November 12, 2024 • 40 mins
- Benefits of having rich friends
- Producer Sara is out of the Mariah Carey game!!
- PJ lost her phone, what did you because of mum brain?
- Matty always cuts his veges in a certain way, and he wants to know if everyone does it like this?
- Group Therapy: Christmas with the family - do I have to go?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
The Hits Drive with May and PJ thanks to chimis
Wee House the Real House of Fragrances. Hello everybody, welcome
to the podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
I've got to ask yes after last night's podcast, Yes,
what did your husband think? Ah?
Speaker 3 (00:24):
What do you think? He thought?
Speaker 1 (00:25):
It was absolutely pumped. It was like his ego is
just inflated. When I got home, he was like pouring
like a lion. He was like, where did he get
this information from? With the biggest grin on his face was.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
He was he all surprised that I had come to
the table with this information.
Speaker 3 (00:41):
I mean, he kind of.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Wanted to know some details. I was like, I was
a rugby by from the White and other like nuf said.
I was like, look, details were sketchy, a few drinks
have been consumed. And then yeah, he was just purring
from air to air.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Yeah I couldn't. I could not tell you the name
of the guy. That's not like, yeah, I meet a
lot of people that night.
Speaker 3 (01:03):
Yeah, fair enough.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
And he wasn't.
Speaker 3 (01:06):
And that guy just like so he knew we worked together.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
He knew we worked together, and he was like he
was like, oh, you do the radio show with PJA.
And I was like yeah, and he goes, yeah, I
used to play rugby with her husband in the whited
upper and I was like, oh for a short amount
of time. So I don't think they knew each other
like super super well, but enough time. It's only it's
clearly spent enough time in the changing rooms with them.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
Deeply. The information did not bother him.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
It's just like, didn't bother him. I didn't bother him.
I'd love for that to be like my idea, my
idea defying feature is it not please you? No, you're not.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
I was just going to come up with the neck time.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
Anyway.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Anyway, you're off, You've got a busy week. Socially, we're
you off to tonight.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Yeah. Some friends will like, oh, there's a drag bingo
event down in like the viaduct Auckland.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
So does that mean it's themed drag. There'll be drag there.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
It's a it's it's bingo. Yeah, but with a drag queen.
Speaker 3 (02:20):
Doing the bingo that'd be super yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:23):
I mean otherwise other than that, it's literally just bingo,
big guy. Yeah, but fun. But it's the weird thing
is it's at a it's an indoor mini golf place
in the Viaducttland. So I don't know. That's what I'm wondering,
because otherwise, why.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
This many golf plays right though?
Speaker 2 (02:44):
Yeah? But but why there specifically if you're not there
to play mini golf and you're there to play bingo.
I don't know. We'll see. I'll report back tomorrow.
Speaker 3 (02:52):
Is it a big night?
Speaker 2 (02:53):
No?
Speaker 3 (02:56):
No, we're into the silly season now though.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
Like I know, think I know.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
Officially the calendar has officially told us that the silly
season's underway.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Oh trust me, I know. But I also have something
on Thursday night, something on Friday night, and a hen
still on Saturday.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
So how do you how do you not run out
of petrol?
Speaker 2 (03:20):
I'm going to run out of petrol?
Speaker 3 (03:22):
Well, don't, because we are about to get into the
real fun stuff. You're gonna have to pace yourself.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Okay, marathon not a sprint.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
Marathon, ye is marathon not a sprint. It's gonna go
in one ear and out the other.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
You all come, you've got a busy week you're coming
out to.
Speaker 3 (03:39):
I'm going I'm going to coup play.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
Then I've got a little photo shoot on Saturday morning
and possibly a massage.
Speaker 3 (03:47):
But maybe not.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
Where are you gonna go for a massage?
Speaker 1 (03:52):
Somewhere in Auckland. It is not confirmed yet. It's like
a pregnancy massage. I've been today, get my body done amazing.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
Yeah, but I don't know if it's actually gonna happen.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
Now, Hey, photo shoot on Saturday. Do you know what?
Speaker 3 (04:09):
We can't so much?
Speaker 2 (04:10):
I can't say much about it, but do you know
what they're putting you in?
Speaker 3 (04:12):
You? Not exactly.
Speaker 1 (04:16):
I do know that there was talk about a flowy
dress and I may have replied it sort of just
saying if there are some tight of options that could
be nice to just because when you're pregnant sometimes it
can be nice to have a bit of different nush out.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
I can't wait to see the photos. I can't wait.
Speaker 1 (04:40):
Pregnancy photos like they just go one of two ways.
They can be really beautiful.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
Awkward.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
I hope I've got you like posing on a chaise lounge.
Speaker 3 (04:53):
Like I did.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
You saw the other one that I did back in
the day with my ex boyfriend and I was posing
on this.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
That's me on Saturday morning.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
I'll let you know how it goes, at least like
I'll see you'll see how it goes.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
Oh, I know, I will, Oh, I know, I will.
Do you get proved? Do you get copy of or
like photo approval or anything like that?
Speaker 3 (05:18):
I hope No, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
You should you should have negotiated that, I hope.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
So I don't not finished.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
Okay, So anyway.
Speaker 1 (05:30):
That's cold. It'll be fine, It'll be lovely, it'll be joyful.
It's good to keep yourself out the air. It's good
to get out of your cabin zone.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
So that's good.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
And you come up with your mommy.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
Yeah, me and mommy be going on a big road trip.
It's gonna be fun.
Speaker 2 (05:45):
We've just been offered Cold Play tickets. Do it to buy?
Doat someone's like dead, got them and can't go.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
They're incredible.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Yeah, yeah, I feel like I feel like it's going
to be one of those concerts where I'm going to
see so much footage of it this week. And if
I don't get tickets, you all get real.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
Fomo saying you've seen them live before?
Speaker 2 (06:10):
No never, Oh, and this is.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
Just leveling off. That's why will be pretty good.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
Yeah, but I man, hey, look, I don't want to
tell you what to do with your life, so just
make your own decision no, and circle back to me tomorrow.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
I appreciate your input.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
I think you should come, not that I'm going to
probably see you on the night way away and there
was so many people.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
Yeah, but still.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
But it'll be nice to know that we're in the
same place, yeah, experiencing the same thing.
Speaker 3 (06:34):
But I'm it's totally up to you.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
Okay. Thanks.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Coming up on the podcast, we talk about the benefits
of having rich mates. A couple of the calls went
out the guys but there, but that was still.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
Fun, so good. We talked about group therapy, was all
about like family time at Christmas and the dilemma of
knowing whose family to go to for Christmas.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
It was interesting, and I talked about my mum brain
moment that I experienced over the weekends and we wanted
to know when you from victim to mumbrain as well.
All of that and more coming up on the podcast.
Have a very merry night, day morning wherever you are,
a merry day.
Speaker 3 (07:16):
Starting to feel fixed?
Speaker 2 (07:17):
Okay, it's Rocket Rocket.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
Day.
Speaker 4 (07:23):
Many to podcast that.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
I don't know if you saw the story puff pop
up over the weekend. I saw it at one roof
dot Co had some great property stories there.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
All right, are you trying to get a KPI from
the boss or something like that. Oh no, they don't.
Speaker 3 (07:42):
I mean your husband's in real estate.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
You know, good stories there.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
Anyway, I saw that some owners of a property in
Bay of Plenty came up with a rather out of
the box idea of installing an epic thirty six meter
water slide with glow in the dark panels in the
backyard as a novel way to fill up the beer space.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
Unbelievable, you imagine. So this isn't We're not talking like
a We're not talking like a crocodile mile slip and
slide that we had its kids.
Speaker 3 (08:16):
Oh this is.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
Crocodile mile on steroids. This is huge and I love
the story behind it. So I think it was during
COVID lockdown and they were looking at this section. They
were like, right, we need to make this a bit
more exciting. And initially I think there was like a
trade me slide that this guy was looking at, and
then they didn't end up winning it. So we started
calling around local water side suppliers and then he ended
(08:41):
up contacting an overseas manufacturer and they got thirty six
meter long, one meter wide and closed slide which went
straight into their pole.
Speaker 3 (08:52):
It is like, this is epic.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
If this was your home, this would be an epic
addition to the back.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
I'm just having to look at it now. I think
what we'll do is I'll ask producer Seer she can
put it. Put a link up on our Instagram page
for people to go and look at. It's incredible. The
perks if you were their neighbor, or you are their
friends and you're heading around for a summer barbecue. The
perks of being their friends, because.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
We all know, like when you're at the hydraslides, it
sucks awaiting your lines.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
You've got no lines.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
You'd just be straight back up the up, the stairs
down up. It would just be amazing. Less One, did
you ever have rich mates growing up with perks or
produce a serra.
Speaker 5 (09:35):
You can take slide to full for eight seven for
that length?
Speaker 2 (09:38):
Oh look at you.
Speaker 3 (09:41):
Did you have rich mates growing up that had perks
like this?
Speaker 1 (09:44):
Or maybe recently have you had some well off friends
where you're not friends with them because of this? But
it certainly comes with benefit bits.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
Wow. So Ryan, my husband's in real estate and he
sold a house for a very very fancy cup not fancy,
but very well off couple. And they are so lovely.
And when we were on our honeymoon last year in Europe,
we got this. Ryan got a message to sit from
(10:17):
the wife to say, are you in Barcelona by any chance?
And we said, yeah, Barcelona, yeah, said he said, yes
we are. We're just walking around town and they said,
we have just parked up out basically super yacht in Barcelona.
Do you want to come meet us for lunch? So
we got to go on this super yacht, which I've
(10:37):
never been on before and never will again. It was
believe unbelievable.
Speaker 3 (10:48):
Was there like a bar on the air and stuff.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
Oh yeah, got lunch, got wine served to us. It
was incredible. We didn't want to leave.
Speaker 3 (10:56):
Did she get tough?
Speaker 2 (10:57):
Yeah, oh yeah. But we've booked it. We've booked We've
booked an afternoon tour. Not realizing we were going to
meet up with these people very drunk on.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
Well that okay, that's it blows any perks that I
have had from wealthy friends.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
You were you were the wealthy friend. You were the
three story house.
Speaker 6 (11:21):
My god, it was a humble three story that was
That was Friends with God and the podcast The Heads.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
I want to know the perks of having rich friends.
Maybe it was when you were growing up, maybe it's
recently you were still like, you're not just friends with them.
Speaker 3 (11:40):
Because of the perse well that comes home with the
friend shirt.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
I mean, maybe you are.
Speaker 3 (11:47):
Maybe you are for the most part. Oh wait, under
the hurts.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
We want to know, Chris, who are your rich friends
and one of their perks.
Speaker 7 (11:58):
Well, apart from the obvious. You know, the beach house
that's always really nice to have, and you know, driving
around that nice car. I was listening to you guys,
and I think, just like the book I'm rereading, Rich Dad,
Poor Dad, which is a really great mindset for people
to have around surrounding yourself with people, you know, with wealth,
(12:19):
they just they think differently. You know that Rich Dad
believe that the words I can't afford it shut shut
down your brain. You know, You've got to think, you know,
how can I afford it?
Speaker 8 (12:30):
You know?
Speaker 7 (12:30):
That opens up the possibilities, excitements and dreams.
Speaker 9 (12:32):
You know.
Speaker 7 (12:34):
Yeah, I just sort of thought, Oh, that's just amazing.
You're talking about what I'm reading.
Speaker 2 (12:38):
So are you so sorry?
Speaker 10 (12:40):
Chris?
Speaker 2 (12:40):
Are you trying to manifest rich friends right now? Is
this what you're doing?
Speaker 11 (12:48):
You know, like, what are you doing tonight?
Speaker 12 (12:53):
No?
Speaker 7 (12:55):
No, not, Look you know you know it's around surrounding
yourself with successful people. And look I have got friends
that are really wealthy and they're more than their money.
But it is kind of the excitement factor. Oh, you
know in the glass is always half full. It's a
it's a great energy to be around.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
Yeah, great personalities blah blah blah blah blah. But beach
house very nice.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
I have heard that the five people that you spend
the nice time within your life to fine you are.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
Have you heard that many Jesus get hot mess in
twenty twenty four? Truly?
Speaker 3 (13:29):
Yeah, yeah, says the five people that you spend the
most time with. Lizel is joining us. Oh no, Laesel,
Hello Lazel.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
Hi, Yes, please tell us about the perks of your
rich friends.
Speaker 13 (13:45):
Yes, it was my rich friend's mum. We were friends
when I was a teenager and she was the only child.
So all the all the holidays that her mother went
on or tuk her on are wentworth Oh for everything
we went on. I'm from South Africa. We went on
amazing safaris we went and set the fast our hotels
(14:08):
on the beach. Her mum even enrolled me into learn
how to horse draw. Oh my holiday, I should book
us into like branches for like a weekle foat to
go and ride horses together. Promise you everything was played
for Lisa.
Speaker 2 (14:25):
You're obviously an adult now. But can you still bank
on the benefits of friends?
Speaker 14 (14:32):
I wish I could, but unfortunate to live to England.
Speaker 13 (14:35):
So oh what was the benefit of having my friends farm?
Being very wealthy?
Speaker 8 (14:46):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (14:46):
That is brilliant. What is the cutoff age? Do you
think you can get away with the free?
Speaker 2 (14:52):
And you milk it for as long as you can?
Listen to this text? In primary school, my friend was
related to one of the widkers is in Wicker's Chocolate.
Her whole cupboard was filled with peanuts, labs and k bars.
Speaker 1 (15:04):
Our rich friend ended up having Harry Styles come to
her house because he liked the style of some of
the properties who dead developed.
Speaker 3 (15:12):
That's a perk? Can you get in touch? Text four.
Speaker 10 (15:18):
Maddy and PJ. Mady and Pj the podcast The.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
Heads And if you have been listening along to Breakfast
with John O, Ben and Meghan, you may have heard
that they've launched the Mariah Carey Christmas Game and the
lead up to Christmas. Basically, the objective of the game
is to not listen to the iconic track.
Speaker 3 (15:38):
That is all I want for Christmas is you.
Speaker 1 (15:40):
Every time we talk about this, I want to play
a little stuffer and still I'm going to get people
out of the game.
Speaker 2 (15:45):
The exact same thing, because my radio brain goes, oh,
we should have had a clip of that song so
that we can play one.
Speaker 1 (15:51):
Hundred percent, but no we can't because we banned with
the game. So it is literally last man standing in
New Zealand. The last person to hear it and get
through it to a Chris will.
Speaker 3 (16:00):
Win the game.
Speaker 2 (16:01):
It's very hard, very hard for someone like me who
loves Christmas and loves Mariah Carey.
Speaker 1 (16:07):
Would you have usually started putting Mariah on rotation?
Speaker 2 (16:11):
Absolutely, I have a whole Christmas playlist that I play.
But it gets me excited. It gets me very excited.
Speaker 3 (16:23):
Okay, So it's going to be an honesty game. That's hard.
This is going to work.
Speaker 1 (16:26):
We have to be truthful and come to the table
as soon as one of us is out of the game.
Speaker 2 (16:33):
Capeche capeche.
Speaker 5 (16:37):
I have something to say. Orry not the sad mus
producer Sarah here and.
Speaker 3 (16:46):
I'm out of the game.
Speaker 2 (16:47):
You're out of the game.
Speaker 5 (16:50):
I didn't want to be the first to lose on
this show.
Speaker 2 (16:54):
You guys, what happened?
Speaker 1 (16:57):
Where did you get struck by the All I want
for Christmas? As you?
Speaker 5 (17:01):
Last night, I was doing my big Instagram scroll where
I go down my entire feed and I look at
every single post that that I haven't seen for the
last week. And look, it's a little bit of a
oc D thing where I have to kind of go
through all the posts and you're sitting there and you're going,
oh my god, there's so many.
Speaker 2 (17:19):
And I had the sound up.
Speaker 5 (17:21):
Normally, I watched some of the videos on silence yea,
let the music go for a second.
Speaker 2 (17:25):
It's an emotional time. It's an emotional time.
Speaker 5 (17:29):
So early, but I had the sound up because a
few of them, I was like, Oh, there's a little
hit stroke video that's quite funny. And then one of
my friends who has a side hustle personal business making magnets.
Speaker 3 (17:43):
Use that song for their real and the.
Speaker 5 (17:46):
First and the first few notes played and I.
Speaker 3 (17:49):
Screamed, that's it, because that's all it takes a second.
Speaker 1 (17:56):
As soon as you hear then I corn it jingle,
You're out any Let's be a reminder of people playing
along at home.
Speaker 3 (18:03):
You're not safe on your phone. We can put it
on put it on mute.
Speaker 2 (18:07):
Yeah, it'll get you anywhere, anytime, any place.
Speaker 3 (18:11):
Yeah. Are you okay, sirah?
Speaker 13 (18:13):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (18:13):
I just there another game.
Speaker 3 (18:15):
I can partake it. Do you know what you get
to do?
Speaker 1 (18:17):
It? You get to go home and listen to turn
them up loud.
Speaker 10 (18:25):
Maddy, J Mady and PJ the podcast The Heads.
Speaker 1 (18:30):
I remember years ago people using the word mom brain
and I was like, what what does it even mean?
Speaker 3 (18:36):
Since becoming a mum, I have used.
Speaker 1 (18:40):
So much I don't even know if I'm using it correctly,
but I feel like I surely you can get away
with it when you're pregnant, when you're in the postpart
and phase.
Speaker 3 (18:48):
Some people say it goes for either for ever.
Speaker 2 (18:52):
Are you telling me my mum with a thirty eight
year old can still claim mum brain. Maybe pushing it.
Speaker 1 (18:58):
But you know you're intrinsically need to another human being
and your brain is elsewhere. That's what I'm going to say.
I want to know when I eight hundred the hits
when have you fallen victim to mumbrain.
Speaker 3 (19:09):
And what did you do?
Speaker 1 (19:11):
So over the weekend, I decided to take Charlie, a
two year old, to the market of a local town
and we went in and then we were like, Okay,
there's no coffee here.
Speaker 3 (19:23):
We're going to pop over to the nearby cafe.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
Gotta get coffee, Gotta get cafe, Gotta get some cafee,
Gotta get that coffee hit. So we walk in and
we do our thing, and then we leave the cafe,
get back to the car, and I realized my phone
is not on me. So I'm like, oh, natally it's raining,
Oh god, to walk back to the cafe and do
(19:49):
the walk of shame. So I walk in and I'm like, you, guys,
haven't seen a phone. And then they're like, oh, yes,
there was a guy in here before who knew you.
Speaker 3 (20:00):
We gave it to him. Oh he was.
Speaker 1 (20:04):
There was a guy called Steve who I knew, who's
a real estate agent. So I was like, great, that's nice,
but how the hell do I contact Steve?
Speaker 2 (20:12):
Se without a phone to get my phone back.
Speaker 1 (20:16):
And walks a friend I know, Nicole, So she comes
into the shop and I'm like, oh my god, Nicole,
you won't believe what's happened.
Speaker 3 (20:23):
I've lost my phone.
Speaker 1 (20:25):
Can I maybe contact Steve off my phone and just
see if I can meet up with him? So I
messaged my number right and I'm calling my number, no
pack up. I sent a message saying Steve, it's Polly
trying to call you.
Speaker 3 (20:45):
Where can I meet you?
Speaker 1 (20:47):
Long story short. We managed to connect and find a
meeting point and I got my phone back. The next day,
I go through my messages and I see a message
which I read as Polly, It's Steve.
Speaker 3 (21:08):
Trying to call you. Where can I meet you? Are
you confused?
Speaker 2 (21:13):
I'm with you. I see where the story is gone.
Speaker 3 (21:18):
I reply, just got the phone. Thanks Steve, you absolute legend.
Speaker 1 (21:25):
Thanks, and then I follow another message, thank you so much.
Speaker 3 (21:32):
And then I get a message back from my friend Nicole.
This is Nicole.
Speaker 1 (21:40):
But Steve message me last night asking if you got it,
and I said, yeah, oh, sort of.
Speaker 3 (21:44):
I read the message. Does is this making sense?
Speaker 2 (21:47):
You read the message that you had sent to Steve
do yourself from the Cole's number.
Speaker 3 (21:56):
Must have been like, are you losing your marbles?
Speaker 2 (21:59):
You?
Speaker 1 (22:00):
I've seen that message off my phone and now you're
replying to yourself.
Speaker 3 (22:05):
Can I blame that on mumbrain?
Speaker 2 (22:07):
I think I think you can. Except having known you
for ten years long before you hit a child, we're
just PJ brain. It's a little bit just PJ brain.
Speaker 3 (22:21):
I was genuinely so embarrassed. I was like, actually, think
what is wrong with this person?
Speaker 10 (22:30):
Mary and Mary and PJ the podcast?
Speaker 3 (22:35):
When did you fall victim to Mumbraine?
Speaker 1 (22:37):
Because I shall have a lot lately and I don't
feel like I milk it quite a bit and it's
hard to distinguish what's PJ brain and what's mumbrain.
Speaker 3 (22:45):
But for now, after losing my phone over the weekend
and giving it.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
A barkle with the communication on the phone afterwards, I'm
just going to call it mumbrain.
Speaker 2 (22:52):
Call it my brain. Call it I'm giving you permission
to call it mumbrain. But I'm not giving you permission
to use every single thing that you do wrong. You
can't always blame it on my don't.
Speaker 3 (23:02):
I get to don't know what happened with you? How
did you fall victim to mam brain?
Speaker 14 (23:10):
So I'm the mom of four children and I had
them at opsicol Care and Krash. So one day I
picked up my three boys and was heading home, and
I was probably ten to fifteen k towards my home
and then realized that the one castic was empty.
Speaker 11 (23:33):
So I spun around and I said to some boys,
where's your sister? And I realized that I'd headed home
without stopping at Krash to pick up my daughters.
Speaker 2 (23:50):
Donna, I'm gonna look, I'm sure that you're you're not
alone in this situation.
Speaker 3 (23:57):
Yourself would never have done it again.
Speaker 2 (23:58):
Cut yourself some slack.
Speaker 14 (24:00):
No, I never did it again, but it was always
a constant reminder that I did a head count from
then on that I had all children before I drove off.
Speaker 2 (24:11):
Do you know what all you got to do in
those situations is go, there's some gold for the twenty
first speech? Donna, exactly.
Speaker 1 (24:20):
Oh, thank you so much for your colle It's kind
of brock undred the hats get a brook.
Speaker 3 (24:24):
When did you fall victim to Mombrane.
Speaker 15 (24:27):
Well, I was like, this was back seven years ago.
I just had second baby, and I was like, oh yeah,
I'm really down for a coffee right now. So I
put my sugar and my milk in my cup and
realized that the coffee the coffee jar was in, which
I was like, okay, cool, I'll just open up a
new bag coffee, put it in the coffee jar. I
(24:48):
didn't put it in the coffee jar. I tipped the
whole bag of coffee and my coffee cup and sugar
in it.
Speaker 3 (24:55):
And get you dying.
Speaker 15 (24:58):
Yeah, but I realize I can't even scoop it out
because it's got milk and it.
Speaker 16 (25:02):
Yeah, I lost lost.
Speaker 15 (25:06):
The whole bag of coffee. Had to cry and yeah, yeah,
do you want to so broke?
Speaker 3 (25:13):
Did you take one? Because it was superchild?
Speaker 15 (25:18):
I scooped out quite a bit of it and Chuck
Burys Doum was like, that was the strongest copee ever had.
Speaker 2 (25:24):
Bet it was? I bet it was.
Speaker 3 (25:31):
Hello, Hello, When did you fall victim to my brain?
Speaker 17 (25:36):
I had mam Brain's first my first child. I've got two,
but it was the first out thing I ever had.
And I met my mom for lunch and we had
lunch and it was one of those really hot thirty
two thirty three to goat degree christ stretched days and
came out after lunch, put her brand new baby in
the capsule in the car, put the pram down, which
(25:57):
was a bit of an ordeal when you're a new mum.
Put it my baby bag in the boat, shut the boat,
and then realized that my keys were in the boat
and my hand with my keys are in my handbag
which was in the car. And then the boot lots,
oh no, a lot with this brand new teen day
old baby in it.
Speaker 12 (26:15):
And I was crying and it was really hot, and
my mom was like, just break the window, you know,
and I was like no, because glass could go on her.
So my mom stood there with a blanket from her
car like shaving shaving the car, and I got her
car and drove home and got the spare keys.
Speaker 8 (26:33):
Oh on around trip.
Speaker 3 (26:37):
So that was my mum brain.
Speaker 17 (26:39):
And I've never done it since.
Speaker 2 (26:40):
No, you wouldn't.
Speaker 3 (26:43):
Oh that I'm feeling that second hand stretched.
Speaker 8 (26:46):
In a j and I still remember petting her up
out of her kitchle and she was wet some like,
you know, stopping from crying and being on her own
and up yet and I felt terrible.
Speaker 2 (26:57):
Well, he can I just say on, behalf of evy on,
behalf of everyone out there. Mums do such an amazing job,
and you can all you can cut yourself some slack today, Okay,
all cut yourself some.
Speaker 10 (27:11):
Staff Maddy and PJ. Mady and PJ the podcast that.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
Do You sometimes have those moments in life where you go,
why do I do the thing that I do? And
then you realize, I don't know a who taught me
that this is the way it's meant to be done,
b whether I'm even doing it right in the first place.
And see, we would even look to figure out what
the actual situation was and how you're meant to do it.
Speaker 1 (27:39):
Yes, the everyday habits that we do from such a
young age that just becomes so embedded in our lifestyle
that we don't even I guess, second guess until then
maybe you're exposed through another way and you're.
Speaker 2 (27:50):
Like, hang about this is so low level. But I
was making dinner before I came to work today, and
I had leaks that I was cutting off. Love leaks, leaks,
leak and butter, leks, certa, potato and links, so just
leaks in anything, oh, leaks and bacon. Oh anyway, So
(28:14):
I was chopping up these leaks and then I realized,
all anytime I cut up leaks, all I cut up
is the like the harder white bit, and then I
leave the green stalks and I throw them away. And
then I thought to myself, why do I throw them away?
Who told me that I meant to throw them away?
Am I meant to throw them away? And I had
(28:35):
this leak existential crisis in the kitchen where I went,
am I doing this? Have I been doing it wrong
my entire life? And I don't even know that I
You're not.
Speaker 1 (28:46):
Alone because I had a similar moment earlier in the year,
and I think I was like, hang about no, I
think this other half is all good, because I always
get put off by the course BT. It seems more
coarse down the other east, but once you cook it up,
it actually sign right. But I still continue, and I
think I changed it for a bit, but then I
(29:06):
kind of reverted to my old way of just cutting
to the end of the white part.
Speaker 2 (29:11):
So I need to know, is this a thing that
you aren't meant to actually utilize the end green, stalky
bit of a leak? Or have I been doing it
wrong my entire life? I need to know.
Speaker 1 (29:26):
Well, it's like when I found out my friend eats
all of the broccoli, the stalks and all, and apparently
it's just as good and it's just as good for you. Yeah,
as you'll chop up the broccoli, chuck it in a
stir fry. I've seen Cox talk about just chop it
all up, put it in a salad. We're missing out
on the good bit, I know, but.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
This is just the way we've done it our entire lives.
Speaker 1 (29:45):
Okay, So are you like Medie tackling the vigation? Do
you only chop to the white part of a lake
or do you use the whole thing?
Speaker 3 (29:55):
Takes through four four a.
Speaker 10 (29:59):
The podcast.
Speaker 3 (30:02):
Now we've got to address leak.
Speaker 1 (30:04):
Gate that was mentioned earlier this hour. Many heads at
Epiphany when cutting leaks in the kitchen.
Speaker 2 (30:11):
I've only ever cut up the like white. But I
might go a little, I might veer slightly into the
green territory of a leak. But for the most part,
I'm chopping off the end, the very hard bit of
the green, and I'm throwing it away.
Speaker 3 (30:25):
I think I lied. I think I was being deceitful.
Speaker 1 (30:27):
I think I said I only do the white, but
I actually do go probably towards the I get pretty
close to the dark green. I definitely get the light green.
I definitely get the white, but it just gets so
coarse down the end. So we want to know what's
the official ruling with what you.
Speaker 3 (30:41):
Do with your leaks.
Speaker 2 (30:42):
Yeah, so the overwhelming majority of people on the text
machine have said, you do not throw away the green
bit of a leak. Someone said, I use the whole leak.
Someone else said, never throw away your greens metal. You
wouldn't do this with a bring onion.
Speaker 3 (31:01):
It's true. Someone said, no matter, you use the green
bit as well. It's full of nutrients.
Speaker 1 (31:05):
Although you're not alone. I've only ever used the white
stalk of the lake. But I have the same crisis
with spring onions and I do the same with these.
Am I doing it wrong?
Speaker 3 (31:13):
I'd love to know.
Speaker 2 (31:14):
Please, this is the thing because I had this realization,
I went, this is the way I've always done it,
But I can't remember why. Who told me that this
is the way that it's done. And am I doing
it wrong? I'm happy to be proven wrong.
Speaker 1 (31:25):
Someone did say the core star kend can be used.
You sometimes don't need to cook it longer, and it
can be used in a stock. Here we go, Did
we just become a cooking channel?
Speaker 4 (31:37):
Many inpj A podcasts, many and PJS group.
Speaker 1 (31:44):
Therapy another week, another chance to sit down and have
a collective sigh of relief, no judgment and group therapy.
Speaker 3 (31:53):
This is where you can get in touch with us.
Speaker 1 (31:56):
Let us know something that's going on in your life,
and we will do our best to dissect it and
for our advice, but more importantly, throw it out to
New Zealand to see what they.
Speaker 3 (32:04):
Think about it.
Speaker 2 (32:04):
I've even got myself a cup of tea as a prop.
I mean, it's a legit cup of tea.
Speaker 3 (32:09):
But it feels very like it feels just relaxes you.
Speaker 2 (32:12):
Yeah, it feels like the perfect prop to have for
a therapy session this afternoon.
Speaker 3 (32:16):
I have no water left in my bottle, so I'm
just going to suck on my bottle as a prop
like you.
Speaker 2 (32:23):
Well, you suck away while I read this quite firstya
to this week's dilemma. Okay Jesus christ Okay, Hey many MPJ.
I'm in a bit of a bind. I'm thirty one
and for as long as I can remember, Christmas has
always been at my parents' house. My mum insists on
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doing everything by the book, all the same food, decorations,
even music. She loves Christmas. But this year, my partner
and I were plainly just been Christmas at his family's
beach house. We've done the traditional thing for years, and honestly,
I just want to break and so something different. When
I mentioned it to my mum, she was not happy.
She said Christmas isn't the same without all of us there,
(33:06):
and that I'm being selfish for breaking a long standing
family tradition. I get that it's special to her, but
I feel like I'm allowed to start making my own traditions.
My siblings are staying with her, so it's not like
she's going to be alone. But she's acting like I'm
ruining Christmas. Should I change my plans to keep the
peace or is it time to set some boundaries and
make my own holiday choices. I get it.
Speaker 1 (33:29):
As someone who I don't think I actually ever ventured
away from my family.
Speaker 2 (33:34):
You've never I don't think I have.
Speaker 3 (33:37):
I was literally through that trying to work it out.
Speaker 1 (33:40):
We will see Bja's family, but I'll always see me
on the day. I just it's something I've always done,
and I get it. I get that you don't want
to break your mum's heart, but I do think you're
at the age what you do need to set boundaries,
kind boundaries and perhaps get a little creative an alternative
(34:01):
that you can come up with. So maybe it's something
before Chrissie, or maybe there's something cute that you can do, yeah,
over FaceTime.
Speaker 2 (34:07):
I get it, though. It's an interesting dilemma that you
face when you are all of a sudden having to
think about someone else and someone else's family because for
such a long time I was single and all I
had to worry about at the end of the year
was what I wanted to do, and that always involved
my family, right, So I was always home for Christmas.
My siblings were always home for Christmas, and we did
(34:29):
everything together. And then as soon as I met Ryan,
I had to factor in this other person in their family.
And the truth is, you know, my my I was
going to.
Speaker 3 (34:37):
Say, how did you break Tracy's heart?
Speaker 2 (34:40):
She loves Christmas and one of her one of her
quintessential phrases that she always says to my brother and
sister and I is just my happy place and the
three of you. So you know, you do feel like
you're breaking her heart a little bit, But the truth
is that is what a relationship is. All about is
about compromise. And I could never tell Ryan that I
(35:01):
don't care enough about his family to give them the
opportunity to spend Christmas with us as well. That would
be so that would be selfish of me to do that.
You know, the mom is calling her selfish for not
being with us with her family. It goes both ways.
Speaker 3 (35:16):
So how do you kindly set the boundaries? How do
you let mommy down gently?
Speaker 2 (35:20):
I think you have to say, Mum, I'm a thirty
one year old who is forging my own path in
the world, and I have a partner, and I have
to consider his or their needs and their family's needs
as well. But I think you have to be a
bit strong here.
Speaker 3 (35:36):
I wait hundred of hats. Maybe you've been in this
exact position. How did you do it?
Speaker 1 (35:41):
How did you tell mom that you weren't going to
be coming over Christmas this year? Did you let it
down gently or did you just rip the band aid off?
I'll wait hundred of the hats to weigh in for
Great Therapy this week.
Speaker 4 (35:50):
Many INPJ the podcasts Many and pj's Group Therapy.
Speaker 1 (35:58):
In the meantime, when I see a family dilemma as
we head into Christmas, can you please recap medie.
Speaker 2 (36:05):
Yeah, this person said, I'm in a bit of a bine.
I'm thirty one, and for as long as I can remember,
Christmas has always been at my parents' house. My mum
loves Christmas. But this year, my partner and I were
planning to spend Christmas at his family's beach house. When
I mentioned it to my mom, she was not happy.
She said Christmas isn't the same without all of us there,
and that I'm being selfish for breaking a long standing
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family tradition. I get that it's special to her, but
I feel like I'm allowed to start making my own traditions.
My siblings are staying with her so she won't be alone,
but she's acting like I'm ruining Christmas. Should I change
my plans to keep the peace or is it time
to set some boundaries and make my own holiday choices.
Speaker 1 (36:45):
I was just going to say, could you invite her
to the beach house? But if she's got all the sublings,
then it's just going to be so much.
Speaker 2 (36:50):
And it sounds like she loves hosting Christmas at her her.
Speaker 1 (36:53):
Place, basting the turkey, getting all the brandy, snaps ready,
Brandy snaps and frame. All right, we want to know
your thoughts on the situation. Have you been in a
similar pickle? What do you think this person should do?
Speaker 3 (37:07):
Jaden, welcome to.
Speaker 16 (37:08):
The show and go ahead.
Speaker 3 (37:11):
Good, yeah, very well, what do you reckon?
Speaker 16 (37:14):
So what me and my partner do is one year
we'll spend it with my family on Christmas Day and
then we've been Boxing Day, we first side of the family,
and then the following year we'll switch around, just so
you know, it's not too much traveling all on one day,
but everyone sort of gets to turn.
Speaker 2 (37:32):
It Christmas smart and then you're still diplomatic, very diplomatic,
although man, sometimes I think that about you know, that's
then on you to always be the one that's making
the arrangements, travel plans and stuff. But it's very nice
of you, Jayden, It's very very nice.
Speaker 3 (37:48):
It's Christmas many you went from Auckland to Queenstown. Did
you do did you know what I thinking of when
you did that?
Speaker 2 (37:56):
What Ron and I have actually done once which works
quite wow. We traveled on Christmas Day, traveled on Christmas Day,
so we did in the lead up to Christmas and
then Christmas morning with Ryan's family, and then and then
lunchtime we flew from Ryan's family to Queenstown to be
with my family and then stayed with them for a
few days post Christmas as well.
Speaker 3 (38:18):
Hectic or actually quite doable.
Speaker 2 (38:19):
Amazing because everyone got a piece of the pie. B
We got a couple of hours in the middle of
the day where it was just the two of us
chilling out.
Speaker 1 (38:31):
That's true, Yeah, because you would have been in the lounge,
wouldn't you start?
Speaker 3 (38:36):
Must be nice. What are your thoughts on this situation?
Speaker 9 (38:40):
Hey, guys, Usually I'd say do your own thing, but
I guess it just depends are they going to be
with family at the beach house or are they going
to be on their own? Because you didn't actually say
if they were going to be with families, so I
don't feel like they might be ditching a little better.
It's not really a tradition to go alone to the
beach house.
Speaker 2 (38:58):
Yeah, anytime it just says they we're planning to spend
Christmas at the family's beach house, doesn't necessarily say with
the I just assumed with the family.
Speaker 3 (39:07):
Yeah, that's a good there's good observation, Scott.
Speaker 1 (39:09):
We didn't actually manage to extrapolate the detail, but that
is a good point at least wrap it up with
Jane oh eight hundred hats hi Jane, Hi, how are you?
Speaker 3 (39:19):
What do you reckon?
Speaker 18 (39:21):
Well, the same as the previous caller, we alternate between families,
and one of the grandmothers said she'd rather have the
whole family together every second year and then have an
off year with no family because she likes having all
the kids and the grandkids all interacting together.
Speaker 1 (39:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (39:38):
Right, right, So basically you you should make sure that
all of the family are there at the one place
and then give them a year off so that they
can go and do their own thing.
Speaker 10 (39:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 9 (39:48):
Well, I like that.
Speaker 3 (39:49):
It's like it's a bit of a breather. You get
a bit of downtime in the.
Speaker 2 (39:53):
Year off because it being the being a host is
it a lobs a hard job.
Speaker 1 (39:59):
But I I think everyone can agree on the fact that, yes,
you know, you're at the age you can sit boundaries.
You can do it kindly. There are ways to get
around it. To appease mummy and to appease your partner.
Speaker 3 (40:11):
You can do that.
Speaker 9 (40:11):
You can do it.
Speaker 2 (40:12):
You can do both.
Speaker 10 (40:16):
Maddy and PJ Maddy and PJ. The podcast The Heads
The Hits Drive with May and PJ thanks to chimis
Wee House the Real House of Fragrances. Hello everybody, welcome
to the podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
I've got to ask yes after last night's podcast, Yes,
what did your husband think? Ah?
Speaker 3 (00:24):
What do you think? He thought?
Speaker 1 (00:25):
It was absolutely pumped. It was like his ego is
just inflated. When I got home, he was like pouring
like a lion. He was like, where did he get
this information from? With the biggest grin on his face was.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
He was he all surprised that I had come to
the table with this information.
Speaker 3 (00:41):
I mean, he kind of.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Wanted to know some details. I was like, I was
a rugby by from the White and other like nuf said.
I was like, look, details were sketchy, a few drinks
have been consumed. And then yeah, he was just purring
from air to air.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Yeah I couldn't. I could not tell you the name
of the guy. That's not like, yeah, I meet a
lot of people that night.
Speaker 3 (01:03):
Yeah, fair enough.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
And he wasn't.
Speaker 3 (01:06):
And that guy just like so he knew we worked together.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
He knew we worked together, and he was like he
was like, oh, you do the radio show with PJA.
And I was like yeah, and he goes, yeah, I
used to play rugby with her husband in the whited
upper and I was like, oh for a short amount
of time. So I don't think they knew each other
like super super well, but enough time. It's only it's
clearly spent enough time in the changing rooms with them.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
Deeply. The information did not bother him.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
It's just like, didn't bother him. I didn't bother him.
I'd love for that to be like my idea, my
idea defying feature is it not please you? No, you're not.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
I was just going to come up with the neck time.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
Anyway.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Anyway, you're off, You've got a busy week. Socially, we're
you off to tonight.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Yeah. Some friends will like, oh, there's a drag bingo
event down in like the viaduct Auckland.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
So does that mean it's themed drag. There'll be drag there.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
It's a it's it's bingo. Yeah, but with a drag queen.
Speaker 3 (02:20):
Doing the bingo that'd be super yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:23):
I mean otherwise other than that, it's literally just bingo,
big guy. Yeah, but fun. But it's the weird thing
is it's at a it's an indoor mini golf place
in the Viaducttland. So I don't know. That's what I'm wondering,
because otherwise, why.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
This many golf plays right though?
Speaker 2 (02:44):
Yeah? But but why there specifically if you're not there
to play mini golf and you're there to play bingo.
I don't know. We'll see. I'll report back tomorrow.
Speaker 3 (02:52):
Is it a big night?
Speaker 2 (02:53):
No?
Speaker 3 (02:56):
No, we're into the silly season now though.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
Like I know, think I know.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
Officially the calendar has officially told us that the silly
season's underway.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Oh trust me, I know. But I also have something
on Thursday night, something on Friday night, and a hen
still on Saturday.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
So how do you how do you not run out
of petrol?
Speaker 2 (03:20):
I'm going to run out of petrol?
Speaker 3 (03:22):
Well, don't, because we are about to get into the
real fun stuff. You're gonna have to pace yourself.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Okay, marathon not a sprint.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
Marathon, ye is marathon not a sprint. It's gonna go
in one ear and out the other.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
You all come, you've got a busy week you're coming
out to.
Speaker 3 (03:39):
I'm going I'm going to coup play.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
Then I've got a little photo shoot on Saturday morning
and possibly a massage.
Speaker 3 (03:47):
But maybe not.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
Where are you gonna go for a massage?
Speaker 1 (03:52):
Somewhere in Auckland. It is not confirmed yet. It's like
a pregnancy massage. I've been today, get my body done amazing.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
Yeah, but I don't know if it's actually gonna happen.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
Now, Hey, photo shoot on Saturday. Do you know what?
Speaker 3 (04:09):
We can't so much?
Speaker 2 (04:10):
I can't say much about it, but do you know
what they're putting you in?
Speaker 3 (04:12):
You? Not exactly.
Speaker 1 (04:16):
I do know that there was talk about a flowy
dress and I may have replied it sort of just
saying if there are some tight of options that could
be nice to just because when you're pregnant sometimes it
can be nice to have a bit of different nush out.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
I can't wait to see the photos. I can't wait.
Speaker 1 (04:40):
Pregnancy photos like they just go one of two ways.
They can be really beautiful.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
Awkward.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
I hope I've got you like posing on a chaise lounge.
Speaker 3 (04:53):
Like I did.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
You saw the other one that I did back in
the day with my ex boyfriend and I was posing
on this.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
That's me on Saturday morning.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
I'll let you know how it goes, at least like
I'll see you'll see how it goes.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
Oh, I know, I will, Oh, I know, I will.
Do you get proved? Do you get copy of or
like photo approval or anything like that?
Speaker 3 (05:18):
I hope No, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
You should you should have negotiated that, I hope.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
So I don't not finished.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
Okay, So anyway.
Speaker 1 (05:30):
That's cold. It'll be fine, It'll be lovely, it'll be joyful.
It's good to keep yourself out the air. It's good
to get out of your cabin zone.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
So that's good.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
And you come up with your mommy.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
Yeah, me and mommy be going on a big road trip.
It's gonna be fun.
Speaker 2 (05:45):
We've just been offered Cold Play tickets. Do it to buy?
Doat someone's like dead, got them and can't go.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
They're incredible.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Yeah, yeah, I feel like I feel like it's going
to be one of those concerts where I'm going to
see so much footage of it this week. And if
I don't get tickets, you all get real.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
Fomo saying you've seen them live before?
Speaker 2 (06:10):
No never, Oh, and this is.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
Just leveling off. That's why will be pretty good.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
Yeah, but I man, hey, look, I don't want to
tell you what to do with your life, so just
make your own decision no, and circle back to me tomorrow.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
I appreciate your input.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
I think you should come, not that I'm going to
probably see you on the night way away and there
was so many people.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
Yeah, but still.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
But it'll be nice to know that we're in the
same place, yeah, experiencing the same thing.
Speaker 3 (06:34):
But I'm it's totally up to you.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
Okay. Thanks.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Coming up on the podcast, we talk about the benefits
of having rich mates. A couple of the calls went
out the guys but there, but that was still.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
Fun, so good. We talked about group therapy, was all
about like family time at Christmas and the dilemma of
knowing whose family to go to for Christmas.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
It was interesting, and I talked about my mum brain
moment that I experienced over the weekends and we wanted
to know when you from victim to mumbrain as well.
All of that and more coming up on the podcast.
Have a very merry night, day morning wherever you are,
a merry day.
Speaker 3 (07:16):
Starting to feel fixed?
Speaker 2 (07:17):
Okay, it's Rocket Rocket.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
Day.
Speaker 4 (07:23):
Many to podcast that.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
I don't know if you saw the story puff pop
up over the weekend. I saw it at one roof
dot Co had some great property stories there.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
All right, are you trying to get a KPI from
the boss or something like that. Oh no, they don't.
Speaker 3 (07:42):
I mean your husband's in real estate.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
You know, good stories there.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
Anyway, I saw that some owners of a property in
Bay of Plenty came up with a rather out of
the box idea of installing an epic thirty six meter
water slide with glow in the dark panels in the
backyard as a novel way to fill up the beer space.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
Unbelievable, you imagine. So this isn't We're not talking like
a We're not talking like a crocodile mile slip and
slide that we had its kids.
Speaker 3 (08:16):
Oh this is.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
Crocodile mile on steroids. This is huge and I love
the story behind it. So I think it was during
COVID lockdown and they were looking at this section. They
were like, right, we need to make this a bit
more exciting. And initially I think there was like a
trade me slide that this guy was looking at, and
then they didn't end up winning it. So we started
calling around local water side suppliers and then he ended
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up contacting an overseas manufacturer and they got thirty six
meter long, one meter wide and closed slide which went
straight into their pole.
Speaker 3 (08:52):
It is like, this is epic.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
If this was your home, this would be an epic
addition to the back.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
I'm just having to look at it now. I think
what we'll do is I'll ask producer Seer she can
put it. Put a link up on our Instagram page
for people to go and look at. It's incredible. The
perks if you were their neighbor, or you are their
friends and you're heading around for a summer barbecue. The
perks of being their friends, because.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
We all know, like when you're at the hydraslides, it
sucks awaiting your lines.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
You've got no lines.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
You'd just be straight back up the up, the stairs
down up. It would just be amazing. Less One, did
you ever have rich mates growing up with perks or
produce a serra.
Speaker 5 (09:35):
You can take slide to full for eight seven for
that length?
Speaker 2 (09:38):
Oh look at you.
Speaker 3 (09:41):
Did you have rich mates growing up that had perks
like this?
Speaker 1 (09:44):
Or maybe recently have you had some well off friends
where you're not friends with them because of this? But
it certainly comes with benefit bits.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
Wow. So Ryan, my husband's in real estate and he
sold a house for a very very fancy cup not fancy,
but very well off couple. And they are so lovely.
And when we were on our honeymoon last year in Europe,
we got this. Ryan got a message to sit from
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the wife to say, are you in Barcelona by any chance?
And we said, yeah, Barcelona, yeah, said he said, yes
we are. We're just walking around town and they said,
we have just parked up out basically super yacht in Barcelona.
Do you want to come meet us for lunch? So
we got to go on this super yacht, which I've
(10:37):
never been on before and never will again. It was
believe unbelievable.
Speaker 3 (10:48):
Was there like a bar on the air and stuff.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
Oh yeah, got lunch, got wine served to us. It
was incredible. We didn't want to leave.
Speaker 3 (10:56):
Did she get tough?
Speaker 2 (10:57):
Yeah, oh yeah. But we've booked it. We've booked We've
booked an afternoon tour. Not realizing we were going to
meet up with these people very drunk on.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
Well that okay, that's it blows any perks that I
have had from wealthy friends.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
You were you were the wealthy friend. You were the
three story house.
Speaker 6 (11:21):
My god, it was a humble three story that was
That was Friends with God and the podcast The Heads.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
I want to know the perks of having rich friends.
Maybe it was when you were growing up, maybe it's
recently you were still like, you're not just friends with them.
Speaker 3 (11:40):
Because of the perse well that comes home with the
friend shirt.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
I mean, maybe you are.
Speaker 3 (11:47):
Maybe you are for the most part. Oh wait, under
the hurts.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
We want to know, Chris, who are your rich friends
and one of their perks.
Speaker 7 (11:58):
Well, apart from the obvious. You know, the beach house
that's always really nice to have, and you know, driving
around that nice car. I was listening to you guys,
and I think, just like the book I'm rereading, Rich Dad,
Poor Dad, which is a really great mindset for people
to have around surrounding yourself with people, you know, with wealth,
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they just they think differently. You know that Rich Dad
believe that the words I can't afford it shut shut
down your brain. You know, You've got to think, you know,
how can I afford it?
Speaker 8 (12:30):
You know?
Speaker 7 (12:30):
That opens up the possibilities, excitements and dreams.
Speaker 9 (12:32):
You know.
Speaker 7 (12:34):
Yeah, I just sort of thought, Oh, that's just amazing.
You're talking about what I'm reading.
Speaker 2 (12:38):
So are you so sorry?
Speaker 10 (12:40):
Chris?
Speaker 2 (12:40):
Are you trying to manifest rich friends right now? Is
this what you're doing?
Speaker 11 (12:48):
You know, like, what are you doing tonight?
Speaker 12 (12:53):
No?
Speaker 7 (12:55):
No, not, Look you know you know it's around surrounding
yourself with successful people. And look I have got friends
that are really wealthy and they're more than their money.
But it is kind of the excitement factor. Oh, you
know in the glass is always half full. It's a
it's a great energy to be around.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
Yeah, great personalities blah blah blah blah blah. But beach
house very nice.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
I have heard that the five people that you spend
the nice time within your life to fine you are.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
Have you heard that many Jesus get hot mess in
twenty twenty four? Truly?
Speaker 3 (13:29):
Yeah, yeah, says the five people that you spend the
most time with. Lizel is joining us. Oh no, Laesel,
Hello Lazel.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
Hi, Yes, please tell us about the perks of your
rich friends.
Speaker 13 (13:45):
Yes, it was my rich friend's mum. We were friends
when I was a teenager and she was the only child.
So all the all the holidays that her mother went
on or tuk her on are wentworth Oh for everything
we went on. I'm from South Africa. We went on
amazing safaris we went and set the fast our hotels
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on the beach. Her mum even enrolled me into learn
how to horse draw. Oh my holiday, I should book
us into like branches for like a weekle foat to
go and ride horses together. Promise you everything was played
for Lisa.
Speaker 2 (14:25):
You're obviously an adult now. But can you still bank
on the benefits of friends?
Speaker 14 (14:32):
I wish I could, but unfortunate to live to England.
Speaker 13 (14:35):
So oh what was the benefit of having my friends farm?
Being very wealthy?
Speaker 8 (14:46):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (14:46):
That is brilliant. What is the cutoff age? Do you
think you can get away with the free?
Speaker 2 (14:52):
And you milk it for as long as you can?
Listen to this text? In primary school, my friend was
related to one of the widkers is in Wicker's Chocolate.
Her whole cupboard was filled with peanuts, labs and k bars.
Speaker 1 (15:04):
Our rich friend ended up having Harry Styles come to
her house because he liked the style of some of
the properties who dead developed.
Speaker 3 (15:12):
That's a perk? Can you get in touch? Text four.
Speaker 10 (15:18):
Maddy and PJ. Mady and Pj the podcast The.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
Heads And if you have been listening along to Breakfast
with John O, Ben and Meghan, you may have heard
that they've launched the Mariah Carey Christmas Game and the
lead up to Christmas. Basically, the objective of the game
is to not listen to the iconic track.
Speaker 3 (15:38):
That is all I want for Christmas is you.
Speaker 1 (15:40):
Every time we talk about this, I want to play
a little stuffer and still I'm going to get people
out of the game.
Speaker 2 (15:45):
The exact same thing, because my radio brain goes, oh,
we should have had a clip of that song so
that we can play one.
Speaker 1 (15:51):
Hundred percent, but no we can't because we banned with
the game. So it is literally last man standing in
New Zealand. The last person to hear it and get
through it to a Chris will.
Speaker 3 (16:00):
Win the game.
Speaker 2 (16:01):
It's very hard, very hard for someone like me who
loves Christmas and loves Mariah Carey.
Speaker 1 (16:07):
Would you have usually started putting Mariah on rotation?
Speaker 2 (16:11):
Absolutely, I have a whole Christmas playlist that I play.
But it gets me excited. It gets me very excited.
Speaker 3 (16:23):
Okay, So it's going to be an honesty game. That's hard.
This is going to work.
Speaker 1 (16:26):
We have to be truthful and come to the table
as soon as one of us is out of the game.
Speaker 2 (16:33):
Capeche capeche.
Speaker 5 (16:37):
I have something to say. Orry not the sad mus
producer Sarah here and.
Speaker 3 (16:46):
I'm out of the game.
Speaker 2 (16:47):
You're out of the game.
Speaker 5 (16:50):
I didn't want to be the first to lose on
this show.
Speaker 2 (16:54):
You guys, what happened?
Speaker 1 (16:57):
Where did you get struck by the All I want
for Christmas? As you?
Speaker 5 (17:01):
Last night, I was doing my big Instagram scroll where
I go down my entire feed and I look at
every single post that that I haven't seen for the
last week. And look, it's a little bit of a
oc D thing where I have to kind of go
through all the posts and you're sitting there and you're going,
oh my god, there's so many.
Speaker 2 (17:19):
And I had the sound up.
Speaker 5 (17:21):
Normally, I watched some of the videos on silence yea,
let the music go for a second.
Speaker 2 (17:25):
It's an emotional time. It's an emotional time.
Speaker 5 (17:29):
So early, but I had the sound up because a
few of them, I was like, Oh, there's a little
hit stroke video that's quite funny. And then one of
my friends who has a side hustle personal business making magnets.
Speaker 3 (17:43):
Use that song for their real and the.
Speaker 5 (17:46):
First and the first few notes played and I.
Speaker 3 (17:49):
Screamed, that's it, because that's all it takes a second.
Speaker 1 (17:56):
As soon as you hear then I corn it jingle,
You're out any Let's be a reminder of people playing
along at home.
Speaker 3 (18:03):
You're not safe on your phone. We can put it
on put it on mute.
Speaker 2 (18:07):
Yeah, it'll get you anywhere, anytime, any place.
Speaker 3 (18:11):
Yeah. Are you okay, sirah?
Speaker 13 (18:13):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (18:13):
I just there another game.
Speaker 3 (18:15):
I can partake it. Do you know what you get
to do?
Speaker 1 (18:17):
It? You get to go home and listen to turn
them up loud.
Speaker 10 (18:25):
Maddy, J Mady and PJ the podcast The Heads.
Speaker 1 (18:30):
I remember years ago people using the word mom brain
and I was like, what what does it even mean?
Speaker 3 (18:36):
Since becoming a mum, I have used.
Speaker 1 (18:40):
So much I don't even know if I'm using it correctly,
but I feel like I surely you can get away
with it when you're pregnant, when you're in the postpart
and phase.
Speaker 3 (18:48):
Some people say it goes for either for ever.
Speaker 2 (18:52):
Are you telling me my mum with a thirty eight
year old can still claim mum brain. Maybe pushing it.
Speaker 1 (18:58):
But you know you're intrinsically need to another human being
and your brain is elsewhere. That's what I'm going to say.
I want to know when I eight hundred the hits
when have you fallen victim to mumbrain.
Speaker 3 (19:09):
And what did you do?
Speaker 1 (19:11):
So over the weekend, I decided to take Charlie, a
two year old, to the market of a local town
and we went in and then we were like, Okay,
there's no coffee here.
Speaker 3 (19:23):
We're going to pop over to the nearby cafe.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
Gotta get coffee, Gotta get cafe, Gotta get some cafee,
Gotta get that coffee hit. So we walk in and
we do our thing, and then we leave the cafe,
get back to the car, and I realized my phone
is not on me. So I'm like, oh, natally it's raining,
Oh god, to walk back to the cafe and do
(19:49):
the walk of shame. So I walk in and I'm like, you, guys,
haven't seen a phone. And then they're like, oh, yes,
there was a guy in here before who knew you.
Speaker 3 (20:00):
We gave it to him. Oh he was.
Speaker 1 (20:04):
There was a guy called Steve who I knew, who's
a real estate agent. So I was like, great, that's nice,
but how the hell do I contact Steve?
Speaker 2 (20:12):
Se without a phone to get my phone back.
Speaker 1 (20:16):
And walks a friend I know, Nicole, So she comes
into the shop and I'm like, oh my god, Nicole,
you won't believe what's happened.
Speaker 3 (20:23):
I've lost my phone.
Speaker 1 (20:25):
Can I maybe contact Steve off my phone and just
see if I can meet up with him? So I
messaged my number right and I'm calling my number, no
pack up. I sent a message saying Steve, it's Polly
trying to call you.
Speaker 3 (20:45):
Where can I meet you?
Speaker 1 (20:47):
Long story short. We managed to connect and find a
meeting point and I got my phone back. The next day,
I go through my messages and I see a message
which I read as Polly, It's Steve.
Speaker 3 (21:08):
Trying to call you. Where can I meet you? Are
you confused?
Speaker 2 (21:13):
I'm with you. I see where the story is gone.
Speaker 3 (21:18):
I reply, just got the phone. Thanks Steve, you absolute legend.
Speaker 1 (21:25):
Thanks, and then I follow another message, thank you so much.
Speaker 3 (21:32):
And then I get a message back from my friend Nicole.
This is Nicole.
Speaker 1 (21:40):
But Steve message me last night asking if you got it,
and I said, yeah, oh, sort of.
Speaker 3 (21:44):
I read the message. Does is this making sense?
Speaker 2 (21:47):
You read the message that you had sent to Steve
do yourself from the Cole's number.
Speaker 3 (21:56):
Must have been like, are you losing your marbles?
Speaker 2 (21:59):
You?
Speaker 1 (22:00):
I've seen that message off my phone and now you're
replying to yourself.
Speaker 3 (22:05):
Can I blame that on mumbrain?
Speaker 2 (22:07):
I think I think you can. Except having known you
for ten years long before you hit a child, we're
just PJ brain. It's a little bit just PJ brain.
Speaker 3 (22:21):
I was genuinely so embarrassed. I was like, actually, think
what is wrong with this person?
Speaker 10 (22:30):
Mary and Mary and PJ the podcast?
Speaker 3 (22:35):
When did you fall victim to Mumbraine?
Speaker 1 (22:37):
Because I shall have a lot lately and I don't
feel like I milk it quite a bit and it's
hard to distinguish what's PJ brain and what's mumbrain.
Speaker 3 (22:45):
But for now, after losing my phone over the weekend
and giving it.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
A barkle with the communication on the phone afterwards, I'm
just going to call it mumbrain.
Speaker 2 (22:52):
Call it my brain. Call it I'm giving you permission
to call it mumbrain. But I'm not giving you permission
to use every single thing that you do wrong. You
can't always blame it on my don't.
Speaker 3 (23:02):
I get to don't know what happened with you? How
did you fall victim to mam brain?
Speaker 14 (23:10):
So I'm the mom of four children and I had
them at opsicol Care and Krash. So one day I
picked up my three boys and was heading home, and
I was probably ten to fifteen k towards my home
and then realized that the one castic was empty.
Speaker 11 (23:33):
So I spun around and I said to some boys,
where's your sister? And I realized that I'd headed home
without stopping at Krash to pick up my daughters.
Speaker 2 (23:50):
Donna, I'm gonna look, I'm sure that you're you're not
alone in this situation.
Speaker 3 (23:57):
Yourself would never have done it again.
Speaker 2 (23:58):
Cut yourself some slack.
Speaker 14 (24:00):
No, I never did it again, but it was always
a constant reminder that I did a head count from
then on that I had all children before I drove off.
Speaker 2 (24:11):
Do you know what all you got to do in
those situations is go, there's some gold for the twenty
first speech? Donna, exactly.
Speaker 1 (24:20):
Oh, thank you so much for your colle It's kind
of brock undred the hats get a brook.
Speaker 3 (24:24):
When did you fall victim to Mombrane.
Speaker 15 (24:27):
Well, I was like, this was back seven years ago.
I just had second baby, and I was like, oh yeah,
I'm really down for a coffee right now. So I
put my sugar and my milk in my cup and
realized that the coffee the coffee jar was in, which
I was like, okay, cool, I'll just open up a
new bag coffee, put it in the coffee jar. I
(24:48):
didn't put it in the coffee jar. I tipped the
whole bag of coffee and my coffee cup and sugar
in it.
Speaker 3 (24:55):
And get you dying.
Speaker 15 (24:58):
Yeah, but I realize I can't even scoop it out
because it's got milk and it.
Speaker 16 (25:02):
Yeah, I lost lost.
Speaker 15 (25:06):
The whole bag of coffee. Had to cry and yeah, yeah,
do you want to so broke?
Speaker 3 (25:13):
Did you take one? Because it was superchild?
Speaker 15 (25:18):
I scooped out quite a bit of it and Chuck
Burys Doum was like, that was the strongest copee ever had.
Speaker 2 (25:24):
Bet it was? I bet it was.
Speaker 3 (25:31):
Hello, Hello, When did you fall victim to my brain?
Speaker 17 (25:36):
I had mam Brain's first my first child. I've got two,
but it was the first out thing I ever had.
And I met my mom for lunch and we had
lunch and it was one of those really hot thirty
two thirty three to goat degree christ stretched days and
came out after lunch, put her brand new baby in
the capsule in the car, put the pram down, which
(25:57):
was a bit of an ordeal when you're a new mum.
Put it my baby bag in the boat, shut the boat,
and then realized that my keys were in the boat
and my hand with my keys are in my handbag
which was in the car. And then the boot lots,
oh no, a lot with this brand new teen day
old baby in it.
Speaker 12 (26:15):
And I was crying and it was really hot, and
my mom was like, just break the window, you know,
and I was like no, because glass could go on her.
So my mom stood there with a blanket from her
car like shaving shaving the car, and I got her
car and drove home and got the spare keys.
Speaker 8 (26:33):
Oh on around trip.
Speaker 3 (26:37):
So that was my mum brain.
Speaker 17 (26:39):
And I've never done it since.
Speaker 2 (26:40):
No, you wouldn't.
Speaker 3 (26:43):
Oh that I'm feeling that second hand stretched.
Speaker 8 (26:46):
In a j and I still remember petting her up
out of her kitchle and she was wet some like,
you know, stopping from crying and being on her own
and up yet and I felt terrible.
Speaker 2 (26:57):
Well, he can I just say on, behalf of evy on,
behalf of everyone out there. Mums do such an amazing job,
and you can all you can cut yourself some slack today, Okay,
all cut yourself some.
Speaker 10 (27:11):
Staff Maddy and PJ. Mady and PJ the podcast that.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
Do You sometimes have those moments in life where you go,
why do I do the thing that I do? And
then you realize, I don't know a who taught me
that this is the way it's meant to be done,
b whether I'm even doing it right in the first place.
And see, we would even look to figure out what
the actual situation was and how you're meant to do it.
Speaker 1 (27:39):
Yes, the everyday habits that we do from such a
young age that just becomes so embedded in our lifestyle
that we don't even I guess, second guess until then
maybe you're exposed through another way and you're.
Speaker 2 (27:50):
Like, hang about this is so low level. But I
was making dinner before I came to work today, and
I had leaks that I was cutting off. Love leaks, leaks,
leak and butter, leks, certa, potato and links, so just
leaks in anything, oh, leaks and bacon. Oh anyway, So
(28:14):
I was chopping up these leaks and then I realized,
all anytime I cut up leaks, all I cut up
is the like the harder white bit, and then I
leave the green stalks and I throw them away. And
then I thought to myself, why do I throw them away?
Who told me that I meant to throw them away?
Am I meant to throw them away? And I had
(28:35):
this leak existential crisis in the kitchen where I went,
am I doing this? Have I been doing it wrong
my entire life? And I don't even know that I
You're not.
Speaker 1 (28:46):
Alone because I had a similar moment earlier in the year,
and I think I was like, hang about no, I
think this other half is all good, because I always
get put off by the course BT. It seems more
coarse down the other east, but once you cook it up,
it actually sign right. But I still continue, and I
think I changed it for a bit, but then I
(29:06):
kind of reverted to my old way of just cutting
to the end of the white part.
Speaker 2 (29:11):
So I need to know, is this a thing that
you aren't meant to actually utilize the end green, stalky
bit of a leak? Or have I been doing it
wrong my entire life? I need to know.
Speaker 1 (29:26):
Well, it's like when I found out my friend eats
all of the broccoli, the stalks and all, and apparently
it's just as good and it's just as good for you. Yeah,
as you'll chop up the broccoli, chuck it in a
stir fry. I've seen Cox talk about just chop it
all up, put it in a salad. We're missing out
on the good bit, I know, but.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
This is just the way we've done it our entire lives.
Speaker 1 (29:45):
Okay, So are you like Medie tackling the vigation? Do
you only chop to the white part of a lake
or do you use the whole thing?
Speaker 3 (29:55):
Takes through four four a.
Speaker 10 (29:59):
The podcast.
Speaker 3 (30:02):
Now we've got to address leak.
Speaker 1 (30:04):
Gate that was mentioned earlier this hour. Many heads at
Epiphany when cutting leaks in the kitchen.
Speaker 2 (30:11):
I've only ever cut up the like white. But I
might go a little, I might veer slightly into the
green territory of a leak. But for the most part,
I'm chopping off the end, the very hard bit of
the green, and I'm throwing it away.
Speaker 3 (30:25):
I think I lied. I think I was being deceitful.
Speaker 1 (30:27):
I think I said I only do the white, but
I actually do go probably towards the I get pretty
close to the dark green. I definitely get the light green.
I definitely get the white, but it just gets so
coarse down the end. So we want to know what's
the official ruling with what you.
Speaker 3 (30:41):
Do with your leaks.
Speaker 2 (30:42):
Yeah, so the overwhelming majority of people on the text
machine have said, you do not throw away the green
bit of a leak. Someone said, I use the whole leak.
Someone else said, never throw away your greens metal. You
wouldn't do this with a bring onion.
Speaker 3 (31:01):
It's true. Someone said, no matter, you use the green
bit as well. It's full of nutrients.
Speaker 1 (31:05):
Although you're not alone. I've only ever used the white
stalk of the lake. But I have the same crisis
with spring onions and I do the same with these.
Am I doing it wrong?
Speaker 3 (31:13):
I'd love to know.
Speaker 2 (31:14):
Please, this is the thing because I had this realization,
I went, this is the way I've always done it,
But I can't remember why. Who told me that this
is the way that it's done. And am I doing
it wrong? I'm happy to be proven wrong.
Speaker 1 (31:25):
Someone did say the core star kend can be used.
You sometimes don't need to cook it longer, and it
can be used in a stock. Here we go, Did
we just become a cooking channel?
Speaker 4 (31:37):
Many inpj A podcasts, many and PJS group.
Speaker 1 (31:44):
Therapy another week, another chance to sit down and have
a collective sigh of relief, no judgment and group therapy.
Speaker 3 (31:53):
This is where you can get in touch with us.
Speaker 1 (31:56):
Let us know something that's going on in your life,
and we will do our best to dissect it and
for our advice, but more importantly, throw it out to
New Zealand to see what they.
Speaker 3 (32:04):
Think about it.
Speaker 2 (32:04):
I've even got myself a cup of tea as a prop.
I mean, it's a legit cup of tea.
Speaker 3 (32:09):
But it feels very like it feels just relaxes you.
Speaker 2 (32:12):
Yeah, it feels like the perfect prop to have for
a therapy session this afternoon.
Speaker 3 (32:16):
I have no water left in my bottle, so I'm
just going to suck on my bottle as a prop
like you.
Speaker 2 (32:23):
Well, you suck away while I read this quite firstya
to this week's dilemma. Okay Jesus christ Okay, Hey many MPJ.
I'm in a bit of a bind. I'm thirty one
and for as long as I can remember, Christmas has
always been at my parents' house. My mum insists on
(32:45):
doing everything by the book, all the same food, decorations,
even music. She loves Christmas. But this year, my partner
and I were plainly just been Christmas at his family's
beach house. We've done the traditional thing for years, and honestly,
I just want to break and so something different. When
I mentioned it to my mum, she was not happy.
She said Christmas isn't the same without all of us there,
(33:06):
and that I'm being selfish for breaking a long standing
family tradition. I get that it's special to her, but
I feel like I'm allowed to start making my own traditions.
My siblings are staying with her, so it's not like
she's going to be alone. But she's acting like I'm
ruining Christmas. Should I change my plans to keep the
peace or is it time to set some boundaries and
make my own holiday choices. I get it.
Speaker 1 (33:29):
As someone who I don't think I actually ever ventured
away from my family.
Speaker 2 (33:34):
You've never I don't think I have.
Speaker 3 (33:37):
I was literally through that trying to work it out.
Speaker 1 (33:40):
We will see Bja's family, but I'll always see me
on the day. I just it's something I've always done,
and I get it. I get that you don't want
to break your mum's heart, but I do think you're
at the age what you do need to set boundaries,
kind boundaries and perhaps get a little creative an alternative
(34:01):
that you can come up with. So maybe it's something
before Chrissie, or maybe there's something cute that you can do, yeah,
over FaceTime.
Speaker 2 (34:07):
I get it, though. It's an interesting dilemma that you
face when you are all of a sudden having to
think about someone else and someone else's family because for
such a long time I was single and all I
had to worry about at the end of the year
was what I wanted to do, and that always involved
my family, right, So I was always home for Christmas.
My siblings were always home for Christmas, and we did
(34:29):
everything together. And then as soon as I met Ryan,
I had to factor in this other person in their family.
And the truth is, you know, my my I was
going to.
Speaker 3 (34:37):
Say, how did you break Tracy's heart?
Speaker 2 (34:40):
She loves Christmas and one of her one of her
quintessential phrases that she always says to my brother and
sister and I is just my happy place and the
three of you. So you know, you do feel like
you're breaking her heart a little bit, But the truth
is that is what a relationship is. All about is
about compromise. And I could never tell Ryan that I
(35:01):
don't care enough about his family to give them the
opportunity to spend Christmas with us as well. That would
be so that would be selfish of me to do that.
You know, the mom is calling her selfish for not
being with us with her family. It goes both ways.
Speaker 3 (35:16):
So how do you kindly set the boundaries? How do
you let mommy down gently?
Speaker 2 (35:20):
I think you have to say, Mum, I'm a thirty
one year old who is forging my own path in
the world, and I have a partner, and I have
to consider his or their needs and their family's needs
as well. But I think you have to be a
bit strong here.
Speaker 3 (35:36):
I wait hundred of hats. Maybe you've been in this
exact position. How did you do it?
Speaker 1 (35:41):
How did you tell mom that you weren't going to
be coming over Christmas this year? Did you let it
down gently or did you just rip the band aid off?
I'll wait hundred of the hats to weigh in for
Great Therapy this week.
Speaker 4 (35:50):
Many INPJ the podcasts Many and pj's Group Therapy.
Speaker 1 (35:58):
In the meantime, when I see a family dilemma as
we head into Christmas, can you please recap medie.
Speaker 2 (36:05):
Yeah, this person said, I'm in a bit of a bine.
I'm thirty one, and for as long as I can remember,
Christmas has always been at my parents' house. My mum
loves Christmas. But this year, my partner and I were
planning to spend Christmas at his family's beach house. When
I mentioned it to my mom, she was not happy.
She said Christmas isn't the same without all of us there,
and that I'm being selfish for breaking a long standing
(36:28):
family tradition. I get that it's special to her, but
I feel like I'm allowed to start making my own traditions.
My siblings are staying with her so she won't be alone,
but she's acting like I'm ruining Christmas. Should I change
my plans to keep the peace or is it time
to set some boundaries and make my own holiday choices.
Speaker 1 (36:45):
I was just going to say, could you invite her
to the beach house? But if she's got all the sublings,
then it's just going to be so much.
Speaker 2 (36:50):
And it sounds like she loves hosting Christmas at her her.
Speaker 1 (36:53):
Place, basting the turkey, getting all the brandy, snaps ready,
Brandy snaps and frame. All right, we want to know
your thoughts on the situation. Have you been in a
similar pickle? What do you think this person should do?
Speaker 3 (37:07):
Jaden, welcome to.
Speaker 16 (37:08):
The show and go ahead.
Speaker 3 (37:11):
Good, yeah, very well, what do you reckon?
Speaker 16 (37:14):
So what me and my partner do is one year
we'll spend it with my family on Christmas Day and
then we've been Boxing Day, we first side of the family,
and then the following year we'll switch around, just so
you know, it's not too much traveling all on one day,
but everyone sort of gets to turn.
Speaker 2 (37:32):
It Christmas smart and then you're still diplomatic, very diplomatic,
although man, sometimes I think that about you know, that's
then on you to always be the one that's making
the arrangements, travel plans and stuff. But it's very nice
of you, Jayden, It's very very nice.
Speaker 3 (37:48):
It's Christmas many you went from Auckland to Queenstown. Did
you do did you know what I thinking of when
you did that?
Speaker 2 (37:56):
What Ron and I have actually done once which works
quite wow. We traveled on Christmas Day, traveled on Christmas Day,
so we did in the lead up to Christmas and
then Christmas morning with Ryan's family, and then and then
lunchtime we flew from Ryan's family to Queenstown to be
with my family and then stayed with them for a
few days post Christmas as well.
Speaker 3 (38:18):
Hectic or actually quite doable.
Speaker 2 (38:19):
Amazing because everyone got a piece of the pie. B
We got a couple of hours in the middle of
the day where it was just the two of us
chilling out.
Speaker 1 (38:31):
That's true, Yeah, because you would have been in the lounge,
wouldn't you start?
Speaker 3 (38:36):
Must be nice. What are your thoughts on this situation?
Speaker 9 (38:40):
Hey, guys, Usually I'd say do your own thing, but
I guess it just depends are they going to be
with family at the beach house or are they going
to be on their own? Because you didn't actually say
if they were going to be with families, so I
don't feel like they might be ditching a little better.
It's not really a tradition to go alone to the
beach house.
Speaker 2 (38:58):
Yeah, anytime it just says they we're planning to spend
Christmas at the family's beach house, doesn't necessarily say with
the I just assumed with the family.
Speaker 3 (39:07):
Yeah, that's a good there's good observation, Scott.
Speaker 1 (39:09):
We didn't actually manage to extrapolate the detail, but that
is a good point at least wrap it up with
Jane oh eight hundred hats hi Jane, Hi, how are you?
Speaker 3 (39:19):
What do you reckon?
Speaker 18 (39:21):
Well, the same as the previous caller, we alternate between families,
and one of the grandmothers said she'd rather have the
whole family together every second year and then have an
off year with no family because she likes having all
the kids and the grandkids all interacting together.
Speaker 1 (39:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (39:38):
Right, right, So basically you you should make sure that
all of the family are there at the one place
and then give them a year off so that they
can go and do their own thing.
Speaker 10 (39:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 9 (39:48):
Well, I like that.
Speaker 3 (39:49):
It's like it's a bit of a breather. You get
a bit of downtime in the.
Speaker 2 (39:53):
Year off because it being the being a host is
it a lobs a hard job.
Speaker 1 (39:59):
But I I think everyone can agree on the fact that, yes,
you know, you're at the age you can sit boundaries.
You can do it kindly. There are ways to get
around it. To appease mummy and to appease your partner.
Speaker 3 (40:11):
You can do that.
Speaker 9 (40:11):
You can do it.
Speaker 2 (40:12):
You can do both.
Speaker 10 (40:16):
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