September 10, 2024 • 41 mins
- PJ bravely asks for help... in a appliance store
- What is your wild story that no one believes!
- Group Therapy: My cousin's eloping because his parents don't approve he's gay... should I convince him to have a wedding/invite me?
- Is there something you still haven't told your parents... time to come clean!
- Matty has a bone to pick with his husband! Parents, you will feel this one!!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
The Hits Drive with medi and Pja thanks to Chemist
Wee House the Real House of Fragrances.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
Hello everyone, and welcome to the podcast. I've got a confession.
Speaker 3 (00:12):
Confess my child.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
I ever told you I was the word? You're going
to judge me?
Speaker 3 (00:17):
Oh god?
Speaker 4 (00:19):
Okay?
Speaker 5 (00:19):
Do I need to Is this like a should I have?
Like a little partition? Is if I'm you know, in
a confessional booth?
Speaker 2 (00:25):
There, No, it's not that. I've got an appointment tonight.
Speaker 4 (00:33):
To do what.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
To talk to us?
Speaker 3 (00:37):
Oh? Ship, my god.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
It's been so long. It has been so long. I
used to be a sucker. And yes, I know there's
a lot of there's a lot of con artist out there,
but this one I've talked to before.
Speaker 3 (00:53):
Who is it? What's her name? Mystic?
Speaker 2 (00:56):
The psychic Cowgirl.
Speaker 3 (00:59):
You have got to be kidding.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
She's great.
Speaker 5 (01:06):
You're taking that You're actually I.
Speaker 6 (01:11):
Was.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
This is why I didn't tell you. I was scared.
This can tell you as well.
Speaker 4 (01:18):
What why?
Speaker 2 (01:20):
Because she's good?
Speaker 7 (01:21):
No?
Speaker 3 (01:21):
But why is she called the psychic.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Cal I don't know you're gonna have You're gotta stand apart.
You know you're gonna have a whattinguishing feature?
Speaker 5 (01:29):
Seeing into the future. Isn't enough of a stand apart
feature Jesus page.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
Anyway, I wanted to see my excitement with you, and
then I was like, oh, no, you're sharing your excitement
with the wrong person. And obviously I was right.
Speaker 5 (01:46):
My eye my eye roll was strong before I started
the show. But those these eyes have been had a workout,
and I just want you.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
To know I haven't.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
I haven't done something like this in a long time.
I used to be prolifer and then I was like, actually,
I'm not getting much out of it, and actually it
can be quiet on this but tonight I just recently
really craved it because I actually feel like it's a
bit of a therapy session. Sometimes you kind of just
talk through stuff. So I'm just going to take it
with a grain of salt as I always do, you know,
like you can't actually take everything. But it's just fun
(02:20):
and it's going to be tonight once Charlie's gone.
Speaker 3 (02:21):
To be okay. A few questions. Where is the psychic
cowgirl that's on Zoom? Yeah, she's in Australia, So how
long different? How long does the session last for?
Speaker 2 (02:35):
I should actually check that. What have I paid for?
Speaker 1 (02:39):
See that forty five to nine duty, so it'll be
about forty five minutes.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
How much that's a lot of seeing she's got to do.
If she's got.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
Forty five mins, I've had way longer sessions. Nah, I
do like hour and a half forty five. That'll be
pretty quick upunctual.
Speaker 5 (02:56):
And how does it get does she? Does she sit
there and go I can I can see?
Speaker 3 (03:02):
I see?
Speaker 2 (03:03):
Don't be.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
To be fair, I haven't actually done it with her
like this before. She sent me like big voice messages
over email before that was kind of how I've received,
like she'd seen a big audio file and that was great.
But I think this will be really cool to actually
have that back and forth, you know, so it's not
just a one way straight So yeah, I'll let you
know how it.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
I wonder if she brings you up.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
I hope shed jojo of you. I hope.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
Do you want me to tell you if she tells me, tell.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
Me everything, tell me everything.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
You don't want me to refer you to her or anything?
Speaker 5 (03:41):
Well, they see what she tells you first. What does
BJ think of this?
Speaker 3 (03:46):
Your husband?
Speaker 1 (03:47):
He actually like when I go through ruts, he'd be like,
you need to do it fucking hell, I've brainwashed him.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
I don't know how he knows that.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
It just brings me joy, even though like say, I
know you gotta be careful and you don't you know,
you take things with a great seal.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
But for me, it's just a.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
Bit of fun and I always feel like I have
a bit of clarity after extra confusion.
Speaker 5 (04:11):
Hey, if that's how you want to spend your money,
then you go for gold.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
That's you.
Speaker 3 (04:19):
No judgment.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
Comes back from Rugby and mid who what's it's all about?
Act like he's too tough for it, But he's not.
He's open minded. It's over.
Speaker 5 (04:31):
It's like those boyfriends that are like, oh they're coming
and you're watching Love Island and they're like, watch this
bullshit bullshit and then they're sitting around they're like, wait, wait,
who is this and why are they doing this?
Speaker 2 (04:41):
Isn't that exactly what happened with you on?
Speaker 8 (04:43):
Right?
Speaker 3 (04:43):
Yes? With Real Housewives to Biley Hills.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
I just can't get into that. Maybe I haven't given
it a just.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
Finished it last night. That later season's good.
Speaker 1 (04:53):
That got has that got Kreshal, that's selling something, sellings
was there selling so here? So how are they different, well.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
Ones about housewives and ones about real estate.
Speaker 5 (05:08):
Yeah, so selling somes here. That's all about real estate
agents in LA trying to sell houses.
Speaker 3 (05:14):
And they have drama.
Speaker 4 (05:16):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (05:16):
Real Housewives is really just like very wealthy women fighting.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
Actually could get into it.
Speaker 3 (05:24):
It's great.
Speaker 5 (05:26):
And there's so many seasons of so like different franchises.
There's like so many different cities have their own iteration.
I only I only dabble in two three I've done
New York. Only New York is good, Salt Lake City
is very good, but Beverly Hills is topp tire. I
(05:49):
would suggest if you're going to give one of them
a go, give Beverly Hills a go.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
And Beverly Hills the same as La.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
Yeah, Beverly Hills is in LA.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
Oh yeah, he's not an l A one. This is
the Piople. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (06:03):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
If you would live in a city in America, who
you love?
Speaker 9 (06:07):
New York?
Speaker 3 (06:09):
New York. It's my favorite.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
So I love to go to New.
Speaker 5 (06:11):
York, one of my favorite cities in the world. How
many times have you been, Oh, I've actually been maybe
four four times.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
For if you eat pizza, it's just a cliche thing
I did.
Speaker 3 (06:23):
I did it cliche, ate it by the by they
the slice enough. Yeah, that's so anyway.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
Was just there's so much electric energy walking down the streets,
isn't there, And there's just always something going on huh.
Speaker 5 (06:35):
And there's coold little neighborhoods and yeah, it's awesome.
Speaker 3 (06:38):
It's it's such a great city.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
Okay, well travel chat a sign just coming up on
the podcast today, we'll had a fun show.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
Weird what happened? Oh yeah, the wild stories. You wouldn't believe.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
There were some good ones in the mix there in
the max not the total, but that's fine. Therapy was
good this week.
Speaker 5 (07:03):
We had a solid some solid suggestions for our listener
who had a bit of a dilemma that they needed
to help with.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
Yeah, you guys always come to the table with good advice.
And is this something you still haven't told your parents?
After a pretty funny story about what a guy did
in airport, all of.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
That and more. Enjoy the podcast.
Speaker 4 (07:24):
The podcast.
Speaker 1 (07:27):
Some great suggestions coming through on the Tex Machine on
how I can vary up my greeting at the beginning
of every show because I always say good.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
Afternoon, New Zealand.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
Someone he'd use a different language every time, for example,
aloha or in Italian, howdy mate, that was from Mason
and then sub player.
Speaker 3 (07:46):
No, no, you say that with confidence page.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Slayer, sup player. I don't know.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
Afternoon is just a good that we can solid.
Speaker 5 (07:56):
We'll keep working, We'll keep work shopping it. We'll come
up with a couple of different ones that you can
just rotate. We'll get a rotating basis going on.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
Okay, okay, sweet, all right. So on the weekend I
did something quite brave. I went to the hardware store,
the old local mutter Deenmigure.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
Now is this the brave thing?
Speaker 5 (08:16):
Because to me that's brave because Ryan is always the one,
that one that goes to the hardware store, So just
one in the dwar for me is a brave thing
to do.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
The brave part is that I went in without my
husband with the intention to purchase a rather like large gadget.
And the gadget was a water blaster, something which I
have been craving for so long. Our steps at home
are filthy deck there's just so many like concrete bits
(08:49):
that just look feral. So I took it.
Speaker 10 (08:51):
Upon myself to go into the hardware store and try
and weighe through the options of water blasters, something which
will surprise you.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
I don't know too much about it.
Speaker 5 (09:04):
That's over it's overwhelming because those the hardware stores are big.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
Yeah, but I must say the guy he instantly saw
me like staring into the abyss of boxes, and he goes,
can I help you? And I go, well, this is
the situation. And honestly many within a minute or two,
I was like, You've got me sign sealed and delivers.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
I've done very little research.
Speaker 3 (09:31):
You are. You're an easy target as well.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
I'm such an easy target. But I thought, bja, I
don't know. It could have gone one of two ways.
He'd either be really proud that I had taken the
initiative to.
Speaker 5 (09:42):
Go some water plaster, or he'd say you've been taken
for a ride and you've been up sold and you've
spent three hundred more bucks than you needed to.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
He said to me, please tell me that you kept
the respect, which is never.
Speaker 4 (09:58):
A good sign.
Speaker 3 (09:58):
That means there's no trust involved. There's no trust that
you were going to get it right.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
So anyway, I should have kept it inside the box.
But today I got too tended. It was like Christmas.
This box was just sitting there and I was like,
I'm going to try and work it. So I like
had this challenge that I really really wanted to work
out how to put it together because there's like all
these bits and you had to connect it to the hose.
And anyway, I did what I often do where I
start a job, I can't quite complete it, and then
(10:27):
I just leave it out valiantly so that Bejail then
see it and go and fix it himself and then
maybe start doing the water blasting on its own.
Speaker 5 (10:38):
Accord, is that one of those classic things where you're like,
if I do it badly the first time, I'm never
going to have to do it again.
Speaker 2 (10:46):
One hundred percent.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
Yeah, you plead ignorance, you act like you don't know
what to do, and then you're literally you're dismissed of any.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
Responsibility with it, Judy. So I don't know how.
Speaker 1 (10:56):
I literally just left it on our deck when I
left kind of pretty much set up, but he just
needed to fix like the nozzle.
Speaker 5 (11:03):
Well, if you were, if your husband's anything like mine,
he will love to play the hero and I beat him.
Those steps are done and dusted and home and hose
by the time you get.
Speaker 11 (11:12):
Home literally.
Speaker 4 (11:15):
Made and the podcast.
Speaker 5 (11:20):
See that I was telling you a story about how
at run Club every Sunday we have to go around
in a circle and introduce ourselves and there's always a
question that gets asked. So one week it might be
what job did you want when you're a care what's
your dream car that you would drive? And on this Sunday,
the question was tell us a fun little fact about yourself,
nothing crazy, just a fun little fact. And the person
(11:42):
that kicked it off started with one of the wildest
stories I've ever heard. He said, when I was a
baby in the maternity ward at hospital, I was kidnapped
by a couple and driven away from the hospital. The
police had to track the couple down, rescue this baby,
and bring them back to the hospital.
Speaker 4 (11:59):
It was crazy.
Speaker 5 (12:00):
I thought, you cannot start around Robin's Circle with that
as your fun facts.
Speaker 3 (12:05):
The rest of us is just going to have nothing
to say.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
Look, you can't really categorize it as a fun little fact.
It is literally a wild story that you wouldn't usually believe.
Speaker 5 (12:15):
Yeah, so we got thinking, can anyone top this is
there is there a wild story in your life that
kind of sounds unbelievable?
Speaker 3 (12:22):
But totally happened to you.
Speaker 2 (12:25):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
So we did throw this out yesterday and we got
a few texts and we've got in touch with Jenny.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
Hello, Jenny.
Speaker 9 (12:32):
Hi, guys.
Speaker 5 (12:33):
Now we know a little snippet of your story from
your text, but there's so many more follow up questions
we have, so we need you to give it to us.
We need you to tell us the story, Jenny.
Speaker 12 (12:43):
Okay, So in nineteen ninety one, I'm a backpacking English
girl with her Kiwi boyfriend traveling across Africa. We were
crossing the Sahara on a no man's land, a little
bit of across the border and some and it came
up and surrounded our truck and took us hostage. What gunpoint?
Speaker 3 (13:05):
Gunpoint?
Speaker 12 (13:06):
Yeah, yeah, at gunpoint, and yeah, we did a lot
of sort of like seeing our pants and stuff like that,
and then yeah, basically they drove us around in a ute.
They took our truck and they drove us around in
a ute for about twenty four hours and then kicked
us out in the desert sand and drove away. They
did try and get ransom money for us, but the
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governments of those countries didn't negotiate with what they called
blackmailers at the time.
Speaker 8 (13:34):
So in the end they gave up and just kicked
us out.
Speaker 12 (13:37):
But we hadn't dranken any water for twenty four hours.
And yeah, we were all pretty we're all pretty stressed out.
But it was a good story for the grandchildren.
Speaker 2 (13:46):
One day you were literally held hostage for twenty four hours.
There must have been terrifying.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
It was.
Speaker 12 (13:51):
It was really it was really scary. Now it just
seems almost fantastical. But we we all turned out afterwards.
We were all talking to each other and we've all
had my guy for the moment where we were going
to give them a right and kick the gun out
of their hands, and you know, we've all had these
thoughts and then just all they like puddings waiting to
(14:12):
hopefully note.
Speaker 3 (14:13):
I know exactly well.
Speaker 5 (14:15):
I mean, I don't know what you are, but I
could imagine in that situation I would have thought the
exact jinny wild story and terrifying. But I'm so glad
you're okay, and like you said, great story to tell.
Speaker 11 (14:30):
Yeah, it's been.
Speaker 12 (14:31):
A great I mean when you talked about that with
your friends at your club, I was like, I've done
that so many times.
Speaker 3 (14:36):
In an awkward We start off with.
Speaker 2 (14:39):
A fun little fact. It was been great, Jenny, Thanks
so much for coming on.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
You have absolutely set the bar for our topic that
we're going to open up to the calls right now.
Oh eight hundred the hats and we've got your chance
to win some hell pizza archers. What is your wildest
story that people don't believe?
Speaker 2 (15:01):
What is the wildest story that has happened to you?
Speaker 1 (15:04):
Get in touch now is your moment. It's pretty much
a run club, but live on the radio podcast talking
wild stories that people wouldn't believe have happened to you.
Speaker 3 (15:20):
I heard a guy on Sunday tell me a story
about being kidnapped when he was in the maternity as
a baby.
Speaker 5 (15:25):
He'd just been born, and this couple walked into the
hospital and kidnapped him, put him in the car and
drove away from the hospital. He made a bank.
Speaker 3 (15:33):
He was fine, but wild.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
So we've opened up at can of worms. I'll wait
one hundred that hats to join the show, or you
can text four.
Speaker 2 (15:41):
For eight seven get this.
Speaker 1 (15:43):
I'm x SAS and was shot in nineteen ninety eight.
Speaker 13 (15:47):
Bill.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
It just missed my heart deflected off my rib and
was lodged in my upper back until I had it
removed in two thousand and nine.
Speaker 3 (15:55):
That is crazy.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
Okay, let's go to Peter joining us.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
What's the doll?
Speaker 1 (16:05):
Yeah, what's the Yeah, very well, what's the wild story
that people wouldn't believe?
Speaker 8 (16:09):
Oh god, yeah, brings back a few memories this on it. Anyway,
I was a vote or got them, maybe ten years
old back in Liverpool. In London, ye, when I was
about ten years old coming I used to work in
an old cold cold factory. Yeah, in Liverpool.
Speaker 14 (16:26):
Yeah, and I was coming back from because I did
that after skill most days to you know, bit pocket money.
And anyway, some fellow drove uss and a little mini
and he and he grabbed me and I was gone.
Speaker 8 (16:38):
He kidnapped me?
Speaker 7 (16:39):
What?
Speaker 2 (16:40):
Sorry?
Speaker 9 (16:40):
What?
Speaker 3 (16:40):
And how?
Speaker 7 (16:42):
What happened?
Speaker 14 (16:42):
In and I had a big aluminum lunch box from school. Yeah,
I clubbed him over there.
Speaker 8 (16:50):
It didn't knock him out or anything.
Speaker 14 (16:52):
It didn't do any real serious damage from my initial inspection.
Speaker 8 (16:56):
But oh yeah, jump out the back.
Speaker 3 (16:59):
Of it and then got away.
Speaker 2 (17:00):
Shah, there's terrifying. I'm so glad you're okay.
Speaker 8 (17:06):
Yeah, Well I got got four kids now and last
knowing better. So I'm glad he didn't steal me.
Speaker 14 (17:11):
A gosh, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (17:18):
Right.
Speaker 2 (17:19):
Well, there we go, we hit the stand in the
air with Peter. There we go, some.
Speaker 3 (17:24):
More calls at least, keep going, keep going.
Speaker 1 (17:27):
Let's go to any and I under the hair? What's
the wild story that people don't believe?
Speaker 2 (17:31):
Mate?
Speaker 11 (17:33):
No one's tried to steal me, but I did. I
did bring a watching in one day, and I was
trying to get through the ranch doors and I had
it on like one of those closed horse things. I
put it outside on a sunny day, bringing it back
through the door, but the door hasn't open long enough.
I'm pushing and pushing and I bring it in, but
I fall over and I hit the corner of the
patio concrete.
Speaker 6 (17:50):
Bit.
Speaker 11 (17:51):
I featured the left side of my face. Look my
snap to my cheap bone in two places, fractured my
jaw about three times. I've got a metal plate my
head that holds it all together. And everybody to this
day seems to think that I got drunken, had of fight.
Speaker 1 (18:06):
Oh my god, you like no, guys, seriously, I was
just trying to get the washing.
Speaker 11 (18:09):
Inside, honest, honest, honestly, I've even had this out with
my mom every just those ranch sliders they and then
just like trying to push force it and then I
just lost balance and that's it. And everybody thinks that
I'm hiding this big story.
Speaker 3 (18:25):
Thanks thank you so much in it.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
It's just coming off the back of a kidnapping.
Speaker 3 (18:31):
It's not shot.
Speaker 2 (18:32):
I get it. I get why people wouldn't believe him.
Speaker 1 (18:36):
Do we do?
Speaker 2 (18:37):
We take one walk? He's got a warm and North Canterbury.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
Ohight hundred the hats what's the crazy story that people
don't believe?
Speaker 13 (18:48):
So it happened with my cousin died early one morning.
It was three in the morning, gathered by that the
week for a walk down the beach like I usually do,
and it was low low tide, and I looking at
the stane taking them scenery, thinking about her, and I
looked down and there was a round Rose Courts crystal
and the waves were just going over it. So I
walked right down and I packed it up and it's
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the pink round Rose Courts crystal. Nobody believes me today
that I found it at the beach. They also sing
was planted there and I found it and I'm like,
this is really precious. I went home and looked up
the meaning of it and it is to heal the
grief from a broken heart.
Speaker 1 (19:27):
Ah you, I believe you one.
Speaker 13 (19:37):
Yeah, so brings want to talk about it.
Speaker 3 (19:42):
Bless you.
Speaker 2 (19:43):
Thank you so much for joining the show.
Speaker 4 (19:45):
Well there we go.
Speaker 2 (19:46):
We had a real variety, of course, some believable, some not.
Speaker 3 (19:52):
So much, involving clothes, horse.
Speaker 15 (19:58):
Podcast, the Deep Pool's Pole, the Bee Pole's pole. Everybody
comes together. It's the People's polled and.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
We do a people's poll every day.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
We chuck it up on our Instagram story the Hats
Drive with Maddie and PJ.
Speaker 2 (20:12):
You can go vote there.
Speaker 3 (20:14):
I'm going to keep it really simple today. Peage so Au.
Speaker 5 (20:18):
Maybe about a month ago, Ryan and I were staying
at a hotel and we left our electric toothbrush at
the hotel and we never got it back. We asked them,
I don't know where it went, but they couldn't find that.
We couldn't find it. It's gone and I just haven't
got my ass into gear to actually replace the electric toothbrush.
Speaker 3 (20:35):
So we have been re We've just gone back to
the manual.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
This is what happened to me.
Speaker 1 (20:40):
I had an electric to ruthbrush, and I swear once
it got stolen when we had a house party.
Speaker 2 (20:44):
Oh I lost it. Then another time I've lost it.
I just can never.
Speaker 1 (20:48):
I don't know how I lose such a simple device,
but I do. And I too have gone back to manual.
Speaker 5 (20:53):
And I love the electric, but they are expensive and
so I haven't been bothered to actually replace it yet.
Speaker 3 (20:58):
So now I'm asking the question, what's better.
Speaker 5 (21:01):
Do I just stick with the manual or do I
need to go and replace it and get back to
the electric.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
You always do feel a bit inferior when you're on
your friends, but they're nice electric, you're manually hard, and
you're like, well, actually is the much difference? And I
dentists to advise the electric ones, but there's somebody I'm
going to go te manual.
Speaker 3 (21:17):
Something kind of cute about a manual little brush.
Speaker 5 (21:19):
Brush cute, something cute about it, like a movie moment
or something.
Speaker 1 (21:24):
Okay, so text electric or manual? That is literally this
simple question today for our people's poll, what toothbrush are
you rolling? And we'll come back and reveal the most
common result.
Speaker 4 (21:38):
Maddy and PJ. Mady and PJ the podcast.
Speaker 15 (21:43):
That's the People's Poll, the People's Poll. Everybody comes together,
it's the People's Poll.
Speaker 1 (21:49):
Every day on the show we ask a very simple
question for our people's poll, and today we've headed to
the bathroom.
Speaker 5 (21:56):
Yes, specifically the tooth brush. Do you use a manual
or an electric? It's as simple as that.
Speaker 2 (22:05):
What's interesting because I don't know.
Speaker 1 (22:07):
I always thought I was an exception when I did
the electric toothbrush because I felt like so many of
my friends to manual.
Speaker 2 (22:13):
Anyway, I'm back onto manual.
Speaker 3 (22:15):
I feel like.
Speaker 2 (22:16):
It's just easier.
Speaker 1 (22:17):
At the moment, I feel like my toothbrush would always
be low in battery, and I know that that's a
simple fix, but I don't know. There's just a number
of things you have to do for the admin and
I'm like, no manual.
Speaker 5 (22:30):
It is so the people that have said electric have
said things like, I just don't never feel like my
teeth are actually clean if I have to use.
Speaker 2 (22:39):
A manual, and yeah, it's quite good at cleaning, and.
Speaker 5 (22:43):
Saying electric is kind of elite. Someone else did say,
I use half electric, half manual. It's cheaper and it
is elite.
Speaker 1 (22:50):
How do you do oh, you mean just half the time.
I don't know half electric, sure, but.
Speaker 5 (22:54):
Guess what the the Instagram and our text pole has
manual in front sixty five to thirty five.
Speaker 2 (23:02):
Maybe well really Okay, so there you go.
Speaker 1 (23:07):
We're not rejecting the new technology with iPhones, but when
it comes to electric toothbrushes, we just want to.
Speaker 4 (23:17):
Maddy ANDPJ.
Speaker 16 (23:19):
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Group Therapy.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
In the meantime, it is time to take a collective
deep breath, put our feet up, stop the judgment, and.
Speaker 2 (23:33):
Have a listened to this week's group therapy.
Speaker 1 (23:35):
Man.
Speaker 5 (23:35):
People have such good thoughts and opinions on things as well.
It's so amazing to hear. So I'd love for you
to listen to this week's group therapy Dilemma. Someone has
written in and said, Hi, Madi and PJ, wondering if
you can ask your listeners for their thoughts.
Speaker 3 (23:49):
On my little problem.
Speaker 5 (23:50):
I've got a largish extended family with lots of aunties
and uncles and cousins dotted all around the country. Because
of the size, I'm not super close to all my cousins,
but this definitely some I have a great connection with
one of those who I'm really close with, came out
a number of years ago. Now since then, he's met
a wonderful man who he's been in a relationship with
for a while. Unfortunately, his parents, my auntie and uncle,
(24:14):
are very religious and they have not approved of him
coming out and having a same sex relationship.
Speaker 4 (24:20):
So cut to.
Speaker 5 (24:20):
Now, and I've only just found out that my cousin
has decided to elope with his partner to get married.
He's done this because his mum and dad have not approved.
But I feel really sad because that's not my opinion
at all, and I would so love to be there
to help celebrate his big day.
Speaker 3 (24:39):
So now I don't know what to do.
Speaker 5 (24:40):
Do I have to accept and honor his decision to
elope without any family there, or do I need to
stand firm and make sure he knows most fam members
of his family don't feel the same way his parents do.
Should I insist on attending my cousin's wedding?
Speaker 2 (25:00):
There's bold, there's bold.
Speaker 1 (25:02):
I would definitely say, absolutely communicate. Communicate to your cousin
that you don't feel that way, and you, you know, appreciate, respect,
completely accept the situation, and you love them, you know, unconditionally.
I don't know if you can assume you you can
just come along to the alonement, you know, because maybe
(25:22):
that is just their individual choice.
Speaker 7 (25:25):
And yeah, they put them in a pretty tricky position, yes,
except it sounds like they've made that choice to Elope,
not because you know, lots of couples Elope, and that's
their own personal decision, But it sounds like they've made
this decision purely because.
Speaker 3 (25:39):
They're worried about the way that family are going to react.
Speaker 2 (25:43):
What do you think.
Speaker 5 (25:47):
I love the idea of being pushing, and I love
the idea of someone being ballsy enough to say this
isn't the way that most of your family feel.
Speaker 3 (25:57):
And hell yeah, I want to be there to celebrate
big day.
Speaker 5 (26:01):
And you know what, that might make your cousin feel
really really good about the life decisions that they've made,
you know, and the way that that they're living their
life authentically, if they know that they have the love
and the support and the backing of their family.
Speaker 1 (26:16):
And I suppose if they have had that close relationship,
maybe that is a conversation that you can throw out
the earth.
Speaker 5 (26:23):
Yeah, that's the thing about family, right, it's I would
say it would be harder to do that with a friend,
but I feel like with family, be ballsy, go up
to them and say, I want to be at your
bloody wedding.
Speaker 1 (26:36):
But it's a winning and you know what it's like. Okay,
this is where we need the help of New Zealand.
Oh eight hundred the Hat. So maybe you've been in
a similar situation or you've got some strong thoughts on
what this.
Speaker 2 (26:48):
Person should do.
Speaker 1 (26:50):
Do you think they're entitled to go and celebrate the
cousins wedding and go and join the elopement or do
you organize you just back down and sit out of
it and let it go. I'll wait one hundred the
Hats to join the show, Maddy.
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Speaker 1 (27:13):
In the meantime, it is time to hash out a
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Speaker 2 (27:23):
Got a group therapy page.
Speaker 1 (27:24):
Well, you can tell us anonymously something that you're going through. There.
Speaker 3 (27:28):
I'll quickly recap this week's group therapy.
Speaker 5 (27:31):
Someone said, I'm super close with one of my cousins
who came out a number of years ago. Now, since then,
he's met a wonderful man who has been in a
relationship with for a while. Unfortunately, his parents, my auntie
and uncle, are really religious and they have not approved
of of him coming out and having a same sex relationship.
Cut to now, and I've only just found out that
my cousin has decided to elope with his partner to
get married because his mum and dad have not approved.
(27:53):
But I feel really sad because that's not my opinion
at all. So now I don't know what to do.
Do I have to accept and honor his decision to
alope without any family there, or do I need to
stand firm and make sure he knows most of his
family members don't feel the same way his parents do.
Should I insist on attending my cousin's wedding.
Speaker 2 (28:13):
It's an old question.
Speaker 1 (28:14):
And we're going to go to the phones now Jane
is joining us at all, right, hundred the hats Jane,
what do you think she should do?
Speaker 6 (28:20):
HI insist, no, ask so you want to totally here
that you love him, that you really would like to come,
But ultimately it's a special day up to them.
Speaker 5 (28:33):
Yeah, blessed especially that's written, but potentially a little bit
of a pushy person.
Speaker 6 (28:40):
And look, you know that's really great.
Speaker 12 (28:42):
They love their cousin and they want to be able
to support them. But Anita, let's not be a wedding.
Speaker 3 (28:48):
Yes that is true.
Speaker 2 (28:48):
Yes, that is true.
Speaker 1 (28:50):
Someone that she text in saying, no, communicate support, don't
insist on being there. Maybe organize a family party for
a later date. It's cue just quite a good idea,
really cute idea.
Speaker 2 (29:00):
Uh and Taranaki is joining us. What are your thoughts?
Speaker 9 (29:03):
Hi, guys, Hey you look, I say, talk to the cousin,
say I really want to be there to support you
and show my love and respect. But give them the option.
But let them know that there are a lot of
family that love them and support them, and they are and.
Speaker 3 (29:21):
Want to be there.
Speaker 9 (29:22):
They are.
Speaker 3 (29:22):
Yeah, yeah, that's beautiful.
Speaker 2 (29:25):
That's great advice.
Speaker 1 (29:25):
I'm just thinking you could make like a really cute
family like video and be like, hey, just want to
let you know I love you and like do like
a bigmash up, and then I love that idea, and
then maybe it's not you know, saying look, we want
to come, but just we wanted to let you know,
like and just show that support and love for them.
Speaker 5 (29:42):
I do just want to read this one text out
because lots of people have said, you know, be communicative
and supportive and blah blah blah, but this one person
did text and say, stand up, support them, crash the wedding.
Speaker 3 (29:54):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (29:56):
EMA's joining us. Oh you've got personal experience in killed her.
Speaker 3 (30:00):
Yeah I do.
Speaker 17 (30:01):
I eloped with my husband earlier this year.
Speaker 3 (30:05):
Congratulations.
Speaker 6 (30:06):
Yeah, yeah, thank you.
Speaker 15 (30:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 17 (30:07):
Actually, Meddi, we got a tax made just like you're
from the same place. Oh, thank you.
Speaker 8 (30:17):
Yeah yeah.
Speaker 17 (30:18):
But like basically our story was my parents both passed
away when I was in my twenties, and so for me,
it was like I just didn't know how the day
was going to go, and so a loping for me
felt really comfortable and safe and meant that I could
just feel whatever feelings I was feeling on the day
and knowing I'm not having one hundred people looking at
me or anything like that. And my in laws were
(30:41):
a wee bit disappointed, I think, but I think at
the end of the day, it's like it's hard to
know the most big emotional, big moments how you're going
to be and I'd say they've probably put a lot
of thought into a low things. And I totally agree
with what everyone said before. It's like you've got to
show you support.
Speaker 18 (30:58):
And I certainly had a.
Speaker 17 (30:58):
Lot of people saying, hey, we still love to be there,
even though you know, to represent your mum and dad
and things like that. But for me it was like
I just couldn't handle the pressure of it. And so
I finally understand all good to share, but also you're
going to be mindful to you. It might be one
hundred other people going really.
Speaker 5 (31:15):
Yeah, exactly, so support, support and recognize, but also actually
respect at the end of the day that this is
the couple's decision.
Speaker 3 (31:25):
Totally love that, Emma. Thank you so much for.
Speaker 2 (31:27):
Adye to in on him. Thank you so much. We're
going to sort you other little hell pizza mut Jah.
Speaker 18 (31:32):
Oh, thank you very much.
Speaker 2 (31:34):
You're more than welcome. Have you got any dilemmas for
next week? Text them through.
Speaker 4 (31:39):
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Speaker 3 (32:46):
Yeah, I think we do.
Speaker 5 (32:47):
We need we need some sense of purpose in terms
of what we should wear. The theming, the decorations, the
music we should play.
Speaker 1 (32:56):
Yeah, and there's nothing worse when you go into an
event and it's just quite vague address. We need to
lock this and son Indigo from fund has got in
touch with that. What do you think we should do
for a thing?
Speaker 19 (33:09):
Oh my gosh, Hi, we love listening to you guys.
I'm considering a career in radio because you guys are
so funny.
Speaker 3 (33:25):
Listening and we didn't even pay you didn't say this.
Speaker 19 (33:33):
Yeah, So my idea is to have a Halloween theme
or like a spooky kind of creepy, gory kind of thing.
My birthdays on Halloween.
Speaker 8 (33:42):
Okay, I'm kind of My parents.
Speaker 19 (33:45):
Said I was a treat, not a trick.
Speaker 3 (33:49):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (33:51):
Okay, all right, it's a cute early. We can get
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Speaker 3 (33:56):
Halloween's true?
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Is that true? You're calling from the hospital. Bit of
a chest in fiction?
Speaker 19 (34:01):
Yeah, I had pneumonia.
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Poor thing, and you're calling from hospital.
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And better now, I'm just going to have a chest
X ray so they can kidation.
Speaker 1 (34:13):
Of getting into Good luck and thank you so much,
thanks so much for reaching out. At least go to
el and Hamilton Al You've got a bit of a suggestion,
what do you reckon we should.
Speaker 9 (34:23):
Do killdo team?
Speaker 12 (34:24):
I was thinking black tie, op shop budget.
Speaker 3 (34:29):
The love that that's good.
Speaker 1 (34:32):
Appreciate that is good because everyone loves a dress up,
but no one likes to spend the money, like this
is one night only. We don't want to We don't
want to get ridiculous, right.
Speaker 5 (34:40):
I love the idea of people going and getting like
big eighties puffy ball gowns, old school tuxedos.
Speaker 1 (34:49):
Al you're in Hamilton, do you have a local hall
that could be a part of this?
Speaker 2 (34:54):
Can you think of what?
Speaker 9 (34:56):
Melville Hole is definitely in need of a bit of
a face.
Speaker 3 (35:00):
Okay, Melville Hall is to nominate them ol brilliant.
Speaker 1 (35:07):
All right, well, thank you so much for your suggestions.
We still haven't locked it in quite yet, but I
think that could be the closest so far.
Speaker 3 (35:14):
I like budget.
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Speaker 4 (35:21):
Is Maddy and PJ Mady and the podcast The Heads.
Speaker 5 (35:29):
Sometimes the parents, You've really got to pick your moments,
like it's almost it's almost a job is knowing when
to approach them, when to ask them for something, when
to tell them something. You know, you've got to know
that the mood is right, that you're giving them at
the right time.
Speaker 2 (35:47):
It's kind of much like with a partners, all about timing.
Speaker 3 (35:53):
Yeah, except with parents.
Speaker 5 (35:54):
It's like you just you you never want a massive
blow up and you dif we don't want that disappointed
mum or dad.
Speaker 2 (36:02):
Look, you know, disappointment is the worst.
Speaker 4 (36:05):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (36:05):
And I saw this brilliant video of a guy who
I guess thought had picked the opp tune time to
break some news to his mum. He was being sent
off on his oe and he was at the international airport,
and you know there's the point where they walk through
those big archways at the international terminal and then that's
(36:27):
through and they've got to go through security, and anyone
else left behind it you won't ever see them again.
So he was saying goodbye to his parents and his family,
and as he walked through the gates, he turned around
and he lifted up his arm and he showed his
mum his brand new tattoo, and then he turned to
(36:51):
the corner and continued on through to security. CHERI not well, peage,
not well.
Speaker 2 (37:00):
Do that?
Speaker 1 (37:00):
I actually that would be the most horrible thing because
I would have to follow up and go mom, mommy,
Okatie still let me. We got like, I gotta just
go and just hope for the best. In this situation,
I feel like there's no closure, no my mom's reaction,
except I get As someone who buries the head in
the sand on a regular basis, I kind of have
(37:23):
to appreciate the game because.
Speaker 5 (37:26):
Not only are you going through security, you're getting on
a long haul flight and you're switching your phone onto flight.
Speaker 2 (37:31):
Mind so you have a poor mother.
Speaker 5 (37:34):
You have hours hours of a window in which your
mom can't do or say anything about this broken.
Speaker 2 (37:44):
I think that's so cruel.
Speaker 1 (37:45):
She would have been already so sad that her darling
boy is going overseas like that would have been hard,
and then all of a sudden boom, just double win.
Speaker 3 (37:56):
I know.
Speaker 5 (37:56):
But my mom despise tattoos and would freak out if
I ever got a tattoo, so I can't. That would
be the only way I kind of understand it, because
I don't. I wouldn't want to suffer the consequences of
breaking the news to her that I got a tattoo.
Speaker 3 (38:15):
So get on a long wall fly and fly Away.
Speaker 2 (38:18):
Fly howardly McLean. Oh wait, a hundred the Hats.
Speaker 1 (38:23):
Is there still something that you still haven't told your parents?
You're an adult and you haven't come clean to your
mom or your dad about something that happened. Maybe it
was a long time ago, it was in high school.
They probably wouldn't even care now, But it's kind of
so much time as passed that you haven't told them.
(38:44):
Oh wait, one hundred the Hats. And I understand people
will probably want to stay anonymous, so I'll do the
old disclaimer. You can stay anonymous, but give us a call.
Waite hundred of the Hats. Is this something you still
haven't told your folks?
Speaker 2 (38:54):
What is that?
Speaker 4 (38:57):
The podcast?
Speaker 1 (39:00):
What have you still not told your parents? At the
rife old age of dot dot dot? Is this something
you still need to get off your cheest?
Speaker 4 (39:08):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (39:08):
Wite hundred the Hats. It was inspired by a story
about a guy who was hitting overseas and after he
had gone through like the what do you call that part?
Speaker 2 (39:17):
They go through the.
Speaker 5 (39:19):
Yeah, the departure's security gate at the international airport, that
is the moment he chose to tell his mum that
he'd gotten a brand new tattoo.
Speaker 1 (39:28):
Cowardly, I say, but the hats, we are opening up
the phones, Karen, what have you still not told your parents?
Speaker 20 (39:37):
So very strict parents? School was for school, nothing else.
I really wanted to go to my school ball, they
said no. I got myself addressed off trade me.
Speaker 9 (39:47):
I saw a pair of.
Speaker 20 (39:48):
Mum's heels and had a little Cinderella moment. I guess
had to be back home by twelve, and I had
the best mat of my life.
Speaker 3 (39:55):
Oh my god. And Karen, they still don't know, They.
Speaker 20 (39:59):
Still don't know. This photo was on Facebook, but I'm
pretty sure I blocked.
Speaker 2 (40:04):
I was going to say, what was the social media
of choice at time?
Speaker 1 (40:06):
Because you could get caught out so easily these days,
Like would you get tagged up on Facebook?
Speaker 2 (40:10):
And would you have to keep deleting the tags?
Speaker 6 (40:13):
Yeah?
Speaker 11 (40:14):
Well pretty much.
Speaker 20 (40:14):
Yeah, Well it's just at all times, just you know,
parents blocked.
Speaker 3 (40:18):
Check What was it?
Speaker 4 (40:20):
What?
Speaker 3 (40:20):
What excuse did you give them? What did they think
you were doing?
Speaker 9 (40:24):
Ah?
Speaker 20 (40:24):
You know, hang out with the cousins.
Speaker 1 (40:26):
Yeah, thank you so much for you going to Georgina
and now Georgina. What have you not told your parents
after all these years?
Speaker 18 (40:37):
Well, I am thirty eight and there is a bottle
of vodka in my parents like a cabinet that might
not actually be anymore?
Speaker 2 (40:48):
Is it water?
Speaker 3 (40:52):
How old do you reckon you were at the times?
Speaker 18 (40:56):
I would have been like a teenager, But I honestly
I can't even remember why me. It would be me
and my brother, and you know, I don't even know
why we.
Speaker 9 (41:04):
Ended up by that situation.
Speaker 18 (41:06):
But obviously my parents are big focker drinkers, because it's
still the Do.
Speaker 2 (41:10):
You know what you need to do?
Speaker 8 (41:11):
Though?
Speaker 1 (41:11):
I think one day you just give them a new
bottle and go, guys, it's time to come.
Speaker 3 (41:19):
Take it to your grave. Take it to your grave.
Speaker 5 (41:21):
Georgina Many in PJ the Podcast
The Hits Drive with medi and Pja thanks to Chemist
Wee House the Real House of Fragrances.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
Hello everyone, and welcome to the podcast. I've got a confession.
Speaker 3 (00:12):
Confess my child.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
I ever told you I was the word? You're going
to judge me?
Speaker 3 (00:17):
Oh god?
Speaker 4 (00:19):
Okay?
Speaker 5 (00:19):
Do I need to Is this like a should I have?
Like a little partition? Is if I'm you know, in
a confessional booth?
Speaker 2 (00:25):
There, No, it's not that. I've got an appointment tonight.
Speaker 4 (00:33):
To do what.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
To talk to us?
Speaker 3 (00:37):
Oh? Ship, my god.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
It's been so long. It has been so long. I
used to be a sucker. And yes, I know there's
a lot of there's a lot of con artist out there,
but this one I've talked to before.
Speaker 3 (00:53):
Who is it? What's her name? Mystic?
Speaker 2 (00:56):
The psychic Cowgirl.
Speaker 3 (00:59):
You have got to be kidding.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
She's great.
Speaker 5 (01:06):
You're taking that You're actually I.
Speaker 6 (01:11):
Was.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
This is why I didn't tell you. I was scared.
This can tell you as well.
Speaker 4 (01:18):
What why?
Speaker 2 (01:20):
Because she's good?
Speaker 7 (01:21):
No?
Speaker 3 (01:21):
But why is she called the psychic.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Cal I don't know you're gonna have You're gotta stand apart.
You know you're gonna have a whattinguishing feature?
Speaker 5 (01:29):
Seeing into the future. Isn't enough of a stand apart
feature Jesus page.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
Anyway, I wanted to see my excitement with you, and
then I was like, oh, no, you're sharing your excitement
with the wrong person. And obviously I was right.
Speaker 5 (01:46):
My eye my eye roll was strong before I started
the show. But those these eyes have been had a workout,
and I just want you.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
To know I haven't.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
I haven't done something like this in a long time.
I used to be prolifer and then I was like, actually,
I'm not getting much out of it, and actually it
can be quiet on this but tonight I just recently
really craved it because I actually feel like it's a
bit of a therapy session. Sometimes you kind of just
talk through stuff. So I'm just going to take it
with a grain of salt as I always do, you know,
like you can't actually take everything. But it's just fun
(02:20):
and it's going to be tonight once Charlie's gone.
Speaker 3 (02:21):
To be okay. A few questions. Where is the psychic
cowgirl that's on Zoom? Yeah, she's in Australia, So how
long different? How long does the session last for?
Speaker 2 (02:35):
I should actually check that. What have I paid for?
Speaker 1 (02:39):
See that forty five to nine duty, so it'll be
about forty five minutes.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
How much that's a lot of seeing she's got to do.
If she's got.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
Forty five mins, I've had way longer sessions. Nah, I
do like hour and a half forty five. That'll be
pretty quick upunctual.
Speaker 5 (02:56):
And how does it get does she? Does she sit
there and go I can I can see?
Speaker 3 (03:02):
I see?
Speaker 2 (03:03):
Don't be.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
To be fair, I haven't actually done it with her
like this before. She sent me like big voice messages
over email before that was kind of how I've received,
like she'd seen a big audio file and that was great.
But I think this will be really cool to actually
have that back and forth, you know, so it's not
just a one way straight So yeah, I'll let you
know how it.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
I wonder if she brings you up.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
I hope shed jojo of you. I hope.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
Do you want me to tell you if she tells me, tell.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
Me everything, tell me everything.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
You don't want me to refer you to her or anything?
Speaker 5 (03:41):
Well, they see what she tells you first. What does
BJ think of this?
Speaker 3 (03:46):
Your husband?
Speaker 1 (03:47):
He actually like when I go through ruts, he'd be like,
you need to do it fucking hell, I've brainwashed him.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
I don't know how he knows that.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
It just brings me joy, even though like say, I
know you gotta be careful and you don't you know,
you take things with a great seal.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
But for me, it's just a.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
Bit of fun and I always feel like I have
a bit of clarity after extra confusion.
Speaker 5 (04:11):
Hey, if that's how you want to spend your money,
then you go for gold.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
That's you.
Speaker 3 (04:19):
No judgment.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
Comes back from Rugby and mid who what's it's all about?
Act like he's too tough for it, But he's not.
He's open minded. It's over.
Speaker 5 (04:31):
It's like those boyfriends that are like, oh they're coming
and you're watching Love Island and they're like, watch this
bullshit bullshit and then they're sitting around they're like, wait, wait,
who is this and why are they doing this?
Speaker 2 (04:41):
Isn't that exactly what happened with you on?
Speaker 8 (04:43):
Right?
Speaker 3 (04:43):
Yes? With Real Housewives to Biley Hills.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
I just can't get into that. Maybe I haven't given
it a just.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
Finished it last night. That later season's good.
Speaker 1 (04:53):
That got has that got Kreshal, that's selling something, sellings
was there selling so here? So how are they different, well.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
Ones about housewives and ones about real estate.
Speaker 5 (05:08):
Yeah, so selling somes here. That's all about real estate
agents in LA trying to sell houses.
Speaker 3 (05:14):
And they have drama.
Speaker 4 (05:16):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (05:16):
Real Housewives is really just like very wealthy women fighting.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
Actually could get into it.
Speaker 3 (05:24):
It's great.
Speaker 5 (05:26):
And there's so many seasons of so like different franchises.
There's like so many different cities have their own iteration.
I only I only dabble in two three I've done
New York. Only New York is good, Salt Lake City
is very good, but Beverly Hills is topp tire. I
(05:49):
would suggest if you're going to give one of them
a go, give Beverly Hills a go.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
And Beverly Hills the same as La.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
Yeah, Beverly Hills is in LA.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
Oh yeah, he's not an l A one. This is
the Piople. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (06:03):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
If you would live in a city in America, who
you love?
Speaker 9 (06:07):
New York?
Speaker 3 (06:09):
New York. It's my favorite.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
So I love to go to New.
Speaker 5 (06:11):
York, one of my favorite cities in the world. How
many times have you been, Oh, I've actually been maybe
four four times.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
For if you eat pizza, it's just a cliche thing
I did.
Speaker 3 (06:23):
I did it cliche, ate it by the by they
the slice enough. Yeah, that's so anyway.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
Was just there's so much electric energy walking down the streets,
isn't there, And there's just always something going on huh.
Speaker 5 (06:35):
And there's coold little neighborhoods and yeah, it's awesome.
Speaker 3 (06:38):
It's it's such a great city.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
Okay, well travel chat a sign just coming up on
the podcast today, we'll had a fun show.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
Weird what happened? Oh yeah, the wild stories. You wouldn't believe.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
There were some good ones in the mix there in
the max not the total, but that's fine. Therapy was
good this week.
Speaker 5 (07:03):
We had a solid some solid suggestions for our listener
who had a bit of a dilemma that they needed
to help with.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
Yeah, you guys always come to the table with good advice.
And is this something you still haven't told your parents?
After a pretty funny story about what a guy did
in airport, all of.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
That and more. Enjoy the podcast.
Speaker 4 (07:24):
The podcast.
Speaker 1 (07:27):
Some great suggestions coming through on the Tex Machine on
how I can vary up my greeting at the beginning
of every show because I always say good.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
Afternoon, New Zealand.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
Someone he'd use a different language every time, for example,
aloha or in Italian, howdy mate, that was from Mason
and then sub player.
Speaker 3 (07:46):
No, no, you say that with confidence page.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Slayer, sup player. I don't know.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
Afternoon is just a good that we can solid.
Speaker 5 (07:56):
We'll keep working, We'll keep work shopping it. We'll come
up with a couple of different ones that you can
just rotate. We'll get a rotating basis going on.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
Okay, okay, sweet, all right. So on the weekend I
did something quite brave. I went to the hardware store,
the old local mutter Deenmigure.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
Now is this the brave thing?
Speaker 5 (08:16):
Because to me that's brave because Ryan is always the one,
that one that goes to the hardware store, So just
one in the dwar for me is a brave thing
to do.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
The brave part is that I went in without my
husband with the intention to purchase a rather like large gadget.
And the gadget was a water blaster, something which I
have been craving for so long. Our steps at home
are filthy deck there's just so many like concrete bits
(08:49):
that just look feral. So I took it.
Speaker 10 (08:51):
Upon myself to go into the hardware store and try
and weighe through the options of water blasters, something which
will surprise you.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
I don't know too much about it.
Speaker 5 (09:04):
That's over it's overwhelming because those the hardware stores are big.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
Yeah, but I must say the guy he instantly saw
me like staring into the abyss of boxes, and he goes,
can I help you? And I go, well, this is
the situation. And honestly many within a minute or two,
I was like, You've got me sign sealed and delivers.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
I've done very little research.
Speaker 3 (09:31):
You are. You're an easy target as well.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
I'm such an easy target. But I thought, bja, I
don't know. It could have gone one of two ways.
He'd either be really proud that I had taken the
initiative to.
Speaker 5 (09:42):
Go some water plaster, or he'd say you've been taken
for a ride and you've been up sold and you've
spent three hundred more bucks than you needed to.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
He said to me, please tell me that you kept
the respect, which is never.
Speaker 4 (09:58):
A good sign.
Speaker 3 (09:58):
That means there's no trust involved. There's no trust that
you were going to get it right.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
So anyway, I should have kept it inside the box.
But today I got too tended. It was like Christmas.
This box was just sitting there and I was like,
I'm going to try and work it. So I like
had this challenge that I really really wanted to work
out how to put it together because there's like all
these bits and you had to connect it to the hose.
And anyway, I did what I often do where I
start a job, I can't quite complete it, and then
(10:27):
I just leave it out valiantly so that Bejail then
see it and go and fix it himself and then
maybe start doing the water blasting on its own.
Speaker 5 (10:38):
Accord, is that one of those classic things where you're like,
if I do it badly the first time, I'm never
going to have to do it again.
Speaker 2 (10:46):
One hundred percent.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
Yeah, you plead ignorance, you act like you don't know
what to do, and then you're literally you're dismissed of any.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
Responsibility with it, Judy. So I don't know how.
Speaker 1 (10:56):
I literally just left it on our deck when I
left kind of pretty much set up, but he just
needed to fix like the nozzle.
Speaker 5 (11:03):
Well, if you were, if your husband's anything like mine,
he will love to play the hero and I beat him.
Those steps are done and dusted and home and hose
by the time you get.
Speaker 11 (11:12):
Home literally.
Speaker 4 (11:15):
Made and the podcast.
Speaker 5 (11:20):
See that I was telling you a story about how
at run Club every Sunday we have to go around
in a circle and introduce ourselves and there's always a
question that gets asked. So one week it might be
what job did you want when you're a care what's
your dream car that you would drive? And on this Sunday,
the question was tell us a fun little fact about yourself,
nothing crazy, just a fun little fact. And the person
(11:42):
that kicked it off started with one of the wildest
stories I've ever heard. He said, when I was a
baby in the maternity ward at hospital, I was kidnapped
by a couple and driven away from the hospital. The
police had to track the couple down, rescue this baby,
and bring them back to the hospital.
Speaker 4 (11:59):
It was crazy.
Speaker 5 (12:00):
I thought, you cannot start around Robin's Circle with that
as your fun facts.
Speaker 3 (12:05):
The rest of us is just going to have nothing
to say.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
Look, you can't really categorize it as a fun little fact.
It is literally a wild story that you wouldn't usually believe.
Speaker 5 (12:15):
Yeah, so we got thinking, can anyone top this is
there is there a wild story in your life that
kind of sounds unbelievable?
Speaker 3 (12:22):
But totally happened to you.
Speaker 2 (12:25):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
So we did throw this out yesterday and we got
a few texts and we've got in touch with Jenny.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
Hello, Jenny.
Speaker 9 (12:32):
Hi, guys.
Speaker 5 (12:33):
Now we know a little snippet of your story from
your text, but there's so many more follow up questions
we have, so we need you to give it to us.
We need you to tell us the story, Jenny.
Speaker 12 (12:43):
Okay, So in nineteen ninety one, I'm a backpacking English
girl with her Kiwi boyfriend traveling across Africa. We were
crossing the Sahara on a no man's land, a little
bit of across the border and some and it came
up and surrounded our truck and took us hostage. What gunpoint?
Speaker 3 (13:05):
Gunpoint?
Speaker 12 (13:06):
Yeah, yeah, at gunpoint, and yeah, we did a lot
of sort of like seeing our pants and stuff like that,
and then yeah, basically they drove us around in a ute.
They took our truck and they drove us around in
a ute for about twenty four hours and then kicked
us out in the desert sand and drove away. They
did try and get ransom money for us, but the
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governments of those countries didn't negotiate with what they called
blackmailers at the time.
Speaker 8 (13:34):
So in the end they gave up and just kicked
us out.
Speaker 12 (13:37):
But we hadn't dranken any water for twenty four hours.
And yeah, we were all pretty we're all pretty stressed out.
But it was a good story for the grandchildren.
Speaker 2 (13:46):
One day you were literally held hostage for twenty four hours.
There must have been terrifying.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
It was.
Speaker 12 (13:51):
It was really it was really scary. Now it just
seems almost fantastical. But we we all turned out afterwards.
We were all talking to each other and we've all
had my guy for the moment where we were going
to give them a right and kick the gun out
of their hands, and you know, we've all had these
thoughts and then just all they like puddings waiting to
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hopefully note.
Speaker 3 (14:13):
I know exactly well.
Speaker 5 (14:15):
I mean, I don't know what you are, but I
could imagine in that situation I would have thought the
exact jinny wild story and terrifying. But I'm so glad
you're okay, and like you said, great story to tell.
Speaker 11 (14:30):
Yeah, it's been.
Speaker 12 (14:31):
A great I mean when you talked about that with
your friends at your club, I was like, I've done
that so many times.
Speaker 3 (14:36):
In an awkward We start off with.
Speaker 2 (14:39):
A fun little fact. It was been great, Jenny, Thanks
so much for coming on.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
You have absolutely set the bar for our topic that
we're going to open up to the calls right now.
Oh eight hundred the hats and we've got your chance
to win some hell pizza archers. What is your wildest
story that people don't believe?
Speaker 2 (15:01):
What is the wildest story that has happened to you?
Speaker 1 (15:04):
Get in touch now is your moment. It's pretty much
a run club, but live on the radio podcast talking
wild stories that people wouldn't believe have happened to you.
Speaker 3 (15:20):
I heard a guy on Sunday tell me a story
about being kidnapped when he was in the maternity as
a baby.
Speaker 5 (15:25):
He'd just been born, and this couple walked into the
hospital and kidnapped him, put him in the car and
drove away from the hospital. He made a bank.
Speaker 3 (15:33):
He was fine, but wild.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
So we've opened up at can of worms. I'll wait
one hundred that hats to join the show, or you
can text four.
Speaker 2 (15:41):
For eight seven get this.
Speaker 1 (15:43):
I'm x SAS and was shot in nineteen ninety eight.
Speaker 13 (15:47):
Bill.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
It just missed my heart deflected off my rib and
was lodged in my upper back until I had it
removed in two thousand and nine.
Speaker 3 (15:55):
That is crazy.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
Okay, let's go to Peter joining us.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
What's the doll?
Speaker 1 (16:05):
Yeah, what's the Yeah, very well, what's the wild story
that people wouldn't believe?
Speaker 8 (16:09):
Oh god, yeah, brings back a few memories this on it. Anyway,
I was a vote or got them, maybe ten years
old back in Liverpool. In London, ye, when I was
about ten years old coming I used to work in
an old cold cold factory. Yeah, in Liverpool.
Speaker 14 (16:26):
Yeah, and I was coming back from because I did
that after skill most days to you know, bit pocket money.
And anyway, some fellow drove uss and a little mini
and he and he grabbed me and I was gone.
Speaker 8 (16:38):
He kidnapped me?
Speaker 7 (16:39):
What?
Speaker 2 (16:40):
Sorry?
Speaker 9 (16:40):
What?
Speaker 3 (16:40):
And how?
Speaker 7 (16:42):
What happened?
Speaker 14 (16:42):
In and I had a big aluminum lunch box from school. Yeah,
I clubbed him over there.
Speaker 8 (16:50):
It didn't knock him out or anything.
Speaker 14 (16:52):
It didn't do any real serious damage from my initial inspection.
Speaker 8 (16:56):
But oh yeah, jump out the back.
Speaker 3 (16:59):
Of it and then got away.
Speaker 2 (17:00):
Shah, there's terrifying. I'm so glad you're okay.
Speaker 8 (17:06):
Yeah, Well I got got four kids now and last
knowing better. So I'm glad he didn't steal me.
Speaker 14 (17:11):
A gosh, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (17:18):
Right.
Speaker 2 (17:19):
Well, there we go, we hit the stand in the
air with Peter. There we go, some.
Speaker 3 (17:24):
More calls at least, keep going, keep going.
Speaker 1 (17:27):
Let's go to any and I under the hair? What's
the wild story that people don't believe?
Speaker 2 (17:31):
Mate?
Speaker 11 (17:33):
No one's tried to steal me, but I did. I
did bring a watching in one day, and I was
trying to get through the ranch doors and I had
it on like one of those closed horse things. I
put it outside on a sunny day, bringing it back
through the door, but the door hasn't open long enough.
I'm pushing and pushing and I bring it in, but
I fall over and I hit the corner of the
patio concrete.
Speaker 6 (17:50):
Bit.
Speaker 11 (17:51):
I featured the left side of my face. Look my
snap to my cheap bone in two places, fractured my
jaw about three times. I've got a metal plate my
head that holds it all together. And everybody to this
day seems to think that I got drunken, had of fight.
Speaker 1 (18:06):
Oh my god, you like no, guys, seriously, I was
just trying to get the washing.
Speaker 11 (18:09):
Inside, honest, honest, honestly, I've even had this out with
my mom every just those ranch sliders they and then
just like trying to push force it and then I
just lost balance and that's it. And everybody thinks that
I'm hiding this big story.
Speaker 3 (18:25):
Thanks thank you so much in it.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
It's just coming off the back of a kidnapping.
Speaker 3 (18:31):
It's not shot.
Speaker 2 (18:32):
I get it. I get why people wouldn't believe him.
Speaker 1 (18:36):
Do we do?
Speaker 2 (18:37):
We take one walk? He's got a warm and North Canterbury.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
Ohight hundred the hats what's the crazy story that people
don't believe?
Speaker 13 (18:48):
So it happened with my cousin died early one morning.
It was three in the morning, gathered by that the
week for a walk down the beach like I usually do,
and it was low low tide, and I looking at
the stane taking them scenery, thinking about her, and I
looked down and there was a round Rose Courts crystal
and the waves were just going over it. So I
walked right down and I packed it up and it's
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the pink round Rose Courts crystal. Nobody believes me today
that I found it at the beach. They also sing
was planted there and I found it and I'm like,
this is really precious. I went home and looked up
the meaning of it and it is to heal the
grief from a broken heart.
Speaker 1 (19:27):
Ah you, I believe you one.
Speaker 13 (19:37):
Yeah, so brings want to talk about it.
Speaker 3 (19:42):
Bless you.
Speaker 2 (19:43):
Thank you so much for joining the show.
Speaker 4 (19:45):
Well there we go.
Speaker 2 (19:46):
We had a real variety, of course, some believable, some not.
Speaker 3 (19:52):
So much, involving clothes, horse.
Speaker 15 (19:58):
Podcast, the Deep Pool's Pole, the Bee Pole's pole. Everybody
comes together. It's the People's polled and.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
We do a people's poll every day.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
We chuck it up on our Instagram story the Hats
Drive with Maddie and PJ.
Speaker 2 (20:12):
You can go vote there.
Speaker 3 (20:14):
I'm going to keep it really simple today. Peage so Au.
Speaker 5 (20:18):
Maybe about a month ago, Ryan and I were staying
at a hotel and we left our electric toothbrush at
the hotel and we never got it back. We asked them,
I don't know where it went, but they couldn't find that.
We couldn't find it. It's gone and I just haven't
got my ass into gear to actually replace the electric toothbrush.
Speaker 3 (20:35):
So we have been re We've just gone back to
the manual.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
This is what happened to me.
Speaker 1 (20:40):
I had an electric to ruthbrush, and I swear once
it got stolen when we had a house party.
Speaker 2 (20:44):
Oh I lost it. Then another time I've lost it.
I just can never.
Speaker 1 (20:48):
I don't know how I lose such a simple device,
but I do. And I too have gone back to manual.
Speaker 5 (20:53):
And I love the electric, but they are expensive and
so I haven't been bothered to actually replace it yet.
Speaker 3 (20:58):
So now I'm asking the question, what's better.
Speaker 5 (21:01):
Do I just stick with the manual or do I
need to go and replace it and get back to
the electric.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
You always do feel a bit inferior when you're on
your friends, but they're nice electric, you're manually hard, and
you're like, well, actually is the much difference? And I
dentists to advise the electric ones, but there's somebody I'm
going to go te manual.
Speaker 3 (21:17):
Something kind of cute about a manual little brush.
Speaker 5 (21:19):
Brush cute, something cute about it, like a movie moment
or something.
Speaker 1 (21:24):
Okay, so text electric or manual? That is literally this
simple question today for our people's poll, what toothbrush are
you rolling? And we'll come back and reveal the most
common result.
Speaker 4 (21:38):
Maddy and PJ. Mady and PJ the podcast.
Speaker 15 (21:43):
That's the People's Poll, the People's Poll. Everybody comes together,
it's the People's Poll.
Speaker 1 (21:49):
Every day on the show we ask a very simple
question for our people's poll, and today we've headed to
the bathroom.
Speaker 5 (21:56):
Yes, specifically the tooth brush. Do you use a manual
or an electric? It's as simple as that.
Speaker 2 (22:05):
What's interesting because I don't know.
Speaker 1 (22:07):
I always thought I was an exception when I did
the electric toothbrush because I felt like so many of
my friends to manual.
Speaker 2 (22:13):
Anyway, I'm back onto manual.
Speaker 3 (22:15):
I feel like.
Speaker 2 (22:16):
It's just easier.
Speaker 1 (22:17):
At the moment, I feel like my toothbrush would always
be low in battery, and I know that that's a
simple fix, but I don't know. There's just a number
of things you have to do for the admin and
I'm like, no manual.
Speaker 5 (22:30):
It is so the people that have said electric have
said things like, I just don't never feel like my
teeth are actually clean if I have to use.
Speaker 2 (22:39):
A manual, and yeah, it's quite good at cleaning, and.
Speaker 5 (22:43):
Saying electric is kind of elite. Someone else did say,
I use half electric, half manual. It's cheaper and it
is elite.
Speaker 1 (22:50):
How do you do oh, you mean just half the time.
I don't know half electric, sure, but.
Speaker 5 (22:54):
Guess what the the Instagram and our text pole has
manual in front sixty five to thirty five.
Speaker 2 (23:02):
Maybe well really Okay, so there you go.
Speaker 1 (23:07):
We're not rejecting the new technology with iPhones, but when
it comes to electric toothbrushes, we just want to.
Speaker 4 (23:17):
Maddy ANDPJ.
Speaker 16 (23:19):
Mady and PJ the podcast The Heads Many and PJS
Group Therapy.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
In the meantime, it is time to take a collective
deep breath, put our feet up, stop the judgment, and.
Speaker 2 (23:33):
Have a listened to this week's group therapy.
Speaker 1 (23:35):
Man.
Speaker 5 (23:35):
People have such good thoughts and opinions on things as well.
It's so amazing to hear. So I'd love for you
to listen to this week's group therapy Dilemma. Someone has
written in and said, Hi, Madi and PJ, wondering if
you can ask your listeners for their thoughts.
Speaker 3 (23:49):
On my little problem.
Speaker 5 (23:50):
I've got a largish extended family with lots of aunties
and uncles and cousins dotted all around the country. Because
of the size, I'm not super close to all my cousins,
but this definitely some I have a great connection with
one of those who I'm really close with, came out
a number of years ago. Now since then, he's met
a wonderful man who he's been in a relationship with
for a while. Unfortunately, his parents, my auntie and uncle,
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are very religious and they have not approved of him
coming out and having a same sex relationship.
Speaker 4 (24:20):
So cut to.
Speaker 5 (24:20):
Now, and I've only just found out that my cousin
has decided to elope with his partner to get married.
He's done this because his mum and dad have not approved.
But I feel really sad because that's not my opinion
at all, and I would so love to be there
to help celebrate his big day.
Speaker 3 (24:39):
So now I don't know what to do.
Speaker 5 (24:40):
Do I have to accept and honor his decision to
elope without any family there, or do I need to
stand firm and make sure he knows most fam members
of his family don't feel the same way his parents do.
Should I insist on attending my cousin's wedding?
Speaker 2 (25:00):
There's bold, there's bold.
Speaker 1 (25:02):
I would definitely say, absolutely communicate. Communicate to your cousin
that you don't feel that way, and you, you know, appreciate, respect,
completely accept the situation, and you love them, you know, unconditionally.
I don't know if you can assume you you can
just come along to the alonement, you know, because maybe
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that is just their individual choice.
Speaker 7 (25:25):
And yeah, they put them in a pretty tricky position, yes,
except it sounds like they've made that choice to Elope,
not because you know, lots of couples Elope, and that's
their own personal decision, But it sounds like they've made
this decision purely because.
Speaker 3 (25:39):
They're worried about the way that family are going to react.
Speaker 2 (25:43):
What do you think.
Speaker 5 (25:47):
I love the idea of being pushing, and I love
the idea of someone being ballsy enough to say this
isn't the way that most of your family feel.
Speaker 3 (25:57):
And hell yeah, I want to be there to celebrate
big day.
Speaker 5 (26:01):
And you know what, that might make your cousin feel
really really good about the life decisions that they've made,
you know, and the way that that they're living their
life authentically, if they know that they have the love
and the support and the backing of their family.
Speaker 1 (26:16):
And I suppose if they have had that close relationship,
maybe that is a conversation that you can throw out
the earth.
Speaker 5 (26:23):
Yeah, that's the thing about family, right, it's I would
say it would be harder to do that with a friend,
but I feel like with family, be ballsy, go up
to them and say, I want to be at your
bloody wedding.
Speaker 1 (26:36):
But it's a winning and you know what it's like. Okay,
this is where we need the help of New Zealand.
Oh eight hundred the Hat. So maybe you've been in
a similar situation or you've got some strong thoughts on
what this.
Speaker 2 (26:48):
Person should do.
Speaker 1 (26:50):
Do you think they're entitled to go and celebrate the
cousins wedding and go and join the elopement or do
you organize you just back down and sit out of
it and let it go. I'll wait one hundred the
Hats to join the show, Maddy.
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Speaker 1 (27:13):
In the meantime, it is time to hash out a
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Speaker 2 (27:23):
Got a group therapy page.
Speaker 1 (27:24):
Well, you can tell us anonymously something that you're going through. There.
Speaker 3 (27:28):
I'll quickly recap this week's group therapy.
Speaker 5 (27:31):
Someone said, I'm super close with one of my cousins
who came out a number of years ago. Now, since then,
he's met a wonderful man who has been in a
relationship with for a while. Unfortunately, his parents, my auntie
and uncle, are really religious and they have not approved
of of him coming out and having a same sex relationship.
Cut to now, and I've only just found out that
my cousin has decided to elope with his partner to
get married because his mum and dad have not approved.
(27:53):
But I feel really sad because that's not my opinion
at all. So now I don't know what to do.
Do I have to accept and honor his decision to
alope without any family there, or do I need to
stand firm and make sure he knows most of his
family members don't feel the same way his parents do.
Should I insist on attending my cousin's wedding.
Speaker 2 (28:13):
It's an old question.
Speaker 1 (28:14):
And we're going to go to the phones now Jane
is joining us at all, right, hundred the hats Jane,
what do you think she should do?
Speaker 6 (28:20):
HI insist, no, ask so you want to totally here
that you love him, that you really would like to come,
But ultimately it's a special day up to them.
Speaker 5 (28:33):
Yeah, blessed especially that's written, but potentially a little bit
of a pushy person.
Speaker 6 (28:40):
And look, you know that's really great.
Speaker 12 (28:42):
They love their cousin and they want to be able
to support them. But Anita, let's not be a wedding.
Speaker 3 (28:48):
Yes that is true.
Speaker 2 (28:48):
Yes, that is true.
Speaker 1 (28:50):
Someone that she text in saying, no, communicate support, don't
insist on being there. Maybe organize a family party for
a later date. It's cue just quite a good idea,
really cute idea.
Speaker 2 (29:00):
Uh and Taranaki is joining us. What are your thoughts?
Speaker 9 (29:03):
Hi, guys, Hey you look, I say, talk to the cousin,
say I really want to be there to support you
and show my love and respect. But give them the option.
But let them know that there are a lot of
family that love them and support them, and they are and.
Speaker 3 (29:21):
Want to be there.
Speaker 9 (29:22):
They are.
Speaker 3 (29:22):
Yeah, yeah, that's beautiful.
Speaker 2 (29:25):
That's great advice.
Speaker 1 (29:25):
I'm just thinking you could make like a really cute
family like video and be like, hey, just want to
let you know I love you and like do like
a bigmash up, and then I love that idea, and
then maybe it's not you know, saying look, we want
to come, but just we wanted to let you know,
like and just show that support and love for them.
Speaker 5 (29:42):
I do just want to read this one text out
because lots of people have said, you know, be communicative
and supportive and blah blah blah, but this one person
did text and say, stand up, support them, crash the wedding.
Speaker 3 (29:54):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (29:56):
EMA's joining us. Oh you've got personal experience in killed her.
Speaker 3 (30:00):
Yeah I do.
Speaker 17 (30:01):
I eloped with my husband earlier this year.
Speaker 3 (30:05):
Congratulations.
Speaker 6 (30:06):
Yeah, yeah, thank you.
Speaker 15 (30:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 17 (30:07):
Actually, Meddi, we got a tax made just like you're
from the same place. Oh, thank you.
Speaker 8 (30:17):
Yeah yeah.
Speaker 17 (30:18):
But like basically our story was my parents both passed
away when I was in my twenties, and so for me,
it was like I just didn't know how the day
was going to go, and so a loping for me
felt really comfortable and safe and meant that I could
just feel whatever feelings I was feeling on the day
and knowing I'm not having one hundred people looking at
me or anything like that. And my in laws were
(30:41):
a wee bit disappointed, I think, but I think at
the end of the day, it's like it's hard to
know the most big emotional, big moments how you're going
to be and I'd say they've probably put a lot
of thought into a low things. And I totally agree
with what everyone said before. It's like you've got to
show you support.
Speaker 18 (30:58):
And I certainly had a.
Speaker 17 (30:58):
Lot of people saying, hey, we still love to be there,
even though you know, to represent your mum and dad
and things like that. But for me it was like
I just couldn't handle the pressure of it. And so
I finally understand all good to share, but also you're
going to be mindful to you. It might be one
hundred other people going really.
Speaker 5 (31:15):
Yeah, exactly, so support, support and recognize, but also actually
respect at the end of the day that this is
the couple's decision.
Speaker 3 (31:25):
Totally love that, Emma. Thank you so much for.
Speaker 2 (31:27):
Adye to in on him. Thank you so much. We're
going to sort you other little hell pizza mut Jah.
Speaker 18 (31:32):
Oh, thank you very much.
Speaker 2 (31:34):
You're more than welcome. Have you got any dilemmas for
next week? Text them through.
Speaker 4 (31:39):
Maddy and PJ.
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there is still something we need to settle and that
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Speaker 3 (32:46):
Yeah, I think we do.
Speaker 5 (32:47):
We need we need some sense of purpose in terms
of what we should wear. The theming, the decorations, the
music we should play.
Speaker 1 (32:56):
Yeah, and there's nothing worse when you go into an
event and it's just quite vague address. We need to
lock this and son Indigo from fund has got in
touch with that. What do you think we should do
for a thing?
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I'm considering a career in radio because you guys are
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Listening and we didn't even pay you didn't say this.
Speaker 19 (33:33):
Yeah, So my idea is to have a Halloween theme
or like a spooky kind of creepy, gory kind of thing.
My birthdays on Halloween.
Speaker 8 (33:42):
Okay, I'm kind of My parents.
Speaker 19 (33:45):
Said I was a treat, not a trick.
Speaker 3 (33:49):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (33:51):
Okay, all right, it's a cute early. We can get
in before everyone else downs.
Speaker 3 (33:56):
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Is that true? You're calling from the hospital. Bit of
a chest in fiction?
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Poor thing, and you're calling from hospital.
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And better now, I'm just going to have a chest
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Of getting into Good luck and thank you so much,
thanks so much for reaching out. At least go to
el and Hamilton Al You've got a bit of a suggestion,
what do you reckon we should.
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Do killdo team?
Speaker 12 (34:24):
I was thinking black tie, op shop budget.
Speaker 3 (34:29):
The love that that's good.
Speaker 1 (34:32):
Appreciate that is good because everyone loves a dress up,
but no one likes to spend the money, like this
is one night only. We don't want to We don't
want to get ridiculous, right.
Speaker 5 (34:40):
I love the idea of people going and getting like
big eighties puffy ball gowns, old school tuxedos.
Speaker 1 (34:49):
Al you're in Hamilton, do you have a local hall
that could be a part of this?
Speaker 2 (34:54):
Can you think of what?
Speaker 9 (34:56):
Melville Hole is definitely in need of a bit of
a face.
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All right, well, thank you so much for your suggestions.
We still haven't locked it in quite yet, but I
think that could be the closest so far.
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I like budget.
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Speaker 4 (35:21):
Is Maddy and PJ Mady and the podcast The Heads.
Speaker 5 (35:29):
Sometimes the parents, You've really got to pick your moments,
like it's almost it's almost a job is knowing when
to approach them, when to ask them for something, when
to tell them something. You know, you've got to know
that the mood is right, that you're giving them at
the right time.
Speaker 2 (35:47):
It's kind of much like with a partners, all about timing.
Speaker 3 (35:53):
Yeah, except with parents.
Speaker 5 (35:54):
It's like you just you you never want a massive
blow up and you dif we don't want that disappointed
mum or dad.
Speaker 2 (36:02):
Look, you know, disappointment is the worst.
Speaker 4 (36:05):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (36:05):
And I saw this brilliant video of a guy who
I guess thought had picked the opp tune time to
break some news to his mum. He was being sent
off on his oe and he was at the international airport,
and you know there's the point where they walk through
those big archways at the international terminal and then that's
(36:27):
through and they've got to go through security, and anyone
else left behind it you won't ever see them again.
So he was saying goodbye to his parents and his family,
and as he walked through the gates, he turned around
and he lifted up his arm and he showed his
mum his brand new tattoo, and then he turned to
(36:51):
the corner and continued on through to security. CHERI not well, peage,
not well.
Speaker 2 (37:00):
Do that?
Speaker 1 (37:00):
I actually that would be the most horrible thing because
I would have to follow up and go mom, mommy,
Okatie still let me. We got like, I gotta just
go and just hope for the best. In this situation,
I feel like there's no closure, no my mom's reaction,
except I get As someone who buries the head in
the sand on a regular basis, I kind of have
(37:23):
to appreciate the game because.
Speaker 5 (37:26):
Not only are you going through security, you're getting on
a long haul flight and you're switching your phone onto flight.
Speaker 2 (37:31):
Mind so you have a poor mother.
Speaker 5 (37:34):
You have hours hours of a window in which your
mom can't do or say anything about this broken.
Speaker 2 (37:44):
I think that's so cruel.
Speaker 1 (37:45):
She would have been already so sad that her darling
boy is going overseas like that would have been hard,
and then all of a sudden boom, just double win.
Speaker 3 (37:56):
I know.
Speaker 5 (37:56):
But my mom despise tattoos and would freak out if
I ever got a tattoo, so I can't. That would
be the only way I kind of understand it, because
I don't. I wouldn't want to suffer the consequences of
breaking the news to her that I got a tattoo.
Speaker 3 (38:15):
So get on a long wall fly and fly Away.
Speaker 2 (38:18):
Fly howardly McLean. Oh wait, a hundred the Hats.
Speaker 1 (38:23):
Is there still something that you still haven't told your parents?
You're an adult and you haven't come clean to your
mom or your dad about something that happened. Maybe it
was a long time ago, it was in high school.
They probably wouldn't even care now, But it's kind of
so much time as passed that you haven't told them.
(38:44):
Oh wait, one hundred the Hats. And I understand people
will probably want to stay anonymous, so I'll do the
old disclaimer. You can stay anonymous, but give us a call.
Waite hundred of the Hats. Is this something you still
haven't told your folks?
Speaker 2 (38:54):
What is that?
Speaker 4 (38:57):
The podcast?
Speaker 1 (39:00):
What have you still not told your parents? At the
rife old age of dot dot dot? Is this something
you still need to get off your cheest?
Speaker 4 (39:08):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (39:08):
Wite hundred the Hats. It was inspired by a story
about a guy who was hitting overseas and after he
had gone through like the what do you call that part?
Speaker 2 (39:17):
They go through the.
Speaker 5 (39:19):
Yeah, the departure's security gate at the international airport, that
is the moment he chose to tell his mum that
he'd gotten a brand new tattoo.
Speaker 1 (39:28):
Cowardly, I say, but the hats, we are opening up
the phones, Karen, what have you still not told your parents?
Speaker 20 (39:37):
So very strict parents? School was for school, nothing else.
I really wanted to go to my school ball, they
said no. I got myself addressed off trade me.
Speaker 9 (39:47):
I saw a pair of.
Speaker 20 (39:48):
Mum's heels and had a little Cinderella moment. I guess
had to be back home by twelve, and I had
the best mat of my life.
Speaker 3 (39:55):
Oh my god. And Karen, they still don't know, They.
Speaker 20 (39:59):
Still don't know. This photo was on Facebook, but I'm
pretty sure I blocked.
Speaker 2 (40:04):
I was going to say, what was the social media
of choice at time?
Speaker 1 (40:06):
Because you could get caught out so easily these days,
Like would you get tagged up on Facebook?
Speaker 2 (40:10):
And would you have to keep deleting the tags?
Speaker 6 (40:13):
Yeah?
Speaker 11 (40:14):
Well pretty much.
Speaker 20 (40:14):
Yeah, Well it's just at all times, just you know,
parents blocked.
Speaker 3 (40:18):
Check What was it?
Speaker 4 (40:20):
What?
Speaker 3 (40:20):
What excuse did you give them? What did they think
you were doing?
Speaker 9 (40:24):
Ah?
Speaker 20 (40:24):
You know, hang out with the cousins.
Speaker 1 (40:26):
Yeah, thank you so much for you going to Georgina
and now Georgina. What have you not told your parents
after all these years?
Speaker 18 (40:37):
Well, I am thirty eight and there is a bottle
of vodka in my parents like a cabinet that might
not actually be anymore?
Speaker 2 (40:48):
Is it water?
Speaker 3 (40:52):
How old do you reckon you were at the times?
Speaker 18 (40:56):
I would have been like a teenager, But I honestly
I can't even remember why me. It would be me
and my brother, and you know, I don't even know
why we.
Speaker 9 (41:04):
Ended up by that situation.
Speaker 18 (41:06):
But obviously my parents are big focker drinkers, because it's
still the Do.
Speaker 2 (41:10):
You know what you need to do?
Speaker 8 (41:11):
Though?
Speaker 1 (41:11):
I think one day you just give them a new
bottle and go, guys, it's time to come.
Speaker 3 (41:19):
Take it to your grave. Take it to your grave.
Speaker 5 (41:21):
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