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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Dashly in the jam In Morning Show with t J
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Shout out to Macy, Macy, just one of those tickets
to Tiger, Macey, I need a little background here for
And she she's from Woburn, but she's moving.
Speaker 4 (00:19):
Yes, so she lives in Wulbon right now. She says
she's moving in April. I said where too? She said,
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
I said, do you give me what?
Speaker 5 (00:25):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (00:26):
I said, what do you mean you don't know? She said,
I belong in the North Show. So somewhere in the
North Show. I'm like, bet.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
Is going She march pretty much.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (00:36):
Yeah, she said she was apartment looking, but she says
she she belongs in the Now show. She doesn't know
what she's moving to, but in April she's out of it.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
Listen, we know we know this to be true.
Speaker 3 (00:44):
When I was moving, we north shore people are north
shore people. South shore people are south shore people. They
don't it's just what it is. Well, good luck with
your move, Macy, and you'll so when she goes to
Tiger in April.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
God only knows where she'll be.
Speaker 1 (00:58):
Hopefully she's not homeless.
Speaker 3 (01:03):
I am obviously starting to with Leila at the age
of three, be invited to, you know, birthday parties for
kids and that type of thing. I didn't even know
that this was a conversation. I had no idea that
people were chatting about this online, that this was trending
and this is a big thing. But I guess there's
this new rule that on a kid's birthday that everybody
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at the party has to get a gift so that
nobody feels bad.
Speaker 6 (01:35):
Usually what happens is that you leave the party with
like a party gift, like a like a little bad
with a bunch of yes.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
Fine, I've seen that, right, like a little I've seen that.
I did that at at my wedding. You know, at
weddings they do that. They might give you like a
little but it's the one kid's birthday, so like that
kid's gonna get the gifts.
Speaker 6 (01:54):
I don't know, but that kid's gonna get the best gift,
probably like all the present.
Speaker 7 (01:59):
But then you leave like a little bag you would
like or something. Yes, yeah, okay, so people do party favors.
It's a birthday party. Those kids who are gonna leave
with the gifts come with gifts, don't they. Yes, But
then they've given gifts to leave away with.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
Yes, yes, yes, you're giving a party gifts. Pretty much,
you're given a party favor. I'm spending all this money
for the party. Anyway. Well, this, this whole conversation started
because wait, no, wait for and you're not ready. No,
you're not You're not ready for this.
Speaker 3 (02:29):
So just to set the scene here, this woman went
viral because she had her daughter's birthday at Build a Bear.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
We all know what build a Bear is, right, it's
a store in the mall.
Speaker 3 (02:39):
You go, you stuff the animal, you dress it, you
pick it out, whatever. I will let her explain her
thought process. But again, her daughter's birthday party at Build
a Bear.
Speaker 8 (02:50):
The other moms you're mad at me at school and
staid they won't be bringing their child to my child's
birthday party next year. So this year, we had a
birthday party at Build a Bear for my daughter and
everyone had a thirty five dollars limit on my dime,
and everyone built their bears and it was really cute
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and fun, and I thought it was a really great idea.
Some moms decided to spend extra on accessories out of
their own pocket, which was completely their choice, and I
thought they were being really sweet and thoughtful. So after
we checked out at Build a Bear, I said, all right, everyone, like,
turn in your bear to my daughter. I don't want
to save her name on here, and some of the
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moms started acting really weird. Well, we went back to
our house for cake and the rest of the party,
and one of the moms had the audacity to come
up to me and say, you know, I was under
the impression that the bears we built were for our
own daughters, And I'm like, it's a birthday party for
my daughter. Why would you build a bear for yourself
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for my daughter's birthday?
Speaker 2 (03:54):
Like if it was my birthday and.
Speaker 8 (03:57):
We went to one of those like glazed under fireplaces,
like some of my friends would probably give me what
they made. Like if we go to a wine bar
for my birthday party as an adult, like my friends
like buy me a glass of wine. Like I don't know,
like if you're a guy with your buddies at the bar,
when people buy you around or something. So the mom
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that approached me left and then shortly after the rest
of the parents just wrapped it up and I guess
decided my daughter's birthday was over. And now they're basically saying,
none of their kids are coming to my daughter's birthday
next year.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
What do you think? Because I think.
Speaker 3 (04:32):
You're terrible, That's what I just just as.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
Okay, So they go to build a bear with these
little kids, all right, the little kids make bears.
Speaker 3 (04:43):
They think they're making the bears for themselves because they're picking.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
Oh, I want that Hello kitty.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
Bear, and I want to put her in that dress
and she's gonna hold that bag. Then they get back
to the house for cake and ice cream and the
woman goes give me the bear what she picked out?
Speaker 2 (05:01):
All of her favorite things? What do you mean now?
Speaker 3 (05:03):
Mind you, she probably thought that because she was putting
up the thirty five per bear.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
That's exactly what it was.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
So it should have.
Speaker 3 (05:10):
Been discussed prior to Hey, if this is the way
she wanted, now, mind you, I bet you have.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
The people wouldn't have come.
Speaker 6 (05:17):
I would not have gone.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
It's weird. But you can't.
Speaker 3 (05:21):
How am I supposed to explain to my little kid
who just built a bear that that that's not their bear.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
It's weird? It's very weird.
Speaker 6 (05:29):
It's very selfish too, because I think this lady thinks
that her kid is the center of the universe and
that's the way she's raised.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
I mean, on this day he is.
Speaker 6 (05:36):
Yeah, but it's also not about because all these young
kids took the time to go to the party, do
all these same things, go back to the house for ice.
Speaker 4 (05:42):
Cream, let me play Devil's Agogate. But it's my party
that I put together. I went and got the location,
I went and spent the money for every So you're
not you're just bringing your kid along. We're having a
Kumbaya moment with my kids. I still don't get the
part where I'm leaving the bed with you because we
built it. I think I should just take it home,
because again, it was a community thing, right, But I
can understand how theory that I was paying all this
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money for everybody to build a bear and all the
best stay with me.
Speaker 3 (06:07):
I'm gonna just say this, and people might think this
is crazy. If I'm having a birthday party for Layla
at build a Bear, I'm not going to invite a
lot of people. Maybe five, yes, and I'm they can
pick out whatever bear they want, but not covering the
costs because it's a party and it's at Build a Bear,
and that's what you do because there's kids and it
suck you.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
So don't invite she invite like nine people. Don't invite
that many. Cut it down. Don't invite that many kids.
You can't have it at that location and then attack
them and take their bears.
Speaker 6 (06:38):
And what you do with that many bears?
Speaker 1 (06:42):
That doesn't make sense.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
This is weird.
Speaker 4 (06:44):
Like you could take them to any other situation painting something.
The kids are gonna leave with whatever they created. Why
are you leaving the bears with you?
Speaker 2 (06:52):
That's not even a party.
Speaker 3 (06:53):
But I do a lot of play dates with my
friend Courtney, who lives in my neighborhood in Marshfield. She's
she puts my mom into shame. She's so good about like,
I'm so thoughtful with the kids. Every time we go
over there. She's gone to like the dollar store and
bought a bunch of stuff for them to do crafts
and stuff. And I always in my head, I'm like, damn,
never asks me for a dollar, you know what I mean? Like,
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because she bought the stuff and we're coming to her
house and she's doing.
Speaker 2 (07:18):
I need to get better. I gotta buy some plate
o or something.
Speaker 3 (07:20):
But my point is is like it's not like I'm
going over there and she's saying, well, if you want
to come, you have to give me money for these supplies.
Like it's it's kind of like we just it's a
thing that we do. When she comes to my house,
I offer the kids snacks. I'm not asking her can
you give me five for the fruit snacks.
Speaker 6 (07:32):
Note Now, if there's a parent that wants to leave
the bear there, that's a nice thing, thank you, But
you don't go there with the expectations.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
You don't ask, you can't.
Speaker 3 (07:42):
It's because you chose that location that I think makes
this all weird again. It would be like you have
a party at Dave and Busters and then the food
comes and all the kids start eating, and then you say, oh,
you have to pay for that, but we're at a party.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
I'm under the assumption that.
Speaker 6 (08:01):
Actually I went to a party like that about two
weeks ago and the kid was turning ten. And what
the parents did. They gave each of the kids, like say,
like twenty bucks worth of token to go play. They
didn't ask that money back. It was a part of
the party right, and then beyond that, and then after
they took the tickets out there when they turned in
there for whatever that they didn't ask for, like the
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prize that they won and all that stuff back.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
No, it is a weird part.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
That's weird. And then and then probably was.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
Like, dude, I spent like mad bread. That's a lot
of money.
Speaker 3 (08:30):
No it is.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
That was her choice. Why she thirty five per she
had like nine or ten kids. That's you.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
It's the you can't have it at that spot and
not yes or you do. And you in the card
are like, hey, guys, we'd love for you to come
to our party at bill a bear. You can feel
free to make your own what you kind of have
to put that. But that's still weird.
Speaker 4 (08:50):
You got to say son, like, you know, let's all
come and build bears for my son. I'm going to
put twenty dollars.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
Half those people ain't showing up.
Speaker 6 (08:59):
The mom no question crazy if you like think about it.
So she made a drive to build a bear, and
then when the party was done, when that part was done,
we detracted to the house that can way too much.
I'm leaving off to build a bear with.
Speaker 1 (09:14):
My bear.
Speaker 3 (09:16):
I wonder if anybody has a I went to a
kid party and there was a weird like thing that
happened where Because I'm telling you, people spend so much money.
Me being one, for Layla's first birthday, I had a
boozy brunch, like I spent money for Daisy's first birthday.
There will be there will money spent, but I'm not
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ever going to ask anybody else for money, and I'm
certainly going to send them home with a party favor.
Speaker 6 (09:44):
There's a new thing now too, also to you have
to invite the entire class. You can just invite two
or three. You invite everybody there.
Speaker 3 (09:50):
And I agree with that because I see videos of
these kids where they're bawling crying because they're the only
kid in classes on anybody that's you can't do that, Chanel,
I mean, this is this is crazy. You're gonna invite
everybody to a party at Build a Bear and then
yank the bears from the little kid's grips.
Speaker 9 (10:10):
What absolutely, And then you're gonna be like the worst
mom of the year when they talk about you, ask ooh,
how you stole the little kid's beers? Yes, that's their
takeaway present, Like you know, the little gift bag should
give to go home the party favors.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
You know what.
Speaker 3 (10:23):
I keep thinking Chanelle too when she said at the end,
and now no one's come to the party next year,
like you ruined it for your daughter. And by the way,
half the party at build a bear and maybe say, listen,
I can throw ten dollars towards each bear.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
Whatever it is. I don't care. But now this poor girl.
Speaker 3 (10:37):
Everyone hates mom and they're not gonna come to the
party next year.
Speaker 9 (10:41):
But now I'm in that they already brought the gift
for the daughter.
Speaker 2 (10:45):
True, you didn't even think about it. Oh my god,
you're so right. We didn't even you know, they all
showed up with a gift for the kid. You're so right. Wow,
she was just.
Speaker 9 (10:56):
Being selfish and wanted that money go back to her.
You gotta do it, Battery. When they come as a guest,
you have to serve them too.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
Ye, thank you, Shew. That's so true. Wow, I can't
even think about that.
Speaker 3 (11:07):
No one's showing up empty handed to a party. They're
all gonna bring something, all right. Six one seven nine
three one one nine four five six one seven nine
three one one nine four five.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
I'm just getting into this realm of my life. But
what is going on with these kids parties?
Speaker 9 (11:20):
Like?
Speaker 2 (11:20):
What are we doing out here?
Speaker 3 (11:21):
I don't want no Hi everybody, Good morning. It's Ashley
and the jam In Morning Show. It's so funny. I
had no idea that there was such a conversation around
kid's birthday parties. I just got a DM from a
girl and she's like, ash I'm in a mom Facebook
group and a very like a common question that I'm
seeing in there is I'm having my kid's birthday party soon?
Speaker 2 (11:41):
Should I have food?
Speaker 3 (11:42):
She goes, Ashley, what who has a party invites people
doesn't have food? More recently, the woman goes, well, my
party's from one thirty to three thirty, so it's after
lunch and before dinner.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
So I shouldn't have to have food.
Speaker 10 (11:53):
Excuse me?
Speaker 2 (11:54):
What you have to have food at a part? Like
you have to have a party.
Speaker 6 (11:58):
It is something And I been to them where they
don't have anything and it is talked about.
Speaker 1 (12:02):
That is for sure.
Speaker 10 (12:03):
Obviously, you invite a bunch of little kids to build
a bear, you ask them to build a bear, say
here's thirty five bucks per bear they build the bears,
and then you say, give me them their mind.
Speaker 3 (12:15):
What Tina is in Brockton, Tina, this is this is
a little weird.
Speaker 11 (12:24):
I listen, I would leave the bear because of course
I gotta be in the presence for the little one. Yep,
thinking that my kids the bear back, so I would
leave it there, pick up my present and come back home.
Speaker 2 (12:37):
With no but that that's so true.
Speaker 3 (12:40):
And and thank you to the woman who called him.
Was like Chanelle, she's like ash. They all brought present,
that is so true. No parent came their empty handed.
They all brought a gift, so of course you would
think that they were gonna be able to keep the bear.
You're right, fine, here's your bear. I'm taking my present.
But again, all of this, all of this, hat's the
little kid though, And that's why it's sad that mom
did this.
Speaker 12 (13:01):
It does. That is very sad, very sad. I brought
my daughter knows, she's twenty eight, so I'm sure little
I took hers to build a bear, you know. Oh
my gosh, she was crazy about that bear. She came
home like she was great, showing off to everybody. R.
Speaker 3 (13:16):
Yeah, because it's not right, it's not Tina thank you
for the call, because they go to build a bear
and they build a bear for themselves. So she's not
they're not picking out Oh little miss Molly would like
this on their bread.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
Now they're picking up what they like. Zena or Zena
is in Cambridge.
Speaker 6 (13:31):
Yep, it's Xina Xena.
Speaker 12 (13:32):
So we did the same thing for my granddaughter. I
build a bed and she had about eight gaps.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
Oh, tell us everything? Okay, so how did you what
was the layout?
Speaker 1 (13:40):
So what they is they do a great job.
Speaker 5 (13:42):
So they have all kinds of activities and they pick
out what they want. My daughter let them pick out
whatever they wanted, and then afterwards she also made a
reservation at Huno's and had the parents and the kids.
She had adult food and pizzas for the kids afterwards,
and everybody bought a gift.
Speaker 12 (13:58):
But nowadays I noticed that people are saying, don't bring gifts.
Speaker 2 (14:02):
Excuse me.
Speaker 3 (14:03):
Well, first of let's let's go back. Did she pay
for everybody's bill to bear?
Speaker 2 (14:07):
Or did yeah, yeah, pay for everything? Okay? And how
many how many kids would you say? We're there eight?
Speaker 1 (14:13):
Wow?
Speaker 3 (14:14):
So that even if we're saying, like let's just say
forty a bear probably that. Okay, that that's a lot
of money. But again, like if you're having your party there,
I would I would do the same thing your daughter did.
Speaker 1 (14:24):
It was worth it.
Speaker 12 (14:25):
We don't have to clean up, we don't have to
do any of that.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
You're really worth it.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
Yeah, I didn't even think about that. That's actually a
solid point.
Speaker 3 (14:33):
So then and then you go and you go to
who knows, and you guys eat there, and you obviously
go and you cover that bill because you invited people.
Speaker 12 (14:40):
Yeah, adult's got cocktails.
Speaker 1 (14:43):
Yeah, you covered everything.
Speaker 3 (14:44):
That's the only reason I'm going to parties these days.
But what is this narrative now? They're saying don't bring
gifts for what?
Speaker 2 (14:49):
Why?
Speaker 6 (14:49):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (14:50):
I noticed my daughter, my granddaughter, got invited to her
mother told me she got invited to three parties this year, and.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
All of them said don't bring gifts.
Speaker 6 (14:57):
Okay, fine, I'm not good.
Speaker 3 (14:58):
I mean, yeah, okay, But that was probably because they're
footing the bill for everything.
Speaker 4 (15:03):
They probably like, we're gonna cover everything for y'all. There's
no need for y'all to bring a gift. Just come
enjoy it without without kids.
Speaker 7 (15:09):
I'm never thought, hey, hey.
Speaker 3 (15:14):
You're never gonna hear those words come out of this
mother's mouth, bringing your gifts, thanks for the call, like change.
Speaker 6 (15:21):
Somebody got offended with some gift and then they just band.
Speaker 4 (15:23):
It's probably that little thing where it's like, oh, everybody
feels like maybe the kids started complaining, like how comes
they get a gift and I don't.
Speaker 2 (15:31):
Yeah, it's not like shut up.
Speaker 3 (15:33):
My favorite thing is when and I do this all
the time, if the if the party is for a
kid that's like under a certain age, like they might
not need another firetruck. So I I always text the
mom and be like, what do you need? And I
love when people do that to me because then we're
not like doubling gifts or we're getting maybe they need whatever.
Speaker 1 (15:53):
You know, two hours max.
Speaker 6 (15:55):
That's the length of the party. Anything beyond that is
hell because none of the parents want to be there.
Speaker 2 (16:00):
Yeah, well it's a problem.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
How the parties for if there's no.
Speaker 3 (16:03):
I went to a party. I went to a party
over the weekend. It was a ten thirty to twelve
thirty party. Great, it was in the morning. I was
I walked in at ten thirty. No one's drinking, like,
not even a mimosa.
Speaker 6 (16:18):
I mean not everybody has a problem.
Speaker 1 (16:20):
So it wasn't an alcoholic party. Yeah, it was a birthday.
If you want an alcoholic child, I I mean not
suping mimosas. Yeah, like come oldma.
Speaker 2 (16:31):
Party sucked