Beyond The Swipe: Getting Cornered

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Sash and the Gym in Morning Show with d J.

Speaker 2 (00:03):
Fourn It saw t.

Speaker 1 (00:04):
Morning Bustin's number one for hip hop jam in ninety
four or five. Hi everybody, good morning. If somebody saw
you too, I'm gonna let you guys do this. Somebody
sees you guys on the street and they say to you, oh,
what is beyond the swipe about? Would you describe it
the same way that I do? Do I miss anything
when I say, because you know, we just call it

(00:25):
tender tuesa. Everybody knows t inner choosa and never calling
it beyond this wipe because we're opening it up more.

Speaker 3 (00:29):
If you were to describe it to people, it's.

Speaker 4 (00:31):
Where people call in and tell their dating horror stories.
But it could also be a place where they tell
how they met somebody and is the love of their life?

Speaker 1 (00:37):
It open to Yeah, we usually get the bad stories.
We would love some good ones.

Speaker 5 (00:42):
What's that?

Speaker 6 (00:42):
What's the tea beyond the swipe?

Speaker 7 (00:44):
Yeah?

Speaker 6 (00:44):
Oh you've done swipe? Now what happens next? Was it
a good time? Was it a bad time? Did you
have to put some feet and pause on somebody?

Speaker 1 (00:53):
Or even we've had calls of guys or girls just
being like it's really hard, got ash, like I can't
find any body, I don't know where to meet some
It's just it's all about it's it's an encompassing of
anything at all dating in the world right now six six,
one seven, nine three one one nine four five six
one seven nine three one one nine four five.

Speaker 3 (01:12):
Does Britt have an accent?

Speaker 1 (01:13):
Because I love I love a good I love a
good accent from Alabama, Britt, You're in Fall River by
Ways of Alabama. Yep, Hey, Hi, uh do you have
an accent?

Speaker 2 (01:26):
I don't know.

Speaker 5 (01:27):
I've been told I have actually a little.

Speaker 1 (01:29):
Bit, okay, a little bit, all right, So let's do this.
So you're gonna kick it off for us. You're plenty
of fish. Match that you were you thought you were
talking to because like y'all matched. That person's girlfriend called you. Yes, okay,
so backtrack, explain what's happening.

Speaker 2 (01:49):
Okay, So, not too long ago, I received a call
like the no Caller IV call. I was ignoring it
at first because I didn't know who it was and
I'd be blocking people, so I ended up answeringly just
because I'm no and off top. She's like, uh so,
what you guys going on with Bluepoop. I'm like, Poop.
She's like, what do you have going on with Bluepoop?
I'm like, uh, I don't even know who that is?

(02:11):
She asked me again. I'm like, you know what, let
me go. Let me go check my messages for you.
And so I go to check my message and I
find out who she's talking about, and I'm like, oh,
this person, just like, yeah, what do you have going
on with him? I'm like, Swoodie, I don't have nothing
going on with him. We haven't even linked up yet,
Like I haven't even been talking to him, just because
I haven't even been interested. Like, is the conversation very dull?

Speaker 7 (02:31):
And laurn't correct?

Speaker 3 (02:32):
How the hell did she get your phone number?

Speaker 1 (02:34):
Did y'all exchange numbers in the messages?

Speaker 2 (02:37):
No? No, So what happened was I guess he got
locked up and she ended up having his phone because
they were together when it happened, and so she ended
up with his phone going through it, and I was
just one of the girls that you know, popped up
for her. There was multiple, but I was just the
one that she I guess. Decided to give the whole

(02:58):
story to Wow.

Speaker 1 (03:00):
First off, she's saving you. Thank god. You ever linked
up with him? You can't now because he's living up
But oh my god. So that was on Plenty of Fish.
And where are we at now? Are we still swiping?
Do you have? Have you settled down?

Speaker 5 (03:16):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (03:16):
I mean every now and then.

Speaker 5 (03:17):
I'm still swiping.

Speaker 8 (03:18):
But it's like.

Speaker 5 (03:20):
I ain't really much out here?

Speaker 4 (03:22):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (03:22):
Not much? Yeah? Now are you you live in Fall River?
You're from Alabama? Did you move out here for work?

Speaker 5 (03:29):
No?

Speaker 9 (03:29):
I was born in Boston.

Speaker 2 (03:31):
I used to live in Boston, but it got too expensive,
so I came out here.

Speaker 1 (03:34):
Okay, all right, Well shout out to you, and uh,
I hope that the next time you meet somebody on
Plenty of Fish they're.

Speaker 3 (03:40):
Not with someone else.

Speaker 1 (03:44):
Orange.

Speaker 3 (03:45):
All right, pay fiks for the call.

Speaker 1 (03:47):
I'm with her though, like I would quickly block a
number if I kept calling it.

Speaker 3 (03:50):
No, but I'm also nosy. Why what are you calling for?

Speaker 4 (03:54):
And usually it's scammers. But to find out that somebody
else's girl, different thing.

Speaker 3 (03:57):
Yeah, that's very true.

Speaker 1 (03:59):
Janelle's in boss Hijanel.

Speaker 5 (04:02):
Hey Ash, how.

Speaker 1 (04:04):
New April knew you? Honey? Just got out of a
toxic relationship?

Speaker 10 (04:08):
Yes I did, and I'm glad I did, because it
was a try on and off of five years, but
with somebody who didn't help me from the beginning. I
gave him a second chance. And he's lucky because you're
not supposed to put your hands on a woman. But anyways,
I gave him a second chance. He gets a job,
he's living under my roof, my food whatever, don't want

(04:31):
to help me.

Speaker 9 (04:32):
So I had to give him.

Speaker 1 (04:32):
The boot, you know what, That's all I needed to hear.
Thank God, you did the right thing.

Speaker 9 (04:38):
I had to because you can't.

Speaker 10 (04:40):
You can't be with You can't be with a woman
that can do for herself and doesn't need to depend
on a man.

Speaker 3 (04:46):
I love that you don't need him.

Speaker 4 (04:47):
I don't.

Speaker 10 (04:49):
I don't need any man.

Speaker 3 (04:50):
I don't need nobody.

Speaker 1 (04:58):
There your own Easter basket.

Speaker 5 (05:02):
Want to be, you have to be.

Speaker 9 (05:03):
I can.

Speaker 10 (05:04):
I can get my own Valentine's Day.

Speaker 9 (05:05):
Too, because I don't really care about Valentine's Day.

Speaker 8 (05:07):
I don't care about.

Speaker 10 (05:08):
Holidays no more.

Speaker 3 (05:09):
That's it. How old are you know?

Speaker 10 (05:10):
I mean if me in thirty nine?

Speaker 9 (05:13):
About November?

Speaker 3 (05:14):
All right?

Speaker 1 (05:15):
Kids?

Speaker 4 (05:18):
Six?

Speaker 3 (05:19):
Excuse me?

Speaker 5 (05:19):
What six?

Speaker 1 (05:21):
Act? You have six?

Speaker 10 (05:23):
And you just add the other one.

Speaker 1 (05:24):
Yeah, I remember, yeah, yea, yeah, yeah. I bet you
have to shut the hell up, all right, I know,
I know I have to what I do know, I
have a starting five with a sub But yes, wow,
you let.

Speaker 10 (05:41):
Me well, let me let you know and let me
let it know over radio that I was happy. I'm
glad I was able to send you something for the
baby your birthday in the holidays. That was I'm glad
you liked it from Edible Arrangements when.

Speaker 5 (05:55):
Judged.

Speaker 6 (05:55):
Now was did you guys know the five I didn't.

Speaker 3 (06:00):
Have Anyfore, the phone is ringing.

Speaker 1 (06:02):
Stay out of this conversation, Janelle, thank you so much,
all right, babe, Hey single and bingling.

Speaker 3 (06:09):
Love you too, babe. Thanks for the call.

Speaker 1 (06:11):
Okay, I'm not.

Speaker 3 (06:12):
Here's the thing.

Speaker 4 (06:13):
What did you do with the candy and all that stuff?
Because I didn't have any?

Speaker 3 (06:17):
I hate it?

Speaker 4 (06:18):
Okay, thank you.

Speaker 3 (06:19):
It's inside of me. That's where in my belly. Dude.

Speaker 1 (06:23):
All right, let's continue on six one seven nine three
one one nine four five. Al don't go anywhere. We
are doing beyond the swipe right here. We're talking about dating, love,
relationships and all the in between. That's why we changed
the name six one seven nine three one one nine
four five. It's Beyond the Swipe. Good morning, Hi everybody,
Good morning. It's Ashley and the Jam in the morning show.

(06:45):
We're doing Beyond the Swipe right now.

Speaker 3 (06:47):
So not who you want to talk to you first,
Al in Boston.

Speaker 1 (06:49):
Al, I'm gonna be honest, good morning. I I I.

Speaker 3 (06:55):
I want to be on your side for this. I do.

Speaker 1 (06:59):
But if I was your current girlfriend, I would be like,
why is this happening? Just a little curious tell it
to set the scene for.

Speaker 3 (07:06):
Everybody, all right.

Speaker 9 (07:09):
So I'm in a relationship for ten eleven months. Last
week was my ex girlfriend's birthday.

Speaker 8 (07:17):
Within the three days of last weekend, I got about
three hundred miss halls, And thank god I was sleeping
with my girlfriend every time, and I didn't have to
go through the embarrassment of, oh, why is somebody calling you?

Speaker 9 (07:29):
I don't know who it is. I'm not trying to answer.
I don't mean to do answered. I don't mean no,
no headaches right now, just let it be.

Speaker 1 (07:36):
So your ex girlfriend called you while you're asleep with
your current girlfriend three hundred times.

Speaker 9 (07:44):
Yes, with them over two days.

Speaker 1 (07:46):
And your current is like upset about it. She's probably thinking.

Speaker 9 (07:51):
She didn't even know what happened, She.

Speaker 3 (07:53):
Doesn't know what had happened, and just what did you
have her soul? Okay?

Speaker 9 (07:58):
I woke up had to some full mogs like I
don't know what to do.

Speaker 1 (08:03):
I will block her out, Like if you're if you're
invested in this new relationship, why is why is she
calling you so much?

Speaker 8 (08:11):
When I say she's calling me from fake numbers, no numbers, like,
I don't know how much she's getting blocked calls through?

Speaker 1 (08:17):
Okay, but why is she calling you? Are you reaching
out to her? Have you spoken to her?

Speaker 5 (08:22):
Because that's no, she's crazy crazy?

Speaker 3 (08:27):
Why did you guys do not reach it out to that?
Why did why did you guys break up?

Speaker 11 (08:31):
Al?

Speaker 9 (08:33):
We would you have to spread our rings to see
if we came back to each other, but thank god,
we did not come back to each other.

Speaker 1 (08:39):
Okay, so we had to dump you there remember, no cursing,
but basically, you guys are good.

Speaker 3 (08:43):
Okay. You guys had gone through some stuff.

Speaker 1 (08:45):
You were gonna, you know, see if the grass was greener,
and it is and you're not going.

Speaker 3 (08:49):
Back to each other.

Speaker 1 (08:50):
When is the last time you spoke to your ex girlfriend,
because you've been dating your current girl for about eleven months,
So when's the last time you spoke to your ex?

Speaker 9 (08:58):
Maybe like the first month of my newer She should
kind of like trying to give that reassurance that yo,
I'm good, like I don't need you, like I see
you doing your own thing, Like, just let me do
my own day. Don't try to come back in a
few months like you always do.

Speaker 1 (09:11):
Okay, does your current girlfriend ever has your ex reached
out to her at all?

Speaker 3 (09:17):
Has it ever crossed over into the new relationship?

Speaker 9 (09:20):
Oh? Man, thank god No. But the girl it's crazy
enough to do something like that.

Speaker 3 (09:24):
Well, I mean, listen, I don't know.

Speaker 1 (09:26):
I don't know what you think, son, but maybe you
should just kind of give your current a heads up
that she's calling you that many times.

Speaker 4 (09:34):
I don't know, because then she's gonna feel like you're
hiding something, and then you better not be reaching out
her because something seems a little bit off about this.
For her to randomly just start calling you three hundred
times around her birthday seems a little suss.

Speaker 1 (09:47):
I Remember, here's a good example. Al the Fireman and
I had been dating. I'd say, I don't know, maybe
seven eight months. Okay, it was early on and we're
hanging out and a girl that that was there at
the party that we were at posted me and her
on her snapchat and she.

Speaker 3 (10:04):
Was she was in radio. It was Gandhi.

Speaker 1 (10:07):
Okay, Gandhi's now on with Elvis Duran in New York.
So Gandhi and I are hanging out. She posts me,
and you can see the fireman was behind me and
in the in the video on snapchat. Anyways, al fast forward,
his ex sees that, okay, and she sees it on
Gandhi's snapchat. She ends up calling him over and over
and over and over again.

Speaker 3 (10:28):
That night. He blocked her.

Speaker 1 (10:29):
But it did make me feel the type of way
because I'm like, I see why is she calling? And
he's like, I don't know why. I don't know how
she saw that you were here. She's sending me text messages.
So anyways, the fact of the matter is it made
me feel the type of way, and I'm sure it
would make your current Philo type away. So I think
you need to, you know, take the bullets out of
the gun and get ahead of this.

Speaker 9 (10:50):
Thank you. I've never heard of that phrase, but I'm
gonna say that one. I appreciated that You're.

Speaker 3 (10:55):
Welcome al anything for you.

Speaker 1 (10:56):
Yeah. I remember that night and I was just like, oh,
that's strange, and he goes, I will bet my life.
She saw this snap because because you know, Gandhi is
super popular and probably followed her on snap, saw it
and was like, they're together.

Speaker 3 (11:10):
Let me call.

Speaker 4 (11:10):
So what was the idea to try to get him
back in that lies?

Speaker 3 (11:13):
It worked.

Speaker 1 (11:14):
I think it was for her to for me to
see that she was calling, and I did because he
wasn't hiding anything. His phone was sitting right there. Best
thing though, and I just said, oh, that's weird. Why
is she called? You know?

Speaker 3 (11:25):
I said, what's going on?

Speaker 1 (11:26):
Because you because your your automatic thought is they're in common,
they're in communication.

Speaker 4 (11:30):
Yeah, and then you used second guess and things cause
the whole thing.

Speaker 5 (11:34):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (11:34):
Yeah.

Speaker 8 (11:35):
Uh.

Speaker 1 (11:36):
Kayla is in Lowell. Kayla talked to a tender match
for about three four months. Things were going really well
during that three four months, right, Kayla.

Speaker 11 (11:47):
Yeah, I was going great. What was what was.

Speaker 1 (11:50):
The one thing that stood out to you that you
thought this is all teensy bit weird, but not enough
that I'm going to stop talking to you.

Speaker 11 (11:59):
Every He always had something that he was like, I
have to go do this every single Sunday, but would
you give me a reasonable explanation? And then when I
asked to go to his house, I could never go
to his house.

Speaker 1 (12:11):
Once on God's Day he was he was with good
on Sundays. Could not see you. He always had an
excuse on Sundays.

Speaker 9 (12:18):
Yep.

Speaker 1 (12:19):
Yeah, come to find out, tell everybody what he was
actually doing on Sundays.

Speaker 11 (12:24):
I woke up one morning from a random.

Speaker 12 (12:27):
Number texted me just a bunch of screenshots, and the
last message said he is married, and it was pictures
of him and his wife with like the wedding rings, like.

Speaker 1 (12:39):
Three to four months and I'm just gonna guess in
that time there was love making. Yes, God, these people
are sick. So did you call him? I'm assuming was
it the wife texting you?

Speaker 5 (12:54):
It was actually I think her friend, Okay.

Speaker 7 (12:57):
And then I reached out to the wife and she
seemed to a little strange about it. She's like, yeah,
like this has happened before. Yeah, I'm sorry you got
wrapped up in it. And I'm like, I don't know.

Speaker 1 (13:08):
She's a little Yeah, Well listen, I'm glad she was it.
You had no idea he was married, So I'm glad
she didn't take it out on you. Now you find no,
you find out he's married, do you just never reach
out to him again? Do you call him out on it?

Speaker 11 (13:23):
I called him out on it, and it was so good,
I think I think the whole rest of the day
going back and forth, and he just kept denying it,
denying it, denying it, and I'm like, there's no way.

Speaker 3 (13:33):
Yeah, so you never that was it? Right? Cut it off?

Speaker 5 (13:37):
Yeah?

Speaker 8 (13:37):
That was yeah, that was it.

Speaker 11 (13:38):
That was about two years ago. And now I'm.

Speaker 12 (13:41):
In a new happy relationship with the baby girl in
the way.

Speaker 4 (13:44):
Yeah, I love it.

Speaker 1 (13:51):
At least there's a happy ending there, Kayla, Thank you
for the call. That's the thing, guys, that might seem small, right,
talking to somebody three to four months and then he says,
I can't see you on Sundays. You're like, that's kind
of weird, but I like him, so sun up. If
it feels weird, it.

Speaker 6 (14:08):
Is weird, right, everything else is it? And he's coming over,
he's sleeping over. We get to hang out for six
days out of the seven days, but on the seventh day,
we can. Would you really like put a red flag
on it and be like, ah, you know he goes
and does his thing on a Sunday or whatever, he's
doing church or whatever.

Speaker 5 (14:23):
You know what I mean.

Speaker 1 (14:24):
If it feels weird, it is weird, and that's you
gotta dig. We gotta dig these days, like why can't
we hang out on Sundays? The hell are you doing? Church?

Speaker 3 (14:32):
Doesn't take all day now, does it?

Speaker 1 (14:34):
Six one seven nine three one one nine four five
six one seven nine three.

Speaker 3 (14:40):
One one nine four five. We are talking dating, love, relationships.

Speaker 1 (14:43):
It's beyond the swipe only on JAM ninety four five.
Come morning, Hi everybody, Good morning, It's Ashley the jam
In Morning Show. I know you have a lot of
options on who to listen to, so I appreciate you
listening to us. Anonymous had a match. I'm here, Hi, babe,
Thanks for holding for us.

Speaker 5 (15:00):
Sorry to be anonymous, but you know a lot of
people listen to this stuff, so you know, I gotta.

Speaker 3 (15:04):
Kick it cool, stay safe, stay.

Speaker 5 (15:07):
We'll just it. We'll be vague about it's like nine
seven eight area. But so basically I started talking to
this kid that I matched on Facebook dating back in
like Christmas a little bit before Christmas, and like in
the conversation that we originally had, you know, he was
talking about going to the mall and all this and
that so kind of put a pin on like the twelve, Like,
what do.

Speaker 1 (15:26):
You mean even talking about going to the mall?

Speaker 5 (15:29):
It was around Christmas time?

Speaker 3 (15:31):
Got it? Okay, so he was going to like.

Speaker 5 (15:33):
Christmas shopping, so basically whatever, Like we ended up we
ended up like making plans for that night to drink together,
and everything was good, and it was kind of like
almost checking out too many boxes too quick, and it
was like too good to be true. So like I
did have my suspicions with it, but I kind of
just left you know, it under the under the rugs
for a little while, just to kind of play it out.
And we started seeing each other a lot. And then

(15:56):
one night we ended up drinking together and I was
kind of just going to introduce him to my friend
or whatever, and I ended up taking a picture of
the necklace that he had on and it said Daddy
on it, and I didn't post his face or anything
to her netlik and I got Instagram red flag.

Speaker 3 (16:11):
But he was wearing a necklace that said daddy, you.

Speaker 5 (16:15):
Know, but sometimes we like we like red flag and
only be a little bit of cardible.

Speaker 1 (16:22):
Okay, So he hangs out at the mall and where's
a chain that says daddy, you powered through? Go on No.

Speaker 5 (16:32):
So basically we ended up we ended up moving. He
ended up coming over my house one night and he
was gonna kind of like meet my friends. We're gonna
all drink together. And I had pulsed that picture of
him with the chain, so about maybe like five minutes later.
It was such a short time frame. Somebody had to
be steady watching my my Instagram to be able to
swipe up this quick, especially someone who doesn't follow me.

(16:55):
And she slit up and was like, oh, I hope
you guys the best to whatever. Good luck, And apparently
was his ex girlfriend, and she was kind of explaining
to me a little bit of the rundown because obviously
now I'm curious, and you know, she was saying that
they were together. The last time that they were together
was he was going to the mall to go buy
her a gift, and then that night, I guess they

(17:17):
got into a fight, and I don't know, I guess
he ended up in my house that night, so kind
of fast forward to when my friends were coming over.
That's when I was finding out all that information from her.
So obviously he was lying about being single. You were
in a relationship on Facebook, dating while in a relationship.
So I tried to keep it low key, and just
like the vibes were pretty good in the beginning, and

(17:39):
my friends are coming over, it's not like I can
kind of kick him out I at this point, and
I was trying to give him the benefit of doubt.
And I wanted to keep it under little radar because
one of my friends, she's very sad and she's very bold.
She'll say however she feels. So I really didn't want
it to come up when she was there, but unfortunately
it did. So we ended up drinking a little bit

(17:59):
more and he ended up getting a bit drunk, to
the point where my friend said, well, give us your phone.
If you don't talk to this girl and you don't
love her and she's lying, let's see your phone. And
he willingly gave the phone. Surprisingly, I mean, there are
four girls and just him, so inmated, but he let

(18:20):
us go through his entire phone. I'm talking about text messages, Snapchat, Instagram,
Facebook messages, everything, and when I'm telling you, I've never
seen a man with so many like like, I was surprised.
I was like, wow, there was so many girls. So
what we did is we ended up calling his girlfriend
on FaceTime and we all went through the phone together
with him standing right in front of us, knowing well

(18:42):
aware of everything that's going on.

Speaker 1 (18:44):
And he didn't try to grab the phone and say
I'm out of here, like I'm leaving.

Speaker 5 (18:49):
At some point he kind of did, and my friend
kind of gave him a look like, you know, don't
get a you know, don't get messed up right now,
don't try it.

Speaker 3 (19:00):
How old are you?

Speaker 9 (19:02):
How old am I?

Speaker 5 (19:03):
Yeah? Hi, I am twenty five years old.

Speaker 4 (19:06):
It just seems like a dramatic situation to put yourself into. Yeah,
you guys should not.

Speaker 3 (19:10):
Have gone to these levels.

Speaker 1 (19:13):
I I also feel like he's an idiot. Ye never
hand your phone over?

Speaker 3 (19:20):
What are you doing? Left?

Speaker 1 (19:21):
Yeah? Like, also let him keep the phone.

Speaker 3 (19:23):
I'm out here bye, Like this is crazy, Like he had.

Speaker 5 (19:27):
Every right to just up and leave, but he didn't.
He allowed it. And it was like he gave the
phone like if he wasn't a liar and like it
was like beyond lies.

Speaker 1 (19:38):
Yeah, because he thought if I if I act confident
right now, maybe they'll believe me.

Speaker 3 (19:42):
So how does this end?

Speaker 5 (19:45):
He like, was we just kind of told him kind
of get get out bye, to see you later, go
back to your girl, go home to your girl.

Speaker 3 (19:53):
And did he take his phone?

Speaker 1 (19:54):
So?

Speaker 5 (19:55):
Oh yeah, he did take his phone? You know, she
would say seeing me after, like, oh did he leave?
She was, And then she asked, like this girl was
a little bit on the weird side too, because I
would never ask any of them like details like oh,
like did we sleep together?

Speaker 3 (20:09):
Was it good?

Speaker 5 (20:10):
Was it bad? You know this? And that, Like she
asked me very details.

Speaker 1 (20:15):
You know what she's like, she took them back. I
can tell you that there's no question.

Speaker 5 (20:18):
If she's pretty suther still together?

Speaker 1 (20:20):
Yeah, of course they are. Yeah that listen, this actually
might be something that they do. They might get off
to this. I don't know because she's asking those moving.

Speaker 5 (20:27):
An apartment together and everything. One day, I guess one
day he just decided to go up and leave the
mall and you know, decide to.

Speaker 1 (20:34):
Kill this man lived his life at the plaza. Wow, Well,
thank you for regaling us with that. Tale that was
quite the ride.

Speaker 3 (20:41):
Where are you at now in your love life?