"If you're saying yes and you mean no, you're just screwing yourself”

Everyone says communication is the key to better sex. Great. But…what does that actually look like when you're naked, vulnerable, worried about hurting someone's feelings, or not even sure what you want?

In this episode of Come & Glow, Lilly and Tolly take sexual communication out of theory and into three very real situations: duty sex (having sex ...

Why Do We Celebrate Boss Moms But Not Horny Moms?

Can you be a deeply sexual person and a great mom at the same time?

Lilly and Tolly think the answer is an emphatic yes, and they're prepared to argue it loudly and unapologetically.

In this episode of Come & Glow, they tackle one of the last major taboos around female sexuality: the idea that motherhood and desire are somehow incompatible.

Why are we comfortable celebratin...

Women Don't Have a Desire Problem

For decades, women have been told some version of the same story:

You're too much - too stressed, too busy, too hormonal, too complicated.

Maybe you just have a low libido?

But what if women don't have a desire problem at all?

What if we've simply inherited a version of sex, relationships, and culture that was never really designed with female pleasure in mind?

This week, Lilly and Tolly dive in...

The 5 Things Women Are Missing in Their Sex Lives

Lilly's "villain origin story" started when she realized she'd spent nearly a decade having sex without orgasming, and that mainstream porn wasn't helping solve the problems she was actually experiencing.

So what are women missing?

Drawing from afterglow customer research, surveys, Reddit, and years spent talking to women about sex, Lilly and Tolly unpack the five biggest gaps...

Sex, Authenticity, and the Search for Something Real

As AI-generated content floods our feeds and curated perfection dominates social media, many of us are feeling an unexpected hunger: the desire for something real.

In this episode, Lilly and Tolly explore authenticity in porn, attraction, relationships, and everyday life. They discuss why energetic chemistry often matters more than physical appearance, what AI can and can'...

The Biggest Myth About Being "Good in Bed"

Most of us grew up believing that some people are naturally good at sex, and some people just aren't.

But what if that's completely wrong?

In this episode, Lilly and Tolly unpack one of the biggest myths in modern sexuality: the idea that being a great lover is something that simply happens because of hotness and/or chemistry. Instead, they argue that great sex has far less to do wit...

This week on Come & Glow, Lilly and Tolly dive into one of afterglow's newest films, Active Wear—a playful, chemistry-filled ode to dry humping, teasing, and all the sexy moments that happen before sex follows the usual script.

From there, the conversation spirals (in the best way) into Victorian romance, Lindy West, toxic literary heartthrobs, polyamory discourse, AI relationships, and why so many of us are searching for ...

Porn Is Broken. Let’s Talk About What It Could Be Instead.

When most people hear the word porn, they don’t think intimacy, artistry, or connection. They think shame, addiction, exploitation, or something they’re not supposed to want.

In this episode, Lilly Sparks (founder of afterglow) and Tolly Moseley (author of Submit Here) unpack why porn has become such a loaded word, how modern porn culture often mirr...

Come & Glow (Ep 1): Heated Rivalry + Why Safe Sex Can Still Be Filthy

Welcome to the very first episode of Come & Glow — where we talk about pop culture and sex the way we actually experience it. Messy? Tender? Funny? Yup: us too.

In this episode, Lilly Sparks (founder of afterglow) and Tolly Moseley (former Editorial Director of Sex with Emily) dive into the cultural obsession that can't stop/won't stop, Heate...