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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Dashy with DJ fourn and saw a darning Bastin's number
one for hip hop jam in ninety four or five.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Hi everybody, Oh my god. I've been beating myself up
on the inside about whether or not to talk about
this because I don't know how you two are going
to react. And I'm definitely nervous about it because I
know there's a way in which I come off across
is just like a.
Speaker 3 (00:32):
Just like a bitch. I don't know what other word
to use.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
So backtracking a week ago, the fireman asked me to
bring in a package and to not look at the
name on the box because it was my Mother's Day gift.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
Obviously, Like in what world? You know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (00:56):
Like, I I how it's hard not wow?
Speaker 3 (01:00):
Am I not gonna look?
Speaker 4 (01:01):
Now?
Speaker 3 (01:01):
Listen.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
He tried to do it where it would get delivered
on a day where he was home from work, but
he works whole days, so it's not It just wasn't
a situation and where.
Speaker 3 (01:11):
That, you know, just didn't work out for him. So
I actually said to myself, you're not gonna look.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
I really was trying to be better about it because
I don't get surprises a lot I don't really love surprises,
but every once in a while, like they're fun. So
I said, you're not gonna look. So I go to
pick up the box and it's really heavy. It's heavy,
So I think to myself, the.
Speaker 3 (01:35):
Hell could this be? Like, what could this be? That's heavy? That?
Speaker 2 (01:40):
So I do what any other normal person in the
world would do. I read where it's from. Because, you know,
although I was directed not to and I am so
like sadly disappointed in the gift, I actually hurt my
feelings a little bit.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
Really, yeah, because.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
I feel like the only two things right now in
my life. And this isn't to say that I don't
love my life, because I love my girls and my kids,
but I'm still the kind of the lifeline. You know,
I'm still breastfeeding. So I go to work, I work out,
and I go home and I mother. Okay, I don't
really I'm not smashly as much as I want to be.
I have my days, but I can't think of the
last time other that we have to plan things out
(02:22):
because the kids that I've been like, I'm just gonna
go today and go have some beers with my friends
or go grab coming no more random nights and not
that I couldn't, but you know.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
You have to be responsible.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
So when I think of like things that I would
want for Mother's Day, a gift that's affiliated to work
or working out, not on my.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
List, I agree, not on my list.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
I agree it was a weighted vest because one time
I said to him, Oh, when we go on walks,
I want to get one of those thirty dollars Amazon
waited vest and toss that on so that way I
can also burn some calories while we're walking.
Speaker 3 (03:03):
It was a waited Ashley.
Speaker 4 (03:07):
How often do I walk?
Speaker 3 (03:10):
I don't know, a couple of times a week, maybe,
like we're not walking every night.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Thoughtful, I think, you know, to FN's point, it is
very thoughtful.
Speaker 3 (03:19):
Yeah, and I know that, and I trust me. I've
thought about that.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
It's not a mother's day, it's.
Speaker 3 (03:25):
Not a mother's day of foreign like, it's not that.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
But you're right.
Speaker 3 (03:28):
I will not argue with you on that.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
I will not one hundred percent like cool like he
did listen to me say like at one point, I
want to get.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
Up, but I don't, like I don't want jim equipment.
Speaker 4 (03:40):
But but maybe he's trying to stay away from the
same thing like Father's then you know the grills and
the times. Maybe he's staying away from the spa days
and all that. She likes to walk. She's conscious about
her her health. Let me get this thing that she's
been asking.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
She likes jewelry.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
She likes jewelry. Everybody knows where I like jewelry from.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Like, even if he got me a hundred my favorite
jewelry designer is this place out of Brooklyn called Capper.
Speaker 3 (04:02):
They actually have on a Newberry Street, Right.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
Even if he got me a fifty dollars gift card
there and was like, pick out something you want, I mean,
I'd have to chip into that. But I'm just saying,
but I and by the way, I feel so I
hate admitting this that I that it like genuinely hurt
my feelings.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
I was like, what a wait, that's.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
But you're also sometimes tough to shop for it because
you'll say I don't like this right in the moment.
And also on the other end of things, you'll buy
yourself a lot of stuff too, so it's like hard
to kind of like navigate that.
Speaker 3 (04:31):
I feel like it's as if I'm opening a box
with dumbbells. That's kind of what I feel like. It's
not what's the difference.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
When you wear and when you do this?
Speaker 3 (04:49):
Just curling around the neighbor. I know, I am so cooked.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
I know.
Speaker 3 (04:55):
I know you still get the I sound crazy.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
I know that, and I'm for my d MS are
like you bitch, I'm sure, I'm sure, but it's just
kind of I was just so saddened like that.
Speaker 4 (05:09):
That's why should he have gifted you that for your birthday?
Because I don't think you'd like that.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
I don't think you should have gifted me that at all.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
I think that's like if I wanted to get a
weight vest to do the Wow.
Speaker 3 (05:20):
Wait, what do you mean?
Speaker 2 (05:21):
I would have bought that for myself. I don't want
that as like a thoughtful gifts. The thoughtfulness of him listening,
I know, the saying it's the thought that I.
Speaker 3 (05:30):
Know, I know.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
To help.
Speaker 4 (05:33):
This is what women actually want in life, a j
which is that someone could gifted as something. I think,
all right, he knows you see the thing is that
he knows that you're health conscious. So he's like, yo,
she's gonna love this because she talks about this a lot.
So let's do it, and she's gonna find value in this.
You know what I mean? You jewelry ain't gonna help
(05:55):
you lose.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
This is you.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
Guys are gonna think I'm lying, and I'm dead serious.
I would rather there him return that weight, vest take
me to pancakes and get me flowers than that then,
than than a weight.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
I think that's my question. What are you gonna do
on Sunday? Because he's unaware that.
Speaker 3 (06:10):
Now it's going to be a terrible Yeah, you have.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
A hard time pretending in situations like that. At what
point are you gonna snack? And and then all of
a sudden he's gonna snack.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
I guess I'll wear it for my pancakes. I guess
I'll wear it.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
I'll toss if you see me at the corner cafe
and Marshfield and my weighted best say.
Speaker 3 (06:36):
Nothing, Hi, everybody, good morning. Act in the day.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
So somebody left me a shockingly the messages are pretty
nice right now, but somebody left me a message and goes.
You better hope that that woman that hates you that
leaves talkbacks is not listening right now because has some
trouble You're in some This is the type maybe I
didn't articulate it properly, but this topic that we got
is kind of how I.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
Feel, Ashley.
Speaker 5 (07:03):
I would be upset about the weighted best to One
year for Mother's Day, my husband gifted me a comforter set,
and I was livid. I literally threw a tantrum and
left the house because how are you gonna get me
something that we are both going to use, We're gonna
share it. This is not a gift for me, This
is a gift for the house. It would be like
(07:23):
buying me a vacuum. I was so disappointed. So be
upset about that weighted best. Let your man know, get
yourself some jewelry.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
Just m Somebody also hit me and was like, you
know what, I feel like I'm new to the Mother's
Day thing because we just had it.
Speaker 3 (07:37):
It was a guy. He's like, I'm new to this
because we just had a kid a year ago.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
So maybe it's just like it is, you know, it's
not something that he's had to do a lot.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Would you rather be asked what you want from Mother's
Day or surprised with something that you like?
Speaker 2 (07:49):
I'd literally rather go out and have pancakes and him
get me flowers and we have a couple of mimosas
than awaited workout.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Best is that what you're going to do this Sunday night.
Speaker 3 (08:00):
I don't know, because if the best is given before,
it might not go well.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
The pancakes might not pancake if the but that is
the game plan either way.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
It's the thought that
Dashy with DJ fourn and saw a darning Bastin's number
one for hip hop jam in ninety four or five.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Hi everybody, Oh my god. I've been beating myself up
on the inside about whether or not to talk about
this because I don't know how you two are going
to react. And I'm definitely nervous about it because I
know there's a way in which I come off across
is just like a.
Speaker 3 (00:32):
Just like a bitch. I don't know what other word
to use.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
So backtracking a week ago, the fireman asked me to
bring in a package and to not look at the
name on the box because it was my Mother's Day gift.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
Obviously, Like in what world? You know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (00:56):
Like, I I how it's hard not wow?
Speaker 3 (01:00):
Am I not gonna look?
Speaker 4 (01:01):
Now?
Speaker 3 (01:01):
Listen.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
He tried to do it where it would get delivered
on a day where he was home from work, but
he works whole days, so it's not It just wasn't
a situation and where.
Speaker 3 (01:11):
That, you know, just didn't work out for him. So
I actually said to myself, you're not gonna look.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
I really was trying to be better about it because
I don't get surprises a lot I don't really love surprises,
but every once in a while, like they're fun. So
I said, you're not gonna look. So I go to
pick up the box and it's really heavy. It's heavy,
So I think to myself, the.
Speaker 3 (01:35):
Hell could this be? Like, what could this be? That's heavy? That?
Speaker 2 (01:40):
So I do what any other normal person in the
world would do. I read where it's from. Because, you know,
although I was directed not to and I am so
like sadly disappointed in the gift, I actually hurt my
feelings a little bit.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
Really, yeah, because.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
I feel like the only two things right now in
my life. And this isn't to say that I don't
love my life, because I love my girls and my kids,
but I'm still the kind of the lifeline. You know,
I'm still breastfeeding. So I go to work, I work out,
and I go home and I mother. Okay, I don't
really I'm not smashly as much as I want to be.
I have my days, but I can't think of the
last time other that we have to plan things out
(02:22):
because the kids that I've been like, I'm just gonna
go today and go have some beers with my friends
or go grab coming no more random nights and not
that I couldn't, but you know.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
You have to be responsible.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
So when I think of like things that I would
want for Mother's Day, a gift that's affiliated to work
or working out, not on my.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
List, I agree, not on my list.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
I agree it was a weighted vest because one time
I said to him, Oh, when we go on walks,
I want to get one of those thirty dollars Amazon
waited vest and toss that on so that way I
can also burn some calories while we're walking.
Speaker 3 (03:03):
It was a waited Ashley.
Speaker 4 (03:07):
How often do I walk?
Speaker 3 (03:10):
I don't know, a couple of times a week, maybe,
like we're not walking every night.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Thoughtful, I think, you know, to FN's point, it is
very thoughtful.
Speaker 3 (03:19):
Yeah, and I know that, and I trust me. I've
thought about that.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
It's not a mother's day, it's.
Speaker 3 (03:25):
Not a mother's day of foreign like, it's not that.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
But you're right.
Speaker 3 (03:28):
I will not argue with you on that.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
I will not one hundred percent like cool like he
did listen to me say like at one point, I
want to get.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
Up, but I don't, like I don't want jim equipment.
Speaker 4 (03:40):
But but maybe he's trying to stay away from the
same thing like Father's then you know the grills and
the times. Maybe he's staying away from the spa days
and all that. She likes to walk. She's conscious about
her her health. Let me get this thing that she's
been asking.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
She likes jewelry.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
She likes jewelry. Everybody knows where I like jewelry from.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Like, even if he got me a hundred my favorite
jewelry designer is this place out of Brooklyn called Capper.
Speaker 3 (04:02):
They actually have on a Newberry Street, Right.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
Even if he got me a fifty dollars gift card
there and was like, pick out something you want, I mean,
I'd have to chip into that. But I'm just saying,
but I and by the way, I feel so I
hate admitting this that I that it like genuinely hurt
my feelings.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
I was like, what a wait, that's.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
But you're also sometimes tough to shop for it because
you'll say I don't like this right in the moment.
And also on the other end of things, you'll buy
yourself a lot of stuff too, so it's like hard
to kind of like navigate that.
Speaker 3 (04:31):
I feel like it's as if I'm opening a box
with dumbbells. That's kind of what I feel like. It's
not what's the difference.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
When you wear and when you do this?
Speaker 3 (04:49):
Just curling around the neighbor. I know, I am so cooked.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
I know.
Speaker 3 (04:55):
I know you still get the I sound crazy.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
I know that, and I'm for my d MS are
like you bitch, I'm sure, I'm sure, but it's just
kind of I was just so saddened like that.
Speaker 4 (05:09):
That's why should he have gifted you that for your birthday?
Because I don't think you'd like that.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
I don't think you should have gifted me that at all.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
I think that's like if I wanted to get a
weight vest to do the Wow.
Speaker 3 (05:20):
Wait, what do you mean?
Speaker 2 (05:21):
I would have bought that for myself. I don't want
that as like a thoughtful gifts. The thoughtfulness of him listening,
I know, the saying it's the thought that I.
Speaker 3 (05:30):
Know, I know.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
To help.
Speaker 4 (05:33):
This is what women actually want in life, a j
which is that someone could gifted as something. I think,
all right, he knows you see the thing is that
he knows that you're health conscious. So he's like, yo,
she's gonna love this because she talks about this a lot.
So let's do it, and she's gonna find value in this.
You know what I mean? You jewelry ain't gonna help
(05:55):
you lose.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
This is you.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
Guys are gonna think I'm lying, and I'm dead serious.
I would rather there him return that weight, vest take
me to pancakes and get me flowers than that then,
than than a weight.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
I think that's my question. What are you gonna do
on Sunday? Because he's unaware that.
Speaker 3 (06:10):
Now it's going to be a terrible Yeah, you have.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
A hard time pretending in situations like that. At what
point are you gonna snack? And and then all of
a sudden he's gonna snack.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
I guess I'll wear it for my pancakes. I guess
I'll wear it.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
I'll toss if you see me at the corner cafe
and Marshfield and my weighted best say.
Speaker 3 (06:36):
Nothing, Hi, everybody, good morning. Act in the day.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
So somebody left me a shockingly the messages are pretty
nice right now, but somebody left me a message and goes.
You better hope that that woman that hates you that
leaves talkbacks is not listening right now because has some
trouble You're in some This is the type maybe I
didn't articulate it properly, but this topic that we got
is kind of how I.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
Feel, Ashley.
Speaker 5 (07:03):
I would be upset about the weighted best to One
year for Mother's Day, my husband gifted me a comforter set,
and I was livid. I literally threw a tantrum and
left the house because how are you gonna get me
something that we are both going to use, We're gonna
share it. This is not a gift for me, This
is a gift for the house. It would be like
(07:23):
buying me a vacuum. I was so disappointed. So be
upset about that weighted best. Let your man know, get
yourself some jewelry.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
Just m Somebody also hit me and was like, you
know what, I feel like I'm new to the Mother's
Day thing because we just had it.
Speaker 3 (07:37):
It was a guy. He's like, I'm new to this
because we just had a kid a year ago.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
So maybe it's just like it is, you know, it's
not something that he's had to do a lot.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Would you rather be asked what you want from Mother's
Day or surprised with something that you like?
Speaker 2 (07:49):
I'd literally rather go out and have pancakes and him
get me flowers and we have a couple of mimosas
than awaited workout.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Best is that what you're going to do this Sunday night.
Speaker 3 (08:00):
I don't know, because if the best is given before,
it might not go well.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
The pancakes might not pancake if the but that is
the game plan either way.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
It's the thought that
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