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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Daddy and the jam In Morning Show with DJ fourn
It's saw to a big morning.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Bustin's number one for hip hop jam In ninety four
or five.
Speaker 3 (00:10):
Hi everybody, good morning.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
You know, I can't say enough about this show that
this show is literally nothing without you guys, without the
people that listen. I think if we're doing our job
the right ways on people feel like and they should
feel like we're friends. Yeah, you know, and I think
sometimes I've seen the meme that people send where it's like,
(00:36):
my life will never be that bad.
Speaker 3 (00:38):
We're I'll call in the radio station, And.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
I hate that meme because I want, I always want
people to call in and tell us their stories and
their ups and they're downs, because I think that's what
we do every day. I mean, how many times have
I cried on this show? Numerous times? I mean last
year alone, I think I cried twenty times. Yeah, I
can cry right now.
Speaker 1 (00:58):
But when we do stuff like that, I feel like
help so many people out there who are dealing with
the same exact thing, and I think it's so powerful.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Well, you know I had talked about before I got
pregnant with Daisy. You know, I had had multiple miscarriages
and the first miscarriage that I had before Layla. So
I had miscarriage, then I had Leila, Then I had
two miscarriages, then I had Daisy. I didn't talk about
the first one, and I held it in and I drank.
(01:25):
I did whatever I did to kind of like get by,
and it was not for the best, Like it was
not good for me. Once I started talking about it
and realizing, you know, that there's other people that have
been through the same thing, and that we can kind
of find comfort in each other because it can't be
described the feeling of it, It really can't.
Speaker 3 (01:43):
You know, it helped me, It did.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
Now I say all of this to say, we just
got a call and he did not want to come
on air, which I totally understand, but he basically was
like he didn't know who else to call, and he
just wanted to talk, but that him and his wife
had just got back from the doctors. Now this was
just a little bit agoes. So this must have happened
this morning. I don't know what led them to go
to the hospital, but she was five months along and
(02:08):
they found out that the baby didn't have a heartbeat,
and he was bawling, crying to us on the phone,
and I could just tell that he just needed somebody
to talk to. And I told him, I said, listen,
I wasn't that far along. Mine was early in the first,
like nine weeks of my pregnancy at that time. You
get to five months and you feel safe, you know,
(02:32):
you're like, okay, I made it past the first three.
Now I'm at five. I'm sure she was starting to
show a little bit. I don't think that can be described.
Speaker 3 (02:40):
I don't.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
I've never had to experience that, but I can only imagine,
and I've only heard of it from gentlemen like him
and you talking about things. But you could hear the
heartbreak and his voice so much. And it's one thing
to hear somebody cry, but a man going through it,
Like in this moment, I felt for that guy, like
I really did.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
I did too, And I like the fact that he
thought to call here.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
And I've made that very clear.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
I think in me talking about it, it was I
use the word selfish, and I didn't at that time.
It was really word that I could think of because
it made me feel better to talk about it and
to talk to other people that had gone through it,
you know, And I said it a million times then
and I'll say it now and I said it to him,
somebody that's struggling with loss. Eventually, God willing, you will
(03:29):
end up having the baby. And it really does make
all of those times, those hard times and all those
things that you went through. I don't even know if
worth it is the right way to phrase it, but
you know your whole you have you you you got
through it, and you have the baby, and you know
it doesn't make that pregnancy any easier.
Speaker 3 (03:49):
It's terrible. And every day. I was even telling Santi
the other day, you.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
Guys, we we work out in the bathroom in the gym,
and when I was pregnant with Daisy, every single time
I would go to the bathroom, I would hold my breath.
I would hold my breath, just worry that like I
was gonna see spotting or whatever the case may be,
like that. I never rested during that pregnancy. And then
you have the baby and there's still no rest. But
(04:13):
you know, pregnancy loss and a loss of a baby
is it's undescribable.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
It really is.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
And yeah, like you said, could absolutely hear the pain
in his voice, and you don't often hear like the
men calling in to cry about that.
Speaker 1 (04:26):
When you talk about the first one and you talk
about what you did to cope through that, and you
say that it wasn't the right thing to do. I
think more people need to hear that because I think
a lot of the times, especially most men will hold
down that pain, hold on that loss, and it comes
out in other ways, and that's not the healthy thing. Yeah,
but talking about it helps so much. Yeah, especially I
feel like that guy was calling just to talk about it,
(04:48):
just to release the tension, and I know by the
end of it, couple that with your advice, he felt better.
It didn't like fix anything, but he just felt better.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
I think him calling sticks out to me too, because
you know, we physically are going through it, and obviously
that that's a different kind of pain because it's physical.
But just because we're going through the loss doesn't mean
our partner isn't as well, right, They got he got
to the place of like, I have a baby on
the way, I'm going to have a baby in four months,
so it's just hard all around in general, and it's
(05:18):
just you know, it's if you haven't been through it,
it's it's really hard to explain it.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
Yeah, it is like I don't know, I don't know,
and when you were going through anything, the only thing
I can say is like, I'm here, like even to
listen because I can't give advice because I have no idea.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
Yeah, and there's so many different people that have gone
through it that are vocal about it. You know, when
I talk about this, I think of Kelly Braybance, who's
you know, she owns Spooty by bray Bance, and she
lost her baby girl, And I get choked at even
thinking about it because she's very honest about you know.
Some day she wakes up and she's like I can't
even get dressed. I can't even put on my makeup,
(05:53):
and then other days like I have an okay day.
And she made it all the way through her pregnancy
and got to meet her baby. So I just think
that the bottom line is it can't be described. Sometimes
it really is tough to say, like time heals all wounds.
But I do think, especially in a Kelly situation and
with this guy, I think that they will go on
(06:13):
to have babies, and I don't think that it will
take away and they'll forget what they went through before.
But I think that what someone told me that always
sticks out is you know, the baby just wasn't ready yet,
and the baby will come. Yeah, the baby will come.
But I don't want to bring everybody down on Friday.
It's just we just got off that call.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
And yeah, and like we hear a lot of stuff
that doesn't go on the air, and it affects us too,
Like we both got emotional. That was like a lot
because now we're parents and we're looking at it from
those eyes and it's really tough.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
You do have like this, this is gonna maybe cry.
But I remember there was like days where I was like.
Speaker 3 (06:50):
I don't know how to like.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
Go on, Like I feel like everything is just like
the world my life is over, Like my world is over,
you know. And I'm sure that anybody that has experienced
that you feel like then you start to feel like
it's your fault and you you know, but you just
got to put one foot in front of the other
and and hope eventually, like I still to this day,
not even kidding you, two days ago, I will look
(07:16):
at Daisy and just start crying because there was days
where I'm like, will it ever happen?
Speaker 3 (07:20):
For me, you know.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
So, I just hope if he's still listening, that he
knows he can always call here. Anybody can call here.
If you're somebody listening that's going through that you can
always DM me. I tell people this all the time.
I'm no expert, but I do know how you feel,
and I can at least tell you that at Ashley
Film and TUEZ on the Ashley.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
I love you, guys, I do, okay,
Daddy and the jam In Morning Show with DJ fourn
It's saw to a big morning.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Bustin's number one for hip hop jam In ninety four
or five.
Speaker 3 (00:10):
Hi everybody, good morning.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
You know, I can't say enough about this show that
this show is literally nothing without you guys, without the
people that listen. I think if we're doing our job
the right ways on people feel like and they should
feel like we're friends. Yeah, you know, and I think
sometimes I've seen the meme that people send where it's like,
(00:36):
my life will never be that bad.
Speaker 3 (00:38):
We're I'll call in the radio station, And.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
I hate that meme because I want, I always want
people to call in and tell us their stories and
their ups and they're downs, because I think that's what
we do every day. I mean, how many times have
I cried on this show? Numerous times? I mean last
year alone, I think I cried twenty times. Yeah, I
can cry right now.
Speaker 1 (00:58):
But when we do stuff like that, I feel like
help so many people out there who are dealing with
the same exact thing, and I think it's so powerful.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Well, you know I had talked about before I got
pregnant with Daisy. You know, I had had multiple miscarriages
and the first miscarriage that I had before Layla. So
I had miscarriage, then I had Leila, Then I had
two miscarriages, then I had Daisy. I didn't talk about
the first one, and I held it in and I drank.
(01:25):
I did whatever I did to kind of like get by,
and it was not for the best, Like it was
not good for me. Once I started talking about it
and realizing, you know, that there's other people that have
been through the same thing, and that we can kind
of find comfort in each other because it can't be
described the feeling of it, It really can't.
Speaker 3 (01:43):
You know, it helped me, It did.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
Now I say all of this to say, we just
got a call and he did not want to come
on air, which I totally understand, but he basically was
like he didn't know who else to call, and he
just wanted to talk, but that him and his wife
had just got back from the doctors. Now this was
just a little bit agoes. So this must have happened
this morning. I don't know what led them to go
to the hospital, but she was five months along and
(02:08):
they found out that the baby didn't have a heartbeat,
and he was bawling, crying to us on the phone,
and I could just tell that he just needed somebody
to talk to. And I told him, I said, listen,
I wasn't that far along. Mine was early in the first,
like nine weeks of my pregnancy at that time. You
get to five months and you feel safe, you know,
(02:32):
you're like, okay, I made it past the first three.
Now I'm at five. I'm sure she was starting to
show a little bit. I don't think that can be described.
Speaker 3 (02:40):
I don't.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
I've never had to experience that, but I can only imagine,
and I've only heard of it from gentlemen like him
and you talking about things. But you could hear the
heartbreak and his voice so much. And it's one thing
to hear somebody cry, but a man going through it,
Like in this moment, I felt for that guy, like
I really did.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
I did too, And I like the fact that he
thought to call here.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
And I've made that very clear.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
I think in me talking about it, it was I
use the word selfish, and I didn't at that time.
It was really word that I could think of because
it made me feel better to talk about it and
to talk to other people that had gone through it,
you know, And I said it a million times then
and I'll say it now and I said it to him,
somebody that's struggling with loss. Eventually, God willing, you will
(03:29):
end up having the baby. And it really does make
all of those times, those hard times and all those
things that you went through. I don't even know if
worth it is the right way to phrase it, but
you know your whole you have you you you got
through it, and you have the baby, and you know
it doesn't make that pregnancy any easier.
Speaker 3 (03:49):
It's terrible. And every day. I was even telling Santi
the other day, you.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
Guys, we we work out in the bathroom in the gym,
and when I was pregnant with Daisy, every single time
I would go to the bathroom, I would hold my breath.
I would hold my breath, just worry that like I
was gonna see spotting or whatever the case may be,
like that. I never rested during that pregnancy. And then
you have the baby and there's still no rest. But
(04:13):
you know, pregnancy loss and a loss of a baby
is it's undescribable.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
It really is.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
And yeah, like you said, could absolutely hear the pain
in his voice, and you don't often hear like the
men calling in to cry about that.
Speaker 1 (04:26):
When you talk about the first one and you talk
about what you did to cope through that, and you
say that it wasn't the right thing to do. I
think more people need to hear that because I think
a lot of the times, especially most men will hold
down that pain, hold on that loss, and it comes
out in other ways, and that's not the healthy thing. Yeah,
but talking about it helps so much. Yeah, especially I
feel like that guy was calling just to talk about it,
(04:48):
just to release the tension, and I know by the
end of it, couple that with your advice, he felt better.
It didn't like fix anything, but he just felt better.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
I think him calling sticks out to me too, because
you know, we physically are going through it, and obviously
that that's a different kind of pain because it's physical.
But just because we're going through the loss doesn't mean
our partner isn't as well, right, They got he got
to the place of like, I have a baby on
the way, I'm going to have a baby in four months,
so it's just hard all around in general, and it's
(05:18):
just you know, it's if you haven't been through it,
it's it's really hard to explain it.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
Yeah, it is like I don't know, I don't know,
and when you were going through anything, the only thing
I can say is like, I'm here, like even to
listen because I can't give advice because I have no idea.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
Yeah, and there's so many different people that have gone
through it that are vocal about it. You know, when
I talk about this, I think of Kelly Braybance, who's
you know, she owns Spooty by bray Bance, and she
lost her baby girl, And I get choked at even
thinking about it because she's very honest about you know.
Some day she wakes up and she's like I can't
even get dressed. I can't even put on my makeup,
(05:53):
and then other days like I have an okay day.
And she made it all the way through her pregnancy
and got to meet her baby. So I just think
that the bottom line is it can't be described. Sometimes
it really is tough to say, like time heals all wounds.
But I do think, especially in a Kelly situation and
with this guy, I think that they will go on
(06:13):
to have babies, and I don't think that it will
take away and they'll forget what they went through before.
But I think that what someone told me that always
sticks out is you know, the baby just wasn't ready yet,
and the baby will come. Yeah, the baby will come.
But I don't want to bring everybody down on Friday.
It's just we just got off that call.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
And yeah, and like we hear a lot of stuff
that doesn't go on the air, and it affects us too,
Like we both got emotional. That was like a lot
because now we're parents and we're looking at it from
those eyes and it's really tough.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
You do have like this, this is gonna maybe cry.
But I remember there was like days where I was like.
Speaker 3 (06:50):
I don't know how to like.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
Go on, Like I feel like everything is just like
the world my life is over, Like my world is over,
you know. And I'm sure that anybody that has experienced
that you feel like then you start to feel like
it's your fault and you you know, but you just
got to put one foot in front of the other
and and hope eventually, like I still to this day,
not even kidding you, two days ago, I will look
(07:16):
at Daisy and just start crying because there was days
where I'm like, will it ever happen?
Speaker 3 (07:20):
For me, you know.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
So, I just hope if he's still listening, that he
knows he can always call here. Anybody can call here.
If you're somebody listening that's going through that you can
always DM me. I tell people this all the time.
I'm no expert, but I do know how you feel,
and I can at least tell you that at Ashley
Film and TUEZ on the Ashley.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
I love you, guys, I do, okay,
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