September 17, 2024 • 40 mins
- PJ had an awkward store encounter
- We talk to Carlena who nominated Te Mata for the Hall Ball!
- Group Therapy: Moving for someone you've just started dating?
- A psychic medium joins the show to decipher Matty's doodles
- PJ said the worst thing she could say to her father-in-law about his work
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
The Hits Drive with Meddi and PJ.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Thanks to chimis Wee House the Real House of Fragrances
on that.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
Hi, Welcome to the podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
I haven't done a dream update in a while, and
I've got to tell you a fucking wax dream that
I had two nights ago. I had a sixty dream
about Adam's Sandler. I know, I know, I know, and
it was like I was really dream.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
I like it.
Speaker 3 (00:28):
I like him. I like him as a he's a
good actor. He's got funny movies out there.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
Yeah yeah, but not on the bed as.
Speaker 3 (00:35):
A sick symbol and a dream.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
He's got two I think it's two daughters and a wife,
and he's really he speaks so sweetly about them. This
is a really random way to start the podcast.
Speaker 3 (00:50):
Do you know what it is?
Speaker 2 (00:51):
To me?
Speaker 3 (00:51):
Though? Has has dressed since his appalling with the.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
Hoodie, and it just looks like he's rolling out of you.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
But I like that.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
No, I reckon, it's kind of cool. It's just like
Hollywood screw out. I don't care. I'm just every day man,
you know.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
Okay, I'm gonna send your photo and maybe we'll put
this stuff on our maybe'll put this stuff on our
hits drive Instagram page. Is this the Adam Sandler that
you found sexy in your dream?
Speaker 2 (01:22):
Oh my god, here we go. Hang on, come on,
come on through, I have sent it, you know how
like some of the really sexy sleibs can get away
with like oh, like I saw bred Pet was wearing
crazy pants the other day and everyone's like, this is
the new trend. But I love when Adam Sandler with
(01:44):
a pink shirt and a pink orange trucky hat. It's
just something sexy about it.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
Here he is appearing in your dreams page.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
I don't know where that came from. My subconscious has
so much to answer for.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
What else is going on? Okay? Now that the Hen's
party's done.
Speaker 3 (02:05):
Well, I've we've we went to have a shower last
night before we got into bed and realized that we've
got a bloody blocked drain. And yeah, part of me
was like, is this could can you fix this kind
of stuff yourself?
Speaker 2 (02:20):
Yeah? I know you can, but you can't. You just can't.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
No, I know, I definitely couldn't.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
And I saw your message of defeat on your Instagram
story this morning, going, do I know any plumbers out there.
Speaker 3 (02:33):
Yeah, someone's coming from someone, A guy is coming around
tomorrow to fix it, because the showers just.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
Not What do you do when they come around though,
that's the funny. But you pretend like, yeah, you chat
through it, or you just go and sit down in
the lounge by yourself.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
Yeah, but like you oh yeah, you know, I just
I thought you'd use I thought you'd use that wrench.
Speaker 2 (02:50):
Yeah, like do you kind of like narrate and commentate
through it? And government of a company and you go, hey,
do you want a cup of day or do you reckon?
You just fucking like pass off, sit in another road.
Speaker 3 (02:59):
I think a little introduction in then leave and then
I'll I'm just gonna leave you to it or in
any issues just let me know.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
But use the bathroom on the way.
Speaker 3 (03:06):
He's weeah bathroom you just can't flush at the moment.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Yeah, so don't do that. You should offer him a
cup of tea. You maybe make him a sandwich or something.
A sandwich, Nah, that's too much. You don't do that,
but offer a cup of tea.
Speaker 3 (03:19):
Definitely offer him a cup of tea or coffee.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
I can make here coffee, coffee, or a biscuit. Would
you lead him into your biscuits stash all that.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
Yeah, I'll give him a ginger nut. We've got a
ginger we got ginger nuts in the house. I'd give
him a ginger nut.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
You can't have a ginger out without the tea the
way or else breaks your tooth.
Speaker 3 (03:37):
No, I love a ginger out without the tea.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
Do you?
Speaker 2 (03:40):
I'm always I want to break your tooth.
Speaker 3 (03:43):
Ginger nuts are one of these things where, for some reason,
it feels it does healthy. It feels healthy that well
because it's.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
Got ginger ton of sugar. Yeah, I know what you mean.
I know what you mean. It's just in this fruit
or like, yeah, something in it. Talk like now, guys,
I'm giving my funk plus a day.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
My god, I bought a block of chocolate on the
way home last nighters. Block. We ate the whole thing
last night.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
That's that's no, it's not standard, but it's who did
most of the damage.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
Very half and half. I would say, split right.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
Down, and what was your weapon of choice?
Speaker 3 (04:23):
Like what flavor did we go for? Yeah, the coconut
rough bar.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
That's not what I usually go for, but it's quite delicious.
Speaker 3 (04:30):
Actually, it's really good. What's your what you go to?
Speaker 2 (04:33):
It's always the caramel one, the caramels about like times.
Someone even ticks an the other day saying I need
to be in anyway.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
We're rambling about food again. It was a serious problem.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
Always I'll go to it's either what's for dinner? What's
that takeaways?
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Because we record this after the show when we're particularly
susceptible to hunger. You know, yeah, I know, it's only human.
Speaker 3 (04:59):
I know.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
What are you having?
Speaker 3 (05:03):
It's like a it's porkmant's noodle dish with some VG's Yeah, okay.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
Coming up with the podcast today, we talk about optimists
and pessimists existing to get it in a relationship.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
Maddy has a theory and we put it to the test.
Speaker 3 (05:22):
Group therapy was really interesting, talking about would you move
cities for a potential relationship that's very very fresh m hmm.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
It was quite a sweet resolution to I feel like
we've got some lovely advice. And we talked about the
worst things that people say to you and your job
or annoying questions that always get sent your way.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
So all of that and more.
Speaker 2 (05:45):
Oh plus we got on an expert on to analyze
analyze Maddi's Doodle.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
Expert. We say that term loosely.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
Enjoy the podcast, everyone and PJ the podcast Should We
meet It. When someone tells you that you look like
someone else, what's your initial reaction?
Speaker 3 (06:12):
Never?
Speaker 4 (06:12):
Good?
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Never, he told you look like Suther.
Speaker 3 (06:18):
Keep a young Keeper, Sutherland. I'll take that one. I
have been told you a couple of times. But then
you famously told me on the show that you thought
I looked like Wrecky Gervats.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
No, it was just when you were rocking the stubble
and you were doing this cutin facial expression. So yeah,
that's a compliment. He is a comedic god.
Speaker 3 (06:38):
But you weren't complimenting me on my comedic ability. You
were saying I look like him, and I wouldn't have seen.
He was known for being a handsome man.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
Anyway. I wanted to know where your brain goes when
someone randomly sees this to you, because this is what
happened to me when I was in the supermarket. I
was putting my grocery items through and the guy said,
I've got to tell you, there is another woman that
comes into the store that looks so much like you.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
Like you guys are like twins.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
My instant reaction, like what I wanted to ask him
so bad was is she hot? But then I realized
here's a day nager and it would be incredible inappropriate,
so I said, I like, sort of fun.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
But I was like, oh is she is she cool?
Speaker 2 (07:26):
She is she cool? And he goes yeah. I was like, okay,
well you let me know when she comes in the store. Oh,
and then the conversation just fizzled so quickly.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
The thing is, though, he would have been the perfect
person to ask, because a teenage boy is always going
to be upfront and honest about who he finds hot
or not. No, it could have been a real it
could have been a real ego post for you.
Speaker 2 (07:52):
Yeah, it could have fained. But I just felt like
that would have been just one step too far for
peg Americans.
Speaker 3 (07:57):
So now what are you going to do? Are you
going to stalk out the supermarket shop until this doppel ganger?
Speaker 2 (08:02):
Reviewers trying to get a few questions. I was like,
so hell offen she here? Like we listen frequently shop,
we am I most likely to see her down one
of the aisles.
Speaker 3 (08:11):
Here's a question then, because we do have a fear
few listeners from the Wided Upper. If anyone in the
mask It's in the area, is listening right now and
you think you know who Pj's doppel ganger is, text.
Speaker 5 (08:24):
To us one of.
Speaker 3 (08:29):
Them down peach.
Speaker 5 (08:31):
Man and the podcast Hey You.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
Over the weekend, while I was hosting this Hen's do
as we've talked about, and I had a bunch of
women in my house and lucky you, what am I
going to do with.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
I don't know why I said that.
Speaker 3 (08:54):
I was almost like holding court at one point. I
just had this like gaggle of women surrounding me while
we're having this big conversation. And the conversation came up
because one of them said that they had to go
round and do this annoying thing at work where you
had to describe yourself in three words yes. And she
was like, oh my god, what is one of the
words to describe me? And she said, I actually came
up with a word that I think really encapsulates who
(09:15):
I am. She said, I told people that I was
an optimist, and then we got talking in the group
about whether we thought we were optimists or not. And
I put my hand up and I said one hundred
percent wholeheartedly to my detriment think that the world is
all flowers and roses.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
And yeah, you're definitely an optimist.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
Yeah. And then we got talking about the fact that
for those of us that thought of ourselves as optimists,
we felt like potentially we had married pessimists, that our
partners are all pessimists. And I wondered to myself, is
this a thing? Is it a kind of opposite to
tract where in the relationship there is generally an optimist,
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generally a pessimist.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
Oh see, i'd say, my husband Bjay is not a pessimist.
He's not a pessimist. But because I started talking about
this with him this morning in a bit of a debit,
erupted going, who's the optimist in our relationship? And I
was like, no, that's me, And he goes, no, No,
you're very pessimistic in the morning. And I will say, like,
there are parts of the day where I am quite pessimistic,
(10:24):
but I think my overall life, YE is very optimistic.
And so I don't know, I don't know if there's
a clear distinction between us.
Speaker 3 (10:31):
You're an optimist, but you do also tend to catastrophize almost.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
That is true.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
That is true.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
I'm definitely the hypochondriac in the relationship.
Speaker 3 (10:42):
I do remember this one quintessential time where we lost Otis,
our dog for a short amount of time. Yes, and
he wasn't gone long, but he had escaped outside of
our property, and Me, being the eternal optimist, was like,
he will absolutely come back in a matter of minutes,
nothing to worry about. And Ryan said to me, well,
he's probably been bloody picked up by a car and
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he will be in a dog fighting ring by now.
And I just thought that perfectly sums up the difference
between the two of us. Oh my god, Me the
optimist assuming the dog will come home in a matter
of minutes, Ryan the pessimist, assuming he is now being
trained as a dog fighting bait for a dog fighting ring, Like.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
The two most extreme outcomes you guys have gone for. Actually,
it really annoys me when you don't get worried on
my wavelength if I haven't heard back from like BJ
or my mum or whatever, and I'll start panicking, like page, page,
everything's fine.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
I'm like, how do you know everything's fine?
Speaker 3 (11:40):
You're like, he's dead.
Speaker 2 (11:41):
He's dead, Okay, So let's put this to play, like,
let's see if this is actually a thing. Oh wait,
one hundred the hairs, or do a bit of a
social experiment. Are you in a relationship and are you
with the opposite? So are you an optimist or a
pessimist and you've been matched perfectly with the opposite. Or
maybe it's just not a thing and it's just a
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theory that came up with some drunk kills and ends
party over the week.
Speaker 3 (12:05):
But if it there's a thing, I would love to
know if there's any other examples of how this plays
out in your relationship as well.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
Okay, well we've got some help beats about just up
for grabs. We're talking optimists and pessimists and relationships together.
Can it work?
Speaker 1 (12:18):
Well?
Speaker 2 (12:19):
Many in the podcast, which is very chilly around the country,
all the weather updates coming up in the news at
four o'clock. But Many has brought to the table a
theory that he believes to be true with relationships.
Speaker 3 (12:34):
I was having a conversation over the weekend and a
bunch of us decided that in our relationships there was
definitely a pessimist and definitely an optimist, like an opposite
to attract kind of thing.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
Well, that's true.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
Someone said on the text machine, why can't it be
a realist not a pessimist? To be fair, I would
say my husband's definitely a realist and I am more
of a aerie fairy from the aerie kind of girl.
Speaker 3 (13:00):
I do think a realist is just maybe a nicer
version of a softer.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
Version, right, So we wanted to know on the phones
hurts to put Matti's theory to the test. Is this
true for you, Nicki? And you plymouth is joining us?
He Niki?
Speaker 1 (13:16):
Hi, Hello, tell us about your relationship.
Speaker 6 (13:20):
Yeah, we're not the pessimist this type scenario. But he's
definitely a glass had easy guy, and I'm definitely.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
How does their play out in your relationship, Nikki?
Speaker 6 (13:32):
It actually works out really really well because it's we're
just a real good balance. He's a libre, so it's
like that real perfect balance, you know. But but yeah,
and I'm constantly going, you know, like like that.
Speaker 2 (13:47):
You actually donate both sides. You never get pushed out
of your comfort side. Do you ever flap up though, Nicki,
and you become the pessimist or some days or is
it always.
Speaker 6 (13:57):
It's not going my way?
Speaker 7 (14:01):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (14:01):
We're cool, You're cool.
Speaker 3 (14:03):
Love it Nikki, thank you.
Speaker 6 (14:04):
We've got to help people great balance tonight. Yeah, perfect
relationship really is the perfect balance.
Speaker 2 (14:11):
I love it. Well, we've got to helpeaks about your
coming away, so thank you for good on your mate
sharing your insight.
Speaker 3 (14:17):
Someone's texting I am the optimist. My husband is the
pessimist and we have been together nearly forty years, so
it works by.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
Maybe the theory is right after all.
Speaker 8 (14:29):
Maddy and PJ Medi and PJ the podcast The Heads
Medi and Pj's Whole Ball with the Raisine.
Speaker 2 (14:38):
Oh, we're so excited about this. It's going to be
so wholesome. This Friday night, our Whole Ball is taking
place at tatter Hall out of Raglan and the White Cuttle.
And basically there were so many nominations for this hole
at the Stockholt run by a country mile a lot.
Speaker 3 (14:56):
This this place means a lot to the community of Tamata.
Speaker 2 (15:00):
And this is all thanks to using Color Shops. Because
not only are we going to be throwing a massive
party at the Whole Ball, but we're going to be
sprucing the hole up and giving it a fresh lick
of paint. So have good music free for the drinks
spot prizes and games sound like a bit of you.
You can register for tickets. It hits dot co dot NZ's.
Speaker 3 (15:18):
I know someone that will be there, and that is
Carlena Cloak, who was one of the many many nominees
and she has so many personal connections to the hall.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
Carlena is joining us now.
Speaker 2 (15:31):
Carlena talk us through the rich history of Temata Hall.
Speaker 9 (15:36):
Hi guys, Oh my gosh. Hi, So, as you probably know,
the hall is over one hundred years old. And yeah,
I'd hate to think how many functions does then you
has seen, ranging from weddings to funerals to my twenty
tierth the school user for their performances, after school activity,
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everything like that. Yet it's pretty amazing.
Speaker 3 (16:02):
How how are the memories from the twenty first that
you had there a little bit hazy?
Speaker 9 (16:08):
It's a few years ago now.
Speaker 2 (16:13):
And on top of that, your parents got married at
this hole as well.
Speaker 9 (16:18):
Yeah, I should say like I'm third generation. My family
has been in the area for forever and yeah, they
actually celebrated their wedding at the whole. So you're pretty special.
Speaker 3 (16:29):
So how amazing is it then to have this little
spruce up? How desperately does the whole leader.
Speaker 9 (16:34):
Oh my goodness, we haven't stopped smiling. I don't think
the community has stopped smiling. It's we are just so
so happy and just so humbled. This hall is amazing,
but yeah, definitely need some work.
Speaker 3 (16:50):
So Calleena, you obviously know this community very well. Do
you want to give us the goss on what we
can expect from this weekend when we come down for
a little party on Friday night?
Speaker 9 (16:59):
Comes good night to madam knows how to put on
a proper party.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
Oh well, Coleener, we cannot wait to see you Friday night,
and we're so excited to get amongst the community. We
know how much hard work goes into these holes as well,
so it's going to be so cool to actually pay
it forward to you guys.
Speaker 9 (17:19):
Oh, thank you guys so much. Like I said, we
are just blown away and yeah, we're just so excited.
Speaker 3 (17:25):
Hey, Colleener, any song request that we can chuck to
the band for you? Have you got a song you
want us to play on Friday night?
Speaker 9 (17:33):
Honestly? Anything, but I think just in a bit of country.
Speaker 2 (17:36):
Yeah, yes, waggon Wheel. Has it been threshed? Or does
wagging Wheel get the green light?
Speaker 9 (17:44):
Leave it to you guys.
Speaker 3 (17:45):
I think Wheel definitely definitely gets the green light.
Speaker 9 (17:49):
Carlena, Hey, guys, thank you so much. Like I say,
it has made the community.
Speaker 2 (17:55):
It's just so and yeah, you are more than welcome.
Speaker 1 (17:58):
Coleener.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
We cannot wait to meet you in and we'll party
it up on Friday night.
Speaker 9 (18:02):
Awesome. Thank you guys, See you then.
Speaker 5 (18:04):
Many and PJ the podcast.
Speaker 8 (18:08):
That's many in PJS group therapy.
Speaker 2 (18:13):
Yes, one of my favorite times of the week when
we get to sit back, relax and hear your problems
and offer our piece of advice.
Speaker 3 (18:21):
People have such good advice as well. You and I
am on.
Speaker 2 (18:26):
The whole mediocat.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
We share our.
Speaker 3 (18:32):
We do have some good things to say from time
to time. But regardless of us, there is always someone
with some amazing advice to share.
Speaker 2 (18:41):
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Speaker 3 (18:50):
I'll read you this one's this person has written hello
you two hi hi, hi, Hello. I am deep in
a dilemma at the moment that's making my he it's
spen a little bit, and i'd love some advice or
opinions from you guys. Recently, I met a girl from
overseas who I've hit it off with in a big way.
We've spent the past couple of months in a pretty
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intense relationship, but always knowing she'd leave to go back
home eventually. Since then, though, we've talked every day and
I miss her a lot. I really do have strong
feelings for her, even though we haven't known each other
for very long. But now we're at a crossroads. She
said she would move to New Zealand, but she didn't
vibe with Dunedin, where I live. She is a hard
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rep sometimes. She really loves Auckland and it's where she'd
find it easier to find work as well, so she
said if she was going to move here, that's where
she'd want to end up. I don't really love the
big city and I don't really know anyone there either,
So now I have a decision to make. Should I
take a gamble and move to a city I've never
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lived in before to give it a go with a
girl I've only known for a few months, or is
that way too much of a risk?
Speaker 2 (20:02):
Nah? Do it. Love is all about making sacrifices and compromises,
and if you don't do it, then you'll never know.
And if she's coming, I just feel like, if she's
coming over here, yes, maybe she would come over anyway,
but that's you know, that's whore doing her part, and
that's what you can do. Yes, you may not love
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the city, you may be out of your comfort zone,
but you might end up loving it because your company
that you have makes you realize, actually you're happy wherever.
She is.
Speaker 3 (20:33):
Beautiful and me hopeless romantic peage. So yes, the romantic
in me says, absolutely, do it, but fear. The fear
part of me thinks, man, it's a big thing to
uproot your life to give it a go with a
girl you haven't known very long. And if it doesn't
work out, you know, you hope that it does and
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everything's great and you've made.
Speaker 5 (20:57):
The right call.
Speaker 3 (20:57):
But if it doesn't, then you kind of stranded in
a city you don't know very well. You don't know
many people here, and you've lost your kind of support
network as you're also dealing with the breakup as well.
I'm turning into the pessimistic husband.
Speaker 1 (21:12):
It really does come with age, doesn't it.
Speaker 7 (21:13):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (21:15):
But then no, you can move home, or maybe you'll
meet someone else, because you'll be in a situation that
you hadn't been before and you'll be out of your
comfort zone. I think, what have you got to lose?
Speaker 1 (21:24):
Screw it?
Speaker 2 (21:25):
Move for the girl, go to the big city.
Speaker 1 (21:28):
Lover is on the horizon.
Speaker 3 (21:29):
All right, nodding hill, Jesus, I want.
Speaker 1 (21:33):
To watch that.
Speaker 3 (21:33):
I'm such a good film. No, I think I'm with
you as well. I reckon, Sometimes you've just got to
take the gamble, even if there is risk, high risk.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
I reward right one hundred percent. What do you think
on the phones? Though? Maybe you have been in a
similar situation. Should this guy move to another city for
this girl that he doesn't know incredibly well and take
the resk? What are your thoughts? I'll waite hundred the hats.
Speaker 8 (21:59):
J Many and Pja' the podcast That's Many and pj's
group therapy.
Speaker 3 (22:06):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (22:07):
In the meantime, to love or not to love is
the question? Or to move or not to move? Actually
that's a more appropriate question, isn't it.
Speaker 8 (22:16):
Well?
Speaker 3 (22:17):
Yeah, I mean, but I guess to move for love,
Peach specifically, I'll quickly go into it. Recently, I met
a girl from overseas where I've headed off within a
big way. We spent the past couple of months in
a pretty intense relationship, but always knowing she'd leave to
go back home. Since then, we've talked every day and
I really miss her a lot, and I know that
we have strong feelings for each other. But now we're
at a crossroads. She said she would move to New Zealand,
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but she didn't vibe with Dunedin, where I live. She
loves Auckland. It's where she'd find work, so she said
if she was going to move here, that's where she'd
want to end up. So now I have a big
decision to make. Should I take a gamble and move
to a city I've never lived in before and give
it a go with a girl I've only known for
a few months? Or is that way too much of
a risk?
Speaker 10 (22:58):
Now?
Speaker 2 (22:58):
Do it? Do it?
Speaker 5 (22:59):
Do it?
Speaker 2 (23:00):
You will be more gutted if you don't take the
what is it? You'll be? You only regret the risks
and chances you don't take. Profound as ever, But we
want to know your thoughts on those Oh wait, one
hundred hats do you reckon he should move even though
it's early in the relationship or no, Kyler, what are
(23:21):
your thoughts?
Speaker 9 (23:22):
I reckon he shouldn't.
Speaker 3 (23:23):
Thought it should do too much of a risk. Kyler.
Speaker 6 (23:28):
Yes, I've done it three times.
Speaker 9 (23:30):
I've moved away three times for a partner, and I've
come home every single time without a partner.
Speaker 2 (23:35):
Oh, Kyla, I'm sorry that happens to you. Kyler.
Speaker 6 (23:40):
Obviously didn't work so, I mean, but it was.
Speaker 3 (23:45):
It was it a dire situation you found yourself in
moving to this new city even regardless of the partner.
Do you think this guy could feasibly actually just love
the city and end up loving loving it here regardless
of whether it works out with this woman or not.
Speaker 6 (23:59):
I don't think so. I'm not very fun at all.
Speaker 3 (24:06):
That's my home.
Speaker 2 (24:09):
So sorry, I kind of thank you so much for
wagon for greet therapy. This week, we got be on
the phone, who's actually from Auckland. Auckland's not that bad
as it be.
Speaker 11 (24:19):
Yeah, I love Aucland.
Speaker 1 (24:23):
Okay, so what do you what are your thoughts on
the situation?
Speaker 2 (24:25):
Yet?
Speaker 9 (24:27):
I really can steal it.
Speaker 11 (24:28):
I've also been in this situation and I flew over
I was getting someone who lived in America, and I
kind of was like, you know what, if I don't
steal it, I'll always wonder. So I thought I were
going to spend a little bit of time there, and
it was actually during the pandemic, so it was slightly terrifying,
but it didn't. We're not together now, so it didn't
end up working out, but we stayed together for a
(24:50):
while after I got home, And I don't know, I
just think living with regreat is worse. Like I feel
like you can always get another job. You can always
you know, like you can figure out a plan B
when you get home. But at least you know you
did it and you tried, and even if the relationship
doesn't work out, well, like, isn't that good to know that,
you know?
Speaker 6 (25:09):
I don't know.
Speaker 11 (25:09):
I just feel like I couldn't live with the regret.
Speaker 3 (25:14):
With you. Yeah, yeah, I will say that is generally
the vibe from the text machine. Most people are saying,
go for it. Someone said, you'll only regret the risks
and chances you didn't take. Someone said I got to say.
Someone said I think he should go for it. What
has he got to lose? Big risk, big reward. Yes,
(25:36):
I moved to New Zealand ten years ago for my
now wife, best decision I ever made. Now we have
two beautiful sons and are living out best life.
Speaker 2 (25:44):
I'd say do it, hey, and if you if it
doesn't work out, then so be at least you know
the answer. That's got to be our resolution for group
therapy this week. Thank you so much for all your
feedback and if you've got any questions for next weeks,
don't forget you can text them through right now. Four
for eight six.
Speaker 5 (26:02):
Maddy and PJ.
Speaker 8 (26:03):
Mady and PJ the podcasts.
Speaker 2 (26:07):
And yesterday on the show, you may have caught us
talking about how Maddy is a prolific doodler in his downtime.
Speaker 3 (26:15):
Yeah, if I've got a piece of paper in front
of me, and I do every day with the Alpha quidz,
Like I always have the Alpha Quiz printed out, and
i always find myself just doing little doodles and it's
the same thing all the time.
Speaker 2 (26:25):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:25):
And so it was Stars and Harts, wasn't.
Speaker 3 (26:27):
It almost exclusively Stars, but the occasional Heart chapter in
there as well.
Speaker 2 (26:33):
So we did kind of do a quick google on
the show yesterday and it had a few interpretations, but
I thought, why google when we can go directly to
an expert. So I have tracked down psychic medium Andy,
who was joining us on the show this afternoon. Good afternoon, Andy,
how are you?
Speaker 10 (26:51):
I'm great, thank you?
Speaker 2 (26:52):
How are you very well?
Speaker 3 (26:55):
Andy? This is very much in pj's wheelhouse getting you on.
Speaker 2 (27:01):
So and we've sent you a copy of Maddy's doodles.
From your interpretation, What do you make of this?
Speaker 10 (27:11):
Wow, it's really interesting. Actually he's drawn a star and
a beautiful little little heart. Those two separately have their
separate meanings. But when you put them together and use
a little bit of your psychic intuition to work out
a story, because that's what you kind of do when
(27:33):
you're giving somebody a reading or something like that, you
form a story. And just from his little doodles, I've
managed to form this story because we you doodle on
the page also is quite telling as well, And so
you're on the star in this heart at the bottom
of the page. Stares on their own mean that somebody's
(27:56):
got lots and lots of ambitions and hopes and and
things like that. And hearts. On the other hand, I
feel that that means that you're a true romantic and
you're a real softy. I also this drawing, yeah, that
he protect like his loved ones. He would he would
(28:19):
walk over broken glass to protect his relationships. And I
also feel that although he can be really quite shy,
I feel that he has some moments where he really
doubts himself and his abilities. But the fact that he's
drawn this star next to this heart means to me
(28:40):
that his husband, his loved one, his partner is always
there to support him and bring him up. And I
actually feel that the yin to each other's yang. That's
my interpretation.
Speaker 3 (28:53):
How the hell did you get all of that from
one star and one A.
Speaker 2 (29:01):
Well?
Speaker 1 (29:01):
I am amazing.
Speaker 3 (29:02):
I am amazing.
Speaker 2 (29:05):
Andy. Thank you so much for joining us lovely to
meet you. We really appreciate your time this afternoon. Maddie,
would you like to say thank you.
Speaker 3 (29:12):
Too, thank you and you're so welcome.
Speaker 2 (29:19):
I'm really pushing you out your comfort zone this year.
Speaker 3 (29:21):
And let me just say we're not making this a
regular sequence, right.
Speaker 5 (29:28):
Maddy and PJ. Mady and PJ the podcast.
Speaker 2 (29:32):
The Tick's still coming through with the most creative descriptions
on the weather in your region. A favorite so far.
Polo said, it's so cold in the tron I could
cut diamonds with my net.
Speaker 3 (29:44):
Someone said, currently in the north shore in Auckland, it's
so wet that even a goose might drown.
Speaker 2 (29:48):
We're gonna give away and keep us we house prize
at the end of the hour to our favorite text,
so keep them coming through four four eight seven. But
obviously it is very cold around the country today. And
this morning I decided to take my two year old
done to the farm. We live very close to my
husband's farm, which is just down the road, and he
farms sheep and beef beef, and sometimes I like to
(30:11):
take Charlie down and get the real rural experience. He
loves it. And we were on the farm and we bja.
My husband and his dad came up on the bikes
and we were chatting weather as you do with farmers,
and then Bejo's dad said it was forecast potentially to snow,
(30:32):
and I just need to premise this with it is
quite a stressful time of year for my husband and
his dad because there's a lot of lambs being born,
so you know, cold weather is not great. And I
came to the table with a lot of enthusiasm because
I was like, oh snow, oh my god, there's amazing
(30:54):
this is going to be. And then I looked at
the expressions on particularly Bejo's dad's face, and I was like, oh,
that's not the thing to say. No, that's not the
thing to say. Well, all of these lambs are in
their early days of life and they need as much
warmth as possible.
Speaker 3 (31:11):
Jo's dad's going, I'm so pleased for you that you're
able to make snow angels outside page. Meanwhile, here we
are doing heavy lifting with the newborn lamps.
Speaker 2 (31:22):
I had to sense myself live conversation, but it did
give me thinking of the worst things that people say
to you and your job, or maybe the most annoying questions.
You always get a new job if you put your foot.
Speaker 3 (31:38):
Note literally this week, yes, brilliant. I meet someone who
works for a gym, a series of gyms in Auckland,
and I said to them I just did one of
the one of the classes from this gym. Yeah, And
he said that's great because I helped develop the app
(31:58):
that you use. And I said, oh no, no, no,
I just do the free version on TV. I don't
actually use the app. Oh, he wasn't impressed. It was
not impressed.
Speaker 2 (32:16):
Innocent mistake, But is there like? I want to know
the profession you're in and the most annoying thing that
someone says to you in your line of work, or
the most annoying question that you always get in your
job without fail. Oh, wait, hundred the hats or you
can text four four eight seven to get in touch
with it.
Speaker 8 (32:36):
Mary Mary J the podcast.
Speaker 2 (32:41):
We're talking annoying things that people say to you and
your line of work, or the most annoying questions that
get fired your way.
Speaker 1 (32:49):
Someone texts through.
Speaker 2 (32:49):
Saying physios without fail gets So are you going to
do the message?
Speaker 7 (32:53):
Now?
Speaker 2 (32:55):
Wait? Or how much longer of your training? If you have,
you got to go? No, I'm finny, I'm actually professional.
Speaker 3 (33:01):
I love this one. I'm a courier driver in the
neck every single day without foul. Someone will ask what
is it? What's right? What I've ordered? Most of the
deliveries are just a plane box within a dress level.
I have no idea.
Speaker 2 (33:14):
What's Oh my god, I've done that. I'm so to
a career driver, bless her patients. I like one hundred
of hats to join the show. We've got Van on
the line. Good I Van, how's it going? You're not
bad to you? Cold where you are? Mate?
Speaker 5 (33:29):
Oh?
Speaker 7 (33:29):
Cold? Airs in the NECKI oh mate?
Speaker 11 (33:32):
All right?
Speaker 1 (33:33):
So what's your what's your line of work?
Speaker 7 (33:36):
I'm an automotive apprinters.
Speaker 3 (33:38):
Yeah right and yeah.
Speaker 7 (33:40):
Instantly people go, oh, I've got this problem with my car.
It makes this clunking noise when whenever I've got my
foot on the pedal, whenever the windows half down, it
makes a burr and then it goes away. What does
that mean? How do you fix that? And and the
car is not even with them? Fix a problem when
(34:04):
the car is not even there.
Speaker 2 (34:06):
It's amazing. I'm just realizing I am these punishing people
and all of this.
Speaker 3 (34:11):
Do you often? You're just looking for it? You're looking
for free advice? Really, aren't you?
Speaker 2 (34:16):
Exactly? We'll get it weekend.
Speaker 3 (34:18):
Someone someone said, I work on it. There's so many
annoying questions, but the worst is probably why do my
computer stop working? They perform millions of calculations a second,
every one of which has to be creat I have
no idea why it froze?
Speaker 2 (34:32):
Yeah? Another one. Oh, we've got Kim joining us. Kim's
on the phone. Oh hundred the hats.
Speaker 6 (34:37):
Hi, Cam, Hi, how are you going?
Speaker 2 (34:40):
Hello?
Speaker 1 (34:41):
Very well, what's your job?
Speaker 4 (34:44):
I'm a teacher and you always get other people saying you, oh,
you're a teacher. You get to finish at three pm
and start at nine and oh you get school holidays.
Speaker 7 (34:54):
Not the case.
Speaker 4 (34:55):
You're always doing paperwork and always answering emails and extra
staff meetings.
Speaker 2 (35:00):
You know, it's not not the easy part holidays.
Speaker 3 (35:05):
Yeah, that's what you'd have us believe.
Speaker 1 (35:09):
What about what about the teacher only days?
Speaker 2 (35:11):
How much goes on on the teacher only days?
Speaker 4 (35:16):
Talk about see like half day you're actually doing professional
development then you are, you know you have a staff
lunch and then have a bit of a chin wag.
Speaker 2 (35:24):
So yeah, you're enough enough and you guys is it
you're actually I'm say sun heroes. So thank you for
what you do.
Speaker 1 (35:32):
Cam, Thank you so much.
Speaker 6 (35:34):
Nice chatting, Yeah you too, Mary J.
Speaker 5 (35:41):
Mady and PJ.
Speaker 8 (35:42):
The podcast that the People's Poll, the People's Poll.
Speaker 5 (35:47):
Everybody comes together, it's the People's Pole.
Speaker 2 (35:50):
So I'm not one who's usually up to date with
upgrades on my iPhone. It stresses me on and I
was like, oh, do it light, I'll do it later,
and then it's like, this is going to happen at midnight.
Speaker 1 (36:00):
Make sure that your phone is like good enough charge.
Speaker 2 (36:01):
I'm like yeah, whatever, and then I forget about it. Anyway,
There's another upgrade coming to iPhone users phones. It's gonna
be the iOS eighteen upgrade, and I think it's gonna
come out today to millions of iPhones. But there is
a feature that a lot of people are worried may
just end relationships by enabling cheaters to hide content. So
(36:24):
basically it includes the biggest reader design ever they're calling
to the photo app, and a new fully customizable home screen,
but the inclusion of a private folder feature which allows
users to lock and hide apps on their phones homescreen.
So it'll just all of a sudden be no, you can't,
you can't go there. That's totally secret. So you can
(36:47):
lock an app, and for additional privacy that can hide
an app moving it to a locked hidden apps folder.
Speaker 3 (36:52):
Drama, So drama. If you've downloaded Tender or Hinge or
Bumble or something, you could lock it away and partner
would be none the wiser.
Speaker 2 (37:02):
Exactly if you've been sliding into some coworkers DMS then
could just go on the private folder. So it begs
the question for the people's part today, and this will
be quite divisive on the text machine. I can imagine
text through four four eight seven. Have you ever snooped
on your partner's phone deliberately gone in and checked that
(37:24):
they weren't doing anything? Moughty, Well, maybe you were just curious, like,
because let's be honest, curious and he sometimes gets a
bitter of us, and like, maybe you were just scrolling
on there at the time, and you know, because maybe
that's happened to me. But honestly, I don't actually genuinely
think the b J and I have a predictive relationship
in the sense that we don't like, I don't feel
(37:45):
the need to go on its phone because I trust him.
Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 3 (37:47):
I know exactly what you mean.
Speaker 2 (37:49):
Yeah, but I will say, yes, I have one in
the vast me too.
Speaker 3 (37:54):
In the past. We're leaving it in the past. We're
grown ups now, we don't we are.
Speaker 2 (38:00):
Okay, So you you have done it. I think I
feel like most people will have at some point in
their life, and they know that it's not the best behavior. No,
you know, it's probably not the indicator of the healthiest relationship,
but also sometimes human acture gets the best of us, right,
and you just want to know. So that is the
(38:20):
question today four four eight seven on the text. So
you can weigh in on our Instagram page the hats drive.
Have you ever been guilty of snooping on your partner's phone?
You can even weigh in on the phone. I'll wait
one hundred of the hats have you snoops?
Speaker 1 (38:36):
Don't be shameful, don't be ashamed.
Speaker 3 (38:38):
No judgment, no judge, judgment, no judgment.
Speaker 5 (38:42):
Many in the podcast.
Speaker 3 (38:46):
That the People's Poll, the People's Poll.
Speaker 5 (38:49):
Everybody comes together, It's the People's Poll.
Speaker 2 (38:52):
Okay, The question on today's People's Poles she's a bit controversial,
but have you snooped on a partner's phone before? No judge, no,
no shame. We just want to know. Because Apple is
releasing its free iOS eighteen upgrade to millions of iPhones today,
and some are saying that the new feature will end
relationships by enabling cheaters to hide content from their partners. Basically,
(39:13):
He's going to be a folder, a private folder feature
which allows users to lock and hide apps on their
iPhone's home screen. Apple's defense is, no, you can, you know,
feel more secure knowing that some information can just stay
in there. But it does beg the question is it
going to tempt fate in some situation?
Speaker 3 (39:35):
Potentially? So we asked the question, have you ever looked
at a partner's phone? Be honest?
Speaker 2 (39:41):
Be honest?
Speaker 3 (39:42):
On the text machine. Someone said, Hell, yes, I've snooped
on my ex partner's phone. I found messages from him
to multiple females, So that was the end of that relationship.
Speaker 2 (39:54):
Someone also said, I've looked at my partner's phone, but
I know Oh sorry, I haven't looked at my partner's fine,
but I do know. Android has had that same ability
to hide content from for a while. Oh no, PJ
has an Android. No, no, I'm kidding. I'm secure and
I'm You're fine and continue dont need no snoopy.
Speaker 3 (40:12):
It's very split on the text. On the Instagram poll,
fifty one percent of people said Yep, I'll admit it,
I've done it. Forty nine said I No way, I
have not ever done that.
Speaker 2 (40:25):
Do you think they've forgotten because like everyone just said,
like a little we've all wait a little bit guilty
but we know it's bad, but we may have just
slip it three months or twice.
Speaker 5 (40:36):
Maddy and PJ. Mady and Pj, the podcast The Heads
The Hits Drive with Meddi and PJ.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Thanks to chimis Wee House the Real House of Fragrances
on that.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
Hi, Welcome to the podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
I haven't done a dream update in a while, and
I've got to tell you a fucking wax dream that
I had two nights ago. I had a sixty dream
about Adam's Sandler. I know, I know, I know, and
it was like I was really dream.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
I like it.
Speaker 3 (00:28):
I like him. I like him as a he's a
good actor. He's got funny movies out there.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
Yeah yeah, but not on the bed as.
Speaker 3 (00:35):
A sick symbol and a dream.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
He's got two I think it's two daughters and a wife,
and he's really he speaks so sweetly about them. This
is a really random way to start the podcast.
Speaker 3 (00:50):
Do you know what it is?
Speaker 2 (00:51):
To me?
Speaker 3 (00:51):
Though? Has has dressed since his appalling with the.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
Hoodie, and it just looks like he's rolling out of you.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
But I like that.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
No, I reckon, it's kind of cool. It's just like
Hollywood screw out. I don't care. I'm just every day man,
you know.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
Okay, I'm gonna send your photo and maybe we'll put
this stuff on our maybe'll put this stuff on our
hits drive Instagram page. Is this the Adam Sandler that
you found sexy in your dream?
Speaker 2 (01:22):
Oh my god, here we go. Hang on, come on,
come on through, I have sent it, you know how
like some of the really sexy sleibs can get away
with like oh, like I saw bred Pet was wearing
crazy pants the other day and everyone's like, this is
the new trend. But I love when Adam Sandler with
(01:44):
a pink shirt and a pink orange trucky hat. It's
just something sexy about it.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
Here he is appearing in your dreams page.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
I don't know where that came from. My subconscious has
so much to answer for.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
What else is going on? Okay? Now that the Hen's
party's done.
Speaker 3 (02:05):
Well, I've we've we went to have a shower last
night before we got into bed and realized that we've
got a bloody blocked drain. And yeah, part of me
was like, is this could can you fix this kind
of stuff yourself?
Speaker 2 (02:20):
Yeah? I know you can, but you can't. You just can't.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
No, I know, I definitely couldn't.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
And I saw your message of defeat on your Instagram
story this morning, going, do I know any plumbers out there.
Speaker 3 (02:33):
Yeah, someone's coming from someone, A guy is coming around
tomorrow to fix it, because the showers just.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
Not What do you do when they come around though,
that's the funny. But you pretend like, yeah, you chat
through it, or you just go and sit down in
the lounge by yourself.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
Yeah, but like you oh yeah, you know, I just
I thought you'd use I thought you'd use that wrench.
Speaker 2 (02:50):
Yeah, like do you kind of like narrate and commentate
through it? And government of a company and you go, hey,
do you want a cup of day or do you reckon?
You just fucking like pass off, sit in another road.
Speaker 3 (02:59):
I think a little introduction in then leave and then
I'll I'm just gonna leave you to it or in
any issues just let me know.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
But use the bathroom on the way.
Speaker 3 (03:06):
He's weeah bathroom you just can't flush at the moment.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Yeah, so don't do that. You should offer him a
cup of tea. You maybe make him a sandwich or something.
A sandwich, Nah, that's too much. You don't do that,
but offer a cup of tea.
Speaker 3 (03:19):
Definitely offer him a cup of tea or coffee.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
I can make here coffee, coffee, or a biscuit. Would
you lead him into your biscuits stash all that.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
Yeah, I'll give him a ginger nut. We've got a
ginger we got ginger nuts in the house. I'd give
him a ginger nut.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
You can't have a ginger out without the tea the
way or else breaks your tooth.
Speaker 3 (03:37):
No, I love a ginger out without the tea.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
Do you?
Speaker 2 (03:40):
I'm always I want to break your tooth.
Speaker 3 (03:43):
Ginger nuts are one of these things where, for some reason,
it feels it does healthy. It feels healthy that well
because it's.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
Got ginger ton of sugar. Yeah, I know what you mean.
I know what you mean. It's just in this fruit
or like, yeah, something in it. Talk like now, guys,
I'm giving my funk plus a day.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
My god, I bought a block of chocolate on the
way home last nighters. Block. We ate the whole thing
last night.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
That's that's no, it's not standard, but it's who did
most of the damage.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
Very half and half. I would say, split right.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
Down, and what was your weapon of choice?
Speaker 3 (04:23):
Like what flavor did we go for? Yeah, the coconut
rough bar.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
That's not what I usually go for, but it's quite delicious.
Speaker 3 (04:30):
Actually, it's really good. What's your what you go to?
Speaker 2 (04:33):
It's always the caramel one, the caramels about like times.
Someone even ticks an the other day saying I need
to be in anyway.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
We're rambling about food again. It was a serious problem.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
Always I'll go to it's either what's for dinner? What's
that takeaways?
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Because we record this after the show when we're particularly
susceptible to hunger. You know, yeah, I know, it's only human.
Speaker 3 (04:59):
I know.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
What are you having?
Speaker 3 (05:03):
It's like a it's porkmant's noodle dish with some VG's Yeah, okay.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
Coming up with the podcast today, we talk about optimists
and pessimists existing to get it in a relationship.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
Maddy has a theory and we put it to the test.
Speaker 3 (05:22):
Group therapy was really interesting, talking about would you move
cities for a potential relationship that's very very fresh m hmm.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
It was quite a sweet resolution to I feel like
we've got some lovely advice. And we talked about the
worst things that people say to you and your job
or annoying questions that always get sent your way.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
So all of that and more.
Speaker 2 (05:45):
Oh plus we got on an expert on to analyze
analyze Maddi's Doodle.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
Expert. We say that term loosely.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
Enjoy the podcast, everyone and PJ the podcast Should We
meet It. When someone tells you that you look like
someone else, what's your initial reaction?
Speaker 3 (06:12):
Never?
Speaker 4 (06:12):
Good?
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Never, he told you look like Suther.
Speaker 3 (06:18):
Keep a young Keeper, Sutherland. I'll take that one. I
have been told you a couple of times. But then
you famously told me on the show that you thought
I looked like Wrecky Gervats.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
No, it was just when you were rocking the stubble
and you were doing this cutin facial expression. So yeah,
that's a compliment. He is a comedic god.
Speaker 3 (06:38):
But you weren't complimenting me on my comedic ability. You
were saying I look like him, and I wouldn't have seen.
He was known for being a handsome man.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
Anyway. I wanted to know where your brain goes when
someone randomly sees this to you, because this is what
happened to me when I was in the supermarket. I
was putting my grocery items through and the guy said,
I've got to tell you, there is another woman that
comes into the store that looks so much like you.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
Like you guys are like twins.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
My instant reaction, like what I wanted to ask him
so bad was is she hot? But then I realized
here's a day nager and it would be incredible inappropriate,
so I said, I like, sort of fun.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
But I was like, oh is she is she cool?
Speaker 2 (07:26):
She is she cool? And he goes yeah. I was like, okay,
well you let me know when she comes in the store. Oh,
and then the conversation just fizzled so quickly.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
The thing is, though, he would have been the perfect
person to ask, because a teenage boy is always going
to be upfront and honest about who he finds hot
or not. No, it could have been a real it
could have been a real ego post for you.
Speaker 2 (07:52):
Yeah, it could have fained. But I just felt like
that would have been just one step too far for
peg Americans.
Speaker 3 (07:57):
So now what are you going to do? Are you
going to stalk out the supermarket shop until this doppel ganger?
Speaker 2 (08:02):
Reviewers trying to get a few questions. I was like,
so hell offen she here? Like we listen frequently shop,
we am I most likely to see her down one
of the aisles.
Speaker 3 (08:11):
Here's a question then, because we do have a fear
few listeners from the Wided Upper. If anyone in the
mask It's in the area, is listening right now and
you think you know who Pj's doppel ganger is, text.
Speaker 5 (08:24):
To us one of.
Speaker 3 (08:29):
Them down peach.
Speaker 5 (08:31):
Man and the podcast Hey You.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
Over the weekend, while I was hosting this Hen's do
as we've talked about, and I had a bunch of
women in my house and lucky you, what am I
going to do with.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
I don't know why I said that.
Speaker 3 (08:54):
I was almost like holding court at one point. I
just had this like gaggle of women surrounding me while
we're having this big conversation. And the conversation came up
because one of them said that they had to go
round and do this annoying thing at work where you
had to describe yourself in three words yes. And she
was like, oh my god, what is one of the
words to describe me? And she said, I actually came
up with a word that I think really encapsulates who
(09:15):
I am. She said, I told people that I was
an optimist, and then we got talking in the group
about whether we thought we were optimists or not. And
I put my hand up and I said one hundred
percent wholeheartedly to my detriment think that the world is
all flowers and roses.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
And yeah, you're definitely an optimist.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
Yeah. And then we got talking about the fact that
for those of us that thought of ourselves as optimists,
we felt like potentially we had married pessimists, that our
partners are all pessimists. And I wondered to myself, is
this a thing? Is it a kind of opposite to
tract where in the relationship there is generally an optimist,
(10:00):
generally a pessimist.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
Oh see, i'd say, my husband Bjay is not a pessimist.
He's not a pessimist. But because I started talking about
this with him this morning in a bit of a debit,
erupted going, who's the optimist in our relationship? And I
was like, no, that's me, And he goes, no, No,
you're very pessimistic in the morning. And I will say, like,
there are parts of the day where I am quite pessimistic,
(10:24):
but I think my overall life, YE is very optimistic.
And so I don't know, I don't know if there's
a clear distinction between us.
Speaker 3 (10:31):
You're an optimist, but you do also tend to catastrophize almost.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
That is true.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
That is true.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
I'm definitely the hypochondriac in the relationship.
Speaker 3 (10:42):
I do remember this one quintessential time where we lost Otis,
our dog for a short amount of time. Yes, and
he wasn't gone long, but he had escaped outside of
our property, and Me, being the eternal optimist, was like,
he will absolutely come back in a matter of minutes,
nothing to worry about. And Ryan said to me, well,
he's probably been bloody picked up by a car and
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he will be in a dog fighting ring by now.
And I just thought that perfectly sums up the difference
between the two of us. Oh my god, Me the
optimist assuming the dog will come home in a matter
of minutes, Ryan the pessimist, assuming he is now being
trained as a dog fighting bait for a dog fighting ring, Like.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
The two most extreme outcomes you guys have gone for. Actually,
it really annoys me when you don't get worried on
my wavelength if I haven't heard back from like BJ
or my mum or whatever, and I'll start panicking, like page, page,
everything's fine.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
I'm like, how do you know everything's fine?
Speaker 3 (11:40):
You're like, he's dead.
Speaker 2 (11:41):
He's dead, Okay, So let's put this to play, like,
let's see if this is actually a thing. Oh wait,
one hundred the hairs, or do a bit of a
social experiment. Are you in a relationship and are you
with the opposite? So are you an optimist or a
pessimist and you've been matched perfectly with the opposite. Or
maybe it's just not a thing and it's just a
(12:02):
theory that came up with some drunk kills and ends
party over the week.
Speaker 3 (12:05):
But if it there's a thing, I would love to
know if there's any other examples of how this plays
out in your relationship as well.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
Okay, well we've got some help beats about just up
for grabs. We're talking optimists and pessimists and relationships together.
Can it work?
Speaker 1 (12:18):
Well?
Speaker 2 (12:19):
Many in the podcast, which is very chilly around the country,
all the weather updates coming up in the news at
four o'clock. But Many has brought to the table a
theory that he believes to be true with relationships.
Speaker 3 (12:34):
I was having a conversation over the weekend and a
bunch of us decided that in our relationships there was
definitely a pessimist and definitely an optimist, like an opposite
to attract kind of thing.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
Well, that's true.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
Someone said on the text machine, why can't it be
a realist not a pessimist? To be fair, I would
say my husband's definitely a realist and I am more
of a aerie fairy from the aerie kind of girl.
Speaker 3 (13:00):
I do think a realist is just maybe a nicer
version of a softer.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
Version, right, So we wanted to know on the phones
hurts to put Matti's theory to the test. Is this
true for you, Nicki? And you plymouth is joining us?
He Niki?
Speaker 1 (13:16):
Hi, Hello, tell us about your relationship.
Speaker 6 (13:20):
Yeah, we're not the pessimist this type scenario. But he's
definitely a glass had easy guy, and I'm definitely.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
How does their play out in your relationship, Nikki?
Speaker 6 (13:32):
It actually works out really really well because it's we're
just a real good balance. He's a libre, so it's
like that real perfect balance, you know. But but yeah,
and I'm constantly going, you know, like like that.
Speaker 2 (13:47):
You actually donate both sides. You never get pushed out
of your comfort side. Do you ever flap up though, Nicki,
and you become the pessimist or some days or is
it always.
Speaker 6 (13:57):
It's not going my way?
Speaker 7 (14:01):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (14:01):
We're cool, You're cool.
Speaker 3 (14:03):
Love it Nikki, thank you.
Speaker 6 (14:04):
We've got to help people great balance tonight. Yeah, perfect
relationship really is the perfect balance.
Speaker 2 (14:11):
I love it. Well, we've got to helpeaks about your
coming away, so thank you for good on your mate
sharing your insight.
Speaker 3 (14:17):
Someone's texting I am the optimist. My husband is the
pessimist and we have been together nearly forty years, so
it works by.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
Maybe the theory is right after all.
Speaker 8 (14:29):
Maddy and PJ Medi and PJ the podcast The Heads
Medi and Pj's Whole Ball with the Raisine.
Speaker 2 (14:38):
Oh, we're so excited about this. It's going to be
so wholesome. This Friday night, our Whole Ball is taking
place at tatter Hall out of Raglan and the White Cuttle.
And basically there were so many nominations for this hole
at the Stockholt run by a country mile a lot.
Speaker 3 (14:56):
This this place means a lot to the community of Tamata.
Speaker 2 (15:00):
And this is all thanks to using Color Shops. Because
not only are we going to be throwing a massive
party at the Whole Ball, but we're going to be
sprucing the hole up and giving it a fresh lick
of paint. So have good music free for the drinks
spot prizes and games sound like a bit of you.
You can register for tickets. It hits dot co dot NZ's.
Speaker 3 (15:18):
I know someone that will be there, and that is
Carlena Cloak, who was one of the many many nominees
and she has so many personal connections to the hall.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
Carlena is joining us now.
Speaker 2 (15:31):
Carlena talk us through the rich history of Temata Hall.
Speaker 9 (15:36):
Hi guys, Oh my gosh. Hi, So, as you probably know,
the hall is over one hundred years old. And yeah,
I'd hate to think how many functions does then you
has seen, ranging from weddings to funerals to my twenty
tierth the school user for their performances, after school activity,
(16:00):
everything like that. Yet it's pretty amazing.
Speaker 3 (16:02):
How how are the memories from the twenty first that
you had there a little bit hazy?
Speaker 9 (16:08):
It's a few years ago now.
Speaker 2 (16:13):
And on top of that, your parents got married at
this hole as well.
Speaker 9 (16:18):
Yeah, I should say like I'm third generation. My family
has been in the area for forever and yeah, they
actually celebrated their wedding at the whole. So you're pretty special.
Speaker 3 (16:29):
So how amazing is it then to have this little
spruce up? How desperately does the whole leader.
Speaker 9 (16:34):
Oh my goodness, we haven't stopped smiling. I don't think
the community has stopped smiling. It's we are just so
so happy and just so humbled. This hall is amazing,
but yeah, definitely need some work.
Speaker 3 (16:50):
So Calleena, you obviously know this community very well. Do
you want to give us the goss on what we
can expect from this weekend when we come down for
a little party on Friday night?
Speaker 9 (16:59):
Comes good night to madam knows how to put on
a proper party.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
Oh well, Coleener, we cannot wait to see you Friday night,
and we're so excited to get amongst the community. We
know how much hard work goes into these holes as well,
so it's going to be so cool to actually pay
it forward to you guys.
Speaker 9 (17:19):
Oh, thank you guys so much. Like I said, we
are just blown away and yeah, we're just so excited.
Speaker 3 (17:25):
Hey, Colleener, any song request that we can chuck to
the band for you? Have you got a song you
want us to play on Friday night?
Speaker 9 (17:33):
Honestly? Anything, but I think just in a bit of country.
Speaker 2 (17:36):
Yeah, yes, waggon Wheel. Has it been threshed? Or does
wagging Wheel get the green light?
Speaker 9 (17:44):
Leave it to you guys.
Speaker 3 (17:45):
I think Wheel definitely definitely gets the green light.
Speaker 9 (17:49):
Carlena, Hey, guys, thank you so much. Like I say,
it has made the community.
Speaker 2 (17:55):
It's just so and yeah, you are more than welcome.
Speaker 1 (17:58):
Coleener.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
We cannot wait to meet you in and we'll party
it up on Friday night.
Speaker 9 (18:02):
Awesome. Thank you guys, See you then.
Speaker 5 (18:04):
Many and PJ the podcast.
Speaker 8 (18:08):
That's many in PJS group therapy.
Speaker 2 (18:13):
Yes, one of my favorite times of the week when
we get to sit back, relax and hear your problems
and offer our piece of advice.
Speaker 3 (18:21):
People have such good advice as well. You and I
am on.
Speaker 2 (18:26):
The whole mediocat.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
We share our.
Speaker 3 (18:32):
We do have some good things to say from time
to time. But regardless of us, there is always someone
with some amazing advice to share.
Speaker 2 (18:41):
And if you would like to share your problems or dilemmas,
anything you're going through, you can text through four four
eight seven, or there's a registration page at the hits
dot co dot nz.
Speaker 3 (18:50):
I'll read you this one's this person has written hello
you two hi hi, hi, Hello. I am deep in
a dilemma at the moment that's making my he it's
spen a little bit, and i'd love some advice or
opinions from you guys. Recently, I met a girl from
overseas who I've hit it off with in a big way.
We've spent the past couple of months in a pretty
(19:10):
intense relationship, but always knowing she'd leave to go back
home eventually. Since then, though, we've talked every day and
I miss her a lot. I really do have strong
feelings for her, even though we haven't known each other
for very long. But now we're at a crossroads. She
said she would move to New Zealand, but she didn't
vibe with Dunedin, where I live. She is a hard
(19:34):
rep sometimes. She really loves Auckland and it's where she'd
find it easier to find work as well, so she
said if she was going to move here, that's where
she'd want to end up. I don't really love the
big city and I don't really know anyone there either,
So now I have a decision to make. Should I
take a gamble and move to a city I've never
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lived in before to give it a go with a
girl I've only known for a few months, or is
that way too much of a risk?
Speaker 2 (20:02):
Nah? Do it. Love is all about making sacrifices and compromises,
and if you don't do it, then you'll never know.
And if she's coming, I just feel like, if she's
coming over here, yes, maybe she would come over anyway,
but that's you know, that's whore doing her part, and
that's what you can do. Yes, you may not love
(20:23):
the city, you may be out of your comfort zone,
but you might end up loving it because your company
that you have makes you realize, actually you're happy wherever.
She is.
Speaker 3 (20:33):
Beautiful and me hopeless romantic peage. So yes, the romantic
in me says, absolutely, do it, but fear. The fear
part of me thinks, man, it's a big thing to
uproot your life to give it a go with a
girl you haven't known very long. And if it doesn't
work out, you know, you hope that it does and
(20:55):
everything's great and you've made.
Speaker 5 (20:57):
The right call.
Speaker 3 (20:57):
But if it doesn't, then you kind of stranded in
a city you don't know very well. You don't know
many people here, and you've lost your kind of support
network as you're also dealing with the breakup as well.
I'm turning into the pessimistic husband.
Speaker 1 (21:12):
It really does come with age, doesn't it.
Speaker 7 (21:13):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (21:15):
But then no, you can move home, or maybe you'll
meet someone else, because you'll be in a situation that
you hadn't been before and you'll be out of your
comfort zone. I think, what have you got to lose?
Speaker 1 (21:24):
Screw it?
Speaker 2 (21:25):
Move for the girl, go to the big city.
Speaker 1 (21:28):
Lover is on the horizon.
Speaker 3 (21:29):
All right, nodding hill, Jesus, I want.
Speaker 1 (21:33):
To watch that.
Speaker 3 (21:33):
I'm such a good film. No, I think I'm with
you as well. I reckon, Sometimes you've just got to
take the gamble, even if there is risk, high risk.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
I reward right one hundred percent. What do you think
on the phones? Though? Maybe you have been in a
similar situation. Should this guy move to another city for
this girl that he doesn't know incredibly well and take
the resk? What are your thoughts? I'll waite hundred the hats.
Speaker 8 (21:59):
J Many and Pja' the podcast That's Many and pj's
group therapy.
Speaker 3 (22:06):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (22:07):
In the meantime, to love or not to love is
the question? Or to move or not to move? Actually
that's a more appropriate question, isn't it.
Speaker 8 (22:16):
Well?
Speaker 3 (22:17):
Yeah, I mean, but I guess to move for love,
Peach specifically, I'll quickly go into it. Recently, I met
a girl from overseas where I've headed off within a
big way. We spent the past couple of months in
a pretty intense relationship, but always knowing she'd leave to
go back home. Since then, we've talked every day and
I really miss her a lot, and I know that
we have strong feelings for each other. But now we're
at a crossroads. She said she would move to New Zealand,
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but she didn't vibe with Dunedin, where I live. She
loves Auckland. It's where she'd find work, so she said
if she was going to move here, that's where she'd
want to end up. So now I have a big
decision to make. Should I take a gamble and move
to a city I've never lived in before and give
it a go with a girl I've only known for
a few months? Or is that way too much of
a risk?
Speaker 10 (22:58):
Now?
Speaker 2 (22:58):
Do it? Do it?
Speaker 5 (22:59):
Do it?
Speaker 2 (23:00):
You will be more gutted if you don't take the
what is it? You'll be? You only regret the risks
and chances you don't take. Profound as ever, But we
want to know your thoughts on those Oh wait, one
hundred hats do you reckon he should move even though
it's early in the relationship or no, Kyler, what are
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your thoughts?
Speaker 9 (23:22):
I reckon he shouldn't.
Speaker 3 (23:23):
Thought it should do too much of a risk. Kyler.
Speaker 6 (23:28):
Yes, I've done it three times.
Speaker 9 (23:30):
I've moved away three times for a partner, and I've
come home every single time without a partner.
Speaker 2 (23:35):
Oh, Kyla, I'm sorry that happens to you. Kyler.
Speaker 6 (23:40):
Obviously didn't work so, I mean, but it was.
Speaker 3 (23:45):
It was it a dire situation you found yourself in
moving to this new city even regardless of the partner.
Do you think this guy could feasibly actually just love
the city and end up loving loving it here regardless
of whether it works out with this woman or not.
Speaker 6 (23:59):
I don't think so. I'm not very fun at all.
Speaker 3 (24:06):
That's my home.
Speaker 2 (24:09):
So sorry, I kind of thank you so much for
wagon for greet therapy. This week, we got be on
the phone, who's actually from Auckland. Auckland's not that bad
as it be.
Speaker 11 (24:19):
Yeah, I love Aucland.
Speaker 1 (24:23):
Okay, so what do you what are your thoughts on
the situation?
Speaker 2 (24:25):
Yet?
Speaker 9 (24:27):
I really can steal it.
Speaker 11 (24:28):
I've also been in this situation and I flew over
I was getting someone who lived in America, and I
kind of was like, you know what, if I don't
steal it, I'll always wonder. So I thought I were
going to spend a little bit of time there, and
it was actually during the pandemic, so it was slightly terrifying,
but it didn't. We're not together now, so it didn't
end up working out, but we stayed together for a
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while after I got home, And I don't know, I
just think living with regreat is worse. Like I feel
like you can always get another job. You can always
you know, like you can figure out a plan B
when you get home. But at least you know you
did it and you tried, and even if the relationship
doesn't work out, well, like, isn't that good to know that,
you know?
Speaker 6 (25:09):
I don't know.
Speaker 11 (25:09):
I just feel like I couldn't live with the regret.
Speaker 3 (25:14):
With you. Yeah, yeah, I will say that is generally
the vibe from the text machine. Most people are saying,
go for it. Someone said, you'll only regret the risks
and chances you didn't take. Someone said I got to say.
Someone said I think he should go for it. What
has he got to lose? Big risk, big reward. Yes,
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I moved to New Zealand ten years ago for my
now wife, best decision I ever made. Now we have
two beautiful sons and are living out best life.
Speaker 2 (25:44):
I'd say do it, hey, and if you if it
doesn't work out, then so be at least you know
the answer. That's got to be our resolution for group
therapy this week. Thank you so much for all your
feedback and if you've got any questions for next weeks,
don't forget you can text them through right now. Four
for eight six.
Speaker 5 (26:02):
Maddy and PJ.
Speaker 8 (26:03):
Mady and PJ the podcasts.
Speaker 2 (26:07):
And yesterday on the show, you may have caught us
talking about how Maddy is a prolific doodler in his downtime.
Speaker 3 (26:15):
Yeah, if I've got a piece of paper in front
of me, and I do every day with the Alpha quidz,
Like I always have the Alpha Quiz printed out, and
i always find myself just doing little doodles and it's
the same thing all the time.
Speaker 2 (26:25):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:25):
And so it was Stars and Harts, wasn't.
Speaker 3 (26:27):
It almost exclusively Stars, but the occasional Heart chapter in
there as well.
Speaker 2 (26:33):
So we did kind of do a quick google on
the show yesterday and it had a few interpretations, but
I thought, why google when we can go directly to
an expert. So I have tracked down psychic medium Andy,
who was joining us on the show this afternoon. Good afternoon, Andy,
how are you?
Speaker 10 (26:51):
I'm great, thank you?
Speaker 2 (26:52):
How are you very well?
Speaker 3 (26:55):
Andy? This is very much in pj's wheelhouse getting you on.
Speaker 2 (27:01):
So and we've sent you a copy of Maddy's doodles.
From your interpretation, What do you make of this?
Speaker 10 (27:11):
Wow, it's really interesting. Actually he's drawn a star and
a beautiful little little heart. Those two separately have their
separate meanings. But when you put them together and use
a little bit of your psychic intuition to work out
a story, because that's what you kind of do when
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you're giving somebody a reading or something like that, you
form a story. And just from his little doodles, I've
managed to form this story because we you doodle on
the page also is quite telling as well, And so
you're on the star in this heart at the bottom
of the page. Stares on their own mean that somebody's
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got lots and lots of ambitions and hopes and and
things like that. And hearts. On the other hand, I
feel that that means that you're a true romantic and
you're a real softy. I also this drawing, yeah, that
he protect like his loved ones. He would he would
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walk over broken glass to protect his relationships. And I
also feel that although he can be really quite shy,
I feel that he has some moments where he really
doubts himself and his abilities. But the fact that he's
drawn this star next to this heart means to me
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that his husband, his loved one, his partner is always
there to support him and bring him up. And I
actually feel that the yin to each other's yang. That's
my interpretation.
Speaker 3 (28:53):
How the hell did you get all of that from
one star and one A.
Speaker 2 (29:01):
Well?
Speaker 1 (29:01):
I am amazing.
Speaker 3 (29:02):
I am amazing.
Speaker 2 (29:05):
Andy. Thank you so much for joining us lovely to
meet you. We really appreciate your time this afternoon. Maddie,
would you like to say thank you.
Speaker 3 (29:12):
Too, thank you and you're so welcome.
Speaker 2 (29:19):
I'm really pushing you out your comfort zone this year.
Speaker 3 (29:21):
And let me just say we're not making this a
regular sequence, right.
Speaker 5 (29:28):
Maddy and PJ. Mady and PJ the podcast.
Speaker 2 (29:32):
The Tick's still coming through with the most creative descriptions
on the weather in your region. A favorite so far.
Polo said, it's so cold in the tron I could
cut diamonds with my net.
Speaker 3 (29:44):
Someone said, currently in the north shore in Auckland, it's
so wet that even a goose might drown.
Speaker 2 (29:48):
We're gonna give away and keep us we house prize
at the end of the hour to our favorite text,
so keep them coming through four four eight seven. But
obviously it is very cold around the country today. And
this morning I decided to take my two year old
done to the farm. We live very close to my
husband's farm, which is just down the road, and he
farms sheep and beef beef, and sometimes I like to
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take Charlie down and get the real rural experience. He
loves it. And we were on the farm and we bja.
My husband and his dad came up on the bikes
and we were chatting weather as you do with farmers,
and then Bejo's dad said it was forecast potentially to snow,
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and I just need to premise this with it is
quite a stressful time of year for my husband and
his dad because there's a lot of lambs being born,
so you know, cold weather is not great. And I
came to the table with a lot of enthusiasm because
I was like, oh snow, oh my god, there's amazing
(30:54):
this is going to be. And then I looked at
the expressions on particularly Bejo's dad's face, and I was like, oh,
that's not the thing to say. No, that's not the
thing to say. Well, all of these lambs are in
their early days of life and they need as much
warmth as possible.
Speaker 3 (31:11):
Jo's dad's going, I'm so pleased for you that you're
able to make snow angels outside page. Meanwhile, here we
are doing heavy lifting with the newborn lamps.
Speaker 2 (31:22):
I had to sense myself live conversation, but it did
give me thinking of the worst things that people say
to you and your job, or maybe the most annoying questions.
You always get a new job if you put your foot.
Speaker 3 (31:38):
Note literally this week, yes, brilliant. I meet someone who
works for a gym, a series of gyms in Auckland,
and I said to them I just did one of
the one of the classes from this gym. Yeah, And
he said that's great because I helped develop the app
(31:58):
that you use. And I said, oh no, no, no,
I just do the free version on TV. I don't
actually use the app. Oh, he wasn't impressed. It was
not impressed.
Speaker 2 (32:16):
Innocent mistake, But is there like? I want to know
the profession you're in and the most annoying thing that
someone says to you in your line of work, or
the most annoying question that you always get in your
job without fail. Oh, wait, hundred the hats or you
can text four four eight seven to get in touch
with it.
Speaker 8 (32:36):
Mary Mary J the podcast.
Speaker 2 (32:41):
We're talking annoying things that people say to you and
your line of work, or the most annoying questions that
get fired your way.
Speaker 1 (32:49):
Someone texts through.
Speaker 2 (32:49):
Saying physios without fail gets So are you going to
do the message?
Speaker 7 (32:53):
Now?
Speaker 2 (32:55):
Wait? Or how much longer of your training? If you have,
you got to go? No, I'm finny, I'm actually professional.
Speaker 3 (33:01):
I love this one. I'm a courier driver in the
neck every single day without foul. Someone will ask what
is it? What's right? What I've ordered? Most of the
deliveries are just a plane box within a dress level.
I have no idea.
Speaker 2 (33:14):
What's Oh my god, I've done that. I'm so to
a career driver, bless her patients. I like one hundred
of hats to join the show. We've got Van on
the line. Good I Van, how's it going? You're not
bad to you? Cold where you are? Mate?
Speaker 5 (33:29):
Oh?
Speaker 7 (33:29):
Cold? Airs in the NECKI oh mate?
Speaker 11 (33:32):
All right?
Speaker 1 (33:33):
So what's your what's your line of work?
Speaker 7 (33:36):
I'm an automotive apprinters.
Speaker 3 (33:38):
Yeah right and yeah.
Speaker 7 (33:40):
Instantly people go, oh, I've got this problem with my car.
It makes this clunking noise when whenever I've got my
foot on the pedal, whenever the windows half down, it
makes a burr and then it goes away. What does
that mean? How do you fix that? And and the
car is not even with them? Fix a problem when
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the car is not even there.
Speaker 2 (34:06):
It's amazing. I'm just realizing I am these punishing people
and all of this.
Speaker 3 (34:11):
Do you often? You're just looking for it? You're looking
for free advice? Really, aren't you?
Speaker 2 (34:16):
Exactly? We'll get it weekend.
Speaker 3 (34:18):
Someone someone said, I work on it. There's so many
annoying questions, but the worst is probably why do my
computer stop working? They perform millions of calculations a second,
every one of which has to be creat I have
no idea why it froze?
Speaker 2 (34:32):
Yeah? Another one. Oh, we've got Kim joining us. Kim's
on the phone. Oh hundred the hats.
Speaker 6 (34:37):
Hi, Cam, Hi, how are you going?
Speaker 2 (34:40):
Hello?
Speaker 1 (34:41):
Very well, what's your job?
Speaker 4 (34:44):
I'm a teacher and you always get other people saying you, oh,
you're a teacher. You get to finish at three pm
and start at nine and oh you get school holidays.
Speaker 7 (34:54):
Not the case.
Speaker 4 (34:55):
You're always doing paperwork and always answering emails and extra
staff meetings.
Speaker 2 (35:00):
You know, it's not not the easy part holidays.
Speaker 3 (35:05):
Yeah, that's what you'd have us believe.
Speaker 1 (35:09):
What about what about the teacher only days?
Speaker 2 (35:11):
How much goes on on the teacher only days?
Speaker 4 (35:16):
Talk about see like half day you're actually doing professional
development then you are, you know you have a staff
lunch and then have a bit of a chin wag.
Speaker 2 (35:24):
So yeah, you're enough enough and you guys is it
you're actually I'm say sun heroes. So thank you for
what you do.
Speaker 1 (35:32):
Cam, Thank you so much.
Speaker 6 (35:34):
Nice chatting, Yeah you too, Mary J.
Speaker 5 (35:41):
Mady and PJ.
Speaker 8 (35:42):
The podcast that the People's Poll, the People's Poll.
Speaker 5 (35:47):
Everybody comes together, it's the People's Pole.
Speaker 2 (35:50):
So I'm not one who's usually up to date with
upgrades on my iPhone. It stresses me on and I
was like, oh, do it light, I'll do it later,
and then it's like, this is going to happen at midnight.
Speaker 1 (36:00):
Make sure that your phone is like good enough charge.
Speaker 2 (36:01):
I'm like yeah, whatever, and then I forget about it. Anyway,
There's another upgrade coming to iPhone users phones. It's gonna
be the iOS eighteen upgrade, and I think it's gonna
come out today to millions of iPhones. But there is
a feature that a lot of people are worried may
just end relationships by enabling cheaters to hide content. So
(36:24):
basically it includes the biggest reader design ever they're calling
to the photo app, and a new fully customizable home screen,
but the inclusion of a private folder feature which allows
users to lock and hide apps on their phones homescreen.
So it'll just all of a sudden be no, you can't,
you can't go there. That's totally secret. So you can
(36:47):
lock an app, and for additional privacy that can hide
an app moving it to a locked hidden apps folder.
Speaker 3 (36:52):
Drama, So drama. If you've downloaded Tender or Hinge or
Bumble or something, you could lock it away and partner
would be none the wiser.
Speaker 2 (37:02):
Exactly if you've been sliding into some coworkers DMS then
could just go on the private folder. So it begs
the question for the people's part today, and this will
be quite divisive on the text machine. I can imagine
text through four four eight seven. Have you ever snooped
on your partner's phone deliberately gone in and checked that
(37:24):
they weren't doing anything? Moughty, Well, maybe you were just curious, like,
because let's be honest, curious and he sometimes gets a
bitter of us, and like, maybe you were just scrolling
on there at the time, and you know, because maybe
that's happened to me. But honestly, I don't actually genuinely
think the b J and I have a predictive relationship
in the sense that we don't like, I don't feel
(37:45):
the need to go on its phone because I trust him.
Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 3 (37:47):
I know exactly what you mean.
Speaker 2 (37:49):
Yeah, but I will say, yes, I have one in
the vast me too.
Speaker 3 (37:54):
In the past. We're leaving it in the past. We're
grown ups now, we don't we are.
Speaker 2 (38:00):
Okay, So you you have done it. I think I
feel like most people will have at some point in
their life, and they know that it's not the best behavior. No,
you know, it's probably not the indicator of the healthiest relationship,
but also sometimes human acture gets the best of us, right,
and you just want to know. So that is the
(38:20):
question today four four eight seven on the text. So
you can weigh in on our Instagram page the hats drive.
Have you ever been guilty of snooping on your partner's phone?
You can even weigh in on the phone. I'll wait
one hundred of the hats have you snoops?
Speaker 1 (38:36):
Don't be shameful, don't be ashamed.
Speaker 3 (38:38):
No judgment, no judge, judgment, no judgment.
Speaker 5 (38:42):
Many in the podcast.
Speaker 3 (38:46):
That the People's Poll, the People's Poll.
Speaker 5 (38:49):
Everybody comes together, It's the People's Poll.
Speaker 2 (38:52):
Okay, The question on today's People's Poles she's a bit controversial,
but have you snooped on a partner's phone before? No judge, no,
no shame. We just want to know. Because Apple is
releasing its free iOS eighteen upgrade to millions of iPhones today,
and some are saying that the new feature will end
relationships by enabling cheaters to hide content from their partners. Basically,
(39:13):
He's going to be a folder, a private folder feature
which allows users to lock and hide apps on their
iPhone's home screen. Apple's defense is, no, you can, you know,
feel more secure knowing that some information can just stay
in there. But it does beg the question is it
going to tempt fate in some situation?
Speaker 3 (39:35):
Potentially? So we asked the question, have you ever looked
at a partner's phone? Be honest?
Speaker 2 (39:41):
Be honest?
Speaker 3 (39:42):
On the text machine. Someone said, Hell, yes, I've snooped
on my ex partner's phone. I found messages from him
to multiple females, So that was the end of that relationship.
Speaker 2 (39:54):
Someone also said, I've looked at my partner's phone, but
I know Oh sorry, I haven't looked at my partner's fine,
but I do know. Android has had that same ability
to hide content from for a while. Oh no, PJ
has an Android. No, no, I'm kidding. I'm secure and
I'm You're fine and continue dont need no snoopy.
Speaker 3 (40:12):
It's very split on the text. On the Instagram poll,
fifty one percent of people said Yep, I'll admit it,
I've done it. Forty nine said I No way, I
have not ever done that.
Speaker 2 (40:25):
Do you think they've forgotten because like everyone just said,
like a little we've all wait a little bit guilty
but we know it's bad, but we may have just
slip it three months or twice.
Speaker 5 (40:36):
Maddy and PJ. Mady and Pj, the podcast The Heads
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