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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Daddy and the jam In Morning Show with DJ four
and it's saw taking Morning.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Cousin's number one for hip hop. You am in ninety
four or five.
Speaker 3 (00:10):
Hi everybody, good morning?
Speaker 4 (00:12):
Uh six one seven nine three one one nine four
five six one seven nine three one one nine four
five Hi Mars, good morning.
Speaker 3 (00:21):
Hi, good morning, good morning. How are you well?
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Listen.
Speaker 5 (00:24):
I was like literally in the middle of like crying,
and then like I heard you guys say that, I
was like, yeah, I'm calling.
Speaker 3 (00:28):
Oh my well, I'm sorry, what's going on?
Speaker 4 (00:31):
No?
Speaker 5 (00:32):
See, like I have, I've been in a twelve year
relationship and for the past I want to say nine
ten years, I've always been like the worker, like the
main provider, you know, like I I've always had a
really really good job. So I've always been the provider
and I've never complained about it. You know, it always
kept me out of my house, and you know, I
had the best of the best. So for the first year,
(00:52):
you know, I my husband's the provider and I'm not like,
you know, I'm the I'm the house mom now, and
I honestly, I feel like I was better off being
the provider because he complains about everything, like everything, the bills,
the Cardinals did this, and then the kids, and I'm like,
I did all of this by myself, Like I did
all of it while you wasn't providing at all, Like
(01:13):
let alone. I used to do everything with the kids too.
So it's like I feel like right now, this generation,
we're allowing these men to fall too much into their
femininity gracefully. There's nothing wrong with a man in their emotions.
Speaker 6 (01:24):
I feel like we.
Speaker 5 (01:24):
Really should embrace that. But how can I fall into
my femininity if he can't even pull himself into his
masculinity and let me fall there? Like I can't even
be a mother without feeling bad about it, you know
what I'm saying. I just feel like it was better working.
Speaker 4 (01:37):
That's a weird dynamic that you know, you guys have.
We have switched roles and you know that's fine, but
that he you've you did it for so long and
now he's just done it for a short period of
time and is complaining as a little That might bother
me too.
Speaker 5 (01:53):
Right, Am I not? Like I really in my head, like,
am I going crazy? But this is not you are?
Speaker 7 (01:58):
I don't know, Yeah, Like I feel like you're complaining
and calling him feminine because he's he's complaining about how
much you guys spend on the bills and all that stuff.
Speaker 5 (02:07):
Yeah, like, not like that. It's just that he's in
this role where he's like, oh, well, my emotions and
I got all these bills and I'm stressed and and
you know, like it's a lot, and I'm like, but
I did all of that, and I had more stress
than that because I had the kids.
Speaker 7 (02:20):
But you know, different, though the dynamic is fun.
Speaker 4 (02:23):
Her point is is she did it for eleven years,
it didn't complain and got done.
Speaker 3 (02:27):
He's now doing it.
Speaker 5 (02:29):
Yeah, but everything he's doing I did harder, and I
did it more, and I still provided for him. I
gave him all the things he needed and wanted without
complaining or making him feel like he was less than
a man for it, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (02:41):
Yeah, and that would be hard.
Speaker 6 (02:42):
I liked he was superior.
Speaker 4 (02:44):
That would be hard for most guys, I would think,
to not be like the provider at the home.
Speaker 8 (02:48):
Plus, he got used to being lazy. He got used
to being lazist. So now that he got to work,
he's gonna come going because it's out of his comfort zone.
Speaker 6 (02:55):
You know, I feel like that.
Speaker 5 (02:56):
Was probably my fault, both of ours, because we allowed
it to go for that long. But it's like, really,
what was it like at the day, it was like,
I'm gonna let the bills go to wait.
Speaker 8 (03:06):
Like he never really you get on him and you
tell him listen, like what are you doing. You're the
man of the house. Get get off your ass and
go to work and provide. But now he's there, so
you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 7 (03:16):
Now his feelings are worthless. I guess Santi is just,
oh my.
Speaker 4 (03:20):
God, Santi is feeling away because Santi is the man
that you're talking about. Santis in his feeling, Santi wants
that tk the thing him. But Son, you gotta admit,
like for her to be carrying that burden for eleven
years and then finally she gets the chance.
Speaker 3 (03:37):
He gets this job, and he gets and he gets
to provide for his kids.
Speaker 4 (03:41):
And his family, and all he does every day is
complain about it when she had just done that for years,
just did it all, and.
Speaker 5 (03:45):
She has like he should I like, probably in the
third year complaining cool, But right now I feel like
he shouldn't be complaining. I should be really flourishing in
this femininity, trying to be the best mother I can be,
and I can't even do that because now I'm like,
let me not ask for a trip to to wolf
Lodge before I get rich and rock.
Speaker 4 (04:06):
Lodge, like she just wants to go. Let me ask
you something. Get what is a complaint of his that
a recent one that he's giving.
Speaker 5 (04:12):
Like like, okay, so we have this normality that we
tried to, you know, get things done at least every
two months for our kids, Like we'll take a little trips,
not far normal things.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
We're like, we're not those Lodge pretty bunch.
Speaker 5 (04:23):
But you know, so my kid's birthday is coming up,
and there's Christmas and he happens to have that at
the same month. The complaint now is well, we got
Christmas and we got this and then.
Speaker 9 (04:31):
You want to do a great wolflage.
Speaker 5 (04:32):
But the bills were just paid and I'm like, honey,
I've done this every year and it was never complaint,
Like maybe you too, No, we weren't.
Speaker 7 (04:41):
We were good, not sure.
Speaker 4 (04:44):
All right, damn well listen, baby, you gotta maybe you
gotta start working part time, and then I think I do,
then you're back out a little bit. You can take
a breather, and then the money that you make could
be the money like the trip money or something.
Speaker 3 (04:58):
I don't know.
Speaker 8 (04:59):
Just don't let him slack we again.
Speaker 5 (05:01):
Listen, I'm gonna stay my seminary and I'll see you
Friday at haus because I need a drink.
Speaker 4 (05:07):
I think, Okay, it's first drink on DJ four and
good luck, good luck, then all right, goodbye. I listen.
I don't I understand. I get it the way. Maybe
she's communicating this is rubbing you the wrong way. But
I think at the end of the day, when we
break it all down, it's gotta be it's gotta be
(05:29):
tough for her because she's like, damn, I did this
for the first eleven years of our marriage and now
it's your turn.
Speaker 7 (05:34):
And but she keeps going back to the money part
about it. What if he just wants to be smart
with the money and before she was spending all this
stuff and didn't think about it. Now he's like, you
know what, spend her money to spend. Yeah, it's not
her money, it's their money.
Speaker 3 (05:45):
Yeah that's how it was. I mean, you know why,
because he's not in charge of the money.
Speaker 7 (05:59):
Playing has to ask to go to old.
Speaker 4 (06:01):
Navy Yanti has to ask to go to.
Speaker 7 (06:05):
I have a Navy Bucks.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
I have a Navy Bucks.
Speaker 7 (06:07):
Can I go kicking?
Speaker 3 (06:09):
It's five? Everybody take a breath.
Speaker 4 (06:12):
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He was upset during that conversation. Six one seven nine
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Good morning, Oh hi, everybody, Good morning Sash and the
(06:34):
Gym of Morning Show.
Speaker 3 (06:35):
We're checking in on you. What's up?
Speaker 6 (06:36):
How are you?
Speaker 4 (06:37):
What's going on? Six one seven nine three one one
nine four five. We're talking about anything you want. Jaden
is in Brookline, So hi, babe. The last caller we
had on you know, she was kind of talking about
how for eleven years of her marriage, she was the provider.
She was the one working, Dad stayed at home with
(06:58):
the kids. Now the rules have kind of reversed. She's
staying home with the kids, dad's working, and they're getting
in these battles about bills, and she's like, you know,
I did it for so long I didn't complain. Something
about that call kind of sparked something in you and
made you think about your relationship.
Speaker 3 (07:16):
Correct, what's going on?
Speaker 10 (07:18):
So basically, so her and I have been dating for
two I'll just call it two and a half months.
Been dated for two and a half months. I've been
going to work almost every day, trying to be a
good provider, a good boyfriend, you know, be the man
of be the man of the house, do my duties.
Speaker 4 (07:38):
Wait, I just so you being the man of the
house and doing your duties. And you guys have been
dating for two months.
Speaker 3 (07:44):
That's it?
Speaker 10 (07:45):
Two years?
Speaker 4 (07:46):
Oh you said two months and we were really okay?
So two years? Two years, you guys have been dating.
You live together?
Speaker 10 (07:56):
Correct?
Speaker 3 (07:57):
I live with her, You live with her? Okay. Cool.
Speaker 4 (07:59):
So you're you're going to you're the provider obviously in
this and you're going to work and you're trying to,
you know, I guess, provide for the households.
Speaker 6 (08:09):
Yep.
Speaker 10 (08:10):
Okay, And while I'm doing while I'm trying to do that,
she if something, Now I totally understand this way. I
totally get where she's coming from. But if something is
not going her way, she expects me to leave my
job and put like, just drop everything I'm doing and
start straight to her.
Speaker 3 (08:28):
Okay, And what part of that do you understand? Because
I don't understand any of that. You can't just live.
Speaker 11 (08:34):
I get.
Speaker 10 (08:35):
I get, like, you know, a once in a blue
moon type of thing, like over, but I've but now
it's gotten to the point where I'm on Actually my
fourth job today is my first day at it.
Speaker 3 (08:48):
Your first job in two years?
Speaker 4 (08:51):
Yeah, honey, and you're getting fired from these jobs, I'm
assuming because you're like, Hey, I gotta I gotta leave
because my girlfriend something and I have to go.
Speaker 10 (09:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (09:03):
Can you give me a couple examples of these emergencies
that you've had to leave your job for.
Speaker 10 (09:09):
Oh man, So we're both vapors and pot smokers, so
should if she's out of either of those, it's instantly
like they're leaving work now and getting me something. I'm
not going I'm not going another ten minutes without it
type of deal, Jaden. If she needs food, she'll be like.
Speaker 7 (09:26):
What happens if you say no?
Speaker 4 (09:29):
If she needs food and weed, you're like literally losing
your job over this.
Speaker 3 (09:34):
You you realize this sounds crazy, right?
Speaker 6 (09:37):
Oh?
Speaker 10 (09:38):
I know I know all my friends talk to me
about it like it's a whole spiel.
Speaker 4 (09:43):
This I don't know.
Speaker 10 (09:44):
I mostly called in today because I wanted to see
or I wanted to hear another opinion today and of
hearing what everybody tells me, I.
Speaker 4 (09:51):
Don't even need to know what Santia and Foreign are
going to say. I can give you the opinion of
all three of us. She's using you, and the fact
that you're letting her treat like this and losing jobs
over her. Saying she's hungry and she needs a little
lunch is nuts. She needs to get her life together
and she needs to know that you're working nine to five,
(10:12):
whatever the job is, and after those hours.
Speaker 3 (10:15):
You can come home. But in the in the middle
of your workday, you can't just leave. That's not the
way the world works. Has she ever had a job?
Speaker 8 (10:22):
Ah?
Speaker 4 (10:23):
No?
Speaker 1 (10:23):
Actually, well that's good.
Speaker 7 (10:25):
Yeah, that's gonna do ye. Yeah.
Speaker 10 (10:27):
I keep telling her, just you know, Charme is going
to come bite to just you know, get your job
and then you'll understand how it is. You know, I
can't just always leave and stuff. My bosses have been
nice enough time and time again to let me leave,
but there is a limit, hence why I'm on my
fourth job, Jaden.
Speaker 3 (10:43):
How old you.
Speaker 8 (10:45):
Me?
Speaker 10 (10:45):
I'm twenty okay?
Speaker 3 (10:46):
And how old is she?
Speaker 10 (10:49):
Twenty one?
Speaker 3 (10:49):
Okay?
Speaker 4 (10:49):
So you guys are very young still, but you know
you're only twenty years old. And I'm not saying that.
Maybe at some point she's not the woman for you.
But this, this isn't a relationship that you can upkeep.
It's very one sided. What is she doing for you? Like?
Speaker 3 (11:09):
What what? What phills? What does she do that fills
your cup?
Speaker 4 (11:12):
Obviously it's not money, and that's okay, but what like
when you get home, what does she do for you
that makes.
Speaker 3 (11:18):
You want to stay in this relationship?
Speaker 10 (11:21):
So she brings out the card. So I ended up
getting kicked out of my grandparents' house for just other
family reasons and they didn't have the space, so she
brought me in. And she's been using that as, Oh,
that's how I'm repaying you, that's I'm doing this, that's
why I'm doing that. But that's her.
Speaker 4 (11:37):
Only she's basically what she's saying, she's putting a roof
over your head.
Speaker 3 (11:41):
Yeah, go ahead, some.
Speaker 7 (11:43):
No, I you said something about she gave you a
car or she brought that card.
Speaker 3 (11:47):
Out car duff oh duh yeah d.
Speaker 7 (11:51):
Jaden, Man, you sound like a nice kid, but I
don't think she's making your life better. She's bringing you down.
Speaker 4 (11:56):
You're getting used and abused, period, and there are plenty
of other fish in the sea, Jaden. I think, honestly,
I think you got to get out of this relationship.
Speaker 3 (12:05):
Man, I really do you do? I do?
Speaker 4 (12:08):
I hate saying that because I you know, I always
want to fight for love, but this isn't love, like
her telling you my my tummy is growling.
Speaker 3 (12:17):
I need you to leave your job. I don't care
if you get fired. I'm hungry. I need my.
Speaker 4 (12:22):
Vape the hell door by yeah bye.
Speaker 10 (12:29):
Oh yeah, I've definitely been I'm definitely that's just floating
around my head. A lot more is the believing card, Jayden.
Speaker 4 (12:36):
Just promise me, with this new job that you start today,
you will never leave because she needs some weed or
a vape pen or a breakfast sandwich like you gotta commit. No.
Speaker 10 (12:49):
Thankfully, it's one of my buddies, and he's being kind
enough to give me a job because he knows the
struggle I'm in right now with no job, So I'm
not gonna let.
Speaker 3 (12:58):
Him down, peare you can't.
Speaker 4 (12:59):
You don't let your friends down, don't let yourself down,
and you know, don't get taken advantage of, because that's
what I fear is happening to you right now, Like
you can't this relationships are there's everybody's supposed to give
something in a relationship.
Speaker 3 (13:14):
Okay, and then I don't just mean the roof over
your head.
Speaker 10 (13:16):
Okay, yeah, I do, all right.
Speaker 3 (13:19):
Buddy, good good luck, you're only twenty plenty of fish
in the sea. Goodbye.
Speaker 7 (13:23):
What He's young enough where he cans still fix it.
But the worst thing would be is stay with this
girl for like twenty years and then realize, well.
Speaker 4 (13:30):
What I'm sad is he's young enough to think that
this is okay, like that this is what it's but
this is what a relationship is supposed to look like.
I'm supposed to leave because she needs food? What the
wan is in Laurence one? That was tough, Like I'm upset.
(13:50):
I'm so sorry, man, I'm dying right now.
Speaker 10 (13:54):
No, he really he really needs to let her go, yes.
Speaker 8 (13:58):
On himself, and yeah, man, he I don't know better.
Speaker 5 (14:03):
I'm getting a job like a mapecor.
Speaker 4 (14:07):
Let's see, well, let's see if Sady could get this
one that his girlfriend is for where where's where is
she from the street?
Speaker 3 (14:13):
The street?
Speaker 4 (14:13):
Honey, Like, we gotta let her go because she is
I mean and again and you know what's tough one.
Speaker 3 (14:20):
He's twenty. So that's what I keep going back.
Speaker 4 (14:22):
He thinks that this is the right way for a
relationship to be because he doesn't know any better. It's
not she's getting this man fired because she's calling and saying,
you need to leave right now and get me lunch.
Speaker 3 (14:34):
Imagine on this radio show.
Speaker 4 (14:36):
I start the show and I'm like, good morning everybody,
I have to go because.
Speaker 3 (14:40):
The fireman wants a bacon, egg and cheese. I got
a run. This is this.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
What?
Speaker 3 (14:48):
Thanks for the call on one gets it?
Speaker 1 (14:50):
Wow?
Speaker 11 (14:50):
Wow?
Speaker 3 (14:52):
Man, I know.
Speaker 4 (14:53):
And it's even crazier because he was never gonna call
and tell us that it was the other girl who
Mars who made him held him to want to call.
Speaker 7 (15:01):
Seems like the same type of girlfri that do that.
Mars is like this other girl. She's sucking them dry
and complaining about everything.
Speaker 3 (15:08):
That's there's a complete opposite situation. At one point, Mars
was the provider.
Speaker 7 (15:14):
Okay, what is the vaping weed?
Speaker 3 (15:16):
Girlfriend eating woman?
Speaker 7 (15:18):
Mars and her expecting way too much from their men
and then complaining when they say no, they go away
from the path.
Speaker 3 (15:24):
Son, you want to go to Old Navy and shop That.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
Morning show with d J four and it's Sat Morning.
Speaker 2 (15:33):
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four or five?
Speaker 3 (15:38):
Hi, everybody, good morning.
Speaker 10 (15:41):
All right.
Speaker 4 (15:41):
If I say the name THEO James to you, you
might not recognize it. I think if you saw him
he's an actor, you might be a little more after
Like I think I've seen him in something.
Speaker 3 (15:51):
He's starting a divergent series. He was in The White Lotus.
Santa tells me there was a full frontal in that
and Sondy gave him the approval.
Speaker 7 (16:03):
Yeah, his his his tool is very nice.
Speaker 3 (16:05):
Yeah, describeol is very nice.
Speaker 7 (16:08):
Foreign It's easy on the eyes.
Speaker 8 (16:14):
I think most.
Speaker 3 (16:17):
I see here. Most recently he was in The Gentleman.
Speaker 4 (16:23):
Okay out okay either way, Yeah, well that's the one
where he shows is you know what, White Lotus, which
is which is a very popular show.
Speaker 3 (16:32):
AnyWho, he was playing a game two truths and a lie.
Speaker 4 (16:37):
So we're just gonna I'm gonna play the audio for
you live time, and then you will actually hear him
reveal the two truths and a lie. When I I
heard this, I just thought to myself, well, I don't
want to give too much away.
Speaker 3 (16:50):
Let's play. So I would love for the two of
you to play two truths and one lie.
Speaker 9 (16:56):
Here we go, first truths. On my mother's side. Weirdly,
I am related to Brian Cox. Second one university. I
went on a date that I thought went pretty well.
You know, we had some fun and we were young
and dumb and full of fun. In the morning, she
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had left and there was a present for me in
the bath and it was a small turd. And the
truth is, I'm a quarter Greek. So what do you
think is the lie?
Speaker 1 (17:30):
What's the first one again? Brian Cox? Brian Cox, Brian
Cox is a lie. That's the lie?
Speaker 3 (17:36):
Yes, Oh so he doesn't know?
Speaker 4 (17:39):
Oh yes, okay, so follow along here because that kind
of confused me. But the Brian that he was related to,
Brian Cox, who's Brian.
Speaker 7 (17:46):
Cox, the guy from succession the head gone.
Speaker 4 (17:48):
Okay, that was the lie, meaning he's a quarter of
Greek and that he went on a date with a
woman thought it went well and she left in the
morning and she had pooped.
Speaker 1 (17:57):
In his tub.
Speaker 7 (17:59):
I've heard stories like that.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
What is that? What is that?
Speaker 7 (18:02):
I think the girl got really drunk, and I think
stuff like that happens in that situation. I went to
high school with the girl who got toilet, is right?
Speaker 3 (18:08):
That make sense? She had to take it out of
Oh no, or I guess no, she could have.
Speaker 7 (18:14):
When she went to the bathroom. She thought the tub
was a toilet.
Speaker 8 (18:17):
That's a big toilet. She was drunk. Guys, even if
you drunk.
Speaker 7 (18:21):
I went to high school with a girl that at
a party got really drunk. They woke up the next morning.
The girl had her underwear on top of her jeans
with with a poop right next to her. She was
so drunk. Yeah, that's what I'm telling you. And that's
not like that's a true story.
Speaker 3 (18:35):
Don't you know a story about someone in this building
as well? It's poop.
Speaker 7 (18:43):
I'm just not remembering you just told. Oh yeah, another
guy in this building, when on a date with the girl,
had like a one night stand. So they fell asleep
and he actually passed out on the couch. He woke
up to her going to the bathroom and blowing it up,
just you know, just having issues the bathroom, in the bathroom,
but right next to the door. Yeah, it's tough.
Speaker 4 (19:03):
I well, girls don't poop, obviously these ones in this
story obviously select few. But I am telling you right now,
that's me on a date. Like if okay, let's use
AJ for example. Go ahead, how about my AJ.
Speaker 3 (19:19):
You're over there tomorrow, you're on date number five and
you have.
Speaker 4 (19:24):
To go to the bathroom. Like, what does one do
in that situation? Because I'm leaving. I'm telling you right now,
I'm saying I'm doing this phone, my phone, drinking. Oh
I gotta go, somebody's dead.
Speaker 3 (19:37):
Not going to the bathroom.
Speaker 7 (19:38):
No, but if you leave, it's gonna send the wrong message.
So your best bet is just to hold as much
as you want.
Speaker 3 (19:43):
The message is it's sending. If she stinks up the
man's bathroom, there's no hell I am doing.
Speaker 7 (19:50):
Okay, Well, goodbye. What if you guys have a bad
night or something like that, You just don't know what's
going to happen and it just comes really quick.
Speaker 8 (19:57):
Ith going to the car.
Speaker 3 (20:00):
Yeah, I stand with you, So you miss, I'm going
out there I'm going out of limb here. I'll poot
myself in the car.
Speaker 8 (20:13):
Okay, I don't.
Speaker 4 (20:14):
Before I would poop in that man's apartment or in
his tub, I would go.
Speaker 3 (20:20):
In my car.
Speaker 8 (20:20):
So I'm assuming that yalla not coming back into the No,
I'm never coming.
Speaker 3 (20:25):
Back into that man's life.
Speaker 7 (20:26):
Okay, But why I died? But what do you say
to him once you leave?
Speaker 3 (20:30):
I had to go. I had well, no, somebody called me.
I got a text, and I'm like, hey, i gotta go.
Speaker 8 (20:35):
I'll be right back.
Speaker 3 (20:36):
You'll never see me again. It's called vanish Mode.
Speaker 1 (20:43):
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Speaker 2 (20:48):
Number one for hip hop jam in ninety four or five.
Speaker 3 (20:54):
Hi, everybody, good morning.
Speaker 4 (20:57):
Now listen, I have a two and a half year
old and almost three month old at this point, so
I'm certainly not having play dates, but I know they're coming.
Oh yeah, I mean I have playdates in a sense
of like my friend will come over with with his
or her kid and they'll run around. But I haven't
had it yet where someone's like, oh, I'm dropping off
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so and so I'll pick them up in a couple hours,
like I'm not I'm not in that mothering stage yet.
Speaker 7 (21:24):
Not gonna lie at least twice a week, that's my life.
Speaker 3 (21:26):
At least twice your kids. That makes sense.
Speaker 7 (21:28):
Yeah, because I have four of them. There's different circles,
and it's completely fine. I don't mind it.
Speaker 3 (21:33):
You have even taken other people's kids on vacation.
Speaker 7 (21:36):
We have a couple of times.
Speaker 3 (21:37):
Yeah, my mother used to do that too. That's cool.
Speaker 7 (21:39):
Again, did you guys.
Speaker 4 (21:40):
Ever do that for him?
Speaker 8 (21:41):
No, we couldn't afford it.
Speaker 4 (21:43):
Well, that's that's okay, So funny you bring that up.
This woman went viral for this video. I hate her,
like there's something about her that it just I don't
like the way she says it. I feel like there's attitude.
Speaker 3 (21:59):
Or something there. Shocking to me that you're.
Speaker 4 (22:02):
Saying you can see both sides of this, because I
feel like if you are saying to somebody, bring over
little Jenny, little Jenny can hang out with my kid
for the that is you consenting to when little Jenny
is at my house and uses things.
Speaker 3 (22:19):
That's cool.
Speaker 12 (22:21):
Here's the audio, and we normalize sending the other family
money for playdates. So recently, my daughter had a friend
of her and I asked her mom for money, and
this is how went.
Speaker 1 (22:32):
So.
Speaker 12 (22:32):
After the play date, I text her moment and I said,
thanks for letting Jamie play today. Please help out with
your share of the expenses for the playdate, totaling fifteen
dollars via memo. Let's do it again sometime because I
can't keep doing these playdates if it's so expensive. And
she said expenses and I said, yeah, she used supplies
and food while she was here. In this way, we
can do this more often without a monetary obligation on
(22:53):
just one party, right, makes sense. No, she didn't say much,
but she did say what supplies and I wrote them down.
There was chalk, apple, sauce, fruit, She sat on the couch.
That's wear and tear. She actually broke a toy. She
had three juice boxes, she went to the bathroom, she
had yogurt. Then she actually sent the money and I
sent her a message thanking her for it. Of course,
(23:14):
she didn't say anything else, but I said, you know,
this will make it easier for us to do more
play dates.
Speaker 7 (23:19):
In the future.
Speaker 8 (23:19):
So what do you guys think yol.
Speaker 3 (23:22):
Were a dollar for wear and tear on the couch
that's not that's crazy.
Speaker 7 (23:27):
Not all kids respect other families property.
Speaker 3 (23:30):
Fine, so don't invite little Jenny to bouts, I understand.
Speaker 7 (23:33):
Can I just tell you we don't ask for any
money from anybody else, and honestly, when we send our
kids to their house, we offer just because we feel
like it's slight. Fine, But there are some parents that
take advantage of the playdates and then want to drop
their kids off every single day, okay, and sometimes sometimes
call us to take responsibilities for their kids. In situations
like that, I want to ask for money, but you don't.
(23:54):
I don't, but I feel like it's okay.
Speaker 8 (23:56):
Though.
Speaker 4 (23:56):
Let me also add in that playdate was at the house.
A dollar for the yogurt she wanted, dollar for orange,
just wear entre. Now, if mom calls me and says
I'm taking little Jenny to the movies and then we're
going to do dinner, I would actively say, can I
throw you twenty?
Speaker 3 (24:11):
Can I whatever? A dollar for wear and tear?
Speaker 8 (24:15):
Bitch?
Speaker 3 (24:15):
Are you you invited little Jenny over?
Speaker 8 (24:17):
The only way I see the other side of this
is that if the play it's only happening at her
place all the time. If every time we do a
play date. It's only a mock crib that. At some
point I'm going to be like, he yo, right, you
got to stop dishing out some bread because you're not
Because if my kid goes to you and I don't
got to pay you, and your kid comes.
Speaker 7 (24:33):
To me to ex change, okay, So what if they're
calling you to take their kid on vacation when you
go on your vacation, wouldn't that be a little bit
like what are you doing?
Speaker 3 (24:40):
That's not even real?
Speaker 7 (24:41):
That is real. That happens to us, It happens to
watch We have a parent that calls us and asks
us if we'll take their kids. That's a week or
something like that. That's no money, no money, no money,
yeah no we we pay where the no no no, no,
no no yeah never. So I feel like in that,
in that situation, it's completely fine to ask.
Speaker 4 (25:02):
If the Deolios call me and they say we're going
to Disney, Madison and McKenna really want Leayla to come,
can she come?
Speaker 3 (25:10):
Yeah, I'm gonna say, are you guys sure? Absolutely?
Speaker 4 (25:16):
How much? Like?
Speaker 7 (25:16):
Yes?
Speaker 3 (25:17):
What can I give you? Here's a thou?
Speaker 4 (25:18):
I mean, Disney's kind of crazy, but like example, here's
one hundred, one thousand dollars whatever to cover her all
of her expenses while she's there. You might say no, no,
I don't need all that, and you might take half.
Whatever the case to be. You always have to offer.
This is just a little like, hey, school's over, can
little Jenny come over from three to five?
Speaker 3 (25:34):
But she's sat on my couch, So I'm charging you
a dollar. That's absurd.
Speaker 4 (25:38):
Now, Listen, yogurts are expiptive because I because Leiley eats
like two a day, she's obsessed. They cost a pretty penny.
But again, if I'm inviting you over to me, that
means the pantry is it's accessible to you.
Speaker 7 (25:51):
That's exactly, and that's why we would never act like
any You.
Speaker 4 (25:55):
Can behind the back to your husband, wife, boyfriend, grand yo.
Little Jenny is punishing these yogurts and it's annoying, but
you're never going to Venmo request a dollar for wear
and tear on the sofa.
Speaker 7 (26:08):
The sofa thing is striking to me because there is
an issue with some kids come over and they're like
animals and they're all over the furniture on ourselves. I'm
fine with the food, but if they break the couch.
I might be like if the parents like, hey, your
kid was doing backflips, like we need to talk.
Speaker 3 (26:21):
Yes, that's the kid's couch.
Speaker 4 (26:24):
No in tear you coming over to my house and
sitting on the couch and me potentially charging you a
dollar for quote wearing tail.
Speaker 8 (26:32):
I was gonna say, unless the kid is a destructive kid.
Speaker 3 (26:34):
And that's what he just said. Because you're on the phone,
you know.
Speaker 4 (26:36):
He was just saying like if the couch is broken,
which I don't even know how, but a toy. Was like, Okay,
your kid is.
Speaker 8 (26:42):
No to come to my crib and cast chaos and
break TVs and break this and that and this. First off,
we're gonna have a conversation. Yeah, we're gonna chase a
little rough. Oh she's a little crazy. But after a while,
it's gonna be like, yo, he broke another mirror.
Speaker 4 (26:54):
You know we're gonna have to I mean, I thought
somebody who writes Laila over I get the call, Hey
Layla broke her toy whatever, I'm obviously going to offer yeah,
like obviously, but Leila has a play date.
Speaker 3 (27:06):
I'm not asking little Jenny's.
Speaker 4 (27:07):
Mom for a dollar for wear and tearror. Anonymous is
in Woo State High Anonymous, Right.
Speaker 13 (27:15):
So can you still hear me real quick?
Speaker 3 (27:16):
Yes, I can real quick?
Speaker 8 (27:18):
Oh my god.
Speaker 13 (27:19):
So honestly, I love kids. Right, So it was one
particular Q that would come over. Ain't gonna lie. I
hate to see them coming because at that time, for
some reason, like an idiot, I had a glass table
and they would go under the table and raise up
the glass, chip my glass. But I still welcome them.
Speaker 3 (27:37):
You're an angel, You're a true angel.
Speaker 13 (27:40):
And then when it got a little older, I'll she
had this part too. When they were old enough, we
did more outside. I would do double dutch with them.
I would do hopscotch with them. It was a part
obviously in the project. We would go to the park.
So when it was also I would take them to
the nearest roller skating rink. I would fill my heart
was as many as I could fit. I felt bad
(28:02):
because I couldn't fit them all. Wow, I would take
the roller skating So I was that woman.
Speaker 3 (28:08):
Yeah, like that's so crazy because I don't even like
kids that much. So that's super nice.
Speaker 13 (28:14):
I did not charge.
Speaker 3 (28:15):
Yeah, were any of these kids yours?
Speaker 6 (28:18):
No?
Speaker 13 (28:19):
Two of them?
Speaker 3 (28:19):
Yes, oh, okay, okay.
Speaker 13 (28:21):
And then it was kids in the neighborhood in the project.
Speaker 4 (28:23):
God, I was like, are you just the nice lady
who takes the kids to the roller skate? But now
it makes a little bit more sense. You two of
them were actually yours.
Speaker 8 (28:29):
Got it?
Speaker 4 (28:30):
Yes, But yeah, like, if that was an activity you
chose to do, it would have been nice if some
of the parents were like, hey, let me throw some money,
but like there, I don't think there.
Speaker 3 (28:38):
Should be an obligation out there. Yeah, they did not
anonymous thing for the call.
Speaker 4 (28:42):
I just again, I'm not in this realm yet, but
when I heard that I couldn't wear and tear, you'd
be surprised.
Speaker 3 (28:50):
Some other kids are so expensive, uh chastity. Chastity is
in western heaben.
Speaker 6 (28:57):
Hey, how are you doing. I'm good, all right, So
I kind of see both sides. But the wear and
tear is a little bit extreme. Come on, you know,
people are on a budget, especially with inflation and things
like that, and you might buy, like, you know, six
yogurts because you know that's what your kid's going to have.
I personally, if my you know, if my daughter goes anywhere,
(29:18):
I always send her her own snacks, you know, and
send maybe an extra snack over for the friend as well.
Speaker 3 (29:24):
Oh that's a smart idea. I gotta remember these things.
Speaker 6 (29:28):
Yeah, I'm not someone who likes kids at my house.
I don't even like kids.
Speaker 3 (29:30):
I just don't kid me too, I am. I'm pretty much.
Speaker 4 (29:33):
Yeah, I am with you on that house. That's actually
a smart idea though. But yeah, listen, so.
Speaker 3 (29:38):
Maybe in the two hour plated we don't have snack time.
Speaker 8 (29:41):
Oh maybe we don't have to plate it.
Speaker 7 (29:42):
Maybe I can afford it.
Speaker 8 (29:44):
Hey, listen, I can't afford to have kids over. I'm sorry.
Speaker 3 (29:48):
Times is different now when I seen the dollar for
wear and tear tasty things for.
Speaker 7 (29:52):
The call like I no, So what are you gonna
do if a kid comes over and breaks the wall?
Because that happened to me, I didn't.
Speaker 4 (29:59):
I'm gonna I'm gonna go to my I'm gonna be like, listen, like,
I have no problem the cono. I want the kid
to be there. But they broke the wall. I mean,
when Justin's kid Kiss went to wait, broke the door,
you didn't say anything.
Speaker 7 (30:12):
I said something to him like control this kid.
Speaker 4 (30:15):
So, just as a backstory, Justin who worked on kiss
went to wait his kid Abel came to your house,
kicked your.
Speaker 3 (30:22):
Dog and broke your door.
Speaker 7 (30:24):
He kicked the door into the wall and then the wall. Okay,
I didn't charge justin for the wall, but I wanted to,
like it really did.
Speaker 8 (30:31):
Can not even add a level to this, bro at
It is when you have kids over your crib, right,
and then the parents sent over lunch, say a pizza,
fine for their kid, but nobody else. No way, people
have done that. Bro who's to us when we would yes,
someone did that to us. Yo bought a whole mail
the kid. The kid called them mom. We didn't even know. Okay,
(30:52):
we got math. Of course you have the crib. Our
house is your house, fridge is yours. They called their mom.
They didn't want the food that was in the crib. Oh,
can you get me a pizza next year? You know,
dominance is showing at the door. It's a pizza. I'm like, huh,
I didn't know a pizza. Oh no, it's my mom.
She ordered me a pizza because I called her for
a pizza and it was only like small enough pizza.
Speaker 3 (31:11):
Just it was like a personal pam.
Speaker 8 (31:13):
I felt worried about it because I'm like, wait a minute,
so all these kids are here and y'all couldn't even
get pizza for half a conversation. Well I didn't, but
you know.
Speaker 4 (31:21):
We have to have a conversation, you know what I mean, Like, yeah,
the other kids are eating PPJ and then pizza.
Speaker 8 (31:31):
Don't do that. People really ain't considered.
Speaker 4 (31:34):
This is the type of stuff like I'm not ready
or you aren't, you know, I'm just I'm like, I'm
coming into this, yes, you know, but you got to.
Speaker 8 (31:41):
Cut that off from early. You see with Santie and them,
that person felt so comfortable with sting in them that
they're calling them vacation.
Speaker 7 (31:48):
What's the calendar like for you guys? Know, to be honest,
we put it into that. Now we just don't make
up the phone and you know, wow, because it's really.
Speaker 4 (31:59):
Let me just this a really like positive note. You
never gave me the hold on home on second, it's
not that. Yes, I just wanted to say this part
because I want.
Speaker 3 (32:09):
To make sure because I don't want to get anybody
in trouble. But and it's on a light.
Speaker 4 (32:12):
I like, I love making fun of Santy, but he
invited a kid to go on a family trip with them.
Whilst on the family trip, the kid looked at Santi
and was like, I've never been on a vacation before.
Speaker 3 (32:24):
Thank you so much for bringing me.
Speaker 7 (32:25):
Yeah, and that's what we do.
Speaker 3 (32:27):
That's a moment.
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Speaker 4 (32:39):
I don't know how many times we have to investigate today,
but we will get to the bottom of everyone's relationships.
We had to get to the bottom of a woman
calling earlier who's dating a man on a TV show,
but he keeps her in hiding.
Speaker 3 (32:56):
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Speaker 7 (32:59):
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Speaker 4 (33:00):
You can catch up on that via the podcast. But
in the meantime, we're gonna help Britney too.
Speaker 7 (33:04):
Hi, brit.
Speaker 4 (33:07):
Hi, how are you, britt Thanks for calling us back.
You had called last week. You're going through it a
little bit.
Speaker 3 (33:11):
We didn't have the time.
Speaker 4 (33:12):
I wanted to give you more of it and tell
us about what's going on with your boyfriend. You guys
have been together how long?
Speaker 11 (33:23):
Oh god, a while? Like ten years on and off.
We have a four year old daughter.
Speaker 3 (33:28):
Now though, well, are you married?
Speaker 11 (33:31):
Yeah, nope, that's another problem I have.
Speaker 3 (33:35):
Yeah, yea, yeah, all right, so walk me through why
you called last week?
Speaker 6 (33:39):
All right?
Speaker 11 (33:40):
So I got my wisdom teeth out. Also, I'm twenty eight,
so I guess that age has to do with it.
It makes the healing process like a little bit worse.
You can get dry focket all that, the phone stronger,
stuff like that. Right, Okay, So I got my wisdom
teeth out and that happened on Tuesday morning. You know,
my daughter's in daycare. So I was like, oh, I
(34:02):
asked him. I woke up back to o'clock because obviously
I slept it off, and I woke up back to
o'clock and like, horrible pay And I asked him. I
was like, oh, can you go get our daughter? And
he was like, no, I have to get my other
daughter today. I was like, okay, cool, So that happened.
I was so mad. He grabbed me stuff from the store,
brought it home. He thought he was doing so much
by doing that. I was like, all right, cool. Next day.
(34:25):
Next day on Wednesday, still in pain, obviously, he goes
he said, oh, I'm really tired. I'm going to pick
a nap, will you let me sleep for an extra
hour and go grab our daughter. I was just so
mad and I just grabbed her and like left the house.
And then Thursday Friday, he finally grabbed her. He did
grab her, but then brought it right to me. So
it didn't right.
Speaker 3 (34:45):
You don't get a break, not with a four year
old though.
Speaker 11 (34:47):
No, no, not at all except for when she's in school,
which is good. But and then Saturday I was also,
I'm still in pain to today. So Saturday I brought
her to the zoo and I was like, I was like,
we're getting from the zoo that the pain started coming on.
And sorry when I take out though, but the pain
started coming on. And I was like, why don't you
take her to the zoo and then bring her to
your mom because we pay his mom to watch her
(35:09):
every weekend. And I was like, because I usually work,
I was like, why don't you bring her to the
zoo and then bring her to your mom's And he
was like, oh no, I'm tired. I was like, oh
my god, he's just had no help. It just me
one that it's just me.
Speaker 1 (35:24):
I have.
Speaker 4 (35:25):
Many questions, one of which is I'm gonna need you
to keep it to yourself that you're paying grandma to
watch the kid, because I have my mom watch my
kids multiple times a week and she listens to this show.
So let's not let's not bring that part up again. Honestly,
this is definitely off putting it to me. What I
hear is he's not trying to do anything to help
(35:47):
you feel more comfortable, like at all. Now, are you
guys beyond this going into you having this wisdom tee surgery?
Were you guys in a good place or are there
other things happening because it seems like you guys have
bigger problems.
Speaker 11 (36:00):
The only thing I really feel is that he just
doesn't help me enough. Oh yeah, oh yeah, I work
and I still cook for him.
Speaker 6 (36:11):
He's simple, so it's not like I cook a lot.
Speaker 11 (36:13):
But you know, I work and I still cook for him,
and I still clean the house stuff like that. Oh
that was another thing too. On Sunday. I'm still in pain.
Speaker 4 (36:22):
It was it.
Speaker 11 (36:22):
No, it was Saturday at night. Actually Saturday night. I
put a thing on my I posted on my Instagram
too to get people's opinion, and he asked you to
cook for him on Saturday night too, and I was
I was still in pain, and I was like no,
and then he like kind of got a little bit.
Speaker 4 (36:37):
Mad, and I was like, maybe he thinks you're being
dramatic about the pain and he doesn't believe. I don't know.
Speaker 11 (36:43):
Yeah, that's the only thing I'm thinking.
Speaker 8 (36:45):
I'm gonna tell you exactly what it is. This is
when you date guys who get soft parenting from their parents.
He's he's just a lazy dude who probably his mom
took vim and did everything for him when he was
a kid, so now he don't really know how to
step up and just be responsible, that's all. And what
you got to do is just thought not doing for him,
and he'll have to step up and start doing for himself.
(37:05):
That's all this is.
Speaker 3 (37:06):
And just how much is his mother charging you?
Speaker 8 (37:09):
Fucks?
Speaker 11 (37:12):
So that's another one too. I had another thing that
I wanted to bring to you guys too, but we
might not even have time. But it's actually kind of
about his mom. But I don't care that she charged it,
but she charges us like two hundred and two fifty.
She watches her Friday night, Saturday day time, and then
Sunday day time, and sometimes yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 8 (37:32):
Mom knows what she's doing.
Speaker 3 (37:34):
Delete this from the podcast, please.
Speaker 11 (37:37):
He doesn't Me and him both work, well, he doesn't
really work that much.
Speaker 6 (37:42):
Like he has a business, but he doesn't.
Speaker 11 (37:44):
He's not like he doesn't need to go into work,
but I work at night.
Speaker 4 (37:48):
All right, how about this, let's let's reverse this. Tell
me three things you love about this man? Because I
have phone zero, so to give me three?
Speaker 3 (37:55):
Yeah, sound you shut up. I don't need you to
gass me.
Speaker 8 (38:00):
And she's taking time to think about it.
Speaker 3 (38:01):
Yeah, go ahead. Three things.
Speaker 11 (38:09):
One Damn I wasn't expecting now, I mean, that's okay,
all right. One thing, we get along really well. We
get along very well.
Speaker 6 (38:21):
We don't fight a lot.
Speaker 7 (38:22):
You can find that in friendship.
Speaker 11 (38:23):
That's a great thing.
Speaker 3 (38:25):
Okay, can you give me one more eyes? I feel
like I'm pulling teeth here.
Speaker 11 (38:33):
You know he can he can have his moments, moments
where he's, you know, like.
Speaker 1 (38:36):
Very sweet Mama.
Speaker 8 (38:38):
This is not come on you afraid?
Speaker 11 (38:41):
Yeah, I mean okay, but here's another thing. I'm afraid
to end up.
Speaker 8 (38:47):
Like a j.
Speaker 7 (38:54):
She's mad.
Speaker 3 (38:56):
I got my wisdom teeth out, and my a whole
of a boyfriend took care.
Speaker 6 (38:59):
Of me.
Speaker 7 (39:01):
About it, he says, I'm not yet.
Speaker 11 (39:09):
Left on a serious note though it's not a j really,
I'm so afraid to go out and start trying to date.
Speaker 8 (39:16):
You know, so you'd rather deal with this, okay, So
then don't complain. Yeah, you can't go, get your wisdom
teeth done, do whatever.
Speaker 3 (39:24):
Just know he pay your two hundred a week. I
mean for gm wat kid.
Speaker 8 (39:29):
You couldn't say one thing you loved about the guy
except he has his moments. That's crazy, that's crazy.
Speaker 6 (39:39):
No, he can be good.
Speaker 11 (39:40):
You know, we get along. He does tell me out
a lot when I'm working.
Speaker 5 (39:43):
It's just.
Speaker 1 (39:45):
Watch this, what's this?
Speaker 8 (39:46):
Watch this? Ashley? What do you like about the fire man?
Speaker 4 (39:48):
Well, first and foremost, he's the caretaker of our family
and I literally feel safe in his presence.
Speaker 8 (39:55):
Santi, how do you feel about your wife?
Speaker 6 (39:56):
Say that put the bill.
Speaker 7 (39:58):
She's amazing. The biggest support I haven't my life is
my wife.
Speaker 8 (40:01):
You see how easy you guys, rolls off the tongue.
Speaker 3 (40:03):
I can keep going.
Speaker 8 (40:04):
We can't sit there and be like he has his moments.
Speaker 3 (40:08):
Sometimes something's going on. Sweet things Britain. It's not good.
It's not good.
Speaker 7 (40:14):
Yeah, and you're young too, you're twenty eight. You have
so much life having not the thing twenty eight.
Speaker 3 (40:19):
You said you've been with him for ten years. You've
been with this man since you were eighteen.
Speaker 11 (40:22):
Like, yeah, we were on, yeah, on an offense through eighteen.
He did, he did change and start doing a lot better.
It's just apparently when I'm sick, he just it's terrible.
And then a lot of it's one sided. So yeah,
all right, well I think I know what I.
Speaker 7 (40:35):
Needs to do.
Speaker 3 (40:36):
Okay, Well I don't.
Speaker 4 (40:37):
I honestly don't think you're gonna leave him, And that's okay,
that's obviously personal preference, but yeah, I mean it's it's
tough when you're asked to name three things about your
partner that you love and you started out with.
Speaker 12 (40:50):
You know.
Speaker 3 (40:51):
I mean, if he's listening.
Speaker 1 (40:53):
To this, that's tough.
Speaker 11 (40:55):
Oh no, no, I won't show him this. No, he
only listens to the podcast when I listen to it.
Speaker 3 (41:00):
So you're you're safe because that, Yeah, he will never
take care of you a day in your life. All right, Brent, Well,
you know, good.
Speaker 8 (41:08):
Luck, thank you?
Speaker 3 (41:10):
Yeah, all right, by bye bye bye. Dare I say
I'd rather be a j because.
Speaker 4 (41:17):
Yo Nana's out here charging two hundred per you.
Speaker 7 (41:22):
Can get your money. Ask for mom that do seem
like a liar,
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Speaker 3 (00:21):
Hi, good morning, good morning. How are you well?
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Listen.
Speaker 5 (00:24):
I was like literally in the middle of like crying,
and then like I heard you guys say that, I
was like, yeah, I'm calling.
Speaker 3 (00:28):
Oh my well, I'm sorry, what's going on?
Speaker 4 (00:31):
No?
Speaker 5 (00:32):
See, like I have, I've been in a twelve year
relationship and for the past I want to say nine
ten years, I've always been like the worker, like the
main provider, you know, like I I've always had a
really really good job. So I've always been the provider
and I've never complained about it. You know, it always
kept me out of my house, and you know, I
had the best of the best. So for the first year,
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you know, I my husband's the provider and I'm not like,
you know, I'm the I'm the house mom now, and
I honestly, I feel like I was better off being
the provider because he complains about everything, like everything, the bills,
the Cardinals did this, and then the kids, and I'm like,
I did all of this by myself, Like I did
all of it while you wasn't providing at all, Like
(01:13):
let alone. I used to do everything with the kids too.
So it's like I feel like right now, this generation,
we're allowing these men to fall too much into their
femininity gracefully. There's nothing wrong with a man in their emotions.
Speaker 6 (01:24):
I feel like we.
Speaker 5 (01:24):
Really should embrace that. But how can I fall into
my femininity if he can't even pull himself into his
masculinity and let me fall there? Like I can't even
be a mother without feeling bad about it, you know
what I'm saying. I just feel like it was better working.
Speaker 4 (01:37):
That's a weird dynamic that you know, you guys have.
We have switched roles and you know that's fine, but
that he you've you did it for so long and
now he's just done it for a short period of
time and is complaining as a little That might bother
me too.
Speaker 5 (01:53):
Right, Am I not? Like I really in my head, like,
am I going crazy? But this is not you are?
Speaker 7 (01:58):
I don't know, Yeah, Like I feel like you're complaining
and calling him feminine because he's he's complaining about how
much you guys spend on the bills and all that stuff.
Speaker 5 (02:07):
Yeah, like, not like that. It's just that he's in
this role where he's like, oh, well, my emotions and
I got all these bills and I'm stressed and and
you know, like it's a lot, and I'm like, but
I did all of that, and I had more stress
than that because I had the kids.
Speaker 7 (02:20):
But you know, different, though the dynamic is fun.
Speaker 4 (02:23):
Her point is is she did it for eleven years,
it didn't complain and got done.
Speaker 3 (02:27):
He's now doing it.
Speaker 5 (02:29):
Yeah, but everything he's doing I did harder, and I
did it more, and I still provided for him. I
gave him all the things he needed and wanted without
complaining or making him feel like he was less than
a man for it, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (02:41):
Yeah, and that would be hard.
Speaker 6 (02:42):
I liked he was superior.
Speaker 4 (02:44):
That would be hard for most guys, I would think,
to not be like the provider at the home.
Speaker 8 (02:48):
Plus, he got used to being lazy. He got used
to being lazist. So now that he got to work,
he's gonna come going because it's out of his comfort zone.
Speaker 6 (02:55):
You know, I feel like that.
Speaker 5 (02:56):
Was probably my fault, both of ours, because we allowed
it to go for that long. But it's like, really,
what was it like at the day, it was like,
I'm gonna let the bills go to wait.
Speaker 8 (03:06):
Like he never really you get on him and you
tell him listen, like what are you doing. You're the
man of the house. Get get off your ass and
go to work and provide. But now he's there, so
you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 7 (03:16):
Now his feelings are worthless. I guess Santi is just,
oh my.
Speaker 4 (03:20):
God, Santi is feeling away because Santi is the man
that you're talking about. Santis in his feeling, Santi wants
that tk the thing him. But Son, you gotta admit,
like for her to be carrying that burden for eleven
years and then finally she gets the chance.
Speaker 3 (03:37):
He gets this job, and he gets and he gets
to provide for his kids.
Speaker 4 (03:41):
And his family, and all he does every day is
complain about it when she had just done that for years,
just did it all, and.
Speaker 5 (03:45):
She has like he should I like, probably in the
third year complaining cool, But right now I feel like
he shouldn't be complaining. I should be really flourishing in
this femininity, trying to be the best mother I can be,
and I can't even do that because now I'm like,
let me not ask for a trip to to wolf
Lodge before I get rich and rock.
Speaker 4 (04:06):
Lodge, like she just wants to go. Let me ask
you something. Get what is a complaint of his that
a recent one that he's giving.
Speaker 5 (04:12):
Like like, okay, so we have this normality that we
tried to, you know, get things done at least every
two months for our kids, Like we'll take a little trips,
not far normal things.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
We're like, we're not those Lodge pretty bunch.
Speaker 5 (04:23):
But you know, so my kid's birthday is coming up,
and there's Christmas and he happens to have that at
the same month. The complaint now is well, we got
Christmas and we got this and then.
Speaker 9 (04:31):
You want to do a great wolflage.
Speaker 5 (04:32):
But the bills were just paid and I'm like, honey,
I've done this every year and it was never complaint,
Like maybe you too, No, we weren't.
Speaker 7 (04:41):
We were good, not sure.
Speaker 4 (04:44):
All right, damn well listen, baby, you gotta maybe you
gotta start working part time, and then I think I do,
then you're back out a little bit. You can take
a breather, and then the money that you make could
be the money like the trip money or something.
Speaker 3 (04:58):
I don't know.
Speaker 8 (04:59):
Just don't let him slack we again.
Speaker 5 (05:01):
Listen, I'm gonna stay my seminary and I'll see you
Friday at haus because I need a drink.
Speaker 4 (05:07):
I think, Okay, it's first drink on DJ four and
good luck, good luck, then all right, goodbye. I listen.
I don't I understand. I get it the way. Maybe
she's communicating this is rubbing you the wrong way. But
I think at the end of the day, when we
break it all down, it's gotta be it's gotta be
(05:29):
tough for her because she's like, damn, I did this
for the first eleven years of our marriage and now
it's your turn.
Speaker 7 (05:34):
And but she keeps going back to the money part
about it. What if he just wants to be smart
with the money and before she was spending all this
stuff and didn't think about it. Now he's like, you
know what, spend her money to spend. Yeah, it's not
her money, it's their money.
Speaker 3 (05:45):
Yeah that's how it was. I mean, you know why,
because he's not in charge of the money.
Speaker 7 (05:59):
Playing has to ask to go to old.
Speaker 4 (06:01):
Navy Yanti has to ask to go to.
Speaker 7 (06:05):
I have a Navy Bucks.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
I have a Navy Bucks.
Speaker 7 (06:07):
Can I go kicking?
Speaker 3 (06:09):
It's five? Everybody take a breath.
Speaker 4 (06:12):
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He was upset during that conversation. Six one seven nine
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Gym of Morning Show.
Speaker 3 (06:35):
We're checking in on you. What's up?
Speaker 6 (06:36):
How are you?
Speaker 4 (06:37):
What's going on? Six one seven nine three one one
nine four five. We're talking about anything you want. Jaden
is in Brookline, So hi, babe. The last caller we
had on you know, she was kind of talking about
how for eleven years of her marriage, she was the provider.
She was the one working, Dad stayed at home with
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the kids. Now the rules have kind of reversed. She's
staying home with the kids, dad's working, and they're getting
in these battles about bills, and she's like, you know,
I did it for so long I didn't complain. Something
about that call kind of sparked something in you and
made you think about your relationship.
Speaker 3 (07:16):
Correct, what's going on?
Speaker 10 (07:18):
So basically, so her and I have been dating for
two I'll just call it two and a half months.
Been dated for two and a half months. I've been
going to work almost every day, trying to be a
good provider, a good boyfriend, you know, be the man
of be the man of the house, do my duties.
Speaker 4 (07:38):
Wait, I just so you being the man of the
house and doing your duties. And you guys have been
dating for two months.
Speaker 3 (07:44):
That's it?
Speaker 10 (07:45):
Two years?
Speaker 4 (07:46):
Oh you said two months and we were really okay?
So two years? Two years, you guys have been dating.
You live together?
Speaker 10 (07:56):
Correct?
Speaker 3 (07:57):
I live with her, You live with her? Okay. Cool.
Speaker 4 (07:59):
So you're you're going to you're the provider obviously in
this and you're going to work and you're trying to,
you know, I guess, provide for the households.
Speaker 6 (08:09):
Yep.
Speaker 10 (08:10):
Okay, And while I'm doing while I'm trying to do that,
she if something, Now I totally understand this way. I
totally get where she's coming from. But if something is
not going her way, she expects me to leave my
job and put like, just drop everything I'm doing and
start straight to her.
Speaker 3 (08:28):
Okay, And what part of that do you understand? Because
I don't understand any of that. You can't just live.
Speaker 11 (08:34):
I get.
Speaker 10 (08:35):
I get, like, you know, a once in a blue
moon type of thing, like over, but I've but now
it's gotten to the point where I'm on Actually my
fourth job today is my first day at it.
Speaker 3 (08:48):
Your first job in two years?
Speaker 4 (08:51):
Yeah, honey, and you're getting fired from these jobs, I'm
assuming because you're like, Hey, I gotta I gotta leave
because my girlfriend something and I have to go.
Speaker 10 (09:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (09:03):
Can you give me a couple examples of these emergencies
that you've had to leave your job for.
Speaker 10 (09:09):
Oh man, So we're both vapors and pot smokers, so
should if she's out of either of those, it's instantly
like they're leaving work now and getting me something. I'm
not going I'm not going another ten minutes without it
type of deal, Jaden. If she needs food, she'll be like.
Speaker 7 (09:26):
What happens if you say no?
Speaker 4 (09:29):
If she needs food and weed, you're like literally losing
your job over this.
Speaker 3 (09:34):
You you realize this sounds crazy, right?
Speaker 6 (09:37):
Oh?
Speaker 10 (09:38):
I know I know all my friends talk to me
about it like it's a whole spiel.
Speaker 4 (09:43):
This I don't know.
Speaker 10 (09:44):
I mostly called in today because I wanted to see
or I wanted to hear another opinion today and of
hearing what everybody tells me, I.
Speaker 4 (09:51):
Don't even need to know what Santia and Foreign are
going to say. I can give you the opinion of
all three of us. She's using you, and the fact
that you're letting her treat like this and losing jobs
over her. Saying she's hungry and she needs a little
lunch is nuts. She needs to get her life together
and she needs to know that you're working nine to five,
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whatever the job is, and after those hours.
Speaker 3 (10:15):
You can come home. But in the in the middle
of your workday, you can't just leave. That's not the
way the world works. Has she ever had a job?
Speaker 8 (10:22):
Ah?
Speaker 4 (10:23):
No?
Speaker 1 (10:23):
Actually, well that's good.
Speaker 7 (10:25):
Yeah, that's gonna do ye. Yeah.
Speaker 10 (10:27):
I keep telling her, just you know, Charme is going
to come bite to just you know, get your job
and then you'll understand how it is. You know, I
can't just always leave and stuff. My bosses have been
nice enough time and time again to let me leave,
but there is a limit, hence why I'm on my
fourth job, Jaden.
Speaker 3 (10:43):
How old you.
Speaker 8 (10:45):
Me?
Speaker 10 (10:45):
I'm twenty okay?
Speaker 3 (10:46):
And how old is she?
Speaker 10 (10:49):
Twenty one?
Speaker 3 (10:49):
Okay?
Speaker 4 (10:49):
So you guys are very young still, but you know
you're only twenty years old. And I'm not saying that.
Maybe at some point she's not the woman for you.
But this, this isn't a relationship that you can upkeep.
It's very one sided. What is she doing for you? Like?
Speaker 3 (11:09):
What what? What phills? What does she do that fills
your cup?
Speaker 4 (11:12):
Obviously it's not money, and that's okay, but what like
when you get home, what does she do for you
that makes.
Speaker 3 (11:18):
You want to stay in this relationship?
Speaker 10 (11:21):
So she brings out the card. So I ended up
getting kicked out of my grandparents' house for just other
family reasons and they didn't have the space, so she
brought me in. And she's been using that as, Oh,
that's how I'm repaying you, that's I'm doing this, that's
why I'm doing that. But that's her.
Speaker 4 (11:37):
Only she's basically what she's saying, she's putting a roof
over your head.
Speaker 3 (11:41):
Yeah, go ahead, some.
Speaker 7 (11:43):
No, I you said something about she gave you a
car or she brought that card.
Speaker 3 (11:47):
Out car duff oh duh yeah d.
Speaker 7 (11:51):
Jaden, Man, you sound like a nice kid, but I
don't think she's making your life better. She's bringing you down.
Speaker 4 (11:56):
You're getting used and abused, period, and there are plenty
of other fish in the sea, Jaden. I think, honestly,
I think you got to get out of this relationship.
Speaker 3 (12:05):
Man, I really do you do? I do?
Speaker 4 (12:08):
I hate saying that because I you know, I always
want to fight for love, but this isn't love, like
her telling you my my tummy is growling.
Speaker 3 (12:17):
I need you to leave your job. I don't care
if you get fired. I'm hungry. I need my.
Speaker 4 (12:22):
Vape the hell door by yeah bye.
Speaker 10 (12:29):
Oh yeah, I've definitely been I'm definitely that's just floating
around my head. A lot more is the believing card, Jayden.
Speaker 4 (12:36):
Just promise me, with this new job that you start today,
you will never leave because she needs some weed or
a vape pen or a breakfast sandwich like you gotta commit. No.
Speaker 10 (12:49):
Thankfully, it's one of my buddies, and he's being kind
enough to give me a job because he knows the
struggle I'm in right now with no job, So I'm
not gonna let.
Speaker 3 (12:58):
Him down, peare you can't.
Speaker 4 (12:59):
You don't let your friends down, don't let yourself down,
and you know, don't get taken advantage of, because that's
what I fear is happening to you right now, Like
you can't this relationships are there's everybody's supposed to give
something in a relationship.
Speaker 3 (13:14):
Okay, and then I don't just mean the roof over
your head.
Speaker 10 (13:16):
Okay, yeah, I do, all right.
Speaker 3 (13:19):
Buddy, good good luck, you're only twenty plenty of fish
in the sea. Goodbye.
Speaker 7 (13:23):
What He's young enough where he cans still fix it.
But the worst thing would be is stay with this
girl for like twenty years and then realize, well.
Speaker 4 (13:30):
What I'm sad is he's young enough to think that
this is okay, like that this is what it's but
this is what a relationship is supposed to look like.
I'm supposed to leave because she needs food? What the
wan is in Laurence one? That was tough, Like I'm upset.
(13:50):
I'm so sorry, man, I'm dying right now.
Speaker 10 (13:54):
No, he really he really needs to let her go, yes.
Speaker 8 (13:58):
On himself, and yeah, man, he I don't know better.
Speaker 5 (14:03):
I'm getting a job like a mapecor.
Speaker 4 (14:07):
Let's see, well, let's see if Sady could get this
one that his girlfriend is for where where's where is
she from the street?
Speaker 3 (14:13):
The street?
Speaker 4 (14:13):
Honey, Like, we gotta let her go because she is
I mean and again and you know what's tough one.
Speaker 3 (14:20):
He's twenty. So that's what I keep going back.
Speaker 4 (14:22):
He thinks that this is the right way for a
relationship to be because he doesn't know any better. It's
not she's getting this man fired because she's calling and saying,
you need to leave right now and get me lunch.
Speaker 3 (14:34):
Imagine on this radio show.
Speaker 4 (14:36):
I start the show and I'm like, good morning everybody,
I have to go because.
Speaker 3 (14:40):
The fireman wants a bacon, egg and cheese. I got
a run. This is this.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
What?
Speaker 3 (14:48):
Thanks for the call on one gets it?
Speaker 1 (14:50):
Wow?
Speaker 11 (14:50):
Wow?
Speaker 3 (14:52):
Man, I know.
Speaker 4 (14:53):
And it's even crazier because he was never gonna call
and tell us that it was the other girl who
Mars who made him held him to want to call.
Speaker 7 (15:01):
Seems like the same type of girlfri that do that.
Mars is like this other girl. She's sucking them dry
and complaining about everything.
Speaker 3 (15:08):
That's there's a complete opposite situation. At one point, Mars
was the provider.
Speaker 7 (15:14):
Okay, what is the vaping weed?
Speaker 3 (15:16):
Girlfriend eating woman?
Speaker 7 (15:18):
Mars and her expecting way too much from their men
and then complaining when they say no, they go away
from the path.
Speaker 3 (15:24):
Son, you want to go to Old Navy and shop That.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
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Hi, everybody, good morning.
Speaker 10 (15:41):
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Speaker 4 (15:41):
If I say the name THEO James to you, you
might not recognize it. I think if you saw him
he's an actor, you might be a little more after
Like I think I've seen him in something.
Speaker 3 (15:51):
He's starting a divergent series. He was in The White Lotus.
Santa tells me there was a full frontal in that
and Sondy gave him the approval.
Speaker 7 (16:03):
Yeah, his his his tool is very nice.
Speaker 3 (16:05):
Yeah, describeol is very nice.
Speaker 7 (16:08):
Foreign It's easy on the eyes.
Speaker 8 (16:14):
I think most.
Speaker 3 (16:17):
I see here. Most recently he was in The Gentleman.
Speaker 4 (16:23):
Okay out okay either way, Yeah, well that's the one
where he shows is you know what, White Lotus, which
is which is a very popular show.
Speaker 3 (16:32):
AnyWho, he was playing a game two truths and a lie.
Speaker 4 (16:37):
So we're just gonna I'm gonna play the audio for
you live time, and then you will actually hear him
reveal the two truths and a lie. When I I
heard this, I just thought to myself, well, I don't
want to give too much away.
Speaker 3 (16:50):
Let's play. So I would love for the two of
you to play two truths and one lie.
Speaker 9 (16:56):
Here we go, first truths. On my mother's side. Weirdly,
I am related to Brian Cox. Second one university. I
went on a date that I thought went pretty well.
You know, we had some fun and we were young
and dumb and full of fun. In the morning, she
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had left and there was a present for me in
the bath and it was a small turd. And the
truth is, I'm a quarter Greek. So what do you
think is the lie?
Speaker 1 (17:30):
What's the first one again? Brian Cox? Brian Cox, Brian
Cox is a lie. That's the lie?
Speaker 3 (17:36):
Yes, Oh so he doesn't know?
Speaker 4 (17:39):
Oh yes, okay, so follow along here because that kind
of confused me. But the Brian that he was related to,
Brian Cox, who's Brian.
Speaker 7 (17:46):
Cox, the guy from succession the head gone.
Speaker 4 (17:48):
Okay, that was the lie, meaning he's a quarter of
Greek and that he went on a date with a
woman thought it went well and she left in the
morning and she had pooped.
Speaker 1 (17:57):
In his tub.
Speaker 7 (17:59):
I've heard stories like that.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
What is that? What is that?
Speaker 7 (18:02):
I think the girl got really drunk, and I think
stuff like that happens in that situation. I went to
high school with the girl who got toilet, is right?
Speaker 3 (18:08):
That make sense? She had to take it out of
Oh no, or I guess no, she could have.
Speaker 7 (18:14):
When she went to the bathroom. She thought the tub
was a toilet.
Speaker 8 (18:17):
That's a big toilet. She was drunk. Guys, even if
you drunk.
Speaker 7 (18:21):
I went to high school with a girl that at
a party got really drunk. They woke up the next morning.
The girl had her underwear on top of her jeans
with with a poop right next to her. She was
so drunk. Yeah, that's what I'm telling you. And that's
not like that's a true story.
Speaker 3 (18:35):
Don't you know a story about someone in this building
as well? It's poop.
Speaker 7 (18:43):
I'm just not remembering you just told. Oh yeah, another
guy in this building, when on a date with the girl,
had like a one night stand. So they fell asleep
and he actually passed out on the couch. He woke
up to her going to the bathroom and blowing it up,
just you know, just having issues the bathroom, in the bathroom,
but right next to the door. Yeah, it's tough.
Speaker 4 (19:03):
I well, girls don't poop, obviously these ones in this
story obviously select few. But I am telling you right now,
that's me on a date. Like if okay, let's use
AJ for example. Go ahead, how about my AJ.
Speaker 3 (19:19):
You're over there tomorrow, you're on date number five and
you have.
Speaker 4 (19:24):
To go to the bathroom. Like, what does one do
in that situation? Because I'm leaving. I'm telling you right now,
I'm saying I'm doing this phone, my phone, drinking. Oh
I gotta go, somebody's dead.
Speaker 3 (19:37):
Not going to the bathroom.
Speaker 7 (19:38):
No, but if you leave, it's gonna send the wrong message.
So your best bet is just to hold as much
as you want.
Speaker 3 (19:43):
The message is it's sending. If she stinks up the
man's bathroom, there's no hell I am doing.
Speaker 7 (19:50):
Okay, Well, goodbye. What if you guys have a bad
night or something like that, You just don't know what's
going to happen and it just comes really quick.
Speaker 8 (19:57):
Ith going to the car.
Speaker 3 (20:00):
Yeah, I stand with you, So you miss, I'm going
out there I'm going out of limb here. I'll poot
myself in the car.
Speaker 8 (20:13):
Okay, I don't.
Speaker 4 (20:14):
Before I would poop in that man's apartment or in
his tub, I would go.
Speaker 3 (20:20):
In my car.
Speaker 8 (20:20):
So I'm assuming that yalla not coming back into the No,
I'm never coming.
Speaker 3 (20:25):
Back into that man's life.
Speaker 7 (20:26):
Okay, But why I died? But what do you say
to him once you leave?
Speaker 3 (20:30):
I had to go. I had well, no, somebody called me.
I got a text, and I'm like, hey, i gotta go.
Speaker 8 (20:35):
I'll be right back.
Speaker 3 (20:36):
You'll never see me again. It's called vanish Mode.
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Hi, everybody, good morning.
Speaker 4 (20:57):
Now listen, I have a two and a half year
old and almost three month old at this point, so
I'm certainly not having play dates, but I know they're coming.
Oh yeah, I mean I have playdates in a sense
of like my friend will come over with with his
or her kid and they'll run around. But I haven't
had it yet where someone's like, oh, I'm dropping off
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so and so I'll pick them up in a couple hours,
like I'm not I'm not in that mothering stage yet.
Speaker 7 (21:24):
Not gonna lie at least twice a week, that's my life.
Speaker 3 (21:26):
At least twice your kids. That makes sense.
Speaker 7 (21:28):
Yeah, because I have four of them. There's different circles,
and it's completely fine. I don't mind it.
Speaker 3 (21:33):
You have even taken other people's kids on vacation.
Speaker 7 (21:36):
We have a couple of times.
Speaker 3 (21:37):
Yeah, my mother used to do that too. That's cool.
Speaker 7 (21:39):
Again, did you guys.
Speaker 4 (21:40):
Ever do that for him?
Speaker 8 (21:41):
No, we couldn't afford it.
Speaker 4 (21:43):
Well, that's that's okay, So funny you bring that up.
This woman went viral for this video. I hate her,
like there's something about her that it just I don't
like the way she says it. I feel like there's attitude.
Speaker 3 (21:59):
Or something there. Shocking to me that you're.
Speaker 4 (22:02):
Saying you can see both sides of this, because I
feel like if you are saying to somebody, bring over
little Jenny, little Jenny can hang out with my kid
for the that is you consenting to when little Jenny
is at my house and uses things.
Speaker 3 (22:19):
That's cool.
Speaker 12 (22:21):
Here's the audio, and we normalize sending the other family
money for playdates. So recently, my daughter had a friend
of her and I asked her mom for money, and
this is how went.
Speaker 1 (22:32):
So.
Speaker 12 (22:32):
After the play date, I text her moment and I said,
thanks for letting Jamie play today. Please help out with
your share of the expenses for the playdate, totaling fifteen
dollars via memo. Let's do it again sometime because I
can't keep doing these playdates if it's so expensive. And
she said expenses and I said, yeah, she used supplies
and food while she was here. In this way, we
can do this more often without a monetary obligation on
(22:53):
just one party, right, makes sense. No, she didn't say much,
but she did say what supplies and I wrote them down.
There was chalk, apple, sauce, fruit, She sat on the couch.
That's wear and tear. She actually broke a toy. She
had three juice boxes, she went to the bathroom, she
had yogurt. Then she actually sent the money and I
sent her a message thanking her for it. Of course,
(23:14):
she didn't say anything else, but I said, you know,
this will make it easier for us to do more
play dates.
Speaker 7 (23:19):
In the future.
Speaker 8 (23:19):
So what do you guys think yol.
Speaker 3 (23:22):
Were a dollar for wear and tear on the couch
that's not that's crazy.
Speaker 7 (23:27):
Not all kids respect other families property.
Speaker 3 (23:30):
Fine, so don't invite little Jenny to bouts, I understand.
Speaker 7 (23:33):
Can I just tell you we don't ask for any
money from anybody else, and honestly, when we send our
kids to their house, we offer just because we feel
like it's slight. Fine, But there are some parents that
take advantage of the playdates and then want to drop
their kids off every single day, okay, and sometimes sometimes
call us to take responsibilities for their kids. In situations
like that, I want to ask for money, but you don't.
(23:54):
I don't, but I feel like it's okay.
Speaker 8 (23:56):
Though.
Speaker 4 (23:56):
Let me also add in that playdate was at the house.
A dollar for the yogurt she wanted, dollar for orange,
just wear entre. Now, if mom calls me and says
I'm taking little Jenny to the movies and then we're
going to do dinner, I would actively say, can I
throw you twenty?
Speaker 3 (24:11):
Can I whatever? A dollar for wear and tear?
Speaker 8 (24:15):
Bitch?
Speaker 3 (24:15):
Are you you invited little Jenny over?
Speaker 8 (24:17):
The only way I see the other side of this
is that if the play it's only happening at her
place all the time. If every time we do a
play date. It's only a mock crib that. At some
point I'm going to be like, he yo, right, you
got to stop dishing out some bread because you're not
Because if my kid goes to you and I don't
got to pay you, and your kid comes.
Speaker 7 (24:33):
To me to ex change, okay, So what if they're
calling you to take their kid on vacation when you
go on your vacation, wouldn't that be a little bit
like what are you doing?
Speaker 3 (24:40):
That's not even real?
Speaker 7 (24:41):
That is real. That happens to us, It happens to
watch We have a parent that calls us and asks
us if we'll take their kids. That's a week or
something like that. That's no money, no money, no money,
yeah no we we pay where the no no no, no,
no no yeah never. So I feel like in that,
in that situation, it's completely fine to ask.
Speaker 4 (25:02):
If the Deolios call me and they say we're going
to Disney, Madison and McKenna really want Leayla to come,
can she come?
Speaker 3 (25:10):
Yeah, I'm gonna say, are you guys sure? Absolutely?
Speaker 4 (25:16):
How much? Like?
Speaker 7 (25:16):
Yes?
Speaker 3 (25:17):
What can I give you? Here's a thou?
Speaker 4 (25:18):
I mean, Disney's kind of crazy, but like example, here's
one hundred, one thousand dollars whatever to cover her all
of her expenses while she's there. You might say no, no,
I don't need all that, and you might take half.
Whatever the case to be. You always have to offer.
This is just a little like, hey, school's over, can
little Jenny come over from three to five?
Speaker 3 (25:34):
But she's sat on my couch, So I'm charging you
a dollar. That's absurd.
Speaker 4 (25:38):
Now, Listen, yogurts are expiptive because I because Leiley eats
like two a day, she's obsessed. They cost a pretty penny.
But again, if I'm inviting you over to me, that
means the pantry is it's accessible to you.
Speaker 7 (25:51):
That's exactly, and that's why we would never act like
any You.
Speaker 4 (25:55):
Can behind the back to your husband, wife, boyfriend, grand yo.
Little Jenny is punishing these yogurts and it's annoying, but
you're never going to Venmo request a dollar for wear
and tear on the sofa.
Speaker 7 (26:08):
The sofa thing is striking to me because there is
an issue with some kids come over and they're like
animals and they're all over the furniture on ourselves. I'm
fine with the food, but if they break the couch.
I might be like if the parents like, hey, your
kid was doing backflips, like we need to talk.
Speaker 3 (26:21):
Yes, that's the kid's couch.
Speaker 4 (26:24):
No in tear you coming over to my house and
sitting on the couch and me potentially charging you a
dollar for quote wearing tail.
Speaker 8 (26:32):
I was gonna say, unless the kid is a destructive kid.
Speaker 3 (26:34):
And that's what he just said. Because you're on the phone,
you know.
Speaker 4 (26:36):
He was just saying like if the couch is broken,
which I don't even know how, but a toy. Was like, Okay,
your kid is.
Speaker 8 (26:42):
No to come to my crib and cast chaos and
break TVs and break this and that and this. First off,
we're gonna have a conversation. Yeah, we're gonna chase a
little rough. Oh she's a little crazy. But after a while,
it's gonna be like, yo, he broke another mirror.
Speaker 4 (26:54):
You know we're gonna have to I mean, I thought
somebody who writes Laila over I get the call, Hey
Layla broke her toy whatever, I'm obviously going to offer yeah,
like obviously, but Leila has a play date.
Speaker 3 (27:06):
I'm not asking little Jenny's.
Speaker 4 (27:07):
Mom for a dollar for wear and tearror. Anonymous is
in Woo State High Anonymous, Right.
Speaker 13 (27:15):
So can you still hear me real quick?
Speaker 3 (27:16):
Yes, I can real quick?
Speaker 8 (27:18):
Oh my god.
Speaker 13 (27:19):
So honestly, I love kids. Right, So it was one
particular Q that would come over. Ain't gonna lie. I
hate to see them coming because at that time, for
some reason, like an idiot, I had a glass table
and they would go under the table and raise up
the glass, chip my glass. But I still welcome them.
Speaker 3 (27:37):
You're an angel, You're a true angel.
Speaker 13 (27:40):
And then when it got a little older, I'll she
had this part too. When they were old enough, we
did more outside. I would do double dutch with them.
I would do hopscotch with them. It was a part
obviously in the project. We would go to the park.
So when it was also I would take them to
the nearest roller skating rink. I would fill my heart
was as many as I could fit. I felt bad
(28:02):
because I couldn't fit them all. Wow, I would take
the roller skating So I was that woman.
Speaker 3 (28:08):
Yeah, like that's so crazy because I don't even like
kids that much. So that's super nice.
Speaker 13 (28:14):
I did not charge.
Speaker 3 (28:15):
Yeah, were any of these kids yours?
Speaker 6 (28:18):
No?
Speaker 13 (28:19):
Two of them?
Speaker 3 (28:19):
Yes, oh, okay, okay.
Speaker 13 (28:21):
And then it was kids in the neighborhood in the project.
Speaker 4 (28:23):
God, I was like, are you just the nice lady
who takes the kids to the roller skate? But now
it makes a little bit more sense. You two of
them were actually yours.
Speaker 8 (28:29):
Got it?
Speaker 4 (28:30):
Yes, But yeah, like, if that was an activity you
chose to do, it would have been nice if some
of the parents were like, hey, let me throw some money,
but like there, I don't think there.
Speaker 3 (28:38):
Should be an obligation out there. Yeah, they did not
anonymous thing for the call.
Speaker 4 (28:42):
I just again, I'm not in this realm yet, but
when I heard that I couldn't wear and tear, you'd
be surprised.
Speaker 3 (28:50):
Some other kids are so expensive, uh chastity. Chastity is
in western heaben.
Speaker 6 (28:57):
Hey, how are you doing. I'm good, all right, So
I kind of see both sides. But the wear and
tear is a little bit extreme. Come on, you know,
people are on a budget, especially with inflation and things
like that, and you might buy, like, you know, six
yogurts because you know that's what your kid's going to have.
I personally, if my you know, if my daughter goes anywhere,
(29:18):
I always send her her own snacks, you know, and
send maybe an extra snack over for the friend as well.
Speaker 3 (29:24):
Oh that's a smart idea. I gotta remember these things.
Speaker 6 (29:28):
Yeah, I'm not someone who likes kids at my house.
I don't even like kids.
Speaker 3 (29:30):
I just don't kid me too, I am. I'm pretty much.
Speaker 4 (29:33):
Yeah, I am with you on that house. That's actually
a smart idea though. But yeah, listen, so.
Speaker 3 (29:38):
Maybe in the two hour plated we don't have snack time.
Speaker 8 (29:41):
Oh maybe we don't have to plate it.
Speaker 7 (29:42):
Maybe I can afford it.
Speaker 8 (29:44):
Hey, listen, I can't afford to have kids over. I'm sorry.
Speaker 3 (29:48):
Times is different now when I seen the dollar for
wear and tear tasty things for.
Speaker 7 (29:52):
The call like I no, So what are you gonna
do if a kid comes over and breaks the wall?
Because that happened to me, I didn't.
Speaker 4 (29:59):
I'm gonna I'm gonna go to my I'm gonna be like, listen, like,
I have no problem the cono. I want the kid
to be there. But they broke the wall. I mean,
when Justin's kid Kiss went to wait, broke the door,
you didn't say anything.
Speaker 7 (30:12):
I said something to him like control this kid.
Speaker 4 (30:15):
So, just as a backstory, Justin who worked on kiss
went to wait his kid Abel came to your house,
kicked your.
Speaker 3 (30:22):
Dog and broke your door.
Speaker 7 (30:24):
He kicked the door into the wall and then the wall. Okay,
I didn't charge justin for the wall, but I wanted to,
like it really did.
Speaker 8 (30:31):
Can not even add a level to this, bro at
It is when you have kids over your crib, right,
and then the parents sent over lunch, say a pizza,
fine for their kid, but nobody else. No way, people
have done that. Bro who's to us when we would yes,
someone did that to us. Yo bought a whole mail
the kid. The kid called them mom. We didn't even know. Okay,
(30:52):
we got math. Of course you have the crib. Our
house is your house, fridge is yours. They called their mom.
They didn't want the food that was in the crib. Oh,
can you get me a pizza next year? You know,
dominance is showing at the door. It's a pizza. I'm like, huh,
I didn't know a pizza. Oh no, it's my mom.
She ordered me a pizza because I called her for
a pizza and it was only like small enough pizza.
Speaker 3 (31:11):
Just it was like a personal pam.
Speaker 8 (31:13):
I felt worried about it because I'm like, wait a minute,
so all these kids are here and y'all couldn't even
get pizza for half a conversation. Well I didn't, but
you know.
Speaker 4 (31:21):
We have to have a conversation, you know what I mean, Like, yeah,
the other kids are eating PPJ and then pizza.
Speaker 8 (31:31):
Don't do that. People really ain't considered.
Speaker 4 (31:34):
This is the type of stuff like I'm not ready
or you aren't, you know, I'm just I'm like, I'm
coming into this, yes, you know, but you got to.
Speaker 8 (31:41):
Cut that off from early. You see with Santie and them,
that person felt so comfortable with sting in them that
they're calling them vacation.
Speaker 7 (31:48):
What's the calendar like for you guys? Know, to be honest,
we put it into that. Now we just don't make
up the phone and you know, wow, because it's really.
Speaker 4 (31:59):
Let me just this a really like positive note. You
never gave me the hold on home on second, it's
not that. Yes, I just wanted to say this part
because I want.
Speaker 3 (32:09):
To make sure because I don't want to get anybody
in trouble. But and it's on a light.
Speaker 4 (32:12):
I like, I love making fun of Santy, but he
invited a kid to go on a family trip with them.
Whilst on the family trip, the kid looked at Santi
and was like, I've never been on a vacation before.
Speaker 3 (32:24):
Thank you so much for bringing me.
Speaker 7 (32:25):
Yeah, and that's what we do.
Speaker 3 (32:27):
That's a moment.
Speaker 1 (32:30):
And the morning show with DJ four and it's Saty Morning.
Speaker 2 (32:33):
Bustin's number one for hip hop jam in ninety four
or five.
Speaker 4 (32:39):
I don't know how many times we have to investigate today,
but we will get to the bottom of everyone's relationships.
We had to get to the bottom of a woman
calling earlier who's dating a man on a TV show,
but he keeps her in hiding.
Speaker 3 (32:56):
They hike and they go to places where they don't
see anybody.
Speaker 7 (32:59):
They fish.
Speaker 4 (33:00):
You can catch up on that via the podcast. But
in the meantime, we're gonna help Britney too.
Speaker 7 (33:04):
Hi, brit.
Speaker 4 (33:07):
Hi, how are you, britt Thanks for calling us back.
You had called last week. You're going through it a
little bit.
Speaker 3 (33:11):
We didn't have the time.
Speaker 4 (33:12):
I wanted to give you more of it and tell
us about what's going on with your boyfriend. You guys
have been together how long?
Speaker 11 (33:23):
Oh god, a while? Like ten years on and off.
We have a four year old daughter.
Speaker 3 (33:28):
Now though, well, are you married?
Speaker 11 (33:31):
Yeah, nope, that's another problem I have.
Speaker 3 (33:35):
Yeah, yea, yeah, all right, so walk me through why
you called last week?
Speaker 6 (33:39):
All right?
Speaker 11 (33:40):
So I got my wisdom teeth out. Also, I'm twenty eight,
so I guess that age has to do with it.
It makes the healing process like a little bit worse.
You can get dry focket all that, the phone stronger,
stuff like that. Right, Okay, So I got my wisdom
teeth out and that happened on Tuesday morning. You know,
my daughter's in daycare. So I was like, oh, I
(34:02):
asked him. I woke up back to o'clock because obviously
I slept it off, and I woke up back to
o'clock and like, horrible pay And I asked him. I
was like, oh, can you go get our daughter? And
he was like, no, I have to get my other
daughter today. I was like, okay, cool, So that happened.
I was so mad. He grabbed me stuff from the store,
brought it home. He thought he was doing so much
by doing that. I was like, all right, cool. Next day.
(34:25):
Next day on Wednesday, still in pain, obviously, he goes
he said, oh, I'm really tired. I'm going to pick
a nap, will you let me sleep for an extra
hour and go grab our daughter. I was just so
mad and I just grabbed her and like left the house.
And then Thursday Friday, he finally grabbed her. He did
grab her, but then brought it right to me. So
it didn't right.
Speaker 3 (34:45):
You don't get a break, not with a four year
old though.
Speaker 11 (34:47):
No, no, not at all except for when she's in school,
which is good. But and then Saturday I was also,
I'm still in pain to today. So Saturday I brought
her to the zoo and I was like, I was like,
we're getting from the zoo that the pain started coming on.
And sorry when I take out though, but the pain
started coming on. And I was like, why don't you
take her to the zoo and then bring her to
your mom because we pay his mom to watch her
(35:09):
every weekend. And I was like, because I usually work,
I was like, why don't you bring her to the
zoo and then bring her to your mom's And he
was like, oh no, I'm tired. I was like, oh
my god, he's just had no help. It just me
one that it's just me.
Speaker 1 (35:24):
I have.
Speaker 4 (35:25):
Many questions, one of which is I'm gonna need you
to keep it to yourself that you're paying grandma to
watch the kid, because I have my mom watch my
kids multiple times a week and she listens to this show.
So let's not let's not bring that part up again. Honestly,
this is definitely off putting it to me. What I
hear is he's not trying to do anything to help
(35:47):
you feel more comfortable, like at all. Now, are you
guys beyond this going into you having this wisdom tee surgery?
Were you guys in a good place or are there
other things happening because it seems like you guys have
bigger problems.
Speaker 11 (36:00):
The only thing I really feel is that he just
doesn't help me enough. Oh yeah, oh yeah, I work
and I still cook for him.
Speaker 6 (36:11):
He's simple, so it's not like I cook a lot.
Speaker 11 (36:13):
But you know, I work and I still cook for him,
and I still clean the house stuff like that. Oh
that was another thing too. On Sunday. I'm still in pain.
Speaker 4 (36:22):
It was it.
Speaker 11 (36:22):
No, it was Saturday at night. Actually Saturday night. I
put a thing on my I posted on my Instagram
too to get people's opinion, and he asked you to
cook for him on Saturday night too, and I was
I was still in pain, and I was like no,
and then he like kind of got a little bit.
Speaker 4 (36:37):
Mad, and I was like, maybe he thinks you're being
dramatic about the pain and he doesn't believe. I don't know.
Speaker 11 (36:43):
Yeah, that's the only thing I'm thinking.
Speaker 8 (36:45):
I'm gonna tell you exactly what it is. This is
when you date guys who get soft parenting from their parents.
He's he's just a lazy dude who probably his mom
took vim and did everything for him when he was
a kid, so now he don't really know how to
step up and just be responsible, that's all. And what
you got to do is just thought not doing for him,
and he'll have to step up and start doing for himself.
(37:05):
That's all this is.
Speaker 3 (37:06):
And just how much is his mother charging you?
Speaker 8 (37:09):
Fucks?
Speaker 11 (37:12):
So that's another one too. I had another thing that
I wanted to bring to you guys too, but we
might not even have time. But it's actually kind of
about his mom. But I don't care that she charged it,
but she charges us like two hundred and two fifty.
She watches her Friday night, Saturday day time, and then
Sunday day time, and sometimes yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 8 (37:32):
Mom knows what she's doing.
Speaker 3 (37:34):
Delete this from the podcast, please.
Speaker 11 (37:37):
He doesn't Me and him both work, well, he doesn't
really work that much.
Speaker 6 (37:42):
Like he has a business, but he doesn't.
Speaker 11 (37:44):
He's not like he doesn't need to go into work,
but I work at night.
Speaker 4 (37:48):
All right, how about this, let's let's reverse this. Tell
me three things you love about this man? Because I
have phone zero, so to give me three?
Speaker 3 (37:55):
Yeah, sound you shut up. I don't need you to
gass me.
Speaker 8 (38:00):
And she's taking time to think about it.
Speaker 3 (38:01):
Yeah, go ahead. Three things.
Speaker 11 (38:09):
One Damn I wasn't expecting now, I mean, that's okay,
all right. One thing, we get along really well. We
get along very well.
Speaker 6 (38:21):
We don't fight a lot.
Speaker 7 (38:22):
You can find that in friendship.
Speaker 11 (38:23):
That's a great thing.
Speaker 3 (38:25):
Okay, can you give me one more eyes? I feel
like I'm pulling teeth here.
Speaker 11 (38:33):
You know he can he can have his moments, moments
where he's, you know, like.
Speaker 1 (38:36):
Very sweet Mama.
Speaker 8 (38:38):
This is not come on you afraid?
Speaker 11 (38:41):
Yeah, I mean okay, but here's another thing. I'm afraid
to end up.
Speaker 8 (38:47):
Like a j.
Speaker 7 (38:54):
She's mad.
Speaker 3 (38:56):
I got my wisdom teeth out, and my a whole
of a boyfriend took care.
Speaker 6 (38:59):
Of me.
Speaker 7 (39:01):
About it, he says, I'm not yet.
Speaker 11 (39:09):
Left on a serious note though it's not a j really,
I'm so afraid to go out and start trying to date.
Speaker 8 (39:16):
You know, so you'd rather deal with this, okay, So
then don't complain. Yeah, you can't go, get your wisdom
teeth done, do whatever.
Speaker 3 (39:24):
Just know he pay your two hundred a week. I
mean for gm wat kid.
Speaker 8 (39:29):
You couldn't say one thing you loved about the guy
except he has his moments. That's crazy, that's crazy.
Speaker 6 (39:39):
No, he can be good.
Speaker 11 (39:40):
You know, we get along. He does tell me out
a lot when I'm working.
Speaker 5 (39:43):
It's just.
Speaker 1 (39:45):
Watch this, what's this?
Speaker 8 (39:46):
Watch this? Ashley? What do you like about the fire man?
Speaker 4 (39:48):
Well, first and foremost, he's the caretaker of our family
and I literally feel safe in his presence.
Speaker 8 (39:55):
Santi, how do you feel about your wife?
Speaker 6 (39:56):
Say that put the bill.
Speaker 7 (39:58):
She's amazing. The biggest support I haven't my life is
my wife.
Speaker 8 (40:01):
You see how easy you guys, rolls off the tongue.
Speaker 3 (40:03):
I can keep going.
Speaker 8 (40:04):
We can't sit there and be like he has his moments.
Speaker 3 (40:08):
Sometimes something's going on. Sweet things Britain. It's not good.
It's not good.
Speaker 7 (40:14):
Yeah, and you're young too, you're twenty eight. You have
so much life having not the thing twenty eight.
Speaker 3 (40:19):
You said you've been with him for ten years. You've
been with this man since you were eighteen.
Speaker 11 (40:22):
Like, yeah, we were on, yeah, on an offense through eighteen.
He did, he did change and start doing a lot better.
It's just apparently when I'm sick, he just it's terrible.
And then a lot of it's one sided. So yeah,
all right, well I think I know what I.
Speaker 7 (40:35):
Needs to do.
Speaker 3 (40:36):
Okay, Well I don't.
Speaker 4 (40:37):
I honestly don't think you're gonna leave him, And that's okay,
that's obviously personal preference, but yeah, I mean it's it's
tough when you're asked to name three things about your
partner that you love and you started out with.
Speaker 12 (40:50):
You know.
Speaker 3 (40:51):
I mean, if he's listening.
Speaker 1 (40:53):
To this, that's tough.
Speaker 11 (40:55):
Oh no, no, I won't show him this. No, he
only listens to the podcast when I listen to it.
Speaker 3 (41:00):
So you're you're safe because that, Yeah, he will never
take care of you a day in your life. All right, Brent, Well,
you know, good.
Speaker 8 (41:08):
Luck, thank you?
Speaker 3 (41:10):
Yeah, all right, by bye bye bye. Dare I say
I'd rather be a j because.
Speaker 4 (41:17):
Yo Nana's out here charging two hundred per you.
Speaker 7 (41:22):
Can get your money. Ask for mom that do seem
like a liar,
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Football’s funniest family duo — Jason Kelce of the Philadelphia Eagles and Travis Kelce of the Kansas City Chiefs — team up to provide next-level access to life in the league as it unfolds. The two brothers and Super Bowl champions drop weekly insights about the weekly slate of games and share their INSIDE perspectives on trending NFL news and sports headlines. They also endlessly rag on each other as brothers do, chat the latest in pop culture and welcome some very popular and well-known friends to chat with them. Check out new episodes every Wednesday. Follow New Heights on the Wondery App, YouTube or wherever you get your podcasts. You can listen to new episodes early and ad-free, and get exclusive content on Wondery+. Join Wondery+ in the Wondery App, Apple Podcasts or Spotify. And join our new membership for a unique fan experience by going to the New Heights YouTube channel now!
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