- This is why we can't have nice things.. how soon after the purchase did you wreck something?
- Ryan's asked Matty not to do this one thing anymore
- Group Therapy: How do I support my partner who isn't actively working and contributing financially!
- How soon is too soon in a relationship?
- Apparently you shouldn't do this if you're over the age of 25...
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
The Hits Drive with Meddy and Paja thanks to Chemist
were House the Real House of Fragrances on that Hi everyone,
welcome to your Tuesday podcast. Meddi has reserved a special
conversation for the intro here instead of doing it live
on the radio.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
It's really excited.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
It's really to talk to that. But I went for
a run today, as I've been doing a bit lately.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Do you go running way?
Speaker 1 (00:31):
I know it's okay, it's your whole personality, but it's fine.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
It's such a good thing.
Speaker 3 (00:38):
Shit, I hate I do hate myself a little bit
for it, but don't here we are.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
I'm just jealous. I'm just jealous that I'm not running.
That's where the hate comes from.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
So so I went for a run this morning and
I got got home and it was a ten k
so it was a decent run, nice and I'm a
sweater at the best of time, so I was very
sweaty when I got home. And so the first thing
I did was I took my top off and I
caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror and I went, oh,
(01:08):
I kind of was like I was kind of feeling
myself a little bit. It doesn't happen very often. I
usually have a lot of self loathing when it comes
to like my general body slash appearance.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
Well, you're gorgeous.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
Is this You told us yesterday that you went running
with your top off in Australia.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
Yeah, so I didn't go running with my top off here, but.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
You took your top off afterwards. You're all sweaty and
you liked what you saw.
Speaker 3 (01:37):
Yeah, it was kind of like the sweat was like
glistening a little bit. And I thought my body did.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
Look like almost like you'd been leavit up and oil.
Speaker 3 (01:45):
Yes, And I thought, my body does look quite good.
So I took a photo of it, like I took
a mirror selfie, which I never do.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
Never do your face. Did you keep your face out
because you look like a roasted to my Yes.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
Because I'm so ridd and lotchy in my face. So
I crapped from the neck.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Down and Facebook profile.
Speaker 3 (02:06):
Oh no. But what I thought I would do is
I was like, no, I sent it to my husband.
I was like a little bit of you know, cheeky,
not more afternoon morning delight for for Ryan at work,
cute little sexy pecking. His husband let me.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
Let me like, what the fuck is this?
Speaker 3 (02:32):
Send me message?
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Just are you okay?
Speaker 3 (02:36):
He said, what was that for? But the other thing
that no, so also sorry, sorry, sorry, I need to.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
Send a racy Oh my god, this isn't a sexy photo.
Speaker 3 (02:48):
So here's what happened. I sent him the photo. I
didn't hear anything back, but I knew that he'd seen it.
He'd seen it, and then about an hour and a
half later, he just text me and said, I'm going
to go swimming after work tonight. So we just ignored it,
to be ignored the photo, and I said, great, have fun,
(03:13):
And then he said what was that? What was that
photo for?
Speaker 1 (03:18):
So maybe he thought because it never happens, he was
just he like, actually thought it was a mistake.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
You know, you needed to pre present.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
I know, I thought, is this is this is a
sad state of affears. My husband is questioning why I'd
be sending him a topless selfie of myself.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
Maybe it's a sign you need to do it more.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
He's so thrown by it being a rare occurrence that
you need to actually show him that this is what
he's got to expect. True, Do it again, do it
again tomorrow it's not you know, can you do it?
I can back it up, back it up, back it
and let me begin with another sweaty topless photo tomorrow.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
Well we're nearly we're nearly eight years into our relationship,
two years married. You know, you've got to keep the
romance alive.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
So did you ever used to sing sucy photos?
Speaker 3 (04:08):
Yeah? I probably did, because I traveled quite a bit.
I think did from time to times seen a couple
of you know, yea, but obviously not for a while.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
Don't keep, don't keep.
Speaker 3 (04:22):
No face, no disgrace.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
Yeah, there'd be a daily Mail article.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
But it's obviously reminded me that it must have been
a while since I've done that because he was so.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
Tak You've got to start feeling yourself more. Okay, it's
actually been a reminder of me. I need to sing
the little sixty photo, little.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
Bro yes before work tomorrow and see what he see what.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
He would be like?
Speaker 1 (04:46):
Wow, But i'd have to get the writing man the
photos that used to see hot but.
Speaker 3 (04:55):
A long distance man.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
This must have been Yeah, well no, not so much.
But like the odd one. Yeah, yeah, sexy little but
not like full nerdy, not full neudy. Anyway, look, coming
up of the podcast, we have a lot of fun. Today.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
We had group therapy with a bit of a financial dilemma.
Someone's partner has a job which is quite tough when
it comes to supporting the household.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
And we also asked about how soon after you purchased
something did you wreck it? And then some of them
were like immediately yes.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
And we talked relationships.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
How soon is too soon when it comes to a
certain event in a relationship. We'll go there coming up
of the podcast, and so much more.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
We hope you enjoy it.
Speaker 3 (05:45):
Bye bye, Maybe many in the podcast.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
I'd love to ask the question how soon after the
purchase did you wreck it? Can you not have nice things?
I don't know if you're into streamers matty and watching
people stream cars and stuff like that.
Speaker 3 (06:10):
You mean like gymnastic ribbons?
Speaker 2 (06:14):
Oh, totally into them.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
Yeah, I love those.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
Oh you know how like these really young YouTubers like
stream stuff and they get paid exambitant some money.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
I don't get it. I've never really got it, but
they are big for the youth.
Speaker 3 (06:29):
Apparently good for them.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
Well, a streamer from the States called Jack Doughty has
just crashed his brand new three hundred thousand dollars McLaren
five seventys. Don't ask me what that is after losing
control on a whip road and he was streaming at
the time, so he's actually like looking at his phone
at the comments, and then he sure enough just absolutely
(06:56):
equaplaned into a barrier and the rest is history, and
the McLaren is not looking.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
So flesh anymore.
Speaker 3 (07:04):
He's okay, though, he's fine, He's fine.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
We need to so then I.
Speaker 3 (07:08):
Can say, idiot, I've got absolutely no sympathy for him.
Speaker 1 (07:14):
Yeah, it was raining, he had to stand in the rain.
Following the crash. He has been taken off the platform,
obviously because he went against a lot of the guidelines,
you know, breaking laws and all that. But come on,
you'd be so gutted because, like I think, a big
thing that he does on his streaming side is he
like fleshes all his new products and like all these
(07:36):
fleshy cars.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
He's like, look at my wealth.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
And then he's just got this brand new expensive car
and he's just gone and run it off. Not idiot, idiot,
this is why we can't have nice things.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
So my I was thinking if I had an example
of this minor's low level compared to a three hundred
thousand dollar car.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
Well, you don't have a three hundred thousand dollar cars.
Speaker 3 (07:56):
I don't. I don't, but I when bought we get
when bought from Briscoes, like those nice little cups, like
glass cups that you can have like a cup of
coffee and in the morning.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
Oh do they they hate to protecting?
Speaker 3 (08:13):
Yeah, they're like double almost like double.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
I feel like it needs to be China to have
a coffee.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
No, they're good. I like them. Okay, I like them,
but I bought them. We had a coffee and beard
and then we were both had our cups of coffee
still sitting on our bed side table, and I started
making the bed and I flipped the do they in
the corner of the do they caught the cup? It
was literally the first time we'd used it, and it
(08:41):
smashed all over the floor and nice things you can imagine.
I was very cool, come and collected about the whole fan.
Speaker 4 (08:51):
Maddy ANDJ Mady and PJ the podcast the head We're
asking a simple question the SAVO when how soon sorry
after the purchase, did you RecA the streamer over in
the States, which showing off as brand new three hundred
thousand dollars McLaren car live streaming it and actually crushed it,
(09:13):
and well, we can't have nice things for people.
Speaker 3 (09:16):
Yep idiot though idiot.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
Yeah yeah, he has since been taken off the platform,
right fully so, but we wanted to know why can
you not have nice things?
Speaker 2 (09:25):
Victoria? What did you do?
Speaker 5 (09:28):
Nie? So, my partner bought me a brand new phone
for my birthday a few years ago, and within a
week I actually dropped the phone and smashed the screen
while I was on my co at work.
Speaker 3 (09:44):
No, not on smoker, Victoria. What was it one of
those things where you were trying Were you trying to
balance like a cup of coffee and it's gone and
a phone in your hand all at the same time.
Speaker 6 (09:54):
Oh, I was so upset.
Speaker 1 (09:59):
Honestly, getting like your phone appeared actually costs more than
a new phone.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
Have you found that?
Speaker 3 (10:03):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (10:04):
Truly, And often I'll just.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
Go into the nearest little fixer upper store, right and
it'll be like mobile repair shop.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
I don't actually know how legitimate it is.
Speaker 1 (10:13):
Recently, my cameras started coming up with an alert saying
this camera that's installed in the phone is not actually
a legitimate apple like peace. And so I'm like, hang on,
because I've got my camera fixed. Before I think I reckon,
I've got done over in one of those sort of shots.
Speaker 3 (10:32):
The cheap jobs.
Speaker 1 (10:34):
So watch out. Emily's one hundreds. How soon after the
purchase did you wrecka?
Speaker 2 (10:45):
Hello?
Speaker 7 (10:45):
Anals, That's right about a week.
Speaker 8 (10:52):
I got a We got a new car.
Speaker 7 (10:54):
We meant to get some new rooms and tires on it.
Basically pull a hire shop and then a motorbike at
the start of my car. He was like, he got
up and yeah, it was aod.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
Tell me you had insurance and a Lisa.
Speaker 7 (11:14):
We did. We had insurance. That wasn't a bit of
a process as it was obviously new.
Speaker 3 (11:20):
But yeah, that's smart because if that had happened to me,
there's absolutely no way I would have been organized to
have gotten insurance in that car.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
Thank you so much for you. We're going to help.
It's aboutually coming away. Kelly is joining us. Hi, cal Hello, Hello,
what did you reck? Straight after buying.
Speaker 8 (11:42):
It, I bought a big planter ceramic pot from the warehouse,
a big giant garden one.
Speaker 9 (11:50):
Yeah, and I got it.
Speaker 8 (11:52):
Out to the car park and when I was trying
to put it in my car. I dropped it completely,
the whole thing.
Speaker 1 (11:59):
No, is that one of those ones where like some
of the staff come out they feel so bad for
you that they just reimburse you out of pity.
Speaker 8 (12:07):
Well yeah, but they did in this time. It was
quite like one kind of expensive one. Everyone looking at me.
It was so embarrassing.
Speaker 3 (12:18):
I would have I think I would have cried.
Speaker 8 (12:24):
Go back into the shop and get them to come
and clean it up.
Speaker 3 (12:28):
On the podcast. You know, it was my birthday a
couple of weeks ago, and I said to you at
last week, wasn't it. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, it was
the week before heavy birthday.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
Thank you again, thank you.
Speaker 3 (12:46):
But I said to you at the time, I'm truly
I'm really not one for big birthday celebrations.
Speaker 2 (12:52):
I just wire is surprise considering your personality.
Speaker 3 (12:57):
Well, make me the center of attention, and I'm a
heavy man. But there's something about birthdays. I don't know
what it is. It just doesn't doesn't float my boat.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
And it never has. You don't think you're hating them more.
Speaker 3 (13:08):
It's not like I despise them. I just don't love
I just don't seek out big birthday attention. I'm quite
happy just having a very chill, casual celebration, but I
will do something. I'll often do something like I'm not
afraid to have a drink or something. I just don't
go big, I don't go crazy. But someone who hates
(13:28):
birthdays far more than me is my husband. Ryan just
cannot stand any kind of birthday celebration and famously hate surprises.
So the idea of like a surprise party for his
birthday is just the worst. I think I'd love a
surprise birthday party, would you really?
Speaker 9 (13:46):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (13:46):
I think it was.
Speaker 3 (13:47):
Has anyone ever thrown you one?
Speaker 1 (13:49):
I can't remember. I don't think so, maybe each I
don't want to offend anyone.
Speaker 3 (13:55):
Not Ah, maybe it's not.
Speaker 2 (13:57):
I can remember.
Speaker 3 (13:58):
If I if I threw right in a surprise birthday party,
I think it would be grounds for divorce. Truly.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
Really does he actually hate it?
Speaker 3 (14:06):
I hate it, hate it. But this year he's gone
one step further. We agreed this year because we've just
been on a big holiday overseas and we've got a
big trip coming. We're doing a big trip down to
the South Island over Christmas and stuff. We just said, look,
let's save our money and let's not worry about birthday
presents for each other this year. And I was fine
with that. He was fine with that, So that was
(14:27):
one thing. But then he said to me the other day,
do not do anything for my birthday? And I was like, okay,
and he said, what I mean by that is I
don't want a card. I don't want I don't want drinks,
I don't want any kind of celebration. And he said,
I do not want an Instagram birthday post because I
(14:52):
will always do one for you. He did do one
for me, and I will always do one for him.
I'll do a carousel of photos or do a lovely,
stoppy little mess about how much he means to me.
And he told me I'm not allowed to do one
this year. And it's driving me crazy because now my
concern is people will get to tomorrow. It's his birthday, tomorrow,
(15:12):
It'll get to tomorrow, and the whole day will pass,
and then all of these people are going to be
sitting there going what what a whole of a husband?
He don't even Bryan's birthday.
Speaker 1 (15:26):
But my question is because like as a girl, I
will often be like no, seriously, it's fine, I don't
know he means definitely wants something.
Speaker 3 (15:35):
He means it. I know he does. But now I'm
in this dilemma where I go, do I stick to
what he's asked of me? Or do I shun what
he's said and asked specifically for me not to do
on his birthday? And do I just do it? You
know what you do?
Speaker 1 (15:52):
You rock up to his work and you start singing
and do a flesh dow.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
Can you go there and just go all out and
mortify him and.
Speaker 10 (16:03):
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Speaker 2 (16:10):
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Speaker 1 (16:12):
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Speaker 2 (16:23):
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I have a bit of a situation i'd love you
to weigh in on for your group therapy segment. I've
been with my wonderful partner for a few years now.
She's amazing and talented and I adore her. She's also
a working actor, which I have so much respect for.
(16:58):
But it's such a brutal industry and I've watched her
time and time again go in for an audition and
not get the part, and it breaks my heart. But
it's also more than that. It's been a long time
between jobs for her, and obviously that's a bit of
a financial hit for us. I have to carry the
weight of responsibility for our rent and for our bills.
She does have a part time job, but she's reluctant
(17:20):
to get a full time one because she wants to
be free in case a big role comes along. So
how do I navigate this? I obviously want to be
a supportive partner, but I feel like there's going to
come a time when reality, when reality needs to set in.
Is it fair that I suggest my partner gives up
her dream and join the real world and get a job.
Speaker 1 (17:44):
Ooh, that's a really, really good one. I love the
support of nature. First of all, at partner, they're obviously
like so in aora of the partner. But you know,
at the end of the day, you do have to
pay bills, and I can absolutely understand how from month
to march, not knowing if you're going to get any
cash come through, it's really tough. And maybe I was
(18:06):
just thinking of solutions. Maybe instead of actually signing up
for a full time job, could she get could she
asked for more hours in a part time role so
you know, or maybe she looks at another.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
Part time job.
Speaker 1 (18:16):
She's got a couple of multiple part time jobs, and
then potentially there's more flexibility if one of these jobs
were to come up with acting roles.
Speaker 2 (18:25):
I don't know, is that silly advice?
Speaker 5 (18:26):
No?
Speaker 3 (18:27):
I think that's actually really smart advice, because you do.
I think you would really want to be careful about
stepping in and stopping someone from doing something that obviously
makes them really happy. I remember asking Dame weirdly talking
to Dame Susan Devoi before I got married, and I
(18:48):
said to her, do you have any wedding advice? And
she said, to me, let your partner do the thing
that makes them happy. She said, if you try and
stop them, you know, whether it's simple silly things like
going out and playing golf on a Saturday or whatever
it might be, if you try and step in and
stop them from doing that, it's only going to cause problems.
So I think the longer you can stop yourself from
(19:12):
stepping in and trying to trying to control what they do,
the better. But there also does have to be a
little bit of flexibility. So I think you're actually spot on.
There needs to be a conversation here about how do
I keep you doing the thing that you want to
keep doing while also addressing the fact that this is
the real world and we do have bills to pay
(19:33):
and times are tough financially at the moment. So we've
got to come up with a compromise that you can
be contributing more to the bills, but also allowing you
to keep trying to do the thing that makes you.
Speaker 1 (19:44):
If you were to take on a new roll and
commit to a full time role, then that could be
harder to get out of, right, But if you can
just pick up, you know, a bit more casual work
in the meantime, then you're still kind of leaving that
opening potentially if the dream job comes up, but oh,
eight hundred the hats to weigh in.
Speaker 2 (20:00):
Have you been in a similar situation.
Speaker 1 (20:02):
Where a partner did have quite flaky work but unpredictable
money coming through, and how did you get.
Speaker 10 (20:09):
For Maddy and PJ. Mady and PJ the podcast The
Heads Many and Pj's group therapy.
Speaker 1 (20:19):
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Speaker 3 (20:31):
I'll recap. Someone messaged in and said, I've been with
my wonderful partner for a few years now. She's amazing
and talented and I adore her. She's also a working actor,
which I have so much respect for. But it's such
a brutal industry and I've watched her time and time
again go in for an audition and not get the part,
and it breaks my heart. But it's also more than that.
It's been a long time between jobs for her, and
(20:52):
obviously that's a financial hit for us. I have to
carry the weight of responsibility for our rent and our bills.
She has a part time job, but she's reluctant to
get a full time one because she wants to be
free in case a big role comes along. So how
do I navigate this? I obviously want to be a
supportive partner, but I feel like there's going to come
a time when reality needs to set in. Is it
(21:13):
fear that I suggest my partner give up her dream
job and join the real world and get a job?
Speaker 1 (21:19):
We said, maybe a good solution would be to no,
not go and pack up like a new full time job,
but perhaps just arter more hours. Maybe encourage her to say, Okay, well,
look can I work a few more hours here and
the air or even find another part time job. But
I think if you don't get the ball moving in
some way, then this partner is obviously going to feel
(21:40):
resentment towards her.
Speaker 3 (21:43):
You know what, I reckon? Other people out there will
have had similar experiences like this, and I'd love to
hear from you on the text machine or give us
a call. Oh eight hundred the hits.
Speaker 2 (21:52):
NICKI is joining us. Hello, Niki, Hi here you do?
Yeah very well? What are your thoughts on the situation?
Speaker 1 (21:58):
Hi?
Speaker 9 (21:59):
I write your ideas about increasing hours and maybe getting
another sort of casual job. But if you're growing up,
you have to row your own canoe. You have to
be self reliant and pitch and you know, if it's
been a few years, it's not wrong. You know, the
(22:19):
reality has to hit in and I think it's done
there to rely on your partners pay for everything. Yeah,
there's kind of a balance too, because if you think
of the people who you know, like a couples that
put their partners through university, it is kind of the
same idea. But the difference is if you come out
(22:42):
of a law degree, you're probably going to get a
lawyer's job and and some deeces of money being an actor.
My daughter was a dancer in Sydney for years and
years and years and she just couldn't forform her dream.
I didn't pay the rent.
Speaker 3 (22:57):
Yeah, and that's a hard thing, right because we you know,
we sa say to kids, be whatever you want to be,
live your dreams. But ultimately, at the end of the day, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 9 (23:08):
You've got to be able to pay for yourself totally.
Speaker 3 (23:11):
And so maybe this is a way, you just don't know.
Speaker 1 (23:13):
She could be a couple of weeks away from this
dream gig which absolutely propels her and to start him
and she's.
Speaker 2 (23:20):
The next.
Speaker 3 (23:24):
Ye Roberts, I was gonna say, yeah.
Speaker 1 (23:29):
No, well, thank you so much for weighing in this afternoon.
Nakie Good points there, like, you can understand and you
don't want the resentment building, but it's so hard because
you're trying to show support at the same time.
Speaker 3 (23:41):
Yeah, so someone said, great advice from you and I
about trying to get maybe another part time job. But
the concern is how do you actually broach that subject.
So this person is suggested going in and saying, look,
things are tight and we do need to look at
how we are financing our lifestyle. What if I pay
the rent, you buy the food, and then that gives
(24:02):
them the kind of budget that they need to work within,
so they know, okay, this is the amount I need
to earn, and then they can figure out how they
do that and what that looks like to be able
to earn that amount, to be able to put towards
the food.
Speaker 1 (24:16):
And it probably feels at a little less finger pointing
I'm doing this, you do this. It actually shows on
paper what you guys need to achieve is a couple
like good.
Speaker 2 (24:24):
That's a good way to wrap it up, I reckon.
Speaker 1 (24:27):
So if you've got any questions for grip therapy, we
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I went shopping with my mommy this morning. We headed
(24:50):
to the Big Smoke We're in the Capitol for a
few hours, and.
Speaker 2 (24:55):
I took Mum into h and m She'd never been
there before.
Speaker 1 (25:00):
Wow, buddy, Wow, this is quite that's a good deal
in the shit.
Speaker 2 (25:04):
It was like Christmas.
Speaker 1 (25:06):
She was really excited and we'd both gone to get
individual things together. And then I was up at the
counter and I could.
Speaker 2 (25:14):
See her on the other side of the.
Speaker 1 (25:16):
Shop trying to find me. She was going the total
wrong direction. So I'd be like, Mom, literally that person
yelling out of the shop Mom.
Speaker 2 (25:25):
And she goes, oh, oh, she's just as frazzled as me.
Like think of me. But in thirty forty years, right.
Speaker 3 (25:33):
Do you have to sometimes do you? Sometimes I have
to call out their their actual name, because sometimes I
call out mom, Yes, Yeah, Mom doesn't know who's talking
to her, so she just.
Speaker 1 (25:43):
Ignores Angela harding Angela No.
Speaker 2 (25:47):
So she literally saw me.
Speaker 1 (25:48):
She came over, but I was right at the front
and I was just in the process of paying.
Speaker 2 (25:54):
And Mom came straight to join me in the queue.
Speaker 10 (25:58):
Now.
Speaker 2 (25:59):
I don't know why.
Speaker 1 (26:00):
This felt really off, because I feel like, if I
was in a cafe line, this could be all good,
it could be above board and you wouldn't really beat
an eyelid. But I felt like, because it was in
a retail store, it just felt really.
Speaker 2 (26:17):
Awkward that she can't enter the line.
Speaker 1 (26:20):
It joined me, there were people behind, and then she
just meant to pay straight away.
Speaker 3 (26:26):
How many items did she have?
Speaker 2 (26:28):
Three?
Speaker 3 (26:30):
See, this is the thing I think with retail is
it takes a lot longer than you would anticipate for
them to like scan and then fold and then bag up.
If you're at the cafe, you're really just placing a
quick order, so it's kind of fine she scanned to
the order, but retail does take a bit longer.
Speaker 1 (26:46):
I would love to know your official thoughts on that, Like,
can you if you see someone you know on the line,
jump in and join them in a retail store. We're
gonna be very specific about the sitting here to be
fair and hoo to fear ends she had actually seen
the people behind, she made it way more awkward Medy.
She goes, Oh, I didn't see them? Should I say so?
(27:09):
She goes, I'm so sorry. This was after the fact
she had purchased the items.
Speaker 2 (27:14):
I didn't see you that. I wouldn't have done that.
I'm so sorry, And it's all good. Already, get out
of here. You totally knew we were here.
Speaker 10 (27:27):
Maddy, J Meddy and PJ the podcast.
Speaker 3 (27:31):
That's Hey, my brother lives in the US, and I've
told you about He's a regular lithario. He's just an
eternal bachelor, as my brother.
Speaker 2 (27:42):
Yeah, I think it'd be great for one of my friends.
Speaker 1 (27:45):
I think they'd be such a cute peer they went
to sod they forget together for a wedding years.
Speaker 2 (27:50):
They would be a good look cute. But he's found love.
Speaker 3 (27:53):
He has at that wedding.
Speaker 2 (27:55):
Actually he was looking good.
Speaker 3 (27:59):
I will say he met a lovely lass. But they
are doing like a lot. They've been doing long distance
because he lives in la she actually lives in the Netherlands,
and they met in South Africa. It's a very complicated
melting pot.
Speaker 2 (28:14):
What a love story if they end up together.
Speaker 3 (28:17):
Truly, truly, But it's hard, right because they really haven't
spent that much time together. She went and visited him
in La for like a few weeks, so they spend
a little bit of time together. But she's back in
the Netherlands now and Rob's in La still. But we
are all all three of our siblings are going to
be home for Christmas this year in Queenstown.
Speaker 2 (28:39):
Oh that's the best.
Speaker 3 (28:41):
Yeah, it's funny. Actually, my sister messaged me the other
day because we sometimes play Mum bingo because Mum has
like the same things that she says often. And Mikayla
just messaged me the other day saying bingo because Mikayla
was on a call with Mum and she goes, when
the three of you get together, it's just my happy place.
It's such a mum thing to say.
Speaker 1 (29:02):
But bless it, blease, Tracy McClain. She's just excited to
have three babies.
Speaker 3 (29:07):
Yeah, so we're all going to be there. But guess
what I just found out. The girlfriend, the Dutch girlfriend,
is coming to Queenstown for a McLean family Christmas?
Speaker 2 (29:22):
Hang on, how much time have they actually spent together?
Speaker 3 (29:25):
Weeks? Okay, a matter of weeks?
Speaker 2 (29:29):
Okay, Okay. Now, I'm a firm believer of when you know,
you know, and I will be honest.
Speaker 1 (29:34):
I jumped into a relationship with mine now husband pretty quick,
and we did long distance, and I had to make
that call pretty quick whether we committed to a long
day relationship.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
And we did for three years and it worked blissfully.
But that's quack. It's quick to go on a family Christmas?
Speaker 3 (29:48):
Do you know the funniest thing she's bringing her mum?
What she's bringing her musk?
Speaker 2 (29:54):
Sorry?
Speaker 4 (29:55):
What?
Speaker 3 (29:58):
Which I guess makes sense because I think the mom
is going my daughter is dating this random man. On
the other side, I don't want.
Speaker 2 (30:07):
To fall in love with your family.
Speaker 3 (30:09):
Well will she? I'm scared because we're no holds barred
and we don't like you know, we play a lot
of board games and things can get heated, and I
do throw the attention when I lose a board game,
and I'm concerned that warts and all really will be
warts and all.
Speaker 1 (30:25):
Okay, I don't want to throw a friend under the bus,
but a very good friend of mine recently started seeing
someone in the last couple of months, and she just
told me that he's coming to their family Christmas as well.
That's early, And I'm like that, really, it's fine, it's fine,
But you just all of a sudden intertwined with the
family and things get more complicated.
Speaker 3 (30:47):
It's not just a casual dinner on like a Friday night.
Christmas is such an intimate time. It's an intense time.
There's lots of emotions going on. You really do see
the best and the worst of people at Christmas time.
Speaker 1 (31:04):
I recollectually throw a couple of questions out this afternoon.
First of all, when do you take it's so soon
to go to family Christmas? Or when is the appropriate
time if you're dating someone to go to the family Christmas.
Second of all, in hindsight, did things move way too.
Speaker 2 (31:17):
Fast in the relationship?
Speaker 1 (31:18):
Looking bat, you're like, actually, nah, we probably should have
pumped the brakes a little bit. Things went a little
too fast. I'll wait one hundred the hats to join
the show. We'd love you to weigh in. Takes four
four eight seven.
Speaker 2 (31:31):
How soon is too family Christmas? Together?
Speaker 10 (31:36):
I don't know, man.
Speaker 3 (31:39):
Of your brother to be on my best behavior.
Speaker 2 (31:43):
Know ignog for you. Maddy and PJ.
Speaker 10 (31:50):
Mady and PJ the podcast, Theads.
Speaker 1 (31:53):
We're talking romance this afternoon. Maddy's lovely brother has got
a lovely girlfriend and is bringing her to Christmas after Well, look,
they have been dating, you know, most of the year.
Speaker 3 (32:08):
They've been dating since I think May, but they've only
spent maybe four weeks together because it's a long distance thing. Yeah,
and now she's coming. The next time they see each
other will be at our family Christmas.
Speaker 1 (32:21):
The thing is with long distance, things do move quicker
and everything kind of compresses into a shorter space of time.
So I was judgable. I wasn't judgment before, but I
did say that soon. But now I'm thinking about it,
and I screw it. Like, if they want this thing
to be on, they've got to find out if they
collag you.
Speaker 3 (32:40):
Know, it's true, And I will say this is a.
Speaker 1 (32:42):
Way then to see Rob's older brother absolutely loser.
Speaker 3 (32:45):
Overboard game Monopoly, throw the boarder in the air. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (32:50):
So we're actually throwing out a couple of questions this afternoon.
Have things move too fast in the relationship in hindsight
or what time is the appropriate time to go to
a family crisis when dating someone.
Speaker 2 (33:01):
New, Jasmine is weighing in. Hello Jasmine, Hello.
Speaker 9 (33:05):
How are you good?
Speaker 2 (33:06):
Very well? What would you like to weigh in with?
Speaker 6 (33:10):
So, I'm the same as you. I'm a big believer
in when you know you know, yes, my husband. Actually,
So I met my husband on tender, like last week
of November eighteen. We moved in together in January. We
spent the entire Christmas together with his family.
Speaker 9 (33:28):
The whole day.
Speaker 6 (33:29):
I meet all of his family and he's so huge family.
And then we moved in together January, and now we're
married and have two kids and a house.
Speaker 3 (33:37):
Wow. But here's the thing, Jasmine, because so that was
a month between you meeting on tender and you going
to his family Christmas. At the time, are you sitting
down at the table with his family going this is
too soon. I've made a mistake here, part of me.
Speaker 6 (33:53):
But I'd also like I was so ready to like
just make someone and settle down. I thought, oh my god,
I'm getting a bit old. You know, it all worked out.
Speaker 1 (34:01):
So I feel like it's such an important thing if
my family jells with my partner. So like, if you
do kind of want that reassurance. Then it has a
really good exercise to do.
Speaker 3 (34:12):
Someone has text into four four. I have such such
shite taste in men that I should have exposed my
eggs to my family much sooner so that they could
judge him harshly.
Speaker 2 (34:25):
We go hands and hindsight.
Speaker 1 (34:27):
Jeff is joining us, all right, one hundred and hats
what do you want to weigh in with?
Speaker 8 (34:30):
Jeff?
Speaker 11 (34:32):
Hi, I, myself and my wife were heavily involved with
seth right slavy, and we we had a thing for
each other, I think, but everybody was trying to sit
each each of a fact. And we went to a
barbecue one night, and I haven't been home since, and
that was thirty six years ago.
Speaker 3 (34:53):
Stop you that night.
Speaker 12 (34:55):
Wow, we've been married for thirty one years. We have
two beautiful chills. And yeah, so we both and we
both said right at the start, we both.
Speaker 6 (35:06):
Knew that it was right.
Speaker 12 (35:08):
So I so I went to her. She owned her
own house.
Speaker 11 (35:13):
I went back to her place after the barbecue that night,
and I haven't been home.
Speaker 2 (35:18):
Oh my god, you restore my hope and love?
Speaker 3 (35:22):
All right?
Speaker 2 (35:22):
So beautiful.
Speaker 3 (35:23):
So I'll embrace my brother's girlfriend at Christmas time.
Speaker 11 (35:26):
Then I think you should.
Speaker 1 (35:28):
Thanks Jeff, Jeff the Love the love Guru has spoken,
all right, you go if you know, you know, and
the the suit you can't be Oh man, I stuffed
it up.
Speaker 3 (35:42):
So I was going to finish on.
Speaker 2 (35:44):
A profound note, but now I was just ruined.
Speaker 10 (35:46):
Them tried, You tried, Mary and PJ, Mady and PJ,
the podcast, the Heads, the.
Speaker 3 (35:56):
People's Poll, the People's Poll, everybody comes together, it's the people.
Speaker 1 (36:01):
We did this on the show every day and don't
get you can catch out Instagram the Hats Drive with
Maddy and PJ. We put the pole of the day
up on our story so you can weigh in.
Speaker 3 (36:11):
And today's is inspired by something that actually happened yesterday.
What happens frequently on the show is that just before
we go live, PJ will decide that that's the time
she wants to put some food in her mouth and
start eating.
Speaker 1 (36:25):
Well, I just know that I need to nourish and
fuel my body up for the hour here.
Speaker 3 (36:31):
True, but usually we have like a four minute song
to be able to do that, and then you choose
the last ten seconds of the song in which to
eat your food.
Speaker 2 (36:38):
I love life on the edge. You came in.
Speaker 3 (36:41):
Nothing else, but yesterday the item of food in question
was a gingerbread man.
Speaker 2 (36:49):
This was uncharacteristic of me.
Speaker 1 (36:51):
I haven't just a gingerbread man in a long time,
and I did feel like the lady at the store
was slightly judging me. I was ready to throw her
the response that it was for my son, but I
didn't need to shouldn't say anything, But.
Speaker 2 (37:06):
It does actually beg the question.
Speaker 1 (37:09):
Is it okay to buy a gingerbread man as an adult?
Speaker 3 (37:15):
I'm glad we're asking it, because I do really like
gingerbread men, but every time I see them at the counter,
they've got like because I've got like cute little colorful
buttons on them, and they're very much packaged towards children,
and so I never buy them because I always think
I'm going to get that judgment and someone's going to
(37:38):
be doing what's going to be saying, what are you
doing as a nearly forty year old buying yourself a
gingerbread man?
Speaker 2 (37:44):
Yeah, you've got to just do.
Speaker 1 (37:46):
Although you don't really get them at the at the
actual proper supermarket, do you like, we can chuck it
through the self serve usually somewhere where you actually have
to have the forward facing conversation.
Speaker 2 (37:56):
With a real hope. Okay, so the question today, let's
put this to rest.
Speaker 1 (38:01):
As an adult, can you go and purchase a gingerbread
man without being judged?
Speaker 2 (38:07):
It's similar to the question of Maka Chino.
Speaker 1 (38:09):
I remember I started dating a guy that drunk mockers
and it really really gave me the true and I.
Speaker 2 (38:17):
Couldn't look past it.
Speaker 1 (38:18):
I was like, can you not just drink a regular coffee?
But the question today is gingerbread men? As an adult,
can you go purchase it? Without judgments?
Speaker 10 (38:28):
Many and the podcast that the People's.
Speaker 3 (38:33):
Poll, the People's Pole, everybody comes together, it's the People's Poll.
Speaker 1 (38:38):
All right. Today's question maybe an obvious one. We're asking
as an adult, can you buy a gingerbread man?
Speaker 2 (38:44):
Obviously you can? But can you do it without judgment?
All as well in the world.
Speaker 3 (38:51):
I think yes, but I do always have that pause
because I would love to buy them. I think they're delicious,
but I always do pause and go, Am I going
to be judged for this?
Speaker 2 (39:02):
Treat yourself, go love your best life? Matthew? What's holding
you back?
Speaker 3 (39:06):
Well? That is the overwhelming majority in the text machine
and on our Instagram page is. While people said absolutely
you can, you so can, someone else said if you
want a goddamn gingerbread man, go get yourself.
Speaker 1 (39:19):
One said yes, you can buy and eat gingerbread men
as an adult. If someone doesn't like it, we'll screw them.
A lot of people quite passionate about this and similar
diamas where they're.
Speaker 2 (39:30):
Like, do I get it? Do I not?
Speaker 1 (39:32):
Do I want to get it? What's the overall percentage
on our story?
Speaker 3 (39:36):
Ninety six percent say go do it, get yourself a
gingerbread man and enjoy it.
Speaker 2 (39:43):
But what about a moccataino? That's the real quick story.
Speaker 10 (39:50):
Maddy ANDPJ. Mady and PJ the podcast. That's
The Hits Drive with Meddy and Paja thanks to Chemist
were House the Real House of Fragrances on that Hi everyone,
welcome to your Tuesday podcast. Meddi has reserved a special
conversation for the intro here instead of doing it live
on the radio.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
It's really excited.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
It's really to talk to that. But I went for
a run today, as I've been doing a bit lately.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Do you go running way?
Speaker 1 (00:31):
I know it's okay, it's your whole personality, but it's fine.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
It's such a good thing.
Speaker 3 (00:38):
Shit, I hate I do hate myself a little bit
for it, but don't here we are.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
I'm just jealous. I'm just jealous that I'm not running.
That's where the hate comes from.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
So so I went for a run this morning and
I got got home and it was a ten k
so it was a decent run, nice and I'm a
sweater at the best of time, so I was very
sweaty when I got home. And so the first thing
I did was I took my top off and I
caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror and I went, oh,
(01:08):
I kind of was like I was kind of feeling
myself a little bit. It doesn't happen very often. I
usually have a lot of self loathing when it comes
to like my general body slash appearance.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
Well, you're gorgeous.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
Is this You told us yesterday that you went running
with your top off in Australia.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
Yeah, so I didn't go running with my top off here, but.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
You took your top off afterwards. You're all sweaty and
you liked what you saw.
Speaker 3 (01:37):
Yeah, it was kind of like the sweat was like
glistening a little bit. And I thought my body did.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
Look like almost like you'd been leavit up and oil.
Speaker 3 (01:45):
Yes, And I thought, my body does look quite good.
So I took a photo of it, like I took
a mirror selfie, which I never do.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
Never do your face. Did you keep your face out
because you look like a roasted to my Yes.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
Because I'm so ridd and lotchy in my face. So
I crapped from the neck.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Down and Facebook profile.
Speaker 3 (02:06):
Oh no. But what I thought I would do is
I was like, no, I sent it to my husband.
I was like a little bit of you know, cheeky,
not more afternoon morning delight for for Ryan at work,
cute little sexy pecking. His husband let me.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
Let me like, what the fuck is this?
Speaker 3 (02:32):
Send me message?
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Just are you okay?
Speaker 3 (02:36):
He said, what was that for? But the other thing
that no, so also sorry, sorry, sorry, I need to.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
Send a racy Oh my god, this isn't a sexy photo.
Speaker 3 (02:48):
So here's what happened. I sent him the photo. I
didn't hear anything back, but I knew that he'd seen it.
He'd seen it, and then about an hour and a
half later, he just text me and said, I'm going
to go swimming after work tonight. So we just ignored it,
to be ignored the photo, and I said, great, have fun,
(03:13):
And then he said what was that? What was that
photo for?
Speaker 1 (03:18):
So maybe he thought because it never happens, he was
just he like, actually thought it was a mistake.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
You know, you needed to pre present.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
I know, I thought, is this is this is a
sad state of affears. My husband is questioning why I'd
be sending him a topless selfie of myself.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
Maybe it's a sign you need to do it more.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
He's so thrown by it being a rare occurrence that
you need to actually show him that this is what
he's got to expect. True, Do it again, do it
again tomorrow it's not you know, can you do it?
I can back it up, back it up, back it
and let me begin with another sweaty topless photo tomorrow.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
Well we're nearly we're nearly eight years into our relationship,
two years married. You know, you've got to keep the
romance alive.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
So did you ever used to sing sucy photos?
Speaker 3 (04:08):
Yeah? I probably did, because I traveled quite a bit.
I think did from time to times seen a couple
of you know, yea, but obviously not for a while.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
Don't keep, don't keep.
Speaker 3 (04:22):
No face, no disgrace.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
Yeah, there'd be a daily Mail article.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
But it's obviously reminded me that it must have been
a while since I've done that because he was so.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
Tak You've got to start feeling yourself more. Okay, it's
actually been a reminder of me. I need to sing
the little sixty photo, little.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
Bro yes before work tomorrow and see what he see what.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
He would be like?
Speaker 1 (04:46):
Wow, But i'd have to get the writing man the
photos that used to see hot but.
Speaker 3 (04:55):
A long distance man.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
This must have been Yeah, well no, not so much.
But like the odd one. Yeah, yeah, sexy little but
not like full nerdy, not full neudy. Anyway, look, coming
up of the podcast, we have a lot of fun. Today.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
We had group therapy with a bit of a financial dilemma.
Someone's partner has a job which is quite tough when
it comes to supporting the household.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
And we also asked about how soon after you purchased
something did you wreck it? And then some of them
were like immediately yes.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
And we talked relationships.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
How soon is too soon when it comes to a
certain event in a relationship. We'll go there coming up
of the podcast, and so much more.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
We hope you enjoy it.
Speaker 3 (05:45):
Bye bye, Maybe many in the podcast.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
I'd love to ask the question how soon after the
purchase did you wreck it? Can you not have nice things?
I don't know if you're into streamers matty and watching
people stream cars and stuff like that.
Speaker 3 (06:10):
You mean like gymnastic ribbons?
Speaker 2 (06:14):
Oh, totally into them.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
Yeah, I love those.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
Oh you know how like these really young YouTubers like
stream stuff and they get paid exambitant some money.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
I don't get it. I've never really got it, but
they are big for the youth.
Speaker 3 (06:29):
Apparently good for them.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
Well, a streamer from the States called Jack Doughty has
just crashed his brand new three hundred thousand dollars McLaren
five seventys. Don't ask me what that is after losing
control on a whip road and he was streaming at
the time, so he's actually like looking at his phone
at the comments, and then he sure enough just absolutely
(06:56):
equaplaned into a barrier and the rest is history, and
the McLaren is not looking.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
So flesh anymore.
Speaker 3 (07:04):
He's okay, though, he's fine, He's fine.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
We need to so then I.
Speaker 3 (07:08):
Can say, idiot, I've got absolutely no sympathy for him.
Speaker 1 (07:14):
Yeah, it was raining, he had to stand in the rain.
Following the crash. He has been taken off the platform,
obviously because he went against a lot of the guidelines,
you know, breaking laws and all that. But come on,
you'd be so gutted because, like I think, a big
thing that he does on his streaming side is he
like fleshes all his new products and like all these
(07:36):
fleshy cars.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
He's like, look at my wealth.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
And then he's just got this brand new expensive car
and he's just gone and run it off. Not idiot, idiot,
this is why we can't have nice things.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
So my I was thinking if I had an example
of this minor's low level compared to a three hundred
thousand dollar car.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
Well, you don't have a three hundred thousand dollar cars.
Speaker 3 (07:56):
I don't. I don't, but I when bought we get
when bought from Briscoes, like those nice little cups, like
glass cups that you can have like a cup of
coffee and in the morning.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
Oh do they they hate to protecting?
Speaker 3 (08:13):
Yeah, they're like double almost like double.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
I feel like it needs to be China to have
a coffee.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
No, they're good. I like them. Okay, I like them,
but I bought them. We had a coffee and beard
and then we were both had our cups of coffee
still sitting on our bed side table, and I started
making the bed and I flipped the do they in
the corner of the do they caught the cup? It
was literally the first time we'd used it, and it
(08:41):
smashed all over the floor and nice things you can imagine.
I was very cool, come and collected about the whole fan.
Speaker 4 (08:51):
Maddy ANDJ Mady and PJ the podcast the head We're
asking a simple question the SAVO when how soon sorry
after the purchase, did you RecA the streamer over in
the States, which showing off as brand new three hundred
thousand dollars McLaren car live streaming it and actually crushed it,
(09:13):
and well, we can't have nice things for people.
Speaker 3 (09:16):
Yep idiot though idiot.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
Yeah yeah, he has since been taken off the platform,
right fully so, but we wanted to know why can
you not have nice things?
Speaker 2 (09:25):
Victoria? What did you do?
Speaker 5 (09:28):
Nie? So, my partner bought me a brand new phone
for my birthday a few years ago, and within a
week I actually dropped the phone and smashed the screen
while I was on my co at work.
Speaker 3 (09:44):
No, not on smoker, Victoria. What was it one of
those things where you were trying Were you trying to
balance like a cup of coffee and it's gone and
a phone in your hand all at the same time.
Speaker 6 (09:54):
Oh, I was so upset.
Speaker 1 (09:59):
Honestly, getting like your phone appeared actually costs more than
a new phone.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
Have you found that?
Speaker 3 (10:03):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (10:04):
Truly, And often I'll just.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
Go into the nearest little fixer upper store, right and
it'll be like mobile repair shop.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
I don't actually know how legitimate it is.
Speaker 1 (10:13):
Recently, my cameras started coming up with an alert saying
this camera that's installed in the phone is not actually
a legitimate apple like peace. And so I'm like, hang on,
because I've got my camera fixed. Before I think I reckon,
I've got done over in one of those sort of shots.
Speaker 3 (10:32):
The cheap jobs.
Speaker 1 (10:34):
So watch out. Emily's one hundreds. How soon after the
purchase did you wrecka?
Speaker 2 (10:45):
Hello?
Speaker 7 (10:45):
Anals, That's right about a week.
Speaker 8 (10:52):
I got a We got a new car.
Speaker 7 (10:54):
We meant to get some new rooms and tires on it.
Basically pull a hire shop and then a motorbike at
the start of my car. He was like, he got
up and yeah, it was aod.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
Tell me you had insurance and a Lisa.
Speaker 7 (11:14):
We did. We had insurance. That wasn't a bit of
a process as it was obviously new.
Speaker 3 (11:20):
But yeah, that's smart because if that had happened to me,
there's absolutely no way I would have been organized to
have gotten insurance in that car.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
Thank you so much for you. We're going to help.
It's aboutually coming away. Kelly is joining us. Hi, cal Hello, Hello,
what did you reck? Straight after buying.
Speaker 8 (11:42):
It, I bought a big planter ceramic pot from the warehouse,
a big giant garden one.
Speaker 9 (11:50):
Yeah, and I got it.
Speaker 8 (11:52):
Out to the car park and when I was trying
to put it in my car. I dropped it completely,
the whole thing.
Speaker 1 (11:59):
No, is that one of those ones where like some
of the staff come out they feel so bad for
you that they just reimburse you out of pity.
Speaker 8 (12:07):
Well yeah, but they did in this time. It was
quite like one kind of expensive one. Everyone looking at me.
It was so embarrassing.
Speaker 3 (12:18):
I would have I think I would have cried.
Speaker 8 (12:24):
Go back into the shop and get them to come
and clean it up.
Speaker 3 (12:28):
On the podcast. You know, it was my birthday a
couple of weeks ago, and I said to you at
last week, wasn't it. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, it was
the week before heavy birthday.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
Thank you again, thank you.
Speaker 3 (12:46):
But I said to you at the time, I'm truly
I'm really not one for big birthday celebrations.
Speaker 2 (12:52):
I just wire is surprise considering your personality.
Speaker 3 (12:57):
Well, make me the center of attention, and I'm a
heavy man. But there's something about birthdays. I don't know
what it is. It just doesn't doesn't float my boat.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
And it never has. You don't think you're hating them more.
Speaker 3 (13:08):
It's not like I despise them. I just don't love
I just don't seek out big birthday attention. I'm quite
happy just having a very chill, casual celebration, but I
will do something. I'll often do something like I'm not
afraid to have a drink or something. I just don't
go big, I don't go crazy. But someone who hates
(13:28):
birthdays far more than me is my husband. Ryan just
cannot stand any kind of birthday celebration and famously hate surprises.
So the idea of like a surprise party for his
birthday is just the worst. I think I'd love a
surprise birthday party, would you really?
Speaker 9 (13:46):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (13:46):
I think it was.
Speaker 3 (13:47):
Has anyone ever thrown you one?
Speaker 1 (13:49):
I can't remember. I don't think so, maybe each I
don't want to offend anyone.
Speaker 3 (13:55):
Not Ah, maybe it's not.
Speaker 2 (13:57):
I can remember.
Speaker 3 (13:58):
If I if I threw right in a surprise birthday party,
I think it would be grounds for divorce. Truly.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
Really does he actually hate it?
Speaker 3 (14:06):
I hate it, hate it. But this year he's gone
one step further. We agreed this year because we've just
been on a big holiday overseas and we've got a
big trip coming. We're doing a big trip down to
the South Island over Christmas and stuff. We just said, look,
let's save our money and let's not worry about birthday
presents for each other this year. And I was fine
with that. He was fine with that, So that was
(14:27):
one thing. But then he said to me the other day,
do not do anything for my birthday? And I was like, okay,
and he said, what I mean by that is I
don't want a card. I don't want I don't want drinks,
I don't want any kind of celebration. And he said,
I do not want an Instagram birthday post because I
(14:52):
will always do one for you. He did do one
for me, and I will always do one for him.
I'll do a carousel of photos or do a lovely,
stoppy little mess about how much he means to me.
And he told me I'm not allowed to do one
this year. And it's driving me crazy because now my
concern is people will get to tomorrow. It's his birthday, tomorrow,
(15:12):
It'll get to tomorrow, and the whole day will pass,
and then all of these people are going to be
sitting there going what what a whole of a husband?
He don't even Bryan's birthday.
Speaker 1 (15:26):
But my question is because like as a girl, I
will often be like no, seriously, it's fine, I don't
know he means definitely wants something.
Speaker 3 (15:35):
He means it. I know he does. But now I'm
in this dilemma where I go, do I stick to
what he's asked of me? Or do I shun what
he's said and asked specifically for me not to do
on his birthday? And do I just do it? You
know what you do?
Speaker 1 (15:52):
You rock up to his work and you start singing
and do a flesh dow.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
Can you go there and just go all out and
mortify him and.
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I have a bit of a situation i'd love you
to weigh in on for your group therapy segment. I've
been with my wonderful partner for a few years now.
She's amazing and talented and I adore her. She's also
a working actor, which I have so much respect for.
(16:58):
But it's such a brutal industry and I've watched her
time and time again go in for an audition and
not get the part, and it breaks my heart. But
it's also more than that. It's been a long time
between jobs for her, and obviously that's a bit of
a financial hit for us. I have to carry the
weight of responsibility for our rent and for our bills.
She does have a part time job, but she's reluctant
(17:20):
to get a full time one because she wants to
be free in case a big role comes along. So
how do I navigate this? I obviously want to be
a supportive partner, but I feel like there's going to
come a time when reality, when reality needs to set in.
Is it fair that I suggest my partner gives up
her dream and join the real world and get a job.
Speaker 1 (17:44):
Ooh, that's a really, really good one. I love the
support of nature. First of all, at partner, they're obviously
like so in aora of the partner. But you know,
at the end of the day, you do have to
pay bills, and I can absolutely understand how from month
to march, not knowing if you're going to get any
cash come through, it's really tough. And maybe I was
(18:06):
just thinking of solutions. Maybe instead of actually signing up
for a full time job, could she get could she
asked for more hours in a part time role so
you know, or maybe she looks at another.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
Part time job.
Speaker 1 (18:16):
She's got a couple of multiple part time jobs, and
then potentially there's more flexibility if one of these jobs
were to come up with acting roles.
Speaker 2 (18:25):
I don't know, is that silly advice?
Speaker 5 (18:26):
No?
Speaker 3 (18:27):
I think that's actually really smart advice, because you do.
I think you would really want to be careful about
stepping in and stopping someone from doing something that obviously
makes them really happy. I remember asking Dame weirdly talking
to Dame Susan Devoi before I got married, and I
(18:48):
said to her, do you have any wedding advice? And
she said, to me, let your partner do the thing
that makes them happy. She said, if you try and
stop them, you know, whether it's simple silly things like
going out and playing golf on a Saturday or whatever
it might be, if you try and step in and
stop them from doing that, it's only going to cause problems.
So I think the longer you can stop yourself from
(19:12):
stepping in and trying to trying to control what they do,
the better. But there also does have to be a
little bit of flexibility. So I think you're actually spot on.
There needs to be a conversation here about how do
I keep you doing the thing that you want to
keep doing while also addressing the fact that this is
the real world and we do have bills to pay
(19:33):
and times are tough financially at the moment. So we've
got to come up with a compromise that you can
be contributing more to the bills, but also allowing you
to keep trying to do the thing that makes you.
Speaker 1 (19:44):
If you were to take on a new roll and
commit to a full time role, then that could be
harder to get out of, right, But if you can
just pick up, you know, a bit more casual work
in the meantime, then you're still kind of leaving that
opening potentially if the dream job comes up, but oh,
eight hundred the hats to weigh in.
Speaker 2 (20:00):
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Speaker 1 (20:02):
Where a partner did have quite flaky work but unpredictable
money coming through, and how did you get.
Speaker 10 (20:09):
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Speaker 3 (20:31):
I'll recap. Someone messaged in and said, I've been with
my wonderful partner for a few years now. She's amazing
and talented and I adore her. She's also a working actor,
which I have so much respect for. But it's such
a brutal industry and I've watched her time and time
again go in for an audition and not get the part,
and it breaks my heart. But it's also more than that.
It's been a long time between jobs for her, and
(20:52):
obviously that's a financial hit for us. I have to
carry the weight of responsibility for our rent and our bills.
She has a part time job, but she's reluctant to
get a full time one because she wants to be
free in case a big role comes along. So how
do I navigate this? I obviously want to be a
supportive partner, but I feel like there's going to come
a time when reality needs to set in. Is it
(21:13):
fear that I suggest my partner give up her dream
job and join the real world and get a job?
Speaker 1 (21:19):
We said, maybe a good solution would be to no,
not go and pack up like a new full time job,
but perhaps just arter more hours. Maybe encourage her to say, Okay, well,
look can I work a few more hours here and
the air or even find another part time job. But
I think if you don't get the ball moving in
some way, then this partner is obviously going to feel
(21:40):
resentment towards her.
Speaker 3 (21:43):
You know what, I reckon? Other people out there will
have had similar experiences like this, and I'd love to
hear from you on the text machine or give us
a call. Oh eight hundred the hits.
Speaker 2 (21:52):
NICKI is joining us. Hello, Niki, Hi here you do?
Yeah very well? What are your thoughts on the situation?
Speaker 1 (21:58):
Hi?
Speaker 9 (21:59):
I write your ideas about increasing hours and maybe getting
another sort of casual job. But if you're growing up,
you have to row your own canoe. You have to
be self reliant and pitch and you know, if it's
been a few years, it's not wrong. You know, the
(22:19):
reality has to hit in and I think it's done
there to rely on your partners pay for everything. Yeah,
there's kind of a balance too, because if you think
of the people who you know, like a couples that
put their partners through university, it is kind of the
same idea. But the difference is if you come out
(22:42):
of a law degree, you're probably going to get a
lawyer's job and and some deeces of money being an actor.
My daughter was a dancer in Sydney for years and
years and years and she just couldn't forform her dream.
I didn't pay the rent.
Speaker 3 (22:57):
Yeah, and that's a hard thing, right because we you know,
we sa say to kids, be whatever you want to be,
live your dreams. But ultimately, at the end of the day, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 9 (23:08):
You've got to be able to pay for yourself totally.
Speaker 3 (23:11):
And so maybe this is a way, you just don't know.
Speaker 1 (23:13):
She could be a couple of weeks away from this
dream gig which absolutely propels her and to start him
and she's.
Speaker 2 (23:20):
The next.
Speaker 3 (23:24):
Ye Roberts, I was gonna say, yeah.
Speaker 1 (23:29):
No, well, thank you so much for weighing in this afternoon.
Nakie Good points there, like, you can understand and you
don't want the resentment building, but it's so hard because
you're trying to show support at the same time.
Speaker 3 (23:41):
Yeah, so someone said, great advice from you and I
about trying to get maybe another part time job. But
the concern is how do you actually broach that subject.
So this person is suggested going in and saying, look,
things are tight and we do need to look at
how we are financing our lifestyle. What if I pay
the rent, you buy the food, and then that gives
(24:02):
them the kind of budget that they need to work within,
so they know, okay, this is the amount I need
to earn, and then they can figure out how they
do that and what that looks like to be able
to earn that amount, to be able to put towards
the food.
Speaker 1 (24:16):
And it probably feels at a little less finger pointing
I'm doing this, you do this. It actually shows on
paper what you guys need to achieve is a couple
like good.
Speaker 2 (24:24):
That's a good way to wrap it up, I reckon.
Speaker 1 (24:27):
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next week the podcast. Hey another Day, Another etiquette question.
I went shopping with my mommy this morning. We headed
(24:50):
to the Big Smoke We're in the Capitol for a
few hours, and.
Speaker 2 (24:55):
I took Mum into h and m She'd never been
there before.
Speaker 1 (25:00):
Wow, buddy, Wow, this is quite that's a good deal
in the shit.
Speaker 2 (25:04):
It was like Christmas.
Speaker 1 (25:06):
She was really excited and we'd both gone to get
individual things together. And then I was up at the
counter and I could.
Speaker 2 (25:14):
See her on the other side of the.
Speaker 1 (25:16):
Shop trying to find me. She was going the total
wrong direction. So I'd be like, Mom, literally that person
yelling out of the shop Mom.
Speaker 2 (25:25):
And she goes, oh, oh, she's just as frazzled as me.
Like think of me. But in thirty forty years, right.
Speaker 3 (25:33):
Do you have to sometimes do you? Sometimes I have
to call out their their actual name, because sometimes I
call out mom, Yes, Yeah, Mom doesn't know who's talking
to her, so she just.
Speaker 1 (25:43):
Ignores Angela harding Angela No.
Speaker 2 (25:47):
So she literally saw me.
Speaker 1 (25:48):
She came over, but I was right at the front
and I was just in the process of paying.
Speaker 2 (25:54):
And Mom came straight to join me in the queue.
Speaker 10 (25:58):
Now.
Speaker 2 (25:59):
I don't know why.
Speaker 1 (26:00):
This felt really off, because I feel like, if I
was in a cafe line, this could be all good,
it could be above board and you wouldn't really beat
an eyelid. But I felt like, because it was in
a retail store, it just felt really.
Speaker 2 (26:17):
Awkward that she can't enter the line.
Speaker 1 (26:20):
It joined me, there were people behind, and then she
just meant to pay straight away.
Speaker 3 (26:26):
How many items did she have?
Speaker 2 (26:28):
Three?
Speaker 3 (26:30):
See, this is the thing I think with retail is
it takes a lot longer than you would anticipate for
them to like scan and then fold and then bag up.
If you're at the cafe, you're really just placing a
quick order, so it's kind of fine she scanned to
the order, but retail does take a bit longer.
Speaker 1 (26:46):
I would love to know your official thoughts on that, Like,
can you if you see someone you know on the line,
jump in and join them in a retail store. We're
gonna be very specific about the sitting here to be
fair and hoo to fear ends she had actually seen
the people behind, she made it way more awkward Medy.
She goes, Oh, I didn't see them? Should I say so?
(27:09):
She goes, I'm so sorry. This was after the fact
she had purchased the items.
Speaker 2 (27:14):
I didn't see you that. I wouldn't have done that.
I'm so sorry, And it's all good. Already, get out
of here. You totally knew we were here.
Speaker 10 (27:27):
Maddy, J Meddy and PJ the podcast.
Speaker 3 (27:31):
That's Hey, my brother lives in the US, and I've
told you about He's a regular lithario. He's just an
eternal bachelor, as my brother.
Speaker 2 (27:42):
Yeah, I think it'd be great for one of my friends.
Speaker 1 (27:45):
I think they'd be such a cute peer they went
to sod they forget together for a wedding years.
Speaker 2 (27:50):
They would be a good look cute. But he's found love.
Speaker 3 (27:53):
He has at that wedding.
Speaker 2 (27:55):
Actually he was looking good.
Speaker 3 (27:59):
I will say he met a lovely lass. But they
are doing like a lot. They've been doing long distance
because he lives in la she actually lives in the Netherlands,
and they met in South Africa. It's a very complicated
melting pot.
Speaker 2 (28:14):
What a love story if they end up together.
Speaker 3 (28:17):
Truly, truly, But it's hard, right because they really haven't
spent that much time together. She went and visited him
in La for like a few weeks, so they spend
a little bit of time together. But she's back in
the Netherlands now and Rob's in La still. But we
are all all three of our siblings are going to
be home for Christmas this year in Queenstown.
Speaker 2 (28:39):
Oh that's the best.
Speaker 3 (28:41):
Yeah, it's funny. Actually, my sister messaged me the other
day because we sometimes play Mum bingo because Mum has
like the same things that she says often. And Mikayla
just messaged me the other day saying bingo because Mikayla
was on a call with Mum and she goes, when
the three of you get together, it's just my happy place.
It's such a mum thing to say.
Speaker 1 (29:02):
But bless it, blease, Tracy McClain. She's just excited to
have three babies.
Speaker 3 (29:07):
Yeah, so we're all going to be there. But guess
what I just found out. The girlfriend, the Dutch girlfriend,
is coming to Queenstown for a McLean family Christmas?
Speaker 2 (29:22):
Hang on, how much time have they actually spent together?
Speaker 3 (29:25):
Weeks? Okay, a matter of weeks?
Speaker 2 (29:29):
Okay, Okay. Now, I'm a firm believer of when you know,
you know, and I will be honest.
Speaker 1 (29:34):
I jumped into a relationship with mine now husband pretty quick,
and we did long distance, and I had to make
that call pretty quick whether we committed to a long
day relationship.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
And we did for three years and it worked blissfully.
But that's quack. It's quick to go on a family Christmas?
Speaker 3 (29:48):
Do you know the funniest thing she's bringing her mum?
What she's bringing her musk?
Speaker 2 (29:54):
Sorry?
Speaker 4 (29:55):
What?
Speaker 3 (29:58):
Which I guess makes sense because I think the mom
is going my daughter is dating this random man. On
the other side, I don't want.
Speaker 2 (30:07):
To fall in love with your family.
Speaker 3 (30:09):
Well will she? I'm scared because we're no holds barred
and we don't like you know, we play a lot
of board games and things can get heated, and I
do throw the attention when I lose a board game,
and I'm concerned that warts and all really will be
warts and all.
Speaker 1 (30:25):
Okay, I don't want to throw a friend under the bus,
but a very good friend of mine recently started seeing
someone in the last couple of months, and she just
told me that he's coming to their family Christmas as well.
That's early, And I'm like that, really, it's fine, it's fine,
But you just all of a sudden intertwined with the
family and things get more complicated.
Speaker 3 (30:47):
It's not just a casual dinner on like a Friday night.
Christmas is such an intimate time. It's an intense time.
There's lots of emotions going on. You really do see
the best and the worst of people at Christmas time.
Speaker 1 (31:04):
I recollectually throw a couple of questions out this afternoon.
First of all, when do you take it's so soon
to go to family Christmas? Or when is the appropriate
time if you're dating someone to go to the family Christmas.
Second of all, in hindsight, did things move way too.
Speaker 2 (31:17):
Fast in the relationship?
Speaker 1 (31:18):
Looking bat, you're like, actually, nah, we probably should have
pumped the brakes a little bit. Things went a little
too fast. I'll wait one hundred the hats to join
the show. We'd love you to weigh in. Takes four
four eight seven.
Speaker 2 (31:31):
How soon is too family Christmas? Together?
Speaker 10 (31:36):
I don't know, man.
Speaker 3 (31:39):
Of your brother to be on my best behavior.
Speaker 2 (31:43):
Know ignog for you. Maddy and PJ.
Speaker 10 (31:50):
Mady and PJ the podcast, Theads.
Speaker 1 (31:53):
We're talking romance this afternoon. Maddy's lovely brother has got
a lovely girlfriend and is bringing her to Christmas after Well, look,
they have been dating, you know, most of the year.
Speaker 3 (32:08):
They've been dating since I think May, but they've only
spent maybe four weeks together because it's a long distance thing. Yeah,
and now she's coming. The next time they see each
other will be at our family Christmas.
Speaker 1 (32:21):
The thing is with long distance, things do move quicker
and everything kind of compresses into a shorter space of time.
So I was judgable. I wasn't judgment before, but I
did say that soon. But now I'm thinking about it,
and I screw it. Like, if they want this thing
to be on, they've got to find out if they
collag you.
Speaker 3 (32:40):
Know, it's true, And I will say this is a.
Speaker 1 (32:42):
Way then to see Rob's older brother absolutely loser.
Speaker 3 (32:45):
Overboard game Monopoly, throw the boarder in the air. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (32:50):
So we're actually throwing out a couple of questions this afternoon.
Have things move too fast in the relationship in hindsight
or what time is the appropriate time to go to
a family crisis when dating someone.
Speaker 2 (33:01):
New, Jasmine is weighing in. Hello Jasmine, Hello.
Speaker 9 (33:05):
How are you good?
Speaker 2 (33:06):
Very well? What would you like to weigh in with?
Speaker 6 (33:10):
So, I'm the same as you. I'm a big believer
in when you know you know, yes, my husband. Actually,
So I met my husband on tender, like last week
of November eighteen. We moved in together in January. We
spent the entire Christmas together with his family.
Speaker 9 (33:28):
The whole day.
Speaker 6 (33:29):
I meet all of his family and he's so huge family.
And then we moved in together January, and now we're
married and have two kids and a house.
Speaker 3 (33:37):
Wow. But here's the thing, Jasmine, because so that was
a month between you meeting on tender and you going
to his family Christmas. At the time, are you sitting
down at the table with his family going this is
too soon. I've made a mistake here, part of me.
Speaker 6 (33:53):
But I'd also like I was so ready to like
just make someone and settle down. I thought, oh my god,
I'm getting a bit old. You know, it all worked out.
Speaker 1 (34:01):
So I feel like it's such an important thing if
my family jells with my partner. So like, if you
do kind of want that reassurance. Then it has a
really good exercise to do.
Speaker 3 (34:12):
Someone has text into four four. I have such such
shite taste in men that I should have exposed my
eggs to my family much sooner so that they could
judge him harshly.
Speaker 2 (34:25):
We go hands and hindsight.
Speaker 1 (34:27):
Jeff is joining us, all right, one hundred and hats
what do you want to weigh in with?
Speaker 8 (34:30):
Jeff?
Speaker 11 (34:32):
Hi, I, myself and my wife were heavily involved with
seth right slavy, and we we had a thing for
each other, I think, but everybody was trying to sit
each each of a fact. And we went to a
barbecue one night, and I haven't been home since, and
that was thirty six years ago.
Speaker 3 (34:53):
Stop you that night.
Speaker 12 (34:55):
Wow, we've been married for thirty one years. We have
two beautiful chills. And yeah, so we both and we
both said right at the start, we both.
Speaker 6 (35:06):
Knew that it was right.
Speaker 12 (35:08):
So I so I went to her. She owned her
own house.
Speaker 11 (35:13):
I went back to her place after the barbecue that night,
and I haven't been home.
Speaker 2 (35:18):
Oh my god, you restore my hope and love?
Speaker 3 (35:22):
All right?
Speaker 2 (35:22):
So beautiful.
Speaker 3 (35:23):
So I'll embrace my brother's girlfriend at Christmas time.
Speaker 11 (35:26):
Then I think you should.
Speaker 1 (35:28):
Thanks Jeff, Jeff the Love the love Guru has spoken,
all right, you go if you know, you know, and
the the suit you can't be Oh man, I stuffed
it up.
Speaker 3 (35:42):
So I was going to finish on.
Speaker 2 (35:44):
A profound note, but now I was just ruined.
Speaker 10 (35:46):
Them tried, You tried, Mary and PJ, Mady and PJ,
the podcast, the Heads, the.
Speaker 3 (35:56):
People's Poll, the People's Poll, everybody comes together, it's the people.
Speaker 1 (36:01):
We did this on the show every day and don't
get you can catch out Instagram the Hats Drive with
Maddy and PJ. We put the pole of the day
up on our story so you can weigh in.
Speaker 3 (36:11):
And today's is inspired by something that actually happened yesterday.
What happens frequently on the show is that just before
we go live, PJ will decide that that's the time
she wants to put some food in her mouth and
start eating.
Speaker 1 (36:25):
Well, I just know that I need to nourish and
fuel my body up for the hour here.
Speaker 3 (36:31):
True, but usually we have like a four minute song
to be able to do that, and then you choose
the last ten seconds of the song in which to
eat your food.
Speaker 2 (36:38):
I love life on the edge. You came in.
Speaker 3 (36:41):
Nothing else, but yesterday the item of food in question
was a gingerbread man.
Speaker 2 (36:49):
This was uncharacteristic of me.
Speaker 1 (36:51):
I haven't just a gingerbread man in a long time,
and I did feel like the lady at the store
was slightly judging me. I was ready to throw her
the response that it was for my son, but I
didn't need to shouldn't say anything, But.
Speaker 2 (37:06):
It does actually beg the question.
Speaker 1 (37:09):
Is it okay to buy a gingerbread man as an adult?
Speaker 3 (37:15):
I'm glad we're asking it, because I do really like
gingerbread men, but every time I see them at the counter,
they've got like because I've got like cute little colorful
buttons on them, and they're very much packaged towards children,
and so I never buy them because I always think
I'm going to get that judgment and someone's going to
(37:38):
be doing what's going to be saying, what are you
doing as a nearly forty year old buying yourself a
gingerbread man?
Speaker 2 (37:44):
Yeah, you've got to just do.
Speaker 1 (37:46):
Although you don't really get them at the at the
actual proper supermarket, do you like, we can chuck it
through the self serve usually somewhere where you actually have
to have the forward facing conversation.
Speaker 2 (37:56):
With a real hope. Okay, so the question today, let's
put this to rest.
Speaker 1 (38:01):
As an adult, can you go and purchase a gingerbread
man without being judged?
Speaker 2 (38:07):
It's similar to the question of Maka Chino.
Speaker 1 (38:09):
I remember I started dating a guy that drunk mockers
and it really really gave me the true and I.
Speaker 2 (38:17):
Couldn't look past it.
Speaker 1 (38:18):
I was like, can you not just drink a regular coffee?
But the question today is gingerbread men? As an adult,
can you go purchase it? Without judgments?
Speaker 10 (38:28):
Many and the podcast that the People's.
Speaker 3 (38:33):
Poll, the People's Pole, everybody comes together, it's the People's Poll.
Speaker 1 (38:38):
All right. Today's question maybe an obvious one. We're asking
as an adult, can you buy a gingerbread man?
Speaker 2 (38:44):
Obviously you can? But can you do it without judgment?
All as well in the world.
Speaker 3 (38:51):
I think yes, but I do always have that pause
because I would love to buy them. I think they're delicious,
but I always do pause and go, Am I going
to be judged for this?
Speaker 2 (39:02):
Treat yourself, go love your best life? Matthew? What's holding
you back?
Speaker 3 (39:06):
Well? That is the overwhelming majority in the text machine
and on our Instagram page is. While people said absolutely
you can, you so can, someone else said if you
want a goddamn gingerbread man, go get yourself.
Speaker 1 (39:19):
One said yes, you can buy and eat gingerbread men
as an adult. If someone doesn't like it, we'll screw them.
A lot of people quite passionate about this and similar
diamas where they're.
Speaker 2 (39:30):
Like, do I get it? Do I not?
Speaker 1 (39:32):
Do I want to get it? What's the overall percentage
on our story?
Speaker 3 (39:36):
Ninety six percent say go do it, get yourself a
gingerbread man and enjoy it.
Speaker 2 (39:43):
But what about a moccataino? That's the real quick story.
Speaker 10 (39:50):
Maddy ANDPJ. Mady and PJ the podcast. That's
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