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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Dashi and the jam In Morning Show with DJ four
and it's Sawing Sustin's.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Number one for hip hop jam in ninety four or five. Hi, everybody,
good morning. Now listen, I have a two and a
half year old and almost three month old at this point,
so I'm certainly not having play dates, but I know
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they're coming. Oh yeah, I mean I have playdates in
a sense of like my friend will come over with
his or her kid and they'll run around. But I
haven't had it yet where someone's like, oh, I'm dropping
off so and so I'll pick them up in a
couple hours.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
Like I'm not I'm not in that mothering stage yet.
Speaker 4 (00:41):
Not gonna lie at least twice a week. That's my life.
Speaker 3 (00:43):
At least twice your kids.
Speaker 4 (00:45):
That makes sense, Yeah, because I have four of them,
there's different circles and it's completely fine. I don't mind it.
Speaker 3 (00:50):
You have even taken other people's kids on vacation.
Speaker 4 (00:53):
We have a couple of times.
Speaker 3 (00:55):
Yeah, my mother used to do that too. That's cool.
Speaker 4 (00:57):
Again, did you guys.
Speaker 3 (00:58):
Ever do that for him?
Speaker 5 (00:59):
No, we couldn't afford it.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
Well that's okay, so funny you bring that up. This
woman went viral for this video. I hate her, like
there's something about her that it just I don't like
the way she says it. I feel like there's attitude
or something there shocking to me that you're saying you
can see both sides of this, because I feel like
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if you are saying to somebody, bring over little Jenny,
little Jenny can hang out with my kid for the
that is you consenting to when little Jenny is at
my house and uses things, that's cool.
Speaker 3 (01:38):
Here's the audio.
Speaker 6 (01:39):
And we normalize sending the other family money for playdates.
So recently, my daughter had a friend of her and
I asked her mom for money, and this is how went.
So after the play dated, I text her moment and
I said, thanks for letting Jamie play today. Please help
out with your share of the expenses for the playdate,
totaling fifteen dollars via memo. Let's do it again sometime
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because I can't keep doing these playdates if it's so expensive.
And she said expenses, and I said, yeah, she used
supplies and food while she was here. In this way,
we can do this more often without a monetary obligation
on just one party.
Speaker 5 (02:11):
Right makes sense?
Speaker 6 (02:13):
No, she didn't say much, but she did say what supplies,
and of course I wrote them down. There was chalk, apple, sauce, fruit,
She sat on the couch. That's wear and tear. She
actually broke a toy, She had three juice boxes, she
went to the bathroom, she had yogurt. Then she actually
sent the money and I sent her a message thanking
her for it. Of course she didn't say anything else,
but I said, you know, this will make it easier
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for us to do more playdates in the future. So
what do you guys think?
Speaker 2 (02:38):
Yeah, yeah, we're a dollar for wear and tear on
the couch. That's not that's crazy.
Speaker 4 (02:44):
Not all kids respect other families property.
Speaker 3 (02:47):
Fine, so don't invite little Jenny to backs.
Speaker 4 (02:49):
I understand. Can I just tell you we don't ask
for any money from anybody else, And honestly, when we
send our kids to their house, we offer just because
we feel like it's slight. Fine, but there are some
parents that take advantage of the play dates and then
want to drop their kids off every single day. Okay,
sometimes sometimes call us to take responsibilities for their kids.
In situations like that, I want to ask for money,
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but you don't. I don't but I feel like it's okay.
Speaker 5 (03:13):
Though.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
Let me also add in that playdate was at the house,
A dollar for the yogurt she wanted, dollar for orange,
just wearing tear. Now, if mom calls me and says
I'm taking little Jenny to the movies and then we're
going to do dinner, I would actively say, can I
throw you twenty?
Speaker 3 (03:28):
Can I whatever? A dollar for wear and tear?
Speaker 5 (03:32):
Bitch?
Speaker 3 (03:32):
Are you you invited little Jenny over?
Speaker 1 (03:35):
The only way I'll see the other side of this
is that if the play dates are only happening at
her place all the time, if every time we do
a playdate it's only a mock crib, then at some
point I'm going to be like a yo, Right, you
got to stop dishing out some bread because you're not
Because if my kid goes see you and I don't
got to pay you, and your kid comes to me
to f ex change.
Speaker 4 (03:51):
Okay, So what if they're calling you to take their
kid on vacation when you go on your vacation, wouldn't
that be a little bit like, what are you doing?
Speaker 3 (03:58):
That's not even real?
Speaker 4 (03:59):
That is real, that happens. It happens to watch. We
have a parent that calls us and asks us if
we'll take their kids that's a week or something like that.
Speaker 7 (04:08):
That no money, no money, no money, yeah no we
we pay where the no no no, no, no no yeah.
So I feel like in that in that situation, it's
completely fine to ask.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
If the Deolios call me and they say, we're going
to Disney, Madison and McKenna really want Layla to come.
Speaker 3 (04:27):
Can she come? Yeah, I'm gonna say, are you guys sure? Absolutely?
Speaker 2 (04:33):
How much?
Speaker 3 (04:33):
Like what can I give you? Here's a thou?
Speaker 2 (04:36):
I mean, Disney's kind of crazy, but like example, here's
one hundred one thousand dollars whatever to cover her all
of her expenses while she's there. You might say no, no,
I don't need all that, and you might take half.
Whatever the case to be. You always have to offer.
This is just a little like, hey, school's over, can
little Jenny come over from three to five?
Speaker 3 (04:52):
But she sat on my couch? So I'm charging you
a dollar. That's absurd.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
Now, listen, yogurts are expecsive because I because lately it's
like a day she's obsessed.
Speaker 3 (05:01):
They cost a pretty penny.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
But again, if I'm inviting you over to me, that
means the pantry is it's accessible to you.
Speaker 4 (05:08):
That's exactly, and that's why we would never act like.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
You can behind the back to your husband, wife, boyfriend,
g Yo, little Jenny is punishing these yogurts and it's annoying, but.
Speaker 3 (05:20):
You're never going to Venmo request a dollar for wear
and tear on the sofa.
Speaker 4 (05:25):
The sofa thing is striking to me because there is
an issue with some kids come over and they're like
animals and they're all over the furniture on ourselves. I'm
fine with the food, but if they break the couch,
I might be like if the parents like, hey, your
kid was doing backflips, like we need to talk.
Speaker 3 (05:39):
Yes, that's the kid's couch.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
No tear you coming over to my house and sitting
on the couch and you potentially charge you a dollar
for quote wearing tail.
Speaker 5 (05:49):
I was gonna say, unless the kid is a destructive kid.
Speaker 3 (05:51):
And that's what he just said. Because you're on the phone,
you know.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
He was just saying like if the couch is broken,
which I don't even know how, but a toy was like, Okay.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
Your kid is no to come to my and cross
chaos and break TVs and break this and that and this.
First off, we're gonna have a conversation. Yeah, we're gonna
choose a little rough. Oh she's a little crazy. But
after a while, it's gonna be like, yo, he broke
another mirror. You know we're gonna have to me. I
thought this out.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Somebody who writes Leila over, I get to call, hey,
Layla broke another toy whatever. I'm obviously going to offer, yeah,
like obviously, but Laila has a play date. I'm not
asking little Jenny's mom for a dollar for wear and tearror.
Speaker 3 (06:28):
Anonymous is in woo State High Anonymous.
Speaker 8 (06:31):
Right, so can you still hear me real quick?
Speaker 3 (06:34):
Yes, I can real quick?
Speaker 8 (06:35):
Oh my god. So honestly, I love kids. Right, So
it was one particular to that would come over. Ain't
gonna lie. I hate to see them coming because at
that time, for some reason, like an idiot, I had
a glass table, and they would go under the table
and raise up the glass. Chip my glass. But I
still welcome them.
Speaker 3 (06:55):
You're an angel, You're a true angel.
Speaker 8 (06:58):
And then when it got a little older, this part too,
when they were old enough, we did more outside. I
would do double dutch with them. I would do hopscotch
with them. It was a part obviously in the project.
We would go to the park. So when it was
also I would take them to the nearest roller skating rink.
I would fill my car with as many as I
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could fit. I felt bad because I couldn't sit them all. Wow,
I would take them roller skating. So I was that woman.
Speaker 2 (07:26):
Yeah, like, that's so crazy because I don't even like
kids that much, So that's super nice.
Speaker 8 (07:31):
So I did not charge.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
Were any of these kids you were?
Speaker 8 (07:36):
No? Two of them? Yes, Oh, okay, okay, And then
it was kids in the neighborhood in the project.
Speaker 5 (07:40):
Got it.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
I was like, are you just the nice lady who
takes the kids to the roller skating Now it makes
a little bit more sense.
Speaker 3 (07:45):
You two of them were actually yours, got it?
Speaker 1 (07:48):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (07:48):
But yeah, like if that was an activity you chose
to do, it would have been nice if some of
the parents were like, hey, let me throw some money,
But like, there, I don't think there should be an
obligation there. Yeah, they did not anonymous thing for the call.
I just again, I'm not in this realm yet. But
when I heard that I could wear and tear you'd.
Speaker 4 (08:07):
Be surprised some other kids are so expensive.
Speaker 3 (08:10):
Uh chastity. Chastity is in western heaben.
Speaker 9 (08:13):
Yeah, hey, how are you doing? I'm good, all right,
So I kind of see both sides. But the wear
and tear is a little bit extreme. Come on, you know,
people are on a budget, especially with inflation and things
like that, and you might buy, like, you know, six
yogurts because you know that's what your kid's going to have.
I personally, if my you know, if my daughter goes anywhere,
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I always send her her own snacks, you know, and
send maybe an extra snack over for the friend as well.
Speaker 3 (08:42):
Oh that's a smart idea. I gotta remember these things.
Speaker 9 (08:45):
Yeah, I'm not someone who likes kids at my house.
I don't even like kids.
Speaker 4 (08:48):
I just said my kids me too.
Speaker 9 (08:49):
I am.
Speaker 3 (08:49):
I'm pretty sure you.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
Yeah, I'm with you on that house. That's actually a
smart idea though. But yeah, listen, so maybe in the
two hour plate date, we don't have snack time.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
Oh, maybe we don't have the play date or maybe
afford it. Hey listen, I can't afford to have kids over.
I'm sorry. What times is different?
Speaker 5 (09:06):
Now?
Speaker 2 (09:06):
When I seen the dollar for wear and tear tasty
things for the call, like I.
Speaker 4 (09:11):
No, So, what are you gonna do if a kid
comes over and breaks the wall because it happened to me,
I didn't.
Speaker 2 (09:16):
I'm gonna I'm gonna go to mom and be like listen,
like I have no problem.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
Having the convo. I want the kid to be there.
But they broke the wall.
Speaker 2 (09:25):
I mean when Justin's kid Kiss went to wait broke
the door, you didn't say anything.
Speaker 4 (09:29):
I said something to him like control this kid.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
So just as a backstory, Justin who worked on Kiss,
went away, his kid Abel came to your house, kicked
your dog and broke your door.
Speaker 4 (09:41):
He kicked the door into the wall and then the wall.
I didn't charge Justin for the wall, but I wanted to.
Speaker 5 (09:48):
Like it really did.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
Can not even add a level to this, bro at
It is when you have kids over your crib, right,
and then the parents sent over lunch, say a pizza,
fine for their kid, but nobody else. No way, people
have done that. Bro who's did that to us? When
we would yes, someone did that to us, YO, bought
a whole mail the kid. The kid called the mom.
We didn't even know we got math. Of course you
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have the crib. Our house is your house, fridge is yours.
They called their mom. They didn't want the food that
was in the crib. Oh, can you get me a
pizza next year? You know, Dominance was showing at the door.
It's a pizza. I'm like, huh, I didn't know a pizza.
Oh no, it's my mom. She ordered me a pizza
because I called her for a pizza and it was
only like small enough pizza.
Speaker 3 (10:28):
Just it was like a personal pam.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
I felt worried about it because I'm like, wait a minute,
so all these kids are here and y'all couldn't even
get pizza for half about conversation. Well I didn't, but
you know we have to have a conversation, you know
what I.
Speaker 3 (10:40):
Mean, Like, yeah, the other kids are and then somebodyizza.
Speaker 5 (10:48):
Don't do that. People ain't considerate.
Speaker 3 (10:51):
This is the type of stuff like I'm not ready
or you aren't.
Speaker 5 (10:54):
You know.
Speaker 3 (10:54):
I'm just I'm like I'm coming into this, yes, you know.
Speaker 5 (10:58):
But you got to cut that off from early.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
You see with Santie and them, that person felt so
comfortable with Santi and them that they calling them.
Speaker 4 (11:05):
It's the calendar for you guys, know to be honest,
we put an into that. Now we just don't make
up the phone and you know, wow, because it's really.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
Although, let me just end this on a really like
positive note. You never gave me the.
Speaker 5 (11:21):
Hold on, Hold on second, it's not there.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
Yes, I just wanted to say this part because I
want to make sure, because I don't want to get
anybody in trouble. But and it's on a light now.
I like, I love making fun of Santy, but he
invited a kid to go on a family trip with them.
Whilst on the family trip, the kid looked at Santi
and was like, I've never been on a vacation before.
Speaker 3 (11:41):
Thank you so much for bringing me.
Speaker 4 (11:42):
Yeah, and that's what we do.
Speaker 3 (11:44):
That's a moment.