January 15, 2025 • 6 mins
Santri is trying to be more asserive in the bedroom
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Daddy and the jam In Morning Show with DJ Foreign
It's Sautig Morning.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
Sustin's number one for hip hop jam in ninety four
or five.
Speaker 3 (00:10):
Hi, everybody, good morning.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
I'm gonna try to keep it. We have we have
to try to keep this as clean as possible. But
I do think it's like an adult conversation that we
can have and not let it go off the rails.
I agree, we have gone off the rails before. Let's
let's on the tristit. Let's say I'm on the rails.
Santi asked me a question. This all started foreign because
(00:35):
Santi was like, you know, I feel like in my
forties now I am just I care so much about
what my wife.
Speaker 3 (00:42):
Has to say.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
And you know, when we have these conversations, I find
myself like putting my phone down and really listening. And
this is a conversation. The fireman and I had to
make a rule that during dinner, no phones. Yeah, Like
we had to because we would finish a sentence and
then both of us would like look down at our phone.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
It's it's hard, right, like.
Speaker 4 (01:02):
You aren't connected when you're.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
Yeah yeah, And it's like we actually had to make
a rule, which is sad, but that's just the way
the world does.
Speaker 3 (01:11):
And we were like, let's we can't be on our
phones like that during dinner.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
We only had that's we wait and eat dinner after
the kids go to bed, just to have like people
and a little moment with each other. But meanwhile we're
on our phones. But you were kind of chatting about
it in a sense of in the bedroom as well.
Speaker 3 (01:29):
You're trying to be a little bit more selfless.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
I think in my twenties I never thought about a
female at all, well specifically like most guys don't being
with the wife, And even in my thirties, I didn't
think of it in the sense of like making sexual
things about both of us are specifically about them.
Speaker 4 (01:46):
I think I was very selfish with everything.
Speaker 3 (01:48):
I think a kid in his young twenties just trying
to get off.
Speaker 4 (01:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
Now in my forties, I want to make her happy
on all levels, personally, financially, like all these things like
and just in our life. And then when comes to
the bedroom, I want her to be happy. I don't
want her to think of somebody else or anything else.
I want her to be like, this is where I
want to be.
Speaker 4 (02:07):
It is insane things happen.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
Yeah, So I don't know if me telling her certain
things in the bedroom is too demanding, because I also
don't want to come off as being demanding in the
bedroom and being like a guy who do this, do that.
But at the same time, she's also the type of
person who doesn't like to take control in the bedroom,
and I'm fine with that.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
I don't think there's anything wrong with I like when
you do this or do that. I don't think that's
I think being coachable in the bedroom. It comes with
us being the age that we are. I'm in my
late thirties now, and I would much rather him say
to me, oh, the other day you did ABCD or whatever.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
I like that would please let me know?
Speaker 1 (02:48):
See that is not is what I'm not going to
get because she doesn't communicate stuff like that because it's
not her comfort zone. And I'm fine with that and
I don't expect her to change at all. But I
also am trying to communicate these things to kind of
get us to what she likes and what she doesn't like.
And now if I say, hey, can we do this
or do this right now? And I can kind of
get a sense based off her reaction if it's a
go or not. And I think that's where I'm at.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
But you're saying live action.
Speaker 4 (03:11):
Live action, like in the moment, right, let's use something.
Speaker 3 (03:13):
Very like PG like kiss me with your tongue.
Speaker 4 (03:17):
Yes, okay, do not do it to.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
He's okay ready.
Speaker 4 (03:23):
No.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
I guess what I'm trying to say is if what
I'm okay, I'm sorry because I see we're off the rails,
you're in the bedroom. You guys, lay down, you start kissing,
You're just pecking and you want her to like French
kiss you, kiss you.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
That's what you're talking about. It's live action. It's in
the moment. Are you being too demanding by asking for yes?
Speaker 4 (03:46):
Or is it acceptable there?
Speaker 1 (03:48):
Is it acceptable to do it in like the moment
and still have a sense of sexiness.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
I think it's better in the moment, Okay. I think
it's just more natural.
Speaker 3 (03:57):
Yes, then you know?
Speaker 4 (03:59):
So is there a number that I have to set
on that or can I do it as many times?
Speaker 3 (04:03):
Listen?
Speaker 2 (04:04):
I think that if I was having, you know, sexuals
with the fireman, and he listed off like six things
that for me to I'd be like, all right, this
is getting a little crazy, but I don't think it's
wrong with a couple of things.
Speaker 4 (04:14):
So we're talking like two maybe, yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
I think three might be getting to the point where
it's like, okay, I'm not like past three, what's the problem.
I think it just starts to feel like at school,
like you're just this too many, like but two things
like oh okay, yeah, yeah, and I like it, like
it feels like you're trying to take control them there.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
Yes, And I guess that's what I'm trying to get
at because I think that's what she's looking for. But
she want to come out and tell me that from
the get go.
Speaker 4 (04:40):
Yeah, which now I love. Now I can't wait for
the weekend.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
I can't wait to pop those pills and get ready
to go because I can be like demanding.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
I think, like I like all of this.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
I think a weird concern of yours is that she'd
be thinking of someone else. I think it's you went
through a very weird phase though years back, where you
were like my mom, I just can't concentrate.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
Yeah, I guess at the end of the day, I
want to make sure that she's happy with everything, that
she doesn't think there's something better out there. Not that
she does, but I just want to continuously make her happy,
especially at this point.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
First, you got to stop thinking that. Stop because the
sex will be better when you're not thinking that.
Speaker 4 (05:17):
Well in the moment a sex coach. In the moment,
I'm not thinking that.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
I'm just thinking about it just as a whole, because
not that I was a bad husband for a lot
of years, but there are points in my life where
I'm look back and I'm like, you were so selfish
about so many things.
Speaker 4 (05:29):
I'm trying to avoid that part of it. Now.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
Am I going to the extreme on the other end, possibly,
but I think that's where that mindset is kind of
coming from.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
Listen, I think just in general, having this conversation is
proving that you care about her and being happy. I
know that Joanne could sit you down and be like,
I want you when we're in the bedroom to talk
in your Mickey voice, Police on Earth.
Speaker 3 (05:58):
I know you would do anything. It's because you love
so much, so it's definitely comes from.
Speaker 4 (06:02):
A good place.
Speaker 3 (06:03):
I want you on top though I didn't.
Speaker 4 (06:05):
Know I'm trying to.
Speaker 3 (06:07):
I'm trying to combat trying to come yeah, yeah, but
really slow. You see, these are other things he actually wants.
He loves look at, look at,
Daddy and the jam In Morning Show with DJ Foreign
It's Sautig Morning.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
Sustin's number one for hip hop jam in ninety four
or five.
Speaker 3 (00:10):
Hi, everybody, good morning.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
I'm gonna try to keep it. We have we have
to try to keep this as clean as possible. But
I do think it's like an adult conversation that we
can have and not let it go off the rails.
I agree, we have gone off the rails before. Let's
let's on the tristit. Let's say I'm on the rails.
Santi asked me a question. This all started foreign because
(00:35):
Santi was like, you know, I feel like in my
forties now I am just I care so much about
what my wife.
Speaker 3 (00:42):
Has to say.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
And you know, when we have these conversations, I find
myself like putting my phone down and really listening. And
this is a conversation. The fireman and I had to
make a rule that during dinner, no phones. Yeah, Like
we had to because we would finish a sentence and
then both of us would like look down at our phone.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
It's it's hard, right, like.
Speaker 4 (01:02):
You aren't connected when you're.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
Yeah yeah, And it's like we actually had to make
a rule, which is sad, but that's just the way
the world does.
Speaker 3 (01:11):
And we were like, let's we can't be on our
phones like that during dinner.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
We only had that's we wait and eat dinner after
the kids go to bed, just to have like people
and a little moment with each other. But meanwhile we're
on our phones. But you were kind of chatting about
it in a sense of in the bedroom as well.
Speaker 3 (01:29):
You're trying to be a little bit more selfless.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
I think in my twenties I never thought about a
female at all, well specifically like most guys don't being
with the wife, And even in my thirties, I didn't
think of it in the sense of like making sexual
things about both of us are specifically about them.
Speaker 4 (01:46):
I think I was very selfish with everything.
Speaker 3 (01:48):
I think a kid in his young twenties just trying
to get off.
Speaker 4 (01:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
Now in my forties, I want to make her happy
on all levels, personally, financially, like all these things like
and just in our life. And then when comes to
the bedroom, I want her to be happy. I don't
want her to think of somebody else or anything else.
I want her to be like, this is where I
want to be.
Speaker 4 (02:07):
It is insane things happen.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
Yeah, So I don't know if me telling her certain
things in the bedroom is too demanding, because I also
don't want to come off as being demanding in the
bedroom and being like a guy who do this, do that.
But at the same time, she's also the type of
person who doesn't like to take control in the bedroom,
and I'm fine with that.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
I don't think there's anything wrong with I like when
you do this or do that. I don't think that's
I think being coachable in the bedroom. It comes with
us being the age that we are. I'm in my
late thirties now, and I would much rather him say
to me, oh, the other day you did ABCD or whatever.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
I like that would please let me know?
Speaker 1 (02:48):
See that is not is what I'm not going to
get because she doesn't communicate stuff like that because it's
not her comfort zone. And I'm fine with that and
I don't expect her to change at all. But I
also am trying to communicate these things to kind of
get us to what she likes and what she doesn't like.
And now if I say, hey, can we do this
or do this right now? And I can kind of
get a sense based off her reaction if it's a
go or not. And I think that's where I'm at.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
But you're saying live action.
Speaker 4 (03:11):
Live action, like in the moment, right, let's use something.
Speaker 3 (03:13):
Very like PG like kiss me with your tongue.
Speaker 4 (03:17):
Yes, okay, do not do it to.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
He's okay ready.
Speaker 4 (03:23):
No.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
I guess what I'm trying to say is if what
I'm okay, I'm sorry because I see we're off the rails,
you're in the bedroom. You guys, lay down, you start kissing,
You're just pecking and you want her to like French
kiss you, kiss you.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
That's what you're talking about. It's live action. It's in
the moment. Are you being too demanding by asking for yes?
Speaker 4 (03:46):
Or is it acceptable there?
Speaker 1 (03:48):
Is it acceptable to do it in like the moment
and still have a sense of sexiness.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
I think it's better in the moment, Okay. I think
it's just more natural.
Speaker 3 (03:57):
Yes, then you know?
Speaker 4 (03:59):
So is there a number that I have to set
on that or can I do it as many times?
Speaker 3 (04:03):
Listen?
Speaker 2 (04:04):
I think that if I was having, you know, sexuals
with the fireman, and he listed off like six things
that for me to I'd be like, all right, this
is getting a little crazy, but I don't think it's
wrong with a couple of things.
Speaker 4 (04:14):
So we're talking like two maybe, yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
I think three might be getting to the point where
it's like, okay, I'm not like past three, what's the problem.
I think it just starts to feel like at school,
like you're just this too many, like but two things
like oh okay, yeah, yeah, and I like it, like
it feels like you're trying to take control them there.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
Yes, And I guess that's what I'm trying to get
at because I think that's what she's looking for. But
she want to come out and tell me that from
the get go.
Speaker 4 (04:40):
Yeah, which now I love. Now I can't wait for
the weekend.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
I can't wait to pop those pills and get ready
to go because I can be like demanding.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
I think, like I like all of this.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
I think a weird concern of yours is that she'd
be thinking of someone else. I think it's you went
through a very weird phase though years back, where you
were like my mom, I just can't concentrate.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
Yeah, I guess at the end of the day, I
want to make sure that she's happy with everything, that
she doesn't think there's something better out there. Not that
she does, but I just want to continuously make her happy,
especially at this point.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
First, you got to stop thinking that. Stop because the
sex will be better when you're not thinking that.
Speaker 4 (05:17):
Well in the moment a sex coach. In the moment,
I'm not thinking that.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
I'm just thinking about it just as a whole, because
not that I was a bad husband for a lot
of years, but there are points in my life where
I'm look back and I'm like, you were so selfish
about so many things.
Speaker 4 (05:29):
I'm trying to avoid that part of it. Now.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
Am I going to the extreme on the other end, possibly,
but I think that's where that mindset is kind of
coming from.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
Listen, I think just in general, having this conversation is
proving that you care about her and being happy. I
know that Joanne could sit you down and be like,
I want you when we're in the bedroom to talk
in your Mickey voice, Police on Earth.
Speaker 3 (05:58):
I know you would do anything. It's because you love
so much, so it's definitely comes from.
Speaker 4 (06:02):
A good place.
Speaker 3 (06:03):
I want you on top though I didn't.
Speaker 4 (06:05):
Know I'm trying to.
Speaker 3 (06:07):
I'm trying to combat trying to come yeah, yeah, but
really slow. You see, these are other things he actually wants.
He loves look at, look at,
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