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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Daddy and the jam In Morning Show with DJ fourn
It's saw Take Morning.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Bustin's number one for hip hop jam In ninety four
or five. Hi, Red, good morning, We're coming up. We're
two days away from the anniversary of Drake.
Speaker 3 (00:22):
My dog, going to dog Heaven.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
And I mentioned this because I really I know there
are other people who feel the same way as me,
and I I hate even talking about this because it
I feel so bad. Obviously, Drake is in heaven. So
now at the house, it's Teddy and the fireman's dog.
Speaker 4 (00:47):
That doesn't have a name.
Speaker 3 (00:49):
Well, it's not my dog.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
So my relationship with Teddy has changed so drastically, and
if when I really start to think about it, I
get emotional and I feel because I feel like, okay,
I kind of start to hate myself, and I think
anybody else who's in the situation that I'm in right now,
where you it's like trench time, Like you're in the trenches.
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I mean, I have an eight month old baby and
I have a three year old. So when I get
home and it's time for people's like to get attention
from me, I'm I'm on the bottom of the list.
And so the dog is also down there on the
on the bottom of the list. And little things that
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the dog used to do that I used to think
were like funny and cute, now send me to the moon, okay,
Like okay. For example, he has this thing where he
likes to pick up a ball, yeah and drop it
at the top of the steps. It hits every step
and goes down, okay, Like he used to do this,
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and I used to crack up.
Speaker 3 (01:54):
I used to in Dorchester. I thought it was hilarious. Yeah,
because he likes to eat a tennis ball while he
eats his food. It's very strange. But now he picked
up that.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Ball yesterday and I looked at him and I said,
you're not going to do it because I can't.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
I'm not dealing with I was so like.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
I'm just being touched and grabbed and somebody needs something
all the time. And you know whereas I think about
this often about how my life on the weekends used
to be at what dog park are we going to? Like,
I'm hungover, I'm waking up at nine am, ten am.
I'm on DJ Jewels time. Okay, I'm sleeping in.
Speaker 3 (02:32):
I'm living life.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
I don't have any priorities and other than the dogs,
you know. And so I saw this girl post this
meme and she's like she's panning her house and she's like,
this isn't setting me off. And it's her kid like
coloring on the walls and she's like, this isn't setting
me off. And it's her other kid like throwing eggs
at the wall. She's like, this is and it's the
dog just staring at her. It's so true, like any
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small thing that the dog does now drives me mental,
and it's I hate I hate myself. I have had
to take a step back. This was like last week
and I said to myself, every day, you need to
give the dog five minutes.
Speaker 3 (03:09):
You have to force yourself.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
To add it in to the schedule of the day
and just sit down and give him five minutes of
pets and five minutes of cuddles and five because if
I don't force it on myself, he just falls by
the wayside, because I like, I don't have time for
myself now. Mind you, it sounds like I'm like not
enjoying my life. I wouldn't change anything. I am so
blessed and I'm so lucky, and I but I'd be
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feeling bad for that dog because it's just our relationship
isn't what it used to be.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
I think I can understand it, like you feel bad
for him and the dog not getting attention. But I
guess I don't get the and he makes you mad
when he looks at you type of thing.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
And even like the dog's breathing and he's looking at me.
Speaker 4 (03:48):
Him like what, And the poor thing just wants your.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
Education all he wants. That's all he wants.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
And it's just it's just and like then the baby
is sleeping, God forbid, somebody rings the doorbell, the dogs
showing his teeth.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
You are a miniature golden doodle. What are you gonna do?
He's growling, he's barking, the dogs waking up. Now I
go to pee, I'm tripping over him. He's he's following me.
I'm drop. I want to put him out for adoption.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
My favorite thing that I've seen your dog do consistently
is when he's a dog on the TV and it
barks at it.
Speaker 4 (04:25):
It's so funny.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
Try try, try, try trying to watch nineteen twenty three
on Sunday with the Horses and the Lion. There there's
a scene where there's a lion on the porch and
he's up. I can't even hear the talking between the
people because he's up at the screen.
Speaker 3 (04:44):
What do you you have a you fluffy hair? What
are you gonna do to that lion?
Speaker 2 (04:49):
It's just I I hate admitting this and even hearing
myself talk like I want to slap my own self.
I get it, and I know people are listening, like
you bitch, you love your like and I do. I
love my dog, but it's just again, like my priorities,
they have changed, and the list of people getting attention.
I said Asantia the other day, Jewels, I'm like, the
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one thing I do for myself during the day is
go to the gym.
Speaker 3 (05:13):
That's it.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
When I get home, like I my time is my
kids and whatever we need to do with them, that
that's what we do.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
So that, Like Teddy, I think it's a normal thing.
My wife used to bring our dog to work, like
back in the day, like every single day. Then we
had four kids and then the dog is now now
at the bottom. I think it's a natural thing and
it's okay.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
I remember my neighbor shout out to Nick when I lived.
This was like years and years and years ago. But
he would make fun of me because I was the
my dogs are my kids, like Drake and Teddy or
my I was single at the time, Like my life
revolved around them, four or five walks a day, We're
going to dog parks, Like every photo in my phone
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is of the dogs. And he was like, wait till
you get a boyfriend, Like he would like literally say
like things like that a boyfriend, Wait to get a husband,
wait till you have kids, Like when you have kids,
your pictures on your phone aren't going to be of
your dogs. And I said, who are you talking to?
Like these are my Yes. I took a picture of
Teddy the other day. I almost cried because I was
like I hadn't taken one in like a week, two weeks,
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three weeks.
Speaker 3 (06:18):
It is sad.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Is there a world where you could just walk the
dog one today and then that way there's the attention there?
Speaker 2 (06:23):
Absolutely, we're going to get to that, and I think
we'll get there. I just think at some point, yeah,
I just think this chapter of my life, like this
isn't the whole book. This is just the chapter. And
you know, I I'm not they're not. They're only going
to be this this little for a little bit of time,
and so that that's it. Like my attention is there
because I'd be looking at myself in the mirror sometimes
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and it's horrifying what I see.
Speaker 4 (06:48):
You're scary, just like.
Speaker 3 (06:51):
Massive cast type level. I'm like, bitch, are you okay?
But I don't.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
I just don't have the time, Like, I just don't,
so it that that's what it is.
Speaker 3 (06:59):
I will look like a drug addict.
Speaker 5 (07:01):
You know.
Speaker 4 (07:02):
It's funny. At some point, you know you'll probably get
another dog, like down the road.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
You say that, but if your daughter you can start
asking for a dog.
Speaker 3 (07:10):
Act, no, you can.
Speaker 4 (07:12):
You're never getting a dog yet. I don't believe you.
Speaker 3 (07:16):
I'm telling you.
Speaker 4 (07:17):
People have have Like I also.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
Comes to the realization that I don't like dogs. I
like my own dogs, and that's it.
Speaker 3 (07:24):
I don't.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
I'm done like dogs. No, I don't, Yes, you do,
What do you mean? I don't, I really don't.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
I just don't.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
Point it was going to be that when you do
eventually get like another dog, it comes into like the situation.
They come into the situation with the kids already there,
so like they're pecking like order. They understand it, and
your your Your whole relationship with them is from that perspective.
Speaker 4 (07:47):
It's not going from one to five.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
What did you just say?
Speaker 4 (07:50):
When you bring a dog.
Speaker 3 (07:51):
You I want to understand, but I'm confused.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
So when you eventually get like another dog, right, you're
bringing them into like a family with kids and aweso,
so they understand their role in the pack before they
went from me in the top to the bottom.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
You're right, Okay, Now you have dogs.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
It's a different dynamic, and you will like dogs again.
No I won't, Yes, you will.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
It's done.
Speaker 1 (08:10):
I don't believe that you'll never get a dog again.
You know how many people have stated the same exact thing.
I'm never getting a dog again.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
To be honest, I feel like such trash that I
even told you guys these things. It admitted these things
that I would love. I'm just gonna give the number
out and pray that one person I understand.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
Now.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
I just need one person to be like ash, I
get it. And if nobody calls, I'm I was gonna
make a bad joke right there, six one seven, I
was gonna say a Tobin thing six one seven nine three,
one five. Please Hi, everybody, good morning, It's Ashley the
Jam of Morning Show. I feel like I've been holding
this in and I thought to myself, I'm gonna I'm
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gonna admit this, and then people are gonna be like,
she's a horrible person, like and I listen, my dogs
were life. They were my life, and then I had kids,
and not that they're not a part of my life anymore,
but they're just not high on the priority list, and
it's making me feel bad.
Speaker 3 (09:09):
I have had to have sit down combos with.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
Myself where I'm like, okay, you have to pencil in
Teddy time where you at least look at him and
pet him, because if not, the day will go by
and I will not have had a second of time
with him. And I'm telling you, I'm done with dogs.
Speaker 3 (09:25):
This is it.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
When Teddy goes to heaven, that is it for me.
I'm wrapping up in a bow my time with dogs.
I can't do it anymore.
Speaker 3 (09:34):
I can't.
Speaker 4 (09:34):
It'll be like a three year break. Then you'll get
another one.
Speaker 3 (09:37):
No, I won't. Katie is in Lynn. Katie.
Speaker 2 (09:39):
I said, I just need one person to understand what
I'm saying, because I feel so awful even admitting it
and saying it, and thank god, hey there are others
of us because the phones are lighting up, but you
get what.
Speaker 3 (09:52):
I'm saying right because I say it.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
It makes me literally feel like I should just just
walk right into the depths of hell.
Speaker 5 (10:00):
I feel the exact same. I have two dogs. So
I have an eight year old American bulldog, Mex, who
was my first baby, and I made the mistake of
treating him like a human child his entire life, and
then when he turned by, we got another dog because
we didn't want him to be old and alone. So
now I have a three year old boss a Terrier,
and now I have a one year old and my
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daughter is I mean, she's everything. So unfortunately my two
baby boys, they are at the end of the list, like, yeah,
they're lucky if they get a walk once a week.
Speaker 4 (10:32):
I know, I know.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
And what's crazy is like a one year old liker,
your hands are taken like physically, there's nothing you can do.
Speaker 3 (10:40):
Yeah, and yeah, it's.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
Like one of those things where it's like, Okay, we
could just put the TV on and you know, play
with the dogs a little bit, but then we feel
like bad parents. For just putting on the TV and
not coming up with you know, like games and stuff
to do. It's just it's a never ending cycle of
just trying to get through the day.
Speaker 5 (11:01):
I don't know, it really is. And then you feel
so bad because it's like, you know, you want to
make time for you, you want to make time for
your kid and like your dogs and then your husband.
It's like, I don't want to make time for anybody
about myself at this point.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Yeah, yeah, ok, and then Kittie, we feel guilty for that.
It's crazy, y Yeah, it's nuts, all right, Well, thank you,
there's more of us, Okay, Tiana is in New Bedfordia.
It's just like, not only is the dog at the
bottom of the list, but also if the dog like
eats a kernel of food wrong, it sends me.
Speaker 3 (11:32):
I don't, I don't. It's just a lot right now.
Speaker 5 (11:35):
I know it makes you feel so guilty.
Speaker 6 (11:37):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (11:39):
No, it's it's it's terrible.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
I mean, and and I like I said, I'm telling
myself straight up, you got it. You gotta put the
dog like you got a car about dog time because
if not, I know, maybe just include.
Speaker 3 (11:52):
Him with the girls, do it?
Speaker 5 (11:53):
All together.
Speaker 6 (11:54):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
Yeah, well, thank you, thank you for the I know
there's no there's there's no there's no answer, you know.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
But Millie is in Boston. Milly, you get what I'm say.
Speaker 6 (12:08):
You guys, good morning, good morning.
Speaker 3 (12:10):
Good morning.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
Thank god you guys are all calling, or else I
would be like, hey, let me run to the bathroom
and I would just go to bass and cast and
never come back.
Speaker 6 (12:17):
Oh but yeah, and what what Souncy said. Yes, when
your kids grow up and they're like ten twelve and
they're not in need of you anymore, you're gonna get
on all the dogs.
Speaker 3 (12:29):
I'm not. I'm not Milli. It's nice of you to say,
but I'm not.
Speaker 6 (12:33):
It gets to the point where you're neglecting yourself literally,
and like you're neglecting the dog as well. That's why,
because you don't have time for other than your children's.
And you don't neglect your kids because they cry and
they mommy you all the time. But the dog does it.
Speaker 2 (12:51):
Yeah, that's true. I appreciate the call. I have to
go to Lisa real quick and fall river because I
know we're running out of time. But Lisa, like, you
get what Lisa says when the dog breeze, it's no.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
You get it's serious. It's serious.
Speaker 6 (13:05):
I get it. I get it. My kids are like, mom,
just look at us. I'm like smoking.
Speaker 3 (13:14):
I know, I know. The other day Teddy was Teddy
was licking his palls and it.
Speaker 2 (13:18):
Was all I could hear, Like there was eight hundred
things happening in the house, but I could hear that.
Speaker 3 (13:22):
I was like, I just like hear it.
Speaker 2 (13:25):
I'm at my I'm at my edge so bad.
Speaker 6 (13:28):
Me too, you feel so bad. But yeah, and then
like you're trying to get out the door and then
they run the wet nose like.
Speaker 3 (13:36):
Yeah, no mine, mine, mine trip me, mine't trip me.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
Yeah no I'm not Lisa, Thank you, thank you. So yeah,
you know what I'm talking about. All right, thanks babe. Yeah, no,
I know I feel that we're rushing off. We just
do a lot of time, but the amount of times
like this, I'll be just couldn't like I have to say,
I just had to be like, get in your bed
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and lay down because mommy's gonna lose it.
Speaker 1 (14:04):
You could give your dog away. This farms in Vermont
apparently like taking dogs, so you know what, you know,
I
Speaker 3 (14:11):
Think Teddy would get her along with Chloe