August 20, 2024 • 42 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
The hit Strive with Meddi and PJ thanks to chemistryre
House the Real House of Fragrances that Hi, Hi, everyone
going to the podcast. I you're gonna laugh at my
dream last.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
Night, middie, Oh god, what was that?
Speaker 1 (00:17):
No, So, I know you're a big can we mention
another radio host on here? Yeah, you're a vacavi Andy.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
I am a huge podcast is Yeah.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
The podcasts are, That's true. I had a bit of
a dream last night that I was like in a
really intimate moment and I was either beck So Beck
is Andy's fiance, But in my dream, I think I
was Beck or I was Andy, and I was amidst
(00:48):
their proposal and it was like real intense. We were
steering into each other's eyes and it was like I
love you, Oh my god, I love you, and it
was so real.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
Did you did you ever meet any of either of
them when you were in Melbourne? Yes?
Speaker 1 (01:01):
I mean Andy and I DM bicker it did. We
got the same last name. But it was so weird,
and all I can put it down to is the
fact that I went down a real hole of videos.
There's this couple that I love on the Rockie and
they just had this moment last night where it's like, okay,
they're on, And then I started watching their whole relationship
(01:24):
like a video of it, like a montage. It was
so lame, and I just, I don't know. I must
have had that intense feeling as I fell asleep, and
for some reason Andy and Bick ended.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Up like remaing. Yeah, have you even witnessed like a
public proposal before? Like, have you ever seen anyone get?
Speaker 1 (01:47):
I was at a restaurant in Auckland years ago, and
I think there might have been a proposal at the table.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
Next to me. I would love I've never seen I've
never seen it, no public proposal.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
I would not want anyone to watch our propos It
was so fucking awkward.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
You wanted to redo, didn't you?
Speaker 3 (02:04):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (02:04):
I would.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
I would still love a rido even though we'd be married.
I love a reader.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Where were you?
Speaker 1 (02:10):
We were where you came to visit.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
Me and can'd ah?
Speaker 1 (02:15):
It was on that little beach.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
Yeah that's a good spot.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
Gorgeous spot like gorgeous, but you were a court wind
of it. Yeah, I was so awkward, like so like,
think of me when I'm normally awkward. Yeah, times at
my eighteen.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
I reckon was he awkward? Was he uncomfortable?
Speaker 3 (02:33):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (02:34):
Yeah, but I made it way word.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
Did he do a little speech or do no?
Speaker 1 (02:38):
No, he didn't even get done on one knee. He
just goes, will you will you? He regrets not getting
done on one knee, like it it would just win.
Speaker 4 (02:48):
It's up.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
I'm sure they often do. Proposals are like they.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
He was going to do it before I caught wend.
He was actually going to do it on the Fury
down from Wellington, and I had no idea at that point.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
I was she did how did you catch wind?
Speaker 1 (03:02):
I found like muwai in the veck say they just
reaent a couple of things. And he got really weird
about that. He's like, I got it a few mums
Christmas present. Oh no, you've ruined Christmas. I can't believe
you found what I got your mom. And he just
got with it, and then I just started clucking on
(03:22):
and and then and then I remember he was like
doing a self time a photo and I thought at
that moment, because we're gone for a walk through the
Able Testament, and I thought he was going to do
it the air because he put the self time roll
and I thought he was going to film the whole thing,
but really he was actually just trying to take a
five over. But it was weird of him to be like,
how do you do the self time? I was like, fuck,
we're on here.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
But he didn't do it at the air.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
He did it once we got back to the beach
that we were staying at and he had it heading
in like an oyster shower.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
It was quite cute.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
Yeah, it was really cute. It actually looked like a
love heart the oyster shell.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
Do you know what I just remembered. I actually filmed
out proposal, but we've never watched it. Oh my god,
you have to watch it. Oh my god, I want
to watch it. It was so I think it was
quite lat cluster, not not because it wasn't romantic. It
was just it was a very quiet proposal. Yeah, because
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he had made me a book with all of these
memories from our five years. It was on our fifth anniversary,
so sweet, and so I just thought it was an
anniversary gift, which was beautiful in itself, Like he had
given me this book with all these photos of memories
and stuff, and I was flicking through it, and then
the very last page said, you know, because it was like,
you know, on this date, this is what happened. We
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bought our first house together on this date, were on
a holiday togetherh blah blah brah. And then it was
like last page was and on our fifth anniversary, Ryan
asked Matt to marry him. And I know what you mean.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
That would be kind of like a we kind of
lack last video because.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
I was just reading and I was just reading the book,
and I think I was so stunned that I didn't
really give much of a reaction either.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
I think a lot of people feel that way. I was,
so I look back and they're like, oh my god,
you just get numbed.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
I was so stunned, and he didn't so he didn't
really he didn't give a speech. He didn't even say
like will you marry me or anything.
Speaker 4 (05:12):
Yeah, it was.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
Written in the book. And then I kind of just
looked at him and I was like yes, yes, oh
my god, yes. And then he forgot to even give
me the ring, like he had a ring and he
forgot to give it to me, and so such a
big moment. Yeah, I do think the video will be quiet,
like clustered, but I completely forgot that he'd even send
it to me. When you say it, I'll ask him
(05:34):
for it. I don't even know how we would get it,
but he'll. Yeah, it'll be somewhere so funny.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
Anyway, enough about our engagements. Coming up in the show today,
What do we do? Oh? We had something fun and
three o'clock we.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
Talked about kids, kids humbling you. This bloody little kid
beat me at something and it really really got to me.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
Also, group therapy, she was an intense one. But we
had some really good advice from our callers, which we enjoyed.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
And the people's poll was all about cutlery and the dishwasher.
Trust us.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
It's enjoy the podcast many and the podcast. And coming
up in the next ten minutes, we've got your chance
to pick up a double pass to go see Blink twice.
It is in cinemas this Thursday. It's got Channing Tatum
and Naami Ecki in it.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
I went and saw it last night.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
How did you get to see it when it's not
out in the movies years?
Speaker 2 (06:39):
I know people, I've got friends in high places.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
Must be nice.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
Yeah, So I got invited to the premiere of it,
and I was so it was. Yeah, it was a mate.
It was such a good movie. I went and blind.
I really didn't know anything about it. I hadn't watched
the trailer. I really hadn't read anything about it. And
the thing is, it started, it started very close to
it to when we finished the show last night. So
(07:06):
I literally as soon as we were finished at seven pm,
I took the headphones off, threw them on the ground,
ran out, then had to run back in and so
to produce us here, I can't find the keys. Where
are my keys? Because I was running so late for
this movie and my husband was already at the cinema.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
Anyway, so you're a little frizzle to start.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
That's very freshled God, neither of us are good in
these situations, are we? No?
Speaker 1 (07:32):
No, But one day we'll get the hang of it. Yeah,
one day when we're like eighty five and start geting
the hang of life, and we'll get better and we'll
be organized and we'll be on time. We'll be nailing it.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
So anyway, I raced them to the cinema and I
was messaging Ryan, my husband, saying I'm on my way,
but I will be pushing it. And he said that's cool.
I'll go in and I'll get us seats and stuff,
and I will be good to go. And here's the
thing about a movie premiere, for those who have been
fortunate enough to go, they do often give you little
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goodies as you go in, like they might give you popcorn.
Sometimes they'll give you drinks. You might even get a
little sweet treat as well. And Ryan and I love
our movie snacks. Like obsessed with popcorn. He loves a
nut chopped top. I'm obsessed with malt teesers. So Ryan
messaged me as I was racing off there, and he said,
(08:24):
just letting you know. There's no drinks, and there's only little, tiny,
little popcorns, and we're growing boys, so we need our sustenance.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
You need a big one.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
Yeah, But I made what I what I thought was
a smart call, but I maybe was a fatal floor
and that I got to the movie theater and I thought,
I've got time to quickly get snacks. But I thought
because there were already little popcorns there, I thought, well,
Ryan and I don't need our own big popcorn, so
I'll just get one to share. And then I sat
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down in the chair and Ryan took the popcorn, and
I said, by the way, that's for us to share.
And I got the filthiest look from my who has decided?
Who had decided that he just wanted the whole popcorn
to himself? Had he not already got some on the
way he got the tiny little one that was on
(09:16):
he did an advertizer. Fine. I know in this day
and age, like anytime you go to a restaurant, it's
always like it's top us, right, it's sharing. Yeah, these days?
Do you think was it the right thing to do?
Do you think to just buy one pop corner? Should
I have done the smart thing and got us each
one ourselves?
Speaker 1 (09:36):
Of course? On it was it free or this?
Speaker 5 (09:38):
No?
Speaker 2 (09:38):
No, I had to pay for this.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
I'd definitely share, definitely share.
Speaker 2 (09:45):
Well, we shared, but I do feel like Ryan probably
got the lion's share of it last night. Anyway, the
movie is very good. Go see it.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
It is.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
It is truly amazing.
Speaker 4 (09:56):
Maddy andj Mady and PJ the podcast.
Speaker 2 (10:01):
I want to ask a question, And the first thing
I want to do is I want to ask you
a question Peage, which is, how are you going with
your hobbies hunt this year?
Speaker 1 (10:10):
My hobbies hunt? That's right, not.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
Good, right, not good. I'm assuming it's right.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
I see it earlier in the year, I wanted, oh
my god, I feel like I've got no time at
the moment. That was so ambitious of me. I was like, oh,
maybe I could take up dancing or did we.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
Even get solicity? People some questions.
Speaker 1 (10:33):
Yeah, someone suggested I should take up tarping. Yes, role play,
what is it?
Speaker 2 (10:38):
Laughing? Laping? Live action role play, not tapping?
Speaker 1 (10:45):
Very different laughing laughing.
Speaker 2 (10:48):
You would be so good at laughing.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
Thank you. No, the hobby, the hobby hunt is on
pause at the moment.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
Well, I was not on the hunt for a new hobby.
But a couple of days ago a friend of mine
messaged me, and this was on Sunday, mind you, and
we've talked about how big my Saturday night was, so.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
Maddy was acting as Dusty Springfield.
Speaker 2 (11:10):
I was in no state to do anything a little
and take up a new hobby. But my friend messaged
me and said, I'm going to an indoor rock climbing wall.
Would you like to come?
Speaker 1 (11:23):
I can't thieve anything.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
Whose hung over. It was a terrible idea, and I
don't know what made me do it, because I was
quite happy on the couch in the trackies. But I've
been saying to Ryan that I need to put more
effort into my friends. So I said, I'm going to
pull myself off the couch and I'm going to go.
I'm going to go and do this rock climbing. So
I turned up to the rock climbing wall and I
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get there, and have you ever been to like an
indoor rock climbing wall.
Speaker 1 (11:49):
I had an ex boyfriend who was really he was
a real elective relex and always had to do activities
like that, and I think we did go rock climbing
once or twice. It's amazing when you need to hang
of it and you feel like such a pro if
you do get this swing, but otherwise it can just
be quite awkward and like jarring.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
This was a non uh. This one didn't have you
didn't have like ropes and carabeaners and stuff. It was
all just like free hold. So the walls went very big.
So I kind of went in there and I was like,
this is so this looks so easy, like a child
can do this. And so I went up to this
wall very confidently, like oh my god, that's going to
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take me two seconds to get to the top. How boring.
I'm just paid to come into this place and I'm hungover.
But I went and started climbing this wall and very
quickly realized a bit off, way more than I could chew.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
Really, it's one of those things that once your you're like, actually,
this requires a lot of string.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
It's so hard. And I got to like two rungs
up and then I'm hanging on this wall so pathetic,
going I can't get higher, I can't go any higher,
and so I was like, this is impossible, you can't
do this. So I got down off the wall, and
the next thing I know, this kid, who honestly would
have been about seven, just walks up to the wall
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and literally, I reckon five seconds flat, is at the top,
touched it, jumped down, and I look like this absolute
idiot because this kid has just come along and absolutely
really done it.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
I know.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
PJ made me such a full and absolute full many
and the podcast.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
We just want to know when you got humbled by
a child.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
I was hanging off her indoor rock climbing wall, thinking
this thing is impossible to climb, and then this seven
year old kid just came and houned it up right
to the top and made me look.
Speaker 1 (13:47):
Lease be honestly, seven year old is there every day.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
He's there winning.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
Can all day day.
Speaker 2 (13:53):
But you know me very competitive dog like to lose
even to a seven.
Speaker 1 (13:57):
You cannot win them all. Okay, I wait one hundred,
he has to join the show. You can t access
for for eight seven? Donna, When did you get humbled
by a kid?
Speaker 6 (14:06):
So it wasn't me as such. I work with children,
so I get humbled all the time. It's always nice
to be put into the place.
Speaker 2 (14:15):
I'm sure it is. I'm sure it is.
Speaker 4 (14:18):
No.
Speaker 6 (14:19):
It was my ex husband years ago who was playing
Connect four against my cousin, and he was obviously quite
considerably younger than enough. And Connect four is a simple game.
You know, it's interesting and funny to watch, you know,
a cocky grown man thinking he's going to beat the
child at Connect four, but turns around he was the
one that got beaten instead.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
Oh god, and how did he take the defeat?
Speaker 7 (14:44):
I'm not too bad.
Speaker 8 (14:45):
Actually it wasn't too bad.
Speaker 1 (14:46):
It was.
Speaker 2 (14:48):
It's a funny one with those games as well, because
part of you goes, I'll take it easy on them. Yeah,
but I still I'm still going to win because and
then they end up beating you anyway, and you never
took it easy on them because they were actually really
good at it in the first place.
Speaker 1 (15:06):
We've got a double pies for you to go. Check
out the link twice in cinemas. Thanks for you call.
Speaker 7 (15:10):
Awesome, Thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (15:12):
All right, let's go to tarps after I said tarping earlier. Hello,
how are you god?
Speaker 3 (15:20):
As I'm currently suttying it work in the sun after
it's being coming down with me.
Speaker 2 (15:25):
Oh that sounds good. You love some of that? What happened?
How are you humbled?
Speaker 3 (15:31):
So my seven yard he was three at the time,
and because my partner has father works, might he might
sneak into my bed and he feels my face for comfort,
and he was running his fingers under my chin and
he looks at me and says, mom, you've got more
watch and he's being dead let him touch me?
Speaker 2 (16:00):
Oh the cheeky bugger. I mean, yeah, honesty, beautiful honesty taps,
but not necessarily what you want to hear.
Speaker 7 (16:08):
Right, definitely not.
Speaker 3 (16:10):
It brought me down a few notes in.
Speaker 1 (16:12):
Some thank you so much for me you call. We're
gonna hook you up with the double pass to got
to check up link twice Primo.
Speaker 3 (16:21):
Thank you you guys so much.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
Thanks Taps. Someone else sticks in Actually on a similar
vibe page to four for I have some crooked front teeth.
My eighteen month old niece just looked up at me
recently and goes teeth.
Speaker 1 (16:35):
Yeah, what about them? The podcast, I really try havious
not to get caught up in celebrity drama and honestly,
like life is just better focusing on your own little world.
Speaker 2 (16:51):
I agree, But then it's celebrity goss for a reason, right,
because we do all at some point get sucked into something.
Speaker 1 (17:00):
Now the juice, well, the goss that has been going
on with it ends with us. The movie. There's quite
a bit of beef going on between Blake Lively and
Justin Baldoni, and this so much coming out from both parties. Basically,
(17:20):
she was apparently very controlling on set, and I would
also say that potentially some of the critical feedback she's
getting is valid where people are saying that she's sort
of downplayed the serious nature of the themes in the film,
which is domestic violence, and she sort of trivialized it
(17:41):
in a way, and a lot of people aren't happy,
so I'd say, look, that might be a fair critique,
but it has got out of control, the hate for
her in the vitriol online.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
And it just I think speaks to where we're at
in society, where pile on just gets so so brutal
and fast they almost get out of control before you
even really it's like a snowball, you know, it starts
rolling down the hill and before you know it, it's
massive and it's out of control.
Speaker 1 (18:12):
This is exactly what I was thinking. I was on
my little workout machine at home this morning and I
just had this eperphany because literally a week ago, I
was looking at comments on all of the promo that
she was doing for the movie, and everyone was like, man,
Blake is just such a natural beauty. She can do
no wrong. You know, she and Ryan are like a
couple of goals. Everything she wears is just so cool.
And now it is an absolute three sixty flip and
(18:34):
you look at the comments and there is so much
negativity on all of her posts, and it's wild how
quickly that switched. And is it, you know, is it
fear the pylon that she's had?
Speaker 2 (18:47):
I don't think so. I don't think so either. And
I feel like you have to be really careful because
all we're doing is reading these little articles that are
on things like the Daily Mail, which we all know
put out absolute crap that they have no base this
on at all, and we're taking it as gospel in fact,
and then turning it into this image of who this
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person is, who we really don't know at the end
of the day. I just think you've got to be
really careful.
Speaker 1 (19:12):
Yeah, And I think the more you go into it,
the more it will validate your your bias, right, And
so the more if you if you if you start
going down this negative track of the stuff you read,
then you just get more and more of that. And
it's like, how do you actually decipher reality? You have
to step away and go, actually, what has she done here?
Speaker 2 (19:32):
Exactly? Come back to the railway, come back to the
real world.
Speaker 4 (19:36):
Many and PJ the podcast that's Many and PJS Group therapy.
Speaker 2 (19:44):
Poor Key and sorry can you come?
Speaker 1 (19:47):
Sorry? And it is time of a group therapy and
now don't forget. You can always get in touch with us,
and you can grab the iHeartRadio app and find the
talkback feature to voice record your dilemma for us. Don't worry.
We you can keep you anonymous, we can change your
voice up. But yeah, if there's anything going on in
your life that you need a little bit of help with,
remember a problem shared is a problem hard, and people.
Speaker 2 (20:09):
Have such good advice as well. You and I don't
usually have great advice, but other people have brilliant suggestions.
Speaker 1 (20:16):
Give it a good hot guy. We absolutely get it,
but there's better advice out there. So I want one
hundred of hats. If you'd like to weigh in on
today's problem.
Speaker 2 (20:24):
Well, i'd be interested to see your thoughts on this peege.
Someone's written in and said, hey, guys, I wanted to
reach out because I feel torn about a situation. My
mother in law and her partner want to have our
toddler to stay at theirs for a night. They feel
we don't let our daughter see them see them enough,
which in all honesty, we probably don't. But I've never
(20:46):
trusted her partner since day one, as he is always
involved in drama, is very controlling, and I don't want
my daughter caught up in that. I really want my
mother in law involved in our daughter's life, but I
feel uncomfortable letting him, letting her look after her without
being being around. Am I being irrational? Or do I
(21:07):
have legs to stand on?
Speaker 4 (21:10):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (21:10):
That's a tough one. It's so tricky when you know
when you're a child, they are your everything and you
really do fiercely protect them like nothing else. I remember
someone telling me that it is your parental right. Do
you know what I mean? It is your parental right
to decide hoodock's after your child, and you need to
feel comfortable in that situation. It is tricky because obviously
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you want the mother in law involved, but you don't
exactly trust the partners. So can you find ways of
having the mother in.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
Law come after your daughter? Maybe?
Speaker 1 (21:44):
Yeah, possibly come to your house so then you can
control the situation. Maybe there are small windows that they
can look after your daughter, but you can kind of
still monitor. I don't know they are. It's a really
tricky one.
Speaker 2 (21:59):
I just think like has to be all about boundaries,
right in any situation, you have to be able to
put in place the boundaries that you feel will help
you feel confident and comfortable with whatever situation. And so
in this particular situation, I think you are absolutely right peach.
As a parent, you are totally within your prerogative to
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set boundaries and really clear lines and say I would
love for the mother in law to be involved in
my child's life, but I want that to be done
separately from your living situation with your partner because I
don't trust the partner.
Speaker 1 (22:36):
Yeah, it's well, it's a really hard one to articulate,
especially when there's family members involved who you loved. You
know what I mean totally, and you don't want to
hurt their feelings. I would love to know what people
have to say on the phone.
Speaker 2 (22:46):
You people will have had experiences like this where this
exact thing has happened to them and they've had to
come up with a solution.
Speaker 4 (22:57):
Maddy and PJ. Mady and PJ the podcast that's many
mpj's group.
Speaker 1 (23:04):
Therapy already she's a doozy. Oh eight hundred the hats
to get in touch and give us your advice or
feedback on this week still my Maddy McLean recap quickly please.
Speaker 2 (23:15):
Yeah, this person's written and said, my mother in law
and her partner want to have our toddler to stay
at theirs for a night. They feel we don't let
our daughter see them enough, which in all honesty we
probably don't. But I've never trusted her partner since day one,
as he has always involved in drama. Is very controlling,
and I don't want my daughter caught up in that.
I really want my mother in law involved in our
daughter's life, but I feel uncomfortable letting her look after
(23:38):
her without being around. Am I being irrational? Or do
I have legs to.
Speaker 1 (23:42):
Stand on already? Let's go first to Tilly in Auckland.
Tell you what are your thoughts on this?
Speaker 4 (23:49):
Hey?
Speaker 8 (23:50):
Oh are you guys? By the way?
Speaker 5 (23:52):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (23:52):
Very well, thanks foray.
Speaker 8 (23:57):
My thoughts? Why does it have to be a sleep
or we cannot be somewhere in a public place. You know,
if grandma really cares so much about the grandchild she's
going to have children, want to make some time to
bed with her granddaughter and then Mom doesn't need to
bother with the issue of, you know, being alone at
home with somebody she has trust issues with. So there's
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lots of places to go the playlands, and lots of
places that Grandma can take the child depending on the age.
So I can you know if she's so concerned, Grandma's
so confided about her not spending time with granddaughter, then
that might be an option.
Speaker 2 (24:35):
Yeah, come up with a compromise. I like that.
Speaker 1 (24:38):
Do people have message down saying that, you know, like
just go to the local park or something, just be
in a comfortable environment.
Speaker 2 (24:44):
Mond tear his text and page and see it. I've
been in a similar situation, but with my sister, we
decided to invite her to the park or the playground.
Then we can sit back and relax and watch them
play together. You get a bit of a break, but
you know your baby is safe.
Speaker 1 (24:58):
The only problem is if you get pushed back and
they say, we'll hang on one. Why can't we have
them at our place?
Speaker 2 (25:03):
Yep, but someone else's Texan said, you've just got to
be honest with her about your feelings. Trust your gut.
I agree with you, PJ One.
Speaker 1 (25:12):
All right, let's go to a non I know what
one hundred and hats you're going through a similar situation.
Speaker 9 (25:17):
Yeah, so I have a similar situation going on, and
at the end of the day, in my personal opinion,
that child safety comes first above everything else.
Speaker 7 (25:28):
Yeah, Like, they are the most precious in the world.
So yeah, if they don't like it, well that's tough
to these to them.
Speaker 10 (25:37):
You know, you can invite, say, the grandmother to come
and maybe babysit at your place, but honestly, like you're
just going to have to be honest with the grandmother
and if they don't like it, well, you know you can.
Speaker 7 (25:50):
Do day visits or park visits like other people suggested.
Speaker 1 (25:53):
Yep, how have you personally found, you know, articulating that
as the communication been quite awkward, it's very awkward.
Speaker 7 (26:00):
Definitely, Yeah, it's it's not the easiest situation, but I
find I am personally learning a lot through it and
I have found, although it might be hard, being honest
is the best thing to do, but maybe just try
and do it in a bit of a gentle way.
Speaker 1 (26:17):
Yeah, and a lot of people saying on the text
machine you've got to trust your gut instincts as a mum,
because you have them for a reason, right, and you've
got to follow them up, sending a loud sagal Well,
thank you so much for calling up and all the
best with everything.
Speaker 7 (26:32):
Thank you.
Speaker 4 (26:34):
Mary and Mary and PJ the podcast.
Speaker 1 (26:39):
Can I have some nice zen spiritual music producers? Rah
set the same?
Speaker 2 (26:46):
Oh god, that's better.
Speaker 1 (26:48):
That's better.
Speaker 2 (26:49):
So I learned something.
Speaker 1 (26:50):
I learned something very interesting today made and I actually
think you'll find this quite fascinating. So we all know
what a dejavo is, right when you feel like go
with me here.
Speaker 2 (27:01):
I feel like my eyes like they're like poised, like
ready to roll. So be careful.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
No, this is actually like quie scientific with me, so
daja vu. Obviously, it's the feeling where you feel like
you've already lived through the events that you're currently going
through and you're like, oh my god, I've been in
this moment before.
Speaker 2 (27:20):
I do know that feeling, and I do have a
semi regularly. It is a pretty weird feeling to.
Speaker 1 (27:25):
Get, so give me like when I when I get them,
I feel like I get a flurry of them, and
I oh have like so many dejavos in a row.
I just found out there is an opposite to a djavo,
and it's called a jamma vu jamaivu. It's also French words,
and it means it's the feeling you get when something
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you are certain is familiar feels new to you. So,
for example, looking at the face of someone that you know,
but all of a sudden you don't know them, or
a musician unexpectedly using their way in a piece of music,
or even more terrifyingly, it can happen in quite serious
situations where you're driving on like a motorway right, and
(28:08):
then you you lose familiarity with the peddles and the car.
This music's quite.
Speaker 2 (28:14):
Up funny, isn't it.
Speaker 1 (28:17):
Really too?
Speaker 2 (28:21):
I feel like I'm about to get a message and like,
but have you know one.
Speaker 1 (28:25):
Of these moments before? I literally get these on ere
sometimes and I'm talking and then I'm like, I've actually
ever gotten out of talk?
Speaker 2 (28:32):
Yeah, I know exactly what you mean. It's like when
you're in your own home and you're walking through, like
you're walking through the kitchen and you're like, wait, I've
completely forgotten, like where do I put the cups? Like
where's my cutlob?
Speaker 1 (28:44):
So that's a James vous vou And they actually did
a study. In an experiment, they got ninety four students
to repeatedly write the same word, telling them that they
could stop if their hand was hurting, they were bored,
or they started to feel strange. And I found that
around seventy percent of people stopped writing because of a
feeling close to jame vu, where just all of a sudden,
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they felt like they didn't like know what was going on.
They the word didn't make sense to them. You know
when you say a word over and over totally. We're like,
where you go for beans, beads? Beads meaning is So
that's a jamevo, which I felt quite interesting. There was
like a scientific word behind.
Speaker 2 (29:26):
Okay, I'll give you that. I would love to know
on the text machine four for eight seven if people
have had that feeling before. So there you go, get
the music off, get them.
Speaker 4 (29:38):
Mary, J, Mary and PJ the podcast.
Speaker 1 (29:43):
An earlier this hour, I was talking about how there's
an opposite word to deja vu, so we all know
what dejavau is when you feel like you've experienced this
moment before. Well, I would like to introduce the term
jahme vu, which which means the feeling you get when
something you're certain is familiar feels brand new to you
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and you're like, hang, well, what are we doing in
the middle of something? And we got you to text
into four for eighty seven. Have you experienced a jarmover?
Speaker 2 (30:12):
Someone said twice badly. Once put salt on my corn
flakes because I completely forgot where we keep the sugar.
And once when I saw my boyfriend after six months
long distance, I swear I'd forgotten his face.
Speaker 1 (30:24):
Okay, that's a hard cousarm ovo crazy. It's quite a crucial,
quite a crucial area there. I had this during an
examine per form I had to write the word work
a heap of times, and all of a sudden I
was smelling it wrong and it was really bizarre, like
such a simple word and I couldn't spell it. Oh,
there's another one. In the middle of a conversation with someone,
and while I'm actually talking, I can forget what the
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actual conversation is about mid sentence and then have no
idea where I was actually going with what I was
talking about. Babes, that's inside my head. Everyone, Welcome to
Pj's World the podcast. What I'm about to say might
be a bit shaky. It's just dawned on me, but
(31:06):
I would love to know what people think on this. So,
my mom's about to get a new rug at home.
She's found a couple of really nice rugs that she likes.
Speaker 2 (31:15):
Yes, question, I'm just going to say there'd be some
good rug stores in the wider upper wouldn't.
Speaker 1 (31:19):
They There are a couple. There are not heaps, but
there are a few little stores, and she eyed up
two really nice ones that she liked, and then her
friend who's staying with her at the moment, said, well,
you've got to ask for a discount because they are
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on the actual floor of the store and that's the
only one left. So surely you could ask for a
cheeky discount because it's been walked over. One thoughts comments, squeries,
is that being a little bit cheeky.
Speaker 2 (31:55):
Look, it's not in a lot of people's nature to
ask for discounts like that. But the squeaky wheel, the
squeaky wheel gets the oil.
Speaker 4 (32:04):
You know.
Speaker 2 (32:05):
And I reckon there's a point to that, and that
it's lying on the floor. People have been walking all
over it. It's not brand new, it's not in perfect condition.
So I reckon, you are probably entitled to a discount.
You probably just have to be ballsy enough to ask
for it.
Speaker 1 (32:21):
Maybe in title is not the right word, but you're right.
It can't hurt to try if you don't try, or
ever know, and then it gonna be thinking like beds,
you know, certain beds that get laid on by lots
of people. Is that a similar kind of category? Could
you be a little cheeky and ask, look, this has
actually had many people lying on them, although often they
often don't sell those ones.
Speaker 2 (32:42):
No, but I'm sure that you often do see things
where they're like this was a this was a showroom
example of a bed or a couch or whatever, and
so it's cheaper than if you buy it brand new.
Speaker 1 (32:53):
I thought we could do a service with the people
today because everyone is looking for a discount in today's
day and a absolutely you know, And so I thought
we could open up a little hotline. Oh wait, one
hundred hits or you can stand onymous in text four
for eight seven. I mean, maybe you could weigh in
more on the specific topic or other ones that we're
missing out on. Are there some really obvious discounts that
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we are missing out on? And actually we could save a.
Speaker 2 (33:18):
Lot of money if you were bold enough to wait
until three pm on a weekday afternoon and go to
the sushi shop up the road from our work here
in Central Auckland. You can get heavily discounted sushi. You
just have it to be come out of pride, it
comes home potentially. Yeah, comes with about of vomiting at
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the other end, but it's cheap sushi.
Speaker 4 (33:48):
Many mpja the podcast.
Speaker 1 (33:53):
Are there any secret ways that you can get a
discount or not even secret, but just ways that you know,
the everyday person may not know certain discounts that we're
entitled to.
Speaker 2 (34:02):
Your mum's looking to buy a new ragged of friends said, well,
it's been lying on the shop floor. You should definitely
be asking for a discount.
Speaker 1 (34:09):
I feel like I'm throwing them out of the bus
and it's going to be really awkward. This was playing
in the store.
Speaker 2 (34:13):
I really really off. It wasn't Someone did text into
four four eight seven and said, I don't know that
I've got the guts to do that personally, but absolutely
asked for a discount. It's the only one left and
it's on the shop floor.
Speaker 1 (34:25):
Okay, oh wait hundred and the hats we are opening
the phone lines. What are your little discount tips? Mazie
is joining us. Hi, Mazi hi hi, what advice have
you got for us?
Speaker 5 (34:39):
Well? I think that if there is like if the
wrapper or like something that if it's like the closing,
then I think that if it's just a little bit
off or a little bit open. Then I think you
should ask because someone's already tried to get into it.
Speaker 1 (34:59):
Oh amaze you reckon. You can get another one long,
another one for free.
Speaker 2 (35:05):
Or at the very least get it for a bit
cheaper as well. I like you.
Speaker 1 (35:08):
I like you thinking, Yeah, it's smart, amazing.
Speaker 2 (35:14):
She's got some ideas, you know.
Speaker 1 (35:16):
At Lea's got to Alex and Dunna's Alex. What little
discount hecks have you got for us? Oh?
Speaker 3 (35:22):
I get discounts for their birthdays from Spotlight Linkcraft. There's
a cheesecake placed on Andy Bay Road.
Speaker 4 (35:31):
Yeah anymore?
Speaker 2 (35:35):
Oh my god?
Speaker 5 (35:38):
Some of them will do you a coffee or a
cookie on it.
Speaker 2 (35:41):
Oh Alex, do you just on your birthday? Just go
whole hog. I'm getting them all. I'm taking advantage of
every single discount, and I'm loading myself up.
Speaker 1 (35:51):
Yep, no shame. I love it, thanks so much. Recalling
we've got to help coming away.
Speaker 2 (36:00):
If someone takes in and said, my workmate told me
to bring up my internet provider and sale was about
to switch, what's the best they can do? I instantly
got twenty dollars a month off my bill.
Speaker 1 (36:10):
If you don't ask, you don't know if someone else's say,
price match, great way to get discounts. There's a website
called price Spy to compete prices. All these little things
add our pay and it seems like admin, but sometimes
it is worth putting it in the effort.
Speaker 2 (36:24):
Tell your mum asked for the discount on the rugg
I reckon, go.
Speaker 1 (36:28):
Hard, mum, see what you can get.
Speaker 11 (36:30):
Many and PJ the podcast. That's the keep Pool's poll,
the People's Poll. Everybody comes together, it's the People's Poll.
Speaker 1 (36:40):
Okay, it's time for the People's Pole. We do this
on the show every day. And today's question, we're heading
to the kitchen again surprise surprise.
Speaker 2 (36:49):
Specifically to the dishwasher, which I know you don't have
one currently Peg Doe. You do your own washing, but
I know you you would have used one at some
point in time.
Speaker 1 (36:59):
Yes, lived in various places that had dishwashers. Correct.
Speaker 2 (37:04):
So this was a question that was raised by producer
Sirah and we had a bit of a debate in
within our team about what you do with the cutlery
portion of the dishwasher. Do you when you load the
dishwasher put your cutlery face up so that for example,
the sharp bit of the knife is pointing upwards or
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do you do it so that it's facing down.
Speaker 1 (37:31):
Yeah, so you either have the handle the first thing
that you grab, like the handle part of the cutlery,
or the sharp funky bit like the fork or the
knife sharp end.
Speaker 2 (37:42):
And now that we're saying it like that, it kind
of makes sense in your head to do it so
that you reach in and get the handles. But I
do it facing upwards.
Speaker 1 (37:52):
So do I. I think it's because I have a
fear of the fort heads. It just feelsicky to put
the four kid down. Do you know what I mean,
You're just going to get trapped or something. Yeah, And
I know it doesn't make sense to grab it out
by the head, but I just it makes me feel
weird for me. Done the head first.
Speaker 2 (38:12):
The other thing for me is I really like to
make sure that every because we've got like four portions
of the cutlery can drawer, and I like to know
that the spoons are in one section, the knives are
in the other, and so if the handles are up
then you can't necessarily tell what's in there.
Speaker 1 (38:31):
That's true. Producer Cereal, would you like to plead your
case on why you're so passionate on the other one.
Speaker 10 (38:36):
Yes, okay, So I've been flatting for for many years now,
all different types of people, and I go to the
dishwasher to get like a plate or something from the
bottom ra of the dishwasher, and I get stabbed.
Speaker 2 (38:45):
You do not get stabbabbed.
Speaker 1 (38:48):
Sharp knives.
Speaker 2 (38:50):
You shouldn't be putting you sharp knives in the dishwasher anyway.
Speaker 1 (38:52):
How that to my flatmates? Yeah, okay, so sharp knives
are ruled out and stock standing.
Speaker 2 (38:57):
Okay, four prongs far enough, but you still.
Speaker 1 (39:01):
Just need to be more vigilant when.
Speaker 2 (39:03):
I just think that a dishwasher is a clean place,
So putting them down in the hold of thing is fine.
Speaker 5 (39:08):
The water's going to wash up, it'll clean it.
Speaker 1 (39:11):
It's not yucky.
Speaker 2 (39:11):
And why do you need to have, Maddie, why do
you need to have them all in their little like compartment,
because then when you're emptying up the dishwasher, you can
pick up all the all the knives and in one Okay, that's.
Speaker 1 (39:23):
Actually all right, So the official questions, and we don't
get people confused right now, Maddie on the People's pole today,
how do.
Speaker 2 (39:30):
You stack the cutlery portion of your dishwasher with the
let's say, with the butter knives facing the knife bit
facing up or the handle facing up.
Speaker 1 (39:40):
Okay, all right, text your answer to four four eight seven.
We will reveal the results next May.
Speaker 4 (39:47):
And PJ the podcast.
Speaker 11 (39:51):
People's Poll, the pe Pule's Poll, Everybody comes together.
Speaker 2 (39:54):
It's the People's Poll.
Speaker 1 (39:56):
Okay, pressing issue on the people's pole today. How do
you stack your cutlery and the dishwasher? That's the question.
Is it handle arp or main side up? So like
the prongs of the forks are facing up?
Speaker 2 (40:11):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (40:12):
Someone sticks in handle facing up. Someone else said, handles
down and the dishwasher and all the t spones together,
or the forks together, or the knives together, and all
the spoons together, like Meddy does. Much more organized and
easy to unpassed.
Speaker 2 (40:23):
I like the sound of this person. Someone said, handles down,
so the food gets washed down the handle? Okay, okay,
I don't yeah, I don't really know if thing why
do not get washed anyway? That would just get washed anyway? Yeah.
Speaker 1 (40:41):
Someone said everything up, that's where the extra water is
down below? Has sudds? Does that make skeet really confused
with this.
Speaker 2 (40:50):
What's what's confusing?
Speaker 1 (40:52):
So everything up? So does that mean like I think
there's prongs up? Yeah? Yeah, I'm with that texture. That
feels right to me.
Speaker 2 (41:02):
Although someone did said I had to have stitches in
my wrist from a steak knife up the wrong.
Speaker 1 (41:07):
Yeah, will stak knives shouldn't be in there, Let's be honest.
The super sharp knives. Maybe wash them in the.
Speaker 2 (41:12):
Same yeah, because otherwise they go blunt.
Speaker 1 (41:14):
There's your problem? Yes, exactly. Okay, so what is our
overall percentage of the People's polem got.
Speaker 2 (41:20):
An official result, and the official result is sixty one
percent of people said handles up, No, thirty eight percent
said handles down.
Speaker 1 (41:34):
Yeah. Just I don't. I don't actually have any reasoning
for mine. It just feels.
Speaker 2 (41:38):
Weird to me. I agree, I agree with it. I
like knowing. I like knowing that I can grab everything
out of the thing.
Speaker 1 (41:46):
And you know what you're gonna get. Made you know
what I'm gonna get, because otherwise it's a mystery. You
just see the handle and you don't.
Speaker 2 (41:51):
Know what you go and get.
Speaker 1 (41:52):
Anyway, the people of smoking thank you for the results
on the People's poll. We will return again tomorrow after three.
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The hit Strive with Meddi and PJ thanks to chemistryre
House the Real House of Fragrances that Hi, Hi, everyone
going to the podcast. I you're gonna laugh at my
dream last.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
Night, middie, Oh god, what was that?
Speaker 1 (00:17):
No, So, I know you're a big can we mention
another radio host on here? Yeah, you're a vacavi Andy.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
I am a huge podcast is Yeah.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
The podcasts are, That's true. I had a bit of
a dream last night that I was like in a
really intimate moment and I was either beck So Beck
is Andy's fiance, But in my dream, I think I
was Beck or I was Andy, and I was amidst
(00:48):
their proposal and it was like real intense. We were
steering into each other's eyes and it was like I
love you, Oh my god, I love you, and it
was so real.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
Did you did you ever meet any of either of
them when you were in Melbourne? Yes?
Speaker 1 (01:01):
I mean Andy and I DM bicker it did. We
got the same last name. But it was so weird,
and all I can put it down to is the
fact that I went down a real hole of videos.
There's this couple that I love on the Rockie and
they just had this moment last night where it's like, okay,
they're on, And then I started watching their whole relationship
(01:24):
like a video of it, like a montage. It was
so lame, and I just, I don't know. I must
have had that intense feeling as I fell asleep, and
for some reason Andy and Bick ended.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Up like remaing. Yeah, have you even witnessed like a
public proposal before? Like, have you ever seen anyone get?
Speaker 1 (01:47):
I was at a restaurant in Auckland years ago, and
I think there might have been a proposal at the table.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
Next to me. I would love I've never seen I've
never seen it, no public proposal.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
I would not want anyone to watch our propos It
was so fucking awkward.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
You wanted to redo, didn't you?
Speaker 3 (02:04):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (02:04):
I would.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
I would still love a rido even though we'd be married.
I love a reader.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Where were you?
Speaker 1 (02:10):
We were where you came to visit.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
Me and can'd ah?
Speaker 1 (02:15):
It was on that little beach.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
Yeah that's a good spot.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
Gorgeous spot like gorgeous, but you were a court wind
of it. Yeah, I was so awkward, like so like,
think of me when I'm normally awkward. Yeah, times at
my eighteen.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
I reckon was he awkward? Was he uncomfortable?
Speaker 3 (02:33):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (02:34):
Yeah, but I made it way word.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
Did he do a little speech or do no?
Speaker 1 (02:38):
No, he didn't even get done on one knee. He
just goes, will you will you? He regrets not getting
done on one knee, like it it would just win.
Speaker 4 (02:48):
It's up.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
I'm sure they often do. Proposals are like they.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
He was going to do it before I caught wend.
He was actually going to do it on the Fury
down from Wellington, and I had no idea at that point.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
I was she did how did you catch wind?
Speaker 1 (03:02):
I found like muwai in the veck say they just
reaent a couple of things. And he got really weird
about that. He's like, I got it a few mums
Christmas present. Oh no, you've ruined Christmas. I can't believe
you found what I got your mom. And he just
got with it, and then I just started clucking on
(03:22):
and and then and then I remember he was like
doing a self time a photo and I thought at
that moment, because we're gone for a walk through the
Able Testament, and I thought he was going to do
it the air because he put the self time roll
and I thought he was going to film the whole thing,
but really he was actually just trying to take a
five over. But it was weird of him to be like,
how do you do the self time? I was like, fuck,
we're on here.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
But he didn't do it at the air.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
He did it once we got back to the beach
that we were staying at and he had it heading
in like an oyster shower.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
It was quite cute.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
Yeah, it was really cute. It actually looked like a
love heart the oyster shell.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
Do you know what I just remembered. I actually filmed
out proposal, but we've never watched it. Oh my god,
you have to watch it. Oh my god, I want
to watch it. It was so I think it was
quite lat cluster, not not because it wasn't romantic. It
was just it was a very quiet proposal. Yeah, because
(04:16):
he had made me a book with all of these
memories from our five years. It was on our fifth anniversary,
so sweet, and so I just thought it was an
anniversary gift, which was beautiful in itself, Like he had
given me this book with all these photos of memories
and stuff, and I was flicking through it, and then
the very last page said, you know, because it was like,
you know, on this date, this is what happened. We
(04:37):
bought our first house together on this date, were on
a holiday togetherh blah blah brah. And then it was
like last page was and on our fifth anniversary, Ryan
asked Matt to marry him. And I know what you mean.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
That would be kind of like a we kind of
lack last video because.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
I was just reading and I was just reading the book,
and I think I was so stunned that I didn't
really give much of a reaction either.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
I think a lot of people feel that way. I was,
so I look back and they're like, oh my god,
you just get numbed.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
I was so stunned, and he didn't so he didn't
really he didn't give a speech. He didn't even say
like will you marry me or anything.
Speaker 4 (05:12):
Yeah, it was.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
Written in the book. And then I kind of just
looked at him and I was like yes, yes, oh
my god, yes. And then he forgot to even give
me the ring, like he had a ring and he
forgot to give it to me, and so such a
big moment. Yeah, I do think the video will be quiet,
like clustered, but I completely forgot that he'd even send
it to me. When you say it, I'll ask him
(05:34):
for it. I don't even know how we would get it,
but he'll. Yeah, it'll be somewhere so funny.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
Anyway, enough about our engagements. Coming up in the show today,
What do we do? Oh? We had something fun and
three o'clock we.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
Talked about kids, kids humbling you. This bloody little kid
beat me at something and it really really got to me.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
Also, group therapy, she was an intense one. But we
had some really good advice from our callers, which we enjoyed.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
And the people's poll was all about cutlery and the dishwasher.
Trust us.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
It's enjoy the podcast many and the podcast. And coming
up in the next ten minutes, we've got your chance
to pick up a double pass to go see Blink twice.
It is in cinemas this Thursday. It's got Channing Tatum
and Naami Ecki in it.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
I went and saw it last night.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
How did you get to see it when it's not
out in the movies years?
Speaker 2 (06:39):
I know people, I've got friends in high places.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
Must be nice.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
Yeah, So I got invited to the premiere of it,
and I was so it was. Yeah, it was a mate.
It was such a good movie. I went and blind.
I really didn't know anything about it. I hadn't watched
the trailer. I really hadn't read anything about it. And
the thing is, it started, it started very close to
it to when we finished the show last night. So
(07:06):
I literally as soon as we were finished at seven pm,
I took the headphones off, threw them on the ground,
ran out, then had to run back in and so
to produce us here, I can't find the keys. Where
are my keys? Because I was running so late for
this movie and my husband was already at the cinema.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
Anyway, so you're a little frizzle to start.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
That's very freshled God, neither of us are good in
these situations, are we? No?
Speaker 1 (07:32):
No, But one day we'll get the hang of it. Yeah,
one day when we're like eighty five and start geting
the hang of life, and we'll get better and we'll
be organized and we'll be on time. We'll be nailing it.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
So anyway, I raced them to the cinema and I
was messaging Ryan, my husband, saying I'm on my way,
but I will be pushing it. And he said that's cool.
I'll go in and I'll get us seats and stuff,
and I will be good to go. And here's the
thing about a movie premiere, for those who have been
fortunate enough to go, they do often give you little
(08:03):
goodies as you go in, like they might give you popcorn.
Sometimes they'll give you drinks. You might even get a
little sweet treat as well. And Ryan and I love
our movie snacks. Like obsessed with popcorn. He loves a
nut chopped top. I'm obsessed with malt teesers. So Ryan
messaged me as I was racing off there, and he said,
(08:24):
just letting you know. There's no drinks, and there's only little, tiny,
little popcorns, and we're growing boys, so we need our sustenance.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
You need a big one.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
Yeah, But I made what I what I thought was
a smart call, but I maybe was a fatal floor
and that I got to the movie theater and I thought,
I've got time to quickly get snacks. But I thought
because there were already little popcorns there, I thought, well,
Ryan and I don't need our own big popcorn, so
I'll just get one to share. And then I sat
(08:55):
down in the chair and Ryan took the popcorn, and
I said, by the way, that's for us to share.
And I got the filthiest look from my who has decided?
Who had decided that he just wanted the whole popcorn
to himself? Had he not already got some on the
way he got the tiny little one that was on
(09:16):
he did an advertizer. Fine. I know in this day
and age, like anytime you go to a restaurant, it's
always like it's top us, right, it's sharing. Yeah, these days?
Do you think was it the right thing to do?
Do you think to just buy one pop corner? Should
I have done the smart thing and got us each
one ourselves?
Speaker 1 (09:36):
Of course? On it was it free or this?
Speaker 5 (09:38):
No?
Speaker 2 (09:38):
No, I had to pay for this.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
I'd definitely share, definitely share.
Speaker 2 (09:45):
Well, we shared, but I do feel like Ryan probably
got the lion's share of it last night. Anyway, the
movie is very good. Go see it.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
It is.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
It is truly amazing.
Speaker 4 (09:56):
Maddy andj Mady and PJ the podcast.
Speaker 2 (10:01):
I want to ask a question, And the first thing
I want to do is I want to ask you
a question Peage, which is, how are you going with
your hobbies hunt this year?
Speaker 1 (10:10):
My hobbies hunt? That's right, not.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
Good, right, not good. I'm assuming it's right.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
I see it earlier in the year, I wanted, oh
my god, I feel like I've got no time at
the moment. That was so ambitious of me. I was like, oh,
maybe I could take up dancing or did we.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
Even get solicity? People some questions.
Speaker 1 (10:33):
Yeah, someone suggested I should take up tarping. Yes, role play,
what is it?
Speaker 2 (10:38):
Laughing? Laping? Live action role play, not tapping?
Speaker 1 (10:45):
Very different laughing laughing.
Speaker 2 (10:48):
You would be so good at laughing.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
Thank you. No, the hobby, the hobby hunt is on
pause at the moment.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
Well, I was not on the hunt for a new hobby.
But a couple of days ago a friend of mine
messaged me, and this was on Sunday, mind you, and
we've talked about how big my Saturday night was, so.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
Maddy was acting as Dusty Springfield.
Speaker 2 (11:10):
I was in no state to do anything a little
and take up a new hobby. But my friend messaged
me and said, I'm going to an indoor rock climbing wall.
Would you like to come?
Speaker 1 (11:23):
I can't thieve anything.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
Whose hung over. It was a terrible idea, and I
don't know what made me do it, because I was
quite happy on the couch in the trackies. But I've
been saying to Ryan that I need to put more
effort into my friends. So I said, I'm going to
pull myself off the couch and I'm going to go.
I'm going to go and do this rock climbing. So
I turned up to the rock climbing wall and I
(11:46):
get there, and have you ever been to like an
indoor rock climbing wall.
Speaker 1 (11:49):
I had an ex boyfriend who was really he was
a real elective relex and always had to do activities
like that, and I think we did go rock climbing
once or twice. It's amazing when you need to hang
of it and you feel like such a pro if
you do get this swing, but otherwise it can just
be quite awkward and like jarring.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
This was a non uh. This one didn't have you
didn't have like ropes and carabeaners and stuff. It was
all just like free hold. So the walls went very big.
So I kind of went in there and I was like,
this is so this looks so easy, like a child
can do this. And so I went up to this
wall very confidently, like oh my god, that's going to
(12:26):
take me two seconds to get to the top. How boring.
I'm just paid to come into this place and I'm hungover.
But I went and started climbing this wall and very
quickly realized a bit off, way more than I could chew.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
Really, it's one of those things that once your you're like, actually,
this requires a lot of string.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
It's so hard. And I got to like two rungs
up and then I'm hanging on this wall so pathetic,
going I can't get higher, I can't go any higher,
and so I was like, this is impossible, you can't
do this. So I got down off the wall, and
the next thing I know, this kid, who honestly would
have been about seven, just walks up to the wall
(13:06):
and literally, I reckon five seconds flat, is at the top,
touched it, jumped down, and I look like this absolute
idiot because this kid has just come along and absolutely
really done it.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
I know.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
PJ made me such a full and absolute full many
and the podcast.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
We just want to know when you got humbled by
a child.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
I was hanging off her indoor rock climbing wall, thinking
this thing is impossible to climb, and then this seven
year old kid just came and houned it up right
to the top and made me look.
Speaker 1 (13:47):
Lease be honestly, seven year old is there every day.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
He's there winning.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
Can all day day.
Speaker 2 (13:53):
But you know me very competitive dog like to lose
even to a seven.
Speaker 1 (13:57):
You cannot win them all. Okay, I wait one hundred,
he has to join the show. You can t access
for for eight seven? Donna, When did you get humbled
by a kid?
Speaker 6 (14:06):
So it wasn't me as such. I work with children,
so I get humbled all the time. It's always nice
to be put into the place.
Speaker 2 (14:15):
I'm sure it is. I'm sure it is.
Speaker 4 (14:18):
No.
Speaker 6 (14:19):
It was my ex husband years ago who was playing
Connect four against my cousin, and he was obviously quite
considerably younger than enough. And Connect four is a simple game.
You know, it's interesting and funny to watch, you know,
a cocky grown man thinking he's going to beat the
child at Connect four, but turns around he was the
one that got beaten instead.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
Oh god, and how did he take the defeat?
Speaker 7 (14:44):
I'm not too bad.
Speaker 8 (14:45):
Actually it wasn't too bad.
Speaker 1 (14:46):
It was.
Speaker 2 (14:48):
It's a funny one with those games as well, because
part of you goes, I'll take it easy on them. Yeah,
but I still I'm still going to win because and
then they end up beating you anyway, and you never
took it easy on them because they were actually really
good at it in the first place.
Speaker 1 (15:06):
We've got a double pies for you to go. Check
out the link twice in cinemas. Thanks for you call.
Speaker 7 (15:10):
Awesome, Thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (15:12):
All right, let's go to tarps after I said tarping earlier. Hello,
how are you god?
Speaker 3 (15:20):
As I'm currently suttying it work in the sun after
it's being coming down with me.
Speaker 2 (15:25):
Oh that sounds good. You love some of that? What happened?
How are you humbled?
Speaker 3 (15:31):
So my seven yard he was three at the time,
and because my partner has father works, might he might
sneak into my bed and he feels my face for comfort,
and he was running his fingers under my chin and
he looks at me and says, mom, you've got more
watch and he's being dead let him touch me?
Speaker 2 (16:00):
Oh the cheeky bugger. I mean, yeah, honesty, beautiful honesty taps,
but not necessarily what you want to hear.
Speaker 7 (16:08):
Right, definitely not.
Speaker 3 (16:10):
It brought me down a few notes in.
Speaker 1 (16:12):
Some thank you so much for me you call. We're
gonna hook you up with the double pass to got
to check up link twice Primo.
Speaker 3 (16:21):
Thank you you guys so much.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
Thanks Taps. Someone else sticks in Actually on a similar
vibe page to four for I have some crooked front teeth.
My eighteen month old niece just looked up at me
recently and goes teeth.
Speaker 1 (16:35):
Yeah, what about them? The podcast, I really try havious
not to get caught up in celebrity drama and honestly,
like life is just better focusing on your own little world.
Speaker 2 (16:51):
I agree, But then it's celebrity goss for a reason, right,
because we do all at some point get sucked into something.
Speaker 1 (17:00):
Now the juice, well, the goss that has been going
on with it ends with us. The movie. There's quite
a bit of beef going on between Blake Lively and
Justin Baldoni, and this so much coming out from both parties. Basically,
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she was apparently very controlling on set, and I would
also say that potentially some of the critical feedback she's
getting is valid where people are saying that she's sort
of downplayed the serious nature of the themes in the film,
which is domestic violence, and she sort of trivialized it
(17:41):
in a way, and a lot of people aren't happy,
so I'd say, look, that might be a fair critique,
but it has got out of control, the hate for
her in the vitriol online.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
And it just I think speaks to where we're at
in society, where pile on just gets so so brutal
and fast they almost get out of control before you
even really it's like a snowball, you know, it starts
rolling down the hill and before you know it, it's
massive and it's out of control.
Speaker 1 (18:12):
This is exactly what I was thinking. I was on
my little workout machine at home this morning and I
just had this eperphany because literally a week ago, I
was looking at comments on all of the promo that
she was doing for the movie, and everyone was like, man,
Blake is just such a natural beauty. She can do
no wrong. You know, she and Ryan are like a
couple of goals. Everything she wears is just so cool.
And now it is an absolute three sixty flip and
(18:34):
you look at the comments and there is so much
negativity on all of her posts, and it's wild how
quickly that switched. And is it, you know, is it
fear the pylon that she's had?
Speaker 2 (18:47):
I don't think so. I don't think so either. And
I feel like you have to be really careful because
all we're doing is reading these little articles that are
on things like the Daily Mail, which we all know
put out absolute crap that they have no base this
on at all, and we're taking it as gospel in fact,
and then turning it into this image of who this
(19:07):
person is, who we really don't know at the end
of the day. I just think you've got to be
really careful.
Speaker 1 (19:12):
Yeah, And I think the more you go into it,
the more it will validate your your bias, right, And
so the more if you if you if you start
going down this negative track of the stuff you read,
then you just get more and more of that. And
it's like, how do you actually decipher reality? You have
to step away and go, actually, what has she done here?
Speaker 2 (19:32):
Exactly? Come back to the railway, come back to the
real world.
Speaker 4 (19:36):
Many and PJ the podcast that's Many and PJS Group therapy.
Speaker 2 (19:44):
Poor Key and sorry can you come?
Speaker 1 (19:47):
Sorry? And it is time of a group therapy and
now don't forget. You can always get in touch with us,
and you can grab the iHeartRadio app and find the
talkback feature to voice record your dilemma for us. Don't worry.
We you can keep you anonymous, we can change your
voice up. But yeah, if there's anything going on in
your life that you need a little bit of help with,
remember a problem shared is a problem hard, and people.
Speaker 2 (20:09):
Have such good advice as well. You and I don't
usually have great advice, but other people have brilliant suggestions.
Speaker 1 (20:16):
Give it a good hot guy. We absolutely get it,
but there's better advice out there. So I want one
hundred of hats. If you'd like to weigh in on
today's problem.
Speaker 2 (20:24):
Well, i'd be interested to see your thoughts on this peege.
Someone's written in and said, hey, guys, I wanted to
reach out because I feel torn about a situation. My
mother in law and her partner want to have our
toddler to stay at theirs for a night. They feel
we don't let our daughter see them see them enough,
which in all honesty, we probably don't. But I've never
(20:46):
trusted her partner since day one, as he is always
involved in drama, is very controlling, and I don't want
my daughter caught up in that. I really want my
mother in law involved in our daughter's life, but I
feel uncomfortable letting him, letting her look after her without
being being around. Am I being irrational? Or do I
(21:07):
have legs to stand on?
Speaker 4 (21:10):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (21:10):
That's a tough one. It's so tricky when you know
when you're a child, they are your everything and you
really do fiercely protect them like nothing else. I remember
someone telling me that it is your parental right. Do
you know what I mean? It is your parental right
to decide hoodock's after your child, and you need to
feel comfortable in that situation. It is tricky because obviously
(21:32):
you want the mother in law involved, but you don't
exactly trust the partners. So can you find ways of
having the mother in.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
Law come after your daughter? Maybe?
Speaker 1 (21:44):
Yeah, possibly come to your house so then you can
control the situation. Maybe there are small windows that they
can look after your daughter, but you can kind of
still monitor. I don't know they are. It's a really
tricky one.
Speaker 2 (21:59):
I just think like has to be all about boundaries,
right in any situation, you have to be able to
put in place the boundaries that you feel will help
you feel confident and comfortable with whatever situation. And so
in this particular situation, I think you are absolutely right peach.
As a parent, you are totally within your prerogative to
(22:21):
set boundaries and really clear lines and say I would
love for the mother in law to be involved in
my child's life, but I want that to be done
separately from your living situation with your partner because I
don't trust the partner.
Speaker 1 (22:36):
Yeah, it's well, it's a really hard one to articulate,
especially when there's family members involved who you loved. You
know what I mean totally, and you don't want to
hurt their feelings. I would love to know what people
have to say on the phone.
Speaker 2 (22:46):
You people will have had experiences like this where this
exact thing has happened to them and they've had to
come up with a solution.
Speaker 4 (22:57):
Maddy and PJ. Mady and PJ the podcast that's many
mpj's group.
Speaker 1 (23:04):
Therapy already she's a doozy. Oh eight hundred the hats
to get in touch and give us your advice or
feedback on this week still my Maddy McLean recap quickly please.
Speaker 2 (23:15):
Yeah, this person's written and said, my mother in law
and her partner want to have our toddler to stay
at theirs for a night. They feel we don't let
our daughter see them enough, which in all honesty we
probably don't. But I've never trusted her partner since day one,
as he has always involved in drama. Is very controlling,
and I don't want my daughter caught up in that.
I really want my mother in law involved in our
daughter's life, but I feel uncomfortable letting her look after
(23:38):
her without being around. Am I being irrational? Or do
I have legs to.
Speaker 1 (23:42):
Stand on already? Let's go first to Tilly in Auckland.
Tell you what are your thoughts on this?
Speaker 4 (23:49):
Hey?
Speaker 8 (23:50):
Oh are you guys? By the way?
Speaker 5 (23:52):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (23:52):
Very well, thanks foray.
Speaker 8 (23:57):
My thoughts? Why does it have to be a sleep
or we cannot be somewhere in a public place. You know,
if grandma really cares so much about the grandchild she's
going to have children, want to make some time to
bed with her granddaughter and then Mom doesn't need to
bother with the issue of, you know, being alone at
home with somebody she has trust issues with. So there's
(24:18):
lots of places to go the playlands, and lots of
places that Grandma can take the child depending on the age.
So I can you know if she's so concerned, Grandma's
so confided about her not spending time with granddaughter, then
that might be an option.
Speaker 2 (24:35):
Yeah, come up with a compromise. I like that.
Speaker 1 (24:38):
Do people have message down saying that, you know, like
just go to the local park or something, just be
in a comfortable environment.
Speaker 2 (24:44):
Mond tear his text and page and see it. I've
been in a similar situation, but with my sister, we
decided to invite her to the park or the playground.
Then we can sit back and relax and watch them
play together. You get a bit of a break, but
you know your baby is safe.
Speaker 1 (24:58):
The only problem is if you get pushed back and
they say, we'll hang on one. Why can't we have
them at our place?
Speaker 2 (25:03):
Yep, but someone else's Texan said, you've just got to
be honest with her about your feelings. Trust your gut.
I agree with you, PJ One.
Speaker 1 (25:12):
All right, let's go to a non I know what
one hundred and hats you're going through a similar situation.
Speaker 9 (25:17):
Yeah, so I have a similar situation going on, and
at the end of the day, in my personal opinion,
that child safety comes first above everything else.
Speaker 7 (25:28):
Yeah, Like, they are the most precious in the world.
So yeah, if they don't like it, well that's tough
to these to them.
Speaker 10 (25:37):
You know, you can invite, say, the grandmother to come
and maybe babysit at your place, but honestly, like you're
just going to have to be honest with the grandmother
and if they don't like it, well, you know you can.
Speaker 7 (25:50):
Do day visits or park visits like other people suggested.
Speaker 1 (25:53):
Yep, how have you personally found, you know, articulating that
as the communication been quite awkward, it's very awkward.
Speaker 7 (26:00):
Definitely, Yeah, it's it's not the easiest situation, but I
find I am personally learning a lot through it and
I have found, although it might be hard, being honest
is the best thing to do, but maybe just try
and do it in a bit of a gentle way.
Speaker 1 (26:17):
Yeah, and a lot of people saying on the text
machine you've got to trust your gut instincts as a mum,
because you have them for a reason, right, and you've
got to follow them up, sending a loud sagal Well,
thank you so much for calling up and all the
best with everything.
Speaker 7 (26:32):
Thank you.
Speaker 4 (26:34):
Mary and Mary and PJ the podcast.
Speaker 1 (26:39):
Can I have some nice zen spiritual music producers? Rah
set the same?
Speaker 2 (26:46):
Oh god, that's better.
Speaker 1 (26:48):
That's better.
Speaker 2 (26:49):
So I learned something.
Speaker 1 (26:50):
I learned something very interesting today made and I actually
think you'll find this quite fascinating. So we all know
what a dejavo is, right when you feel like go
with me here.
Speaker 2 (27:01):
I feel like my eyes like they're like poised, like
ready to roll. So be careful.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
No, this is actually like quie scientific with me, so
daja vu. Obviously, it's the feeling where you feel like
you've already lived through the events that you're currently going
through and you're like, oh my god, I've been in
this moment before.
Speaker 2 (27:20):
I do know that feeling, and I do have a
semi regularly. It is a pretty weird feeling to.
Speaker 1 (27:25):
Get, so give me like when I when I get them,
I feel like I get a flurry of them, and
I oh have like so many dejavos in a row.
I just found out there is an opposite to a djavo,
and it's called a jamma vu jamaivu. It's also French words,
and it means it's the feeling you get when something
(27:47):
you are certain is familiar feels new to you. So,
for example, looking at the face of someone that you know,
but all of a sudden you don't know them, or
a musician unexpectedly using their way in a piece of music,
or even more terrifyingly, it can happen in quite serious
situations where you're driving on like a motorway right, and
(28:08):
then you you lose familiarity with the peddles and the car.
This music's quite.
Speaker 2 (28:14):
Up funny, isn't it.
Speaker 1 (28:17):
Really too?
Speaker 2 (28:21):
I feel like I'm about to get a message and like,
but have you know one.
Speaker 1 (28:25):
Of these moments before? I literally get these on ere
sometimes and I'm talking and then I'm like, I've actually
ever gotten out of talk?
Speaker 2 (28:32):
Yeah, I know exactly what you mean. It's like when
you're in your own home and you're walking through, like
you're walking through the kitchen and you're like, wait, I've
completely forgotten, like where do I put the cups? Like
where's my cutlob?
Speaker 1 (28:44):
So that's a James vous vou And they actually did
a study. In an experiment, they got ninety four students
to repeatedly write the same word, telling them that they
could stop if their hand was hurting, they were bored,
or they started to feel strange. And I found that
around seventy percent of people stopped writing because of a
feeling close to jame vu, where just all of a sudden,
(29:06):
they felt like they didn't like know what was going on.
They the word didn't make sense to them. You know
when you say a word over and over totally. We're like,
where you go for beans, beads? Beads meaning is So
that's a jamevo, which I felt quite interesting. There was
like a scientific word behind.
Speaker 2 (29:26):
Okay, I'll give you that. I would love to know
on the text machine four for eight seven if people
have had that feeling before. So there you go, get
the music off, get them.
Speaker 4 (29:38):
Mary, J, Mary and PJ the podcast.
Speaker 1 (29:43):
An earlier this hour, I was talking about how there's
an opposite word to deja vu, so we all know
what dejavau is when you feel like you've experienced this
moment before. Well, I would like to introduce the term
jahme vu, which which means the feeling you get when
something you're certain is familiar feels brand new to you
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and you're like, hang, well, what are we doing in
the middle of something? And we got you to text
into four for eighty seven. Have you experienced a jarmover?
Speaker 2 (30:12):
Someone said twice badly. Once put salt on my corn
flakes because I completely forgot where we keep the sugar.
And once when I saw my boyfriend after six months
long distance, I swear I'd forgotten his face.
Speaker 1 (30:24):
Okay, that's a hard cousarm ovo crazy. It's quite a crucial,
quite a crucial area there. I had this during an
examine per form I had to write the word work
a heap of times, and all of a sudden I
was smelling it wrong and it was really bizarre, like
such a simple word and I couldn't spell it. Oh,
there's another one. In the middle of a conversation with someone,
and while I'm actually talking, I can forget what the
(30:46):
actual conversation is about mid sentence and then have no
idea where I was actually going with what I was
talking about. Babes, that's inside my head. Everyone, Welcome to
Pj's World the podcast. What I'm about to say might
be a bit shaky. It's just dawned on me, but
(31:06):
I would love to know what people think on this. So,
my mom's about to get a new rug at home.
She's found a couple of really nice rugs that she likes.
Speaker 2 (31:15):
Yes, question, I'm just going to say there'd be some
good rug stores in the wider upper wouldn't.
Speaker 1 (31:19):
They There are a couple. There are not heaps, but
there are a few little stores, and she eyed up
two really nice ones that she liked, and then her
friend who's staying with her at the moment, said, well,
you've got to ask for a discount because they are
(31:40):
on the actual floor of the store and that's the
only one left. So surely you could ask for a
cheeky discount because it's been walked over. One thoughts comments, squeries,
is that being a little bit cheeky.
Speaker 2 (31:55):
Look, it's not in a lot of people's nature to
ask for discounts like that. But the squeaky wheel, the
squeaky wheel gets the oil.
Speaker 4 (32:04):
You know.
Speaker 2 (32:05):
And I reckon there's a point to that, and that
it's lying on the floor. People have been walking all
over it. It's not brand new, it's not in perfect condition.
So I reckon, you are probably entitled to a discount.
You probably just have to be ballsy enough to ask
for it.
Speaker 1 (32:21):
Maybe in title is not the right word, but you're right.
It can't hurt to try if you don't try, or
ever know, and then it gonna be thinking like beds,
you know, certain beds that get laid on by lots
of people. Is that a similar kind of category? Could
you be a little cheeky and ask, look, this has
actually had many people lying on them, although often they
often don't sell those ones.
Speaker 2 (32:42):
No, but I'm sure that you often do see things
where they're like this was a this was a showroom
example of a bed or a couch or whatever, and
so it's cheaper than if you buy it brand new.
Speaker 1 (32:53):
I thought we could do a service with the people
today because everyone is looking for a discount in today's
day and a absolutely you know, And so I thought
we could open up a little hotline. Oh wait, one
hundred hits or you can stand onymous in text four
for eight seven. I mean, maybe you could weigh in
more on the specific topic or other ones that we're
missing out on. Are there some really obvious discounts that
(33:16):
we are missing out on? And actually we could save a.
Speaker 2 (33:18):
Lot of money if you were bold enough to wait
until three pm on a weekday afternoon and go to
the sushi shop up the road from our work here
in Central Auckland. You can get heavily discounted sushi. You
just have it to be come out of pride, it
comes home potentially. Yeah, comes with about of vomiting at
(33:44):
the other end, but it's cheap sushi.
Speaker 4 (33:48):
Many mpja the podcast.
Speaker 1 (33:53):
Are there any secret ways that you can get a
discount or not even secret, but just ways that you know,
the everyday person may not know certain discounts that we're
entitled to.
Speaker 2 (34:02):
Your mum's looking to buy a new ragged of friends said, well,
it's been lying on the shop floor. You should definitely
be asking for a discount.
Speaker 1 (34:09):
I feel like I'm throwing them out of the bus
and it's going to be really awkward. This was playing
in the store.
Speaker 2 (34:13):
I really really off. It wasn't Someone did text into
four four eight seven and said, I don't know that
I've got the guts to do that personally, but absolutely
asked for a discount. It's the only one left and
it's on the shop floor.
Speaker 1 (34:25):
Okay, oh wait hundred and the hats we are opening
the phone lines. What are your little discount tips? Mazie
is joining us. Hi, Mazi hi hi, what advice have
you got for us?
Speaker 5 (34:39):
Well? I think that if there is like if the
wrapper or like something that if it's like the closing,
then I think that if it's just a little bit
off or a little bit open. Then I think you
should ask because someone's already tried to get into it.
Speaker 1 (34:59):
Oh amaze you reckon. You can get another one long,
another one for free.
Speaker 2 (35:05):
Or at the very least get it for a bit
cheaper as well. I like you.
Speaker 1 (35:08):
I like you thinking, Yeah, it's smart, amazing.
Speaker 2 (35:14):
She's got some ideas, you know.
Speaker 1 (35:16):
At Lea's got to Alex and Dunna's Alex. What little
discount hecks have you got for us? Oh?
Speaker 3 (35:22):
I get discounts for their birthdays from Spotlight Linkcraft. There's
a cheesecake placed on Andy Bay Road.
Speaker 4 (35:31):
Yeah anymore?
Speaker 2 (35:35):
Oh my god?
Speaker 5 (35:38):
Some of them will do you a coffee or a
cookie on it.
Speaker 2 (35:41):
Oh Alex, do you just on your birthday? Just go
whole hog. I'm getting them all. I'm taking advantage of
every single discount, and I'm loading myself up.
Speaker 1 (35:51):
Yep, no shame. I love it, thanks so much. Recalling
we've got to help coming away.
Speaker 2 (36:00):
If someone takes in and said, my workmate told me
to bring up my internet provider and sale was about
to switch, what's the best they can do? I instantly
got twenty dollars a month off my bill.
Speaker 1 (36:10):
If you don't ask, you don't know if someone else's say,
price match, great way to get discounts. There's a website
called price Spy to compete prices. All these little things
add our pay and it seems like admin, but sometimes
it is worth putting it in the effort.
Speaker 2 (36:24):
Tell your mum asked for the discount on the rugg
I reckon, go.
Speaker 1 (36:28):
Hard, mum, see what you can get.
Speaker 11 (36:30):
Many and PJ the podcast. That's the keep Pool's poll,
the People's Poll. Everybody comes together, it's the People's Poll.
Speaker 1 (36:40):
Okay, it's time for the People's Pole. We do this
on the show every day. And today's question, we're heading
to the kitchen again surprise surprise.
Speaker 2 (36:49):
Specifically to the dishwasher, which I know you don't have
one currently Peg Doe. You do your own washing, but
I know you you would have used one at some
point in time.
Speaker 1 (36:59):
Yes, lived in various places that had dishwashers. Correct.
Speaker 2 (37:04):
So this was a question that was raised by producer
Sirah and we had a bit of a debate in
within our team about what you do with the cutlery
portion of the dishwasher. Do you when you load the
dishwasher put your cutlery face up so that for example,
the sharp bit of the knife is pointing upwards or
(37:27):
do you do it so that it's facing down.
Speaker 1 (37:31):
Yeah, so you either have the handle the first thing
that you grab, like the handle part of the cutlery,
or the sharp funky bit like the fork or the
knife sharp end.
Speaker 2 (37:42):
And now that we're saying it like that, it kind
of makes sense in your head to do it so
that you reach in and get the handles. But I
do it facing upwards.
Speaker 1 (37:52):
So do I. I think it's because I have a
fear of the fort heads. It just feelsicky to put
the four kid down. Do you know what I mean,
You're just going to get trapped or something. Yeah, And
I know it doesn't make sense to grab it out
by the head, but I just it makes me feel
weird for me. Done the head first.
Speaker 2 (38:12):
The other thing for me is I really like to
make sure that every because we've got like four portions
of the cutlery can drawer, and I like to know
that the spoons are in one section, the knives are
in the other, and so if the handles are up
then you can't necessarily tell what's in there.
Speaker 1 (38:31):
That's true. Producer Cereal, would you like to plead your
case on why you're so passionate on the other one.
Speaker 10 (38:36):
Yes, okay, So I've been flatting for for many years now,
all different types of people, and I go to the
dishwasher to get like a plate or something from the
bottom ra of the dishwasher, and I get stabbed.
Speaker 2 (38:45):
You do not get stabbabbed.
Speaker 1 (38:48):
Sharp knives.
Speaker 2 (38:50):
You shouldn't be putting you sharp knives in the dishwasher anyway.
Speaker 1 (38:52):
How that to my flatmates? Yeah, okay, so sharp knives
are ruled out and stock standing.
Speaker 2 (38:57):
Okay, four prongs far enough, but you still.
Speaker 1 (39:01):
Just need to be more vigilant when.
Speaker 2 (39:03):
I just think that a dishwasher is a clean place,
So putting them down in the hold of thing is fine.
Speaker 5 (39:08):
The water's going to wash up, it'll clean it.
Speaker 1 (39:11):
It's not yucky.
Speaker 2 (39:11):
And why do you need to have, Maddie, why do
you need to have them all in their little like compartment,
because then when you're emptying up the dishwasher, you can
pick up all the all the knives and in one Okay, that's.
Speaker 1 (39:23):
Actually all right, So the official questions, and we don't
get people confused right now, Maddie on the People's pole today,
how do.
Speaker 2 (39:30):
You stack the cutlery portion of your dishwasher with the
let's say, with the butter knives facing the knife bit
facing up or the handle facing up.
Speaker 1 (39:40):
Okay, all right, text your answer to four four eight seven.
We will reveal the results next May.
Speaker 4 (39:47):
And PJ the podcast.
Speaker 11 (39:51):
People's Poll, the pe Pule's Poll, Everybody comes together.
Speaker 2 (39:54):
It's the People's Poll.
Speaker 1 (39:56):
Okay, pressing issue on the people's pole today. How do
you stack your cutlery and the dishwasher? That's the question.
Is it handle arp or main side up? So like
the prongs of the forks are facing up?
Speaker 2 (40:11):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (40:12):
Someone sticks in handle facing up. Someone else said, handles
down and the dishwasher and all the t spones together,
or the forks together, or the knives together, and all
the spoons together, like Meddy does. Much more organized and
easy to unpassed.
Speaker 2 (40:23):
I like the sound of this person. Someone said, handles down,
so the food gets washed down the handle? Okay, okay,
I don't yeah, I don't really know if thing why
do not get washed anyway? That would just get washed anyway? Yeah.
Speaker 1 (40:41):
Someone said everything up, that's where the extra water is
down below? Has sudds? Does that make skeet really confused
with this.
Speaker 2 (40:50):
What's what's confusing?
Speaker 1 (40:52):
So everything up? So does that mean like I think
there's prongs up? Yeah? Yeah, I'm with that texture. That
feels right to me.
Speaker 2 (41:02):
Although someone did said I had to have stitches in
my wrist from a steak knife up the wrong.
Speaker 1 (41:07):
Yeah, will stak knives shouldn't be in there, Let's be honest.
The super sharp knives. Maybe wash them in the.
Speaker 2 (41:12):
Same yeah, because otherwise they go blunt.
Speaker 1 (41:14):
There's your problem? Yes, exactly. Okay, so what is our
overall percentage of the People's polem got.
Speaker 2 (41:20):
An official result, and the official result is sixty one
percent of people said handles up, No, thirty eight percent
said handles down.
Speaker 1 (41:34):
Yeah. Just I don't. I don't actually have any reasoning
for mine. It just feels.
Speaker 2 (41:38):
Weird to me. I agree, I agree with it. I
like knowing. I like knowing that I can grab everything
out of the thing.
Speaker 1 (41:46):
And you know what you're gonna get. Made you know
what I'm gonna get, because otherwise it's a mystery. You
just see the handle and you don't.
Speaker 2 (41:51):
Know what you go and get.
Speaker 1 (41:52):
Anyway, the people of smoking thank you for the results
on the People's poll. We will return again tomorrow after three.
Speaker 4 (42:02):
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Speaker 2 (42:10):
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