof,
and then he'd sit there and he'd cry and he's sorry.
He didn't mean to He didn't mean to have these
kids with other women. You didn't mean to be beat
to other women. And like I said earlier, he would
only spend two nights a week at my house and

(17:34):
it's because he told me that he had an overnight job.
In reality, he never had an overnight job. He would
spend two nights with me, he spent two nights with
his other fiance a night with the other girl.

Speaker 3 (17:42):
His other fiance. Were you engaged too?

Speaker 12 (17:46):
I was engaged, and then when we broke up, I
found out he was engaged.

Speaker 13 (17:49):
To me and four other women at the same time.

Speaker 10 (17:50):
Whoa my god, that my shod to have other girlfriends
is one thing, but a whole like we're that is
that's just he's terrible.

Speaker 12 (18:05):
Yeah, And it's like all my friends would always tell me, like,
what are you doing, You're delusional, And I'd always say,
you know, it's easier to turn a blind eye and
pretend that the person you love wouldn't hurt you than
I guess to face reality.

Speaker 3 (18:17):
You know what that And that could genuinely be what
my friend is doing, right, because I think she just
knows and it's and it sucks. It's happened to her before,
so I think she's just like, oh.

Speaker 12 (18:29):
For sure, yeah, and I knew, you know, but it's
like I didn't want to face the reality of it,
and I stayed for a very long time, and I
finally laughed and like, I found a man that has
made me actually happier than anybody ever had, and like
genuinely takes care of my heart and I trust him fully.
So I wonder, at the end of the day, there's
always right at the end of the tunnel.

Speaker 3 (18:50):
Yeah, there's somebody for everybody. And I think, like, but
here's my thing. Do we know now? I just, out
of curiosity, wonder what that man is doing, Like he
is probably engaged to seven other women at this point.
He probably just kept on going.

Speaker 12 (19:04):
Unfortunately, he's the father of my son, so you know,
we do contact. He still pissed me up often and
you know, asked the hook up. Yeah, so supposedly one
of the other girls that he was engaged to he's
married to now, but he denies it because he denies everything.
He's had multiple kids since our son that he's also
denied until I had physical proof and being like, this

(19:25):
is a picture of you holding your child until you
can't deny it anymore.

Speaker 3 (19:29):
So he's like a legit whole con artist. That's crazy. Well, Michelle,
you make a good point, and I you know, I
think it is it is easier to live in denial
than to have to admit that you've wasted all this
time and you fell in love with somebody that's like
a bad egg. Maybe that's what's happening to my friend.

Speaker 12 (19:45):
I'm sure, you know what. One day she's going to
realize and she'll look back and laugh and be like,
why was the psychotic?

Speaker 3 (19:50):
I hoped I help, I hope thank you for the call,
that is, but also like, I'm working the overnights, very believable, Yeah, right,
Like that's not.

Speaker 4 (20:02):
At the same time, though, nights a week don't people
don't work.

Speaker 9 (20:06):
You don't want to come sleep in the way sleeping
in the morning, two nights a week for yeah, anything.

Speaker 4 (20:11):
And also if you're working in the overnight, there's some
sort of proof, either it's like a check or there's
a there's a uniform, or some.

Speaker 8 (20:17):
Come home at six, seven, eight o'clock in the morning.

Speaker 3 (20:19):
Yeah, two nights for.

Speaker 8 (20:21):
Ten years, and she stayed. She missed everything.

Speaker 3 (20:24):
I hope as a kid.

Speaker 8 (20:26):
Yeah, I hope they're a new guy now.

Speaker 4 (20:28):
She's not ignoring things like I hope she learned.

Speaker 3 (20:30):
No, I think yeah, I think she has. I just
you know. I also, as I know you guys can tell,
I'm treading on the nights here. I'm trying so hard
not to say who you know what I mean, I
don't because I need they need to figure it out
for themselves. But let me tell you they're not head
over heels in love with you, and they're not taking
care of you. If they're not allowing you to meet

(20:53):
anybody your secret and you can't stay at his house.

Speaker 4 (20:57):
It seems pretty clear to me that she's not the mains.
He's a pie piece.

Speaker 3 (21:02):
That's a good point. I'll just text her that, yeah,
and I'll put it that he said. I will put
an S at the end, so Hey, Santi says, you
are not The Main's Good Morning.

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Speaker 3 (21:23):
Hi everybody, good morning. All right, we're doing the checking now,
checking on you, your life, your world six one seven,
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talking about you, your life, your world, anything you want.
Let's kick it off with Mike in Boston.

Speaker 14 (21:40):
Hi, Mike, Hey, how're we doing.

Speaker 3 (21:43):
We're good, but we're not you. You're you're going through.

Speaker 8 (21:47):
It a little bit.

Speaker 15 (21:48):
I mean seen better days. Was driving the wife's dad
home from a night of drinking, and uh, he told
me to leave her.

Speaker 3 (21:58):
All right, let me say what you are driving your
wife's dad. Okay, So your father in law, your wife's
dad home from a night of drinking, and he told
you to leave his own daughter.

Speaker 14 (22:11):
Yeah, she's just like her mother, dragging it down. That's
why he left her.

Speaker 3 (22:16):
Oh my god, my god, this is like, are you
and your wife okay? Are you guys in a good
place or have you thought about this?

Speaker 14 (22:22):
What I mean it's constant. We were fighting all the time.

Speaker 15 (22:27):
I mean we're just going through emotions probably at this
point for the kids. But other than that, Yeah, he
told me she's holding me back from making a lot
more money.

Speaker 8 (22:39):
This is like sad, I feel.

Speaker 15 (22:41):
Like, really is Honestly, yeah, I was actually pretty sad
him just telling me. He's like, he's like, I know
you have way more potential, but she's holding you and
you need to go. And I was like, wow, like
this is And then the wife asked, Hey, how was
the ride home bringing dad home? And I was like
a great, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 3 (23:01):
Really listen, I feel like if there's anybody to give
you advice on that and on somebody, it would be
their parent because they really know them better than anybody else.
But is he not worried about his grandkids though? Because
don't you know, wouldn't we think that he would want
you guys to stay together for the kids.

Speaker 15 (23:19):
H for sure, But he he knows how hold them
down no matter what that one. I mean, that's really
what's probably holding us together right now as the kids.

Speaker 3 (23:29):
How old are the kids?

Speaker 14 (23:33):
Four and two?

Speaker 3 (23:34):
Oh? Yeah, those are babies.

Speaker 4 (23:36):
Think it's probably better off if you guys break up
now that way, you're like kids see like mature adults
co parenting versus living in a house.

Speaker 8 (23:43):
That's like there's no love.

Speaker 6 (23:46):
Absolutely.

Speaker 15 (23:47):
I mean there's always a double edged sword on either way.
You think about it, you know, it's like, hey, you know,
my kid expects to see mom and dad every day
he gets home from school. Especially if mom yells at him,
he's looking for dad. And then if dad yells at him,
he's looking for mom. And I feel like if he
doesn't have anyone to turn to, it would probably do
more damage to him.

Speaker 1 (24:05):
Now they would little.

Speaker 3 (24:07):
Kids really are, Chris, I would like to make that clear.
They try to pit us against each other. Every time
I send the one the time out, she's like, I
want gaddy.

Speaker 9 (24:16):
I bet you if you guys co parents together and
come up with a plan on how this split could happen,
it could work out.

Speaker 3 (24:21):
Are you guys still intimate?

Speaker 6 (24:23):
Mike?

Speaker 5 (24:25):
Uh?

Speaker 14 (24:26):
Yeah, we get down when.

Speaker 8 (24:27):
Needed when needed?

Speaker 14 (24:30):
What does that mean only when she wants it?

Speaker 6 (24:33):
Basically?

Speaker 8 (24:34):
How often is that.

Speaker 14 (24:37):
A dry spell right now? For like two months?

Speaker 3 (24:41):
Yeah? Well, they say once the intimacy goes, that's.

Speaker 14 (24:46):
Like that before I had my last kid too. She
just she's not really into doing the whole nasty what
I feel I said the same thing.

Speaker 8 (24:57):
I feel like when.

Speaker 4 (24:58):
It's like that, maybe that's like the Ashley's playing, that's
when the relationship is kind of broken.

Speaker 3 (25:02):
I go back and forth. Obviously, I see fighting to
keep your relationship for the kids, but then I also
see if you're not happy, how can you be a
good parent? And so you.

Speaker 15 (25:12):
Know, oh, that doesn't affect parenting.

Speaker 14 (25:14):
You can be a good parent absolutely.

Speaker 3 (25:17):
Okay, Well, what are you gonna do, Mike?

Speaker 14 (25:22):
We're buckling down.

Speaker 6 (25:23):
Hopefully I make more money, maybe she'll be happy.

Speaker 14 (25:25):
And if that worked, hopefully, it's just sad.

Speaker 3 (25:29):
I would die if I heard my husband talk about.

Speaker 8 (25:31):
Me like that.

Speaker 4 (25:32):
But if you're hoping to make more money to make
her happy, to further your relationship, to make it better,
then then it's already like in shambles.

Speaker 14 (25:38):
Does she workh yeah?

Speaker 3 (25:42):
Okay, so she doesn't have her own money.

Speaker 15 (25:45):
She does, doesn't make quite as much as me, but
you know it's there.

Speaker 3 (25:52):
Okay, Well, you don't sound happy. Her own dad is
telling you to leave her. That's so a while to me.
I I couldn't even imagine it. But I I mean
I just want, I want all I care about the
kids being happy, and from what it seems, you're making
sure that that one hundred percent happens every day. Well, Mike,

(26:15):
this is listen. We can't make this decision for you
because this is clearly life altering. So I wish you
the best, and I hope whatever it is, Yeah, whatever
it comes down to, I hope that you know it's
something that you can sleep with the night. And then
I hope we distract you when you're driving to work,
because that's really all we can do for you.

Speaker 5 (26:33):
Thanks day.

Speaker 3 (26:37):
I think about that, like, imagine hearing your spouse talk
about you like that, Like he's basically just like, yeah,
I'll grin and Barrett, maybe I'll make some more money
and she'll be happy.

Speaker 8 (26:46):
Then No, that would be painful. That would like break
my heart.

Speaker 4 (26:49):
At the same time, they're probably so far gone that
like it doesn't even matter like anymore.

Speaker 3 (26:53):
Like what is this man saying about me in the firehouse?
Like that's what we need to Probably I need an insight,
I need hell.

Speaker 8 (27:00):
Probably.

Speaker 4 (27:00):
I hate that she picks up her phone and records
me at random times, and sometimes she's post these thoughty
pictures on Instagram that I hear about Jesus.

Speaker 3 (27:07):
But that's like, but that's the worst.

Speaker 4 (27:11):
That you did not have the role I played the roles.

Speaker 3 (27:16):
I don't want to roll play. I don't want to
role play anonymous. You want to weigh in on this.
Hearing Mike talk about his wife like that, I was
a little sad. What do you think?

Speaker 16 (27:28):
Yeah, I mean I actually just went through the same thing.
I just divorced my husband. We have two kids that
she's bout to turn to, and my other daughter is four,
So I was in the same position, literally, and I
mean it's hard, Like it was something that we didn't
want to accept. Nobody wanted to believe that.

Speaker 5 (27:45):
The marriage was over.

Speaker 16 (27:46):
But eventually we knew it was the right thing and
worked so much better now with co parents than we
ever were in a relationship.

Speaker 3 (27:53):
Wow, that's amazing. And I hope he's listening because the
ages are exactly the same and it's doable. How do
you feel like the four year old's picking up on
what's going on at all?

Speaker 16 (28:04):
Well, we sat her down, we finally, like when the
papers were signed and everything was finalized, we sat her
down together and we're like, listen, this doesn't change everything, Like,
Mommy still loves you very much, Daddy still loves you
very much. You're still going to see both of us.
We have a custody agreement of a week on, week off,
so they have a week of Daddy's in a week
here and there's we're finally just kind of acclimating to it.

(28:24):
The kids are getting used to it, Like she understands now.

Speaker 13 (28:26):
She's like, okay, like it's daddy's week, it's mommy's week,
and I mean we're doing great. And he still comes
over on my weeks.

Speaker 16 (28:31):
I go over on his week. We take care of
the kids together.

Speaker 3 (28:34):
I was because like it's not our bodies aren't like females.
I just don't feel like we're built to be away
from them. You feel some sort of like ping in
your soul those weeks that you have off. Does it
feel so strange?

Speaker 15 (28:49):
Oh?

Speaker 16 (28:50):
Absolutely, Like it's like I don't even cook dinner because
I'm just like I don't.

Speaker 17 (28:53):
Know what to do.

Speaker 3 (28:56):
Yeah, like I don't know what to do.

Speaker 13 (28:58):
But yeah, so sometimes I'll talk so and I'm like
I miss my kids.

Speaker 16 (29:01):
Can I come over and like have dinner, put them
to bed, and like I'll come over on my nights
and put them to bed, so you still see them
all throughout the week, it's just this week he takes
care of them and I have just the fun pair
and I com and do the fun thing and so.

Speaker 18 (29:12):
The I'm gonna gay see you.

Speaker 3 (29:15):
That's an amazing setup that you have. That sounds a
lot like my parents had it. And that's it. That
doesn't usually happen, So certainly count your blessings with that.

Speaker 6 (29:25):
No.

Speaker 13 (29:25):
Absolutely, I'm very lucky.

Speaker 16 (29:27):
But it is doable, and I think it's not good
to help the kids see them like. They can feel
that tension, they can tell their parents don't like each other.
There's just some kind of iffy vibe there.

Speaker 8 (29:37):
Yeah.

Speaker 18 (29:38):
I always just.

Speaker 16 (29:38):
Kind of better to nip it in the butt and
explain to them this doesn't change anything, but it is
for the best.

Speaker 3 (29:43):
Yeah. Wow, Okay, Anonymous, thank you so much for the call.
I appreciate it. Where do you want to go on?
Good morning?

Speaker 7 (29:51):
Good morning? Okay? So I have a couple of questions, One,
how long they've been married and have they done anything
to help intimacy and their marriage? And also like what
is her mental load? Like what if she is she
she's working, she's also home taking care of the kids,
and then him making more money. Money is not going

(30:13):
to resolve and buy happiness.

Speaker 3 (30:16):
Yeah, I don't know where the money kept coming up
because remember her dad said, leave her, you'll make more money.
He said, makes more money if she maybe she'll be
happier if I make more money. Yeah, money and money.

Speaker 4 (30:27):
But then he also mentioned that he made more than
she did as well, so the money kept coming back.

Speaker 3 (30:32):
Yeah.

Speaker 7 (30:35):
Well, if money is the issue, then I don't think
that's going to fix happiness and intimacy. Like he's just saying, oh,
when she wants to, So that's not going to help
the relationship. And the children can they can feel that,
they can feel that pressure, they can feel that. I
think if they need to as two adults become together
and figure out what they want to do with the

(30:57):
kids' house, is it going to be beneficial if we
stay together, learn how do we six us? Because sometimes
I think in relationships when we have children, we lose
focus of each other, like we kind of mourn or
grieve the actual relationship that we had prior to children. Yeah,
because the main focus and priority becomes the children. I
think that's where they have to sit.

Speaker 5 (31:19):
I do.

Speaker 3 (31:20):
I'm like, I think about the times, so, you know,
because I've had moments where I literally look at him
and I think back to what were we doing at
this time seven years ago when we first started dating,
talking about what dog park are we going to go to?
Let's go booze tonight. No no care in the world.
It's just different.

Speaker 15 (31:37):
It is.

Speaker 3 (31:37):
Your priorities have to have to shift, all right, Ganiez.
If Mike calls back with those details, obviously I'll put
them on so we can hear his answers.

Speaker 7 (31:44):
I'll be listening.

Speaker 15 (31:45):
I'll got you.

Speaker 3 (31:47):
All right, Let's continue the check in six one seven
nine three one one nine four five. That is six
one seven, nine, three one one nine for five. Com
Me babes. We're talking about you, your life, your world,
anything you want the check in only Hi, everybody, Good morning.
It's Ashley in the gym in the morning show. I
don't know what's in the water today, but this is wild,
I'm all. He hung up. Oh he damn guy said

(32:10):
his wife's leaving him and she cheated with one of
his coworkers. But he hung up.

Speaker 8 (32:16):
That sucks like that pain.

Speaker 3 (32:21):
That sucks.

Speaker 4 (32:22):
I'm just gonna say, if that happened to me, that
would be so painful.

Speaker 3 (32:25):
Yeah, I mean, well, maybe this is him back. He's
probably not gonna want to talk though, because you're laughing
at him. Anonymous. Hi, Hi, babe, Anonymous. I'm just gonna
get d a little background. And you're twenty three years old.
Your parents have been together for thirty plus years. That
is a long time. Thirty years. Yeah, okay, what's going

(32:45):
on with your parents?

Speaker 18 (32:48):
So about two weeks ago, my parents told my sister
and I, which were two years apart, so she's two
years younger than I am. They told us that things
have not been well between them for years at least
ten and they are now deciding to finally like separate.

Speaker 13 (33:10):
And so what I was talking about was.

Speaker 18 (33:12):
Born before was that that was never something that I
would have thought would have happened to my parents. They
were able to like talk about things with us, be
there for us, do everything for us.

Speaker 13 (33:23):
You know.

Speaker 3 (33:24):
I also feel like, you know, it's all you've ever known,
and you're in your starting to become like an adult.
You're not a baby anymore, and it's just all of
your memories are with them, you know, And so that's
going to be such a massive change for you guys.
Do we know what has happened?

Speaker 15 (33:42):
I don't.

Speaker 18 (33:44):
I guess that they had had conversations in the past,
but nothing was like very serious. But one of them
have just gotten to the point where they're just they
just can't do it anymore. And that's where I'm like
thinking of it as a child perspective, I guess you
could say for that gentleman that called where Like I
personally like now that I'm twenty three and this is

(34:05):
what I've known like half of my life, I've didn't
realize this was going on. It's kind of mind boggling.
And I feel like if my parents, if my parents
were able to co parents like back then and like
do the split, I wouldn't be questioning as much as
I am.

Speaker 15 (34:23):
Now.

Speaker 3 (34:24):
Wow, that's deep. And if he's still listening, I think
is really going to speak volumes to him. Let me
ask you, is is one of them going to stay
at your childhood home or is everybody moving? What's that?

Speaker 18 (34:39):
So it's funny that you asked that, because that's kind
of up in the air thing at the moment. So
we're all still living together. It kind of feels like
we're playing pretend at the moment. Yeah, but the one
that is leaving, he's looking for my dad. He's looking
for someplace. But it's not like officially like happening. But

(35:01):
either way, like my mom can't support like having the home,
you know what I mean?

Speaker 8 (35:05):
Right right, right right?

Speaker 3 (35:07):
Oh babe, I'm sorry that that's a lot, but I
mean you hearing him and Mike talk about that and
then feeling like you should call and tell him that
it's the right thing to do. Probably, Oh, he's on
the line. He actually called back. Uh, let me go
to him. Anonymous, thank you for this. I can hear
that you're crying, and I'm it makes me upset. I listened.
My parents were divorced. They did it when I was

(35:28):
young too, so that is all I've ever known, so
I can see the complete flip opposite. That's all you've
ever known is them being together. Yeah, all right, babe,
let's see what Mike has to say. Mike, everybody is
like a lot of the phone lines are calling in
to comment on your situation. You just heard Anonymous right there.
Does that, in any way, shape or form push you

(35:50):
to maybe want to sit her down and say, like, listen,
we should be co parenting. We're not happy.

Speaker 15 (35:55):
Now is the time to do it, all right, So
let me something out because I know one thing that
was said a lot was money. Now, money is probably
ninety nine percent of our problems. COVID tore us up,
we got into debt, et cetera. You know, tried going
back to school, try to make.

Speaker 14 (36:14):
More money, didn't work out.

Speaker 15 (36:16):
No money, Money buys you a place, money buys you
a better car, Money buys you.

Speaker 14 (36:23):
I can stay home. I don't need to go to
work anymore.

Speaker 15 (36:26):
Money is what will solve You know. They say money
don't buy happiness, but it share does.

Speaker 14 (36:32):
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 15 (36:33):
It might create other problems, but it's going to create
some happiness in some sort, whether it be going to
Target and spending five hundred dollars each time to burn
out instead of the therapist because that's cheaper than therapy or
doing this. Money rules the world, and with one hundred
and sixty percent inflation over the past couple of years, it's.

Speaker 14 (36:55):
That's what brought us to the level we're at now.

Speaker 3 (36:58):
Finances are on the list of reasons that people have problems.
I don't think we're taking that away from you. It
just it was interesting that that was mentioned so many times.
Was kind of all we were acknowledging.

Speaker 8 (37:09):
Yeah, no, for sure.

Speaker 14 (37:10):
I mean the whole sitting.

Speaker 15 (37:11):
Down thing and you know, talking and doing that stuff.
We've done that, and for some reason, you know, a
week goes.

Speaker 14 (37:18):
By, two weeks goes by. We're just back somewhat together.

Speaker 15 (37:21):
You know, we've broken up a million times, but every time,
you know, where is she going to go? She you know,
I'll give her child support, still not going to be
enough for her to live and do what.

Speaker 8 (37:32):
She needs to do.

Speaker 15 (37:33):
So what that does the economy makes people stuck together,
as simple as it is, all right.

Speaker 3 (37:39):
Mike, Well, like I said, a lot of people were
calling in to kind of like weigh in on what
you're going through. But what I know to be true
is that there are other people in the same situation
as you, so you know, maybe you helped to make
them feel a little less alone. I think Anonymous calling
in and telling you about her parents is just a
whole different perspective where she's like, man, I wish that

(38:00):
my parents would have done this when we were younger.
So that was the life we know, because now she
only has memories with the two of them together, and
that's kind of being ripped away from her. So it's
just another perspective.

Speaker 14 (38:11):
No, I feel for her, you know what I mean.
It's not something that I.

Speaker 15 (38:15):
Didn't hold hold tight to me because you know, after
listening to what she said, you know, she put a
lot of emotion in it.

Speaker 14 (38:21):
Yeah, and she definitely.

Speaker 15 (38:22):
Cared with what she said, and you know, I totally understand.
You know, obviously people figure it out different ways. But
I know when they go back and look at pictures
of mom and Dad's smiling, you know, when we're all
taking family photos and it's not separate photos, I know,
I think he can appreciate that more that we were
still trying during that part. You know, we're not really

(38:45):
doing these things in front of the kids, you know,
where you know, it's you know, like two thousand and
eight crisis where we're playing the Wii and dancing and
you know, swinging the nunchucks and mom and dad are
getting divorced in the kitchen. You know, you just don't
know things that are happening in the background. But the
love is still there, and you know, it's it's not
something that hasn't been filled, especially with the children, because

(39:07):
I know that they have nothing to do with what.
You know, me and Mom are going.

Speaker 3 (39:10):
Through all right, man, we'll fight for love. Keep us posted.
We'll be wishing you nothing but the best. Rock on, baby,
keep rocking on forever. I don't get the WE reference
at all, but well, yeah, we're saying I think that
that's clear.

Speaker 4 (39:28):
You know, the WE was big in two thousand and
eight when the financial crisis happened with the housing.

Speaker 3 (39:34):
Say it's cheaper to keep the Oh wow, it's cheaper
to keep her interesting. Joe is in Lawrence, Joe, I
had mentioned you earlier. Uh, you're going through it too.
What's what's what's happening, Joe?

Speaker 5 (39:50):
Just a lot of bad stuff right now. Yeah, dreadful thing.

Speaker 3 (39:54):
Yeah right now.

Speaker 5 (39:56):
Really, I'm going through a divorce right now, losing two kids.
I gotta get everything situated right now. I'm trying my
heart to keep it together. Yeah, what happened, Well, almost
ten years ago, I got with this woman. I thought
it was the love of my life. Turns out she
was going with two of my employees. So there it
goes that I'm down two guys and a wife, right now.

Speaker 3 (40:19):
Jesus, Joe, how'd you find out?

Speaker 5 (40:23):
Oh, to chat among the crew?

Speaker 4 (40:26):
Oh my god, with two different guys at two different times.

Speaker 8 (40:30):
Right, this wasn't like a thing.

Speaker 6 (40:32):
Right, Nah, I mean I don't know.

Speaker 5 (40:35):
I mean, I just know it was two different guys.
I fired him. I'm in a situation where I'm getting
divorced right now. Yeah, hopefully, hopefully I get to get
the house to car everything. She's taken.

Speaker 3 (40:47):
Well, I mean, how old are the kids?

Speaker 5 (40:51):
Once two at once six months?

Speaker 3 (40:53):
Oh, oh my god, Joe, she better not take those
little babies from you. That's psychotic.

Speaker 5 (41:00):
Honestly at this point, I love the kids, but I
might have to get a DNA test. I might have
to just to be safe on my end.

Speaker 8 (41:08):
Do you think there's a chance, I don't know.

Speaker 5 (41:12):
I'm one of them skinned a little darker.

Speaker 3 (41:16):
Well, I feel sick to my stomach. I mean, there's
there's so many things here, obviously, but the bottom line is,
you guys are going to go through a nasty divorce.
You can tell that. And you have little babies six
months and a two year old that's like around the
age of the kids that I have, And that's that's
a lot in general. Can I just say, how does
she have the time? I don't feel like I have

(41:39):
a single second to myself, like, how is she what?

Speaker 11 (41:42):
Hell?

Speaker 5 (41:44):
Well, she's a stay at home mom, and I usually
can do all the work and pain I do make
the money. She stays on home with the kids.

Speaker 3 (41:50):
Got it so she was she was having visitors. I'm
so sorry, Joe, because, like you said, you're not only
losing your wife, but you're also losing you know, the
guys that had worked for you. Are you still living
at the house with her?

Speaker 8 (42:01):
No?

Speaker 14 (42:02):
Never?

Speaker 3 (42:03):
Never? Okay, are you? But you're seeing the kids always.

Speaker 5 (42:07):
I definitely keep in touch with the kids. I love
my babies. I'm saying, not wrong with them, guys. But
at the end of the day, I gotta I gotta
get her out of here.

Speaker 3 (42:15):
Yeah.

Speaker 15 (42:16):
Right.

Speaker 5 (42:16):
I knew something wasn't right when I seen all these
extra clothes and she was saying, you know, she just
bought them just to have them for for coziness, for coziness.
There was you know, I almost I'm a small guy.
I'm seeing these extra large shirts hanging around my house.

Speaker 3 (42:37):
I feel, Joe, she is that is just dis respectful
to the craziest degree. I'm so sorry, Joe.

Speaker 5 (42:44):
My eyes, my eyes, she's the devil.

Speaker 3 (42:47):
Satan, Satan. Wow, Joe. I'm I'm hoping that she can,
you know, put all the things aside and you guys
can figure out custody of the kids, and that obviously
is the most important. But that is damn. I'm sorry, Joe.
I don't I don't have anything else to say. That's terrible.

Speaker 5 (43:05):
I'm living it. I'm living a nightmare.

Speaker 3 (43:06):
You are you are. Hopefully you'll come out on the
other side a better man without that in your life.

Speaker 5 (43:13):
Well, this is a learning lesson. I'm gonna put her
down the road and move on my life. I'm firing
those two guys and never being hired again.

Speaker 3 (43:21):
All right, Joe, god speed, all.

Speaker 5 (43:25):
Right, thank you guys, appreciate your time.

Speaker 3 (43:30):
Thinking about you.

Speaker 4 (43:31):
I had a question, but he answered it in the moment.
The skin color, and I think that's a telltale sign, like, yeah, he.

Speaker 3 (43:37):
Said he wants a DNA test because the one kid
is a little dark.

Speaker 4 (43:40):
Dark, of which the guy probably coming over was dark too.

Speaker 3 (43:45):
Yeah, because she just had a baby six months ago,
and if he caught her cheating, that means she was
having it pain and by the way, she's stupid.

Speaker 8 (43:52):
She's leaving, she's leaving extra.

Speaker 3 (43:54):
Large T shirts around the house, are you And that's
why she said they were comfy clothes because they were
got it. So the guys were leaving their clothes and
she was pretending like they were her companies.

Speaker 4 (44:04):
And then also with his employees and that's the part
like you're so stupid and.

Speaker 9 (44:08):
She's taking the crib and the come on, yeah why
she med like how she taken everything and you're the
one who cheated with my employees.

Speaker 3 (44:17):
Yeah, guys, the checking with can we quickly? Can?

Speaker 5 (44:20):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (44:20):
Foreign will line a really like? Cheer me up?

Speaker 8 (44:23):
Or is it like?

Speaker 3 (44:24):
Is it a positive?

Speaker 8 (44:24):
Absolutely?

Speaker 3 (44:25):
I don't like it? No?

Speaker 8 (44:26):
Do it?

Speaker 3 (44:27):
Okay, Dennis, you have a second to cheer me up.
I feel like I'm being set up. What's the news
that you have for me?

Speaker 5 (44:33):
I work in Mashfield, so welcome to Mashfield, my.

Speaker 3 (44:35):
God, my neighbor.

Speaker 5 (44:37):
Also, you know how we talked about the H word yesterday?

Speaker 7 (44:41):
Yeah, you gave me the wrong number.

Speaker 5 (44:44):
I worked for CBS in your rash cream?

Speaker 8 (44:46):
Is in.

Speaker 3 (44:48):
It up? You know what? Thank you? I was I
was worried about the rash cream and I'm so I'm
so fore's funny. I'm gonna find out who fun's going
on that cruise with right now?

Speaker 1 (45:00):
Game in morning show with DJ four and it's Satig
Morning Satin's.

Speaker 2 (45:04):
Number one for hip hop. She am in ninety four
or five. This literally comes up every year at this time.
I know that we have had this conversation before.

Speaker 3 (45:16):
I know that I've talked about this in my social
media before too, And I also know that this is
going to lend to the theory of you two idiots
about how I am with like receiving gifts or things
or just like anything in general. My high school basketball
teammate hit me up last night and she go and

(45:39):
I don't understand why I can't just fake, like be
normal and fake it like everybody else. She goes, Hey,
what's your address? I want to send you our Christmas card?
Why can't I just give the address and keep it moving?

Speaker 4 (45:56):
Why can't you just give the address, get the card
and throw it away? Facts, right, Because that's what most
people do. I don't even open them.

Speaker 3 (46:06):
She goes, hey, can I can I have your address?
It's Christmas card time. I said, Please, don't worry about it.

Speaker 8 (46:15):
I'm fine, No you did not.

Speaker 3 (46:18):
Please, don't worry about it.

Speaker 8 (46:20):
I'm fine.

Speaker 3 (46:20):
I put it crying, laughing emotions, okay, to soften it,
put lol okay. And that's all she wrote, and then
we had like a mini back and forth about something else,
but she definitely felt the type of way, what is.

Speaker 4 (46:37):
It about the nice things that people want to do?

Speaker 3 (46:40):
Well, it's just okay. I've never been a fan of
the Christmas cards. I don't care that little Johnny graduated
second grade, took swim lessons and now wants to ride
a horse like I like my family. Some of them
said newsletters, but I don't care.

Speaker 4 (46:59):
Most of them are literally a picture of the family,
happy holidays.

Speaker 9 (47:02):
They are blah blah, yeah, which is because it's like,
what do you want me to do with your pictures?

Speaker 3 (47:07):
Put it in your fridge?

Speaker 8 (47:08):
No.

Speaker 9 (47:09):
No, I've walked into cribs where I'm like, oh, you
can come a nice family, and they're like, oh no,
that's my friend's Christmas card.

Speaker 8 (47:13):
I'm like, why do you have that on?

Speaker 4 (47:14):
Yourrs are lining up on the windowsill. Now there's probably
like seven up there. But what I don't know, Yes
of other families in our circle, what.

Speaker 3 (47:24):
They do All they do is give the person you're
sending them to anxiety because they really just want to
put them in the trash can, but they feel bad,
so they line them up on a window sill or
on a fridge, or they buy those stupid contraptions where
you stick them on that thing. It's stupid.

Speaker 4 (47:38):
What I do is I look at the pictures. I
judge them all. And that's another thing. I started looking like, oh,
that's a bad picture of all them.

Speaker 3 (47:45):
I take pictures around like I have. We're doing pictures
on Monday of this week of next week. I take pictures.
I might post them on Instagram or put them for
my house. I'm not putting them like, I'm not going
to shut or fly. I'm not doing it.

Speaker 18 (47:58):
No.

Speaker 3 (47:59):
But like I know, listen, I don't understand why I'm
like this. I I in my head, why don't you
just put martialled, like, why didn't you just put your
address and keep it moving? But I don't want her
Christmas cards?

Speaker 4 (48:10):
Like sometimes it's like that with gifts too, like you you.

Speaker 8 (48:14):
You know somebody, like can I buy you this?

Speaker 3 (48:18):
I like nice things. I just buy them for myself.

Speaker 9 (48:20):
I was about to say, just give me the money
and I'll get it myself one time. I'm kind of
like you, you.

Speaker 8 (48:24):
Know what I mean.

Speaker 9 (48:25):
I'm just kind of like, because nobody really knows what
you want, and then you don't want to show this appoint.

Speaker 3 (48:28):
Listen at the end of the day. I think it's
also comes with age, Like I'm thirty eight now. If
in my head I'm like, oh damn, I really want
a purple sweatshirt, I'll have that thing Amazon by the afternoon,
Like I just buy it. I don't wait to be like, oh,
I'll ask somebody in six months for it for Christmas.
That's the issue.

Speaker 9 (48:43):
Sending your family to another family is weird, and I'm
putting on the window sills weird.

Speaker 4 (48:48):
Yeah, we're talking about though, We're talking about somebody wanting
to do something really, you know, And she's like no, and.

Speaker 3 (48:53):
I'm not the problem. I didn't. I was just like,
that's okay. What did I say, don't need it?

Speaker 8 (49:02):
I'm will still a hard blow.

Speaker 3 (49:06):
Hey, what her? Hey, what's your what's your address? Christmas card?

Speaker 6 (49:10):
Time?

Speaker 3 (49:10):
Meet? Do not worry about it. I'm fine, crying, laughing,
abouji do you guys keep by the way, never gave
the address.

Speaker 4 (49:16):
Do you keep the ones from like your family, like
the Fireman's family.

Speaker 3 (49:19):
I don't open them. When I see that it's a
Christmas card, I put it right in the trash. Can
So have I opened them before in time, yes, just
to like take a peek, But I open them over
the trash like it's not even write in his family trash,
my family, trash, my friends, even a higher level of trash.

(49:44):
I don't want this. I will like it on Instagram.

Speaker 8 (49:47):
Is there anything that you would take? Good question, very
good question.

Speaker 3 (49:52):
So my aunt Roe God lost her soul. She doesn't
do it anymore because she's older. But for Christmas time,
instead of sending everybody Christmas cards, she would make and
so candy wreaths and she would use your favorite candy.
So for mine, she would do like caramels and Tootsie
rolls and it would look like a legit reef with
a red bone in the middle. But it was all candy.
She did that instead of cards. Aunt Rosa g that's iconic. Yeah,

(50:15):
but that was her thing. Yeah, I mean, I wasn't
doing that, but I don't you guys think it's weird
that now, especially and that I have two kids, I'm
like I'm standing on this hill, like I'm not sending
out Christmas cards because I'm not spending the money for
someone to literally put that thing in the trash or
on their windows.

Speaker 8 (50:33):
I think that's weird.

Speaker 4 (50:34):
Okay, I'm sorry, I disagree. Mean, I don't like it,
but my wife does.

Speaker 3 (50:39):
How many family do you do you have a Christmas
card this year?

Speaker 8 (50:41):
Yes? I was just about to ask you us if
you got hours yet. And I don't think.

Speaker 3 (50:45):
They're got my address new one.

Speaker 4 (50:47):
Yes I do, because I have a mind and I
remember I use logic.

Speaker 8 (50:53):
Yeah, I heard you talk about it.

Speaker 3 (50:55):
Wait you sent me one.

Speaker 4 (50:57):
I think we're going to I don't know if they're back, which,
by the way. Also, I'm not in love with the
picture that she picked because I think we all look
cold and miserable.

Speaker 8 (51:05):
Where is it?

Speaker 4 (51:05):
It's from Scotland and it's a nice picture, but if
you look at our faces, we don't look happy. But
you know what I mean, it's the thing that she
likes to do. I stop trying to like make them
fun and stuff, and that's her thing, and she likes it.
She claims that she likes seeing other people's families, like
during the holidays, I'm like, all right, like I don't,
I do.

Speaker 3 (51:25):
I would love to hear somebody who's a big Christmas
card advocate sell them to me. Yeah, like I want
to hear the cell because I don't.

Speaker 8 (51:33):
They aren't cheap too, That's that's what I'm saying.

Speaker 4 (51:36):
And then the judgment part comes into play because I
got a Christmas card from a family that's missing half
the family. I'm like, it just gives me it's like uncomfortable.

Speaker 3 (51:43):
Yeah, and again to take a one step further, it's
it's the one the families. I have a couple that
send out the newsletter like I don't want to know
that Molly graduated the seventh grade and she's on her
way to Village Services High, Like I don't care. I
don't want to know that. I don't. I'm good, Like
you could just shoot me a text.

Speaker 4 (52:02):
Yeah, you know what, there are people who send out
like tins of cookies that I didn't mind that, and
I think it probably costs the same price if you
hire some company to do them all.

Speaker 3 (52:14):
But like yeah, six one seven nine three one one
nine four five. I realized My text back was I
could be better about this, but somebody sell me on
the actual Christmas card. Like, I know half of you
listening have sent out your Christmas cards. What do we like?
What are you a Christmas card advocate? Why six one
seven nine three one one nine four five they decorate

(52:38):
somewhere in my house, it's just the bottom of trash. Everybody,
Good morning, Sashly the jam of morning show. She's playing
Christmas music because you know what it makes this Let
me just say, I I realize that I could have
been a little nicer. And the response, no, I do.
And you know what, she's listening hilar and she said,

(53:00):
tell everybody I was happy to be able to save
my stamp.

Speaker 1 (53:04):
You know what.

Speaker 3 (53:08):
Emotion if you're just tuning in again, I feel like
this comes up once a year during this time stepsenting
Christmas cards. Nobody wants them. What it does is it
puts anxiety and pressure on people to then feel like
they have to decorate their home with them. Put them
out so people can see Santi's wife's decorating her window

(53:30):
sills with them. Other people buy these contraptions. Have you
seen those things? People buy things that you hang and
then they stick the cards in them so they hang
down the wall.

Speaker 8 (53:40):
My not that used to do it.

Speaker 3 (53:41):
Stupid, stupid six one seven nine three one one nine
four five. I'm looking for a Christmas card advocate. I
want somebody to sell me on these things. Elena and Pelham. Elena,
You're totally right. Elena thinks I'm being cold. Yeah, I
know I'm giving anti Christmas right now, which is not true,

(54:02):
because I love Christmas. I just think the cards are
a waste of time.

Speaker 13 (54:10):
But you are insulting your family and friends who like
Christmas and they want to let you know that they're
thinking about you, they care about you. And Josh coming
out and saying that don't open them and throw them
in the trash or you open them.

Speaker 11 (54:28):
Over the trash.

Speaker 13 (54:29):
No one's asking you to put them on your windowsill.

Speaker 17 (54:31):
No one's asking you to catch the contraption you don't like.

Speaker 13 (54:36):
It's so insulting and hurt Fault and the woman that
you didn't give you address. It's like I got the
impression that you want to keep your address private.

Speaker 3 (54:46):
No you want no, Elena. Okay, Fine, I listen. I've
clearly upset you, and that's fine. I'm glad we're doing this.
I no, she is my friend. Upset Okay, and she
can have my address anytime. I just don't want her
Christmas card. I see her two sons every day on
Instagram and I like all her posts and were so
we're good there. I don't need to see them in
their Santa hats. But what I'm saying is fine, you're

(55:08):
saying I shouldn't say it. But it's when you get
your Christmas cards? How do you open them? Should like,
should I step away from the trash and then walk
up to the trash and throw them all because they're
going in the trash. So I'm just being honest with
everybody that that's how I do it. Where do you
Where do you display your Christmas cards?

Speaker 13 (55:28):
I don't display them. I open them. I might put
it on my desk at work for a day or two,
but then I recycle them. Oh you know. I just
they like it. The people sending it to them, they
like it.

Speaker 3 (55:43):
They do may not like it, they like it.

Speaker 13 (55:45):
And some things that BETA left unsaid. And I think
this was the thing that was.

Speaker 3 (55:51):
Bet A left under smash Thrust Zimmer smash Thrust. It's
a good Elena. Thank you for the call. You're right now,
you know I I did, Elena. I did say, no,
I'm not mad either me and you. Me and you
were good. But I'm just saying you're right. I should
have been I could have been better with the no.
I'm just and so am I. If you send me

(56:12):
a Christmas card, I would open it over the trash.
But I think you're right about my response, like I
should have just sent the address and called it a day.

Speaker 15 (56:20):
Yep.

Speaker 3 (56:21):
Yeah, and I did say the trash and trash and
trash it bye bye, Merry Christmas to the bottom.

Speaker 4 (56:30):
Can I just point one thing out? Can I just
say one thing? If you keep it for a day,
then recycle it. It's throwing it away, right. What does
she say recycling?

Speaker 3 (56:40):
Yeah, I mean, listen, I'm recycling. I have the thing
where it has both but whatever. So she's basically saying
she'll put it out for one day on her desk
and then she throws it out.

Speaker 4 (56:49):
It's the same thing.

Speaker 5 (56:50):
The time.

Speaker 3 (56:55):
Madison is going to sell me on Christmas cards. Matt,
I'm waiting make it so I don't make it so
I don't want to throw them out. Please All right?

Speaker 16 (57:07):
Well, I am an art teacher and a photographer, so
I guess I'm a little biased. On the whole Christmas
card thing, because I guess I'm taking the photos for them.
But what I do is I have a fox every
year that I put all the cards from every holiday,
like birthday, whatever.

Speaker 17 (57:25):
In and then I look at them. And I know
that sounds like a really nerdy thing to do. But
one of the things that's really cool was my brother
in law passed away and I was able to use
like his love you and his name and make gifts
with it for his family from the cards that he signed.

Speaker 3 (57:41):
All right, now you're talking about my heart strengths. Hey,
Devil's advocate here though, a lot of people just are like,
I'm not trying to throw shate shutterfly, but I just
think of them in my brain. A lot of people's
no one's writing on these, like hand they're not handwritten.
No of the Christmas cards that I get there, they're computerized.
I don't know about you guys, but I'm not seen
any handwritten signatures.

Speaker 16 (58:02):
All right, okay, but it's also nice to be able
to look back and here and be like, wow, these
are the people that were important in my life at
that time.

Speaker 3 (58:13):
I don't know, No, Listen, there's obviously a ton of
people in this world we get. I get a hundred
of them, so I know people love them. And you
know what, Elena. Although though Elena was mad saying it,
she has a point. It's making these people feel good
to send the cards, so I should just go ahead
and let them, you know, no not yeah, but but

(58:36):
Madison was funny. I do the photo shoots. Like my
good friend Casey is coming to my house. She's coming
to my house on Monday to shoot some Christmas photos.
I just don't make the car, but I still do them.
I still love all the for you. Yeah, Instagram is
going to eat those two.

Speaker 9 (58:51):
But you know, you know, but you're not sending them out.
I'm not stupid to send them out to people.

Speaker 3 (58:55):
What.

Speaker 9 (58:56):
I'm sorry. I don't agree with it. I think you
were cold and I who responded by agree would you?
I don't want your family my crab hanging on my frish.

Speaker 3 (59:02):
I don't want that, Madison, thanks for the call. Yeah,
I just it is. It's a weird, strange tradition that
people have.

Speaker 4 (59:12):
But I think you've learned that you can just throw
them away. You don't have to tell them. I don't
like a Christmas card.

Speaker 3 (59:16):
Here's the thing you want to start like, I'm being
just this, I'm telling my honest truth because yeah, and
people aren't gonna like it, but that's the truth. That's
what we do in the show. We tell the.

Speaker 9 (59:26):
Truthmold out the truth a little bit more so I
should need it, was not necessary like that.

Speaker 8 (59:35):
I don't need it.

Speaker 3 (59:36):
No, I'm good. Keep it, bitch,