Angry At The Right Things

We all long for the nurture we didn't receive as children, which can entail much suffering. But that suffering can bring us to a place of rebirth and renewal. Hunger can lead to fullness.

Human-based institutions lose their humanity when there isn't room for critical thinking. Humans are meant to employ critical thinking every single day -- and when their voices are heard, the world becomes a beautiful place to live.

When we choose to not feel one feeling, we lose the ability to feel them all -- including empathy. Empathy guides us to live in ways that lead to life and flourishing, but this can only result when we dislodge all shame.

Uniting to others can cause us to lose a part of ourselves. The litmus test of a safe-enough person is if they are willing to bend when we push back.

Trigger Warning: includes topics of rape and incest. What makes humans inclined to transfer shame onto others, in the most horrific of ways? And how can we reclaim our our souls in spite of this propensity? Realizing our worth makes impenetrable.

A beautiful conversation between Bronwyn and MaryLayo from Beyond the Smile podcast about anger and resentment. The good, bad and the ugly about anger -- including it's multifaceted wisdom, when we start to listen to it. 

Reactive anger is rooted in shame and designed to fight truth. The reactive anger of others wants to intimidate us and make us second-guess ourselves -- but we can stand our ground and trust ourselves, even if we have to close our eyes to do so.

Many of us were conceived to fill a void within our mother, and that same inner emptiness was passed along to us. We may attempt to fill it with food, approval-seeking or connection, but only we can complete ourselves. Bronwyn leads us in an Integration exercise to that end.

Wisdom from Sarah's story: how codependency and enmeshment led to her death, because she never learned what constitutes healthy attachment. Learn how to be a secure base for our children, and for ourselves.

Trauma stems from a fracture in our brains, in which external phenomena causes an internal splitting - of our rational mind from our emotions. Feeling our feelings - no matter how illogical they may seem - is necessary for the processing of the events to be made complete.

Why is it that the people who could most benefit from therapy are the least likely to go? A good therapist is a good mirror, and many people are terrified to look in a mirror.

Newton's laws of physics give us profound insight for relational dynamics. Even a small change can create a cascade of beneficial results. Inertia also shows up in relationships -- until an outside force changes it for the better.

On this interview on the Emotion Well podcast Bronwyn addresses what happens when we keep our anger and resentment inside, as well as how to connect with our anger without becoming a "hothead." In other words, how we can be true to ourselves without hurting others. 

Meghan is an extreme example of what humans do when we abandon ourselves. As much as we want to hate her, it’s not her that’s evil, it’s the insatiability inside her, and we can all relate to that.

Oral greed is everywhere, and it is detrimental. It is the opposite of nurture, and often creates mental illness in our children. To the contrary, a listening parent creates powerful children.

Bronwyn shares true ghost stories of dissociated hatred to encourage us to own our feelings. Feelings are like limbs, and if cut off, we find ourselves haunted by phantom limb syndrome. Reality truly is stranger than fiction. 

We humans tend to outsource our nurture to others, which makes us betray ourselves. Yet when we give ourselves the approval and nurture we need, we're finally free to disappoint the hell out of everyone else, in order to be true to ourselves.

This is a profound discussion and interview I did on the Untethering Shame podcast with therapist Kyira Wackett about how to integrate with our Core Self. Learn what it takes to find yourself and come alive. 

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/untethering-shame/id1691795543

https://open.spotify.com/show/2AouludJr7EweOkMIN9s42?si=d371f8692f83410d&nd=1&dlsi=4eb4c019afde4e2b

Dissociated feelings of hatred haunt us like ghosts, until we start to attune to them and express them into healthy words and actions. Here's how to exorcise spooky things from your presence, replacing them with life.