Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

What do you do when your family of origin is bringing difficult, dysfunctional, or even toxic behaviors into your marriage and family? Today, I sat down for an important conversation with Dave and Ashley Willis on Couples Therapy, who came to talk to me about the process of dealing with a family member whose unhealthy behavior is causing stress and having a significant drain on them. We spend time talking about setting boundaries w...

What do you do when your marriage undergoes a deep rupture that feels like it cannot be repaired? In today’s episode of Couples Therapy, I sat down with Carl and Laura Lentz for a vulnerable conversation, to discuss the affair that ruptured their relationship and set them on a path of healing. We talk about the cracks in their marriage BEFORE the rupture of infidelity in their marriage, how unhealed trauma from the past led t...

Connection is the heartbeat of a marriage, and without it, a couple can feel like their relationship is slowly dying. In today’s episode of Couples Therapy, we explore the dynamics of connection in marriage with Wade and Rebecca, a couple navigating the challenges of early married life. They’re newlyweds but due to life stressors, physical health issues, and the limitations of living with family, they’re already f...

Parenting tension is often a marriage problem in disguise. Today on Couples Therapy, I’m joined by Landon and Lindsey who open up about the exact cycle that keeps blowing up their home. They’ve been married 15 years, have three young children, and find that their relationship seems strong – until stress hits. They’re finding that the differences in their parenting styles are triggering each other, and bringi...

Is it possible to heal AFTER separation? This episode of Couples Therapy is a heartfelt session with Meagan and Ryan, who join Debra to unpack the roots of their separation, including communication breakdowns, emotional distance, betrayal, and the need for healing on both sides. They’re wondering if it’s even possible to heal after the breakdown that’s happened in their marriage over the years. Debra helps them mo...

I am SO EXCITED that today my new book Relationship Skills officially releases into the world!! Because I believe that healthy relationships are not found, they’re built – I invited Levi and Sabrina to join me on today’s episode to discuss some of the concepts in Relationship Skills and how to apply them to this season of marriage. After welcoming their rainbow baby 9 months ago, they find themselves dealing with ...

When kids take over the house, marriage can easily go to survival mode - and suddenly the relationship you love feels like one more chore on the to-do list. In this powerful Couples Therapy episode, Lenny and Letty open up about the invisible ways parenting, exhaustion, and unresolved patterns are draining their connection. With three kids, room-sharing, chronic sleep disruption, and years of putting everyone else first, they have ...

We’re BACK with the most popular series of the year: COUPLES THERAPY! And we hit the ground running in this heated episode with Curt and Lindsey.They’ve been dating for quite some time, moving toward marriage, yet they still don’t see eye to eye about some of their boundaries in the relationship. Curt feels uncomfortable with some of Lindsey’s decisions and interactions, and Lindsey feels like Curt is not ab...

Today we’re closing out our Singles Series with Brittany from deep east Texas! One of my favorite parts of getting to know Brittany was learning about her heart for God’s word and memorizing scripture, ever since she was young. We talk about the power that God’s word has had on her life and how it’s informed so much of who she is and how she chooses to live, and how growing up in a large family shaped the wa...

Today I'm chatting with Paaton from South Dakota, who's in a season where she's taking a personal challenge of saying YES to as many things as she can – to unexpected dates, to new friendships, to pickleball and burn bootcamp, to new friends, to adventure, to trying new things, and everything in between. She's in a season of transition, but she's leaning into the lessons of this season and trying to steward it well. You'll lo...

Today I'm chatting with Rob, a single man from Las Vegas, who is here to let you know that the Vegas stereotype is not always what you expect. He's an entrepreneur that moved to Vegas a few years ago, and has stayed there to pursue his career and invest in his community there. He's passionate about health and wholeness - spiritually, emotionally, and physically, and he really believes that real love does exist. He wants to keep gro...

Today on the podcast I’m introducing you to Leah from Arizona, an amazing single woman whose life has taken an unexpected turn as a health and wellness influencer over the past few years. Leah went on a health journey of losing over 200lbs naturally and started sharing about her health journey on social media – which quickly gained attention. She’s in a season of stepping into all the things God has for her - and ...

The Singles Series continues with Malachi from Texas, who processes the journey of carrying past pain into relationships, and how it just bleeds into the next relationship, and the next one –  if you don’t take the time to heal. In trying to run from his pain, he prolonged it and caused more pain along the way that led him down a path of addiction. But the past few years have ushered him into a season of intentiona...

The Singles Series continues with Lauren from Indiana, who is learning to make the most of singleness, while she trusts God with her hopes for marriage. She just finished her degree to become a counselor, and she has a deep love and compassion for people. Not only that, but she’s in a season of really enjoying her people – a strong community of friends that she’s built around herself to do life with. We talk about...

The Singles Series continues with Devon from Florida, who has learned the value of leaning into the hard conversations instead of avoiding them. Devon is pastor, coach, and single dad who has intentionally embarked on his personal healing journey, increasing in his emotional awareness, his conflict and communication, and his desire for authenticity. His past relationship history showed him his tendency to hide from hard conversatio...